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It will not judge you. It will not embarrass you. It will not put pressure on you to undergo painful measures. That goes against everything you've ever been told about PMO. But ask yourself what you've been told before worked for you? If it had, you wouldn't be reading this site. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/01-02-Warning.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/01-02-Warning.md index e23587da..518e17d7 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/01-02-Warning.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/01-02-Warning.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-19T22:19:35+02:00 draft: false --- +## Warning + Perhaps you are somewhat apprehensive about reading this book. Perhaps, like the majority of PMO addicts, the mere thought of stopping fills you with panic and although you have every intention of stopping one day, it is not today. If you are expecting me to inform you of the terrible health issues that PMO addicts risk, that they are susceptible to be affected by PIED (porn induced erectile disfunction), unreliable arousals, fading penetration, loss of interest in real partners,loss of control over themselves, loss of relationships, that it is a filthy, disgusting habit and that *YOU* are a stupid, spineless, weak-willed jellyfish, then I must disappoint you. Those tactics never helped me to quit and if they were going to help you, you would already have quit. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/01-03-Fear.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/01-03-Fear.md index 3fa2327b..d3342a3a 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/01-03-Fear.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/01-03-Fear.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-19T22:23:44+02:00 draft: false --- +## Fear + Fear that we will have to survive an indeterminate period of misery, deprivation and unsatisfied craving in order to be free. Fear that a night all by yourself or the eve of a test or exam will be miserable fighting uncontrollable impulses. Fear that we'll never be able to concentrate, handle stress or be as confident without our little crutch. Fear that our personality and character will change. But most of all, the fear of 'once an addict always an addict,' that we will never be completely free and spend the rest of our lives at odd times craving the occasional porn induced orgasm. If, as I did, you have already tried all the conventional ways to quit and been through the misery of what I describe as the willpower method of stopping, you will not only be affected by that fear, but convinced you can never quit. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/02-01-Introduction.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/02-01-Introduction.md index 5e24c8c5..da3d3c6e 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/02-01-Introduction.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/02-01-Introduction.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-19T22:27:57+02:00 draft: false --- +## Introduction + {{% center %}} ## 'I'M GOING TO CURE THE WORLD OF PMO' diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/02-02-Sister-Kenny.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/02-02-Sister-Kenny.md index 7411d331..93074024 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/02-02-Sister-Kenny.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/02-02-Sister-Kenny.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-20T16:58:54+02:00 draft: false --- +## Sister Kenny + You've probably seen the film Sister Kenny. In case you haven't, it was about the time when infantile paralysis or polio was the scourge of our children. I vividly remember that the words engendered the same fear in me as the word cancer does today. The effect of polio was not only to paralyze the legs and arms but to distort the limbs. The established medical treatment was to put those limbs in irons and thus prevent the distortion. The result was paralysis for life. Sister Kenny believed the irons inhibited recovery and proved a thousand times over that the muscles could be re-educated so that the child could walk again. However, Sister Kenny wasn't a doctor, she was merely a nurse. How dare she dabble in a province that was confined to qualified doctors? It didn't seem to matter that Sister Kenny had found the solution to the problem and had proved her solution to be effective. The children that were treated by Sister Kenny knew she was right, so did their parents, yet the established medical profession not only refused to adopt her methods but actually prevented her from practicing. It took Sister Kenny twenty years before the medical profession would accept the obvious. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-01-The-Worst-PMO-Addict-I-Have-Yet-to-Meet.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-01-The-Worst-PMO-Addict-I-Have-Yet-to-Meet.md index 9d414650..a38670dd 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-01-The-Worst-PMO-Addict-I-Have-Yet-to-Meet.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-01-The-Worst-PMO-Addict-I-Have-Yet-to-Meet.md @@ -1,9 +1,11 @@ --- -title: "03-01 the Worst PMO Addict I Have Yet to Meet" +title: "03-01 The Worst PMO Addict I Have Yet to Meet" date: 2022-12-20T17:10:39+02:00 draft: false --- +## The Worst PMO Addict I Have Yet to Meet + Perhaps I should begin by describing my competence for writing this book. No, I am not a doctor or a psychiatrist; my qualifications are far more appropriate. I spent thirty years of my life as a confirmed fapper. In the later years I used porn on a daily bases to get orgasm(s).During my life I had made a great number of attempts to stop. I never got past a full week of abstinence, and I was still climbing up the wall, with an “annoying alarm clock beeping” in my head called craving. With most PMOers, on the health side, it's a question of “ I'll stop before it happens to me.” I had reached the stage where I knew it has caused PIED, hypofrontality (inability to control and execute action towards a goal), irritability, lack of energy, soulless eyes, mental dryness, stress and pain in the lower back, genital irritations. It bothered me, but it still didn't stop me. I felt lack of enthusiasm to go to gym or just a walk even if it’s sunny outside or simple weight lifting at home either. I had reached the stage where I gave up even trying to stop. I found excuses in substitute methods (controlled use, safe porn, porn-diet and etc. discussed later) as advocated by sexologists, forum users and medical pros - who have no idea of its effect on brain chemistry and who are themselves fooled by their 'little monster' (not devil or satan - we will talk about monsters later) . The novelty trap and shock value provided by internet porn delivered at home with a low risk high reward deal is something that they can’t even think of. They are still in the static playboy era. And the younger ones have buried their heads under the sand so they can still continue to PMO. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-02-The-Easy-Method.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-02-The-Easy-Method.md index 137b1592..91c06925 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-02-The-Easy-Method.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-02-The-Easy-Method.md @@ -1,9 +1,11 @@ --- -title: "03-02 the Easy Method" +title: "03-02 The Easy Method" date: 2022-12-20T20:26:34+02:00 draft: false --- +## The Easy Method + The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy. Provided that you are not a non-PMOer (who had never got addicted) or an ex-PMOer (who had quit or is in the fasting days of the porn-diet), it is essential to not quit until you have finished the book completely. This may appear to be a contradiction. Later I shall be explaining that porn do absolutely nothing for you at all. In fact, one of the many conundrums about internet porn is that when we are actually masturbating to a porn clip, we look at it and wonder why we are doing it. It is only when we have been deprived that the craving for PMO becomes precious. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-03-Why-is-it-Difficult-to-Stop.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-03-Why-is-it-Difficult-to-Stop.md index 5a987a22..a881b14e 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-03-Why-is-it-Difficult-to-Stop.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-03-Why-is-it-Difficult-to-Stop.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-20T20:31:45+02:00 draft: false --- +## Why Is It Difficult to Stop? + As I explained earlier, I got interested in this subject because of my own addiction. When I finally stopped it was like magic. When I had previously tried to stop there were weeks of black depression. There would be odd days when I was comparatively cheerful but the next day back with the depression. It was like clawing your way out of a slippery pit, you feel you are near the top, you see the sunshine and then find yourself sliding down again. Eventually you open your browser and as you masturbate you feel awful and you try to work out why you have to do it. One of the questions I always ask online is: “do you want to stop PMO?” In a way it is a stupid question. All users (including members who dispute total abstinence) would love to stop PMO. If you ask to the most confirmed PMOer: “if you could go back to the time before you became hooked, with the knowledge you have now, would you have started PMO?” diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-04-The-Sinister-Trap.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-04-The-Sinister-Trap.md index af2e4312..5a1a9600 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-04-The-Sinister-Trap.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-04-The-Sinister-Trap.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-20T20:38:28+02:00 draft: false --- +## The Sinister Trap + Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it's an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked. It is the only trap in nature which has does not require a lot of hard work to set up. The thing that springs the trap is not that all porn clips feature young, high quality, sexy models; it’s that most of the thumbnails on any porn web page are ugly looking, unattractive, amateurish, home-made clips of unknown models. If the first timer’s first look at a tube page was only filled with angelic beauties, professional models and high quality then the alarm bells would ring. And as intelligent human beings, we could then understand why half the adult population was systematically addicted to watching something that is cutting down their very same potential to do what they are viewing. In many known and yet unknown ways porn cuts down sexual performance and the feeling of satisfaction. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-05-Why-Do-We-Carry-On-With-PMO.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-05-Why-Do-We-Carry-On-With-PMO.md index c978621d..a2b6244b 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-05-Why-Do-We-Carry-On-With-PMO.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-05-Why-Do-We-Carry-On-With-PMO.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-20T20:42:16+02:00 draft: false --- +## Why Do We Carry on With PMO + We all start PMOing for many reasons, usually social pressures or our biological curiosity, but once we feel we are becoming hooked, why do we carry on using porn? No regular PMOer knows why he or she looks at porn. If PMOers knew the true reason, they would stop doing it. The true answer is the same for all PMOers but the variety of replies is infinite, I find this part of the consultation the most amusing and at the same time the most pathetic. All PMOers know in their heart of hearts that they are fools. They know that they had no need to use porn or internet porn before they became hooked. Most of them can remember that their first ‘peek’ was a mix of revulsion and novel curiosity. They then filter out and get “skilled” at “locating” and “bookmarking” the right porn sites. They know that they had to work hard in order to become hooked. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-06-Internet-Porn.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-06-Internet-Porn.md index 3335cde3..ebfad021 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-06-Internet-Porn.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-06-Internet-Porn.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-20T20:44:00+02:00 draft: false --- +## Internet Porn + Erotic novelty of the internet porn is a mental ‘drug’ and internet porn beats anything that is known to mankind and its streaming straight to your home for free ! We are not even talking VR virtual reality here. Porn triggers the ‘flooding’ of dopamine in our brain. Dopamine amps up the brain reward circuitry to produce experiences and feels of cravings and pleasure by locking themselves into ‘receptors’. More dopamine more wanting. Less dopamine no wanting. New experiences, tasty food - more dopamine - more wanting. Sex and sex related stuff gives the biggest injection of dopamine in the reward circuits. Dopamine is not the final pleasure stuff, if it were you would feel happy when you are done with it, but it is only a brain chemical that encourages seeking and action in you. The real pleasure is produced by opioids. More dopamine more opioids more action more happy feelings. @@ -11,9 +13,9 @@ So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating. Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish, ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you won’t on your first time. -{{% center %}} -### **My Own Online Harem!** -{{% /center %}} + +## My Own Online Harem! + This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost. @@ -30,9 +32,9 @@ use? This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I will explain more about this later. -{{% center %}} -### **The Little Monster** -{{% /center %}} + +## The Little Monster + The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict' we think we just 'got into the habit'. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that's exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN. @@ -40,9 +42,9 @@ Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster. The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had before he became hooked in the first place. -{{% center %}} -### **The Annoying Burglar Alarm** -{{% /center %}} + +## The Annoying Burglar Alarm + You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain goes on. It is a chain for life - **UNLESS YOU BREAK IT**. @@ -58,9 +60,9 @@ The heroin doesn't relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don't non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their 'little monster'? -{{% center %}} -### **A Pleasure or Crutch?** -{{% /center %}} + +## A Pleasure or Crutch? + Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: 'I need to eat.' And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime. @@ -73,18 +75,18 @@ Although eating and PMOing appear to be very similar. In fact they are exact opp 2. Food does genuinely taste good, and eating is a genuinely pleasant experience that we can enjoy throughout our lives, whereas PMOing involves self-sabotaging the happiness receptors and thus destroying your chances to cope and to feel happy. 3. Eating doesn't create hunger and genuinely relieves it, whereas the first PMO starts the craving for dopamine and each subsequent one, far from relieving it, ensures that you suffer it for the rest of life. -{{% center %}} -### **PMO is a Habit?** -{{% /center %}} + +## PMO is a Habit? + This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit. On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience, I also refer to the 'habit'. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’[^1] - we have to then have more bizarre and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting... not in the killing. If we don't then panic sets in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great! [^1]: **Escalation** - a practice that is the result of our brain’s novelty and curiosity seeking to get more dopamine in our reward circuitry. -{{% center %}} -### **Crossing The Red Line** -{{% /center %}} + +## Crossing The Red Line + This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise. @@ -102,9 +104,9 @@ What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If y In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes, print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’ and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive without knowing the difference between food and poison. -{{% center %}} -### **Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics** -{{% /center %}} + +## Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics + Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem! @@ -112,9 +114,9 @@ When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were tit How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even after a hard day? Why not? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That's all. -{{% center %}} -### **Are PMOers Mentally Weak?** -{{% /center %}} + +## Are PMOers Mentally Weak? + It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc. @@ -122,9 +124,8 @@ To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of ‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying is the ritual of relieving those pangs. -{{% center %}} -### **The High From The Dance Around The Red Line** -{{% /center %}} +## The High From The Dance Around The Red Line + Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well. @@ -136,9 +137,9 @@ Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wan You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc. The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn't bother the PMOers. -{{% center %}} -### **The Smokers Analogy** -{{% /center %}} + +## The Smokers Analogy + A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they'd be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn't bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking. @@ -146,9 +147,9 @@ PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the 'habit' but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood. -{{% center %}} -### **The Big Monster - The Brainwashing** -{{% /center %}} + +## The Big Monster - The Brainwashing + You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-07-Brainwashing-and-the-Primitive-Mechanism.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-07-Brainwashing-and-the-Primitive-Mechanism.md index 0e150ef9..a7c5120f 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-07-Brainwashing-and-the-Primitive-Mechanism.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-07-Brainwashing-and-the-Primitive-Mechanism.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-23T08:39:02+02:00 draft: false --- +## Brainwashing and the Primitive Mechanism + How or why do we start PMOing in the first place? To understand this fully you need to examine the powerful effect of the supernormal stimulus. We all tend to think we are intelligent, dominant human beings determining our paths through life. We act and act frequently when our brain reward circuit are rewarded. Nobel laureate Nikolaas Tinbergen coined the term “supranormal stimulus.” He said mammals could be tricked into preferring fake eggs and mates. Female birds, for example, struggled to sit on larger-than life, vividly spotted plaster eggs while their own pale, dappled eggs perished untended. The stimulation here in internet porn is not it brings stimulating actors and themes to your home - it is a genie at your bidding to create a harem in your mind. You can switch between genres and theme, home-made and viewer rated, commented and discussed, so rapid and so easy. We absolutely are not ready for the high speed internet porn and our brains are not designed to handle this supranormal stimuli. @@ -12,9 +14,9 @@ We can have an ‘information overload’ from the same internet but our reward Here is another question - next time after a long day or some stressful incident can you consciously embellish your self-talk with “Do you know what I would really enjoy today? The marvellous warm glow of dopamine rush going to my online harem.” You will find that even people who dislike PMO will join you. -{{% center %}} -### **Past Misguided Advice** -{{% /center %}} + +## Past Misguided Advice + There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm. @@ -24,9 +26,9 @@ Our children are being bombarded by sex and porn clips and many don’t even kno A while back there was a wave of ‘leaked’ private videos of celebrities on the internet. If the youngster is too smitten by their favourite star, even if the conscious mind blames the ‘leak’ on the blood thirsty internet paparazzi, the 'sleeping partner' is patiently digesting the notion that, “yes, even my shambolic hero does it and if I don’t, I won’t look the part.” -{{% center %}} -### **The Scientific Reasoning** -{{% /center %}} + +## The Scientific Reasoning + True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP[^1], Reboot[^2] forums, underground PUA[^3], the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn't make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it. @@ -46,9 +48,9 @@ If you do a small survey among your online forum members, friends and colleagues As a society we get all uptight about glue-sniffing, heroin addiction, etc. Actual deaths from glue-sniffing do not amount to ten per annum, and deaths from heroin are less than a hundred a year in this country. There is another drug, internet porn, on which over 45 per cent of us become hooked at some time in our lives and the majority spend the rest of their lives regretting it. Some even don’t know that their ED is due to this. -{{% center %}} -### **The Willpower Method** -{{% /center %}} + +## The Willpower Method + PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why? @@ -64,9 +66,9 @@ I find this brainwashing aspect the most difficult of all to explain. Why is it At the age of thirteen, although I was doing well at school and games, I was still an insufferable introvert. I read books from the library that were not within my main study list. However, I can see that I was attracted to erotica. I started masturbating to TV programs, song and dance sequences etc. I must have to have it every day. The tired feeling I felt was misappropriated by my ‘little porn monster’ as work stress. I didn’t know my “I-must-masturbate-as-I-am-entitled” attitude was the one that created the ‘stress’ in the first place. Then I got pictures and GIFs via email on my laptop - the first step towards electronic porn. The colour and texture of the images were amazing for me at that time - won’t be now for sure. Then came dial-up but still they were predominantly static pictures. Then came downloadable videos. It’s a pain to download and watch now - but it was heaven sent then as we were coming out of the static porn era! Oh, the streaming tube sites haven’t arrived yet. -{{% center %}} -### **When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore** -{{% /center %}} + +## When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore + I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn. @@ -78,9 +80,9 @@ Since it was easier at most times for me to get internet porn than a partner I t I remember at one stage switching to static images, a failed attempt to cut down on internet porn, in the belief that it was less harmful and I could reign in my ‘habit’. I failed to see the ‘novelty’ and the ‘shock’ demands from my ‘little monster’ to just get more dopamine. Did I ‘stay’ within my boundaries? I ‘favorited’ 2 dimensional photos and my harem collection saw pictures and videos of ‘mild’ type porn rotating in and out like musical chair. When their ‘music’ stopped they ‘exited’. I didn’t understand the novelty-seeking, shock-seeking nature of my brain. -{{% center %}} -### **PIED And My Excuses** -{{% /center %}} + +## PIED And My Excuses + Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me. @@ -88,9 +90,9 @@ Most PMOers swear that they only watch static and soft porn and so they are OK. The answer is that once you have become addicted to internet porn, the brainwashing is increased. Your subconscious mind knows that the little monster has to be fed and you block everything else from your mind. As I have already stated, it is fear that keeps people quitting, the fear of that empty, insecure feeling that you get when you stop supplying the brain with dopamine flooding. Just because you are not aware of it doesn't mean it isn't there. You don't have to understand it any more than a cat needs to understand where the under-floor hot-water pipes are. It just knows that if it sits in a certain place it gets the feeling of warmth. -{{% center %}} -### **The Passivity Of Our Mind** -{{% /center %}} + +## The Passivity Of Our Mind + It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I've frequently referred to 'giving up' PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to 'giving up', but to stopping, quitting or the true position: **ESCAPING!** diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-08-Relieving-Withdrawal-Pangs.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-08-Relieving-Withdrawal-Pangs.md index d5795ee8..08050560 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-08-Relieving-Withdrawal-Pangs.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-08-Relieving-Withdrawal-Pangs.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-23T11:36:16+02:00 draft: false --- +## Relieving Withdrawal Pangs + As I explained earlier, PMOers think they do it for enjoyment, relaxation or some sort of education. In fact, this an illusion. The actual reason is the relief of withdrawal pangs. In the early days we use the porn as a curious and novel thing or even educational or as a rebel. We can take it or leave it. However, the subtle chain has started. Our subconscious mind begins to learn that internet porn and masturbation taken at certain times tends to be pleasurable. The more we become hooked on the drug, the greater the need to relieve the withdrawal pangs and the further the PMO drags you down and the more you are fooled into believing it is doing the opposite. It all happens so slowly, so gradually, you are not even aware of it. Each day you feel no different from the day before. Most young PMOers don't even realize they are hooked until they actually try to stop and even then many won't admit to it. A few stalwarts just keep their heads in the sand all their lives,trying to convince themselves and other people that they enjoy it. Listen to this conversation a therapist had with hundreds of teenagers. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-09-Stress.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-09-Stress.md index afcd8ebb..13396469 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-09-Stress.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-09-Stress.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-23T11:38:59+02:00 draft: false --- +## Stress + I am referring not only to the great tragedies of life but also to the minor stresses, the socializing, the telephone call, the anxieties of the housewife with noisy young children and so on. Let us use the telephone conversation as an example. For most people the telephone is slightly stressful, particularly for the businessman. Most calls aren't from satisfied customers or your boss congratulating you. There's usually some sort of aggravation - something going wrong or somebody making demands. Then he or she comes home to the mundane family life of kids screaming and wife's emotional demands on you. His already PMO weakened de-stressors are in no way ready to take the aggravation. At that time the PMOer, if he isn't already doing so, will fantasize the relief of internet porn that he promised himself that night. He will even allow himself to “take one step more” into the ‘forbidden’ area that he had previously self-excluded. He doesn't know why he does this but he does know that for some reason it appears to help. What has actually happened is this: without being conscious of it, he has already been suffering aggravation (i.e. the withdrawal pangs). By partially relieving that aggravation at the same time as normal stress, the total stress is reduced and the PMOer gets a boost. At this point the boost is not, in fact, an illusion. The Internet porn user will feel better than before. However, even when using porn to masturbate he or she is more tense than if he were a non-PMOer because the more you go into the drug, the more it knocks you down and the less it restores you when you masturbate. I promised no shock treatment. In the example I am about to give, I am not trying to shock you, I am merely emphasizing that PMO destroy your nerves rather than relax them. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-10-Boredom.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-10-Boredom.md index 69c926d9..cdc793fd 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-10-Boredom.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-10-Boredom.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-23T11:40:46+02:00 draft: false --- +## Boredom + As soon as you get into your bed - and if you are like many people you are already on your favorite tube site - you will probably have already forgotten about it until I reminded you. It has become second nature. Another fallacy about PMOing is that it relieves boredom. Boredom is a frame of mind. The only time that happens is when you have been deprived for a long time or are trying to cut down, or during those first few PMO sessions after a failed attempt to stop. The true situation is this: when you are addicted to internet porn’s supranormal novelty and then you decide to abstain from internet porn, there is something missing. If you have something to occupy your mind that isn't stressful, you can go for long periods without being bothered by the absence of the drug. However, when you are bored there's nothing to take your mind off it, so you feed the monster. When you are indulging yourself (i.e. not trying to stop or cut down), even firing up your incognito browser becomes subconscious. The PMOer can perform this ritual automatically. If any PMOer tries to remember the session during the last week, he can only remember a small proportion of them - e.g. the very last one or after a long abstinence. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-11-Concentration.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-11-Concentration.md index bd534ac5..3a5f6be2 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-11-Concentration.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-11-Concentration.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-23T11:42:13+02:00 draft: false --- +## Concentration + Sex and masturbation do not help concentration. That is just another illusion. When you are trying to concentrate, you automatically try to avoid distractions. So when a PMOer wants to concentrate he doesn't even have to think about it. He automatically PMOs, partially ending the craving, gets on with the matter in hand and has already forgotten that he just PMOed. Sex in general do not help concentration. After years of masturbation your brain changes affect abilities such as assessing, planning and impulse control. The PMOer is already suffering: that little monster wants his fix. You are also stressed to provide novelty for the next PMO session as the same stuff will not generate enough dopamine and opioids. You have to “roam the internet streets” for novelty - all the while fighting the pull to cross the line towards shock. This creates more stress. After you orgasm, you feel unfulfilled as well. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-12-Relaxation.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-12-Relaxation.md index 99a23c50..b4890250 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-12-Relaxation.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-12-Relaxation.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-23T11:44:10+02:00 draft: false --- +## Relaxation + Most PMOers think that PMO helps to relax them. The truth is that internet porn used in PMO acts like a chemical stimulant. The frantic search to get the fix in those “dark alleys of the internet” and the internal struggle to reign in the dog straining at its leash for more shocking clips does not sound much like an activity of relaxation to me. One of the favourite PMO sessions for most is the one after a trip to a new place or after along day. As the night rolls in we stop working; we sit down and relax, relieve our hunger and thirst and are then completely satisfied. However, the poor PMOer cannot relax, as he has another hunger to satisfy. He thinks of the PMO as the icing on the cake but it is the 'little monster' that needs feeding. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-13-Social-night-PMOing.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-13-Social-night-PMOing.md index 6f9b3a95..15976e63 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-13-Social-night-PMOing.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-13-Social-night-PMOing.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-23T11:47:03+02:00 draft: false --- +## Social Night PMOing + This is a misinformation that seems to make sense but then it does not. In order to have control of eating, will you eat at home before leaving to go to a restaurant or a party? This is what you are doing when you PMO before your social night. You will look tired and will not be up to your best. If you have dating jitters then work on it beforehand and then go with the flow even with some butterflies in your stomach. I like a bit of the anxiety in me to keep me going. Tiring yourself mentally and physically with an orgasm is not going to help you, unless of course you are going to see a prostitute. The goal is entirely different in that angle. The widespread adoption of pick-up techniques has put pressure on guys to perform, to attract and to ‘score’. You can get knowledge but you should know how to use it. I can guarantee that 100% of the other guys hanging at that bar know exactly what you know. It comes down to the ‘how’ of how you use it when you get the chance. Even before that, there is one very critical thing about any knowledge pertaining to human interactions, that ‘knowledge’ should never force your actions. This is important. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-14-What-am-I-Giving-Up.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-14-What-am-I-Giving-Up.md index bf2031e4..3d9de13c 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-14-What-am-I-Giving-Up.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-14-What-am-I-Giving-Up.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-23T11:49:35+02:00 draft: false --- +## What Am I Giving Up? + ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! The thing that makes it difficult for us to give up is fear. The fear that we are being deprived of our pleasure or prop. The fear that certain pleasant situations will never be quite the same again. The fear of being unable to cope with stressful situations. In other words, the effect of brainwashing is to delude us into believing that sex and by extension orgasm, is a must for all human beings. Or that there is something inherent in Internet porn that we need and that when we stop PMOing we will be self-denying ourselves and there will be a void. >Get it clear in your mind: @@ -18,9 +20,9 @@ These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on this planet. Whether If the creator or process had intended us to handle novelty triggering stimuli, we would have been provided with some other brain reward circuits. Our bodies are, in fact, provided with fail-safe warning devices and we ignore these at our peril. Excessive edging results in body pain, irritation, and inflammation. In women, excessive flooding of dopamine and stress enzymes such as prostaglandin-E2 can cause difficulty to orgasm and PME. -{{% center %}} -## **There Is Nothing To Give Up** -{{% /center %}} + +## There Is Nothing To Give Up + The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way. @@ -29,9 +31,9 @@ The problem I have is to make a convincing point as I’d have done for, let us Because many of us started out our first sexual experience that ended in an orgasm and we acquired the belief that we cannot enjoy sex without an orgasm. And for men, porn is sold as an aid towards sex, sometimes even as an education to be confident during the act of sex. It used to be static, but now we have supranormal internet porn. But this is nonsense. Internet porn takes away your confidence. -{{% center %}} -## **Women And Porn** -{{% /center %}} + +## Women And Porn + The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn't dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn. @@ -44,9 +46,9 @@ Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous positive gains to Not only is life better as a non-PMOer but it is infinitely more enjoyable. I do not only mean you will be healthier. I mean you will be happier and enjoy life far more. The marvellous gains from being a non-PMOer are discussed in the next few chapters. Some PMOers find it difficult to appreciate the concept of the 'void' and the following analogy may assist you. -{{% center %}} -## **Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void!** -{{% /center %}} + +## Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void! + Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I've got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can't cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-15-Self-Imposed-Slavery.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-15-Self-Imposed-Slavery.md index bb4b5ebc..7160cd58 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-15-Self-Imposed-Slavery.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-15-Self-Imposed-Slavery.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-23T12:06:39+02:00 draft: false --- +## Self-Imposed Slavery + Usually when PMOers try to stop the main reasons given are health, religion and partner stigma. Part of the brainwashing of this awful drug is the sheer slavery. Man fought hard in the last century to abolish slavery and yet the PMOer spends his life suffering self-imposed slavery. He seems to be oblivious to the fact that when he is allowed to PMO he wishes that he were a non-PMOer. With most of the masturbation we do in our lives, not only do we not enjoy them but we aren't even aware that we are masturbating. It is only after a period of abstinence that we actually suffer the delusion of enjoying PMO (e.g. the first day after a 4 day abstinence with the intent of rebooting etc.). The only time that the porn becomes precious is when we are 'trying' to cut down or abstain or when abstinence is forced on us (e.g. when on a business trips, holiday trips to locations where the Internet is not available and so on). The confirmed PMOer should bear in mind that more studies and even more people are coming out and talking about the ill effects of internet porn. This trend will get “worse and worse.” Today, it is non-medical people talking. Tomorrow, it will be in your doctor’s list of diagnostic tests to perform. Gone are the days when the PMOer can hide behind “just a bit of downtime due to work stress” in his or her sex life. Your partner is going to ask you why you are on your laptop at this time too late into the night. The poor PMOer, who was already feeling wretched, wants the ground to open up and swallow him. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-16-I-will-Save-X-Hours-A-Week.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-16-I-will-Save-X-Hours-A-Week.md index 8597cefe..b2e8c250 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-16-I-will-Save-X-Hours-A-Week.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-16-I-will-Save-X-Hours-A-Week.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-23T12:08:55+02:00 draft: false --- +## I Will Save X Hours a Week + I cannot repeat too often that it is brainwashing that makes it difficult to stop PMOing. So, the more brainwashing we can dispel before we start, the easier you will find it to achieve your goal. Occasionally I get into arguments with people whom I call “confirmed PMOers.” By my definition diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-17-Health.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-17-Health.md index 1217b80b..aa55335a 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-17-Health.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-17-Health.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-23T12:12:31+02:00 draft: false --- +## Health + This is the area where the brainwashing is the greatest. PMOers, especially the young and single, think they are aware of the health risks. They are not. Even in my case, when I was expecting my head to explode any moment and honestly believed I was prepared to accept the consequences, I was still kidding myself. I didn't in those days have an app that started a red beeper to flash and sound every time my internet router hits a porn site, followed by a warning voice saying, “OK, this is the one!” Fortunately you do get a warning, and this is it. That warning would say, “Up to now you have got away with it but if you stay another minute your head will explode,” do you think I would have PMOed? If you are in doubt about the answer just try walking up to a cliff, stand on the edge with your eyes closed and imagine you then have the choice of either quitting PMO or walking up blindfolded before your next PMO. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-18-Energy.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-18-Energy.md index 26c89f9c..a387e2a0 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-18-Energy.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-18-Energy.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-23T23:12:56+02:00 draft: false --- +## Energy + Most PMOers are aware of the effect that this progressive process of PMO, leading to novelty and escalation seeking, has on their brain’s reward circuits and their sexual system. However, they are not so aware of the effect it has on their energy level. One of the subtleties of the PMO trap is that the effects it has on us, both physical and mental, happen so gradually and imperceptibly that we are not aware of them and regard them as normal. It is very similar to the effects of bad eating habits. The pot-belly appears so gradually that it causes us no alarm. We look at people who are grossly overweight and wonder how they could possibly have allowed themselves to reach that state. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-19-It-Relaxes-Me-and-Gives-Me-Confidence.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-19-It-Relaxes-Me-and-Gives-Me-Confidence.md index 18ecddb2..595f4f86 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-19-It-Relaxes-Me-and-Gives-Me-Confidence.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-19-It-Relaxes-Me-and-Gives-Me-Confidence.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-23T23:16:17+02:00 draft: false --- +## It Relaxes Me and Gives Me Confidence + This is the worst fallacy of all about PMOing and for me it ranks with the ending of the slavery, the greatest benefit from quitting - is not to have to go through life with the permanent feelings of insecurity that PMOers suffer from. PMOers find it very difficult to believe that masturbation to internet porn actually causes those insecure feelings you get when you are out late at night after a contentious day at home or work. Non-PMOers do not suffer from that feeling. It is the porn that causes it. I only became aware of many of the advantages of stopping months afterwards, as a result of my consultations with other PMOers. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-20-Those-Sinister-Black-Shadows.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-20-Those-Sinister-Black-Shadows.md index a64a98bf..f0fc6a3a 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-20-Those-Sinister-Black-Shadows.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-20-Those-Sinister-Black-Shadows.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-23T23:18:55+02:00 draft: false --- +## Those Sinister Black Shadows + Another of the great joys of quitting porn is to be free of those sinister black shadows at the back of our minds. All PMOers know they are fools to close their minds on the ill-effects of PMO. For most of our lives PMO is automatic but the black shadows are always lurking in our subconscious minds, just beneath the surface. There are several marvellous advantages to achieve from quitting PMO. Some of them I was consciously aware of throughout my life, such as the health risks, the waste of time and the sheer stupidity of making love to a two dimensional image. However, such was my fear of quitting, so obsessed was I in resisting all the attempts of do-gooders and anyone else who tried to persuade me to quit, that all my imagination and energy was directed to finding any flimsy excuse that would allow me to continue to PMO. Amazingly, my most ingenious thoughts occurred when I was actually trying to quit. They were of course inspired by the fear and misery I suffered when attempting to quit by using willpower. No way could I block my mind from the health and sexual aspects. But now that I am free it amazes me how I successfully blocked my mind from even more important advantages to be gained from quitting. I've already mentioned the sheer slavery - spending half of our lives being allowed to PMO, doing it automatically and wishing we had never started, the other half feeling miserable and deprived because the knowledge of the destructive effects of internet porn won't allow us to PMO. In the last chapter I've referred to the incredible joy of having energy again. But for me the greatest joy of being free was not the health, the time, the energy, or the ending of the slavery, it was the removal of those sinister black shadows, the removal of feeling despised by and feeling apologetic to myself and to other quitters, and most of all to be able to respect yourself. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-21-The-Willpower-Method-of-Stopping.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-21-The-Willpower-Method-of-Stopping.md index fac3afa8..434a6087 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-21-The-Willpower-Method-of-Stopping.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-21-The-Willpower-Method-of-Stopping.md @@ -1,9 +1,11 @@ --- -title: "03-21 the Willpower Method of Stopping" +title: "03-21 The Willpower Method of Stopping" date: 2022-12-23T23:20:42+02:00 draft: false --- +## The Willpower Method of Stopping + It is an accepted fact in our society that it is very difficult to stop PMO. Even books and forums advising you how to do so usually start off by telling you how difficult it is. The truth is that it is ridiculously easy. Yes, I can understand you questioning that statement but just consider it. If your aim is to run a mile in under four minutes, that's difficult. You may have to undergo years of hard training and even then you may be physically incapable of doing it. (Much of our achievement lies in the mind. Isn't it strange how difficult it was until Roger Bannister actually did it but nowadays it is commonplace?). However, in order to stop PMOing all you have to do is not watch internet porn and or masturbate any more. No one forces you to masturbate (apart from yourself) and unlike food or drink, you don't need it to survive. So if you want to stop doing it, why should it be difficult? In fact, it isn't. It is PMOers who make it difficult by using the Willpower Method. I define the Willpower Method as any method that forces the PMOer to feel he is making some sort of sacrifice. Let us just consider the Willpower Method. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-22-Beware-of-Cutting-Down.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-22-Beware-of-Cutting-Down.md index c9c480b6..5bb41371 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-22-Beware-of-Cutting-Down.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-22-Beware-of-Cutting-Down.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-23T23:28:58+02:00 draft: false --- +## Beware of Cutting Down + Many PMOers resort to cutting down either as a stepping-stone towards stopping or as an attempt to control the little monster. Many recommend cutting down or a ‘porn diet’[^1] as a pick-me-up. Obviously, the less you PMO the better off you are but as a stepping-stone to stopping, cutting down is fatal. It is these attempts to cut down that keep us trapped all our lives. Usually cutting down follows failed attempts to stop. After a few hours or days of abstinence the PMOer says to himself something like: diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-23-Just-One-Peek.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-23-Just-One-Peek.md index c58941e1..a833521f 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-23-Just-One-Peek.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-23-Just-One-Peek.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-23T23:35:22+02:00 draft: false --- +## Just One Peek + “Just one peek” is a myth you must get out of your mind: * It is just one peek that gets us started in the first place. * It is just one peek to tide us over a difficult patch or on a special occasion that defeats most of our attempts to stop. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-24-Casual-PMOers-Teenagers-Non-PMOers.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-24-Casual-PMOers-Teenagers-Non-PMOers.md index 677f3000..8d3a8a4b 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-24-Casual-PMOers-Teenagers-Non-PMOers.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-24-Casual-PMOers-Teenagers-Non-PMOers.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-23T23:40:22+02:00 draft: false --- +## Casual PMOers, Teenagers, Non PMOers + Heavy PMOers tend to envy the casual porn user. We've all met these characters: “Oh, I can go all week without a PMO, it really doesn't bother me.” We think: “I wish I were like that!” I know this is hard to believe but no PMOer enjoys being a PMOer. Never forget: * No PMOer ever decided to become a PMOer casual or otherwise, therefore: * All PMOers feel stupid, therefore: @@ -46,7 +48,7 @@ This PMOer demands the right to his/her orgasm(s) every day. And of course his s Many PMOers actually envy these stoppers and starters. They think, “how lucky to be able to control it like that, to do PMO when you want to and stop when you want to,” What they always overlook is that these stoppers and starters aren't controlling it. When they are PMOers, they wish they weren't. They go through the hassle of stopping, then begin to feel deprived and fall for the trap again, then wish they hadn't. They get the worst of both worlds. If you think about it, this is true in the lives of the PMOers. When we are allowed to PMO we either take it as entitled or wish we didn't. It's only when we can't have PMO that it appears to be so precious. The ‘forbidden fruit syndrome’. This is the awful dilemma of PMOers. They can never win because they are moping for a myth, an illusion. There is one way they can win and that is to stop PMOing and stop moping! -### THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC/TAME/HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer +### THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC / TAME / HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer Yes, we all do it to start with but isn't it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner's pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes... you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-25-The-YouTube-PMOer.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-25-The-YouTube-PMOer.md index 9ddf0362..a028cd85 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-25-The-YouTube-PMOer.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-25-The-YouTube-PMOer.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-23T23:51:35+02:00 draft: false --- +## The YouTube PMOer + The YouTube PMOer should be grouped with casual PMOers but the effects of a YouTube PMOer are so insidious that it merits a separate chapter. It can lead to the breakdown of personal self control. In one case it nearly caused a split for a No-Fap forum user. > *“I was three weeks into one of my failed attempts to stop. The attempt had been triggered off by my wife's worry about my unreliable hard-ons and lack of interest. I had told her that it was not her and it was just job pressure. She said, 'I know you had handled the work pressure before but how would you feel if you were me and had to watch someone you love systematically destroying themselves?’ It was an argument that I found irresistible, hence the attempt to stop. She knows that I am not cheating - but this in a way is as worse as that (sic). The attempt ended after three weeks after a heated argument with an old friend. It did not register until years afterwards that my devious mind had deliberately triggered off the argument. I felt justly aggrieved at the time but I do not believe that it was coincidence, as I had never argued with this particular friend before, nor have I since. It was clearly the little monster at work. Anyway, I had my excuse. I desperately needed a release of orgasm and it doesn’t matter how. As it happens she was not in the mood right away and I was in an “entitlement” hurry. So I convinced myself that it is OK if I ‘restrict’ myself by avoiding a porn site and just stay this side of the ‘red line’ and watch only YouTube videos. But she ‘came around’ as the night unfolded and wanted to make love. But I was tired and not with all my ‘horsepower.’ I then invented a headache. I could not bear to think of the disappointment this would cause my wife. Then gradually I returned to the old ways, only YouTube became my new harem destination. I remember being quite pleased at the time. I thought, 'well, at least it is cutting my consumption down;’ Eventually she accused me of continuing to ignore her in the bed. I had not realized it but she described the times I had caused an argument and stormed out of the house. At other times I had taken two hours to purchase some minor item and faked a sprain or something. I had made feeble excuses to cop out of the whole wooing her and etc. when I have a reliable online harem it is even more hard.”* diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-26-A-Social-Habit.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-26-A-Social-Habit.md index e29eecaa..265bcaa2 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-26-A-Social-Habit.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-26-A-Social-Habit.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-23T23:54:03+02:00 draft: false --- +## A Social Habit? + Health of mind and body are the main reason why we should want to stop but then they always have been. We do not actually need scientific research and knowledge in brain chemistry to tell us that internet porn is addictive and can potentially shatter our lives. These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on the planet and any PMOer knows instantly, from the first session, that the stimulus can go to excess and it can turn poisonous. The only reason why we ever get involved with internet porn is the PMO’s overlap with their evolutionary brain programming. Porn is available for free and it gets streamed 24 hours a day. No risk and no traces and with very high brain rewards. Porn was once considered as harmless but that was when the images were static and involved a trip to the local store for a VHS tape. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-27-Timing.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-27-Timing.md index 7e31ac2c..1fc4ce93 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-27-Timing.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-27-Timing.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-23T23:55:57+02:00 draft: false --- +## Timing + Apart from the obvious point that as it is doing you no good, now is the right time to stop. I believe timing is important. Our society treats internet porn flippantly as a slightly distasteful habit that can not injure your health. It is not. It is drug addiction, a disease and a destroyer of relationships in society. The worst thing that happens in most PMOer’s lives is getting hooked on that awful addiction. If they stay hooked, horrendous things happen. Timing is important to give yourself the right to a proper cure. First of all, identify the times or occasions when PMO appears to be important to you. If you are a businessman and use it for the illusion of relief of stress, pick a relatively slack period; a good idea is to choose your annual holiday. If you PMO mainly during boring or relaxing periods, weekends etc. do the opposite. In any event, take the matter seriously and make the attempt the most important thing in your life. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-28-Will-I-Miss-The-Fun.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-28-Will-I-Miss-The-Fun.md index b3dbbd1d..e9b01824 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-28-Will-I-Miss-The-Fun.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-28-Will-I-Miss-The-Fun.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-24T00:01:03+02:00 draft: false --- +## Will I Miss the Fun? + No! Once that little porn monster is dead and your body stops craving dopamine and the porn water slides in your brain start to fade due to lack of ‘greasing’, any remaining brainwashing will vanish and you will find yourself both physically and mentally better equipped not only to cope with the stresses and strains of life but to enjoy the good times to the full. There is only one danger and that is the influence of those who still use sex as their lying crutch and damned pleasure. “The other man's grass is always greener,” is commonplace in many aspects of our lives and is easily understandable. Why is it in the case of PMOing, where the disadvantages are so enormous as compared with even the illusory ‘advantages,’ that the ex-PMOer tend to envy the man or woman who appears to demand sex and use porn for pleasure and a crutch? diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-29-Can-I-Compartmentalize.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-29-Can-I-Compartmentalize.md index 341506cf..1668e032 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-29-Can-I-Compartmentalize.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-29-Can-I-Compartmentalize.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-24T00:03:34+02:00 draft: false --- +## Can I Compartmentalize? + This is another myth about PMOing spread mainly by PMOers who, when attempting to stop on the Willpower Method, substitute mental gymnastics - they propose to act -Jekyll and Hyde: “Porn is for my alter ego side and real life romance is for my relationship side.” Nothing is further from the truth. The porn waterslides - the deltaFosBs and all the brain changes are going to overrun the real life romance and will make it less desirable. Mr Hyde is most definitely going to overrule Dr. Jekyll’s instructions. If you use internet porn, you may be training yourself for the role of voyeur or to need the option of clicking to something more arousing at the least drop in your dopamine levels, or to search and search for just the right scene for maximum effect. Also, you may be masturbating in a hunched-over position – or watching your smartphone in bed nightly. You will eventually desire those cues more than the real life action. The thing that goes against real sex is the lack of novelty, variety, ‘harem’ like 24/7 quick delivery etc. and so it stands no chance compared to your online harem. The younger you were when you started on PMO the longer to rewire and break down those ‘porn water slides’ and get back those ‘real water slides’ if there were any from the past or create new ones. Also powerful and lasting are the associated memories from when you were young. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-30-Avoid-False-Incentives.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-30-Avoid-False-Incentives.md index 23848589..1962abcb 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-30-Avoid-False-Incentives.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-30-Avoid-False-Incentives.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-24T00:05:14+02:00 draft: false --- +## Avoid False Incentives + Many PMOers, while trying to stop on the Willpower Method, attempt to increase their motivation by building up false incentives. There are many examples of this, a typical one is, “I will reward myself with a gift after no-PMO for a month.” This appears to be a logical and sensible approach but in fact it is false because any self-respecting PMOer would rather continue PMOing every day than receive a “self given gift.” In any case there is a doubt in the PMOer’s mind because not only will she have to abstain for thirty days but will she even enjoy the days without a PMO? Her only pleasure or crutch is taken away! All this does is to increase the size of the sacrifice that the PMOer feels she is making, which makes it even more precious in her mind. Other examples: “I'll stop PMO so that I will force myself to get a social life and seek more sex in real life” OR “I’ll stop so some magical energy will help me to leap above the competitors and get this woman I pursue” OR “I commit to not waste my energy and enthusiasm in PMO, so I can grow enough hunger in myself.” These are true and can be effective and you may end up getting what you want. But think about it for a second - if you do get what you had wanted, once the novelty has gone you will feel deprived - if you didn’t then you will feel miserable and either way sooner or later you will fall for the trap again. @@ -17,7 +19,7 @@ Another typical example is online or forum pacts. These have the advantage of el Stop kidding yourself. If the job offer that I mentioned before, of 10 months work for 12 months salary a year won't stop him. Or if the risks of cutting down your brain’s capacity to cope with just any normal day-to-day stress and strains or if putting yourself at odds with having a reliable erection, or if the lifetime of mental and physical torture and slavery did not stop him or her - the above said few phoney incentives will not make the slightest bit of difference. They will only make the sacrifice appear worse. Instead concentrate on the other side: {{% center %}} -#### **“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?”** +## “What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?” {{% /center %}} Keep looking at the other side of the tug of war. What is PMOing doing for me? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Why do I need to do it? YOU DON'T! YOU ARE ONLY PUNISHING YOURSELF. Try looking at it from the Pascal’s Wager perspective. You have almost nothing to lose (a rub-out with half arousals) for sure, chances of big profits (a full and reliable arousal, mental well being and happiness) and no chance of losing big (unreliable full arousals, premature ejaculations, fading penetrations, loss of general impulse controls, lower tolerance for frustrations and anger). diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-31-The-Easy-Way-To-Stop.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-31-The-Easy-Way-To-Stop.md index 28501a67..25c97a94 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-31-The-Easy-Way-To-Stop.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-31-The-Easy-Way-To-Stop.md @@ -1,9 +1,11 @@ --- -title: "03-31 the Easy Way to Stop" +title: "03-31 The Easy Way to Stop" date: 2022-12-24T00:07:43+02:00 draft: false --- +## The Easy Way to Stop + This chapter contains instructions about the easy way to stop PMO. Providing you follow the instructions, you will find that stopping ranges from relatively easy to enjoyable! But remember the definition of a brunette: “a girl who didn't read the instructions on the bottle.” It is ridiculously easy to stop PMO. All you have to do is two things: 1. Make the decision that you are never going to PMO again. 2. Don't mope about it. Rejoice. @@ -25,7 +27,7 @@ Basically I said to myself, “Scores of people are stopping now and leading per I then said to myself: {{% center %}} -**“WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT. YOU HAVE COMPLETED YOUR LAST PMO VISIT”** +### “WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT. YOU HAVE COMPLETED YOUR LAST PMO VISIT” {{% /center %}} I knew, right from that point, that I would never PMO again. I wasn't expecting it to be easy; in fact, just the reverse. I fully believed that I was in for months of black depression and that I would spend the rest of my life having the occasional pang. Instead it has been absolute bliss right from the start. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-32-The-Withdrawal-Period.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-32-The-Withdrawal-Period.md index d45d65c0..6d6f1441 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-32-The-Withdrawal-Period.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-32-The-Withdrawal-Period.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-24T00:16:57+02:00 draft: false --- +## The Withdrawal Period + For up to three weeks after your last PMO session you may be subjected to withdrawal pangs. These consist of two quite separate factors: 1. The withdrawal pangs of dopamine, that empty, insecure feeling, like a hunger, which PMOers identify as a craving or “something I must to do” feeling. 2. The psychological trigger of certain external stimuli such as a commercial, online browsing, a telephone conversation etc. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-33-Just-One-Peek.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-33-Just-One-Peek.md index 5f3c58cd..61d2560d 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-33-Just-One-Peek.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-33-Just-One-Peek.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-24T00:20:57+02:00 draft: false --- +## Just One Peek + This is the undoing of many PMOers who try to stop on the Willpower Method. They will go through three or four days and then have the odd peek or a PMO or two to tide them over. They do not realize the devastating effect this has on their morale. For most PMOers that first peek at the tube site harem was not as good as sex with a real person. The clips that are clean are far in between. This gives their conscious minds a boost. They think, “Good. That wasn't entirely all that enjoyable. I am losing the urge to PMO and I am not that much into the shocking stuff.” In fact, the reverse is the case. Get it clear in your mind - enjoyment of orgasm wasn't the reason why you hit porn. If PMOers were there for orgasm alone, they'd never watch more than one clip. The only reason why you PMO was to feed that little monster. Just think: you had starved him for four days. How precious that one peek must have been to him. You are not aware of it in your conscious mind but the fix your body received will be communicated to your subconscious mind and all your sound preparation will be undermined. There will be a little voice at the back of your mind saying, “In spite of all the logic they are precious. I want another one.” diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-34-Will-It-Be-Harder-For-Me.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-34-Will-It-Be-Harder-For-Me.md index 7a98f199..2382c1f1 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-34-Will-It-Be-Harder-For-Me.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-34-Will-It-Be-Harder-For-Me.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-24T00:22:12+02:00 draft: false --- +## Will It Be Harder for Me? + The combinations of factors that will determine how easily each individual PMOer will quit are infinite. To start with, each of us has his own character, type of work, personal circumstances, timing, etc. Certain professions may make it harder than others but providing the brainwashing is removed it doesn't have to be so. A few individual examples will help. It tends to be particularly difficult for members of the medical profession. We think it should be easier for doctors because they are more aware of the effects of ill- health and are seeing daily evidence of it. Although this supplies more forceful reasons for stopping, it doesn't make it any easier to do. The reasons are these: diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-35-The-Main-Reasons-For-Failure.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-35-The-Main-Reasons-For-Failure.md index ff067866..9a0095d7 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-35-The-Main-Reasons-For-Failure.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-35-The-Main-Reasons-For-Failure.md @@ -1,9 +1,11 @@ --- -title: "03-35 the Main Reasons for Failure" +title: "03-35 The Main Reasons for Failure" date: 2022-12-24T00:23:39+02:00 draft: false --- +The Main Reasons for Failure + There are two main reasons for failure. The first is the influence of external stimuli - a commercial, online news articles, internet browsing etc. At a weak moment or even during a social occasion somebody will get intimate with their partner. I have already dealt with this topic at length. Use that moment to remind yourself that there is no such thing as one visit or one peek. Rejoice in the fact that you have broken the chain of mental slavery. Remember that the PMOer envies you, and feel sorry for him. Believe me, he needs your pity. The other main reason for failure is having a bad day. Get it clear in your mind before you start that, whether you are a PMOer or a non-PMOer, there are good days and bad days. It rains for both the pope and the murderer. Life is a matter of relativity and you cannot have ups without having downs. The problem with the Willpower Method of stopping is that as soon as the PMOer has a bad day he starts moping for his ‘harem’ visit and all that does is make a bad day worse. The non-PMOer is better equipped, not only physically but also mentally, to cope with the stresses and strains of life. If you have a bad day during the withdrawal period just take it on the chin. Remind yourself that you had bad days when you were addicted (otherwise you wouldn't have decided to stop). Instead of moping about it, say to yourself something like, “OK, today's not so good but masturbating is not going to cure it. Tomorrow will be better and at least I have got a marvellous bonus at the moment. I have kicked that awful PMO habit.” diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-36-Substitutes.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-36-Substitutes.md index fc29d962..8039a58a 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-36-Substitutes.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-36-Substitutes.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-24T08:46:33+02:00 draft: false --- +## Substitutes + Substitutes include restricting to porn magazines, static internet images, going on a porn-diet[^1] etc. **DO NOT USE ANY OF THEM**. They make it harder, not easier. If you do get a pang and use a substitute it will prolong the pang and make it harder. What you are really saying is, “I need to PMO to fill the void.” It will be like giving in to a hijacker or the tantrums of a child. It will just keep the pangs coming and prolong the torture. In any event the substitutes will not relieve the pangs. Your craving is for amino acids in the brain. All it will do is keep you thinking about PMOing. Remember these points: 1. There is no substitute for PMO. 2. You do not need porn or PMO. It is not food; it is poison. When the pangs come remind yourself that it is PMOers who suffer withdrawal pangs, not non-PMOers. See them as another evil of the drug. See them as the death of a monster. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-37-Should-I-Avoid-Temptation-Situations.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-37-Should-I-Avoid-Temptation-Situations.md index 498b4ed5..b97344ee 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-37-Should-I-Avoid-Temptation-Situations.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-37-Should-I-Avoid-Temptation-Situations.md @@ -4,12 +4,14 @@ date: 2022-12-24T09:10:40+02:00 draft: false --- +## Should I Avoid Temptation Situations? + I have been direct in my advice so far and would ask you to treat this advice as instruction rather than suggestion. I am explicit and direct, first because there are sound, practical reasons for my advice and second, because those reasons have been backed up by thousands of case studies. On the question of whether or not to try to avoid temptation during the withdrawal period, I regret that I cannot be direct. Each PMOer will need to decide for himself. I can, however, make what I hope will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all our lives and this fear consists of two distinct phases: -{{% center %}} -#### Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO? -{{% /center %}} + +### Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO? + This fear is that panicky feeling the PMOer gets when they are alone in a single phase or have an asexual, uninterested or unavailable partner. The fear isn't caused by withdrawal pangs but is the psychological fear of dependency - you cannot survive without sex and orgasm. It actually reaches its height when you are on the verge of quitting (I won’t use giving up); at that time your withdrawal pangs are at their lowest. It is the fear of the unknown, the sort of fear that people have when they are learning to dive. @@ -17,9 +19,9 @@ The diving board is 1 foot high but seems to be 6 feet high. The water is 6 feet The trigger starts again quickly when the fuse blows and you fire up the browser. Don't worry. That panic is just psychological. It is the fear that you are dependent. The beautiful truth is that you are not, even when you are still addicted. Do not panic. Just trust me and launch yourself. -{{% center %}} -#### Phase 2: Longer Term Fear -{{% /center %}} + +### Phase 2: Longer Term Fear + The second phase of fear is longer-term. It involves the fear that certain situations in the future will not be enjoyable or that you will not be able to cope with a trauma without PMO. Don't worry. If you can launch yourself you will find the opposite to be the case. The avoidance of temptation itself falls into two main categories: 1. “I will subscribe to a porn-diet of once in 4 days. I will feel more confident knowing that I can go online if it gets hard. It is OK if I fail I can just add up additional days to my next cycle.” diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-38-The-Moment-Of-Revelation.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-38-The-Moment-Of-Revelation.md index 48685fb6..c515b83a 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-38-The-Moment-Of-Revelation.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-38-The-Moment-Of-Revelation.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-24T09:13:13+02:00 draft: false --- +## The Moment of Revelation + The moment of revelation usually takes place about three weeks after stopping. The sky appears to become brighter and it is the moment when the brainwashing ends completely. When instead of telling yourself you do not need to PMO, you suddenly realize that the last thread is broken and you can enjoy the rest of your life without ever needing PMO again. It is also usually from this point that you start looking at other PMOers as objects of pity. PMOers using the Willpower Method do not normally experience this moment because although they are glad to be ex-PMOers they continue through life believing they are making a sacrifice. The more you were addicted, the more marvellous this moment is and it lasts a lifetime. I consider I have been very fortunate in this life and had some wonderful moments but the most wonderful of all was that moment of revelation. With all the other highlights of my life, although I can remember they were happy times, I can never recapture the actual feeling. I can never get over the joy of not having to PMO any more. If ever I am feeling low and need a boost nowadays, I just think how lovely it is not to be hooked on that awful addiction. Half the people who contact me after they have stopped visiting the online harems say exactly the same thing: that it was the most marvellous event of their lives. Ah! What pleasure you have to come! With additional feedback, both from forums and personal interactions, I have learned that in most cases the moment of revelation occurs not after three weeks, as stated above, but within a few days. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-39-The-Final-Visit.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-39-The-Final-Visit.md index 56f63502..3dd5035b 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-39-The-Final-Visit.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-39-The-Final-Visit.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-24T09:15:27+02:00 draft: false --- +## The Final Visit + Having decided on your timing, you are now ready to visit your harem one last time. Before you do so, check on the two essentials: 1. Do you feel certain of success? 2. Have you a feeling of doom and gloom or a sense of excitement that you are about to achieve something marvelous? diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-40-A-Final-Warning.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-40-A-Final-Warning.md index 7c0d0b18..1b9dc100 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-40-A-Final-Warning.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-40-A-Final-Warning.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-24T09:20:54+02:00 draft: false --- +## A Final Warning + No PMOer, given the chance of going back to the time before he became hooked with the knowledge he has now, would opt to start. Many of the them who consult me are convinced that if I could only help them stop, they would never dream of PMOing again, and yet thousands of PMOers successfully kick the habit for many years and lead perfectly happy lives, only to get trapped once again. I trust that this book will help you to find it relatively easy to stop. But be warned: PMOers who find it easy to stop find it easy to start again, DO NOT FALL FOR THIS TRAP. No matter how long you have stopped or how confident you are that you will never become hooked again, make it a rule of life not to PMO for any reason. Resist the allusions and innuendoes in the media, and remember they are pushing their image of ‘openness’ by bringing porn into mainstream without realizing how porn, internet porn etc. are killers of relationships and of the personal sense of well being for a huge number of men and some women. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-41-Feedback.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-41-Feedback.md index 9ec13ab8..65e6e919 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-41-Feedback.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-41-Feedback.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-24T09:21:34+02:00 draft: false --- +## Feedback + This method will be pooh-poohed by the so-called experts - as I have kept it thin, deliberately, on the ‘science’ side of porn addiction. This ‘hackbook’ is based on a very successful technique used by Alan Carr for quitting smoking, alcohol and gambling. I have personally broken away from the prisons of cigarette, alcohol and internet porn with this technique. I’d like to add here that I’ve tried some of the best programmes - such as CBT, DEADS and AVERT before arriving at the EasyWay. I could not close the deal. I was then led to studying about self hypnosis that deals with bad habits. The key idea that sold me on this method is his emphasis on the “feelings of misery and deprivation, misery and sacrifice, misery and guilt.” If you use the Will Power method you will invariably have all or one of these awful feelings that in themselves provide the grease to slide back to the addiction. I'm not a do-gooder. My war - which, I emphasize, is not against PMOers but against the porn trap, I wage for the purely selfish reason that I enjoy it. Every time I hear of a PMOer escaping from the prison I get a feeling of great pleasure, even when it has nothing to do with me. You can imagine also the immense pleasure I obtain from the grateful letters that I have received over time. @@ -69,7 +71,7 @@ I thought, “He's absolutely right. What am I waiting for?” Unfortunately bec **(e)** “I've opted out of life.” Why? All you have to do is stop killing yourself and start energizing yourself. You don't have to stop living. Look, it's as simple as this. For the next few days you'll have a slight trauma in your life. Your body will suffer the almost imperceptible aggravation of withdrawal from your demands and claims for a dopamine surge. Now, bear this in mind: you are no worse off than you were. This is what you have been suffering the whole of your life, every time you have been asleep or in a church, supermarket or library. It didn't seem to bother you when you were a PMOer and if you don't stop, you'll go on suffering this distress for the rest of your life. > PMO and orgasms don't make meals or drinks or social occasions; they sometimes deprive you of them. Even while your body is still craving dopamine surge claims, meals and social occasions are marvellous. Life is marvellous. Go to social functions, even if there are naked dancers there. Remember that you are not being deprived; they are. -[^1]: **MoR** moment of revelation. R2T resistance to temptation. MaD misery and deprived. MaS misery and sacrifice. MaG misery and guilty. DSC dopamine surge claims. +[^1]: **MoR** - moment of revelation. R2T resistance to temptation. MaD misery and deprived. MaS misery and sacrifice. MaG misery and guilty. DSC dopamine surge claims. > Every one of them would love to be in your position, only if they knew. Enjoy being the prima donna and the centre of attention. Stopping PMO is a wonderful conversation point but you can take a secret pleasure that you just can’t. I am sure they will be surprised to see that you, a shying and tired looking fellow is now happy and cheerful. If you are practising no orgasms and karezza with one of the women she will think that you are incredible. Every woman wants the amative side so be sure to indulge yourself in that. The important point is that you'll be enjoying life right from the start. There's no need to envy PUAs at the parties. They'll be envying you - ah, only if they knew. @@ -77,9 +79,9 @@ I thought, “He's absolutely right. What am I waiting for?” Unfortunately bec > Find out which one it is. Some people understand and believe everything I say but still start off with a feeling of doom and gloom, as if something terrible were happening. You are doing not only what you'd like to do but what every PMOer on the planet would like to do. With any method of stopping, what the ex PMOer is trying to achieve is a certain frame of mind, so that whenever he thinks about PMO he says to himself, “YIPPEE! I'M FREE!” If that's your object, why wait? Start off in that frame of mind and never lose it. The rest of the book is designed to make you understand why there is no alternative. -{{% center %}} -#### **THE CHECK LIST** -{{% /center %}} + +## THE CHECK LIST + If you follow these simple instructions, you cannot fail: 1. Make a solemn vow that you will never, ever, go online to visit your harem OR settle down for static pictures OR make peace with erotic graphics OR anything that contains supra normal stimuli, and stick to your vow. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-42-Help-The-PMOer-Left-On-The-Sinking-Ship.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-42-Help-The-PMOer-Left-On-The-Sinking-Ship.md index 0a465039..bded5aff 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-42-Help-The-PMOer-Left-On-The-Sinking-Ship.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-42-Help-The-PMOer-Left-On-The-Sinking-Ship.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-24T11:28:29+02:00 draft: false --- +## Help the PMOer Left on the Sinking Ship + PMOers are panicking nowadays. They sense that there is a change in the way internet porn is perceived by men and women. Internet porn’s addictive nature is being studied by more and more people. It is now rightly regarded not as the same as old traditional porn. It’s easy reach and effortless availability raises alarm even in the hearts of porn supporters. They also sense that their crusade for free speech and free thought is being hijacked by vicious elements. The wild wild west nature of the unpoliced internet makes it hard for enforcing age restrictive access to supranormal stimuli. Yet I don’t think this whole thing will be coming to an end anytime soon. Thousands of PMOers are now stopping and all porn users are conscious of the new brain studies that point their studied fingers to the similarities of drug and substance addiction. Every time a PMOer leaves the sinking ship, the ones left on it feel more miserable. Every PMOer instinctively knows that it is ridiculous to self sabotage and spend time in front of two dimensional pixels, treat the poor brain to super surges, develop porn brain water slides that will guarantee him unreliable erections and fading penetrations. If you still don't think it is silly, try talking to a porn magazine standing at the centre of the city square and ask yourself what the difference is. Just one. You cannot get the pleasure of warmth and intimacy that way. If you can stop buying alcohol and cigarettes every time you go grocery shopping you can definitely stop visiting your online harems. PMOers cannot find a rational reason for PMOing but if someone else is doing it, they do not feel quite so silly. PMOers blatantly lie about their habit, not only to others and university researchers but worse of all to themselves. They have to. The brainwashing is essential if they are to retain some self-respect. They feel the need to justify their “habit” not only to themselves but to non-PMOers. They are therefore forever advertising the illusory advantages of porn and PMO by more subtler means. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-43-Advice-To-Non-PMOers.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-43-Advice-To-Non-PMOers.md index 7cc1eff2..3af0d187 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-43-Advice-To-Non-PMOers.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-43-Advice-To-Non-PMOers.md @@ -4,9 +4,11 @@ date: 2022-12-24T11:31:13+02:00 draft: false --- -{{% center %}} -#### HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK -{{% /center %}} +## Advice to Non-PMOers + + +### HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK + First study the contents of this book and try to put yourself in the place of the PMOer. Do not force him to read this book or try to stop him by telling him he is ruining his health or playing with fire. He already knows this better than you do. PMOers do not continue in it because they enjoy it or because they want to. They only tell themselves and other people this in order to retain self-respect. They do it because they feel dependent on PMO because they think that it relaxes them and gives them courage and confidence (pleasure or crutch) and that life will never be enjoyable without “sex” - their version of it. If you try to force a PMOer to stop, he feels like a trapped animal and wants to be in his harem even more. This may turn him into a secret PMOer and in his mind the porn will become even more precious (see Chapter 26). @@ -14,9 +16,9 @@ Instead, concentrate on the other side of the coin. Get him into the company of He should now be ready to read this book himself. He will be expecting to read pages and pages about unreliable arousal, fading penetrations, PIED, PE, etc. Explain that the approach is completely different and that references to illness are just a small fraction of the material in the book. -{{% center %}} -#### HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD -{{% /center %}} + +### HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD + If you are dealing with a girlfriend or boyfriend - whether the ex-PMOer is suffering or not, assume that she/he is. Do not try to minimize his suffering by telling him it is easy to stop; he can do that himself. Instead keep telling him how proud you are, how much better he is looking, how much sweeter it is to be with him, how much easier he is in general. It is particularly important to keep doing this. When a PMOer makes an attempt to stop, the euphoria of the attempt and the attention he gets from friends and colleagues can help him along. However, they tend to forget quickly, so keep that praise going. @@ -26,9 +28,9 @@ Go out of your way to relieve him of pressures during the withdrawal period. Try One of the tricks an addict will play when trying to give up with the aid of the Willpower Method was to get into a tantrum, hoping that wife or friends would say, “I cannot bear to see you suffering like this. For goodness sake, have your poison.” The PMOer then does not lose face, as he isn't “giving in” - he has been instructed. If the ex-PMOer uses this ploy, on no account encourage him to lapse. Instead say, “if that is what PMO does to you, thank goodness you will soon be free. How marvellous that you had the courage and sense to give up.” -{{% center %}} -#### HELP END THIS SCANDAL -{{% /center %}} + +### HELP END THIS SCANDAL + In my opinion, internet porn is one of the dangers in a free society, piggy backing on the good willed efforts of personal freedoms. Surely the very basis of civilization, the reason why the human species has advanced so far, is that we are capable of communicating our knowledge and experiences not only to each other but to future generations. Even the lower species find it necessary to warn their offspring of the pitfalls in life. @@ -52,9 +54,9 @@ Why do we allow society to subject healthy young teenagers, youngsters whose liv There is a wind of change in society. A snowball has started that I hope this book will help turn into an avalanche. You too can help by spreading the message. -{{% center %}} -#### FINAL WARNING -{{% /center %}} + +### FINAL WARNING + You can now enjoy the rest of your life as a happy non-PMOer. In order to make sure that you do, you need to follow these simple instructions: 1. Keep this page in your bookmarks and refer to it as much as you need. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-44-Should-I-Tell-My-SO.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-44-Should-I-Tell-My-SO.md index 7a0942a2..c3a341da 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-44-Should-I-Tell-My-SO.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/03-44-Should-I-Tell-My-SO.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-24T11:36:58+02:00 draft: false --- +## Should I Tell My SO + Should I tell my wife, girlfriend and SO about my PMO? The intention here is that it would help you in quitting. I am of the solid opinion that all these are not needed. It would only reinforce your weakness against PMO. If you slip, you will feel miserable and guilty if you are following the Willpower Method. Add to that the feeling of deceiving your loved one will definitely push you through the vicious cycle of slip-lapse-relapse. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/04-01-The-Instructions.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/04-01-The-Instructions.md index 4f58865c..b995374a 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/04-01-The-Instructions.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/04-01-The-Instructions.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-24T12:13:26+02:00 draft: false --- +## The Instructions + 1. Follow all the instructions. 2. Keep an open mind. 3. Start with a feeling of elation. @@ -15,9 +17,9 @@ draft: false 9. Always remember there's no such thing as "Just One Peek". 10. Never PMO again. -{{% center %}} -#### Affirmations -{{% /center %}} + +### Affirmations + * I am free from the slavery of PMO. * It is easy for me to ignore my thoughts about PMO. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/04-02-REBT-Coping-Statements.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/04-02-REBT-Coping-Statements.md index b30387f0..b321a84c 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/04-02-REBT-Coping-Statements.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/04-02-REBT-Coping-Statements.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-24T12:14:53+02:00 draft: false --- +## REBT Coping Statements + * *“I can stop PMO, even though it appears 'hard' to do so. It’s not too hard and no matter how much trouble it takes, it’s worth it!”* * *“If I keep ignoring and never giving into my powerful urges to PMO, I will make it easier and easier to resist them”* * *“I can fully and unconditionally accept myself- yes, even with all my flaws and failings”* diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/05-01-Scripts-01.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/05-01-Scripts-01.md index 7822950b..9a4a4edf 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/05-01-Scripts-01.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/05-01-Scripts-01.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-24T12:17:25+02:00 draft: false --- +## Scripts-01 + You are relaxed now and because you are so relaxed you begin to feel free from all tensions, anxiety and fear. You now realize that you are more confident and sure of yourself because you have taken the enormous first step toward helping yourself. Great! You begin to feel this strength from within, motivating you to overcome any and every obstacle that may stand in the way of your happiness, social life and home life. You are not a slave to PMO any more! diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/05-01-Scripts-02.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/05-01-Scripts-02.md index 8d7a2a71..ea6b9237 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/05-01-Scripts-02.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/05-01-Scripts-02.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-24T12:18:50+02:00 draft: false --- +## Scripts-02 + As you go deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance and you pay attention only to the sound of my voice. As you listen carefully to the sound of my voice, we are going to remove a number of suggestions which have been in your mind. We are going to remove them completely and as you listen carefully to them we're simply going to dissolve them... throw them out of your mind completely and forever... Nothing disturbs you and nothing bothers you and nothing can distract you in any way from listening to the sound of my voice... and from completely accepting everything I tell you... for everything I tell you is the absolute truth to you... and we're going to remove all suggestions from your mind that have been detrimental to you in the past. The first suggestion you had in your mind is that somehow or another that porn, an image, an illusion, has been of some use to you. Masturbating to porn is of no use to you and you know it. You're through PMO for any reason. It doesn't make you relax, it doesn't make you sleep well, it doesn't do anything for you. As a matter of fact it ruins your efficiency... and consequently you're through with it. The fact that porn has ever been beneficial to you in any way is completely removed from your mind. I am going to count to five and that suggestion is completely removed from your mind never to return. One, Two, Three, Four, Five. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/05-01-Scripts-03.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/05-01-Scripts-03.md index de554fa7..96bff37d 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/05-01-Scripts-03.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/05-01-Scripts-03.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-24T12:20:17+02:00 draft: false --- +## Scripts-03 + Now as you sink deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance. You pay no attention to any other sound but the sound of my voice. You sink deeper and deeper with every breath you take. Deeper and deeper and deeper, way down, deeper and deeper relaxed. In the past porn may have been to you something that meant life. In your mind you may have accepted a suggestion that porn saves your life from boredom or porn protects you from being injured socially, porn is good for you in some manner or another. But that was yesterday and we are in the future. All that was yesterday, because porn may have protected you from injury in the past socially, it could have even saved your life from boredom. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/05-01-Scripts-04.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/05-01-Scripts-04.md index 3ce3dbfd..86a70fc2 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/05-01-Scripts-04.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/05-01-Scripts-04.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-24T12:21:45+02:00 draft: false --- +## Scripts-04 + To an individual who has had a PMO problem, porn is poison. It's poison in two ways. First of all it's poison because it breaks down the very will power, the very ego, the very faith in oneself that the individual is able to build up. And so it is a psychological poison because having once conquered the porn problem, if you ever allow it to get back into you again then you begin thinking about yourself all the thoughts that you thought about yourself before, namely, well I really am no good anyway, I really didn't lick it and so on. So it's a psychological poison. Now in addition to that for anyone who has ever had a porn problem, it's a physical poison. It actually poisons your system. Because you're allergic to porn just like other people are allergic to other things. And so if you're allergic to something, even penicillin, it's poison to you and you must never take it. The same is true with porn. If you're allergic to it, you're through with it. Now you've been allergic to porn. porn is a poison to you. What's even more fascinating is that usually the reason why one is drawn to porn is not for most of the reasons that most people reiterate, namely that it makes me feel good, I like it, all these things. On the contrary, almost every person who has a porn problem will tell you just the opposite. I don't like it. It's ruining my life. It's terrible. diff --git a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/05-01-Scripts-05.md b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/05-01-Scripts-05.md index 8dd6f1ec..77515e24 100644 --- a/new-site/content/library/hackbook/05-01-Scripts-05.md +++ b/new-site/content/library/hackbook/05-01-Scripts-05.md @@ -4,6 +4,8 @@ date: 2022-12-24T12:22:57+02:00 draft: false --- +## Scripts-05 + “Go inside and try in vain to have the same problem. It was a terrible problem, wasn't it? You want to make changes, haven't you?... What would it be like when you have made those changes, now? In the future as you look back and see what it was like to have had that problem... as you think about it now, if you could make this change for yourself so that you could STOP... having made that change and see yourself now. Do you like the way you look if you could make that change and look back at yourself having made that change now!” Credit to http://www.hypnosis.com/scripts_full.php?id2=48 \ No newline at end of file diff --git a/new-site/public/blog/index.xml b/new-site/public/blog/index.xml index bf80e740..258a62e9 100644 --- a/new-site/public/blog/index.xml +++ b/new-site/public/blog/index.xml @@ -2620,7 +2620,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:22:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-05/ - <p>“Go inside and try in vain to have the same problem. It was a terrible problem, wasn&rsquo;t it? You want to make changes, haven&rsquo;t you?&hellip; What would it be like when you have made those changes, now? In the future as you look back and see what it was like to have had that problem&hellip; as you think about it now, if you could make this change for yourself so that you could STOP&hellip; having made that change and see yourself now. Do you like the way you look if you could make that change and look back at yourself having made that change now!”</p> + <h2 id="scripts-05">Scripts-05 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-05"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>“Go inside and try in vain to have the same problem. It was a terrible problem, wasn&rsquo;t it? You want to make changes, haven&rsquo;t you?&hellip; What would it be like when you have made those changes, now? In the future as you look back and see what it was like to have had that problem&hellip; as you think about it now, if you could make this change for yourself so that you could STOP&hellip; having made that change and see yourself now. Do you like the way you look if you could make that change and look back at yourself having made that change now!”</p> <p>Credit to <a href="http://www.hypnosis.com/scripts_full.php?id2=48">http://www.hypnosis.com/scripts_full.php?id2=48</a></p> @@ -2631,7 +2633,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:21:45 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-04/ - <p>To an individual who has had a PMO problem, porn is poison. It&rsquo;s poison in two ways. First of all it&rsquo;s poison because it breaks down the very will power, the very ego, the very faith in oneself that the individual is able to build up. And so it is a psychological poison because having once conquered the porn problem, if you ever allow it to get back into you again then you begin thinking about yourself all the thoughts that you thought about yourself before, namely, well I really am no good anyway, I really didn&rsquo;t lick it and so on. So it&rsquo;s a psychological poison.</p> + <h2 id="scripts-04">Scripts-04 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-04"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>To an individual who has had a PMO problem, porn is poison. It&rsquo;s poison in two ways. First of all it&rsquo;s poison because it breaks down the very will power, the very ego, the very faith in oneself that the individual is able to build up. And so it is a psychological poison because having once conquered the porn problem, if you ever allow it to get back into you again then you begin thinking about yourself all the thoughts that you thought about yourself before, namely, well I really am no good anyway, I really didn&rsquo;t lick it and so on. So it&rsquo;s a psychological poison.</p> <p>Now in addition to that for anyone who has ever had a porn problem, it&rsquo;s a physical poison. It actually poisons your system. Because you&rsquo;re allergic to porn just like other people are allergic to other things. And so if you&rsquo;re allergic to something, even penicillin, it&rsquo;s poison to you and you must never take it. The same is true with porn. If you&rsquo;re allergic to it, you&rsquo;re through with it. Now you&rsquo;ve been allergic to porn. porn is a poison to you. What&rsquo;s even more fascinating is that usually the reason why one is drawn to porn is not for most of the reasons that most people reiterate, namely that it makes me feel good, I like it, all these things. On the contrary, almost every person who has a porn problem will tell you just the opposite. I don&rsquo;t like it. It&rsquo;s ruining my life. It&rsquo;s terrible.</p> <p>And if that&rsquo;s true, then why are they drawn to it? For precisely that reason. Because it is a poison and because they in their subconscious mind need to commit suicide and so they do it the slow tortuous way. And so that&rsquo;s why it&rsquo;s so important that the underlying cause of the problem be completely removed so that you don&rsquo;t need to punish yourself again with porn. And that&rsquo;s why we have removed them.</p> <p>That&rsquo;s why you don&rsquo;t need to punish yourself anymore. Because you realize you&rsquo;re not guilty to begin with. And if you&rsquo;re not guilty you don&rsquo;t have to punish yourself. And since you&rsquo;re through punishing yourself, you&rsquo;re through poisoning yourself. Yes porn is a poison. It&rsquo;s important that you realize that it&rsquo;s a poison and you are leaving poisons alone. Because you don&rsquo;t need poison any more. You don&rsquo;t need to poison yourself. You don&rsquo;t need to punish yourself. You&rsquo;re through with all that.</p> @@ -2646,7 +2650,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:20:17 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-03/ - <p>Now as you sink deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance. You pay no attention to any other sound but the sound of my voice. You sink deeper and deeper with every breath you take. Deeper and deeper and deeper, way down, deeper and deeper relaxed.</p> + <h2 id="scripts-03">Scripts-03 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-03"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Now as you sink deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance. You pay no attention to any other sound but the sound of my voice. You sink deeper and deeper with every breath you take. Deeper and deeper and deeper, way down, deeper and deeper relaxed.</p> <p>In the past porn may have been to you something that meant life. In your mind you may have accepted a suggestion that porn saves your life from boredom or porn protects you from being injured socially, porn is good for you in some manner or another. But that was yesterday and we are in the future. All that was yesterday, because porn may have protected you from injury in the past socially, it could have even saved your life from boredom.</p> <p>And those suggestions may have been good suggestions at one time but they have outlived their usefulness and if any of those suggestions are present to any degree in your mind, they are completely removed as of now. And that suggestion takes complete and thorough effect upon your mind, body and spirit.</p> <p>Now to other people porn means death. It&rsquo;s a way of punishing oneself. It&rsquo;s a poison and some people want to poison themselves. It&rsquo;s a method of slow suicide. Well, you don&rsquo;t need that now. If porn ever meant death and suicide to you and you have a need to punish yourself, that need is now long gone and we remove that suggestion. The truth of the matter is that porn is just porn. It&rsquo;s not life. It&rsquo;s not death. As a matter of fact, it&rsquo;s not anything to you anymore. It&rsquo;s nothing, neutral feelings. It&rsquo;s something that you don&rsquo;t need nor do you want.</p> @@ -2662,7 +2668,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:18:50 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-02/ - <p>As you go deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance and you pay attention only to the sound of my voice. As you listen carefully to the sound of my voice, we are going to remove a number of suggestions which have been in your mind. We are going to remove them completely and as you listen carefully to them we&rsquo;re simply going to dissolve them&hellip; throw them out of your mind completely and forever&hellip; Nothing disturbs you and nothing bothers you and nothing can distract you in any way from listening to the sound of my voice&hellip; and from completely accepting everything I tell you&hellip; for everything I tell you is the absolute truth to you&hellip; and we&rsquo;re going to remove all suggestions from your mind that have been detrimental to you in the past.</p> + <h2 id="scripts-02">Scripts-02 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-02"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As you go deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance and you pay attention only to the sound of my voice. As you listen carefully to the sound of my voice, we are going to remove a number of suggestions which have been in your mind. We are going to remove them completely and as you listen carefully to them we&rsquo;re simply going to dissolve them&hellip; throw them out of your mind completely and forever&hellip; Nothing disturbs you and nothing bothers you and nothing can distract you in any way from listening to the sound of my voice&hellip; and from completely accepting everything I tell you&hellip; for everything I tell you is the absolute truth to you&hellip; and we&rsquo;re going to remove all suggestions from your mind that have been detrimental to you in the past.</p> <p>The first suggestion you had in your mind is that somehow or another that porn, an image, an illusion, has been of some use to you. Masturbating to porn is of no use to you and you know it. You&rsquo;re through PMO for any reason. It doesn&rsquo;t make you relax, it doesn&rsquo;t make you sleep well, it doesn&rsquo;t do anything for you. As a matter of fact it ruins your efficiency&hellip; and consequently you&rsquo;re through with it. The fact that porn has ever been beneficial to you in any way is completely removed from your mind. I am going to count to five and that suggestion is completely removed from your mind never to return. One, Two, Three, Four, Five.</p> <p>The next suggestion that you may have accepted is that porn is a good means of punishing yourself. In the first place, you&rsquo;re through punishing yourself and in the second place you&rsquo;re through using porn as a means to do it. The only reason anyone ever punishes himself is because somewhere deep in his mind he feels guilty and you&rsquo;re through allowing your-self to feel guilty. And so with one count we&rsquo;re going to remove the guilt, whatever it is and from whatever source the punishment, the need for punishment, and that porn could be used as a vehicle to achieve it. One. Two. Three. Four. Five.</p> <p>Those ideas are all gone. Porn to you is a poison and a lousy inefficient poison at that&hellip; just enough poison to make you sick and ineffective. But then you&rsquo;re through poisoning yourself and you&rsquo;re through using porn and so that need is also removed from your mind. One. Two. Three. Four. Five.</p> @@ -2679,7 +2687,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:17:25 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-01/ - <p>You are relaxed now and because you are so relaxed you begin to feel free from all tensions, anxiety and fear. You now realize that you are more confident and sure of yourself because you have taken the enormous first step toward helping yourself. Great!</p> + <h2 id="scripts-01">Scripts-01 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-01"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>You are relaxed now and because you are so relaxed you begin to feel free from all tensions, anxiety and fear. You now realize that you are more confident and sure of yourself because you have taken the enormous first step toward helping yourself. Great!</p> <p>You begin to feel this strength from within, motivating you to overcome any and every obstacle that may stand in the way of your happiness, social life and home life. You are not a slave to PMO any more!</p> <p>You will find that from this moment on you are developing more self control. You will now face every situation in a calm, relaxed state of mind. Your thinking is very clear and sharp at all times. You are free!</p> <p>You begin to feel that your self respect and confidence are expanding more and more each and every day in every way. You now realize that in the past addiction was an escape and weakness that you are replacing with confidence, strength and self control. You are becoming a happy person now, with a positive attitude toward life. You are succeeding now and you have all the abilities for success.</p> @@ -2697,7 +2707,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:14:53 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/04-02-rebt-coping-statements/ - <ul> + <h2 id="rebt-coping-statements">REBT Coping Statements <a class="anchor" href="#rebt-coping-statements"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ul> <li><em>“I can stop PMO, even though it appears &lsquo;hard&rsquo; to do so. It’s not too hard and no matter how much trouble it takes, it’s worth it!”</em></li> <li><em>“If I keep ignoring and never giving into my powerful urges to PMO, I will make it easier and easier to resist them”</em></li> <li><em>“I can fully and unconditionally accept myself- yes, even with all my flaws and failings”</em></li> @@ -2722,7 +2734,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:13:26 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/04-01-the-instructions/ - <ol> + <h2 id="the-instructions">The Instructions <a class="anchor" href="#the-instructions"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Follow all the instructions.</li> <li>Keep an open mind.</li> <li>Start with a feeling of elation.</li> @@ -2734,11 +2748,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true <li>Always remember there&rsquo;s no such thing as &ldquo;Just One Peek&rdquo;.</li> <li>Never PMO again.</li> </ol> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="affirmations">Affirmations <a class="anchor" href="#affirmations"> +<h3 id="affirmations">Affirmations <a class="anchor" href="#affirmations"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<ul> +</a></h3><ul> <li>I am free from the slavery of PMO.</li> <li>It is easy for me to ignore my thoughts about PMO.</li> <li>Bye bye thoughts, bye bye Urges. Oh, there goes my cravings.</li> @@ -2763,7 +2775,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 11:36:58 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-44-should-i-tell-my-so/ - <p>Should I tell my wife, girlfriend and SO about my PMO? The intention here is that it would help you in quitting. I am of the solid opinion that all these are not needed. It would only reinforce your weakness against PMO.</p> + <h2 id="should-i-tell-my-so">Should I Tell My SO <a class="anchor" href="#should-i-tell-my-so"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Should I tell my wife, girlfriend and SO about my PMO? The intention here is that it would help you in quitting. I am of the solid opinion that all these are not needed. It would only reinforce your weakness against PMO.</p> <p>If you slip, you will feel miserable and guilty if you are following the Willpower Method. Add to that the feeling of deceiving your loved one will definitely push you through the vicious cycle of slip-lapse-relapse.</p> <p>If you are caught once - just say you are feeling good that you got caught and you are out of the prison. And you don’t want to talk about it. Many women can’t digest it. Many men wrongly attribute the woman to be of loose morals and hence a bad person. And if the SO breaks up with you (even if for some other reason) you will feel guilty for having screwed up your sex life with PMO OR feeling you “sacrificed” so much if you were successful in quitting - adding to the heart ache.</p> <p>You will look very weak. They will treat you as a weak person - of course only subconsciously. But you can smell it. Why the stress?</p> @@ -2777,26 +2791,22 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 11:31:13 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-43-advice-to-non-pmoers/ - <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK <a class="anchor" href="#help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book"> + <h2 id="advice-to-non-pmoers">Advice to Non-PMOers <a class="anchor" href="#advice-to-non-pmoers"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>First study the contents of this book and try to put yourself in the place of the PMOer. Do not force him to read this book or try to stop him by telling him he is ruining his health or playing with fire. He already knows this better than you do. PMOers do not continue in it because they enjoy it or because they want to. They only tell themselves and other people this in order to retain self-respect. They do it because they feel dependent on PMO because they think that it relaxes them and gives them courage and confidence (pleasure or crutch) and that life will never be enjoyable without “sex” - their version of it. If you try to force a PMOer to stop, he feels like a trapped animal and wants to be in his harem even more. This may turn him into a secret PMOer and in his mind the porn will become even more precious (see Chapter 26).</p> +</a></h2><h3 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK <a class="anchor" href="#help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>First study the contents of this book and try to put yourself in the place of the PMOer. Do not force him to read this book or try to stop him by telling him he is ruining his health or playing with fire. He already knows this better than you do. PMOers do not continue in it because they enjoy it or because they want to. They only tell themselves and other people this in order to retain self-respect. They do it because they feel dependent on PMO because they think that it relaxes them and gives them courage and confidence (pleasure or crutch) and that life will never be enjoyable without “sex” - their version of it. If you try to force a PMOer to stop, he feels like a trapped animal and wants to be in his harem even more. This may turn him into a secret PMOer and in his mind the porn will become even more precious (see Chapter 26).</p> <p>Instead, concentrate on the other side of the coin. Get him into the company of ex-PMOers (there are many blogs, forums etc. YBOP, No-Fap etc.). Get them to tell the PMOer how they too thought they were hooked for life and how much better life is as a non-PMOer. Once you have got him believing that he can stop then his mind will start to open up. Then start explaining the delusion created by withdrawal pangs. Not only are the “dopamine rushes” not giving him a boost but they are destroying his confidence and making him irritable and tired.</p> <p>He should now be ready to read this book himself. He will be expecting to read pages and pages about unreliable arousal, fading penetrations, PIED, PE, etc. Explain that the approach is completely different and that references to illness are just a small fraction of the material in the book.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD <a class="anchor" href="#help-during-the-withdrawal-period"> +<h3 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD <a class="anchor" href="#help-during-the-withdrawal-period"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>If you are dealing with a girlfriend or boyfriend - whether the ex-PMOer is suffering or not, assume that she/he is. Do not try to minimize his suffering by telling him it is easy to stop; he can do that himself. Instead keep telling him how proud you are, how much better he is looking, how much sweeter it is to be with him, how much easier he is in general. It is particularly important to keep doing this. When a PMOer makes an attempt to stop, the euphoria of the attempt and the attention he gets from friends and colleagues can help him along. However, they tend to forget quickly, so keep that praise going.</p> +</a></h3><p>If you are dealing with a girlfriend or boyfriend - whether the ex-PMOer is suffering or not, assume that she/he is. Do not try to minimize his suffering by telling him it is easy to stop; he can do that himself. Instead keep telling him how proud you are, how much better he is looking, how much sweeter it is to be with him, how much easier he is in general. It is particularly important to keep doing this. When a PMOer makes an attempt to stop, the euphoria of the attempt and the attention he gets from friends and colleagues can help him along. However, they tend to forget quickly, so keep that praise going.</p> <p>Because he is not talking about PMOing, you may think he has forgotten about it and don&rsquo;t want to remind him. Usually the complete opposite is the case with the Willpower Method, as the ex-PMOer tends to be obsessed by nothing else. So do not be frightened to bring the subject up and keep praising him: he will tell you if he doesn&rsquo;t want you to remind him of PMOing.</p> <p>Go out of your way to relieve him of pressures during the withdrawal period. Try to think of ways of making his life interesting and enjoyable. This can also be a trying period for non-PMOers - that is those of you who have never had this addiction. If one member of a group is irritable, it can cause general misery all round. So anticipate this if the ex-PMOer is feeling irritable. He may well take it out on you but do not retaliate: it is at this time that he needs your praise and sympathy the most. If you are feeling irritable yourself, try not to show it.</p> <p>One of the tricks an addict will play when trying to give up with the aid of the Willpower Method was to get into a tantrum, hoping that wife or friends would say, “I cannot bear to see you suffering like this. For goodness sake, have your poison.” The PMOer then does not lose face, as he isn&rsquo;t “giving in” - he has been instructed. If the ex-PMOer uses this ploy, on no account encourage him to lapse. Instead say, “if that is what PMO does to you, thank goodness you will soon be free. How marvellous that you had the courage and sense to give up.”</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL <a class="anchor" href="#help-end-this-scandal"> +<h3 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL <a class="anchor" href="#help-end-this-scandal"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>In my opinion, internet porn is one of the dangers in a free society, piggy backing on the good willed efforts of personal freedoms. Surely the very basis of civilization, the reason why the human species has advanced so far, is that we are capable of communicating our knowledge and experiences not only to each other but to future generations. Even the lower species find it necessary to warn their offspring of the pitfalls in life.</p> +</a></h3><p>In my opinion, internet porn is one of the dangers in a free society, piggy backing on the good willed efforts of personal freedoms. Surely the very basis of civilization, the reason why the human species has advanced so far, is that we are capable of communicating our knowledge and experiences not only to each other but to future generations. Even the lower species find it necessary to warn their offspring of the pitfalls in life.</p> <p>The producers of porn are not doing this in good faith, in the genuine belief that they help mankind, especially now as the addiction to internet porn is widely studied. Maybe in its initial stages people genuinely believed that porn taught intimacy to men and women but today the authorities know that it is a fallacy. Just watch any tube sites nowadays. They make no claims about education. The only claims they make are about the shock, novelty, escalation quality of their clips.</p> <p>The sheer hypocrisy is incredible. As a society we get uptight about school bullying and objectification of human body. Compared with internet porn, these problems are mere pimples in our society. Thirty five per cent of the population have been addicted to porn and most of them spend quality time with imaginary and illusory pixel people at the expense of health, virility, energy and time. Tens of thousands of people have their lives ruined every year because they become hooked. Internet high speed porn is by far the biggest killer in relationships and yet the biggest vested interest is our for-profit companies. Internet porn producers don’t spend on advertising the filth in mainstream publications - they don’t have to. Our biological urges will lead us to the thresholds of their well stocked internet harems. They give free samples just like your local drug dealer. Heck the tube sites don’t even stock the wares any more as they encourage visitors to post the content.</p> <p>How clever that porn companies show the 18+ warning at their home page as the deterrent for under age users. Some even don’t bother to do that. Internet porn affect everyone at all ages. “We have warned you of the danger. It is your choice.” Is the attitude they have. Anyway, do they take any steps to verify the age? No. That would discourage their customers. And of course if age verification is legislated they will find another country to host. Or they will pay some ‘elite’ to write how prohibition resulted in bootlegging and the creation of the Mafia. Conveniently forgotten is the question of why repealing prohibition did not result in the reduction of alcohol related casualty numbers. And the contribution of the failure of law enforcement to control the Mafia’s growth. So let’s not waste time in talking about them.</p> @@ -2807,11 +2817,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <p>I remember reading H. G. Well’s The Time Machine. The book describes an incident in the distant future in which a man falls into a river. His companions merely sit around the bank like cattle, oblivious to his cries of desperation. I found that incident inhuman and very disturbing. I find the general apathy of our society to the PMO problem very similar. We find characters in movies and TV series talking about or even engaging in porn in a casual way.</p> <p>Why do we allow society to subject healthy young teenagers, youngsters whose lives are complete before they start to get online, to claim their independence just for the privilege of destroying themselves mentally and physically in a lifetime of slavery, a lifetime of filth and disease? You may feel that I over-dramatize the facts. Not so. There are cases where lives were cut down in his early years of marriage because of PMO. He was a strong man and might still have been alive today. I believe I was within an inch of PIED during my forties, although I would have attributed it to my divorce rather than to PMO. I now spend my life being consulted by people who have been crippled by the disease or are in the last stages. And, if you care to think about it, you probably know of many too.</p> <p>There is a wind of change in society. A snowball has started that I hope this book will help turn into an avalanche. You too can help by spreading the message.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING <a class="anchor" href="#final-warning"> +<h3 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING <a class="anchor" href="#final-warning"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>You can now enjoy the rest of your life as a happy non-PMOer. In order to make sure that you do, you need to follow these simple instructions:</p> +</a></h3><p>You can now enjoy the rest of your life as a happy non-PMOer. In order to make sure that you do, you need to follow these simple instructions:</p> <ol> <li>Keep this page in your bookmarks and refer to it as much as you need.</li> <li>If you ever start to envy another PMOer, realize that they will be envious of you. You are not being deprived. They are.</li> @@ -2829,7 +2837,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 11:28:29 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-42-help-the-pmoer-left-on-the-sinking-ship/ - <p>PMOers are panicking nowadays. They sense that there is a change in the way internet porn is perceived by men and women. Internet porn’s addictive nature is being studied by more and more people. It is now rightly regarded not as the same as old traditional porn. It’s easy reach and effortless availability raises alarm even in the hearts of porn supporters. They also sense that their crusade for free speech and free thought is being hijacked by vicious elements. The wild wild west nature of the unpoliced internet makes it hard for enforcing age restrictive access to supranormal stimuli. Yet I don’t think this whole thing will be coming to an end anytime soon. Thousands of PMOers are now stopping and all porn users are conscious of the new brain studies that point their studied fingers to the similarities of drug and substance addiction. Every time a PMOer leaves the sinking ship, the ones left on it feel more miserable. Every PMOer instinctively knows that it is ridiculous to self sabotage and spend time in front of two dimensional pixels, treat the poor brain to super surges, develop porn brain water slides that will guarantee him unreliable erections and fading penetrations. If you still don&rsquo;t think it is silly, try talking to a porn magazine standing at the centre of the city square and ask yourself what the difference is. Just one. You cannot get the pleasure of warmth and intimacy that way. If you can stop buying alcohol and cigarettes every time you go grocery shopping you can definitely stop visiting your online harems. PMOers cannot find a rational reason for PMOing but if someone else is doing it, they do not feel quite so silly.</p> + <h2 id="help-the-pmoer-left-on-the-sinking-ship">Help the PMOer Left on the Sinking Ship <a class="anchor" href="#help-the-pmoer-left-on-the-sinking-ship"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>PMOers are panicking nowadays. They sense that there is a change in the way internet porn is perceived by men and women. Internet porn’s addictive nature is being studied by more and more people. It is now rightly regarded not as the same as old traditional porn. It’s easy reach and effortless availability raises alarm even in the hearts of porn supporters. They also sense that their crusade for free speech and free thought is being hijacked by vicious elements. The wild wild west nature of the unpoliced internet makes it hard for enforcing age restrictive access to supranormal stimuli. Yet I don’t think this whole thing will be coming to an end anytime soon. Thousands of PMOers are now stopping and all porn users are conscious of the new brain studies that point their studied fingers to the similarities of drug and substance addiction. Every time a PMOer leaves the sinking ship, the ones left on it feel more miserable. Every PMOer instinctively knows that it is ridiculous to self sabotage and spend time in front of two dimensional pixels, treat the poor brain to super surges, develop porn brain water slides that will guarantee him unreliable erections and fading penetrations. If you still don&rsquo;t think it is silly, try talking to a porn magazine standing at the centre of the city square and ask yourself what the difference is. Just one. You cannot get the pleasure of warmth and intimacy that way. If you can stop buying alcohol and cigarettes every time you go grocery shopping you can definitely stop visiting your online harems. PMOers cannot find a rational reason for PMOing but if someone else is doing it, they do not feel quite so silly.</p> <p>PMOers blatantly lie about their habit, not only to others and university researchers but worse of all to themselves. They have to. The brainwashing is essential if they are to retain some self-respect. They feel the need to justify their “habit” not only to themselves but to non-PMOers. They are therefore forever advertising the illusory advantages of porn and PMO by more subtler means.</p> <p>If a PMOer stops using the Willpower Method he still feels deprived and tends to become a moaner. All this does is to confirm to other PMOers how right they are to keep PMOing. If the ex-PMOer succeeds in kicking the habit, he is then grateful that he no longer has to go through life sabotaging himself or wasting energy. But he has no need to justify himself, he doesn&rsquo;t sit there saying how marvellous it is not to be PMOing. He will do that only if he is asked and PMOers won&rsquo;t ask that question. They wouldn&rsquo;t like the answer. Remember: it is fear that keeps them in their addiction and they would rather keep their heads in the sand. The only time they ask that question is when it is time to stop. Help the PMOer. Remove these fears. Tell him how marvellous it is not to have to go through life living in a prison, how lovely it is to wake up in the morning feeling fit and healthy instead of lacking in energy and self loathing, how wonderful it is to be free of slavery, to be able to enjoy the whole of your life, to be rid of those awful black shadows. Or, better still; get him to read this book.</p> <p>It is essential not to belittle a married PMOer by indicating that he is deliberately ruining his relationship or is in some way a cheat and is unclean. There is a common conception that the ex-PMOer is the worst in this respect. I believe this conception has some substance but I think this is due to the Willpower Method of stopping. Because the ex-PMOer, although he has kicked the habit, retains part of the brainwashing - part of him still believes that he has made a sacrifice. He feels vulnerable and his natural defensive mechanism is to attack the PMOer.</p> @@ -2848,7 +2858,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:21:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-41-feedback/ - <p>This method will be pooh-poohed by the so-called experts - as I have kept it thin, deliberately, on the ‘science’ side of porn addiction. This ‘hackbook’ is based on a very successful technique used by Alan Carr for quitting smoking, alcohol and gambling. I have personally broken away from the prisons of cigarette, alcohol and internet porn with this technique. I’d like to add here that I’ve tried some of the best programmes - such as CBT, DEADS and AVERT before arriving at the EasyWay. I could not close the deal. I was then led to studying about self hypnosis that deals with bad habits. The key idea that sold me on this method is his emphasis on the “feelings of misery and deprivation, misery and sacrifice, misery and guilt.” If you use the Will Power method you will invariably have all or one of these awful feelings that in themselves provide the grease to slide back to the addiction.</p> + <h2 id="feedback">Feedback <a class="anchor" href="#feedback"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This method will be pooh-poohed by the so-called experts - as I have kept it thin, deliberately, on the ‘science’ side of porn addiction. This ‘hackbook’ is based on a very successful technique used by Alan Carr for quitting smoking, alcohol and gambling. I have personally broken away from the prisons of cigarette, alcohol and internet porn with this technique. I’d like to add here that I’ve tried some of the best programmes - such as CBT, DEADS and AVERT before arriving at the EasyWay. I could not close the deal. I was then led to studying about self hypnosis that deals with bad habits. The key idea that sold me on this method is his emphasis on the “feelings of misery and deprivation, misery and sacrifice, misery and guilt.” If you use the Will Power method you will invariably have all or one of these awful feelings that in themselves provide the grease to slide back to the addiction.</p> <p>I&rsquo;m not a do-gooder. My war - which, I emphasize, is not against PMOers but against the porn trap, I wage for the purely selfish reason that I enjoy it. Every time I hear of a PMOer escaping from the prison I get a feeling of great pleasure, even when it has nothing to do with me. You can imagine also the immense pleasure I obtain from the grateful letters that I have received over time.</p> <p>There has also been considerable frustration. The frustration is caused mainly by two main categories of PMOer. First, in spite of the warning in the previous chapter, I am disturbed by the number of PMOers who find it easy to stop, yet later get hooked again and find they can&rsquo;t succeed the next time.</p> <p>Practically the last thing I say to ex-PMOers is: “Remember, you must never visit another online harem again.”</p> @@ -2908,11 +2920,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <blockquote> <p>Find out which one it is. Some people understand and believe everything I say but still start off with a feeling of doom and gloom, as if something terrible were happening. You are doing not only what you&rsquo;d like to do but what every PMOer on the planet would like to do. With any method of stopping, what the ex PMOer is trying to achieve is a certain frame of mind, so that whenever he thinks about PMO he says to himself, “YIPPEE! I&rsquo;M FREE!” If that&rsquo;s your object, why wait? Start off in that frame of mind and never lose it. The rest of the book is designed to make you understand why there is no alternative.</p> </blockquote> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="the-check-list"><strong>THE CHECK LIST</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-check-list"> +<h2 id="the-check-list">THE CHECK LIST <a class="anchor" href="#the-check-list"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>If you follow these simple instructions, you cannot fail:</p> +</a></h2><p>If you follow these simple instructions, you cannot fail:</p> <ol> <li>Make a solemn vow that you will never, ever, go online to visit your harem OR settle down for static pictures OR make peace with erotic graphics OR anything that contains supra normal stimuli, and stick to your vow.</li> <li>Get this clear in your mind: there is absolutely nothing to give up. By that I don&rsquo;t mean simply that you will be better off as a non-PMOer (you&rsquo;ve known that all this time); nor do I mean that although there is no rational reason why you PMO, you must get some form of pleasure or crutch from it or you wouldn&rsquo;t do it. What I mean is, there is no genuine pleasure or crutch in PMOing. It is just an illusion, it’s an addiction like banging your head against a wall to make it pleasant when you stop.</li> @@ -2926,7 +2936,7 @@ strains of life.</li> <hr> <ol> <li id="fn:1"> -<p><strong>MoR</strong> moment of revelation. R2T resistance to temptation. MaD misery and deprived. MaS misery and sacrifice. MaG misery and guilty. DSC dopamine surge claims.&#160;<a href="#fnref:1" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p> +<p><strong>MoR</strong> - moment of revelation. R2T resistance to temptation. MaD misery and deprived. MaS misery and sacrifice. MaG misery and guilty. DSC dopamine surge claims.