<description><p>This is the area where the brainwashing is the greatest. PMOers, especially the young and single, think they are aware of the health risks. They are not. Even in my case, when I was expecting my head to explode any moment and honestly believed I was prepared to accept the consequences, I was still kidding myself. I didn&rsquo;t in those days have an app that started a red beeper to flash and sound every time my internet router hits a porn site, followed by a warning voice saying, “OK, this is the one!” Fortunately you do get a warning, and this is it. That warning would say, “Up to now you have got away with it but if you stay another minute your head will explode,” do you think I would have PMOed?</p>
<p>If you are in doubt about the answer just try walking up to a cliff, stand on the edge with your eyes closed and imagine you then have the choice of either quitting PMO or walking up blindfolded before your next PMO.</p>
<p>There is no doubt what your choice would be. I had been doing what every internet porn PMOer does all his life: closing my mind and keeping my head in the sand, hoping that I would wake up one morning and just not want to PMO any more. PMOers cannot allow themselves to think of the health risks. If they do, even the illusion of enjoying the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; goes.</p>
<p>This explains why a shock treatment is so ineffective in the first stages of quitting. It is only non-users who can bring themselves to read the destructive brain changes. It also explains why PMOers, influenced by their little monster, wrongly recall that filthy room mate who PMOed everyday and was still remaining ‘horny’ 24 hours a day – they will ignore the thousands of people who are brought “down” in their prime because of this poisonous ‘habit’.</p>
<p>About six times a week I have the following conversation with PMOers (usually the younger ones):</p>
<blockquote>
<p>ME: Why do you want to stop?</p>
</blockquote>
<blockquote>
<p>PMOer: I read in a PUA guru’s blog that it is good to stop for 4 days to amp myself up.</p>
</blockquote>
<blockquote>
<p>ME: Aren&rsquo;t you worried about the health risks?</p>
</blockquote>
<blockquote>
<p>PMOer:No, I could step under a bus tomorrow.</p>
</blockquote>
<blockquote>
<p>ME: But would you deliberately step under a bus?</p>
</blockquote>
<blockquote>
<p>PMOer:Of course not.</p>
</blockquote>
<blockquote>
<p>ME: Do you not bother to look left and right when you cross the road?</p>
</blockquote>
<blockquote>
<p>PMOer: Of course I do.</p>
</blockquote>
<p>Exactly. He/she goes through a lot of trouble not to step under a bus and the odds are hundreds of thousands to one against it happening. Yet the PMOer risks the near certainty of being crippled by this ‘habit’ and appears to be completely oblivious to the risks. Such is the power of the brainwashing. The greatest trick the Devil ever pulled was convincing the world he didn&rsquo;t exist. Especially when you are younger or single. So is internet porn - it is the wolf in sheep’s clothing.</p>
<p>I remember a friend of mine who would not drink or smoke. Yet he would argue with me that internet porn is not different than older safe porn and that it is fun. Isn&rsquo;t it strange that if, for example, we felt there was the slightest fault in an airplane, we wouldn&rsquo;t go up in it, even though the risks are millions to one against death. Yet we take more than a one-in-four certainty with internet porn with its PMO addiction and are apparently oblivious to it. And what does the PMOer get out of it? <em><strong>ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!</strong></em></p>
<p>Another common myth about PMO is the depression or peevishness. Many of the younger people are not worried about their health because they do not suffer any of the depression or melancholy. The depression or stress itself is not a disease; it is just a symptom. Younger people in general don’t feel the irritability or depression created because of their body’s natural capability to produce more dopamine and also the vigour and cheerfulness of their youthful activities masks those depleting reservoirs. As they age or if their lives experience serious setbacks the depleted resources are overworked and then they will experience full blown symptoms.</p>
<p>When non-younger PMOers feel stressed, depressed or irritated it is because of the normal dopamine levels are not being effective and or due to excessive ‘flooding’ and its reactionary cutting down of the receptors. It is a reactionary step brain takes to protect its nervous systems from excessive dopamine ‘flooding’ as the dopamine receptors close up. It is one of nature&rsquo;s fail-safe methods. They also develop other neural changes that will keep them in the rut.</p>
<p>Just think of it this way. If you had a nice car and allowed it to rust without doing anything about it that would be pretty stupid, as it would soon become a heap of rust and not be able to carry you anywhere. However, that would not be the end of the world; it is only a question of money and you could always buy a new car. But your body is the vehicle that carries you through life. We all say that our health is our most valued asset. How true that is, as sick millionaires will tell you. Most of us can look back at some illness or accident in our lives when we prayed to get better. (HOW SOON WE FORGET). By being a PMOer, you are not only letting the rust get in and doing nothing about it; you are systematically destroying the vehicle you need to go through life and you only get one.</p>
<p>Wise up. You don&rsquo;t have to do it and remember: it is doing ABSOLUTELY NOTHING FOR YOU. Just for a moment take your head out of the sand and ask yourself; if you knew for certain that the next PMO session would be the one to trigger off a process in your body that will make your penis fall away like a hair strand, would you then actually go ahead and do it? Forget the ‘disease’ idea (it is difficult to imagine it) but just imagine you are on your bed, with your partner and your penis is not responding. Or if you are a woman, you are not feeling in any way responsive with someone you deeply love? Now you are not in the beginning of a happy endeavour but instead a tug of war in your mind and in your partner&rsquo;s mind too. “Is it my PMO or is it just stress? Can I spot who the culprit is 100%? Or for her, is it me? Am I not sexy enough for him? Or worse, am I losing my ‘appetite’ too soon due to ageing?” What do you think is going to happen?</p>
<p>I often speak to the people that it happens to. They didn&rsquo;t think it would happen to them either and the worst thing about it isn&rsquo;t the disease itself but the knowledge they have brought it on themselves. For a very long time as PMOers and abusers we are saying, “I’ll stop tomorrow.” Try to imagine how those people feel who “hit the button.” For them the brainwashing is ended. They then see the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; as it really is and spend the remainder of their lives thinking, “Why did I kid myself I needed to masturbate to internet porn? If only I had the chance to go back!”</p>
<p>Stop kidding yourself. You have the chance. It&rsquo;s a chain reaction. If you engage in the next PMO session, it will lead you to the next one and the next. It&rsquo;s already happening to you. At the beginning of the book I promised you no shock treatment. If you have already decided you are going to stop, this isn&rsquo;t shock treatment for you. If you are still in doubt, skip the remainder of this chapter and come back to it when you have read the rest of the book.</p>
<p>Volumes of researches and studies have already been written about the damage that internet porn causes to our sex lives and to our mental well-being. The trouble is that until the PMOer decides to stop he doesn&rsquo;t want to know. Even the forums and mentor groups are a waste of time because the PMOer puts the blinkers on. If he inadvertently reads it, the first thing he does is to open an incognito tab and visit his favourite tube site. PMOers tend to think of the happiness, stress and sex hazards as a hit-and-miss affair, like stepping on a land mine.</p>
<p>Get it into your head: it is already happening. Every single time you browse to your tube site you are triggering dopamine flooding and the opioids get to work - the neural pathway water slides get greased and the ride takes you smoothly through the next steps that you have already given to the script. The nervous system is now flooded by dopamine and since it is its umpteenth time, it is going to let some of your dopamine receptors to close up. The ‘little monster’ in you is using this slight dip in the pleasure compared to the last time to encourage you to “cross the red line” towards more shocking porn or behaviour in order to release more dopamine. In the process just hit on the ‘novelty’ button that triggers dopamine again. “Let’s keep going,” says the little monster, because you deserve it and you are entitled to this. Now the streaming of so many pictures and videos on a single tab&hellip; that triggers another button called ‘supernormal’ stimulus, injecting more amines.</p>
<p>All this time your receptors are receiving infomation to shut down inversely proportional to the flooding. Then you get to the orgasm stage. More dopamine, more shutting down of receptors. After this comes the withdrawal, Oh and since you are an ex-PMOer go get one. And why not pour a glass from the fridge of that leftover whiskey? Internet porn kills your sex life and thus it kills your private and public lives as well. If you are not aware of the addiction process or even if you are, you are in denial since the “little monster” craves for its fix because there was no real pain and you could handle the discomfort.</p>
<p>I confess that the thought of having ED terrified me, which is probably why I just blocked it from my mind. It&rsquo;s amazing how the fear of the horrendous health risks attached to PMOing are overshadowed by the fear of stopping. It&rsquo;s not so much that the latter is a greater fear, but that if we quit today the fear is immediate, whereas the fear of getting ED, PE and OCD related mental illnesses are a fear of the future. Why look on the black side? Perhaps it won&rsquo;t happen. I&rsquo;m bound to have quit by then anyway.</p>
<p>We tend to think of PMOing as a tug-of-war. On one side is fear: it&rsquo;s unhealthy, filthy and enslaving. On the other side the pluses: it&rsquo;s my pleasure, my friend, my crutch. It never seems to occur to us that this side is also fear. It&rsquo;s not so much that we enjoy them but that we tend to be miserable without them.</p>
<p>Think of heroin addicts deprived of their heroin: the abject misery they go through. Now picture their utter joy when they are allowed to plunge a needle into their veins and end that terrible craving. Try to imagine how anyone could actually believe they get pleasure from sticking a hypodermic syringe into a vein. Non-heroin addicts don&rsquo;t suffer that panic feeling. Heroin doesn&rsquo;t relieve the feeling, on the contrary, it causes it.</p>
<p>Non-PMOers (those who don’t ‘need’ or have access to internet porn) don&rsquo;t feel miserable if they are not allowed to PMO. It&rsquo;s only PMOers that suffer that feeling. Internet porn doesn&rsquo;t relieve it, on the contrary it causes it. The fear of ED or PE didn&rsquo;t make me quit because I believed it was rather like walking through a minefield. If you got away with it - fine. If you were unlucky you stepped on a mine.</p>
<p>You knew the risks you were taking and if you were prepared to take the risk, what had it to do with anyone else? So if a non-PMOer ever tried to make me aware of those risks, I would use the typical evasive tactics that all addicts invariably adopt. They are&hellip;.</p>
<ul>
<li><em>“You will eventually get old and lose your sexual prowess anyway&hellip;”</em></li>
</ul>
<blockquote>
<p>Of course you do but sexual prowess is not even the point, we are talking slavery here. Even if that is the case, is that a logical reason for deliberately cutting yourself short?</p>
</blockquote>
<ul>
<li><em>“Quality of life is more important than just living.”</em></li>
</ul>
<blockquote>
<p>Exactly but you are surely not suggesting that the quality of life of an addict is greater than that of someone that isn&rsquo;t addicted? Do you really believe that the quality of a PMOer’s life is better than a non-PMOer? Surely the PMOer loses on both counts his life is spent in trying to cover his head in the sand and being miserable.</p>
</blockquote>
<ul>
<li><em>“I am single and am not planning to ‘settle down’ in the near future so why not?”</em></li>
</ul>
<blockquote>
<p>Even if that were true, is that a logical reason for playing with the brain structure dealing with impulse control that is needed in other areas of life? Can you possibly conceive of anyone being stupid enough to strip naked wherever one is going to be alone? No matter how sure you are that you are not expecting anyone in your life? THAT&rsquo;S WHAT PMOers EFFECTIVELY DO!</p>
</blockquote>
<p>I can understand why the ED and the risks of ruining one’s mental health didn&rsquo;t help me to quit. I could cope with the former and block my mind to the latter. As you are already aware, my method is not to frighten you into quitting but the complete opposite - to make you realize just how more enjoyable your life will be when you have escaped.</p>
<p>However, I do believe that if I could have seen what was happening inside my brain, this would have helped me to quit. Now I&rsquo;m not referring to the shock technique of showing a PMOer the effect of the hidden attribute of internet porn on the reward circuit of the brain. It was obvious to me from my unreliable arousals, fading penetrations, lack of energy, unemotional sex (as in just a muscle twitch), hit-seek escalations of porn search for novelty and shock that something is not going right. None of these are catastrophic for me as I have trained myself in cognitive behavioural techniques as discussed before but I did experience them quite often enough. Practising CBT/REBT gave me enough grounding and stability to look at my addiction in a different and better way than I’d have if I were not aware of the cognitive biases. Provided I kept functioning, even at a mediocre level, they were less of an embarrassment than a lost tooth - at least nobody could see my mind.</p>
<p>What I am referring to is the progressive gunging-up of our reward circuits with excessive stimulation, making them incapable of handling the normal stresses of life. Closing up of dopamine and opioids receptors does not help me in enjoying my life with enough vigour. Porn and masturbation has replaced the natural sexual appetite, like a candy bar replacing real food. The brain has no idea to differentiate one from the other. I don&rsquo;t like the thought of a virus in my smart phone or my laptop. Could you imagine buying the latest one of these gadgets and letting a virus to run every line of the software code but repeat it thrice ? That&rsquo;s what we effectively do to our bodies when we become PMOers.</p>
<p>Many researchers and doctors are now relating various mental health problems in addition to the physiological ones caused by internet porn and PMO in general. This is no surprise to me. The mainstream medical world has laboured that PMO has never been scientifically proven to be the direct cause of the issues reported by self-confessing individuals. Admitting one’s sexual inability in public is such a shame triggering event, why would anyone do that unless they are really concerned? And probably many have found the cause and have eliminated it. This book is going to help you to get rid of it and also become a happy ex PMOer. No porn whatsoever, no porn aided masturbation. And of course no unnecessary orgasms. The only aid will be the touch, smell and voice of your partner. Like whole wheat bread after a well developed appetite, you will produce enough juices to break down the hard bread and it comes as a beautiful refreshment. No high fructose corn syrup injected fake food. The evidence is so overwhelming as not to need proof. No one ever scientifically proved to me exactly why, when I bang my thumb with a hammer, it hurts. I soon got the message.</p>
<p>I must emphasize that I am not a doctor but just like the hammer and the thumb, it soon became obvious to me that the periods of my life outside of sex that were marked by low levels of irritation tolerance, lack of energy, temper, moody thoughts, zoning out of social scenes etc. were directly related to my masturbation and especially the supernormal stimulus of IP<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>. However, I truly believe that the greatest hazard that IP causes to our health is the gradual and progressive deterioration of our sex life caused by super-substitutes. The novelty, shock, variety in size and nature of internet porn can slowly take away the magic of the real sex. Worse, the RC<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> reward circuits are flooding unnaturally and at high abnormal levels so that they close up the receptors and also diminish any potency and effectiveness of normal de-stressors that work in the RC. This predisposes one to be depressed and become needy to lot more other ‘crutches’ of life such as cigarettes and alcohol or even causing the host to think of committing suicide. Even the real vagina will not be a match for the death grip of masturbation - and the little monster is kept alive.</p>
<p>Our lives are ‘blessed’ with challenges – yes, ‘blessed’- they are needed to keep us strong and make us better. If our nervous systems is pre-disposed to making a molehill out of a mountain it will seek a ‘fix. When it seeks a hit or a mountain out of a molehill when it interfaces with reality then is it worth it? Our body and our brain is designed to make use of optimal levels of these brain chemicals. I don’t think a man who fails in satisfying a woman should consider himself worthless.</p>
<p>You will do well accepting yourself unconditionally and as an extension others and of life in general as well. It needs practice - but you won&rsquo;t practice unless your brain rewards you. External rewards are iffy and most of the time are not forthcoming. If your internal brain chemicals and the reward circuits are humming even a little external reward will go a long way and the lack of external approvals won&rsquo;t even matter at all. If you want to you can be the king of your life. Think about this as one of your greatest benefits.</p>
<p>Several of the adverse effects that PMO had on my health, some of which I had been suffering from for years, did not become apparent to me until many years after I had stopped. The good news I have for you is this - all of this is reversible. You are the jailer and you are also going to set yourself - the prisoner - free!</p>
<p>It didn&rsquo;t even occur to me that I was already suffering from ED and PE<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup> myself. Upon my first observation of the damage I quickly attributed it, with the help of my little monster, to (a) the occasional opposition to foreplay by my partner, (b) to the ‘less-than-ideal’ partner (my brain ‘tolerance’ is so high that even if I were with the most sexy one imaginable it’d still be not enough), (c) some silly grudge about my past stopping me to ‘prepare’ us to mood setting or (d) my boss, customer etc. etc.</p>
<p>When it happened again my little monster brain gave me a BS mix of the above combo which I don’t even want to waste your time with. It never occurred to me that none of these would have stopped me before? So, I decided that I need ‘stamina practice’ since I figured that a toy which comes close to real vagina will ‘train’ me in getting hard and to avoid PE. I later came to read about PE being the result of poor training of the reward circuits. If one’s goal is orgasm then getting hard is not a requirement with masturbation. That being avoided enough times sets up waterslides in your brain and you grease it real nice every time to ride the slide. You can dispute this but I am going to take the Pascal’s Wager and quit - I lose very little, gain big and avoid losing big.</p>
<p>When you don’t get hard or have unreliable erections, it’s a signal that your mind wants it more than your body - most times. Also of note is my peevishness and melancholy (anger/irritability and moodiness/depression). I told myself that I am a negatively oriented Virgo. While many Virgos are predisposed to think and act ‘negatively’ I failed to notice that actually I am a pretty optimistic guy.</p>
