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title: "03-02 the Easy Method"
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The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy.
Provided that you are not a non-PMOer (who had never got addicted) or an ex-PMOer (who had quit or is in the fasting days of the porn-diet), it is essential to not quit until you have finished the book completely. This may appear to be a contradiction. Later I shall be explaining that porn do absolutely nothing for you at all. In fact, one of the many conundrums about internet porn is that when we are actually masturbating to a porn clip, we look at it and wonder why we are doing it. It is only when we have been deprived that the craving for PMO becomes precious.
However, let us accept that, whether you like it or not, you believe you are hooked. When you believe you are hooked, you can never be completely relaxed or concentrate properly unless you are using PMO. So do not attempt to stop PMO before you have finished the whole book. This instruction to continue to masturbate using porn until you have completed the book has caused me more frustration than any other. As you read further your desire to masturbate to porn will gradually be reduced. Do not go off half-cocked; this could be fatal. Remember, all you have to do is to follow the instructions in the right order. When I first started writing on forums many of the readers also stopped purely because I had done it. They thought, “if he can do it, anybody can.”
Over the years, I managed to persuade the ones that hadn't stopped to realize just how nice it is to be free! I gave my hackbook for free upon request. I worked on the basis that, even if it were the most boring book ever written, they would still read it, if only because it had been written by an ex-PMOer. I was surprised and hurt to learn that,they hadn't bothered to finish the book.
I was hurt at the time but I had overlooked the dreadful fear that this slavery to the “dopamine surge” instils in the addict. I now realize that many PMOers don't finish the book because they feel they have got to give up something that is their pleasure and crutch when they quit. Some deliberately read only one line a day in order to postpone the evil day. Look at it this way: what have you got to lose? If you don't stop at the end of the book, you are no worse off than you are now. YOU HAVE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO LOSE AND SO MUCH TO GAIN! AND SO MUCH MORE TO AVOID !!! A Pascal’s Wage[^1]?
Incidentally, if you have not PMOed for a few days or weeks but are not sure whether you are a PMOer, an ex-PMOer or a non-PMOer, then don't use porn to masturbate while you read. In fact, you are already a non-PMOer. All we've now got to do is to let your brain catch up with your body. By the end of the book you'll be a happy non-PMOer.
Basically this method is the complete opposite of the normal method of trying to stop. The normal method is to list the considerable disadvantages of PMO and say, “if only I can go long enough without porn, eventually the desire to masturbate to porn will go. I can then enjoy life again, free of slavery to the tube.” This is the logical way to go about it, and thousands of PMOer are stopping every day using variations of this method. However, it is very difficult to succeed using this method for the following reasons:
1. Stopping PMO is not the real problem. Every time you finish your ‘deed’ you stop using it. You may have powerful reasons on day one of your once-in-four porn diet to say, “I do not want to PMO or even masturbate any more” - all PMOers have, every day of their lives, and the reasons are more powerful than you can possibly imagine. The real problem is day two, day ten or day ten thousand, when in a weak moment, an inebriated moment or even a strong moment you have one ‘peek’ and because it is partly akin to drug addiction you then want another, and suddenly you are a masturbator again.
2. The health scares should stop us. Our rational minds say: “Stop doing it. You are a fool,” but in fact they make it harder. We masturbate, for example, when we are nervous. Tell PMOers that it is destroying their virility, and the first thing they will do is to find something to rush their dopamine - a cigarette, alcohol or even fire up the browser and search for porn.
3. All reasons for stopping actually make it harder for two other reasons. First, they create a SOS sense of sacrifice. We are always being forced to give up our little friend or prop or vice or pleasure, whichever way the PMOer sees it. Secondly, they create a 'blind'. We do not masturbate for the reasons we should stop. The real question is: why do we want or need to do it?
The EasyPeasy Method is basically this: initially to forget the reasons we'd like to stop, to face the problem and to ask ourselves the following questions:
1. What is it doing for me?
2. Do I actually enjoy it?
3. Do I really need to go through life using free internet porn or even paying through the nose just to sabotage my mind and body?
The beautiful truth is that porn – streaming, static or whatever - does absolutely nothing for you at all. Let me make it quite clear; I do not mean that the disadvantages of being a PMOer outweigh the advantages. All PMOers know from the many published studies about high speed internet porn addiction, forum messages, blog articles in YBOP and similar sites. I mean there are not any advantages from internet porn. The only advantage it ever had was the ‘educational’ aspect and guess what, nowadays the kind of education that it is offering is highly disputable for their contribution to real life intimacy. Most PMOers find it necessary to rationalize why they PMO but the reasons they come up are all fallacies and illusions.
The first thing we are going to do is to remove these fallacies and illusions. In fact, you will realize that there is nothing to give up. Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous, positive gains from being a non-PMOer and well being and happiness are only two of these gains. Once the illusion that life will never be quite as enjoyable without porn is removed, once you realize that not only is life just as enjoyable without it but infinitely more so, once the feeling of being deprived or of missing out are eradicated, then we can go back to reconsider the health and happiness - and the dozens of other reasons for stopping. These realizations will become positive additional aids to help you achieve what you really desire to enjoy the whole of your life free from the slavery of the porn habit.
[^1]: Pascal’s Wager is a bet you take when you have nothing or less to lose for a higher chances of large gains and avoiding losses in the future

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title: "03-03 Why Is It Difficult to Stop?"
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As I explained earlier, I got interested in this subject because of my own addiction. When I finally stopped it was like magic. When I had previously tried to stop there were weeks of black depression. There would be odd days when I was comparatively cheerful but the next day back with the depression. It was like clawing your way out of a slippery pit, you feel you are near the top, you see the sunshine and then find yourself sliding down again. Eventually you open your browser and as you masturbate you feel awful and you try to work out why you have to do it.
One of the questions I always ask online is: “do you want to stop PMO?” In a way it is a stupid question. All users (including members who dispute total abstinence) would love to stop PMO. If you ask to the most confirmed PMOer: “if you could go back to the time before you became hooked, with the knowledge you have now, would you have started PMO?”
“NO WAY,” would be the reply.
Say to the confirmed PMOer - someone who defends internet porn and who doesn't think that it cause injury to the brain (PIED, hypofrontality or the decreases in the dopamine receptors and etc.) - “do you encourage your children to use PMO?”
“NO WAY,” is again the reply.
All PMOers feel that something evil has got possession of them. In the early days it is a question of, “I am going to stop, not today but tomorrow.” Eventually we get to the stage where we think either that we haven't got the willpower or that there is something inherent in the whole PMO that we must have in order to enjoy life.
As I said previously, the problem is not explaining why it is easy to stop; it is explaining why it is difficult. In fact, the real problem is explaining scientifically why anybody does it even after getting the insights on the neurological damages of addictions not limited to porn.
The whole business of porn is an extraordinary enigma. One of the reasons we get on to it is because of the thousands of people are already into it, about 35% of the population approximately. Yet every one of them wishes he or she had not started in the first place, telling us that life is like driving in second gear. We cannot quite believe they are not enjoying it. We associate it with freedom or being “sex-educated” and work hard to become hooked ourselves. We then spend the rest of our lives telling others not to do it and trying to kick the habit ourselves.
We also spend the rest of our lives feeling hopeless and miserable. Time spent on porn can accumulate to a large percentage of our life in this planet! What do we do with that amount of time spent? We ‘educate’ ourselves with supranormal[^1] ‘material’ that makes us stupidly prefer and childishly long for these cold images - even when warm real ones are available. By the constant surge and drop of dopamine induced by PMO, we sentence ourselves to a lifetime of irritability, anger, frustration, stress, fatigue[^3], PIED, hypofrontality etc. In short, it is a lifetime of slavery. It is logically and intuitively clear that amative sex (physical touch, feel, voice etc.) is the best part of sex and is even better (if Karezza[^2] is practised, although not necessary for the current purposes) than the propagative (orgasm) part, except when children are desired. So, when we use porn in the absence of the best part of sex we feel miserable and guilty.
In fact, all the reading about internet pornography's addictive capabilities and it’s destructive effects here and in other online sites makes us even more nervous and hopeless. When we are trying to cut down or stop, we end up feeling deprived. We wish we didn't have to. What sort of hobby is it that when you are doing it you wish you weren't, and when you are not doing it you crave for it ? A lifetime of an otherwise intelligent, rational human being going through life in contempt.
The PMOer despises himself, every time he has an unreliable erection, a fading penetration, reading about PIED and other stuff on the YBOP forum, every time he could not pull himself up to exercise after a daytime PMO, every PMO behind his or her trustfully asleep partner’s back, every time he sees his tired face and lifeless eyes in the restroom mirror.
Having to go through life with these awful black shadows at the back of his mind, what does he get out of it? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! Pleasure? Enjoyment? Relaxation? A prop? A boost? All illusions, unless you consider the wearing of tight shoes to enjoy the removal of them as some sort of pleasure!
[^1]: **Supranormal** - a phrase coined by Nikolaas Tinbergen. Studies show that our brains prefer brighter, larger, colourful
etc. versions of what we like.
[^2]: **Karezza** - is the practice of amative sex that puts no pressure on orgasms as occurs in propagative sex. It relieves the
man and woman from performance based anxieties.
[^3]: When dopamine receptors are de-activated in response to frequent and extended dopamine surges even normal de-
stressing chemicals are not absorbed by our brains.
The real problem is trying to explain not only why PMOers find it difficult to stop but why anybody does it at all after knowing about brain neuroplasticity. You are probably thinking: “That's all very well. I know this, but once you are hooked on these things it is very difficult to stop.” But why is it so difficult, and why do we have to do it? Addicts of PMO search for the answer to these questions all of their lives. Some say it is because of the powerful withdrawal symptoms. In fact, the actual withdrawal symptoms from porn are so mild (see Chapter 6) that PMOers should know about smokers who have lived and died without ever realizing they are drug addicts.
Some say internet porn is free and hence humankind should claim this biological bonanza. It is NOT. It is addictive and acts like any other drug. Ask a PMOer who swears that he only enjoys safe playboy type erotica and that he could always restrict himself only to this soft genre ? If he is absolutely honest - he would tell you about the many times when he had unwittingly crossed the line. Otherwise good PMOers would rather use ‘unsafe’ hardcore stuff, rationalizing it, than left with nothing at all.
Enjoyment has nothing to do with it. I enjoy lobster but I never got to the stage where I had to have lobsters everyday and multiple times like they are hanging round my neck. With other things in life we enjoy them whilst we are doing them but we don't sit feeling deprived when we are not. Some search for deep psychological reasons, the “Freudian Syndrome,” or “the child at the mother's breast.” Really it is just the reverse.
The ‘usual’ reason why we start PMO is to show we are grown up and mature. Some think it is the reverse, the macho effect of “doing what boys do” or in some cases, “let me show I am a tomboy girl,” to rattle my conservative family. Again, this argument has no substance. Internet porn provides easy escalation (outrageous and shocking clips just a click away), desensitization (same clips don’t do it any more) and all this within the high reward no risk settings. The science fiction story lines, the fake “amateurs,” the “real life” clips etc. should make any average PMOer discover pretty soon that it is all an illusion. What a PMOer should also understand is that after eating at restaurants every day the home food will never appeal your taste buds at all. Yes, the food is free and is tasty - but does it nourish you ?
Some say:
* “It is educational!” So, when is your graduation?
* “It is a sexual satisfaction.” So, why do it alone? Find a partner and save it for her or him?
* “It is the feeling of release.” A release from the stresses of real life? Porn is going to remove the cause of the stress? OK, good luck. You just added more to it.
Many believe PMO relieves boredom. This is also a fallacy. Boredom is a frame of mind. Porn will induce you to “novelty” seeking in no time. Causing you to be eventually more bored unless and until you participate in the “wild goose chase” all night long for the “right hit” producing clip. There is nothing interesting about supranormal stimulus such as internet porn, it fires up dopamine whose only job is to seek clips that evoke strong emotions, interesting novelty and outrageous shock value.
For thirty years my reason was that it relaxed me, gave me confidence and courage. I also knew it was draining me and costing me virility. Why didn't I go to a therapist or find an another way to relax me and give me courage and confidence? I didn't go because I knew he would suggest an alternative. It wasn't my reason; it was my excuse.
Some say they only do it because their friends and every one they know do it. Are you really that stupid? If so, just pray that your friends do not start cutting their heads off to cure a headache! Most users who think about it eventually come to the conclusion that it is just a habit. This is not really an explanation but having discounted all the usual rational explanations, it appears to be the only remaining excuse. Unfortunately, this explanation is equally illogical. Every day of our lives we change habits and some of them are very enjoyable. We have been brainwashed to believe that PMO is a habit and that habits are difficult to break. Are habits really difficult to break?
In the US we are in the habit of driving on the right side of the road. Yet when we drive in the UK we immediately break that habit with hardly any aggravation whatsoever. It is clearly a fallacy that habits are hard to break. The fact is that we make and break habits every day of our lives. So why do we find it difficult to break a habit that makes us deprived when we don’t have it yet guilty when we do and that we would love to break anyway, when all we have to do is to stop doing it?
The answer is that PMO is not habit: IT IS ADDICTION! That is why it appears to be so difficult to “give up.” Perhaps you feel this explanation explains why it is difficult to “give up?” It does explain why most PMOers find it difficult to “give up.” That is because they do not understand addiction. The main reason is that PMOers are convinced that they get some genuine pleasure and/or crutch from porn and believe that they are making a genuine sacrifice if they quit.
The beautiful truth is that once you understand porn addiction and the true reasons why you PMO, you will stop doing it just like that - and within three weeks the only mystery will be why you found it necessary to PMO as long as you have, and why you cannot persuade other PMOers **HOW NICE IT IS TO BE A NON-PMOer**!

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Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it's an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked.
It is the only trap in nature which has does not require a lot of hard work to set up. The thing that springs the trap is not that all porn clips feature young, high quality, sexy models; it’s that most of the thumbnails on any porn web page are ugly looking, unattractive, amateurish, home-made clips of unknown models. If the first timer’s first look at a tube page was only filled with angelic beauties, professional models and high quality then the alarm bells would ring. And as intelligent human beings, we could then understand why half the adult population was systematically addicted to watching something that is cutting down their very same potential to do what they are viewing. In many known and yet unknown ways porn cuts down sexual performance and the feeling of satisfaction.
But because that first “peek” has “stains and holes,” a mishmash of low quality clips of not-so-hot models, our young minds are reassured that we will never become hooked, and we think that because we are not enjoying them we can stop whenever we want to. It is the only drug in nature that prevents you from achieving your aim. Our curiosity brings us to its door steps. You dare not even click on all of the thumbnails because some of them will make you feel sick and throw up! If you were to accidentally click on an “I-did-not-see-that” clip - all you want to do is get away from the site and close your laptop.
With women, the aim is to be the sophisticated modern young lady. We have all seen them acting up and looking absolutely ridiculous. By the time the boys have learnt to look tough and the girls have learnt to look sophisticated, they wish they had never started in the first place. I wonder whether women ever look sophisticated when they discuss the top 10 porn sites, or whether this is a figment of our imaginations created by internet porn companies.
We then spend the rest of our lives trying to explain to ourselves why we do it, telling our children not to get caught and, at odd times, trying to escape ourselves. The trap is so designed that we try to stop only when we have an “incident” that touch us to the quick of the flesh, whether it be in the bed, loss of a career or relationship, shortage of drive or just plain being made to feel like a leper. As soon as we stop, we have more stress (the fearful withdrawal pangs of brain chemicals) and the thing that we rely on to relieve stress (our old prop, porn and PMO) we now must do without. Internet porn is powerful imagery at high speed making it a high fructose corn syrup... sorry, high density supernormal stimulant.
After a few days of torture we decide that we have picked the wrong time to quit. We must wait for a period without stress, and as soon as that arrives the reason for stopping vanishes. Of course, that period will never arrive because, in the first place, we think that our lives tend to become more and more stressful. As we leave the protection of our parents the natural process is jobs, setting up home, mortgages, babies, more responsible jobs, a bigger house, more babies etc. etc. This is also an illusion.
The truth is that the most stressful periods for any creature are early childhood and adolescence. We tend to confuse responsibility with stress. A PMOer’s life - like a drug addict - automatically becomes more stressful because PMO does not relax you or relieve stress, as some try to make you believe. Just the reverse: it actually causes you to become more nervous and stressed. Internet porn is as fake in its promises for pleasure and crutch as its actors are. If you had never learned any life skills to cope the stress and strains of day to day life you are not going to get any better with this fake and disgusting crutch. Worse you are going to add more bales of straw on the old camel’s back.
Even those users who kick the habit (most do, one or more times during their lives) can lead perfectly happy lives yet suddenly become hooked again. The whole business of PMO is like wandering into a giant maze. As soon as we enter the maze our minds become misted and clouded, and we spend the rest of our lives trying to escape. Many of us eventually do, only to find that we get trapped again at a later date. I spent thirty-three years trying to escape from that maze. Like all PMOers, I couldn't understand it. However, due to a combination of unusual circumstances, none of which reflect any credit on me, I wanted to know why previously it had been so desperately difficult to stop and yet, when I finally did, it was not only easy but enjoyable.
Since stopping PMO my hobby has been to resolve the many conundrums associated with porn. It is a complex and fascinating puzzle and - like a Rubik's Cube - practically impossible to solve. However, like all complicated puzzles, if you know the solution, it is easy! I have the solution to stopping porn easily. I will lead you out of the maze and ensure that you never wander into it again. All you have to do is follow the instructions. If you take a wrong turn, the rest of the instructions will be pointless. Let me emphasize that anybody can find it easy to stop but first we need to establish the facts. No, I do not mean the scare facts. I know you are already aware of them. There is already enough information on the evils of PMO. If that was going to stop you, you would already have stopped. I mean, why do we find it difficult to stop? In order to answer this question we need to know the real reason why we are still doing PMO.

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We all start PMOing for many reasons, usually social pressures or our biological curiosity, but once we feel we are becoming hooked, why do we carry on using porn? No regular PMOer knows why he or she looks at porn. If PMOers knew the true reason, they would stop doing it. The true answer is the same for all PMOers but the variety of replies is infinite, I find this part of the consultation the most amusing and at the same time the most pathetic.
All PMOers know in their heart of hearts that they are fools. They know that they had no need to use porn or internet porn before they became hooked. Most of them can remember that their first ‘peek’ was a mix of revulsion and novel curiosity. They then filter out and get “skilled” at “locating” and “bookmarking” the right porn sites. They know that they had to work hard in order to become hooked.
The most annoying part is that they sense that non-addicts - most women, older guys, people living in countries where hi-speed internet porn is not available “on tap” - are not missing anything and that they are laughing at them.
However, PMOers are intelligent, rational human beings. They know that they are taking enormous future risks and so they spend a lot of time rationalizing their ‘habit’. The actual reason why PMOers continue is a subtle combination of the factors that I will elaborate in the next two chapters. They are:
1. **INTERNET PORN**
2. **BRAINWASHING**

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Erotic novelty of the internet porn is a mental ‘drug’ and internet porn beats anything that is known to mankind and its streaming straight to your home for free ! We are not even talking VR virtual reality here. Porn triggers the ‘flooding’ of dopamine in our brain. Dopamine amps up the brain reward circuitry to produce experiences and feels of cravings and pleasure by locking themselves into ‘receptors’. More dopamine more wanting. Less dopamine no wanting. New experiences, tasty food - more dopamine - more wanting. Sex and sex related stuff gives the biggest injection of dopamine in the reward circuits. Dopamine is not the final pleasure stuff, if it were you would feel happy when you are done with it, but it is only a brain chemical that encourages seeking and action in you. The real pleasure is produced by opioids. More dopamine more opioids more
action more happy feelings.
So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. All of which will now be stored as a script in your brain for easy access next time. I call this a ‘water slide’. Next time at the cue - a sexy commercial or alone time or stress or feeling a little down - you are ready to take a ride on the ‘water slide’. One more thing is that every time to repeat this you are ‘greasing’ it
as well - so it is active, alive and more easier to slide the next time.
As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will
be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but
this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation
feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating.
Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish,
ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you
won’t on your first time.
My Own Online Harem!
This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn
magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of
the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the
cost.
Going back to the earlier discussion - in this cycle as you crossed the ‘red line’ you also
trigger emotions such as guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety and fear - which in turn raise
dopamine levels as well. Now the brain may mistakenly associate feelings of anxiety and fear as
sexual arousal. This perpetual cycle is only broken by natural causes - fortunately sooner or later.
With its free access and privacy it provides boundless harem-like novelty. The dopamine can be
theoretically kept very high for a very very long time. I can be satisfied with one lobster once in
awhile. But Internet porn is different. It is even worse than drugs. Don’t let me make you nervous. I
will shortly show you how to be free from this slavery.
Now our human body has a self-correcting system by which the number of dopamine and
opioid receptors are cut short when frequent and daily ‘flooding’ of dopamine is detected.
Unfortunately - these receptors are also needed for receiving dopamine and to keep us even and
balanced to handle the inevitable and normal day-to-day stresses. But this natural nominal amount
of dopamine will not be absorbed efficiently with decreased receptors and you will feel more
stressed and irritated than normal. "For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed”
- Kahlil Gibran.
A fleeting feeling of security is all that is needed to get through a rough spot in life - but will
your brain be able to catch that drop of de-stressor that a non-PMOers’ brain is able to catch and
use?
This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I
must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think
that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop
PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I
will explain more about this later.
The Little Monster
The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died
without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict' we think we
just 'got into the habit'. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that's exactly what they are - drug
addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted.
There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the
feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it
is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is
like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.
Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, resulting
in the feeling of fulfilment and pleasure that the action gives to the PMOer. In the early days, when
we first start PMOing, the withdrawal pangs and their relief are so slight that we are not even aware
that they exist. When we begin to masturbate regularly to internet porn we think it is because we've
either come to enjoy them or got into the 'habit'. The truth is we're already hooked; we do not
realize it, but that little monster is already inside our stomach and every now and again we have to
feed it.
All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why
anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster.
The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO
know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the
most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the
pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had
before he became hooked in the first place.
The Annoying Burglar Alarm
You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has
been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous
feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the
aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our
brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the
dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We
are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do
not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate
the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we
became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the
craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain
goes on. It is a chain for life - UNLESS YOU BREAK IT.
The whole business of PMO is like wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure you feel
when you take them off. There are three main reasons why PMOers cannot see things that way:
1. From birth we have been subjected to massive brainwashing telling us that internet porn is
simply just another modern development that replaced the print version of porn. Why should
we not believe them when it hides behind the truth that masturbation is not bad? (However, I
won’t recommend you take up masturbation). Why else would they waste all that time and
energy and take such horrendous risks?
2. Because the physical withdrawal from dopamine injection involves no actual pain but is
merely an empty, insecure feeling, inseparable from hunger or normal stress and because
those are the very times that we tend to seek internet porn. We tend to regard the feeling as
normal.
3. However the main reason that PMOers fail to see internet porn in its true light is because it
works back to front. It's when you are not masturbating to it that you suffer that empty
feeling. Because the process of getting hooked is very subtle and gradual in the early days,
we regard that empty feeling as normal and don't blame it on the previous PMO session. The
moment you fire up the browser and reach a tube site, you get an almost immediate boost or
buzz and do actually feel less nervous or more relaxed and internet porn gets the credit.
It is this 'back to front' reverse process that makes all drugs difficult to kick. Picture the panic
state of a heroin addict who has no heroin. Now picture the utter joy when that addict can finally
plunge a needle into his vein. Can you visualize someone actually getting pleasure by injecting
themselves, or does the mere thought fill you with horror? Non-heroin addicts don't suffer that panic
feeling.
The heroin doesn't relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a 14 year old in
2008 - didn't suffer the empty feeling of needing internet porn or start to panic when they are off-
line. Non-PMOers cannot understand how PMOers can possibly obtain pleasure from two
dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. And do you know
something? PMOers themselves cannot understand why they do it after some time either.
We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied
unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don't non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied
state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers
completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their 'little monster'?
A Pleasure or Crutch?
Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it
difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is
absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to
understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of
eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed
are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure
feeling which we know as: 'I need to eat.' And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasant
pastime.
PMOing appears to be almost identical. The empty, insecure feeling which we know as:
'wanting or needing an PMO orgasm’ is identical to a hunger for food, although one will not satisfy
the other. Like hunger, there is no physical pain and the feeling is so imperceptible that we are not
even aware of it between PMO sessions. It's only if we want to masturbate and aren't able to reach
internet for porn that we become aware of any discomfort. But when we do PMO we feel satisfied.
It is this similarity to eating which helps to fool PMOers into believing that they receive some
genuine pleasure. Some PMOers find it very difficult to grasp that there is no pleasure or crutch,
whatsoever to PMO. Some argue: “How can you say there is no crutch? When I orgasm up then I'll
feel less nervous than before.”
Although eating and PMOing appear to be very similar. In fact they are exact opposites:
1. You eat to survive and to energize your life, whereas PMOing dims your mojo and cuts
down your energy.
2. Food does genuinely taste good, and eating is a genuinely pleasant experience that we can
enjoy throughout our lives, whereas PMOing involves self-sabotaging the happiness
receptors and thus destroying your chances to cope and to feel happy.
3. Eating doesn't create hunger and genuinely relieves it, whereas the first PMO starts the
craving for dopamine and each subsequent one, far from relieving it, ensures that you suffer
it for the rest of life.
PMO is a Habit?
This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is
eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be
the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different
people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food.
But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is
to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is
true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different
times, but PMO itself is not a habit.
On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience,
I also refer to the 'habit'. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no
more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to
learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’ * - we have to then have more bizarre
and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting... not in the killing. If we don't then panic sets
in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of
higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too
in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving
others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great!
* Escalation - a practice that is the result of our brain’s novelty and curiosity seeking to
get more dopamine in our reward circuitry.
Crossing The Red Line
This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of
the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of
watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO
session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking
you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn
paradise.
You feel better than you did before starting this PMO session but you are in fact more nervous
and less relaxed than you would be as a non-PMOer, like someone who is living in Loma Linda or
in an Amish village, even though you are actually PMOing and living in your supposed “porn
paradise.” This position is even more ridiculous than wearing tight shoes because as you go through
life an increasing amount of the discomfort remains even when the shoes are removed.
Once the orgasm is achieved, the dopamine rapidly begins to leave the brain, causing a mood
dip. Which explains why the PMOer wants to ‘edge’* and switch through multiple browser
windows as they seek and search. As I said, the ‘habit’ doesn't exist. The real reason why every user
goes on using internet porn is because of that little porn monster inside his stomach. Every now and
again he has to feed it. The PMOer himself will decide when he does that and it tends to be on four
types of occasion or a combination of them.
* Edge - to stay longer in pre-orgasm stage. To delay orgasm.
These occasions are:
• BOREDOM/CONCENTRATION - two complete opposites!
• STRESS/RELAXATION - two complete opposites!
What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If you think
about it, what other types of occasion are there in our lives; apart from sleep? The truth is that PMO
neither relieves boredom and stress nor promotes concentration and relaxation. It is all just illusion.
Apart from being a drug, PMO is also a destroyer of happiness and virility.
In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and
such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes,
print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’
and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the
most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive
without knowing the difference between food and poison.
Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics
Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have
developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and
bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more
shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the
outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we
will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red
line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural
and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and
balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there
are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!
When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were titillating but most
were disgusting, causing you to avert your eyes away. Like you would if had accidentally glanced a
feeding mother’s breast. And some of us are even revolted with what they saw when the star
reminded them of someone dear to their heart or a scene which recalled their own instance of being
the victim. Some don’t feel like it to browse and masturbate at the same time. It may be hard to
believe for you but the non-PMOs, who don’t PMO after their first time, are the lucky ones. They
actually decided that it was not their cup of tea. It must be hard for you to believe but stay with me.
How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the
social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even
after a hard day? Why not ? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after
your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That's all.
Are PMOers Mentally Weak?
It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The
lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or,
alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting
the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical
enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.
To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to become
hooked, and this is why it is difficult to stop teenagers. Because they are skilled in seeking and
finding material, they know online privacy options and can clean their tracks - if they still feel some
stigma and they (wrongfully) believe they can stop whenever they want to. Why do they not learn
from us? Then again, why did we not learn from our PMOers and addicts?
Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually
doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of
‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting
themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying
is the ritual of relieving those pangs.
The High From The Dance Around The Red Line
Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to
filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the
body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an
excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes
even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.
Ask a user who believes that he sticks to a certain actor or genre - only because he likes
something about the star or the theme (if any) of the clip: “If you cannot get your normal brand of
porn and can only obtain a poor or unsafe brand, do you stop masturbating?” No way. A PMOer will
masturbate to anything rather than abstain and it doesn't matter if he has to switch to escalating
themes, different sex-orientation-themes, look-alike actresses, dangerous settings shocking
relationships etc. To begin with they taste awful but if you persevere you will learn to like them.
Most PMOers will also try to seek masturbation even after having real sex (unfulfilment, porn-
induced unrealistic expectations etc.), or after a long, stressful work day, fever, colds, flu, sore
throats and even when admitted in hospitals.
Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wanted then it makes
no sense to be with your laptop. During my conversation some PMOers find it alarming to realize
they are drug addicts and think it will make it even more difficult to stop. In fact, it is all good news
for two important reasons:
1. The reason why most of us carry on masturbating to internet porn is because, although we
know the disadvantages outweigh the advantages, we believe that there is something in the
porn that we actually enjoy or that it is some sort of prop. We feel that after we stop PMOing
there will be a void, that certain situations in our life will never be quite the same. This is an
illusion. The fact is the masturbation and especially PMO gives nothing; it only takes away
and then partially restores to create the illusion. I will explain this in more detail in a later
chapter.
2. Although internet porn is the most powerful trigger for ‘novelty’ and ‘sex’ based dopamine
‘flooding’ - because of the speed with which you become hooked, you are never badly
hooked. The actual withdrawal pangs are so mild that most PMOers have lived and died
without ever realizing that they have suffered them.
You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through
months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the
second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to
cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc.
The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your
laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious
client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn't
bother the PMOers.
The Smokers Analogy
A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a
cigarette they'd be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain
from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to
smoke doesn't bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased
for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.
PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their parents while
visiting for family get togethers etc. with little discomfort to themselves. In fact, most PMOers have
extended periods during which they abstain without effort. Even in my case I would quite happily
go a week or so without a PMO incident. In the later years as a PMOer I actually used to look
forward to these days when I could stop choking my penis (what a ridiculous 'habit').
The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still
addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just
as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the 'habit'
but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water
slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood.
The Big Monster - The Brainwashing
You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong
willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options.
Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.
Not all the amateurs are ‘amateurs’ on these tube sites, oversized body parts and overcharged
scenarios are the norm, aided by a bit of the ‘viagran’ help.
As I say, the actual porn addiction is not the main problem. It just acts as a catalyst to keep our
minds confused over the real problem: the brainwashing. It may be of consolation to lifelong and
heavy PMOers to know that it is just as easy for them to stop as casual PMOers. In a peculiar way.
it is easier. The further you go along with the 'habit', the more it drags you down and the greater the
gain when you stop.
It may be of further consolation for you to know that the rumours that occasionally circulate
that the neural pathways created are there for life, and so at the right (or wrong) time and with
strong stimuli you will be sliding again down the ‘water slide’ of internet porn and masturbation to
permanently destroy your real life sex are untrue.
Do not think the bad effects of internet porn are exaggerated. If anything, they are sadly
understated but the truth is there are different levels of dependency on PMO and masturbation in
general. However, these bodies of ours are incredible machines and have enormous powers of
recovery. If you stop now, your body and brain will recover within a matter of a few weeks.
As I have said, it is never too late to stop. You can see many who have stopped not only porn
but masturbation as well. Naturally with any obstacles that humans face some have even taken this
addiction recovery to the next level in learning about differentiating amative and propagative sides
of sex. They have not only rebooted their sex lives but have made their partner happier than before
as well.
The further it drags you down, the greater the relief. When I finally stopped I went straight to
ZERO, and didn't have one bad pang. In fact, it was actually enjoyable, even during the withdrawal
period. But we must remove the brainwashing about internet porn regardless of your status as single
or partnered and also of masturbation.

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<description>&lt;p&gt;Erotic novelty of the internet porn is a mental ‘drug’ and internet porn beats anything that is known to mankind and its streaming straight to your home for free ! We are not even talking VR virtual reality here. Porn triggers the ‘flooding’ of dopamine in our brain. Dopamine amps up the brain reward circuitry to produce experiences and feels of cravings and pleasure by locking themselves into ‘receptors’. More dopamine more wanting. Less dopamine no wanting. New experiences, tasty food - more dopamine - more wanting. Sex and sex related stuff gives the biggest injection of dopamine in the reward circuits. Dopamine is not the final pleasure stuff, if it were you would feel happy when you are done with it, but it is only a brain chemical that encourages seeking and action in you. The real pleasure is produced by opioids. More dopamine more opioids more
action more happy feelings.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. All of which will now be stored as a script in your brain for easy access next time. I call this a ‘water slide’. Next time at the cue - a sexy commercial or alone time or stress or feeling a little down - you are ready to take a ride on the ‘water slide’. One more thing is that every time to repeat this you are ‘greasing’ it
as well - so it is active, alive and more easier to slide the next time.
As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will
be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but
this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation
feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating.
Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish,
ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you
won’t on your first time.
My Own Online Harem!
This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn
magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of
the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the
cost.
Going back to the earlier discussion - in this cycle as you crossed the ‘red line’ you also
trigger emotions such as guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety and fear - which in turn raise
dopamine levels as well. Now the brain may mistakenly associate feelings of anxiety and fear as
sexual arousal. This perpetual cycle is only broken by natural causes - fortunately sooner or later.
With its free access and privacy it provides boundless harem-like novelty. The dopamine can be
theoretically kept very high for a very very long time. I can be satisfied with one lobster once in
awhile. But Internet porn is different. It is even worse than drugs. Don’t let me make you nervous. I
will shortly show you how to be free from this slavery.
Now our human body has a self-correcting system by which the number of dopamine and
opioid receptors are cut short when frequent and daily ‘flooding’ of dopamine is detected.
Unfortunately - these receptors are also needed for receiving dopamine and to keep us even and
balanced to handle the inevitable and normal day-to-day stresses. But this natural nominal amount
of dopamine will not be absorbed efficiently with decreased receptors and you will feel more
stressed and irritated than normal. &amp;ldquo;For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Kahlil Gibran.
A fleeting feeling of security is all that is needed to get through a rough spot in life - but will
your brain be able to catch that drop of de-stressor that a non-PMOers’ brain is able to catch and
use?
This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I
must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think
that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop
PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I
will explain more about this later.
The Little Monster
The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died
without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&amp;rsquo; we think we
just &amp;lsquo;got into the habit&amp;rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&amp;rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug
addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted.
There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the
feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it
is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is
like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.
Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, resulting
in the feeling of fulfilment and pleasure that the action gives to the PMOer. In the early days, when
we first start PMOing, the withdrawal pangs and their relief are so slight that we are not even aware
that they exist. When we begin to masturbate regularly to internet porn we think it is because we&amp;rsquo;ve
either come to enjoy them or got into the &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;. The truth is we&amp;rsquo;re already hooked; we do not
realize it, but that little monster is already inside our stomach and every now and again we have to
feed it.
All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why
anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster.
The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO
know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the
most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the
pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had
before he became hooked in the first place.
The Annoying Burglar Alarm
You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has
been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous
feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the
aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our
brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the
dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We
are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do
not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate
the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we
became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the
craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain
goes on. It is a chain for life - UNLESS YOU BREAK IT.
The whole business of PMO is like wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure you feel
when you take them off. There are three main reasons why PMOers cannot see things that way:&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;From birth we have been subjected to massive brainwashing telling us that internet porn is
simply just another modern development that replaced the print version of porn. Why should
we not believe them when it hides behind the truth that masturbation is not bad? (However, I
won’t recommend you take up masturbation). Why else would they waste all that time and
energy and take such horrendous risks?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Because the physical withdrawal from dopamine injection involves no actual pain but is
merely an empty, insecure feeling, inseparable from hunger or normal stress and because
those are the very times that we tend to seek internet porn. We tend to regard the feeling as
normal.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;However the main reason that PMOers fail to see internet porn in its true light is because it
works back to front. It&amp;rsquo;s when you are not masturbating to it that you suffer that empty
feeling. Because the process of getting hooked is very subtle and gradual in the early days,
we regard that empty feeling as normal and don&amp;rsquo;t blame it on the previous PMO session. The
moment you fire up the browser and reach a tube site, you get an almost immediate boost or
buzz and do actually feel less nervous or more relaxed and internet porn gets the credit.
It is this &amp;lsquo;back to front&amp;rsquo; reverse process that makes all drugs difficult to kick. Picture the panic
state of a heroin addict who has no heroin. Now picture the utter joy when that addict can finally
plunge a needle into his vein. Can you visualize someone actually getting pleasure by injecting
themselves, or does the mere thought fill you with horror? Non-heroin addicts don&amp;rsquo;t suffer that panic
feeling.
The heroin doesn&amp;rsquo;t relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a 14 year old in
2008 - didn&amp;rsquo;t suffer the empty feeling of needing internet porn or start to panic when they are off-
line. Non-PMOers cannot understand how PMOers can possibly obtain pleasure from two
dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. And do you know
something? PMOers themselves cannot understand why they do it after some time either.
We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied
unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don&amp;rsquo;t non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied
state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers
completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their &amp;rsquo;little monster&amp;rsquo;?
A Pleasure or Crutch?
Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it
difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is
absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to
understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of
eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed
are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure
feeling which we know as: &amp;lsquo;I need to eat.&amp;rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasant
pastime.
PMOing appears to be almost identical. The empty, insecure feeling which we know as:
&amp;lsquo;wanting or needing an PMO orgasm’ is identical to a hunger for food, although one will not satisfy
the other. Like hunger, there is no physical pain and the feeling is so imperceptible that we are not
even aware of it between PMO sessions. It&amp;rsquo;s only if we want to masturbate and aren&amp;rsquo;t able to reach
internet for porn that we become aware of any discomfort. But when we do PMO we feel satisfied.
It is this similarity to eating which helps to fool PMOers into believing that they receive some
genuine pleasure. Some PMOers find it very difficult to grasp that there is no pleasure or crutch,
whatsoever to PMO. Some argue: “How can you say there is no crutch? When I orgasm up then I&amp;rsquo;ll
feel less nervous than before.”
Although eating and PMOing appear to be very similar. In fact they are exact opposites:&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;You eat to survive and to energize your life, whereas PMOing dims your mojo and cuts
down your energy.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Food does genuinely taste good, and eating is a genuinely pleasant experience that we can
enjoy throughout our lives, whereas PMOing involves self-sabotaging the happiness
receptors and thus destroying your chances to cope and to feel happy.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Eating doesn&amp;rsquo;t create hunger and genuinely relieves it, whereas the first PMO starts the
craving for dopamine and each subsequent one, far from relieving it, ensures that you suffer
it for the rest of life.
PMO is a Habit?
This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is
eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be
the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different
people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food.
But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is
to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is
true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different
times, but PMO itself is not a habit.
On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience,
I also refer to the &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no
more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to
learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’ * - we have to then have more bizarre
and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting&amp;hellip; not in the killing. If we don&amp;rsquo;t then panic sets
in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of
higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too
in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving
others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great!&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Escalation - a practice that is the result of our brain’s novelty and curiosity seeking to
get more dopamine in our reward circuitry.