&#160;<a href="#fnref:1" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p> </li> </ol> </div> @@ -2939,7 +2949,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:20:54 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-40-a-final-warning/ - <p>No PMOer, given the chance of going back to the time before he became hooked with the knowledge he has now, would opt to start. Many of the them who consult me are convinced that if I could only help them stop, they would never dream of PMOing again, and yet thousands of PMOers successfully kick the habit for many years and lead perfectly happy lives, only to get trapped once again. I trust that this book will help you to find it relatively easy to stop. But be warned: PMOers who find it easy to stop find it easy to start again, DO NOT FALL FOR THIS TRAP.</p> + <h2 id="a-final-warning">A Final Warning <a class="anchor" href="#a-final-warning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>No PMOer, given the chance of going back to the time before he became hooked with the knowledge he has now, would opt to start. Many of the them who consult me are convinced that if I could only help them stop, they would never dream of PMOing again, and yet thousands of PMOers successfully kick the habit for many years and lead perfectly happy lives, only to get trapped once again. I trust that this book will help you to find it relatively easy to stop. But be warned: PMOers who find it easy to stop find it easy to start again, DO NOT FALL FOR THIS TRAP.</p> <p>No matter how long you have stopped or how confident you are that you will never become hooked again, make it a rule of life not to PMO for any reason. Resist the allusions and innuendoes in the media, and remember they are pushing their image of ‘openness’ by bringing porn into mainstream without realizing how porn, internet porn etc. are killers of relationships and of the personal sense of well being for a huge number of men and some women.</p> <p>Remember, that first peek or visit will do nothing for you. You will have no withdrawal pangs to relieve and it will make you feel awful. What it will do is to put the pleasure of dopamine rush into your mind and brain, and a little voice at the back of your mind will be saying, “you want another one.” Then you have got the choice of being miserable for a while or starting the whole filthy chain again.</p> @@ -2951,7 +2963,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:15:27 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-39-the-final-visit/ - <p>Having decided on your timing, you are now ready to visit your harem one last time. Before you do so, check on the two essentials:</p> + <h2 id="the-final-visit">The Final Visit <a class="anchor" href="#the-final-visit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Having decided on your timing, you are now ready to visit your harem one last time. Before you do so, check on the two essentials:</p> <ol> <li>Do you feel certain of success?</li> <li>Have you a feeling of doom and gloom or a sense of excitement that you are about to achieve something marvelous?</li> @@ -3002,7 +3016,9 @@ sites in my life again.”<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1& Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:13:13 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-38-the-moment-of-revelation/ - <p>The moment of revelation usually takes place about three weeks after stopping. The sky appears to become brighter and it is the moment when the brainwashing ends completely. When instead of telling yourself you do not need to PMO, you suddenly realize that the last thread is broken and you can enjoy the rest of your life without ever needing PMO again. It is also usually from this point that you start looking at other PMOers as objects of pity.</p> + <h2 id="the-moment-of-revelation">The Moment of Revelation <a class="anchor" href="#the-moment-of-revelation"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The moment of revelation usually takes place about three weeks after stopping. The sky appears to become brighter and it is the moment when the brainwashing ends completely. When instead of telling yourself you do not need to PMO, you suddenly realize that the last thread is broken and you can enjoy the rest of your life without ever needing PMO again. It is also usually from this point that you start looking at other PMOers as objects of pity.</p> <p>PMOers using the Willpower Method do not normally experience this moment because although they are glad to be ex-PMOers they continue through life believing they are making a sacrifice. The more you were addicted, the more marvellous this moment is and it lasts a lifetime. I consider I have been very fortunate in this life and had some wonderful moments but the most wonderful of all was that moment of revelation. With all the other highlights of my life, although I can remember they were happy times, I can never recapture the actual feeling. I can never get over the joy of not having to PMO any more. If ever I am feeling low and need a boost nowadays, I just think how lovely it is not to be hooked on that awful addiction. Half the people who contact me after they have stopped visiting the online harems say exactly the same thing: that it was the most marvellous event of their lives. Ah! What pleasure you have to come! With additional feedback, both from forums and personal interactions, I have learned that in most cases the moment of revelation occurs not after three weeks, as stated above, but within a few days.</p> <p>In my own case it happened before I was finished on my last harem visit. I am sure many of the readers here, before they’d even got to the end of the chapters would say something like: “You needn&rsquo;t say another word. I can see it all so clearly, I know I&rsquo;ll never PMO again.” From the messages I receive I&rsquo;m also aware that it frequently happens.</p> <p>Ideally if you follow all the instructions and understand the psychology completely, it should happen to you immediately.</p> @@ -3022,20 +3038,18 @@ sites in my life again.”<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1& Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:10:40 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-37-should-i-avoid-temptation-situations/ - <p>I have been direct in my advice so far and would ask you to treat this advice as instruction rather than suggestion. I am explicit and direct, first because there are sound, practical reasons for my advice and second, because those reasons have been backed up by thousands of case studies. On the question of whether or not to try to avoid temptation during the withdrawal period, I regret that I cannot be direct. Each PMOer will need to decide for himself. I can, however, make what I hope -will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all our lives and this fear consists of two distinct phases:</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO? <a class="anchor" href="#phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo"> + <h2 id="should-i-avoid-temptation-situations">Should I Avoid Temptation Situations? <a class="anchor" href="#should-i-avoid-temptation-situations"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>This fear is that panicky feeling the PMOer gets when they are alone in a single phase or have an asexual, uninterested or unavailable partner. The fear isn&rsquo;t caused by withdrawal pangs but is the psychological fear of dependency - you cannot survive without sex and orgasm. It actually reaches its height when you are on the verge of quitting (I won’t use giving up); at that time your withdrawal pangs are at their lowest. It is the fear of the unknown, the sort of fear that people have when they are learning to dive.</p> +</a></h2><p>I have been direct in my advice so far and would ask you to treat this advice as instruction rather than suggestion. I am explicit and direct, first because there are sound, practical reasons for my advice and second, because those reasons have been backed up by thousands of case studies. On the question of whether or not to try to avoid temptation during the withdrawal period, I regret that I cannot be direct. Each PMOer will need to decide for himself. I can, however, make what I hope +will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all our lives and this fear consists of two distinct phases:</p> +<h3 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO? <a class="anchor" href="#phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>This fear is that panicky feeling the PMOer gets when they are alone in a single phase or have an asexual, uninterested or unavailable partner. The fear isn&rsquo;t caused by withdrawal pangs but is the psychological fear of dependency - you cannot survive without sex and orgasm. It actually reaches its height when you are on the verge of quitting (I won’t use giving up); at that time your withdrawal pangs are at their lowest. It is the fear of the unknown, the sort of fear that people have when they are learning to dive.</p> <p>The diving board is 1 foot high but seems to be 6 feet high. The water is 6 feet deep but appears to be 1 foot deep. It takes courage to launch yourself. You are convinced you are going to smash your head. The launching is the hardest part. If you can find the courage to do it, the rest is easy. This explains why many otherwise strong-willed PMOers either have never attempted to stop or can survive only a few days when they do. In fact, there are some PMOers on a porn diet who when they decide to stop, actually binge and escalate to harsher clips more quickly than if they had not decided to stop. The decision causes panic, which is stressful. This is one of the occasions when the brain triggers the instruction, “take a trip to your own personal harem.” But now you can&rsquo;t take one. You are being deprived - more stress.</p> <p>The trigger starts again quickly when the fuse blows and you fire up the browser. Don&rsquo;t worry. That panic is just psychological. It is the fear that you are dependent. The beautiful truth is that you are not, even when you are still addicted. Do not panic. Just trust me and launch yourself.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear <a class="anchor" href="#phase-2-longer-term-fear"> +<h3 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear <a class="anchor" href="#phase-2-longer-term-fear"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>The second phase of fear is longer-term. It involves the fear that certain situations in the future will not be enjoyable or that you will not be able to cope with a trauma without PMO. Don&rsquo;t worry. If you can launch yourself you will find the opposite to be the case. The avoidance of temptation itself falls into two main categories:</p> +</a></h3><p>The second phase of fear is longer-term. It involves the fear that certain situations in the future will not be enjoyable or that you will not be able to cope with a trauma without PMO. Don&rsquo;t worry. If you can launch yourself you will find the opposite to be the case. The avoidance of temptation itself falls into two main categories:</p> <ol> <li>“I will subscribe to a porn-diet of once in 4 days. I will feel more confident knowing that I can go online if it gets hard. It is OK if I fail I can just add up additional days to my next cycle.”</li> </ol> @@ -3058,7 +3072,9 @@ will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all o Sat, 24 Dec 2022 08:46:33 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-36-substitutes/ - <p>Substitutes include restricting to porn magazines, static internet images, going on a porn-diet<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> etc. <strong>DO NOT USE ANY OF THEM</strong>. They make it harder, not easier. If you do get a pang and use a substitute it will prolong the pang and make it harder. What you are really saying is, “I need to PMO to fill the void.” It will be like giving in to a hijacker or the tantrums of a child. It will just keep the pangs coming and prolong the torture. In any event the substitutes will not relieve the pangs. Your craving is for amino acids in the brain. All it will do is keep you thinking about PMOing. Remember these points:</p> + <h2 id="substitutes">Substitutes <a class="anchor" href="#substitutes"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Substitutes include restricting to porn magazines, static internet images, going on a porn-diet<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> etc. <strong>DO NOT USE ANY OF THEM</strong>. They make it harder, not easier. If you do get a pang and use a substitute it will prolong the pang and make it harder. What you are really saying is, “I need to PMO to fill the void.” It will be like giving in to a hijacker or the tantrums of a child. It will just keep the pangs coming and prolong the torture. In any event the substitutes will not relieve the pangs. Your craving is for amino acids in the brain. All it will do is keep you thinking about PMOing. Remember these points:</p> <ol> <li>There is no substitute for PMO.</li> <li>You do not need porn or PMO. It is not food; it is poison. When the pangs come remind yourself that it is PMOers who suffer withdrawal pangs, not non-PMOers. See them as another evil of the drug. See them as the death of a monster.</li> @@ -3090,12 +3106,13 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict - 03-35 the Main Reasons for Failure + 03-35 The Main Reasons for Failure https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-35-the-main-reasons-for-failure/ Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:23:39 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-35-the-main-reasons-for-failure/ - <p>There are two main reasons for failure. The first is the influence of external stimuli - a commercial, online news articles, internet browsing etc. At a weak moment or even during a social occasion somebody will get intimate with their partner. I have already dealt with this topic at length. Use that moment to remind yourself that there is no such thing as one visit or one peek. Rejoice in the fact that you have broken the chain of mental slavery. Remember that the PMOer envies you, and feel sorry for him. Believe me, he needs your pity. The other main reason for failure is having a bad day. Get it clear in your mind before you start that, whether you are a PMOer or a non-PMOer, there are good days and bad days. It rains for both the pope and the murderer.</p> + <p>The Main Reasons for Failure</p> +<p>There are two main reasons for failure. The first is the influence of external stimuli - a commercial, online news articles, internet browsing etc. At a weak moment or even during a social occasion somebody will get intimate with their partner. I have already dealt with this topic at length. Use that moment to remind yourself that there is no such thing as one visit or one peek. Rejoice in the fact that you have broken the chain of mental slavery. Remember that the PMOer envies you, and feel sorry for him. Believe me, he needs your pity. The other main reason for failure is having a bad day. Get it clear in your mind before you start that, whether you are a PMOer or a non-PMOer, there are good days and bad days. It rains for both the pope and the murderer.</p> <p>Life is a matter of relativity and you cannot have ups without having downs. The problem with the Willpower Method of stopping is that as soon as the PMOer has a bad day he starts moping for his ‘harem’ visit and all that does is make a bad day worse. The non-PMOer is better equipped, not only physically but also mentally, to cope with the stresses and strains of life. If you have a bad day during the withdrawal period just take it on the chin. Remind yourself that you had bad days when you were addicted (otherwise you wouldn&rsquo;t have decided to stop). Instead of moping about it, say to yourself something like, “OK, today&rsquo;s not so good but masturbating is not going to cure it. Tomorrow will be better and at least I have got a marvellous bonus at the moment. I have kicked that awful PMO habit.”</p> <p>When you are a PMOer you have to block your mind to the bad side of PMO. PMOer never have brain fog just “a bit down.” When you are having life’s inevitable troubles you want to PMO but are you happy and cheerful? Of course you aren&rsquo;t. Once you stop, the tendency is to blame everything that goes wrong in your life on the fact that you have stopped.</p> <p>Now if your work stresses you out you think, “At times like this I would have PMOed.” That&rsquo;s true but the important thing you forget is that the PMO didn&rsquo;t solve the problem and you are simply punishing yourself by moping for an illusory crutch. You are creating an impossible situation. You are miserable because you can&rsquo;t have the porn and masturbation yet you&rsquo;ll be even more miserable if you do. You know that you have made the correct decision by stopping PMO so why punish yourself by ever doubting the decision?</p> @@ -3110,7 +3127,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:22:12 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-34-will-it-be-harder-for-me/ - <p>The combinations of factors that will determine how easily each individual PMOer will quit are infinite. To start with, each of us has his own character, type of work, personal circumstances, timing, etc. Certain professions may make it harder than others but providing the brainwashing is removed it doesn&rsquo;t have to be so. A few individual examples will help.</p> + <h2 id="will-it-be-harder-for-me">Will It Be Harder for Me? <a class="anchor" href="#will-it-be-harder-for-me"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The combinations of factors that will determine how easily each individual PMOer will quit are infinite. To start with, each of us has his own character, type of work, personal circumstances, timing, etc. Certain professions may make it harder than others but providing the brainwashing is removed it doesn&rsquo;t have to be so. A few individual examples will help.</p> <p>It tends to be particularly difficult for members of the medical profession. We think it should be easier for doctors because they are more aware of the effects of ill- health and are seeing daily evidence of it. Although this supplies more forceful reasons for stopping, it doesn&rsquo;t make it any easier to do. The reasons are these:</p> <ol> <li>The constant awareness of the health risks creates fear which is one of the conditions under which we need to relieve our withdrawal pangs.</li> @@ -3129,7 +3148,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:20:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-33-just-one-peek/ - <p>This is the undoing of many PMOers who try to stop on the Willpower Method. They will go through three or four days and then have the odd peek or a PMO or two to tide them over. They do not realize the devastating effect this has on their morale.</p> + <h2 id="just-one-peek">Just One Peek <a class="anchor" href="#just-one-peek"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is the undoing of many PMOers who try to stop on the Willpower Method. They will go through three or four days and then have the odd peek or a PMO or two to tide them over. They do not realize the devastating effect this has on their morale.</p> <p>For most PMOers that first peek at the tube site harem was not as good as sex with a real person. The clips that are clean are far in between. This gives their conscious minds a boost. They think, “Good. That wasn&rsquo;t entirely all that enjoyable. I am losing the urge to PMO and I am not that much into the shocking stuff.” In fact, the reverse is the case. Get it clear in your mind - enjoyment of orgasm wasn&rsquo;t the reason why you hit porn. If PMOers were there for orgasm alone, they&rsquo;d never watch more than one clip. The only reason why you PMO was to feed that little monster. Just think: you had starved him for four days. How precious that one peek must have been to him. You are not aware of it in your conscious mind but the fix your body received will be communicated to your subconscious mind and all your sound preparation will be undermined. There will be a little voice at the back of your mind saying, “In spite of all the logic they are precious. I want another one.”</p> <p>That little peek has two damaging effects:</p> <ol> @@ -3148,7 +3169,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:16:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-32-the-withdrawal-period/ - <p>For up to three weeks after your last PMO session you may be subjected to withdrawal pangs. These consist of two quite separate factors:</p> + <h2 id="the-withdrawal-period">The Withdrawal Period <a class="anchor" href="#the-withdrawal-period"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>For up to three weeks after your last PMO session you may be subjected to withdrawal pangs. These consist of two quite separate factors:</p> <ol> <li>The withdrawal pangs of dopamine, that empty, insecure feeling, like a hunger, which PMOers identify as a craving or “something I must to do” feeling.</li> <li>The psychological trigger of certain external stimuli such as a commercial, online browsing, a telephone conversation etc.</li> @@ -3178,12 +3201,14 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict - 03-31 the Easy Way to Stop + 03-31 The Easy Way to Stop https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-31-the-easy-way-to-stop/ Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:07:43 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-31-the-easy-way-to-stop/ - <p>This chapter contains instructions about the easy way to stop PMO. Providing you follow the instructions, you will find that stopping ranges from relatively easy to enjoyable! But remember the definition of a brunette: “a girl who didn&rsquo;t read the instructions on the bottle.” It is ridiculously easy to stop PMO. All you have to do is two things:</p> + <h2 id="the-easy-way-to-stop">The Easy Way to Stop <a class="anchor" href="#the-easy-way-to-stop"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This chapter contains instructions about the easy way to stop PMO. Providing you follow the instructions, you will find that stopping ranges from relatively easy to enjoyable! But remember the definition of a brunette: “a girl who didn&rsquo;t read the instructions on the bottle.” It is ridiculously easy to stop PMO. All you have to do is two things:</p> <ol> <li>Make the decision that you are never going to PMO again.</li> <li>Don&rsquo;t mope about it. Rejoice.</li> @@ -3197,8 +3222,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict <p>Basically I said to myself, “Scores of people are stopping now and leading perfectly happy lives. I didn&rsquo;t need to do it before I started and I can remember having to work hard to get used to this filth. So why do I need to do it now?” In any event I didn&rsquo;t enjoy PMO, I hated the whole filthy ritual and I didn&rsquo;t want to spend the rest of my life being the slave of this disgusting porn addiction.</p> <p>I then said to myself:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<p><strong>“WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT. YOU HAVE COMPLETED YOUR LAST PMO VISIT”</strong></p> -</div> +<h3 id="whether-you-like-it-or-not-you-have-completed-your-last-pmo-visit">“WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT. YOU HAVE COMPLETED YOUR LAST PMO VISIT” <a class="anchor" href="#whether-you-like-it-or-not-you-have-completed-your-last-pmo-visit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>I knew, right from that point, that I would never PMO again. I wasn&rsquo;t expecting it to be easy; in fact, just the reverse. I fully believed that I was in for months of black depression and that I would spend the rest of my life having the occasional pang. Instead it has been absolute bliss right from the start.</p> <p>It took me a long time to work out why it had been so easy and why this time I hadn&rsquo;t suffered those terrifying withdrawal pangs. The reason is that they do not exist. It is the doubt and uncertainty that causes the pangs. The beautiful truth is: IT IS EASY TO STOP PMO. It is only the indecision and moping about it that makes it difficult. Even while they are addicted to porn, PMOers can go for relatively long periods at certain times in their lives without bothering about it. It is only when you want it but can&rsquo;t have one that you suffer.</p> <p>Therefore the key to making it easy is to make stopping certain and final. Not to hope but to know you have kicked it, having made the decision. Never to doubt or question it. In fact, just the reverse - always to rejoice about it. If you can be certain from the start, it will be easy. But how can you be certain from the start unless you know it is going to be easy? This is why the rest of the book is necessary. There are certain essential points and it is necessary to get them clear in your mind before you start:</p> @@ -3233,7 +3259,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:05:14 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-30-avoid-false-incentives/ - <p>Many PMOers, while trying to stop on the Willpower Method, attempt to increase their motivation by building up false incentives. There are many examples of this, a typical one is, “I will reward myself with a gift after no-PMO for a month.” This appears to be a logical and sensible approach but in fact it is false because any self-respecting PMOer would rather continue PMOing every day than receive a “self given gift.” In any case there is a doubt in the PMOer’s mind because not only will she have to abstain for thirty days but will she even enjoy the days without a PMO? Her only pleasure or crutch is taken away! All this does is to increase the size of the sacrifice that the PMOer feels she is making, which makes it even more precious in her mind.</p> + <h2 id="avoid-false-incentives">Avoid False Incentives <a class="anchor" href="#avoid-false-incentives"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Many PMOers, while trying to stop on the Willpower Method, attempt to increase their motivation by building up false incentives. There are many examples of this, a typical one is, “I will reward myself with a gift after no-PMO for a month.” This appears to be a logical and sensible approach but in fact it is false because any self-respecting PMOer would rather continue PMOing every day than receive a “self given gift.” In any case there is a doubt in the PMOer’s mind because not only will she have to abstain for thirty days but will she even enjoy the days without a PMO? Her only pleasure or crutch is taken away! All this does is to increase the size of the sacrifice that the PMOer feels she is making, which makes it even more precious in her mind.</p> <p>Other examples: “I&rsquo;ll stop PMO so that I will force myself to get a social life and seek more sex in real life” OR “I’ll stop so some magical energy will help me to leap above the competitors and get this woman I pursue” OR “I commit to not waste my energy and enthusiasm in PMO, so I can grow enough hunger in myself.” These are true and can be effective and you may end up getting what you want. But think about it for a second - if you do get what you had wanted, once the novelty has gone you will feel deprived - if you didn’t then you will feel miserable and either way sooner or later you will fall for the trap again.</p> <p>Another typical example is online or forum pacts. These have the advantage of eliminating temptation for certain periods. However, they generally fail for the following reasons:</p> <ol> @@ -3244,9 +3272,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict </ol> <p>Stop kidding yourself. If the job offer that I mentioned before, of 10 months work for 12 months salary a year won&rsquo;t stop him. Or if the risks of cutting down your brain’s capacity to cope with just any normal day-to-day stress and strains or if putting yourself at odds with having a reliable erection, or if the lifetime of mental and physical torture and slavery did not stop him or her - the above said few phoney incentives will not make the slightest bit of difference. They will only make the sacrifice appear worse. Instead concentrate on the other side:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"><strong>“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?”</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"> +<h2 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo">“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?” <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> +</a></h2></div> <p>Keep looking at the other side of the tug of war. What is PMOing doing for me? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Why do I need to do it? YOU DON&rsquo;T! YOU ARE ONLY PUNISHING YOURSELF. Try looking at it from the Pascal’s Wager perspective. You have almost nothing to lose (a rub-out with half arousals) for sure, chances of big profits (a full and reliable arousal, mental well being and happiness) and no chance of losing big (unreliable full arousals, premature ejaculations, fading penetrations, loss of general impulse controls, lower tolerance for frustrations and anger).</p> <p>Why not declare your quitting to friends and family? Well, it will make you a proud ex-addict, ex-PMOer, not an elated and happy non-PMOer. It will scare your partner a bit since they may see this as an effort to have more sex, sort of a new-age thing. They may also fear to lose you if this turns you into sex machine. It is hard to explain to them unless they are open minded.</p> <p>Any attempt to get others to help you in your quitting gives more power to the little monster of addiction. Pushing it from your mind and totally ignoring it has the effect of trying NOT to think of it. As soon as you spot the thoughts, when you hit the cues (home alone) or just absent minded thoughts - just say to yourself: “Great, I don’t have to do it like a slave animal. I am free. I am happy to know the differences in sex.” This will cut the life of the thought and will deny oxygen to it and will stop it from burning towards urges and cravings.</p> @@ -3259,7 +3287,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:03:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-29-can-i-compartmentalize/ - <p>This is another myth about PMOing spread mainly by PMOers who, when attempting to stop on the Willpower Method, substitute mental gymnastics - they propose to act -Jekyll and Hyde: “Porn is for my alter ego side and real life romance is for my relationship side.” Nothing is further from the truth. The porn waterslides - the deltaFosBs and all the brain changes are going to overrun the real life romance and will make it less desirable. Mr Hyde is most definitely going to overrule Dr. Jekyll’s instructions.</p> + <h2 id="can-i-compartmentalize">Can I Compartmentalize? <a class="anchor" href="#can-i-compartmentalize"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is another myth about PMOing spread mainly by PMOers who, when attempting to stop on the Willpower Method, substitute mental gymnastics - they propose to act -Jekyll and Hyde: “Porn is for my alter ego side and real life romance is for my relationship side.” Nothing is further from the truth. The porn waterslides - the deltaFosBs and all the brain changes are going to overrun the real life romance and will make it less desirable. Mr Hyde is most definitely going to overrule Dr. Jekyll’s instructions.</p> <p>If you use internet porn, you may be training yourself for the role of voyeur or to need the option of clicking to something more arousing at the least drop in your dopamine levels, or to search and search for just the right scene for maximum effect. Also, you may be masturbating in a hunched-over position – or watching your smartphone in bed nightly. You will eventually desire those cues more than the real life action. The thing that goes against real sex is the lack of novelty, variety, ‘harem’ like 24/7 quick delivery etc. and so it stands no chance compared to your online harem. The younger you were when you started on PMO the longer to rewire and break down those ‘porn water slides’ and get back those ‘real water slides’ if there were any from the past or create new ones. Also powerful and lasting are the associated memories from when you were young.</p> <p>Every time you take a ride on the ‘porn water slide’ you are ‘greasing’ it - keeping the nerves fresh. When you park next to a fast food restaurant the smell of the fries floats from the pan into your nostrils and the sale was already made. Likewise, the porn water slides in your brain are there for you to get sucked in and they are open 24 hours a day. Each of these cues, or triggers, can now light up your reward circuit with the promise of sex&hellip; only it isn&rsquo;t sex. Nevertheless, nerve cells may solidify these associations with sexual arousal by sprouting new branches to strengthen the connections. The more you use porn the stronger the nerve connections can become, with the result that you may ultimately need to be a voyeur, need to click to new material, need to climax to porn to get to sleep, or need to search for the perfect ending just to get the job done.</p> <p>As with any substance or behavioural drug, after a while the body becomes immune and the “drug” ceases to relieve the withdrawal pangs completely. As soon as we close a session, the addict wants another one very soon and he has a permanent hunger. The natural inclination is eventually to ‘escalate’ just to get the dopamine rush. However, most PMOers are prevented from doing this for one, or both, of two reasons.</p> @@ -3279,7 +3309,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:01:03 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-28-will-i-miss-the-fun/ - <p>No! Once that little porn monster is dead and your body stops craving dopamine and the porn water slides in your brain start to fade due to lack of ‘greasing’, any remaining brainwashing will vanish and you will find yourself both physically and mentally better equipped not only to cope with the stresses and strains of life but to enjoy the good times to the full.</p> + <h2 id="will-i-miss-the-fun">Will I Miss the Fun? <a class="anchor" href="#will-i-miss-the-fun"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>No! Once that little porn monster is dead and your body stops craving dopamine and the porn water slides in your brain start to fade due to lack of ‘greasing’, any remaining brainwashing will vanish and you will find yourself both physically and mentally better equipped not only to cope with the stresses and strains of life but to enjoy the good times to the full.</p> <p>There is only one danger and that is the influence of those who still use sex as their lying crutch and damned pleasure. “The other man&rsquo;s grass is always greener,” is commonplace in many aspects of our lives and is easily understandable. Why is it in the case of PMOing, where the disadvantages are so enormous as compared with even the illusory ‘advantages,’ that the ex-PMOer tend to envy the man or woman who appears to demand sex and use porn for pleasure and a crutch?</p> <p>With all the brainwashing of our childhood it is quite understandable that we fall into the trap. Why is it that, once we realize what a mug&rsquo;s game it is and many of us manage to kick the habit, we walk straight back into the same trap? It is the influence of society&rsquo;s brainwashing of porn being conflated with sex and presented as normal. The ex-PMOer has a pang! The insecure void feelings of them being single, which in itself is not a crime anyway, causes anxiety and cues them to PMO water slide. This is indeed a curious anomaly, particularly if you consider this piece of observation: not only is every non-PMOer in the world happy to be a non-PMOer but every PMOer in the world, even with his warped, addicted, brainwashed mind suffering the delusion that he enjoys it or it relaxes him, wishes he had never become hooked in the first place. So why do some ex-PMOers envy the PMOer on these occasions? There are two reasons.</p> <ol> @@ -3310,7 +3342,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:55:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-27-timing/ - <p>Apart from the obvious point that as it is doing you no good, now is the right time to stop. I believe timing is important. Our society treats internet porn flippantly as a slightly distasteful habit that can not injure your health. It is not. It is drug addiction, a disease and a destroyer of relationships in society. The worst thing that happens in most PMOer’s lives is getting hooked on that awful addiction. If they stay hooked, horrendous things happen. Timing is important to give yourself the right to a proper cure.</p> + <h2 id="timing">Timing <a class="anchor" href="#timing"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Apart from the obvious point that as it is doing you no good, now is the right time to stop. I believe timing is important. Our society treats internet porn flippantly as a slightly distasteful habit that can not injure your health. It is not. It is drug addiction, a disease and a destroyer of relationships in society. The worst thing that happens in most PMOer’s lives is getting hooked on that awful addiction. If they stay hooked, horrendous things happen. Timing is important to give yourself the right to a proper cure.</p> <p>First of all, identify the times or occasions when PMO appears to be important to you. If you are a businessman and use it for the illusion of relief of stress, pick a relatively slack period; a good idea is to choose your annual holiday. If you PMO mainly during boring or relaxing periods, weekends etc. do the opposite. In any event, take the matter seriously and make the attempt the most important thing in your life.</p> <p>Look ahead for a period of about three weeks and try to anticipate any event that might lead to failure. Occasions like a conference trip, partner out of town etc. need not deter you, providing you anticipate them in advance and do not feel you will be deprived. Do not attempt to cut down in the meantime as this will only create the illusion that being denied is enjoyable. In fact, it helps to force yourself to watch and have as many PMO sessions as possible. While you are having the last session and that last time, be conscious of the disappointment due to satiation, unfulfilled expectations (porn can never satisfy you), any bodily pain or pain in the genitals, the withdrawal effects, the peevishness and the melancholy. Think how marvellous it will be when you allow yourself to stop doing it.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> @@ -3347,7 +3381,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:54:03 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-26-a-social-habit/ - <p>Health of mind and body are the main reason why we should want to stop but then they always have been. We do not actually need scientific research and knowledge in brain chemistry to tell us that internet porn is addictive and can potentially shatter our lives. These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on the planet and any PMOer knows instantly, from the first session, that the stimulus can go to excess and it can turn poisonous.</p> + <h2 id="a-social-habit">A Social Habit? <a class="anchor" href="#a-social-habit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Health of mind and body are the main reason why we should want to stop but then they always have been. We do not actually need scientific research and knowledge in brain chemistry to tell us that internet porn is addictive and can potentially shatter our lives. These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on the planet and any PMOer knows instantly, from the first session, that the stimulus can go to excess and it can turn poisonous.</p> <p>The only reason why we ever get involved with internet porn is the PMO’s overlap with their evolutionary brain programming. Porn is available for free and it gets streamed 24 hours a day. No risk and no traces and with very high brain rewards. Porn was once considered as harmless but that was when the images were static and involved a trip to the local store for a VHS tape.</p> <p>Today it is generally considered even by PMOers themselves to be a supra-stimulus and addiction forming. In the old days, the strong man did not admit he masturbated. Jerk is a derogatory term. In every pub or club bar the majority of men would be proudly wanting to take a woman home and have real sex. Today the position is completely reversed for the internet porn addicts. Today&rsquo;s man realizes that he is starting to feel that he doesn&rsquo;t need a woman. This scares him. He bands together online and starts discussing experiences, devise strategies and explore options. Today&rsquo;s strong man does not want to depend on drugs. With the social revolution all PMOers nowadays are giving serious thought to stopping internet porn and masturbation. Today&rsquo;s PMOers consider PMO as an useless and harmful activity.</p> <p>The most significant trend that I have noticed in forums is the increasing emphasis on the anti-social aspect of PMOing. The days when a man boasted of having sex and orgasms every day is slowly getting replaced with, “why do I need to be a slave for this porn monster when I know ‘it’ is controlling my wand (and mind)?”</p> @@ -3365,7 +3401,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:51:35 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-25-the-youtube-pmoer/ - <p>The YouTube PMOer should be grouped with casual PMOers but the effects of a YouTube PMOer are so insidious that it merits a separate chapter. It can lead to the breakdown of personal self control. In one case it nearly caused a split for a No-Fap forum user.</p> + <h2 id="the-youtube-pmoer">The YouTube PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-youtube-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The YouTube PMOer should be grouped with casual PMOers but the effects of a YouTube PMOer are so insidious that it merits a separate chapter. It can lead to the breakdown of personal self control. In one case it nearly caused a split for a No-Fap forum user.</p> <blockquote> <p><em>“I was three weeks into one of my failed attempts to stop. The attempt had been triggered off by my wife&rsquo;s worry about my unreliable hard-ons and lack of interest. I had told her that it was not her and it was just job pressure. She said, &lsquo;I know you had handled the work pressure before but how would you feel if you were me and had to watch someone you love systematically destroying themselves?’ It was an argument that I found irresistible, hence the attempt to stop. She knows that I am not cheating - but this in a way is as worse as that (sic). The attempt ended after three weeks after a heated argument with an old friend. It did not register until years afterwards that my devious mind had deliberately triggered off the argument. I felt justly aggrieved at the time but I do not believe that it was coincidence, as I had never argued with this particular friend before, nor have I since. It was clearly the little monster at work. Anyway, I had my excuse. I desperately needed a release of orgasm and it doesn’t matter how. As it happens she was not in the mood right away and I was in an “entitlement” hurry. So I convinced myself that it is OK if I ‘restrict’ myself by avoiding a porn site and just stay this side of the ‘red line’ and watch only YouTube videos. But she ‘came around’ as the night unfolded and wanted to make love. But I was tired and not with all my ‘horsepower.’ I then invented a headache. I could not bear to think of the disappointment this would cause my wife. Then gradually I returned to the old ways, only YouTube became my new harem destination. I remember being quite pleased at the time. I thought, &lsquo;well, at least it is cutting my consumption down;’ Eventually she accused me of continuing to ignore her in the bed. I had not realized it but she described the times I had caused an argument and stormed out of the house. At other times I had taken two hours to purchase some minor item and faked a sprain or something. I had made feeble excuses to cop out of the whole wooing her and etc. when I have a reliable online harem it is even more hard.”</em></p> </blockquote> @@ -3385,7 +3423,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:40:22 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-24-casual-pmoers-teenagers-non-pmoers/ - <p>Heavy PMOers tend to envy the casual porn user. We&rsquo;ve all met these characters: “Oh, I can go all week without a PMO, it really doesn&rsquo;t bother me.” We think: “I wish I were like that!” I know this is hard to believe but no PMOer enjoys being a PMOer. Never forget:</p> + <h2 id="casual-pmoers-teenagers-non-pmoers">Casual PMOers, Teenagers, Non PMOers <a class="anchor" href="#casual-pmoers-teenagers-non-pmoers"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Heavy PMOers tend to envy the casual porn user. We&rsquo;ve all met these characters: “Oh, I can go all week without a PMO, it really doesn&rsquo;t bother me.” We think: “I wish I were like that!” I know this is hard to believe but no PMOer enjoys being a PMOer. Never forget:</p> <ul> <li>No PMOer ever decided to become a PMOer casual or otherwise, therefore:</li> <li>All PMOers feel stupid, therefore:</li> @@ -3423,7 +3463,7 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> </a></h3><p>(Or, “I can stop whenever I want to. I have done it thousands of times”). If he thinks dieting helps with his moods to ‘get out to get women,’ why is he even on the diet of once every four days? How can one predict the future, what if the happenstance of meeting occurred just an hour after your scheduled PMO session? Also, if he thinks this occasional “cleaning the plumbing” is good to relieve tension and relax why not plumb every day? It has been proven that masturbation is not required to keep the genitals healthy. Internet porn is not required at all. Even if that may be the case, any PUA guru who has read about the brain chemistry and its plasticity will never recommend watching super stimulus porn. The truth is he is still hooked. Although he gets rid of the physical addiction, he is left with the main problem - the brainwashing. He hopes each time that he will stop for good and soon falls for the same trap again.</p> <p>Many PMOers actually envy these stoppers and starters. They think, “how lucky to be able to control it like that, to do PMO when you want to and stop when you want to,” What they always overlook is that these stoppers and starters aren&rsquo;t controlling it. When they are PMOers, they wish they weren&rsquo;t. They go through the hassle of stopping, then begin to feel deprived and fall for the trap again, then wish they hadn&rsquo;t. They get the worst of both worlds. If you think about it, this is true in the lives of the PMOers. When we are allowed to PMO we either take it as entitled or wish we didn&rsquo;t. It&rsquo;s only when we can&rsquo;t have PMO that it appears to be so precious. The ‘forbidden fruit syndrome’. This is the awful dilemma of PMOers. They can never win because they are moping for a myth, an illusion. There is one way they can win and that is to stop PMOing and stop moping!</p> -<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC/TAME/HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer"> +<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-static--tame--home-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC / TAME / HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-only-pmo-to-static--tame--home-made-porn-pmoer"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> </a></h3><p>Yes, we all do it to start with but isn&rsquo;t it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner&rsquo;s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes&hellip; you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one.</p> <h3 id="the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer">THE I-HAVE-STOPPED-BUT-I-HAVE-AN-OCCASIONAL-PEEK PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer"> @@ -3471,7 +3511,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:35:22 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-23-just-one-peek/ - <p>“Just one peek” is a myth you must get out of your mind:</p> + <h2 id="just-one-peek">Just One Peek <a class="anchor" href="#just-one-peek"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>“Just one peek” is a myth you must get out of your mind:</p> <ul> <li>It is just one peek that gets us started in the first place.</li> <li>It is just one peek to tide us over a difficult patch or on a special occasion that defeats most of our attempts to stop.</li> @@ -3510,7 +3552,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:28:58 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-22-beware-of-cutting-down/ - <p>Many PMOers resort to cutting down either as a stepping-stone towards stopping or as an attempt to control the little monster. Many recommend cutting down or a ‘porn diet’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> as a pick-me-up. Obviously, the less you PMO the better off you are but as a stepping-stone to stopping, cutting down is fatal. It is these attempts to cut down that keep us trapped all our lives.</p> + <h2 id="beware-of-cutting-down">Beware of Cutting Down <a class="anchor" href="#beware-of-cutting-down"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Many PMOers resort to cutting down either as a stepping-stone towards stopping or as an attempt to control the little monster. Many recommend cutting down or a ‘porn diet’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> as a pick-me-up. Obviously, the less you PMO the better off you are but as a stepping-stone to stopping, cutting down is fatal. It is these attempts to cut down that keep us trapped all our lives.</p> <p>Usually cutting down follows failed attempts to stop. After a few hours or days of abstinence the PMOer says to himself something like:</p> <blockquote> <p><em>“I cannot face the thought of going to sleep without visiting my online harem, so from now on I will just PMO once in four days or I will purge my collection of ‘bad’ porn. If I can follow this ‘porn diet’, I can either hold it there or cut down further.”</em></p> @@ -3561,12 +3605,14 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p - 03-21 the Willpower Method of Stopping + 03-21 The Willpower Method of Stopping https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-21-the-willpower-method-of-stopping/ Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:20:42 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-21-the-willpower-method-of-stopping/ - <p>It is an accepted fact in our society that it is very difficult to stop PMO. Even books and forums advising you how to do so usually start off by telling you how difficult it is. The truth is that it is ridiculously easy. Yes, I can understand you questioning that statement but just consider it. If your aim is to run a mile in under four minutes, that&rsquo;s difficult. You may have to undergo years of hard training and even then you may be physically incapable of doing it. (Much of our achievement lies in the mind. Isn&rsquo;t it strange how difficult it was until Roger Bannister actually did it but nowadays it is commonplace?).</p> + <h2 id="the-willpower-method-of-stopping">The Willpower Method of Stopping <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method-of-stopping"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>It is an accepted fact in our society that it is very difficult to stop PMO. Even books and forums advising you how to do so usually start off by telling you how difficult it is. The truth is that it is ridiculously easy. Yes, I can understand you questioning that statement but just consider it. If your aim is to run a mile in under four minutes, that&rsquo;s difficult. You may have to undergo years of hard training and even then you may be physically incapable of doing it. (Much of our achievement lies in the mind. Isn&rsquo;t it strange how difficult it was until Roger Bannister actually did it but nowadays it is commonplace?).</p> <p>However, in order to stop PMOing all you have to do is not watch internet porn and or masturbate any more. No one forces you to masturbate (apart from yourself) and unlike food or drink, you don&rsquo;t need it to survive. So if you want to stop doing it, why should it be difficult? In fact, it isn&rsquo;t. It is PMOers who make it difficult by using the Willpower Method. I define the Willpower Method as any method that forces the PMOer to feel he is making some sort of sacrifice. Let us just consider the Willpower Method.</p> <p>We do not decide to become PMOers. We merely experiment with porn magazines or websites and because they are awful, yes that is right – awful - except for our desired clip, we are convinced that we can stop whenever we want to. In the main, we watch those first few clips only when we want to and that is usually on special occasions. Before we realize it, we are not only visiting those sites regularly and masturbating when we want to, we are masturbating to them every day. PMO has become a part of our lives. We then ensure that we always have an internet connection wherever we go. We believe that we are entitled to love, sex and orgasms - and also that porn helps to relieve stress. It doesn&rsquo;t seem to occur to us that the same clip and actors do not provide us the same degree of arousal and that we are either escalating or fighting against the ‘red line’ we have put around ourselves to avoid harmful “bad porn.” In fact, masturbation and internet porn neither improves our sex life nor does it relieve stress, it&rsquo;s just that PMOers believe they can&rsquo;t enjoy life or handle stress without an orgasm - even mind induced porn orgasms. Because that is what many times we are doing.</p> <p>It usually takes us a long time to realize that we are hooked because we suffer from the illusion that PMOers masturbate because they enjoy porn - not because they have to have porn - a need. While we are not “enjoying” porn (which we can never do unless novelty, shock or escalation is added), we suffer from the illusion that we can stop whenever we want to. This is a confidence trap. I don’t enjoy porn, so I am sure I can stop when I want to. Only that you never seem to ‘want’ to stop though.</p> @@ -3630,7 +3676,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:18:55 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-20-those-sinister-black-shadows/ - <p>Another of the great joys of quitting porn is to be free of those sinister black shadows at the back of our minds. All PMOers know they are fools to close their minds on the ill-effects of PMO. For most of our lives PMO is automatic but the black shadows are always lurking in our subconscious minds, just beneath the surface. There are several marvellous advantages to achieve from quitting PMO. Some of them I was consciously aware of throughout my life, such as the health risks, the waste of time and the sheer stupidity of making love to a two dimensional image. However, such was my fear of quitting, so obsessed was I in resisting all the attempts of do-gooders and anyone else who tried to persuade me to quit, that all my imagination and energy was directed to finding any flimsy excuse that would allow me to continue to PMO.</p> + <h2 id="those-sinister-black-shadows">Those Sinister Black Shadows <a class="anchor" href="#those-sinister-black-shadows"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Another of the great joys of quitting porn is to be free of those sinister black shadows at the back of our minds. All PMOers know they are fools to close their minds on the ill-effects of PMO. For most of our lives PMO is automatic but the black shadows are always lurking in our subconscious minds, just beneath the surface. There are several marvellous advantages to achieve from quitting PMO. Some of them I was consciously aware of throughout my life, such as the health risks, the waste of time and the sheer stupidity of making love to a two dimensional image. However, such was my fear of quitting, so obsessed was I in resisting all the attempts of do-gooders and anyone else who tried to persuade me to quit, that all my imagination and energy was directed to finding any flimsy excuse that would allow me to continue to PMO.</p> <p>Amazingly, my most ingenious thoughts occurred when I was actually trying to quit. They were of course inspired by the fear and misery I suffered when attempting to quit by using willpower. No way could I block my mind from the health and sexual aspects. But now that I am free it amazes me how I successfully blocked my mind from even more important advantages to be gained from quitting. I&rsquo;ve already mentioned the sheer slavery - spending half of our lives being allowed to PMO, doing it automatically and wishing we had never started, the other half feeling miserable and deprived because the knowledge of the destructive effects of internet porn won&rsquo;t allow us to PMO. In the last chapter I&rsquo;ve referred to the incredible joy of having energy again. But for me the greatest joy of being free was not the health, the time, the energy, or the ending of the slavery, it was the removal of those sinister black shadows, the removal of feeling despised by and feeling apologetic to myself and to other quitters, and most of all to be able to respect yourself.</p> <p>Most PMOers aren&rsquo;t the weak-willed, spineless jellyfish that both society and themselves tend to believe. In every other aspect of my life I was in control. I loathed myself for being dependent on an evil crutch that I knew was ruining my life. I cannot tell you of the utter joy of being free of those sinister black shadows, the dependency and the self-despising. I can&rsquo;t tell you how nice it is to be able to look at all other users, whether they be young, old, casual or heavy, not with a feeling of envy, but with a feeling of pity for them and elation for yourself that you are no longer the slave of that insidious trap. The other day I felt pity for the guy on a TV show who was so excited to get to watch porn - another case of society slipping one in your drink under the pretence of comedy.</p> <p>The last two chapters have dealt with the considerable advantages of being a non-PMOer. I feel it necessary to give a balanced account, so the next chapter lists the advantages of being a PMOer.</p> @@ -3643,7 +3691,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:16:17 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-19-it-relaxes-me-and-gives-me-confidence/ - <p>This is the worst fallacy of all about PMOing and for me it ranks with the ending of the slavery, the greatest benefit from quitting - is not to have to go through life with the permanent feelings of insecurity that PMOers suffer from.</p> + <h2 id="it-relaxes-me-and-gives-me-confidence">It Relaxes Me and Gives Me Confidence <a class="anchor" href="#it-relaxes-me-and-gives-me-confidence"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is the worst fallacy of all about PMOing and for me it ranks with the ending of the slavery, the greatest benefit from quitting - is not to have to go through life with the permanent feelings of insecurity that PMOers suffer from.</p> <p>PMOers find it very difficult to believe that masturbation to internet porn actually causes those insecure feelings you get when you are out late at night after a contentious day at home or work. Non-PMOers do not suffer from that feeling. It is the porn that causes it. I only became aware of many of the advantages of stopping months afterwards, as a result of my consultations with other PMOers.</p> <p>I refused to see my PMO as causing so much of the mental tug of war in my mind that I am foolishly working hard to have nominal levels of confidence in my day to day life. Forget about getting an erection, I am talking about focusing, taking challenges, fighting, choosing, deciding - actions that define our lives. Especially when we are often forced to act when the facts are not clear. Come to think of it, facts were and will never be clear and hence it is to our great advantage anyway to act.</p> <p>Also of note is in dating area as well, the fire to go forward is being misappropriated to this ‘high reward zero pain’ porn. If you have read some top PUA books and forums, what do they say? Go on a ‘diet<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>’? Yes of course when you have the good hunger your internal juices and your brain will do the rest. Copping out is not an option at all. Playing the numbers is not tiresome by no means. All PUA advice in a nut-shell is this - try more numbers. Even if your approach is wrong you will be right twice a day like a broken clock. But if your mind is fighting a tug of war with effortless easy access to a harem of online women, how would you get back on your feet when that girl ignores you? Oh, if it was a public outright rejection I am running, not walking, to my porn girlfriend.</p> @@ -3665,7 +3715,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:12:56 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-18-energy/ - <p>Most PMOers are aware of the effect that this progressive process of PMO, leading to novelty and escalation seeking, has on their brain’s reward circuits and their sexual system. However, they are not so aware of the effect it has on their energy level.</p> + <h2 id="energy">Energy <a class="anchor" href="#energy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Most PMOers are aware of the effect that this progressive process of PMO, leading to novelty and escalation seeking, has on their brain’s reward circuits and their sexual system. However, they are not so aware of the effect it has on their energy level.</p> <p>One of the subtleties of the PMO trap is that the effects it has on us, both physical and mental, happen so gradually and imperceptibly that we are not aware of them and regard them as normal. It is very similar to the effects of bad eating habits. The pot-belly appears so gradually that it causes us no alarm. We look at people who are grossly overweight and wonder how they could possibly have allowed themselves to reach that state.</p> <p>But supposing it happened overnight. You went to bed weighing 140 lbs, trim, rippling with muscles and not an ounce of fat on your body. You awoke weighing 180 lbs, fat, bloated and pot-bellied. Instead of waking up feeling fully rested and full of energy, you wake up feeling miserable, lethargic and you can hardly open your eyes. You would be panic-stricken, wondering what awful disease you had contracted overnight. Yet the disease is exactly the same.</p> <p>The fact that it took you twenty years to reach that state is irrelevant. So it is with PMOing. If I could immediately transfer you into your mind and body to give you a direct comparison on how you would feel having stopped internet porn for just three weeks, that is all I would need to do to persuade you to quit. You would think: “Will I really feel this good?” Or what it really amounts to: “Had I really sunk that low?” I emphasize that I don&rsquo;t just mean that you would feel healthier and have more energy but how you would also feel more confident and relaxed and better able to concentrate.</p> @@ -3683,7 +3735,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 12:12:31 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-17-health/ - <p>This is the area where the brainwashing is the greatest. PMOers, especially the young and single, think they are aware of the health risks. They are not. Even in my case, when I was expecting my head to explode any moment and honestly believed I was prepared to accept the consequences, I was still kidding myself. I didn&rsquo;t in those days have an app that started a red beeper to flash and sound every time my internet router hits a porn site, followed by a warning voice saying, “OK, this is the one!” Fortunately you do get a warning, and this is it. That warning would say, “Up to now you have got away with it but if you stay another minute your head will explode,” do you think I would have PMOed?</p> + <h2 id="health">Health <a class="anchor" href="#health"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is the area where the brainwashing is the greatest. PMOers, especially the young and single, think they are aware of the health risks. They are not. Even in my case, when I was expecting my head to explode any moment and honestly believed I was prepared to accept the consequences, I was still kidding myself. I didn&rsquo;t in those days have an app that started a red beeper to flash and sound every time my internet router hits a porn site, followed by a warning voice saying, “OK, this is the one!” Fortunately you do get a warning, and this is it. That warning would say, “Up to now you have got away with it but if you stay another minute your head will explode,” do you think I would have PMOed?</p> <p>If you are in doubt about the answer just try walking up to a cliff, stand on the edge with your eyes closed and imagine you then have the choice of either quitting PMO or walking up blindfolded before your next PMO.</p> <p>There is no doubt what your choice would be. I had been doing what every internet porn PMOer does all his life: closing my mind and keeping my head in the sand, hoping that I would wake up one morning and just not want to PMO any more. PMOers cannot allow themselves to think of the health risks. If they do, even the illusion of enjoying the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; goes.</p> <p>This explains why a shock treatment is so ineffective in the first stages of quitting. It is only non-users who can bring themselves to read the destructive brain changes. It also explains why PMOers, influenced by their little monster, wrongly recall that filthy room mate who PMOed everyday and was still remaining ‘horny’ 24 hours a day – they will ignore the thousands of people who are brought “down” in their prime because of this poisonous ‘habit’.</p> @@ -3794,7 +3848,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 12:08:55 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-16-i-will-save-x-hours-a-week/ - <p>I cannot repeat too often that it is brainwashing that makes it difficult to stop PMOing. So, the + <h2 id="i-will-save-x-hours-a-week">I Will Save X Hours a Week <a class="anchor" href="#i-will-save-x-hours-a-week"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>I cannot repeat too often that it is brainwashing that makes it difficult to stop PMOing. So, the more brainwashing we can dispel before we start, the easier you will find it to achieve your goal. Occasionally I get into arguments with people whom I call “confirmed PMOers.” By my definition a confirmed PMOer is somebody who doesn&rsquo;t believe PMO has any negative effect on his health @@ -3831,7 +3887,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 12:06:39 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-15-self-imposed-slavery/ - <p>Usually when PMOers try to stop the main reasons given are health, religion and partner stigma. Part of the brainwashing of this awful drug is the sheer slavery. Man fought hard in the last century to abolish slavery and yet the PMOer spends his life suffering self-imposed slavery. He seems to be oblivious to the fact that when he is allowed to PMO he wishes that he were a non-PMOer. With most of the masturbation we do in our lives, not only do we not enjoy them but we aren&rsquo;t even aware that we are masturbating. It is only after a period of abstinence that we actually suffer the delusion of enjoying PMO (e.g. the first day after a 4 day abstinence with the intent of rebooting etc.). The only time that the porn becomes precious is when we are &rsquo;trying&rsquo; to cut down or abstain or when abstinence is forced on us (e.g. when on a business trips, holiday trips to locations where the Internet is not available and so on).</p> + <h2 id="self-imposed-slavery">Self-Imposed Slavery <a class="anchor" href="#self-imposed-slavery"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Usually when PMOers try to stop the main reasons given are health, religion and partner stigma. Part of the brainwashing of this awful drug is the sheer slavery. Man fought hard in the last century to abolish slavery and yet the PMOer spends his life suffering self-imposed slavery. He seems to be oblivious to the fact that when he is allowed to PMO he wishes that he were a non-PMOer. With most of the masturbation we do in our lives, not only do we not enjoy them but we aren&rsquo;t even aware that we are masturbating. It is only after a period of abstinence that we actually suffer the delusion of enjoying PMO (e.g. the first day after a 4 day abstinence with the intent of rebooting etc.). The only time that the porn becomes precious is when we are &rsquo;trying&rsquo; to cut down or abstain or when abstinence is forced on us (e.g. when on a business trips, holiday trips to locations where the Internet is not available and so on).</p> <p>The confirmed PMOer should bear in mind that more studies and even more people are coming out and talking about the ill effects of internet porn. This trend will get “worse and worse.” Today, it is non-medical people talking. Tomorrow, it will be in your doctor’s list of diagnostic tests to perform. Gone are the days when the PMOer can hide behind “just a bit of downtime due to work stress” in his or her sex life. Your partner is going to ask you why you are on your laptop at this time too late into the night. The poor PMOer, who was already feeling wretched, wants the ground to open up and swallow him.</p> <p>I remember every time my partner stayed up late it was an ordeal waiting to open up my laptop. When on business trips the dinner with the clients and colleagues dragged on or was I just going through the natural ups and downs in human interactions? What was I doing? I was thinking, “let&rsquo;s get on with it, so that I can get over with this and go to my room for some porn.” I have thought many times, “am I not lucky? I have got my little reward. The poor non-PMOer with no internet access somewhere in an Amish village hasn&rsquo;t got a reward.” The &lsquo;poor&rsquo; non-PMOer doesn&rsquo;t need a reward. We were not designed to go through life systematically flooding our brains with dopamine and opioids. The pathetic thing is that even when masturbating with internet porn the PMOer doesn&rsquo;t achieve those feelings of peace, confidence and tranquillity that the non-PMOer has experienced for the whole of his non-PMO life. The non-PMOer isn&rsquo;t sitting in the family room, feeling agitated and wishing his life away. He can enjoy the whole of his life.</p> <p>No, this wasn&rsquo;t a fourteen-year-old schoolboy but a forty-year-old professional. How pathetic. I wouldn&rsquo;t admit to myself that I wasn&rsquo;t enjoying it. I was looking for the right clip and/or pictures to reach orgasm or better, edge forever. I don&rsquo;t know what I am supposed to be &lsquo;watching&rsquo; sometimes. That is the confusing part. The &rsquo;edging&rsquo; and then the orgasm floods my brain. Yet this was supposed to be my way of relaxing and enjoying my “favourite hobby.”</p> @@ -3845,7 +3903,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:49:35 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-14-what-am-i-giving-up/ - <p>ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! The thing that makes it difficult for us to give up is fear. The fear that we are being deprived of our pleasure or prop. The fear that certain pleasant situations will never be quite the same again. The fear of being unable to cope with stressful situations. In other words, the effect of brainwashing is to delude us into believing that sex and by extension orgasm, is a must for all human beings. Or that there is something inherent in Internet porn that we need and that when we stop PMOing we will be self-denying ourselves and there will be a void.</p> + <h2 id="what-am-i-giving-up">What Am I Giving Up? <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-giving-up"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! The thing that makes it difficult for us to give up is fear. The fear that we are being deprived of our pleasure or prop. The fear that certain pleasant situations will never be quite the same again. The fear of being unable to cope with stressful situations. In other words, the effect of brainwashing is to delude us into believing that sex and by extension orgasm, is a must for all human beings. Or that there is something inherent in Internet porn that we need and that when we stop PMOing we will be self-denying ourselves and there will be a void.</p> <blockquote> <p>Get it clear in your mind:</p> </blockquote> @@ -3866,18 +3926,14 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> </blockquote> <p>These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on this planet. Whether you believe in a creator, a process of natural selection or a combination of both, whatever being or system devised these bodies of ours, it is a thousand times more effective than man! Man cannot create the smallest living cell, let alone the miracle of eyesight, reproduction, our circulatory system or our brains. We don’t have our systems upgraded yet to properly assess the supranormal stimulus such as rich high density food or high speed internet novelty porn with multiple active windows.</p> <p>If the creator or process had intended us to handle novelty triggering stimuli, we would have been provided with some other brain reward circuits. Our bodies are, in fact, provided with fail-safe warning devices and we ignore these at our peril. Excessive edging results in body pain, irritation, and inflammation. In women, excessive flooding of dopamine and stress enzymes such as prostaglandin-E2 can cause difficulty to orgasm and PME.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up"><strong>There Is Nothing To Give Up</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#there-is-nothing-to-give-up"> +<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up">There Is Nothing To Give Up <a class="anchor" href="#there-is-nothing-to-give-up"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h2></div> -<p>The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.</p> +</a></h2><p>The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.</p> <p>The problem I have is to make a convincing point as I’d have done for, let us say&hellip; smokers? All of us have seen smokers who develop excuses to sneak off for a crafty puff. It is easy to see the true addiction in action. Addicts do not do it because they enjoy it. They do it because they are miserable without it.</p> <p>Because many of us started out our first sexual experience that ended in an orgasm and we acquired the belief that we cannot enjoy sex without an orgasm. And for men, porn is sold as an aid towards sex, sometimes even as an education to be confident during the act of sex. It used to be static, but now we have supranormal internet porn. But this is nonsense. Internet porn takes away your confidence.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="women-and-porn"><strong>Women And Porn</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#women-and-porn"> +<h2 id="women-and-porn">Women And Porn <a class="anchor" href="#women-and-porn"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h2></div> -<p>The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn&rsquo;t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.</p> +</a></h2><p>The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn&rsquo;t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.</p> <p>Porn and internet porn does not help your sex life; it destroys it totally. Having to hide your internet footprints, trying to delete your history, fearing accidental exposure to your boyfriend or kids, body pains, doubtful symptoms, fighting self doubts, arguing with yourself about your responsibilities in the ill effects of your addiction&hellip; well, why do you want to put yourself in such a bad situation?</p> <p>Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous positive gains to be had. When PMOers contemplate quitting they tend to concentrate on health and virility. These are obviously valid and important issues but I personally believe the greatest gains from stopping are psychological:</p> <ol> @@ -3886,11 +3942,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <li>Not to have to go through life suffering the awful black shadows at the back of your mind, knowing you are being despised by half of the population and, worst of all, despising yourself.</li> </ol> <p>Not only is life better as a non-PMOer but it is infinitely more enjoyable. I do not only mean you will be healthier. I mean you will be happier and enjoy life far more. The marvellous gains from being a non-PMOer are discussed in the next few chapters. Some PMOers find it difficult to appreciate the concept of the &lsquo;void&rsquo; and the following analogy may assist you.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"><strong>Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"> +<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void">Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void! <a class="anchor" href="#void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h2></div> -<p>Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I&rsquo;ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can&rsquo;t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.</p> +</a></h2><p>Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I&rsquo;ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can&rsquo;t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.</p> <p>By now you are completely dependent on the ointment. You never go out without ensuring that you have a tube of the ointment with you. If you go abroad, you make sure that you take several tubes with you. Now, in addition to your worries about your health, I&rsquo;m charging you $100 per tube. You have no choice but to pay.</p> <p>You then read in the medical column of your newspaper that this isn&rsquo;t happening just to you; many other people have been suffering from the same problem. In fact, pharmacists have discovered that the ointment doesn&rsquo;t actually cure the sore. All that it does is to take the sore beneath the surface of the skin. It is the ointment that has caused the sore to grow. All you have to do to get rid of the sore is to stop using the ointment. The sore will eventually disappear in due course.</p> <p>Would you continue to use the ointment? Would it take willpower not to use the ointment? If you didn&rsquo;t believe the medical article, there might be a few days of apprehension, but once you realized that the sore was beginning to get better, the need or desire to use the ointment would go, Would you be miserable? Of course you wouldn&rsquo;t. You had an awful problem which you thought was insoluble. Now you&rsquo;ve found the solution. Even if it took a year for that sore to disappear completely, each day, as it improved, you&rsquo;d think. “isn&rsquo;t it marvellous? I&rsquo;m not going to die!” This was the magic that happened to me on my final PMO day. Let me make one point quite clear in the analogy of the sore and the ointment.</p> @@ -3907,7 +3961,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:47:03 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-13-social-night-pmoing/ - <p>This is a misinformation that seems to make sense but then it does not. In order to have control of eating, will you eat at home before leaving to go to a restaurant or a party? This is what you are doing when you PMO before your social night. You will look tired and will not be up to your best. If you have dating jitters then work on it beforehand and then go with the flow even with some butterflies in your stomach. I like a bit of the anxiety in me to keep me going. Tiring yourself mentally and physically with an orgasm is not going to help you, unless of course you are going to see a prostitute. The goal is entirely different in that angle.</p> + <h2 id="social-night-pmoing">Social Night PMOing <a class="anchor" href="#social-night-pmoing"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is a misinformation that seems to make sense but then it does not. In order to have control of eating, will you eat at home before leaving to go to a restaurant or a party? This is what you are doing when you PMO before your social night. You will look tired and will not be up to your best. If you have dating jitters then work on it beforehand and then go with the flow even with some butterflies in your stomach. I like a bit of the anxiety in me to keep me going. Tiring yourself mentally and physically with an orgasm is not going to help you, unless of course you are going to see a prostitute. The goal is entirely different in that angle.</p> <p>The widespread adoption of pick-up techniques has put pressure on guys to perform, to attract and to ‘score’. You can get knowledge but you should know how to use it. I can guarantee that 100% of the other guys hanging at that bar know exactly what you know. It comes down to the ‘how’ of how you use it when you get the chance. Even before that, there is one very critical thing about any knowledge pertaining to human interactions, that ‘knowledge’ should never force your actions. This is important.</p> <p>I once masturbated and then poured wine to quiet the butterflies in my stomach before a date. I looked tired after just one hour into the date, the loud noise of the bar, dehydration, excessive self-consciousness (PUA teachings) etc. made my time unenjoyable. Somehow the girl and her friend liked it all. However, I do think it would have been better if I had gone without any props. I ended up being successful by claiming my &lsquo;goal(s)&rsquo; - which I consider unfortunate and as random luck.</p> <p>The PMO session I had before the date triggered a dopamine flooding and its withdrawal hit around the time I was with the date. I had to over-do my conversation to compensate the ineffective dopamine effects after that earlier orgasm. I am also sure that I was suffering from hypofrontality - where my impulses were failing my controls. That gushing moment, an extra decibel in the tone etc. would easily have given my nervousness to the girls - only if I was not protected by the loud noise in the bar. Why do you want to take chances?</p> @@ -3926,7 +3982,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:44:10 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-12-relaxation/ - <p>Most PMOers think that PMO helps to relax them. The truth is that internet porn used in PMO acts like a chemical stimulant. The frantic search to get the fix in those “dark alleys of the internet” and the internal struggle to reign in the dog straining at its leash for more shocking clips does not sound much like an activity of relaxation to me.</p> + <h2 id="relaxation">Relaxation <a class="anchor" href="#relaxation"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Most PMOers think that PMO helps to relax them. The truth is that internet porn used in PMO acts like a chemical stimulant. The frantic search to get the fix in those “dark alleys of the internet” and the internal struggle to reign in the dog straining at its leash for more shocking clips does not sound much like an activity of relaxation to me.</p> <p>One of the favourite PMO sessions for most is the one after a trip to a new place or after along day. As the night rolls in we stop working; we sit down and relax, relieve our hunger and thirst and are then completely satisfied. However, the poor PMOer cannot relax, as he has another hunger to satisfy. He thinks of the PMO as the icing on the cake but it is the &rsquo;little monster&rsquo; that needs feeding.</p> <p>The truth is that the addict can never be completely relaxed and as you go through life it gets worse. The most stressed people on this planet aren&rsquo;t non-PMOers but those young men and women who have a need to hunt (with the misunderstood goal of orgasm) and their ignorance of and/or low opinion of amative sex. Women who have subscribed to “I must orgasm” teachings are not even aware of the victim they have made of themselves. At this point any sex that leads to climax and orgasm cease to relieve even partially the symptoms that they have created.</p> <p>I can remember when I was bringing up a family. If my child would do something wrong I would quickly lose my temper to an extent that was out of all proportion to what he had done.</p> @@ -3947,7 +4005,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:42:13 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-11-concentration/ - <p>Sex and masturbation do not help concentration. That is just another illusion. When you are trying to concentrate, you automatically try to avoid distractions. So when a PMOer wants to concentrate he doesn&rsquo;t even have to think about it. He automatically PMOs, partially ending the craving, gets on with the matter in hand and has already forgotten that he just PMOed. Sex in general do not help concentration. After years of masturbation your brain changes affect abilities such as assessing, planning and impulse control. The PMOer is already suffering: that little monster wants his fix.</p> + <h2 id="concentration">Concentration <a class="anchor" href="#concentration"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Sex and masturbation do not help concentration. That is just another illusion. When you are trying to concentrate, you automatically try to avoid distractions. So when a PMOer wants to concentrate he doesn&rsquo;t even have to think about it. He automatically PMOs, partially ending the craving, gets on with the matter in hand and has already forgotten that he just PMOed. Sex in general do not help concentration. After years of masturbation your brain changes affect abilities such as assessing, planning and impulse control. The PMOer is already suffering: that little monster wants his fix.</p> <p>You are also stressed to provide novelty for the next PMO session as the same stuff will not generate enough dopamine and opioids. You have to “roam the internet streets” for novelty - all the while fighting the pull to cross the line towards shock. This creates more stress. After you orgasm, you feel unfulfilled as well.</p> <p>Concentration is also affected adversely for another reason. Your dopamine receptors have already started to get reduced by building up natural tolerance to these large surges, reducing the benefit of the smaller dopamine boosts from natural de-stressors.</p> <p>In fact, your concentration and inspiration will be greatly improved as this process is reversed. For some it will be the concentration aspect that prevents them from succeeding when using the willpower method. They could put up with the irritability and bad temper but when they really needed to concentrate on something difficult they have to have that porn fix. I can well remember the panic I felt when I discovered that the hotel has no internet connection and I had this huge presentation the day after.</p> @@ -3963,7 +4023,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:40:46 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-10-boredom/ - <p>As soon as you get into your bed - and if you are like many people you are already on your favorite tube site - you will probably have already forgotten about it until I reminded you. It has become second nature. Another fallacy about PMOing is that it relieves boredom. Boredom is a frame of mind. The only time that happens is when you have been deprived for a long time or are trying to cut down, or during those first few PMO sessions after a failed attempt to stop.</p> + <h2 id="boredom">Boredom <a class="anchor" href="#boredom"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As soon as you get into your bed - and if you are like many people you are already on your favorite tube site - you will probably have already forgotten about it until I reminded you. It has become second nature. Another fallacy about PMOing is that it relieves boredom. Boredom is a frame of mind. The only time that happens is when you have been deprived for a long time or are trying to cut down, or during those first few PMO sessions after a failed attempt to stop.</p> <p>The true situation is this: when you are addicted to internet porn’s supranormal novelty and then you decide to abstain from internet porn, there is something missing. If you have something to occupy your mind that isn&rsquo;t stressful, you can go for long periods without being bothered by the absence of the drug. However, when you are bored there&rsquo;s nothing to take your mind off it, so you feed the monster. When you are indulging yourself (i.e. not trying to stop or cut down), even firing up your incognito browser becomes subconscious. The PMOer can perform this ritual automatically. If any PMOer tries to remember the session during the last week, he can only remember a small proportion of them - e.g. the very last one or after a long abstinence.</p> <p>The truth is that PMOing tend to increase boredom indirectly because orgasms make you feel lethargic and instead of undertaking some energetic activity, PMOers tend to prefer lounge around, bored, relieving their withdrawal pangs. This is why countering the brainwashing is so important. Because it&rsquo;s a fact that PMOers tend to masturbate when they are bored and that we&rsquo;re wired to interpret PMO as interesting. It doesn&rsquo;t occur to us to question the fact how a two dimensional supranormal stimulus relieves boredom.</p> <p>We&rsquo;ve also been brainwashed into believing that sex - even a bad sex - aids relaxation. It is a fact that when under stress or sad, couples want to have sex. In the absence of discrimination between amative and propagative sex, the goal is set to achieve orgasms by hook or by crook. Next time you do this watch how you both want to get away from each other as soon as it’s over. It is obvious that if they had just decided to cuddle, speak, hug and touch each other and go to sleep without the mandatory orgasms, the couple would have felt relieved. Well, if in the process, they wanted to have the propagative part then by all means they can but that is a topic not meant to be discussed in this book.</p> @@ -3976,7 +4038,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:38:59 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-09-stress/ - <p>I am referring not only to the great tragedies of life but also to the minor stresses, the socializing, the telephone call, the anxieties of the housewife with noisy young children and so on. Let us use the telephone conversation as an example. For most people the telephone is slightly stressful, particularly for the businessman. Most calls aren&rsquo;t from satisfied customers or your boss congratulating you. There&rsquo;s usually some sort of aggravation - something going wrong or somebody making demands. Then he or she comes home to the mundane family life of kids screaming and wife&rsquo;s emotional demands on you. His already PMO weakened de-stressors are in no way ready to take the aggravation. At that time the PMOer, if he isn&rsquo;t already doing so, will fantasize the relief of internet porn that he promised himself that night. He will even allow himself to “take one step more” into the ‘forbidden’ area that he had previously self-excluded. He doesn&rsquo;t know why he does this but he does know that for some reason it appears to help.</p> + <h2 id="stress">Stress <a class="anchor" href="#stress"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>I am referring not only to the great tragedies of life but also to the minor stresses, the socializing, the telephone call, the anxieties of the housewife with noisy young children and so on. Let us use the telephone conversation as an example. For most people the telephone is slightly stressful, particularly for the businessman. Most calls aren&rsquo;t from satisfied customers or your boss congratulating you. There&rsquo;s usually some sort of aggravation - something going wrong or somebody making demands. Then he or she comes home to the mundane family life of kids screaming and wife&rsquo;s emotional demands on you. His already PMO weakened de-stressors are in no way ready to take the aggravation. At that time the PMOer, if he isn&rsquo;t already doing so, will fantasize the relief of internet porn that he promised himself that night. He will even allow himself to “take one step more” into the ‘forbidden’ area that he had previously self-excluded. He doesn&rsquo;t know why he does this but he does know that for some reason it appears to help.</p> <p>What has actually happened is this: without being conscious of it, he has already been suffering aggravation (i.e. the withdrawal pangs). By partially relieving that aggravation at the same time as normal stress, the total stress is reduced and the PMOer gets a boost. At this point the boost is not, in fact, an illusion. The Internet porn user will feel better than before. However, even when using porn to masturbate he or she is more tense than if he were a non-PMOer because the more you go into the drug, the more it knocks you down and the less it restores you when you masturbate. I promised no shock treatment. In the example I am about to give, I am not trying to shock you, I am merely emphasizing that PMO destroy your nerves rather than relax them.</p> <p>Try to imagine getting to the stage where you cannot get aroused even with a very sexy and attractive partner. Just for a moment pause and try to visualize life where one very lovely and charming woman has to compete and fail with all the virtual porn stars who are in your &lsquo;harem&rsquo; to get your attention! Try to imagine the frame of mind of a man who, issued with that warning, actually continues PMOing and then dies without ever having had real sex with this charming and willing real woman. I had read real life stories like that from men and dismissed them as weirdos. In fact, I used to wish a doctor would tell me that this weird condition would happen if I continue PMO; then I would have stopped. Yet I was already fully expecting that PIED and hypofrontality where I am guaranteed to lose in a brain war. I didn&rsquo;t think of myself as an impotent, just a heavy PMOer. Now, let’s talk about the stress that this is putting on me.</p> <p>Such weird stories as the above are not fakes. That is what this awful ‘novelty’ porn drug does to you. As you go through life, it systematically takes away your nerve and courage. The more it takes your courage away, the more you are deluded into believing the porn is doing the opposite.</p> @@ -3992,7 +4056,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:36:16 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-08-relieving-withdrawal-pangs/ - <p>As I explained earlier, PMOers think they do it for enjoyment, relaxation or some sort of education. In fact, this an illusion. The actual reason is the relief of withdrawal pangs. In the early days we use the porn as a curious and novel thing or even educational or as a rebel. We can take it or leave it. However, the subtle chain has started. Our subconscious mind begins to learn that internet porn and masturbation taken at certain times tends to be pleasurable. The more we become hooked on the drug, the greater the need to relieve the withdrawal pangs and the further the PMO drags you down and the more you are fooled into believing it is doing the opposite. It all happens so slowly, so gradually, you are not even aware of it. Each day you feel no different from the day before. Most young PMOers don&rsquo;t even realize they are hooked until they actually try to stop and even then many won&rsquo;t admit to it. A few stalwarts just keep their heads in the sand all their lives,trying to convince themselves and other people that they enjoy it.</p> + <h2 id="relieving-withdrawal-pangs">Relieving Withdrawal Pangs <a class="anchor" href="#relieving-withdrawal-pangs"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As I explained earlier, PMOers think they do it for enjoyment, relaxation or some sort of education. In fact, this an illusion. The actual reason is the relief of withdrawal pangs. In the early days we use the porn as a curious and novel thing or even educational or as a rebel. We can take it or leave it. However, the subtle chain has started. Our subconscious mind begins to learn that internet porn and masturbation taken at certain times tends to be pleasurable. The more we become hooked on the drug, the greater the need to relieve the withdrawal pangs and the further the PMO drags you down and the more you are fooled into believing it is doing the opposite. It all happens so slowly, so gradually, you are not even aware of it. Each day you feel no different from the day before. Most young PMOers don&rsquo;t even realize they are hooked until they actually try to stop and even then many won&rsquo;t admit to it. A few stalwarts just keep their heads in the sand all their lives,trying to convince themselves and other people that they enjoy it.</p> <p>Listen to this conversation a therapist had with hundreds of teenagers.</p> <blockquote> <p>TH: “You realize that internet porn is a drug and that the only reason why you are using is that you cannot stop.”</p> @@ -4022,33 +4088,29 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 08:39:02 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-07-brainwashing-and-the-primitive-mechanism/ - <p>How or why do we start PMOing in the first place? To understand this fully you need to examine the powerful effect of the supernormal stimulus. We all tend to think we are intelligent, dominant human beings determining our paths through life. We act and act frequently when our brain reward circuit are rewarded. Nobel laureate Nikolaas Tinbergen coined the term “supranormal stimulus.” He said mammals could be tricked into preferring fake eggs and mates. Female birds, for example, struggled to sit on larger-than life, vividly spotted plaster eggs while their own pale, dappled eggs perished untended.</p> + <h2 id="brainwashing-and-the-primitive-mechanism">Brainwashing and the Primitive Mechanism <a class="anchor" href="#brainwashing-and-the-primitive-mechanism"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>How or why do we start PMOing in the first place? To understand this fully you need to examine the powerful effect of the supernormal stimulus. We all tend to think we are intelligent, dominant human beings determining our paths through life. We act and act frequently when our brain reward circuit are rewarded. Nobel laureate Nikolaas Tinbergen coined the term “supranormal stimulus.” He said mammals could be tricked into preferring fake eggs and mates. Female birds, for example, struggled to sit on larger-than life, vividly spotted plaster eggs while their own pale, dappled eggs perished untended.</p> <p>The stimulation here in internet porn is not it brings stimulating actors and themes to your home - it is a genie at your bidding to create a harem in your mind. You can switch between genres and theme, home-made and viewer rated, commented and discussed, so rapid and so easy. We absolutely are not ready for the high speed internet porn and our brains are not designed to handle this supranormal stimuli.</p> <p>We can have an ‘information overload’ from the same internet but our reward circuits are not going to squirt dopamine at the levels when ‘porn overload’ is involved. We are evolutionarily programmed to seek and access sex related stuff. And we wrongly appraise the stimulus mostly based on this reward circuit action. If all you wanted is to masturbate why can’t you just use one clip and get the business done?</p> <p>Here is another question - next time after a long day or some stressful incident can you consciously embellish your self-talk with “Do you know what I would really enjoy today? The marvellous warm glow of dopamine rush going to my online harem.” You will find that even people who dislike PMO will join you.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="past-misguided-advice"><strong>Past Misguided Advice</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#past-misguided-advice"> +<h2 id="past-misguided-advice">Past Misguided Advice <a class="anchor" href="#past-misguided-advice"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.</p> +</a></h2><p>There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.</p> <p>From our earliest years our subconscious minds are bombarded daily with information telling us that sex is good and that the most precious thing on this earth is to ‘achieve’ orgasm. Girls are taught to achieve it and claim it&rsquo;s because they were wrongly suppressed of their sexual side for a very long time and still are. You think I exaggerate? Watch any TV or movie plot and you will see the mix-up of the amative (touch, smell, voice etc.) and the propagative (orgasmic) sides of sex. The impact of this does not register on our conscious minds but the sleeping partner, the subconscious mind, has time to absorb it. What the message is really saying is, “The most precious thing on this earth, my last thought and action, will be the goal of orgasm.” If you don’t have an orgasm then you are an old man with zero libido.</p> <p>Our children are being bombarded by sex and porn clips and many don’t even know how to protect them from it all. Large hoardings and magazine adverts are loaded with sexual innuendo. Some of the pop videos are extremely suggestive - again they hide behind free speech. Don’t be vexed and feel powerless about it. Make it a game and find you which of the components they are using - is it novelty, shock value, color, size, taboo etc. If the kids are pre-teen some of these can be disclosed to them and it would make an excellent show-and-tell game.</p> <p>A while back there was a wave of ‘leaked’ private videos of celebrities on the internet. If the youngster is too smitten by their favourite star, even if the conscious mind blames the ‘leak’ on the blood thirsty internet paparazzi, the &lsquo;sleeping partner&rsquo; is patiently digesting the notion that, “yes, even my shambolic hero does it and if I don’t, I won’t look the part.”</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-scientific-reasoning"><strong>The Scientific Reasoning</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-scientific-reasoning"> +<h2 id="the-scientific-reasoning">The Scientific Reasoning <a class="anchor" href="#the-scientific-reasoning"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>, Reboot<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> forums, underground PUA<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup>, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn&rsquo;t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.</p> +</a></h2><p>True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>, Reboot<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> forums, underground PUA<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup>, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn&rsquo;t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.</p> <p>Ironically, the most powerful force in this melee of confusion is the PMOer himself. It is a fallacy that they are weak-willed or are physically weak specimens. You have to be physically strong in order to cope with an addiction after you know it is. This is one of the reasons why PMOers refuse to accept the overwhelming statistics that prove that internet porn with its ‘novelty’ cripples your brain. Add to that the sexologists who are doing half-baked studies and declare PMO is not an issue - they just help to add to the confusion.</p> <p>Everyone knows a friend who PMOed every day - he started with the ‘static’ to internet porn, always horny in real life, chasing girls and you never doubted him to have sex problems of course. You want to believe him. He never complained about any ED right? Guys and girls like them refuse even to consider the hundreds of ex-addicts and non-PMOers who painfully recount their difficulties. It is the “little monster” brain chemical addiction and the “big monster” - illusions and delusions. In this hackbook, I&rsquo;ve put together almost all the sorts of brainwashing a PMOer can suffer from. There will always be a few out there that I haven&rsquo;t touched upon.</p> <p>Even more painful is they think of themselves as unsuccessful losers and insufferable introverts. A possible fact is that a PMO friend could have been more interesting in person if he hadn’t put himself down for seeking self-pleasure.</p> <p>If you do a small survey among your online forum members, friends and colleagues, you will find that most PMOers are, in fact, strong-willed people. They tend to be self-employed, business executives or in certain specialized professions, such as doctors<sup id="fnref:4"><a href="#fn:4" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">4</a></sup>, lawyers, policemen, teachers, salesmen, nurses, secretaries, housewives with children, etc. In other words, anybody leading a stressful existence. Yes, I did include women and mothers. It’s the brain and it’s the same for them too. The main delusion of the PMOer is that porn helps to masturbate to orgasm and that relieves stress. This tends to be associated with the dominant type, the type that takes on responsibility and stress and, of course, that is the type that we admire and therefore tend to copy. Another group that tends to get hooked are people in monotonous jobs because the other main reason for PMOing is boredom. However, the idea that internet porn relieves boredom is also an illusion, I am afraid.</p> <p>As a society we get all uptight about glue-sniffing, heroin addiction, etc. Actual deaths from glue-sniffing do not amount to ten per annum, and deaths from heroin are less than a hundred a year in this country. There is another drug, internet porn, on which over 45 per cent of us become hooked at some time in our lives and the majority spend the rest of their lives regretting it. Some even don’t know that their ED is due to this.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-willpower-method"><strong>The Willpower Method</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method"> +<h2 id="the-willpower-method">The Willpower Method <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why?</p> +</a></h2><p>PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why?</p> <p>Constant exposure to internet porn re-wires your brain. You need to start building resistance to this brainwashing, just as if you were buying a car from a second-hand car dealer. You would be nodding politely but you would not believe a word the man was saying. So don’t believe everything they say either - that you must have sex as much as you can and you must have it exceptional good. And that in the absence of real sex you claim it by the substitute called internet porn - which is only a component of the good old porn.</p> <p>And don’t play ‘safe’ porn game either - because your “little porn monster” invented that scheme to lure you. Even the content - ‘amateur’? Really? Is there a certification authority that certifies it? Tube sites and porn producers gather site visitor profiles and cater to their needs. If they see a trend in crowd sourced collection of a particular genre they will focus on that and get content out ASAP. The statistics of what genre users like is collected to the level of how long and which portion the users were preferring. Do not be fooled by their educational intent or the safe female oriented clips (for you ladies). Start asking yourself:</p> <ul> @@ -4058,27 +4120,21 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p><strong>NO, OF COURSE YOU DON&rsquo;T.</strong></p> <p>I find this brainwashing aspect the most difficult of all to explain. Why is it that an otherwise rational, intelligent human being becomes a complete imbecile about his own addiction? It pains me to confess that out of the thousands of people that I have assisted in kicking the habit, I (not Allen Carr) was the biggest idiot of all.</p> <p>At the age of thirteen, although I was doing well at school and games, I was still an insufferable introvert. I read books from the library that were not within my main study list. However, I can see that I was attracted to erotica. I started masturbating to TV programs, song and dance sequences etc. I must have to have it every day. The tired feeling I felt was misappropriated by my ‘little porn monster’ as work stress. I didn’t know my “I-must-masturbate-as-I-am-entitled” attitude was the one that created the ‘stress’ in the first place. Then I got pictures and GIFs via email on my laptop - the first step towards electronic porn. The colour and texture of the images were amazing for me at that time - won’t be now for sure. Then came dial-up but still they were predominantly static pictures. Then came downloadable videos. It’s a pain to download and watch now - but it was heaven sent then as we were coming out of the static porn era! Oh, the streaming tube sites haven’t arrived yet.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"><strong>When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"> +<h2 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore">When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore <a class="anchor" href="#when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn.</p> +</a></h2><p>I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn.</p> <p>At the age of forty, I was visiting my online harem daily, drinking ‘socially’ (whatever that means) and smoking ‘sometimes’ but not so often. I had wrongly subscribed to misguided ideas of ‘moderation’ and ‘entitlement’. I had reached the stage where I couldn&rsquo;t get through a single day without reaching out to porn in the night. With most PMOers, the triggers are the normal stresses of life, like answering the telephone or socializing.</p> <p>When I experienced PIED - I knew it was killing my virility. There was no way I could kid myself otherwise. I am smart enough not to ‘project’ the porn fantasies on to real life. But it was like pacifying a dog straining at its leash. But why I couldn&rsquo;t see what it was doing to me mentally, I could not understand. It was almost jumping up and biting me on the nose. The ridiculous thing is that most PMOers suffer the delusion at some time in their life that they enjoy internet porn because it is ‘normal’ and ‘healthy’. I never suffered that delusion, I PMOed because I thought enjoying sex is a ‘birthright’ and I am only doing a normal thing.</p> <p>Since it was easier at most times for me to get internet porn than a partner I thought I am doing the normal thing. Now I am a non-PMOer, the most difficult part is trying to believe that those days actually happened. It&rsquo;s like awakening from a nightmare and that is about the size of it. Internet porn is a supranormal drug. It is weakening your de-stressing mechanisms, your virility and your energy. The worst aspect of PMO isn&rsquo;t the injury to your health or manliness, it is the warping of the mind. You search for any plausible excuse to go on.</p> <p>I remember at one stage switching to static images, a failed attempt to cut down on internet porn, in the belief that it was less harmful and I could reign in my ‘habit’. I failed to see the ‘novelty’ and the ‘shock’ demands from my ‘little monster’ to just get more dopamine. Did I ‘stay’ within my boundaries? I ‘favorited’ 2 dimensional photos and my harem collection saw pictures and videos of ‘mild’ type porn rotating in and out like musical chair. When their ‘music’ stopped they ‘exited’. I didn’t understand the novelty-seeking, shock-seeking nature of my brain.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pied-and-my-excuses"><strong>PIED And My Excuses</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pied-and-my-excuses"> +<h2 id="pied-and-my-excuses">PIED And My Excuses <a class="anchor" href="#pied-and-my-excuses"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.</p> +</a></h2><p>Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.</p> <p>Most PMOers swear that they only watch static and soft porn and so they are OK. They are actually straining at the leash and thus fighting with their willpower to resist temptations. If they do this too often and for too long they will debit their willpower considerably and fail in other life projects where willpower is of much great value, like in daily exercise, dieting etc. Continuous failure in those areas will make them feel miserable and guilty and very soon they will find themselves back to their entitled relief. If not, they will vent their anger and depression onto their loved ones.</p> <p>The answer is that once you have become addicted to internet porn, the brainwashing is increased. Your subconscious mind knows that the little monster has to be fed and you block everything else from your mind. As I have already stated, it is fear that keeps people quitting, the fear of that empty, insecure feeling that you get when you stop supplying the brain with dopamine flooding. Just because you are not aware of it doesn&rsquo;t mean it isn&rsquo;t there. You don&rsquo;t have to understand it any more than a cat needs to understand where the under-floor hot-water pipes are. It just knows that if it sits in a certain place it gets the feeling of warmth.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind"><strong>The Passivity Of Our Mind</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-passivity-of-our-mind"> +<h2 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind">The Passivity Of Our Mind <a class="anchor" href="#the-passivity-of-our-mind"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I&rsquo;ve frequently referred to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo; PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo;, but to stopping, quitting or the true position: <strong>ESCAPING!</strong></p> +</a></h2><p>It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I&rsquo;ve frequently referred to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo; PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo;, but to stopping, quitting or the true position: <strong>ESCAPING!</strong></p> <p>The only thing that persuades us to PMO in the first place is all the other people doing it. We feel we are missing out. We work so hard to become hooked, yet nobody ever finds out what they have been missing. But every time we see another new video clip it reassures us that there must be something in it, otherwise people wouldn&rsquo;t be doing it - and it wouldn&rsquo;t be such big business all over the world. Even when he has kicked the habit, the ex-PMOer feels he is being deprived when a discussion on a sexy entertainer, singer or even a porn star comes up at a party or other social function. She or he must be good to have all my friends talk about them, no? Do they have ‘hot’ pictures of her in my tube site? He feels safe. He can have just one ‘peek’ that night. And, before he knows it, he is hooked again.</p> <p>This brainwashing is extremely powerful and you need to be aware of its effects. I have heard scare stories about wicked men giving heroin mixed candies to kids at schoolyards. The concept of addiction and being compelled to go on taking the drug, filled me with horror. Even to this day, in spite of the fact that I am fairly convinced that &lsquo;pot&rsquo; is not addictive, I would not dare take one puff of marijuana. How ironic that I should have ended up a porn junky. Technology will continue to grow and we will have even faster tube sites and more faster access methods. The industry is investing millions in Virtual Reality so it will become the next best thing. The point is, do we know where we are going? Are we equipped with an under armour of defence so we can enjoy the benefits of technology yet at the same time protect ourselves from its bad effects?</p> <p>We are about to remove the brainwashing. It is not the non-PMOer who is being deprived but the poor user who is forfeiting a lifetime of:</p> @@ -4120,15 +4176,15 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:44:00 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-06-internet-porn/ - <p>Erotic novelty of the internet porn is a mental ‘drug’ and internet porn beats anything that is known to mankind and its streaming straight to your home for free ! We are not even talking VR virtual reality here. Porn triggers the ‘flooding’ of dopamine in our brain. Dopamine amps up the brain reward circuitry to produce experiences and feels of cravings and pleasure by locking themselves into ‘receptors’. More dopamine more wanting. Less dopamine no wanting. New experiences, tasty food - more dopamine - more wanting. Sex and sex related stuff gives the biggest injection of dopamine in the reward circuits. Dopamine is not the final pleasure stuff, if it were you would feel happy when you are done with it, but it is only a brain chemical that encourages seeking and action in you. The real pleasure is produced by opioids. More dopamine more opioids more + <h2 id="internet-porn">Internet Porn <a class="anchor" href="#internet-porn"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Erotic novelty of the internet porn is a mental ‘drug’ and internet porn beats anything that is known to mankind and its streaming straight to your home for free ! We are not even talking VR virtual reality here. Porn triggers the ‘flooding’ of dopamine in our brain. Dopamine amps up the brain reward circuitry to produce experiences and feels of cravings and pleasure by locking themselves into ‘receptors’. More dopamine more wanting. Less dopamine no wanting. New experiences, tasty food - more dopamine - more wanting. Sex and sex related stuff gives the biggest injection of dopamine in the reward circuits. Dopamine is not the final pleasure stuff, if it were you would feel happy when you are done with it, but it is only a brain chemical that encourages seeking and action in you. The real pleasure is produced by opioids. More dopamine more opioids more action more happy feelings.</p> <p>So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. All of which will now be stored as a script in your brain for easy access next time. I call this a ‘water slide’. Next time at the cue - a sexy commercial or alone time or stress or feeling a little down - you are ready to take a ride on the ‘water slide’. One more thing is that every time to repeat this you are ‘greasing’ it as well - so it is active, alive and more easier to slide the next time.</p> <p>As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating. Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish, ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you won’t on your first time.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="my-own-online-harem"><strong>My Own Online Harem!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#my-own-online-harem"> +<h2 id="my-own-online-harem">My Own Online Harem! <a class="anchor" href="#my-own-online-harem"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost.</p> +</a></h2><p>This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost.</p> <p>Going back to the earlier discussion - in this cycle as you crossed the ‘red line’ you also trigger emotions such as guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety and fear - which in turn raise dopamine levels as well. Now the brain may mistakenly associate feelings of anxiety and fear as sexual arousal. This perpetual cycle is only broken by natural causes - fortunately sooner or later. With its free access and privacy it provides boundless harem-like novelty. The dopamine can be theoretically kept very high for a very very long time. I can be satisfied with one lobster once in awhile. But Internet porn is different. It is even worse than drugs. Don’t let me make you nervous. I will shortly show you how to be free from this slavery.</p> <p>Now our human body has a self-correcting system by which the number of dopamine and opioid receptors are cut short when frequent and daily ‘flooding’ of dopamine is detected. Unfortunately - these receptors are also needed for receiving dopamine and to keep us even and balanced to handle the inevitable and normal day-to-day stresses. But this natural nominal amount of dopamine will not be absorbed efficiently with decreased receptors and you will feel mores tressed and irritated than normal.</p> <blockquote> @@ -4140,18 +4196,14 @@ action more happy feelings.</p> <p>A fleeting feeling of security is all that is needed to get through a rough spot in life - but will your brain be able to catch that drop of de-stressor that a non-PMOers’ brain is able to catch and use?</p> <p>This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I will explain more about this later.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-little-monster"><strong>The Little Monster</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-little-monster"> +<h2 id="the-little-monster">The Little Monster <a class="anchor" href="#the-little-monster"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&rsquo; we think we just &lsquo;got into the habit&rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.</p> +</a></h2><p>The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&rsquo; we think we just &lsquo;got into the habit&rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.</p> <p>Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, resulting in the feeling of fulfilment and pleasure that the action gives to the PMOer. In the early days, when we first start PMOing, the withdrawal pangs and their relief are so slight that we are not even aware that they exist. When we begin to masturbate regularly to internet porn we think it is because we&rsquo;ve either come to enjoy them or got into the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. The truth is we&rsquo;re already hooked; we do not realize it, but that little monster is already inside our stomach and every now and again we have to feed it.</p> <p>All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster. The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had before he became hooked in the first place.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm"><strong>The Annoying Burglar Alarm</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-annoying-burglar-alarm"> +<h2 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm">The Annoying Burglar Alarm <a class="anchor" href="#the-annoying-burglar-alarm"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we +</a></h2><p>You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain goes on. It is a chain for life - <strong>UNLESS YOU BREAK IT</strong>.</p> <p>The whole business of PMO is like wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure you feel when you take them off. There are three main reasons why PMOers cannot see things that way:</p> <ol> @@ -4162,11 +4214,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <p>It is this &lsquo;back to front&rsquo; reverse process that makes all drugs difficult to kick. Picture the panic state of a heroin addict who has no heroin. Now picture the utter joy when that addict can finally plunge a needle into his vein. Can you visualize someone actually getting pleasure by injecting themselves, or does the mere thought fill you with horror? Non-heroin addicts don&rsquo;t suffer that panic feeling.</p> <p>The heroin doesn&rsquo;t relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a 14 year old in 2008 - didn&rsquo;t suffer the empty feeling of needing internet porn or start to panic when they are off- line. Non-PMOers cannot understand how PMOers can possibly obtain pleasure from two dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. And do you know something? PMOers themselves cannot understand why they do it after some time either.</p> <p>We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don&rsquo;t non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their &rsquo;little monster&rsquo;?</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch"><strong>A Pleasure or Crutch?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#a-pleasure-or-crutch"> +<h2 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch">A Pleasure or Crutch? <a class="anchor" href="#a-pleasure-or-crutch"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;I need to eat.&rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.</p> +</a></h2><p>Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;I need to eat.&rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.</p> <p>PMOing appears to be almost identical. The empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;wanting or needing an PMO orgasm’ is identical to a hunger for food, although one will not satisfy the other. Like hunger, there is no physical pain and the feeling is so imperceptible that we are not even aware of it between PMO sessions. It&rsquo;s only if we want to masturbate and aren&rsquo;t able to reach internet for porn that we become aware of any discomfort. But when we do PMO we feel satisfied.</p> <p>It is this similarity to eating which helps to fool PMOers into believing that they receive some genuine pleasure. Some PMOers find it very difficult to grasp that there is no pleasure or crutch, whatsoever to PMO. Some argue: “How can you say there is no crutch? When I orgasm up then I&rsquo;llfeel less nervous than before.”</p> <p>Although eating and PMOing appear to be very similar. In fact they are exact opposites:</p> @@ -4175,17 +4225,13 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <li>Food does genuinely taste good, and eating is a genuinely pleasant experience that we can enjoy throughout our lives, whereas PMOing involves self-sabotaging the happiness receptors and thus destroying your chances to cope and to feel happy.</li> <li>Eating doesn&rsquo;t create hunger and genuinely relieves it, whereas the first PMO starts the craving for dopamine and each subsequent one, far from relieving it, ensures that you suffer it for the rest of life.</li> </ol> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pmo-is-a-habit"><strong>PMO is a Habit?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pmo-is-a-habit"> +<h2 id="pmo-is-a-habit">PMO is a Habit? <a class="anchor" href="#pmo-is-a-habit"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.</p> +</a></h2><p>This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.</p> <p>On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience, I also refer to the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> - we have to then have more bizarre and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting&hellip; not in the killing. If we don&rsquo;t then panic sets in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great!</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="crossing-the-red-line"><strong>Crossing The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#crossing-the-red-line"> +<h2 id="crossing-the-red-line">Crossing The Red Line <a class="anchor" href="#crossing-the-red-line"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.</p> +</a></h2><p>This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.</p> <p>You feel better than you did before starting this PMO session but you are in fact more nervous and less relaxed than you would be as a non-PMOer, like someone who is living in Loma Linda or in an Amish village, even though you are actually PMOing and living in your supposed “porn paradise.” This position is even more ridiculous than wearing tight shoes because as you go through life an increasing amount of the discomfort remains even when the shoes are removed.</p> <p>Once the orgasm is achieved, the dopamine rapidly begins to leave the brain, causing a mood dip. Which explains why the PMOer wants to ‘edge’<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> and switch through multiple browser windows as they seek and search. As I said, the ‘habit’ doesn&rsquo;t exist. The real reason why every user goes on using internet porn is because of that little porn monster inside his stomach. Every now and again he has to feed it. The PMOer himself will decide when he does that and it tends to be on four types of occasion or a combination of them.</p> <p>These occasions are:</p> @@ -4195,25 +4241,19 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to </ul> <p>What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If you think about it, what other types of occasion are there in our lives; apart from sleep? The truth is that PMO neither relieves boredom and stress nor promotes concentration and relaxation. It is all just illusion. Apart from being a drug, PMO is also a destroyer of happiness and virility.</p> <p>In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes, print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’ and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive without knowing the difference between food and poison.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"><strong>Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"> +<h2 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics">Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics <a class="anchor" href="#brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!</p> +</a></h2><p>Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!</p> <p>When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were titillating but most were disgusting, causing you to avert your eyes away. Like you would if had accidentally glanced a feeding mother’s breast. And some of us are even revolted with what they saw when the star reminded them of someone dear to their heart or a scene which recalled their own instance of being the victim. Some don’t feel like it to browse and masturbate at the same time. It may be hard to believe for you but the non-PMOs, who don’t PMO after their first time, are the lucky ones. They actually decided that it was not their cup of tea. It must be hard for you to believe but stay with me.</p> <p>How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even after a hard day? Why not? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That&rsquo;s all.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak"><strong>Are PMOers Mentally Weak?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#are-pmoers-mentally-weak"> +<h2 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak">Are PMOers Mentally Weak? <a class="anchor" href="#are-pmoers-mentally-weak"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.</p> +</a></h2><p>It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.</p> <p>To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to become hooked, and this is why it is difficult to stop teenagers. Because they are skilled in seeking and finding material, they know online privacy options and can clean their tracks - if they still feel some stigma and they (wrongfully) believe they can stop whenever they want to. Why do they not learn from us? Then again, why did we not learn from our PMOers and addicts?</p> <p>Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of ‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying is the ritual of relieving those pangs.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"><strong>The High From The Dance Around The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"> +<h2 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line">The High From The Dance Around The Red Line <a class="anchor" href="#the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.</p> +</a></h2><p>Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.</p> <p>Ask a user who believes that he sticks to a certain actor or genre - only because he likes something about the star or the theme (if any) of the clip: “If you cannot get your normal brand of porn and can only obtain a poor or unsafe brand, do you stop masturbating?” No way. A PMOer will masturbate to anything rather than abstain and it doesn&rsquo;t matter if he has to switch to escalating themes, different sex-orientation-themes, look-alike actresses, dangerous settings shocking relationships etc. To begin with they taste awful but if you persevere you will learn to like them. Most PMOers will also try to seek masturbation even after having real sex (unfulfilment, porn-induced unrealistic expectations etc.), or after a long, stressful work day, fever, colds, flu, sore throats and even when admitted in hospitals.</p> <p>Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wanted then it makes no sense to be with your laptop. During my conversation some PMOers find it alarming to realize they are drug addicts and think it will make it even more difficult to stop. In fact, it is all good news for two important reasons:</p> <ol> @@ -4221,18 +4261,14 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <li>Although internet porn is the most powerful trigger for ‘novelty’ and ‘sex’ based dopamine ‘flooding’ - because of the speed with which you become hooked, you are never badly hooked. The actual withdrawal pangs are so mild that most PMOers have lived and died without ever realizing that they have suffered them.</li> </ol> <p>You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc. The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn&rsquo;t bother the PMOers.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-smokers-analogy"><strong>The Smokers Analogy</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-smokers-analogy"> +<h2 id="the-smokers-analogy">The Smokers Analogy <a class="anchor" href="#the-smokers-analogy"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they&rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn&rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.</p> +</a></h2><p>A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they&rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn&rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.</p> <p>PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their parents while visiting for family get togethers etc. with little discomfort to themselves. In fact, most PMOers have extended periods during which they abstain without effort. Even in my case I would quite happily go a week or so without a PMO incident. In the later years as a PMOer I actually used to look forward to these days when I could stop choking my penis (what a ridiculous &lsquo;habit&rsquo;).</p> <p>The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"><strong>The Big Monster - The Brainwashing</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"> +<h2 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing">The Big Monster - The Brainwashing <a class="anchor" href="#the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.</p> +</a></h2><p>You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.</p> <p>Not all the amateurs are ‘amateurs’ on these tube sites, oversized body parts and overcharged scenarios are the norm, aided by a bit of the ‘viagran’ help.</p> <p>As I say, the actual porn addiction is not the main problem. It just acts as a catalyst to keep our minds confused over the real problem: the brainwashing. It may be of consolation to lifelong and heavy PMOers to know that it is just as easy for them to stop as casual PMOers. In a peculiar way. it is easier. The further you go along with the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;, the more it drags you down and the greater the gain when you stop.</p> <p>It may be of further consolation for you to know that the rumours that occasionally circulate that the neural pathways created are there for life, and so at the right (or wrong) time and with strong stimuli you will be sliding again down the ‘water slide’ of internet porn and masturbation to permanently destroy your real life sex are untrue.</p> @@ -4259,7 +4295,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:42:16 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-05-why-do-we-carry-on-with-pmo/ - <p>We all start PMOing for many reasons, usually social pressures or our biological curiosity, but once we feel we are becoming hooked, why do we carry on using porn? No regular PMOer knows why he or she looks at porn. If PMOers knew the true reason, they would stop doing it. The true answer is the same for all PMOers but the variety of replies is infinite, I find this part of the consultation the most amusing and at the same time the most pathetic.</p> + <h2 id="why-do-we-carry-on-with-pmo">Why Do We Carry on With PMO <a class="anchor" href="#why-do-we-carry-on-with-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>We all start PMOing for many reasons, usually social pressures or our biological curiosity, but once we feel we are becoming hooked, why do we carry on using porn? No regular PMOer knows why he or she looks at porn. If PMOers knew the true reason, they would stop doing it. The true answer is the same for all PMOers but the variety of replies is infinite, I find this part of the consultation the most amusing and at the same time the most pathetic.</p> <p>All PMOers know in their heart of hearts that they are fools. They know that they had no need to use porn or internet porn before they became hooked. Most of them can remember that their first ‘peek’ was a mix of revulsion and novel curiosity. They then filter out and get “skilled” at “locating” and “bookmarking” the right porn sites. They know that they had to work hard in order to become hooked.</p> <p>The most annoying part is that they sense that non-addicts - most women, older guys, people living in countries where hi-speed internet porn is not available “on tap” - are not missing anything and that they are laughing at them.</p> <p>However, PMOers are intelligent, rational human beings. They know that they are taking enormous future risks and so they spend a lot of time rationalizing their ‘habit’. The actual reason why PMOers continue is a subtle combination of the factors that I will elaborate in the next two chapters. They are:</p> @@ -4276,7 +4314,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:38:28 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-04-the-sinister-trap/ - <p>Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it&rsquo;s an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked.</p> + <h2 id="the-sinister-trap">The Sinister Trap <a class="anchor" href="#the-sinister-trap"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it&rsquo;s an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked.</p> <p>It is the only trap in nature which has does not require a lot of hard work to set up. The thing that springs the trap is not that all porn clips feature young, high quality, sexy models; it’s that most of the thumbnails on any porn web page are ugly looking, unattractive, amateurish, home-made clips of unknown models. If the first timer’s first look at a tube page was only filled with angelic beauties, professional models and high quality then the alarm bells would ring. And as intelligent human beings, we could then understand why half the adult population was systematically addicted to watching something that is cutting down their very same potential to do what they are viewing. In many known and yet unknown ways porn cuts down sexual performance and the feeling of satisfaction.</p> <p>But because that first “peek” has “stains and holes,” a mishmash of low quality clips of not-so-hot models, our young minds are reassured that we will never become hooked, and we think that because we are not enjoying them we can stop whenever we want to. It is the only drug in nature that prevents you from achieving your aim. Our curiosity brings us to its door steps. You dare not even click on all of the thumbnails because some of them will make you feel sick and throw up! If you were to accidentally click on an “I-did-not-see-that” clip - all you want to do is get away from the site and close your laptop.</p> <p>With women, the aim is to be the sophisticated modern young lady. We have all seen them acting up and looking absolutely ridiculous. By the time the boys have learnt to look tough and the girls have learnt to look sophisticated, they wish they had never started in the first place. I wonder whether women ever look sophisticated when they discuss the top 10 porn sites, or whether this is a figment of our imaginations created by internet porn companies.</p> @@ -4294,7 +4334,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:31:45 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-03-why-is-it-difficult-to-stop/ - <p>As I explained earlier, I got interested in this subject because of my own addiction. When I finally stopped it was like magic. When I had previously tried to stop there were weeks of black depression. There would be odd days when I was comparatively cheerful but the next day back with the depression. It was like clawing your way out of a slippery pit, you feel you are near the top, you see the sunshine and then find yourself sliding down again. Eventually you open your browser and as you masturbate you feel awful and you try to work out why you have to do it.</p> + <h2 id="why-is-it-difficult-to-stop">Why Is It Difficult to Stop? <a class="anchor" href="#why-is-it-difficult-to-stop"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As I explained earlier, I got interested in this subject because of my own addiction. When I finally stopped it was like magic. When I had previously tried to stop there were weeks of black depression. There would be odd days when I was comparatively cheerful but the next day back with the depression. It was like clawing your way out of a slippery pit, you feel you are near the top, you see the sunshine and then find yourself sliding down again. Eventually you open your browser and as you masturbate you feel awful and you try to work out why you have to do it.</p> <p>One of the questions I always ask online is: “do you want to stop PMO?” In a way it is a stupid question. All users (including members who dispute total abstinence) would love to stop PMO. If you ask to the most confirmed PMOer: “if you could go back to the time before you became hooked, with the knowledge you have now, would you have started PMO?”</p> <p>“NO WAY,” would be the reply.</p> <p>Say to the confirmed PMOer - someone who defends internet porn and who doesn&rsquo;t think that it cause injury to the brain (PIED, hypofrontality or the decreases in the dopamine receptors and etc.) - “do you encourage your children to use PMO?”</p> @@ -4343,12 +4385,14 @@ man and woman from performance based anxieties.&#160;<a href="#fnref: - 03-02 the Easy Method + 03-02 The Easy Method https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-02-the-easy-method/ Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:26:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-02-the-easy-method/ - <p>The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy.</p> + <h2 id="the-easy-method">The Easy Method <a class="anchor" href="#the-easy-method"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy.</p> <p>Provided that you are not a non-PMOer (who had never got addicted) or an ex-PMOer (who had quit or is in the fasting days of the porn-diet), it is essential to not quit until you have finished the book completely. This may appear to be a contradiction. Later I shall be explaining that porn do absolutely nothing for you at all. In fact, one of the many conundrums about internet porn is that when we are actually masturbating to a porn clip, we look at it and wonder why we are doing it. It is only when we have been deprived that the craving for PMO becomes precious.</p> <p>However, let us accept that, whether you like it or not, you believe you are hooked. When you believe you are hooked, you can never be completely relaxed or concentrate properly unless you are using PMO. So do not attempt to stop PMO before you have finished the whole book. This instruction to continue to masturbate using porn until you have completed the book has caused me more frustration than any other. As you read further your desire to masturbate to porn will gradually be reduced. Do not go off half-cocked; this could be fatal. Remember, all you have to do is to follow the instructions in the right order. When I first started writing on forums many of the readers also stopped purely because I had done it. They thought, “if he can do it, anybody can.”</p> <p>Over the years, I managed to persuade the ones that hadn&rsquo;t stopped to realize just how nice it is to be free! I gave my hackbook for free upon request. I worked on the basis that, even if it were the most boring book ever written, they would still read it, if only because it had been written by an ex-PMOer. I was surprised and hurt to learn that,they hadn&rsquo;t bothered to finish the book.</p> @@ -4380,12 +4424,14 @@ man and woman from performance based anxieties.&#160;<a href="#fnref: - 03-01 the Worst PMO Addict I Have Yet to Meet + 03-01 The Worst PMO Addict I Have Yet to Meet https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-01-the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet/ Tue, 20 Dec 2022 17:10:39 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-01-the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet/ - <p>Perhaps I should begin by describing my competence for writing this book. No, I am not a doctor or a psychiatrist; my qualifications are far more appropriate. I spent thirty years of my life as a confirmed fapper. In the later years I used porn on a daily bases to get orgasm(s).During my life I had made a great number of attempts to stop. I never got past a full week of abstinence, and I was still climbing up the wall, with an “annoying alarm clock beeping” in my head called craving. With most PMOers, on the health side, it&rsquo;s a question of “ I&rsquo;ll stop before it happens to me.” I had reached the stage where I knew it has caused PIED, hypofrontality (inability to control and execute action towards a goal), irritability, lack of energy, soulless eyes, mental dryness, stress and pain in the lower back, genital irritations. It bothered me, but it still didn&rsquo;t stop me.</p> + <h2 id="the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet">The Worst PMO Addict I Have Yet to Meet <a class="anchor" href="#the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Perhaps I should begin by describing my competence for writing this book. No, I am not a doctor or a psychiatrist; my qualifications are far more appropriate. I spent thirty years of my life as a confirmed fapper. In the later years I used porn on a daily bases to get orgasm(s).During my life I had made a great number of attempts to stop. I never got past a full week of abstinence, and I was still climbing up the wall, with an “annoying alarm clock beeping” in my head called craving. With most PMOers, on the health side, it&rsquo;s a question of “ I&rsquo;ll stop before it happens to me.” I had reached the stage where I knew it has caused PIED, hypofrontality (inability to control and execute action towards a goal), irritability, lack of energy, soulless eyes, mental dryness, stress and pain in the lower back, genital irritations. It bothered me, but it still didn&rsquo;t stop me.</p> <p>I felt lack of enthusiasm to go to gym or just a walk even if it’s sunny outside or simple weight lifting at home either. I had reached the stage where I gave up even trying to stop. I found excuses in substitute methods (controlled use, safe porn, porn-diet and etc. discussed later) as advocated by sexologists, forum users and medical pros - who have no idea of its effect on brain chemistry and who are themselves fooled by their &rsquo;little monster&rsquo; (not devil or satan - we will talk about monsters later) . The novelty trap and shock value provided by internet porn delivered at home with a low risk high reward deal is something that they can’t even think of. They are still in the static playboy era. And the younger ones have buried their heads under the sand so they can still continue to PMO.</p> <p>The worst part is it was not so much that I enjoyed the PMO. It was just doing it routinely, a chore - like slipping down the water slides, in fact there are brain water slides greased well by the neuro chemicals (DeltaFosB proteins made by dopamine which store emotion scripts for easy recall, will be discussing later). A simple cue such as a commercial, or a day to day stress that got ‘relieved’ temporarily by PMO is all it takes to complete the ride down the ‘waterslide’. Some time in their lives most PMOers have suffered from the illusion that they enjoy the ride, the novelty, the rush and of course the orgasm, but I never had that illusion.</p> <p>I have most times detested the porn, even when I liked the orgasm. But at all times I thought a release from PMO helped me to relax. It gave me courage and confidence, and I was always miserable when I tried to stop, never being able to visualize an enjoyable life without PMO. And so my PMO habit which had started before my marriage stayed with me during and after my marriage was over. I had experienced PIED but I blocked it out and found excuses , “it happens to every man”. Well it does of course - but &lsquo;it&rsquo; happened to me again and again. My penis, I found it difficult to get hard - when I am with real woman. Could it be because I had habituated it to work in limp mode? Later I found that it was hard for me to get hard even with porn.</p> @@ -4423,7 +4469,9 @@ Do not take anything for granted. Question not only what I tell you but also you Tue, 20 Dec 2022 16:58:54 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/02-02-sister-kenny/ - <p>You&rsquo;ve probably seen the film Sister Kenny. In case you haven&rsquo;t, it was about the time when infantile paralysis or polio was the scourge of our children. I vividly remember that the words engendered the same fear in me as the word cancer does today. The effect of polio was not only to paralyze the legs and arms but to distort the limbs. The established medical treatment was to put those limbs in irons and thus prevent the distortion. The result was paralysis for life.</p> + <h2 id="sister-kenny">Sister Kenny <a class="anchor" href="#sister-kenny"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>You&rsquo;ve probably seen the film Sister Kenny. In case you haven&rsquo;t, it was about the time when infantile paralysis or polio was the scourge of our children. I vividly remember that the words engendered the same fear in me as the word cancer does today. The effect of polio was not only to paralyze the legs and arms but to distort the limbs. The established medical treatment was to put those limbs in irons and thus prevent the distortion. The result was paralysis for life.</p> <p>Sister Kenny believed the irons inhibited recovery and proved a thousand times over that the muscles could be re-educated so that the child could walk again. However, Sister Kenny wasn&rsquo;t a doctor, she was merely a nurse. How dare she dabble in a province that was confined to qualified doctors? It didn&rsquo;t seem to matter that Sister Kenny had found the solution to the problem and had proved her solution to be effective. The children that were treated by Sister Kenny knew she was right, so did their parents, yet the established medical profession not only refused to adopt her methods but actually prevented her from practicing. It took Sister Kenny twenty years before the medical profession would accept the obvious.</p> <p>I (Allen Carr) first saw that film years before I (Allen Carr) discovered EASYWAY, The film was very interesting and no doubt there was an element of truth. However, it was equally obvious that Hollywood had used a large portion of poetic license. Sister Kenny couldn&rsquo;t possibly have discovered something that the combined knowledge of medical science had failed to discover. Surely the established medical specialists weren&rsquo;t the dinosaurs they were being portrayed as? How could it possibly have taken them twenty years to accept the facts that were staring them in the face?</p> <p>They say that fact is stranger than fiction, I apologize for accusing the makers of Sister Kenny for using poetic license. Even in this so-called enlightened age of modern communications, even having access to modern communications, I&rsquo;ve failed to get my message across.</p> @@ -4460,7 +4508,9 @@ Do not take anything for granted. Question not only what I tell you but also you Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:27:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/02-01-introduction/ - <div style="text-align: center;"> + <h2 id="introduction">Introduction <a class="anchor" href="#introduction"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><div style="text-align: center;"> <h2 id="im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo">&lsquo;I&rsquo;M GOING TO CURE THE WORLD OF PMO&rsquo; <a class="anchor" href="#im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> </a></h2></div> @@ -4506,7 +4556,9 @@ the world would also see the light and adopt my method.</li> Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:23:44 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/01-03-fear/ - <p>Fear that we will have to survive an indeterminate period of misery, deprivation and unsatisfied craving in order to be free. Fear that a night all by yourself or the eve of a test or exam will be miserable fighting uncontrollable impulses. Fear that we&rsquo;ll never be able to concentrate, handle stress or be as confident without our little crutch. Fear that our personality and character will change.</p> + <h2 id="fear">Fear <a class="anchor" href="#fear"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Fear that we will have to survive an indeterminate period of misery, deprivation and unsatisfied craving in order to be free. Fear that a night all by yourself or the eve of a test or exam will be miserable fighting uncontrollable impulses. Fear that we&rsquo;ll never be able to concentrate, handle stress or be as confident without our little crutch. Fear that our personality and character will change.</p> <p>But most of all, the fear of &lsquo;once an addict always an addict,&rsquo; that we will never be completely free and spend the rest of our lives at odd times craving the occasional porn induced orgasm. If, as I did, you have already tried all the conventional ways to quit and been through the misery of what I describe as the willpower method of stopping, you will not only be affected by that fear, but convinced you can never quit.</p> <p>If you are apprehensive, panic-stricken or feel that the time is not right for you to give up, then let me assure you that your apprehension or panic is caused by fear. That fear is not relieved by PMO but was indeed created by PMO. You didn&rsquo;t decide to fall into the porn trap. But like all traps, it is designed to ensure that you remain trapped. Ask yourself, when you viewed those first porn pictures and videos, did you decide to come back to view them as long as you have? So when are you going to quit? Tomorrow? Next year? Stop kidding yourself! The trap is designed to hold you for life. Why else do you think all these other PMO addicts don&rsquo;t quit before it kills their lives?</p> <p>As you will soon be reading, the feedbacks I got has revealed information that has exceeded my wildest aspirations of the effectiveness of my method. It has also revealed two aspects of the method that have caused me concern. The second I will be covering later.</p> @@ -4537,7 +4589,9 @@ the world would also see the light and adopt my method.</li> Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:19:35 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/01-02-warning/ - <p>Perhaps you are somewhat apprehensive about reading this book. Perhaps, like the majority of PMO addicts, the mere thought of stopping fills you with panic and although you have every intention of stopping one day, it is not today.</p> + <h2 id="warning">Warning <a class="anchor" href="#warning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Perhaps you are somewhat apprehensive about reading this book. Perhaps, like the majority of PMO addicts, the mere thought of stopping fills you with panic and although you have every intention of stopping one day, it is not today.</p> <p>If you are expecting me to inform you of the terrible health issues that PMO addicts risk, that they are susceptible to be affected by PIED (porn induced erectile disfunction), unreliable arousals, fading penetration, loss of interest in real partners,loss of control over themselves, loss of relationships, that it is a filthy, disgusting habit and that <em>YOU</em> are a stupid, spineless, weak-willed jellyfish, then I must disappoint you. Those tactics never helped me to quit and if they were going to help you, you would already have quit.</p> <p>Our Method, which I shall refer to as EASYPEASY doesn&rsquo;t work that way. Some of the things that I am about to say, you might find difficult to believe. However by the time you&rsquo;ve finished reading the book, you&rsquo;ll not only believe them, but wonder how you could ever have been brainwashed into believing otherwise.</p> <p>There is a common misapprehension that we choose to watch porn. PMO addicts ( yes addicts) no more choose to do that than alcoholics choose to become alcoholics, or heroin addicts choose to become heroin addicts. It is true that we choose to boot up the laptop, fire up the browser and visit our favourite online harem<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> tube sites. I occasionally choose to go to the cinema, but I certainly didn&rsquo;t choose to spend my whole life in the cinema theatre. The curiosity and my nature took me there but I would not have done that if I had known it would addict me and cause me my health, happiness and relationships. Only if I had heard about PIED on my first visit to that porn site?</p> @@ -4562,7 +4616,9 @@ the world would also see the light and adopt my method.</li> Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:14:52 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/01-01-preface/ - <p>This hackbook will enable you to stop PMO, immediately, painlessly, and permanently, without the need for Willpower or feeling any sense of deprivation or sacrifice. It will not judge you. It will not embarrass you. It will not put pressure on you to undergo painful measures.</p> + <h2 id="preface">Preface <a class="anchor" href="#preface"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This hackbook will enable you to stop PMO, immediately, painlessly, and permanently, without the need for Willpower or feeling any sense of deprivation or sacrifice. It will not judge you. It will not embarrass you. It will not put pressure on you to undergo painful measures.</p> <p>That goes against everything you&rsquo;ve ever been told about PMO. But ask yourself what you&rsquo;ve been told before worked for you? If it had, you wouldn&rsquo;t be reading this site.</p> <ul> <li>Instantaneous</li> diff --git a/new-site/public/categories/index.xml b/new-site/public/categories/index.xml index f131e4a5..b31651c3 100644 --- a/new-site/public/categories/index.xml +++ b/new-site/public/categories/index.xml @@ -2619,7 +2619,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:22:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-05/ - <p>“Go inside and try in vain to have the same problem. It was a terrible problem, wasn&rsquo;t it? You want to make changes, haven&rsquo;t you?&hellip; What would it be like when you have made those changes, now? In the future as you look back and see what it was like to have had that problem&hellip; as you think about it now, if you could make this change for yourself so that you could STOP&hellip; having made that change and see yourself now. Do you like the way you look if you could make that change and look back at yourself having made that change now!”</p> + <h2 id="scripts-05">Scripts-05 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-05"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>“Go inside and try in vain to have the same problem. It was a terrible problem, wasn&rsquo;t it? You want to make changes, haven&rsquo;t you?&hellip; What would it be like when you have made those changes, now? In the future as you look back and see what it was like to have had that problem&hellip; as you think about it now, if you could make this change for yourself so that you could STOP&hellip; having made that change and see yourself now. Do you like the way you look if you could make that change and look back at yourself having made that change now!”</p> <p>Credit to <a href="http://www.hypnosis.com/scripts_full.php?id2=48">http://www.hypnosis.com/scripts_full.php?id2=48</a></p> @@ -2630,7 +2632,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:21:45 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-04/ - <p>To an individual who has had a PMO problem, porn is poison. It&rsquo;s poison in two ways. First of all it&rsquo;s poison because it breaks down the very will power, the very ego, the very faith in oneself that the individual is able to build up. And so it is a psychological poison because having once conquered the porn problem, if you ever allow it to get back into you again then you begin thinking about yourself all the thoughts that you thought about yourself before, namely, well I really am no good anyway, I really didn&rsquo;t lick it and so on. So it&rsquo;s a psychological poison.</p> + <h2 id="scripts-04">Scripts-04 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-04"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>To an individual who has had a PMO problem, porn is poison. It&rsquo;s poison in two ways. First of all it&rsquo;s poison because it breaks down the very will power, the very ego, the very faith in oneself that the individual is able to build up. And so it is a psychological poison because having once conquered the porn problem, if you ever allow it to get back into you again then you begin thinking about yourself all the thoughts that you thought about yourself before, namely, well I really am no good anyway, I really didn&rsquo;t lick it and so on. So it&rsquo;s a psychological poison.</p> <p>Now in addition to that for anyone who has ever had a porn problem, it&rsquo;s a physical poison. It actually poisons your system. Because you&rsquo;re allergic to porn just like other people are allergic to other things. And so if you&rsquo;re allergic to something, even penicillin, it&rsquo;s poison to you and you must never take it. The same is true with porn. If you&rsquo;re allergic to it, you&rsquo;re through with it. Now you&rsquo;ve been allergic to porn. porn is a poison to you. What&rsquo;s even more fascinating is that usually the reason why one is drawn to porn is not for most of the reasons that most people reiterate, namely that it makes me feel good, I like it, all these things. On the contrary, almost every person who has a porn problem will tell you just the opposite. I don&rsquo;t like it. It&rsquo;s ruining my life. It&rsquo;s terrible.</p> <p>And if that&rsquo;s true, then why are they drawn to it? For precisely that reason. Because it is a poison and because they in their subconscious mind need to commit suicide and so they do it the slow tortuous way. And so that&rsquo;s why it&rsquo;s so important that the underlying cause of the problem be completely removed so that you don&rsquo;t need to punish yourself again with porn. And that&rsquo;s why we have removed them.</p> <p>That&rsquo;s why you don&rsquo;t need to punish yourself anymore. Because you realize you&rsquo;re not guilty to begin with. And if you&rsquo;re not guilty you don&rsquo;t have to punish yourself. And since you&rsquo;re through punishing yourself, you&rsquo;re through poisoning yourself. Yes porn is a poison. It&rsquo;s important that you realize that it&rsquo;s a poison and you are leaving poisons alone. Because you don&rsquo;t need poison any more. You don&rsquo;t need to poison yourself. You don&rsquo;t need to punish yourself. You&rsquo;re through with all that.</p> @@ -2645,7 +2649,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:20:17 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-03/ - <p>Now as you sink deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance. You pay no attention to any other sound but the sound of my voice. You sink deeper and deeper with every breath you take. Deeper and deeper and deeper, way down, deeper and deeper relaxed.</p> + <h2 id="scripts-03">Scripts-03 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-03"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Now as you sink deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance. You pay no attention to any other sound but the sound of my voice. You sink deeper and deeper with every breath you take. Deeper and deeper and deeper, way down, deeper and deeper relaxed.</p> <p>In the past porn may have been to you something that meant life. In your mind you may have accepted a suggestion that porn saves your life from boredom or porn protects you from being injured socially, porn is good for you in some manner or another. But that was yesterday and we are in the future. All that was yesterday, because porn may have protected you from injury in the past socially, it could have even saved your life from boredom.</p> <p>And those suggestions may have been good suggestions at one time but they have outlived their usefulness and if any of those suggestions are present to any degree in your mind, they are completely removed as of now. And that suggestion takes complete and thorough effect upon your mind, body and spirit.</p> <p>Now to other people porn means death. It&rsquo;s a way of punishing oneself. It&rsquo;s a poison and some people want to poison themselves. It&rsquo;s a method of slow suicide. Well, you don&rsquo;t need that now. If porn ever meant death and suicide to you and you have a need to punish yourself, that need is now long gone and we remove that suggestion. The truth of the matter is that porn is just porn. It&rsquo;s not life. It&rsquo;s not death. As a matter of fact, it&rsquo;s not anything to you anymore. It&rsquo;s nothing, neutral feelings. It&rsquo;s something that you don&rsquo;t need nor do you want.</p> @@ -2661,7 +2667,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:18:50 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-02/ - <p>As you go deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance and you pay attention only to the sound of my voice. As you listen carefully to the sound of my voice, we are going to remove a number of suggestions which have been in your mind. We are going to remove them completely and as you listen carefully to them we&rsquo;re simply going to dissolve them&hellip; throw them out of your mind completely and forever&hellip; Nothing disturbs you and nothing bothers you and nothing can distract you in any way from listening to the sound of my voice&hellip; and from completely accepting everything I tell you&hellip; for everything I tell you is the absolute truth to you&hellip; and we&rsquo;re going to remove all suggestions from your mind that have been detrimental to you in the past.</p> + <h2 id="scripts-02">Scripts-02 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-02"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As you go deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance and you pay attention only to the sound of my voice. As you listen carefully to the sound of my voice, we are going to remove a number of suggestions which have been in your mind. We are going to remove them completely and as you listen carefully to them we&rsquo;re simply going to dissolve them&hellip; throw them out of your mind completely and forever&hellip; Nothing disturbs you and nothing bothers you and nothing can distract you in any way from listening to the sound of my voice&hellip; and from completely accepting everything I tell you&hellip; for everything I tell you is the absolute truth to you&hellip; and we&rsquo;re going to remove all suggestions from your mind that have been detrimental to you in the past.</p> <p>The first suggestion you had in your mind is that somehow or another that porn, an image, an illusion, has been of some use to you. Masturbating to porn is of no use to you and you know it. You&rsquo;re through PMO for any reason. It doesn&rsquo;t make you relax, it doesn&rsquo;t make you sleep well, it doesn&rsquo;t do anything for you. As a matter of fact it ruins your efficiency&hellip; and consequently you&rsquo;re through with it. The fact that porn has ever been beneficial to you in any way is completely removed from your mind. I am going to count to five and that suggestion is completely removed from your mind never to return. One, Two, Three, Four, Five.</p> <p>The next suggestion that you may have accepted is that porn is a good means of punishing yourself. In the first place, you&rsquo;re through punishing yourself and in the second place you&rsquo;re through using porn as a means to do it. The only reason anyone ever punishes himself is because somewhere deep in his mind he feels guilty and you&rsquo;re through allowing your-self to feel guilty. And so with one count we&rsquo;re going to remove the guilt, whatever it is and from whatever source the punishment, the need for punishment, and that porn could be used as a vehicle to achieve it. One. Two. Three. Four. Five.</p> <p>Those ideas are all gone. Porn to you is a poison and a lousy inefficient poison at that&hellip; just enough poison to make you sick and ineffective. But then you&rsquo;re through poisoning yourself and you&rsquo;re through using porn and so that need is also removed from your mind. One. Two. Three. Four. Five.</p> @@ -2678,7 +2686,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:17:25 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-01/ - <p>You are relaxed now and because you are so relaxed you begin to feel free from all tensions, anxiety and fear. You now realize that you are more confident and sure of yourself because you have taken the enormous first step toward helping yourself. Great!</p> + <h2 id="scripts-01">Scripts-01 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-01"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>You are relaxed now and because you are so relaxed you begin to feel free from all tensions, anxiety and fear. You now realize that you are more confident and sure of yourself because you have taken the enormous first step toward helping yourself. Great!</p> <p>You begin to feel this strength from within, motivating you to overcome any and every obstacle that may stand in the way of your happiness, social life and home life. You are not a slave to PMO any more!</p> <p>You will find that from this moment on you are developing more self control. You will now face every situation in a calm, relaxed state of mind. Your thinking is very clear and sharp at all times. You are free!</p> <p>You begin to feel that your self respect and confidence are expanding more and more each and every day in every way. You now realize that in the past addiction was an escape and weakness that you are replacing with confidence, strength and self control. You are becoming a happy person now, with a positive attitude toward life. You are succeeding now and you have all the abilities for success.</p> @@ -2696,7 +2706,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:14:53 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/04-02-rebt-coping-statements/ - <ul> + <h2 id="rebt-coping-statements">REBT Coping Statements <a class="anchor" href="#rebt-coping-statements"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ul> <li><em>“I can stop PMO, even though it appears &lsquo;hard&rsquo; to do so. It’s not too hard and no matter how much trouble it takes, it’s worth it!”</em></li> <li><em>“If I keep ignoring and never giving into my powerful urges to PMO, I will make it easier and easier to resist them”</em></li> <li><em>“I can fully and unconditionally accept myself- yes, even with all my flaws and failings”</em></li> @@ -2721,7 +2733,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:13:26 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/04-01-the-instructions/ - <ol> + <h2 id="the-instructions">The Instructions <a class="anchor" href="#the-instructions"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Follow all the instructions.</li> <li>Keep an open mind.</li> <li>Start with a feeling of elation.</li> @@ -2733,11 +2747,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true <li>Always remember there&rsquo;s no such thing as &ldquo;Just One Peek&rdquo;.</li> <li>Never PMO again.</li> </ol> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="affirmations">Affirmations <a class="anchor" href="#affirmations"> +<h3 id="affirmations">Affirmations <a class="anchor" href="#affirmations"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<ul> +</a></h3><ul> <li>I am free from the slavery of PMO.</li> <li>It is easy for me to ignore my thoughts about PMO.</li> <li>Bye bye thoughts, bye bye Urges. Oh, there goes my cravings.</li> @@ -2762,7 +2774,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 11:36:58 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-44-should-i-tell-my-so/ - <p>Should I tell my wife, girlfriend and SO about my PMO? The intention here is that it would help you in quitting. I am of the solid opinion that all these are not needed. It would only reinforce your weakness against PMO.</p> + <h2 id="should-i-tell-my-so">Should I Tell My SO <a class="anchor" href="#should-i-tell-my-so"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Should I tell my wife, girlfriend and SO about my PMO? The intention here is that it would help you in quitting. I am of the solid opinion that all these are not needed. It would only reinforce your weakness against PMO.</p> <p>If you slip, you will feel miserable and guilty if you are following the Willpower Method. Add to that the feeling of deceiving your loved one will definitely push you through the vicious cycle of slip-lapse-relapse.</p> <p>If you are caught once - just say you are feeling good that you got caught and you are out of the prison. And you don’t want to talk about it. Many women can’t digest it. Many men wrongly attribute the woman to be of loose morals and hence a bad person. And if the SO breaks up with you (even if for some other reason) you will feel guilty for having screwed up your sex life with PMO OR feeling you “sacrificed” so much if you were successful in quitting - adding to the heart ache.</p> <p>You will look very weak. They will treat you as a weak person - of course only subconsciously. But you can smell it. Why the stress?</p> @@ -2776,26 +2790,22 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 11:31:13 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-43-advice-to-non-pmoers/ - <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK <a class="anchor" href="#help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book"> + <h2 id="advice-to-non-pmoers">Advice to Non-PMOers <a class="anchor" href="#advice-to-non-pmoers"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>First study the contents of this book and try to put yourself in the place of the PMOer. Do not force him to read this book or try to stop him by telling him he is ruining his health or playing with fire. He already knows this better than you do. PMOers do not continue in it because they enjoy it or because they want to. They only tell themselves and other people this in order to retain self-respect. They do it because they feel dependent on PMO because they think that it relaxes them and gives them courage and confidence (pleasure or crutch) and that life will never be enjoyable without “sex” - their version of it. If you try to force a PMOer to stop, he feels like a trapped animal and wants to be in his harem even more. This may turn him into a secret PMOer and in his mind the porn will become even more precious (see Chapter 26).</p> +</a></h2><h3 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK <a class="anchor" href="#help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>First study the contents of this book and try to put yourself in the place of the PMOer. Do not force him to read this book or try to stop him by telling him he is ruining his health or playing with fire. He already knows this better than you do. PMOers do not continue in it because they enjoy it or because they want to. They only tell themselves and other people this in order to retain self-respect. They do it because they feel dependent on PMO because they think that it relaxes them and gives them courage and confidence (pleasure or crutch) and that life will never be enjoyable without “sex” - their version of it. If you try to force a PMOer to stop, he feels like a trapped animal and wants to be in his harem even more. This may turn him into a secret PMOer and in his mind the porn will become even more precious (see Chapter 26).</p> <p>Instead, concentrate on the other side of the coin. Get him into the company of ex-PMOers (there are many blogs, forums etc. YBOP, No-Fap etc.). Get them to tell the PMOer how they too thought they were hooked for life and how much better life is as a non-PMOer. Once you have got him believing that he can stop then his mind will start to open up. Then start explaining the delusion created by withdrawal pangs. Not only are the “dopamine rushes” not giving him a boost but they are destroying his confidence and making him irritable and tired.</p> <p>He should now be ready to read this book himself. He will be expecting to read pages and pages about unreliable arousal, fading penetrations, PIED, PE, etc. Explain that the approach is completely different and that references to illness are just a small fraction of the material in the book.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD <a class="anchor" href="#help-during-the-withdrawal-period"> +<h3 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD <a class="anchor" href="#help-during-the-withdrawal-period"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>If you are dealing with a girlfriend or boyfriend - whether the ex-PMOer is suffering or not, assume that she/he is. Do not try to minimize his suffering by telling him it is easy to stop; he can do that himself. Instead keep telling him how proud you are, how much better he is looking, how much sweeter it is to be with him, how much easier he is in general. It is particularly important to keep doing this. When a PMOer makes an attempt to stop, the euphoria of the attempt and the attention he gets from friends and colleagues can help him along. However, they tend to forget quickly, so keep that praise going.</p> +</a></h3><p>If you are dealing with a girlfriend or boyfriend - whether the ex-PMOer is suffering or not, assume that she/he is. Do not try to minimize his suffering by telling him it is easy to stop; he can do that himself. Instead keep telling him how proud you are, how much better he is looking, how much sweeter it is to be with him, how much easier he is in general. It is particularly important to keep doing this. When a PMOer makes an attempt to stop, the euphoria of the attempt and the attention he gets from friends and colleagues can help him along. However, they tend to forget quickly, so keep that praise going.</p> <p>Because he is not talking about PMOing, you may think he has forgotten about it and don&rsquo;t want to remind him. Usually the complete opposite is the case with the Willpower Method, as the ex-PMOer tends to be obsessed by nothing else. So do not be frightened to bring the subject up and keep praising him: he will tell you if he doesn&rsquo;t want you to remind him of PMOing.</p> <p>Go out of your way to relieve him of pressures during the withdrawal period. Try to think of ways of making his life interesting and enjoyable. This can also be a trying period for non-PMOers - that is those of you who have never had this addiction. If one member of a group is irritable, it can cause general misery all round. So anticipate this if the ex-PMOer is feeling irritable. He may well take it out on you but do not retaliate: it is at this time that he needs your praise and sympathy the most. If you are feeling irritable yourself, try not to show it.</p> <p>One of the tricks an addict will play when trying to give up with the aid of the Willpower Method was to get into a tantrum, hoping that wife or friends would say, “I cannot bear to see you suffering like this. For goodness sake, have your poison.” The PMOer then does not lose face, as he isn&rsquo;t “giving in” - he has been instructed. If the ex-PMOer uses this ploy, on no account encourage him to lapse. Instead say, “if that is what PMO does to you, thank goodness you will soon be free. How marvellous that you had the courage and sense to give up.”</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL <a class="anchor" href="#help-end-this-scandal"> +<h3 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL <a class="anchor" href="#help-end-this-scandal"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>In my opinion, internet porn is one of the dangers in a free society, piggy backing on the good willed efforts of personal freedoms. Surely the very basis of civilization, the reason why the human species has advanced so far, is that we are capable of communicating our knowledge and experiences not only to each other but to future generations. Even the lower species find it necessary to warn their offspring of the pitfalls in life.</p> +</a></h3><p>In my opinion, internet porn is one of the dangers in a free society, piggy backing on the good willed efforts of personal freedoms. Surely the very basis of civilization, the reason why the human species has advanced so far, is that we are capable of communicating our knowledge and experiences not only to each other but to future generations. Even the lower species find it necessary to warn their offspring of the pitfalls in life.</p> <p>The producers of porn are not doing this in good faith, in the genuine belief that they help mankind, especially now as the addiction to internet porn is widely studied. Maybe in its initial stages people genuinely believed that porn taught intimacy to men and women but today the authorities know that it is a fallacy. Just watch any tube sites nowadays. They make no claims about education. The only claims they make are about the shock, novelty, escalation quality of their clips.</p> <p>The sheer hypocrisy is incredible. As a society we get uptight about school bullying and objectification of human body. Compared with internet porn, these problems are mere pimples in our society. Thirty five per cent of the population have been addicted to porn and most of them spend quality time with imaginary and illusory pixel people at the expense of health, virility, energy and time. Tens of thousands of people have their lives ruined every year because they become hooked. Internet high speed porn is by far the biggest killer in relationships and yet the biggest vested interest is our for-profit companies. Internet porn producers don’t spend on advertising the filth in mainstream publications - they don’t have to. Our biological urges will lead us to the thresholds of their well stocked internet harems. They give free samples just like your local drug dealer. Heck the tube sites don’t even stock the wares any more as they encourage visitors to post the content.</p> <p>How clever that porn companies show the 18+ warning at their home page as the deterrent for under age users. Some even don’t bother to do that. Internet porn affect everyone at all ages. “We have warned you of the danger. It is your choice.” Is the attitude they have. Anyway, do they take any steps to verify the age? No. That would discourage their customers. And of course if age verification is legislated they will find another country to host. Or they will pay some ‘elite’ to write how prohibition resulted in bootlegging and the creation of the Mafia. Conveniently forgotten is the question of why repealing prohibition did not result in the reduction of alcohol related casualty numbers. And the contribution of the failure of law enforcement to control the Mafia’s growth. So let’s not waste time in talking about them.</p> @@ -2806,11 +2816,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <p>I remember reading H. G. Well’s The Time Machine. The book describes an incident in the distant future in which a man falls into a river. His companions merely sit around the bank like cattle, oblivious to his cries of desperation. I found that incident inhuman and very disturbing. I find the general apathy of our society to the PMO problem very similar. We find characters in movies and TV series talking about or even engaging in porn in a casual way.</p> <p>Why do we allow society to subject healthy young teenagers, youngsters whose lives are complete before they start to get online, to claim their independence just for the privilege of destroying themselves mentally and physically in a lifetime of slavery, a lifetime of filth and disease? You may feel that I over-dramatize the facts. Not so. There are cases where lives were cut down in his early years of marriage because of PMO. He was a strong man and might still have been alive today. I believe I was within an inch of PIED during my forties, although I would have attributed it to my divorce rather than to PMO. I now spend my life being consulted by people who have been crippled by the disease or are in the last stages. And, if you care to think about it, you probably know of many too.</p> <p>There is a wind of change in society. A snowball has started that I hope this book will help turn into an avalanche. You too can help by spreading the message.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING <a class="anchor" href="#final-warning"> +<h3 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING <a class="anchor" href="#final-warning"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>You can now enjoy the rest of your life as a happy non-PMOer. In order to make sure that you do, you need to follow these simple instructions:</p> +</a></h3><p>You can now enjoy the rest of your life as a happy non-PMOer. In order to make sure that you do, you need to follow these simple instructions:</p> <ol> <li>Keep this page in your bookmarks and refer to it as much as you need.</li> <li>If you ever start to envy another PMOer, realize that they will be envious of you. You are not being deprived. They are.</li> @@ -2828,7 +2836,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 11:28:29 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-42-help-the-pmoer-left-on-the-sinking-ship/ - <p>PMOers are panicking nowadays. They sense that there is a change in the way internet porn is perceived by men and women. Internet porn’s addictive nature is being studied by more and more people. It is now rightly regarded not as the same as old traditional porn. It’s easy reach and effortless availability raises alarm even in the hearts of porn supporters. They also sense that their crusade for free speech and free thought is being hijacked by vicious elements. The wild wild west nature of the unpoliced internet makes it hard for enforcing age restrictive access to supranormal stimuli. Yet I don’t think this whole thing will be coming to an end anytime soon. Thousands of PMOers are now stopping and all porn users are conscious of the new brain studies that point their studied fingers to the similarities of drug and substance addiction. Every time a PMOer leaves the sinking ship, the ones left on it feel more miserable. Every PMOer instinctively knows that it is ridiculous to self sabotage and spend time in front of two dimensional pixels, treat the poor brain to super surges, develop porn brain water slides that will guarantee him unreliable erections and fading penetrations. If you still don&rsquo;t think it is silly, try talking to a porn magazine standing at the centre of the city square and ask yourself what the difference is. Just one. You cannot get the pleasure of warmth and intimacy that way. If you can stop buying alcohol and cigarettes every time you go grocery shopping you can definitely stop visiting your online harems. PMOers cannot find a rational reason for PMOing but if someone else is doing it, they do not feel quite so silly.</p> + <h2 id="help-the-pmoer-left-on-the-sinking-ship">Help the PMOer Left on the Sinking Ship <a class="anchor" href="#help-the-pmoer-left-on-the-sinking-ship"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>PMOers are panicking nowadays. They sense that there is a change in the way internet porn is perceived by men and women. Internet porn’s addictive nature is being studied by more and more people. It is now rightly regarded not as the same as old traditional porn. It’s easy reach and effortless availability raises alarm even in the hearts of porn supporters. They also sense that their crusade for free speech and free thought is being hijacked by vicious elements. The wild wild west nature of the unpoliced internet makes it hard for enforcing age restrictive access to supranormal stimuli. Yet I don’t think this whole thing will be coming to an end anytime soon. Thousands of PMOers are now stopping and all porn users are conscious of the new brain studies that point their studied fingers to the similarities of drug and substance addiction. Every time a PMOer leaves the sinking ship, the ones left on it feel more miserable. Every PMOer instinctively knows that it is ridiculous to self sabotage and spend time in front of two dimensional pixels, treat the poor brain to super surges, develop porn brain water slides that will guarantee him unreliable erections and fading penetrations. If you still don&rsquo;t think it is silly, try talking to a porn magazine standing at the centre of the city square and ask yourself what the difference is. Just one. You cannot get the pleasure of warmth and intimacy that way. If you can stop buying alcohol and cigarettes every time you go grocery shopping you can definitely stop visiting your online harems. PMOers cannot find a rational reason for PMOing but if someone else is doing it, they do not feel quite so silly.</p> <p>PMOers blatantly lie about their habit, not only to others and university researchers but worse of all to themselves. They have to. The brainwashing is essential if they are to retain some self-respect. They feel the need to justify their “habit” not only to themselves but to non-PMOers. They are therefore forever advertising the illusory advantages of porn and PMO by more subtler means.</p> <p>If a PMOer stops using the Willpower Method he still feels deprived and tends to become a moaner. All this does is to confirm to other PMOers how right they are to keep PMOing. If the ex-PMOer succeeds in kicking the habit, he is then grateful that he no longer has to go through life sabotaging himself or wasting energy. But he has no need to justify himself, he doesn&rsquo;t sit there saying how marvellous it is not to be PMOing. He will do that only if he is asked and PMOers won&rsquo;t ask that question. They wouldn&rsquo;t like the answer. Remember: it is fear that keeps them in their addiction and they would rather keep their heads in the sand. The only time they ask that question is when it is time to stop. Help the PMOer. Remove these fears. Tell him how marvellous it is not to have to go through life living in a prison, how lovely it is to wake up in the morning feeling fit and healthy instead of lacking in energy and self loathing, how wonderful it is to be free of slavery, to be able to enjoy the whole of your life, to be rid of those awful black shadows. Or, better still; get him to read this book.</p> <p>It is essential not to belittle a married PMOer by indicating that he is deliberately ruining his relationship or is in some way a cheat and is unclean. There is a common conception that the ex-PMOer is the worst in this respect. I believe this conception has some substance but I think this is due to the Willpower Method of stopping. Because the ex-PMOer, although he has kicked the habit, retains part of the brainwashing - part of him still believes that he has made a sacrifice. He feels vulnerable and his natural defensive mechanism is to attack the PMOer.</p> @@ -2847,7 +2857,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:21:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-41-feedback/ - <p>This method will be pooh-poohed by the so-called experts - as I have kept it thin, deliberately, on the ‘science’ side of porn addiction. This ‘hackbook’ is based on a very successful technique used by Alan Carr for quitting smoking, alcohol and gambling. I have personally broken away from the prisons of cigarette, alcohol and internet porn with this technique. I’d like to add here that I’ve tried some of the best programmes - such as CBT, DEADS and AVERT before arriving at the EasyWay. I could not close the deal. I was then led to studying about self hypnosis that deals with bad habits. The key idea that sold me on this method is his emphasis on the “feelings of misery and deprivation, misery and sacrifice, misery and guilt.” If you use the Will Power method you will invariably have all or one of these awful feelings that in themselves provide the grease to slide back to the addiction.</p> + <h2 id="feedback">Feedback <a class="anchor" href="#feedback"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This method will be pooh-poohed by the so-called experts - as I have kept it thin, deliberately, on the ‘science’ side of porn addiction. This ‘hackbook’ is based on a very successful technique used by Alan Carr for quitting smoking, alcohol and gambling. I have personally broken away from the prisons of cigarette, alcohol and internet porn with this technique. I’d like to add here that I’ve tried some of the best programmes - such as CBT, DEADS and AVERT before arriving at the EasyWay. I could not close the deal. I was then led to studying about self hypnosis that deals with bad habits. The key idea that sold me on this method is his emphasis on the “feelings of misery and deprivation, misery and sacrifice, misery and guilt.” If you use the Will Power method you will invariably have all or one of these awful feelings that in themselves provide the grease to slide back to the addiction.</p> <p>I&rsquo;m not a do-gooder. My war - which, I emphasize, is not against PMOers but against the porn trap, I wage for the purely selfish reason that I enjoy it. Every time I hear of a PMOer escaping from the prison I get a feeling of great pleasure, even when it has nothing to do with me. You can imagine also the immense pleasure I obtain from the grateful letters that I have received over time.</p> <p>There has also been considerable frustration. The frustration is caused mainly by two main categories of PMOer. First, in spite of the warning in the previous chapter, I am disturbed by the number of PMOers who find it easy to stop, yet later get hooked again and find they can&rsquo;t succeed the next time.</p> <p>Practically the last thing I say to ex-PMOers is: “Remember, you must never visit another online harem again.”</p> @@ -2907,11 +2919,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <blockquote> <p>Find out which one it is. Some people understand and believe everything I say but still start off with a feeling of doom and gloom, as if something terrible were happening. You are doing not only what you&rsquo;d like to do but what every PMOer on the planet would like to do. With any method of stopping, what the ex PMOer is trying to achieve is a certain frame of mind, so that whenever he thinks about PMO he says to himself, “YIPPEE! I&rsquo;M FREE!” If that&rsquo;s your object, why wait? Start off in that frame of mind and never lose it. The rest of the book is designed to make you understand why there is no alternative.</p> </blockquote> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="the-check-list"><strong>THE CHECK LIST</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-check-list"> +<h2 id="the-check-list">THE CHECK LIST <a class="anchor" href="#the-check-list"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>If you follow these simple instructions, you cannot fail:</p> +</a></h2><p>If you follow these simple instructions, you cannot fail:</p> <ol> <li>Make a solemn vow that you will never, ever, go online to visit your harem OR settle down for static pictures OR make peace with erotic graphics OR anything that contains supra normal stimuli, and stick to your vow.</li> <li>Get this clear in your mind: there is absolutely nothing to give up. By that I don&rsquo;t mean simply that you will be better off as a non-PMOer (you&rsquo;ve known that all this time); nor do I mean that although there is no rational reason why you PMO, you must get some form of pleasure or crutch from it or you wouldn&rsquo;t do it. What I mean is, there is no genuine pleasure or crutch in PMOing. It is just an illusion, it’s an addiction like banging your head against a wall to make it pleasant when you stop.</li> @@ -2925,7 +2935,7 @@ strains of life.</li> <hr> <ol> <li id="fn:1"> -<p><strong>MoR</strong> moment of revelation. R2T resistance to temptation. MaD misery and deprived. MaS misery and sacrifice. MaG misery and guilty. DSC dopamine surge claims.&#160;<a href="#fnref:1" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p> +<p><strong>MoR</strong> - moment of revelation. R2T resistance to temptation. MaD misery and deprived. MaS misery and sacrifice. MaG misery and guilty. DSC dopamine surge claims.&#160;<a href="#fnref:1" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p> </li> </ol> </div> @@ -2938,7 +2948,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:20:54 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-40-a-final-warning/ - <p>No PMOer, given the chance of going back to the time before he became hooked with the knowledge he has now, would opt to start. Many of the them who consult me are convinced that if I could only help them stop, they would never dream of PMOing again, and yet thousands of PMOers successfully kick the habit for many years and lead perfectly happy lives, only to get trapped once again. I trust that this book will help you to find it relatively easy to stop. But be warned: PMOers who find it easy to stop find it easy to start again, DO NOT FALL FOR THIS TRAP.</p> + <h2 id="a-final-warning">A Final Warning <a class="anchor" href="#a-final-warning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>No PMOer, given the chance of going back to the time before he became hooked with the knowledge he has now, would opt to start. Many of the them who consult me are convinced that if I could only help them stop, they would never dream of PMOing again, and yet thousands of PMOers successfully kick the habit for many years and lead perfectly happy lives, only to get trapped once again. I trust that this book will help you to find it relatively easy to stop. But be warned: PMOers who find it easy to stop find it easy to start again, DO NOT FALL FOR THIS TRAP.</p> <p>No matter how long you have stopped or how confident you are that you will never become hooked again, make it a rule of life not to PMO for any reason. Resist the allusions and innuendoes in the media, and remember they are pushing their image of ‘openness’ by bringing porn into mainstream without realizing how porn, internet porn etc. are killers of relationships and of the personal sense of well being for a huge number of men and some women.</p> <p>Remember, that first peek or visit will do nothing for you. You will have no withdrawal pangs to relieve and it will make you feel awful. What it will do is to put the pleasure of dopamine rush into your mind and brain, and a little voice at the back of your mind will be saying, “you want another one.” Then you have got the choice of being miserable for a while or starting the whole filthy chain again.</p> @@ -2950,7 +2962,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:15:27 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-39-the-final-visit/ - <p>Having decided on your timing, you are now ready to visit your harem one last time. Before you do so, check on the two essentials:</p> + <h2 id="the-final-visit">The Final Visit <a class="anchor" href="#the-final-visit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Having decided on your timing, you are now ready to visit your harem one last time. Before you do so, check on the two essentials:</p> <ol> <li>Do you feel certain of success?</li> <li>Have you a feeling of doom and gloom or a sense of excitement that you are about to achieve something marvelous?</li> @@ -3001,7 +3015,9 @@ sites in my life again.”<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1& Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:13:13 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-38-the-moment-of-revelation/ - <p>The moment of revelation usually takes place about three weeks after stopping. The sky appears to become brighter and it is the moment when the brainwashing ends completely. When instead of telling yourself you do not need to PMO, you suddenly realize that the last thread is broken and you can enjoy the rest of your life without ever needing PMO again. It is also usually from this point that you start looking at other PMOers as objects of pity.</p> + <h2 id="the-moment-of-revelation">The Moment of Revelation <a class="anchor" href="#the-moment-of-revelation"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The moment of revelation usually takes place about three weeks after stopping. The sky appears to become brighter and it is the moment when the brainwashing ends completely. When instead of telling yourself you do not need to PMO, you suddenly realize that the last thread is broken and you can enjoy the rest of your life without ever needing PMO again. It is also usually from this point that you start looking at other PMOers as objects of pity.</p> <p>PMOers using the Willpower Method do not normally experience this moment because although they are glad to be ex-PMOers they continue through life believing they are making a sacrifice. The more you were addicted, the more marvellous this moment is and it lasts a lifetime. I consider I have been very fortunate in this life and had some wonderful moments but the most wonderful of all was that moment of revelation. With all the other highlights of my life, although I can remember they were happy times, I can never recapture the actual feeling. I can never get over the joy of not having to PMO any more. If ever I am feeling low and need a boost nowadays, I just think how lovely it is not to be hooked on that awful addiction. Half the people who contact me after they have stopped visiting the online harems say exactly the same thing: that it was the most marvellous event of their lives. Ah! What pleasure you have to come! With additional feedback, both from forums and personal interactions, I have learned that in most cases the moment of revelation occurs not after three weeks, as stated above, but within a few days.</p> <p>In my own case it happened before I was finished on my last harem visit. I am sure many of the readers here, before they’d even got to the end of the chapters would say something like: “You needn&rsquo;t say another word. I can see it all so clearly, I know I&rsquo;ll never PMO again.” From the messages I receive I&rsquo;m also aware that it frequently happens.</p> <p>Ideally if you follow all the instructions and understand the psychology completely, it should happen to you immediately.</p> @@ -3021,20 +3037,18 @@ sites in my life again.”<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1& Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:10:40 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-37-should-i-avoid-temptation-situations/ - <p>I have been direct in my advice so far and would ask you to treat this advice as instruction rather than suggestion. I am explicit and direct, first because there are sound, practical reasons for my advice and second, because those reasons have been backed up by thousands of case studies. On the question of whether or not to try to avoid temptation during the withdrawal period, I regret that I cannot be direct. Each PMOer will need to decide for himself. I can, however, make what I hope -will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all our lives and this fear consists of two distinct phases:</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO? <a class="anchor" href="#phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo"> + <h2 id="should-i-avoid-temptation-situations">Should I Avoid Temptation Situations? <a class="anchor" href="#should-i-avoid-temptation-situations"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>This fear is that panicky feeling the PMOer gets when they are alone in a single phase or have an asexual, uninterested or unavailable partner. The fear isn&rsquo;t caused by withdrawal pangs but is the psychological fear of dependency - you cannot survive without sex and orgasm. It actually reaches its height when you are on the verge of quitting (I won’t use giving up); at that time your withdrawal pangs are at their lowest. It is the fear of the unknown, the sort of fear that people have when they are learning to dive.</p> +</a></h2><p>I have been direct in my advice so far and would ask you to treat this advice as instruction rather than suggestion. I am explicit and direct, first because there are sound, practical reasons for my advice and second, because those reasons have been backed up by thousands of case studies. On the question of whether or not to try to avoid temptation during the withdrawal period, I regret that I cannot be direct. Each PMOer will need to decide for himself. I can, however, make what I hope +will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all our lives and this fear consists of two distinct phases:</p> +<h3 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO? <a class="anchor" href="#phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>This fear is that panicky feeling the PMOer gets when they are alone in a single phase or have an asexual, uninterested or unavailable partner. The fear isn&rsquo;t caused by withdrawal pangs but is the psychological fear of dependency - you cannot survive without sex and orgasm. It actually reaches its height when you are on the verge of quitting (I won’t use giving up); at that time your withdrawal pangs are at their lowest. It is the fear of the unknown, the sort of fear that people have when they are learning to dive.</p> <p>The diving board is 1 foot high but seems to be 6 feet high. The water is 6 feet deep but appears to be 1 foot deep. It takes courage to launch yourself. You are convinced you are going to smash your head. The launching is the hardest part. If you can find the courage to do it, the rest is easy. This explains why many otherwise strong-willed PMOers either have never attempted to stop or can survive only a few days when they do. In fact, there are some PMOers on a porn diet who when they decide to stop, actually binge and escalate to harsher clips more quickly than if they had not decided to stop. The decision causes panic, which is stressful. This is one of the occasions when the brain triggers the instruction, “take a trip to your own personal harem.” But now you can&rsquo;t take one. You are being deprived - more stress.</p> <p>The trigger starts again quickly when the fuse blows and you fire up the browser. Don&rsquo;t worry. That panic is just psychological. It is the fear that you are dependent. The beautiful truth is that you are not, even when you are still addicted. Do not panic. Just trust me and launch yourself.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear <a class="anchor" href="#phase-2-longer-term-fear"> +<h3 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear <a class="anchor" href="#phase-2-longer-term-fear"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>The second phase of fear is longer-term. It involves the fear that certain situations in the future will not be enjoyable or that you will not be able to cope with a trauma without PMO. Don&rsquo;t worry. If you can launch yourself you will find the opposite to be the case. The avoidance of temptation itself falls into two main categories:</p> +</a></h3><p>The second phase of fear is longer-term. It involves the fear that certain situations in the future will not be enjoyable or that you will not be able to cope with a trauma without PMO. Don&rsquo;t worry. If you can launch yourself you will find the opposite to be the case. The avoidance of temptation itself falls into two main categories:</p> <ol> <li>“I will subscribe to a porn-diet of once in 4 days. I will feel more confident knowing that I can go online if it gets hard. It is OK if I fail I can just add up additional days to my next cycle.”</li> </ol> @@ -3057,7 +3071,9 @@ will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all o Sat, 24 Dec 2022 08:46:33 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-36-substitutes/ - <p>Substitutes include restricting to porn magazines, static internet images, going on a porn-diet<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> etc. <strong>DO NOT USE ANY OF THEM</strong>. They make it harder, not easier. If you do get a pang and use a substitute it will prolong the pang and make it harder. What you are really saying is, “I need to PMO to fill the void.” It will be like giving in to a hijacker or the tantrums of a child. It will just keep the pangs coming and prolong the torture. In any event the substitutes will not relieve the pangs. Your craving is for amino acids in the brain. All it will do is keep you thinking about PMOing. Remember these points:</p> + <h2 id="substitutes">Substitutes <a class="anchor" href="#substitutes"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Substitutes include restricting to porn magazines, static internet images, going on a porn-diet<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> etc. <strong>DO NOT USE ANY OF THEM</strong>. They make it harder, not easier. If you do get a pang and use a substitute it will prolong the pang and make it harder. What you are really saying is, “I need to PMO to fill the void.” It will be like giving in to a hijacker or the tantrums of a child. It will just keep the pangs coming and prolong the torture. In any event the substitutes will not relieve the pangs. Your craving is for amino acids in the brain. All it will do is keep you thinking about PMOing. Remember these points:</p> <ol> <li>There is no substitute for PMO.</li> <li>You do not need porn or PMO. It is not food; it is poison. When the pangs come remind yourself that it is PMOers who suffer withdrawal pangs, not non-PMOers. See them as another evil of the drug. See them as the death of a monster.</li> @@ -3089,12 +3105,13 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict - 03-35 the Main Reasons for Failure + 03-35 The Main Reasons for Failure https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-35-the-main-reasons-for-failure/ Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:23:39 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-35-the-main-reasons-for-failure/ - <p>There are two main reasons for failure. The first is the influence of external stimuli - a commercial, online news articles, internet browsing etc. At a weak moment or even during a social occasion somebody will get intimate with their partner. I have already dealt with this topic at length. Use that moment to remind yourself that there is no such thing as one visit or one peek. Rejoice in the fact that you have broken the chain of mental slavery. Remember that the PMOer envies you, and feel sorry for him. Believe me, he needs your pity. The other main reason for failure is having a bad day. Get it clear in your mind before you start that, whether you are a PMOer or a non-PMOer, there are good days and bad days. It rains for both the pope and the murderer.</p> + <p>The Main Reasons for Failure</p> +<p>There are two main reasons for failure. The first is the influence of external stimuli - a commercial, online news articles, internet browsing etc. At a weak moment or even during a social occasion somebody will get intimate with their partner. I have already dealt with this topic at length. Use that moment to remind yourself that there is no such thing as one visit or one peek. Rejoice in the fact that you have broken the chain of mental slavery. Remember that the PMOer envies you, and feel sorry for him. Believe me, he needs your pity. The other main reason for failure is having a bad day. Get it clear in your mind before you start that, whether you are a PMOer or a non-PMOer, there are good days and bad days. It rains for both the pope and the murderer.</p> <p>Life is a matter of relativity and you cannot have ups without having downs. The problem with the Willpower Method of stopping is that as soon as the PMOer has a bad day he starts moping for his ‘harem’ visit and all that does is make a bad day worse. The non-PMOer is better equipped, not only physically but also mentally, to cope with the stresses and strains of life. If you have a bad day during the withdrawal period just take it on the chin. Remind yourself that you had bad days when you were addicted (otherwise you wouldn&rsquo;t have decided to stop). Instead of moping about it, say to yourself something like, “OK, today&rsquo;s not so good but masturbating is not going to cure it. Tomorrow will be better and at least I have got a marvellous bonus at the moment. I have kicked that awful PMO habit.”</p> <p>When you are a PMOer you have to block your mind to the bad side of PMO. PMOer never have brain fog just “a bit down.” When you are having life’s inevitable troubles you want to PMO but are you happy and cheerful? Of course you aren&rsquo;t. Once you stop, the tendency is to blame everything that goes wrong in your life on the fact that you have stopped.</p> <p>Now if your work stresses you out you think, “At times like this I would have PMOed.” That&rsquo;s true but the important thing you forget is that the PMO didn&rsquo;t solve the problem and you are simply punishing yourself by moping for an illusory crutch. You are creating an impossible situation. You are miserable because you can&rsquo;t have the porn and masturbation yet you&rsquo;ll be even more miserable if you do. You know that you have made the correct decision by stopping PMO so why punish yourself by ever doubting the decision?</p> @@ -3109,7 +3126,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:22:12 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-34-will-it-be-harder-for-me/ - <p>The combinations of factors that will determine how easily each individual PMOer will quit are infinite. To start with, each of us has his own character, type of work, personal circumstances, timing, etc. Certain professions may make it harder than others but providing the brainwashing is removed it doesn&rsquo;t have to be so. A few individual examples will help.</p> + <h2 id="will-it-be-harder-for-me">Will It Be Harder for Me? <a class="anchor" href="#will-it-be-harder-for-me"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The combinations of factors that will determine how easily each individual PMOer will quit are infinite. To start with, each of us has his own character, type of work, personal circumstances, timing, etc. Certain professions may make it harder than others but providing the brainwashing is removed it doesn&rsquo;t have to be so. A few individual examples will help.</p> <p>It tends to be particularly difficult for members of the medical profession. We think it should be easier for doctors because they are more aware of the effects of ill- health and are seeing daily evidence of it. Although this supplies more forceful reasons for stopping, it doesn&rsquo;t make it any easier to do. The reasons are these:</p> <ol> <li>The constant awareness of the health risks creates fear which is one of the conditions under which we need to relieve our withdrawal pangs.</li> @@ -3128,7 +3147,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:20:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-33-just-one-peek/ - <p>This is the undoing of many PMOers who try to stop on the Willpower Method. They will go through three or four days and then have the odd peek or a PMO or two to tide them over. They do not realize the devastating effect this has on their morale.</p> + <h2 id="just-one-peek">Just One Peek <a class="anchor" href="#just-one-peek"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is the undoing of many PMOers who try to stop on the Willpower Method. They will go through three or four days and then have the odd peek or a PMO or two to tide them over. They do not realize the devastating effect this has on their morale.</p> <p>For most PMOers that first peek at the tube site harem was not as good as sex with a real person. The clips that are clean are far in between. This gives their conscious minds a boost. They think, “Good. That wasn&rsquo;t entirely all that enjoyable. I am losing the urge to PMO and I am not that much into the shocking stuff.” In fact, the reverse is the case. Get it clear in your mind - enjoyment of orgasm wasn&rsquo;t the reason why you hit porn. If PMOers were there for orgasm alone, they&rsquo;d never watch more than one clip. The only reason why you PMO was to feed that little monster. Just think: you had starved him for four days. How precious that one peek must have been to him. You are not aware of it in your conscious mind but the fix your body received will be communicated to your subconscious mind and all your sound preparation will be undermined. There will be a little voice at the back of your mind saying, “In spite of all the logic they are precious. I want another one.”</p> <p>That little peek has two damaging effects:</p> <ol> @@ -3147,7 +3168,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:16:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-32-the-withdrawal-period/ - <p>For up to three weeks after your last PMO session you may be subjected to withdrawal pangs. These consist of two quite separate factors:</p> + <h2 id="the-withdrawal-period">The Withdrawal Period <a class="anchor" href="#the-withdrawal-period"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>For up to three weeks after your last PMO session you may be subjected to withdrawal pangs. These consist of two quite separate factors:</p> <ol> <li>The withdrawal pangs of dopamine, that empty, insecure feeling, like a hunger, which PMOers identify as a craving or “something I must to do” feeling.</li> <li>The psychological trigger of certain external stimuli such as a commercial, online browsing, a telephone conversation etc.</li> @@ -3177,12 +3200,14 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict - 03-31 the Easy Way to Stop + 03-31 The Easy Way to Stop https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-31-the-easy-way-to-stop/ Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:07:43 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-31-the-easy-way-to-stop/ - <p>This chapter contains instructions about the easy way to stop PMO. Providing you follow the instructions, you will find that stopping ranges from relatively easy to enjoyable! But remember the definition of a brunette: “a girl who didn&rsquo;t read the instructions on the bottle.” It is ridiculously easy to stop PMO. All you have to do is two things:</p> + <h2 id="the-easy-way-to-stop">The Easy Way to Stop <a class="anchor" href="#the-easy-way-to-stop"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This chapter contains instructions about the easy way to stop PMO. Providing you follow the instructions, you will find that stopping ranges from relatively easy to enjoyable! But remember the definition of a brunette: “a girl who didn&rsquo;t read the instructions on the bottle.” It is ridiculously easy to stop PMO. All you have to do is two things:</p> <ol> <li>Make the decision that you are never going to PMO again.</li> <li>Don&rsquo;t mope about it. Rejoice.</li> @@ -3196,8 +3221,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict <p>Basically I said to myself, “Scores of people are stopping now and leading perfectly happy lives. I didn&rsquo;t need to do it before I started and I can remember having to work hard to get used to this filth. So why do I need to do it now?” In any event I didn&rsquo;t enjoy PMO, I hated the whole filthy ritual and I didn&rsquo;t want to spend the rest of my life being the slave of this disgusting porn addiction.</p> <p>I then said to myself:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<p><strong>“WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT. YOU HAVE COMPLETED YOUR LAST PMO VISIT”</strong></p> -</div> +<h3 id="whether-you-like-it-or-not-you-have-completed-your-last-pmo-visit">“WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT. YOU HAVE COMPLETED YOUR LAST PMO VISIT” <a class="anchor" href="#whether-you-like-it-or-not-you-have-completed-your-last-pmo-visit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>I knew, right from that point, that I would never PMO again. I wasn&rsquo;t expecting it to be easy; in fact, just the reverse. I fully believed that I was in for months of black depression and that I would spend the rest of my life having the occasional pang. Instead it has been absolute bliss right from the start.</p> <p>It took me a long time to work out why it had been so easy and why this time I hadn&rsquo;t suffered those terrifying withdrawal pangs. The reason is that they do not exist. It is the doubt and uncertainty that causes the pangs. The beautiful truth is: IT IS EASY TO STOP PMO. It is only the indecision and moping about it that makes it difficult. Even while they are addicted to porn, PMOers can go for relatively long periods at certain times in their lives without bothering about it. It is only when you want it but can&rsquo;t have one that you suffer.</p> <p>Therefore the key to making it easy is to make stopping certain and final. Not to hope but to know you have kicked it, having made the decision. Never to doubt or question it. In fact, just the reverse - always to rejoice about it. If you can be certain from the start, it will be easy. But how can you be certain from the start unless you know it is going to be easy? This is why the rest of the book is necessary. There are certain essential points and it is necessary to get them clear in your mind before you start:</p> @@ -3232,7 +3258,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:05:14 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-30-avoid-false-incentives/ - <p>Many PMOers, while trying to stop on the Willpower Method, attempt to increase their motivation by building up false incentives. There are many examples of this, a typical one is, “I will reward myself with a gift after no-PMO for a month.” This appears to be a logical and sensible approach but in fact it is false because any self-respecting PMOer would rather continue PMOing every day than receive a “self given gift.” In any case there is a doubt in the PMOer’s mind because not only will she have to abstain for thirty days but will she even enjoy the days without a PMO? Her only pleasure or crutch is taken away! All this does is to increase the size of the sacrifice that the PMOer feels she is making, which makes it even more precious in her mind.</p> + <h2 id="avoid-false-incentives">Avoid False Incentives <a class="anchor" href="#avoid-false-incentives"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Many PMOers, while trying to stop on the Willpower Method, attempt to increase their motivation by building up false incentives. There are many examples of this, a typical one is, “I will reward myself with a gift after no-PMO for a month.” This appears to be a logical and sensible approach but in fact it is false because any self-respecting PMOer would rather continue PMOing every day than receive a “self given gift.” In any case there is a doubt in the PMOer’s mind because not only will she have to abstain for thirty days but will she even enjoy the days without a PMO? Her only pleasure or crutch is taken away! All this does is to increase the size of the sacrifice that the PMOer feels she is making, which makes it even more precious in her mind.</p> <p>Other examples: “I&rsquo;ll stop PMO so that I will force myself to get a social life and seek more sex in real life” OR “I’ll stop so some magical energy will help me to leap above the competitors and get this woman I pursue” OR “I commit to not waste my energy and enthusiasm in PMO, so I can grow enough hunger in myself.” These are true and can be effective and you may end up getting what you want. But think about it for a second - if you do get what you had wanted, once the novelty has gone you will feel deprived - if you didn’t then you will feel miserable and either way sooner or later you will fall for the trap again.</p> <p>Another typical example is online or forum pacts. These have the advantage of eliminating temptation for certain periods. However, they generally fail for the following reasons:</p> <ol> @@ -3243,9 +3271,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict </ol> <p>Stop kidding yourself. If the job offer that I mentioned before, of 10 months work for 12 months salary a year won&rsquo;t stop him. Or if the risks of cutting down your brain’s capacity to cope with just any normal day-to-day stress and strains or if putting yourself at odds with having a reliable erection, or if the lifetime of mental and physical torture and slavery did not stop him or her - the above said few phoney incentives will not make the slightest bit of difference. They will only make the sacrifice appear worse. Instead concentrate on the other side:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"><strong>“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?”</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"> +<h2 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo">“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?” <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> +</a></h2></div> <p>Keep looking at the other side of the tug of war. What is PMOing doing for me? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Why do I need to do it? YOU DON&rsquo;T! YOU ARE ONLY PUNISHING YOURSELF. Try looking at it from the Pascal’s Wager perspective. You have almost nothing to lose (a rub-out with half arousals) for sure, chances of big profits (a full and reliable arousal, mental well being and happiness) and no chance of losing big (unreliable full arousals, premature ejaculations, fading penetrations, loss of general impulse controls, lower tolerance for frustrations and anger).</p> <p>Why not declare your quitting to friends and family? Well, it will make you a proud ex-addict, ex-PMOer, not an elated and happy non-PMOer. It will scare your partner a bit since they may see this as an effort to have more sex, sort of a new-age thing. They may also fear to lose you if this turns you into sex machine. It is hard to explain to them unless they are open minded.</p> <p>Any attempt to get others to help you in your quitting gives more power to the little monster of addiction. Pushing it from your mind and totally ignoring it has the effect of trying NOT to think of it. As soon as you spot the thoughts, when you hit the cues (home alone) or just absent minded thoughts - just say to yourself: “Great, I don’t have to do it like a slave animal. I am free. I am happy to know the differences in sex.” This will cut the life of the thought and will deny oxygen to it and will stop it from burning towards urges and cravings.</p> @@ -3258,7 +3286,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:03:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-29-can-i-compartmentalize/ - <p>This is another myth about PMOing spread mainly by PMOers who, when attempting to stop on the Willpower Method, substitute mental gymnastics - they propose to act -Jekyll and Hyde: “Porn is for my alter ego side and real life romance is for my relationship side.” Nothing is further from the truth. The porn waterslides - the deltaFosBs and all the brain changes are going to overrun the real life romance and will make it less desirable. Mr Hyde is most definitely going to overrule Dr. Jekyll’s instructions.</p> + <h2 id="can-i-compartmentalize">Can I Compartmentalize? <a class="anchor" href="#can-i-compartmentalize"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is another myth about PMOing spread mainly by PMOers who, when attempting to stop on the Willpower Method, substitute mental gymnastics - they propose to act -Jekyll and Hyde: “Porn is for my alter ego side and real life romance is for my relationship side.” Nothing is further from the truth. The porn waterslides - the deltaFosBs and all the brain changes are going to overrun the real life romance and will make it less desirable. Mr Hyde is most definitely going to overrule Dr. Jekyll’s instructions.</p> <p>If you use internet porn, you may be training yourself for the role of voyeur or to need the option of clicking to something more arousing at the least drop in your dopamine levels, or to search and search for just the right scene for maximum effect. Also, you may be masturbating in a hunched-over position – or watching your smartphone in bed nightly. You will eventually desire those cues more than the real life action. The thing that goes against real sex is the lack of novelty, variety, ‘harem’ like 24/7 quick delivery etc. and so it stands no chance compared to your online harem. The younger you were when you started on PMO the longer to rewire and break down those ‘porn water slides’ and get back those ‘real water slides’ if there were any from the past or create new ones. Also powerful and lasting are the associated memories from when you were young.</p> <p>Every time you take a ride on the ‘porn water slide’ you are ‘greasing’ it - keeping the nerves fresh. When you park next to a fast food restaurant the smell of the fries floats from the pan into your nostrils and the sale was already made. Likewise, the porn water slides in your brain are there for you to get sucked in and they are open 24 hours a day. Each of these cues, or triggers, can now light up your reward circuit with the promise of sex&hellip; only it isn&rsquo;t sex. Nevertheless, nerve cells may solidify these associations with sexual arousal by sprouting new branches to strengthen the connections. The more you use porn the stronger the nerve connections can become, with the result that you may ultimately need to be a voyeur, need to click to new material, need to climax to porn to get to sleep, or need to search for the perfect ending just to get the job done.</p> <p>As with any substance or behavioural drug, after a while the body becomes immune and the “drug” ceases to relieve the withdrawal pangs completely. As soon as we close a session, the addict wants another one very soon and he has a permanent hunger. The natural inclination is eventually to ‘escalate’ just to get the dopamine rush. However, most PMOers are prevented from doing this for one, or both, of two reasons.</p> @@ -3278,7 +3308,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:01:03 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-28-will-i-miss-the-fun/ - <p>No! Once that little porn monster is dead and your body stops craving dopamine and the porn water slides in your brain start to fade due to lack of ‘greasing’, any remaining brainwashing will vanish and you will find yourself both physically and mentally better equipped not only to cope with the stresses and strains of life but to enjoy the good times to the full.</p> + <h2 id="will-i-miss-the-fun">Will I Miss the Fun? <a class="anchor" href="#will-i-miss-the-fun"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>No! Once that little porn monster is dead and your body stops craving dopamine and the porn water slides in your brain start to fade due to lack of ‘greasing’, any remaining brainwashing will vanish and you will find yourself both physically and mentally better equipped not only to cope with the stresses and strains of life but to enjoy the good times to the full.</p> <p>There is only one danger and that is the influence of those who still use sex as their lying crutch and damned pleasure. “The other man&rsquo;s grass is always greener,” is commonplace in many aspects of our lives and is easily understandable. Why is it in the case of PMOing, where the disadvantages are so enormous as compared with even the illusory ‘advantages,’ that the ex-PMOer tend to envy the man or woman who appears to demand sex and use porn for pleasure and a crutch?</p> <p>With all the brainwashing of our childhood it is quite understandable that we fall into the trap. Why is it that, once we realize what a mug&rsquo;s game it is and many of us manage to kick the habit, we walk straight back into the same trap? It is the influence of society&rsquo;s brainwashing of porn being conflated with sex and presented as normal. The ex-PMOer has a pang! The insecure void feelings of them being single, which in itself is not a crime anyway, causes anxiety and cues them to PMO water slide. This is indeed a curious anomaly, particularly if you consider this piece of observation: not only is every non-PMOer in the world happy to be a non-PMOer but every PMOer in the world, even with his warped, addicted, brainwashed mind suffering the delusion that he enjoys it or it relaxes him, wishes he had never become hooked in the first place. So why do some ex-PMOers envy the PMOer on these occasions? There are two reasons.</p> <ol> @@ -3309,7 +3341,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:55:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-27-timing/ - <p>Apart from the obvious point that as it is doing you no good, now is the right time to stop. I believe timing is important. Our society treats internet porn flippantly as a slightly distasteful habit that can not injure your health. It is not. It is drug addiction, a disease and a destroyer of relationships in society. The worst thing that happens in most PMOer’s lives is getting hooked on that awful addiction. If they stay hooked, horrendous things happen. Timing is important to give yourself the right to a proper cure.</p> + <h2 id="timing">Timing <a class="anchor" href="#timing"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Apart from the obvious point that as it is doing you no good, now is the right time to stop. I believe timing is important. Our society treats internet porn flippantly as a slightly distasteful habit that can not injure your health. It is not. It is drug addiction, a disease and a destroyer of relationships in society. The worst thing that happens in most PMOer’s lives is getting hooked on that awful addiction. If they stay hooked, horrendous things happen. Timing is important to give yourself the right to a proper cure.</p> <p>First of all, identify the times or occasions when PMO appears to be important to you. If you are a businessman and use it for the illusion of relief of stress, pick a relatively slack period; a good idea is to choose your annual holiday. If you PMO mainly during boring or relaxing periods, weekends etc. do the opposite. In any event, take the matter seriously and make the attempt the most important thing in your life.</p> <p>Look ahead for a period of about three weeks and try to anticipate any event that might lead to failure. Occasions like a conference trip, partner out of town etc. need not deter you, providing you anticipate them in advance and do not feel you will be deprived. Do not attempt to cut down in the meantime as this will only create the illusion that being denied is enjoyable. In fact, it helps to force yourself to watch and have as many PMO sessions as possible. While you are having the last session and that last time, be conscious of the disappointment due to satiation, unfulfilled expectations (porn can never satisfy you), any bodily pain or pain in the genitals, the withdrawal effects, the peevishness and the melancholy. Think how marvellous it will be when you allow yourself to stop doing it.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> @@ -3346,7 +3380,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:54:03 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-26-a-social-habit/ - <p>Health of mind and body are the main reason why we should want to stop but then they always have been. We do not actually need scientific research and knowledge in brain chemistry to tell us that internet porn is addictive and can potentially shatter our lives. These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on the planet and any PMOer knows instantly, from the first session, that the stimulus can go to excess and it can turn poisonous.</p> + <h2 id="a-social-habit">A Social Habit? <a class="anchor" href="#a-social-habit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Health of mind and body are the main reason why we should want to stop but then they always have been. We do not actually need scientific research and knowledge in brain chemistry to tell us that internet porn is addictive and can potentially shatter our lives. These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on the planet and any PMOer knows instantly, from the first session, that the stimulus can go to excess and it can turn poisonous.</p> <p>The only reason why we ever get involved with internet porn is the PMO’s overlap with their evolutionary brain programming. Porn is available for free and it gets streamed 24 hours a day. No risk and no traces and with very high brain rewards. Porn was once considered as harmless but that was when the images were static and involved a trip to the local store for a VHS tape.</p> <p>Today it is generally considered even by PMOers themselves to be a supra-stimulus and addiction forming. In the old days, the strong man did not admit he masturbated. Jerk is a derogatory term. In every pub or club bar the majority of men would be proudly wanting to take a woman home and have real sex. Today the position is completely reversed for the internet porn addicts. Today&rsquo;s man realizes that he is starting to feel that he doesn&rsquo;t need a woman. This scares him. He bands together online and starts discussing experiences, devise strategies and explore options. Today&rsquo;s strong man does not want to depend on drugs. With the social revolution all PMOers nowadays are giving serious thought to stopping internet porn and masturbation. Today&rsquo;s PMOers consider PMO as an useless and harmful activity.</p> <p>The most significant trend that I have noticed in forums is the increasing emphasis on the anti-social aspect of PMOing. The days when a man boasted of having sex and orgasms every day is slowly getting replaced with, “why do I need to be a slave for this porn monster when I know ‘it’ is controlling my wand (and mind)?”</p> @@ -3364,7 +3400,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:51:35 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-25-the-youtube-pmoer/ - <p>The YouTube PMOer should be grouped with casual PMOers but the effects of a YouTube PMOer are so insidious that it merits a separate chapter. It can lead to the breakdown of personal self control. In one case it nearly caused a split for a No-Fap forum user.</p> + <h2 id="the-youtube-pmoer">The YouTube PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-youtube-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The YouTube PMOer should be grouped with casual PMOers but the effects of a YouTube PMOer are so insidious that it merits a separate chapter. It can lead to the breakdown of personal self control. In one case it nearly caused a split for a No-Fap forum user.</p> <blockquote> <p><em>“I was three weeks into one of my failed attempts to stop. The attempt had been triggered off by my wife&rsquo;s worry about my unreliable hard-ons and lack of interest. I had told her that it was not her and it was just job pressure. She said, &lsquo;I know you had handled the work pressure before but how would you feel if you were me and had to watch someone you love systematically destroying themselves?’ It was an argument that I found irresistible, hence the attempt to stop. She knows that I am not cheating - but this in a way is as worse as that (sic). The attempt ended after three weeks after a heated argument with an old friend. It did not register until years afterwards that my devious mind had deliberately triggered off the argument. I felt justly aggrieved at the time but I do not believe that it was coincidence, as I had never argued with this particular friend before, nor have I since. It was clearly the little monster at work. Anyway, I had my excuse. I desperately needed a release of orgasm and it doesn’t matter how. As it happens she was not in the mood right away and I was in an “entitlement” hurry. So I convinced myself that it is OK if I ‘restrict’ myself by avoiding a porn site and just stay this side of the ‘red line’ and watch only YouTube videos. But she ‘came around’ as the night unfolded and wanted to make love. But I was tired and not with all my ‘horsepower.’ I then invented a headache. I could not bear to think of the disappointment this would cause my wife. Then gradually I returned to the old ways, only YouTube became my new harem destination. I remember being quite pleased at the time. I thought, &lsquo;well, at least it is cutting my consumption down;’ Eventually she accused me of continuing to ignore her in the bed. I had not realized it but she described the times I had caused an argument and stormed out of the house. At other times I had taken two hours to purchase some minor item and faked a sprain or something. I had made feeble excuses to cop out of the whole wooing her and etc. when I have a reliable online harem it is even more hard.”</em></p> </blockquote> @@ -3384,7 +3422,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:40:22 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-24-casual-pmoers-teenagers-non-pmoers/ - <p>Heavy PMOers tend to envy the casual porn user. We&rsquo;ve all met these characters: “Oh, I can go all week without a PMO, it really doesn&rsquo;t bother me.” We think: “I wish I were like that!” I know this is hard to believe but no PMOer enjoys being a PMOer. Never forget:</p> + <h2 id="casual-pmoers-teenagers-non-pmoers">Casual PMOers, Teenagers, Non PMOers <a class="anchor" href="#casual-pmoers-teenagers-non-pmoers"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Heavy PMOers tend to envy the casual porn user. We&rsquo;ve all met these characters: “Oh, I can go all week without a PMO, it really doesn&rsquo;t bother me.” We think: “I wish I were like that!” I know this is hard to believe but no PMOer enjoys being a PMOer. Never forget:</p> <ul> <li>No PMOer ever decided to become a PMOer casual or otherwise, therefore:</li> <li>All PMOers feel stupid, therefore:</li> @@ -3422,7 +3462,7 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> </a></h3><p>(Or, “I can stop whenever I want to. I have done it thousands of times”). If he thinks dieting helps with his moods to ‘get out to get women,’ why is he even on the diet of once every four days? How can one predict the future, what if the happenstance of meeting occurred just an hour after your scheduled PMO session? Also, if he thinks this occasional “cleaning the plumbing” is good to relieve tension and relax why not plumb every day? It has been proven that masturbation is not required to keep the genitals healthy. Internet porn is not required at all. Even if that may be the case, any PUA guru who has read about the brain chemistry and its plasticity will never recommend watching super stimulus porn. The truth is he is still hooked. Although he gets rid of the physical addiction, he is left with the main problem - the brainwashing. He hopes each time that he will stop for good and soon falls for the same trap again.</p> <p>Many PMOers actually envy these stoppers and starters. They think, “how lucky to be able to control it like that, to do PMO when you want to and stop when you want to,” What they always overlook is that these stoppers and starters aren&rsquo;t controlling it. When they are PMOers, they wish they weren&rsquo;t. They go through the hassle of stopping, then begin to feel deprived and fall for the trap again, then wish they hadn&rsquo;t. They get the worst of both worlds. If you think about it, this is true in the lives of the PMOers. When we are allowed to PMO we either take it as entitled or wish we didn&rsquo;t. It&rsquo;s only when we can&rsquo;t have PMO that it appears to be so precious. The ‘forbidden fruit syndrome’. This is the awful dilemma of PMOers. They can never win because they are moping for a myth, an illusion. There is one way they can win and that is to stop PMOing and stop moping!</p> -<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC/TAME/HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer"> +<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-static--tame--home-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC / TAME / HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-only-pmo-to-static--tame--home-made-porn-pmoer"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> </a></h3><p>Yes, we all do it to start with but isn&rsquo;t it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner&rsquo;s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes&hellip; you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one.</p> <h3 id="the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer">THE I-HAVE-STOPPED-BUT-I-HAVE-AN-OCCASIONAL-PEEK PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer"> @@ -3470,7 +3510,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:35:22 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-23-just-one-peek/ - <p>“Just one peek” is a myth you must get out of your mind:</p> + <h2 id="just-one-peek">Just One Peek <a class="anchor" href="#just-one-peek"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>“Just one peek” is a myth you must get out of your mind:</p> <ul> <li>It is just one peek that gets us started in the first place.</li> <li>It is just one peek to tide us over a difficult patch or on a special occasion that defeats most of our attempts to stop.</li> @@ -3509,7 +3551,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:28:58 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-22-beware-of-cutting-down/ - <p>Many PMOers resort to cutting down either as a stepping-stone towards stopping or as an attempt to control the little monster. Many recommend cutting down or a ‘porn diet’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> as a pick-me-up. Obviously, the less you PMO the better off you are but as a stepping-stone to stopping, cutting down is fatal. It is these attempts to cut down that keep us trapped all our lives.</p> + <h2 id="beware-of-cutting-down">Beware of Cutting Down <a class="anchor" href="#beware-of-cutting-down"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Many PMOers resort to cutting down either as a stepping-stone towards stopping or as an attempt to control the little monster. Many recommend cutting down or a ‘porn diet’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> as a pick-me-up. Obviously, the less you PMO the better off you are but as a stepping-stone to stopping, cutting down is fatal. It is these attempts to cut down that keep us trapped all our lives.</p> <p>Usually cutting down follows failed attempts to stop. After a few hours or days of abstinence the PMOer says to himself something like:</p> <blockquote> <p><em>“I cannot face the thought of going to sleep without visiting my online harem, so from now on I will just PMO once in four days or I will purge my collection of ‘bad’ porn. If I can follow this ‘porn diet’, I can either hold it there or cut down further.”</em></p> @@ -3560,12 +3604,14 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p - 03-21 the Willpower Method of Stopping + 03-21 The Willpower Method of Stopping https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-21-the-willpower-method-of-stopping/ Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:20:42 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-21-the-willpower-method-of-stopping/ - <p>It is an accepted fact in our society that it is very difficult to stop PMO. Even books and forums advising you how to do so usually start off by telling you how difficult it is. The truth is that it is ridiculously easy. Yes, I can understand you questioning that statement but just consider it. If your aim is to run a mile in under four minutes, that&rsquo;s difficult. You may have to undergo years of hard training and even then you may be physically incapable of doing it. (Much of our achievement lies in the mind. Isn&rsquo;t it strange how difficult it was until Roger Bannister actually did it but nowadays it is commonplace?).</p> + <h2 id="the-willpower-method-of-stopping">The Willpower Method of Stopping <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method-of-stopping"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>It is an accepted fact in our society that it is very difficult to stop PMO. Even books and forums advising you how to do so usually start off by telling you how difficult it is. The truth is that it is ridiculously easy. Yes, I can understand you questioning that statement but just consider it. If your aim is to run a mile in under four minutes, that&rsquo;s difficult. You may have to undergo years of hard training and even then you may be physically incapable of doing it. (Much of our achievement lies in the mind. Isn&rsquo;t it strange how difficult it was until Roger Bannister actually did it but nowadays it is commonplace?).</p> <p>However, in order to stop PMOing all you have to do is not watch internet porn and or masturbate any more. No one forces you to masturbate (apart from yourself) and unlike food or drink, you don&rsquo;t need it to survive. So if you want to stop doing it, why should it be difficult? In fact, it isn&rsquo;t. It is PMOers who make it difficult by using the Willpower Method. I define the Willpower Method as any method that forces the PMOer to feel he is making some sort of sacrifice. Let us just consider the Willpower Method.</p> <p>We do not decide to become PMOers. We merely experiment with porn magazines or websites and because they are awful, yes that is right – awful - except for our desired clip, we are convinced that we can stop whenever we want to. In the main, we watch those first few clips only when we want to and that is usually on special occasions. Before we realize it, we are not only visiting those sites regularly and masturbating when we want to, we are masturbating to them every day. PMO has become a part of our lives. We then ensure that we always have an internet connection wherever we go. We believe that we are entitled to love, sex and orgasms - and also that porn helps to relieve stress. It doesn&rsquo;t seem to occur to us that the same clip and actors do not provide us the same degree of arousal and that we are either escalating or fighting against the ‘red line’ we have put around ourselves to avoid harmful “bad porn.” In fact, masturbation and internet porn neither improves our sex life nor does it relieve stress, it&rsquo;s just that PMOers believe they can&rsquo;t enjoy life or handle stress without an orgasm - even mind induced porn orgasms. Because that is what many times we are doing.</p> <p>It usually takes us a long time to realize that we are hooked because we suffer from the illusion that PMOers masturbate because they enjoy porn - not because they have to have porn - a need. While we are not “enjoying” porn (which we can never do unless novelty, shock or escalation is added), we suffer from the illusion that we can stop whenever we want to. This is a confidence trap. I don’t enjoy porn, so I am sure I can stop when I want to. Only that you never seem to ‘want’ to stop though.</p> @@ -3629,7 +3675,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:18:55 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-20-those-sinister-black-shadows/ - <p>Another of the great joys of quitting porn is to be free of those sinister black shadows at the back of our minds. All PMOers know they are fools to close their minds on the ill-effects of PMO. For most of our lives PMO is automatic but the black shadows are always lurking in our subconscious minds, just beneath the surface. There are several marvellous advantages to achieve from quitting PMO. Some of them I was consciously aware of throughout my life, such as the health risks, the waste of time and the sheer stupidity of making love to a two dimensional image. However, such was my fear of quitting, so obsessed was I in resisting all the attempts of do-gooders and anyone else who tried to persuade me to quit, that all my imagination and energy was directed to finding any flimsy excuse that would allow me to continue to PMO.</p> + <h2 id="those-sinister-black-shadows">Those Sinister Black Shadows <a class="anchor" href="#those-sinister-black-shadows"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Another of the great joys of quitting porn is to be free of those sinister black shadows at the back of our minds. All PMOers know they are fools to close their minds on the ill-effects of PMO. For most of our lives PMO is automatic but the black shadows are always lurking in our subconscious minds, just beneath the surface. There are several marvellous advantages to achieve from quitting PMO. Some of them I was consciously aware of throughout my life, such as the health risks, the waste of time and the sheer stupidity of making love to a two dimensional image. However, such was my fear of quitting, so obsessed was I in resisting all the attempts of do-gooders and anyone else who tried to persuade me to quit, that all my imagination and energy was directed to finding any flimsy excuse that would allow me to continue to PMO.</p> <p>Amazingly, my most ingenious thoughts occurred when I was actually trying to quit. They were of course inspired by the fear and misery I suffered when attempting to quit by using willpower. No way could I block my mind from the health and sexual aspects. But now that I am free it amazes me how I successfully blocked my mind from even more important advantages to be gained from quitting. I&rsquo;ve already mentioned the sheer slavery - spending half of our lives being allowed to PMO, doing it automatically and wishing we had never started, the other half feeling miserable and deprived because the knowledge of the destructive effects of internet porn won&rsquo;t allow us to PMO. In the last chapter I&rsquo;ve referred to the incredible joy of having energy again. But for me the greatest joy of being free was not the health, the time, the energy, or the ending of the slavery, it was the removal of those sinister black shadows, the removal of feeling despised by and feeling apologetic to myself and to other quitters, and most of all to be able to respect yourself.</p> <p>Most PMOers aren&rsquo;t the weak-willed, spineless jellyfish that both society and themselves tend to believe. In every other aspect of my life I was in control. I loathed myself for being dependent on an evil crutch that I knew was ruining my life. I cannot tell you of the utter joy of being free of those sinister black shadows, the dependency and the self-despising. I can&rsquo;t tell you how nice it is to be able to look at all other users, whether they be young, old, casual or heavy, not with a feeling of envy, but with a feeling of pity for them and elation for yourself that you are no longer the slave of that insidious trap. The other day I felt pity for the guy on a TV show who was so excited to get to watch porn - another case of society slipping one in your drink under the pretence of comedy.</p> <p>The last two chapters have dealt with the considerable advantages of being a non-PMOer. I feel it necessary to give a balanced account, so the next chapter lists the advantages of being a PMOer.</p> @@ -3642,7 +3690,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:16:17 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-19-it-relaxes-me-and-gives-me-confidence/ - <p>This is the worst fallacy of all about PMOing and for me it ranks with the ending of the slavery, the greatest benefit from quitting - is not to have to go through life with the permanent feelings of insecurity that PMOers suffer from.</p> + <h2 id="it-relaxes-me-and-gives-me-confidence">It Relaxes Me and Gives Me Confidence <a class="anchor" href="#it-relaxes-me-and-gives-me-confidence"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is the worst fallacy of all about PMOing and for me it ranks with the ending of the slavery, the greatest benefit from quitting - is not to have to go through life with the permanent feelings of insecurity that PMOers suffer from.</p> <p>PMOers find it very difficult to believe that masturbation to internet porn actually causes those insecure feelings you get when you are out late at night after a contentious day at home or work. Non-PMOers do not suffer from that feeling. It is the porn that causes it. I only became aware of many of the advantages of stopping months afterwards, as a result of my consultations with other PMOers.</p> <p>I refused to see my PMO as causing so much of the mental tug of war in my mind that I am foolishly working hard to have nominal levels of confidence in my day to day life. Forget about getting an erection, I am talking about focusing, taking challenges, fighting, choosing, deciding - actions that define our lives. Especially when we are often forced to act when the facts are not clear. Come to think of it, facts were and will never be clear and hence it is to our great advantage anyway to act.</p> <p>Also of note is in dating area as well, the fire to go forward is being misappropriated to this ‘high reward zero pain’ porn. If you have read some top PUA books and forums, what do they say? Go on a ‘diet<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>’? Yes of course when you have the good hunger your internal juices and your brain will do the rest. Copping out is not an option at all. Playing the numbers is not tiresome by no means. All PUA advice in a nut-shell is this - try more numbers. Even if your approach is wrong you will be right twice a day like a broken clock. But if your mind is fighting a tug of war with effortless easy access to a harem of online women, how would you get back on your feet when that girl ignores you? Oh, if it was a public outright rejection I am running, not walking, to my porn girlfriend.</p> @@ -3664,7 +3714,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:12:56 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-18-energy/ - <p>Most PMOers are aware of the effect that this progressive process of PMO, leading to novelty and escalation seeking, has on their brain’s reward circuits and their sexual system. However, they are not so aware of the effect it has on their energy level.</p> + <h2 id="energy">Energy <a class="anchor" href="#energy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Most PMOers are aware of the effect that this progressive process of PMO, leading to novelty and escalation seeking, has on their brain’s reward circuits and their sexual system. However, they are not so aware of the effect it has on their energy level.</p> <p>One of the subtleties of the PMO trap is that the effects it has on us, both physical and mental, happen so gradually and imperceptibly that we are not aware of them and regard them as normal. It is very similar to the effects of bad eating habits. The pot-belly appears so gradually that it causes us no alarm. We look at people who are grossly overweight and wonder how they could possibly have allowed themselves to reach that state.</p> <p>But supposing it happened overnight. You went to bed weighing 140 lbs, trim, rippling with muscles and not an ounce of fat on your body. You awoke weighing 180 lbs, fat, bloated and pot-bellied. Instead of waking up feeling fully rested and full of energy, you wake up feeling miserable, lethargic and you can hardly open your eyes. You would be panic-stricken, wondering what awful disease you had contracted overnight. Yet the disease is exactly the same.</p> <p>The fact that it took you twenty years to reach that state is irrelevant. So it is with PMOing. If I could immediately transfer you into your mind and body to give you a direct comparison on how you would feel having stopped internet porn for just three weeks, that is all I would need to do to persuade you to quit. You would think: “Will I really feel this good?” Or what it really amounts to: “Had I really sunk that low?” I emphasize that I don&rsquo;t just mean that you would feel healthier and have more energy but how you would also feel more confident and relaxed and better able to concentrate.</p> @@ -3682,7 +3734,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 12:12:31 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-17-health/ - <p>This is the area where the brainwashing is the greatest. PMOers, especially the young and single, think they are aware of the health risks. They are not. Even in my case, when I was expecting my head to explode any moment and honestly believed I was prepared to accept the consequences, I was still kidding myself. I didn&rsquo;t in those days have an app that started a red beeper to flash and sound every time my internet router hits a porn site, followed by a warning voice saying, “OK, this is the one!” Fortunately you do get a warning, and this is it. That warning would say, “Up to now you have got away with it but if you stay another minute your head will explode,” do you think I would have PMOed?</p> + <h2 id="health">Health <a class="anchor" href="#health"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is the area where the brainwashing is the greatest. PMOers, especially the young and single, think they are aware of the health risks. They are not. Even in my case, when I was expecting my head to explode any moment and honestly believed I was prepared to accept the consequences, I was still kidding myself. I didn&rsquo;t in those days have an app that started a red beeper to flash and sound every time my internet router hits a porn site, followed by a warning voice saying, “OK, this is the one!” Fortunately you do get a warning, and this is it. That warning would say, “Up to now you have got away with it but if you stay another minute your head will explode,” do you think I would have PMOed?</p> <p>If you are in doubt about the answer just try walking up to a cliff, stand on the edge with your eyes closed and imagine you then have the choice of either quitting PMO or walking up blindfolded before your next PMO.</p> <p>There is no doubt what your choice would be. I had been doing what every internet porn PMOer does all his life: closing my mind and keeping my head in the sand, hoping that I would wake up one morning and just not want to PMO any more. PMOers cannot allow themselves to think of the health risks. If they do, even the illusion of enjoying the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; goes.</p> <p>This explains why a shock treatment is so ineffective in the first stages of quitting. It is only non-users who can bring themselves to read the destructive brain changes. It also explains why PMOers, influenced by their little monster, wrongly recall that filthy room mate who PMOed everyday and was still remaining ‘horny’ 24 hours a day – they will ignore the thousands of people who are brought “down” in their prime because of this poisonous ‘habit’.</p> @@ -3793,7 +3847,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 12:08:55 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-16-i-will-save-x-hours-a-week/ - <p>I cannot repeat too often that it is brainwashing that makes it difficult to stop PMOing. So, the + <h2 id="i-will-save-x-hours-a-week">I Will Save X Hours a Week <a class="anchor" href="#i-will-save-x-hours-a-week"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>I cannot repeat too often that it is brainwashing that makes it difficult to stop PMOing. So, the more brainwashing we can dispel before we start, the easier you will find it to achieve your goal. Occasionally I get into arguments with people whom I call “confirmed PMOers.” By my definition a confirmed PMOer is somebody who doesn&rsquo;t believe PMO has any negative effect on his health @@ -3830,7 +3886,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 12:06:39 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-15-self-imposed-slavery/ - <p>Usually when PMOers try to stop the main reasons given are health, religion and partner stigma. Part of the brainwashing of this awful drug is the sheer slavery. Man fought hard in the last century to abolish slavery and yet the PMOer spends his life suffering self-imposed slavery. He seems to be oblivious to the fact that when he is allowed to PMO he wishes that he were a non-PMOer. With most of the masturbation we do in our lives, not only do we not enjoy them but we aren&rsquo;t even aware that we are masturbating. It is only after a period of abstinence that we actually suffer the delusion of enjoying PMO (e.g. the first day after a 4 day abstinence with the intent of rebooting etc.). The only time that the porn becomes precious is when we are &rsquo;trying&rsquo; to cut down or abstain or when abstinence is forced on us (e.g. when on a business trips, holiday trips to locations where the Internet is not available and so on).</p> + <h2 id="self-imposed-slavery">Self-Imposed Slavery <a class="anchor" href="#self-imposed-slavery"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Usually when PMOers try to stop the main reasons given are health, religion and partner stigma. Part of the brainwashing of this awful drug is the sheer slavery. Man fought hard in the last century to abolish slavery and yet the PMOer spends his life suffering self-imposed slavery. He seems to be oblivious to the fact that when he is allowed to PMO he wishes that he were a non-PMOer. With most of the masturbation we do in our lives, not only do we not enjoy them but we aren&rsquo;t even aware that we are masturbating. It is only after a period of abstinence that we actually suffer the delusion of enjoying PMO (e.g. the first day after a 4 day abstinence with the intent of rebooting etc.). The only time that the porn becomes precious is when we are &rsquo;trying&rsquo; to cut down or abstain or when abstinence is forced on us (e.g. when on a business trips, holiday trips to locations where the Internet is not available and so on).</p> <p>The confirmed PMOer should bear in mind that more studies and even more people are coming out and talking about the ill effects of internet porn. This trend will get “worse and worse.” Today, it is non-medical people talking. Tomorrow, it will be in your doctor’s list of diagnostic tests to perform. Gone are the days when the PMOer can hide behind “just a bit of downtime due to work stress” in his or her sex life. Your partner is going to ask you why you are on your laptop at this time too late into the night. The poor PMOer, who was already feeling wretched, wants the ground to open up and swallow him.</p> <p>I remember every time my partner stayed up late it was an ordeal waiting to open up my laptop. When on business trips the dinner with the clients and colleagues dragged on or was I just going through the natural ups and downs in human interactions? What was I doing? I was thinking, “let&rsquo;s get on with it, so that I can get over with this and go to my room for some porn.” I have thought many times, “am I not lucky? I have got my little reward. The poor non-PMOer with no internet access somewhere in an Amish village hasn&rsquo;t got a reward.” The &lsquo;poor&rsquo; non-PMOer doesn&rsquo;t need a reward. We were not designed to go through life systematically flooding our brains with dopamine and opioids. The pathetic thing is that even when masturbating with internet porn the PMOer doesn&rsquo;t achieve those feelings of peace, confidence and tranquillity that the non-PMOer has experienced for the whole of his non-PMO life. The non-PMOer isn&rsquo;t sitting in the family room, feeling agitated and wishing his life away. He can enjoy the whole of his life.</p> <p>No, this wasn&rsquo;t a fourteen-year-old schoolboy but a forty-year-old professional. How pathetic. I wouldn&rsquo;t admit to myself that I wasn&rsquo;t enjoying it. I was looking for the right clip and/or pictures to reach orgasm or better, edge forever. I don&rsquo;t know what I am supposed to be &lsquo;watching&rsquo; sometimes. That is the confusing part. The &rsquo;edging&rsquo; and then the orgasm floods my brain. Yet this was supposed to be my way of relaxing and enjoying my “favourite hobby.”</p> @@ -3844,7 +3902,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:49:35 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-14-what-am-i-giving-up/ - <p>ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! The thing that makes it difficult for us to give up is fear. The fear that we are being deprived of our pleasure or prop. The fear that certain pleasant situations will never be quite the same again. The fear of being unable to cope with stressful situations. In other words, the effect of brainwashing is to delude us into believing that sex and by extension orgasm, is a must for all human beings. Or that there is something inherent in Internet porn that we need and that when we stop PMOing we will be self-denying ourselves and there will be a void.</p> + <h2 id="what-am-i-giving-up">What Am I Giving Up? <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-giving-up"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! The thing that makes it difficult for us to give up is fear. The fear that we are being deprived of our pleasure or prop. The fear that certain pleasant situations will never be quite the same again. The fear of being unable to cope with stressful situations. In other words, the effect of brainwashing is to delude us into believing that sex and by extension orgasm, is a must for all human beings. Or that there is something inherent in Internet porn that we need and that when we stop PMOing we will be self-denying ourselves and there will be a void.</p> <blockquote> <p>Get it clear in your mind:</p> </blockquote> @@ -3865,18 +3925,14 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> </blockquote> <p>These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on this planet. Whether you believe in a creator, a process of natural selection or a combination of both, whatever being or system devised these bodies of ours, it is a thousand times more effective than man! Man cannot create the smallest living cell, let alone the miracle of eyesight, reproduction, our circulatory system or our brains. We don’t have our systems upgraded yet to properly assess the supranormal stimulus such as rich high density food or high speed internet novelty porn with multiple active windows.</p> <p>If the creator or process had intended us to handle novelty triggering stimuli, we would have been provided with some other brain reward circuits. Our bodies are, in fact, provided with fail-safe warning devices and we ignore these at our peril. Excessive edging results in body pain, irritation, and inflammation. In women, excessive flooding of dopamine and stress enzymes such as prostaglandin-E2 can cause difficulty to orgasm and PME.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up"><strong>There Is Nothing To Give Up</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#there-is-nothing-to-give-up"> +<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up">There Is Nothing To Give Up <a class="anchor" href="#there-is-nothing-to-give-up"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h2></div> -<p>The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.</p> +</a></h2><p>The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.</p> <p>The problem I have is to make a convincing point as I’d have done for, let us say&hellip; smokers? All of us have seen smokers who develop excuses to sneak off for a crafty puff. It is easy to see the true addiction in action. Addicts do not do it because they enjoy it. They do it because they are miserable without it.</p> <p>Because many of us started out our first sexual experience that ended in an orgasm and we acquired the belief that we cannot enjoy sex without an orgasm. And for men, porn is sold as an aid towards sex, sometimes even as an education to be confident during the act of sex. It used to be static, but now we have supranormal internet porn. But this is nonsense. Internet porn takes away your confidence.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="women-and-porn"><strong>Women And Porn</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#women-and-porn"> +<h2 id="women-and-porn">Women And Porn <a class="anchor" href="#women-and-porn"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h2></div> -<p>The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn&rsquo;t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.</p> +</a></h2><p>The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn&rsquo;t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.</p> <p>Porn and internet porn does not help your sex life; it destroys it totally. Having to hide your internet footprints, trying to delete your history, fearing accidental exposure to your boyfriend or kids, body pains, doubtful symptoms, fighting self doubts, arguing with yourself about your responsibilities in the ill effects of your addiction&hellip; well, why do you want to put yourself in such a bad situation?</p> <p>Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous positive gains to be had. When PMOers contemplate quitting they tend to concentrate on health and virility. These are obviously valid and important issues but I personally believe the greatest gains from stopping are psychological:</p> <ol> @@ -3885,11 +3941,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <li>Not to have to go through life suffering the awful black shadows at the back of your mind, knowing you are being despised by half of the population and, worst of all, despising yourself.</li> </ol> <p>Not only is life better as a non-PMOer but it is infinitely more enjoyable. I do not only mean you will be healthier. I mean you will be happier and enjoy life far more. The marvellous gains from being a non-PMOer are discussed in the next few chapters. Some PMOers find it difficult to appreciate the concept of the &lsquo;void&rsquo; and the following analogy may assist you.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"><strong>Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"> +<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void">Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void! <a class="anchor" href="#void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h2></div> -<p>Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I&rsquo;ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can&rsquo;t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.</p> +</a></h2><p>Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I&rsquo;ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can&rsquo;t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.</p> <p>By now you are completely dependent on the ointment. You never go out without ensuring that you have a tube of the ointment with you. If you go abroad, you make sure that you take several tubes with you. Now, in addition to your worries about your health, I&rsquo;m charging you $100 per tube. You have no choice but to pay.</p> <p>You then read in the medical column of your newspaper that this isn&rsquo;t happening just to you; many other people have been suffering from the same problem. In fact, pharmacists have discovered that the ointment doesn&rsquo;t actually cure the sore. All that it does is to take the sore beneath the surface of the skin. It is the ointment that has caused the sore to grow. All you have to do to get rid of the sore is to stop using the ointment. The sore will eventually disappear in due course.</p> <p>Would you continue to use the ointment? Would it take willpower not to use the ointment? If you didn&rsquo;t believe the medical article, there might be a few days of apprehension, but once you realized that the sore was beginning to get better, the need or desire to use the ointment would go, Would you be miserable? Of course you wouldn&rsquo;t. You had an awful problem which you thought was insoluble. Now you&rsquo;ve found the solution. Even if it took a year for that sore to disappear completely, each day, as it improved, you&rsquo;d think. “isn&rsquo;t it marvellous? I&rsquo;m not going to die!” This was the magic that happened to me on my final PMO day. Let me make one point quite clear in the analogy of the sore and the ointment.