<p>In fact, the many times I had not gone along for the porn water slide ride, due to external events, even though I had wanted to, I noticed that I did not get affected big time - remember again Pascal’s Wager. But looking back at my life, I have to say that I have been an achiever, in spite of the self-sabotage of PMO and its constant drag. That must be due to the training of tempering my pre-disposition and keeping the negatives to toned down healthy negatives of disappointment, sorrow, concern, annoyance, sadness, regret, frustration, caution, vigilance, irritation etc. I am sure that I am an optimistic and positive guy, how else could I explain that I kept going in spite of my tripping myself with PMO?</p>
<p>I have been in the stock market and have advised my friends and colleagues. I would show my hands - in real investments and trades. Most of the macho guys would not bring themselves to pull the trigger at those times when I did with no fears but of course with due vigilance and caution.</p>
<p>I know a person close to me who would masturbate every day at least once. He had no access to porn and was using static magazines and his own imagination. Now, looking back I wonder if this person lost his life’s joy to PMO. He would always be quick to anger and his irritation trigger levels are always very low. Any day-to-day stress will tick him off. He had a secure government job that demanded little from him and so he was lucky to survive until his retirement. Lucky? Maybe not. Anyway, I am sure his RC* had long sent shutdown signals to his receptors and his dopamine and opioids have much diminished effectiveness.</p>
<p>You might conclude that I am something of a hypochondriac. I believe that I was when I was a PMOer. One of the great evils about addictions such as these is that it fools us into believing that the cigarettes, alcohol, PMO etc. give us courage, when in fact it gradually and imperceptibly dissipates it. I was shocked when I read about a confessor who felt suicidal at 19 due to PMO. Little did I realize that twenty years later I would have exactly the same lack of joie de vivre. You might conclude that this chapter has been one of necessary, or unnecessary, doom and gloom. I promise you it is the complete opposite. I used to fear death when I was a child. A bit later I used to believe that smoking, drinking and porn removed that fear. Perhaps it did. If so, it replaced it with something infinitely worse: <strong>A FEAR OF LIVING!</strong></p>
<p>Now my fear of dying has returned. Yet it does not bother me. I realize that it only exists because I now enjoy life so much. I don&rsquo;t brood over my fear of dying any more than I did when I was a child. I&rsquo;m far too busy living my life to the full. The odds are against my living to a hundred, but I&rsquo;ll try to. I&rsquo;ll also try to enjoy every precious moment!</p>
<p>There were two other advantages on the health side that never occurred to me until I had stopped PMOing. One was that I now wake up refreshed in the morning. The subtle well-rested feeling is something sort of what you’d experience after a fever had left you. I get that almost every day but of course some nights are not going to be perfect. I had accepted that there is nothing outside of us that we need to enjoy or cope in our lives.</p>
<p>The other was the acceptance of the Void in our lives. Those insecure feelings. The emptiness. From what I learned - that is after removing PMO from my life, I could see that these three are present in everyone’s lives. Yes, that includes the playboys and the PUA macs as well. I think they are like the nights that serve to enhance our days. Yes, it is a well known ‘insight’. But then I know of many insights which have never translated to any value to my life. After I quit, it all fell into place. Look, I am not a saint or a guru. But I am not panicking and seeking substitutes when I feel the void, or insecurity or emptiness. There are no outside things that will be a pleasure or crutch.</p>
<p>Here is a thought experiment for you&hellip; let’s say a woman comes to you and says she doesn’t necessarily want an orgasm but however, she very much wants to make love. Even penetrative. And she wants to do it for as long and as far as you can go without an orgasm but if it happens then its fine. I assure you of a great new experience, far better than anything in your life if you even get that offer. Try it.</p>
<p>PMOers also suffer the illusion that the ill-effects of internet porn and PMO are overstated. The reverse is the case. There is no doubt that internet porn is the major cause of PIED and other problems. The trouble is that in many cases where PMO causes the ED or is a contributory factor, it is not blamed on PMO in the statistics. It has been estimated that more than 25 per cent of men experience ED or PE and yet I wonder how many divorces have been caused by PMO? There are no reliable ways to know the number of Internet Porn users within the study group. The studies usually mix up traditional and internet porn users and has no way to account for the starting age of the participants, years of use, duration and frequency of usage. There is no way to conduct blind or double blind methods either.</p>
<p>I was a ‘safe’ user of internet porn - if there is anything ‘safe’ about it. However I noticed that I invariably projected porn fantasies on real life women. Like the episode in Friends where the guys, who were receiving continuous free porn on TV, started to wonder to each other why the pizza delivery girl didn’t ask to check out their ‘big bedroom’. Imagine what ‘careless’ or even ‘accidental’ porn exposure on the darker sides the internet would do to someone who is already at a tipping point in his or her life? Fighting against these ‘porn induce thoughts’, PIT<sup id="fnref:4"><a href="#fn:4" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">4</a></sup>, is going to be a major drain on his or her mental health.</p>
<p>The effect of the brainwashing is that we tend to think like the man who, having fallen off a 100-storey building, is heard to say, as he passes the fiftieth floor, “So far, so good!” We think that as we have got away with it so far, one more PMO session won&rsquo;t make the difference. Try to see it another way, the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; is a continuous chain for life, each session creating the need for the next. When you start the habit you light a fuse. The trouble is, YOU DON&rsquo;T KNOW HOW LONG THE FUSE IS. Every time that you give up to a PMO session you are one step nearer to the bomb exploding. HOW WILL YOU KNOW IF IT&rsquo;S THE NEXT ONE?</p>
<p><strong>PIT</strong> - porn induced thoughts, porn themes crossing over to normal interactions&#160;<a href="#fnref:4" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p>
<description><p>I cannot repeat too often that it is brainwashing that makes it difficult to stop PMOing. So, the
more brainwashing we can dispel before we start, the easier you will find it to achieve your goal.
Occasionally I get into arguments with people whom I call “confirmed PMOers.” By my definition
a confirmed PMOer is somebody who doesn&rsquo;t believe PMO has any negative effect on his health
(PME, PIED and hypofrontality etc.) and is not having a mental tug of war. Most times he’d be a
younger guy or a single but with an occasional sex partner. Thus the internal feedback is lost due to
the nature of their youth and or it is too infrequent to be observed and registered.</p>
<p>If he is a young man, I’d rather say to him, “I cannot believe you are not worried about the
time you are spending.” Usually his eyes light up. If I had attacked him instead on health grounds or
on the social stigma, he would feel at a disadvantage which will trigger resistance from him. But on
time&hellip;</p>
<blockquote>
<p><em>“Oh, I can afford it. It is only x hours per week and I think it is worth it. It is my only vice or
pleasure.”</em></p>
</blockquote>
<blockquote>
<p><em>“I still cannot believe you are not worried about the time spent. Say at a minimum half an hour a day on an average including the physical ‘drain’ time of dopamine withdrawals, you are spending approximately one full working day of 8 hours every fortnight. Half an hour a day is a very conservative estimate you would agree. And in a year that will add up to a working month. Have you thought about how much time you are going to spend in your lifetime? What are you doing with that time? You are not even developing real relationships? No, your favourite porn star does not have sympathy for you just because you spent that much time on her site - you are throwing it away! Not only that, you are actually using that time to ruin your physical health, to destroy your nerves and confidence, to suffer a lifetime of slavery, pain, stress, melancholy and peevishness. Surely that must worry you?”</em></p>
</blockquote>
<p>It is apparent at this point, particularly with younger PMOers, that they have never considered it a lifetime habit. Occasionally they work out the time they waste in a week and that is alarming. Very occasionally (and only when they think about stopping) they estimate what they spend in a year and that is frightening but over a lifetime it is unthinkable. However, because now we are in an argument, the confirmed PMOer will impulsively say, “I can afford it. It is only so much a week.” He pulls an “encyclopedia salesman” routine on himself.</p>
<p>Will you refuse a job offer which pays you your current annual salary and also gives you a month off every year? Any PMOer would sign up for this job offer in a heartbeat and would get busy finding vacation deals to exotic places. Figuring out how to spend one full month with no work would be the biggest problem that he now has to solve.</p>
<p>In every discussion with a confirmed PMOer - and please bear in mind I am not now talking to someone like yourself who plans to stop, I am talking to someone who has no intention of stopping - nobody has ever taken me up on that offer. Why not?</p>
<p>Often at this point in my consultation, a confirmed PMOer will say, “look, I am not really worried about the money aspect.” If you are thinking along these lines, ask yourself why you are not worried. Why in other aspects of your life will you go to a great deal of trouble to save a few dollars here and there but yet spend thousands of dollars killing your happiness and hang the expense?</p>
<p>The answer to these questions is this: every other decision that you make in your life will be the result of an analytical process of weighing up the pros and cons and arriving at a rational answer. It may be the wrong answer but at least it will be the result of rational deduction. Whenever any PMOer weighs up the pros and cons of using internet porn, the answer is a dozen times over: “STOP PMOing! YOU ARE A MUG!” Therefore all PMOers are using not because they want to or because they decided to but because they think they cannot stop. They have to and need to brainwash themselves. They have to and need to keep their heads in the sand.</p>
<p>The strange thing is many men would pay good money for gym and personal trainers to build their muscles and look sculpted. Other treatments such as boosting testosterone with dubious and sometimes dangerous effects are tried out by many men in their real (and imaginary) desperation. Yet, there are many men in that group who would save money and risks by stopping a practice that systematically not only destroys their manhood but also affects their brain’s natural relaxation system.</p>
<p>This is because they are still thinking with the brainwashed mind of the PMOer. Just take the sand out of your eyes for a moment. Internet porn is a chain reaction and a chain for life. If you do not break that chain, you will remain a user for the rest of your life. Now estimate how much time you think you will spend on PMOing for the rest of your life. The amount will obviously vary with each individual but for the purpose of this exercise let us assume it is a year and half of work hours. You will shortly be making the decision to use your final session (not yet, please - remember the initial instructions). All you have to do to remain a non-PMOer is NOT to fall for the trap again. That is, do not PMO and consciously avoid having “just a peek.” If you do, that one peek will cost you a year and half of your work life. If you think this is a trick way of looking at it, you are still kidding yourself. Just work out how much time you would have saved if you had not taken your very first ‘peek’ right at the start.</p>
<p>If you see the argument as factual, ask yourself how you would feel if there were a cheque from your state’s lotto for a year and half worth of your current salary lying on your carpet tomorrow? You&rsquo;d be dancing with delight! So start dancing! You are about to start receiving that bonus and that&rsquo;s just one of the several fantastic gains you are about to receive.</p>
<p>During the withdrawal period you may be tempted to have just one final ‘look’. It will help you to resist the temptation if you remind yourself it will cost you one year’s worth of your peak annual salary (or whatever your estimate is)! I could be making that offer on television and radio programmes yet I bet no-one will take it.</p>
<p>If you are mentoring someone online for his PMO addiction tell him that he knows someone who has refused a job offer that pays his current annual salary and also gives him a full month’s of PTO. When he ask who that idiot is, tell him, “you!” I know it&rsquo;s rude but you may sometimes need to get your point across in a less-than-polite way.</p>
<description><p>Usually when PMOers try to stop the main reasons given are health, religion and partner stigma. Part of the brainwashing of this awful drug is the sheer slavery. Man fought hard in the last century to abolish slavery and yet the PMOer spends his life suffering self-imposed slavery. He seems to be oblivious to the fact that when he is allowed to PMO he wishes that he were a non-PMOer. With most of the masturbation we do in our lives, not only do we not enjoy them but we aren&rsquo;t even aware that we are masturbating. It is only after a period of abstinence that we actually suffer the delusion of enjoying PMO (e.g. the first day after a 4 day abstinence with the intent of rebooting etc.). The only time that the porn becomes precious is when we are &rsquo;trying&rsquo; to cut down or abstain or when abstinence is forced on us (e.g. when on a business trips, holiday trips to locations where the Internet is not available and so on).</p>
<p>The confirmed PMOer should bear in mind that more studies and even more people are coming out and talking about the ill effects of internet porn. This trend will get “worse and worse.” Today, it is non-medical people talking. Tomorrow, it will be in your doctor’s list of diagnostic tests to perform. Gone are the days when the PMOer can hide behind “just a bit of downtime due to work stress” in his or her sex life. Your partner is going to ask you why you are on your laptop at this time too late into the night. The poor PMOer, who was already feeling wretched, wants the ground to open up and swallow him.</p>
<p>I remember every time my partner stayed up late it was an ordeal waiting to open up my laptop. When on business trips the dinner with the clients and colleagues dragged on or was I just going through the natural ups and downs in human interactions? What was I doing? I was thinking, “let&rsquo;s get on with it, so that I can get over with this and go to my room for some porn.” I have thought many times, “am I not lucky? I have got my little reward. The poor non-PMOer with no internet access somewhere in an Amish village hasn&rsquo;t got a reward.” The &lsquo;poor&rsquo; non-PMOer doesn&rsquo;t need a reward. We were not designed to go through life systematically flooding our brains with dopamine and opioids. The pathetic thing is that even when masturbating with internet porn the PMOer doesn&rsquo;t achieve those feelings of peace, confidence and tranquillity that the non-PMOer has experienced for the whole of his non-PMO life. The non-PMOer isn&rsquo;t sitting in the family room, feeling agitated and wishing his life away. He can enjoy the whole of his life.</p>
<p>No, this wasn&rsquo;t a fourteen-year-old schoolboy but a forty-year-old professional. How pathetic. I wouldn&rsquo;t admit to myself that I wasn&rsquo;t enjoying it. I was looking for the right clip and/or pictures to reach orgasm or better, edge forever. I don&rsquo;t know what I am supposed to be &lsquo;watching&rsquo; sometimes. That is the confusing part. The &rsquo;edging&rsquo; and then the orgasm floods my brain. Yet this was supposed to be my way of relaxing and enjoying my “favourite hobby.”</p>
<p>To me, one of the tremendous joys of being a non-PMOer is to be freed from that slavery. To be able to enjoy the whole of my life and not spend half of it craving for more and more internet porn and then, when I get to fire up my browser, wishing I didn&rsquo;t have to do it. PMOers should bear in mind that when they see or meet non-PMOers, it is not the self-righteous non-PMOer who is depriving them but their very own “little monster.”</p>
<description><p>ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! The thing that makes it difficult for us to give up is fear. The fear that we are being deprived of our pleasure or prop. The fear that certain pleasant situations will never be quite the same again. The fear of being unable to cope with stressful situations. In other words, the effect of brainwashing is to delude us into believing that sex and by extension orgasm, is a must for all human beings. Or that there is something inherent in Internet porn that we need and that when we stop PMOing we will be self-denying ourselves and there will be a void.</p>
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<p>Get it clear in your mind:</p>
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<p>Internet porn</p>
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<p>DOES NOT FILL A VOID.</p>
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<p>IT CREATES ONE!</p>
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<p>These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on this planet. Whether you believe in a creator, a process of natural selection or a combination of both, whatever being or system devised these bodies of ours, it is a thousand times more effective than man! Man cannot create the smallest living cell, let alone the miracle of eyesight, reproduction, our circulatory system or our brains. We don’t have our systems upgraded yet to properly assess the supranormal stimulus such as rich high density food or high speed internet novelty porn with multiple active windows.</p>
<p>If the creator or process had intended us to handle novelty triggering stimuli, we would have been provided with some other brain reward circuits. Our bodies are, in fact, provided with fail-safe warning devices and we ignore these at our peril. Excessive edging results in body pain, irritation, and inflammation. In women, excessive flooding of dopamine and stress enzymes such as prostaglandin-E2 can cause difficulty to orgasm and PME.</p>
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<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up"><strong>There Is Nothing To Give Up</strong></h2>
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<p>The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.</p>
<p>The problem I have is to make a convincing point as I’d have done for, let us say&hellip; smokers? All of us have seen smokers who develop excuses to sneak off for a crafty puff. It is easy to see the true addiction in action. Addicts do not do it because they enjoy it. They do it because they are miserable without it.</p>
<p>Because many of us started out our first sexual experience that ended in an orgasm and we acquired the belief that we cannot enjoy sex without an orgasm. And for men, porn is sold as an aid towards sex, sometimes even as an education to be confident during the act of sex. It used to be static, but now we have supranormal internet porn. But this is nonsense. Internet porn takes away your confidence.</p>
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<h2 id="women-and-porn"><strong>Women And Porn</strong></h2>
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<p>The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn&rsquo;t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn ? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.</p>
<p>Porn and internet porn does not help your sex life; it destroys it totally. Having to hide your internet footprints, trying to delete your history, fearing accidental exposure to your boyfriend or kids, body pains, doubtful symptoms, fighting self doubts, arguing with yourself about your responsibilities in the ill effects of your addiction&hellip; well, why do you want to put yourself in such a bad situation?</p>
<p>Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous positive gains to be had. When PMOers contemplate quitting they tend to concentrate on health and virility. These are obviously valid and important issues but I personally believe the greatest gains from stopping are psychological:</p>