Crossing The Red Line
This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of
the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of
watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO
session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking
you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn
paradise.
You feel better than you did before starting this PMO session but you are in fact more nervous
and less relaxed than you would be as a non-PMOer, like someone who is living in Loma Linda or
in an Amish village, even though you are actually PMOing and living in your supposed “porn
paradise.” This position is even more ridiculous than wearing tight shoes because as you go through
life an increasing amount of the discomfort remains even when the shoes are removed.
Once the orgasm is achieved, the dopamine rapidly begins to leave the brain, causing a mood
dip. Which explains why the PMOer wants to ‘edge’* and switch through multiple browser
windows as they seek and search. As I said, the ‘habit’ doesn&amp;rsquo;t exist. The real reason why every user
goes on using internet porn is because of that little porn monster inside his stomach. Every now and
again he has to feed it. The PMOer himself will decide when he does that and it tends to be on four
types of occasion or a combination of them.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Edge - to stay longer in pre-orgasm stage. To delay orgasm.
These occasions are:
• BOREDOM/CONCENTRATION - two complete opposites!
• STRESS/RELAXATION - two complete opposites!
What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If you think
about it, what other types of occasion are there in our lives; apart from sleep? The truth is that PMO
neither relieves boredom and stress nor promotes concentration and relaxation. It is all just illusion.
Apart from being a drug, PMO is also a destroyer of happiness and virility.
In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and
such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes,
print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’
and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the
most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive
without knowing the difference between food and poison.
Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics
Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have
developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and
bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more
shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the
outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we
will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red
line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural
and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and
balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there
are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!
When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were titillating but most
were disgusting, causing you to avert your eyes away. Like you would if had accidentally glanced a
feeding mother’s breast. And some of us are even revolted with what they saw when the star
reminded them of someone dear to their heart or a scene which recalled their own instance of being
the victim. Some don’t feel like it to browse and masturbate at the same time. It may be hard to
believe for you but the non-PMOs, who don’t PMO after their first time, are the lucky ones. They
actually decided that it was not their cup of tea. It must be hard for you to believe but stay with me.
How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the
social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even
after a hard day? Why not ? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after
your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That&amp;rsquo;s all.
Are PMOers Mentally Weak?
It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The
lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or,
alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting
the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical
enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.
To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to become
hooked, and this is why it is difficult to stop teenagers. Because they are skilled in seeking and
finding material, they know online privacy options and can clean their tracks - if they still feel some
stigma and they (wrongfully) believe they can stop whenever they want to. Why do they not learn
from us? Then again, why did we not learn from our PMOers and addicts?
Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually
doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of
‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting
themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying
is the ritual of relieving those pangs.
The High From The Dance Around The Red Line
Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to
filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the
body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an
excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes
even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.
Ask a user who believes that he sticks to a certain actor or genre - only because he likes
something about the star or the theme (if any) of the clip: “If you cannot get your normal brand of
porn and can only obtain a poor or unsafe brand, do you stop masturbating?” No way. A PMOer will
masturbate to anything rather than abstain and it doesn&amp;rsquo;t matter if he has to switch to escalating
themes, different sex-orientation-themes, look-alike actresses, dangerous settings shocking
relationships etc. To begin with they taste awful but if you persevere you will learn to like them.
Most PMOers will also try to seek masturbation even after having real sex (unfulfilment, porn-
induced unrealistic expectations etc.), or after a long, stressful work day, fever, colds, flu, sore
throats and even when admitted in hospitals.
Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wanted then it makes
no sense to be with your laptop. During my conversation some PMOers find it alarming to realize
they are drug addicts and think it will make it even more difficult to stop. In fact, it is all good news
for two important reasons:&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;The reason why most of us carry on masturbating to internet porn is because, although we
know the disadvantages outweigh the advantages, we believe that there is something in the
porn that we actually enjoy or that it is some sort of prop. We feel that after we stop PMOing
there will be a void, that certain situations in our life will never be quite the same. This is an
illusion. The fact is the masturbation and especially PMO gives nothing; it only takes away
and then partially restores to create the illusion. I will explain this in more detail in a later
chapter.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Although internet porn is the most powerful trigger for ‘novelty’ and ‘sex’ based dopamine
‘flooding’ - because of the speed with which you become hooked, you are never badly
hooked. The actual withdrawal pangs are so mild that most PMOers have lived and died
without ever realizing that they have suffered them.
You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through
months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the
second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to
cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc.
The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your
laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious
client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn&amp;rsquo;t
bother the PMOers.
The Smokers Analogy
A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a
cigarette they&amp;rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain
from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to
smoke doesn&amp;rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased
for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.
PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their parents while
visiting for family get togethers etc. with little discomfort to themselves. In fact, most PMOers have
extended periods during which they abstain without effort. Even in my case I would quite happily
go a week or so without a PMO incident. In the later years as a PMOer I actually used to look
forward to these days when I could stop choking my penis (what a ridiculous &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;).
The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still
addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just
as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;
but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water
slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood.
The Big Monster - The Brainwashing
You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong
willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options.
Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.
Not all the amateurs are ‘amateurs’ on these tube sites, oversized body parts and overcharged
scenarios are the norm, aided by a bit of the ‘viagran’ help.
As I say, the actual porn addiction is not the main problem. It just acts as a catalyst to keep our
minds confused over the real problem: the brainwashing. It may be of consolation to lifelong and
heavy PMOers to know that it is just as easy for them to stop as casual PMOers. In a peculiar way.
it is easier. The further you go along with the &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;, the more it drags you down and the greater the
gain when you stop.
It may be of further consolation for you to know that the rumours that occasionally circulate
that the neural pathways created are there for life, and so at the right (or wrong) time and with
strong stimuli you will be sliding again down the ‘water slide’ of internet porn and masturbation to
permanently destroy your real life sex are untrue.
Do not think the bad effects of internet porn are exaggerated. If anything, they are sadly
understated but the truth is there are different levels of dependency on PMO and masturbation in
general. However, these bodies of ours are incredible machines and have enormous powers of
recovery. If you stop now, your body and brain will recover within a matter of a few weeks.
As I have said, it is never too late to stop. You can see many who have stopped not only porn
but masturbation as well. Naturally with any obstacles that humans face some have even taken this
addiction recovery to the next level in learning about differentiating amative and propagative sides
of sex. They have not only rebooted their sex lives but have made their partner happier than before
as well.
The further it drags you down, the greater the relief. When I finally stopped I went straight to
ZERO, and didn&amp;rsquo;t have one bad pang. In fact, it was actually enjoyable, even during the withdrawal
period. But we must remove the brainwashing about internet porn regardless of your status as single
or partnered and also of masturbation.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
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<title>03-05 Why Do We Carry on With PMO</title>
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<description>&lt;p&gt;We all start PMOing for many reasons, usually social pressures or our biological curiosity, but once we feel we are becoming hooked, why do we carry on using porn? No regular PMOer knows why he or she looks at porn. If PMOers knew the true reason, they would stop doing it. The true answer is the same for all PMOers but the variety of replies is infinite, I find this part of the consultation the most amusing and at the same time the most pathetic.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;All PMOers know in their heart of hearts that they are fools. They know that they had no need to use porn or internet porn before they became hooked. Most of them can remember that their first ‘peek’ was a mix of revulsion and novel curiosity. They then filter out and get “skilled” at “locating” and “bookmarking” the right porn sites. They know that they had to work hard in order to become hooked.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The most annoying part is that they sense that non-addicts - most women, older guys, people living in countries where hi-speed internet porn is not available “on tap” - are not missing anything and that they are laughing at them.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;However, PMOers are intelligent, rational human beings. They know that they are taking enormous future risks and so they spend a lot of time rationalizing their ‘habit’. The actual reason why PMOers continue is a subtle combination of the factors that I will elaborate in the next two chapters. They are:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;INTERNET PORN&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;BRAINWASHING&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
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<title>03-04 The Sinister Trap</title>
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<description>&lt;p&gt;Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it&amp;rsquo;s an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It is the only trap in nature which has does not require a lot of hard work to set up. The thing that springs the trap is not that all porn clips feature young, high quality, sexy models; it’s that most of the thumbnails on any porn web page are ugly looking, unattractive, amateurish, home-made clips of unknown models. If the first timer’s first look at a tube page was only filled with angelic beauties, professional models and high quality then the alarm bells would ring. And as intelligent human beings, we could then understand why half the adult population was systematically addicted to watching something that is cutting down their very same potential to do what they are viewing. In many known and yet unknown ways porn cuts down sexual performance and the feeling of satisfaction.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;But because that first “peek” has “stains and holes,” a mishmash of low quality clips of not-so-hot models, our young minds are reassured that we will never become hooked, and we think that because we are not enjoying them we can stop whenever we want to. It is the only drug in nature that prevents you from achieving your aim. Our curiosity brings us to its door steps. You dare not even click on all of the thumbnails because some of them will make you feel sick and throw up! If you were to accidentally click on an “I-did-not-see-that” clip - all you want to do is get away from the site and close your laptop.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;With women, the aim is to be the sophisticated modern young lady. We have all seen them acting up and looking absolutely ridiculous. By the time the boys have learnt to look tough and the girls have learnt to look sophisticated, they wish they had never started in the first place. I wonder whether women ever look sophisticated when they discuss the top 10 porn sites, or whether this is a figment of our imaginations created by internet porn companies.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;We then spend the rest of our lives trying to explain to ourselves why we do it, telling our children not to get caught and, at odd times, trying to escape ourselves. The trap is so designed that we try to stop only when we have an “incident” that touch us to the quick of the flesh, whether it be in the bed, loss of a career or relationship, shortage of drive or just plain being made to feel like a leper. As soon as we stop, we have more stress (the fearful withdrawal pangs of brain chemicals) and the thing that we rely on to relieve stress (our old prop, porn and PMO) we now must do without. Internet porn is powerful imagery at high speed making it a high fructose corn syrup&amp;hellip; sorry, high density supernormal stimulant.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;After a few days of torture we decide that we have picked the wrong time to quit. We must wait for a period without stress, and as soon as that arrives the reason for stopping vanishes. Of course, that period will never arrive because, in the first place, we think that our lives tend to become more and more stressful. As we leave the protection of our parents the natural process is jobs, setting up home, mortgages, babies, more responsible jobs, a bigger house, more babies etc. etc. This is also an illusion.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The truth is that the most stressful periods for any creature are early childhood and adolescence. We tend to confuse responsibility with stress. A PMOer’s life - like a drug addict - automatically becomes more stressful because PMO does not relax you or relieve stress, as some try to make you believe. Just the reverse: it actually causes you to become more nervous and stressed. Internet porn is as fake in its promises for pleasure and crutch as its actors are. If you had never learned any life skills to cope the stress and strains of day to day life you are not going to get any better with this fake and disgusting crutch. Worse you are going to add more bales of straw on the old camel’s back.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Even those users who kick the habit (most do, one or more times during their lives) can lead perfectly happy lives yet suddenly become hooked again. The whole business of PMO is like wandering into a giant maze. As soon as we enter the maze our minds become misted and clouded, and we spend the rest of our lives trying to escape. Many of us eventually do, only to find that we get trapped again at a later date. I spent thirty-three years trying to escape from that maze. Like all PMOers, I couldn&amp;rsquo;t understand it. However, due to a combination of unusual circumstances, none of which reflect any credit on me, I wanted to know why previously it had been so desperately difficult to stop and yet, when I finally did, it was not only easy but enjoyable.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Since stopping PMO my hobby has been to resolve the many conundrums associated with porn. It is a complex and fascinating puzzle and - like a Rubik&amp;rsquo;s Cube - practically impossible to solve. However, like all complicated puzzles, if you know the solution, it is easy! I have the solution to stopping porn easily. I will lead you out of the maze and ensure that you never wander into it again. All you have to do is follow the instructions. If you take a wrong turn, the rest of the instructions will be pointless. Let me emphasize that anybody can find it easy to stop but first we need to establish the facts. No, I do not mean the scare facts. I know you are already aware of them. There is already enough information on the evils of PMO. If that was going to stop you, you would already have stopped. I mean, why do we find it difficult to stop? In order to answer this question we need to know the real reason why we are still doing PMO.&lt;/p&gt;
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<title>03-03 Why Is It Difficult to Stop?</title>
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<description>&lt;p&gt;As I explained earlier, I got interested in this subject because of my own addiction. When I finally stopped it was like magic. When I had previously tried to stop there were weeks of black depression. There would be odd days when I was comparatively cheerful but the next day back with the depression. It was like clawing your way out of a slippery pit, you feel you are near the top, you see the sunshine and then find yourself sliding down again. Eventually you open your browser and as you masturbate you feel awful and you try to work out why you have to do it.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;One of the questions I always ask online is: “do you want to stop PMO?” In a way it is a stupid question. All users (including members who dispute total abstinence) would love to stop PMO. If you ask to the most confirmed PMOer: “if you could go back to the time before you became hooked, with the knowledge you have now, would you have started PMO?”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;“NO WAY,” would be the reply.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Say to the confirmed PMOer - someone who defends internet porn and who doesn&amp;rsquo;t think that it cause injury to the brain (PIED, hypofrontality or the decreases in the dopamine receptors and etc.) - “do you encourage your children to use PMO?”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;“NO WAY,” is again the reply.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;All PMOers feel that something evil has got possession of them. In the early days it is a question of, “I am going to stop, not today but tomorrow.” Eventually we get to the stage where we think either that we haven&amp;rsquo;t got the willpower or that there is something inherent in the whole PMO that we must have in order to enjoy life.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;As I said previously, the problem is not explaining why it is easy to stop; it is explaining why it is difficult. In fact, the real problem is explaining scientifically why anybody does it even after getting the insights on the neurological damages of addictions not limited to porn.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The whole business of porn is an extraordinary enigma. One of the reasons we get on to it is because of the thousands of people are already into it, about 35% of the population approximately. Yet every one of them wishes he or she had not started in the first place, telling us that life is like driving in second gear. We cannot quite believe they are not enjoying it. We associate it with freedom or being “sex-educated” and work hard to become hooked ourselves. We then spend the rest of our lives telling others not to do it and trying to kick the habit ourselves.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;We also spend the rest of our lives feeling hopeless and miserable. Time spent on porn can accumulate to a large percentage of our life in this planet! What do we do with that amount of time spent? We ‘educate’ ourselves with supranormal&lt;sup id=&#34;fnref:1&#34;&gt;&lt;a href=&#34;#fn:1&#34; class=&#34;footnote-ref&#34; role=&#34;doc-noteref&#34;&gt;1&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/sup&gt; ‘material’ that makes us stupidly prefer and childishly long for these cold images - even when warm real ones are available. By the constant surge and drop of dopamine induced by PMO, we sentence ourselves to a lifetime of irritability, anger, frustration, stress, fatigue&lt;sup id=&#34;fnref:2&#34;&gt;&lt;a href=&#34;#fn:2&#34; class=&#34;footnote-ref&#34; role=&#34;doc-noteref&#34;&gt;2&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/sup&gt;, PIED, hypofrontality etc. In short, it is a lifetime of slavery. It is logically and intuitively clear that amative sex (physical touch, feel, voice etc.) is the best part of sex and is even better (if Karezza&lt;sup id=&#34;fnref:3&#34;&gt;&lt;a href=&#34;#fn:3&#34; class=&#34;footnote-ref&#34; role=&#34;doc-noteref&#34;&gt;3&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/sup&gt; is practised, although not necessary for the current purposes) than the propagative (orgasm) part, except when children are desired. So, when we use porn in the absence of the best part of sex we feel miserable and guilty.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;In fact, all the reading about internet pornography&amp;rsquo;s addictive capabilities and it’s destructive effects here and in other online sites makes us even more nervous and hopeless. When we are trying to cut down or stop, we end up feeling deprived. We wish we didn&amp;rsquo;t have to. What sort of hobby is it that when you are doing it you wish you weren&amp;rsquo;t, and when you are not doing it you crave for it ? A lifetime of an otherwise intelligent, rational human being going through life in contempt.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The PMOer despises himself, every time he has an unreliable erection, a fading penetration, reading about PIED and other stuff on the YBOP forum, every time he could not pull himself up to exercise after a daytime PMO, every PMO behind his or her trustfully asleep partner’s back, every time he sees his tired face and lifeless eyes in the restroom mirror.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Having to go through life with these awful black shadows at the back of his mind, what does he get out of it? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! Pleasure? Enjoyment? Relaxation? A prop? A boost? All illusions, unless you consider the wearing of tight shoes to enjoy the removal of them as some sort of pleasure!&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The real problem is trying to explain not only why PMOers find it difficult to stop but why anybody does it at all after knowing about brain neuroplasticity. You are probably thinking: “That&amp;rsquo;s all very well. I know this, but once you are hooked on these things it is very difficult to stop.” But why is it so difficult, and why do we have to do it? Addicts of PMO search for the answer to these questions all of their lives. Some say it is because of the powerful withdrawal symptoms. In fact, the actual withdrawal symptoms from porn are so mild (see Chapter 6) that PMOers should know about smokers who have lived and died without ever realizing they are drug addicts.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Some say internet porn is free and hence humankind should claim this biological bonanza. It is NOT. It is addictive and acts like any other drug. Ask a PMOer who swears that he only enjoys safe playboy type erotica and that he could always restrict himself only to this soft genre ? If he is absolutely honest - he would tell you about the many times when he had unwittingly crossed the line. Otherwise good PMOers would rather use ‘unsafe’ hardcore stuff, rationalizing it, than left with nothing at all.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Enjoyment has nothing to do with it. I enjoy lobster but I never got to the stage where I had to have lobsters everyday and multiple times like they are hanging round my neck. With other things in life we enjoy them whilst we are doing them but we don&amp;rsquo;t sit feeling deprived when we are not. Some search for deep psychological reasons, the “Freudian Syndrome,” or “the child at the mother&amp;rsquo;s breast.” Really it is just the reverse.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The ‘usual’ reason why we start PMO is to show we are grown up and mature. Some think it is the reverse, the macho effect of “doing what boys do” or in some cases, “let me show I am a tomboy girl,” to rattle my conservative family. Again, this argument has no substance. Internet porn provides easy escalation (outrageous and shocking clips just a click away), desensitization (same clips don’t do it any more) and all this within the high reward no risk settings. The science fiction story lines, the fake “amateurs,” the “real life” clips etc. should make any average PMOer discover pretty soon that it is all an illusion. What a PMOer should also understand is that after eating at restaurants every day the home food will never appeal your taste buds at all. Yes, the food is free and is tasty - but does it nourish you ?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Some say:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
&lt;li&gt;“It is educational!” So, when is your graduation?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;“It is a sexual satisfaction.” So, why do it alone? Find a partner and save it for her or him?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;“It is the feeling of release.” A release from the stresses of real life? Porn is going to remove the cause of the stress? OK, good luck. You just added more to it.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Many believe PMO relieves boredom. This is also a fallacy. Boredom is a frame of mind. Porn will induce you to “novelty” seeking in no time. Causing you to be eventually more bored unless and until you participate in the “wild goose chase” all night long for the “right hit” producing clip. There is nothing interesting about supranormal stimulus such as internet porn, it fires up dopamine whose only job is to seek clips that evoke strong emotions, interesting novelty and outrageous shock value.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;For thirty years my reason was that it relaxed me, gave me confidence and courage. I also knew it was draining me and costing me virility. Why didn&amp;rsquo;t I go to a therapist or find an another way to relax me and give me courage and confidence? I didn&amp;rsquo;t go because I knew he would suggest an alternative. It wasn&amp;rsquo;t my reason; it was my excuse.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Some say they only do it because their friends and every one they know do it. Are you really that stupid? If so, just pray that your friends do not start cutting their heads off to cure a headache! Most users who think about it eventually come to the conclusion that it is just a habit. This is not really an explanation but having discounted all the usual rational explanations, it appears to be the only remaining excuse. Unfortunately, this explanation is equally illogical. Every day of our lives we change habits and some of them are very enjoyable. We have been brainwashed to believe that PMO is a habit and that habits are difficult to break. Are habits really difficult to break?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;In the US we are in the habit of driving on the right side of the road. Yet when we drive in the UK we immediately break that habit with hardly any aggravation whatsoever. It is clearly a fallacy that habits are hard to break. The fact is that we make and break habits every day of our lives. So why do we find it difficult to break a habit that makes us deprived when we don’t have it yet guilty when we do and that we would love to break anyway, when all we have to do is to stop doing it?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The answer is that PMO is not habit: IT IS ADDICTION! That is why it appears to be so difficult to “give up.” Perhaps you feel this explanation explains why it is difficult to “give up?” It does explain why most PMOers find it difficult to “give up.” That is because they do not understand addiction. The main reason is that PMOers are convinced that they get some genuine pleasure and/or crutch from porn and believe that they are making a genuine sacrifice if they quit.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The beautiful truth is that once you understand porn addiction and the true reasons why you PMO, you will stop doing it just like that - and within three weeks the only mystery will be why you found it necessary to PMO as long as you have, and why you cannot persuade other PMOers &lt;strong&gt;HOW NICE IT IS TO BE A NON-PMOer&lt;/strong&gt;!&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;div class=&#34;footnotes&#34; role=&#34;doc-endnotes&#34;&gt;
&lt;hr&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li id=&#34;fn:1&#34;&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Supranormal&lt;/strong&gt; - a phrase coined by Nikolaas Tinbergen. Studies show that our brains prefer brighter, larger, colourful
etc. versions of what we like.&amp;#160;&lt;a href=&#34;#fnref:1&#34; class=&#34;footnote-backref&#34; role=&#34;doc-backlink&#34;&gt;&amp;#x21a9;&amp;#xfe0e;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li id=&#34;fn:2&#34;&gt;
&lt;p&gt;When dopamine receptors are de-activated in response to frequent and extended dopamine surges even normal de-
stressing chemicals are not absorbed by our brains.&amp;#160;&lt;a href=&#34;#fnref:2&#34; class=&#34;footnote-backref&#34; role=&#34;doc-backlink&#34;&gt;&amp;#x21a9;&amp;#xfe0e;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li id=&#34;fn:3&#34;&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Karezza&lt;/strong&gt; - is the practice of amative sex that puts no pressure on orgasms as occurs in propagative sex. It relieves the
man and woman from performance based anxieties.&amp;#160;&lt;a href=&#34;#fnref:3&#34; class=&#34;footnote-backref&#34; role=&#34;doc-backlink&#34;&gt;&amp;#x21a9;&amp;#xfe0e;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/li&gt;
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<title>03-02 the Easy Method</title>
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<pubDate>Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:26:34 +0200</pubDate>
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<description>&lt;p&gt;The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Provided that you are not a non-PMOer (who had never got addicted) or an ex-PMOer (who had quit or is in the fasting days of the porn-diet), it is essential to not quit until you have finished the book completely. This may appear to be a contradiction. Later I shall be explaining that porn do absolutely nothing for you at all. In fact, one of the many conundrums about internet porn is that when we are actually masturbating to a porn clip, we look at it and wonder why we are doing it. It is only when we have been deprived that the craving for PMO becomes precious.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;However, let us accept that, whether you like it or not, you believe you are hooked. When you believe you are hooked, you can never be completely relaxed or concentrate properly unless you are using PMO. So do not attempt to stop PMO before you have finished the whole book. This instruction to continue to masturbate using porn until you have completed the book has caused me more frustration than any other. As you read further your desire to masturbate to porn will gradually be reduced. Do not go off half-cocked; this could be fatal. Remember, all you have to do is to follow the instructions in the right order. When I first started writing on forums many of the readers also stopped purely because I had done it. They thought, “if he can do it, anybody can.”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Over the years, I managed to persuade the ones that hadn&amp;rsquo;t stopped to realize just how nice it is to be free! I gave my hackbook for free upon request. I worked on the basis that, even if it were the most boring book ever written, they would still read it, if only because it had been written by an ex-PMOer. I was surprised and hurt to learn that,they hadn&amp;rsquo;t bothered to finish the book.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I was hurt at the time but I had overlooked the dreadful fear that this slavery to the “dopamine surge” instils in the addict. I now realize that many PMOers don&amp;rsquo;t finish the book because they feel they have got to give up something that is their pleasure and crutch when they quit. Some deliberately read only one line a day in order to postpone the evil day. Look at it this way: what have you got to lose? If you don&amp;rsquo;t stop at the end of the book, you are no worse off than you are now. YOU HAVE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO LOSE AND SO MUCH TO GAIN! AND SO MUCH MORE TO AVOID !!! A Pascal’s Wage&lt;sup id=&#34;fnref:1&#34;&gt;&lt;a href=&#34;#fn:1&#34; class=&#34;footnote-ref&#34; role=&#34;doc-noteref&#34;&gt;1&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/sup&gt;?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Incidentally, if you have not PMOed for a few days or weeks but are not sure whether you are a PMOer, an ex-PMOer or a non-PMOer, then don&amp;rsquo;t use porn to masturbate while you read. In fact, you are already a non-PMOer. All we&amp;rsquo;ve now got to do is to let your brain catch up with your body. By the end of the book you&amp;rsquo;ll be a happy non-PMOer.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Basically this method is the complete opposite of the normal method of trying to stop. The normal method is to list the considerable disadvantages of PMO and say, “if only I can go long enough without porn, eventually the desire to masturbate to porn will go. I can then enjoy life again, free of slavery to the tube.” This is the logical way to go about it, and thousands of PMOer are stopping every day using variations of this method. However, it is very difficult to succeed using this method for the following reasons:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Stopping PMO is not the real problem. Every time you finish your ‘deed’ you stop using it. You may have powerful reasons on day one of your once-in-four porn diet to say, “I do not want to PMO or even masturbate any more” - all PMOers have, every day of their lives, and the reasons are more powerful than you can possibly imagine. The real problem is day two, day ten or day ten thousand, when in a weak moment, an inebriated moment or even a strong moment you have one ‘peek’ and because it is partly akin to drug addiction you then want another, and suddenly you are a masturbator again.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;The health scares should stop us. Our rational minds say: “Stop doing it. You are a fool,” but in fact they make it harder. We masturbate, for example, when we are nervous. Tell PMOers that it is destroying their virility, and the first thing they will do is to find something to rush their dopamine - a cigarette, alcohol or even fire up the browser and search for porn.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;All reasons for stopping actually make it harder for two other reasons. First, they create a SOS sense of sacrifice. We are always being forced to give up our little friend or prop or vice or pleasure, whichever way the PMOer sees it. Secondly, they create a &amp;lsquo;blind&amp;rsquo;. We do not masturbate for the reasons we should stop. The real question is: why do we want or need to do it?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The EasyPeasy Method is basically this: initially to forget the reasons we&amp;rsquo;d like to stop, to face the problem and to ask ourselves the following questions:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;What is it doing for me?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Do I actually enjoy it?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Do I really need to go through life using free internet porn or even paying through the nose just to sabotage my mind and body?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The beautiful truth is that porn – streaming, static or whatever - does absolutely nothing for you at all. Let me make it quite clear; I do not mean that the disadvantages of being a PMOer outweigh the advantages. All PMOers know from the many published studies about high speed internet porn addiction, forum messages, blog articles in YBOP and similar sites. I mean there are not any advantages from internet porn. The only advantage it ever had was the ‘educational’ aspect and guess what, nowadays the kind of education that it is offering is highly disputable for their contribution to real life intimacy. Most PMOers find it necessary to rationalize why they PMO but the reasons they come up are all fallacies and illusions.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The first thing we are going to do is to remove these fallacies and illusions. In fact, you will realize that there is nothing to give up. Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous, positive gains from being a non-PMOer and well being and happiness are only two of these gains. Once the illusion that life will never be quite as enjoyable without porn is removed, once you realize that not only is life just as enjoyable without it but infinitely more so, once the feeling of being deprived or of missing out are eradicated, then we can go back to reconsider the health and happiness - and the dozens of other reasons for stopping. These realizations will become positive additional aids to help you achieve what you really desire to enjoy the whole of your life free from the slavery of the porn habit.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;div class=&#34;footnotes&#34; role=&#34;doc-endnotes&#34;&gt;
&lt;hr&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li id=&#34;fn:1&#34;&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Pascal’s Wager is a bet you take when you have nothing or less to lose for a higher chances of large gains and avoiding losses in the future&amp;#160;&lt;a href=&#34;#fnref:1&#34; class=&#34;footnote-backref&#34; role=&#34;doc-backlink&#34;&gt;&amp;#x21a9;&amp;#xfe0e;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/li&gt;
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<title>03-06 Internet Porn</title>
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<description>&lt;p&gt;Erotic novelty of the internet porn is a mental ‘drug’ and internet porn beats anything that is known to mankind and its streaming straight to your home for free ! We are not even talking VR virtual reality here. Porn triggers the ‘flooding’ of dopamine in our brain. Dopamine amps up the brain reward circuitry to produce experiences and feels of cravings and pleasure by locking themselves into ‘receptors’. More dopamine more wanting. Less dopamine no wanting. New experiences, tasty food - more dopamine - more wanting. Sex and sex related stuff gives the biggest injection of dopamine in the reward circuits. Dopamine is not the final pleasure stuff, if it were you would feel happy when you are done with it, but it is only a brain chemical that encourages seeking and action in you. The real pleasure is produced by opioids. More dopamine more opioids more
action more happy feelings.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. All of which will now be stored as a script in your brain for easy access next time. I call this a ‘water slide’. Next time at the cue - a sexy commercial or alone time or stress or feeling a little down - you are ready to take a ride on the ‘water slide’. One more thing is that every time to repeat this you are ‘greasing’ it
as well - so it is active, alive and more easier to slide the next time.
As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will
be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but
this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation
feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating.
Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish,
ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you
won’t on your first time.
My Own Online Harem!
This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn
magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of
the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the
cost.
Going back to the earlier discussion - in this cycle as you crossed the ‘red line’ you also
trigger emotions such as guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety and fear - which in turn raise
dopamine levels as well. Now the brain may mistakenly associate feelings of anxiety and fear as
sexual arousal. This perpetual cycle is only broken by natural causes - fortunately sooner or later.
With its free access and privacy it provides boundless harem-like novelty. The dopamine can be
theoretically kept very high for a very very long time. I can be satisfied with one lobster once in
awhile. But Internet porn is different. It is even worse than drugs. Don’t let me make you nervous. I
will shortly show you how to be free from this slavery.
Now our human body has a self-correcting system by which the number of dopamine and
opioid receptors are cut short when frequent and daily ‘flooding’ of dopamine is detected.
Unfortunately - these receptors are also needed for receiving dopamine and to keep us even and
balanced to handle the inevitable and normal day-to-day stresses. But this natural nominal amount
of dopamine will not be absorbed efficiently with decreased receptors and you will feel more
stressed and irritated than normal. &amp;ldquo;For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Kahlil Gibran.
A fleeting feeling of security is all that is needed to get through a rough spot in life - but will
your brain be able to catch that drop of de-stressor that a non-PMOers’ brain is able to catch and
use?
This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I
must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think
that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop
PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I
will explain more about this later.
The Little Monster
The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died
without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&amp;rsquo; we think we
just &amp;lsquo;got into the habit&amp;rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&amp;rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug
addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted.
There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the
feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it
is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is
like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.
Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, resulting
in the feeling of fulfilment and pleasure that the action gives to the PMOer. In the early days, when
we first start PMOing, the withdrawal pangs and their relief are so slight that we are not even aware
that they exist. When we begin to masturbate regularly to internet porn we think it is because we&amp;rsquo;ve
either come to enjoy them or got into the &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;. The truth is we&amp;rsquo;re already hooked; we do not
realize it, but that little monster is already inside our stomach and every now and again we have to
feed it.
All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why
anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster.
The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO
know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the
most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the
pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had
before he became hooked in the first place.
The Annoying Burglar Alarm
You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has
been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous
feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the
aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our
brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the
dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We
are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do
not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate
the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we
became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the
craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain
goes on. It is a chain for life - UNLESS YOU BREAK IT.
The whole business of PMO is like wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure you feel
when you take them off. There are three main reasons why PMOers cannot see things that way:&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;From birth we have been subjected to massive brainwashing telling us that internet porn is
simply just another modern development that replaced the print version of porn. Why should
we not believe them when it hides behind the truth that masturbation is not bad? (However, I
won’t recommend you take up masturbation). Why else would they waste all that time and
energy and take such horrendous risks?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Because the physical withdrawal from dopamine injection involves no actual pain but is
merely an empty, insecure feeling, inseparable from hunger or normal stress and because
those are the very times that we tend to seek internet porn. We tend to regard the feeling as
normal.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;However the main reason that PMOers fail to see internet porn in its true light is because it
works back to front. It&amp;rsquo;s when you are not masturbating to it that you suffer that empty
feeling. Because the process of getting hooked is very subtle and gradual in the early days,
we regard that empty feeling as normal and don&amp;rsquo;t blame it on the previous PMO session. The
moment you fire up the browser and reach a tube site, you get an almost immediate boost or
buzz and do actually feel less nervous or more relaxed and internet porn gets the credit.
It is this &amp;lsquo;back to front&amp;rsquo; reverse process that makes all drugs difficult to kick. Picture the panic
state of a heroin addict who has no heroin. Now picture the utter joy when that addict can finally
plunge a needle into his vein. Can you visualize someone actually getting pleasure by injecting
themselves, or does the mere thought fill you with horror? Non-heroin addicts don&amp;rsquo;t suffer that panic
feeling.
The heroin doesn&amp;rsquo;t relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a 14 year old in
2008 - didn&amp;rsquo;t suffer the empty feeling of needing internet porn or start to panic when they are off-
line. Non-PMOers cannot understand how PMOers can possibly obtain pleasure from two
dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. And do you know
something? PMOers themselves cannot understand why they do it after some time either.
We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied
unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don&amp;rsquo;t non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied
state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers
completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their &amp;rsquo;little monster&amp;rsquo;?
A Pleasure or Crutch?
Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it
difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is
absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to
understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of
eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed
are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure
feeling which we know as: &amp;lsquo;I need to eat.&amp;rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasant
pastime.
PMOing appears to be almost identical. The empty, insecure feeling which we know as:
&amp;lsquo;wanting or needing an PMO orgasm’ is identical to a hunger for food, although one will not satisfy
the other. Like hunger, there is no physical pain and the feeling is so imperceptible that we are not
even aware of it between PMO sessions. It&amp;rsquo;s only if we want to masturbate and aren&amp;rsquo;t able to reach
internet for porn that we become aware of any discomfort. But when we do PMO we feel satisfied.
It is this similarity to eating which helps to fool PMOers into believing that they receive some
genuine pleasure. Some PMOers find it very difficult to grasp that there is no pleasure or crutch,
whatsoever to PMO. Some argue: “How can you say there is no crutch? When I orgasm up then I&amp;rsquo;ll
feel less nervous than before.”
Although eating and PMOing appear to be very similar. In fact they are exact opposites:&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;You eat to survive and to energize your life, whereas PMOing dims your mojo and cuts
down your energy.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Food does genuinely taste good, and eating is a genuinely pleasant experience that we can
enjoy throughout our lives, whereas PMOing involves self-sabotaging the happiness
receptors and thus destroying your chances to cope and to feel happy.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Eating doesn&amp;rsquo;t create hunger and genuinely relieves it, whereas the first PMO starts the
craving for dopamine and each subsequent one, far from relieving it, ensures that you suffer
it for the rest of life.
PMO is a Habit?
This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is
eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be
the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different
people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food.
But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is
to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is
true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different
times, but PMO itself is not a habit.
On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience,
I also refer to the &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no
more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to
learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’ * - we have to then have more bizarre
and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting&amp;hellip; not in the killing. If we don&amp;rsquo;t then panic sets
in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of
higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too
in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving
others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great!&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Escalation - a practice that is the result of our brain’s novelty and curiosity seeking to
get more dopamine in our reward circuitry.
Crossing The Red Line
This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of
the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of
watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO
session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking
you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn
paradise.
You feel better than you did before starting this PMO session but you are in fact more nervous
and less relaxed than you would be as a non-PMOer, like someone who is living in Loma Linda or
in an Amish village, even though you are actually PMOing and living in your supposed “porn
paradise.” This position is even more ridiculous than wearing tight shoes because as you go through
life an increasing amount of the discomfort remains even when the shoes are removed.
Once the orgasm is achieved, the dopamine rapidly begins to leave the brain, causing a mood
dip. Which explains why the PMOer wants to ‘edge’* and switch through multiple browser
windows as they seek and search. As I said, the ‘habit’ doesn&amp;rsquo;t exist. The real reason why every user
goes on using internet porn is because of that little porn monster inside his stomach. Every now and
again he has to feed it. The PMOer himself will decide when he does that and it tends to be on four
types of occasion or a combination of them.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Edge - to stay longer in pre-orgasm stage. To delay orgasm.
These occasions are:
• BOREDOM/CONCENTRATION - two complete opposites!
• STRESS/RELAXATION - two complete opposites!
What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If you think
about it, what other types of occasion are there in our lives; apart from sleep? The truth is that PMO
neither relieves boredom and stress nor promotes concentration and relaxation. It is all just illusion.
Apart from being a drug, PMO is also a destroyer of happiness and virility.
In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and
such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes,
print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’
and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the
most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive
without knowing the difference between food and poison.
Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics
Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have
developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and
bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more
shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the
outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we
will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red
line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural
and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and
balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there
are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!
When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were titillating but most
were disgusting, causing you to avert your eyes away. Like you would if had accidentally glanced a
feeding mother’s breast. And some of us are even revolted with what they saw when the star
reminded them of someone dear to their heart or a scene which recalled their own instance of being
the victim. Some don’t feel like it to browse and masturbate at the same time. It may be hard to
believe for you but the non-PMOs, who don’t PMO after their first time, are the lucky ones. They
actually decided that it was not their cup of tea. It must be hard for you to believe but stay with me.
How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the
social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even
after a hard day? Why not ? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after
your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That&amp;rsquo;s all.
Are PMOers Mentally Weak?
It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The
lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or,
alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting
the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical
enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.
To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to become
hooked, and this is why it is difficult to stop teenagers. Because they are skilled in seeking and
finding material, they know online privacy options and can clean their tracks - if they still feel some
stigma and they (wrongfully) believe they can stop whenever they want to. Why do they not learn
from us? Then again, why did we not learn from our PMOers and addicts?
Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually
doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of
‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting
themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying
is the ritual of relieving those pangs.
The High From The Dance Around The Red Line
Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to
filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the
body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an
excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes
even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.
Ask a user who believes that he sticks to a certain actor or genre - only because he likes
something about the star or the theme (if any) of the clip: “If you cannot get your normal brand of
porn and can only obtain a poor or unsafe brand, do you stop masturbating?” No way. A PMOer will
masturbate to anything rather than abstain and it doesn&amp;rsquo;t matter if he has to switch to escalating
themes, different sex-orientation-themes, look-alike actresses, dangerous settings shocking
relationships etc. To begin with they taste awful but if you persevere you will learn to like them.
Most PMOers will also try to seek masturbation even after having real sex (unfulfilment, porn-
induced unrealistic expectations etc.), or after a long, stressful work day, fever, colds, flu, sore
throats and even when admitted in hospitals.
Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wanted then it makes
no sense to be with your laptop. During my conversation some PMOers find it alarming to realize
they are drug addicts and think it will make it even more difficult to stop. In fact, it is all good news
for two important reasons:&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;The reason why most of us carry on masturbating to internet porn is because, although we
know the disadvantages outweigh the advantages, we believe that there is something in the
porn that we actually enjoy or that it is some sort of prop. We feel that after we stop PMOing
there will be a void, that certain situations in our life will never be quite the same. This is an
illusion. The fact is the masturbation and especially PMO gives nothing; it only takes away
and then partially restores to create the illusion. I will explain this in more detail in a later
chapter.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Although internet porn is the most powerful trigger for ‘novelty’ and ‘sex’ based dopamine
‘flooding’ - because of the speed with which you become hooked, you are never badly
hooked. The actual withdrawal pangs are so mild that most PMOers have lived and died
without ever realizing that they have suffered them.
You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through
months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the
second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to
cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc.
The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your
laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious
client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn&amp;rsquo;t
bother the PMOers.
The Smokers Analogy
A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a
cigarette they&amp;rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain
from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to
smoke doesn&amp;rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased
for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.
PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their parents while
visiting for family get togethers etc. with little discomfort to themselves. In fact, most PMOers have
extended periods during which they abstain without effort. Even in my case I would quite happily
go a week or so without a PMO incident. In the later years as a PMOer I actually used to look
forward to these days when I could stop choking my penis (what a ridiculous &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;).
The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still
addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just
as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;
but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water
slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood.
The Big Monster - The Brainwashing
You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong
willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options.
Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.
Not all the amateurs are ‘amateurs’ on these tube sites, oversized body parts and overcharged
scenarios are the norm, aided by a bit of the ‘viagran’ help.
As I say, the actual porn addiction is not the main problem. It just acts as a catalyst to keep our
minds confused over the real problem: the brainwashing. It may be of consolation to lifelong and
heavy PMOers to know that it is just as easy for them to stop as casual PMOers. In a peculiar way.
it is easier. The further you go along with the &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;, the more it drags you down and the greater the
gain when you stop.
It may be of further consolation for you to know that the rumours that occasionally circulate
that the neural pathways created are there for life, and so at the right (or wrong) time and with
strong stimuli you will be sliding again down the ‘water slide’ of internet porn and masturbation to
permanently destroy your real life sex are untrue.
Do not think the bad effects of internet porn are exaggerated. If anything, they are sadly
understated but the truth is there are different levels of dependency on PMO and masturbation in
general. However, these bodies of ours are incredible machines and have enormous powers of
recovery. If you stop now, your body and brain will recover within a matter of a few weeks.
As I have said, it is never too late to stop. You can see many who have stopped not only porn
but masturbation as well. Naturally with any obstacles that humans face some have even taken this
addiction recovery to the next level in learning about differentiating amative and propagative sides
of sex. They have not only rebooted their sex lives but have made their partner happier than before
as well.
The further it drags you down, the greater the relief. When I finally stopped I went straight to
ZERO, and didn&amp;rsquo;t have one bad pang. In fact, it was actually enjoyable, even during the withdrawal
period. But we must remove the brainwashing about internet porn regardless of your status as single
or partnered and also of masturbation.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
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<title>03-05 Why Do We Carry on With PMO</title>
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<description>&lt;p&gt;We all start PMOing for many reasons, usually social pressures or our biological curiosity, but once we feel we are becoming hooked, why do we carry on using porn? No regular PMOer knows why he or she looks at porn. If PMOers knew the true reason, they would stop doing it. The true answer is the same for all PMOers but the variety of replies is infinite, I find this part of the consultation the most amusing and at the same time the most pathetic.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;All PMOers know in their heart of hearts that they are fools. They know that they had no need to use porn or internet porn before they became hooked. Most of them can remember that their first ‘peek’ was a mix of revulsion and novel curiosity. They then filter out and get “skilled” at “locating” and “bookmarking” the right porn sites. They know that they had to work hard in order to become hooked.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The most annoying part is that they sense that non-addicts - most women, older guys, people living in countries where hi-speed internet porn is not available “on tap” - are not missing anything and that they are laughing at them.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;However, PMOers are intelligent, rational human beings. They know that they are taking enormous future risks and so they spend a lot of time rationalizing their ‘habit’. The actual reason why PMOers continue is a subtle combination of the factors that I will elaborate in the next two chapters. They are:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;INTERNET PORN&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;BRAINWASHING&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
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<title>03-04 The Sinister Trap</title>
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<description>&lt;p&gt;Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it&amp;rsquo;s an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It is the only trap in nature which has does not require a lot of hard work to set up. The thing that springs the trap is not that all porn clips feature young, high quality, sexy models; it’s that most of the thumbnails on any porn web page are ugly looking, unattractive, amateurish, home-made clips of unknown models. If the first timer’s first look at a tube page was only filled with angelic beauties, professional models and high quality then the alarm bells would ring. And as intelligent human beings, we could then understand why half the adult population was systematically addicted to watching something that is cutting down their very same potential to do what they are viewing. In many known and yet unknown ways porn cuts down sexual performance and the feeling of satisfaction.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;But because that first “peek” has “stains and holes,” a mishmash of low quality clips of not-so-hot models, our young minds are reassured that we will never become hooked, and we think that because we are not enjoying them we can stop whenever we want to. It is the only drug in nature that prevents you from achieving your aim. Our curiosity brings us to its door steps. You dare not even click on all of the thumbnails because some of them will make you feel sick and throw up! If you were to accidentally click on an “I-did-not-see-that” clip - all you want to do is get away from the site and close your laptop.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;With women, the aim is to be the sophisticated modern young lady. We have all seen them acting up and looking absolutely ridiculous. By the time the boys have learnt to look tough and the girls have learnt to look sophisticated, they wish they had never started in the first place. I wonder whether women ever look sophisticated when they discuss the top 10 porn sites, or whether this is a figment of our imaginations created by internet porn companies.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;We then spend the rest of our lives trying to explain to ourselves why we do it, telling our children not to get caught and, at odd times, trying to escape ourselves. The trap is so designed that we try to stop only when we have an “incident” that touch us to the quick of the flesh, whether it be in the bed, loss of a career or relationship, shortage of drive or just plain being made to feel like a leper. As soon as we stop, we have more stress (the fearful withdrawal pangs of brain chemicals) and the thing that we rely on to relieve stress (our old prop, porn and PMO) we now must do without. Internet porn is powerful imagery at high speed making it a high fructose corn syrup&amp;hellip; sorry, high density supernormal stimulant.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;After a few days of torture we decide that we have picked the wrong time to quit. We must wait for a period without stress, and as soon as that arrives the reason for stopping vanishes. Of course, that period will never arrive because, in the first place, we think that our lives tend to become more and more stressful. As we leave the protection of our parents the natural process is jobs, setting up home, mortgages, babies, more responsible jobs, a bigger house, more babies etc. etc. This is also an illusion.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The truth is that the most stressful periods for any creature are early childhood and adolescence. We tend to confuse responsibility with stress. A PMOer’s life - like a drug addict - automatically becomes more stressful because PMO does not relax you or relieve stress, as some try to make you believe. Just the reverse: it actually causes you to become more nervous and stressed. Internet porn is as fake in its promises for pleasure and crutch as its actors are. If you had never learned any life skills to cope the stress and strains of day to day life you are not going to get any better with this fake and disgusting crutch. Worse you are going to add more bales of straw on the old camel’s back.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Even those users who kick the habit (most do, one or more times during their lives) can lead perfectly happy lives yet suddenly become hooked again. The whole business of PMO is like wandering into a giant maze. As soon as we enter the maze our minds become misted and clouded, and we spend the rest of our lives trying to escape. Many of us eventually do, only to find that we get trapped again at a later date. I spent thirty-three years trying to escape from that maze. Like all PMOers, I couldn&amp;rsquo;t understand it. However, due to a combination of unusual circumstances, none of which reflect any credit on me, I wanted to know why previously it had been so desperately difficult to stop and yet, when I finally did, it was not only easy but enjoyable.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Since stopping PMO my hobby has been to resolve the many conundrums associated with porn. It is a complex and fascinating puzzle and - like a Rubik&amp;rsquo;s Cube - practically impossible to solve. However, like all complicated puzzles, if you know the solution, it is easy! I have the solution to stopping porn easily. I will lead you out of the maze and ensure that you never wander into it again. All you have to do is follow the instructions. If you take a wrong turn, the rest of the instructions will be pointless. Let me emphasize that anybody can find it easy to stop but first we need to establish the facts. No, I do not mean the scare facts. I know you are already aware of them. There is already enough information on the evils of PMO. If that was going to stop you, you would already have stopped. I mean, why do we find it difficult to stop? In order to answer this question we need to know the real reason why we are still doing PMO.&lt;/p&gt;
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<title>03-03 Why Is It Difficult to Stop?</title>
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<description>&lt;p&gt;As I explained earlier, I got interested in this subject because of my own addiction. When I finally stopped it was like magic. When I had previously tried to stop there were weeks of black depression. There would be odd days when I was comparatively cheerful but the next day back with the depression. It was like clawing your way out of a slippery pit, you feel you are near the top, you see the sunshine and then find yourself sliding down again. Eventually you open your browser and as you masturbate you feel awful and you try to work out why you have to do it.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;One of the questions I always ask online is: “do you want to stop PMO?” In a way it is a stupid question. All users (including members who dispute total abstinence) would love to stop PMO. If you ask to the most confirmed PMOer: “if you could go back to the time before you became hooked, with the knowledge you have now, would you have started PMO?”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;“NO WAY,” would be the reply.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Say to the confirmed PMOer - someone who defends internet porn and who doesn&amp;rsquo;t think that it cause injury to the brain (PIED, hypofrontality or the decreases in the dopamine receptors and etc.) - “do you encourage your children to use PMO?”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;“NO WAY,” is again the reply.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;All PMOers feel that something evil has got possession of them. In the early days it is a question of, “I am going to stop, not today but tomorrow.” Eventually we get to the stage where we think either that we haven&amp;rsquo;t got the willpower or that there is something inherent in the whole PMO that we must have in order to enjoy life.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;As I said previously, the problem is not explaining why it is easy to stop; it is explaining why it is difficult. In fact, the real problem is explaining scientifically why anybody does it even after getting the insights on the neurological damages of addictions not limited to porn.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The whole business of porn is an extraordinary enigma. One of the reasons we get on to it is because of the thousands of people are already into it, about 35% of the population approximately. Yet every one of them wishes he or she had not started in the first place, telling us that life is like driving in second gear. We cannot quite believe they are not enjoying it. We associate it with freedom or being “sex-educated” and work hard to become hooked ourselves. We then spend the rest of our lives telling others not to do it and trying to kick the habit ourselves.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;We also spend the rest of our lives feeling hopeless and miserable. Time spent on porn can accumulate to a large percentage of our life in this planet! What do we do with that amount of time spent? We ‘educate’ ourselves with supranormal&lt;sup id=&#34;fnref:1&#34;&gt;&lt;a href=&#34;#fn:1&#34; class=&#34;footnote-ref&#34; role=&#34;doc-noteref&#34;&gt;1&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/sup&gt; ‘material’ that makes us stupidly prefer and childishly long for these cold images - even when warm real ones are available. By the constant surge and drop of dopamine induced by PMO, we sentence ourselves to a lifetime of irritability, anger, frustration, stress, fatigue&lt;sup id=&#34;fnref:2&#34;&gt;&lt;a href=&#34;#fn:2&#34; class=&#34;footnote-ref&#34; role=&#34;doc-noteref&#34;&gt;2&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/sup&gt;, PIED, hypofrontality etc. In short, it is a lifetime of slavery. It is logically and intuitively clear that amative sex (physical touch, feel, voice etc.) is the best part of sex and is even better (if Karezza&lt;sup id=&#34;fnref:3&#34;&gt;&lt;a href=&#34;#fn:3&#34; class=&#34;footnote-ref&#34; role=&#34;doc-noteref&#34;&gt;3&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/sup&gt; is practised, although not necessary for the current purposes) than the propagative (orgasm) part, except when children are desired. So, when we use porn in the absence of the best part of sex we feel miserable and guilty.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;In fact, all the reading about internet pornography&amp;rsquo;s addictive capabilities and it’s destructive effects here and in other online sites makes us even more nervous and hopeless. When we are trying to cut down or stop, we end up feeling deprived. We wish we didn&amp;rsquo;t have to. What sort of hobby is it that when you are doing it you wish you weren&amp;rsquo;t, and when you are not doing it you crave for it ? A lifetime of an otherwise intelligent, rational human being going through life in contempt.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The PMOer despises himself, every time he has an unreliable erection, a fading penetration, reading about PIED and other stuff on the YBOP forum, every time he could not pull himself up to exercise after a daytime PMO, every PMO behind his or her trustfully asleep partner’s back, every time he sees his tired face and lifeless eyes in the restroom mirror.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Having to go through life with these awful black shadows at the back of his mind, what does he get out of it? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! Pleasure? Enjoyment? Relaxation? A prop? A boost? All illusions, unless you consider the wearing of tight shoes to enjoy the removal of them as some sort of pleasure!&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The real problem is trying to explain not only why PMOers find it difficult to stop but why anybody does it at all after knowing about brain neuroplasticity. You are probably thinking: “That&amp;rsquo;s all very well. I know this, but once you are hooked on these things it is very difficult to stop.” But why is it so difficult, and why do we have to do it? Addicts of PMO search for the answer to these questions all of their lives. Some say it is because of the powerful withdrawal symptoms. In fact, the actual withdrawal symptoms from porn are so mild (see Chapter 6) that PMOers should know about smokers who have lived and died without ever realizing they are drug addicts.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Some say internet porn is free and hence humankind should claim this biological bonanza. It is NOT. It is addictive and acts like any other drug. Ask a PMOer who swears that he only enjoys safe playboy type erotica and that he could always restrict himself only to this soft genre ? If he is absolutely honest - he would tell you about the many times when he had unwittingly crossed the line. Otherwise good PMOers would rather use ‘unsafe’ hardcore stuff, rationalizing it, than left with nothing at all.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Enjoyment has nothing to do with it. I enjoy lobster but I never got to the stage where I had to have lobsters everyday and multiple times like they are hanging round my neck. With other things in life we enjoy them whilst we are doing them but we don&amp;rsquo;t sit feeling deprived when we are not. Some search for deep psychological reasons, the “Freudian Syndrome,” or “the child at the mother&amp;rsquo;s breast.” Really it is just the reverse.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The ‘usual’ reason why we start PMO is to show we are grown up and mature. Some think it is the reverse, the macho effect of “doing what boys do” or in some cases, “let me show I am a tomboy girl,” to rattle my conservative family. Again, this argument has no substance. Internet porn provides easy escalation (outrageous and shocking clips just a click away), desensitization (same clips don’t do it any more) and all this within the high reward no risk settings. The science fiction story lines, the fake “amateurs,” the “real life” clips etc. should make any average PMOer discover pretty soon that it is all an illusion. What a PMOer should also understand is that after eating at restaurants every day the home food will never appeal your taste buds at all. Yes, the food is free and is tasty - but does it nourish you ?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Some say:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
&lt;li&gt;“It is educational!” So, when is your graduation?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;“It is a sexual satisfaction.” So, why do it alone? Find a partner and save it for her or him?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;“It is the feeling of release.” A release from the stresses of real life? Porn is going to remove the cause of the stress? OK, good luck. You just added more to it.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Many believe PMO relieves boredom. This is also a fallacy. Boredom is a frame of mind. Porn will induce you to “novelty” seeking in no time. Causing you to be eventually more bored unless and until you participate in the “wild goose chase” all night long for the “right hit” producing clip. There is nothing interesting about supranormal stimulus such as internet porn, it fires up dopamine whose only job is to seek clips that evoke strong emotions, interesting novelty and outrageous shock value.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;For thirty years my reason was that it relaxed me, gave me confidence and courage. I also knew it was draining me and costing me virility. Why didn&amp;rsquo;t I go to a therapist or find an another way to relax me and give me courage and confidence? I didn&amp;rsquo;t go because I knew he would suggest an alternative. It wasn&amp;rsquo;t my reason; it was my excuse.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Some say they only do it because their friends and every one they know do it. Are you really that stupid? If so, just pray that your friends do not start cutting their heads off to cure a headache! Most users who think about it eventually come to the conclusion that it is just a habit. This is not really an explanation but having discounted all the usual rational explanations, it appears to be the only remaining excuse. Unfortunately, this explanation is equally illogical. Every day of our lives we change habits and some of them are very enjoyable. We have been brainwashed to believe that PMO is a habit and that habits are difficult to break. Are habits really difficult to break?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;In the US we are in the habit of driving on the right side of the road. Yet when we drive in the UK we immediately break that habit with hardly any aggravation whatsoever. It is clearly a fallacy that habits are hard to break. The fact is that we make and break habits every day of our lives. So why do we find it difficult to break a habit that makes us deprived when we don’t have it yet guilty when we do and that we would love to break anyway, when all we have to do is to stop doing it?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The answer is that PMO is not habit: IT IS ADDICTION! That is why it appears to be so difficult to “give up.” Perhaps you feel this explanation explains why it is difficult to “give up?” It does explain why most PMOers find it difficult to “give up.” That is because they do not understand addiction. The main reason is that PMOers are convinced that they get some genuine pleasure and/or crutch from porn and believe that they are making a genuine sacrifice if they quit.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The beautiful truth is that once you understand porn addiction and the true reasons why you PMO, you will stop doing it just like that - and within three weeks the only mystery will be why you found it necessary to PMO as long as you have, and why you cannot persuade other PMOers &lt;strong&gt;HOW NICE IT IS TO BE A NON-PMOer&lt;/strong&gt;!&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;hr&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li id=&#34;fn:1&#34;&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Supranormal&lt;/strong&gt; - a phrase coined by Nikolaas Tinbergen. Studies show that our brains prefer brighter, larger, colourful
etc. versions of what we like.&amp;#160;&lt;a href=&#34;#fnref:1&#34; class=&#34;footnote-backref&#34; role=&#34;doc-backlink&#34;&gt;&amp;#x21a9;&amp;#xfe0e;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li id=&#34;fn:2&#34;&gt;
&lt;p&gt;When dopamine receptors are de-activated in response to frequent and extended dopamine surges even normal de-
stressing chemicals are not absorbed by our brains.&amp;#160;&lt;a href=&#34;#fnref:2&#34; class=&#34;footnote-backref&#34; role=&#34;doc-backlink&#34;&gt;&amp;#x21a9;&amp;#xfe0e;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li id=&#34;fn:3&#34;&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Karezza&lt;/strong&gt; - is the practice of amative sex that puts no pressure on orgasms as occurs in propagative sex. It relieves the
man and woman from performance based anxieties.&amp;#160;&lt;a href=&#34;#fnref:3&#34; class=&#34;footnote-backref&#34; role=&#34;doc-backlink&#34;&gt;&amp;#x21a9;&amp;#xfe0e;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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<description>&lt;p&gt;The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Provided that you are not a non-PMOer (who had never got addicted) or an ex-PMOer (who had quit or is in the fasting days of the porn-diet), it is essential to not quit until you have finished the book completely. This may appear to be a contradiction. Later I shall be explaining that porn do absolutely nothing for you at all. In fact, one of the many conundrums about internet porn is that when we are actually masturbating to a porn clip, we look at it and wonder why we are doing it. It is only when we have been deprived that the craving for PMO becomes precious.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;However, let us accept that, whether you like it or not, you believe you are hooked. When you believe you are hooked, you can never be completely relaxed or concentrate properly unless you are using PMO. So do not attempt to stop PMO before you have finished the whole book. This instruction to continue to masturbate using porn until you have completed the book has caused me more frustration than any other. As you read further your desire to masturbate to porn will gradually be reduced. Do not go off half-cocked; this could be fatal. Remember, all you have to do is to follow the instructions in the right order. When I first started writing on forums many of the readers also stopped purely because I had done it. They thought, “if he can do it, anybody can.”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Over the years, I managed to persuade the ones that hadn&amp;rsquo;t stopped to realize just how nice it is to be free! I gave my hackbook for free upon request. I worked on the basis that, even if it were the most boring book ever written, they would still read it, if only because it had been written by an ex-PMOer. I was surprised and hurt to learn that,they hadn&amp;rsquo;t bothered to finish the book.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I was hurt at the time but I had overlooked the dreadful fear that this slavery to the “dopamine surge” instils in the addict. I now realize that many PMOers don&amp;rsquo;t finish the book because they feel they have got to give up something that is their pleasure and crutch when they quit. Some deliberately read only one line a day in order to postpone the evil day. Look at it this way: what have you got to lose? If you don&amp;rsquo;t stop at the end of the book, you are no worse off than you are now. YOU HAVE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO LOSE AND SO MUCH TO GAIN! AND SO MUCH MORE TO AVOID !!! A Pascal’s Wage&lt;sup id=&#34;fnref:1&#34;&gt;&lt;a href=&#34;#fn:1&#34; class=&#34;footnote-ref&#34; role=&#34;doc-noteref&#34;&gt;1&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/sup&gt;?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Incidentally, if you have not PMOed for a few days or weeks but are not sure whether you are a PMOer, an ex-PMOer or a non-PMOer, then don&amp;rsquo;t use porn to masturbate while you read. In fact, you are already a non-PMOer. All we&amp;rsquo;ve now got to do is to let your brain catch up with your body. By the end of the book you&amp;rsquo;ll be a happy non-PMOer.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Basically this method is the complete opposite of the normal method of trying to stop. The normal method is to list the considerable disadvantages of PMO and say, “if only I can go long enough without porn, eventually the desire to masturbate to porn will go. I can then enjoy life again, free of slavery to the tube.” This is the logical way to go about it, and thousands of PMOer are stopping every day using variations of this method. However, it is very difficult to succeed using this method for the following reasons:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Stopping PMO is not the real problem. Every time you finish your ‘deed’ you stop using it. You may have powerful reasons on day one of your once-in-four porn diet to say, “I do not want to PMO or even masturbate any more” - all PMOers have, every day of their lives, and the reasons are more powerful than you can possibly imagine. The real problem is day two, day ten or day ten thousand, when in a weak moment, an inebriated moment or even a strong moment you have one ‘peek’ and because it is partly akin to drug addiction you then want another, and suddenly you are a masturbator again.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;The health scares should stop us. Our rational minds say: “Stop doing it. You are a fool,” but in fact they make it harder. We masturbate, for example, when we are nervous. Tell PMOers that it is destroying their virility, and the first thing they will do is to find something to rush their dopamine - a cigarette, alcohol or even fire up the browser and search for porn.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;All reasons for stopping actually make it harder for two other reasons. First, they create a SOS sense of sacrifice. We are always being forced to give up our little friend or prop or vice or pleasure, whichever way the PMOer sees it. Secondly, they create a &amp;lsquo;blind&amp;rsquo;. We do not masturbate for the reasons we should stop. The real question is: why do we want or need to do it?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The EasyPeasy Method is basically this: initially to forget the reasons we&amp;rsquo;d like to stop, to face the problem and to ask ourselves the following questions:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;What is it doing for me?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Do I actually enjoy it?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Do I really need to go through life using free internet porn or even paying through the nose just to sabotage my mind and body?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The beautiful truth is that porn – streaming, static or whatever - does absolutely nothing for you at all. Let me make it quite clear; I do not mean that the disadvantages of being a PMOer outweigh the advantages. All PMOers know from the many published studies about high speed internet porn addiction, forum messages, blog articles in YBOP and similar sites. I mean there are not any advantages from internet porn. The only advantage it ever had was the ‘educational’ aspect and guess what, nowadays the kind of education that it is offering is highly disputable for their contribution to real life intimacy. Most PMOers find it necessary to rationalize why they PMO but the reasons they come up are all fallacies and illusions.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The first thing we are going to do is to remove these fallacies and illusions. In fact, you will realize that there is nothing to give up. Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous, positive gains from being a non-PMOer and well being and happiness are only two of these gains. Once the illusion that life will never be quite as enjoyable without porn is removed, once you realize that not only is life just as enjoyable without it but infinitely more so, once the feeling of being deprived or of missing out are eradicated, then we can go back to reconsider the health and happiness - and the dozens of other reasons for stopping. These realizations will become positive additional aids to help you achieve what you really desire to enjoy the whole of your life free from the slavery of the porn habit.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;div class=&#34;footnotes&#34; role=&#34;doc-endnotes&#34;&gt;
&lt;hr&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li id=&#34;fn:1&#34;&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Pascal’s Wager is a bet you take when you have nothing or less to lose for a higher chances of large gains and avoiding losses in the future&amp;#160;&lt;a href=&#34;#fnref:1&#34; class=&#34;footnote-backref&#34; role=&#34;doc-backlink&#34;&gt;&amp;#x21a9;&amp;#xfe0e;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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<p>The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy.</p>
<p>Provided that you are not a non-PMOer (who had never got addicted) or an ex-PMOer (who had quit or is in the fasting days of the porn-diet), it is essential to not quit until you have finished the book completely. This may appear to be a contradiction. Later I shall be explaining that porn do absolutely nothing for you at all. In fact, one of the many conundrums about internet porn is that when we are actually masturbating to a porn clip, we look at it and wonder why we are doing it. It is only when we have been deprived that the craving for PMO becomes precious.</p>
<p>However, let us accept that, whether you like it or not, you believe you are hooked. When you believe you are hooked, you can never be completely relaxed or concentrate properly unless you are using PMO. So do not attempt to stop PMO before you have finished the whole book. This instruction to continue to masturbate using porn until you have completed the book has caused me more frustration than any other. As you read further your desire to masturbate to porn will gradually be reduced. Do not go off half-cocked; this could be fatal. Remember, all you have to do is to follow the instructions in the right order. When I first started writing on forums many of the readers also stopped purely because I had done it. They thought, “if he can do it, anybody can.”</p>
<p>Over the years, I managed to persuade the ones that hadn&rsquo;t stopped to realize just how nice it is to be free! I gave my hackbook for free upon request. I worked on the basis that, even if it were the most boring book ever written, they would still read it, if only because it had been written by an ex-PMOer. I was surprised and hurt to learn that,they hadn&rsquo;t bothered to finish the book.</p>
<p>I was hurt at the time but I had overlooked the dreadful fear that this slavery to the “dopamine surge” instils in the addict. I now realize that many PMOers don&rsquo;t finish the book because they feel they have got to give up something that is their pleasure and crutch when they quit. Some deliberately read only one line a day in order to postpone the evil day. Look at it this way: what have you got to lose? If you don&rsquo;t stop at the end of the book, you are no worse off than you are now. YOU HAVE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO LOSE AND SO MUCH TO GAIN! AND SO MUCH MORE TO AVOID !!! A Pascal’s Wage<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>?</p>
<p>Incidentally, if you have not PMOed for a few days or weeks but are not sure whether you are a PMOer, an ex-PMOer or a non-PMOer, then don&rsquo;t use porn to masturbate while you read. In fact, you are already a non-PMOer. All we&rsquo;ve now got to do is to let your brain catch up with your body. By the end of the book you&rsquo;ll be a happy non-PMOer.</p>
<p>Basically this method is the complete opposite of the normal method of trying to stop. The normal method is to list the considerable disadvantages of PMO and say, “if only I can go long enough without porn, eventually the desire to masturbate to porn will go. I can then enjoy life again, free of slavery to the tube.” This is the logical way to go about it, and thousands of PMOer are stopping every day using variations of this method. However, it is very difficult to succeed using this method for the following reasons:</p>
<ol>
<li>Stopping PMO is not the real problem. Every time you finish your ‘deed’ you stop using it. You may have powerful reasons on day one of your once-in-four porn diet to say, “I do not want to PMO or even masturbate any more” - all PMOers have, every day of their lives, and the reasons are more powerful than you can possibly imagine. The real problem is day two, day ten or day ten thousand, when in a weak moment, an inebriated moment or even a strong moment you have one ‘peek’ and because it is partly akin to drug addiction you then want another, and suddenly you are a masturbator again.</li>
<li>The health scares should stop us. Our rational minds say: “Stop doing it. You are a fool,” but in fact they make it harder. We masturbate, for example, when we are nervous. Tell PMOers that it is destroying their virility, and the first thing they will do is to find something to rush their dopamine - a cigarette, alcohol or even fire up the browser and search for porn.</li>
<li>All reasons for stopping actually make it harder for two other reasons. First, they create a SOS sense of sacrifice. We are always being forced to give up our little friend or prop or vice or pleasure, whichever way the PMOer sees it. Secondly, they create a &lsquo;blind&rsquo;. We do not masturbate for the reasons we should stop. The real question is: why do we want or need to do it?</li>
</ol>
<p>The EasyPeasy Method is basically this: initially to forget the reasons we&rsquo;d like to stop, to face the problem and to ask ourselves the following questions:</p>
<ol>
<li>What is it doing for me?</li>
<li>Do I actually enjoy it?</li>
<li>Do I really need to go through life using free internet porn or even paying through the nose just to sabotage my mind and body?</li>
</ol>
<p>The beautiful truth is that porn – streaming, static or whatever - does absolutely nothing for you at all. Let me make it quite clear; I do not mean that the disadvantages of being a PMOer outweigh the advantages. All PMOers know from the many published studies about high speed internet porn addiction, forum messages, blog articles in YBOP and similar sites. I mean there are not any advantages from internet porn. The only advantage it ever had was the ‘educational’ aspect and guess what, nowadays the kind of education that it is offering is highly disputable for their contribution to real life intimacy. Most PMOers find it necessary to rationalize why they PMO but the reasons they come up are all fallacies and illusions.</p>
<p>The first thing we are going to do is to remove these fallacies and illusions. In fact, you will realize that there is nothing to give up. Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous, positive gains from being a non-PMOer and well being and happiness are only two of these gains. Once the illusion that life will never be quite as enjoyable without porn is removed, once you realize that not only is life just as enjoyable without it but infinitely more so, once the feeling of being deprived or of missing out are eradicated, then we can go back to reconsider the health and happiness - and the dozens of other reasons for stopping. These realizations will become positive additional aids to help you achieve what you really desire to enjoy the whole of your life free from the slavery of the porn habit.</p>
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<p>As I explained earlier, I got interested in this subject because of my own addiction. When I finally stopped it was like magic. When I had previously tried to stop there were weeks of black depression. There would be odd days when I was comparatively cheerful but the next day back with the depression. It was like clawing your way out of a slippery pit, you feel you are near the top, you see the sunshine and then find yourself sliding down again. Eventually you open your browser and as you masturbate you feel awful and you try to work out why you have to do it.</p>
<p>One of the questions I always ask online is: “do you want to stop PMO?” In a way it is a stupid question. All users (including members who dispute total abstinence) would love to stop PMO. If you ask to the most confirmed PMOer: “if you could go back to the time before you became hooked, with the knowledge you have now, would you have started PMO?”</p>
<p>“NO WAY,” would be the reply.</p>
<p>Say to the confirmed PMOer - someone who defends internet porn and who doesn&rsquo;t think that it cause injury to the brain (PIED, hypofrontality or the decreases in the dopamine receptors and etc.) - “do you encourage your children to use PMO?”</p>
<p>“NO WAY,” is again the reply.</p>
<p>All PMOers feel that something evil has got possession of them. In the early days it is a question of, “I am going to stop, not today but tomorrow.” Eventually we get to the stage where we think either that we haven&rsquo;t got the willpower or that there is something inherent in the whole PMO that we must have in order to enjoy life.</p>
<p>As I said previously, the problem is not explaining why it is easy to stop; it is explaining why it is difficult. In fact, the real problem is explaining scientifically why anybody does it even after getting the insights on the neurological damages of addictions not limited to porn.</p>
<p>The whole business of porn is an extraordinary enigma. One of the reasons we get on to it is because of the thousands of people are already into it, about 35% of the population approximately. Yet every one of them wishes he or she had not started in the first place, telling us that life is like driving in second gear. We cannot quite believe they are not enjoying it. We associate it with freedom or being “sex-educated” and work hard to become hooked ourselves. We then spend the rest of our lives telling others not to do it and trying to kick the habit ourselves.</p>
<p>We also spend the rest of our lives feeling hopeless and miserable. Time spent on porn can accumulate to a large percentage of our life in this planet! What do we do with that amount of time spent? We ‘educate’ ourselves with supranormal<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> ‘material’ that makes us stupidly prefer and childishly long for these cold images - even when warm real ones are available. By the constant surge and drop of dopamine induced by PMO, we sentence ourselves to a lifetime of irritability, anger, frustration, stress, fatigue<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup>, PIED, hypofrontality etc. In short, it is a lifetime of slavery. It is logically and intuitively clear that amative sex (physical touch, feel, voice etc.) is the best part of sex and is even better (if Karezza<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup> is practised, although not necessary for the current purposes) than the propagative (orgasm) part, except when children are desired. So, when we use porn in the absence of the best part of sex we feel miserable and guilty.</p>
<p>In fact, all the reading about internet pornography&rsquo;s addictive capabilities and it’s destructive effects here and in other online sites makes us even more nervous and hopeless. When we are trying to cut down or stop, we end up feeling deprived. We wish we didn&rsquo;t have to. What sort of hobby is it that when you are doing it you wish you weren&rsquo;t, and when you are not doing it you crave for it ? A lifetime of an otherwise intelligent, rational human being going through life in contempt.</p>
<p>The PMOer despises himself, every time he has an unreliable erection, a fading penetration, reading about PIED and other stuff on the YBOP forum, every time he could not pull himself up to exercise after a daytime PMO, every PMO behind his or her trustfully asleep partner’s back, every time he sees his tired face and lifeless eyes in the restroom mirror.</p>
<p>Having to go through life with these awful black shadows at the back of his mind, what does he get out of it? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! Pleasure? Enjoyment? Relaxation? A prop? A boost? All illusions, unless you consider the wearing of tight shoes to enjoy the removal of them as some sort of pleasure!</p>
<p>The real problem is trying to explain not only why PMOers find it difficult to stop but why anybody does it at all after knowing about brain neuroplasticity. You are probably thinking: “That&rsquo;s all very well. I know this, but once you are hooked on these things it is very difficult to stop.” But why is it so difficult, and why do we have to do it? Addicts of PMO search for the answer to these questions all of their lives. Some say it is because of the powerful withdrawal symptoms. In fact, the actual withdrawal symptoms from porn are so mild (see Chapter 6) that PMOers should know about smokers who have lived and died without ever realizing they are drug addicts.</p>
<p>Some say internet porn is free and hence humankind should claim this biological bonanza. It is NOT. It is addictive and acts like any other drug. Ask a PMOer who swears that he only enjoys safe playboy type erotica and that he could always restrict himself only to this soft genre ? If he is absolutely honest - he would tell you about the many times when he had unwittingly crossed the line. Otherwise good PMOers would rather use ‘unsafe’ hardcore stuff, rationalizing it, than left with nothing at all.</p>
<p>Enjoyment has nothing to do with it. I enjoy lobster but I never got to the stage where I had to have lobsters everyday and multiple times like they are hanging round my neck. With other things in life we enjoy them whilst we are doing them but we don&rsquo;t sit feeling deprived when we are not. Some search for deep psychological reasons, the “Freudian Syndrome,” or “the child at the mother&rsquo;s breast.” Really it is just the reverse.</p>
<p>The ‘usual’ reason why we start PMO is to show we are grown up and mature. Some think it is the reverse, the macho effect of “doing what boys do” or in some cases, “let me show I am a tomboy girl,” to rattle my conservative family. Again, this argument has no substance. Internet porn provides easy escalation (outrageous and shocking clips just a click away), desensitization (same clips don’t do it any more) and all this within the high reward no risk settings. The science fiction story lines, the fake “amateurs,” the “real life” clips etc. should make any average PMOer discover pretty soon that it is all an illusion. What a PMOer should also understand is that after eating at restaurants every day the home food will never appeal your taste buds at all. Yes, the food is free and is tasty - but does it nourish you ?</p>
<p>Some say:</p>
<ul>
<li>“It is educational!” So, when is your graduation?</li>
<li>“It is a sexual satisfaction.” So, why do it alone? Find a partner and save it for her or him?</li>
<li>“It is the feeling of release.” A release from the stresses of real life? Porn is going to remove the cause of the stress? OK, good luck. You just added more to it.</li>
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<p>Many believe PMO relieves boredom. This is also a fallacy. Boredom is a frame of mind. Porn will induce you to “novelty” seeking in no time. Causing you to be eventually more bored unless and until you participate in the “wild goose chase” all night long for the “right hit” producing clip. There is nothing interesting about supranormal stimulus such as internet porn, it fires up dopamine whose only job is to seek clips that evoke strong emotions, interesting novelty and outrageous shock value.</p>
<p>For thirty years my reason was that it relaxed me, gave me confidence and courage. I also knew it was draining me and costing me virility. Why didn&rsquo;t I go to a therapist or find an another way to relax me and give me courage and confidence? I didn&rsquo;t go because I knew he would suggest an alternative. It wasn&rsquo;t my reason; it was my excuse.</p>
<p>Some say they only do it because their friends and every one they know do it. Are you really that stupid? If so, just pray that your friends do not start cutting their heads off to cure a headache! Most users who think about it eventually come to the conclusion that it is just a habit. This is not really an explanation but having discounted all the usual rational explanations, it appears to be the only remaining excuse. Unfortunately, this explanation is equally illogical. Every day of our lives we change habits and some of them are very enjoyable. We have been brainwashed to believe that PMO is a habit and that habits are difficult to break. Are habits really difficult to break?</p>
<p>In the US we are in the habit of driving on the right side of the road. Yet when we drive in the UK we immediately break that habit with hardly any aggravation whatsoever. It is clearly a fallacy that habits are hard to break. The fact is that we make and break habits every day of our lives. So why do we find it difficult to break a habit that makes us deprived when we don’t have it yet guilty when we do and that we would love to break anyway, when all we have to do is to stop doing it?</p>
<p>The answer is that PMO is not habit: IT IS ADDICTION! That is why it appears to be so difficult to “give up.” Perhaps you feel this explanation explains why it is difficult to “give up?” It does explain why most PMOers find it difficult to “give up.” That is because they do not understand addiction. The main reason is that PMOers are convinced that they get some genuine pleasure and/or crutch from porn and believe that they are making a genuine sacrifice if they quit.</p>
<p>The beautiful truth is that once you understand porn addiction and the true reasons why you PMO, you will stop doing it just like that - and within three weeks the only mystery will be why you found it necessary to PMO as long as you have, and why you cannot persuade other PMOers <strong>HOW NICE IT IS TO BE A NON-PMOer</strong>!</p>
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<p><strong>Supranormal</strong> - a phrase coined by Nikolaas Tinbergen. Studies show that our brains prefer brighter, larger, colourful
etc. versions of what we like.&#160;<a href="#fnref:1" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p>
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<li id="fn:2">
<p>When dopamine receptors are de-activated in response to frequent and extended dopamine surges even normal de-
stressing chemicals are not absorbed by our brains.&#160;<a href="#fnref:2" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p>
</li>
<li id="fn:3">
<p><strong>Karezza</strong> - is the practice of amative sex that puts no pressure on orgasms as occurs in propagative sex. It relieves the
man and woman from performance based anxieties.&#160;<a href="#fnref:3" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p>
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<p>Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it&rsquo;s an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked.</p>
<p>It is the only trap in nature which has does not require a lot of hard work to set up. The thing that springs the trap is not that all porn clips feature young, high quality, sexy models; it’s that most of the thumbnails on any porn web page are ugly looking, unattractive, amateurish, home-made clips of unknown models. If the first timer’s first look at a tube page was only filled with angelic beauties, professional models and high quality then the alarm bells would ring. And as intelligent human beings, we could then understand why half the adult population was systematically addicted to watching something that is cutting down their very same potential to do what they are viewing. In many known and yet unknown ways porn cuts down sexual performance and the feeling of satisfaction.</p>
<p>But because that first “peek” has “stains and holes,” a mishmash of low quality clips of not-so-hot models, our young minds are reassured that we will never become hooked, and we think that because we are not enjoying them we can stop whenever we want to. It is the only drug in nature that prevents you from achieving your aim. Our curiosity brings us to its door steps. You dare not even click on all of the thumbnails because some of them will make you feel sick and throw up! If you were to accidentally click on an “I-did-not-see-that” clip - all you want to do is get away from the site and close your laptop.</p>
<p>With women, the aim is to be the sophisticated modern young lady. We have all seen them acting up and looking absolutely ridiculous. By the time the boys have learnt to look tough and the girls have learnt to look sophisticated, they wish they had never started in the first place. I wonder whether women ever look sophisticated when they discuss the top 10 porn sites, or whether this is a figment of our imaginations created by internet porn companies.</p>
<p>We then spend the rest of our lives trying to explain to ourselves why we do it, telling our children not to get caught and, at odd times, trying to escape ourselves. The trap is so designed that we try to stop only when we have an “incident” that touch us to the quick of the flesh, whether it be in the bed, loss of a career or relationship, shortage of drive or just plain being made to feel like a leper. As soon as we stop, we have more stress (the fearful withdrawal pangs of brain chemicals) and the thing that we rely on to relieve stress (our old prop, porn and PMO) we now must do without. Internet porn is powerful imagery at high speed making it a high fructose corn syrup&hellip; sorry, high density supernormal stimulant.</p>
<p>After a few days of torture we decide that we have picked the wrong time to quit. We must wait for a period without stress, and as soon as that arrives the reason for stopping vanishes. Of course, that period will never arrive because, in the first place, we think that our lives tend to become more and more stressful. As we leave the protection of our parents the natural process is jobs, setting up home, mortgages, babies, more responsible jobs, a bigger house, more babies etc. etc. This is also an illusion.</p>
<p>The truth is that the most stressful periods for any creature are early childhood and adolescence. We tend to confuse responsibility with stress. A PMOer’s life - like a drug addict - automatically becomes more stressful because PMO does not relax you or relieve stress, as some try to make you believe. Just the reverse: it actually causes you to become more nervous and stressed. Internet porn is as fake in its promises for pleasure and crutch as its actors are. If you had never learned any life skills to cope the stress and strains of day to day life you are not going to get any better with this fake and disgusting crutch. Worse you are going to add more bales of straw on the old camel’s back.</p>
<p>Even those users who kick the habit (most do, one or more times during their lives) can lead perfectly happy lives yet suddenly become hooked again. The whole business of PMO is like wandering into a giant maze. As soon as we enter the maze our minds become misted and clouded, and we spend the rest of our lives trying to escape. Many of us eventually do, only to find that we get trapped again at a later date. I spent thirty-three years trying to escape from that maze. Like all PMOers, I couldn&rsquo;t understand it. However, due to a combination of unusual circumstances, none of which reflect any credit on me, I wanted to know why previously it had been so desperately difficult to stop and yet, when I finally did, it was not only easy but enjoyable.</p>
<p>Since stopping PMO my hobby has been to resolve the many conundrums associated with porn. It is a complex and fascinating puzzle and - like a Rubik&rsquo;s Cube - practically impossible to solve. However, like all complicated puzzles, if you know the solution, it is easy! I have the solution to stopping porn easily. I will lead you out of the maze and ensure that you never wander into it again. All you have to do is follow the instructions. If you take a wrong turn, the rest of the instructions will be pointless. Let me emphasize that anybody can find it easy to stop but first we need to establish the facts. No, I do not mean the scare facts. I know you are already aware of them. There is already enough information on the evils of PMO. If that was going to stop you, you would already have stopped. I mean, why do we find it difficult to stop? In order to answer this question we need to know the real reason why we are still doing PMO.</p>
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<p>We all start PMOing for many reasons, usually social pressures or our biological curiosity, but once we feel we are becoming hooked, why do we carry on using porn? No regular PMOer knows why he or she looks at porn. If PMOers knew the true reason, they would stop doing it. The true answer is the same for all PMOers but the variety of replies is infinite, I find this part of the consultation the most amusing and at the same time the most pathetic.</p>
<p>All PMOers know in their heart of hearts that they are fools. They know that they had no need to use porn or internet porn before they became hooked. Most of them can remember that their first ‘peek’ was a mix of revulsion and novel curiosity. They then filter out and get “skilled” at “locating” and “bookmarking” the right porn sites. They know that they had to work hard in order to become hooked.</p>
<p>The most annoying part is that they sense that non-addicts - most women, older guys, people living in countries where hi-speed internet porn is not available “on tap” - are not missing anything and that they are laughing at them.</p>
<p>However, PMOers are intelligent, rational human beings. They know that they are taking enormous future risks and so they spend a lot of time rationalizing their ‘habit’. The actual reason why PMOers continue is a subtle combination of the factors that I will elaborate in the next two chapters. They are:</p>
<ol>
<li><strong>INTERNET PORN</strong></li>
<li><strong>BRAINWASHING</strong></li>
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<p>Erotic novelty of the internet porn is a mental ‘drug’ and internet porn beats anything that is known to mankind and its streaming straight to your home for free ! We are not even talking VR virtual reality here. Porn triggers the ‘flooding’ of dopamine in our brain. Dopamine amps up the brain reward circuitry to produce experiences and feels of cravings and pleasure by locking themselves into ‘receptors’. More dopamine more wanting. Less dopamine no wanting. New experiences, tasty food - more dopamine - more wanting. Sex and sex related stuff gives the biggest injection of dopamine in the reward circuits. Dopamine is not the final pleasure stuff, if it were you would feel happy when you are done with it, but it is only a brain chemical that encourages seeking and action in you. The real pleasure is produced by opioids. More dopamine more opioids more
action more happy feelings.</p>
<p>So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. All of which will now be stored as a script in your brain for easy access next time. I call this a ‘water slide’. Next time at the cue - a sexy commercial or alone time or stress or feeling a little down - you are ready to take a ride on the ‘water slide’. One more thing is that every time to repeat this you are ‘greasing’ it
as well - so it is active, alive and more easier to slide the next time.