</p> @@ -3906,7 +3960,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:47:03 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-13-social-night-pmoing/ - <p>This is a misinformation that seems to make sense but then it does not. In order to have control of eating, will you eat at home before leaving to go to a restaurant or a party? This is what you are doing when you PMO before your social night. You will look tired and will not be up to your best. If you have dating jitters then work on it beforehand and then go with the flow even with some butterflies in your stomach. I like a bit of the anxiety in me to keep me going. Tiring yourself mentally and physically with an orgasm is not going to help you, unless of course you are going to see a prostitute. The goal is entirely different in that angle.</p> + <h2 id="social-night-pmoing">Social Night PMOing <a class="anchor" href="#social-night-pmoing"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is a misinformation that seems to make sense but then it does not. In order to have control of eating, will you eat at home before leaving to go to a restaurant or a party? This is what you are doing when you PMO before your social night. You will look tired and will not be up to your best. If you have dating jitters then work on it beforehand and then go with the flow even with some butterflies in your stomach. I like a bit of the anxiety in me to keep me going. Tiring yourself mentally and physically with an orgasm is not going to help you, unless of course you are going to see a prostitute. The goal is entirely different in that angle.</p> <p>The widespread adoption of pick-up techniques has put pressure on guys to perform, to attract and to ‘score’. You can get knowledge but you should know how to use it. I can guarantee that 100% of the other guys hanging at that bar know exactly what you know. It comes down to the ‘how’ of how you use it when you get the chance. Even before that, there is one very critical thing about any knowledge pertaining to human interactions, that ‘knowledge’ should never force your actions. This is important.</p> <p>I once masturbated and then poured wine to quiet the butterflies in my stomach before a date. I looked tired after just one hour into the date, the loud noise of the bar, dehydration, excessive self-consciousness (PUA teachings) etc. made my time unenjoyable. Somehow the girl and her friend liked it all. However, I do think it would have been better if I had gone without any props. I ended up being successful by claiming my &lsquo;goal(s)&rsquo; - which I consider unfortunate and as random luck.</p> <p>The PMO session I had before the date triggered a dopamine flooding and its withdrawal hit around the time I was with the date. I had to over-do my conversation to compensate the ineffective dopamine effects after that earlier orgasm. I am also sure that I was suffering from hypofrontality - where my impulses were failing my controls. That gushing moment, an extra decibel in the tone etc. would easily have given my nervousness to the girls - only if I was not protected by the loud noise in the bar. Why do you want to take chances?</p> @@ -3925,7 +3981,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:44:10 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-12-relaxation/ - <p>Most PMOers think that PMO helps to relax them. The truth is that internet porn used in PMO acts like a chemical stimulant. The frantic search to get the fix in those “dark alleys of the internet” and the internal struggle to reign in the dog straining at its leash for more shocking clips does not sound much like an activity of relaxation to me.</p> + <h2 id="relaxation">Relaxation <a class="anchor" href="#relaxation"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Most PMOers think that PMO helps to relax them. The truth is that internet porn used in PMO acts like a chemical stimulant. The frantic search to get the fix in those “dark alleys of the internet” and the internal struggle to reign in the dog straining at its leash for more shocking clips does not sound much like an activity of relaxation to me.</p> <p>One of the favourite PMO sessions for most is the one after a trip to a new place or after along day. As the night rolls in we stop working; we sit down and relax, relieve our hunger and thirst and are then completely satisfied. However, the poor PMOer cannot relax, as he has another hunger to satisfy. He thinks of the PMO as the icing on the cake but it is the &rsquo;little monster&rsquo; that needs feeding.</p> <p>The truth is that the addict can never be completely relaxed and as you go through life it gets worse. The most stressed people on this planet aren&rsquo;t non-PMOers but those young men and women who have a need to hunt (with the misunderstood goal of orgasm) and their ignorance of and/or low opinion of amative sex. Women who have subscribed to “I must orgasm” teachings are not even aware of the victim they have made of themselves. At this point any sex that leads to climax and orgasm cease to relieve even partially the symptoms that they have created.</p> <p>I can remember when I was bringing up a family. If my child would do something wrong I would quickly lose my temper to an extent that was out of all proportion to what he had done.</p> @@ -3946,7 +4004,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:42:13 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-11-concentration/ - <p>Sex and masturbation do not help concentration. That is just another illusion. When you are trying to concentrate, you automatically try to avoid distractions. So when a PMOer wants to concentrate he doesn&rsquo;t even have to think about it. He automatically PMOs, partially ending the craving, gets on with the matter in hand and has already forgotten that he just PMOed. Sex in general do not help concentration. After years of masturbation your brain changes affect abilities such as assessing, planning and impulse control. The PMOer is already suffering: that little monster wants his fix.</p> + <h2 id="concentration">Concentration <a class="anchor" href="#concentration"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Sex and masturbation do not help concentration. That is just another illusion. When you are trying to concentrate, you automatically try to avoid distractions. So when a PMOer wants to concentrate he doesn&rsquo;t even have to think about it. He automatically PMOs, partially ending the craving, gets on with the matter in hand and has already forgotten that he just PMOed. Sex in general do not help concentration. After years of masturbation your brain changes affect abilities such as assessing, planning and impulse control. The PMOer is already suffering: that little monster wants his fix.</p> <p>You are also stressed to provide novelty for the next PMO session as the same stuff will not generate enough dopamine and opioids. You have to “roam the internet streets” for novelty - all the while fighting the pull to cross the line towards shock. This creates more stress. After you orgasm, you feel unfulfilled as well.</p> <p>Concentration is also affected adversely for another reason. Your dopamine receptors have already started to get reduced by building up natural tolerance to these large surges, reducing the benefit of the smaller dopamine boosts from natural de-stressors.</p> <p>In fact, your concentration and inspiration will be greatly improved as this process is reversed. For some it will be the concentration aspect that prevents them from succeeding when using the willpower method. They could put up with the irritability and bad temper but when they really needed to concentrate on something difficult they have to have that porn fix. I can well remember the panic I felt when I discovered that the hotel has no internet connection and I had this huge presentation the day after.</p> @@ -3962,7 +4022,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:40:46 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-10-boredom/ - <p>As soon as you get into your bed - and if you are like many people you are already on your favorite tube site - you will probably have already forgotten about it until I reminded you. It has become second nature. Another fallacy about PMOing is that it relieves boredom. Boredom is a frame of mind. The only time that happens is when you have been deprived for a long time or are trying to cut down, or during those first few PMO sessions after a failed attempt to stop.</p> + <h2 id="boredom">Boredom <a class="anchor" href="#boredom"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As soon as you get into your bed - and if you are like many people you are already on your favorite tube site - you will probably have already forgotten about it until I reminded you. It has become second nature. Another fallacy about PMOing is that it relieves boredom. Boredom is a frame of mind. The only time that happens is when you have been deprived for a long time or are trying to cut down, or during those first few PMO sessions after a failed attempt to stop.</p> <p>The true situation is this: when you are addicted to internet porn’s supranormal novelty and then you decide to abstain from internet porn, there is something missing. If you have something to occupy your mind that isn&rsquo;t stressful, you can go for long periods without being bothered by the absence of the drug. However, when you are bored there&rsquo;s nothing to take your mind off it, so you feed the monster. When you are indulging yourself (i.e. not trying to stop or cut down), even firing up your incognito browser becomes subconscious. The PMOer can perform this ritual automatically. If any PMOer tries to remember the session during the last week, he can only remember a small proportion of them - e.g. the very last one or after a long abstinence.</p> <p>The truth is that PMOing tend to increase boredom indirectly because orgasms make you feel lethargic and instead of undertaking some energetic activity, PMOers tend to prefer lounge around, bored, relieving their withdrawal pangs. This is why countering the brainwashing is so important. Because it&rsquo;s a fact that PMOers tend to masturbate when they are bored and that we&rsquo;re wired to interpret PMO as interesting. It doesn&rsquo;t occur to us to question the fact how a two dimensional supranormal stimulus relieves boredom.</p> <p>We&rsquo;ve also been brainwashed into believing that sex - even a bad sex - aids relaxation. It is a fact that when under stress or sad, couples want to have sex. In the absence of discrimination between amative and propagative sex, the goal is set to achieve orgasms by hook or by crook. Next time you do this watch how you both want to get away from each other as soon as it’s over. It is obvious that if they had just decided to cuddle, speak, hug and touch each other and go to sleep without the mandatory orgasms, the couple would have felt relieved. Well, if in the process, they wanted to have the propagative part then by all means they can but that is a topic not meant to be discussed in this book.</p> @@ -3975,7 +4037,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:38:59 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-09-stress/ - <p>I am referring not only to the great tragedies of life but also to the minor stresses, the socializing, the telephone call, the anxieties of the housewife with noisy young children and so on. Let us use the telephone conversation as an example. For most people the telephone is slightly stressful, particularly for the businessman. Most calls aren&rsquo;t from satisfied customers or your boss congratulating you. There&rsquo;s usually some sort of aggravation - something going wrong or somebody making demands. Then he or she comes home to the mundane family life of kids screaming and wife&rsquo;s emotional demands on you. His already PMO weakened de-stressors are in no way ready to take the aggravation. At that time the PMOer, if he isn&rsquo;t already doing so, will fantasize the relief of internet porn that he promised himself that night. He will even allow himself to “take one step more” into the ‘forbidden’ area that he had previously self-excluded. He doesn&rsquo;t know why he does this but he does know that for some reason it appears to help.</p> + <h2 id="stress">Stress <a class="anchor" href="#stress"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>I am referring not only to the great tragedies of life but also to the minor stresses, the socializing, the telephone call, the anxieties of the housewife with noisy young children and so on. Let us use the telephone conversation as an example. For most people the telephone is slightly stressful, particularly for the businessman. Most calls aren&rsquo;t from satisfied customers or your boss congratulating you. There&rsquo;s usually some sort of aggravation - something going wrong or somebody making demands. Then he or she comes home to the mundane family life of kids screaming and wife&rsquo;s emotional demands on you. His already PMO weakened de-stressors are in no way ready to take the aggravation. At that time the PMOer, if he isn&rsquo;t already doing so, will fantasize the relief of internet porn that he promised himself that night. He will even allow himself to “take one step more” into the ‘forbidden’ area that he had previously self-excluded. He doesn&rsquo;t know why he does this but he does know that for some reason it appears to help.</p> <p>What has actually happened is this: without being conscious of it, he has already been suffering aggravation (i.e. the withdrawal pangs). By partially relieving that aggravation at the same time as normal stress, the total stress is reduced and the PMOer gets a boost. At this point the boost is not, in fact, an illusion. The Internet porn user will feel better than before. However, even when using porn to masturbate he or she is more tense than if he were a non-PMOer because the more you go into the drug, the more it knocks you down and the less it restores you when you masturbate. I promised no shock treatment. In the example I am about to give, I am not trying to shock you, I am merely emphasizing that PMO destroy your nerves rather than relax them.</p> <p>Try to imagine getting to the stage where you cannot get aroused even with a very sexy and attractive partner. Just for a moment pause and try to visualize life where one very lovely and charming woman has to compete and fail with all the virtual porn stars who are in your &lsquo;harem&rsquo; to get your attention! Try to imagine the frame of mind of a man who, issued with that warning, actually continues PMOing and then dies without ever having had real sex with this charming and willing real woman. I had read real life stories like that from men and dismissed them as weirdos. In fact, I used to wish a doctor would tell me that this weird condition would happen if I continue PMO; then I would have stopped. Yet I was already fully expecting that PIED and hypofrontality where I am guaranteed to lose in a brain war. I didn&rsquo;t think of myself as an impotent, just a heavy PMOer. Now, let’s talk about the stress that this is putting on me.</p> <p>Such weird stories as the above are not fakes. That is what this awful ‘novelty’ porn drug does to you. As you go through life, it systematically takes away your nerve and courage. The more it takes your courage away, the more you are deluded into believing the porn is doing the opposite.</p> @@ -3991,7 +4055,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:36:16 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-08-relieving-withdrawal-pangs/ - <p>As I explained earlier, PMOers think they do it for enjoyment, relaxation or some sort of education. In fact, this an illusion. The actual reason is the relief of withdrawal pangs. In the early days we use the porn as a curious and novel thing or even educational or as a rebel. We can take it or leave it. However, the subtle chain has started. Our subconscious mind begins to learn that internet porn and masturbation taken at certain times tends to be pleasurable. The more we become hooked on the drug, the greater the need to relieve the withdrawal pangs and the further the PMO drags you down and the more you are fooled into believing it is doing the opposite. It all happens so slowly, so gradually, you are not even aware of it. Each day you feel no different from the day before. Most young PMOers don&rsquo;t even realize they are hooked until they actually try to stop and even then many won&rsquo;t admit to it. A few stalwarts just keep their heads in the sand all their lives,trying to convince themselves and other people that they enjoy it.</p> + <h2 id="relieving-withdrawal-pangs">Relieving Withdrawal Pangs <a class="anchor" href="#relieving-withdrawal-pangs"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As I explained earlier, PMOers think they do it for enjoyment, relaxation or some sort of education. In fact, this an illusion. The actual reason is the relief of withdrawal pangs. In the early days we use the porn as a curious and novel thing or even educational or as a rebel. We can take it or leave it. However, the subtle chain has started. Our subconscious mind begins to learn that internet porn and masturbation taken at certain times tends to be pleasurable. The more we become hooked on the drug, the greater the need to relieve the withdrawal pangs and the further the PMO drags you down and the more you are fooled into believing it is doing the opposite. It all happens so slowly, so gradually, you are not even aware of it. Each day you feel no different from the day before. Most young PMOers don&rsquo;t even realize they are hooked until they actually try to stop and even then many won&rsquo;t admit to it. A few stalwarts just keep their heads in the sand all their lives,trying to convince themselves and other people that they enjoy it.</p> <p>Listen to this conversation a therapist had with hundreds of teenagers.</p> <blockquote> <p>TH: “You realize that internet porn is a drug and that the only reason why you are using is that you cannot stop.”</p> @@ -4021,33 +4087,29 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 08:39:02 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-07-brainwashing-and-the-primitive-mechanism/ - <p>How or why do we start PMOing in the first place? To understand this fully you need to examine the powerful effect of the supernormal stimulus. We all tend to think we are intelligent, dominant human beings determining our paths through life. We act and act frequently when our brain reward circuit are rewarded. Nobel laureate Nikolaas Tinbergen coined the term “supranormal stimulus.” He said mammals could be tricked into preferring fake eggs and mates. Female birds, for example, struggled to sit on larger-than life, vividly spotted plaster eggs while their own pale, dappled eggs perished untended.</p> + <h2 id="brainwashing-and-the-primitive-mechanism">Brainwashing and the Primitive Mechanism <a class="anchor" href="#brainwashing-and-the-primitive-mechanism"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>How or why do we start PMOing in the first place? To understand this fully you need to examine the powerful effect of the supernormal stimulus. We all tend to think we are intelligent, dominant human beings determining our paths through life. We act and act frequently when our brain reward circuit are rewarded. Nobel laureate Nikolaas Tinbergen coined the term “supranormal stimulus.” He said mammals could be tricked into preferring fake eggs and mates. Female birds, for example, struggled to sit on larger-than life, vividly spotted plaster eggs while their own pale, dappled eggs perished untended.</p> <p>The stimulation here in internet porn is not it brings stimulating actors and themes to your home - it is a genie at your bidding to create a harem in your mind. You can switch between genres and theme, home-made and viewer rated, commented and discussed, so rapid and so easy. We absolutely are not ready for the high speed internet porn and our brains are not designed to handle this supranormal stimuli.</p> <p>We can have an ‘information overload’ from the same internet but our reward circuits are not going to squirt dopamine at the levels when ‘porn overload’ is involved. We are evolutionarily programmed to seek and access sex related stuff. And we wrongly appraise the stimulus mostly based on this reward circuit action. If all you wanted is to masturbate why can’t you just use one clip and get the business done?</p> <p>Here is another question - next time after a long day or some stressful incident can you consciously embellish your self-talk with “Do you know what I would really enjoy today? The marvellous warm glow of dopamine rush going to my online harem.” You will find that even people who dislike PMO will join you.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="past-misguided-advice"><strong>Past Misguided Advice</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#past-misguided-advice"> +<h2 id="past-misguided-advice">Past Misguided Advice <a class="anchor" href="#past-misguided-advice"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.</p> +</a></h2><p>There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.</p> <p>From our earliest years our subconscious minds are bombarded daily with information telling us that sex is good and that the most precious thing on this earth is to ‘achieve’ orgasm. Girls are taught to achieve it and claim it&rsquo;s because they were wrongly suppressed of their sexual side for a very long time and still are. You think I exaggerate? Watch any TV or movie plot and you will see the mix-up of the amative (touch, smell, voice etc.) and the propagative (orgasmic) sides of sex. The impact of this does not register on our conscious minds but the sleeping partner, the subconscious mind, has time to absorb it. What the message is really saying is, “The most precious thing on this earth, my last thought and action, will be the goal of orgasm.” If you don’t have an orgasm then you are an old man with zero libido.</p> <p>Our children are being bombarded by sex and porn clips and many don’t even know how to protect them from it all. Large hoardings and magazine adverts are loaded with sexual innuendo. Some of the pop videos are extremely suggestive - again they hide behind free speech. Don’t be vexed and feel powerless about it. Make it a game and find you which of the components they are using - is it novelty, shock value, color, size, taboo etc. If the kids are pre-teen some of these can be disclosed to them and it would make an excellent show-and-tell game.</p> <p>A while back there was a wave of ‘leaked’ private videos of celebrities on the internet. If the youngster is too smitten by their favourite star, even if the conscious mind blames the ‘leak’ on the blood thirsty internet paparazzi, the &lsquo;sleeping partner&rsquo; is patiently digesting the notion that, “yes, even my shambolic hero does it and if I don’t, I won’t look the part.”</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-scientific-reasoning"><strong>The Scientific Reasoning</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-scientific-reasoning"> +<h2 id="the-scientific-reasoning">The Scientific Reasoning <a class="anchor" href="#the-scientific-reasoning"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>, Reboot<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> forums, underground PUA<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup>, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn&rsquo;t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.</p> +</a></h2><p>True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>, Reboot<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> forums, underground PUA<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup>, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn&rsquo;t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.</p> <p>Ironically, the most powerful force in this melee of confusion is the PMOer himself. It is a fallacy that they are weak-willed or are physically weak specimens. You have to be physically strong in order to cope with an addiction after you know it is. This is one of the reasons why PMOers refuse to accept the overwhelming statistics that prove that internet porn with its ‘novelty’ cripples your brain. Add to that the sexologists who are doing half-baked studies and declare PMO is not an issue - they just help to add to the confusion.</p> <p>Everyone knows a friend who PMOed every day - he started with the ‘static’ to internet porn, always horny in real life, chasing girls and you never doubted him to have sex problems of course. You want to believe him. He never complained about any ED right? Guys and girls like them refuse even to consider the hundreds of ex-addicts and non-PMOers who painfully recount their difficulties. It is the “little monster” brain chemical addiction and the “big monster” - illusions and delusions. In this hackbook, I&rsquo;ve put together almost all the sorts of brainwashing a PMOer can suffer from. There will always be a few out there that I haven&rsquo;t touched upon.</p> <p>Even more painful is they think of themselves as unsuccessful losers and insufferable introverts. A possible fact is that a PMO friend could have been more interesting in person if he hadn’t put himself down for seeking self-pleasure.</p> <p>If you do a small survey among your online forum members, friends and colleagues, you will find that most PMOers are, in fact, strong-willed people. They tend to be self-employed, business executives or in certain specialized professions, such as doctors<sup id="fnref:4"><a href="#fn:4" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">4</a></sup>, lawyers, policemen, teachers, salesmen, nurses, secretaries, housewives with children, etc. In other words, anybody leading a stressful existence. Yes, I did include women and mothers. It’s the brain and it’s the same for them too. The main delusion of the PMOer is that porn helps to masturbate to orgasm and that relieves stress. This tends to be associated with the dominant type, the type that takes on responsibility and stress and, of course, that is the type that we admire and therefore tend to copy. Another group that tends to get hooked are people in monotonous jobs because the other main reason for PMOing is boredom. However, the idea that internet porn relieves boredom is also an illusion, I am afraid.</p> <p>As a society we get all uptight about glue-sniffing, heroin addiction, etc. Actual deaths from glue-sniffing do not amount to ten per annum, and deaths from heroin are less than a hundred a year in this country. There is another drug, internet porn, on which over 45 per cent of us become hooked at some time in our lives and the majority spend the rest of their lives regretting it. Some even don’t know that their ED is due to this.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-willpower-method"><strong>The Willpower Method</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method"> +<h2 id="the-willpower-method">The Willpower Method <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why?</p> +</a></h2><p>PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why?</p> <p>Constant exposure to internet porn re-wires your brain. You need to start building resistance to this brainwashing, just as if you were buying a car from a second-hand car dealer. You would be nodding politely but you would not believe a word the man was saying. So don’t believe everything they say either - that you must have sex as much as you can and you must have it exceptional good. And that in the absence of real sex you claim it by the substitute called internet porn - which is only a component of the good old porn.</p> <p>And don’t play ‘safe’ porn game either - because your “little porn monster” invented that scheme to lure you. Even the content - ‘amateur’? Really? Is there a certification authority that certifies it? Tube sites and porn producers gather site visitor profiles and cater to their needs. If they see a trend in crowd sourced collection of a particular genre they will focus on that and get content out ASAP. The statistics of what genre users like is collected to the level of how long and which portion the users were preferring. Do not be fooled by their educational intent or the safe female oriented clips (for you ladies). Start asking yourself:</p> <ul> @@ -4057,27 +4119,21 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p><strong>NO, OF COURSE YOU DON&rsquo;T.</strong></p> <p>I find this brainwashing aspect the most difficult of all to explain. Why is it that an otherwise rational, intelligent human being becomes a complete imbecile about his own addiction? It pains me to confess that out of the thousands of people that I have assisted in kicking the habit, I (not Allen Carr) was the biggest idiot of all.</p> <p>At the age of thirteen, although I was doing well at school and games, I was still an insufferable introvert. I read books from the library that were not within my main study list. However, I can see that I was attracted to erotica. I started masturbating to TV programs, song and dance sequences etc. I must have to have it every day. The tired feeling I felt was misappropriated by my ‘little porn monster’ as work stress. I didn’t know my “I-must-masturbate-as-I-am-entitled” attitude was the one that created the ‘stress’ in the first place. Then I got pictures and GIFs via email on my laptop - the first step towards electronic porn. The colour and texture of the images were amazing for me at that time - won’t be now for sure. Then came dial-up but still they were predominantly static pictures. Then came downloadable videos. It’s a pain to download and watch now - but it was heaven sent then as we were coming out of the static porn era! Oh, the streaming tube sites haven’t arrived yet.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"><strong>When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"> +<h2 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore">When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore <a class="anchor" href="#when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn.</p> +</a></h2><p>I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn.</p> <p>At the age of forty, I was visiting my online harem daily, drinking ‘socially’ (whatever that means) and smoking ‘sometimes’ but not so often. I had wrongly subscribed to misguided ideas of ‘moderation’ and ‘entitlement’. I had reached the stage where I couldn&rsquo;t get through a single day without reaching out to porn in the night. With most PMOers, the triggers are the normal stresses of life, like answering the telephone or socializing.</p> <p>When I experienced PIED - I knew it was killing my virility. There was no way I could kid myself otherwise. I am smart enough not to ‘project’ the porn fantasies on to real life. But it was like pacifying a dog straining at its leash. But why I couldn&rsquo;t see what it was doing to me mentally, I could not understand. It was almost jumping up and biting me on the nose. The ridiculous thing is that most PMOers suffer the delusion at some time in their life that they enjoy internet porn because it is ‘normal’ and ‘healthy’. I never suffered that delusion, I PMOed because I thought enjoying sex is a ‘birthright’ and I am only doing a normal thing.</p> <p>Since it was easier at most times for me to get internet porn than a partner I thought I am doing the normal thing. Now I am a non-PMOer, the most difficult part is trying to believe that those days actually happened. It&rsquo;s like awakening from a nightmare and that is about the size of it. Internet porn is a supranormal drug. It is weakening your de-stressing mechanisms, your virility and your energy. The worst aspect of PMO isn&rsquo;t the injury to your health or manliness, it is the warping of the mind. You search for any plausible excuse to go on.</p> <p>I remember at one stage switching to static images, a failed attempt to cut down on internet porn, in the belief that it was less harmful and I could reign in my ‘habit’. I failed to see the ‘novelty’ and the ‘shock’ demands from my ‘little monster’ to just get more dopamine. Did I ‘stay’ within my boundaries? I ‘favorited’ 2 dimensional photos and my harem collection saw pictures and videos of ‘mild’ type porn rotating in and out like musical chair. When their ‘music’ stopped they ‘exited’. I didn’t understand the novelty-seeking, shock-seeking nature of my brain.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pied-and-my-excuses"><strong>PIED And My Excuses</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pied-and-my-excuses"> +<h2 id="pied-and-my-excuses">PIED And My Excuses <a class="anchor" href="#pied-and-my-excuses"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.</p> +</a></h2><p>Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.</p> <p>Most PMOers swear that they only watch static and soft porn and so they are OK. They are actually straining at the leash and thus fighting with their willpower to resist temptations. If they do this too often and for too long they will debit their willpower considerably and fail in other life projects where willpower is of much great value, like in daily exercise, dieting etc. Continuous failure in those areas will make them feel miserable and guilty and very soon they will find themselves back to their entitled relief. If not, they will vent their anger and depression onto their loved ones.</p> <p>The answer is that once you have become addicted to internet porn, the brainwashing is increased. Your subconscious mind knows that the little monster has to be fed and you block everything else from your mind. As I have already stated, it is fear that keeps people quitting, the fear of that empty, insecure feeling that you get when you stop supplying the brain with dopamine flooding. Just because you are not aware of it doesn&rsquo;t mean it isn&rsquo;t there. You don&rsquo;t have to understand it any more than a cat needs to understand where the under-floor hot-water pipes are. It just knows that if it sits in a certain place it gets the feeling of warmth.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind"><strong>The Passivity Of Our Mind</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-passivity-of-our-mind"> +<h2 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind">The Passivity Of Our Mind <a class="anchor" href="#the-passivity-of-our-mind"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I&rsquo;ve frequently referred to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo; PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo;, but to stopping, quitting or the true position: <strong>ESCAPING!</strong></p> +</a></h2><p>It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I&rsquo;ve frequently referred to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo; PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo;, but to stopping, quitting or the true position: <strong>ESCAPING!</strong></p> <p>The only thing that persuades us to PMO in the first place is all the other people doing it. We feel we are missing out. We work so hard to become hooked, yet nobody ever finds out what they have been missing. But every time we see another new video clip it reassures us that there must be something in it, otherwise people wouldn&rsquo;t be doing it - and it wouldn&rsquo;t be such big business all over the world. Even when he has kicked the habit, the ex-PMOer feels he is being deprived when a discussion on a sexy entertainer, singer or even a porn star comes up at a party or other social function. She or he must be good to have all my friends talk about them, no? Do they have ‘hot’ pictures of her in my tube site? He feels safe. He can have just one ‘peek’ that night. And, before he knows it, he is hooked again.</p> <p>This brainwashing is extremely powerful and you need to be aware of its effects. I have heard scare stories about wicked men giving heroin mixed candies to kids at schoolyards. The concept of addiction and being compelled to go on taking the drug, filled me with horror. Even to this day, in spite of the fact that I am fairly convinced that &lsquo;pot&rsquo; is not addictive, I would not dare take one puff of marijuana. How ironic that I should have ended up a porn junky. Technology will continue to grow and we will have even faster tube sites and more faster access methods. The industry is investing millions in Virtual Reality so it will become the next best thing. The point is, do we know where we are going? Are we equipped with an under armour of defence so we can enjoy the benefits of technology yet at the same time protect ourselves from its bad effects?</p> <p>We are about to remove the brainwashing. It is not the non-PMOer who is being deprived but the poor user who is forfeiting a lifetime of:</p> @@ -4119,15 +4175,15 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:44:00 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-06-internet-porn/ - <p>Erotic novelty of the internet porn is a mental ‘drug’ and internet porn beats anything that is known to mankind and its streaming straight to your home for free ! We are not even talking VR virtual reality here. Porn triggers the ‘flooding’ of dopamine in our brain. Dopamine amps up the brain reward circuitry to produce experiences and feels of cravings and pleasure by locking themselves into ‘receptors’. More dopamine more wanting. Less dopamine no wanting. New experiences, tasty food - more dopamine - more wanting. Sex and sex related stuff gives the biggest injection of dopamine in the reward circuits. Dopamine is not the final pleasure stuff, if it were you would feel happy when you are done with it, but it is only a brain chemical that encourages seeking and action in you. The real pleasure is produced by opioids. More dopamine more opioids more + <h2 id="internet-porn">Internet Porn <a class="anchor" href="#internet-porn"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Erotic novelty of the internet porn is a mental ‘drug’ and internet porn beats anything that is known to mankind and its streaming straight to your home for free ! We are not even talking VR virtual reality here. Porn triggers the ‘flooding’ of dopamine in our brain. Dopamine amps up the brain reward circuitry to produce experiences and feels of cravings and pleasure by locking themselves into ‘receptors’. More dopamine more wanting. Less dopamine no wanting. New experiences, tasty food - more dopamine - more wanting. Sex and sex related stuff gives the biggest injection of dopamine in the reward circuits. Dopamine is not the final pleasure stuff, if it were you would feel happy when you are done with it, but it is only a brain chemical that encourages seeking and action in you. The real pleasure is produced by opioids. More dopamine more opioids more action more happy feelings.</p> <p>So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. All of which will now be stored as a script in your brain for easy access next time. I call this a ‘water slide’. Next time at the cue - a sexy commercial or alone time or stress or feeling a little down - you are ready to take a ride on the ‘water slide’. One more thing is that every time to repeat this you are ‘greasing’ it as well - so it is active, alive and more easier to slide the next time.</p> <p>As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating. Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish, ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you won’t on your first time.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="my-own-online-harem"><strong>My Own Online Harem!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#my-own-online-harem"> +<h2 id="my-own-online-harem">My Own Online Harem! <a class="anchor" href="#my-own-online-harem"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost.</p> +</a></h2><p>This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost.</p> <p>Going back to the earlier discussion - in this cycle as you crossed the ‘red line’ you also trigger emotions such as guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety and fear - which in turn raise dopamine levels as well. Now the brain may mistakenly associate feelings of anxiety and fear as sexual arousal. This perpetual cycle is only broken by natural causes - fortunately sooner or later. With its free access and privacy it provides boundless harem-like novelty. The dopamine can be theoretically kept very high for a very very long time. I can be satisfied with one lobster once in awhile. But Internet porn is different. It is even worse than drugs. Don’t let me make you nervous. I will shortly show you how to be free from this slavery.</p> <p>Now our human body has a self-correcting system by which the number of dopamine and opioid receptors are cut short when frequent and daily ‘flooding’ of dopamine is detected. Unfortunately - these receptors are also needed for receiving dopamine and to keep us even and balanced to handle the inevitable and normal day-to-day stresses. But this natural nominal amount of dopamine will not be absorbed efficiently with decreased receptors and you will feel mores tressed and irritated than normal.</p> <blockquote> @@ -4139,18 +4195,14 @@ action more happy feelings.</p> <p>A fleeting feeling of security is all that is needed to get through a rough spot in life - but will your brain be able to catch that drop of de-stressor that a non-PMOers’ brain is able to catch and use?</p> <p>This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I will explain more about this later.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-little-monster"><strong>The Little Monster</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-little-monster"> +<h2 id="the-little-monster">The Little Monster <a class="anchor" href="#the-little-monster"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&rsquo; we think we just &lsquo;got into the habit&rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.</p> +</a></h2><p>The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&rsquo; we think we just &lsquo;got into the habit&rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.</p> <p>Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, resulting in the feeling of fulfilment and pleasure that the action gives to the PMOer. In the early days, when we first start PMOing, the withdrawal pangs and their relief are so slight that we are not even aware that they exist. When we begin to masturbate regularly to internet porn we think it is because we&rsquo;ve either come to enjoy them or got into the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. The truth is we&rsquo;re already hooked; we do not realize it, but that little monster is already inside our stomach and every now and again we have to feed it.</p> <p>All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster. The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had before he became hooked in the first place.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm"><strong>The Annoying Burglar Alarm</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-annoying-burglar-alarm"> +<h2 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm">The Annoying Burglar Alarm <a class="anchor" href="#the-annoying-burglar-alarm"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we +</a></h2><p>You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain goes on. It is a chain for life - <strong>UNLESS YOU BREAK IT</strong>.</p> <p>The whole business of PMO is like wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure you feel when you take them off. There are three main reasons why PMOers cannot see things that way:</p> <ol> @@ -4161,11 +4213,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <p>It is this &lsquo;back to front&rsquo; reverse process that makes all drugs difficult to kick. Picture the panic state of a heroin addict who has no heroin. Now picture the utter joy when that addict can finally plunge a needle into his vein. Can you visualize someone actually getting pleasure by injecting themselves, or does the mere thought fill you with horror? Non-heroin addicts don&rsquo;t suffer that panic feeling.</p> <p>The heroin doesn&rsquo;t relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a 14 year old in 2008 - didn&rsquo;t suffer the empty feeling of needing internet porn or start to panic when they are off- line. Non-PMOers cannot understand how PMOers can possibly obtain pleasure from two dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. And do you know something? PMOers themselves cannot understand why they do it after some time either.</p> <p>We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don&rsquo;t non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their &rsquo;little monster&rsquo;?</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch"><strong>A Pleasure or Crutch?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#a-pleasure-or-crutch"> +<h2 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch">A Pleasure or Crutch? <a class="anchor" href="#a-pleasure-or-crutch"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;I need to eat.&rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.</p> +</a></h2><p>Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;I need to eat.&rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.</p> <p>PMOing appears to be almost identical. The empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;wanting or needing an PMO orgasm’ is identical to a hunger for food, although one will not satisfy the other. Like hunger, there is no physical pain and the feeling is so imperceptible that we are not even aware of it between PMO sessions. It&rsquo;s only if we want to masturbate and aren&rsquo;t able to reach internet for porn that we become aware of any discomfort. But when we do PMO we feel satisfied.</p> <p>It is this similarity to eating which helps to fool PMOers into believing that they receive some genuine pleasure. Some PMOers find it very difficult to grasp that there is no pleasure or crutch, whatsoever to PMO. Some argue: “How can you say there is no crutch? When I orgasm up then I&rsquo;llfeel less nervous than before.”</p> <p>Although eating and PMOing appear to be very similar. In fact they are exact opposites:</p> @@ -4174,17 +4224,13 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <li>Food does genuinely taste good, and eating is a genuinely pleasant experience that we can enjoy throughout our lives, whereas PMOing involves self-sabotaging the happiness receptors and thus destroying your chances to cope and to feel happy.</li> <li>Eating doesn&rsquo;t create hunger and genuinely relieves it, whereas the first PMO starts the craving for dopamine and each subsequent one, far from relieving it, ensures that you suffer it for the rest of life.</li> </ol> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pmo-is-a-habit"><strong>PMO is a Habit?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pmo-is-a-habit"> +<h2 id="pmo-is-a-habit">PMO is a Habit? <a class="anchor" href="#pmo-is-a-habit"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.</p> +</a></h2><p>This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.</p> <p>On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience, I also refer to the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> - we have to then have more bizarre and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting&hellip; not in the killing. If we don&rsquo;t then panic sets in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great!</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="crossing-the-red-line"><strong>Crossing The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#crossing-the-red-line"> +<h2 id="crossing-the-red-line">Crossing The Red Line <a class="anchor" href="#crossing-the-red-line"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.</p> +</a></h2><p>This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.</p> <p>You feel better than you did before starting this PMO session but you are in fact more nervous and less relaxed than you would be as a non-PMOer, like someone who is living in Loma Linda or in an Amish village, even though you are actually PMOing and living in your supposed “porn paradise.” This position is even more ridiculous than wearing tight shoes because as you go through life an increasing amount of the discomfort remains even when the shoes are removed.</p> <p>Once the orgasm is achieved, the dopamine rapidly begins to leave the brain, causing a mood dip. Which explains why the PMOer wants to ‘edge’<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> and switch through multiple browser windows as they seek and search. As I said, the ‘habit’ doesn&rsquo;t exist. The real reason why every user goes on using internet porn is because of that little porn monster inside his stomach. Every now and again he has to feed it. The PMOer himself will decide when he does that and it tends to be on four types of occasion or a combination of them.</p> <p>These occasions are:</p> @@ -4194,25 +4240,19 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to </ul> <p>What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If you think about it, what other types of occasion are there in our lives; apart from sleep? The truth is that PMO neither relieves boredom and stress nor promotes concentration and relaxation. It is all just illusion. Apart from being a drug, PMO is also a destroyer of happiness and virility.</p> <p>In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes, print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’ and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive without knowing the difference between food and poison.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"><strong>Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"> +<h2 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics">Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics <a class="anchor" href="#brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!</p> +</a></h2><p>Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!</p> <p>When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were titillating but most were disgusting, causing you to avert your eyes away. Like you would if had accidentally glanced a feeding mother’s breast. And some of us are even revolted with what they saw when the star reminded them of someone dear to their heart or a scene which recalled their own instance of being the victim. Some don’t feel like it to browse and masturbate at the same time. It may be hard to believe for you but the non-PMOs, who don’t PMO after their first time, are the lucky ones. They actually decided that it was not their cup of tea. It must be hard for you to believe but stay with me.</p> <p>How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even after a hard day? Why not? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That&rsquo;s all.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak"><strong>Are PMOers Mentally Weak?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#are-pmoers-mentally-weak"> +<h2 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak">Are PMOers Mentally Weak? <a class="anchor" href="#are-pmoers-mentally-weak"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.</p> +</a></h2><p>It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.</p> <p>To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to become hooked, and this is why it is difficult to stop teenagers. Because they are skilled in seeking and finding material, they know online privacy options and can clean their tracks - if they still feel some stigma and they (wrongfully) believe they can stop whenever they want to. Why do they not learn from us? Then again, why did we not learn from our PMOers and addicts?</p> <p>Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of ‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying is the ritual of relieving those pangs.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"><strong>The High From The Dance Around The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"> +<h2 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line">The High From The Dance Around The Red Line <a class="anchor" href="#the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.</p> +</a></h2><p>Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.</p> <p>Ask a user who believes that he sticks to a certain actor or genre - only because he likes something about the star or the theme (if any) of the clip: “If you cannot get your normal brand of porn and can only obtain a poor or unsafe brand, do you stop masturbating?” No way. A PMOer will masturbate to anything rather than abstain and it doesn&rsquo;t matter if he has to switch to escalating themes, different sex-orientation-themes, look-alike actresses, dangerous settings shocking relationships etc. To begin with they taste awful but if you persevere you will learn to like them. Most PMOers will also try to seek masturbation even after having real sex (unfulfilment, porn-induced unrealistic expectations etc.), or after a long, stressful work day, fever, colds, flu, sore throats and even when admitted in hospitals.</p> <p>Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wanted then it makes no sense to be with your laptop. During my conversation some PMOers find it alarming to realize they are drug addicts and think it will make it even more difficult to stop. In fact, it is all good news for two important reasons:</p> <ol> @@ -4220,18 +4260,14 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <li>Although internet porn is the most powerful trigger for ‘novelty’ and ‘sex’ based dopamine ‘flooding’ - because of the speed with which you become hooked, you are never badly hooked. The actual withdrawal pangs are so mild that most PMOers have lived and died without ever realizing that they have suffered them.</li> </ol> <p>You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc. The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn&rsquo;t bother the PMOers.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-smokers-analogy"><strong>The Smokers Analogy</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-smokers-analogy"> +<h2 id="the-smokers-analogy">The Smokers Analogy <a class="anchor" href="#the-smokers-analogy"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they&rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn&rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.</p> +</a></h2><p>A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they&rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn&rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.</p> <p>PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their parents while visiting for family get togethers etc. with little discomfort to themselves. In fact, most PMOers have extended periods during which they abstain without effort. Even in my case I would quite happily go a week or so without a PMO incident. In the later years as a PMOer I actually used to look forward to these days when I could stop choking my penis (what a ridiculous &lsquo;habit&rsquo;).</p> <p>The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"><strong>The Big Monster - The Brainwashing</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"> +<h2 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing">The Big Monster - The Brainwashing <a class="anchor" href="#the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.</p> +</a></h2><p>You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.</p> <p>Not all the amateurs are ‘amateurs’ on these tube sites, oversized body parts and overcharged scenarios are the norm, aided by a bit of the ‘viagran’ help.</p> <p>As I say, the actual porn addiction is not the main problem. It just acts as a catalyst to keep our minds confused over the real problem: the brainwashing. It may be of consolation to lifelong and heavy PMOers to know that it is just as easy for them to stop as casual PMOers. In a peculiar way. it is easier. The further you go along with the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;, the more it drags you down and the greater the gain when you stop.</p> <p>It may be of further consolation for you to know that the rumours that occasionally circulate that the neural pathways created are there for life, and so at the right (or wrong) time and with strong stimuli you will be sliding again down the ‘water slide’ of internet porn and masturbation to permanently destroy your real life sex are untrue.</p> @@ -4258,7 +4294,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:42:16 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-05-why-do-we-carry-on-with-pmo/ - <p>We all start PMOing for many reasons, usually social pressures or our biological curiosity, but once we feel we are becoming hooked, why do we carry on using porn? No regular PMOer knows why he or she looks at porn. If PMOers knew the true reason, they would stop doing it. The true answer is the same for all PMOers but the variety of replies is infinite, I find this part of the consultation the most amusing and at the same time the most pathetic.</p> + <h2 id="why-do-we-carry-on-with-pmo">Why Do We Carry on With PMO <a class="anchor" href="#why-do-we-carry-on-with-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>We all start PMOing for many reasons, usually social pressures or our biological curiosity, but once we feel we are becoming hooked, why do we carry on using porn? No regular PMOer knows why he or she looks at porn. If PMOers knew the true reason, they would stop doing it. The true answer is the same for all PMOers but the variety of replies is infinite, I find this part of the consultation the most amusing and at the same time the most pathetic.</p> <p>All PMOers know in their heart of hearts that they are fools. They know that they had no need to use porn or internet porn before they became hooked. Most of them can remember that their first ‘peek’ was a mix of revulsion and novel curiosity. They then filter out and get “skilled” at “locating” and “bookmarking” the right porn sites. They know that they had to work hard in order to become hooked.</p> <p>The most annoying part is that they sense that non-addicts - most women, older guys, people living in countries where hi-speed internet porn is not available “on tap” - are not missing anything and that they are laughing at them.</p> <p>However, PMOers are intelligent, rational human beings. They know that they are taking enormous future risks and so they spend a lot of time rationalizing their ‘habit’. The actual reason why PMOers continue is a subtle combination of the factors that I will elaborate in the next two chapters. They are:</p> @@ -4275,7 +4313,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:38:28 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-04-the-sinister-trap/ - <p>Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it&rsquo;s an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked.</p> + <h2 id="the-sinister-trap">The Sinister Trap <a class="anchor" href="#the-sinister-trap"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it&rsquo;s an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked.</p> <p>It is the only trap in nature which has does not require a lot of hard work to set up. The thing that springs the trap is not that all porn clips feature young, high quality, sexy models; it’s that most of the thumbnails on any porn web page are ugly looking, unattractive, amateurish, home-made clips of unknown models. If the first timer’s first look at a tube page was only filled with angelic beauties, professional models and high quality then the alarm bells would ring. And as intelligent human beings, we could then understand why half the adult population was systematically addicted to watching something that is cutting down their very same potential to do what they are viewing. In many known and yet unknown ways porn cuts down sexual performance and the feeling of satisfaction.</p> <p>But because that first “peek” has “stains and holes,” a mishmash of low quality clips of not-so-hot models, our young minds are reassured that we will never become hooked, and we think that because we are not enjoying them we can stop whenever we want to. It is the only drug in nature that prevents you from achieving your aim. Our curiosity brings us to its door steps. You dare not even click on all of the thumbnails because some of them will make you feel sick and throw up! If you were to accidentally click on an “I-did-not-see-that” clip - all you want to do is get away from the site and close your laptop.</p> <p>With women, the aim is to be the sophisticated modern young lady. We have all seen them acting up and looking absolutely ridiculous. By the time the boys have learnt to look tough and the girls have learnt to look sophisticated, they wish they had never started in the first place. I wonder whether women ever look sophisticated when they discuss the top 10 porn sites, or whether this is a figment of our imaginations created by internet porn companies.</p> @@ -4293,7 +4333,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:31:45 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-03-why-is-it-difficult-to-stop/ - <p>As I explained earlier, I got interested in this subject because of my own addiction. When I finally stopped it was like magic. When I had previously tried to stop there were weeks of black depression. There would be odd days when I was comparatively cheerful but the next day back with the depression. It was like clawing your way out of a slippery pit, you feel you are near the top, you see the sunshine and then find yourself sliding down again. Eventually you open your browser and as you masturbate you feel awful and you try to work out why you have to do it.</p> + <h2 id="why-is-it-difficult-to-stop">Why Is It Difficult to Stop? <a class="anchor" href="#why-is-it-difficult-to-stop"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As I explained earlier, I got interested in this subject because of my own addiction. When I finally stopped it was like magic. When I had previously tried to stop there were weeks of black depression. There would be odd days when I was comparatively cheerful but the next day back with the depression. It was like clawing your way out of a slippery pit, you feel you are near the top, you see the sunshine and then find yourself sliding down again. Eventually you open your browser and as you masturbate you feel awful and you try to work out why you have to do it.</p> <p>One of the questions I always ask online is: “do you want to stop PMO?” In a way it is a stupid question. All users (including members who dispute total abstinence) would love to stop PMO. If you ask to the most confirmed PMOer: “if you could go back to the time before you became hooked, with the knowledge you have now, would you have started PMO?”</p> <p>“NO WAY,” would be the reply.</p> <p>Say to the confirmed PMOer - someone who defends internet porn and who doesn&rsquo;t think that it cause injury to the brain (PIED, hypofrontality or the decreases in the dopamine receptors and etc.) - “do you encourage your children to use PMO?”</p> @@ -4342,12 +4384,14 @@ man and woman from performance based anxieties.&#160;<a href="#fnref: - 03-02 the Easy Method + 03-02 The Easy Method https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-02-the-easy-method/ Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:26:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-02-the-easy-method/ - <p>The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy.</p> + <h2 id="the-easy-method">The Easy Method <a class="anchor" href="#the-easy-method"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy.</p> <p>Provided that you are not a non-PMOer (who had never got addicted) or an ex-PMOer (who had quit or is in the fasting days of the porn-diet), it is essential to not quit until you have finished the book completely. This may appear to be a contradiction. Later I shall be explaining that porn do absolutely nothing for you at all. In fact, one of the many conundrums about internet porn is that when we are actually masturbating to a porn clip, we look at it and wonder why we are doing it. It is only when we have been deprived that the craving for PMO becomes precious.</p> <p>However, let us accept that, whether you like it or not, you believe you are hooked. When you believe you are hooked, you can never be completely relaxed or concentrate properly unless you are using PMO. So do not attempt to stop PMO before you have finished the whole book. This instruction to continue to masturbate using porn until you have completed the book has caused me more frustration than any other. As you read further your desire to masturbate to porn will gradually be reduced. Do not go off half-cocked; this could be fatal. Remember, all you have to do is to follow the instructions in the right order. When I first started writing on forums many of the readers also stopped purely because I had done it. They thought, “if he can do it, anybody can.”</p> <p>Over the years, I managed to persuade the ones that hadn&rsquo;t stopped to realize just how nice it is to be free! I gave my hackbook for free upon request. I worked on the basis that, even if it were the most boring book ever written, they would still read it, if only because it had been written by an ex-PMOer. I was surprised and hurt to learn that,they hadn&rsquo;t bothered to finish the book.</p> @@ -4379,12 +4423,14 @@ man and woman from performance based anxieties.&#160;<a href="#fnref: - 03-01 the Worst PMO Addict I Have Yet to Meet + 03-01 The Worst PMO Addict I Have Yet to Meet https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-01-the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet/ Tue, 20 Dec 2022 17:10:39 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-01-the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet/ - <p>Perhaps I should begin by describing my competence for writing this book. No, I am not a doctor or a psychiatrist; my qualifications are far more appropriate. I spent thirty years of my life as a confirmed fapper. In the later years I used porn on a daily bases to get orgasm(s).During my life I had made a great number of attempts to stop. I never got past a full week of abstinence, and I was still climbing up the wall, with an “annoying alarm clock beeping” in my head called craving. With most PMOers, on the health side, it&rsquo;s a question of “ I&rsquo;ll stop before it happens to me.” I had reached the stage where I knew it has caused PIED, hypofrontality (inability to control and execute action towards a goal), irritability, lack of energy, soulless eyes, mental dryness, stress and pain in the lower back, genital irritations. It bothered me, but it still didn&rsquo;t stop me.</p> + <h2 id="the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet">The Worst PMO Addict I Have Yet to Meet <a class="anchor" href="#the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Perhaps I should begin by describing my competence for writing this book. No, I am not a doctor or a psychiatrist; my qualifications are far more appropriate. I spent thirty years of my life as a confirmed fapper. In the later years I used porn on a daily bases to get orgasm(s).During my life I had made a great number of attempts to stop. I never got past a full week of abstinence, and I was still climbing up the wall, with an “annoying alarm clock beeping” in my head called craving. With most PMOers, on the health side, it&rsquo;s a question of “ I&rsquo;ll stop before it happens to me.” I had reached the stage where I knew it has caused PIED, hypofrontality (inability to control and execute action towards a goal), irritability, lack of energy, soulless eyes, mental dryness, stress and pain in the lower back, genital irritations. It bothered me, but it still didn&rsquo;t stop me.</p> <p>I felt lack of enthusiasm to go to gym or just a walk even if it’s sunny outside or simple weight lifting at home either. I had reached the stage where I gave up even trying to stop. I found excuses in substitute methods (controlled use, safe porn, porn-diet and etc. discussed later) as advocated by sexologists, forum users and medical pros - who have no idea of its effect on brain chemistry and who are themselves fooled by their &rsquo;little monster&rsquo; (not devil or satan - we will talk about monsters later) . The novelty trap and shock value provided by internet porn delivered at home with a low risk high reward deal is something that they can’t even think of. They are still in the static playboy era. And the younger ones have buried their heads under the sand so they can still continue to PMO.</p> <p>The worst part is it was not so much that I enjoyed the PMO. It was just doing it routinely, a chore - like slipping down the water slides, in fact there are brain water slides greased well by the neuro chemicals (DeltaFosB proteins made by dopamine which store emotion scripts for easy recall, will be discussing later). A simple cue such as a commercial, or a day to day stress that got ‘relieved’ temporarily by PMO is all it takes to complete the ride down the ‘waterslide’. Some time in their lives most PMOers have suffered from the illusion that they enjoy the ride, the novelty, the rush and of course the orgasm, but I never had that illusion.</p> <p>I have most times detested the porn, even when I liked the orgasm. But at all times I thought a release from PMO helped me to relax. It gave me courage and confidence, and I was always miserable when I tried to stop, never being able to visualize an enjoyable life without PMO. And so my PMO habit which had started before my marriage stayed with me during and after my marriage was over. I had experienced PIED but I blocked it out and found excuses , “it happens to every man”. Well it does of course - but &lsquo;it&rsquo; happened to me again and again. My penis, I found it difficult to get hard - when I am with real woman. Could it be because I had habituated it to work in limp mode? Later I found that it was hard for me to get hard even with porn.</p> @@ -4422,7 +4468,9 @@ Do not take anything for granted. Question not only what I tell you but also you Tue, 20 Dec 2022 16:58:54 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/02-02-sister-kenny/ - <p>You&rsquo;ve probably seen the film Sister Kenny. In case you haven&rsquo;t, it was about the time when infantile paralysis or polio was the scourge of our children. I vividly remember that the words engendered the same fear in me as the word cancer does today. The effect of polio was not only to paralyze the legs and arms but to distort the limbs. The established medical treatment was to put those limbs in irons and thus prevent the distortion. The result was paralysis for life.</p> + <h2 id="sister-kenny">Sister Kenny <a class="anchor" href="#sister-kenny"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>You&rsquo;ve probably seen the film Sister Kenny. In case you haven&rsquo;t, it was about the time when infantile paralysis or polio was the scourge of our children. I vividly remember that the words engendered the same fear in me as the word cancer does today. The effect of polio was not only to paralyze the legs and arms but to distort the limbs. The established medical treatment was to put those limbs in irons and thus prevent the distortion. The result was paralysis for life.</p> <p>Sister Kenny believed the irons inhibited recovery and proved a thousand times over that the muscles could be re-educated so that the child could walk again. However, Sister Kenny wasn&rsquo;t a doctor, she was merely a nurse. How dare she dabble in a province that was confined to qualified doctors? It didn&rsquo;t seem to matter that Sister Kenny had found the solution to the problem and had proved her solution to be effective. The children that were treated by Sister Kenny knew she was right, so did their parents, yet the established medical profession not only refused to adopt her methods but actually prevented her from practicing. It took Sister Kenny twenty years before the medical profession would accept the obvious.</p> <p>I (Allen Carr) first saw that film years before I (Allen Carr) discovered EASYWAY, The film was very interesting and no doubt there was an element of truth. However, it was equally obvious that Hollywood had used a large portion of poetic license. Sister Kenny couldn&rsquo;t possibly have discovered something that the combined knowledge of medical science had failed to discover. Surely the established medical specialists weren&rsquo;t the dinosaurs they were being portrayed as? How could it possibly have taken them twenty years to accept the facts that were staring them in the face?</p> <p>They say that fact is stranger than fiction, I apologize for accusing the makers of Sister Kenny for using poetic license. Even in this so-called enlightened age of modern communications, even having access to modern communications, I&rsquo;ve failed to get my message across.</p> @@ -4459,7 +4507,9 @@ Do not take anything for granted. Question not only what I tell you but also you Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:27:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/02-01-introduction/ - <div style="text-align: center;"> + <h2 id="introduction">Introduction <a class="anchor" href="#introduction"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><div style="text-align: center;"> <h2 id="im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo">&lsquo;I&rsquo;M GOING TO CURE THE WORLD OF PMO&rsquo; <a class="anchor" href="#im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> </a></h2></div> @@ -4505,7 +4555,9 @@ the world would also see the light and adopt my method.</li> Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:23:44 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/01-03-fear/ - <p>Fear that we will have to survive an indeterminate period of misery, deprivation and unsatisfied craving in order to be free. Fear that a night all by yourself or the eve of a test or exam will be miserable fighting uncontrollable impulses. Fear that we&rsquo;ll never be able to concentrate, handle stress or be as confident without our little crutch. Fear that our personality and character will change.</p> + <h2 id="fear">Fear <a class="anchor" href="#fear"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Fear that we will have to survive an indeterminate period of misery, deprivation and unsatisfied craving in order to be free. Fear that a night all by yourself or the eve of a test or exam will be miserable fighting uncontrollable impulses. Fear that we&rsquo;ll never be able to concentrate, handle stress or be as confident without our little crutch. Fear that our personality and character will change.</p> <p>But most of all, the fear of &lsquo;once an addict always an addict,&rsquo; that we will never be completely free and spend the rest of our lives at odd times craving the occasional porn induced orgasm. If, as I did, you have already tried all the conventional ways to quit and been through the misery of what I describe as the willpower method of stopping, you will not only be affected by that fear, but convinced you can never quit.</p> <p>If you are apprehensive, panic-stricken or feel that the time is not right for you to give up, then let me assure you that your apprehension or panic is caused by fear. That fear is not relieved by PMO but was indeed created by PMO. You didn&rsquo;t decide to fall into the porn trap. But like all traps, it is designed to ensure that you remain trapped. Ask yourself, when you viewed those first porn pictures and videos, did you decide to come back to view them as long as you have? So when are you going to quit? Tomorrow? Next year? Stop kidding yourself! The trap is designed to hold you for life. Why else do you think all these other PMO addicts don&rsquo;t quit before it kills their lives?</p> <p>As you will soon be reading, the feedbacks I got has revealed information that has exceeded my wildest aspirations of the effectiveness of my method. It has also revealed two aspects of the method that have caused me concern. The second I will be covering later.</p> @@ -4536,7 +4588,9 @@ the world would also see the light and adopt my method.</li> Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:19:35 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/01-02-warning/ - <p>Perhaps you are somewhat apprehensive about reading this book. Perhaps, like the majority of PMO addicts, the mere thought of stopping fills you with panic and although you have every intention of stopping one day, it is not today.</p> + <h2 id="warning">Warning <a class="anchor" href="#warning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Perhaps you are somewhat apprehensive about reading this book. Perhaps, like the majority of PMO addicts, the mere thought of stopping fills you with panic and although you have every intention of stopping one day, it is not today.</p> <p>If you are expecting me to inform you of the terrible health issues that PMO addicts risk, that they are susceptible to be affected by PIED (porn induced erectile disfunction), unreliable arousals, fading penetration, loss of interest in real partners,loss of control over themselves, loss of relationships, that it is a filthy, disgusting habit and that <em>YOU</em> are a stupid, spineless, weak-willed jellyfish, then I must disappoint you. Those tactics never helped me to quit and if they were going to help you, you would already have quit.</p> <p>Our Method, which I shall refer to as EASYPEASY doesn&rsquo;t work that way. Some of the things that I am about to say, you might find difficult to believe. However by the time you&rsquo;ve finished reading the book, you&rsquo;ll not only believe them, but wonder how you could ever have been brainwashed into believing otherwise.</p> <p>There is a common misapprehension that we choose to watch porn. PMO addicts ( yes addicts) no more choose to do that than alcoholics choose to become alcoholics, or heroin addicts choose to become heroin addicts. It is true that we choose to boot up the laptop, fire up the browser and visit our favourite online harem<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> tube sites. I occasionally choose to go to the cinema, but I certainly didn&rsquo;t choose to spend my whole life in the cinema theatre. The curiosity and my nature took me there but I would not have done that if I had known it would addict me and cause me my health, happiness and relationships. Only if I had heard about PIED on my first visit to that porn site?</p> @@ -4561,7 +4615,9 @@ the world would also see the light and adopt my method.</li> Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:14:52 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/01-01-preface/ - <p>This hackbook will enable you to stop PMO, immediately, painlessly, and permanently, without the need for Willpower or feeling any sense of deprivation or sacrifice. It will not judge you. It will not embarrass you. It will not put pressure on you to undergo painful measures.</p> + <h2 id="preface">Preface <a class="anchor" href="#preface"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This hackbook will enable you to stop PMO, immediately, painlessly, and permanently, without the need for Willpower or feeling any sense of deprivation or sacrifice. It will not judge you. It will not embarrass you. It will not put pressure on you to undergo painful measures.</p> <p>That goes against everything you&rsquo;ve ever been told about PMO. But ask yourself what you&rsquo;ve been told before worked for you? If it had, you wouldn&rsquo;t be reading this site.</p> <ul> <li>Instantaneous</li> diff --git a/new-site/public/index.xml b/new-site/public/index.xml index a1c57354..768b602b 100644 --- a/new-site/public/index.xml +++ b/new-site/public/index.xml @@ -2620,7 +2620,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:22:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-05/ - <p>“Go inside and try in vain to have the same problem. It was a terrible problem, wasn&rsquo;t it? You want to make changes, haven&rsquo;t you?&hellip; What would it be like when you have made those changes, now? In the future as you look back and see what it was like to have had that problem&hellip; as you think about it now, if you could make this change for yourself so that you could STOP&hellip; having made that change and see yourself now. Do you like the way you look if you could make that change and look back at yourself having made that change now!”</p> + <h2 id="scripts-05">Scripts-05 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-05"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>“Go inside and try in vain to have the same problem. It was a terrible problem, wasn&rsquo;t it? You want to make changes, haven&rsquo;t you?&hellip; What would it be like when you have made those changes, now? In the future as you look back and see what it was like to have had that problem&hellip; as you think about it now, if you could make this change for yourself so that you could STOP&hellip; having made that change and see yourself now. Do you like the way you look if you could make that change and look back at yourself having made that change now!”</p> <p>Credit to <a href="http://www.hypnosis.com/scripts_full.php?id2=48">http://www.hypnosis.com/scripts_full.php?id2=48</a></p> @@ -2631,7 +2633,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:21:45 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-04/ - <p>To an individual who has had a PMO problem, porn is poison. It&rsquo;s poison in two ways. First of all it&rsquo;s poison because it breaks down the very will power, the very ego, the very faith in oneself that the individual is able to build up. And so it is a psychological poison because having once conquered the porn problem, if you ever allow it to get back into you again then you begin thinking about yourself all the thoughts that you thought about yourself before, namely, well I really am no good anyway, I really didn&rsquo;t lick it and so on. So it&rsquo;s a psychological poison.</p> + <h2 id="scripts-04">Scripts-04 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-04"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>To an individual who has had a PMO problem, porn is poison. It&rsquo;s poison in two ways. First of all it&rsquo;s poison because it breaks down the very will power, the very ego, the very faith in oneself that the individual is able to build up. And so it is a psychological poison because having once conquered the porn problem, if you ever allow it to get back into you again then you begin thinking about yourself all the thoughts that you thought about yourself before, namely, well I really am no good anyway, I really didn&rsquo;t lick it and so on. So it&rsquo;s a psychological poison.</p> <p>Now in addition to that for anyone who has ever had a porn problem, it&rsquo;s a physical poison. It actually poisons your system. Because you&rsquo;re allergic to porn just like other people are allergic to other things. And so if you&rsquo;re allergic to something, even penicillin, it&rsquo;s poison to you and you must never take it. The same is true with porn. If you&rsquo;re allergic to it, you&rsquo;re through with it. Now you&rsquo;ve been allergic to porn. porn is a poison to you. What&rsquo;s even more fascinating is that usually the reason why one is drawn to porn is not for most of the reasons that most people reiterate, namely that it makes me feel good, I like it, all these things. On the contrary, almost every person who has a porn problem will tell you just the opposite. I don&rsquo;t like it. It&rsquo;s ruining my life. It&rsquo;s terrible.</p> <p>And if that&rsquo;s true, then why are they drawn to it? For precisely that reason. Because it is a poison and because they in their subconscious mind need to commit suicide and so they do it the slow tortuous way. And so that&rsquo;s why it&rsquo;s so important that the underlying cause of the problem be completely removed so that you don&rsquo;t need to punish yourself again with porn. And that&rsquo;s why we have removed them.</p> <p>That&rsquo;s why you don&rsquo;t need to punish yourself anymore. Because you realize you&rsquo;re not guilty to begin with. And if you&rsquo;re not guilty you don&rsquo;t have to punish yourself. And since you&rsquo;re through punishing yourself, you&rsquo;re through poisoning yourself. Yes porn is a poison. It&rsquo;s important that you realize that it&rsquo;s a poison and you are leaving poisons alone. Because you don&rsquo;t need poison any more. You don&rsquo;t need to poison yourself. You don&rsquo;t need to punish yourself. You&rsquo;re through with all that.</p> @@ -2646,7 +2650,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:20:17 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-03/ - <p>Now as you sink deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance. You pay no attention to any other sound but the sound of my voice. You sink deeper and deeper with every breath you take. Deeper and deeper and deeper, way down, deeper and deeper relaxed.</p> + <h2 id="scripts-03">Scripts-03 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-03"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Now as you sink deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance. You pay no attention to any other sound but the sound of my voice. You sink deeper and deeper with every breath you take. Deeper and deeper and deeper, way down, deeper and deeper relaxed.</p> <p>In the past porn may have been to you something that meant life. In your mind you may have accepted a suggestion that porn saves your life from boredom or porn protects you from being injured socially, porn is good for you in some manner or another. But that was yesterday and we are in the future. All that was yesterday, because porn may have protected you from injury in the past socially, it could have even saved your life from boredom.</p> <p>And those suggestions may have been good suggestions at one time but they have outlived their usefulness and if any of those suggestions are present to any degree in your mind, they are completely removed as of now. And that suggestion takes complete and thorough effect upon your mind, body and spirit.</p> <p>Now to other people porn means death. It&rsquo;s a way of punishing oneself. It&rsquo;s a poison and some people want to poison themselves. It&rsquo;s a method of slow suicide. Well, you don&rsquo;t need that now. If porn ever meant death and suicide to you and you have a need to punish yourself, that need is now long gone and we remove that suggestion. The truth of the matter is that porn is just porn. It&rsquo;s not life. It&rsquo;s not death. As a matter of fact, it&rsquo;s not anything to you anymore. It&rsquo;s nothing, neutral feelings. It&rsquo;s something that you don&rsquo;t need nor do you want.</p> @@ -2662,7 +2668,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:18:50 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-02/ - <p>As you go deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance and you pay attention only to the sound of my voice. As you listen carefully to the sound of my voice, we are going to remove a number of suggestions which have been in your mind. We are going to remove them completely and as you listen carefully to them we&rsquo;re simply going to dissolve them&hellip; throw them out of your mind completely and forever&hellip; Nothing disturbs you and nothing bothers you and nothing can distract you in any way from listening to the sound of my voice&hellip; and from completely accepting everything I tell you&hellip; for everything I tell you is the absolute truth to you&hellip; and we&rsquo;re going to remove all suggestions from your mind that have been detrimental to you in the past.</p> + <h2 id="scripts-02">Scripts-02 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-02"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As you go deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance and you pay attention only to the sound of my voice. As you listen carefully to the sound of my voice, we are going to remove a number of suggestions which have been in your mind. We are going to remove them completely and as you listen carefully to them we&rsquo;re simply going to dissolve them&hellip; throw them out of your mind completely and forever&hellip; Nothing disturbs you and nothing bothers you and nothing can distract you in any way from listening to the sound of my voice&hellip; and from completely accepting everything I tell you&hellip; for everything I tell you is the absolute truth to you&hellip; and we&rsquo;re going to remove all suggestions from your mind that have been detrimental to you in the past.</p> <p>The first suggestion you had in your mind is that somehow or another that porn, an image, an illusion, has been of some use to you. Masturbating to porn is of no use to you and you know it. You&rsquo;re through PMO for any reason. It doesn&rsquo;t make you relax, it doesn&rsquo;t make you sleep well, it doesn&rsquo;t do anything for you. As a matter of fact it ruins your efficiency&hellip; and consequently you&rsquo;re through with it. The fact that porn has ever been beneficial to you in any way is completely removed from your mind. I am going to count to five and that suggestion is completely removed from your mind never to return. One, Two, Three, Four, Five.</p> <p>The next suggestion that you may have accepted is that porn is a good means of punishing yourself. In the first place, you&rsquo;re through punishing yourself and in the second place you&rsquo;re through using porn as a means to do it. The only reason anyone ever punishes himself is because somewhere deep in his mind he feels guilty and you&rsquo;re through allowing your-self to feel guilty. And so with one count we&rsquo;re going to remove the guilt, whatever it is and from whatever source the punishment, the need for punishment, and that porn could be used as a vehicle to achieve it. One. Two. Three. Four. Five.</p> <p>Those ideas are all gone. Porn to you is a poison and a lousy inefficient poison at that&hellip; just enough poison to make you sick and ineffective. But then you&rsquo;re through poisoning yourself and you&rsquo;re through using porn and so that need is also removed from your mind. One. Two. Three. Four. Five.</p> @@ -2679,7 +2687,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:17:25 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-01/ - <p>You are relaxed now and because you are so relaxed you begin to feel free from all tensions, anxiety and fear. You now realize that you are more confident and sure of yourself because you have taken the enormous first step toward helping yourself. Great!</p> + <h2 id="scripts-01">Scripts-01 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-01"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>You are relaxed now and because you are so relaxed you begin to feel free from all tensions, anxiety and fear. You now realize that you are more confident and sure of yourself because you have taken the enormous first step toward helping yourself. Great!</p> <p>You begin to feel this strength from within, motivating you to overcome any and every obstacle that may stand in the way of your happiness, social life and home life. You are not a slave to PMO any more!</p> <p>You will find that from this moment on you are developing more self control. You will now face every situation in a calm, relaxed state of mind. Your thinking is very clear and sharp at all times. You are free!</p> <p>You begin to feel that your self respect and confidence are expanding more and more each and every day in every way. You now realize that in the past addiction was an escape and weakness that you are replacing with confidence, strength and self control. You are becoming a happy person now, with a positive attitude toward life. You are succeeding now and you have all the abilities for success.</p> @@ -2697,7 +2707,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:14:53 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/04-02-rebt-coping-statements/ - <ul> + <h2 id="rebt-coping-statements">REBT Coping Statements <a class="anchor" href="#rebt-coping-statements"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ul> <li><em>“I can stop PMO, even though it appears &lsquo;hard&rsquo; to do so. It’s not too hard and no matter how much trouble it takes, it’s worth it!”</em></li> <li><em>“If I keep ignoring and never giving into my powerful urges to PMO, I will make it easier and easier to resist them”</em></li> <li><em>“I can fully and unconditionally accept myself- yes, even with all my flaws and failings”</em></li> @@ -2722,7 +2734,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:13:26 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/04-01-the-instructions/ - <ol> + <h2 id="the-instructions">The Instructions <a class="anchor" href="#the-instructions"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Follow all the instructions.</li> <li>Keep an open mind.</li> <li>Start with a feeling of elation.</li> @@ -2734,11 +2748,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true <li>Always remember there&rsquo;s no such thing as &ldquo;Just One Peek&rdquo;.</li> <li>Never PMO again.</li> </ol> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="affirmations">Affirmations <a class="anchor" href="#affirmations"> +<h3 id="affirmations">Affirmations <a class="anchor" href="#affirmations"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<ul> +</a></h3><ul> <li>I am free from the slavery of PMO.</li> <li>It is easy for me to ignore my thoughts about PMO.</li> <li>Bye bye thoughts, bye bye Urges. Oh, there goes my cravings.</li> @@ -2763,7 +2775,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 11:36:58 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-44-should-i-tell-my-so/ - <p>Should I tell my wife, girlfriend and SO about my PMO? The intention here is that it would help you in quitting. I am of the solid opinion that all these are not needed. It would only reinforce your weakness against PMO.</p> + <h2 id="should-i-tell-my-so">Should I Tell My SO <a class="anchor" href="#should-i-tell-my-so"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Should I tell my wife, girlfriend and SO about my PMO? The intention here is that it would help you in quitting. I am of the solid opinion that all these are not needed. It would only reinforce your weakness against PMO.</p> <p>If you slip, you will feel miserable and guilty if you are following the Willpower Method. Add to that the feeling of deceiving your loved one will definitely push you through the vicious cycle of slip-lapse-relapse.</p> <p>If you are caught once - just say you are feeling good that you got caught and you are out of the prison. And you don’t want to talk about it. Many women can’t digest it. Many men wrongly attribute the woman to be of loose morals and hence a bad person. And if the SO breaks up with you (even if for some other reason) you will feel guilty for having screwed up your sex life with PMO OR feeling you “sacrificed” so much if you were successful in quitting - adding to the heart ache.</p> <p>You will look very weak. They will treat you as a weak person - of course only subconsciously. But you can smell it. Why the stress?</p> @@ -2777,26 +2791,22 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 11:31:13 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-43-advice-to-non-pmoers/ - <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK <a class="anchor" href="#help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book"> + <h2 id="advice-to-non-pmoers">Advice to Non-PMOers <a class="anchor" href="#advice-to-non-pmoers"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>First study the contents of this book and try to put yourself in the place of the PMOer. Do not force him to read this book or try to stop him by telling him he is ruining his health or playing with fire. He already knows this better than you do. PMOers do not continue in it because they enjoy it or because they want to. They only tell themselves and other people this in order to retain self-respect. They do it because they feel dependent on PMO because they think that it relaxes them and gives them courage and confidence (pleasure or crutch) and that life will never be enjoyable without “sex” - their version of it. If you try to force a PMOer to stop, he feels like a trapped animal and wants to be in his harem even more. This may turn him into a secret PMOer and in his mind the porn will become even more precious (see Chapter 26).</p> +</a></h2><h3 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK <a class="anchor" href="#help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>First study the contents of this book and try to put yourself in the place of the PMOer. Do not force him to read this book or try to stop him by telling him he is ruining his health or playing with fire. He already knows this better than you do. PMOers do not continue in it because they enjoy it or because they want to. They only tell themselves and other people this in order to retain self-respect. They do it because they feel dependent on PMO because they think that it relaxes them and gives them courage and confidence (pleasure or crutch) and that life will never be enjoyable without “sex” - their version of it. If you try to force a PMOer to stop, he feels like a trapped animal and wants to be in his harem even more. This may turn him into a secret PMOer and in his mind the porn will become even more precious (see Chapter 26).</p> <p>Instead, concentrate on the other side of the coin. Get him into the company of ex-PMOers (there are many blogs, forums etc. YBOP, No-Fap etc.). Get them to tell the PMOer how they too thought they were hooked for life and how much better life is as a non-PMOer. Once you have got him believing that he can stop then his mind will start to open up. Then start explaining the delusion created by withdrawal pangs. Not only are the “dopamine rushes” not giving him a boost but they are destroying his confidence and making him irritable and tired.</p> <p>He should now be ready to read this book himself. He will be expecting to read pages and pages about unreliable arousal, fading penetrations, PIED, PE, etc. Explain that the approach is completely different and that references to illness are just a small fraction of the material in the book.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD <a class="anchor" href="#help-during-the-withdrawal-period"> +<h3 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD <a class="anchor" href="#help-during-the-withdrawal-period"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>If you are dealing with a girlfriend or boyfriend - whether the ex-PMOer is suffering or not, assume that she/he is. Do not try to minimize his suffering by telling him it is easy to stop; he can do that himself. Instead keep telling him how proud you are, how much better he is looking, how much sweeter it is to be with him, how much easier he is in general. It is particularly important to keep doing this. When a PMOer makes an attempt to stop, the euphoria of the attempt and the attention he gets from friends and colleagues can help him along. However, they tend to forget quickly, so keep that praise going.</p> +</a></h3><p>If you are dealing with a girlfriend or boyfriend - whether the ex-PMOer is suffering or not, assume that she/he is. Do not try to minimize his suffering by telling him it is easy to stop; he can do that himself. Instead keep telling him how proud you are, how much better he is looking, how much sweeter it is to be with him, how much easier he is in general. It is particularly important to keep doing this. When a PMOer makes an attempt to stop, the euphoria of the attempt and the attention he gets from friends and colleagues can help him along. However, they tend to forget quickly, so keep that praise going.</p> <p>Because he is not talking about PMOing, you may think he has forgotten about it and don&rsquo;t want to remind him. Usually the complete opposite is the case with the Willpower Method, as the ex-PMOer tends to be obsessed by nothing else. So do not be frightened to bring the subject up and keep praising him: he will tell you if he doesn&rsquo;t want you to remind him of PMOing.</p> <p>Go out of your way to relieve him of pressures during the withdrawal period. Try to think of ways of making his life interesting and enjoyable. This can also be a trying period for non-PMOers - that is those of you who have never had this addiction. If one member of a group is irritable, it can cause general misery all round. So anticipate this if the ex-PMOer is feeling irritable. He may well take it out on you but do not retaliate: it is at this time that he needs your praise and sympathy the most. If you are feeling irritable yourself, try not to show it.</p> <p>One of the tricks an addict will play when trying to give up with the aid of the Willpower Method was to get into a tantrum, hoping that wife or friends would say, “I cannot bear to see you suffering like this. For goodness sake, have your poison.” The PMOer then does not lose face, as he isn&rsquo;t “giving in” - he has been instructed. If the ex-PMOer uses this ploy, on no account encourage him to lapse. Instead say, “if that is what PMO does to you, thank goodness you will soon be free. How marvellous that you had the courage and sense to give up.”</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL <a class="anchor" href="#help-end-this-scandal"> +<h3 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL <a class="anchor" href="#help-end-this-scandal"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>In my opinion, internet porn is one of the dangers in a free society, piggy backing on the good willed efforts of personal freedoms. Surely the very basis of civilization, the reason why the human species has advanced so far, is that we are capable of communicating our knowledge and experiences not only to each other but to future generations. Even the lower species find it necessary to warn their offspring of the pitfalls in life.</p> +</a></h3><p>In my opinion, internet porn is one of the dangers in a free society, piggy backing on the good willed efforts of personal freedoms. Surely the very basis of civilization, the reason why the human species has advanced so far, is that we are capable of communicating our knowledge and experiences not only to each other but to future generations. Even the lower species find it necessary to warn their offspring of the pitfalls in life.</p> <p>The producers of porn are not doing this in good faith, in the genuine belief that they help mankind, especially now as the addiction to internet porn is widely studied. Maybe in its initial stages people genuinely believed that porn taught intimacy to men and women but today the authorities know that it is a fallacy. Just watch any tube sites nowadays. They make no claims about education. The only claims they make are about the shock, novelty, escalation quality of their clips.</p> <p>The sheer hypocrisy is incredible. As a society we get uptight about school bullying and objectification of human body. Compared with internet porn, these problems are mere pimples in our society. Thirty five per cent of the population have been addicted to porn and most of them spend quality time with imaginary and illusory pixel people at the expense of health, virility, energy and time. Tens of thousands of people have their lives ruined every year because they become hooked. Internet high speed porn is by far the biggest killer in relationships and yet the biggest vested interest is our for-profit companies. Internet porn producers don’t spend on advertising the filth in mainstream publications - they don’t have to. Our biological urges will lead us to the thresholds of their well stocked internet harems. They give free samples just like your local drug dealer. Heck the tube sites don’t even stock the wares any more as they encourage visitors to post the content.</p> <p>How clever that porn companies show the 18+ warning at their home page as the deterrent for under age users. Some even don’t bother to do that. Internet porn affect everyone at all ages. “We have warned you of the danger. It is your choice.” Is the attitude they have. Anyway, do they take any steps to verify the age? No. That would discourage their customers. And of course if age verification is legislated they will find another country to host. Or they will pay some ‘elite’ to write how prohibition resulted in bootlegging and the creation of the Mafia. Conveniently forgotten is the question of why repealing prohibition did not result in the reduction of alcohol related casualty numbers. And the contribution of the failure of law enforcement to control the Mafia’s growth. So let’s not waste time in talking about them.</p> @@ -2807,11 +2817,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <p>I remember reading H. G. Well’s The Time Machine. The book describes an incident in the distant future in which a man falls into a river. His companions merely sit around the bank like cattle, oblivious to his cries of desperation. I found that incident inhuman and very disturbing. I find the general apathy of our society to the PMO problem very similar. We find characters in movies and TV series talking about or even engaging in porn in a casual way.</p> <p>Why do we allow society to subject healthy young teenagers, youngsters whose lives are complete before they start to get online, to claim their independence just for the privilege of destroying themselves mentally and physically in a lifetime of slavery, a lifetime of filth and disease? You may feel that I over-dramatize the facts. Not so. There are cases where lives were cut down in his early years of marriage because of PMO. He was a strong man and might still have been alive today. I believe I was within an inch of PIED during my forties, although I would have attributed it to my divorce rather than to PMO. I now spend my life being consulted by people who have been crippled by the disease or are in the last stages. And, if you care to think about it, you probably know of many too.</p> <p>There is a wind of change in society. A snowball has started that I hope this book will help turn into an avalanche. You too can help by spreading the message.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING <a class="anchor" href="#final-warning"> +<h3 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING <a class="anchor" href="#final-warning"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>You can now enjoy the rest of your life as a happy non-PMOer. In order to make sure that you do, you need to follow these simple instructions:</p> +</a></h3><p>You can now enjoy the rest of your life as a happy non-PMOer. In order to make sure that you do, you need to follow these simple instructions:</p> <ol> <li>Keep this page in your bookmarks and refer to it as much as you need.</li> <li>If you ever start to envy another PMOer, realize that they will be envious of you. You are not being deprived. They are.</li> @@ -2829,7 +2837,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 11:28:29 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-42-help-the-pmoer-left-on-the-sinking-ship/ - <p>PMOers are panicking nowadays. They sense that there is a change in the way internet porn is perceived by men and women. Internet porn’s addictive nature is being studied by more and more people. It is now rightly regarded not as the same as old traditional porn. It’s easy reach and effortless availability raises alarm even in the hearts of porn supporters. They also sense that their crusade for free speech and free thought is being hijacked by vicious elements. The wild wild west nature of the unpoliced internet makes it hard for enforcing age restrictive access to supranormal stimuli. Yet I don’t think this whole thing will be coming to an end anytime soon. Thousands of PMOers are now stopping and all porn users are conscious of the new brain studies that point their studied fingers to the similarities of drug and substance addiction. Every time a PMOer leaves the sinking ship, the ones left on it feel more miserable. Every PMOer instinctively knows that it is ridiculous to self sabotage and spend time in front of two dimensional pixels, treat the poor brain to super surges, develop porn brain water slides that will guarantee him unreliable erections and fading penetrations. If you still don&rsquo;t think it is silly, try talking to a porn magazine standing at the centre of the city square and ask yourself what the difference is. Just one. You cannot get the pleasure of warmth and intimacy that way. If you can stop buying alcohol and cigarettes every time you go grocery shopping you can definitely stop visiting your online harems. PMOers cannot find a rational reason for PMOing but if someone else is doing it, they do not feel quite so silly.</p> + <h2 id="help-the-pmoer-left-on-the-sinking-ship">Help the PMOer Left on the Sinking Ship <a class="anchor" href="#help-the-pmoer-left-on-the-sinking-ship"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>PMOers are panicking nowadays. They sense that there is a change in the way internet porn is perceived by men and women. Internet porn’s addictive nature is being studied by more and more people. It is now rightly regarded not as the same as old traditional porn. It’s easy reach and effortless availability raises alarm even in the hearts of porn supporters. They also sense that their crusade for free speech and free thought is being hijacked by vicious elements. The wild wild west nature of the unpoliced internet makes it hard for enforcing age restrictive access to supranormal stimuli. Yet I don’t think this whole thing will be coming to an end anytime soon. Thousands of PMOers are now stopping and all porn users are conscious of the new brain studies that point their studied fingers to the similarities of drug and substance addiction. Every time a PMOer leaves the sinking ship, the ones left on it feel more miserable. Every PMOer instinctively knows that it is ridiculous to self sabotage and spend time in front of two dimensional pixels, treat the poor brain to super surges, develop porn brain water slides that will guarantee him unreliable erections and fading penetrations. If you still don&rsquo;t think it is silly, try talking to a porn magazine standing at the centre of the city square and ask yourself what the difference is. Just one. You cannot get the pleasure of warmth and intimacy that way. If you can stop buying alcohol and cigarettes every time you go grocery shopping you can definitely stop visiting your online harems. PMOers cannot find a rational reason for PMOing but if someone else is doing it, they do not feel quite so silly.</p> <p>PMOers blatantly lie about their habit, not only to others and university researchers but worse of all to themselves. They have to. The brainwashing is essential if they are to retain some self-respect. They feel the need to justify their “habit” not only to themselves but to non-PMOers. They are therefore forever advertising the illusory advantages of porn and PMO by more subtler means.</p> <p>If a PMOer stops using the Willpower Method he still feels deprived and tends to become a moaner. All this does is to confirm to other PMOers how right they are to keep PMOing. If the ex-PMOer succeeds in kicking the habit, he is then grateful that he no longer has to go through life sabotaging himself or wasting energy. But he has no need to justify himself, he doesn&rsquo;t sit there saying how marvellous it is not to be PMOing. He will do that only if he is asked and PMOers won&rsquo;t ask that question. They wouldn&rsquo;t like the answer. Remember: it is fear that keeps them in their addiction and they would rather keep their heads in the sand. The only time they ask that question is when it is time to stop. Help the PMOer. Remove these fears. Tell him how marvellous it is not to have to go through life living in a prison, how lovely it is to wake up in the morning feeling fit and healthy instead of lacking in energy and self loathing, how wonderful it is to be free of slavery, to be able to enjoy the whole of your life, to be rid of those awful black shadows. Or, better still; get him to read this book.</p> <p>It is essential not to belittle a married PMOer by indicating that he is deliberately ruining his relationship or is in some way a cheat and is unclean. There is a common conception that the ex-PMOer is the worst in this respect. I believe this conception has some substance but I think this is due to the Willpower Method of stopping. Because the ex-PMOer, although he has kicked the habit, retains part of the brainwashing - part of him still believes that he has made a sacrifice. He feels vulnerable and his natural defensive mechanism is to attack the PMOer.</p> @@ -2848,7 +2858,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:21:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-41-feedback/ - <p>This method will be pooh-poohed by the so-called experts - as I have kept it thin, deliberately, on the ‘science’ side of porn addiction. This ‘hackbook’ is based on a very successful technique used by Alan Carr for quitting smoking, alcohol and gambling. I have personally broken away from the prisons of cigarette, alcohol and internet porn with this technique. I’d like to add here that I’ve tried some of the best programmes - such as CBT, DEADS and AVERT before arriving at the EasyWay. I could not close the deal. I was then led to studying about self hypnosis that deals with bad habits. The key idea that sold me on this method is his emphasis on the “feelings of misery and deprivation, misery and sacrifice, misery and guilt.” If you use the Will Power method you will invariably have all or one of these awful feelings that in themselves provide the grease to slide back to the addiction.</p> + <h2 id="feedback">Feedback <a class="anchor" href="#feedback"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This method will be pooh-poohed by the so-called experts - as I have kept it thin, deliberately, on the ‘science’ side of porn addiction. This ‘hackbook’ is based on a very successful technique used by Alan Carr for quitting smoking, alcohol and gambling. I have personally broken away from the prisons of cigarette, alcohol and internet porn with this technique. I’d like to add here that I’ve tried some of the best programmes - such as CBT, DEADS and AVERT before arriving at the EasyWay. I could not close the deal. I was then led to studying about self hypnosis that deals with bad habits. The key idea that sold me on this method is his emphasis on the “feelings of misery and deprivation, misery and sacrifice, misery and guilt.” If you use the Will Power method you will invariably have all or one of these awful feelings that in themselves provide the grease to slide back to the addiction.</p> <p>I&rsquo;m not a do-gooder. My war - which, I emphasize, is not against PMOers but against the porn trap, I wage for the purely selfish reason that I enjoy it. Every time I hear of a PMOer escaping from the prison I get a feeling of great pleasure, even when it has nothing to do with me. You can imagine also the immense pleasure I obtain from the grateful letters that I have received over time.</p> <p>There has also been considerable frustration. The frustration is caused mainly by two main categories of PMOer. First, in spite of the warning in the previous chapter, I am disturbed by the number of PMOers who find it easy to stop, yet later get hooked again and find they can&rsquo;t succeed the next time.</p> <p>Practically the last thing I say to ex-PMOers is: “Remember, you must never visit another online harem again.”</p> @@ -2908,11 +2920,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <blockquote> <p>Find out which one it is. Some people understand and believe everything I say but still start off with a feeling of doom and gloom, as if something terrible were happening. You are doing not only what you&rsquo;d like to do but what every PMOer on the planet would like to do. With any method of stopping, what the ex PMOer is trying to achieve is a certain frame of mind, so that whenever he thinks about PMO he says to himself, “YIPPEE! I&rsquo;M FREE!” If that&rsquo;s your object, why wait? Start off in that frame of mind and never lose it. The rest of the book is designed to make you understand why there is no alternative.</p> </blockquote> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="the-check-list"><strong>THE CHECK LIST</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-check-list"> +<h2 id="the-check-list">THE CHECK LIST <a class="anchor" href="#the-check-list"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>If you follow these simple instructions, you cannot fail:</p> +</a></h2><p>If you follow these simple instructions, you cannot fail:</p> <ol> <li>Make a solemn vow that you will never, ever, go online to visit your harem OR settle down for static pictures OR make peace with erotic graphics OR anything that contains supra normal stimuli, and stick to your vow.</li> <li>Get this clear in your mind: there is absolutely nothing to give up. By that I don&rsquo;t mean simply that you will be better off as a non-PMOer (you&rsquo;ve known that all this time); nor do I mean that although there is no rational reason why you PMO, you must get some form of pleasure or crutch from it or you wouldn&rsquo;t do it. What I mean is, there is no genuine pleasure or crutch in PMOing. It is just an illusion, it’s an addiction like banging your head against a wall to make it pleasant when you stop.</li> @@ -2926,7 +2936,7 @@ strains of life.</li> <hr> <ol> <li id="fn:1"> -<p><strong>MoR</strong> moment of revelation. R2T resistance to temptation. MaD misery and deprived. MaS misery and sacrifice. MaG misery and guilty. DSC dopamine surge claims.&#160;<a href="#fnref:1" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p> +<p><strong>MoR</strong> - moment of revelation. R2T resistance to temptation. MaD misery and deprived. MaS misery and sacrifice. MaG misery and guilty. DSC dopamine surge claims.&#160;<a href="#fnref:1" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p> </li> </ol> </div> @@ -2939,7 +2949,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:20:54 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-40-a-final-warning/ - <p>No PMOer, given the chance of going back to the time before he became hooked with the knowledge he has now, would opt to start. Many of the them who consult me are convinced that if I could only help them stop, they would never dream of PMOing again, and yet thousands of PMOers successfully kick the habit for many years and lead perfectly happy lives, only to get trapped once again. I trust that this book will help you to find it relatively easy to stop. But be warned: PMOers who find it easy to stop find it easy to start again, DO NOT FALL FOR THIS TRAP.</p> + <h2 id="a-final-warning">A Final Warning <a class="anchor" href="#a-final-warning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>No PMOer, given the chance of going back to the time before he became hooked with the knowledge he has now, would opt to start. Many of the them who consult me are convinced that if I could only help them stop, they would never dream of PMOing again, and yet thousands of PMOers successfully kick the habit for many years and lead perfectly happy lives, only to get trapped once again. I trust that this book will help you to find it relatively easy to stop. But be warned: PMOers who find it easy to stop find it easy to start again, DO NOT FALL FOR THIS TRAP.</p> <p>No matter how long you have stopped or how confident you are that you will never become hooked again, make it a rule of life not to PMO for any reason. Resist the allusions and innuendoes in the media, and remember they are pushing their image of ‘openness’ by bringing porn into mainstream without realizing how porn, internet porn etc. are killers of relationships and of the personal sense of well being for a huge number of men and some women.</p> <p>Remember, that first peek or visit will do nothing for you. You will have no withdrawal pangs to relieve and it will make you feel awful. What it will do is to put the pleasure of dopamine rush into your mind and brain, and a little voice at the back of your mind will be saying, “you want another one.” Then you have got the choice of being miserable for a while or starting the whole filthy chain again.</p> @@ -2951,7 +2963,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:15:27 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-39-the-final-visit/ - <p>Having decided on your timing, you are now ready to visit your harem one last time. Before you do so, check on the two essentials:</p> + <h2 id="the-final-visit">The Final Visit <a class="anchor" href="#the-final-visit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Having decided on your timing, you are now ready to visit your harem one last time. Before you do so, check on the two essentials:</p> <ol> <li>Do you feel certain of success?</li> <li>Have you a feeling of doom and gloom or a sense of excitement that you are about to achieve something marvelous?</li> @@ -3002,7 +3016,9 @@ sites in my life again.”<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1& Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:13:13 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-38-the-moment-of-revelation/ - <p>The moment of revelation usually takes place about three weeks after stopping. The sky appears to become brighter and it is the moment when the brainwashing ends completely. When instead of telling yourself you do not need to PMO, you suddenly realize that the last thread is broken and you can enjoy the rest of your life without ever needing PMO again. It is also usually from this point that you start looking at other PMOers as objects of pity.</p> + <h2 id="the-moment-of-revelation">The Moment of Revelation <a class="anchor" href="#the-moment-of-revelation"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The moment of revelation usually takes place about three weeks after stopping. The sky appears to become brighter and it is the moment when the brainwashing ends completely. When instead of telling yourself you do not need to PMO, you suddenly realize that the last thread is broken and you can enjoy the rest of your life without ever needing PMO again. It is also usually from this point that you start looking at other PMOers as objects of pity.</p> <p>PMOers using the Willpower Method do not normally experience this moment because although they are glad to be ex-PMOers they continue through life believing they are making a sacrifice. The more you were addicted, the more marvellous this moment is and it lasts a lifetime. I consider I have been very fortunate in this life and had some wonderful moments but the most wonderful of all was that moment of revelation. With all the other highlights of my life, although I can remember they were happy times, I can never recapture the actual feeling. I can never get over the joy of not having to PMO any more. If ever I am feeling low and need a boost nowadays, I just think how lovely it is not to be hooked on that awful addiction. Half the people who contact me after they have stopped visiting the online harems say exactly the same thing: that it was the most marvellous event of their lives. Ah! What pleasure you have to come! With additional feedback, both from forums and personal interactions, I have learned that in most cases the moment of revelation occurs not after three weeks, as stated above, but within a few days.</p> <p>In my own case it happened before I was finished on my last harem visit. I am sure many of the readers here, before they’d even got to the end of the chapters would say something like: “You needn&rsquo;t say another word. I can see it all so clearly, I know I&rsquo;ll never PMO again.” From the messages I receive I&rsquo;m also aware that it frequently happens.</p> <p>Ideally if you follow all the instructions and understand the psychology completely, it should happen to you immediately.</p> @@ -3022,20 +3038,18 @@ sites in my life again.”<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1& Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:10:40 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-37-should-i-avoid-temptation-situations/ - <p>I have been direct in my advice so far and would ask you to treat this advice as instruction rather than suggestion. I am explicit and direct, first because there are sound, practical reasons for my advice and second, because those reasons have been backed up by thousands of case studies. On the question of whether or not to try to avoid temptation during the withdrawal period, I regret that I cannot be direct. Each PMOer will need to decide for himself. I can, however, make what I hope -will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all our lives and this fear consists of two distinct phases:</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO? <a class="anchor" href="#phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo"> + <h2 id="should-i-avoid-temptation-situations">Should I Avoid Temptation Situations? <a class="anchor" href="#should-i-avoid-temptation-situations"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>This fear is that panicky feeling the PMOer gets when they are alone in a single phase or have an asexual, uninterested or unavailable partner. The fear isn&rsquo;t caused by withdrawal pangs but is the psychological fear of dependency - you cannot survive without sex and orgasm. It actually reaches its height when you are on the verge of quitting (I won’t use giving up); at that time your withdrawal pangs are at their lowest. It is the fear of the unknown, the sort of fear that people have when they are learning to dive.</p> +</a></h2><p>I have been direct in my advice so far and would ask you to treat this advice as instruction rather than suggestion. I am explicit and direct, first because there are sound, practical reasons for my advice and second, because those reasons have been backed up by thousands of case studies. On the question of whether or not to try to avoid temptation during the withdrawal period, I regret that I cannot be direct. Each PMOer will need to decide for himself. I can, however, make what I hope +will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all our lives and this fear consists of two distinct phases:</p> +<h3 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO? <a class="anchor" href="#phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>This fear is that panicky feeling the PMOer gets when they are alone in a single phase or have an asexual, uninterested or unavailable partner. The fear isn&rsquo;t caused by withdrawal pangs but is the psychological fear of dependency - you cannot survive without sex and orgasm. It actually reaches its height when you are on the verge of quitting (I won’t use giving up); at that time your withdrawal pangs are at their lowest. It is the fear of the unknown, the sort of fear that people have when they are learning to dive.</p> <p>The diving board is 1 foot high but seems to be 6 feet high. The water is 6 feet deep but appears to be 1 foot deep. It takes courage to launch yourself. You are convinced you are going to smash your head. The launching is the hardest part. If you can find the courage to do it, the rest is easy. This explains why many otherwise strong-willed PMOers either have never attempted to stop or can survive only a few days when they do. In fact, there are some PMOers on a porn diet who when they decide to stop, actually binge and escalate to harsher clips more quickly than if they had not decided to stop. The decision causes panic, which is stressful. This is one of the occasions when the brain triggers the instruction, “take a trip to your own personal harem.” But now you can&rsquo;t take one. You are being deprived - more stress.</p> <p>The trigger starts again quickly when the fuse blows and you fire up the browser. Don&rsquo;t worry. That panic is just psychological. It is the fear that you are dependent. The beautiful truth is that you are not, even when you are still addicted. Do not panic. Just trust me and launch yourself.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear <a class="anchor" href="#phase-2-longer-term-fear"> +<h3 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear <a class="anchor" href="#phase-2-longer-term-fear"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>The second phase of fear is longer-term. It involves the fear that certain situations in the future will not be enjoyable or that you will not be able to cope with a trauma without PMO. Don&rsquo;t worry. If you can launch yourself you will find the opposite to be the case. The avoidance of temptation itself falls into two main categories:</p> +</a></h3><p>The second phase of fear is longer-term. It involves the fear that certain situations in the future will not be enjoyable or that you will not be able to cope with a trauma without PMO. Don&rsquo;t worry. If you can launch yourself you will find the opposite to be the case. The avoidance of temptation itself falls into two main categories:</p> <ol> <li>“I will subscribe to a porn-diet of once in 4 days. I will feel more confident knowing that I can go online if it gets hard. It is OK if I fail I can just add up additional days to my next cycle.”</li> </ol> @@ -3058,7 +3072,9 @@ will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all o Sat, 24 Dec 2022 08:46:33 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-36-substitutes/ - <p>Substitutes include restricting to porn magazines, static internet images, going on a porn-diet<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> etc. <strong>DO NOT USE ANY OF THEM</strong>. They make it harder, not easier. If you do get a pang and use a substitute it will prolong the pang and make it harder. What you are really saying is, “I need to PMO to fill the void.” It will be like giving in to a hijacker or the tantrums of a child. It will just keep the pangs coming and prolong the torture. In any event the substitutes will not relieve the pangs. Your craving is for amino acids in the brain. All it will do is keep you thinking about PMOing. Remember these points:</p> + <h2 id="substitutes">Substitutes <a class="anchor" href="#substitutes"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Substitutes include restricting to porn magazines, static internet images, going on a porn-diet<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> etc. <strong>DO NOT USE ANY OF THEM</strong>. They make it harder, not easier. If you do get a pang and use a substitute it will prolong the pang and make it harder. What you are really saying is, “I need to PMO to fill the void.” It will be like giving in to a hijacker or the tantrums of a child. It will just keep the pangs coming and prolong the torture. In any event the substitutes will not relieve the pangs. Your craving is for amino acids in the brain. All it will do is keep you thinking about PMOing. Remember these points:</p> <ol> <li>There is no substitute for PMO.</li> <li>You do not need porn or PMO. It is not food; it is poison. When the pangs come remind yourself that it is PMOers who suffer withdrawal pangs, not non-PMOers. See them as another evil of the drug. See them as the death of a monster.</li> @@ -3090,12 +3106,13 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict - 03-35 the Main Reasons for Failure + 03-35 The Main Reasons for Failure https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-35-the-main-reasons-for-failure/ Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:23:39 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-35-the-main-reasons-for-failure/ - <p>There are two main reasons for failure. The first is the influence of external stimuli - a commercial, online news articles, internet browsing etc. At a weak moment or even during a social occasion somebody will get intimate with their partner. I have already dealt with this topic at length. Use that moment to remind yourself that there is no such thing as one visit or one peek. Rejoice in the fact that you have broken the chain of mental slavery. Remember that the PMOer envies you, and feel sorry for him. Believe me, he needs your pity. The other main reason for failure is having a bad day. Get it clear in your mind before you start that, whether you are a PMOer or a non-PMOer, there are good days and bad days. It rains for both the pope and the murderer.</p> + <p>The Main Reasons for Failure</p> +<p>There are two main reasons for failure. The first is the influence of external stimuli - a commercial, online news articles, internet browsing etc. At a weak moment or even during a social occasion somebody will get intimate with their partner. I have already dealt with this topic at length. Use that moment to remind yourself that there is no such thing as one visit or one peek. Rejoice in the fact that you have broken the chain of mental slavery. Remember that the PMOer envies you, and feel sorry for him. Believe me, he needs your pity. The other main reason for failure is having a bad day. Get it clear in your mind before you start that, whether you are a PMOer or a non-PMOer, there are good days and bad days. It rains for both the pope and the murderer.</p> <p>Life is a matter of relativity and you cannot have ups without having downs. The problem with the Willpower Method of stopping is that as soon as the PMOer has a bad day he starts moping for his ‘harem’ visit and all that does is make a bad day worse. The non-PMOer is better equipped, not only physically but also mentally, to cope with the stresses and strains of life. If you have a bad day during the withdrawal period just take it on the chin. Remind yourself that you had bad days when you were addicted (otherwise you wouldn&rsquo;t have decided to stop). Instead of moping about it, say to yourself something like, “OK, today&rsquo;s not so good but masturbating is not going to cure it. Tomorrow will be better and at least I have got a marvellous bonus at the moment. I have kicked that awful PMO habit.”</p> <p>When you are a PMOer you have to block your mind to the bad side of PMO. PMOer never have brain fog just “a bit down.” When you are having life’s inevitable troubles you want to PMO but are you happy and cheerful? Of course you aren&rsquo;t. Once you stop, the tendency is to blame everything that goes wrong in your life on the fact that you have stopped.</p> <p>Now if your work stresses you out you think, “At times like this I would have PMOed.” That&rsquo;s true but the important thing you forget is that the PMO didn&rsquo;t solve the problem and you are simply punishing yourself by moping for an illusory crutch. You are creating an impossible situation. You are miserable because you can&rsquo;t have the porn and masturbation yet you&rsquo;ll be even more miserable if you do. You know that you have made the correct decision by stopping PMO so why punish yourself by ever doubting the decision?</p> @@ -3110,7 +3127,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:22:12 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-34-will-it-be-harder-for-me/ - <p>The combinations of factors that will determine how easily each individual PMOer will quit are infinite. To start with, each of us has his own character, type of work, personal circumstances, timing, etc. Certain professions may make it harder than others but providing the brainwashing is removed it doesn&rsquo;t have to be so. A few individual examples will help.</p> + <h2 id="will-it-be-harder-for-me">Will It Be Harder for Me? <a class="anchor" href="#will-it-be-harder-for-me"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The combinations of factors that will determine how easily each individual PMOer will quit are infinite. To start with, each of us has his own character, type of work, personal circumstances, timing, etc. Certain professions may make it harder than others but providing the brainwashing is removed it doesn&rsquo;t have to be so. A few individual examples will help.</p> <p>It tends to be particularly difficult for members of the medical profession. We think it should be easier for doctors because they are more aware of the effects of ill- health and are seeing daily evidence of it. Although this supplies more forceful reasons for stopping, it doesn&rsquo;t make it any easier to do. The reasons are these:</p> <ol> <li>The constant awareness of the health risks creates fear which is one of the conditions under which we need to relieve our withdrawal pangs.</li> @@ -3129,7 +3148,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:20:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-33-just-one-peek/ - <p>This is the undoing of many PMOers who try to stop on the Willpower Method. They will go through three or four days and then have the odd peek or a PMO or two to tide them over. They do not realize the devastating effect this has on their morale.</p> + <h2 id="just-one-peek">Just One Peek <a class="anchor" href="#just-one-peek"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is the undoing of many PMOers who try to stop on the Willpower Method. They will go through three or four days and then have the odd peek or a PMO or two to tide them over. They do not realize the devastating effect this has on their morale.</p> <p>For most PMOers that first peek at the tube site harem was not as good as sex with a real person. The clips that are clean are far in between. This gives their conscious minds a boost. They think, “Good. That wasn&rsquo;t entirely all that enjoyable. I am losing the urge to PMO and I am not that much into the shocking stuff.” In fact, the reverse is the case. Get it clear in your mind - enjoyment of orgasm wasn&rsquo;t the reason why you hit porn. If PMOers were there for orgasm alone, they&rsquo;d never watch more than one clip. The only reason why you PMO was to feed that little monster. Just think: you had starved him for four days. How precious that one peek must have been to him. You are not aware of it in your conscious mind but the fix your body received will be communicated to your subconscious mind and all your sound preparation will be undermined. There will be a little voice at the back of your mind saying, “In spite of all the logic they are precious. I want another one.”