<ol>
<li>The return of your confidence and courage.</li>
<li>Freedom from the slavery.</li>
<li>Not to have to go through life suffering the awful black shadows at the back of your mind, knowing you are being despised by half of the population and, worst of all, despising yourself.</li>
</ol>
<p>Not only is life better as a non-PMOer but it is infinitely more enjoyable. I do not only mean you will be healthier. I mean you will be happier and enjoy life far more. The marvellous gains from being a non-PMOer are discussed in the next few chapters. Some PMOers find it difficult to appreciate the concept of the &lsquo;void&rsquo; and the following analogy may assist you.</p>
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<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"><strong>Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void!</strong></h2>
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<p>Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I&rsquo;ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can&rsquo;t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.</p>
<p>By now you are completely dependent on the ointment. You never go out without ensuring that you have a tube of the ointment with you. If you go abroad, you make sure that you take several tubes with you. Now, in addition to your worries about your health, I&rsquo;m charging you $100 per tube. You have no choice but to pay.</p>
<p>You then read in the medical column of your newspaper that this isn&rsquo;t happening just to you; many other people have been suffering from the same problem. In fact, pharmacists have discovered that the ointment doesn&rsquo;t actually cure the sore. All that it does is to take the sore beneath the surface of the skin. It is the ointment that has caused the sore to grow. All you have to do to get rid of the sore is to stop using the ointment. The sore will eventually disappear in due course.</p>
<p>Would you continue to use the ointment? Would it take willpower not to use the ointment? If you didn&rsquo;t believe the medical article, there might be a few days of apprehension, but once you realized that the sore was beginning to get better, the need or desire to use the ointment would go, Would you be miserable? Of course you wouldn&rsquo;t. You had an awful problem which you thought was insoluble. Now you&rsquo;ve found the solution. Even if it took a year for that sore to disappear completely, each day, as it improved, you&rsquo;d think. “isn&rsquo;t it marvellous? I&rsquo;m not going to die!” This was the magic that happened to me on my final PMO day. Let me make one point quite clear in the analogy of the sore and the ointment.</p>
<p>The sore isn&rsquo;t lung cancer, or arterial sclerosis, or emphysema, or angina, or chronic asthma, or bronchitis, or coronary heart disease. They are all in addition to the sore. It isn&rsquo;t the body pains, lack of normal lust, flagging arousal, fading penetration, the wasted time spent on lifeless two dimensional images, the times when we felt infringed of our entitlement because we are not allowed to PMO. It isn&rsquo;t the lifetime of being despised by other people who caught you or, worst of all, despising yourself. These are all in addition to the sore.</p>
<p>The sore is what makes us close our minds to all these things. It&rsquo;s that panic feeling of, “I want a fix.” Non-PMOers don&rsquo;t suffer from that feeling. The worst thing we ever suffer from is fear, and the greatest gain you will receive is to be rid of that fear. It was as if a great mist had suddenly lifted from my mind. I could see so clearly that that panic feeling of wanting a porn fix wasn&rsquo;t some sort of weakness in me or some magic quality of internet porn. It was caused by the first PMO session; and each subsequent one - far from relieving the feeling, it was actually causing it.</p>
<p>At the same time I could see all these other “happy” PMOers - the ones who are blinded by their cunning little porn monsters - were going through the same nightmare that I was. Not as bad as mine yet all putting up phony arguments to try to justify their stupidity.</p>
<p><strong>IT&rsquo;S SO NICE TO BE FREE!</strong></p>
<description><p>This is a misinformation that seems to make sense but then it does not. In order to have control of eating, will you eat at home before leaving to go to a restaurant or a party? This is what you are doing when you PMO before your social night. You will look tired and will not be up to your best. If you have dating jitters then work on it beforehand and then go with the flow even with some butterflies in your stomach. I like a bit of the anxiety in me to keep me going. Tiring yourself mentally and physically with an orgasm is not going to help you, unless of course you are going to see a prostitute. The goal is entirely different in that angle.</p>
<p>The widespread adoption of pick-up techniques has put pressure on guys to perform, to attract and to ‘score’. You can get knowledge but you should know how to use it. I can guarantee that 100% of the other guys hanging at that bar know exactly what you know. It comes down to the ‘how’ of how you use it when you get the chance. Even before that, there is one very critical thing about any knowledge pertaining to human interactions, that ‘knowledge’ should never force your actions. This is important.</p>
<p>I once masturbated and then poured wine to quiet the butterflies in my stomach before a date. I looked tired after just one hour into the date, the loud noise of the bar, dehydration, excessive self-consciousness (PUA teachings) etc. made my time unenjoyable. Somehow the girl and her friend liked it all. However, I do think it would have been better if I had gone without any props. I ended up being successful by claiming my &lsquo;goal(s)&rsquo; - which I consider unfortunate and as random luck.</p>
<p>The PMO session I had before the date triggered a dopamine flooding and its withdrawal hit around the time I was with the date. I had to over-do my conversation to compensate the ineffective dopamine effects after that earlier orgasm. I am also sure that I was suffering from hypofrontality - where my impulses were failing my controls. That gushing moment, an extra decibel in the tone etc. would easily have given my nervousness to the girls - only if I was not protected by the loud noise in the bar. Why do you want to take chances?</p>
<p>PMO ceases to relieve the withdrawal pangs that it causes in the first place. That is also why heavy PMOers turn to alcohol or other drugs. But I digress. Social night PMOing is occasioned by two or more of our usual reasons for pleasure/prop seeking, e.g. social functions, parties, weddings, school exams, game night, even business meetings. These are examples of occasions that are both stressful and relaxing. This might at first appear to be a contradiction but it isn&rsquo;t. Any form of socializing can be stressful, even with friends, and at the same time you want to be enjoying yourself and be completely relaxed.</p>
<p>There are situations where multiple reasons are present at one and the same time. To illustrate I will quote driving as one of these. But driving always involves an element of stress. Your life is at stake. You are also having to concentrate. You may not be aware of the last two factors but the fact that they are subconscious doesn&rsquo;t mean they aren&rsquo;t there. And if you are stuck in a traffic jam or have a long motorway drive, you may also be bored and may have ‘promised’ yourself to a PMO after you reach home.</p>
<p>Another classic example is going on a first date. Especially when you know something about the date before hand like their profile from an online dating site. Your mind is throwing questions back and forth. If she is a 10 and in that vicinity or if the date is from another race which is socially ‘perceived’ as a couple of levels above your race then it gets even noisier in your head. Then the surprise to meet the person in flesh, first the looks, then the voice, then the mannerisms. Expectations determine the level of interest you have for her from there on. If your enthusiasm starts to flag you will start to feel too relaxed but then you feel guilty for feeling too relaxed. The tug of war has started. I want sex or get me out of here ASAP - I know where to get it. That will lead you to the next stage of post-date PMOing.</p>
<p>Even if the date went fine and hours later you are at her door and which ever way it goes, you will not be satisfied if your goal is fully on the orgasm-seek. At other times, you drive home alone and all you want to do is to go to your online harem instead of patting yourself on the back for your efforts and enjoying yourself.</p>
<p>You can bet that this unfortunate guy is going to PMO after he reaches home. It is often after nights like these, when we wake to feel the uneasy emptiness, are often the special ones, the ones that we think we&rsquo;ll miss the most when we are contemplating stopping PMOing. We think that life will never be quite as enjoyable again. In fact, it is the same principle at work: these PMO sessions simply provide relief from withdrawal pangs and at certain times we have greater need to relieve them than at others. You had ended up ‘greasing’ the neural ‘waterslides’ in your brain and made it ready to slide again on the next cue.</p>
<p>Let us make it quite clear. It is not the internet porn and the harem dwellers that are special; it is the occasion. Once we have removed the need for the PMO, such occasions will become more enjoyable and the stressful situations less stressful. This will be explained in greater detail in the next chapter.</p>
<description><p>Most PMOers think that PMO helps to relax them. The truth is that internet porn used in PMO acts like a chemical stimulant. The frantic search to get the fix in those “dark alleys of the internet” and the internal struggle to reign in the dog straining at its leash for more shocking clips does not sound much like an activity of relaxation to me.</p>
<p>One of the favourite PMO sessions for most is the one after a trip to a new place or after along day. As the night rolls in we stop working; we sit down and relax, relieve our hunger and thirst and are then completely satisfied. However, the poor PMOer cannot relax, as he has another hunger to satisfy. He thinks of the PMO as the icing on the cake but it is the &rsquo;little monster&rsquo; that needs feeding.</p>
<p>The truth is that the addict can never be completely relaxed and as you go through life it gets worse. The most stressed people on this planet aren&rsquo;t non-PMOers but those young men and women who have a need to hunt (with the misunderstood goal of orgasm) and their ignorance of and/or low opinion of amative sex. Women who have subscribed to “I must orgasm” teachings are not even aware of the victim they have made of themselves. At this point any sex that leads to climax and orgasm cease to relieve even partially the symptoms that they have created.</p>
<p>I can remember when I was bringing up a family. If my child would do something wrong I would quickly lose my temper to an extent that was out of all proportion to what he had done.</p>
<p>My partner was “always frigid and not interested in sex.” Now I realize that if I had only tried the amative side of things then maybe I could have relieved myself of a great measure of stress at least - if not at me, I am sure she would have. One online comment&hellip;</p>
<p>“I really believed that I had an evil demon in my make-up. I now know that I had, however it wasn&rsquo;t some inherent flaw in my character but the little internet porn monster that was creating the problem. During those times I thought I had all the problems in the world but when I look back on my life I wonder where all the great stress was. In everything else in my life I was in control. The one thing that controlled me was this porn slavery. The sad thing is that even today I can&rsquo;t convince my children that it was the slavery that caused me to be so irritable.”</p>
<p>Every time I hear a porn addict trying to justify his addiction the message is, “Oh, it calms me. It helps me to relax.”</p>
<p>On the Internet I read about a single dad whose 6 year old son would want to share his bed sometimes in the night after a scary movie yet the dad would refuse under some pretence so he can have his PMO session and edge for hours.</p>
<p>Let me try a smoking analogy here&hellip; a couple of years ago, the adoption authorities threatened to prevent smokers from adopting children. A man rang up, irate. He said, “you are completely wrong. I can remember when I was a child, if I had a contentious matter to raise with my mother, I would wait until she lit a cigarette because she was more relaxed then.” Why couldn&rsquo;t he talk to his mother when she wasn&rsquo;t smoking a cigarette?</p>
<p>Why are PMOers so stressd when they are not getting their fix, even after a real sex with a real woman? I read about a guy who has 9&rsquo;s and 10&rsquo;s open for dating with him as he was in the advertising field. I am talking about dinner and stuff only - but he lost interest in those dinners as his Internet porn is far more ‘easy’ for him - no restaurant spending and no hearing a ‘no’ from his date at the end of an evening. Why would he bother when his little monster tells him about the low-risk high-reward scheme called PMO that is at his fingertips when he reaches home? Those real girls sure have competition.</p>
<p>Why are non-PMOers completely relaxed then? Why are PMOers not able to relax without a fix for a day or two? If you read about the experience of a PMOer taking the abstinence oath and quitting and you notice his struggle with the temptations. You can clearly see that they are not relaxed at all when they are not allowed to have the ‘only pleasure’ they are “entitled to enjoy.” They&rsquo;ve forgotten what it feels like to be completely relaxed. That&rsquo;s one of the many joys you have to come. The whole business of PMOing can be likened to a fly being caught in a pitcher plant. To begin with, the fly is eating the nectar. At some imperceptible stage the plant begins to eat the fly.</p>
<p>Isn&rsquo;t it time you climbed out of that plant?</p>
<description><p>Sex and masturbation do not help concentration. That is just another illusion. When you are trying to concentrate, you automatically try to avoid distractions. So when a PMOer wants to concentrate he doesn&rsquo;t even have to think about it. He automatically PMOs, partially ending the craving, gets on with the matter in hand and has already forgotten that he just PMOed. Sex in general do not help concentration. After years of masturbation your brain changes affect abilities such as assessing, planning and impulse control. The PMOer is already suffering: that little monster wants his fix.</p>
<p>You are also stressed to provide novelty for the next PMO session as the same stuff will not generate enough dopamine and opioids. You have to “roam the internet streets” for novelty - all the while fighting the pull to cross the line towards shock. This creates more stress. After you orgasm, you feel unfulfilled as well.</p>
<p>Concentration is also affected adversely for another reason. Your dopamine receptors have already started to get reduced by building up natural tolerance to these large surges, reducing the benefit of the smaller dopamine boosts from natural de-stressors.</p>
<p>In fact, your concentration and inspiration will be greatly improved as this process is reversed. For some it will be the concentration aspect that prevents them from succeeding when using the willpower method. They could put up with the irritability and bad temper but when they really needed to concentrate on something difficult they have to have that porn fix. I can well remember the panic I felt when I discovered that the hotel has no internet connection and I had this huge presentation the day after.</p>
<p>The loss of concentration that PMOers suffer when they try to escape is not, in fact, due to your abstinence from sex, let alone PMO. When you are addicted to something, you have mental blocks. When you have such a block, what do you do? You fire up the browser. That doesn&rsquo;t cure the mental block, so then what do you do? You do what you have to do: you get on with it, just as non-PMOers do.</p>
<p>When you are a PMOer nothing gets blamed on the cause. PMOers never have EDs; they just have an occasional down time. The moment you stop using, everything that goes wrong in your life is blamed on the fact that you&rsquo;ve stopped. Now when you have a mental block, instead of just getting on with it, you start to say, “if only I could check out my favourites now, it would solve my problem.” You then start to question your decision to quit and escape from this slavery.</p>
<p>If you believe that PMOing is a genuine aid to concentration, worrying about it will guarantee that you won&rsquo;t be able to concentrate. It&rsquo;s the doubting, not the physical withdrawal pangs, that causes the problem. Always remember: it is PMOer who suffers pangs and not non-PMOers. When I quit I went overnight from using everyday to zero without any apparent loss of concentration.</p>
<description><p>As soon as you get into your bed - and if you are like many people you are already on your favorite tube site - you will probably have already forgotten about it until I reminded you. It has become second nature. Another fallacy about PMOing is that it relieves boredom. Boredom is a frame of mind. The only time that happens is when you have been deprived for a long time or are trying to cut down, or during those first few PMO sessions after a failed attempt to stop.</p>
<p>The true situation is this: when you are addicted to internet porn’s supranormal novelty and then you decide to abstain from internet porn, there is something missing. If you have something to occupy your mind that isn&rsquo;t stressful, you can go for long periods without being bothered by the absence of the drug. However, when you are bored there&rsquo;s nothing to take your mind off it, so you feed the monster. When you are indulging yourself (i.e. not trying to stop or cut down), even firing up your incognito browser becomes subconscious. The PMOer can perform this ritual automatically. If any PMOer tries to remember the session during the last week, he can only remember a small proportion of them - e.g. the very last one or after a long abstinence.</p>
<p>The truth is that PMOing tend to increase boredom indirectly because orgasms make you feel lethargic and instead of undertaking some energetic activity, PMOers tend to prefer lounge around, bored, relieving their withdrawal pangs. This is why countering the brainwashing is so important. Because it&rsquo;s a fact that PMOers tend to masturbate when they are bored and that we&rsquo;re wired to interpret PMO as interesting. It doesn&rsquo;t occur to us to question the fact how a two dimensional supranormal stimulus relieves boredom.</p>
<p>We&rsquo;ve also been brainwashed into believing that sex - even a bad sex - aids relaxation. It is a fact that when under stress or sad, couples want to have sex. In the absence of discrimination between amative and propagative sex, the goal is set to achieve orgasms by hook or by crook. Next time you do this watch how you both want to get away from each other as soon as it’s over. It is obvious that if they had just decided to cuddle, speak, hug and touch each other and go to sleep without the mandatory orgasms, the couple would have felt relieved. Well, if in the process, they wanted to have the propagative part then by all means they can but that is a topic not meant to be discussed in this book.</p>
<description><p>I am referring not only to the great tragedies of life but also to the minor stresses, the socializing, the telephone call, the anxieties of the housewife with noisy young children and so on. Let us use the telephone conversation as an example. For most people the telephone is slightly stressful, particularly for the businessman. Most calls aren&rsquo;t from satisfied customers or your boss congratulating you. There&rsquo;s usually some sort of aggravation - something going wrong or somebody making demands. Then he or she comes home to the mundane family life of kids screaming and wife&rsquo;s emotional demands on you. His already PMO weakened de-stressors are in no way ready to take the aggravation. At that time the PMOer, if he isn&rsquo;t already doing so, will fantasize the relief of internet porn that he promised himself that night. He will even allow himself to “take one step more” into the ‘forbidden’ area that he had previously self-excluded. He doesn&rsquo;t know why he does this but he does know that for some reason it appears to help.</p>