As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will
be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but
this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation
feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating.
Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish,
ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you
won’t on your first time.
My Own Online Harem!
This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn
magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of
the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the
cost.
Going back to the earlier discussion - in this cycle as you crossed the ‘red line’ you also
trigger emotions such as guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety and fear - which in turn raise
dopamine levels as well. Now the brain may mistakenly associate feelings of anxiety and fear as
sexual arousal. This perpetual cycle is only broken by natural causes - fortunately sooner or later.
With its free access and privacy it provides boundless harem-like novelty. The dopamine can be
theoretically kept very high for a very very long time. I can be satisfied with one lobster once in
awhile. But Internet porn is different. It is even worse than drugs. Don’t let me make you nervous. I
will shortly show you how to be free from this slavery.
Now our human body has a self-correcting system by which the number of dopamine and
opioid receptors are cut short when frequent and daily ‘flooding’ of dopamine is detected.
Unfortunately - these receptors are also needed for receiving dopamine and to keep us even and
balanced to handle the inevitable and normal day-to-day stresses. But this natural nominal amount
of dopamine will not be absorbed efficiently with decreased receptors and you will feel more
stressed and irritated than normal. &ldquo;For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed”</p>
<ul>
<li>Kahlil Gibran.
A fleeting feeling of security is all that is needed to get through a rough spot in life - but will
your brain be able to catch that drop of de-stressor that a non-PMOers’ brain is able to catch and
use?
This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I
must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think
that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop
PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I
will explain more about this later.
The Little Monster
The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died
without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&rsquo; we think we
just &lsquo;got into the habit&rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug
addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted.
There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the
feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it
is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is
like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.
Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, resulting
in the feeling of fulfilment and pleasure that the action gives to the PMOer. In the early days, when
we first start PMOing, the withdrawal pangs and their relief are so slight that we are not even aware
that they exist. When we begin to masturbate regularly to internet porn we think it is because we&rsquo;ve
either come to enjoy them or got into the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. The truth is we&rsquo;re already hooked; we do not
realize it, but that little monster is already inside our stomach and every now and again we have to
feed it.
All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why
anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster.
The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO
know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the
most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the
pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had
before he became hooked in the first place.
The Annoying Burglar Alarm
You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has
been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous
feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the
aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our
brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the
dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We
are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do
not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate
the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we
became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the
craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain
goes on. It is a chain for life - UNLESS YOU BREAK IT.
The whole business of PMO is like wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure you feel
when you take them off. There are three main reasons why PMOers cannot see things that way:</li>
</ul>
<ol>
<li>From birth we have been subjected to massive brainwashing telling us that internet porn is
simply just another modern development that replaced the print version of porn. Why should
we not believe them when it hides behind the truth that masturbation is not bad? (However, I
won’t recommend you take up masturbation). Why else would they waste all that time and
energy and take such horrendous risks?</li>
<li>Because the physical withdrawal from dopamine injection involves no actual pain but is
merely an empty, insecure feeling, inseparable from hunger or normal stress and because
those are the very times that we tend to seek internet porn. We tend to regard the feeling as
normal.</li>
<li>However the main reason that PMOers fail to see internet porn in its true light is because it
works back to front. It&rsquo;s when you are not masturbating to it that you suffer that empty
feeling. Because the process of getting hooked is very subtle and gradual in the early days,
we regard that empty feeling as normal and don&rsquo;t blame it on the previous PMO session. The
moment you fire up the browser and reach a tube site, you get an almost immediate boost or
buzz and do actually feel less nervous or more relaxed and internet porn gets the credit.
It is this &lsquo;back to front&rsquo; reverse process that makes all drugs difficult to kick. Picture the panic
state of a heroin addict who has no heroin. Now picture the utter joy when that addict can finally
plunge a needle into his vein. Can you visualize someone actually getting pleasure by injecting
themselves, or does the mere thought fill you with horror? Non-heroin addicts don&rsquo;t suffer that panic
feeling.
The heroin doesn&rsquo;t relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a 14 year old in
2008 - didn&rsquo;t suffer the empty feeling of needing internet porn or start to panic when they are off-
line. Non-PMOers cannot understand how PMOers can possibly obtain pleasure from two
dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. And do you know
something? PMOers themselves cannot understand why they do it after some time either.
We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied
unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don&rsquo;t non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied
state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers
completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their &rsquo;little monster&rsquo;?
A Pleasure or Crutch?
Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it
difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is
absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to
understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of
eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed
are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure
feeling which we know as: &lsquo;I need to eat.&rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasant
pastime.
PMOing appears to be almost identical. The empty, insecure feeling which we know as:
&lsquo;wanting or needing an PMO orgasm’ is identical to a hunger for food, although one will not satisfy
the other. Like hunger, there is no physical pain and the feeling is so imperceptible that we are not
even aware of it between PMO sessions. It&rsquo;s only if we want to masturbate and aren&rsquo;t able to reach
internet for porn that we become aware of any discomfort. But when we do PMO we feel satisfied.
It is this similarity to eating which helps to fool PMOers into believing that they receive some
genuine pleasure. Some PMOers find it very difficult to grasp that there is no pleasure or crutch,
whatsoever to PMO. Some argue: “How can you say there is no crutch? When I orgasm up then I&rsquo;ll
feel less nervous than before.”
Although eating and PMOing appear to be very similar. In fact they are exact opposites:</li>
<li>You eat to survive and to energize your life, whereas PMOing dims your mojo and cuts
down your energy.</li>
<li>Food does genuinely taste good, and eating is a genuinely pleasant experience that we can
enjoy throughout our lives, whereas PMOing involves self-sabotaging the happiness
receptors and thus destroying your chances to cope and to feel happy.</li>
<li>Eating doesn&rsquo;t create hunger and genuinely relieves it, whereas the first PMO starts the
craving for dopamine and each subsequent one, far from relieving it, ensures that you suffer
it for the rest of life.
PMO is a Habit?
This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is
eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be
the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different
people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food.
But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is
to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is
true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different
times, but PMO itself is not a habit.
On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience,
I also refer to the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no
more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to
learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’ * - we have to then have more bizarre
and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting&hellip; not in the killing. If we don&rsquo;t then panic sets
in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of
higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too
in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving
others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great!</li>
</ol>
<ul>
<li>Escalation - a practice that is the result of our brain’s novelty and curiosity seeking to
get more dopamine in our reward circuitry.
Crossing The Red Line
This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of
the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of
watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO
session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking
you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn
paradise.
You feel better than you did before starting this PMO session but you are in fact more nervous
and less relaxed than you would be as a non-PMOer, like someone who is living in Loma Linda or
in an Amish village, even though you are actually PMOing and living in your supposed “porn
paradise.” This position is even more ridiculous than wearing tight shoes because as you go through
life an increasing amount of the discomfort remains even when the shoes are removed.
Once the orgasm is achieved, the dopamine rapidly begins to leave the brain, causing a mood
dip. Which explains why the PMOer wants to ‘edge’* and switch through multiple browser
windows as they seek and search. As I said, the ‘habit’ doesn&rsquo;t exist. The real reason why every user
goes on using internet porn is because of that little porn monster inside his stomach. Every now and
again he has to feed it. The PMOer himself will decide when he does that and it tends to be on four
types of occasion or a combination of them.</li>
<li>Edge - to stay longer in pre-orgasm stage. To delay orgasm.
These occasions are:
• BOREDOM/CONCENTRATION - two complete opposites!
• STRESS/RELAXATION - two complete opposites!
What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If you think
about it, what other types of occasion are there in our lives; apart from sleep? The truth is that PMO
neither relieves boredom and stress nor promotes concentration and relaxation. It is all just illusion.
Apart from being a drug, PMO is also a destroyer of happiness and virility.
In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and
such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes,
print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’
and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the
most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive
without knowing the difference between food and poison.
Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics
Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have
developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and
bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more
shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the
outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we
will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red
line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural
and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and
balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there
are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!
When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were titillating but most
were disgusting, causing you to avert your eyes away. Like you would if had accidentally glanced a
feeding mother’s breast. And some of us are even revolted with what they saw when the star
reminded them of someone dear to their heart or a scene which recalled their own instance of being
the victim. Some don’t feel like it to browse and masturbate at the same time. It may be hard to
believe for you but the non-PMOs, who don’t PMO after their first time, are the lucky ones. They
actually decided that it was not their cup of tea. It must be hard for you to believe but stay with me.
How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the
social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even
after a hard day? Why not ? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after
your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That&rsquo;s all.
Are PMOers Mentally Weak?
It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The
lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or,
alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting
the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical
enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.
To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to become
hooked, and this is why it is difficult to stop teenagers. Because they are skilled in seeking and
finding material, they know online privacy options and can clean their tracks - if they still feel some
stigma and they (wrongfully) believe they can stop whenever they want to. Why do they not learn
from us? Then again, why did we not learn from our PMOers and addicts?
Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually
doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of
‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting
themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying
is the ritual of relieving those pangs.
The High From The Dance Around The Red Line
Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to
filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the
body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an
excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes
even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.
Ask a user who believes that he sticks to a certain actor or genre - only because he likes
something about the star or the theme (if any) of the clip: “If you cannot get your normal brand of
porn and can only obtain a poor or unsafe brand, do you stop masturbating?” No way. A PMOer will
masturbate to anything rather than abstain and it doesn&rsquo;t matter if he has to switch to escalating
themes, different sex-orientation-themes, look-alike actresses, dangerous settings shocking
relationships etc. To begin with they taste awful but if you persevere you will learn to like them.
Most PMOers will also try to seek masturbation even after having real sex (unfulfilment, porn-
induced unrealistic expectations etc.), or after a long, stressful work day, fever, colds, flu, sore
throats and even when admitted in hospitals.
Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wanted then it makes
no sense to be with your laptop. During my conversation some PMOers find it alarming to realize
they are drug addicts and think it will make it even more difficult to stop. In fact, it is all good news
for two important reasons:</li>
</ul>
<ol>
<li>The reason why most of us carry on masturbating to internet porn is because, although we
know the disadvantages outweigh the advantages, we believe that there is something in the
porn that we actually enjoy or that it is some sort of prop. We feel that after we stop PMOing
there will be a void, that certain situations in our life will never be quite the same. This is an
illusion. The fact is the masturbation and especially PMO gives nothing; it only takes away
and then partially restores to create the illusion. I will explain this in more detail in a later
chapter.</li>
<li>Although internet porn is the most powerful trigger for ‘novelty’ and ‘sex’ based dopamine
‘flooding’ - because of the speed with which you become hooked, you are never badly
hooked. The actual withdrawal pangs are so mild that most PMOers have lived and died
without ever realizing that they have suffered them.
You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through
months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the
second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to
cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc.
The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your
laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious
client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn&rsquo;t
bother the PMOers.
The Smokers Analogy
A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a
cigarette they&rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain
from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to
smoke doesn&rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased
for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.
PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their parents while
visiting for family get togethers etc. with little discomfort to themselves. In fact, most PMOers have
extended periods during which they abstain without effort. Even in my case I would quite happily
go a week or so without a PMO incident. In the later years as a PMOer I actually used to look
forward to these days when I could stop choking my penis (what a ridiculous &lsquo;habit&rsquo;).
The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still
addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just
as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;
but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water
slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood.
The Big Monster - The Brainwashing
You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong
willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options.
Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.
Not all the amateurs are ‘amateurs’ on these tube sites, oversized body parts and overcharged
scenarios are the norm, aided by a bit of the ‘viagran’ help.
As I say, the actual porn addiction is not the main problem. It just acts as a catalyst to keep our
minds confused over the real problem: the brainwashing. It may be of consolation to lifelong and
heavy PMOers to know that it is just as easy for them to stop as casual PMOers. In a peculiar way.
it is easier. The further you go along with the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;, the more it drags you down and the greater the
gain when you stop.
It may be of further consolation for you to know that the rumours that occasionally circulate
that the neural pathways created are there for life, and so at the right (or wrong) time and with
strong stimuli you will be sliding again down the ‘water slide’ of internet porn and masturbation to
permanently destroy your real life sex are untrue.
Do not think the bad effects of internet porn are exaggerated. If anything, they are sadly
understated but the truth is there are different levels of dependency on PMO and masturbation in
general. However, these bodies of ours are incredible machines and have enormous powers of
recovery. If you stop now, your body and brain will recover within a matter of a few weeks.
As I have said, it is never too late to stop. You can see many who have stopped not only porn
but masturbation as well. Naturally with any obstacles that humans face some have even taken this
addiction recovery to the next level in learning about differentiating amative and propagative sides
of sex. They have not only rebooted their sex lives but have made their partner happier than before
as well.
The further it drags you down, the greater the relief. When I finally stopped I went straight to
ZERO, and didn&rsquo;t have one bad pang. In fact, it was actually enjoyable, even during the withdrawal
period. But we must remove the brainwashing about internet porn regardless of your status as single
or partnered and also of masturbation.</li>
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<description>&lt;p&gt;Erotic novelty of the internet porn is a mental ‘drug’ and internet porn beats anything that is known to mankind and its streaming straight to your home for free ! We are not even talking VR virtual reality here. Porn triggers the ‘flooding’ of dopamine in our brain. Dopamine amps up the brain reward circuitry to produce experiences and feels of cravings and pleasure by locking themselves into ‘receptors’. More dopamine more wanting. Less dopamine no wanting. New experiences, tasty food - more dopamine - more wanting. Sex and sex related stuff gives the biggest injection of dopamine in the reward circuits. Dopamine is not the final pleasure stuff, if it were you would feel happy when you are done with it, but it is only a brain chemical that encourages seeking and action in you. The real pleasure is produced by opioids. More dopamine more opioids more
action more happy feelings.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. All of which will now be stored as a script in your brain for easy access next time. I call this a ‘water slide’. Next time at the cue - a sexy commercial or alone time or stress or feeling a little down - you are ready to take a ride on the ‘water slide’. One more thing is that every time to repeat this you are ‘greasing’ it
as well - so it is active, alive and more easier to slide the next time.
As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will
be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but
this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation
feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating.
Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish,
ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you
won’t on your first time.
My Own Online Harem!
This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn
magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of
the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the
cost.
Going back to the earlier discussion - in this cycle as you crossed the ‘red line’ you also
trigger emotions such as guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety and fear - which in turn raise
dopamine levels as well. Now the brain may mistakenly associate feelings of anxiety and fear as
sexual arousal. This perpetual cycle is only broken by natural causes - fortunately sooner or later.
With its free access and privacy it provides boundless harem-like novelty. The dopamine can be
theoretically kept very high for a very very long time. I can be satisfied with one lobster once in
awhile. But Internet porn is different. It is even worse than drugs. Don’t let me make you nervous. I
will shortly show you how to be free from this slavery.
Now our human body has a self-correcting system by which the number of dopamine and
opioid receptors are cut short when frequent and daily ‘flooding’ of dopamine is detected.
Unfortunately - these receptors are also needed for receiving dopamine and to keep us even and
balanced to handle the inevitable and normal day-to-day stresses. But this natural nominal amount
of dopamine will not be absorbed efficiently with decreased receptors and you will feel more
stressed and irritated than normal. &amp;ldquo;For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Kahlil Gibran.
A fleeting feeling of security is all that is needed to get through a rough spot in life - but will
your brain be able to catch that drop of de-stressor that a non-PMOers’ brain is able to catch and
use?
This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I
must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think
that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop
PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I
will explain more about this later.
The Little Monster
The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died
without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&amp;rsquo; we think we
just &amp;lsquo;got into the habit&amp;rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&amp;rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug
addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted.
There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the
feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it
is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is
like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.
Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, resulting
in the feeling of fulfilment and pleasure that the action gives to the PMOer. In the early days, when
we first start PMOing, the withdrawal pangs and their relief are so slight that we are not even aware
that they exist. When we begin to masturbate regularly to internet porn we think it is because we&amp;rsquo;ve
either come to enjoy them or got into the &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;. The truth is we&amp;rsquo;re already hooked; we do not
realize it, but that little monster is already inside our stomach and every now and again we have to
feed it.
All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why
anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster.
The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO
know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the
most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the
pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had
before he became hooked in the first place.
The Annoying Burglar Alarm
You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has
been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous
feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the
aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our
brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the
dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We
are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do
not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate
the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we
became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the
craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain
goes on. It is a chain for life - UNLESS YOU BREAK IT.
The whole business of PMO is like wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure you feel
when you take them off. There are three main reasons why PMOers cannot see things that way:&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;From birth we have been subjected to massive brainwashing telling us that internet porn is
simply just another modern development that replaced the print version of porn. Why should
we not believe them when it hides behind the truth that masturbation is not bad? (However, I
won’t recommend you take up masturbation). Why else would they waste all that time and
energy and take such horrendous risks?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Because the physical withdrawal from dopamine injection involves no actual pain but is
merely an empty, insecure feeling, inseparable from hunger or normal stress and because
those are the very times that we tend to seek internet porn. We tend to regard the feeling as
normal.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;However the main reason that PMOers fail to see internet porn in its true light is because it
works back to front. It&amp;rsquo;s when you are not masturbating to it that you suffer that empty
feeling. Because the process of getting hooked is very subtle and gradual in the early days,
we regard that empty feeling as normal and don&amp;rsquo;t blame it on the previous PMO session. The
moment you fire up the browser and reach a tube site, you get an almost immediate boost or
buzz and do actually feel less nervous or more relaxed and internet porn gets the credit.
It is this &amp;lsquo;back to front&amp;rsquo; reverse process that makes all drugs difficult to kick. Picture the panic
state of a heroin addict who has no heroin. Now picture the utter joy when that addict can finally
plunge a needle into his vein. Can you visualize someone actually getting pleasure by injecting
themselves, or does the mere thought fill you with horror? Non-heroin addicts don&amp;rsquo;t suffer that panic
feeling.
The heroin doesn&amp;rsquo;t relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a 14 year old in
2008 - didn&amp;rsquo;t suffer the empty feeling of needing internet porn or start to panic when they are off-
line. Non-PMOers cannot understand how PMOers can possibly obtain pleasure from two
dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. And do you know
something? PMOers themselves cannot understand why they do it after some time either.
We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied
unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don&amp;rsquo;t non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied
state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers
completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their &amp;rsquo;little monster&amp;rsquo;?
A Pleasure or Crutch?
Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it
difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is
absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to
understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of
eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed
are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure
feeling which we know as: &amp;lsquo;I need to eat.&amp;rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasant
pastime.
PMOing appears to be almost identical. The empty, insecure feeling which we know as:
&amp;lsquo;wanting or needing an PMO orgasm’ is identical to a hunger for food, although one will not satisfy
the other. Like hunger, there is no physical pain and the feeling is so imperceptible that we are not
even aware of it between PMO sessions. It&amp;rsquo;s only if we want to masturbate and aren&amp;rsquo;t able to reach
internet for porn that we become aware of any discomfort. But when we do PMO we feel satisfied.
It is this similarity to eating which helps to fool PMOers into believing that they receive some
genuine pleasure. Some PMOers find it very difficult to grasp that there is no pleasure or crutch,
whatsoever to PMO. Some argue: “How can you say there is no crutch? When I orgasm up then I&amp;rsquo;ll
feel less nervous than before.”
Although eating and PMOing appear to be very similar. In fact they are exact opposites:&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;You eat to survive and to energize your life, whereas PMOing dims your mojo and cuts
down your energy.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Food does genuinely taste good, and eating is a genuinely pleasant experience that we can
enjoy throughout our lives, whereas PMOing involves self-sabotaging the happiness
receptors and thus destroying your chances to cope and to feel happy.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Eating doesn&amp;rsquo;t create hunger and genuinely relieves it, whereas the first PMO starts the
craving for dopamine and each subsequent one, far from relieving it, ensures that you suffer
it for the rest of life.
PMO is a Habit?
This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is
eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be
the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different
people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food.
But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is
to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is
true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different
times, but PMO itself is not a habit.
On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience,
I also refer to the &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no
more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to
learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’ * - we have to then have more bizarre
and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting&amp;hellip; not in the killing. If we don&amp;rsquo;t then panic sets
in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of
higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too
in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving
others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great!&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Escalation - a practice that is the result of our brain’s novelty and curiosity seeking to
get more dopamine in our reward circuitry.
Crossing The Red Line
This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of
the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of
watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO
session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking
you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn
paradise.
You feel better than you did before starting this PMO session but you are in fact more nervous
and less relaxed than you would be as a non-PMOer, like someone who is living in Loma Linda or
in an Amish village, even though you are actually PMOing and living in your supposed “porn
paradise.” This position is even more ridiculous than wearing tight shoes because as you go through
life an increasing amount of the discomfort remains even when the shoes are removed.
Once the orgasm is achieved, the dopamine rapidly begins to leave the brain, causing a mood
dip. Which explains why the PMOer wants to ‘edge’* and switch through multiple browser
windows as they seek and search. As I said, the ‘habit’ doesn&amp;rsquo;t exist. The real reason why every user
goes on using internet porn is because of that little porn monster inside his stomach. Every now and
again he has to feed it. The PMOer himself will decide when he does that and it tends to be on four
types of occasion or a combination of them.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Edge - to stay longer in pre-orgasm stage. To delay orgasm.
These occasions are:
• BOREDOM/CONCENTRATION - two complete opposites!
• STRESS/RELAXATION - two complete opposites!
What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If you think
about it, what other types of occasion are there in our lives; apart from sleep? The truth is that PMO
neither relieves boredom and stress nor promotes concentration and relaxation. It is all just illusion.
Apart from being a drug, PMO is also a destroyer of happiness and virility.
In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and
such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes,
print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’
and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the
most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive
without knowing the difference between food and poison.
Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics
Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have
developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and
bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more
shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the
outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we
will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red
line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural
and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and
balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there
are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!
When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were titillating but most
were disgusting, causing you to avert your eyes away. Like you would if had accidentally glanced a
feeding mother’s breast. And some of us are even revolted with what they saw when the star
reminded them of someone dear to their heart or a scene which recalled their own instance of being
the victim. Some don’t feel like it to browse and masturbate at the same time. It may be hard to
believe for you but the non-PMOs, who don’t PMO after their first time, are the lucky ones. They
actually decided that it was not their cup of tea. It must be hard for you to believe but stay with me.
How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the
social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even
after a hard day? Why not ? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after
your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That&amp;rsquo;s all.
Are PMOers Mentally Weak?
It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The
lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or,
alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting
the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical
enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.
To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to become
hooked, and this is why it is difficult to stop teenagers. Because they are skilled in seeking and
finding material, they know online privacy options and can clean their tracks - if they still feel some
stigma and they (wrongfully) believe they can stop whenever they want to. Why do they not learn
from us? Then again, why did we not learn from our PMOers and addicts?
Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually
doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of
‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting
themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying
is the ritual of relieving those pangs.
The High From The Dance Around The Red Line
Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to
filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the
body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an
excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes
even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.
Ask a user who believes that he sticks to a certain actor or genre - only because he likes
something about the star or the theme (if any) of the clip: “If you cannot get your normal brand of
porn and can only obtain a poor or unsafe brand, do you stop masturbating?” No way. A PMOer will
masturbate to anything rather than abstain and it doesn&amp;rsquo;t matter if he has to switch to escalating
themes, different sex-orientation-themes, look-alike actresses, dangerous settings shocking
relationships etc. To begin with they taste awful but if you persevere you will learn to like them.
Most PMOers will also try to seek masturbation even after having real sex (unfulfilment, porn-
induced unrealistic expectations etc.), or after a long, stressful work day, fever, colds, flu, sore
throats and even when admitted in hospitals.
Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wanted then it makes
no sense to be with your laptop. During my conversation some PMOers find it alarming to realize
they are drug addicts and think it will make it even more difficult to stop. In fact, it is all good news
for two important reasons:&lt;/li&gt;
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&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;The reason why most of us carry on masturbating to internet porn is because, although we
know the disadvantages outweigh the advantages, we believe that there is something in the
porn that we actually enjoy or that it is some sort of prop. We feel that after we stop PMOing
there will be a void, that certain situations in our life will never be quite the same. This is an
illusion. The fact is the masturbation and especially PMO gives nothing; it only takes away
and then partially restores to create the illusion. I will explain this in more detail in a later
chapter.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Although internet porn is the most powerful trigger for ‘novelty’ and ‘sex’ based dopamine
‘flooding’ - because of the speed with which you become hooked, you are never badly
hooked. The actual withdrawal pangs are so mild that most PMOers have lived and died
without ever realizing that they have suffered them.
You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through
months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the
second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to
cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc.
The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your
laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious
client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn&amp;rsquo;t
bother the PMOers.
The Smokers Analogy
A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a
cigarette they&amp;rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain
from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to
smoke doesn&amp;rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased
for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.
PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their parents while
visiting for family get togethers etc. with little discomfort to themselves. In fact, most PMOers have
extended periods during which they abstain without effort. Even in my case I would quite happily
go a week or so without a PMO incident. In the later years as a PMOer I actually used to look
forward to these days when I could stop choking my penis (what a ridiculous &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;).
The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still
addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just
as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;
but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water
slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood.
The Big Monster - The Brainwashing
You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong
willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options.
Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.
Not all the amateurs are ‘amateurs’ on these tube sites, oversized body parts and overcharged
scenarios are the norm, aided by a bit of the ‘viagran’ help.
As I say, the actual porn addiction is not the main problem. It just acts as a catalyst to keep our
minds confused over the real problem: the brainwashing. It may be of consolation to lifelong and
heavy PMOers to know that it is just as easy for them to stop as casual PMOers. In a peculiar way.
it is easier. The further you go along with the &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;, the more it drags you down and the greater the
gain when you stop.
It may be of further consolation for you to know that the rumours that occasionally circulate
that the neural pathways created are there for life, and so at the right (or wrong) time and with
strong stimuli you will be sliding again down the ‘water slide’ of internet porn and masturbation to
permanently destroy your real life sex are untrue.
Do not think the bad effects of internet porn are exaggerated. If anything, they are sadly
understated but the truth is there are different levels of dependency on PMO and masturbation in
general. However, these bodies of ours are incredible machines and have enormous powers of
recovery. If you stop now, your body and brain will recover within a matter of a few weeks.
As I have said, it is never too late to stop. You can see many who have stopped not only porn
but masturbation as well. Naturally with any obstacles that humans face some have even taken this
addiction recovery to the next level in learning about differentiating amative and propagative sides
of sex. They have not only rebooted their sex lives but have made their partner happier than before
as well.