</p> <p>That little peek has two damaging effects:</p> <ol> @@ -3148,7 +3169,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:16:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-32-the-withdrawal-period/ - <p>For up to three weeks after your last PMO session you may be subjected to withdrawal pangs. These consist of two quite separate factors:</p> + <h2 id="the-withdrawal-period">The Withdrawal Period <a class="anchor" href="#the-withdrawal-period"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>For up to three weeks after your last PMO session you may be subjected to withdrawal pangs. These consist of two quite separate factors:</p> <ol> <li>The withdrawal pangs of dopamine, that empty, insecure feeling, like a hunger, which PMOers identify as a craving or “something I must to do” feeling.</li> <li>The psychological trigger of certain external stimuli such as a commercial, online browsing, a telephone conversation etc.</li> @@ -3178,12 +3201,14 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict - 03-31 the Easy Way to Stop + 03-31 The Easy Way to Stop https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-31-the-easy-way-to-stop/ Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:07:43 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-31-the-easy-way-to-stop/ - <p>This chapter contains instructions about the easy way to stop PMO. Providing you follow the instructions, you will find that stopping ranges from relatively easy to enjoyable! But remember the definition of a brunette: “a girl who didn&rsquo;t read the instructions on the bottle.” It is ridiculously easy to stop PMO. All you have to do is two things:</p> + <h2 id="the-easy-way-to-stop">The Easy Way to Stop <a class="anchor" href="#the-easy-way-to-stop"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This chapter contains instructions about the easy way to stop PMO. Providing you follow the instructions, you will find that stopping ranges from relatively easy to enjoyable! But remember the definition of a brunette: “a girl who didn&rsquo;t read the instructions on the bottle.” It is ridiculously easy to stop PMO. All you have to do is two things:</p> <ol> <li>Make the decision that you are never going to PMO again.</li> <li>Don&rsquo;t mope about it. Rejoice.</li> @@ -3197,8 +3222,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict <p>Basically I said to myself, “Scores of people are stopping now and leading perfectly happy lives. I didn&rsquo;t need to do it before I started and I can remember having to work hard to get used to this filth. So why do I need to do it now?” In any event I didn&rsquo;t enjoy PMO, I hated the whole filthy ritual and I didn&rsquo;t want to spend the rest of my life being the slave of this disgusting porn addiction.</p> <p>I then said to myself:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<p><strong>“WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT. YOU HAVE COMPLETED YOUR LAST PMO VISIT”</strong></p> -</div> +<h3 id="whether-you-like-it-or-not-you-have-completed-your-last-pmo-visit">“WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT. YOU HAVE COMPLETED YOUR LAST PMO VISIT” <a class="anchor" href="#whether-you-like-it-or-not-you-have-completed-your-last-pmo-visit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>I knew, right from that point, that I would never PMO again. I wasn&rsquo;t expecting it to be easy; in fact, just the reverse. I fully believed that I was in for months of black depression and that I would spend the rest of my life having the occasional pang. Instead it has been absolute bliss right from the start.</p> <p>It took me a long time to work out why it had been so easy and why this time I hadn&rsquo;t suffered those terrifying withdrawal pangs. The reason is that they do not exist. It is the doubt and uncertainty that causes the pangs. The beautiful truth is: IT IS EASY TO STOP PMO. It is only the indecision and moping about it that makes it difficult. Even while they are addicted to porn, PMOers can go for relatively long periods at certain times in their lives without bothering about it. It is only when you want it but can&rsquo;t have one that you suffer.</p> <p>Therefore the key to making it easy is to make stopping certain and final. Not to hope but to know you have kicked it, having made the decision. Never to doubt or question it. In fact, just the reverse - always to rejoice about it. If you can be certain from the start, it will be easy. But how can you be certain from the start unless you know it is going to be easy? This is why the rest of the book is necessary. There are certain essential points and it is necessary to get them clear in your mind before you start:</p> @@ -3233,7 +3259,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:05:14 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-30-avoid-false-incentives/ - <p>Many PMOers, while trying to stop on the Willpower Method, attempt to increase their motivation by building up false incentives. There are many examples of this, a typical one is, “I will reward myself with a gift after no-PMO for a month.” This appears to be a logical and sensible approach but in fact it is false because any self-respecting PMOer would rather continue PMOing every day than receive a “self given gift.” In any case there is a doubt in the PMOer’s mind because not only will she have to abstain for thirty days but will she even enjoy the days without a PMO? Her only pleasure or crutch is taken away! All this does is to increase the size of the sacrifice that the PMOer feels she is making, which makes it even more precious in her mind.</p> + <h2 id="avoid-false-incentives">Avoid False Incentives <a class="anchor" href="#avoid-false-incentives"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Many PMOers, while trying to stop on the Willpower Method, attempt to increase their motivation by building up false incentives. There are many examples of this, a typical one is, “I will reward myself with a gift after no-PMO for a month.” This appears to be a logical and sensible approach but in fact it is false because any self-respecting PMOer would rather continue PMOing every day than receive a “self given gift.” In any case there is a doubt in the PMOer’s mind because not only will she have to abstain for thirty days but will she even enjoy the days without a PMO? Her only pleasure or crutch is taken away! All this does is to increase the size of the sacrifice that the PMOer feels she is making, which makes it even more precious in her mind.</p> <p>Other examples: “I&rsquo;ll stop PMO so that I will force myself to get a social life and seek more sex in real life” OR “I’ll stop so some magical energy will help me to leap above the competitors and get this woman I pursue” OR “I commit to not waste my energy and enthusiasm in PMO, so I can grow enough hunger in myself.” These are true and can be effective and you may end up getting what you want. But think about it for a second - if you do get what you had wanted, once the novelty has gone you will feel deprived - if you didn’t then you will feel miserable and either way sooner or later you will fall for the trap again.</p> <p>Another typical example is online or forum pacts. These have the advantage of eliminating temptation for certain periods. However, they generally fail for the following reasons:</p> <ol> @@ -3244,9 +3272,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict </ol> <p>Stop kidding yourself. If the job offer that I mentioned before, of 10 months work for 12 months salary a year won&rsquo;t stop him. Or if the risks of cutting down your brain’s capacity to cope with just any normal day-to-day stress and strains or if putting yourself at odds with having a reliable erection, or if the lifetime of mental and physical torture and slavery did not stop him or her - the above said few phoney incentives will not make the slightest bit of difference. They will only make the sacrifice appear worse. Instead concentrate on the other side:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"><strong>“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?”</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"> +<h2 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo">“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?” <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> +</a></h2></div> <p>Keep looking at the other side of the tug of war. What is PMOing doing for me? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Why do I need to do it? YOU DON&rsquo;T! YOU ARE ONLY PUNISHING YOURSELF. Try looking at it from the Pascal’s Wager perspective. You have almost nothing to lose (a rub-out with half arousals) for sure, chances of big profits (a full and reliable arousal, mental well being and happiness) and no chance of losing big (unreliable full arousals, premature ejaculations, fading penetrations, loss of general impulse controls, lower tolerance for frustrations and anger).</p> <p>Why not declare your quitting to friends and family? Well, it will make you a proud ex-addict, ex-PMOer, not an elated and happy non-PMOer. It will scare your partner a bit since they may see this as an effort to have more sex, sort of a new-age thing. They may also fear to lose you if this turns you into sex machine. It is hard to explain to them unless they are open minded.</p> <p>Any attempt to get others to help you in your quitting gives more power to the little monster of addiction. Pushing it from your mind and totally ignoring it has the effect of trying NOT to think of it. As soon as you spot the thoughts, when you hit the cues (home alone) or just absent minded thoughts - just say to yourself: “Great, I don’t have to do it like a slave animal. I am free. I am happy to know the differences in sex.” This will cut the life of the thought and will deny oxygen to it and will stop it from burning towards urges and cravings.</p> @@ -3259,7 +3287,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:03:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-29-can-i-compartmentalize/ - <p>This is another myth about PMOing spread mainly by PMOers who, when attempting to stop on the Willpower Method, substitute mental gymnastics - they propose to act -Jekyll and Hyde: “Porn is for my alter ego side and real life romance is for my relationship side.” Nothing is further from the truth. The porn waterslides - the deltaFosBs and all the brain changes are going to overrun the real life romance and will make it less desirable. Mr Hyde is most definitely going to overrule Dr. Jekyll’s instructions.</p> + <h2 id="can-i-compartmentalize">Can I Compartmentalize? <a class="anchor" href="#can-i-compartmentalize"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is another myth about PMOing spread mainly by PMOers who, when attempting to stop on the Willpower Method, substitute mental gymnastics - they propose to act -Jekyll and Hyde: “Porn is for my alter ego side and real life romance is for my relationship side.” Nothing is further from the truth. The porn waterslides - the deltaFosBs and all the brain changes are going to overrun the real life romance and will make it less desirable. Mr Hyde is most definitely going to overrule Dr. Jekyll’s instructions.</p> <p>If you use internet porn, you may be training yourself for the role of voyeur or to need the option of clicking to something more arousing at the least drop in your dopamine levels, or to search and search for just the right scene for maximum effect. Also, you may be masturbating in a hunched-over position – or watching your smartphone in bed nightly. You will eventually desire those cues more than the real life action. The thing that goes against real sex is the lack of novelty, variety, ‘harem’ like 24/7 quick delivery etc. and so it stands no chance compared to your online harem. The younger you were when you started on PMO the longer to rewire and break down those ‘porn water slides’ and get back those ‘real water slides’ if there were any from the past or create new ones. Also powerful and lasting are the associated memories from when you were young.</p> <p>Every time you take a ride on the ‘porn water slide’ you are ‘greasing’ it - keeping the nerves fresh. When you park next to a fast food restaurant the smell of the fries floats from the pan into your nostrils and the sale was already made. Likewise, the porn water slides in your brain are there for you to get sucked in and they are open 24 hours a day. Each of these cues, or triggers, can now light up your reward circuit with the promise of sex&hellip; only it isn&rsquo;t sex. Nevertheless, nerve cells may solidify these associations with sexual arousal by sprouting new branches to strengthen the connections. The more you use porn the stronger the nerve connections can become, with the result that you may ultimately need to be a voyeur, need to click to new material, need to climax to porn to get to sleep, or need to search for the perfect ending just to get the job done.</p> <p>As with any substance or behavioural drug, after a while the body becomes immune and the “drug” ceases to relieve the withdrawal pangs completely. As soon as we close a session, the addict wants another one very soon and he has a permanent hunger. The natural inclination is eventually to ‘escalate’ just to get the dopamine rush. However, most PMOers are prevented from doing this for one, or both, of two reasons.</p> @@ -3279,7 +3309,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:01:03 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-28-will-i-miss-the-fun/ - <p>No! Once that little porn monster is dead and your body stops craving dopamine and the porn water slides in your brain start to fade due to lack of ‘greasing’, any remaining brainwashing will vanish and you will find yourself both physically and mentally better equipped not only to cope with the stresses and strains of life but to enjoy the good times to the full.</p> + <h2 id="will-i-miss-the-fun">Will I Miss the Fun? <a class="anchor" href="#will-i-miss-the-fun"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>No! Once that little porn monster is dead and your body stops craving dopamine and the porn water slides in your brain start to fade due to lack of ‘greasing’, any remaining brainwashing will vanish and you will find yourself both physically and mentally better equipped not only to cope with the stresses and strains of life but to enjoy the good times to the full.</p> <p>There is only one danger and that is the influence of those who still use sex as their lying crutch and damned pleasure. “The other man&rsquo;s grass is always greener,” is commonplace in many aspects of our lives and is easily understandable. Why is it in the case of PMOing, where the disadvantages are so enormous as compared with even the illusory ‘advantages,’ that the ex-PMOer tend to envy the man or woman who appears to demand sex and use porn for pleasure and a crutch?</p> <p>With all the brainwashing of our childhood it is quite understandable that we fall into the trap. Why is it that, once we realize what a mug&rsquo;s game it is and many of us manage to kick the habit, we walk straight back into the same trap? It is the influence of society&rsquo;s brainwashing of porn being conflated with sex and presented as normal. The ex-PMOer has a pang! The insecure void feelings of them being single, which in itself is not a crime anyway, causes anxiety and cues them to PMO water slide. This is indeed a curious anomaly, particularly if you consider this piece of observation: not only is every non-PMOer in the world happy to be a non-PMOer but every PMOer in the world, even with his warped, addicted, brainwashed mind suffering the delusion that he enjoys it or it relaxes him, wishes he had never become hooked in the first place. So why do some ex-PMOers envy the PMOer on these occasions? There are two reasons.</p> <ol> @@ -3310,7 +3342,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:55:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-27-timing/ - <p>Apart from the obvious point that as it is doing you no good, now is the right time to stop. I believe timing is important. Our society treats internet porn flippantly as a slightly distasteful habit that can not injure your health. It is not. It is drug addiction, a disease and a destroyer of relationships in society. The worst thing that happens in most PMOer’s lives is getting hooked on that awful addiction. If they stay hooked, horrendous things happen. Timing is important to give yourself the right to a proper cure.</p> + <h2 id="timing">Timing <a class="anchor" href="#timing"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Apart from the obvious point that as it is doing you no good, now is the right time to stop. I believe timing is important. Our society treats internet porn flippantly as a slightly distasteful habit that can not injure your health. It is not. It is drug addiction, a disease and a destroyer of relationships in society. The worst thing that happens in most PMOer’s lives is getting hooked on that awful addiction. If they stay hooked, horrendous things happen. Timing is important to give yourself the right to a proper cure.</p> <p>First of all, identify the times or occasions when PMO appears to be important to you. If you are a businessman and use it for the illusion of relief of stress, pick a relatively slack period; a good idea is to choose your annual holiday. If you PMO mainly during boring or relaxing periods, weekends etc. do the opposite. In any event, take the matter seriously and make the attempt the most important thing in your life.</p> <p>Look ahead for a period of about three weeks and try to anticipate any event that might lead to failure. Occasions like a conference trip, partner out of town etc. need not deter you, providing you anticipate them in advance and do not feel you will be deprived. Do not attempt to cut down in the meantime as this will only create the illusion that being denied is enjoyable. In fact, it helps to force yourself to watch and have as many PMO sessions as possible. While you are having the last session and that last time, be conscious of the disappointment due to satiation, unfulfilled expectations (porn can never satisfy you), any bodily pain or pain in the genitals, the withdrawal effects, the peevishness and the melancholy. Think how marvellous it will be when you allow yourself to stop doing it.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> @@ -3347,7 +3381,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:54:03 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-26-a-social-habit/ - <p>Health of mind and body are the main reason why we should want to stop but then they always have been. We do not actually need scientific research and knowledge in brain chemistry to tell us that internet porn is addictive and can potentially shatter our lives. These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on the planet and any PMOer knows instantly, from the first session, that the stimulus can go to excess and it can turn poisonous.</p> + <h2 id="a-social-habit">A Social Habit? <a class="anchor" href="#a-social-habit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Health of mind and body are the main reason why we should want to stop but then they always have been. We do not actually need scientific research and knowledge in brain chemistry to tell us that internet porn is addictive and can potentially shatter our lives. These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on the planet and any PMOer knows instantly, from the first session, that the stimulus can go to excess and it can turn poisonous.</p> <p>The only reason why we ever get involved with internet porn is the PMO’s overlap with their evolutionary brain programming. Porn is available for free and it gets streamed 24 hours a day. No risk and no traces and with very high brain rewards. Porn was once considered as harmless but that was when the images were static and involved a trip to the local store for a VHS tape.</p> <p>Today it is generally considered even by PMOers themselves to be a supra-stimulus and addiction forming. In the old days, the strong man did not admit he masturbated. Jerk is a derogatory term. In every pub or club bar the majority of men would be proudly wanting to take a woman home and have real sex. Today the position is completely reversed for the internet porn addicts. Today&rsquo;s man realizes that he is starting to feel that he doesn&rsquo;t need a woman. This scares him. He bands together online and starts discussing experiences, devise strategies and explore options. Today&rsquo;s strong man does not want to depend on drugs. With the social revolution all PMOers nowadays are giving serious thought to stopping internet porn and masturbation. Today&rsquo;s PMOers consider PMO as an useless and harmful activity.</p> <p>The most significant trend that I have noticed in forums is the increasing emphasis on the anti-social aspect of PMOing. The days when a man boasted of having sex and orgasms every day is slowly getting replaced with, “why do I need to be a slave for this porn monster when I know ‘it’ is controlling my wand (and mind)?”</p> @@ -3365,7 +3401,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:51:35 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-25-the-youtube-pmoer/ - <p>The YouTube PMOer should be grouped with casual PMOers but the effects of a YouTube PMOer are so insidious that it merits a separate chapter. It can lead to the breakdown of personal self control. In one case it nearly caused a split for a No-Fap forum user.</p> + <h2 id="the-youtube-pmoer">The YouTube PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-youtube-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The YouTube PMOer should be grouped with casual PMOers but the effects of a YouTube PMOer are so insidious that it merits a separate chapter. It can lead to the breakdown of personal self control. In one case it nearly caused a split for a No-Fap forum user.</p> <blockquote> <p><em>“I was three weeks into one of my failed attempts to stop. The attempt had been triggered off by my wife&rsquo;s worry about my unreliable hard-ons and lack of interest. I had told her that it was not her and it was just job pressure. She said, &lsquo;I know you had handled the work pressure before but how would you feel if you were me and had to watch someone you love systematically destroying themselves?’ It was an argument that I found irresistible, hence the attempt to stop. She knows that I am not cheating - but this in a way is as worse as that (sic). The attempt ended after three weeks after a heated argument with an old friend. It did not register until years afterwards that my devious mind had deliberately triggered off the argument. I felt justly aggrieved at the time but I do not believe that it was coincidence, as I had never argued with this particular friend before, nor have I since. It was clearly the little monster at work. Anyway, I had my excuse. I desperately needed a release of orgasm and it doesn’t matter how. As it happens she was not in the mood right away and I was in an “entitlement” hurry. So I convinced myself that it is OK if I ‘restrict’ myself by avoiding a porn site and just stay this side of the ‘red line’ and watch only YouTube videos. But she ‘came around’ as the night unfolded and wanted to make love. But I was tired and not with all my ‘horsepower.’ I then invented a headache. I could not bear to think of the disappointment this would cause my wife. Then gradually I returned to the old ways, only YouTube became my new harem destination. I remember being quite pleased at the time. I thought, &lsquo;well, at least it is cutting my consumption down;’ Eventually she accused me of continuing to ignore her in the bed. I had not realized it but she described the times I had caused an argument and stormed out of the house. At other times I had taken two hours to purchase some minor item and faked a sprain or something. I had made feeble excuses to cop out of the whole wooing her and etc. when I have a reliable online harem it is even more hard.”</em></p> </blockquote> @@ -3385,7 +3423,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:40:22 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-24-casual-pmoers-teenagers-non-pmoers/ - <p>Heavy PMOers tend to envy the casual porn user. We&rsquo;ve all met these characters: “Oh, I can go all week without a PMO, it really doesn&rsquo;t bother me.” We think: “I wish I were like that!” I know this is hard to believe but no PMOer enjoys being a PMOer. Never forget:</p> + <h2 id="casual-pmoers-teenagers-non-pmoers">Casual PMOers, Teenagers, Non PMOers <a class="anchor" href="#casual-pmoers-teenagers-non-pmoers"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Heavy PMOers tend to envy the casual porn user. We&rsquo;ve all met these characters: “Oh, I can go all week without a PMO, it really doesn&rsquo;t bother me.” We think: “I wish I were like that!” I know this is hard to believe but no PMOer enjoys being a PMOer. Never forget:</p> <ul> <li>No PMOer ever decided to become a PMOer casual or otherwise, therefore:</li> <li>All PMOers feel stupid, therefore:</li> @@ -3423,7 +3463,7 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> </a></h3><p>(Or, “I can stop whenever I want to. I have done it thousands of times”). If he thinks dieting helps with his moods to ‘get out to get women,’ why is he even on the diet of once every four days? How can one predict the future, what if the happenstance of meeting occurred just an hour after your scheduled PMO session? Also, if he thinks this occasional “cleaning the plumbing” is good to relieve tension and relax why not plumb every day? It has been proven that masturbation is not required to keep the genitals healthy. Internet porn is not required at all. Even if that may be the case, any PUA guru who has read about the brain chemistry and its plasticity will never recommend watching super stimulus porn. The truth is he is still hooked. Although he gets rid of the physical addiction, he is left with the main problem - the brainwashing. He hopes each time that he will stop for good and soon falls for the same trap again.</p> <p>Many PMOers actually envy these stoppers and starters. They think, “how lucky to be able to control it like that, to do PMO when you want to and stop when you want to,” What they always overlook is that these stoppers and starters aren&rsquo;t controlling it. When they are PMOers, they wish they weren&rsquo;t. They go through the hassle of stopping, then begin to feel deprived and fall for the trap again, then wish they hadn&rsquo;t. They get the worst of both worlds. If you think about it, this is true in the lives of the PMOers. When we are allowed to PMO we either take it as entitled or wish we didn&rsquo;t. It&rsquo;s only when we can&rsquo;t have PMO that it appears to be so precious. The ‘forbidden fruit syndrome’. This is the awful dilemma of PMOers. They can never win because they are moping for a myth, an illusion. There is one way they can win and that is to stop PMOing and stop moping!</p> -<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC/TAME/HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer"> +<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-static--tame--home-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC / TAME / HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-only-pmo-to-static--tame--home-made-porn-pmoer"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> </a></h3><p>Yes, we all do it to start with but isn&rsquo;t it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner&rsquo;s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes&hellip; you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one.</p> <h3 id="the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer">THE I-HAVE-STOPPED-BUT-I-HAVE-AN-OCCASIONAL-PEEK PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer"> @@ -3471,7 +3511,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:35:22 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-23-just-one-peek/ - <p>“Just one peek” is a myth you must get out of your mind:</p> + <h2 id="just-one-peek">Just One Peek <a class="anchor" href="#just-one-peek"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>“Just one peek” is a myth you must get out of your mind:</p> <ul> <li>It is just one peek that gets us started in the first place.</li> <li>It is just one peek to tide us over a difficult patch or on a special occasion that defeats most of our attempts to stop.</li> @@ -3510,7 +3552,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:28:58 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-22-beware-of-cutting-down/ - <p>Many PMOers resort to cutting down either as a stepping-stone towards stopping or as an attempt to control the little monster. Many recommend cutting down or a ‘porn diet’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> as a pick-me-up. Obviously, the less you PMO the better off you are but as a stepping-stone to stopping, cutting down is fatal. It is these attempts to cut down that keep us trapped all our lives.</p> + <h2 id="beware-of-cutting-down">Beware of Cutting Down <a class="anchor" href="#beware-of-cutting-down"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Many PMOers resort to cutting down either as a stepping-stone towards stopping or as an attempt to control the little monster. Many recommend cutting down or a ‘porn diet’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> as a pick-me-up. Obviously, the less you PMO the better off you are but as a stepping-stone to stopping, cutting down is fatal. It is these attempts to cut down that keep us trapped all our lives.</p> <p>Usually cutting down follows failed attempts to stop. After a few hours or days of abstinence the PMOer says to himself something like:</p> <blockquote> <p><em>“I cannot face the thought of going to sleep without visiting my online harem, so from now on I will just PMO once in four days or I will purge my collection of ‘bad’ porn. If I can follow this ‘porn diet’, I can either hold it there or cut down further.”</em></p> @@ -3561,12 +3605,14 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p - 03-21 the Willpower Method of Stopping + 03-21 The Willpower Method of Stopping https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-21-the-willpower-method-of-stopping/ Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:20:42 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-21-the-willpower-method-of-stopping/ - <p>It is an accepted fact in our society that it is very difficult to stop PMO. Even books and forums advising you how to do so usually start off by telling you how difficult it is. The truth is that it is ridiculously easy. Yes, I can understand you questioning that statement but just consider it. If your aim is to run a mile in under four minutes, that&rsquo;s difficult. You may have to undergo years of hard training and even then you may be physically incapable of doing it. (Much of our achievement lies in the mind. Isn&rsquo;t it strange how difficult it was until Roger Bannister actually did it but nowadays it is commonplace?).</p> + <h2 id="the-willpower-method-of-stopping">The Willpower Method of Stopping <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method-of-stopping"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>It is an accepted fact in our society that it is very difficult to stop PMO. Even books and forums advising you how to do so usually start off by telling you how difficult it is. The truth is that it is ridiculously easy. Yes, I can understand you questioning that statement but just consider it. If your aim is to run a mile in under four minutes, that&rsquo;s difficult. You may have to undergo years of hard training and even then you may be physically incapable of doing it. (Much of our achievement lies in the mind. Isn&rsquo;t it strange how difficult it was until Roger Bannister actually did it but nowadays it is commonplace?).</p> <p>However, in order to stop PMOing all you have to do is not watch internet porn and or masturbate any more. No one forces you to masturbate (apart from yourself) and unlike food or drink, you don&rsquo;t need it to survive. So if you want to stop doing it, why should it be difficult? In fact, it isn&rsquo;t. It is PMOers who make it difficult by using the Willpower Method. I define the Willpower Method as any method that forces the PMOer to feel he is making some sort of sacrifice. Let us just consider the Willpower Method.</p> <p>We do not decide to become PMOers. We merely experiment with porn magazines or websites and because they are awful, yes that is right – awful - except for our desired clip, we are convinced that we can stop whenever we want to. In the main, we watch those first few clips only when we want to and that is usually on special occasions. Before we realize it, we are not only visiting those sites regularly and masturbating when we want to, we are masturbating to them every day. PMO has become a part of our lives. We then ensure that we always have an internet connection wherever we go. We believe that we are entitled to love, sex and orgasms - and also that porn helps to relieve stress. It doesn&rsquo;t seem to occur to us that the same clip and actors do not provide us the same degree of arousal and that we are either escalating or fighting against the ‘red line’ we have put around ourselves to avoid harmful “bad porn.” In fact, masturbation and internet porn neither improves our sex life nor does it relieve stress, it&rsquo;s just that PMOers believe they can&rsquo;t enjoy life or handle stress without an orgasm - even mind induced porn orgasms. Because that is what many times we are doing.</p> <p>It usually takes us a long time to realize that we are hooked because we suffer from the illusion that PMOers masturbate because they enjoy porn - not because they have to have porn - a need. While we are not “enjoying” porn (which we can never do unless novelty, shock or escalation is added), we suffer from the illusion that we can stop whenever we want to. This is a confidence trap. I don’t enjoy porn, so I am sure I can stop when I want to. Only that you never seem to ‘want’ to stop though.</p> @@ -3630,7 +3676,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:18:55 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-20-those-sinister-black-shadows/ - <p>Another of the great joys of quitting porn is to be free of those sinister black shadows at the back of our minds. All PMOers know they are fools to close their minds on the ill-effects of PMO. For most of our lives PMO is automatic but the black shadows are always lurking in our subconscious minds, just beneath the surface. There are several marvellous advantages to achieve from quitting PMO. Some of them I was consciously aware of throughout my life, such as the health risks, the waste of time and the sheer stupidity of making love to a two dimensional image. However, such was my fear of quitting, so obsessed was I in resisting all the attempts of do-gooders and anyone else who tried to persuade me to quit, that all my imagination and energy was directed to finding any flimsy excuse that would allow me to continue to PMO.</p> + <h2 id="those-sinister-black-shadows">Those Sinister Black Shadows <a class="anchor" href="#those-sinister-black-shadows"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Another of the great joys of quitting porn is to be free of those sinister black shadows at the back of our minds. All PMOers know they are fools to close their minds on the ill-effects of PMO. For most of our lives PMO is automatic but the black shadows are always lurking in our subconscious minds, just beneath the surface. There are several marvellous advantages to achieve from quitting PMO. Some of them I was consciously aware of throughout my life, such as the health risks, the waste of time and the sheer stupidity of making love to a two dimensional image. However, such was my fear of quitting, so obsessed was I in resisting all the attempts of do-gooders and anyone else who tried to persuade me to quit, that all my imagination and energy was directed to finding any flimsy excuse that would allow me to continue to PMO.</p> <p>Amazingly, my most ingenious thoughts occurred when I was actually trying to quit. They were of course inspired by the fear and misery I suffered when attempting to quit by using willpower. No way could I block my mind from the health and sexual aspects. But now that I am free it amazes me how I successfully blocked my mind from even more important advantages to be gained from quitting. I&rsquo;ve already mentioned the sheer slavery - spending half of our lives being allowed to PMO, doing it automatically and wishing we had never started, the other half feeling miserable and deprived because the knowledge of the destructive effects of internet porn won&rsquo;t allow us to PMO. In the last chapter I&rsquo;ve referred to the incredible joy of having energy again. But for me the greatest joy of being free was not the health, the time, the energy, or the ending of the slavery, it was the removal of those sinister black shadows, the removal of feeling despised by and feeling apologetic to myself and to other quitters, and most of all to be able to respect yourself.</p> <p>Most PMOers aren&rsquo;t the weak-willed, spineless jellyfish that both society and themselves tend to believe. In every other aspect of my life I was in control. I loathed myself for being dependent on an evil crutch that I knew was ruining my life. I cannot tell you of the utter joy of being free of those sinister black shadows, the dependency and the self-despising. I can&rsquo;t tell you how nice it is to be able to look at all other users, whether they be young, old, casual or heavy, not with a feeling of envy, but with a feeling of pity for them and elation for yourself that you are no longer the slave of that insidious trap. The other day I felt pity for the guy on a TV show who was so excited to get to watch porn - another case of society slipping one in your drink under the pretence of comedy.</p> <p>The last two chapters have dealt with the considerable advantages of being a non-PMOer. I feel it necessary to give a balanced account, so the next chapter lists the advantages of being a PMOer.</p> @@ -3643,7 +3691,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:16:17 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-19-it-relaxes-me-and-gives-me-confidence/ - <p>This is the worst fallacy of all about PMOing and for me it ranks with the ending of the slavery, the greatest benefit from quitting - is not to have to go through life with the permanent feelings of insecurity that PMOers suffer from.</p> + <h2 id="it-relaxes-me-and-gives-me-confidence">It Relaxes Me and Gives Me Confidence <a class="anchor" href="#it-relaxes-me-and-gives-me-confidence"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is the worst fallacy of all about PMOing and for me it ranks with the ending of the slavery, the greatest benefit from quitting - is not to have to go through life with the permanent feelings of insecurity that PMOers suffer from.</p> <p>PMOers find it very difficult to believe that masturbation to internet porn actually causes those insecure feelings you get when you are out late at night after a contentious day at home or work. Non-PMOers do not suffer from that feeling. It is the porn that causes it. I only became aware of many of the advantages of stopping months afterwards, as a result of my consultations with other PMOers.</p> <p>I refused to see my PMO as causing so much of the mental tug of war in my mind that I am foolishly working hard to have nominal levels of confidence in my day to day life. Forget about getting an erection, I am talking about focusing, taking challenges, fighting, choosing, deciding - actions that define our lives. Especially when we are often forced to act when the facts are not clear. Come to think of it, facts were and will never be clear and hence it is to our great advantage anyway to act.</p> <p>Also of note is in dating area as well, the fire to go forward is being misappropriated to this ‘high reward zero pain’ porn. If you have read some top PUA books and forums, what do they say? Go on a ‘diet<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>’? Yes of course when you have the good hunger your internal juices and your brain will do the rest. Copping out is not an option at all. Playing the numbers is not tiresome by no means. All PUA advice in a nut-shell is this - try more numbers. Even if your approach is wrong you will be right twice a day like a broken clock. But if your mind is fighting a tug of war with effortless easy access to a harem of online women, how would you get back on your feet when that girl ignores you? Oh, if it was a public outright rejection I am running, not walking, to my porn girlfriend.</p> @@ -3665,7 +3715,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:12:56 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-18-energy/ - <p>Most PMOers are aware of the effect that this progressive process of PMO, leading to novelty and escalation seeking, has on their brain’s reward circuits and their sexual system. However, they are not so aware of the effect it has on their energy level.</p> + <h2 id="energy">Energy <a class="anchor" href="#energy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Most PMOers are aware of the effect that this progressive process of PMO, leading to novelty and escalation seeking, has on their brain’s reward circuits and their sexual system. However, they are not so aware of the effect it has on their energy level.</p> <p>One of the subtleties of the PMO trap is that the effects it has on us, both physical and mental, happen so gradually and imperceptibly that we are not aware of them and regard them as normal. It is very similar to the effects of bad eating habits. The pot-belly appears so gradually that it causes us no alarm. We look at people who are grossly overweight and wonder how they could possibly have allowed themselves to reach that state.</p> <p>But supposing it happened overnight. You went to bed weighing 140 lbs, trim, rippling with muscles and not an ounce of fat on your body. You awoke weighing 180 lbs, fat, bloated and pot-bellied. Instead of waking up feeling fully rested and full of energy, you wake up feeling miserable, lethargic and you can hardly open your eyes. You would be panic-stricken, wondering what awful disease you had contracted overnight. Yet the disease is exactly the same.</p> <p>The fact that it took you twenty years to reach that state is irrelevant. So it is with PMOing. If I could immediately transfer you into your mind and body to give you a direct comparison on how you would feel having stopped internet porn for just three weeks, that is all I would need to do to persuade you to quit. You would think: “Will I really feel this good?” Or what it really amounts to: “Had I really sunk that low?” I emphasize that I don&rsquo;t just mean that you would feel healthier and have more energy but how you would also feel more confident and relaxed and better able to concentrate.</p> @@ -3683,7 +3735,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 12:12:31 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-17-health/ - <p>This is the area where the brainwashing is the greatest. PMOers, especially the young and single, think they are aware of the health risks. They are not. Even in my case, when I was expecting my head to explode any moment and honestly believed I was prepared to accept the consequences, I was still kidding myself. I didn&rsquo;t in those days have an app that started a red beeper to flash and sound every time my internet router hits a porn site, followed by a warning voice saying, “OK, this is the one!” Fortunately you do get a warning, and this is it. That warning would say, “Up to now you have got away with it but if you stay another minute your head will explode,” do you think I would have PMOed?</p> + <h2 id="health">Health <a class="anchor" href="#health"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is the area where the brainwashing is the greatest. PMOers, especially the young and single, think they are aware of the health risks. They are not. Even in my case, when I was expecting my head to explode any moment and honestly believed I was prepared to accept the consequences, I was still kidding myself. I didn&rsquo;t in those days have an app that started a red beeper to flash and sound every time my internet router hits a porn site, followed by a warning voice saying, “OK, this is the one!” Fortunately you do get a warning, and this is it. That warning would say, “Up to now you have got away with it but if you stay another minute your head will explode,” do you think I would have PMOed?</p> <p>If you are in doubt about the answer just try walking up to a cliff, stand on the edge with your eyes closed and imagine you then have the choice of either quitting PMO or walking up blindfolded before your next PMO.</p> <p>There is no doubt what your choice would be. I had been doing what every internet porn PMOer does all his life: closing my mind and keeping my head in the sand, hoping that I would wake up one morning and just not want to PMO any more. PMOers cannot allow themselves to think of the health risks. If they do, even the illusion of enjoying the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; goes.</p> <p>This explains why a shock treatment is so ineffective in the first stages of quitting. It is only non-users who can bring themselves to read the destructive brain changes. It also explains why PMOers, influenced by their little monster, wrongly recall that filthy room mate who PMOed everyday and was still remaining ‘horny’ 24 hours a day – they will ignore the thousands of people who are brought “down” in their prime because of this poisonous ‘habit’.</p> @@ -3794,7 +3848,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 12:08:55 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-16-i-will-save-x-hours-a-week/ - <p>I cannot repeat too often that it is brainwashing that makes it difficult to stop PMOing. So, the + <h2 id="i-will-save-x-hours-a-week">I Will Save X Hours a Week <a class="anchor" href="#i-will-save-x-hours-a-week"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>I cannot repeat too often that it is brainwashing that makes it difficult to stop PMOing. So, the more brainwashing we can dispel before we start, the easier you will find it to achieve your goal. Occasionally I get into arguments with people whom I call “confirmed PMOers.” By my definition a confirmed PMOer is somebody who doesn&rsquo;t believe PMO has any negative effect on his health @@ -3831,7 +3887,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 12:06:39 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-15-self-imposed-slavery/ - <p>Usually when PMOers try to stop the main reasons given are health, religion and partner stigma. Part of the brainwashing of this awful drug is the sheer slavery. Man fought hard in the last century to abolish slavery and yet the PMOer spends his life suffering self-imposed slavery. He seems to be oblivious to the fact that when he is allowed to PMO he wishes that he were a non-PMOer. With most of the masturbation we do in our lives, not only do we not enjoy them but we aren&rsquo;t even aware that we are masturbating. It is only after a period of abstinence that we actually suffer the delusion of enjoying PMO (e.g. the first day after a 4 day abstinence with the intent of rebooting etc.). The only time that the porn becomes precious is when we are &rsquo;trying&rsquo; to cut down or abstain or when abstinence is forced on us (e.g. when on a business trips, holiday trips to locations where the Internet is not available and so on).</p> + <h2 id="self-imposed-slavery">Self-Imposed Slavery <a class="anchor" href="#self-imposed-slavery"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Usually when PMOers try to stop the main reasons given are health, religion and partner stigma. Part of the brainwashing of this awful drug is the sheer slavery. Man fought hard in the last century to abolish slavery and yet the PMOer spends his life suffering self-imposed slavery. He seems to be oblivious to the fact that when he is allowed to PMO he wishes that he were a non-PMOer. With most of the masturbation we do in our lives, not only do we not enjoy them but we aren&rsquo;t even aware that we are masturbating. It is only after a period of abstinence that we actually suffer the delusion of enjoying PMO (e.g. the first day after a 4 day abstinence with the intent of rebooting etc.). The only time that the porn becomes precious is when we are &rsquo;trying&rsquo; to cut down or abstain or when abstinence is forced on us (e.g. when on a business trips, holiday trips to locations where the Internet is not available and so on).</p> <p>The confirmed PMOer should bear in mind that more studies and even more people are coming out and talking about the ill effects of internet porn. This trend will get “worse and worse.” Today, it is non-medical people talking. Tomorrow, it will be in your doctor’s list of diagnostic tests to perform. Gone are the days when the PMOer can hide behind “just a bit of downtime due to work stress” in his or her sex life. Your partner is going to ask you why you are on your laptop at this time too late into the night. The poor PMOer, who was already feeling wretched, wants the ground to open up and swallow him.</p> <p>I remember every time my partner stayed up late it was an ordeal waiting to open up my laptop. When on business trips the dinner with the clients and colleagues dragged on or was I just going through the natural ups and downs in human interactions? What was I doing? I was thinking, “let&rsquo;s get on with it, so that I can get over with this and go to my room for some porn.” I have thought many times, “am I not lucky? I have got my little reward. The poor non-PMOer with no internet access somewhere in an Amish village hasn&rsquo;t got a reward.” The &lsquo;poor&rsquo; non-PMOer doesn&rsquo;t need a reward. We were not designed to go through life systematically flooding our brains with dopamine and opioids. The pathetic thing is that even when masturbating with internet porn the PMOer doesn&rsquo;t achieve those feelings of peace, confidence and tranquillity that the non-PMOer has experienced for the whole of his non-PMO life. The non-PMOer isn&rsquo;t sitting in the family room, feeling agitated and wishing his life away. He can enjoy the whole of his life.</p> <p>No, this wasn&rsquo;t a fourteen-year-old schoolboy but a forty-year-old professional. How pathetic. I wouldn&rsquo;t admit to myself that I wasn&rsquo;t enjoying it. I was looking for the right clip and/or pictures to reach orgasm or better, edge forever. I don&rsquo;t know what I am supposed to be &lsquo;watching&rsquo; sometimes. That is the confusing part. The &rsquo;edging&rsquo; and then the orgasm floods my brain. Yet this was supposed to be my way of relaxing and enjoying my “favourite hobby.”</p> @@ -3845,7 +3903,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:49:35 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-14-what-am-i-giving-up/ - <p>ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! The thing that makes it difficult for us to give up is fear. The fear that we are being deprived of our pleasure or prop. The fear that certain pleasant situations will never be quite the same again. The fear of being unable to cope with stressful situations. In other words, the effect of brainwashing is to delude us into believing that sex and by extension orgasm, is a must for all human beings. Or that there is something inherent in Internet porn that we need and that when we stop PMOing we will be self-denying ourselves and there will be a void.</p> + <h2 id="what-am-i-giving-up">What Am I Giving Up? <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-giving-up"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! The thing that makes it difficult for us to give up is fear. The fear that we are being deprived of our pleasure or prop. The fear that certain pleasant situations will never be quite the same again. The fear of being unable to cope with stressful situations. In other words, the effect of brainwashing is to delude us into believing that sex and by extension orgasm, is a must for all human beings. Or that there is something inherent in Internet porn that we need and that when we stop PMOing we will be self-denying ourselves and there will be a void.</p> <blockquote> <p>Get it clear in your mind:</p> </blockquote> @@ -3866,18 +3926,14 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> </blockquote> <p>These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on this planet. Whether you believe in a creator, a process of natural selection or a combination of both, whatever being or system devised these bodies of ours, it is a thousand times more effective than man! Man cannot create the smallest living cell, let alone the miracle of eyesight, reproduction, our circulatory system or our brains. We don’t have our systems upgraded yet to properly assess the supranormal stimulus such as rich high density food or high speed internet novelty porn with multiple active windows.</p> <p>If the creator or process had intended us to handle novelty triggering stimuli, we would have been provided with some other brain reward circuits. Our bodies are, in fact, provided with fail-safe warning devices and we ignore these at our peril. Excessive edging results in body pain, irritation, and inflammation. In women, excessive flooding of dopamine and stress enzymes such as prostaglandin-E2 can cause difficulty to orgasm and PME.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up"><strong>There Is Nothing To Give Up</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#there-is-nothing-to-give-up"> +<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up">There Is Nothing To Give Up <a class="anchor" href="#there-is-nothing-to-give-up"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h2></div> -<p>The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.</p> +</a></h2><p>The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.</p> <p>The problem I have is to make a convincing point as I’d have done for, let us say&hellip; smokers? All of us have seen smokers who develop excuses to sneak off for a crafty puff. It is easy to see the true addiction in action. Addicts do not do it because they enjoy it. They do it because they are miserable without it.</p> <p>Because many of us started out our first sexual experience that ended in an orgasm and we acquired the belief that we cannot enjoy sex without an orgasm. And for men, porn is sold as an aid towards sex, sometimes even as an education to be confident during the act of sex. It used to be static, but now we have supranormal internet porn. But this is nonsense. Internet porn takes away your confidence.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="women-and-porn"><strong>Women And Porn</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#women-and-porn"> +<h2 id="women-and-porn">Women And Porn <a class="anchor" href="#women-and-porn"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h2></div> -<p>The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn&rsquo;t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.</p> +</a></h2><p>The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn&rsquo;t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.</p> <p>Porn and internet porn does not help your sex life; it destroys it totally. Having to hide your internet footprints, trying to delete your history, fearing accidental exposure to your boyfriend or kids, body pains, doubtful symptoms, fighting self doubts, arguing with yourself about your responsibilities in the ill effects of your addiction&hellip; well, why do you want to put yourself in such a bad situation?</p> <p>Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous positive gains to be had. When PMOers contemplate quitting they tend to concentrate on health and virility. These are obviously valid and important issues but I personally believe the greatest gains from stopping are psychological:</p> <ol> @@ -3886,11 +3942,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <li>Not to have to go through life suffering the awful black shadows at the back of your mind, knowing you are being despised by half of the population and, worst of all, despising yourself.</li> </ol> <p>Not only is life better as a non-PMOer but it is infinitely more enjoyable. I do not only mean you will be healthier. I mean you will be happier and enjoy life far more. The marvellous gains from being a non-PMOer are discussed in the next few chapters. Some PMOers find it difficult to appreciate the concept of the &lsquo;void&rsquo; and the following analogy may assist you.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"><strong>Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"> +<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void">Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void! <a class="anchor" href="#void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h2></div> -<p>Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I&rsquo;ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can&rsquo;t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.</p> +</a></h2><p>Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I&rsquo;ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can&rsquo;t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.</p> <p>By now you are completely dependent on the ointment. You never go out without ensuring that you have a tube of the ointment with you. If you go abroad, you make sure that you take several tubes with you. Now, in addition to your worries about your health, I&rsquo;m charging you $100 per tube. You have no choice but to pay.</p> <p>You then read in the medical column of your newspaper that this isn&rsquo;t happening just to you; many other people have been suffering from the same problem. In fact, pharmacists have discovered that the ointment doesn&rsquo;t actually cure the sore. All that it does is to take the sore beneath the surface of the skin. It is the ointment that has caused the sore to grow. All you have to do to get rid of the sore is to stop using the ointment. The sore will eventually disappear in due course.</p> <p>Would you continue to use the ointment? Would it take willpower not to use the ointment? If you didn&rsquo;t believe the medical article, there might be a few days of apprehension, but once you realized that the sore was beginning to get better, the need or desire to use the ointment would go, Would you be miserable? Of course you wouldn&rsquo;t. You had an awful problem which you thought was insoluble. Now you&rsquo;ve found the solution. Even if it took a year for that sore to disappear completely, each day, as it improved, you&rsquo;d think. “isn&rsquo;t it marvellous? I&rsquo;m not going to die!” This was the magic that happened to me on my final PMO day. Let me make one point quite clear in the analogy of the sore and the ointment.</p> @@ -3907,7 +3961,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:47:03 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-13-social-night-pmoing/ - <p>This is a misinformation that seems to make sense but then it does not. In order to have control of eating, will you eat at home before leaving to go to a restaurant or a party? This is what you are doing when you PMO before your social night. You will look tired and will not be up to your best. If you have dating jitters then work on it beforehand and then go with the flow even with some butterflies in your stomach. I like a bit of the anxiety in me to keep me going. Tiring yourself mentally and physically with an orgasm is not going to help you, unless of course you are going to see a prostitute. The goal is entirely different in that angle.</p> + <h2 id="social-night-pmoing">Social Night PMOing <a class="anchor" href="#social-night-pmoing"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is a misinformation that seems to make sense but then it does not. In order to have control of eating, will you eat at home before leaving to go to a restaurant or a party? This is what you are doing when you PMO before your social night. You will look tired and will not be up to your best. If you have dating jitters then work on it beforehand and then go with the flow even with some butterflies in your stomach. I like a bit of the anxiety in me to keep me going. Tiring yourself mentally and physically with an orgasm is not going to help you, unless of course you are going to see a prostitute. The goal is entirely different in that angle.</p> <p>The widespread adoption of pick-up techniques has put pressure on guys to perform, to attract and to ‘score’. You can get knowledge but you should know how to use it. I can guarantee that 100% of the other guys hanging at that bar know exactly what you know. It comes down to the ‘how’ of how you use it when you get the chance. Even before that, there is one very critical thing about any knowledge pertaining to human interactions, that ‘knowledge’ should never force your actions. This is important.</p> <p>I once masturbated and then poured wine to quiet the butterflies in my stomach before a date. I looked tired after just one hour into the date, the loud noise of the bar, dehydration, excessive self-consciousness (PUA teachings) etc. made my time unenjoyable. Somehow the girl and her friend liked it all. However, I do think it would have been better if I had gone without any props. I ended up being successful by claiming my &lsquo;goal(s)&rsquo; - which I consider unfortunate and as random luck.</p> <p>The PMO session I had before the date triggered a dopamine flooding and its withdrawal hit around the time I was with the date. I had to over-do my conversation to compensate the ineffective dopamine effects after that earlier orgasm. I am also sure that I was suffering from hypofrontality - where my impulses were failing my controls. That gushing moment, an extra decibel in the tone etc. would easily have given my nervousness to the girls - only if I was not protected by the loud noise in the bar. Why do you want to take chances?</p> @@ -3926,7 +3982,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:44:10 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-12-relaxation/ - <p>Most PMOers think that PMO helps to relax them. The truth is that internet porn used in PMO acts like a chemical stimulant. The frantic search to get the fix in those “dark alleys of the internet” and the internal struggle to reign in the dog straining at its leash for more shocking clips does not sound much like an activity of relaxation to me.</p> + <h2 id="relaxation">Relaxation <a class="anchor" href="#relaxation"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Most PMOers think that PMO helps to relax them. The truth is that internet porn used in PMO acts like a chemical stimulant. The frantic search to get the fix in those “dark alleys of the internet” and the internal struggle to reign in the dog straining at its leash for more shocking clips does not sound much like an activity of relaxation to me.</p> <p>One of the favourite PMO sessions for most is the one after a trip to a new place or after along day. As the night rolls in we stop working; we sit down and relax, relieve our hunger and thirst and are then completely satisfied. However, the poor PMOer cannot relax, as he has another hunger to satisfy. He thinks of the PMO as the icing on the cake but it is the &rsquo;little monster&rsquo; that needs feeding.</p> <p>The truth is that the addict can never be completely relaxed and as you go through life it gets worse. The most stressed people on this planet aren&rsquo;t non-PMOers but those young men and women who have a need to hunt (with the misunderstood goal of orgasm) and their ignorance of and/or low opinion of amative sex. Women who have subscribed to “I must orgasm” teachings are not even aware of the victim they have made of themselves. At this point any sex that leads to climax and orgasm cease to relieve even partially the symptoms that they have created.</p> <p>I can remember when I was bringing up a family. If my child would do something wrong I would quickly lose my temper to an extent that was out of all proportion to what he had done.</p> @@ -3947,7 +4005,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:42:13 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-11-concentration/ - <p>Sex and masturbation do not help concentration. That is just another illusion. When you are trying to concentrate, you automatically try to avoid distractions. So when a PMOer wants to concentrate he doesn&rsquo;t even have to think about it. He automatically PMOs, partially ending the craving, gets on with the matter in hand and has already forgotten that he just PMOed. Sex in general do not help concentration. After years of masturbation your brain changes affect abilities such as assessing, planning and impulse control. The PMOer is already suffering: that little monster wants his fix.</p> + <h2 id="concentration">Concentration <a class="anchor" href="#concentration"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Sex and masturbation do not help concentration. That is just another illusion. When you are trying to concentrate, you automatically try to avoid distractions. So when a PMOer wants to concentrate he doesn&rsquo;t even have to think about it. He automatically PMOs, partially ending the craving, gets on with the matter in hand and has already forgotten that he just PMOed. Sex in general do not help concentration. After years of masturbation your brain changes affect abilities such as assessing, planning and impulse control. The PMOer is already suffering: that little monster wants his fix.</p> <p>You are also stressed to provide novelty for the next PMO session as the same stuff will not generate enough dopamine and opioids. You have to “roam the internet streets” for novelty - all the while fighting the pull to cross the line towards shock. This creates more stress. After you orgasm, you feel unfulfilled as well.</p> <p>Concentration is also affected adversely for another reason. Your dopamine receptors have already started to get reduced by building up natural tolerance to these large surges, reducing the benefit of the smaller dopamine boosts from natural de-stressors.</p> <p>In fact, your concentration and inspiration will be greatly improved as this process is reversed. For some it will be the concentration aspect that prevents them from succeeding when using the willpower method. They could put up with the irritability and bad temper but when they really needed to concentrate on something difficult they have to have that porn fix. I can well remember the panic I felt when I discovered that the hotel has no internet connection and I had this huge presentation the day after.</p> @@ -3963,7 +4023,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:40:46 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-10-boredom/ - <p>As soon as you get into your bed - and if you are like many people you are already on your favorite tube site - you will probably have already forgotten about it until I reminded you. It has become second nature. Another fallacy about PMOing is that it relieves boredom. Boredom is a frame of mind. The only time that happens is when you have been deprived for a long time or are trying to cut down, or during those first few PMO sessions after a failed attempt to stop.</p> + <h2 id="boredom">Boredom <a class="anchor" href="#boredom"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As soon as you get into your bed - and if you are like many people you are already on your favorite tube site - you will probably have already forgotten about it until I reminded you. It has become second nature. Another fallacy about PMOing is that it relieves boredom. Boredom is a frame of mind. The only time that happens is when you have been deprived for a long time or are trying to cut down, or during those first few PMO sessions after a failed attempt to stop.</p> <p>The true situation is this: when you are addicted to internet porn’s supranormal novelty and then you decide to abstain from internet porn, there is something missing. If you have something to occupy your mind that isn&rsquo;t stressful, you can go for long periods without being bothered by the absence of the drug. However, when you are bored there&rsquo;s nothing to take your mind off it, so you feed the monster. When you are indulging yourself (i.e. not trying to stop or cut down), even firing up your incognito browser becomes subconscious. The PMOer can perform this ritual automatically. If any PMOer tries to remember the session during the last week, he can only remember a small proportion of them - e.g. the very last one or after a long abstinence.</p> <p>The truth is that PMOing tend to increase boredom indirectly because orgasms make you feel lethargic and instead of undertaking some energetic activity, PMOers tend to prefer lounge around, bored, relieving their withdrawal pangs. This is why countering the brainwashing is so important. Because it&rsquo;s a fact that PMOers tend to masturbate when they are bored and that we&rsquo;re wired to interpret PMO as interesting. It doesn&rsquo;t occur to us to question the fact how a two dimensional supranormal stimulus relieves boredom.</p> <p>We&rsquo;ve also been brainwashed into believing that sex - even a bad sex - aids relaxation. It is a fact that when under stress or sad, couples want to have sex. In the absence of discrimination between amative and propagative sex, the goal is set to achieve orgasms by hook or by crook. Next time you do this watch how you both want to get away from each other as soon as it’s over. It is obvious that if they had just decided to cuddle, speak, hug and touch each other and go to sleep without the mandatory orgasms, the couple would have felt relieved. Well, if in the process, they wanted to have the propagative part then by all means they can but that is a topic not meant to be discussed in this book.</p> @@ -3976,7 +4038,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:38:59 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-09-stress/ - <p>I am referring not only to the great tragedies of life but also to the minor stresses, the socializing, the telephone call, the anxieties of the housewife with noisy young children and so on. Let us use the telephone conversation as an example. For most people the telephone is slightly stressful, particularly for the businessman. Most calls aren&rsquo;t from satisfied customers or your boss congratulating you. There&rsquo;s usually some sort of aggravation - something going wrong or somebody making demands. Then he or she comes home to the mundane family life of kids screaming and wife&rsquo;s emotional demands on you. His already PMO weakened de-stressors are in no way ready to take the aggravation. At that time the PMOer, if he isn&rsquo;t already doing so, will fantasize the relief of internet porn that he promised himself that night. He will even allow himself to “take one step more” into the ‘forbidden’ area that he had previously self-excluded. He doesn&rsquo;t know why he does this but he does know that for some reason it appears to help.</p> + <h2 id="stress">Stress <a class="anchor" href="#stress"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>I am referring not only to the great tragedies of life but also to the minor stresses, the socializing, the telephone call, the anxieties of the housewife with noisy young children and so on. Let us use the telephone conversation as an example. For most people the telephone is slightly stressful, particularly for the businessman. Most calls aren&rsquo;t from satisfied customers or your boss congratulating you. There&rsquo;s usually some sort of aggravation - something going wrong or somebody making demands. Then he or she comes home to the mundane family life of kids screaming and wife&rsquo;s emotional demands on you. His already PMO weakened de-stressors are in no way ready to take the aggravation. At that time the PMOer, if he isn&rsquo;t already doing so, will fantasize the relief of internet porn that he promised himself that night. He will even allow himself to “take one step more” into the ‘forbidden’ area that he had previously self-excluded. He doesn&rsquo;t know why he does this but he does know that for some reason it appears to help.</p> <p>What has actually happened is this: without being conscious of it, he has already been suffering aggravation (i.e. the withdrawal pangs). By partially relieving that aggravation at the same time as normal stress, the total stress is reduced and the PMOer gets a boost. At this point the boost is not, in fact, an illusion. The Internet porn user will feel better than before. However, even when using porn to masturbate he or she is more tense than if he were a non-PMOer because the more you go into the drug, the more it knocks you down and the less it restores you when you masturbate. I promised no shock treatment. In the example I am about to give, I am not trying to shock you, I am merely emphasizing that PMO destroy your nerves rather than relax them.</p> <p>Try to imagine getting to the stage where you cannot get aroused even with a very sexy and attractive partner. Just for a moment pause and try to visualize life where one very lovely and charming woman has to compete and fail with all the virtual porn stars who are in your &lsquo;harem&rsquo; to get your attention! Try to imagine the frame of mind of a man who, issued with that warning, actually continues PMOing and then dies without ever having had real sex with this charming and willing real woman. I had read real life stories like that from men and dismissed them as weirdos. In fact, I used to wish a doctor would tell me that this weird condition would happen if I continue PMO; then I would have stopped. Yet I was already fully expecting that PIED and hypofrontality where I am guaranteed to lose in a brain war. I didn&rsquo;t think of myself as an impotent, just a heavy PMOer. Now, let’s talk about the stress that this is putting on me.</p> <p>Such weird stories as the above are not fakes. That is what this awful ‘novelty’ porn drug does to you. As you go through life, it systematically takes away your nerve and courage. The more it takes your courage away, the more you are deluded into believing the porn is doing the opposite.</p> @@ -3992,7 +4056,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:36:16 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-08-relieving-withdrawal-pangs/ - <p>As I explained earlier, PMOers think they do it for enjoyment, relaxation or some sort of education. In fact, this an illusion. The actual reason is the relief of withdrawal pangs. In the early days we use the porn as a curious and novel thing or even educational or as a rebel. We can take it or leave it. However, the subtle chain has started. Our subconscious mind begins to learn that internet porn and masturbation taken at certain times tends to be pleasurable. The more we become hooked on the drug, the greater the need to relieve the withdrawal pangs and the further the PMO drags you down and the more you are fooled into believing it is doing the opposite. It all happens so slowly, so gradually, you are not even aware of it. Each day you feel no different from the day before. Most young PMOers don&rsquo;t even realize they are hooked until they actually try to stop and even then many won&rsquo;t admit to it. A few stalwarts just keep their heads in the sand all their lives,trying to convince themselves and other people that they enjoy it.</p> + <h2 id="relieving-withdrawal-pangs">Relieving Withdrawal Pangs <a class="anchor" href="#relieving-withdrawal-pangs"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As I explained earlier, PMOers think they do it for enjoyment, relaxation or some sort of education. In fact, this an illusion. The actual reason is the relief of withdrawal pangs. In the early days we use the porn as a curious and novel thing or even educational or as a rebel. We can take it or leave it. However, the subtle chain has started. Our subconscious mind begins to learn that internet porn and masturbation taken at certain times tends to be pleasurable. The more we become hooked on the drug, the greater the need to relieve the withdrawal pangs and the further the PMO drags you down and the more you are fooled into believing it is doing the opposite. It all happens so slowly, so gradually, you are not even aware of it. Each day you feel no different from the day before. Most young PMOers don&rsquo;t even realize they are hooked until they actually try to stop and even then many won&rsquo;t admit to it. A few stalwarts just keep their heads in the sand all their lives,trying to convince themselves and other people that they enjoy it.</p> <p>Listen to this conversation a therapist had with hundreds of teenagers.</p> <blockquote> <p>TH: “You realize that internet porn is a drug and that the only reason why you are using is that you cannot stop.”</p> @@ -4022,33 +4088,29 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 08:39:02 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-07-brainwashing-and-the-primitive-mechanism/ - <p>How or why do we start PMOing in the first place? To understand this fully you need to examine the powerful effect of the supernormal stimulus. We all tend to think we are intelligent, dominant human beings determining our paths through life. We act and act frequently when our brain reward circuit are rewarded. Nobel laureate Nikolaas Tinbergen coined the term “supranormal stimulus.” He said mammals could be tricked into preferring fake eggs and mates. Female birds, for example, struggled to sit on larger-than life, vividly spotted plaster eggs while their own pale, dappled eggs perished untended.</p> + <h2 id="brainwashing-and-the-primitive-mechanism">Brainwashing and the Primitive Mechanism <a class="anchor" href="#brainwashing-and-the-primitive-mechanism"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>How or why do we start PMOing in the first place? To understand this fully you need to examine the powerful effect of the supernormal stimulus. We all tend to think we are intelligent, dominant human beings determining our paths through life. We act and act frequently when our brain reward circuit are rewarded. Nobel laureate Nikolaas Tinbergen coined the term “supranormal stimulus.” He said mammals could be tricked into preferring fake eggs and mates. Female birds, for example, struggled to sit on larger-than life, vividly spotted plaster eggs while their own pale, dappled eggs perished untended.</p> <p>The stimulation here in internet porn is not it brings stimulating actors and themes to your home - it is a genie at your bidding to create a harem in your mind. You can switch between genres and theme, home-made and viewer rated, commented and discussed, so rapid and so easy. We absolutely are not ready for the high speed internet porn and our brains are not designed to handle this supranormal stimuli.</p> <p>We can have an ‘information overload’ from the same internet but our reward circuits are not going to squirt dopamine at the levels when ‘porn overload’ is involved. We are evolutionarily programmed to seek and access sex related stuff. And we wrongly appraise the stimulus mostly based on this reward circuit action. If all you wanted is to masturbate why can’t you just use one clip and get the business done?</p> <p>Here is another question - next time after a long day or some stressful incident can you consciously embellish your self-talk with “Do you know what I would really enjoy today? The marvellous warm glow of dopamine rush going to my online harem.” You will find that even people who dislike PMO will join you.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="past-misguided-advice"><strong>Past Misguided Advice</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#past-misguided-advice"> +<h2 id="past-misguided-advice">Past Misguided Advice <a class="anchor" href="#past-misguided-advice"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.</p> +</a></h2><p>There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.</p> <p>From our earliest years our subconscious minds are bombarded daily with information telling us that sex is good and that the most precious thing on this earth is to ‘achieve’ orgasm. Girls are taught to achieve it and claim it&rsquo;s because they were wrongly suppressed of their sexual side for a very long time and still are. You think I exaggerate? Watch any TV or movie plot and you will see the mix-up of the amative (touch, smell, voice etc.) and the propagative (orgasmic) sides of sex. The impact of this does not register on our conscious minds but the sleeping partner, the subconscious mind, has time to absorb it. What the message is really saying is, “The most precious thing on this earth, my last thought and action, will be the goal of orgasm.” If you don’t have an orgasm then you are an old man with zero libido.</p> <p>Our children are being bombarded by sex and porn clips and many don’t even know how to protect them from it all. Large hoardings and magazine adverts are loaded with sexual innuendo. Some of the pop videos are extremely suggestive - again they hide behind free speech. Don’t be vexed and feel powerless about it. Make it a game and find you which of the components they are using - is it novelty, shock value, color, size, taboo etc. If the kids are pre-teen some of these can be disclosed to them and it would make an excellent show-and-tell game.</p> <p>A while back there was a wave of ‘leaked’ private videos of celebrities on the internet. If the youngster is too smitten by their favourite star, even if the conscious mind blames the ‘leak’ on the blood thirsty internet paparazzi, the &lsquo;sleeping partner&rsquo; is patiently digesting the notion that, “yes, even my shambolic hero does it and if I don’t, I won’t look the part.”</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-scientific-reasoning"><strong>The Scientific Reasoning</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-scientific-reasoning"> +<h2 id="the-scientific-reasoning">The Scientific Reasoning <a class="anchor" href="#the-scientific-reasoning"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>, Reboot<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> forums, underground PUA<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup>, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn&rsquo;t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.</p> +</a></h2><p>True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>, Reboot<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> forums, underground PUA<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup>, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn&rsquo;t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.</p> <p>Ironically, the most powerful force in this melee of confusion is the PMOer himself. It is a fallacy that they are weak-willed or are physically weak specimens. You have to be physically strong in order to cope with an addiction after you know it is. This is one of the reasons why PMOers refuse to accept the overwhelming statistics that prove that internet porn with its ‘novelty’ cripples your brain. Add to that the sexologists who are doing half-baked studies and declare PMO is not an issue - they just help to add to the confusion.</p> <p>Everyone knows a friend who PMOed every day - he started with the ‘static’ to internet porn, always horny in real life, chasing girls and you never doubted him to have sex problems of course. You want to believe him. He never complained about any ED right? Guys and girls like them refuse even to consider the hundreds of ex-addicts and non-PMOers who painfully recount their difficulties. It is the “little monster” brain chemical addiction and the “big monster” - illusions and delusions. In this hackbook, I&rsquo;ve put together almost all the sorts of brainwashing a PMOer can suffer from. There will always be a few out there that I haven&rsquo;t touched upon.</p> <p>Even more painful is they think of themselves as unsuccessful losers and insufferable introverts. A possible fact is that a PMO friend could have been more interesting in person if he hadn’t put himself down for seeking self-pleasure.</p> <p>If you do a small survey among your online forum members, friends and colleagues, you will find that most PMOers are, in fact, strong-willed people. They tend to be self-employed, business executives or in certain specialized professions, such as doctors<sup id="fnref:4"><a href="#fn:4" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">4</a></sup>, lawyers, policemen, teachers, salesmen, nurses, secretaries, housewives with children, etc. In other words, anybody leading a stressful existence. Yes, I did include women and mothers. It’s the brain and it’s the same for them too. The main delusion of the PMOer is that porn helps to masturbate to orgasm and that relieves stress. This tends to be associated with the dominant type, the type that takes on responsibility and stress and, of course, that is the type that we admire and therefore tend to copy. Another group that tends to get hooked are people in monotonous jobs because the other main reason for PMOing is boredom. However, the idea that internet porn relieves boredom is also an illusion, I am afraid.</p> <p>As a society we get all uptight about glue-sniffing, heroin addiction, etc. Actual deaths from glue-sniffing do not amount to ten per annum, and deaths from heroin are less than a hundred a year in this country. There is another drug, internet porn, on which over 45 per cent of us become hooked at some time in our lives and the majority spend the rest of their lives regretting it. Some even don’t know that their ED is due to this.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-willpower-method"><strong>The Willpower Method</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method"> +<h2 id="the-willpower-method">The Willpower Method <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why?</p> +</a></h2><p>PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why?</p> <p>Constant exposure to internet porn re-wires your brain. You need to start building resistance to this brainwashing, just as if you were buying a car from a second-hand car dealer. You would be nodding politely but you would not believe a word the man was saying. So don’t believe everything they say either - that you must have sex as much as you can and you must have it exceptional good. And that in the absence of real sex you claim it by the substitute called internet porn - which is only a component of the good old porn.</p> <p>And don’t play ‘safe’ porn game either - because your “little porn monster” invented that scheme to lure you. Even the content - ‘amateur’? Really? Is there a certification authority that certifies it? Tube sites and porn producers gather site visitor profiles and cater to their needs. If they see a trend in crowd sourced collection of a particular genre they will focus on that and get content out ASAP. The statistics of what genre users like is collected to the level of how long and which portion the users were preferring. Do not be fooled by their educational intent or the safe female oriented clips (for you ladies). Start asking yourself:</p> <ul> @@ -4058,27 +4120,21 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p><strong>NO, OF COURSE YOU DON&rsquo;T.</strong></p> <p>I find this brainwashing aspect the most difficult of all to explain. Why is it that an otherwise rational, intelligent human being becomes a complete imbecile about his own addiction? It pains me to confess that out of the thousands of people that I have assisted in kicking the habit, I (not Allen Carr) was the biggest idiot of all.</p> <p>At the age of thirteen, although I was doing well at school and games, I was still an insufferable introvert. I read books from the library that were not within my main study list. However, I can see that I was attracted to erotica. I started masturbating to TV programs, song and dance sequences etc. I must have to have it every day. The tired feeling I felt was misappropriated by my ‘little porn monster’ as work stress. I didn’t know my “I-must-masturbate-as-I-am-entitled” attitude was the one that created the ‘stress’ in the first place. Then I got pictures and GIFs via email on my laptop - the first step towards electronic porn. The colour and texture of the images were amazing for me at that time - won’t be now for sure. Then came dial-up but still they were predominantly static pictures. Then came downloadable videos. It’s a pain to download and watch now - but it was heaven sent then as we were coming out of the static porn era! Oh, the streaming tube sites haven’t arrived yet.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"><strong>When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"> +<h2 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore">When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore <a class="anchor" href="#when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn.</p> +</a></h2><p>I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn.</p> <p>At the age of forty, I was visiting my online harem daily, drinking ‘socially’ (whatever that means) and smoking ‘sometimes’ but not so often. I had wrongly subscribed to misguided ideas of ‘moderation’ and ‘entitlement’. I had reached the stage where I couldn&rsquo;t get through a single day without reaching out to porn in the night. With most PMOers, the triggers are the normal stresses of life, like answering the telephone or socializing.</p> <p>When I experienced PIED - I knew it was killing my virility. There was no way I could kid myself otherwise. I am smart enough not to ‘project’ the porn fantasies on to real life. But it was like pacifying a dog straining at its leash. But why I couldn&rsquo;t see what it was doing to me mentally, I could not understand. It was almost jumping up and biting me on the nose. The ridiculous thing is that most PMOers suffer the delusion at some time in their life that they enjoy internet porn because it is ‘normal’ and ‘healthy’. I never suffered that delusion, I PMOed because I thought enjoying sex is a ‘birthright’ and I am only doing a normal thing.</p> <p>Since it was easier at most times for me to get internet porn than a partner I thought I am doing the normal thing. Now I am a non-PMOer, the most difficult part is trying to believe that those days actually happened. It&rsquo;s like awakening from a nightmare and that is about the size of it. Internet porn is a supranormal drug. It is weakening your de-stressing mechanisms, your virility and your energy. The worst aspect of PMO isn&rsquo;t the injury to your health or manliness, it is the warping of the mind. You search for any plausible excuse to go on.</p> <p>I remember at one stage switching to static images, a failed attempt to cut down on internet porn, in the belief that it was less harmful and I could reign in my ‘habit’. I failed to see the ‘novelty’ and the ‘shock’ demands from my ‘little monster’ to just get more dopamine. Did I ‘stay’ within my boundaries? I ‘favorited’ 2 dimensional photos and my harem collection saw pictures and videos of ‘mild’ type porn rotating in and out like musical chair. When their ‘music’ stopped they ‘exited’. I didn’t understand the novelty-seeking, shock-seeking nature of my brain.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pied-and-my-excuses"><strong>PIED And My Excuses</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pied-and-my-excuses"> +<h2 id="pied-and-my-excuses">PIED And My Excuses <a class="anchor" href="#pied-and-my-excuses"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.</p> +</a></h2><p>Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.</p> <p>Most PMOers swear that they only watch static and soft porn and so they are OK. They are actually straining at the leash and thus fighting with their willpower to resist temptations. If they do this too often and for too long they will debit their willpower considerably and fail in other life projects where willpower is of much great value, like in daily exercise, dieting etc. Continuous failure in those areas will make them feel miserable and guilty and very soon they will find themselves back to their entitled relief. If not, they will vent their anger and depression onto their loved ones.</p> <p>The answer is that once you have become addicted to internet porn, the brainwashing is increased. Your subconscious mind knows that the little monster has to be fed and you block everything else from your mind. As I have already stated, it is fear that keeps people quitting, the fear of that empty, insecure feeling that you get when you stop supplying the brain with dopamine flooding. Just because you are not aware of it doesn&rsquo;t mean it isn&rsquo;t there. You don&rsquo;t have to understand it any more than a cat needs to understand where the under-floor hot-water pipes are. It just knows that if it sits in a certain place it gets the feeling of warmth.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind"><strong>The Passivity Of Our Mind</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-passivity-of-our-mind"> +<h2 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind">The Passivity Of Our Mind <a class="anchor" href="#the-passivity-of-our-mind"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I&rsquo;ve frequently referred to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo; PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo;, but to stopping, quitting or the true position: <strong>ESCAPING!</strong></p> +</a></h2><p>It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I&rsquo;ve frequently referred to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo; PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo;, but to stopping, quitting or the true position: <strong>ESCAPING!</strong></p> <p>The only thing that persuades us to PMO in the first place is all the other people doing it. We feel we are missing out. We work so hard to become hooked, yet nobody ever finds out what they have been missing. But every time we see another new video clip it reassures us that there must be something in it, otherwise people wouldn&rsquo;t be doing it - and it wouldn&rsquo;t be such big business all over the world. Even when he has kicked the habit, the ex-PMOer feels he is being deprived when a discussion on a sexy entertainer, singer or even a porn star comes up at a party or other social function. She or he must be good to have all my friends talk about them, no? Do they have ‘hot’ pictures of her in my tube site? He feels safe. He can have just one ‘peek’ that night. And, before he knows it, he is hooked again.</p> <p>This brainwashing is extremely powerful and you need to be aware of its effects. I have heard scare stories about wicked men giving heroin mixed candies to kids at schoolyards. The concept of addiction and being compelled to go on taking the drug, filled me with horror. Even to this day, in spite of the fact that I am fairly convinced that &lsquo;pot&rsquo; is not addictive, I would not dare take one puff of marijuana. How ironic that I should have ended up a porn junky. Technology will continue to grow and we will have even faster tube sites and more faster access methods. The industry is investing millions in Virtual Reality so it will become the next best thing. The point is, do we know where we are going? Are we equipped with an under armour of defence so we can enjoy the benefits of technology yet at the same time protect ourselves from its bad effects?</p> <p>We are about to remove the brainwashing. It is not the non-PMOer who is being deprived but the poor user who is forfeiting a lifetime of:</p> @@ -4120,15 +4176,15 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:44:00 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-06-internet-porn/ - <p>Erotic novelty of the internet porn is a mental ‘drug’ and internet porn beats anything that is known to mankind and its streaming straight to your home for free ! We are not even talking VR virtual reality here. Porn triggers the ‘flooding’ of dopamine in our brain. Dopamine amps up the brain reward circuitry to produce experiences and feels of cravings and pleasure by locking themselves into ‘receptors’. More dopamine more wanting. Less dopamine no wanting. New experiences, tasty food - more dopamine - more wanting. Sex and sex related stuff gives the biggest injection of dopamine in the reward circuits. Dopamine is not the final pleasure stuff, if it were you would feel happy when you are done with it, but it is only a brain chemical that encourages seeking and action in you. The real pleasure is produced by opioids. More dopamine more opioids more + <h2 id="internet-porn">Internet Porn <a class="anchor" href="#internet-porn"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Erotic novelty of the internet porn is a mental ‘drug’ and internet porn beats anything that is known to mankind and its streaming straight to your home for free ! We are not even talking VR virtual reality here. Porn triggers the ‘flooding’ of dopamine in our brain. Dopamine amps up the brain reward circuitry to produce experiences and feels of cravings and pleasure by locking themselves into ‘receptors’. More dopamine more wanting. Less dopamine no wanting. New experiences, tasty food - more dopamine - more wanting. Sex and sex related stuff gives the biggest injection of dopamine in the reward circuits. Dopamine is not the final pleasure stuff, if it were you would feel happy when you are done with it, but it is only a brain chemical that encourages seeking and action in you. The real pleasure is produced by opioids. More dopamine more opioids more action more happy feelings.</p> <p>So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. All of which will now be stored as a script in your brain for easy access next time. I call this a ‘water slide’. Next time at the cue - a sexy commercial or alone time or stress or feeling a little down - you are ready to take a ride on the ‘water slide’. One more thing is that every time to repeat this you are ‘greasing’ it as well - so it is active, alive and more easier to slide the next time.</p> <p>As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating. Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish, ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you won’t on your first time.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="my-own-online-harem"><strong>My Own Online Harem!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#my-own-online-harem"> +<h2 id="my-own-online-harem">My Own Online Harem! <a class="anchor" href="#my-own-online-harem"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost.</p> +</a></h2><p>This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost.</p> <p>Going back to the earlier discussion - in this cycle as you crossed the ‘red line’ you also trigger emotions such as guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety and fear - which in turn raise dopamine levels as well. Now the brain may mistakenly associate feelings of anxiety and fear as sexual arousal. This perpetual cycle is only broken by natural causes - fortunately sooner or later. With its free access and privacy it provides boundless harem-like novelty. The dopamine can be theoretically kept very high for a very very long time. I can be satisfied with one lobster once in awhile. But Internet porn is different. It is even worse than drugs. Don’t let me make you nervous. I will shortly show you how to be free from this slavery.</p> <p>Now our human body has a self-correcting system by which the number of dopamine and opioid receptors are cut short when frequent and daily ‘flooding’ of dopamine is detected. Unfortunately - these receptors are also needed for receiving dopamine and to keep us even and balanced to handle the inevitable and normal day-to-day stresses. But this natural nominal amount of dopamine will not be absorbed efficiently with decreased receptors and you will feel mores tressed and irritated than normal.</p> <blockquote> @@ -4140,18 +4196,14 @@ action more happy feelings.</p> <p>A fleeting feeling of security is all that is needed to get through a rough spot in life - but will your brain be able to catch that drop of de-stressor that a non-PMOers’ brain is able to catch and use?</p> <p>This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I will explain more about this later.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-little-monster"><strong>The Little Monster</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-little-monster"> +<h2 id="the-little-monster">The Little Monster <a class="anchor" href="#the-little-monster"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&rsquo; we think we just &lsquo;got into the habit&rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.</p> +</a></h2><p>The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&rsquo; we think we just &lsquo;got into the habit&rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.</p> <p>Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, resulting in the feeling of fulfilment and pleasure that the action gives to the PMOer. In the early days, when we first start PMOing, the withdrawal pangs and their relief are so slight that we are not even aware that they exist. When we begin to masturbate regularly to internet porn we think it is because we&rsquo;ve either come to enjoy them or got into the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. The truth is we&rsquo;re already hooked; we do not realize it, but that little monster is already inside our stomach and every now and again we have to feed it.</p> <p>All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster. The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had before he became hooked in the first place.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm"><strong>The Annoying Burglar Alarm</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-annoying-burglar-alarm"> +<h2 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm">The Annoying Burglar Alarm <a class="anchor" href="#the-annoying-burglar-alarm"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we +</a></h2><p>You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain goes on. It is a chain for life - <strong>UNLESS YOU BREAK IT</strong>.</p> <p>The whole business of PMO is like wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure you feel when you take them off. There are three main reasons why PMOers cannot see things that way:</p> <ol> @@ -4162,11 +4214,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <p>It is this &lsquo;back to front&rsquo; reverse process that makes all drugs difficult to kick. Picture the panic state of a heroin addict who has no heroin. Now picture the utter joy when that addict can finally plunge a needle into his vein. Can you visualize someone actually getting pleasure by injecting themselves, or does the mere thought fill you with horror? Non-heroin addicts don&rsquo;t suffer that panic feeling.</p> <p>The heroin doesn&rsquo;t relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a 14 year old in 2008 - didn&rsquo;t suffer the empty feeling of needing internet porn or start to panic when they are off- line. Non-PMOers cannot understand how PMOers can possibly obtain pleasure from two dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. And do you know something? PMOers themselves cannot understand why they do it after some time either.</p> <p>We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don&rsquo;t non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their &rsquo;little monster&rsquo;?</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch"><strong>A Pleasure or Crutch?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#a-pleasure-or-crutch"> +<h2 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch">A Pleasure or Crutch? <a class="anchor" href="#a-pleasure-or-crutch"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;I need to eat.&rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.</p> +</a></h2><p>Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;I need to eat.&rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.</p> <p>PMOing appears to be almost identical. The empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;wanting or needing an PMO orgasm’ is identical to a hunger for food, although one will not satisfy the other. Like hunger, there is no physical pain and the feeling is so imperceptible that we are not even aware of it between PMO sessions. It&rsquo;s only if we want to masturbate and aren&rsquo;t able to reach internet for porn that we become aware of any discomfort. But when we do PMO we feel satisfied.</p> <p>It is this similarity to eating which helps to fool PMOers into believing that they receive some genuine pleasure. Some PMOers find it very difficult to grasp that there is no pleasure or crutch, whatsoever to PMO. Some argue: “How can you say there is no crutch? When I orgasm up then I&rsquo;llfeel less nervous than before.”</p> <p>Although eating and PMOing appear to be very similar. In fact they are exact opposites:</p> @@ -4175,17 +4225,13 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <li>Food does genuinely taste good, and eating is a genuinely pleasant experience that we can enjoy throughout our lives, whereas PMOing involves self-sabotaging the happiness receptors and thus destroying your chances to cope and to feel happy.</li> <li>Eating doesn&rsquo;t create hunger and genuinely relieves it, whereas the first PMO starts the craving for dopamine and each subsequent one, far from relieving it, ensures that you suffer it for the rest of life.</li> </ol> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pmo-is-a-habit"><strong>PMO is a Habit?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pmo-is-a-habit"> +<h2 id="pmo-is-a-habit">PMO is a Habit? <a class="anchor" href="#pmo-is-a-habit"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.</p> +</a></h2><p>This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.</p> <p>On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience, I also refer to the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> - we have to then have more bizarre and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting&hellip; not in the killing. If we don&rsquo;t then panic sets in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great!</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="crossing-the-red-line"><strong>Crossing The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#crossing-the-red-line"> +<h2 id="crossing-the-red-line">Crossing The Red Line <a class="anchor" href="#crossing-the-red-line"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.</p> +</a></h2><p>This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.</p> <p>You feel better than you did before starting this PMO session but you are in fact more nervous and less relaxed than you would be as a non-PMOer, like someone who is living in Loma Linda or in an Amish village, even though you are actually PMOing and living in your supposed “porn paradise.” This position is even more ridiculous than wearing tight shoes because as you go through life an increasing amount of the discomfort remains even when the shoes are removed.</p> <p>Once the orgasm is achieved, the dopamine rapidly begins to leave the brain, causing a mood dip. Which explains why the PMOer wants to ‘edge’<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> and switch through multiple browser windows as they seek and search. As I said, the ‘habit’ doesn&rsquo;t exist. The real reason why every user goes on using internet porn is because of that little porn monster inside his stomach. Every now and again he has to feed it. The PMOer himself will decide when he does that and it tends to be on four types of occasion or a combination of them.</p> <p>These occasions are:</p> @@ -4195,25 +4241,19 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to </ul> <p>What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If you think about it, what other types of occasion are there in our lives; apart from sleep? The truth is that PMO neither relieves boredom and stress nor promotes concentration and relaxation. It is all just illusion. Apart from being a drug, PMO is also a destroyer of happiness and virility.</p> <p>In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes, print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’ and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive without knowing the difference between food and poison.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"><strong>Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"> +<h2 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics">Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics <a class="anchor" href="#brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!</p> +</a></h2><p>Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!</p> <p>When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were titillating but most were disgusting, causing you to avert your eyes away. Like you would if had accidentally glanced a feeding mother’s breast. And some of us are even revolted with what they saw when the star reminded them of someone dear to their heart or a scene which recalled their own instance of being the victim. Some don’t feel like it to browse and masturbate at the same time. It may be hard to believe for you but the non-PMOs, who don’t PMO after their first time, are the lucky ones. They actually decided that it was not their cup of tea. It must be hard for you to believe but stay with me.</p> <p>How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even after a hard day? Why not? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That&rsquo;s all.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak"><strong>Are PMOers Mentally Weak?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#are-pmoers-mentally-weak"> +<h2 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak">Are PMOers Mentally Weak? <a class="anchor" href="#are-pmoers-mentally-weak"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.</p> +</a></h2><p>It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.</p> <p>To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to become hooked, and this is why it is difficult to stop teenagers. Because they are skilled in seeking and finding material, they know online privacy options and can clean their tracks - if they still feel some stigma and they (wrongfully) believe they can stop whenever they want to. Why do they not learn from us? Then again, why did we not learn from our PMOers and addicts?</p> <p>Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of ‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying is the ritual of relieving those pangs.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"><strong>The High From The Dance Around The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"> +<h2 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line">The High From The Dance Around The Red Line <a class="anchor" href="#the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.</p> +</a></h2><p>Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.</p> <p>Ask a user who believes that he sticks to a certain actor or genre - only because he likes something about the star or the theme (if any) of the clip: “If you cannot get your normal brand of porn and can only obtain a poor or unsafe brand, do you stop masturbating?” No way. A PMOer will masturbate to anything rather than abstain and it doesn&rsquo;t matter if he has to switch to escalating themes, different sex-orientation-themes, look-alike actresses, dangerous settings shocking relationships etc. To begin with they taste awful but if you persevere you will learn to like them. Most PMOers will also try to seek masturbation even after having real sex (unfulfilment, porn-induced unrealistic expectations etc.), or after a long, stressful work day, fever, colds, flu, sore throats and even when admitted in hospitals.</p> <p>Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wanted then it makes no sense to be with your laptop. During my conversation some PMOers find it alarming to realize they are drug addicts and think it will make it even more difficult to stop. In fact, it is all good news for two important reasons:</p> <ol> @@ -4221,18 +4261,14 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <li>Although internet porn is the most powerful trigger for ‘novelty’ and ‘sex’ based dopamine ‘flooding’ - because of the speed with which you become hooked, you are never badly hooked. The actual withdrawal pangs are so mild that most PMOers have lived and died without ever realizing that they have suffered them.</li> </ol> <p>You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc. The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn&rsquo;t bother the PMOers.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-smokers-analogy"><strong>The Smokers Analogy</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-smokers-analogy"> +<h2 id="the-smokers-analogy">The Smokers Analogy <a class="anchor" href="#the-smokers-analogy"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they&rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn&rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.</p> +</a></h2><p>A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they&rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn&rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.</p> <p>PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their parents while visiting for family get togethers etc. with little discomfort to themselves. In fact, most PMOers have extended periods during which they abstain without effort. Even in my case I would quite happily go a week or so without a PMO incident. In the later years as a PMOer I actually used to look forward to these days when I could stop choking my penis (what a ridiculous &lsquo;habit&rsquo;).</p> <p>The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"><strong>The Big Monster - The Brainwashing</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"> +<h2 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing">The Big Monster - The Brainwashing <a class="anchor" href="#the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.</p> +</a></h2><p>You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.</p> <p>Not all the amateurs are ‘amateurs’ on these tube sites, oversized body parts and overcharged scenarios are the norm, aided by a bit of the ‘viagran’ help.</p> <p>As I say, the actual porn addiction is not the main problem. It just acts as a catalyst to keep our minds confused over the real problem: the brainwashing. It may be of consolation to lifelong and heavy PMOers to know that it is just as easy for them to stop as casual PMOers. In a peculiar way. it is easier. The further you go along with the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;, the more it drags you down and the greater the gain when you stop.</p> <p>It may be of further consolation for you to know that the rumours that occasionally circulate that the neural pathways created are there for life, and so at the right (or wrong) time and with strong stimuli you will be sliding again down the ‘water slide’ of internet porn and masturbation to permanently destroy your real life sex are untrue.</p> @@ -4259,7 +4295,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:42:16 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-05-why-do-we-carry-on-with-pmo/ - <p>We all start PMOing for many reasons, usually social pressures or our biological curiosity, but once we feel we are becoming hooked, why do we carry on using porn? No regular PMOer knows why he or she looks at porn. If PMOers knew the true reason, they would stop doing it. The true answer is the same for all PMOers but the variety of replies is infinite, I find this part of the consultation the most amusing and at the same time the most pathetic.</p> + <h2 id="why-do-we-carry-on-with-pmo">Why Do We Carry on With PMO <a class="anchor" href="#why-do-we-carry-on-with-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>We all start PMOing for many reasons, usually social pressures or our biological curiosity, but once we feel we are becoming hooked, why do we carry on using porn? No regular PMOer knows why he or she looks at porn. If PMOers knew the true reason, they would stop doing it. The true answer is the same for all PMOers but the variety of replies is infinite, I find this part of the consultation the most amusing and at the same time the most pathetic.</p> <p>All PMOers know in their heart of hearts that they are fools. They know that they had no need to use porn or internet porn before they became hooked. Most of them can remember that their first ‘peek’ was a mix of revulsion and novel curiosity. They then filter out and get “skilled” at “locating” and “bookmarking” the right porn sites. They know that they had to work hard in order to become hooked.</p> <p>The most annoying part is that they sense that non-addicts - most women, older guys, people living in countries where hi-speed internet porn is not available “on tap” - are not missing anything and that they are laughing at them.</p> <p>However, PMOers are intelligent, rational human beings. They know that they are taking enormous future risks and so they spend a lot of time rationalizing their ‘habit’. The actual reason why PMOers continue is a subtle combination of the factors that I will elaborate in the next two chapters. They are:</p> @@ -4276,7 +4314,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:38:28 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-04-the-sinister-trap/ - <p>Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it&rsquo;s an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked.</p> + <h2 id="the-sinister-trap">The Sinister Trap <a class="anchor" href="#the-sinister-trap"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it&rsquo;s an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked.</p> <p>It is the only trap in nature which has does not require a lot of hard work to set up. The thing that springs the trap is not that all porn clips feature young, high quality, sexy models; it’s that most of the thumbnails on any porn web page are ugly looking, unattractive, amateurish, home-made clips of unknown models. If the first timer’s first look at a tube page was only filled with angelic beauties, professional models and high quality then the alarm bells would ring. And as intelligent human beings, we could then understand why half the adult population was systematically addicted to watching something that is cutting down their very same potential to do what they are viewing. In many known and yet unknown ways porn cuts down sexual performance and the feeling of satisfaction.</p> <p>But because that first “peek” has “stains and holes,” a mishmash of low quality clips of not-so-hot models, our young minds are reassured that we will never become hooked, and we think that because we are not enjoying them we can stop whenever we want to. It is the only drug in nature that prevents you from achieving your aim. Our curiosity brings us to its door steps. You dare not even click on all of the thumbnails because some of them will make you feel sick and throw up! If you were to accidentally click on an “I-did-not-see-that” clip - all you want to do is get away from the site and close your laptop.</p> <p>With women, the aim is to be the sophisticated modern young lady. We have all seen them acting up and looking absolutely ridiculous. By the time the boys have learnt to look tough and the girls have learnt to look sophisticated, they wish they had never started in the first place. I wonder whether women ever look sophisticated when they discuss the top 10 porn sites, or whether this is a figment of our imaginations created by internet porn companies.</p> @@ -4294,7 +4334,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:31:45 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-03-why-is-it-difficult-to-stop/ - <p>As I explained earlier, I got interested in this subject because of my own addiction. When I finally stopped it was like magic. When I had previously tried to stop there were weeks of black depression. There would be odd days when I was comparatively cheerful but the next day back with the depression. It was like clawing your way out of a slippery pit, you feel you are near the top, you see the sunshine and then find yourself sliding down again. Eventually you open your browser and as you masturbate you feel awful and you try to work out why you have to do it.</p> + <h2 id="why-is-it-difficult-to-stop">Why Is It Difficult to Stop? <a class="anchor" href="#why-is-it-difficult-to-stop"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As I explained earlier, I got interested in this subject because of my own addiction. When I finally stopped it was like magic. When I had previously tried to stop there were weeks of black depression. There would be odd days when I was comparatively cheerful but the next day back with the depression. It was like clawing your way out of a slippery pit, you feel you are near the top, you see the sunshine and then find yourself sliding down again. Eventually you open your browser and as you masturbate you feel awful and you try to work out why you have to do it.</p> <p>One of the questions I always ask online is: “do you want to stop PMO?” In a way it is a stupid question. All users (including members who dispute total abstinence) would love to stop PMO. If you ask to the most confirmed PMOer: “if you could go back to the time before you became hooked, with the knowledge you have now, would you have started PMO?”</p> <p>“NO WAY,” would be the reply.</p> <p>Say to the confirmed PMOer - someone who defends internet porn and who doesn&rsquo;t think that it cause injury to the brain (PIED, hypofrontality or the decreases in the dopamine receptors and etc.) - “do you encourage your children to use PMO?”</p> @@ -4343,12 +4385,14 @@ man and woman from performance based anxieties.&#160;<a href="#fnref: - 03-02 the Easy Method + 03-02 The Easy Method https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-02-the-easy-method/ Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:26:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-02-the-easy-method/ - <p>The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy.</p> + <h2 id="the-easy-method">The Easy Method <a class="anchor" href="#the-easy-method"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy.</p> <p>Provided that you are not a non-PMOer (who had never got addicted) or an ex-PMOer (who had quit or is in the fasting days of the porn-diet), it is essential to not quit until you have finished the book completely. This may appear to be a contradiction. Later I shall be explaining that porn do absolutely nothing for you at all. In fact, one of the many conundrums about internet porn is that when we are actually masturbating to a porn clip, we look at it and wonder why we are doing it. It is only when we have been deprived that the craving for PMO becomes precious.</p> <p>However, let us accept that, whether you like it or not, you believe you are hooked. When you believe you are hooked, you can never be completely relaxed or concentrate properly unless you are using PMO. So do not attempt to stop PMO before you have finished the whole book. This instruction to continue to masturbate using porn until you have completed the book has caused me more frustration than any other. As you read further your desire to masturbate to porn will gradually be reduced. Do not go off half-cocked; this could be fatal. Remember, all you have to do is to follow the instructions in the right order. When I first started writing on forums many of the readers also stopped purely because I had done it. They thought, “if he can do it, anybody can.”</p> <p>Over the years, I managed to persuade the ones that hadn&rsquo;t stopped to realize just how nice it is to be free! I gave my hackbook for free upon request. I worked on the basis that, even if it were the most boring book ever written, they would still read it, if only because it had been written by an ex-PMOer. I was surprised and hurt to learn that,they hadn&rsquo;t bothered to finish the book.</p> @@ -4380,12 +4424,14 @@ man and woman from performance based anxieties.&#160;<a href="#fnref: - 03-01 the Worst PMO Addict I Have Yet to Meet + 03-01 The Worst PMO Addict I Have Yet to Meet https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-01-the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet/ Tue, 20 Dec 2022 17:10:39 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-01-the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet/ - <p>Perhaps I should begin by describing my competence for writing this book. No, I am not a doctor or a psychiatrist; my qualifications are far more appropriate. I spent thirty years of my life as a confirmed fapper. In the later years I used porn on a daily bases to get orgasm(s).During my life I had made a great number of attempts to stop. I never got past a full week of abstinence, and I was still climbing up the wall, with an “annoying alarm clock beeping” in my head called craving. With most PMOers, on the health side, it&rsquo;s a question of “ I&rsquo;ll stop before it happens to me.” I had reached the stage where I knew it has caused PIED, hypofrontality (inability to control and execute action towards a goal), irritability, lack of energy, soulless eyes, mental dryness, stress and pain in the lower back, genital irritations. It bothered me, but it still didn&rsquo;t stop me.</p> + <h2 id="the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet">The Worst PMO Addict I Have Yet to Meet <a class="anchor" href="#the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Perhaps I should begin by describing my competence for writing this book. No, I am not a doctor or a psychiatrist; my qualifications are far more appropriate. I spent thirty years of my life as a confirmed fapper. In the later years I used porn on a daily bases to get orgasm(s).During my life I had made a great number of attempts to stop. I never got past a full week of abstinence, and I was still climbing up the wall, with an “annoying alarm clock beeping” in my head called craving. With most PMOers, on the health side, it&rsquo;s a question of “ I&rsquo;ll stop before it happens to me.” I had reached the stage where I knew it has caused PIED, hypofrontality (inability to control and execute action towards a goal), irritability, lack of energy, soulless eyes, mental dryness, stress and pain in the lower back, genital irritations. It bothered me, but it still didn&rsquo;t stop me.</p> <p>I felt lack of enthusiasm to go to gym or just a walk even if it’s sunny outside or simple weight lifting at home either. I had reached the stage where I gave up even trying to stop. I found excuses in substitute methods (controlled use, safe porn, porn-diet and etc. discussed later) as advocated by sexologists, forum users and medical pros - who have no idea of its effect on brain chemistry and who are themselves fooled by their &rsquo;little monster&rsquo; (not devil or satan - we will talk about monsters later) . The novelty trap and shock value provided by internet porn delivered at home with a low risk high reward deal is something that they can’t even think of. They are still in the static playboy era. And the younger ones have buried their heads under the sand so they can still continue to PMO.</p> <p>The worst part is it was not so much that I enjoyed the PMO. It was just doing it routinely, a chore - like slipping down the water slides, in fact there are brain water slides greased well by the neuro chemicals (DeltaFosB proteins made by dopamine which store emotion scripts for easy recall, will be discussing later). A simple cue such as a commercial, or a day to day stress that got ‘relieved’ temporarily by PMO is all it takes to complete the ride down the ‘waterslide’. Some time in their lives most PMOers have suffered from the illusion that they enjoy the ride, the novelty, the rush and of course the orgasm, but I never had that illusion.</p> <p>I have most times detested the porn, even when I liked the orgasm. But at all times I thought a release from PMO helped me to relax. It gave me courage and confidence, and I was always miserable when I tried to stop, never being able to visualize an enjoyable life without PMO. And so my PMO habit which had started before my marriage stayed with me during and after my marriage was over. I had experienced PIED but I blocked it out and found excuses , “it happens to every man”. Well it does of course - but &lsquo;it&rsquo; happened to me again and again. My penis, I found it difficult to get hard - when I am with real woman. Could it be because I had habituated it to work in limp mode? Later I found that it was hard for me to get hard even with porn.</p> @@ -4423,7 +4469,9 @@ Do not take anything for granted. Question not only what I tell you but also you Tue, 20 Dec 2022 16:58:54 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/02-02-sister-kenny/ - <p>You&rsquo;ve probably seen the film Sister Kenny. In case you haven&rsquo;t, it was about the time when infantile paralysis or polio was the scourge of our children. I vividly remember that the words engendered the same fear in me as the word cancer does today. The effect of polio was not only to paralyze the legs and arms but to distort the limbs. The established medical treatment was to put those limbs in irons and thus prevent the distortion. The result was paralysis for life.</p> + <h2 id="sister-kenny">Sister Kenny <a class="anchor" href="#sister-kenny"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>You&rsquo;ve probably seen the film Sister Kenny. In case you haven&rsquo;t, it was about the time when infantile paralysis or polio was the scourge of our children. I vividly remember that the words engendered the same fear in me as the word cancer does today. The effect of polio was not only to paralyze the legs and arms but to distort the limbs. The established medical treatment was to put those limbs in irons and thus prevent the distortion. The result was paralysis for life.</p> <p>Sister Kenny believed the irons inhibited recovery and proved a thousand times over that the muscles could be re-educated so that the child could walk again. However, Sister Kenny wasn&rsquo;t a doctor, she was merely a nurse. How dare she dabble in a province that was confined to qualified doctors? It didn&rsquo;t seem to matter that Sister Kenny had found the solution to the problem and had proved her solution to be effective. The children that were treated by Sister Kenny knew she was right, so did their parents, yet the established medical profession not only refused to adopt her methods but actually prevented her from practicing. It took Sister Kenny twenty years before the medical profession would accept the obvious.</p> <p>I (Allen Carr) first saw that film years before I (Allen Carr) discovered EASYWAY, The film was very interesting and no doubt there was an element of truth. However, it was equally obvious that Hollywood had used a large portion of poetic license. Sister Kenny couldn&rsquo;t possibly have discovered something that the combined knowledge of medical science had failed to discover. Surely the established medical specialists weren&rsquo;t the dinosaurs they were being portrayed as? How could it possibly have taken them twenty years to accept the facts that were staring them in the face?</p> <p>They say that fact is stranger than fiction, I apologize for accusing the makers of Sister Kenny for using poetic license. Even in this so-called enlightened age of modern communications, even having access to modern communications, I&rsquo;ve failed to get my message across.</p> @@ -4460,7 +4508,9 @@ Do not take anything for granted. 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Fear that we&rsquo;ll never be able to concentrate, handle stress or be as confident without our little crutch. Fear that our personality and character will change.</p> + <h2 id="fear">Fear <a class="anchor" href="#fear"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Fear that we will have to survive an indeterminate period of misery, deprivation and unsatisfied craving in order to be free. Fear that a night all by yourself or the eve of a test or exam will be miserable fighting uncontrollable impulses. Fear that we&rsquo;ll never be able to concentrate, handle stress or be as confident without our little crutch. Fear that our personality and character will change.</p> <p>But most of all, the fear of &lsquo;once an addict always an addict,&rsquo; that we will never be completely free and spend the rest of our lives at odd times craving the occasional porn induced orgasm. If, as I did, you have already tried all the conventional ways to quit and been through the misery of what I describe as the willpower method of stopping, you will not only be affected by that fear, but convinced you can never quit.</p> <p>If you are apprehensive, panic-stricken or feel that the time is not right for you to give up, then let me assure you that your apprehension or panic is caused by fear. That fear is not relieved by PMO but was indeed created by PMO. You didn&rsquo;t decide to fall into the porn trap. But like all traps, it is designed to ensure that you remain trapped. Ask yourself, when you viewed those first porn pictures and videos, did you decide to come back to view them as long as you have? So when are you going to quit? Tomorrow? Next year? Stop kidding yourself! The trap is designed to hold you for life. Why else do you think all these other PMO addicts don&rsquo;t quit before it kills their lives?</p> <p>As you will soon be reading, the feedbacks I got has revealed information that has exceeded my wildest aspirations of the effectiveness of my method. It has also revealed two aspects of the method that have caused me concern. The second I will be covering later.</p> @@ -4537,7 +4589,9 @@ the world would also see the light and adopt my method.</li> Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:19:35 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/01-02-warning/ - <p>Perhaps you are somewhat apprehensive about reading this book. Perhaps, like the majority of PMO addicts, the mere thought of stopping fills you with panic and although you have every intention of stopping one day, it is not today.</p> + <h2 id="warning">Warning <a class="anchor" href="#warning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Perhaps you are somewhat apprehensive about reading this book. Perhaps, like the majority of PMO addicts, the mere thought of stopping fills you with panic and although you have every intention of stopping one day, it is not today.</p> <p>If you are expecting me to inform you of the terrible health issues that PMO addicts risk, that they are susceptible to be affected by PIED (porn induced erectile disfunction), unreliable arousals, fading penetration, loss of interest in real partners,loss of control over themselves, loss of relationships, that it is a filthy, disgusting habit and that <em>YOU</em> are a stupid, spineless, weak-willed jellyfish, then I must disappoint you. Those tactics never helped me to quit and if they were going to help you, you would already have quit.</p> <p>Our Method, which I shall refer to as EASYPEASY doesn&rsquo;t work that way. Some of the things that I am about to say, you might find difficult to believe. However by the time you&rsquo;ve finished reading the book, you&rsquo;ll not only believe them, but wonder how you could ever have been brainwashed into believing otherwise.</p> <p>There is a common misapprehension that we choose to watch porn. PMO addicts ( yes addicts) no more choose to do that than alcoholics choose to become alcoholics, or heroin addicts choose to become heroin addicts. It is true that we choose to boot up the laptop, fire up the browser and visit our favourite online harem<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> tube sites. I occasionally choose to go to the cinema, but I certainly didn&rsquo;t choose to spend my whole life in the cinema theatre. The curiosity and my nature took me there but I would not have done that if I had known it would addict me and cause me my health, happiness and relationships. Only if I had heard about PIED on my first visit to that porn site?</p> @@ -4562,7 +4616,9 @@ the world would also see the light and adopt my method.</li> Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:14:52 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/01-01-preface/ - <p>This hackbook will enable you to stop PMO, immediately, painlessly, and permanently, without the need for Willpower or feeling any sense of deprivation or sacrifice. It will not judge you. It will not embarrass you. It will not put pressure on you to undergo painful measures.</p> + <h2 id="preface">Preface <a class="anchor" href="#preface"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This hackbook will enable you to stop PMO, immediately, painlessly, and permanently, without the need for Willpower or feeling any sense of deprivation or sacrifice. It will not judge you. It will not embarrass you. It will not put pressure on you to undergo painful measures.</p> <p>That goes against everything you&rsquo;ve ever been told about PMO. 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There is a common misapprehension that we choose to watch porn. PMO addicts ( yes addicts) no more choose to do that than alcoholics choose to become alcoholics, or heroin addicts choose to become heroin addicts. It is true that we choose to boot up the laptop, fire up the browser and visit our favourite online harem1 tube sites. I occasionally choose to go to the cinema, but I certainly didn’t choose to spend my whole life in the cinema theatre. The curiosity and my nature took me there but I would not have done that if I had known it would addict me and cause me my health, happiness and relationships. Only if I had heard about PIED on my first visit to that porn site?