<p>What has actually happened is this: without being conscious of it, he has already been suffering aggravation (i.e. the withdrawal pangs). By partially relieving that aggravation at the same time as normal stress, the total stress is reduced and the PMOer gets a boost. At this point the boost is not, in fact, an illusion. The Internet porn user will feel better than before. However, even when using porn to masturbate he or she is more tense than if he were a non-PMOer because the more you go into the drug, the more it knocks you down and the less it restores you when you masturbate. I promised no shock treatment. In the example I am about to give, I am not trying to shock you, I am merely emphasizing that PMO destroy your nerves rather than relax them.</p>
<p>Try to imagine getting to the stage where you cannot get aroused even with a very sexy and attractive partner. Just for a moment pause and try to visualize life where one very lovely and charming woman has to compete and fail with all the virtual porn stars who are in your &lsquo;harem&rsquo; to get your attention! Try to imagine the frame of mind of a man who, issued with that warning, actually continues PMOing and then dies without ever having had real sex with this charming and willing real woman. I had read real life stories like that from men and dismissed them as weirdos. In fact, I used to wish a doctor would tell me that this weird condition would happen if I continue PMO; then I would have stopped. Yet I was already fully expecting that PIED and hypofrontality where I am guaranteed to lose in a brain war. I didn&rsquo;t think of myself as an impotent, just a heavy PMOer. Now, let’s talk about the stress that this is putting on me.</p>
<p>Such weird stories as the above are not fakes. That is what this awful ‘novelty’ porn drug does to you. As you go through life, it systematically takes away your nerve and courage. The more it takes your courage away, the more you are deluded into believing the porn is doing the opposite.</p>
<p>Have you ever been overtaken by panic when you are out on business travel and the hotel WiFi is down or too slow? Non-PMOers do not suffer from it. The internet porn drug causes that feeling. At the same time, as you go through life, PMO not only destroys your nerves but keeps building a powerful neural ‘water slide’, DeltaFosB, progressively destroying your ability to say no.</p>
<p>By the time the PMOer reaches the stage at which it has killed his virility, he believes the PMO is his new girlfriend and cannot face life without it. Get it clear in your head that Internet porn is not relieving your nerves; it is slowly but steadily destroying them. One of the great gains of breaking the ‘habit’ is the return of your natural confidence and self-assurance.</p>
<p>There is no need to self-rate based on your ability to get hard or to satisfy a woman. However, you do ‘know’ deep inside that this is slavery. It is not freedom. And that freedom cannot be achieved by continuing to ‘grease’ - repeating the same behaviour and energizing the ‘water slide’ neural pathways of your brain in ways that undercut your happiness in general and not to mention your libido.</p>
<description><p>As I explained earlier, PMOers think they do it for enjoyment, relaxation or some sort of education. In fact, this an illusion. The actual reason is the relief of withdrawal pangs. In the early days we use the porn as a curious and novel thing or even educational or as a rebel. We can take it or leave it. However, the subtle chain has started. Our subconscious mind begins to learn that internet porn and masturbation taken at certain times tends to be pleasurable. The more we become hooked on the drug, the greater the need to relieve the withdrawal pangs and the further the PMO drags you down and the more you are fooled into believing it is doing the opposite. It all happens so slowly, so gradually, you are not even aware of it. Each day you feel no different from the day before. Most young PMOers don&rsquo;t even realize they are hooked until they actually try to stop and even then many won&rsquo;t admit to it. A few stalwarts just keep their heads in the sand all their lives,trying to convince themselves and other people that they enjoy it.</p>
<p>Listen to this conversation a therapist had with hundreds of teenagers.</p>
<blockquote>
<p>TH: “You realize that internet porn is a drug and that the only reason why you are using is that you cannot stop.”</p>
</blockquote>
<blockquote>
<p>PA: “Nonsense! I enjoy it. If I didn&rsquo;t, I would stop.”</p>
</blockquote>
<blockquote>
<p>TH: “Just stop for a week to prove to me you can if you want to.”</p>
</blockquote>
<blockquote>
<p>PA: “No need. I enjoy it. If I wanted to stop, I would.”</p>
</blockquote>
<blockquote>
<p>TH: “Just stop for a week to prove to yourself you are not hooked.”</p>
</blockquote>
<blockquote>
<p>PA: “What&rsquo;s the point? I enjoy it.”</p>
</blockquote>
<p>As already stated, PMOers tend to relieve their withdrawal pangs at times of stress, boredom, concentration, relaxation or a combination of these. This point is explained in greater detail in the next few chapters.</p>
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<item>
<title>03-07 Brainwashing and the Primitive Mechanism</title>
<description><p>How or why do we start PMOing in the first place? To understand this fully you need to examine the powerful effect of the supernormal stimulus. We all tend to think we are intelligent, dominant human beings determining our paths through life. We act and act frequently when our brain reward circuit are rewarded. Nobel laureate Nikolaas Tinbergen coined the term “supranormal stimulus.” He said mammals could be tricked into preferring fake eggs and mates. Female birds, for example, struggled to sit on larger-than life, vividly spotted plaster eggs while their own pale, dappled eggs perished untended.</p>
<p>The stimulation here in internet porn is not it brings stimulating actors and themes to your home - it is a genie at your bidding to create a harem in your mind. You can switch between genres and theme, home-made and viewer rated, commented and discussed, so rapid and so easy. We absolutely are not ready for the high speed internet porn and our brains are not designed to handle this supranormal stimuli.</p>
<p>We can have an ‘information overload’ from the same internet but our reward circuits are not going to squirt dopamine at the levels when ‘porn overload’ is involved. We are evolutionarily programmed to seek and access sex related stuff. And we wrongly appraise the stimulus mostly based on this reward circuit action. If all you wanted is to masturbate why can’t you just use one clip and get the business done?</p>
<p>Here is another question - next time after a long day or some stressful incident can you consciously embellish your self-talk with “Do you know what I would really enjoy today? The marvellous warm glow of dopamine rush going to my online harem.” You will find that even people who dislike PMO will join you.</p>
<p>There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.</p>
<p>From our earliest years our subconscious minds are bombarded daily with information telling us that sex is good and that the most precious thing on this earth is to ‘achieve’ orgasm. Girls are taught to achieve it and claim it&rsquo;s because they were wrongly suppressed of their sexual side for a very long time and still are. You think I exaggerate? Watch any TV or movie plot and you will see the mix-up of the amative (touch, smell, voice etc.) and the propagative (orgasmic) sides of sex. The impact of this does not register on our conscious minds but the sleeping partner, the subconscious mind, has time to absorb it. What the message is really saying is, “The most precious thing on this earth, my last thought and action, will be the goal of orgasm.” If you don’t have an orgasm then you are an old man with zero libido.</p>
<p>Our children are being bombarded by sex and porn clips and many don’t even know how to protect them from it all. Large hoardings and magazine adverts are loaded with sexual innuendo. Some of the pop videos are extremely suggestive - again they hide behind free speech. Don’t be vexed and feel powerless about it. Make it a game and find you which of the components they are using - is it novelty, shock value, color, size, taboo etc. If the kids are pre-teen some of these can be disclosed to them and it would make an excellent show-and-tell game.</p>
<p>A while back there was a wave of ‘leaked’ private videos of celebrities on the internet. If the youngster is too smitten by their favourite star, even if the conscious mind blames the ‘leak’ on the blood thirsty internet paparazzi, the &lsquo;sleeping partner&rsquo; is patiently digesting the notion that, “yes, even my shambolic hero does it and if I don’t, I won’t look the part.”</p>
<p>True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>, Reboot<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> forums, underground PUA<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup>, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn&rsquo;t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.</p>
<p>Ironically, the most powerful force in this melee of confusion is the PMOer himself. It is a fallacy that they are weak-willed or are physically weak specimens. You have to be physically strong in order to cope with an addiction after you know it is. This is one of the reasons why PMOers refuse to accept the overwhelming statistics that prove that internet porn with its ‘novelty’ cripples your brain. Add to that the sexologists who are doing half-baked studies and declare PMO is not an issue - they just help to add to the confusion.</p>
<p>Everyone knows a friend who PMOed every day - he started with the ‘static’ to internet porn, always horny in real life, chasing girls and you never doubted him to have sex problems of course. You want to believe him. He never complained about any ED right? Guys and girls like them refuse even to consider the hundreds of ex-addicts and non-PMOers who painfully recount their difficulties. It is the “little monster” brain chemical addiction and the “big monster” - illusions and delusions. In this hackbook, I&rsquo;ve put together almost all the sorts of brainwashing a PMOer can suffer from. There will always be a few out there that I haven&rsquo;t touched upon.</p>
<p>Even more painful is they think of themselves as unsuccessful losers and insufferable introverts. A possible fact is that a PMO friend could have been more interesting in person if he hadn’t put himself down for seeking self-pleasure.</p>
<p>If you do a small survey among your online forum members, friends and colleagues, you will find that most PMOers are, in fact, strong-willed people. They tend to be self-employed, business executives or in certain specialized professions, such as doctors<sup id="fnref:4"><a href="#fn:4" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">4</a></sup>, lawyers, policemen, teachers, salesmen, nurses, secretaries, housewives with children, etc. In other words, anybody leading a stressful existence. Yes, I did include women and mothers. It’s the brain and it’s the same for them too. The main delusion of the PMOer is that porn helps to masturbate to orgasm and that relieves stress. This tends to be associated with the dominant type, the type that takes on responsibility and stress and, of course, that is the type that we admire and therefore tend to copy. Another group that tends to get hooked are people in monotonous jobs because the other main reason for PMOing is boredom. However, the idea that internet porn relieves boredom is also an illusion, I am afraid.</p>
<p>As a society we get all uptight about glue-sniffing, heroin addiction, etc. Actual deaths from glue-sniffing do not amount to ten per annum, and deaths from heroin are less than a hundred a year in this country. There is another drug, internet porn, on which over 45 per cent of us become hooked at some time in our lives and the majority spend the rest of their lives regretting it. Some even don’t know that their ED is due to this.</p>
<p>PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why?</p>
<p>Constant exposure to internet porn re-wires your brain. You need to start building resistance to this brainwashing, just as if you were buying a car from a second-hand car dealer. You would be nodding politely but you would not believe a word the man was saying. So don’t believe everything they say either - that you must have sex as much as you can and you must have it exceptional good. And that in the absence of real sex you claim it by the substitute called internet porn - which is only a component of the good old porn.</p>
<p>And don’t play ‘safe’ porn game either - because your “little porn monster” invented that scheme to lure you. Even the content - ‘amateur’? Really? Is there a certification authority that certifies it? Tube sites and porn producers gather site visitor profiles and cater to their needs. If they see a trend in crowd sourced collection of a particular genre they will focus on that and get content out ASAP. The statistics of what genre users like is collected to the level of how long and which portion the users were preferring. Do not be fooled by their educational intent or the safe female oriented clips (for you ladies). Start asking yourself:</p>
<ul>
<li>Why am I doing it?</li>
<li>Do I really need to?</li>
</ul>
<p><strong>NO, OF COURSE YOU DON&rsquo;T.</strong></p>
<p>I find this brainwashing aspect the most difficult of all to explain. Why is it that an otherwise rational, intelligent human being becomes a complete imbecile about his own addiction? It pains me to confess that out of the thousands of people that I have assisted in kicking the habit, I (not Allen Carr) was the biggest idiot of all.</p>
<p>At the age of thirteen, although I was doing well at school and games, I was still an insufferable introvert. I read books from the library that were not within my main study list. However, I can see that I was attracted to erotica. I started masturbating to TV programs, song and dance sequences etc. I must have to have it every day. The tired feeling I felt was misappropriated by my ‘little porn monster’ as work stress. I didn’t know my “I-must-masturbate-as-I-am-entitled” attitude was the one that created the ‘stress’ in the first place. Then I got pictures and GIFs via email on my laptop - the first step towards electronic porn. The colour and texture of the images were amazing for me at that time - won’t be now for sure. Then came dial-up but still they were predominantly static pictures. Then came downloadable videos. It’s a pain to download and watch now - but it was heaven sent then as we were coming out of the static porn era! Oh, the streaming tube sites haven’t arrived yet.</p>
<div style="text-align: center;">
<h2 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"><strong>When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore</strong></h2>
</div>
<p>I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn.</p>
<p>At the age of forty, I was visiting my online harem daily, drinking ‘socially’ (whatever that means) and smoking ‘sometimes’ but not so often. I had wrongly subscribed to misguided ideas of ‘moderation’ and ‘entitlement’. I had reached the stage where I couldn&rsquo;t get through a single day without reaching out to porn in the night. With most PMOers, the triggers are the normal stresses of life, like answering the telephone or socializing.</p>
<p>When I experienced PIED - I knew it was killing my virility. There was no way I could kid myself otherwise. I am smart enough not to ‘project’ the porn fantasies on to real life. But it was like pacifying a dog straining at its leash. But why I couldn&rsquo;t see what it was doing to me mentally, I could not understand. It was almost jumping up and biting me on the nose. The ridiculous thing is that most PMOers suffer the delusion at some time in their life that they enjoy internet porn because it is ‘normal’ and ‘healthy’. I never suffered that delusion, I PMOed because I thought enjoying sex is a ‘birthright’ and I am only doing a normal thing.</p>
<p>Since it was easier at most times for me to get internet porn than a partner I thought I am doing the normal thing. Now I am a non-PMOer, the most difficult part is trying to believe that those days actually happened. It&rsquo;s like awakening from a nightmare and that is about the size of it. Internet porn is a supranormal drug. It is weakening your de-stressing mechanisms, your virility and your energy. The worst aspect of PMO isn&rsquo;t the injury to your health or manliness, it is the warping of the mind. You search for any plausible excuse to go on.</p>
<p>I remember at one stage switching to static images, a failed attempt to cut down on internet porn, in the belief that it was less harmful and I could reign in my ‘habit’. I failed to see the ‘novelty’ and the ‘shock’ demands from my ‘little monster’ to just get more dopamine. Did I ‘stay’ within my boundaries? I ‘favorited’ 2 dimensional photos and my harem collection saw pictures and videos of ‘mild’ type porn rotating in and out like musical chair. When their ‘music’ stopped they ‘exited’. I didn’t understand the novelty-seeking, shock-seeking nature of my brain.</p>
<div style="text-align: center;">
<h2 id="pied-and-my-excuses"><strong>PIED And My Excuses</strong></h2>
</div>
<p>Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.</p>
<p>Most PMOers swear that they only watch static and soft porn and so they are OK. They are actually straining at the leash and thus fighting with their willpower to resist temptations. If they do this too often and for too long they will debit their willpower considerably and fail in other life projects where willpower is of much great value, like in daily exercise, dieting etc. Continuous failure in those areas will make them feel miserable and guilty and very soon they will find themselves back to their entitled relief. If not, they will vent their anger and depression onto their loved ones.</p>
<p>The answer is that once you have become addicted to internet porn, the brainwashing is increased. Your subconscious mind knows that the little monster has to be fed and you block everything else from your mind. As I have already stated, it is fear that keeps people quitting, the fear of that empty, insecure feeling that you get when you stop supplying the brain with dopamine flooding. Just because you are not aware of it doesn&rsquo;t mean it isn&rsquo;t there. You don&rsquo;t have to understand it any more than a cat needs to understand where the under-floor hot-water pipes are. It just knows that if it sits in a certain place it gets the feeling of warmth.</p>
<div style="text-align: center;">
<h2 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind"><strong>The Passivity Of Our Mind</strong></h2>
</div>
<p>It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I&rsquo;ve frequently referred to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo; PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo;, but to stopping, quitting or the true position: <strong>ESCAPING!</strong></p>
<p>The only thing that persuades us to PMO in the first place is all the other people doing it. We feel we are missing out. We work so hard to become hooked, yet nobody ever finds out what they have been missing. But every time we see another new video clip it reassures us that there must be something in it, otherwise people wouldn&rsquo;t be doing it - and it wouldn&rsquo;t be such big business all over the world. Even when he has kicked the habit, the ex-PMOer feels he is being deprived when a discussion on a sexy entertainer, singer or even a porn star comes up at a party or other social function. She or he must be good to have all my friends talk about them, no? Do they have ‘hot’ pictures of her in my tube site? He feels safe. He can have just one ‘peek’ that night. And, before he knows it, he is hooked again.</p>
<p>This brainwashing is extremely powerful and you need to be aware of its effects. I have heard scare stories about wicked men giving heroin mixed candies to kids at schoolyards. The concept of addiction and being compelled to go on taking the drug, filled me with horror. Even to this day, in spite of the fact that I am fairly convinced that &lsquo;pot&rsquo; is not addictive, I would not dare take one puff of marijuana. How ironic that I should have ended up a porn junky. Technology will continue to grow and we will have even faster tube sites and more faster access methods. The industry is investing millions in Virtual Reality so it will become the next best thing. The point is, do we know where we are going? Are we equipped with an under armour of defence so we can enjoy the benefits of technology yet at the same time protect ourselves from its bad effects?</p>
<p>We are about to remove the brainwashing. It is not the non-PMOer who is being deprived but the poor user who is forfeiting a lifetime of:</p>