The further it drags you down, the greater the relief. When I finally stopped I went straight to
ZERO, and didn&amp;rsquo;t have one bad pang. In fact, it was actually enjoyable, even during the withdrawal
period. But we must remove the brainwashing about internet porn regardless of your status as single
or partnered and also of masturbation.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
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<title>03-05 Why Do We Carry on With PMO</title>
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<description>&lt;p&gt;We all start PMOing for many reasons, usually social pressures or our biological curiosity, but once we feel we are becoming hooked, why do we carry on using porn? No regular PMOer knows why he or she looks at porn. If PMOers knew the true reason, they would stop doing it. The true answer is the same for all PMOers but the variety of replies is infinite, I find this part of the consultation the most amusing and at the same time the most pathetic.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;All PMOers know in their heart of hearts that they are fools. They know that they had no need to use porn or internet porn before they became hooked. Most of them can remember that their first ‘peek’ was a mix of revulsion and novel curiosity. They then filter out and get “skilled” at “locating” and “bookmarking” the right porn sites. They know that they had to work hard in order to become hooked.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The most annoying part is that they sense that non-addicts - most women, older guys, people living in countries where hi-speed internet porn is not available “on tap” - are not missing anything and that they are laughing at them.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;However, PMOers are intelligent, rational human beings. They know that they are taking enormous future risks and so they spend a lot of time rationalizing their ‘habit’. The actual reason why PMOers continue is a subtle combination of the factors that I will elaborate in the next two chapters. They are:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;INTERNET PORN&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;BRAINWASHING&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
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<title>03-04 The Sinister Trap</title>
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<description>&lt;p&gt;Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it&amp;rsquo;s an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It is the only trap in nature which has does not require a lot of hard work to set up. The thing that springs the trap is not that all porn clips feature young, high quality, sexy models; it’s that most of the thumbnails on any porn web page are ugly looking, unattractive, amateurish, home-made clips of unknown models. If the first timer’s first look at a tube page was only filled with angelic beauties, professional models and high quality then the alarm bells would ring. And as intelligent human beings, we could then understand why half the adult population was systematically addicted to watching something that is cutting down their very same potential to do what they are viewing. In many known and yet unknown ways porn cuts down sexual performance and the feeling of satisfaction.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;But because that first “peek” has “stains and holes,” a mishmash of low quality clips of not-so-hot models, our young minds are reassured that we will never become hooked, and we think that because we are not enjoying them we can stop whenever we want to. It is the only drug in nature that prevents you from achieving your aim. Our curiosity brings us to its door steps. You dare not even click on all of the thumbnails because some of them will make you feel sick and throw up! If you were to accidentally click on an “I-did-not-see-that” clip - all you want to do is get away from the site and close your laptop.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;With women, the aim is to be the sophisticated modern young lady. We have all seen them acting up and looking absolutely ridiculous. By the time the boys have learnt to look tough and the girls have learnt to look sophisticated, they wish they had never started in the first place. I wonder whether women ever look sophisticated when they discuss the top 10 porn sites, or whether this is a figment of our imaginations created by internet porn companies.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;We then spend the rest of our lives trying to explain to ourselves why we do it, telling our children not to get caught and, at odd times, trying to escape ourselves. The trap is so designed that we try to stop only when we have an “incident” that touch us to the quick of the flesh, whether it be in the bed, loss of a career or relationship, shortage of drive or just plain being made to feel like a leper. As soon as we stop, we have more stress (the fearful withdrawal pangs of brain chemicals) and the thing that we rely on to relieve stress (our old prop, porn and PMO) we now must do without. Internet porn is powerful imagery at high speed making it a high fructose corn syrup&amp;hellip; sorry, high density supernormal stimulant.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;After a few days of torture we decide that we have picked the wrong time to quit. We must wait for a period without stress, and as soon as that arrives the reason for stopping vanishes. Of course, that period will never arrive because, in the first place, we think that our lives tend to become more and more stressful. As we leave the protection of our parents the natural process is jobs, setting up home, mortgages, babies, more responsible jobs, a bigger house, more babies etc. etc. This is also an illusion.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The truth is that the most stressful periods for any creature are early childhood and adolescence. We tend to confuse responsibility with stress. A PMOer’s life - like a drug addict - automatically becomes more stressful because PMO does not relax you or relieve stress, as some try to make you believe. Just the reverse: it actually causes you to become more nervous and stressed. Internet porn is as fake in its promises for pleasure and crutch as its actors are. If you had never learned any life skills to cope the stress and strains of day to day life you are not going to get any better with this fake and disgusting crutch. Worse you are going to add more bales of straw on the old camel’s back.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Even those users who kick the habit (most do, one or more times during their lives) can lead perfectly happy lives yet suddenly become hooked again. The whole business of PMO is like wandering into a giant maze. As soon as we enter the maze our minds become misted and clouded, and we spend the rest of our lives trying to escape. Many of us eventually do, only to find that we get trapped again at a later date. I spent thirty-three years trying to escape from that maze. Like all PMOers, I couldn&amp;rsquo;t understand it. However, due to a combination of unusual circumstances, none of which reflect any credit on me, I wanted to know why previously it had been so desperately difficult to stop and yet, when I finally did, it was not only easy but enjoyable.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Since stopping PMO my hobby has been to resolve the many conundrums associated with porn. It is a complex and fascinating puzzle and - like a Rubik&amp;rsquo;s Cube - practically impossible to solve. However, like all complicated puzzles, if you know the solution, it is easy! I have the solution to stopping porn easily. I will lead you out of the maze and ensure that you never wander into it again. All you have to do is follow the instructions. If you take a wrong turn, the rest of the instructions will be pointless. Let me emphasize that anybody can find it easy to stop but first we need to establish the facts. No, I do not mean the scare facts. I know you are already aware of them. There is already enough information on the evils of PMO. If that was going to stop you, you would already have stopped. I mean, why do we find it difficult to stop? In order to answer this question we need to know the real reason why we are still doing PMO.&lt;/p&gt;
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<title>03-03 Why Is It Difficult to Stop?</title>
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<description>&lt;p&gt;As I explained earlier, I got interested in this subject because of my own addiction. When I finally stopped it was like magic. When I had previously tried to stop there were weeks of black depression. There would be odd days when I was comparatively cheerful but the next day back with the depression. It was like clawing your way out of a slippery pit, you feel you are near the top, you see the sunshine and then find yourself sliding down again. Eventually you open your browser and as you masturbate you feel awful and you try to work out why you have to do it.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;One of the questions I always ask online is: “do you want to stop PMO?” In a way it is a stupid question. All users (including members who dispute total abstinence) would love to stop PMO. If you ask to the most confirmed PMOer: “if you could go back to the time before you became hooked, with the knowledge you have now, would you have started PMO?”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;“NO WAY,” would be the reply.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Say to the confirmed PMOer - someone who defends internet porn and who doesn&amp;rsquo;t think that it cause injury to the brain (PIED, hypofrontality or the decreases in the dopamine receptors and etc.) - “do you encourage your children to use PMO?”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;“NO WAY,” is again the reply.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;All PMOers feel that something evil has got possession of them. In the early days it is a question of, “I am going to stop, not today but tomorrow.” Eventually we get to the stage where we think either that we haven&amp;rsquo;t got the willpower or that there is something inherent in the whole PMO that we must have in order to enjoy life.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;As I said previously, the problem is not explaining why it is easy to stop; it is explaining why it is difficult. In fact, the real problem is explaining scientifically why anybody does it even after getting the insights on the neurological damages of addictions not limited to porn.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The whole business of porn is an extraordinary enigma. One of the reasons we get on to it is because of the thousands of people are already into it, about 35% of the population approximately. Yet every one of them wishes he or she had not started in the first place, telling us that life is like driving in second gear. We cannot quite believe they are not enjoying it. We associate it with freedom or being “sex-educated” and work hard to become hooked ourselves. We then spend the rest of our lives telling others not to do it and trying to kick the habit ourselves.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;We also spend the rest of our lives feeling hopeless and miserable. Time spent on porn can accumulate to a large percentage of our life in this planet! What do we do with that amount of time spent? We ‘educate’ ourselves with supranormal&lt;sup id=&#34;fnref:1&#34;&gt;&lt;a href=&#34;#fn:1&#34; class=&#34;footnote-ref&#34; role=&#34;doc-noteref&#34;&gt;1&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/sup&gt; ‘material’ that makes us stupidly prefer and childishly long for these cold images - even when warm real ones are available. By the constant surge and drop of dopamine induced by PMO, we sentence ourselves to a lifetime of irritability, anger, frustration, stress, fatigue&lt;sup id=&#34;fnref:2&#34;&gt;&lt;a href=&#34;#fn:2&#34; class=&#34;footnote-ref&#34; role=&#34;doc-noteref&#34;&gt;2&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/sup&gt;, PIED, hypofrontality etc. In short, it is a lifetime of slavery. It is logically and intuitively clear that amative sex (physical touch, feel, voice etc.) is the best part of sex and is even better (if Karezza&lt;sup id=&#34;fnref:3&#34;&gt;&lt;a href=&#34;#fn:3&#34; class=&#34;footnote-ref&#34; role=&#34;doc-noteref&#34;&gt;3&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/sup&gt; is practised, although not necessary for the current purposes) than the propagative (orgasm) part, except when children are desired. So, when we use porn in the absence of the best part of sex we feel miserable and guilty.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;In fact, all the reading about internet pornography&amp;rsquo;s addictive capabilities and it’s destructive effects here and in other online sites makes us even more nervous and hopeless. When we are trying to cut down or stop, we end up feeling deprived. We wish we didn&amp;rsquo;t have to. What sort of hobby is it that when you are doing it you wish you weren&amp;rsquo;t, and when you are not doing it you crave for it ? A lifetime of an otherwise intelligent, rational human being going through life in contempt.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The PMOer despises himself, every time he has an unreliable erection, a fading penetration, reading about PIED and other stuff on the YBOP forum, every time he could not pull himself up to exercise after a daytime PMO, every PMO behind his or her trustfully asleep partner’s back, every time he sees his tired face and lifeless eyes in the restroom mirror.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Having to go through life with these awful black shadows at the back of his mind, what does he get out of it? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! Pleasure? Enjoyment? Relaxation? A prop? A boost? All illusions, unless you consider the wearing of tight shoes to enjoy the removal of them as some sort of pleasure!&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The real problem is trying to explain not only why PMOers find it difficult to stop but why anybody does it at all after knowing about brain neuroplasticity. You are probably thinking: “That&amp;rsquo;s all very well. I know this, but once you are hooked on these things it is very difficult to stop.” But why is it so difficult, and why do we have to do it? Addicts of PMO search for the answer to these questions all of their lives. Some say it is because of the powerful withdrawal symptoms. In fact, the actual withdrawal symptoms from porn are so mild (see Chapter 6) that PMOers should know about smokers who have lived and died without ever realizing they are drug addicts.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Some say internet porn is free and hence humankind should claim this biological bonanza. It is NOT. It is addictive and acts like any other drug. Ask a PMOer who swears that he only enjoys safe playboy type erotica and that he could always restrict himself only to this soft genre ? If he is absolutely honest - he would tell you about the many times when he had unwittingly crossed the line. Otherwise good PMOers would rather use ‘unsafe’ hardcore stuff, rationalizing it, than left with nothing at all.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Enjoyment has nothing to do with it. I enjoy lobster but I never got to the stage where I had to have lobsters everyday and multiple times like they are hanging round my neck. With other things in life we enjoy them whilst we are doing them but we don&amp;rsquo;t sit feeling deprived when we are not. Some search for deep psychological reasons, the “Freudian Syndrome,” or “the child at the mother&amp;rsquo;s breast.” Really it is just the reverse.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The ‘usual’ reason why we start PMO is to show we are grown up and mature. Some think it is the reverse, the macho effect of “doing what boys do” or in some cases, “let me show I am a tomboy girl,” to rattle my conservative family. Again, this argument has no substance. Internet porn provides easy escalation (outrageous and shocking clips just a click away), desensitization (same clips don’t do it any more) and all this within the high reward no risk settings. The science fiction story lines, the fake “amateurs,” the “real life” clips etc. should make any average PMOer discover pretty soon that it is all an illusion. What a PMOer should also understand is that after eating at restaurants every day the home food will never appeal your taste buds at all. Yes, the food is free and is tasty - but does it nourish you ?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Some say:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
&lt;li&gt;“It is educational!” So, when is your graduation?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;“It is a sexual satisfaction.” So, why do it alone? Find a partner and save it for her or him?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;“It is the feeling of release.” A release from the stresses of real life? Porn is going to remove the cause of the stress? OK, good luck. You just added more to it.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Many believe PMO relieves boredom. This is also a fallacy. Boredom is a frame of mind. Porn will induce you to “novelty” seeking in no time. Causing you to be eventually more bored unless and until you participate in the “wild goose chase” all night long for the “right hit” producing clip. There is nothing interesting about supranormal stimulus such as internet porn, it fires up dopamine whose only job is to seek clips that evoke strong emotions, interesting novelty and outrageous shock value.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;For thirty years my reason was that it relaxed me, gave me confidence and courage. I also knew it was draining me and costing me virility. Why didn&amp;rsquo;t I go to a therapist or find an another way to relax me and give me courage and confidence? I didn&amp;rsquo;t go because I knew he would suggest an alternative. It wasn&amp;rsquo;t my reason; it was my excuse.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Some say they only do it because their friends and every one they know do it. Are you really that stupid? If so, just pray that your friends do not start cutting their heads off to cure a headache! Most users who think about it eventually come to the conclusion that it is just a habit. This is not really an explanation but having discounted all the usual rational explanations, it appears to be the only remaining excuse. Unfortunately, this explanation is equally illogical. Every day of our lives we change habits and some of them are very enjoyable. We have been brainwashed to believe that PMO is a habit and that habits are difficult to break. Are habits really difficult to break?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;In the US we are in the habit of driving on the right side of the road. Yet when we drive in the UK we immediately break that habit with hardly any aggravation whatsoever. It is clearly a fallacy that habits are hard to break. The fact is that we make and break habits every day of our lives. So why do we find it difficult to break a habit that makes us deprived when we don’t have it yet guilty when we do and that we would love to break anyway, when all we have to do is to stop doing it?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The answer is that PMO is not habit: IT IS ADDICTION! That is why it appears to be so difficult to “give up.” Perhaps you feel this explanation explains why it is difficult to “give up?” It does explain why most PMOers find it difficult to “give up.” That is because they do not understand addiction. The main reason is that PMOers are convinced that they get some genuine pleasure and/or crutch from porn and believe that they are making a genuine sacrifice if they quit.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The beautiful truth is that once you understand porn addiction and the true reasons why you PMO, you will stop doing it just like that - and within three weeks the only mystery will be why you found it necessary to PMO as long as you have, and why you cannot persuade other PMOers &lt;strong&gt;HOW NICE IT IS TO BE A NON-PMOer&lt;/strong&gt;!&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;div class=&#34;footnotes&#34; role=&#34;doc-endnotes&#34;&gt;
&lt;hr&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li id=&#34;fn:1&#34;&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Supranormal&lt;/strong&gt; - a phrase coined by Nikolaas Tinbergen. Studies show that our brains prefer brighter, larger, colourful
etc. versions of what we like.&amp;#160;&lt;a href=&#34;#fnref:1&#34; class=&#34;footnote-backref&#34; role=&#34;doc-backlink&#34;&gt;&amp;#x21a9;&amp;#xfe0e;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li id=&#34;fn:2&#34;&gt;
&lt;p&gt;When dopamine receptors are de-activated in response to frequent and extended dopamine surges even normal de-
stressing chemicals are not absorbed by our brains.&amp;#160;&lt;a href=&#34;#fnref:2&#34; class=&#34;footnote-backref&#34; role=&#34;doc-backlink&#34;&gt;&amp;#x21a9;&amp;#xfe0e;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li id=&#34;fn:3&#34;&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Karezza&lt;/strong&gt; - is the practice of amative sex that puts no pressure on orgasms as occurs in propagative sex. It relieves the
man and woman from performance based anxieties.&amp;#160;&lt;a href=&#34;#fnref:3&#34; class=&#34;footnote-backref&#34; role=&#34;doc-backlink&#34;&gt;&amp;#x21a9;&amp;#xfe0e;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/li&gt;
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<title>03-02 the Easy Method</title>
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<description>&lt;p&gt;The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Provided that you are not a non-PMOer (who had never got addicted) or an ex-PMOer (who had quit or is in the fasting days of the porn-diet), it is essential to not quit until you have finished the book completely. This may appear to be a contradiction. Later I shall be explaining that porn do absolutely nothing for you at all. In fact, one of the many conundrums about internet porn is that when we are actually masturbating to a porn clip, we look at it and wonder why we are doing it. It is only when we have been deprived that the craving for PMO becomes precious.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;However, let us accept that, whether you like it or not, you believe you are hooked. When you believe you are hooked, you can never be completely relaxed or concentrate properly unless you are using PMO. So do not attempt to stop PMO before you have finished the whole book. This instruction to continue to masturbate using porn until you have completed the book has caused me more frustration than any other. As you read further your desire to masturbate to porn will gradually be reduced. Do not go off half-cocked; this could be fatal. Remember, all you have to do is to follow the instructions in the right order. When I first started writing on forums many of the readers also stopped purely because I had done it. They thought, “if he can do it, anybody can.”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Over the years, I managed to persuade the ones that hadn&amp;rsquo;t stopped to realize just how nice it is to be free! I gave my hackbook for free upon request. I worked on the basis that, even if it were the most boring book ever written, they would still read it, if only because it had been written by an ex-PMOer. I was surprised and hurt to learn that,they hadn&amp;rsquo;t bothered to finish the book.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I was hurt at the time but I had overlooked the dreadful fear that this slavery to the “dopamine surge” instils in the addict. I now realize that many PMOers don&amp;rsquo;t finish the book because they feel they have got to give up something that is their pleasure and crutch when they quit. Some deliberately read only one line a day in order to postpone the evil day. Look at it this way: what have you got to lose? If you don&amp;rsquo;t stop at the end of the book, you are no worse off than you are now. YOU HAVE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO LOSE AND SO MUCH TO GAIN! AND SO MUCH MORE TO AVOID !!! A Pascal’s Wage&lt;sup id=&#34;fnref:1&#34;&gt;&lt;a href=&#34;#fn:1&#34; class=&#34;footnote-ref&#34; role=&#34;doc-noteref&#34;&gt;1&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/sup&gt;?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Incidentally, if you have not PMOed for a few days or weeks but are not sure whether you are a PMOer, an ex-PMOer or a non-PMOer, then don&amp;rsquo;t use porn to masturbate while you read. In fact, you are already a non-PMOer. All we&amp;rsquo;ve now got to do is to let your brain catch up with your body. By the end of the book you&amp;rsquo;ll be a happy non-PMOer.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Basically this method is the complete opposite of the normal method of trying to stop. The normal method is to list the considerable disadvantages of PMO and say, “if only I can go long enough without porn, eventually the desire to masturbate to porn will go. I can then enjoy life again, free of slavery to the tube.” This is the logical way to go about it, and thousands of PMOer are stopping every day using variations of this method. However, it is very difficult to succeed using this method for the following reasons:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Stopping PMO is not the real problem. Every time you finish your ‘deed’ you stop using it. You may have powerful reasons on day one of your once-in-four porn diet to say, “I do not want to PMO or even masturbate any more” - all PMOers have, every day of their lives, and the reasons are more powerful than you can possibly imagine. The real problem is day two, day ten or day ten thousand, when in a weak moment, an inebriated moment or even a strong moment you have one ‘peek’ and because it is partly akin to drug addiction you then want another, and suddenly you are a masturbator again.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;The health scares should stop us. Our rational minds say: “Stop doing it. You are a fool,” but in fact they make it harder. We masturbate, for example, when we are nervous. Tell PMOers that it is destroying their virility, and the first thing they will do is to find something to rush their dopamine - a cigarette, alcohol or even fire up the browser and search for porn.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;All reasons for stopping actually make it harder for two other reasons. First, they create a SOS sense of sacrifice. We are always being forced to give up our little friend or prop or vice or pleasure, whichever way the PMOer sees it. Secondly, they create a &amp;lsquo;blind&amp;rsquo;. We do not masturbate for the reasons we should stop. The real question is: why do we want or need to do it?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The EasyPeasy Method is basically this: initially to forget the reasons we&amp;rsquo;d like to stop, to face the problem and to ask ourselves the following questions:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;What is it doing for me?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Do I actually enjoy it?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Do I really need to go through life using free internet porn or even paying through the nose just to sabotage my mind and body?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The beautiful truth is that porn – streaming, static or whatever - does absolutely nothing for you at all. Let me make it quite clear; I do not mean that the disadvantages of being a PMOer outweigh the advantages. All PMOers know from the many published studies about high speed internet porn addiction, forum messages, blog articles in YBOP and similar sites. I mean there are not any advantages from internet porn. The only advantage it ever had was the ‘educational’ aspect and guess what, nowadays the kind of education that it is offering is highly disputable for their contribution to real life intimacy. Most PMOers find it necessary to rationalize why they PMO but the reasons they come up are all fallacies and illusions.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The first thing we are going to do is to remove these fallacies and illusions. In fact, you will realize that there is nothing to give up. Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous, positive gains from being a non-PMOer and well being and happiness are only two of these gains. Once the illusion that life will never be quite as enjoyable without porn is removed, once you realize that not only is life just as enjoyable without it but infinitely more so, once the feeling of being deprived or of missing out are eradicated, then we can go back to reconsider the health and happiness - and the dozens of other reasons for stopping. These realizations will become positive additional aids to help you achieve what you really desire to enjoy the whole of your life free from the slavery of the porn habit.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;div class=&#34;footnotes&#34; role=&#34;doc-endnotes&#34;&gt;
&lt;hr&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li id=&#34;fn:1&#34;&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Pascal’s Wager is a bet you take when you have nothing or less to lose for a higher chances of large gains and avoiding losses in the future&amp;#160;&lt;a href=&#34;#fnref:1&#34; class=&#34;footnote-backref&#34; role=&#34;doc-backlink&#34;&gt;&amp;#x21a9;&amp;#xfe0e;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/li&gt;
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<title>03-06 Internet Porn</title>
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<description>&lt;p&gt;Erotic novelty of the internet porn is a mental ‘drug’ and internet porn beats anything that is known to mankind and its streaming straight to your home for free ! We are not even talking VR virtual reality here. Porn triggers the ‘flooding’ of dopamine in our brain. Dopamine amps up the brain reward circuitry to produce experiences and feels of cravings and pleasure by locking themselves into ‘receptors’. More dopamine more wanting. Less dopamine no wanting. New experiences, tasty food - more dopamine - more wanting. Sex and sex related stuff gives the biggest injection of dopamine in the reward circuits. Dopamine is not the final pleasure stuff, if it were you would feel happy when you are done with it, but it is only a brain chemical that encourages seeking and action in you. The real pleasure is produced by opioids. More dopamine more opioids more
action more happy feelings.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. All of which will now be stored as a script in your brain for easy access next time. I call this a ‘water slide’. Next time at the cue - a sexy commercial or alone time or stress or feeling a little down - you are ready to take a ride on the ‘water slide’. One more thing is that every time to repeat this you are ‘greasing’ it
as well - so it is active, alive and more easier to slide the next time.
As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will
be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but
this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation
feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating.
Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish,
ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you
won’t on your first time.
My Own Online Harem!
This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn
magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of
the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the
cost.
Going back to the earlier discussion - in this cycle as you crossed the ‘red line’ you also
trigger emotions such as guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety and fear - which in turn raise
dopamine levels as well. Now the brain may mistakenly associate feelings of anxiety and fear as
sexual arousal. This perpetual cycle is only broken by natural causes - fortunately sooner or later.
With its free access and privacy it provides boundless harem-like novelty. The dopamine can be
theoretically kept very high for a very very long time. I can be satisfied with one lobster once in
awhile. But Internet porn is different. It is even worse than drugs. Don’t let me make you nervous. I
will shortly show you how to be free from this slavery.
Now our human body has a self-correcting system by which the number of dopamine and
opioid receptors are cut short when frequent and daily ‘flooding’ of dopamine is detected.
Unfortunately - these receptors are also needed for receiving dopamine and to keep us even and
balanced to handle the inevitable and normal day-to-day stresses. But this natural nominal amount
of dopamine will not be absorbed efficiently with decreased receptors and you will feel more
stressed and irritated than normal. &amp;ldquo;For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Kahlil Gibran.
A fleeting feeling of security is all that is needed to get through a rough spot in life - but will
your brain be able to catch that drop of de-stressor that a non-PMOers’ brain is able to catch and
use?
This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I
must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think
that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop
PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I
will explain more about this later.
The Little Monster
The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died
without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&amp;rsquo; we think we
just &amp;lsquo;got into the habit&amp;rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&amp;rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug
addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted.
There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the
feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it
is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is
like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.
Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, resulting
in the feeling of fulfilment and pleasure that the action gives to the PMOer. In the early days, when
we first start PMOing, the withdrawal pangs and their relief are so slight that we are not even aware
that they exist. When we begin to masturbate regularly to internet porn we think it is because we&amp;rsquo;ve
either come to enjoy them or got into the &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;. The truth is we&amp;rsquo;re already hooked; we do not
realize it, but that little monster is already inside our stomach and every now and again we have to
feed it.
All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why
anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster.
The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO
know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the
most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the
pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had
before he became hooked in the first place.
The Annoying Burglar Alarm
You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has
been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous
feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the
aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our
brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the
dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We
are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do
not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate
the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we
became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the
craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain
goes on. It is a chain for life - UNLESS YOU BREAK IT.
The whole business of PMO is like wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure you feel
when you take them off. There are three main reasons why PMOers cannot see things that way:&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;From birth we have been subjected to massive brainwashing telling us that internet porn is
simply just another modern development that replaced the print version of porn. Why should
we not believe them when it hides behind the truth that masturbation is not bad? (However, I
won’t recommend you take up masturbation). Why else would they waste all that time and
energy and take such horrendous risks?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Because the physical withdrawal from dopamine injection involves no actual pain but is
merely an empty, insecure feeling, inseparable from hunger or normal stress and because
those are the very times that we tend to seek internet porn. We tend to regard the feeling as
normal.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;However the main reason that PMOers fail to see internet porn in its true light is because it
works back to front. It&amp;rsquo;s when you are not masturbating to it that you suffer that empty
feeling. Because the process of getting hooked is very subtle and gradual in the early days,
we regard that empty feeling as normal and don&amp;rsquo;t blame it on the previous PMO session. The
moment you fire up the browser and reach a tube site, you get an almost immediate boost or
buzz and do actually feel less nervous or more relaxed and internet porn gets the credit.
It is this &amp;lsquo;back to front&amp;rsquo; reverse process that makes all drugs difficult to kick. Picture the panic
state of a heroin addict who has no heroin. Now picture the utter joy when that addict can finally
plunge a needle into his vein. Can you visualize someone actually getting pleasure by injecting
themselves, or does the mere thought fill you with horror? Non-heroin addicts don&amp;rsquo;t suffer that panic
feeling.
The heroin doesn&amp;rsquo;t relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a 14 year old in
2008 - didn&amp;rsquo;t suffer the empty feeling of needing internet porn or start to panic when they are off-
line. Non-PMOers cannot understand how PMOers can possibly obtain pleasure from two
dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. And do you know
something? PMOers themselves cannot understand why they do it after some time either.
We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied
unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don&amp;rsquo;t non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied
state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers
completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their &amp;rsquo;little monster&amp;rsquo;?
A Pleasure or Crutch?
Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it
difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is
absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to
understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of
eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed
are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure
feeling which we know as: &amp;lsquo;I need to eat.&amp;rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasant
pastime.
PMOing appears to be almost identical. The empty, insecure feeling which we know as:
&amp;lsquo;wanting or needing an PMO orgasm’ is identical to a hunger for food, although one will not satisfy
the other. Like hunger, there is no physical pain and the feeling is so imperceptible that we are not
even aware of it between PMO sessions. It&amp;rsquo;s only if we want to masturbate and aren&amp;rsquo;t able to reach
internet for porn that we become aware of any discomfort. But when we do PMO we feel satisfied.
It is this similarity to eating which helps to fool PMOers into believing that they receive some
genuine pleasure. Some PMOers find it very difficult to grasp that there is no pleasure or crutch,
whatsoever to PMO. Some argue: “How can you say there is no crutch? When I orgasm up then I&amp;rsquo;ll
feel less nervous than before.”
Although eating and PMOing appear to be very similar. In fact they are exact opposites:&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;You eat to survive and to energize your life, whereas PMOing dims your mojo and cuts
down your energy.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Food does genuinely taste good, and eating is a genuinely pleasant experience that we can
enjoy throughout our lives, whereas PMOing involves self-sabotaging the happiness
receptors and thus destroying your chances to cope and to feel happy.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Eating doesn&amp;rsquo;t create hunger and genuinely relieves it, whereas the first PMO starts the
craving for dopamine and each subsequent one, far from relieving it, ensures that you suffer
it for the rest of life.
PMO is a Habit?
This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is
eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be
the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different
people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food.
But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is
to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is
true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different
times, but PMO itself is not a habit.
On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience,
I also refer to the &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no
more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to
learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’ * - we have to then have more bizarre
and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting&amp;hellip; not in the killing. If we don&amp;rsquo;t then panic sets
in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of
higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too
in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving
others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great!&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Escalation - a practice that is the result of our brain’s novelty and curiosity seeking to
get more dopamine in our reward circuitry.
Crossing The Red Line
This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of
the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of
watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO
session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking
you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn
paradise.
You feel better than you did before starting this PMO session but you are in fact more nervous
and less relaxed than you would be as a non-PMOer, like someone who is living in Loma Linda or
in an Amish village, even though you are actually PMOing and living in your supposed “porn
paradise.” This position is even more ridiculous than wearing tight shoes because as you go through
life an increasing amount of the discomfort remains even when the shoes are removed.
Once the orgasm is achieved, the dopamine rapidly begins to leave the brain, causing a mood
dip. Which explains why the PMOer wants to ‘edge’* and switch through multiple browser
windows as they seek and search. As I said, the ‘habit’ doesn&amp;rsquo;t exist. The real reason why every user
goes on using internet porn is because of that little porn monster inside his stomach. Every now and
again he has to feed it. The PMOer himself will decide when he does that and it tends to be on four
types of occasion or a combination of them.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Edge - to stay longer in pre-orgasm stage. To delay orgasm.
These occasions are:
• BOREDOM/CONCENTRATION - two complete opposites!
• STRESS/RELAXATION - two complete opposites!
What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If you think
about it, what other types of occasion are there in our lives; apart from sleep? The truth is that PMO
neither relieves boredom and stress nor promotes concentration and relaxation. It is all just illusion.
Apart from being a drug, PMO is also a destroyer of happiness and virility.
In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and
such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes,
print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’
and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the
most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive
without knowing the difference between food and poison.
Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics
Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have
developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and
bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more
shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the
outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we
will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red
line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural
and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and
balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there
are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!
When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were titillating but most
were disgusting, causing you to avert your eyes away. Like you would if had accidentally glanced a
feeding mother’s breast. And some of us are even revolted with what they saw when the star
reminded them of someone dear to their heart or a scene which recalled their own instance of being
the victim. Some don’t feel like it to browse and masturbate at the same time. It may be hard to
believe for you but the non-PMOs, who don’t PMO after their first time, are the lucky ones. They
actually decided that it was not their cup of tea. It must be hard for you to believe but stay with me.
How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the
social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even
after a hard day? Why not ? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after
your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That&amp;rsquo;s all.
Are PMOers Mentally Weak?
It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The
lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or,
alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting
the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical
enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.
To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to become
hooked, and this is why it is difficult to stop teenagers. Because they are skilled in seeking and
finding material, they know online privacy options and can clean their tracks - if they still feel some
stigma and they (wrongfully) believe they can stop whenever they want to. Why do they not learn
from us? Then again, why did we not learn from our PMOers and addicts?
Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually
doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of
‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting
themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying
is the ritual of relieving those pangs.
The High From The Dance Around The Red Line
Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to
filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the
body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an
excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes
even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.
Ask a user who believes that he sticks to a certain actor or genre - only because he likes
something about the star or the theme (if any) of the clip: “If you cannot get your normal brand of
porn and can only obtain a poor or unsafe brand, do you stop masturbating?” No way. A PMOer will
masturbate to anything rather than abstain and it doesn&amp;rsquo;t matter if he has to switch to escalating
themes, different sex-orientation-themes, look-alike actresses, dangerous settings shocking
relationships etc. To begin with they taste awful but if you persevere you will learn to like them.
Most PMOers will also try to seek masturbation even after having real sex (unfulfilment, porn-
induced unrealistic expectations etc.), or after a long, stressful work day, fever, colds, flu, sore
throats and even when admitted in hospitals.
Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wanted then it makes
no sense to be with your laptop. During my conversation some PMOers find it alarming to realize
they are drug addicts and think it will make it even more difficult to stop. In fact, it is all good news
for two important reasons:&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;The reason why most of us carry on masturbating to internet porn is because, although we
know the disadvantages outweigh the advantages, we believe that there is something in the
porn that we actually enjoy or that it is some sort of prop. We feel that after we stop PMOing
there will be a void, that certain situations in our life will never be quite the same. This is an
illusion. The fact is the masturbation and especially PMO gives nothing; it only takes away
and then partially restores to create the illusion. I will explain this in more detail in a later
chapter.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Although internet porn is the most powerful trigger for ‘novelty’ and ‘sex’ based dopamine
‘flooding’ - because of the speed with which you become hooked, you are never badly
hooked. The actual withdrawal pangs are so mild that most PMOers have lived and died
without ever realizing that they have suffered them.
You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through
months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the
second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to
cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc.
The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your
laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious
client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn&amp;rsquo;t
bother the PMOers.
The Smokers Analogy
A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a
cigarette they&amp;rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain
from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to
smoke doesn&amp;rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased
for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.
PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their parents while
visiting for family get togethers etc. with little discomfort to themselves. In fact, most PMOers have
extended periods during which they abstain without effort. Even in my case I would quite happily
go a week or so without a PMO incident. In the later years as a PMOer I actually used to look
forward to these days when I could stop choking my penis (what a ridiculous &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;).
The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still
addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just
as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;
but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water
slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood.
The Big Monster - The Brainwashing
You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong
willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options.
Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.
Not all the amateurs are ‘amateurs’ on these tube sites, oversized body parts and overcharged
scenarios are the norm, aided by a bit of the ‘viagran’ help.
As I say, the actual porn addiction is not the main problem. It just acts as a catalyst to keep our
minds confused over the real problem: the brainwashing. It may be of consolation to lifelong and
heavy PMOers to know that it is just as easy for them to stop as casual PMOers. In a peculiar way.
it is easier. The further you go along with the &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;, the more it drags you down and the greater the
gain when you stop.
It may be of further consolation for you to know that the rumours that occasionally circulate
that the neural pathways created are there for life, and so at the right (or wrong) time and with
strong stimuli you will be sliding again down the ‘water slide’ of internet porn and masturbation to
permanently destroy your real life sex are untrue.
Do not think the bad effects of internet porn are exaggerated. If anything, they are sadly
understated but the truth is there are different levels of dependency on PMO and masturbation in
general. However, these bodies of ours are incredible machines and have enormous powers of
recovery. If you stop now, your body and brain will recover within a matter of a few weeks.
As I have said, it is never too late to stop. You can see many who have stopped not only porn
but masturbation as well. Naturally with any obstacles that humans face some have even taken this
addiction recovery to the next level in learning about differentiating amative and propagative sides
of sex. They have not only rebooted their sex lives but have made their partner happier than before
as well.