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You’ve probably seen the film Sister Kenny. In case you haven’t, it was about the time when infantile paralysis or polio was the scourge of our children. I vividly remember that the words engendered the same fear in me as the word cancer does today. The effect of polio was not only to paralyze the legs and arms but to distort the limbs. The established medical treatment was to put those limbs in irons and thus prevent the distortion. The result was paralysis for life.

Sister Kenny believed the irons inhibited recovery and proved a thousand times over that the muscles could be re-educated so that the child could walk again. However, Sister Kenny wasn’t a doctor, she was merely a nurse. How dare she dabble in a province that was confined to qualified doctors? It didn’t seem to matter that Sister Kenny had found the solution to the problem and had proved her solution to be effective. The children that were treated by Sister Kenny knew she was right, so did their parents, yet the established medical profession not only refused to adopt her methods but actually prevented her from practicing. It took Sister Kenny twenty years before the medical profession would accept the obvious.

I (Allen Carr) first saw that film years before I (Allen Carr) discovered EASYWAY, The film was very interesting and no doubt there was an element of truth. However, it was equally obvious that Hollywood had used a large portion of poetic license. Sister Kenny couldn’t possibly have discovered something that the combined knowledge of medical science had failed to discover. Surely the established medical specialists weren’t the dinosaurs they were being portrayed as? How could it possibly have taken them twenty years to accept the facts that were staring them in the face?