<p>And what does he gain from these considerable sacrifices? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! Except the illusion of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that the non-PMOer enjoys all the time.</p>
<p><strong>YBOP</strong> - yourbrainonporn.com, the leading internet porn addiction awareness site.&#160;<a href="#fnref:1" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p>
</li>
<li id="fn:2">
<p><strong>PUA</strong> - pickup artist. Someone who teaches men to pick up mates.&#160;<a href="#fnref:2" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p>
</li>
<li id="fn:3">
<p><strong>Reboot forum</strong> - online resource for those who try temporary abstinence.&#160;<a href="#fnref:3" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p>
</li>
<li id="fn:4">
<p><strong>Doctors</strong> - there is a reddit online forum for medical doctors who are quitting.&#160;<a href="#fnref:4" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p>
<description><p>Erotic novelty of the internet porn is a mental ‘drug’ and internet porn beats anything that is known to mankind and its streaming straight to your home for free ! We are not even talking VR virtual reality here. Porn triggers the ‘flooding’ of dopamine in our brain. Dopamine amps up the brain reward circuitry to produce experiences and feels of cravings and pleasure by locking themselves into ‘receptors’. More dopamine more wanting. Less dopamine no wanting. New experiences, tasty food - more dopamine - more wanting. Sex and sex related stuff gives the biggest injection of dopamine in the reward circuits. Dopamine is not the final pleasure stuff, if it were you would feel happy when you are done with it, but it is only a brain chemical that encourages seeking and action in you. The real pleasure is produced by opioids. More dopamine more opioids more
<p>So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. All of which will now be stored as a script in your brain for easy access next time. I call this a ‘water slide’. Next time at the cue - a sexy commercial or alone time or stress or feeling a little down - you are ready to take a ride on the ‘water slide’. One more thing is that every time to repeat this you are ‘greasing’ it as well - so it is active, alive and more easier to slide the next time.</p>
<p>As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating. Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish, ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you won’t on your first time.</p>
<p>This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost.</p>
<p>Going back to the earlier discussion - in this cycle as you crossed the ‘red line’ you also trigger emotions such as guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety and fear - which in turn raise dopamine levels as well. Now the brain may mistakenly associate feelings of anxiety and fear as sexual arousal. This perpetual cycle is only broken by natural causes - fortunately sooner or later. With its free access and privacy it provides boundless harem-like novelty. The dopamine can be theoretically kept very high for a very very long time. I can be satisfied with one lobster once in awhile. But Internet porn is different. It is even worse than drugs. Don’t let me make you nervous. I will shortly show you how to be free from this slavery.</p>
<p>Now our human body has a self-correcting system by which the number of dopamine and opioid receptors are cut short when frequent and daily ‘flooding’ of dopamine is detected. Unfortunately - these receptors are also needed for receiving dopamine and to keep us even and balanced to handle the inevitable and normal day-to-day stresses. But this natural nominal amount of dopamine will not be absorbed efficiently with decreased receptors and you will feel mores tressed and irritated than normal.</p>
<blockquote>
<p>&ldquo;For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed”</p>
<blockquote>
<p>-Kahlil Gibran.</p>
</blockquote>
</blockquote>
<p>A fleeting feeling of security is all that is needed to get through a rough spot in life - but will your brain be able to catch that drop of de-stressor that a non-PMOers’ brain is able to catch and
use?</p>
<p>This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I will explain more about this later.</p>
<p>The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&rsquo; we think we just &lsquo;got into the habit&rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.</p>
<p>Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, resulting in the feeling of fulfilment and pleasure that the action gives to the PMOer. In the early days, when we first start PMOing, the withdrawal pangs and their relief are so slight that we are not even aware that they exist. When we begin to masturbate regularly to internet porn we think it is because we&rsquo;ve either come to enjoy them or got into the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. The truth is we&rsquo;re already hooked; we do not realize it, but that little monster is already inside our stomach and every now and again we have to feed it.</p>
<p>All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster. The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had before he became hooked in the first place.</p>
<p>You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we
became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain goes on. It is a chain for life - <strong>UNLESS YOU BREAK IT</strong>.</p>
<p>The whole business of PMO is like wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure you feel when you take them off. There are three main reasons why PMOers cannot see things that way:</p>
<ol>
<li>From birth we have been subjected to massive brainwashing telling us that internet porn is simply just another modern development that replaced the print version of porn. Why should we not believe them when it hides behind the truth that masturbation is not bad? (However, I won’t recommend you take up masturbation). Why else would they waste all that time and energy and take such horrendous risks?</li>
<li>Because the physical withdrawal from dopamine injection involves no actual pain but is merely an empty, insecure feeling, inseparable from hunger or normal stress and because those are the very times that we tend to seek internet porn. We tend to regard the feeling as normal.</li>
<li>However the main reason that PMOers fail to see internet porn in its true light is because it works back to front. It&rsquo;s when you are not masturbating to it that you suffer that empty feeling. Because the process of getting hooked is very subtle and gradual in the early days, we regard that empty feeling as normal and don&rsquo;t blame it on the previous PMO session. The moment you fire up the browser and reach a tube site, you get an almost immediate boost or buzz and do actually feel less nervous or more relaxed and internet porn gets the credit.</li>
</ol>
<p>It is this &lsquo;back to front&rsquo; reverse process that makes all drugs difficult to kick. Picture the panic state of a heroin addict who has no heroin. Now picture the utter joy when that addict can finally plunge a needle into his vein. Can you visualize someone actually getting pleasure by injecting themselves, or does the mere thought fill you with horror? Non-heroin addicts don&rsquo;t suffer that panic feeling.</p>
<p>The heroin doesn&rsquo;t relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a 14 year old in 2008 - didn&rsquo;t suffer the empty feeling of needing internet porn or start to panic when they are off- line. Non-PMOers cannot understand how PMOers can possibly obtain pleasure from two dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. And do you know something? PMOers themselves cannot understand why they do it after some time either.</p>
<p>We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don&rsquo;t non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their &rsquo;little monster&rsquo;?</p>
<p>Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;I need to eat.&rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.</p>
<p>PMOing appears to be almost identical. The empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;wanting or needing an PMO orgasm’ is identical to a hunger for food, although one will not satisfy the other. Like hunger, there is no physical pain and the feeling is so imperceptible that we are not even aware of it between PMO sessions. It&rsquo;s only if we want to masturbate and aren&rsquo;t able to reach internet for porn that we become aware of any discomfort. But when we do PMO we feel satisfied.</p>
<p>It is this similarity to eating which helps to fool PMOers into believing that they receive some genuine pleasure. Some PMOers find it very difficult to grasp that there is no pleasure or crutch, whatsoever to PMO. Some argue: “How can you say there is no crutch? When I orgasm up then I&rsquo;llfeel less nervous than before.”</p>
<p>Although eating and PMOing appear to be very similar. In fact they are exact opposites:</p>
<li>You eat to survive and to energize your life, whereas PMOing dims your mojo and cuts down your energy.</li>
<li>Food does genuinely taste good, and eating is a genuinely pleasant experience that we can enjoy throughout our lives, whereas PMOing involves self-sabotaging the happiness receptors and thus destroying your chances to cope and to feel happy.</li>
<li>Eating doesn&rsquo;t create hunger and genuinely relieves it, whereas the first PMO starts the craving for dopamine and each subsequent one, far from relieving it, ensures that you suffer it for the rest of life.</li>
<p>This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.</p>
<p>On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience, I also refer to the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> - we have to then have more bizarre and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting&hellip; not in the killing. If we don&rsquo;t then panic sets in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great!</p>
<p>This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.</p>
<p>You feel better than you did before starting this PMO session but you are in fact more nervous and less relaxed than you would be as a non-PMOer, like someone who is living in Loma Linda or in an Amish village, even though you are actually PMOing and living in your supposed “porn paradise.” This position is even more ridiculous than wearing tight shoes because as you go through life an increasing amount of the discomfort remains even when the shoes are removed.</p>
<p>Once the orgasm is achieved, the dopamine rapidly begins to leave the brain, causing a mood dip. Which explains why the PMOer wants to ‘edge’<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> and switch through multiple browser windows as they seek and search. As I said, the ‘habit’ doesn&rsquo;t exist. The real reason why every user goes on using internet porn is because of that little porn monster inside his stomach. Every now and again he has to feed it. The PMOer himself will decide when he does that and it tends to be on four types of occasion or a combination of them.</p>
<p>What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If you think about it, what other types of occasion are there in our lives; apart from sleep? The truth is that PMO neither relieves boredom and stress nor promotes concentration and relaxation. It is all just illusion. Apart from being a drug, PMO is also a destroyer of happiness and virility.</p>
<p>In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes, print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’ and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive without knowing the difference between food and poison.</p>
<p>Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!</p>
<p>When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were titillating but most were disgusting, causing you to avert your eyes away. Like you would if had accidentally glanced a feeding mother’s breast. And some of us are even revolted with what they saw when the star reminded them of someone dear to their heart or a scene which recalled their own instance of being the victim. Some don’t feel like it to browse and masturbate at the same time. It may be hard to believe for you but the non-PMOs, who don’t PMO after their first time, are the lucky ones. They actually decided that it was not their cup of tea. It must be hard for you to believe but stay with me.</p>
<p>How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even after a hard day? Why not ? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That&rsquo;s all.</p>
<p>It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.</p>
<p>To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to become hooked, and this is why it is difficult to stop teenagers. Because they are skilled in seeking and finding material, they know online privacy options and can clean their tracks - if they still feel some stigma and they (wrongfully) believe they can stop whenever they want to. Why do they not learn from us? Then again, why did we not learn from our PMOers and addicts?</p>
<p>Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of ‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying is the ritual of relieving those pangs.</p>
<p>Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.</p>
<p>Ask a user who believes that he sticks to a certain actor or genre - only because he likes something about the star or the theme (if any) of the clip: “If you cannot get your normal brand of porn and can only obtain a poor or unsafe brand, do you stop masturbating?” No way. A PMOer will masturbate to anything rather than abstain and it doesn&rsquo;t matter if he has to switch to escalating themes, different sex-orientation-themes, look-alike actresses, dangerous settings shocking relationships etc. To begin with they taste awful but if you persevere you will learn to like them. Most PMOers will also try to seek masturbation even after having real sex (unfulfilment, porn-induced unrealistic expectations etc.), or after a long, stressful work day, fever, colds, flu, sore throats and even when admitted in hospitals.</p>
<p>Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wanted then it makes no sense to be with your laptop. During my conversation some PMOers find it alarming to realize they are drug addicts and think it will make it even more difficult to stop. In fact, it is all good news for two important reasons:</p>
<ol>
<li>The reason why most of us carry on masturbating to internet porn is because, although we know the disadvantages outweigh the advantages, we believe that there is something in the porn that we actually enjoy or that it is some sort of prop. We feel that after we stop PMOing there will be a void, that certain situations in our life will never be quite the same. This is an illusion. The fact is the masturbation and especially PMO gives nothing; it only takes away and then partially restores to create the illusion. I will explain this in more detail in a later chapter.</li>
<li>Although internet porn is the most powerful trigger for ‘novelty’ and ‘sex’ based dopamine ‘flooding’ - because of the speed with which you become hooked, you are never badly hooked. The actual withdrawal pangs are so mild that most PMOers have lived and died without ever realizing that they have suffered them.</li>
</ol>
<p>You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc. The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn&rsquo;t bother the PMOers.</p>
<p>A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they&rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn&rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.</p>
<p>PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their parents while visiting for family get togethers etc. with little discomfort to themselves. In fact, most PMOers have extended periods during which they abstain without effort. Even in my case I would quite happily go a week or so without a PMO incident. In the later years as a PMOer I actually used to look forward to these days when I could stop choking my penis (what a ridiculous &lsquo;habit&rsquo;).</p>
<p>The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood.</p>
<p>You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.</p>
<p>Not all the amateurs are ‘amateurs’ on these tube sites, oversized body parts and overcharged scenarios are the norm, aided by a bit of the ‘viagran’ help.</p>
<p>As I say, the actual porn addiction is not the main problem. It just acts as a catalyst to keep our minds confused over the real problem: the brainwashing. It may be of consolation to lifelong and heavy PMOers to know that it is just as easy for them to stop as casual PMOers. In a peculiar way. it is easier. The further you go along with the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;, the more it drags you down and the greater the gain when you stop.</p>
<p>It may be of further consolation for you to know that the rumours that occasionally circulate that the neural pathways created are there for life, and so at the right (or wrong) time and with strong stimuli you will be sliding again down the ‘water slide’ of internet porn and masturbation to permanently destroy your real life sex are untrue.</p>
<p>Do not think the bad effects of internet porn are exaggerated. If anything, they are sadly understated but the truth is there are different levels of dependency on PMO and masturbation in general. However, these bodies of ours are incredible machines and have enormous powers of recovery. If you stop now, your body and brain will recover within a matter of a few weeks.</p>
<p>As I have said, it is never too late to stop. You can see many who have stopped not only porn but masturbation as well. Naturally with any obstacles that humans face some have even taken this addiction recovery to the next level in learning about differentiating amative and propagative sides of sex. They have not only rebooted their sex lives but have made their partner happier than before as well.</p>
<p>The further it drags you down, the greater the relief. When I finally stopped I went straight to ZERO, and didn&rsquo;t have one bad pang. In fact, it was actually enjoyable, even during the withdrawal period. But we must remove the brainwashing about internet porn regardless of your status as single or partnered and also of masturbation.</p>
<p><strong>Escalation</strong> - a practice that is the result of our brain’s novelty and curiosity seeking to get more dopamine in our reward circuitry.&#160;<a href="#fnref:1" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p>
</li>
<li id="fn:2">
<p><strong>Edge</strong> - to stay longer in pre-orgasm stage. To delay orgasm.&#160;<a href="#fnref:2" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p>
<description><p>We all start PMOing for many reasons, usually social pressures or our biological curiosity, but once we feel we are becoming hooked, why do we carry on using porn? No regular PMOer knows why he or she looks at porn. If PMOers knew the true reason, they would stop doing it. The true answer is the same for all PMOers but the variety of replies is infinite, I find this part of the consultation the most amusing and at the same time the most pathetic.</p>
<p>All PMOers know in their heart of hearts that they are fools. They know that they had no need to use porn or internet porn before they became hooked. Most of them can remember that their first ‘peek’ was a mix of revulsion and novel curiosity. They then filter out and get “skilled” at “locating” and “bookmarking” the right porn sites. They know that they had to work hard in order to become hooked.</p>
<p>The most annoying part is that they sense that non-addicts - most women, older guys, people living in countries where hi-speed internet porn is not available “on tap” - are not missing anything and that they are laughing at them.</p>
<p>However, PMOers are intelligent, rational human beings. They know that they are taking enormous future risks and so they spend a lot of time rationalizing their ‘habit’. The actual reason why PMOers continue is a subtle combination of the factors that I will elaborate in the next two chapters. They are:</p>
<description><p>Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it&rsquo;s an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked.</p>
<p>It is the only trap in nature which has does not require a lot of hard work to set up. The thing that springs the trap is not that all porn clips feature young, high quality, sexy models; it’s that most of the thumbnails on any porn web page are ugly looking, unattractive, amateurish, home-made clips of unknown models. If the first timer’s first look at a tube page was only filled with angelic beauties, professional models and high quality then the alarm bells would ring. And as intelligent human beings, we could then understand why half the adult population was systematically addicted to watching something that is cutting down their very same potential to do what they are viewing. In many known and yet unknown ways porn cuts down sexual performance and the feeling of satisfaction.</p>
