--- title: "04-02 REBT Coping Statements" date: 2022-12-24T12:14:53+03:00 draft: false tags: ["hackbook","library"] --- ## REBT Coping Statements * *“I can stop PMO, even though it appears 'hard' to do so. It’s not too hard and no matter how much trouble it takes, it’s worth it!”* * *“If I keep ignoring and never giving into my powerful urges to PMO, I will make it easier and easier to resist them”* * *“I can fully and unconditionally accept myself- yes, even with all my flaws and failings”* * *“PMO seems to quickly 'cure' my problems but actually makes them worse.”* * *“At times, I’d like very much to drown my troubles in PMO but that is never a reason to do so.”* * *“It’s most uncomfortable when I don’t get what I really want. But it’s not awful or terrible unless I choose to believe that it is and I choose to believe something more realistic and helpful.”* * *“I’ll never like unfair treatment but I damned well can stand it and perhaps plot and scheme to stop it.”* * *“No matter how many times I fail at this important pursuit, my failure never makes me an incompetent louse. It just makes me a person who may have acted incompetently at that time.”* * *“I don’t absolutely need what I want but I can still be reasonably happy, though not as happy - when I don’t get it.”* * *“I strongly prefer to be outstanding at my work, but I don’t have to be. Too bad if I’m not but it doesn’t make me inferior. I can always keep trying to do better without needing to do better.”* * *“Many things can help make me sorry and disappointed but when I demand and command that these things must not exist, I then make myself panicked, depressed and enraged.”* * *“Yes, I’ve often failed to do what I promised that I’d do, but that doesn’t mean that I can’t or won’t carry out this promise.”* * *“I hate like hell being anxious and depressed but I don’t have to immediately dissolve these feelings in PMO. When I PMO, I temporarily feel better about my problems but I don’t get better. In the long run, PMO makes them worse.* * *“People don’t enrage me by treating me badly. I pigheadedly choose to enrage myself about their bad treatment by demanding and commanding that they act better.”* {{% center %}} {{% prevnextparent_for_hackbook %}} {{% /center %}}