They say that fact is stranger than fiction, I apologize for accusing the makers of Sister Kenny for using poetic license. Even in this so-called enlightened age of modern communications, even having access to modern communications, I’ve failed to get my message across.

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Perhaps I should begin by describing my competence for writing this book. No, I am not a doctor or a psychiatrist; my qualifications are far more appropriate. I spent thirty years of my life as a confirmed fapper. In the later years I used porn on a daily bases to get orgasm(s).During my life I had made a great number of attempts to stop. I never got past a full week of abstinence, and I was still climbing up the wall, with an “annoying alarm clock beeping” in my head called craving. With most PMOers, on the health side, it’s a question of “ I’ll stop before it happens to me.” I had reached the stage where I knew it has caused PIED, hypofrontality (inability to control and execute action towards a goal), irritability, lack of energy, soulless eyes, mental dryness, stress and pain in the lower back, genital irritations. It bothered me, but it still didn’t stop me.

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Perhaps I should begin by describing my competence for writing this book. No, I am not a doctor or a psychiatrist; my qualifications are far more appropriate. I spent thirty years of my life as a confirmed fapper. In the later years I used porn on a daily bases to get orgasm(s).During my life I had made a great number of attempts to stop. I never got past a full week of abstinence, and I was still climbing up the wall, with an “annoying alarm clock beeping” in my head called craving. With most PMOers, on the health side, it’s a question of “ I’ll stop before it happens to me.” I had reached the stage where I knew it has caused PIED, hypofrontality (inability to control and execute action towards a goal), irritability, lack of energy, soulless eyes, mental dryness, stress and pain in the lower back, genital irritations. It bothered me, but it still didn’t stop me.