<p>But because that first “peek” has “stains and holes,” a mishmash of low quality clips of not-so-hot models, our young minds are reassured that we will never become hooked, and we think that because we are not enjoying them we can stop whenever we want to. It is the only drug in nature that prevents you from achieving your aim. Our curiosity brings us to its door steps. You dare not even click on all of the thumbnails because some of them will make you feel sick and throw up! If you were to accidentally click on an “I-did-not-see-that” clip - all you want to do is get away from the site and close your laptop.</p>
<p>With women, the aim is to be the sophisticated modern young lady. We have all seen them acting up and looking absolutely ridiculous. By the time the boys have learnt to look tough and the girls have learnt to look sophisticated, they wish they had never started in the first place. I wonder whether women ever look sophisticated when they discuss the top 10 porn sites, or whether this is a figment of our imaginations created by internet porn companies.</p>
<p>We then spend the rest of our lives trying to explain to ourselves why we do it, telling our children not to get caught and, at odd times, trying to escape ourselves. The trap is so designed that we try to stop only when we have an “incident” that touch us to the quick of the flesh, whether it be in the bed, loss of a career or relationship, shortage of drive or just plain being made to feel like a leper. As soon as we stop, we have more stress (the fearful withdrawal pangs of brain chemicals) and the thing that we rely on to relieve stress (our old prop, porn and PMO) we now must do without. Internet porn is powerful imagery at high speed making it a high fructose corn syrup&hellip; sorry, high density supernormal stimulant.</p>
<p>After a few days of torture we decide that we have picked the wrong time to quit. We must wait for a period without stress, and as soon as that arrives the reason for stopping vanishes. Of course, that period will never arrive because, in the first place, we think that our lives tend to become more and more stressful. As we leave the protection of our parents the natural process is jobs, setting up home, mortgages, babies, more responsible jobs, a bigger house, more babies etc. etc. This is also an illusion.</p>
<p>The truth is that the most stressful periods for any creature are early childhood and adolescence. We tend to confuse responsibility with stress. A PMOer’s life - like a drug addict - automatically becomes more stressful because PMO does not relax you or relieve stress, as some try to make you believe. Just the reverse: it actually causes you to become more nervous and stressed. Internet porn is as fake in its promises for pleasure and crutch as its actors are. If you had never learned any life skills to cope the stress and strains of day to day life you are not going to get any better with this fake and disgusting crutch. Worse you are going to add more bales of straw on the old camel’s back.</p>
<p>Even those users who kick the habit (most do, one or more times during their lives) can lead perfectly happy lives yet suddenly become hooked again. The whole business of PMO is like wandering into a giant maze. As soon as we enter the maze our minds become misted and clouded, and we spend the rest of our lives trying to escape. Many of us eventually do, only to find that we get trapped again at a later date. I spent thirty-three years trying to escape from that maze. Like all PMOers, I couldn&rsquo;t understand it. However, due to a combination of unusual circumstances, none of which reflect any credit on me, I wanted to know why previously it had been so desperately difficult to stop and yet, when I finally did, it was not only easy but enjoyable.</p>
<p>Since stopping PMO my hobby has been to resolve the many conundrums associated with porn. It is a complex and fascinating puzzle and - like a Rubik&rsquo;s Cube - practically impossible to solve. However, like all complicated puzzles, if you know the solution, it is easy! I have the solution to stopping porn easily. I will lead you out of the maze and ensure that you never wander into it again. All you have to do is follow the instructions. If you take a wrong turn, the rest of the instructions will be pointless. Let me emphasize that anybody can find it easy to stop but first we need to establish the facts. No, I do not mean the scare facts. I know you are already aware of them. There is already enough information on the evils of PMO. If that was going to stop you, you would already have stopped. I mean, why do we find it difficult to stop? In order to answer this question we need to know the real reason why we are still doing PMO.</p>
<description><p>As I explained earlier, I got interested in this subject because of my own addiction. When I finally stopped it was like magic. When I had previously tried to stop there were weeks of black depression. There would be odd days when I was comparatively cheerful but the next day back with the depression. It was like clawing your way out of a slippery pit, you feel you are near the top, you see the sunshine and then find yourself sliding down again. Eventually you open your browser and as you masturbate you feel awful and you try to work out why you have to do it.</p>
<p>One of the questions I always ask online is: “do you want to stop PMO?” In a way it is a stupid question. All users (including members who dispute total abstinence) would love to stop PMO. If you ask to the most confirmed PMOer: “if you could go back to the time before you became hooked, with the knowledge you have now, would you have started PMO?”</p>
<p>“NO WAY,” would be the reply.</p>
<p>Say to the confirmed PMOer - someone who defends internet porn and who doesn&rsquo;t think that it cause injury to the brain (PIED, hypofrontality or the decreases in the dopamine receptors and etc.) - “do you encourage your children to use PMO?”</p>
<p>“NO WAY,” is again the reply.</p>
<p>All PMOers feel that something evil has got possession of them. In the early days it is a question of, “I am going to stop, not today but tomorrow.” Eventually we get to the stage where we think either that we haven&rsquo;t got the willpower or that there is something inherent in the whole PMO that we must have in order to enjoy life.</p>
<p>As I said previously, the problem is not explaining why it is easy to stop; it is explaining why it is difficult. In fact, the real problem is explaining scientifically why anybody does it even after getting the insights on the neurological damages of addictions not limited to porn.</p>
<p>The whole business of porn is an extraordinary enigma. One of the reasons we get on to it is because of the thousands of people are already into it, about 35% of the population approximately. Yet every one of them wishes he or she had not started in the first place, telling us that life is like driving in second gear. We cannot quite believe they are not enjoying it. We associate it with freedom or being “sex-educated” and work hard to become hooked ourselves. We then spend the rest of our lives telling others not to do it and trying to kick the habit ourselves.</p>
<p>We also spend the rest of our lives feeling hopeless and miserable. Time spent on porn can accumulate to a large percentage of our life in this planet! What do we do with that amount of time spent? We ‘educate’ ourselves with supranormal<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>‘material’ that makes us stupidly prefer and childishly long for these cold images - even when warm real ones are available. By the constant surge and drop of dopamine induced by PMO, we sentence ourselves to a lifetime of irritability, anger, frustration, stress, fatigue<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup>, PIED, hypofrontality etc. In short, it is a lifetime of slavery. It is logically and intuitively clear that amative sex (physical touch, feel, voice etc.) is the best part of sex and is even better (if Karezza<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup> is practised, although not necessary for the current purposes) than the propagative (orgasm) part, except when children are desired. So, when we use porn in the absence of the best part of sex we feel miserable and guilty.</p>
<p>In fact, all the reading about internet pornography&rsquo;s addictive capabilities and it’s destructive effects here and in other online sites makes us even more nervous and hopeless. When we are trying to cut down or stop, we end up feeling deprived. We wish we didn&rsquo;t have to. What sort of hobby is it that when you are doing it you wish you weren&rsquo;t, and when you are not doing it you crave for it ? A lifetime of an otherwise intelligent, rational human being going through life in contempt.</p>
<p>The PMOer despises himself, every time he has an unreliable erection, a fading penetration, reading about PIED and other stuff on the YBOP forum, every time he could not pull himself up to exercise after a daytime PMO, every PMO behind his or her trustfully asleep partner’s back, every time he sees his tired face and lifeless eyes in the restroom mirror.</p>
<p>Having to go through life with these awful black shadows at the back of his mind, what does he get out of it? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! Pleasure? Enjoyment? Relaxation? A prop? A boost? All illusions, unless you consider the wearing of tight shoes to enjoy the removal of them as some sort of pleasure!</p>
<p>The real problem is trying to explain not only why PMOers find it difficult to stop but why anybody does it at all after knowing about brain neuroplasticity. You are probably thinking: “That&rsquo;s all very well. I know this, but once you are hooked on these things it is very difficult to stop.” But why is it so difficult, and why do we have to do it? Addicts of PMO search for the answer to these questions all of their lives. Some say it is because of the powerful withdrawal symptoms. In fact, the actual withdrawal symptoms from porn are so mild (see Chapter 6) that PMOers should know about smokers who have lived and died without ever realizing they are drug addicts.</p>
<p>Some say internet porn is free and hence humankind should claim this biological bonanza. It is NOT. It is addictive and acts like any other drug. Ask a PMOer who swears that he only enjoys safe playboy type erotica and that he could always restrict himself only to this soft genre ? If he is absolutely honest - he would tell you about the many times when he had unwittingly crossed the line. Otherwise good PMOers would rather use ‘unsafe’ hardcore stuff, rationalizing it, than left with nothing at all.</p>
<p>Enjoyment has nothing to do with it. I enjoy lobster but I never got to the stage where I had to have lobsters everyday and multiple times like they are hanging round my neck. With other things in life we enjoy them whilst we are doing them but we don&rsquo;t sit feeling deprived when we are not. Some search for deep psychological reasons, the “Freudian Syndrome,” or “the child at the mother&rsquo;s breast.” Really it is just the reverse.</p>
<p>The ‘usual’ reason why we start PMO is to show we are grown up and mature. Some think it is the reverse, the macho effect of “doing what boys do” or in some cases, “let me show I am a tomboy girl,” to rattle my conservative family. Again, this argument has no substance. Internet porn provides easy escalation (outrageous and shocking clips just a click away), desensitization (same clips don’t do it any more) and all this within the high reward no risk settings. The science fiction story lines, the fake “amateurs,” the “real life” clips etc. should make any average PMOer discover pretty soon that it is all an illusion. What a PMOer should also understand is that after eating at restaurants every day the home food will never appeal your taste buds at all. Yes, the food is free and is tasty - but does it nourish you ?</p>
<p>Some say:</p>
<ul>
<li>“It is educational!” So, when is your graduation?</li>
<li>“It is a sexual satisfaction.” So, why do it alone? Find a partner and save it for her or him?</li>
<li>“It is the feeling of release.” A release from the stresses of real life? Porn is going to remove the cause of the stress? OK, good luck. You just added more to it.</li>
</ul>
<p>Many believe PMO relieves boredom. This is also a fallacy. Boredom is a frame of mind. Porn will induce you to “novelty” seeking in no time. Causing you to be eventually more bored unless and until you participate in the “wild goose chase” all night long for the “right hit” producing clip. There is nothing interesting about supranormal stimulus such as internet porn, it fires up dopamine whose only job is to seek clips that evoke strong emotions, interesting novelty and outrageous shock value.</p>
<p>For thirty years my reason was that it relaxed me, gave me confidence and courage. I also knew it was draining me and costing me virility. Why didn&rsquo;t I go to a therapist or find an another way to relax me and give me courage and confidence? I didn&rsquo;t go because I knew he would suggest an alternative. It wasn&rsquo;t my reason; it was my excuse.</p>
<p>Some say they only do it because their friends and every one they know do it. Are you really that stupid? If so, just pray that your friends do not start cutting their heads off to cure a headache! Most users who think about it eventually come to the conclusion that it is just a habit. This is not really an explanation but having discounted all the usual rational explanations, it appears to be the only remaining excuse. Unfortunately, this explanation is equally illogical. Every day of our lives we change habits and some of them are very enjoyable. We have been brainwashed to believe that PMO is a habit and that habits are difficult to break. Are habits really difficult to break?</p>
<p>In the US we are in the habit of driving on the right side of the road. Yet when we drive in the UK we immediately break that habit with hardly any aggravation whatsoever. It is clearly a fallacy that habits are hard to break. The fact is that we make and break habits every day of our lives. So why do we find it difficult to break a habit that makes us deprived when we don’t have it yet guilty when we do and that we would love to break anyway, when all we have to do is to stop doing it?</p>
<p>The answer is that PMO is not habit: IT IS ADDICTION! That is why it appears to be so difficult to “give up.” Perhaps you feel this explanation explains why it is difficult to “give up?” It does explain why most PMOers find it difficult to “give up.” That is because they do not understand addiction. The main reason is that PMOers are convinced that they get some genuine pleasure and/or crutch from porn and believe that they are making a genuine sacrifice if they quit.</p>
<p>The beautiful truth is that once you understand porn addiction and the true reasons why you PMO, you will stop doing it just like that - and within three weeks the only mystery will be why you found it necessary to PMO as long as you have, and why you cannot persuade other PMOers <strong>HOW NICE IT IS TO BE A NON-PMOer</strong>!</p>
<p><strong>Supranormal</strong> - a phrase coined by Nikolaas Tinbergen. Studies show that our brains prefer brighter, larger, colourful
etc. versions of what we like.&#160;<a href="#fnref:1" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p>
</li>
<li id="fn:2">
<p>When dopamine receptors are de-activated in response to frequent and extended dopamine surges even normal de-
stressing chemicals are not absorbed by our brains.&#160;<a href="#fnref:2" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p>
</li>
<li id="fn:3">
<p><strong>Karezza</strong> - is the practice of amative sex that puts no pressure on orgasms as occurs in propagative sex. It relieves the
man and woman from performance based anxieties.&#160;<a href="#fnref:3" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p>
<description><p>The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy.</p>
<p>Provided that you are not a non-PMOer (who had never got addicted) or an ex-PMOer (who had quit or is in the fasting days of the porn-diet), it is essential to not quit until you have finished the book completely. This may appear to be a contradiction. Later I shall be explaining that porn do absolutely nothing for you at all. In fact, one of the many conundrums about internet porn is that when we are actually masturbating to a porn clip, we look at it and wonder why we are doing it. It is only when we have been deprived that the craving for PMO becomes precious.</p>
<p>However, let us accept that, whether you like it or not, you believe you are hooked. When you believe you are hooked, you can never be completely relaxed or concentrate properly unless you are using PMO. So do not attempt to stop PMO before you have finished the whole book. This instruction to continue to masturbate using porn until you have completed the book has caused me more frustration than any other. As you read further your desire to masturbate to porn will gradually be reduced. Do not go off half-cocked; this could be fatal. Remember, all you have to do is to follow the instructions in the right order. When I first started writing on forums many of the readers also stopped purely because I had done it. They thought, “if he can do it, anybody can.”</p>
<p>Over the years, I managed to persuade the ones that hadn&rsquo;t stopped to realize just how nice it is to be free! I gave my hackbook for free upon request. I worked on the basis that, even if it were the most boring book ever written, they would still read it, if only because it had been written by an ex-PMOer. I was surprised and hurt to learn that,they hadn&rsquo;t bothered to finish the book.</p>
<p>I was hurt at the time but I had overlooked the dreadful fear that this slavery to the “dopamine surge” instils in the addict. I now realize that many PMOers don&rsquo;t finish the book because they feel they have got to give up something that is their pleasure and crutch when they quit. Some deliberately read only one line a day in order to postpone the evil day. Look at it this way: what have you got to lose? If you don&rsquo;t stop at the end of the book, you are no worse off than you are now. YOU HAVE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO LOSE AND SO MUCH TO GAIN! AND SO MUCH MORE TO AVOID !!! A Pascal’s Wage<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>?</p>
<p>Incidentally, if you have not PMOed for a few days or weeks but are not sure whether you are a PMOer, an ex-PMOer or a non-PMOer, then don&rsquo;t use porn to masturbate while you read. In fact, you are already a non-PMOer. All we&rsquo;ve now got to do is to let your brain catch up with your body. By the end of the book you&rsquo;ll be a happy non-PMOer.</p>
<p>Basically this method is the complete opposite of the normal method of trying to stop. The normal method is to list the considerable disadvantages of PMO and say, “if only I can go long enough without porn, eventually the desire to masturbate to porn will go. I can then enjoy life again, free of slavery to the tube.” This is the logical way to go about it, and thousands of PMOer are stopping every day using variations of this method. However, it is very difficult to succeed using this method for the following reasons:</p>
<ol>
<li>Stopping PMO is not the real problem. Every time you finish your ‘deed’ you stop using it. You may have powerful reasons on day one of your once-in-four porn diet to say, “I do not want to PMO or even masturbate any more” - all PMOers have, every day of their lives, and the reasons are more powerful than you can possibly imagine. The real problem is day two, day ten or day ten thousand, when in a weak moment, an inebriated moment or even a strong moment you have one ‘peek’ and because it is partly akin to drug addiction you then want another, and suddenly you are a masturbator again.</li>
<li>The health scares should stop us. Our rational minds say: “Stop doing it. You are a fool,” but in fact they make it harder. We masturbate, for example, when we are nervous. Tell PMOers that it is destroying their virility, and the first thing they will do is to find something to rush their dopamine - a cigarette, alcohol or even fire up the browser and search for porn.</li>
<li>All reasons for stopping actually make it harder for two other reasons. First, they create a SOS sense of sacrifice. We are always being forced to give up our little friend or prop or vice or pleasure, whichever way the PMOer sees it. Secondly, they create a &lsquo;blind&rsquo;. We do not masturbate for the reasons we should stop. The real question is: why do we want or need to do it?</li>
</ol>