The further it drags you down, the greater the relief. When I finally stopped I went straight to
ZERO, and didn&amp;rsquo;t have one bad pang. In fact, it was actually enjoyable, even during the withdrawal
period. But we must remove the brainwashing about internet porn regardless of your status as single
or partnered and also of masturbation.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
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<title>03-05 Why Do We Carry on With PMO</title>
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<description>&lt;p&gt;We all start PMOing for many reasons, usually social pressures or our biological curiosity, but once we feel we are becoming hooked, why do we carry on using porn? No regular PMOer knows why he or she looks at porn. If PMOers knew the true reason, they would stop doing it. The true answer is the same for all PMOers but the variety of replies is infinite, I find this part of the consultation the most amusing and at the same time the most pathetic.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;All PMOers know in their heart of hearts that they are fools. They know that they had no need to use porn or internet porn before they became hooked. Most of them can remember that their first ‘peek’ was a mix of revulsion and novel curiosity. They then filter out and get “skilled” at “locating” and “bookmarking” the right porn sites. They know that they had to work hard in order to become hooked.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The most annoying part is that they sense that non-addicts - most women, older guys, people living in countries where hi-speed internet porn is not available “on tap” - are not missing anything and that they are laughing at them.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;However, PMOers are intelligent, rational human beings. They know that they are taking enormous future risks and so they spend a lot of time rationalizing their ‘habit’. The actual reason why PMOers continue is a subtle combination of the factors that I will elaborate in the next two chapters. They are:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;INTERNET PORN&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;BRAINWASHING&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
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<title>03-04 The Sinister Trap</title>
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<description>&lt;p&gt;Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it&amp;rsquo;s an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It is the only trap in nature which has does not require a lot of hard work to set up. The thing that springs the trap is not that all porn clips feature young, high quality, sexy models; it’s that most of the thumbnails on any porn web page are ugly looking, unattractive, amateurish, home-made clips of unknown models. If the first timer’s first look at a tube page was only filled with angelic beauties, professional models and high quality then the alarm bells would ring. And as intelligent human beings, we could then understand why half the adult population was systematically addicted to watching something that is cutting down their very same potential to do what they are viewing. In many known and yet unknown ways porn cuts down sexual performance and the feeling of satisfaction.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;But because that first “peek” has “stains and holes,” a mishmash of low quality clips of not-so-hot models, our young minds are reassured that we will never become hooked, and we think that because we are not enjoying them we can stop whenever we want to. It is the only drug in nature that prevents you from achieving your aim. Our curiosity brings us to its door steps. You dare not even click on all of the thumbnails because some of them will make you feel sick and throw up! If you were to accidentally click on an “I-did-not-see-that” clip - all you want to do is get away from the site and close your laptop.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;With women, the aim is to be the sophisticated modern young lady. We have all seen them acting up and looking absolutely ridiculous. By the time the boys have learnt to look tough and the girls have learnt to look sophisticated, they wish they had never started in the first place. I wonder whether women ever look sophisticated when they discuss the top 10 porn sites, or whether this is a figment of our imaginations created by internet porn companies.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;We then spend the rest of our lives trying to explain to ourselves why we do it, telling our children not to get caught and, at odd times, trying to escape ourselves. The trap is so designed that we try to stop only when we have an “incident” that touch us to the quick of the flesh, whether it be in the bed, loss of a career or relationship, shortage of drive or just plain being made to feel like a leper. As soon as we stop, we have more stress (the fearful withdrawal pangs of brain chemicals) and the thing that we rely on to relieve stress (our old prop, porn and PMO) we now must do without. Internet porn is powerful imagery at high speed making it a high fructose corn syrup&amp;hellip; sorry, high density supernormal stimulant.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;After a few days of torture we decide that we have picked the wrong time to quit. We must wait for a period without stress, and as soon as that arrives the reason for stopping vanishes. Of course, that period will never arrive because, in the first place, we think that our lives tend to become more and more stressful. As we leave the protection of our parents the natural process is jobs, setting up home, mortgages, babies, more responsible jobs, a bigger house, more babies etc. etc. This is also an illusion.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The truth is that the most stressful periods for any creature are early childhood and adolescence. We tend to confuse responsibility with stress. A PMOer’s life - like a drug addict - automatically becomes more stressful because PMO does not relax you or relieve stress, as some try to make you believe. Just the reverse: it actually causes you to become more nervous and stressed. Internet porn is as fake in its promises for pleasure and crutch as its actors are. If you had never learned any life skills to cope the stress and strains of day to day life you are not going to get any better with this fake and disgusting crutch. Worse you are going to add more bales of straw on the old camel’s back.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Even those users who kick the habit (most do, one or more times during their lives) can lead perfectly happy lives yet suddenly become hooked again. The whole business of PMO is like wandering into a giant maze. As soon as we enter the maze our minds become misted and clouded, and we spend the rest of our lives trying to escape. Many of us eventually do, only to find that we get trapped again at a later date. I spent thirty-three years trying to escape from that maze. Like all PMOers, I couldn&amp;rsquo;t understand it. However, due to a combination of unusual circumstances, none of which reflect any credit on me, I wanted to know why previously it had been so desperately difficult to stop and yet, when I finally did, it was not only easy but enjoyable.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Since stopping PMO my hobby has been to resolve the many conundrums associated with porn. It is a complex and fascinating puzzle and - like a Rubik&amp;rsquo;s Cube - practically impossible to solve. However, like all complicated puzzles, if you know the solution, it is easy! I have the solution to stopping porn easily. I will lead you out of the maze and ensure that you never wander into it again. All you have to do is follow the instructions. If you take a wrong turn, the rest of the instructions will be pointless. Let me emphasize that anybody can find it easy to stop but first we need to establish the facts. No, I do not mean the scare facts. I know you are already aware of them. There is already enough information on the evils of PMO. If that was going to stop you, you would already have stopped. I mean, why do we find it difficult to stop? In order to answer this question we need to know the real reason why we are still doing PMO.&lt;/p&gt;
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<title>03-03 Why Is It Difficult to Stop?</title>
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<pubDate>Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:31:45 +0200</pubDate>
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<description>&lt;p&gt;As I explained earlier, I got interested in this subject because of my own addiction. When I finally stopped it was like magic. When I had previously tried to stop there were weeks of black depression. There would be odd days when I was comparatively cheerful but the next day back with the depression. It was like clawing your way out of a slippery pit, you feel you are near the top, you see the sunshine and then find yourself sliding down again. Eventually you open your browser and as you masturbate you feel awful and you try to work out why you have to do it.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;One of the questions I always ask online is: “do you want to stop PMO?” In a way it is a stupid question. All users (including members who dispute total abstinence) would love to stop PMO. If you ask to the most confirmed PMOer: “if you could go back to the time before you became hooked, with the knowledge you have now, would you have started PMO?”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;“NO WAY,” would be the reply.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Say to the confirmed PMOer - someone who defends internet porn and who doesn&amp;rsquo;t think that it cause injury to the brain (PIED, hypofrontality or the decreases in the dopamine receptors and etc.) - “do you encourage your children to use PMO?”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;“NO WAY,” is again the reply.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;All PMOers feel that something evil has got possession of them. In the early days it is a question of, “I am going to stop, not today but tomorrow.” Eventually we get to the stage where we think either that we haven&amp;rsquo;t got the willpower or that there is something inherent in the whole PMO that we must have in order to enjoy life.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;As I said previously, the problem is not explaining why it is easy to stop; it is explaining why it is difficult. In fact, the real problem is explaining scientifically why anybody does it even after getting the insights on the neurological damages of addictions not limited to porn.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The whole business of porn is an extraordinary enigma. One of the reasons we get on to it is because of the thousands of people are already into it, about 35% of the population approximately. Yet every one of them wishes he or she had not started in the first place, telling us that life is like driving in second gear. We cannot quite believe they are not enjoying it. We associate it with freedom or being “sex-educated” and work hard to become hooked ourselves. We then spend the rest of our lives telling others not to do it and trying to kick the habit ourselves.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;We also spend the rest of our lives feeling hopeless and miserable. Time spent on porn can accumulate to a large percentage of our life in this planet! What do we do with that amount of time spent? We ‘educate’ ourselves with supranormal&lt;sup id=&#34;fnref:1&#34;&gt;&lt;a href=&#34;#fn:1&#34; class=&#34;footnote-ref&#34; role=&#34;doc-noteref&#34;&gt;1&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/sup&gt; ‘material’ that makes us stupidly prefer and childishly long for these cold images - even when warm real ones are available. By the constant surge and drop of dopamine induced by PMO, we sentence ourselves to a lifetime of irritability, anger, frustration, stress, fatigue&lt;sup id=&#34;fnref:2&#34;&gt;&lt;a href=&#34;#fn:2&#34; class=&#34;footnote-ref&#34; role=&#34;doc-noteref&#34;&gt;2&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/sup&gt;, PIED, hypofrontality etc. In short, it is a lifetime of slavery. It is logically and intuitively clear that amative sex (physical touch, feel, voice etc.) is the best part of sex and is even better (if Karezza&lt;sup id=&#34;fnref:3&#34;&gt;&lt;a href=&#34;#fn:3&#34; class=&#34;footnote-ref&#34; role=&#34;doc-noteref&#34;&gt;3&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/sup&gt; is practised, although not necessary for the current purposes) than the propagative (orgasm) part, except when children are desired. So, when we use porn in the absence of the best part of sex we feel miserable and guilty.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;In fact, all the reading about internet pornography&amp;rsquo;s addictive capabilities and it’s destructive effects here and in other online sites makes us even more nervous and hopeless. When we are trying to cut down or stop, we end up feeling deprived. We wish we didn&amp;rsquo;t have to. What sort of hobby is it that when you are doing it you wish you weren&amp;rsquo;t, and when you are not doing it you crave for it ? A lifetime of an otherwise intelligent, rational human being going through life in contempt.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The PMOer despises himself, every time he has an unreliable erection, a fading penetration, reading about PIED and other stuff on the YBOP forum, every time he could not pull himself up to exercise after a daytime PMO, every PMO behind his or her trustfully asleep partner’s back, every time he sees his tired face and lifeless eyes in the restroom mirror.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Having to go through life with these awful black shadows at the back of his mind, what does he get out of it? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! Pleasure? Enjoyment? Relaxation? A prop? A boost? All illusions, unless you consider the wearing of tight shoes to enjoy the removal of them as some sort of pleasure!&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The real problem is trying to explain not only why PMOers find it difficult to stop but why anybody does it at all after knowing about brain neuroplasticity. You are probably thinking: “That&amp;rsquo;s all very well. I know this, but once you are hooked on these things it is very difficult to stop.” But why is it so difficult, and why do we have to do it? Addicts of PMO search for the answer to these questions all of their lives. Some say it is because of the powerful withdrawal symptoms. In fact, the actual withdrawal symptoms from porn are so mild (see Chapter 6) that PMOers should know about smokers who have lived and died without ever realizing they are drug addicts.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Some say internet porn is free and hence humankind should claim this biological bonanza. It is NOT. It is addictive and acts like any other drug. Ask a PMOer who swears that he only enjoys safe playboy type erotica and that he could always restrict himself only to this soft genre ? If he is absolutely honest - he would tell you about the many times when he had unwittingly crossed the line. Otherwise good PMOers would rather use ‘unsafe’ hardcore stuff, rationalizing it, than left with nothing at all.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Enjoyment has nothing to do with it. I enjoy lobster but I never got to the stage where I had to have lobsters everyday and multiple times like they are hanging round my neck. With other things in life we enjoy them whilst we are doing them but we don&amp;rsquo;t sit feeling deprived when we are not. Some search for deep psychological reasons, the “Freudian Syndrome,” or “the child at the mother&amp;rsquo;s breast.” Really it is just the reverse.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The ‘usual’ reason why we start PMO is to show we are grown up and mature. Some think it is the reverse, the macho effect of “doing what boys do” or in some cases, “let me show I am a tomboy girl,” to rattle my conservative family. Again, this argument has no substance. Internet porn provides easy escalation (outrageous and shocking clips just a click away), desensitization (same clips don’t do it any more) and all this within the high reward no risk settings. The science fiction story lines, the fake “amateurs,” the “real life” clips etc. should make any average PMOer discover pretty soon that it is all an illusion. What a PMOer should also understand is that after eating at restaurants every day the home food will never appeal your taste buds at all. Yes, the food is free and is tasty - but does it nourish you ?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Some say:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
&lt;li&gt;“It is educational!” So, when is your graduation?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;“It is a sexual satisfaction.” So, why do it alone? Find a partner and save it for her or him?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;“It is the feeling of release.” A release from the stresses of real life? Porn is going to remove the cause of the stress? OK, good luck. You just added more to it.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Many believe PMO relieves boredom. This is also a fallacy. Boredom is a frame of mind. Porn will induce you to “novelty” seeking in no time. Causing you to be eventually more bored unless and until you participate in the “wild goose chase” all night long for the “right hit” producing clip. There is nothing interesting about supranormal stimulus such as internet porn, it fires up dopamine whose only job is to seek clips that evoke strong emotions, interesting novelty and outrageous shock value.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;For thirty years my reason was that it relaxed me, gave me confidence and courage. I also knew it was draining me and costing me virility. Why didn&amp;rsquo;t I go to a therapist or find an another way to relax me and give me courage and confidence? I didn&amp;rsquo;t go because I knew he would suggest an alternative. It wasn&amp;rsquo;t my reason; it was my excuse.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Some say they only do it because their friends and every one they know do it. Are you really that stupid? If so, just pray that your friends do not start cutting their heads off to cure a headache! Most users who think about it eventually come to the conclusion that it is just a habit. This is not really an explanation but having discounted all the usual rational explanations, it appears to be the only remaining excuse. Unfortunately, this explanation is equally illogical. Every day of our lives we change habits and some of them are very enjoyable. We have been brainwashed to believe that PMO is a habit and that habits are difficult to break. Are habits really difficult to break?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;In the US we are in the habit of driving on the right side of the road. Yet when we drive in the UK we immediately break that habit with hardly any aggravation whatsoever. It is clearly a fallacy that habits are hard to break. The fact is that we make and break habits every day of our lives. So why do we find it difficult to break a habit that makes us deprived when we don’t have it yet guilty when we do and that we would love to break anyway, when all we have to do is to stop doing it?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The answer is that PMO is not habit: IT IS ADDICTION! That is why it appears to be so difficult to “give up.” Perhaps you feel this explanation explains why it is difficult to “give up?” It does explain why most PMOers find it difficult to “give up.” That is because they do not understand addiction. The main reason is that PMOers are convinced that they get some genuine pleasure and/or crutch from porn and believe that they are making a genuine sacrifice if they quit.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The beautiful truth is that once you understand porn addiction and the true reasons why you PMO, you will stop doing it just like that - and within three weeks the only mystery will be why you found it necessary to PMO as long as you have, and why you cannot persuade other PMOers &lt;strong&gt;HOW NICE IT IS TO BE A NON-PMOer&lt;/strong&gt;!&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;div class=&#34;footnotes&#34; role=&#34;doc-endnotes&#34;&gt;
&lt;hr&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li id=&#34;fn:1&#34;&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Supranormal&lt;/strong&gt; - a phrase coined by Nikolaas Tinbergen. Studies show that our brains prefer brighter, larger, colourful
etc. versions of what we like.&amp;#160;&lt;a href=&#34;#fnref:1&#34; class=&#34;footnote-backref&#34; role=&#34;doc-backlink&#34;&gt;&amp;#x21a9;&amp;#xfe0e;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li id=&#34;fn:2&#34;&gt;
&lt;p&gt;When dopamine receptors are de-activated in response to frequent and extended dopamine surges even normal de-
stressing chemicals are not absorbed by our brains.&amp;#160;&lt;a href=&#34;#fnref:2&#34; class=&#34;footnote-backref&#34; role=&#34;doc-backlink&#34;&gt;&amp;#x21a9;&amp;#xfe0e;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li id=&#34;fn:3&#34;&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Karezza&lt;/strong&gt; - is the practice of amative sex that puts no pressure on orgasms as occurs in propagative sex. It relieves the
man and woman from performance based anxieties.&amp;#160;&lt;a href=&#34;#fnref:3&#34; class=&#34;footnote-backref&#34; role=&#34;doc-backlink&#34;&gt;&amp;#x21a9;&amp;#xfe0e;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/li&gt;
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<title>03-02 the Easy Method</title>
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<description>&lt;p&gt;The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Provided that you are not a non-PMOer (who had never got addicted) or an ex-PMOer (who had quit or is in the fasting days of the porn-diet), it is essential to not quit until you have finished the book completely. This may appear to be a contradiction. Later I shall be explaining that porn do absolutely nothing for you at all. In fact, one of the many conundrums about internet porn is that when we are actually masturbating to a porn clip, we look at it and wonder why we are doing it. It is only when we have been deprived that the craving for PMO becomes precious.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;However, let us accept that, whether you like it or not, you believe you are hooked. When you believe you are hooked, you can never be completely relaxed or concentrate properly unless you are using PMO. So do not attempt to stop PMO before you have finished the whole book. This instruction to continue to masturbate using porn until you have completed the book has caused me more frustration than any other. As you read further your desire to masturbate to porn will gradually be reduced. Do not go off half-cocked; this could be fatal. Remember, all you have to do is to follow the instructions in the right order. When I first started writing on forums many of the readers also stopped purely because I had done it. They thought, “if he can do it, anybody can.”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Over the years, I managed to persuade the ones that hadn&amp;rsquo;t stopped to realize just how nice it is to be free! I gave my hackbook for free upon request. I worked on the basis that, even if it were the most boring book ever written, they would still read it, if only because it had been written by an ex-PMOer. I was surprised and hurt to learn that,they hadn&amp;rsquo;t bothered to finish the book.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I was hurt at the time but I had overlooked the dreadful fear that this slavery to the “dopamine surge” instils in the addict. I now realize that many PMOers don&amp;rsquo;t finish the book because they feel they have got to give up something that is their pleasure and crutch when they quit. Some deliberately read only one line a day in order to postpone the evil day. Look at it this way: what have you got to lose? If you don&amp;rsquo;t stop at the end of the book, you are no worse off than you are now. YOU HAVE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO LOSE AND SO MUCH TO GAIN! AND SO MUCH MORE TO AVOID !!! A Pascal’s Wage&lt;sup id=&#34;fnref:1&#34;&gt;&lt;a href=&#34;#fn:1&#34; class=&#34;footnote-ref&#34; role=&#34;doc-noteref&#34;&gt;1&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/sup&gt;?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Incidentally, if you have not PMOed for a few days or weeks but are not sure whether you are a PMOer, an ex-PMOer or a non-PMOer, then don&amp;rsquo;t use porn to masturbate while you read. In fact, you are already a non-PMOer. All we&amp;rsquo;ve now got to do is to let your brain catch up with your body. By the end of the book you&amp;rsquo;ll be a happy non-PMOer.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Basically this method is the complete opposite of the normal method of trying to stop. The normal method is to list the considerable disadvantages of PMO and say, “if only I can go long enough without porn, eventually the desire to masturbate to porn will go. I can then enjoy life again, free of slavery to the tube.” This is the logical way to go about it, and thousands of PMOer are stopping every day using variations of this method. However, it is very difficult to succeed using this method for the following reasons:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Stopping PMO is not the real problem. Every time you finish your ‘deed’ you stop using it. You may have powerful reasons on day one of your once-in-four porn diet to say, “I do not want to PMO or even masturbate any more” - all PMOers have, every day of their lives, and the reasons are more powerful than you can possibly imagine. The real problem is day two, day ten or day ten thousand, when in a weak moment, an inebriated moment or even a strong moment you have one ‘peek’ and because it is partly akin to drug addiction you then want another, and suddenly you are a masturbator again.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;The health scares should stop us. Our rational minds say: “Stop doing it. You are a fool,” but in fact they make it harder. We masturbate, for example, when we are nervous. Tell PMOers that it is destroying their virility, and the first thing they will do is to find something to rush their dopamine - a cigarette, alcohol or even fire up the browser and search for porn.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;All reasons for stopping actually make it harder for two other reasons. First, they create a SOS sense of sacrifice. We are always being forced to give up our little friend or prop or vice or pleasure, whichever way the PMOer sees it. Secondly, they create a &amp;lsquo;blind&amp;rsquo;. We do not masturbate for the reasons we should stop. The real question is: why do we want or need to do it?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The EasyPeasy Method is basically this: initially to forget the reasons we&amp;rsquo;d like to stop, to face the problem and to ask ourselves the following questions:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;What is it doing for me?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Do I actually enjoy it?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Do I really need to go through life using free internet porn or even paying through the nose just to sabotage my mind and body?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The beautiful truth is that porn – streaming, static or whatever - does absolutely nothing for you at all. Let me make it quite clear; I do not mean that the disadvantages of being a PMOer outweigh the advantages. All PMOers know from the many published studies about high speed internet porn addiction, forum messages, blog articles in YBOP and similar sites. I mean there are not any advantages from internet porn. The only advantage it ever had was the ‘educational’ aspect and guess what, nowadays the kind of education that it is offering is highly disputable for their contribution to real life intimacy. Most PMOers find it necessary to rationalize why they PMO but the reasons they come up are all fallacies and illusions.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The first thing we are going to do is to remove these fallacies and illusions. In fact, you will realize that there is nothing to give up. Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous, positive gains from being a non-PMOer and well being and happiness are only two of these gains. Once the illusion that life will never be quite as enjoyable without porn is removed, once you realize that not only is life just as enjoyable without it but infinitely more so, once the feeling of being deprived or of missing out are eradicated, then we can go back to reconsider the health and happiness - and the dozens of other reasons for stopping. These realizations will become positive additional aids to help you achieve what you really desire to enjoy the whole of your life free from the slavery of the porn habit.&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;hr&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li id=&#34;fn:1&#34;&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Pascal’s Wager is a bet you take when you have nothing or less to lose for a higher chances of large gains and avoiding losses in the future&amp;#160;&lt;a href=&#34;#fnref:1&#34; class=&#34;footnote-backref&#34; role=&#34;doc-backlink&#34;&gt;&amp;#x21a9;&amp;#xfe0e;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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<description>&lt;p&gt;Erotic novelty of the internet porn is a mental ‘drug’ and internet porn beats anything that is known to mankind and its streaming straight to your home for free ! We are not even talking VR virtual reality here. Porn triggers the ‘flooding’ of dopamine in our brain. Dopamine amps up the brain reward circuitry to produce experiences and feels of cravings and pleasure by locking themselves into ‘receptors’. More dopamine more wanting. Less dopamine no wanting. New experiences, tasty food - more dopamine - more wanting. Sex and sex related stuff gives the biggest injection of dopamine in the reward circuits. Dopamine is not the final pleasure stuff, if it were you would feel happy when you are done with it, but it is only a brain chemical that encourages seeking and action in you. The real pleasure is produced by opioids. More dopamine more opioids more
action more happy feelings.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. All of which will now be stored as a script in your brain for easy access next time. I call this a ‘water slide’. Next time at the cue - a sexy commercial or alone time or stress or feeling a little down - you are ready to take a ride on the ‘water slide’. One more thing is that every time to repeat this you are ‘greasing’ it
as well - so it is active, alive and more easier to slide the next time.
As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will
be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but
this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation
feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating.
Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish,
ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you
won’t on your first time.
My Own Online Harem!
This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn
magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of
the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the
cost.
Going back to the earlier discussion - in this cycle as you crossed the ‘red line’ you also
trigger emotions such as guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety and fear - which in turn raise
dopamine levels as well. Now the brain may mistakenly associate feelings of anxiety and fear as
sexual arousal. This perpetual cycle is only broken by natural causes - fortunately sooner or later.
With its free access and privacy it provides boundless harem-like novelty. The dopamine can be
theoretically kept very high for a very very long time. I can be satisfied with one lobster once in
awhile. But Internet porn is different. It is even worse than drugs. Don’t let me make you nervous. I
will shortly show you how to be free from this slavery.
Now our human body has a self-correcting system by which the number of dopamine and
opioid receptors are cut short when frequent and daily ‘flooding’ of dopamine is detected.
Unfortunately - these receptors are also needed for receiving dopamine and to keep us even and
balanced to handle the inevitable and normal day-to-day stresses. But this natural nominal amount
of dopamine will not be absorbed efficiently with decreased receptors and you will feel more
stressed and irritated than normal. &amp;ldquo;For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Kahlil Gibran.
A fleeting feeling of security is all that is needed to get through a rough spot in life - but will
your brain be able to catch that drop of de-stressor that a non-PMOers’ brain is able to catch and
use?
This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I
must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think
that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop
PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I
will explain more about this later.
The Little Monster
The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died
without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&amp;rsquo; we think we
just &amp;lsquo;got into the habit&amp;rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&amp;rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug
addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted.
There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the
feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it
is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is
like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.
Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, resulting
in the feeling of fulfilment and pleasure that the action gives to the PMOer. In the early days, when
we first start PMOing, the withdrawal pangs and their relief are so slight that we are not even aware
that they exist. When we begin to masturbate regularly to internet porn we think it is because we&amp;rsquo;ve
either come to enjoy them or got into the &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;. The truth is we&amp;rsquo;re already hooked; we do not
realize it, but that little monster is already inside our stomach and every now and again we have to
feed it.
All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why
anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster.
The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO
know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the
most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the
pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had
before he became hooked in the first place.
The Annoying Burglar Alarm
You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has
been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous
feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the
aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our
brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the
dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We
are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do
not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate
the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we
became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the
craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain
goes on. It is a chain for life - UNLESS YOU BREAK IT.
The whole business of PMO is like wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure you feel
when you take them off. There are three main reasons why PMOers cannot see things that way:&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;From birth we have been subjected to massive brainwashing telling us that internet porn is
simply just another modern development that replaced the print version of porn. Why should
we not believe them when it hides behind the truth that masturbation is not bad? (However, I
won’t recommend you take up masturbation). Why else would they waste all that time and
energy and take such horrendous risks?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Because the physical withdrawal from dopamine injection involves no actual pain but is
merely an empty, insecure feeling, inseparable from hunger or normal stress and because
those are the very times that we tend to seek internet porn. We tend to regard the feeling as
normal.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;However the main reason that PMOers fail to see internet porn in its true light is because it
works back to front. It&amp;rsquo;s when you are not masturbating to it that you suffer that empty
feeling. Because the process of getting hooked is very subtle and gradual in the early days,
we regard that empty feeling as normal and don&amp;rsquo;t blame it on the previous PMO session. The
moment you fire up the browser and reach a tube site, you get an almost immediate boost or
buzz and do actually feel less nervous or more relaxed and internet porn gets the credit.
It is this &amp;lsquo;back to front&amp;rsquo; reverse process that makes all drugs difficult to kick. Picture the panic
state of a heroin addict who has no heroin. Now picture the utter joy when that addict can finally
plunge a needle into his vein. Can you visualize someone actually getting pleasure by injecting
themselves, or does the mere thought fill you with horror? Non-heroin addicts don&amp;rsquo;t suffer that panic
feeling.
The heroin doesn&amp;rsquo;t relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a 14 year old in
2008 - didn&amp;rsquo;t suffer the empty feeling of needing internet porn or start to panic when they are off-
line. Non-PMOers cannot understand how PMOers can possibly obtain pleasure from two
dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. And do you know
something? PMOers themselves cannot understand why they do it after some time either.
We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied
unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don&amp;rsquo;t non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied
state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers
completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their &amp;rsquo;little monster&amp;rsquo;?
A Pleasure or Crutch?
Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it
difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is
absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to
understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of
eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed
are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure
feeling which we know as: &amp;lsquo;I need to eat.&amp;rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasant
pastime.
PMOing appears to be almost identical. The empty, insecure feeling which we know as:
&amp;lsquo;wanting or needing an PMO orgasm’ is identical to a hunger for food, although one will not satisfy
the other. Like hunger, there is no physical pain and the feeling is so imperceptible that we are not
even aware of it between PMO sessions. It&amp;rsquo;s only if we want to masturbate and aren&amp;rsquo;t able to reach
internet for porn that we become aware of any discomfort. But when we do PMO we feel satisfied.
It is this similarity to eating which helps to fool PMOers into believing that they receive some
genuine pleasure. Some PMOers find it very difficult to grasp that there is no pleasure or crutch,
whatsoever to PMO. Some argue: “How can you say there is no crutch? When I orgasm up then I&amp;rsquo;ll
feel less nervous than before.”
Although eating and PMOing appear to be very similar. In fact they are exact opposites:&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;You eat to survive and to energize your life, whereas PMOing dims your mojo and cuts
down your energy.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Food does genuinely taste good, and eating is a genuinely pleasant experience that we can
enjoy throughout our lives, whereas PMOing involves self-sabotaging the happiness
receptors and thus destroying your chances to cope and to feel happy.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Eating doesn&amp;rsquo;t create hunger and genuinely relieves it, whereas the first PMO starts the
craving for dopamine and each subsequent one, far from relieving it, ensures that you suffer
it for the rest of life.
PMO is a Habit?
This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is
eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be
the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different
people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food.
But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is
to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is
true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different
times, but PMO itself is not a habit.
On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience,
I also refer to the &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no
more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to
learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’ * - we have to then have more bizarre
and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting&amp;hellip; not in the killing. If we don&amp;rsquo;t then panic sets
in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of
higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too
in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving
others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great!&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Escalation - a practice that is the result of our brain’s novelty and curiosity seeking to
get more dopamine in our reward circuitry.
Crossing The Red Line
This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of
the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of
watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO
session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking
you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn
paradise.
You feel better than you did before starting this PMO session but you are in fact more nervous
and less relaxed than you would be as a non-PMOer, like someone who is living in Loma Linda or
in an Amish village, even though you are actually PMOing and living in your supposed “porn
paradise.” This position is even more ridiculous than wearing tight shoes because as you go through
life an increasing amount of the discomfort remains even when the shoes are removed.
Once the orgasm is achieved, the dopamine rapidly begins to leave the brain, causing a mood
dip. Which explains why the PMOer wants to ‘edge’* and switch through multiple browser
windows as they seek and search. As I said, the ‘habit’ doesn&amp;rsquo;t exist. The real reason why every user
goes on using internet porn is because of that little porn monster inside his stomach. Every now and
again he has to feed it. The PMOer himself will decide when he does that and it tends to be on four
types of occasion or a combination of them.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Edge - to stay longer in pre-orgasm stage. To delay orgasm.
These occasions are:
• BOREDOM/CONCENTRATION - two complete opposites!
• STRESS/RELAXATION - two complete opposites!
What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If you think
about it, what other types of occasion are there in our lives; apart from sleep? The truth is that PMO
neither relieves boredom and stress nor promotes concentration and relaxation. It is all just illusion.
Apart from being a drug, PMO is also a destroyer of happiness and virility.
In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and
such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes,
print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’
and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the
most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive
without knowing the difference between food and poison.
Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics
Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have
developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and
bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more
shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the
outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we
will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red
line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural
and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and
balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there
are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!
When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were titillating but most
were disgusting, causing you to avert your eyes away. Like you would if had accidentally glanced a
feeding mother’s breast. And some of us are even revolted with what they saw when the star
reminded them of someone dear to their heart or a scene which recalled their own instance of being
the victim. Some don’t feel like it to browse and masturbate at the same time. It may be hard to
believe for you but the non-PMOs, who don’t PMO after their first time, are the lucky ones. They
actually decided that it was not their cup of tea. It must be hard for you to believe but stay with me.
How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the
social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even
after a hard day? Why not ? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after
your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That&amp;rsquo;s all.
Are PMOers Mentally Weak?
It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The
lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or,
alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting
the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical
enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.
To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to become
hooked, and this is why it is difficult to stop teenagers. Because they are skilled in seeking and
finding material, they know online privacy options and can clean their tracks - if they still feel some
stigma and they (wrongfully) believe they can stop whenever they want to. Why do they not learn
from us? Then again, why did we not learn from our PMOers and addicts?
Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually
doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of
‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting
themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying
is the ritual of relieving those pangs.
The High From The Dance Around The Red Line
Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to
filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the
body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an
excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes
even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.
Ask a user who believes that he sticks to a certain actor or genre - only because he likes
something about the star or the theme (if any) of the clip: “If you cannot get your normal brand of
porn and can only obtain a poor or unsafe brand, do you stop masturbating?” No way. A PMOer will
masturbate to anything rather than abstain and it doesn&amp;rsquo;t matter if he has to switch to escalating
themes, different sex-orientation-themes, look-alike actresses, dangerous settings shocking
relationships etc. To begin with they taste awful but if you persevere you will learn to like them.
Most PMOers will also try to seek masturbation even after having real sex (unfulfilment, porn-
induced unrealistic expectations etc.), or after a long, stressful work day, fever, colds, flu, sore
throats and even when admitted in hospitals.
Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wanted then it makes
no sense to be with your laptop. During my conversation some PMOers find it alarming to realize
they are drug addicts and think it will make it even more difficult to stop. In fact, it is all good news
for two important reasons:&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;The reason why most of us carry on masturbating to internet porn is because, although we
know the disadvantages outweigh the advantages, we believe that there is something in the
porn that we actually enjoy or that it is some sort of prop. We feel that after we stop PMOing
there will be a void, that certain situations in our life will never be quite the same. This is an
illusion. The fact is the masturbation and especially PMO gives nothing; it only takes away
and then partially restores to create the illusion. I will explain this in more detail in a later
chapter.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Although internet porn is the most powerful trigger for ‘novelty’ and ‘sex’ based dopamine
‘flooding’ - because of the speed with which you become hooked, you are never badly
hooked. The actual withdrawal pangs are so mild that most PMOers have lived and died
without ever realizing that they have suffered them.
You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through
months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the
second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to
cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc.
The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your
laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious
client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn&amp;rsquo;t
bother the PMOers.
The Smokers Analogy
A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a
cigarette they&amp;rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain
from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to
smoke doesn&amp;rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased
for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.
PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their parents while
visiting for family get togethers etc. with little discomfort to themselves. In fact, most PMOers have
extended periods during which they abstain without effort. Even in my case I would quite happily
go a week or so without a PMO incident. In the later years as a PMOer I actually used to look
forward to these days when I could stop choking my penis (what a ridiculous &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;).
The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still
addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just
as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;
but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water
slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood.
The Big Monster - The Brainwashing
You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong
willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options.
Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.
Not all the amateurs are ‘amateurs’ on these tube sites, oversized body parts and overcharged
scenarios are the norm, aided by a bit of the ‘viagran’ help.
As I say, the actual porn addiction is not the main problem. It just acts as a catalyst to keep our
minds confused over the real problem: the brainwashing. It may be of consolation to lifelong and
heavy PMOers to know that it is just as easy for them to stop as casual PMOers. In a peculiar way.
it is easier. The further you go along with the &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;, the more it drags you down and the greater the
gain when you stop.
It may be of further consolation for you to know that the rumours that occasionally circulate
that the neural pathways created are there for life, and so at the right (or wrong) time and with
strong stimuli you will be sliding again down the ‘water slide’ of internet porn and masturbation to
permanently destroy your real life sex are untrue.
Do not think the bad effects of internet porn are exaggerated. If anything, they are sadly
understated but the truth is there are different levels of dependency on PMO and masturbation in
general. However, these bodies of ours are incredible machines and have enormous powers of
recovery. If you stop now, your body and brain will recover within a matter of a few weeks.
As I have said, it is never too late to stop. You can see many who have stopped not only porn
but masturbation as well. Naturally with any obstacles that humans face some have even taken this
addiction recovery to the next level in learning about differentiating amative and propagative sides
of sex. They have not only rebooted their sex lives but have made their partner happier than before
as well.
The further it drags you down, the greater the relief. When I finally stopped I went straight to
ZERO, and didn&amp;rsquo;t have one bad pang. In fact, it was actually enjoyable, even during the withdrawal
period. But we must remove the brainwashing about internet porn regardless of your status as single
or partnered and also of masturbation.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
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<title>03-05 Why Do We Carry on With PMO</title>
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<description>&lt;p&gt;We all start PMOing for many reasons, usually social pressures or our biological curiosity, but once we feel we are becoming hooked, why do we carry on using porn? No regular PMOer knows why he or she looks at porn. If PMOers knew the true reason, they would stop doing it. The true answer is the same for all PMOers but the variety of replies is infinite, I find this part of the consultation the most amusing and at the same time the most pathetic.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;All PMOers know in their heart of hearts that they are fools. They know that they had no need to use porn or internet porn before they became hooked. Most of them can remember that their first ‘peek’ was a mix of revulsion and novel curiosity. They then filter out and get “skilled” at “locating” and “bookmarking” the right porn sites. They know that they had to work hard in order to become hooked.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The most annoying part is that they sense that non-addicts - most women, older guys, people living in countries where hi-speed internet porn is not available “on tap” - are not missing anything and that they are laughing at them.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;However, PMOers are intelligent, rational human beings. They know that they are taking enormous future risks and so they spend a lot of time rationalizing their ‘habit’. The actual reason why PMOers continue is a subtle combination of the factors that I will elaborate in the next two chapters. They are:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;INTERNET PORN&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;BRAINWASHING&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
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<title>03-04 The Sinister Trap</title>
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<description>&lt;p&gt;Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it&amp;rsquo;s an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It is the only trap in nature which has does not require a lot of hard work to set up. The thing that springs the trap is not that all porn clips feature young, high quality, sexy models; it’s that most of the thumbnails on any porn web page are ugly looking, unattractive, amateurish, home-made clips of unknown models. If the first timer’s first look at a tube page was only filled with angelic beauties, professional models and high quality then the alarm bells would ring. And as intelligent human beings, we could then understand why half the adult population was systematically addicted to watching something that is cutting down their very same potential to do what they are viewing. In many known and yet unknown ways porn cuts down sexual performance and the feeling of satisfaction.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;But because that first “peek” has “stains and holes,” a mishmash of low quality clips of not-so-hot models, our young minds are reassured that we will never become hooked, and we think that because we are not enjoying them we can stop whenever we want to. It is the only drug in nature that prevents you from achieving your aim. Our curiosity brings us to its door steps. You dare not even click on all of the thumbnails because some of them will make you feel sick and throw up! If you were to accidentally click on an “I-did-not-see-that” clip - all you want to do is get away from the site and close your laptop.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;With women, the aim is to be the sophisticated modern young lady. We have all seen them acting up and looking absolutely ridiculous. By the time the boys have learnt to look tough and the girls have learnt to look sophisticated, they wish they had never started in the first place. I wonder whether women ever look sophisticated when they discuss the top 10 porn sites, or whether this is a figment of our imaginations created by internet porn companies.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;We then spend the rest of our lives trying to explain to ourselves why we do it, telling our children not to get caught and, at odd times, trying to escape ourselves. The trap is so designed that we try to stop only when we have an “incident” that touch us to the quick of the flesh, whether it be in the bed, loss of a career or relationship, shortage of drive or just plain being made to feel like a leper. As soon as we stop, we have more stress (the fearful withdrawal pangs of brain chemicals) and the thing that we rely on to relieve stress (our old prop, porn and PMO) we now must do without. Internet porn is powerful imagery at high speed making it a high fructose corn syrup&amp;hellip; sorry, high density supernormal stimulant.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;After a few days of torture we decide that we have picked the wrong time to quit. We must wait for a period without stress, and as soon as that arrives the reason for stopping vanishes. Of course, that period will never arrive because, in the first place, we think that our lives tend to become more and more stressful. As we leave the protection of our parents the natural process is jobs, setting up home, mortgages, babies, more responsible jobs, a bigger house, more babies etc. etc. This is also an illusion.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The truth is that the most stressful periods for any creature are early childhood and adolescence. We tend to confuse responsibility with stress. A PMOer’s life - like a drug addict - automatically becomes more stressful because PMO does not relax you or relieve stress, as some try to make you believe. Just the reverse: it actually causes you to become more nervous and stressed. Internet porn is as fake in its promises for pleasure and crutch as its actors are. If you had never learned any life skills to cope the stress and strains of day to day life you are not going to get any better with this fake and disgusting crutch. Worse you are going to add more bales of straw on the old camel’s back.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Even those users who kick the habit (most do, one or more times during their lives) can lead perfectly happy lives yet suddenly become hooked again. The whole business of PMO is like wandering into a giant maze. As soon as we enter the maze our minds become misted and clouded, and we spend the rest of our lives trying to escape. Many of us eventually do, only to find that we get trapped again at a later date. I spent thirty-three years trying to escape from that maze. Like all PMOers, I couldn&amp;rsquo;t understand it. However, due to a combination of unusual circumstances, none of which reflect any credit on me, I wanted to know why previously it had been so desperately difficult to stop and yet, when I finally did, it was not only easy but enjoyable.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Since stopping PMO my hobby has been to resolve the many conundrums associated with porn. It is a complex and fascinating puzzle and - like a Rubik&amp;rsquo;s Cube - practically impossible to solve. However, like all complicated puzzles, if you know the solution, it is easy! I have the solution to stopping porn easily. I will lead you out of the maze and ensure that you never wander into it again. All you have to do is follow the instructions. If you take a wrong turn, the rest of the instructions will be pointless. Let me emphasize that anybody can find it easy to stop but first we need to establish the facts. No, I do not mean the scare facts. I know you are already aware of them. There is already enough information on the evils of PMO. If that was going to stop you, you would already have stopped. I mean, why do we find it difficult to stop? In order to answer this question we need to know the real reason why we are still doing PMO.&lt;/p&gt;
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<title>03-03 Why Is It Difficult to Stop?</title>
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<pubDate>Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:31:45 +0200</pubDate>
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<description>&lt;p&gt;As I explained earlier, I got interested in this subject because of my own addiction. When I finally stopped it was like magic. When I had previously tried to stop there were weeks of black depression. There would be odd days when I was comparatively cheerful but the next day back with the depression. It was like clawing your way out of a slippery pit, you feel you are near the top, you see the sunshine and then find yourself sliding down again. Eventually you open your browser and as you masturbate you feel awful and you try to work out why you have to do it.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;One of the questions I always ask online is: “do you want to stop PMO?” In a way it is a stupid question. All users (including members who dispute total abstinence) would love to stop PMO. If you ask to the most confirmed PMOer: “if you could go back to the time before you became hooked, with the knowledge you have now, would you have started PMO?”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;“NO WAY,” would be the reply.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Say to the confirmed PMOer - someone who defends internet porn and who doesn&amp;rsquo;t think that it cause injury to the brain (PIED, hypofrontality or the decreases in the dopamine receptors and etc.) - “do you encourage your children to use PMO?”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;“NO WAY,” is again the reply.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;All PMOers feel that something evil has got possession of them. In the early days it is a question of, “I am going to stop, not today but tomorrow.” Eventually we get to the stage where we think either that we haven&amp;rsquo;t got the willpower or that there is something inherent in the whole PMO that we must have in order to enjoy life.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;As I said previously, the problem is not explaining why it is easy to stop; it is explaining why it is difficult. In fact, the real problem is explaining scientifically why anybody does it even after getting the insights on the neurological damages of addictions not limited to porn.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The whole business of porn is an extraordinary enigma. One of the reasons we get on to it is because of the thousands of people are already into it, about 35% of the population approximately. Yet every one of them wishes he or she had not started in the first place, telling us that life is like driving in second gear. We cannot quite believe they are not enjoying it. We associate it with freedom or being “sex-educated” and work hard to become hooked ourselves. We then spend the rest of our lives telling others not to do it and trying to kick the habit ourselves.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;We also spend the rest of our lives feeling hopeless and miserable. Time spent on porn can accumulate to a large percentage of our life in this planet! What do we do with that amount of time spent? We ‘educate’ ourselves with supranormal&lt;sup id=&#34;fnref:1&#34;&gt;&lt;a href=&#34;#fn:1&#34; class=&#34;footnote-ref&#34; role=&#34;doc-noteref&#34;&gt;1&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/sup&gt; ‘material’ that makes us stupidly prefer and childishly long for these cold images - even when warm real ones are available. By the constant surge and drop of dopamine induced by PMO, we sentence ourselves to a lifetime of irritability, anger, frustration, stress, fatigue&lt;sup id=&#34;fnref:2&#34;&gt;&lt;a href=&#34;#fn:2&#34; class=&#34;footnote-ref&#34; role=&#34;doc-noteref&#34;&gt;2&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/sup&gt;, PIED, hypofrontality etc. In short, it is a lifetime of slavery. It is logically and intuitively clear that amative sex (physical touch, feel, voice etc.) is the best part of sex and is even better (if Karezza&lt;sup id=&#34;fnref:3&#34;&gt;&lt;a href=&#34;#fn:3&#34; class=&#34;footnote-ref&#34; role=&#34;doc-noteref&#34;&gt;3&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/sup&gt; is practised, although not necessary for the current purposes) than the propagative (orgasm) part, except when children are desired. So, when we use porn in the absence of the best part of sex we feel miserable and guilty.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;In fact, all the reading about internet pornography&amp;rsquo;s addictive capabilities and it’s destructive effects here and in other online sites makes us even more nervous and hopeless. When we are trying to cut down or stop, we end up feeling deprived. We wish we didn&amp;rsquo;t have to. What sort of hobby is it that when you are doing it you wish you weren&amp;rsquo;t, and when you are not doing it you crave for it ? A lifetime of an otherwise intelligent, rational human being going through life in contempt.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The PMOer despises himself, every time he has an unreliable erection, a fading penetration, reading about PIED and other stuff on the YBOP forum, every time he could not pull himself up to exercise after a daytime PMO, every PMO behind his or her trustfully asleep partner’s back, every time he sees his tired face and lifeless eyes in the restroom mirror.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Having to go through life with these awful black shadows at the back of his mind, what does he get out of it? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! Pleasure? Enjoyment? Relaxation? A prop? A boost? All illusions, unless you consider the wearing of tight shoes to enjoy the removal of them as some sort of pleasure!&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The real problem is trying to explain not only why PMOers find it difficult to stop but why anybody does it at all after knowing about brain neuroplasticity. You are probably thinking: “That&amp;rsquo;s all very well. I know this, but once you are hooked on these things it is very difficult to stop.” But why is it so difficult, and why do we have to do it? Addicts of PMO search for the answer to these questions all of their lives. Some say it is because of the powerful withdrawal symptoms. In fact, the actual withdrawal symptoms from porn are so mild (see Chapter 6) that PMOers should know about smokers who have lived and died without ever realizing they are drug addicts.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Some say internet porn is free and hence humankind should claim this biological bonanza. It is NOT. It is addictive and acts like any other drug. Ask a PMOer who swears that he only enjoys safe playboy type erotica and that he could always restrict himself only to this soft genre ? If he is absolutely honest - he would tell you about the many times when he had unwittingly crossed the line. Otherwise good PMOers would rather use ‘unsafe’ hardcore stuff, rationalizing it, than left with nothing at all.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Enjoyment has nothing to do with it. I enjoy lobster but I never got to the stage where I had to have lobsters everyday and multiple times like they are hanging round my neck. With other things in life we enjoy them whilst we are doing them but we don&amp;rsquo;t sit feeling deprived when we are not. Some search for deep psychological reasons, the “Freudian Syndrome,” or “the child at the mother&amp;rsquo;s breast.” Really it is just the reverse.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The ‘usual’ reason why we start PMO is to show we are grown up and mature. Some think it is the reverse, the macho effect of “doing what boys do” or in some cases, “let me show I am a tomboy girl,” to rattle my conservative family. Again, this argument has no substance. Internet porn provides easy escalation (outrageous and shocking clips just a click away), desensitization (same clips don’t do it any more) and all this within the high reward no risk settings. The science fiction story lines, the fake “amateurs,” the “real life” clips etc. should make any average PMOer discover pretty soon that it is all an illusion. What a PMOer should also understand is that after eating at restaurants every day the home food will never appeal your taste buds at all. Yes, the food is free and is tasty - but does it nourish you ?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Some say:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
&lt;li&gt;“It is educational!” So, when is your graduation?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;“It is a sexual satisfaction.” So, why do it alone? Find a partner and save it for her or him?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;“It is the feeling of release.” A release from the stresses of real life? Porn is going to remove the cause of the stress? OK, good luck. You just added more to it.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Many believe PMO relieves boredom. This is also a fallacy. Boredom is a frame of mind. Porn will induce you to “novelty” seeking in no time. Causing you to be eventually more bored unless and until you participate in the “wild goose chase” all night long for the “right hit” producing clip. There is nothing interesting about supranormal stimulus such as internet porn, it fires up dopamine whose only job is to seek clips that evoke strong emotions, interesting novelty and outrageous shock value.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;For thirty years my reason was that it relaxed me, gave me confidence and courage. I also knew it was draining me and costing me virility. Why didn&amp;rsquo;t I go to a therapist or find an another way to relax me and give me courage and confidence? I didn&amp;rsquo;t go because I knew he would suggest an alternative. It wasn&amp;rsquo;t my reason; it was my excuse.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Some say they only do it because their friends and every one they know do it. Are you really that stupid? If so, just pray that your friends do not start cutting their heads off to cure a headache! Most users who think about it eventually come to the conclusion that it is just a habit. This is not really an explanation but having discounted all the usual rational explanations, it appears to be the only remaining excuse. Unfortunately, this explanation is equally illogical. Every day of our lives we change habits and some of them are very enjoyable. We have been brainwashed to believe that PMO is a habit and that habits are difficult to break. Are habits really difficult to break?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;In the US we are in the habit of driving on the right side of the road. Yet when we drive in the UK we immediately break that habit with hardly any aggravation whatsoever. It is clearly a fallacy that habits are hard to break. The fact is that we make and break habits every day of our lives. So why do we find it difficult to break a habit that makes us deprived when we don’t have it yet guilty when we do and that we would love to break anyway, when all we have to do is to stop doing it?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The answer is that PMO is not habit: IT IS ADDICTION! That is why it appears to be so difficult to “give up.” Perhaps you feel this explanation explains why it is difficult to “give up?” It does explain why most PMOers find it difficult to “give up.” That is because they do not understand addiction. The main reason is that PMOers are convinced that they get some genuine pleasure and/or crutch from porn and believe that they are making a genuine sacrifice if they quit.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The beautiful truth is that once you understand porn addiction and the true reasons why you PMO, you will stop doing it just like that - and within three weeks the only mystery will be why you found it necessary to PMO as long as you have, and why you cannot persuade other PMOers &lt;strong&gt;HOW NICE IT IS TO BE A NON-PMOer&lt;/strong&gt;!&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;div class=&#34;footnotes&#34; role=&#34;doc-endnotes&#34;&gt;
&lt;hr&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li id=&#34;fn:1&#34;&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Supranormal&lt;/strong&gt; - a phrase coined by Nikolaas Tinbergen. Studies show that our brains prefer brighter, larger, colourful
etc. versions of what we like.&amp;#160;&lt;a href=&#34;#fnref:1&#34; class=&#34;footnote-backref&#34; role=&#34;doc-backlink&#34;&gt;&amp;#x21a9;&amp;#xfe0e;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li id=&#34;fn:2&#34;&gt;
&lt;p&gt;When dopamine receptors are de-activated in response to frequent and extended dopamine surges even normal de-
stressing chemicals are not absorbed by our brains.&amp;#160;&lt;a href=&#34;#fnref:2&#34; class=&#34;footnote-backref&#34; role=&#34;doc-backlink&#34;&gt;&amp;#x21a9;&amp;#xfe0e;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li id=&#34;fn:3&#34;&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Karezza&lt;/strong&gt; - is the practice of amative sex that puts no pressure on orgasms as occurs in propagative sex. It relieves the
man and woman from performance based anxieties.&amp;#160;&lt;a href=&#34;#fnref:3&#34; class=&#34;footnote-backref&#34; role=&#34;doc-backlink&#34;&gt;&amp;#x21a9;&amp;#xfe0e;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/li&gt;
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<title>03-02 the Easy Method</title>
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<pubDate>Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:26:34 +0200</pubDate>
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<description>&lt;p&gt;The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Provided that you are not a non-PMOer (who had never got addicted) or an ex-PMOer (who had quit or is in the fasting days of the porn-diet), it is essential to not quit until you have finished the book completely. This may appear to be a contradiction. Later I shall be explaining that porn do absolutely nothing for you at all. In fact, one of the many conundrums about internet porn is that when we are actually masturbating to a porn clip, we look at it and wonder why we are doing it. It is only when we have been deprived that the craving for PMO becomes precious.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;However, let us accept that, whether you like it or not, you believe you are hooked. When you believe you are hooked, you can never be completely relaxed or concentrate properly unless you are using PMO. So do not attempt to stop PMO before you have finished the whole book. This instruction to continue to masturbate using porn until you have completed the book has caused me more frustration than any other. As you read further your desire to masturbate to porn will gradually be reduced. Do not go off half-cocked; this could be fatal. Remember, all you have to do is to follow the instructions in the right order. When I first started writing on forums many of the readers also stopped purely because I had done it. They thought, “if he can do it, anybody can.”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Over the years, I managed to persuade the ones that hadn&amp;rsquo;t stopped to realize just how nice it is to be free! I gave my hackbook for free upon request. I worked on the basis that, even if it were the most boring book ever written, they would still read it, if only because it had been written by an ex-PMOer. I was surprised and hurt to learn that,they hadn&amp;rsquo;t bothered to finish the book.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I was hurt at the time but I had overlooked the dreadful fear that this slavery to the “dopamine surge” instils in the addict. I now realize that many PMOers don&amp;rsquo;t finish the book because they feel they have got to give up something that is their pleasure and crutch when they quit. Some deliberately read only one line a day in order to postpone the evil day. Look at it this way: what have you got to lose? If you don&amp;rsquo;t stop at the end of the book, you are no worse off than you are now. YOU HAVE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO LOSE AND SO MUCH TO GAIN! AND SO MUCH MORE TO AVOID !!! A Pascal’s Wage&lt;sup id=&#34;fnref:1&#34;&gt;&lt;a href=&#34;#fn:1&#34; class=&#34;footnote-ref&#34; role=&#34;doc-noteref&#34;&gt;1&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/sup&gt;?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Incidentally, if you have not PMOed for a few days or weeks but are not sure whether you are a PMOer, an ex-PMOer or a non-PMOer, then don&amp;rsquo;t use porn to masturbate while you read. In fact, you are already a non-PMOer. All we&amp;rsquo;ve now got to do is to let your brain catch up with your body. By the end of the book you&amp;rsquo;ll be a happy non-PMOer.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Basically this method is the complete opposite of the normal method of trying to stop. The normal method is to list the considerable disadvantages of PMO and say, “if only I can go long enough without porn, eventually the desire to masturbate to porn will go. I can then enjoy life again, free of slavery to the tube.” This is the logical way to go about it, and thousands of PMOer are stopping every day using variations of this method. However, it is very difficult to succeed using this method for the following reasons:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Stopping PMO is not the real problem. Every time you finish your ‘deed’ you stop using it. You may have powerful reasons on day one of your once-in-four porn diet to say, “I do not want to PMO or even masturbate any more” - all PMOers have, every day of their lives, and the reasons are more powerful than you can possibly imagine. The real problem is day two, day ten or day ten thousand, when in a weak moment, an inebriated moment or even a strong moment you have one ‘peek’ and because it is partly akin to drug addiction you then want another, and suddenly you are a masturbator again.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;The health scares should stop us. Our rational minds say: “Stop doing it. You are a fool,” but in fact they make it harder. We masturbate, for example, when we are nervous. Tell PMOers that it is destroying their virility, and the first thing they will do is to find something to rush their dopamine - a cigarette, alcohol or even fire up the browser and search for porn.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;All reasons for stopping actually make it harder for two other reasons. First, they create a SOS sense of sacrifice. We are always being forced to give up our little friend or prop or vice or pleasure, whichever way the PMOer sees it. Secondly, they create a &amp;lsquo;blind&amp;rsquo;. We do not masturbate for the reasons we should stop. The real question is: why do we want or need to do it?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The EasyPeasy Method is basically this: initially to forget the reasons we&amp;rsquo;d like to stop, to face the problem and to ask ourselves the following questions:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;What is it doing for me?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Do I actually enjoy it?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Do I really need to go through life using free internet porn or even paying through the nose just to sabotage my mind and body?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The beautiful truth is that porn – streaming, static or whatever - does absolutely nothing for you at all. Let me make it quite clear; I do not mean that the disadvantages of being a PMOer outweigh the advantages. All PMOers know from the many published studies about high speed internet porn addiction, forum messages, blog articles in YBOP and similar sites. I mean there are not any advantages from internet porn. The only advantage it ever had was the ‘educational’ aspect and guess what, nowadays the kind of education that it is offering is highly disputable for their contribution to real life intimacy. Most PMOers find it necessary to rationalize why they PMO but the reasons they come up are all fallacies and illusions.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The first thing we are going to do is to remove these fallacies and illusions. In fact, you will realize that there is nothing to give up. Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous, positive gains from being a non-PMOer and well being and happiness are only two of these gains. Once the illusion that life will never be quite as enjoyable without porn is removed, once you realize that not only is life just as enjoyable without it but infinitely more so, once the feeling of being deprived or of missing out are eradicated, then we can go back to reconsider the health and happiness - and the dozens of other reasons for stopping. These realizations will become positive additional aids to help you achieve what you really desire to enjoy the whole of your life free from the slavery of the porn habit.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;div class=&#34;footnotes&#34; role=&#34;doc-endnotes&#34;&gt;
&lt;hr&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li id=&#34;fn:1&#34;&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Pascal’s Wager is a bet you take when you have nothing or less to lose for a higher chances of large gains and avoiding losses in the future&amp;#160;&lt;a href=&#34;#fnref:1&#34; class=&#34;footnote-backref&#34; role=&#34;doc-backlink&#34;&gt;&amp;#x21a9;&amp;#xfe0e;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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<title>03-06 Internet Porn</title>
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<description>&lt;p&gt;Erotic novelty of the internet porn is a mental ‘drug’ and internet porn beats anything that is known to mankind and its streaming straight to your home for free ! We are not even talking VR virtual reality here. Porn triggers the ‘flooding’ of dopamine in our brain. Dopamine amps up the brain reward circuitry to produce experiences and feels of cravings and pleasure by locking themselves into ‘receptors’. More dopamine more wanting. Less dopamine no wanting. New experiences, tasty food - more dopamine - more wanting. Sex and sex related stuff gives the biggest injection of dopamine in the reward circuits. Dopamine is not the final pleasure stuff, if it were you would feel happy when you are done with it, but it is only a brain chemical that encourages seeking and action in you. The real pleasure is produced by opioids. More dopamine more opioids more
action more happy feelings.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. All of which will now be stored as a script in your brain for easy access next time. I call this a ‘water slide’. Next time at the cue - a sexy commercial or alone time or stress or feeling a little down - you are ready to take a ride on the ‘water slide’. One more thing is that every time to repeat this you are ‘greasing’ it
as well - so it is active, alive and more easier to slide the next time.