<p>The EasyPeasy Method is basically this: initially to forget the reasons we&rsquo;d like to stop, to face the problem and to ask ourselves the following questions:</p>
<ol>
<li>What is it doing for me?</li>
<li>Do I actually enjoy it?</li>
<li>Do I really need to go through life using free internet porn or even paying through the nose just to sabotage my mind and body?</li>
</ol>
<p>The beautiful truth is that porn – streaming, static or whatever - does absolutely nothing for you at all. Let me make it quite clear; I do not mean that the disadvantages of being a PMOer outweigh the advantages. All PMOers know from the many published studies about high speed internet porn addiction, forum messages, blog articles in YBOP and similar sites. I mean there are not any advantages from internet porn. The only advantage it ever had was the ‘educational’ aspect and guess what, nowadays the kind of education that it is offering is highly disputable for their contribution to real life intimacy. Most PMOers find it necessary to rationalize why they PMO but the reasons they come up are all fallacies and illusions.</p>
<p>The first thing we are going to do is to remove these fallacies and illusions. In fact, you will realize that there is nothing to give up. Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous, positive gains from being a non-PMOer and well being and happiness are only two of these gains. Once the illusion that life will never be quite as enjoyable without porn is removed, once you realize that not only is life just as enjoyable without it but infinitely more so, once the feeling of being deprived or of missing out are eradicated, then we can go back to reconsider the health and happiness - and the dozens of other reasons for stopping. These realizations will become positive additional aids to help you achieve what you really desire to enjoy the whole of your life free from the slavery of the porn habit.</p>
<p>Pascal’s Wager is a bet you take when you have nothing or less to lose for a higher chances of large gains and avoiding losses in the future&#160;<a href="#fnref:1" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p>
<description><p>Perhaps I should begin by describing my competence for writing this book. No, I am not a doctor or a psychiatrist; my qualifications are far more appropriate. I spent thirty years of my life as a confirmed fapper. In the later years I used porn on a daily bases to get orgasm(s).During my life I had made a great number of attempts to stop. I never got past a full week of abstinence, and I was still climbing up the wall, with an “annoying alarm clock beeping” in my head called craving. With most PMOers, on the health side, it&rsquo;s a question of “ I&rsquo;ll stop before it happens to me.” I had reached the stage where I knew it has caused PIED, hypofrontality (inability to control and execute action towards a goal), irritability, lack of energy, soulless eyes, mental dryness, stress and pain in the lower back, genital irritations. It bothered me, but it still didn&rsquo;t stop me.</p>
<p>I felt lack of enthusiasm to go to gym or just a walk even if it’s sunny outside or simple weight lifting at home either. I had reached the stage where I gave up even trying to stop. I found excuses in substitute methods (controlled use, safe porn, porn-diet and etc. discussed later) as advocated by sexologists, forum users and medical pros - who have no idea of its effect on brain chemistry and who are themselves fooled by their &rsquo;little monster&rsquo; (not devil or satan - we will talk about monsters later) . The novelty trap and shock value provided by internet porn delivered at home with a low risk high reward deal is something that they can’t even think of. They are still in the static playboy era. And the younger ones have buried their heads under the sand so they can still continue to PMO.</p>
<p>The worst part is it was not so much that I enjoyed the PMO. It was just doing it routinely, a chore - like slipping down the water slides, in fact there are brain water slides greased well by the neuro chemicals (DeltaFosB proteins made by dopamine which store emotion scripts for easy recall, will be discussing later). A simple cue such as a commercial, or a day to day stress that got ‘relieved’ temporarily by PMO is all it takes to complete the ride down the ‘waterslide’. Some time in their lives most PMOers have suffered from the illusion that they enjoy the ride, the novelty, the rush and of course the orgasm, but I never had that illusion.</p>
<p>I have most times detested the porn, even when I liked the orgasm. But at all times I thought a release from PMO helped me to relax. It gave me courage and confidence, and I was always miserable when I tried to stop, never being able to visualize an enjoyable life without PMO. And so my PMO habit which had started before my marriage stayed with me during and after my marriage was over. I had experienced PIED but I blocked it out and found excuses , “it happens to every man”. Well it does of course - but &lsquo;it&rsquo; happened to me again and again. My penis, I found it difficult to get hard - when I am with real woman. Could it be because I had habituated it to work in limp mode? Later I found that it was hard for me to get hard even with porn.</p>
<p>My girlfriend gave a book by Dr David Burns - which I liked very much. I also practised the exercises and got interested in it. Through the book I came to know of Dr. Abraham Low and his books on rational therapy - it is now known as Recovery International. At the same time - my soon to be ex-wife also sent me to a therapist. I completed therapy - and was getting out of my mental rut and started a new beginning in my life. I continued my reading and self education from the above two authors and started to read about REBT and Dr. Albert Ellis. I poured into all of his books and got myself well trained in REBT. I still practice it on a daily bases. I do ABC write ups (and DE and F as well)<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> and actively journal my daily endorsements. I keep my DML (daily mood logs) and Endorse documents in an online spreadsheet.</p>
<p>I was able to spot my rigid beliefs, exaggerations, self-rating and low frustration tolerance and immediately self-talk myself to have healthy negative emotions when needed. I was able to get my alcohol intake under control, cigarettes were on and off, and I rode through divorces. The point is that I was able to go through them all with the lowest disturbance in any random test set of divorced 40 yr old guys. However, I was still struggling with the occasional excesses that are inevitable with alcohol. I absolutely hated the cigarettes. I was aware of my (and the little monster&rsquo;s) efforts to dig a hole and hide my head in sand about my daily PMO affecting my sex life. I had two incidences of PIED, and found substitutes in getting a fleshlight to simulate a female vagina and also as a form of stamina training.</p>
<p>I then somehow landed on the Amazon page of Allen Carr’s best seller book on how to stop smoking. I used it to quit my smoking by the time I completed the reading. I felt so light and happy about quitting, how can I not be, I don’t have the feelings of misery and self-sacrifice. I don’t even feel the ‘resistance to temptations’ that most feel which taxes their will power. I know I found something that will work for me. Now, cigarettes are not the society’s favourite anyway and it carried a social stigma so that would be easy, right? I then challenged myself to my next problem, alcohol - where my frequent excesses were starting to bother me. I realized that I am finding excuses and minimizing my nasty and shameful drunken behaviours many times. I can also see I am using it as a crutch and also as pleasure - but more of the former. I guess that it has to do my nature
of being melancholic. And yes, I was able to kick that habit as well.</p>
<p>I then naturally applied the same techniques on PMO as well. With a little bit of doubt I have to agree. But as I started to relate his Method to PMO I found a lot of the &lsquo;big monster&rsquo; (not devil or Satan, we will talk about it later) brainwash and social conditioning were pretty much the same. I later read on YBOP that the brain reacts the same in all these above cases as well thus confirming my deduction. The important discovery that I made during this time is there is nothing called controlled use. Cigarettes, alcohol, drugs, porn, masturbation etc. I came to know about Karezza from YBOP and Reunited site and I thank them for that. Karezza’s separation of the ‘amative’ and the ‘propagative’ nature of sex is one of the keys to this method. You are welcome to read about Karezza method, though you may not accept the idea of not having orgasms as your goal in sex - you will see that there is a high degree of logic in their assertion that sex has two sides the amative and the propagative. Efforts on self-holding can turn out be deeply seductive on your partner too.</p>
<p>During those awful years as a PMO user I thought that my life depended on this pleasure that I allowed myself in the nights, and I was prepared to die rather than be without them. Today when someone asks me whether I ever have the odd pang, the answer is, &lsquo;Never, never, never&rsquo; - just the reverse. I&rsquo;ve had a marvellous life. I have been a very lucky man, but the most marvellous thing that has ever happened to me is being freed from that nightmare, that slavery of having to go through life systematically destroying my self-worth, handicapping my ability to experience natural full arousals, seeking immediate pleasures at the cost long term gains, and torturing myself with physical fatigue for a momentary surge.</p>
<p>Let me make it quite clear from the beginning: I am not trying to become a mystic. I do not believe in magicians or fairies. I have a scientific brain, and I couldn&rsquo;t understand what appeared to me like magic. I started reading up on hypnosis and on PMO. Nothing I read seemed to explain the miracle that had happened. Why had it been so ridiculously easy to stop, whereas previously it had been weeks of black depression?</p>
<p>It took me a long time to work it all out, basically because I was going about it back to front. I was trying to work out why it had been so easy to stop, whereas the real problem is trying to explain why PMOers find it difficult to stop. PMOers talk about the terrible withdrawal pangs. but when I looked back and tried to remember those awful pangs, they didn&rsquo;t exist for me. There was no physical pain. It was all in the mind.</p>
<p>I am very happy in helping other people to kick the habit. I&rsquo;m very, very successful. Let me emphasize from the start: there is no such thing as a confirmed PMOer addict. Anybody can not only stop but find it easy to stop. It is basically fear that keeps us in the porn trap: the fear that life will never be quite as enjoyable without PMO and the fear of feeling deprived. In fact, nothing could be further from the truth. Not only is life just as enjoyable without them but it is infinitely more so in many ways and extra health, energy and well-being are the least of the advantages.</p>
<p>All PMOers can find it easy to stop porn - even you! All you have to do is read the rest of the book with an open mind. The more you can understand, the easier you will find it. Even if you do not understand a word, provided you follow the instructions, you will find it easy. Most important of all, you will not go through life moping for PMO or feeling deprived. The only mystery will be why you did it for so long.</p>
<p>Let me issue a warning. There are only two reasons for failure with my method:</p>
<ol>
<li>FAILURE TO CARRY OUT INSTRUCTIONS
Some people find it annoying that I am so dogmatic about certain recommendations. For example, I will tell you not to try cutting down or using substitutes (porn diet, safe porn etc.). The reason why I am so dogmatic is because I know my subject. I do not deny that there are many people who have succeeded in stopping using such ruses, but they have succeeded in spite of, not because of them. There are people who can make love standing on a hammock, but it is not the easiest way. Everything I tell you has a purpose: to make it easy to stop and thereby ensure success. The numbers for opening the lock is in this book, however there is the right order, that is to go from one chapter to the next and to avoid jumping.</li>
<li>FAILURE TO UNDERSTAND
Do not take anything for granted. Question not only what I tell you but also your own views and what society has taught you about amative-propagative sex, internet porn, karezza. For example, those of you who think it is just a habit, ask yourselves why other habits, some of them enjoyable ones, are easy to break, yet a habit that feels awful, costs us energy and time and kills our virility is so difficult to break. Those of you who think you enjoy PMO, ask yourselves why other things in life, which are infinitely more enjoyable, you can take or leave. Why do you have to have the PMO and panic sets in if you don&rsquo;t?</li>
<p>A stands for activating events, B for beliefs, C for consequences, D for dispute, E for effective new philosophy and F for going forward&#160;<a href="#fnref:1" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p>
<description><p>You&rsquo;ve probably seen the film Sister Kenny. In case you haven&rsquo;t, it was about the time when infantile paralysis or polio was the scourge of our children. I vividly remember that the words engendered the same fear in me as the word cancer does today. The effect of polio was not only to paralyze the legs and arms but to distort the limbs. The established medical treatment was to put those limbs in irons and thus prevent the distortion. The result was paralysis for life.</p>
<p>Sister Kenny believed the irons inhibited recovery and proved a thousand times over that the muscles could be re-educated so that the child could walk again. However, Sister Kenny wasn&rsquo;t a doctor, she was merely a nurse. How dare she dabble in a province that was confined to qualified doctors? It didn&rsquo;t seem to matter that Sister Kenny had found the solution to the problem and had proved her solution to be effective. The children that were treated by Sister Kenny knew she was right, so did their parents, yet the established medical profession not only refused to adopt her methods but actually prevented her from practicing. It took Sister Kenny twenty years before the medical profession would accept the obvious.</p>
<p>I (Allen Carr) first saw that film years before I (Allen Carr) discovered EASYWAY, The film was very interesting and no doubt there was an element of truth. However, it was equally obvious that Hollywood had used a large portion of poetic license. Sister Kenny couldn&rsquo;t possibly have discovered something that the combined knowledge of medical science had failed to discover. Surely the established medical specialists weren&rsquo;t the dinosaurs they were being portrayed as? How could it possibly have taken them twenty years to accept the facts that were staring them in the face?</p>
<p>They say that fact is stranger than fiction, I apologize for accusing the makers of Sister Kenny for using poetic license. Even in this so-called enlightened age of modern communications, even having access to modern communications, I&rsquo;ve failed to get my message across.</p>
<p>Oh, I&rsquo;ve proved my point, the only reason that you are reading this hook is because another ex-PMOer has recommended it to you. Remember, I don&rsquo;t have the massive financial power of popular and big institutions. Like Sister Kenny, I&rsquo;m a lone individual. Like her. I&rsquo;m (Allen Carr) only famous because my system works. This Method is already regarded as the number-one Method on helping people to quit. Like Sister Kenny, I&rsquo;ve proved my point. But Sister Kenny proved her point. What good did that do if the rest of the world was still adopting procedures which were the direct opposite to what they should be?</p>
<p>The last sentence of this book is identical to that in the original manuscript: ‘There is a wind of change in society, A snowball has started that I hope this book will help turn into an avalanche&rsquo;. From my remarks above, you might have drawn the conclusion that I am no respecter of the medical profession. Nothing could be further from the truth. One of Allen Carr’s sons is a doctor and I know of no finer profession. Indeed Allen’s clinics receive more recommendations from doctors than from any other source, and surprisingly, more of our clients come from the medical profession than any other single profession.</p>
<p>In the early years, I (Allen Carr) was generally regarded by the doctors as being somewhere between a charlatan and a quack. Allen is no more and his clinics don’t provide services for PMO sufferers, probably due to non coverage by insurance companies. I would not know. But I can tell you that this Method works. If you have doubts please do keep them but give this hackbook a try. This hackbook will give you all the numbers of the combination lock. But it is important that you use the numbers in the right order. You must follow the flow by going chapter to chapter and must not jump for any reasons. And you don’t need to cut down or stop PMO while you are reading this book.</p>
<p>Since many mix sex and eroticism with internet porn they haven&rsquo;t a clue about helping PMOers to quit. They concentrate on telling what PMOers already know: PMO is unhealthy and self-defeating. It never seems to occur to them that PMOers do not use for the reasons that they shouldn&rsquo;t use. The real problem is to remove the reasons they have to use porn.</p>
<p>However, I might just as well have been lecturing to a brick wall since - substituting- such as porn diets<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> ( PMO once in n number of days) or cutting down have failed to cure the problem. PMOers themselves appear to have accepted that you don&rsquo;t get cured from addiction to a drug by turning it into a ‘forbidden fruit’.</p>
<p>Some PUA<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> experts say something like: PMO only once in four days “ Every PMOer knows that it is the one day that most PMOers will do twice as many as they usually do and sometimes they ‘close the shop’ to run home knowing that it is their final day of ‘fasting’ and because no one like being told what to do, particularly by people who dismiss PMOers as mere idiots and don&rsquo;t understand their problem.</p>
<p>Because they don&rsquo;t completely understand PMOers themselves or how to make it easy for them to quit, their attitude is &lsquo;Try this method. If it doesn&rsquo;t work try another: Can you imagine if there were ten different ways of treating appendicitis? Nine of them cured 10 per cent of the patients, which means they killed 90 per cent of them and the tenth way cured 95 per cent. Imagine that knowledge of the tenth method had been available for free, but the vast majority of the medical profession was still recommending the other nine.</p>
<p>Someone pointed out that doctors might well find themselves liable to a legal action for malpractice, by not advising their patients of the best way to quit. Ironically he was a great advocate of substituting methods (soft porn, solo, nude only, porn-diet etc), I try hard not to be vindictive, but I hope he becomes the first victim of his suggestion.</p>
<p>There are many websites that talk about the harms of PMO. You can find content that explains scientifically the harms of high speed internet porn on the brain. There is much literature and studies of neuro chemicals and the neuroplasticity of the brain and how it is affected by PMO. I read many comments on forums and blogs of how some were able to overcome the addiction. They might just as well have wasted it on trying to persuade their readers that motorbikes can kill you. Do they not realize that youngsters know that one ‘look’ at a tube site won&rsquo;t kill them and that no youngster ever expects to get hooked? The link between porn and PIED porn induced ED, has been established for some time now. Yet more youngsters are becoming hooked nowadays than ever before.</p>
<p>Youngsters don&rsquo;t need to be preached on the harms of PIED, hypofrontality, dopamine surge and the resulting cutting down of the associated dopamine receptors. Young and old PMOers tend to avoid such materials anyway. Practically every subscriber and reader of sites such as YBOP knows the brain science and the self-sabotage nature of PMO. I myself has seen the damages in my personal life. On a more serious note, two men in my own family had MO addiction ( porn was not prevalent 20 yrs ago) and I can see how they were peevish and melancholic when they felt deprived or guilty related to their MO. But that didn&rsquo;t prevent me from falling into the trap.</p>
<p>However, the snowball won&rsquo;t become an avalanche until the medical profession and the media stop recommending methods that make it harder to quit and accept that EASYPEASYWAY is not just another method: BUT THE ONLY SENSIBLE METHOD TO USE! I don&rsquo;t expect you to believe me at this stage, but by the time you have finished the book, you will understand.</p>
<p>Even the comparatively few failures that we have say something like: &lsquo;I haven&rsquo;t succeeded yet, but your way is better than any I know.&rsquo; If when you finish the book, you feel that you owe me a debt of gratitude, you can more than repay that debt. Not just by recommending EASYPEASYWAY to your friends, but whenever you see or read an article advocating some other method, email to them asking why they aren&rsquo;t advocating EASYWAY.</p>
<p>This edition of EASYPEASYWAY is to give you the state of the art technology on just how easy and enjoyable it is to quit PMOing. Do you have a feeling of doom and gloom? Forget it. I&rsquo;ve achieved some marvelous things in my life. By far the greatest was to escape from the slavery of orgasm addiction. I escaped a long time ago and still cannot get over the joy of being free. There is no need to feel depressed, nothing bad is happening, on the contrary, you are about to achieve something that every PMOer on the planet would love to achieve : TO BE FREE!</p>
<p><strong>PUA</strong> - pickup artist. Someone who teaches men to pick up mates&#160;<a href="#fnref:1" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p>
</li>
<li id="fn:2">
<p><strong>Porn diet</strong> - To restrict PMO once in n number of days&#160;<a href="#fnref:2" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p>
<p>I was talking to my mentor. He thought that I had flipped. Understandable if you consider that he had watched me fail on numerous attempts to quit. The most recent had been two years previously. I&rsquo;d actually survived six months of sheer purgatory before I finally succumbed and found myself clicking on stacked up tabs of porn sites. I&rsquo;m not ashamed to admit that I cried like a baby. I was crying because I knew that I was condemned to be an addict for life. I&rsquo;d put so much effort into that attempt and suffered so much misery that I knew I would never have the strength to go through that ordeal again. I&rsquo;m not a violent man, but if some patronizing non-PMO’er had been stupid enough at that moment to suggest to me that all users can find it easy to quit, immediately and permanently, I would not have been responsible for my actions. However, I&rsquo;m convinced that any jury in the world, comprised of PMOers only, would have pardoned me on the grounds of justifiable homicide.</p>
<p>Perhaps you too find it impossible to believe that any PMOer can find it easy to quit. If so, I beg you not to cast this book into the rubbish bin. Please trust me. I assure you that you can find it
easy to quit.</p>
<p>Anyway, there I was two years later, having just completed what I knew would be my final session, not only telling my mentor that I was already a non-PMOer, but that I was going to cure the rest of the world. I must admit that at the time I found his scepticism somewhat irritating. However, in no way did it diminish my feeling of exaltation, I suppose that my exhilaration in knowing that I was already a happy non-PMOer distorted my perspective somewhat. With the benefit of hindsight, I can sympathize with his attitude, I now understand why he thought I was a candidate for the funny farm.</p>
<p>As I look back on my life, it seems that my whole existence has been a preparation for solving the problem. Even those hateful years of training and practising as a professional were invaluable in helping me to unravel he mysteries of the PMO trap. They say you can&rsquo;t fool all the people all of the time, but I believe the internet porn producers have done just that for years. I also believe that I am the first to really understand the PMO trap. If I appear to be arrogant, let me hasten to add that it was no credit to me, just the circumstances of my life.</p>
<p>The momentous day was when I made my final online harem visit, I felt a sense of relief and exhilaration as I closed out my browser in incognito mode. I realized I had discovered something that every PMOer was praying for: an easy way to stop. One of my failures, the man I describe in chapter 25, was the inspiration. We were both reduced to tears on every meeting. He was so agitated that I couldn&rsquo;t get him to relax enough to absorb what I was saying. I hoped that if I wrote it all down, he could read it in his own good time, as many times as he wanted to, and this would help him to absorb the message.</p>
<p>I was in no doubt that EASYWAY would work just as effectively for other PMOers as it had for me. However, when I contemplated putting the method into book form, I was apprehensive. The comments were not very encouraging:</p>
<ul>
<li><em>“How can a book help me to quit? What I need is willpower!”</em></li>
<li><em>“How can a book avoid the terrible withdrawal pangs?”</em></li>
</ul>
<p>In addition to these pessimistic comments, I had my own doubts. Often it became obvious that someone had misunderstood an important point that I was making. I was able to correct the situation when I am in person or chatting. But how would a book be able to do that?</p>
<p>I remembered well the times when I studied to qualify as a (professional), when I didn&rsquo;t understand or agree with a particular point in a book, the frustration because you couldn&rsquo;t ask the book to explain. Added to all these factors, I had one doubt that overrode all the rest. I wasn&rsquo;t a writer and was very conscious of my limitations in this respect. I was confident that I could sit down face to face with a PMOer and convince him or her how much more enjoyable social occasions are without PMO.</p>
<p>When a PMOer fail in quitting it is a mistake to regard it as their failure. In Allen’s smoker&rsquo;s clinic when a smoker fails they regard it as the clinic’s failure, we failed to convince those smokers just how easy and enjoyable it is to quit. That failure rate was based on the money-back guarantee at the clinics. The average current failure rate of the clinics world-wide is under 5 per cent. That means a success rate of over 95 per cent. That was beyond the wildest dreams. Coming back to the present&hellip;You might well argue that if I genuinely believed that I would cure the world of all addictions, I must have expected to achieve 100 per cent. No, I never ever expected to achieve 100 per cent.</p>
<p>Snuff-taking was the previous most popular form of nicotine addiction until it became antisocial and died . However, there are still a few weirdoes that continue to take snuff and probably, there always will be. So there will always be a few weirdoes that will continue to use.</p>
<p>I certainly never expected to have to cure every PMOer personally. What I thought would happen was that once I had explained the mysteries of the porn trap and dispelled such illusions as:</p>
<li>PMO aids concentration and performance</li>
<li>PMO is a habit</li>
<li>It takes willpower to quit</li>
<li>Once an addict always an addict</li>
<li>Telling PMOers that it will turn them into robots will make them to quit</li>
<li>Substitutes, particularly soft porn, reality porn, solo naked only porn etc.. and training toys
such as fleshlight, helps PMOers to regain their full unfading erections.</li>
<li>All porn is same in their rate of addictiveness</li>
<li>In particular, when I had dispelled the illusion that it is difficult to quit and that you have to
go through a transitional period of misery in order to do so, I naively thought that the rest of
the world would also see the light and adopt my method.</li>
</ul>
<p>I thought my chief antagonist would be the porn industry. Amazingly, my chief stumbling blocks were the very institutions that I thought would be my greatest allies: the control/regulated safe sex advocates in the noFap forum,the media and the established medical profession.</p>
<description><p>Fear that we will have to survive an indeterminate period of misery, deprivation and unsatisfied craving in order to be free. Fear that a night all by yourself or the eve of a test or exam will be miserable fighting uncontrollable impulses. Fear that we&rsquo;ll never be able to concentrate, handle stress or be as confident without our little crutch. Fear that our personality and character will change.</p>
<p>But most of all, the fear of &lsquo;once an addict always an addict,&rsquo; that we will never be completely free and spend the rest of our lives at odd times craving the occasional porn induced orgasm. If, as I did, you have already tried all the conventional ways to quit and been through the misery of what I describe as the willpower method of stopping, you will not only be affected by that fear, but convinced you can never quit.</p>
<p>If you are apprehensive, panic-stricken or feel that the time is not right for you to give up, then let me assure you that your apprehension or panic is caused by fear. That fear is not relieved by PMO but was indeed created by PMO. You didn&rsquo;t decide to fall into the porn trap. But like all traps, it is designed to ensure that you remain trapped. Ask yourself, when you viewed those first porn pictures and videos, did you decide to come back to view them as long as you have ? So when are you going to quit ? Tomorrow ? Next year ? Stop kidding yourself! The trap is designed to hold you for life. Why else do you think all these other PMO addicts don&rsquo;t quit before it kills their lives?</p>
<p>As you will soon be reading, the feedbacks I got has revealed information that has exceeded my wildest aspirations of the effectiveness of my method. It has also revealed two aspects of the method that have caused me concern. The second I will be covering later.</p>
<p>The first arose from the letters that I have received. I give three typical examples:</p>
<ul>
<li><em>“I didn&rsquo;t believe the claims you made and I apologize for doubting you. It was just as easy and enjoyable as you said it would be. I&rsquo;ve shared the link to your hackbook to some of my PMOer friends but I can&rsquo;t understand why they don&rsquo;t read it.”</em></li>
<li><em>“I was forwarded your hackbook eight months ago by an ex-PMO friend, I&rsquo;ve just got around to reading it. My only regret is that I wasted eight months.”</em></li>
<li><em>“I&rsquo;ve just finished reading your EasyPeasy. I know it has only been four days, but I feel so great, I know I&rsquo;ll never need to PMO again. I first started to read your book five months ago, got half-way through and panicked. I knew that if I went on reading I would have to stop. Wasn&rsquo;t I silly?”</em></li>
</ul>
<p>I&rsquo;ve referred to a magic button. EASYWAY* works just like that magic button. Let me make it quite clear, EASYWAY isn&rsquo;t magic, but for me and the hundreds of thousands of quitters who have found it so easy and enjoyable to quit. it seems like magic!</p>
<p>This is the warning. We have a chicken and egg situation. Every PMO addict wants to quit and every user can find it easy and enjoyable to quit. It&rsquo;s only fear that prevents users from trying to quit. The greatest gain is to be rid of that fear. But you won&rsquo;t be free of that fear until you complete the book. On the contrary, like the lady in the third example, that fear might increase as you read the book and this might prevent you from finishing it.</p>
<blockquote>
<p><em>EASYWAY and EASYPEASY will be used interchangeably when describing the method</em></p>
</blockquote>
<p>You didn&rsquo;t decide to fall into the trap, but be clear in your mind, you won&rsquo;t escape from it unless you make a positive decision to do so. You might already be straining at the leash to quit. On the other hand you might be apprehensive, Either way please bear in mind: <strong>YOU HAVE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO LOSE!</strong></p>
<p>If at the end of the book you decide that you wish to continue to PMO, there is nothing to prevent you from doing so. You don&rsquo;t even have to cut down or stop using porn while you are reading the book, and remember, there is no shock treatment. On the contrary, I have only good news for you. Can you imagine how the Count of Monte Cristo felt when he finally escaped from that prison ? That&rsquo;s how I felt when I escaped from the porn PMO trap. That&rsquo;s how the millions of ex- users who have used my method feel. By the end of the book: <strong>THAT&rsquo;S HOW YOU WILL FEEL! GO FOR IT!</strong></p>
<description><p>Perhaps you are somewhat apprehensive about reading this book. Perhaps, like the majority of PMO addicts, the mere thought of stopping fills you with panic and although you have every intention of stopping one day, it is not today.</p>
<p>If you are expecting me to inform you of the terrible health issues that PMO addicts risk, that they are susceptible to be affected by PIED (porn induced erectile disfunction), unreliable arousals, fading penetration, loss of interest in real partners,loss of control over themselves, loss of relationships, that it is a filthy, disgusting habit and that <em>YOU</em> are a stupid, spineless, weak-willed jellyfish, then I must disappoint you. Those tactics never helped me to quit and if they were going to help you, you would already have quit.</p>
<p>Our Method, which I shall refer to as EASYPEASY doesn&rsquo;t work that way. Some of the things that I am about to say, you might find difficult to believe. However by the time you&rsquo;ve finished reading the book, you&rsquo;ll not only believe them, but wonder how you could ever have been brainwashed into believing otherwise.</p>
<p>There is a common misapprehension that we choose to watch porn. PMO addicts ( yes addicts) no more choose to do that than alcoholics choose to become alcoholics, or heroin addicts choose to become heroin addicts. It is true that we choose to boot up the laptop, fire up the browser and visit our favourite online harem<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> tube sites. I occasionally choose to go to the cinema, but I certainly didn&rsquo;t choose to spend my whole life in the cinema theatre. The curiosity and my nature took me there but I would not have done that if I had known it would addict me and cause me my health, happiness and relationships. Only if I had heard about PIED on my first visit to that porn site?</p>
<p>Please reflect on your life. Did you ever make the ‘positive’ decision that at certain times in your life, you couldn&rsquo;t enjoy a good night sleep or pass a night after a hard day at work without surfing for porn, or that you couldn&rsquo;t concentrate or handle stress without masturbating to orgasm at the end of the day ? At what stage did you decide that you needed PMO, not just for lonely nights, but that you needed to have them permanently in your life, and felt insecure, even panic-stricken without online porn which I will call your online harem ?</p>
<p>Like every other PMOer, you have been lured into the most sinister subtle trap that man and nature have combined to devise. There is not a parent, brother, sister on this planet, whether they be PMOer themselves or not, that likes the thought of their children using porn and PMO to cope and for pleasure. This means that all PMOers wish they had never started. Not surprising really, no one needs porn to enjoy life or cope with stress before they get hooked.</p>
<p>At the same time all PMOers wish to continue to PMO. After all, no one forces us to turn on the incognito mode of the browser, whether we understand the reason or not, it is only PMOers themselves that decide to knock on the doors of the online harems.</p>
<p>If there were a magic button that the PMOers could press to wake up the following morning as if they never accessed their very first tube site&hellip;. the only PMO addicts there would be tomorrow morning would be the youngsters who are still at the experimental stage. The only thing that prevents us from quitting is: FEAR!</p>
<description><p>This hackbook will enable you to stop PMO, immediately, painlessly, and permanently, without the need for Willpower or feeling any sense of deprivation or sacrifice. It will not judge you. It will not embarrass you. It will not put pressure on you to undergo painful measures.</p>
<p>That goes against everything you&rsquo;ve ever been told about PMO. But ask yourself what you&rsquo;ve been told before worked for you? If it had, you wouldn&rsquo;t be reading this site.</p>
<ul>
<li>Instantaneous</li>
<li>Equally effective for the heavy PMOer* <sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup><sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup></li>
<li>No bad withdrawal pangs</li>
<li>Needs no willpower</li>
<li>No shock treatment</li>
<li>No aids or gimmicks</li>
<li>You will not replace this addiction with other addictions such as overeating or smoking or drinking. You may use this to combat them if unfortunately you are addicted to all or some of them.</li>
<li>Permanent</li>
</ul>
<p>If you are an addict to PMO all you have to do is read on.</p>
<p>If you are a non-addict who came here for a loved one all you have to do is persuade them to read the book.</p>
<p>If you cannot persuade them, then read the book yourself, and the last chapter will advise you how to get the message across - also how to prevent your children from starting.</p>
<p>Do not be fooled by the fact that they hate it now. All children do before they become hooked.</p>
<p><strong>PMO</strong> - Porn, masturbation and orgasm.&#160;<a href="#fnref:1" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p>
</li>
<li id="fn:2">
<p><strong>PMOer</strong> - Anyone who excessively and obsessively seeks to achieve orgasms relying exclusively and only using internet
porn and or masturbation&#160;<a href="#fnref:2" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p>
<p><em>HackBookEasyPeasy EasyPeasyWay <a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a> I am Allen Carr. I am also not Allen Carr. So yes I am not the author. I am the hack-author.</em></p>
<p><em>I hacked Allen Carr’s book and his method of de-addiction to adapt it for PMO. Why? Because his method helped me in getting rid of cigarettes, alcohol and then PMO. Why did I hack his work? Because he is dead now. And the institution that he had
formed does not list Internet pornography as one of the addictions that it provides services for. I don&rsquo;t gain monetarily or otherwise. Above all - you won’t ‘find’ me in this book. Myself and Allen will appear and disappear in this book to provide you with an unique and effective method to get your mind de-addicted.</em></p>
<h2 id="important-advice-for-you"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong></h2>
<h2 id="do-not-jump-chapters"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong></h2>
<h2 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong></h2>
<p><em>The common thread running through Allen Carr&rsquo;s work is the removal of fear. Indeed, his genius lies in eliminating the phobias and anxieties which prevent people from being able to enjoy life to the full, as his best-selling books vividly demonstrate. His method is solid and has high success rates. It helped cure me of not one but three addictions. There is a network of clinics that uses his methods that span the globe and has a phenomenal reputation for success in helping people to quit addictions (except PMO). Their success rate is over 95% with money-back guarantees.</em></p>
<p><em>Hackbook : A book based and hacked from another book. The original author is credited fully.</em></p>
<h2 id="important-advice-for-you-1"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong></h2>
<h2 id="do-not-jump-chapters-1"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong></h2>
<h2 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence-1"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong></h2>
<p><em>Dr. Albert Ellis&rsquo; autobiography - &ldquo;All Out!&rdquo;</em></p>
<p><em>“I used to wrongly think that most of them (addicts) were aided by self-help groups like AA, by therapy, or some other real support. But no. The facts show that more people surrender their addictions on their own-without any notable help from others. How? Mainly by seeing, acknowledging, and emphasizing how hard it is not to stop and how much easier it is-in the long run- to suffer through the withdrawal process.”</em></p>
<description><h3 id="this-is-my-first-entry-and-im-already-having-issues-lol">this is my first entry and i&rsquo;m already having issues lol</h3>
<p>So I wanted to make a quick entry, see how it looks like and I stumbled upon this issue of hugo pluralzing Blog into Blogs</p>
<p>im adding this bit in just to check if the scuffed shell script i made actually works (it&rsquo;s supposed to cd into the .git where hugo is, rsync the /public/ folder into var/www [where my site is])</p>