As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will
be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but
this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation
feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating.
Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish,
ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you
won’t on your first time.
My Own Online Harem!
This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn
magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of
the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the
cost.
Going back to the earlier discussion - in this cycle as you crossed the ‘red line’ you also
trigger emotions such as guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety and fear - which in turn raise
dopamine levels as well. Now the brain may mistakenly associate feelings of anxiety and fear as
sexual arousal. This perpetual cycle is only broken by natural causes - fortunately sooner or later.
With its free access and privacy it provides boundless harem-like novelty. The dopamine can be
theoretically kept very high for a very very long time. I can be satisfied with one lobster once in
awhile. But Internet porn is different. It is even worse than drugs. Don’t let me make you nervous. I
will shortly show you how to be free from this slavery.
Now our human body has a self-correcting system by which the number of dopamine and
opioid receptors are cut short when frequent and daily ‘flooding’ of dopamine is detected.
Unfortunately - these receptors are also needed for receiving dopamine and to keep us even and
balanced to handle the inevitable and normal day-to-day stresses. But this natural nominal amount
of dopamine will not be absorbed efficiently with decreased receptors and you will feel more
stressed and irritated than normal. &amp;ldquo;For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Kahlil Gibran.
A fleeting feeling of security is all that is needed to get through a rough spot in life - but will
your brain be able to catch that drop of de-stressor that a non-PMOers’ brain is able to catch and
use?
This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I
must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think
that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop
PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I
will explain more about this later.
The Little Monster
The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died
without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&amp;rsquo; we think we
just &amp;lsquo;got into the habit&amp;rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&amp;rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug
addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted.
There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the
feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it
is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is
like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.
Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, resulting
in the feeling of fulfilment and pleasure that the action gives to the PMOer. In the early days, when
we first start PMOing, the withdrawal pangs and their relief are so slight that we are not even aware
that they exist. When we begin to masturbate regularly to internet porn we think it is because we&amp;rsquo;ve
either come to enjoy them or got into the &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;. The truth is we&amp;rsquo;re already hooked; we do not
realize it, but that little monster is already inside our stomach and every now and again we have to
feed it.
All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why
anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster.
The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO
know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the
most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the
pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had
before he became hooked in the first place.
The Annoying Burglar Alarm
You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has
been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous
feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the
aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our
brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the
dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We
are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do
not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate
the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we
became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the
craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain
goes on. It is a chain for life - UNLESS YOU BREAK IT.
The whole business of PMO is like wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure you feel
when you take them off. There are three main reasons why PMOers cannot see things that way:&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;From birth we have been subjected to massive brainwashing telling us that internet porn is
simply just another modern development that replaced the print version of porn. Why should
we not believe them when it hides behind the truth that masturbation is not bad? (However, I
won’t recommend you take up masturbation). Why else would they waste all that time and
energy and take such horrendous risks?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Because the physical withdrawal from dopamine injection involves no actual pain but is
merely an empty, insecure feeling, inseparable from hunger or normal stress and because
those are the very times that we tend to seek internet porn. We tend to regard the feeling as
normal.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;However the main reason that PMOers fail to see internet porn in its true light is because it
works back to front. It&amp;rsquo;s when you are not masturbating to it that you suffer that empty
feeling. Because the process of getting hooked is very subtle and gradual in the early days,
we regard that empty feeling as normal and don&amp;rsquo;t blame it on the previous PMO session. The
moment you fire up the browser and reach a tube site, you get an almost immediate boost or
buzz and do actually feel less nervous or more relaxed and internet porn gets the credit.
It is this &amp;lsquo;back to front&amp;rsquo; reverse process that makes all drugs difficult to kick. Picture the panic
state of a heroin addict who has no heroin. Now picture the utter joy when that addict can finally
plunge a needle into his vein. Can you visualize someone actually getting pleasure by injecting
themselves, or does the mere thought fill you with horror? Non-heroin addicts don&amp;rsquo;t suffer that panic
feeling.
The heroin doesn&amp;rsquo;t relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a 14 year old in
2008 - didn&amp;rsquo;t suffer the empty feeling of needing internet porn or start to panic when they are off-
line. Non-PMOers cannot understand how PMOers can possibly obtain pleasure from two
dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. And do you know
something? PMOers themselves cannot understand why they do it after some time either.
We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied
unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don&amp;rsquo;t non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied
state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers
completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their &amp;rsquo;little monster&amp;rsquo;?
A Pleasure or Crutch?
Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it
difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is
absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to
understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of
eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed
are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure
feeling which we know as: &amp;lsquo;I need to eat.&amp;rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasant
pastime.
PMOing appears to be almost identical. The empty, insecure feeling which we know as:
&amp;lsquo;wanting or needing an PMO orgasm’ is identical to a hunger for food, although one will not satisfy
the other. Like hunger, there is no physical pain and the feeling is so imperceptible that we are not
even aware of it between PMO sessions. It&amp;rsquo;s only if we want to masturbate and aren&amp;rsquo;t able to reach
internet for porn that we become aware of any discomfort. But when we do PMO we feel satisfied.
It is this similarity to eating which helps to fool PMOers into believing that they receive some
genuine pleasure. Some PMOers find it very difficult to grasp that there is no pleasure or crutch,
whatsoever to PMO. Some argue: “How can you say there is no crutch? When I orgasm up then I&amp;rsquo;ll
feel less nervous than before.”
Although eating and PMOing appear to be very similar. In fact they are exact opposites:&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;You eat to survive and to energize your life, whereas PMOing dims your mojo and cuts
down your energy.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Food does genuinely taste good, and eating is a genuinely pleasant experience that we can
enjoy throughout our lives, whereas PMOing involves self-sabotaging the happiness
receptors and thus destroying your chances to cope and to feel happy.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Eating doesn&amp;rsquo;t create hunger and genuinely relieves it, whereas the first PMO starts the
craving for dopamine and each subsequent one, far from relieving it, ensures that you suffer
it for the rest of life.
PMO is a Habit?
This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is
eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be
the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different
people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food.
But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is
to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is
true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different
times, but PMO itself is not a habit.
On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience,
I also refer to the &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no
more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to
learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’ * - we have to then have more bizarre
and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting&amp;hellip; not in the killing. If we don&amp;rsquo;t then panic sets
in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of
higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too
in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving
others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great!&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Escalation - a practice that is the result of our brain’s novelty and curiosity seeking to
get more dopamine in our reward circuitry.
Crossing The Red Line
This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of
the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of
watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO
session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking
you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn
paradise.
You feel better than you did before starting this PMO session but you are in fact more nervous
and less relaxed than you would be as a non-PMOer, like someone who is living in Loma Linda or
in an Amish village, even though you are actually PMOing and living in your supposed “porn
paradise.” This position is even more ridiculous than wearing tight shoes because as you go through
life an increasing amount of the discomfort remains even when the shoes are removed.
Once the orgasm is achieved, the dopamine rapidly begins to leave the brain, causing a mood
dip. Which explains why the PMOer wants to ‘edge’* and switch through multiple browser
windows as they seek and search. As I said, the ‘habit’ doesn&amp;rsquo;t exist. The real reason why every user
goes on using internet porn is because of that little porn monster inside his stomach. Every now and
again he has to feed it. The PMOer himself will decide when he does that and it tends to be on four
types of occasion or a combination of them.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Edge - to stay longer in pre-orgasm stage. To delay orgasm.
These occasions are:
• BOREDOM/CONCENTRATION - two complete opposites!
• STRESS/RELAXATION - two complete opposites!
What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If you think
about it, what other types of occasion are there in our lives; apart from sleep? The truth is that PMO
neither relieves boredom and stress nor promotes concentration and relaxation. It is all just illusion.
Apart from being a drug, PMO is also a destroyer of happiness and virility.
In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and
such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes,
print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’
and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the
most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive
without knowing the difference between food and poison.
Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics
Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have
developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and
bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more
shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the
outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we
will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red
line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural
and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and
balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there
are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!
When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were titillating but most
were disgusting, causing you to avert your eyes away. Like you would if had accidentally glanced a
feeding mother’s breast. And some of us are even revolted with what they saw when the star
reminded them of someone dear to their heart or a scene which recalled their own instance of being
the victim. Some don’t feel like it to browse and masturbate at the same time. It may be hard to
believe for you but the non-PMOs, who don’t PMO after their first time, are the lucky ones. They
actually decided that it was not their cup of tea. It must be hard for you to believe but stay with me.
How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the
social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even
after a hard day? Why not ? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after
your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That&amp;rsquo;s all.
Are PMOers Mentally Weak?
It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The
lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or,
alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting
the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical
enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.
To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to become
hooked, and this is why it is difficult to stop teenagers. Because they are skilled in seeking and
finding material, they know online privacy options and can clean their tracks - if they still feel some
stigma and they (wrongfully) believe they can stop whenever they want to. Why do they not learn
from us? Then again, why did we not learn from our PMOers and addicts?
Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually
doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of
‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting
themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying
is the ritual of relieving those pangs.
The High From The Dance Around The Red Line
Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to
filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the
body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an
excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes
even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.
Ask a user who believes that he sticks to a certain actor or genre - only because he likes
something about the star or the theme (if any) of the clip: “If you cannot get your normal brand of
porn and can only obtain a poor or unsafe brand, do you stop masturbating?” No way. A PMOer will
masturbate to anything rather than abstain and it doesn&amp;rsquo;t matter if he has to switch to escalating
themes, different sex-orientation-themes, look-alike actresses, dangerous settings shocking
relationships etc. To begin with they taste awful but if you persevere you will learn to like them.
Most PMOers will also try to seek masturbation even after having real sex (unfulfilment, porn-
induced unrealistic expectations etc.), or after a long, stressful work day, fever, colds, flu, sore
throats and even when admitted in hospitals.
Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wanted then it makes
no sense to be with your laptop. During my conversation some PMOers find it alarming to realize
they are drug addicts and think it will make it even more difficult to stop. In fact, it is all good news
for two important reasons:&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;The reason why most of us carry on masturbating to internet porn is because, although we
know the disadvantages outweigh the advantages, we believe that there is something in the
porn that we actually enjoy or that it is some sort of prop. We feel that after we stop PMOing
there will be a void, that certain situations in our life will never be quite the same. This is an
illusion. The fact is the masturbation and especially PMO gives nothing; it only takes away
and then partially restores to create the illusion. I will explain this in more detail in a later
chapter.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Although internet porn is the most powerful trigger for ‘novelty’ and ‘sex’ based dopamine
‘flooding’ - because of the speed with which you become hooked, you are never badly
hooked. The actual withdrawal pangs are so mild that most PMOers have lived and died
without ever realizing that they have suffered them.
You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through
months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the
second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to
cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc.
The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your
laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious
client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn&amp;rsquo;t
bother the PMOers.
The Smokers Analogy
A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a
cigarette they&amp;rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain
from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to
smoke doesn&amp;rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased
for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.
PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their parents while
visiting for family get togethers etc. with little discomfort to themselves. In fact, most PMOers have
extended periods during which they abstain without effort. Even in my case I would quite happily
go a week or so without a PMO incident. In the later years as a PMOer I actually used to look
forward to these days when I could stop choking my penis (what a ridiculous &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;).
The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still
addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just
as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;
but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water
slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood.
The Big Monster - The Brainwashing
You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong
willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options.
Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.
Not all the amateurs are ‘amateurs’ on these tube sites, oversized body parts and overcharged
scenarios are the norm, aided by a bit of the ‘viagran’ help.
As I say, the actual porn addiction is not the main problem. It just acts as a catalyst to keep our
minds confused over the real problem: the brainwashing. It may be of consolation to lifelong and
heavy PMOers to know that it is just as easy for them to stop as casual PMOers. In a peculiar way.
it is easier. The further you go along with the &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;, the more it drags you down and the greater the
gain when you stop.
It may be of further consolation for you to know that the rumours that occasionally circulate
that the neural pathways created are there for life, and so at the right (or wrong) time and with
strong stimuli you will be sliding again down the ‘water slide’ of internet porn and masturbation to
permanently destroy your real life sex are untrue.
Do not think the bad effects of internet porn are exaggerated. If anything, they are sadly
understated but the truth is there are different levels of dependency on PMO and masturbation in
general. However, these bodies of ours are incredible machines and have enormous powers of
recovery. If you stop now, your body and brain will recover within a matter of a few weeks.
As I have said, it is never too late to stop. You can see many who have stopped not only porn
but masturbation as well. Naturally with any obstacles that humans face some have even taken this
addiction recovery to the next level in learning about differentiating amative and propagative sides
of sex. They have not only rebooted their sex lives but have made their partner happier than before
as well.
The further it drags you down, the greater the relief. When I finally stopped I went straight to
ZERO, and didn&amp;rsquo;t have one bad pang. In fact, it was actually enjoyable, even during the withdrawal
period. But we must remove the brainwashing about internet porn regardless of your status as single
or partnered and also of masturbation.&lt;/li&gt;
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<description>&lt;p&gt;We all start PMOing for many reasons, usually social pressures or our biological curiosity, but once we feel we are becoming hooked, why do we carry on using porn? No regular PMOer knows why he or she looks at porn. If PMOers knew the true reason, they would stop doing it. The true answer is the same for all PMOers but the variety of replies is infinite, I find this part of the consultation the most amusing and at the same time the most pathetic.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;All PMOers know in their heart of hearts that they are fools. They know that they had no need to use porn or internet porn before they became hooked. Most of them can remember that their first ‘peek’ was a mix of revulsion and novel curiosity. They then filter out and get “skilled” at “locating” and “bookmarking” the right porn sites. They know that they had to work hard in order to become hooked.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The most annoying part is that they sense that non-addicts - most women, older guys, people living in countries where hi-speed internet porn is not available “on tap” - are not missing anything and that they are laughing at them.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;However, PMOers are intelligent, rational human beings. They know that they are taking enormous future risks and so they spend a lot of time rationalizing their ‘habit’. The actual reason why PMOers continue is a subtle combination of the factors that I will elaborate in the next two chapters. They are:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;INTERNET PORN&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;BRAINWASHING&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/li&gt;
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<title>03-04 The Sinister Trap</title>
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<description>&lt;p&gt;Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it&amp;rsquo;s an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It is the only trap in nature which has does not require a lot of hard work to set up. The thing that springs the trap is not that all porn clips feature young, high quality, sexy models; it’s that most of the thumbnails on any porn web page are ugly looking, unattractive, amateurish, home-made clips of unknown models. If the first timer’s first look at a tube page was only filled with angelic beauties, professional models and high quality then the alarm bells would ring. And as intelligent human beings, we could then understand why half the adult population was systematically addicted to watching something that is cutting down their very same potential to do what they are viewing. In many known and yet unknown ways porn cuts down sexual performance and the feeling of satisfaction.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;But because that first “peek” has “stains and holes,” a mishmash of low quality clips of not-so-hot models, our young minds are reassured that we will never become hooked, and we think that because we are not enjoying them we can stop whenever we want to. It is the only drug in nature that prevents you from achieving your aim. Our curiosity brings us to its door steps. You dare not even click on all of the thumbnails because some of them will make you feel sick and throw up! If you were to accidentally click on an “I-did-not-see-that” clip - all you want to do is get away from the site and close your laptop.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;With women, the aim is to be the sophisticated modern young lady. We have all seen them acting up and looking absolutely ridiculous. By the time the boys have learnt to look tough and the girls have learnt to look sophisticated, they wish they had never started in the first place. I wonder whether women ever look sophisticated when they discuss the top 10 porn sites, or whether this is a figment of our imaginations created by internet porn companies.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;We then spend the rest of our lives trying to explain to ourselves why we do it, telling our children not to get caught and, at odd times, trying to escape ourselves. The trap is so designed that we try to stop only when we have an “incident” that touch us to the quick of the flesh, whether it be in the bed, loss of a career or relationship, shortage of drive or just plain being made to feel like a leper. As soon as we stop, we have more stress (the fearful withdrawal pangs of brain chemicals) and the thing that we rely on to relieve stress (our old prop, porn and PMO) we now must do without. Internet porn is powerful imagery at high speed making it a high fructose corn syrup&amp;hellip; sorry, high density supernormal stimulant.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;After a few days of torture we decide that we have picked the wrong time to quit. We must wait for a period without stress, and as soon as that arrives the reason for stopping vanishes. Of course, that period will never arrive because, in the first place, we think that our lives tend to become more and more stressful. As we leave the protection of our parents the natural process is jobs, setting up home, mortgages, babies, more responsible jobs, a bigger house, more babies etc. etc. This is also an illusion.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The truth is that the most stressful periods for any creature are early childhood and adolescence. We tend to confuse responsibility with stress. A PMOer’s life - like a drug addict - automatically becomes more stressful because PMO does not relax you or relieve stress, as some try to make you believe. Just the reverse: it actually causes you to become more nervous and stressed. Internet porn is as fake in its promises for pleasure and crutch as its actors are. If you had never learned any life skills to cope the stress and strains of day to day life you are not going to get any better with this fake and disgusting crutch. Worse you are going to add more bales of straw on the old camel’s back.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Even those users who kick the habit (most do, one or more times during their lives) can lead perfectly happy lives yet suddenly become hooked again. The whole business of PMO is like wandering into a giant maze. As soon as we enter the maze our minds become misted and clouded, and we spend the rest of our lives trying to escape. Many of us eventually do, only to find that we get trapped again at a later date. I spent thirty-three years trying to escape from that maze. Like all PMOers, I couldn&amp;rsquo;t understand it. However, due to a combination of unusual circumstances, none of which reflect any credit on me, I wanted to know why previously it had been so desperately difficult to stop and yet, when I finally did, it was not only easy but enjoyable.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Since stopping PMO my hobby has been to resolve the many conundrums associated with porn. It is a complex and fascinating puzzle and - like a Rubik&amp;rsquo;s Cube - practically impossible to solve. However, like all complicated puzzles, if you know the solution, it is easy! I have the solution to stopping porn easily. I will lead you out of the maze and ensure that you never wander into it again. All you have to do is follow the instructions. If you take a wrong turn, the rest of the instructions will be pointless. Let me emphasize that anybody can find it easy to stop but first we need to establish the facts. No, I do not mean the scare facts. I know you are already aware of them. There is already enough information on the evils of PMO. If that was going to stop you, you would already have stopped. I mean, why do we find it difficult to stop? In order to answer this question we need to know the real reason why we are still doing PMO.&lt;/p&gt;
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<title>03-03 Why Is It Difficult to Stop?</title>
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<description>&lt;p&gt;As I explained earlier, I got interested in this subject because of my own addiction. When I finally stopped it was like magic. When I had previously tried to stop there were weeks of black depression. There would be odd days when I was comparatively cheerful but the next day back with the depression. It was like clawing your way out of a slippery pit, you feel you are near the top, you see the sunshine and then find yourself sliding down again. Eventually you open your browser and as you masturbate you feel awful and you try to work out why you have to do it.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;One of the questions I always ask online is: “do you want to stop PMO?” In a way it is a stupid question. All users (including members who dispute total abstinence) would love to stop PMO. If you ask to the most confirmed PMOer: “if you could go back to the time before you became hooked, with the knowledge you have now, would you have started PMO?”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;“NO WAY,” would be the reply.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Say to the confirmed PMOer - someone who defends internet porn and who doesn&amp;rsquo;t think that it cause injury to the brain (PIED, hypofrontality or the decreases in the dopamine receptors and etc.) - “do you encourage your children to use PMO?”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;“NO WAY,” is again the reply.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;All PMOers feel that something evil has got possession of them. In the early days it is a question of, “I am going to stop, not today but tomorrow.” Eventually we get to the stage where we think either that we haven&amp;rsquo;t got the willpower or that there is something inherent in the whole PMO that we must have in order to enjoy life.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;As I said previously, the problem is not explaining why it is easy to stop; it is explaining why it is difficult. In fact, the real problem is explaining scientifically why anybody does it even after getting the insights on the neurological damages of addictions not limited to porn.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The whole business of porn is an extraordinary enigma. One of the reasons we get on to it is because of the thousands of people are already into it, about 35% of the population approximately. Yet every one of them wishes he or she had not started in the first place, telling us that life is like driving in second gear. We cannot quite believe they are not enjoying it. We associate it with freedom or being “sex-educated” and work hard to become hooked ourselves. We then spend the rest of our lives telling others not to do it and trying to kick the habit ourselves.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;We also spend the rest of our lives feeling hopeless and miserable. Time spent on porn can accumulate to a large percentage of our life in this planet! What do we do with that amount of time spent? We ‘educate’ ourselves with supranormal&lt;sup id=&#34;fnref:1&#34;&gt;&lt;a href=&#34;#fn:1&#34; class=&#34;footnote-ref&#34; role=&#34;doc-noteref&#34;&gt;1&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/sup&gt; ‘material’ that makes us stupidly prefer and childishly long for these cold images - even when warm real ones are available. By the constant surge and drop of dopamine induced by PMO, we sentence ourselves to a lifetime of irritability, anger, frustration, stress, fatigue&lt;sup id=&#34;fnref:2&#34;&gt;&lt;a href=&#34;#fn:2&#34; class=&#34;footnote-ref&#34; role=&#34;doc-noteref&#34;&gt;2&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/sup&gt;, PIED, hypofrontality etc. In short, it is a lifetime of slavery. It is logically and intuitively clear that amative sex (physical touch, feel, voice etc.) is the best part of sex and is even better (if Karezza&lt;sup id=&#34;fnref:3&#34;&gt;&lt;a href=&#34;#fn:3&#34; class=&#34;footnote-ref&#34; role=&#34;doc-noteref&#34;&gt;3&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/sup&gt; is practised, although not necessary for the current purposes) than the propagative (orgasm) part, except when children are desired. So, when we use porn in the absence of the best part of sex we feel miserable and guilty.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;In fact, all the reading about internet pornography&amp;rsquo;s addictive capabilities and it’s destructive effects here and in other online sites makes us even more nervous and hopeless. When we are trying to cut down or stop, we end up feeling deprived. We wish we didn&amp;rsquo;t have to. What sort of hobby is it that when you are doing it you wish you weren&amp;rsquo;t, and when you are not doing it you crave for it ? A lifetime of an otherwise intelligent, rational human being going through life in contempt.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The PMOer despises himself, every time he has an unreliable erection, a fading penetration, reading about PIED and other stuff on the YBOP forum, every time he could not pull himself up to exercise after a daytime PMO, every PMO behind his or her trustfully asleep partner’s back, every time he sees his tired face and lifeless eyes in the restroom mirror.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Having to go through life with these awful black shadows at the back of his mind, what does he get out of it? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! Pleasure? Enjoyment? Relaxation? A prop? A boost? All illusions, unless you consider the wearing of tight shoes to enjoy the removal of them as some sort of pleasure!&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The real problem is trying to explain not only why PMOers find it difficult to stop but why anybody does it at all after knowing about brain neuroplasticity. You are probably thinking: “That&amp;rsquo;s all very well. I know this, but once you are hooked on these things it is very difficult to stop.” But why is it so difficult, and why do we have to do it? Addicts of PMO search for the answer to these questions all of their lives. Some say it is because of the powerful withdrawal symptoms. In fact, the actual withdrawal symptoms from porn are so mild (see Chapter 6) that PMOers should know about smokers who have lived and died without ever realizing they are drug addicts.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Some say internet porn is free and hence humankind should claim this biological bonanza. It is NOT. It is addictive and acts like any other drug. Ask a PMOer who swears that he only enjoys safe playboy type erotica and that he could always restrict himself only to this soft genre ? If he is absolutely honest - he would tell you about the many times when he had unwittingly crossed the line. Otherwise good PMOers would rather use ‘unsafe’ hardcore stuff, rationalizing it, than left with nothing at all.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Enjoyment has nothing to do with it. I enjoy lobster but I never got to the stage where I had to have lobsters everyday and multiple times like they are hanging round my neck. With other things in life we enjoy them whilst we are doing them but we don&amp;rsquo;t sit feeling deprived when we are not. Some search for deep psychological reasons, the “Freudian Syndrome,” or “the child at the mother&amp;rsquo;s breast.” Really it is just the reverse.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The ‘usual’ reason why we start PMO is to show we are grown up and mature. Some think it is the reverse, the macho effect of “doing what boys do” or in some cases, “let me show I am a tomboy girl,” to rattle my conservative family. Again, this argument has no substance. Internet porn provides easy escalation (outrageous and shocking clips just a click away), desensitization (same clips don’t do it any more) and all this within the high reward no risk settings. The science fiction story lines, the fake “amateurs,” the “real life” clips etc. should make any average PMOer discover pretty soon that it is all an illusion. What a PMOer should also understand is that after eating at restaurants every day the home food will never appeal your taste buds at all. Yes, the food is free and is tasty - but does it nourish you ?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Some say:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
&lt;li&gt;“It is educational!” So, when is your graduation?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;“It is a sexual satisfaction.” So, why do it alone? Find a partner and save it for her or him?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;“It is the feeling of release.” A release from the stresses of real life? Porn is going to remove the cause of the stress? OK, good luck. You just added more to it.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Many believe PMO relieves boredom. This is also a fallacy. Boredom is a frame of mind. Porn will induce you to “novelty” seeking in no time. Causing you to be eventually more bored unless and until you participate in the “wild goose chase” all night long for the “right hit” producing clip. There is nothing interesting about supranormal stimulus such as internet porn, it fires up dopamine whose only job is to seek clips that evoke strong emotions, interesting novelty and outrageous shock value.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;For thirty years my reason was that it relaxed me, gave me confidence and courage. I also knew it was draining me and costing me virility. Why didn&amp;rsquo;t I go to a therapist or find an another way to relax me and give me courage and confidence? I didn&amp;rsquo;t go because I knew he would suggest an alternative. It wasn&amp;rsquo;t my reason; it was my excuse.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Some say they only do it because their friends and every one they know do it. Are you really that stupid? If so, just pray that your friends do not start cutting their heads off to cure a headache! Most users who think about it eventually come to the conclusion that it is just a habit. This is not really an explanation but having discounted all the usual rational explanations, it appears to be the only remaining excuse. Unfortunately, this explanation is equally illogical. Every day of our lives we change habits and some of them are very enjoyable. We have been brainwashed to believe that PMO is a habit and that habits are difficult to break. Are habits really difficult to break?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;In the US we are in the habit of driving on the right side of the road. Yet when we drive in the UK we immediately break that habit with hardly any aggravation whatsoever. It is clearly a fallacy that habits are hard to break. The fact is that we make and break habits every day of our lives. So why do we find it difficult to break a habit that makes us deprived when we don’t have it yet guilty when we do and that we would love to break anyway, when all we have to do is to stop doing it?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The answer is that PMO is not habit: IT IS ADDICTION! That is why it appears to be so difficult to “give up.” Perhaps you feel this explanation explains why it is difficult to “give up?” It does explain why most PMOers find it difficult to “give up.” That is because they do not understand addiction. The main reason is that PMOers are convinced that they get some genuine pleasure and/or crutch from porn and believe that they are making a genuine sacrifice if they quit.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The beautiful truth is that once you understand porn addiction and the true reasons why you PMO, you will stop doing it just like that - and within three weeks the only mystery will be why you found it necessary to PMO as long as you have, and why you cannot persuade other PMOers &lt;strong&gt;HOW NICE IT IS TO BE A NON-PMOer&lt;/strong&gt;!&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li id=&#34;fn:1&#34;&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Supranormal&lt;/strong&gt; - a phrase coined by Nikolaas Tinbergen. Studies show that our brains prefer brighter, larger, colourful
etc. versions of what we like.&amp;#160;&lt;a href=&#34;#fnref:1&#34; class=&#34;footnote-backref&#34; role=&#34;doc-backlink&#34;&gt;&amp;#x21a9;&amp;#xfe0e;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li id=&#34;fn:2&#34;&gt;
&lt;p&gt;When dopamine receptors are de-activated in response to frequent and extended dopamine surges even normal de-
stressing chemicals are not absorbed by our brains.&amp;#160;&lt;a href=&#34;#fnref:2&#34; class=&#34;footnote-backref&#34; role=&#34;doc-backlink&#34;&gt;&amp;#x21a9;&amp;#xfe0e;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li id=&#34;fn:3&#34;&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Karezza&lt;/strong&gt; - is the practice of amative sex that puts no pressure on orgasms as occurs in propagative sex. It relieves the
man and woman from performance based anxieties.&amp;#160;&lt;a href=&#34;#fnref:3&#34; class=&#34;footnote-backref&#34; role=&#34;doc-backlink&#34;&gt;&amp;#x21a9;&amp;#xfe0e;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/li&gt;
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<title>03-02 the Easy Method</title>
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<pubDate>Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:26:34 +0200</pubDate>
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<description>&lt;p&gt;The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Provided that you are not a non-PMOer (who had never got addicted) or an ex-PMOer (who had quit or is in the fasting days of the porn-diet), it is essential to not quit until you have finished the book completely. This may appear to be a contradiction. Later I shall be explaining that porn do absolutely nothing for you at all. In fact, one of the many conundrums about internet porn is that when we are actually masturbating to a porn clip, we look at it and wonder why we are doing it. It is only when we have been deprived that the craving for PMO becomes precious.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;However, let us accept that, whether you like it or not, you believe you are hooked. When you believe you are hooked, you can never be completely relaxed or concentrate properly unless you are using PMO. So do not attempt to stop PMO before you have finished the whole book. This instruction to continue to masturbate using porn until you have completed the book has caused me more frustration than any other. As you read further your desire to masturbate to porn will gradually be reduced. Do not go off half-cocked; this could be fatal. Remember, all you have to do is to follow the instructions in the right order. When I first started writing on forums many of the readers also stopped purely because I had done it. They thought, “if he can do it, anybody can.”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Over the years, I managed to persuade the ones that hadn&amp;rsquo;t stopped to realize just how nice it is to be free! I gave my hackbook for free upon request. I worked on the basis that, even if it were the most boring book ever written, they would still read it, if only because it had been written by an ex-PMOer. I was surprised and hurt to learn that,they hadn&amp;rsquo;t bothered to finish the book.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I was hurt at the time but I had overlooked the dreadful fear that this slavery to the “dopamine surge” instils in the addict. I now realize that many PMOers don&amp;rsquo;t finish the book because they feel they have got to give up something that is their pleasure and crutch when they quit. Some deliberately read only one line a day in order to postpone the evil day. Look at it this way: what have you got to lose? If you don&amp;rsquo;t stop at the end of the book, you are no worse off than you are now. YOU HAVE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO LOSE AND SO MUCH TO GAIN! AND SO MUCH MORE TO AVOID !!! A Pascal’s Wage&lt;sup id=&#34;fnref:1&#34;&gt;&lt;a href=&#34;#fn:1&#34; class=&#34;footnote-ref&#34; role=&#34;doc-noteref&#34;&gt;1&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/sup&gt;?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Incidentally, if you have not PMOed for a few days or weeks but are not sure whether you are a PMOer, an ex-PMOer or a non-PMOer, then don&amp;rsquo;t use porn to masturbate while you read. In fact, you are already a non-PMOer. All we&amp;rsquo;ve now got to do is to let your brain catch up with your body. By the end of the book you&amp;rsquo;ll be a happy non-PMOer.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Basically this method is the complete opposite of the normal method of trying to stop. The normal method is to list the considerable disadvantages of PMO and say, “if only I can go long enough without porn, eventually the desire to masturbate to porn will go. I can then enjoy life again, free of slavery to the tube.” This is the logical way to go about it, and thousands of PMOer are stopping every day using variations of this method. However, it is very difficult to succeed using this method for the following reasons:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Stopping PMO is not the real problem. Every time you finish your ‘deed’ you stop using it. You may have powerful reasons on day one of your once-in-four porn diet to say, “I do not want to PMO or even masturbate any more” - all PMOers have, every day of their lives, and the reasons are more powerful than you can possibly imagine. The real problem is day two, day ten or day ten thousand, when in a weak moment, an inebriated moment or even a strong moment you have one ‘peek’ and because it is partly akin to drug addiction you then want another, and suddenly you are a masturbator again.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;The health scares should stop us. Our rational minds say: “Stop doing it. You are a fool,” but in fact they make it harder. We masturbate, for example, when we are nervous. Tell PMOers that it is destroying their virility, and the first thing they will do is to find something to rush their dopamine - a cigarette, alcohol or even fire up the browser and search for porn.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;All reasons for stopping actually make it harder for two other reasons. First, they create a SOS sense of sacrifice. We are always being forced to give up our little friend or prop or vice or pleasure, whichever way the PMOer sees it. Secondly, they create a &amp;lsquo;blind&amp;rsquo;. We do not masturbate for the reasons we should stop. The real question is: why do we want or need to do it?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The EasyPeasy Method is basically this: initially to forget the reasons we&amp;rsquo;d like to stop, to face the problem and to ask ourselves the following questions:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;What is it doing for me?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Do I actually enjoy it?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Do I really need to go through life using free internet porn or even paying through the nose just to sabotage my mind and body?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The beautiful truth is that porn – streaming, static or whatever - does absolutely nothing for you at all. Let me make it quite clear; I do not mean that the disadvantages of being a PMOer outweigh the advantages. All PMOers know from the many published studies about high speed internet porn addiction, forum messages, blog articles in YBOP and similar sites. I mean there are not any advantages from internet porn. The only advantage it ever had was the ‘educational’ aspect and guess what, nowadays the kind of education that it is offering is highly disputable for their contribution to real life intimacy. Most PMOers find it necessary to rationalize why they PMO but the reasons they come up are all fallacies and illusions.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The first thing we are going to do is to remove these fallacies and illusions. In fact, you will realize that there is nothing to give up. Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous, positive gains from being a non-PMOer and well being and happiness are only two of these gains. Once the illusion that life will never be quite as enjoyable without porn is removed, once you realize that not only is life just as enjoyable without it but infinitely more so, once the feeling of being deprived or of missing out are eradicated, then we can go back to reconsider the health and happiness - and the dozens of other reasons for stopping. These realizations will become positive additional aids to help you achieve what you really desire to enjoy the whole of your life free from the slavery of the porn habit.&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;hr&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li id=&#34;fn:1&#34;&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Pascal’s Wager is a bet you take when you have nothing or less to lose for a higher chances of large gains and avoiding losses in the future&amp;#160;&lt;a href=&#34;#fnref:1&#34; class=&#34;footnote-backref&#34; role=&#34;doc-backlink&#34;&gt;&amp;#x21a9;&amp;#xfe0e;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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<title>03-06 Internet Porn</title>
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<description>&lt;p&gt;Erotic novelty of the internet porn is a mental ‘drug’ and internet porn beats anything that is known to mankind and its streaming straight to your home for free ! We are not even talking VR virtual reality here. Porn triggers the ‘flooding’ of dopamine in our brain. Dopamine amps up the brain reward circuitry to produce experiences and feels of cravings and pleasure by locking themselves into ‘receptors’. More dopamine more wanting. Less dopamine no wanting. New experiences, tasty food - more dopamine - more wanting. Sex and sex related stuff gives the biggest injection of dopamine in the reward circuits. Dopamine is not the final pleasure stuff, if it were you would feel happy when you are done with it, but it is only a brain chemical that encourages seeking and action in you. The real pleasure is produced by opioids. More dopamine more opioids more
action more happy feelings.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. All of which will now be stored as a script in your brain for easy access next time. I call this a ‘water slide’. Next time at the cue - a sexy commercial or alone time or stress or feeling a little down - you are ready to take a ride on the ‘water slide’. One more thing is that every time to repeat this you are ‘greasing’ it
as well - so it is active, alive and more easier to slide the next time.
As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will
be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but
this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation
feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating.
Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish,
ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you
won’t on your first time.
My Own Online Harem!
This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn
magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of
the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the
cost.
Going back to the earlier discussion - in this cycle as you crossed the ‘red line’ you also
trigger emotions such as guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety and fear - which in turn raise
dopamine levels as well. Now the brain may mistakenly associate feelings of anxiety and fear as
sexual arousal. This perpetual cycle is only broken by natural causes - fortunately sooner or later.
With its free access and privacy it provides boundless harem-like novelty. The dopamine can be
theoretically kept very high for a very very long time. I can be satisfied with one lobster once in
awhile. But Internet porn is different. It is even worse than drugs. Don’t let me make you nervous. I
will shortly show you how to be free from this slavery.
Now our human body has a self-correcting system by which the number of dopamine and
opioid receptors are cut short when frequent and daily ‘flooding’ of dopamine is detected.
Unfortunately - these receptors are also needed for receiving dopamine and to keep us even and
balanced to handle the inevitable and normal day-to-day stresses. But this natural nominal amount
of dopamine will not be absorbed efficiently with decreased receptors and you will feel more
stressed and irritated than normal. &amp;ldquo;For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Kahlil Gibran.
A fleeting feeling of security is all that is needed to get through a rough spot in life - but will
your brain be able to catch that drop of de-stressor that a non-PMOers’ brain is able to catch and
use?
This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I
must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think
that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop
PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I
will explain more about this later.
The Little Monster
The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died
without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&amp;rsquo; we think we
just &amp;lsquo;got into the habit&amp;rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&amp;rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug
addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted.
There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the
feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it
is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is
like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.
Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, resulting
in the feeling of fulfilment and pleasure that the action gives to the PMOer. In the early days, when
we first start PMOing, the withdrawal pangs and their relief are so slight that we are not even aware
that they exist. When we begin to masturbate regularly to internet porn we think it is because we&amp;rsquo;ve
either come to enjoy them or got into the &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;. The truth is we&amp;rsquo;re already hooked; we do not
realize it, but that little monster is already inside our stomach and every now and again we have to
feed it.
All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why
anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster.
The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO
know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the
most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the
pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had
before he became hooked in the first place.
The Annoying Burglar Alarm
You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has
been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous
feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the
aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our
brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the
dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We
are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do
not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate
the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we
became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the
craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain
goes on. It is a chain for life - UNLESS YOU BREAK IT.
The whole business of PMO is like wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure you feel
when you take them off. There are three main reasons why PMOers cannot see things that way:&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;From birth we have been subjected to massive brainwashing telling us that internet porn is
simply just another modern development that replaced the print version of porn. Why should
we not believe them when it hides behind the truth that masturbation is not bad? (However, I
won’t recommend you take up masturbation). Why else would they waste all that time and
energy and take such horrendous risks?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Because the physical withdrawal from dopamine injection involves no actual pain but is
merely an empty, insecure feeling, inseparable from hunger or normal stress and because
those are the very times that we tend to seek internet porn. We tend to regard the feeling as
normal.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;However the main reason that PMOers fail to see internet porn in its true light is because it
works back to front. It&amp;rsquo;s when you are not masturbating to it that you suffer that empty
feeling. Because the process of getting hooked is very subtle and gradual in the early days,
we regard that empty feeling as normal and don&amp;rsquo;t blame it on the previous PMO session. The
moment you fire up the browser and reach a tube site, you get an almost immediate boost or
buzz and do actually feel less nervous or more relaxed and internet porn gets the credit.
It is this &amp;lsquo;back to front&amp;rsquo; reverse process that makes all drugs difficult to kick. Picture the panic
state of a heroin addict who has no heroin. Now picture the utter joy when that addict can finally
plunge a needle into his vein. Can you visualize someone actually getting pleasure by injecting
themselves, or does the mere thought fill you with horror? Non-heroin addicts don&amp;rsquo;t suffer that panic
feeling.
The heroin doesn&amp;rsquo;t relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a 14 year old in
2008 - didn&amp;rsquo;t suffer the empty feeling of needing internet porn or start to panic when they are off-
line. Non-PMOers cannot understand how PMOers can possibly obtain pleasure from two
dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. And do you know
something? PMOers themselves cannot understand why they do it after some time either.
We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied
unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don&amp;rsquo;t non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied
state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers
completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their &amp;rsquo;little monster&amp;rsquo;?
A Pleasure or Crutch?
Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it
difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is
absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to
understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of
eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed
are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure
feeling which we know as: &amp;lsquo;I need to eat.&amp;rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasant
pastime.
PMOing appears to be almost identical. The empty, insecure feeling which we know as:
&amp;lsquo;wanting or needing an PMO orgasm’ is identical to a hunger for food, although one will not satisfy
the other. Like hunger, there is no physical pain and the feeling is so imperceptible that we are not
even aware of it between PMO sessions. It&amp;rsquo;s only if we want to masturbate and aren&amp;rsquo;t able to reach
internet for porn that we become aware of any discomfort. But when we do PMO we feel satisfied.
It is this similarity to eating which helps to fool PMOers into believing that they receive some
genuine pleasure. Some PMOers find it very difficult to grasp that there is no pleasure or crutch,
whatsoever to PMO. Some argue: “How can you say there is no crutch? When I orgasm up then I&amp;rsquo;ll
feel less nervous than before.”
Although eating and PMOing appear to be very similar. In fact they are exact opposites:&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;You eat to survive and to energize your life, whereas PMOing dims your mojo and cuts
down your energy.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Food does genuinely taste good, and eating is a genuinely pleasant experience that we can
enjoy throughout our lives, whereas PMOing involves self-sabotaging the happiness
receptors and thus destroying your chances to cope and to feel happy.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Eating doesn&amp;rsquo;t create hunger and genuinely relieves it, whereas the first PMO starts the
craving for dopamine and each subsequent one, far from relieving it, ensures that you suffer
it for the rest of life.
PMO is a Habit?
This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is
eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be
the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different
people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food.
But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is
to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is
true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different
times, but PMO itself is not a habit.
On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience,
I also refer to the &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no
more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to
learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’ * - we have to then have more bizarre
and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting&amp;hellip; not in the killing. If we don&amp;rsquo;t then panic sets
in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of
higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too
in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving
others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great!&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Escalation - a practice that is the result of our brain’s novelty and curiosity seeking to
get more dopamine in our reward circuitry.
Crossing The Red Line
This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of
the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of
watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO
session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking
you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn
paradise.
You feel better than you did before starting this PMO session but you are in fact more nervous
and less relaxed than you would be as a non-PMOer, like someone who is living in Loma Linda or
in an Amish village, even though you are actually PMOing and living in your supposed “porn
paradise.” This position is even more ridiculous than wearing tight shoes because as you go through
life an increasing amount of the discomfort remains even when the shoes are removed.
Once the orgasm is achieved, the dopamine rapidly begins to leave the brain, causing a mood
dip. Which explains why the PMOer wants to ‘edge’* and switch through multiple browser
windows as they seek and search. As I said, the ‘habit’ doesn&amp;rsquo;t exist. The real reason why every user
goes on using internet porn is because of that little porn monster inside his stomach. Every now and
again he has to feed it. The PMOer himself will decide when he does that and it tends to be on four
types of occasion or a combination of them.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Edge - to stay longer in pre-orgasm stage. To delay orgasm.
These occasions are:
• BOREDOM/CONCENTRATION - two complete opposites!
• STRESS/RELAXATION - two complete opposites!
What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If you think
about it, what other types of occasion are there in our lives; apart from sleep? The truth is that PMO
neither relieves boredom and stress nor promotes concentration and relaxation. It is all just illusion.
Apart from being a drug, PMO is also a destroyer of happiness and virility.
In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and
such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes,
print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’
and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the
most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive
without knowing the difference between food and poison.
Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics
Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have
developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and
bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more
shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the
outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we
will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red
line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural
and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and
balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there
are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!
When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were titillating but most
were disgusting, causing you to avert your eyes away. Like you would if had accidentally glanced a
feeding mother’s breast. And some of us are even revolted with what they saw when the star
reminded them of someone dear to their heart or a scene which recalled their own instance of being
the victim. Some don’t feel like it to browse and masturbate at the same time. It may be hard to
believe for you but the non-PMOs, who don’t PMO after their first time, are the lucky ones. They
actually decided that it was not their cup of tea. It must be hard for you to believe but stay with me.
How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the
social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even
after a hard day? Why not ? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after
your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That&amp;rsquo;s all.
Are PMOers Mentally Weak?
It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The
lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or,
alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting
the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical
enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.
To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to become
hooked, and this is why it is difficult to stop teenagers. Because they are skilled in seeking and
finding material, they know online privacy options and can clean their tracks - if they still feel some
stigma and they (wrongfully) believe they can stop whenever they want to. Why do they not learn
from us? Then again, why did we not learn from our PMOers and addicts?
Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually
doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of
‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting
themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying
is the ritual of relieving those pangs.
The High From The Dance Around The Red Line
Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to
filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the
body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an
excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes
even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.
Ask a user who believes that he sticks to a certain actor or genre - only because he likes
something about the star or the theme (if any) of the clip: “If you cannot get your normal brand of
porn and can only obtain a poor or unsafe brand, do you stop masturbating?” No way. A PMOer will
masturbate to anything rather than abstain and it doesn&amp;rsquo;t matter if he has to switch to escalating
themes, different sex-orientation-themes, look-alike actresses, dangerous settings shocking
relationships etc. To begin with they taste awful but if you persevere you will learn to like them.
Most PMOers will also try to seek masturbation even after having real sex (unfulfilment, porn-
induced unrealistic expectations etc.), or after a long, stressful work day, fever, colds, flu, sore
throats and even when admitted in hospitals.
Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wanted then it makes
no sense to be with your laptop. During my conversation some PMOers find it alarming to realize
they are drug addicts and think it will make it even more difficult to stop. In fact, it is all good news
for two important reasons:&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;The reason why most of us carry on masturbating to internet porn is because, although we
know the disadvantages outweigh the advantages, we believe that there is something in the
porn that we actually enjoy or that it is some sort of prop. We feel that after we stop PMOing
there will be a void, that certain situations in our life will never be quite the same. This is an
illusion. The fact is the masturbation and especially PMO gives nothing; it only takes away
and then partially restores to create the illusion. I will explain this in more detail in a later
chapter.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Although internet porn is the most powerful trigger for ‘novelty’ and ‘sex’ based dopamine
‘flooding’ - because of the speed with which you become hooked, you are never badly
hooked. The actual withdrawal pangs are so mild that most PMOers have lived and died
without ever realizing that they have suffered them.
You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through
months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the
second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to
cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc.
The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your
laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious
client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn&amp;rsquo;t
bother the PMOers.
The Smokers Analogy
A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a
cigarette they&amp;rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain
from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to
smoke doesn&amp;rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased
for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.
PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their parents while
visiting for family get togethers etc. with little discomfort to themselves. In fact, most PMOers have
extended periods during which they abstain without effort. Even in my case I would quite happily
go a week or so without a PMO incident. In the later years as a PMOer I actually used to look
forward to these days when I could stop choking my penis (what a ridiculous &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;).
The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still
addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just
as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;
but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water
slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood.
The Big Monster - The Brainwashing
You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong
willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options.
Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.
Not all the amateurs are ‘amateurs’ on these tube sites, oversized body parts and overcharged
scenarios are the norm, aided by a bit of the ‘viagran’ help.
As I say, the actual porn addiction is not the main problem. It just acts as a catalyst to keep our
minds confused over the real problem: the brainwashing. It may be of consolation to lifelong and
heavy PMOers to know that it is just as easy for them to stop as casual PMOers. In a peculiar way.
it is easier. The further you go along with the &amp;lsquo;habit&amp;rsquo;, the more it drags you down and the greater the
gain when you stop.
It may be of further consolation for you to know that the rumours that occasionally circulate
that the neural pathways created are there for life, and so at the right (or wrong) time and with
strong stimuli you will be sliding again down the ‘water slide’ of internet porn and masturbation to
permanently destroy your real life sex are untrue.
Do not think the bad effects of internet porn are exaggerated. If anything, they are sadly
understated but the truth is there are different levels of dependency on PMO and masturbation in
general. However, these bodies of ours are incredible machines and have enormous powers of
recovery. If you stop now, your body and brain will recover within a matter of a few weeks.
As I have said, it is never too late to stop. You can see many who have stopped not only porn
but masturbation as well. Naturally with any obstacles that humans face some have even taken this
addiction recovery to the next level in learning about differentiating amative and propagative sides
of sex. They have not only rebooted their sex lives but have made their partner happier than before
as well.
The further it drags you down, the greater the relief. When I finally stopped I went straight to
ZERO, and didn&amp;rsquo;t have one bad pang. In fact, it was actually enjoyable, even during the withdrawal
period. But we must remove the brainwashing about internet porn regardless of your status as single
or partnered and also of masturbation.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
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<title>03-05 Why Do We Carry on With PMO</title>
<link>https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook/03-05-why-do-we-carry-on-with-pmo/</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:42:16 +0200</pubDate>
<guid>https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook/03-05-why-do-we-carry-on-with-pmo/</guid>
<description>&lt;p&gt;We all start PMOing for many reasons, usually social pressures or our biological curiosity, but once we feel we are becoming hooked, why do we carry on using porn? No regular PMOer knows why he or she looks at porn. If PMOers knew the true reason, they would stop doing it. The true answer is the same for all PMOers but the variety of replies is infinite, I find this part of the consultation the most amusing and at the same time the most pathetic.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;All PMOers know in their heart of hearts that they are fools. They know that they had no need to use porn or internet porn before they became hooked. Most of them can remember that their first ‘peek’ was a mix of revulsion and novel curiosity. They then filter out and get “skilled” at “locating” and “bookmarking” the right porn sites. They know that they had to work hard in order to become hooked.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The most annoying part is that they sense that non-addicts - most women, older guys, people living in countries where hi-speed internet porn is not available “on tap” - are not missing anything and that they are laughing at them.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;However, PMOers are intelligent, rational human beings. They know that they are taking enormous future risks and so they spend a lot of time rationalizing their ‘habit’. The actual reason why PMOers continue is a subtle combination of the factors that I will elaborate in the next two chapters. They are:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;INTERNET PORN&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;BRAINWASHING&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
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<title>03-04 The Sinister Trap</title>
<link>https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook/03-04-the-sinister-trap/</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:38:28 +0200</pubDate>
<guid>https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook/03-04-the-sinister-trap/</guid>
<description>&lt;p&gt;Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it&amp;rsquo;s an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It is the only trap in nature which has does not require a lot of hard work to set up. The thing that springs the trap is not that all porn clips feature young, high quality, sexy models; it’s that most of the thumbnails on any porn web page are ugly looking, unattractive, amateurish, home-made clips of unknown models. If the first timer’s first look at a tube page was only filled with angelic beauties, professional models and high quality then the alarm bells would ring. And as intelligent human beings, we could then understand why half the adult population was systematically addicted to watching something that is cutting down their very same potential to do what they are viewing. In many known and yet unknown ways porn cuts down sexual performance and the feeling of satisfaction.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;But because that first “peek” has “stains and holes,” a mishmash of low quality clips of not-so-hot models, our young minds are reassured that we will never become hooked, and we think that because we are not enjoying them we can stop whenever we want to. It is the only drug in nature that prevents you from achieving your aim. Our curiosity brings us to its door steps. You dare not even click on all of the thumbnails because some of them will make you feel sick and throw up! If you were to accidentally click on an “I-did-not-see-that” clip - all you want to do is get away from the site and close your laptop.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;With women, the aim is to be the sophisticated modern young lady. We have all seen them acting up and looking absolutely ridiculous. By the time the boys have learnt to look tough and the girls have learnt to look sophisticated, they wish they had never started in the first place. I wonder whether women ever look sophisticated when they discuss the top 10 porn sites, or whether this is a figment of our imaginations created by internet porn companies.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;We then spend the rest of our lives trying to explain to ourselves why we do it, telling our children not to get caught and, at odd times, trying to escape ourselves. The trap is so designed that we try to stop only when we have an “incident” that touch us to the quick of the flesh, whether it be in the bed, loss of a career or relationship, shortage of drive or just plain being made to feel like a leper. As soon as we stop, we have more stress (the fearful withdrawal pangs of brain chemicals) and the thing that we rely on to relieve stress (our old prop, porn and PMO) we now must do without. Internet porn is powerful imagery at high speed making it a high fructose corn syrup&amp;hellip; sorry, high density supernormal stimulant.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;After a few days of torture we decide that we have picked the wrong time to quit. We must wait for a period without stress, and as soon as that arrives the reason for stopping vanishes. Of course, that period will never arrive because, in the first place, we think that our lives tend to become more and more stressful. As we leave the protection of our parents the natural process is jobs, setting up home, mortgages, babies, more responsible jobs, a bigger house, more babies etc. etc. This is also an illusion.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The truth is that the most stressful periods for any creature are early childhood and adolescence. We tend to confuse responsibility with stress. A PMOer’s life - like a drug addict - automatically becomes more stressful because PMO does not relax you or relieve stress, as some try to make you believe. Just the reverse: it actually causes you to become more nervous and stressed. Internet porn is as fake in its promises for pleasure and crutch as its actors are. If you had never learned any life skills to cope the stress and strains of day to day life you are not going to get any better with this fake and disgusting crutch. Worse you are going to add more bales of straw on the old camel’s back.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Even those users who kick the habit (most do, one or more times during their lives) can lead perfectly happy lives yet suddenly become hooked again. The whole business of PMO is like wandering into a giant maze. As soon as we enter the maze our minds become misted and clouded, and we spend the rest of our lives trying to escape. Many of us eventually do, only to find that we get trapped again at a later date. I spent thirty-three years trying to escape from that maze. Like all PMOers, I couldn&amp;rsquo;t understand it. However, due to a combination of unusual circumstances, none of which reflect any credit on me, I wanted to know why previously it had been so desperately difficult to stop and yet, when I finally did, it was not only easy but enjoyable.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Since stopping PMO my hobby has been to resolve the many conundrums associated with porn. It is a complex and fascinating puzzle and - like a Rubik&amp;rsquo;s Cube - practically impossible to solve. However, like all complicated puzzles, if you know the solution, it is easy! I have the solution to stopping porn easily. I will lead you out of the maze and ensure that you never wander into it again. All you have to do is follow the instructions. If you take a wrong turn, the rest of the instructions will be pointless. Let me emphasize that anybody can find it easy to stop but first we need to establish the facts. No, I do not mean the scare facts. I know you are already aware of them. There is already enough information on the evils of PMO. If that was going to stop you, you would already have stopped. I mean, why do we find it difficult to stop? In order to answer this question we need to know the real reason why we are still doing PMO.&lt;/p&gt;
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<title>03-03 Why Is It Difficult to Stop?</title>
<link>https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook/03-03-why-is-it-difficult-to-stop/</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:31:45 +0200</pubDate>
<guid>https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook/03-03-why-is-it-difficult-to-stop/</guid>
<description>&lt;p&gt;As I explained earlier, I got interested in this subject because of my own addiction. When I finally stopped it was like magic. When I had previously tried to stop there were weeks of black depression. There would be odd days when I was comparatively cheerful but the next day back with the depression. It was like clawing your way out of a slippery pit, you feel you are near the top, you see the sunshine and then find yourself sliding down again. Eventually you open your browser and as you masturbate you feel awful and you try to work out why you have to do it.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;One of the questions I always ask online is: “do you want to stop PMO?” In a way it is a stupid question. All users (including members who dispute total abstinence) would love to stop PMO. If you ask to the most confirmed PMOer: “if you could go back to the time before you became hooked, with the knowledge you have now, would you have started PMO?”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;“NO WAY,” would be the reply.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Say to the confirmed PMOer - someone who defends internet porn and who doesn&amp;rsquo;t think that it cause injury to the brain (PIED, hypofrontality or the decreases in the dopamine receptors and etc.) - “do you encourage your children to use PMO?”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;“NO WAY,” is again the reply.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;All PMOers feel that something evil has got possession of them. In the early days it is a question of, “I am going to stop, not today but tomorrow.” Eventually we get to the stage where we think either that we haven&amp;rsquo;t got the willpower or that there is something inherent in the whole PMO that we must have in order to enjoy life.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;As I said previously, the problem is not explaining why it is easy to stop; it is explaining why it is difficult. In fact, the real problem is explaining scientifically why anybody does it even after getting the insights on the neurological damages of addictions not limited to porn.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The whole business of porn is an extraordinary enigma. One of the reasons we get on to it is because of the thousands of people are already into it, about 35% of the population approximately. Yet every one of them wishes he or she had not started in the first place, telling us that life is like driving in second gear. We cannot quite believe they are not enjoying it. We associate it with freedom or being “sex-educated” and work hard to become hooked ourselves. We then spend the rest of our lives telling others not to do it and trying to kick the habit ourselves.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;We also spend the rest of our lives feeling hopeless and miserable. Time spent on porn can accumulate to a large percentage of our life in this planet! What do we do with that amount of time spent? We ‘educate’ ourselves with supranormal&lt;sup id=&#34;fnref:1&#34;&gt;&lt;a href=&#34;#fn:1&#34; class=&#34;footnote-ref&#34; role=&#34;doc-noteref&#34;&gt;1&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/sup&gt; ‘material’ that makes us stupidly prefer and childishly long for these cold images - even when warm real ones are available. By the constant surge and drop of dopamine induced by PMO, we sentence ourselves to a lifetime of irritability, anger, frustration, stress, fatigue&lt;sup id=&#34;fnref:2&#34;&gt;&lt;a href=&#34;#fn:2&#34; class=&#34;footnote-ref&#34; role=&#34;doc-noteref&#34;&gt;2&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/sup&gt;, PIED, hypofrontality etc. In short, it is a lifetime of slavery. It is logically and intuitively clear that amative sex (physical touch, feel, voice etc.) is the best part of sex and is even better (if Karezza&lt;sup id=&#34;fnref:3&#34;&gt;&lt;a href=&#34;#fn:3&#34; class=&#34;footnote-ref&#34; role=&#34;doc-noteref&#34;&gt;3&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/sup&gt; is practised, although not necessary for the current purposes) than the propagative (orgasm) part, except when children are desired. So, when we use porn in the absence of the best part of sex we feel miserable and guilty.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;In fact, all the reading about internet pornography&amp;rsquo;s addictive capabilities and it’s destructive effects here and in other online sites makes us even more nervous and hopeless. When we are trying to cut down or stop, we end up feeling deprived. We wish we didn&amp;rsquo;t have to. What sort of hobby is it that when you are doing it you wish you weren&amp;rsquo;t, and when you are not doing it you crave for it ? A lifetime of an otherwise intelligent, rational human being going through life in contempt.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The PMOer despises himself, every time he has an unreliable erection, a fading penetration, reading about PIED and other stuff on the YBOP forum, every time he could not pull himself up to exercise after a daytime PMO, every PMO behind his or her trustfully asleep partner’s back, every time he sees his tired face and lifeless eyes in the restroom mirror.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Having to go through life with these awful black shadows at the back of his mind, what does he get out of it? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! Pleasure? Enjoyment? Relaxation? A prop? A boost? All illusions, unless you consider the wearing of tight shoes to enjoy the removal of them as some sort of pleasure!&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The real problem is trying to explain not only why PMOers find it difficult to stop but why anybody does it at all after knowing about brain neuroplasticity. You are probably thinking: “That&amp;rsquo;s all very well. I know this, but once you are hooked on these things it is very difficult to stop.” But why is it so difficult, and why do we have to do it? Addicts of PMO search for the answer to these questions all of their lives. Some say it is because of the powerful withdrawal symptoms. In fact, the actual withdrawal symptoms from porn are so mild (see Chapter 6) that PMOers should know about smokers who have lived and died without ever realizing they are drug addicts.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Some say internet porn is free and hence humankind should claim this biological bonanza. It is NOT. It is addictive and acts like any other drug. Ask a PMOer who swears that he only enjoys safe playboy type erotica and that he could always restrict himself only to this soft genre ? If he is absolutely honest - he would tell you about the many times when he had unwittingly crossed the line. Otherwise good PMOers would rather use ‘unsafe’ hardcore stuff, rationalizing it, than left with nothing at all.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Enjoyment has nothing to do with it. I enjoy lobster but I never got to the stage where I had to have lobsters everyday and multiple times like they are hanging round my neck. With other things in life we enjoy them whilst we are doing them but we don&amp;rsquo;t sit feeling deprived when we are not. Some search for deep psychological reasons, the “Freudian Syndrome,” or “the child at the mother&amp;rsquo;s breast.” Really it is just the reverse.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The ‘usual’ reason why we start PMO is to show we are grown up and mature. Some think it is the reverse, the macho effect of “doing what boys do” or in some cases, “let me show I am a tomboy girl,” to rattle my conservative family. Again, this argument has no substance. Internet porn provides easy escalation (outrageous and shocking clips just a click away), desensitization (same clips don’t do it any more) and all this within the high reward no risk settings. The science fiction story lines, the fake “amateurs,” the “real life” clips etc. should make any average PMOer discover pretty soon that it is all an illusion. What a PMOer should also understand is that after eating at restaurants every day the home food will never appeal your taste buds at all. Yes, the food is free and is tasty - but does it nourish you ?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Some say:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
&lt;li&gt;“It is educational!” So, when is your graduation?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;“It is a sexual satisfaction.” So, why do it alone? Find a partner and save it for her or him?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;“It is the feeling of release.” A release from the stresses of real life? Porn is going to remove the cause of the stress? OK, good luck. You just added more to it.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Many believe PMO relieves boredom. This is also a fallacy. Boredom is a frame of mind. Porn will induce you to “novelty” seeking in no time. Causing you to be eventually more bored unless and until you participate in the “wild goose chase” all night long for the “right hit” producing clip. There is nothing interesting about supranormal stimulus such as internet porn, it fires up dopamine whose only job is to seek clips that evoke strong emotions, interesting novelty and outrageous shock value.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;For thirty years my reason was that it relaxed me, gave me confidence and courage. I also knew it was draining me and costing me virility. Why didn&amp;rsquo;t I go to a therapist or find an another way to relax me and give me courage and confidence? I didn&amp;rsquo;t go because I knew he would suggest an alternative. It wasn&amp;rsquo;t my reason; it was my excuse.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Some say they only do it because their friends and every one they know do it. Are you really that stupid? If so, just pray that your friends do not start cutting their heads off to cure a headache! Most users who think about it eventually come to the conclusion that it is just a habit. This is not really an explanation but having discounted all the usual rational explanations, it appears to be the only remaining excuse. Unfortunately, this explanation is equally illogical. Every day of our lives we change habits and some of them are very enjoyable. We have been brainwashed to believe that PMO is a habit and that habits are difficult to break. Are habits really difficult to break?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;In the US we are in the habit of driving on the right side of the road. Yet when we drive in the UK we immediately break that habit with hardly any aggravation whatsoever. It is clearly a fallacy that habits are hard to break. The fact is that we make and break habits every day of our lives. So why do we find it difficult to break a habit that makes us deprived when we don’t have it yet guilty when we do and that we would love to break anyway, when all we have to do is to stop doing it?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The answer is that PMO is not habit: IT IS ADDICTION! That is why it appears to be so difficult to “give up.” Perhaps you feel this explanation explains why it is difficult to “give up?” It does explain why most PMOers find it difficult to “give up.” That is because they do not understand addiction. The main reason is that PMOers are convinced that they get some genuine pleasure and/or crutch from porn and believe that they are making a genuine sacrifice if they quit.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The beautiful truth is that once you understand porn addiction and the true reasons why you PMO, you will stop doing it just like that - and within three weeks the only mystery will be why you found it necessary to PMO as long as you have, and why you cannot persuade other PMOers &lt;strong&gt;HOW NICE IT IS TO BE A NON-PMOer&lt;/strong&gt;!&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;div class=&#34;footnotes&#34; role=&#34;doc-endnotes&#34;&gt;
&lt;hr&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li id=&#34;fn:1&#34;&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Supranormal&lt;/strong&gt; - a phrase coined by Nikolaas Tinbergen. Studies show that our brains prefer brighter, larger, colourful
etc. versions of what we like.&amp;#160;&lt;a href=&#34;#fnref:1&#34; class=&#34;footnote-backref&#34; role=&#34;doc-backlink&#34;&gt;&amp;#x21a9;&amp;#xfe0e;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li id=&#34;fn:2&#34;&gt;
&lt;p&gt;When dopamine receptors are de-activated in response to frequent and extended dopamine surges even normal de-
stressing chemicals are not absorbed by our brains.&amp;#160;&lt;a href=&#34;#fnref:2&#34; class=&#34;footnote-backref&#34; role=&#34;doc-backlink&#34;&gt;&amp;#x21a9;&amp;#xfe0e;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li id=&#34;fn:3&#34;&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Karezza&lt;/strong&gt; - is the practice of amative sex that puts no pressure on orgasms as occurs in propagative sex. It relieves the
man and woman from performance based anxieties.&amp;#160;&lt;a href=&#34;#fnref:3&#34; class=&#34;footnote-backref&#34; role=&#34;doc-backlink&#34;&gt;&amp;#x21a9;&amp;#xfe0e;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/li&gt;
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<title>03-02 the Easy Method</title>
<link>https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook/03-02-the-easy-method/</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:26:34 +0200</pubDate>
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<description>&lt;p&gt;The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Provided that you are not a non-PMOer (who had never got addicted) or an ex-PMOer (who had quit or is in the fasting days of the porn-diet), it is essential to not quit until you have finished the book completely. This may appear to be a contradiction. Later I shall be explaining that porn do absolutely nothing for you at all. In fact, one of the many conundrums about internet porn is that when we are actually masturbating to a porn clip, we look at it and wonder why we are doing it. It is only when we have been deprived that the craving for PMO becomes precious.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;However, let us accept that, whether you like it or not, you believe you are hooked. When you believe you are hooked, you can never be completely relaxed or concentrate properly unless you are using PMO. So do not attempt to stop PMO before you have finished the whole book. This instruction to continue to masturbate using porn until you have completed the book has caused me more frustration than any other. As you read further your desire to masturbate to porn will gradually be reduced. Do not go off half-cocked; this could be fatal. Remember, all you have to do is to follow the instructions in the right order. When I first started writing on forums many of the readers also stopped purely because I had done it. They thought, “if he can do it, anybody can.”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Over the years, I managed to persuade the ones that hadn&amp;rsquo;t stopped to realize just how nice it is to be free! I gave my hackbook for free upon request. I worked on the basis that, even if it were the most boring book ever written, they would still read it, if only because it had been written by an ex-PMOer. I was surprised and hurt to learn that,they hadn&amp;rsquo;t bothered to finish the book.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I was hurt at the time but I had overlooked the dreadful fear that this slavery to the “dopamine surge” instils in the addict. I now realize that many PMOers don&amp;rsquo;t finish the book because they feel they have got to give up something that is their pleasure and crutch when they quit. Some deliberately read only one line a day in order to postpone the evil day. Look at it this way: what have you got to lose? If you don&amp;rsquo;t stop at the end of the book, you are no worse off than you are now. YOU HAVE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO LOSE AND SO MUCH TO GAIN! AND SO MUCH MORE TO AVOID !!! A Pascal’s Wage&lt;sup id=&#34;fnref:1&#34;&gt;&lt;a href=&#34;#fn:1&#34; class=&#34;footnote-ref&#34; role=&#34;doc-noteref&#34;&gt;1&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/sup&gt;?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Incidentally, if you have not PMOed for a few days or weeks but are not sure whether you are a PMOer, an ex-PMOer or a non-PMOer, then don&amp;rsquo;t use porn to masturbate while you read. In fact, you are already a non-PMOer. All we&amp;rsquo;ve now got to do is to let your brain catch up with your body. By the end of the book you&amp;rsquo;ll be a happy non-PMOer.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Basically this method is the complete opposite of the normal method of trying to stop. The normal method is to list the considerable disadvantages of PMO and say, “if only I can go long enough without porn, eventually the desire to masturbate to porn will go. I can then enjoy life again, free of slavery to the tube.” This is the logical way to go about it, and thousands of PMOer are stopping every day using variations of this method. However, it is very difficult to succeed using this method for the following reasons:&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;li&gt;Stopping PMO is not the real problem. Every time you finish your ‘deed’ you stop using it. You may have powerful reasons on day one of your once-in-four porn diet to say, “I do not want to PMO or even masturbate any more” - all PMOers have, every day of their lives, and the reasons are more powerful than you can possibly imagine. The real problem is day two, day ten or day ten thousand, when in a weak moment, an inebriated moment or even a strong moment you have one ‘peek’ and because it is partly akin to drug addiction you then want another, and suddenly you are a masturbator again.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;The health scares should stop us. Our rational minds say: “Stop doing it. You are a fool,” but in fact they make it harder. We masturbate, for example, when we are nervous. Tell PMOers that it is destroying their virility, and the first thing they will do is to find something to rush their dopamine - a cigarette, alcohol or even fire up the browser and search for porn.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;All reasons for stopping actually make it harder for two other reasons. First, they create a SOS sense of sacrifice. We are always being forced to give up our little friend or prop or vice or pleasure, whichever way the PMOer sees it. Secondly, they create a &amp;lsquo;blind&amp;rsquo;. We do not masturbate for the reasons we should stop. The real question is: why do we want or need to do it?&lt;/li&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;The EasyPeasy Method is basically this: initially to forget the reasons we&amp;rsquo;d like to stop, to face the problem and to ask ourselves the following questions:&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;li&gt;What is it doing for me?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Do I actually enjoy it?&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Do I really need to go through life using free internet porn or even paying through the nose just to sabotage my mind and body?&lt;/li&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;The beautiful truth is that porn – streaming, static or whatever - does absolutely nothing for you at all. Let me make it quite clear; I do not mean that the disadvantages of being a PMOer outweigh the advantages. All PMOers know from the many published studies about high speed internet porn addiction, forum messages, blog articles in YBOP and similar sites. I mean there are not any advantages from internet porn. The only advantage it ever had was the ‘educational’ aspect and guess what, nowadays the kind of education that it is offering is highly disputable for their contribution to real life intimacy. Most PMOers find it necessary to rationalize why they PMO but the reasons they come up are all fallacies and illusions.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The first thing we are going to do is to remove these fallacies and illusions. In fact, you will realize that there is nothing to give up. Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous, positive gains from being a non-PMOer and well being and happiness are only two of these gains. Once the illusion that life will never be quite as enjoyable without porn is removed, once you realize that not only is life just as enjoyable without it but infinitely more so, once the feeling of being deprived or of missing out are eradicated, then we can go back to reconsider the health and happiness - and the dozens of other reasons for stopping. These realizations will become positive additional aids to help you achieve what you really desire to enjoy the whole of your life free from the slavery of the porn habit.&lt;/p&gt;
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