I felt lack of enthusiasm to go to gym or just a walk even if it’s sunny outside or simple weight lifting at home either. I had reached the stage where I gave up even trying to stop. I found excuses in substitute methods (controlled use, safe porn, porn-diet and etc. discussed later) as advocated by sexologists, forum users and medical pros - who have no idea of its effect on brain chemistry and who are themselves fooled by their ’little monster’ (not devil or satan - we will talk about monsters later) . The novelty trap and shock value provided by internet porn delivered at home with a low risk high reward deal is something that they can’t even think of. They are still in the static playboy era. And the younger ones have buried their heads under the sand so they can still continue to PMO.

The worst part is it was not so much that I enjoyed the PMO. It was just doing it routinely, a chore - like slipping down the water slides, in fact there are brain water slides greased well by the neuro chemicals (DeltaFosB proteins made by dopamine which store emotion scripts for easy recall, will be discussing later). A simple cue such as a commercial, or a day to day stress that got ‘relieved’ temporarily by PMO is all it takes to complete the ride down the ‘waterslide’. Some time in their lives most PMOers have suffered from the illusion that they enjoy the ride, the novelty, the rush and of course the orgasm, but I never had that illusion.

I have most times detested the porn, even when I liked the orgasm. But at all times I thought a release from PMO helped me to relax. It gave me courage and confidence, and I was always miserable when I tried to stop, never being able to visualize an enjoyable life without PMO. And so my PMO habit which had started before my marriage stayed with me during and after my marriage was over. I had experienced PIED but I blocked it out and found excuses , “it happens to every man”. Well it does of course - but ‘it’ happened to me again and again. My penis, I found it difficult to get hard - when I am with real woman. Could it be because I had habituated it to work in limp mode? Later I found that it was hard for me to get hard even with porn.

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The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy.

Provided that you are not a non-PMOer (who had never got addicted) or an ex-PMOer (who had quit or is in the fasting days of the porn-diet), it is essential to not quit until you have finished the book completely. This may appear to be a contradiction. Later I shall be explaining that porn do absolutely nothing for you at all. In fact, one of the many conundrums about internet porn is that when we are actually masturbating to a porn clip, we look at it and wonder why we are doing it. It is only when we have been deprived that the craving for PMO becomes precious.

However, let us accept that, whether you like it or not, you believe you are hooked. When you believe you are hooked, you can never be completely relaxed or concentrate properly unless you are using PMO. So do not attempt to stop PMO before you have finished the whole book. This instruction to continue to masturbate using porn until you have completed the book has caused me more frustration than any other. As you read further your desire to masturbate to porn will gradually be reduced. Do not go off half-cocked; this could be fatal. Remember, all you have to do is to follow the instructions in the right order. When I first started writing on forums many of the readers also stopped purely because I had done it. They thought, “if he can do it, anybody can.”

Over the years, I managed to persuade the ones that hadn’t stopped to realize just how nice it is to be free! I gave my hackbook for free upon request. I worked on the basis that, even if it were the most boring book ever written, they would still read it, if only because it had been written by an ex-PMOer. I was surprised and hurt to learn that,they hadn’t bothered to finish the book.

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As I explained earlier, I got interested in this subject because of my own addiction. When I finally stopped it was like magic. When I had previously tried to stop there were weeks of black depression. There would be odd days when I was comparatively cheerful but the next day back with the depression. It was like clawing your way out of a slippery pit, you feel you are near the top, you see the sunshine and then find yourself sliding down again. Eventually you open your browser and as you masturbate you feel awful and you try to work out why you have to do it.

One of the questions I always ask online is: “do you want to stop PMO?” In a way it is a stupid question. All users (including members who dispute total abstinence) would love to stop PMO. If you ask to the most confirmed PMOer: “if you could go back to the time before you became hooked, with the knowledge you have now, would you have started PMO?”

“NO WAY,” would be the reply.

Say to the confirmed PMOer - someone who defends internet porn and who doesn’t think that it cause injury to the brain (PIED, hypofrontality or the decreases in the dopamine receptors and etc.) - “do you encourage your children to use PMO?”

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Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it’s an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked.

It is the only trap in nature which has does not require a lot of hard work to set up. The thing that springs the trap is not that all porn clips feature young, high quality, sexy models; it’s that most of the thumbnails on any porn web page are ugly looking, unattractive, amateurish, home-made clips of unknown models. If the first timer’s first look at a tube page was only filled with angelic beauties, professional models and high quality then the alarm bells would ring. And as intelligent human beings, we could then understand why half the adult population was systematically addicted to watching something that is cutting down their very same potential to do what they are viewing. In many known and yet unknown ways porn cuts down sexual performance and the feeling of satisfaction.

But because that first “peek” has “stains and holes,” a mishmash of low quality clips of not-so-hot models, our young minds are reassured that we will never become hooked, and we think that because we are not enjoying them we can stop whenever we want to. It is the only drug in nature that prevents you from achieving your aim. Our curiosity brings us to its door steps. You dare not even click on all of the thumbnails because some of them will make you feel sick and throw up! If you were to accidentally click on an “I-did-not-see-that” clip - all you want to do is get away from the site and close your laptop.

With women, the aim is to be the sophisticated modern young lady. We have all seen them acting up and looking absolutely ridiculous. By the time the boys have learnt to look tough and the girls have learnt to look sophisticated, they wish they had never started in the first place. I wonder whether women ever look sophisticated when they discuss the top 10 porn sites, or whether this is a figment of our imaginations created by internet porn companies.

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The truth is that the most stressful periods for any creature are early childhood and adolescence. We tend to confuse responsibility with stress. A PMOer’s life - like a drug addict - automatically becomes more stressful because PMO does not relax you or relieve stress, as some try to make you believe. Just the reverse: it actually causes you to become more nervous and stressed. Internet porn is as fake in its promises for pleasure and crutch as its actors are. If you had never learned any life skills to cope the stress and strains of day to day life you are not going to get any better with this fake and disgusting crutch. Worse you are going to add more bales of straw on the old camel’s back.

Even those users who kick the habit (most do, one or more times during their lives) can lead perfectly happy lives yet suddenly become hooked again. The whole business of PMO is like wandering into a giant maze. As soon as we enter the maze our minds become misted and clouded, and we spend the rest of our lives trying to escape. Many of us eventually do, only to find that we get trapped again at a later date. I spent thirty-three years trying to escape from that maze. Like all PMOers, I couldn’t understand it. However, due to a combination of unusual circumstances, none of which reflect any credit on me, I wanted to know why previously it had been so desperately difficult to stop and yet, when I finally did, it was not only easy but enjoyable.

Since stopping PMO my hobby has been to resolve the many conundrums associated with porn. It is a complex and fascinating puzzle and - like a Rubik’s Cube - practically impossible to solve. However, like all complicated puzzles, if you know the solution, it is easy! I have the solution to stopping porn easily. I will lead you out of the maze and ensure that you never wander into it again. All you have to do is follow the instructions. If you take a wrong turn, the rest of the instructions will be pointless. Let me emphasize that anybody can find it easy to stop but first we need to establish the facts. No, I do not mean the scare facts. I know you are already aware of them. There is already enough information on the evils of PMO. If that was going to stop you, you would already have stopped. I mean, why do we find it difficult to stop? In order to answer this question we need to know the real reason why we are still doing PMO.

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We all start PMOing for many reasons, usually social pressures or our biological curiosity, but once we feel we are becoming hooked, why do we carry on using porn? No regular PMOer knows why he or she looks at porn. If PMOers knew the true reason, they would stop doing it. The true answer is the same for all PMOers but the variety of replies is infinite, I find this part of the consultation the most amusing and at the same time the most pathetic.

All PMOers know in their heart of hearts that they are fools. They know that they had no need to use porn or internet porn before they became hooked. Most of them can remember that their first ‘peek’ was a mix of revulsion and novel curiosity. They then filter out and get “skilled” at “locating” and “bookmarking” the right porn sites. They know that they had to work hard in order to become hooked.

The most annoying part is that they sense that non-addicts - most women, older guys, people living in countries where hi-speed internet porn is not available “on tap” - are not missing anything and that they are laughing at them.

However, PMOers are intelligent, rational human beings. They know that they are taking enormous future risks and so they spend a lot of time rationalizing their ‘habit’. The actual reason why PMOers continue is a subtle combination of the factors that I will elaborate in the next two chapters. They are:

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    Erotic novelty of the internet porn is a mental ‘drug’ and internet porn beats anything that is known to mankind and its streaming straight to your home for free ! We are not even talking VR virtual reality here. Porn triggers the ‘flooding’ of dopamine in our brain. Dopamine amps up the brain reward circuitry to produce experiences and feels of cravings and pleasure by locking themselves into ‘receptors’. More dopamine more wanting. Less dopamine no wanting. New experiences, tasty food - more dopamine - more wanting. Sex and sex related stuff gives the biggest injection of dopamine in the reward circuits. Dopamine is not the final pleasure stuff, if it were you would feel happy when you are done with it, but it is only a brain chemical that encourages seeking and action in you. The real pleasure is produced by opioids. More dopamine more opioids more action more happy feelings.

    So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. All of which will now be stored as a script in your brain for easy access next time. I call this a ‘water slide’. Next time at the cue - a sexy commercial or alone time or stress or feeling a little down - you are ready to take a ride on the ‘water slide’. One more thing is that every time to repeat this you are ‘greasing’ it as well - so it is active, alive and more easier to slide the next time.

    As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating. Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish, ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you won’t on your first time.

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    This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost.

    Going back to the earlier discussion - in this cycle as you crossed the ‘red line’ you also trigger emotions such as guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety and fear - which in turn raise dopamine levels as well. Now the brain may mistakenly associate feelings of anxiety and fear as sexual arousal. This perpetual cycle is only broken by natural causes - fortunately sooner or later. With its free access and privacy it provides boundless harem-like novelty. The dopamine can be theoretically kept very high for a very very long time. I can be satisfied with one lobster once in awhile. But Internet porn is different. It is even worse than drugs. Don’t let me make you nervous. I will shortly show you how to be free from this slavery.

    Now our human body has a self-correcting system by which the number of dopamine and opioid receptors are cut short when frequent and daily ‘flooding’ of dopamine is detected. Unfortunately - these receptors are also needed for receiving dopamine and to keep us even and balanced to handle the inevitable and normal day-to-day stresses. But this natural nominal amount of dopamine will not be absorbed efficiently with decreased receptors and you will feel mores tressed and irritated than normal.

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    This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I will explain more about this later.

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    The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict’ we think we just ‘got into the habit’. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that’s exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.

    Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, resulting in the feeling of fulfilment and pleasure that the action gives to the PMOer. In the early days, when we first start PMOing, the withdrawal pangs and their relief are so slight that we are not even aware that they exist. When we begin to masturbate regularly to internet porn we think it is because we’ve either come to enjoy them or got into the ‘habit’. The truth is we’re already hooked; we do not realize it, but that little monster is already inside our stomach and every now and again we have to feed it.

    All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster. The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had before he became hooked in the first place.

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    You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we +

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    You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain goes on. It is a chain for life - UNLESS YOU BREAK IT.

    The whole business of PMO is like wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure you feel when you take them off. There are three main reasons why PMOers cannot see things that way:

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      It is this ‘back to front’ reverse process that makes all drugs difficult to kick. Picture the panic state of a heroin addict who has no heroin. Now picture the utter joy when that addict can finally plunge a needle into his vein. Can you visualize someone actually getting pleasure by injecting themselves, or does the mere thought fill you with horror? Non-heroin addicts don’t suffer that panic feeling.

      The heroin doesn’t relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a 14 year old in 2008 - didn’t suffer the empty feeling of needing internet porn or start to panic when they are off- line. Non-PMOers cannot understand how PMOers can possibly obtain pleasure from two dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. And do you know something? PMOers themselves cannot understand why they do it after some time either.

      We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don’t non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their ’little monster’?

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      Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: ‘I need to eat.’ And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.

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      Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: ‘I need to eat.’ And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.

      PMOing appears to be almost identical. The empty, insecure feeling which we know as: ‘wanting or needing an PMO orgasm’ is identical to a hunger for food, although one will not satisfy the other. Like hunger, there is no physical pain and the feeling is so imperceptible that we are not even aware of it between PMO sessions. It’s only if we want to masturbate and aren’t able to reach internet for porn that we become aware of any discomfort. But when we do PMO we feel satisfied.

      It is this similarity to eating which helps to fool PMOers into believing that they receive some genuine pleasure. Some PMOers find it very difficult to grasp that there is no pleasure or crutch, whatsoever to PMO. Some argue: “How can you say there is no crutch? When I orgasm up then I’llfeel less nervous than before.”

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    2. Eating doesn’t create hunger and genuinely relieves it, whereas the first PMO starts the craving for dopamine and each subsequent one, far from relieving it, ensures that you suffer it for the rest of life.
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    This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.

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    This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.

    On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience, I also refer to the ‘habit’. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’1 - we have to then have more bizarre and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting… not in the killing. If we don’t then panic sets in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great!

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    This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.

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    This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.

    You feel better than you did before starting this PMO session but you are in fact more nervous and less relaxed than you would be as a non-PMOer, like someone who is living in Loma Linda or in an Amish village, even though you are actually PMOing and living in your supposed “porn paradise.” This position is even more ridiculous than wearing tight shoes because as you go through life an increasing amount of the discomfort remains even when the shoes are removed.

    Once the orgasm is achieved, the dopamine rapidly begins to leave the brain, causing a mood dip. Which explains why the PMOer wants to ‘edge’2 and switch through multiple browser windows as they seek and search. As I said, the ‘habit’ doesn’t exist. The real reason why every user goes on using internet porn is because of that little porn monster inside his stomach. Every now and again he has to feed it. The PMOer himself will decide when he does that and it tends to be on four types of occasion or a combination of them.

    These occasions are:

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    What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If you think about it, what other types of occasion are there in our lives; apart from sleep? The truth is that PMO neither relieves boredom and stress nor promotes concentration and relaxation. It is all just illusion. Apart from being a drug, PMO is also a destroyer of happiness and virility.

    In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes, print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’ and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive without knowing the difference between food and poison.

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    Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!

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    Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!

    When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were titillating but most were disgusting, causing you to avert your eyes away. Like you would if had accidentally glanced a feeding mother’s breast. And some of us are even revolted with what they saw when the star reminded them of someone dear to their heart or a scene which recalled their own instance of being the victim. Some don’t feel like it to browse and masturbate at the same time. It may be hard to believe for you but the non-PMOs, who don’t PMO after their first time, are the lucky ones. They actually decided that it was not their cup of tea. It must be hard for you to believe but stay with me.

    How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even after a hard day? Why not? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That’s all.

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    It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.

    To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to become hooked, and this is why it is difficult to stop teenagers. Because they are skilled in seeking and finding material, they know online privacy options and can clean their tracks - if they still feel some stigma and they (wrongfully) believe they can stop whenever they want to. Why do they not learn from us? Then again, why did we not learn from our PMOers and addicts?

    Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of ‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying is the ritual of relieving those pangs.

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    Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.

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    Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.

    Ask a user who believes that he sticks to a certain actor or genre - only because he likes something about the star or the theme (if any) of the clip: “If you cannot get your normal brand of porn and can only obtain a poor or unsafe brand, do you stop masturbating?” No way. A PMOer will masturbate to anything rather than abstain and it doesn’t matter if he has to switch to escalating themes, different sex-orientation-themes, look-alike actresses, dangerous settings shocking relationships etc. To begin with they taste awful but if you persevere you will learn to like them. Most PMOers will also try to seek masturbation even after having real sex (unfulfilment, porn-induced unrealistic expectations etc.), or after a long, stressful work day, fever, colds, flu, sore throats and even when admitted in hospitals.

    Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wanted then it makes no sense to be with your laptop. During my conversation some PMOers find it alarming to realize they are drug addicts and think it will make it even more difficult to stop. In fact, it is all good news for two important reasons:

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    You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc. The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn’t bother the PMOers.

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    A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they’d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn’t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.

    PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their parents while visiting for family get togethers etc. with little discomfort to themselves. In fact, most PMOers have extended periods during which they abstain without effort. Even in my case I would quite happily go a week or so without a PMO incident. In the later years as a PMOer I actually used to look forward to these days when I could stop choking my penis (what a ridiculous ‘habit’).

    The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the ‘habit’ but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood.

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    You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.

    Not all the amateurs are ‘amateurs’ on these tube sites, oversized body parts and overcharged scenarios are the norm, aided by a bit of the ‘viagran’ help.

    As I say, the actual porn addiction is not the main problem. It just acts as a catalyst to keep our minds confused over the real problem: the brainwashing. It may be of consolation to lifelong and heavy PMOers to know that it is just as easy for them to stop as casual PMOers. In a peculiar way. it is easier. The further you go along with the ‘habit’, the more it drags you down and the greater the gain when you stop.

    It may be of further consolation for you to know that the rumours that occasionally circulate that the neural pathways created are there for life, and so at the right (or wrong) time and with strong stimuli you will be sliding again down the ‘water slide’ of internet porn and masturbation to permanently destroy your real life sex are untrue.

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    How or why do we start PMOing in the first place? To understand this fully you need to examine the powerful effect of the supernormal stimulus. We all tend to think we are intelligent, dominant human beings determining our paths through life. We act and act frequently when our brain reward circuit are rewarded. Nobel laureate Nikolaas Tinbergen coined the term “supranormal stimulus.” He said mammals could be tricked into preferring fake eggs and mates. Female birds, for example, struggled to sit on larger-than life, vividly spotted plaster eggs while their own pale, dappled eggs perished untended.

    The stimulation here in internet porn is not it brings stimulating actors and themes to your home - it is a genie at your bidding to create a harem in your mind. You can switch between genres and theme, home-made and viewer rated, commented and discussed, so rapid and so easy. We absolutely are not ready for the high speed internet porn and our brains are not designed to handle this supranormal stimuli.

    We can have an ‘information overload’ from the same internet but our reward circuits are not going to squirt dopamine at the levels when ‘porn overload’ is involved. We are evolutionarily programmed to seek and access sex related stuff. And we wrongly appraise the stimulus mostly based on this reward circuit action. If all you wanted is to masturbate why can’t you just use one clip and get the business done?

    Here is another question - next time after a long day or some stressful incident can you consciously embellish your self-talk with “Do you know what I would really enjoy today? The marvellous warm glow of dopamine rush going to my online harem.” You will find that even people who dislike PMO will join you.

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    There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.

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    There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.

    From our earliest years our subconscious minds are bombarded daily with information telling us that sex is good and that the most precious thing on this earth is to ‘achieve’ orgasm. Girls are taught to achieve it and claim it’s because they were wrongly suppressed of their sexual side for a very long time and still are. You think I exaggerate? Watch any TV or movie plot and you will see the mix-up of the amative (touch, smell, voice etc.) and the propagative (orgasmic) sides of sex. The impact of this does not register on our conscious minds but the sleeping partner, the subconscious mind, has time to absorb it. What the message is really saying is, “The most precious thing on this earth, my last thought and action, will be the goal of orgasm.” If you don’t have an orgasm then you are an old man with zero libido.

    Our children are being bombarded by sex and porn clips and many don’t even know how to protect them from it all. Large hoardings and magazine adverts are loaded with sexual innuendo. Some of the pop videos are extremely suggestive - again they hide behind free speech. Don’t be vexed and feel powerless about it. Make it a game and find you which of the components they are using - is it novelty, shock value, color, size, taboo etc. If the kids are pre-teen some of these can be disclosed to them and it would make an excellent show-and-tell game.

    A while back there was a wave of ‘leaked’ private videos of celebrities on the internet. If the youngster is too smitten by their favourite star, even if the conscious mind blames the ‘leak’ on the blood thirsty internet paparazzi, the ‘sleeping partner’ is patiently digesting the notion that, “yes, even my shambolic hero does it and if I don’t, I won’t look the part.”

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    True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP1, Reboot2 forums, underground PUA3, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn’t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.

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    True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP1, Reboot2 forums, underground PUA3, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn’t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.

    Ironically, the most powerful force in this melee of confusion is the PMOer himself. It is a fallacy that they are weak-willed or are physically weak specimens. You have to be physically strong in order to cope with an addiction after you know it is. This is one of the reasons why PMOers refuse to accept the overwhelming statistics that prove that internet porn with its ‘novelty’ cripples your brain. Add to that the sexologists who are doing half-baked studies and declare PMO is not an issue - they just help to add to the confusion.

    Everyone knows a friend who PMOed every day - he started with the ‘static’ to internet porn, always horny in real life, chasing girls and you never doubted him to have sex problems of course. You want to believe him. He never complained about any ED right? Guys and girls like them refuse even to consider the hundreds of ex-addicts and non-PMOers who painfully recount their difficulties. It is the “little monster” brain chemical addiction and the “big monster” - illusions and delusions. In this hackbook, I’ve put together almost all the sorts of brainwashing a PMOer can suffer from. There will always be a few out there that I haven’t touched upon.

    Even more painful is they think of themselves as unsuccessful losers and insufferable introverts. A possible fact is that a PMO friend could have been more interesting in person if he hadn’t put himself down for seeking self-pleasure.

    If you do a small survey among your online forum members, friends and colleagues, you will find that most PMOers are, in fact, strong-willed people. They tend to be self-employed, business executives or in certain specialized professions, such as doctors4, lawyers, policemen, teachers, salesmen, nurses, secretaries, housewives with children, etc. In other words, anybody leading a stressful existence. Yes, I did include women and mothers. It’s the brain and it’s the same for them too. The main delusion of the PMOer is that porn helps to masturbate to orgasm and that relieves stress. This tends to be associated with the dominant type, the type that takes on responsibility and stress and, of course, that is the type that we admire and therefore tend to copy. Another group that tends to get hooked are people in monotonous jobs because the other main reason for PMOing is boredom. However, the idea that internet porn relieves boredom is also an illusion, I am afraid.

    As a society we get all uptight about glue-sniffing, heroin addiction, etc. Actual deaths from glue-sniffing do not amount to ten per annum, and deaths from heroin are less than a hundred a year in this country. There is another drug, internet porn, on which over 45 per cent of us become hooked at some time in our lives and the majority spend the rest of their lives regretting it. Some even don’t know that their ED is due to this.

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    PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why?

    Constant exposure to internet porn re-wires your brain. You need to start building resistance to this brainwashing, just as if you were buying a car from a second-hand car dealer. You would be nodding politely but you would not believe a word the man was saying. So don’t believe everything they say either - that you must have sex as much as you can and you must have it exceptional good. And that in the absence of real sex you claim it by the substitute called internet porn - which is only a component of the good old porn.

    And don’t play ‘safe’ porn game either - because your “little porn monster” invented that scheme to lure you. Even the content - ‘amateur’? Really? Is there a certification authority that certifies it? Tube sites and porn producers gather site visitor profiles and cater to their needs. If they see a trend in crowd sourced collection of a particular genre they will focus on that and get content out ASAP. The statistics of what genre users like is collected to the level of how long and which portion the users were preferring. Do not be fooled by their educational intent or the safe female oriented clips (for you ladies). Start asking yourself:

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      I find this brainwashing aspect the most difficult of all to explain. Why is it that an otherwise rational, intelligent human being becomes a complete imbecile about his own addiction? It pains me to confess that out of the thousands of people that I have assisted in kicking the habit, I (not Allen Carr) was the biggest idiot of all.

      At the age of thirteen, although I was doing well at school and games, I was still an insufferable introvert. I read books from the library that were not within my main study list. However, I can see that I was attracted to erotica. I started masturbating to TV programs, song and dance sequences etc. I must have to have it every day. The tired feeling I felt was misappropriated by my ‘little porn monster’ as work stress. I didn’t know my “I-must-masturbate-as-I-am-entitled” attitude was the one that created the ‘stress’ in the first place. Then I got pictures and GIFs via email on my laptop - the first step towards electronic porn. The colour and texture of the images were amazing for me at that time - won’t be now for sure. Then came dial-up but still they were predominantly static pictures. Then came downloadable videos. It’s a pain to download and watch now - but it was heaven sent then as we were coming out of the static porn era! Oh, the streaming tube sites haven’t arrived yet.

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      I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn.

      At the age of forty, I was visiting my online harem daily, drinking ‘socially’ (whatever that means) and smoking ‘sometimes’ but not so often. I had wrongly subscribed to misguided ideas of ‘moderation’ and ‘entitlement’. I had reached the stage where I couldn’t get through a single day without reaching out to porn in the night. With most PMOers, the triggers are the normal stresses of life, like answering the telephone or socializing.

      When I experienced PIED - I knew it was killing my virility. There was no way I could kid myself otherwise. I am smart enough not to ‘project’ the porn fantasies on to real life. But it was like pacifying a dog straining at its leash. But why I couldn’t see what it was doing to me mentally, I could not understand. It was almost jumping up and biting me on the nose. The ridiculous thing is that most PMOers suffer the delusion at some time in their life that they enjoy internet porn because it is ‘normal’ and ‘healthy’. I never suffered that delusion, I PMOed because I thought enjoying sex is a ‘birthright’ and I am only doing a normal thing.

      Since it was easier at most times for me to get internet porn than a partner I thought I am doing the normal thing. Now I am a non-PMOer, the most difficult part is trying to believe that those days actually happened. It’s like awakening from a nightmare and that is about the size of it. Internet porn is a supranormal drug. It is weakening your de-stressing mechanisms, your virility and your energy. The worst aspect of PMO isn’t the injury to your health or manliness, it is the warping of the mind. You search for any plausible excuse to go on.

      I remember at one stage switching to static images, a failed attempt to cut down on internet porn, in the belief that it was less harmful and I could reign in my ‘habit’. I failed to see the ‘novelty’ and the ‘shock’ demands from my ‘little monster’ to just get more dopamine. Did I ‘stay’ within my boundaries? I ‘favorited’ 2 dimensional photos and my harem collection saw pictures and videos of ‘mild’ type porn rotating in and out like musical chair. When their ‘music’ stopped they ‘exited’. I didn’t understand the novelty-seeking, shock-seeking nature of my brain.

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      Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.

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      Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.

      Most PMOers swear that they only watch static and soft porn and so they are OK. They are actually straining at the leash and thus fighting with their willpower to resist temptations. If they do this too often and for too long they will debit their willpower considerably and fail in other life projects where willpower is of much great value, like in daily exercise, dieting etc. Continuous failure in those areas will make them feel miserable and guilty and very soon they will find themselves back to their entitled relief. If not, they will vent their anger and depression onto their loved ones.

      The answer is that once you have become addicted to internet porn, the brainwashing is increased. Your subconscious mind knows that the little monster has to be fed and you block everything else from your mind. As I have already stated, it is fear that keeps people quitting, the fear of that empty, insecure feeling that you get when you stop supplying the brain with dopamine flooding. Just because you are not aware of it doesn’t mean it isn’t there. You don’t have to understand it any more than a cat needs to understand where the under-floor hot-water pipes are. It just knows that if it sits in a certain place it gets the feeling of warmth.

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      It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I’ve frequently referred to ‘giving up’ PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to ‘giving up’, but to stopping, quitting or the true position: ESCAPING!

      The only thing that persuades us to PMO in the first place is all the other people doing it. We feel we are missing out. We work so hard to become hooked, yet nobody ever finds out what they have been missing. But every time we see another new video clip it reassures us that there must be something in it, otherwise people wouldn’t be doing it - and it wouldn’t be such big business all over the world. Even when he has kicked the habit, the ex-PMOer feels he is being deprived when a discussion on a sexy entertainer, singer or even a porn star comes up at a party or other social function. She or he must be good to have all my friends talk about them, no? Do they have ‘hot’ pictures of her in my tube site? He feels safe. He can have just one ‘peek’ that night. And, before he knows it, he is hooked again.

      This brainwashing is extremely powerful and you need to be aware of its effects. I have heard scare stories about wicked men giving heroin mixed candies to kids at schoolyards. The concept of addiction and being compelled to go on taking the drug, filled me with horror. Even to this day, in spite of the fact that I am fairly convinced that ‘pot’ is not addictive, I would not dare take one puff of marijuana. How ironic that I should have ended up a porn junky. Technology will continue to grow and we will have even faster tube sites and more faster access methods. The industry is investing millions in Virtual Reality so it will become the next best thing. The point is, do we know where we are going? Are we equipped with an under armour of defence so we can enjoy the benefits of technology yet at the same time protect ourselves from its bad effects?

      We are about to remove the brainwashing. It is not the non-PMOer who is being deprived but the poor user who is forfeiting a lifetime of:

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    As I explained earlier, PMOers think they do it for enjoyment, relaxation or some sort of education. In fact, this an illusion. The actual reason is the relief of withdrawal pangs. In the early days we use the porn as a curious and novel thing or even educational or as a rebel. We can take it or leave it. However, the subtle chain has started. Our subconscious mind begins to learn that internet porn and masturbation taken at certain times tends to be pleasurable. The more we become hooked on the drug, the greater the need to relieve the withdrawal pangs and the further the PMO drags you down and the more you are fooled into believing it is doing the opposite. It all happens so slowly, so gradually, you are not even aware of it. Each day you feel no different from the day before. Most young PMOers don’t even realize they are hooked until they actually try to stop and even then many won’t admit to it. A few stalwarts just keep their heads in the sand all their lives,trying to convince themselves and other people that they enjoy it.

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    I am referring not only to the great tragedies of life but also to the minor stresses, the socializing, the telephone call, the anxieties of the housewife with noisy young children and so on. Let us use the telephone conversation as an example. For most people the telephone is slightly stressful, particularly for the businessman. Most calls aren’t from satisfied customers or your boss congratulating you. There’s usually some sort of aggravation - something going wrong or somebody making demands. Then he or she comes home to the mundane family life of kids screaming and wife’s emotional demands on you. His already PMO weakened de-stressors are in no way ready to take the aggravation. At that time the PMOer, if he isn’t already doing so, will fantasize the relief of internet porn that he promised himself that night. He will even allow himself to “take one step more” into the ‘forbidden’ area that he had previously self-excluded. He doesn’t know why he does this but he does know that for some reason it appears to help.

    What has actually happened is this: without being conscious of it, he has already been suffering aggravation (i.e. the withdrawal pangs). By partially relieving that aggravation at the same time as normal stress, the total stress is reduced and the PMOer gets a boost. At this point the boost is not, in fact, an illusion. The Internet porn user will feel better than before. However, even when using porn to masturbate he or she is more tense than if he were a non-PMOer because the more you go into the drug, the more it knocks you down and the less it restores you when you masturbate. I promised no shock treatment. In the example I am about to give, I am not trying to shock you, I am merely emphasizing that PMO destroy your nerves rather than relax them.

    Try to imagine getting to the stage where you cannot get aroused even with a very sexy and attractive partner. Just for a moment pause and try to visualize life where one very lovely and charming woman has to compete and fail with all the virtual porn stars who are in your ‘harem’ to get your attention! Try to imagine the frame of mind of a man who, issued with that warning, actually continues PMOing and then dies without ever having had real sex with this charming and willing real woman. I had read real life stories like that from men and dismissed them as weirdos. In fact, I used to wish a doctor would tell me that this weird condition would happen if I continue PMO; then I would have stopped. Yet I was already fully expecting that PIED and hypofrontality where I am guaranteed to lose in a brain war. I didn’t think of myself as an impotent, just a heavy PMOer. Now, let’s talk about the stress that this is putting on me.

    Such weird stories as the above are not fakes. That is what this awful ‘novelty’ porn drug does to you. As you go through life, it systematically takes away your nerve and courage. The more it takes your courage away, the more you are deluded into believing the porn is doing the opposite.

    Have you ever been overtaken by panic when you are out on business travel and the hotel WiFi is down or too slow? Non-PMOers do not suffer from it. The internet porn drug causes that feeling. At the same time, as you go through life, PMO not only destroys your nerves but keeps building a powerful neural ‘water slide’, DeltaFosB, progressively destroying your ability to say no.

    By the time the PMOer reaches the stage at which it has killed his virility, he believes the PMO is his new girlfriend and cannot face life without it. Get it clear in your head that Internet porn is not relieving your nerves; it is slowly but steadily destroying them. One of the great gains of breaking the ‘habit’ is the return of your natural confidence and self-assurance.

    There is no need to self-rate based on your ability to get hard or to satisfy a woman. However, you do ‘know’ deep inside that this is slavery. It is not freedom. And that freedom cannot be achieved by continuing to ‘grease’ - repeating the same behaviour and energizing the ‘water slide’ neural pathways of your brain in ways that undercut your happiness in general and not to mention your libido.

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    As soon as you get into your bed - and if you are like many people you are already on your favorite tube site - you will probably have already forgotten about it until I reminded you. It has become second nature. Another fallacy about PMOing is that it relieves boredom. Boredom is a frame of mind. The only time that happens is when you have been deprived for a long time or are trying to cut down, or during those first few PMO sessions after a failed attempt to stop.

    The true situation is this: when you are addicted to internet porn’s supranormal novelty and then you decide to abstain from internet porn, there is something missing. If you have something to occupy your mind that isn’t stressful, you can go for long periods without being bothered by the absence of the drug. However, when you are bored there’s nothing to take your mind off it, so you feed the monster. When you are indulging yourself (i.e. not trying to stop or cut down), even firing up your incognito browser becomes subconscious. The PMOer can perform this ritual automatically. If any PMOer tries to remember the session during the last week, he can only remember a small proportion of them - e.g. the very last one or after a long abstinence.

    The truth is that PMOing tend to increase boredom indirectly because orgasms make you feel lethargic and instead of undertaking some energetic activity, PMOers tend to prefer lounge around, bored, relieving their withdrawal pangs. This is why countering the brainwashing is so important. Because it’s a fact that PMOers tend to masturbate when they are bored and that we’re wired to interpret PMO as interesting. It doesn’t occur to us to question the fact how a two dimensional supranormal stimulus relieves boredom.

    We’ve also been brainwashed into believing that sex - even a bad sex - aids relaxation. It is a fact that when under stress or sad, couples want to have sex. In the absence of discrimination between amative and propagative sex, the goal is set to achieve orgasms by hook or by crook. Next time you do this watch how you both want to get away from each other as soon as it’s over. It is obvious that if they had just decided to cuddle, speak, hug and touch each other and go to sleep without the mandatory orgasms, the couple would have felt relieved. Well, if in the process, they wanted to have the propagative part then by all means they can but that is a topic not meant to be discussed in this book.

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    Sex and masturbation do not help concentration. That is just another illusion. When you are trying to concentrate, you automatically try to avoid distractions. So when a PMOer wants to concentrate he doesn’t even have to think about it. He automatically PMOs, partially ending the craving, gets on with the matter in hand and has already forgotten that he just PMOed. Sex in general do not help concentration. After years of masturbation your brain changes affect abilities such as assessing, planning and impulse control. The PMOer is already suffering: that little monster wants his fix.

    You are also stressed to provide novelty for the next PMO session as the same stuff will not generate enough dopamine and opioids. You have to “roam the internet streets” for novelty - all the while fighting the pull to cross the line towards shock. This creates more stress. After you orgasm, you feel unfulfilled as well.

    Concentration is also affected adversely for another reason. Your dopamine receptors have already started to get reduced by building up natural tolerance to these large surges, reducing the benefit of the smaller dopamine boosts from natural de-stressors.

    In fact, your concentration and inspiration will be greatly improved as this process is reversed. For some it will be the concentration aspect that prevents them from succeeding when using the willpower method. They could put up with the irritability and bad temper but when they really needed to concentrate on something difficult they have to have that porn fix. I can well remember the panic I felt when I discovered that the hotel has no internet connection and I had this huge presentation the day after.

    The loss of concentration that PMOers suffer when they try to escape is not, in fact, due to your abstinence from sex, let alone PMO. When you are addicted to something, you have mental blocks. When you have such a block, what do you do? You fire up the browser. That doesn’t cure the mental block, so then what do you do? You do what you have to do: you get on with it, just as non-PMOers do.

    When you are a PMOer nothing gets blamed on the cause. PMOers never have EDs; they just have an occasional down time. The moment you stop using, everything that goes wrong in your life is blamed on the fact that you’ve stopped. Now when you have a mental block, instead of just getting on with it, you start to say, “if only I could check out my favourites now, it would solve my problem.” You then start to question your decision to quit and escape from this slavery.

    If you believe that PMOing is a genuine aid to concentration, worrying about it will guarantee that you won’t be able to concentrate. It’s the doubting, not the physical withdrawal pangs, that causes the problem. Always remember: it is PMOer who suffers pangs and not non-PMOers. When I quit I went overnight from using everyday to zero without any apparent loss of concentration.

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    Most PMOers think that PMO helps to relax them. The truth is that internet porn used in PMO acts like a chemical stimulant. The frantic search to get the fix in those “dark alleys of the internet” and the internal struggle to reign in the dog straining at its leash for more shocking clips does not sound much like an activity of relaxation to me.

    One of the favourite PMO sessions for most is the one after a trip to a new place or after along day. As the night rolls in we stop working; we sit down and relax, relieve our hunger and thirst and are then completely satisfied. However, the poor PMOer cannot relax, as he has another hunger to satisfy. He thinks of the PMO as the icing on the cake but it is the ’little monster’ that needs feeding.

    The truth is that the addict can never be completely relaxed and as you go through life it gets worse. The most stressed people on this planet aren’t non-PMOers but those young men and women who have a need to hunt (with the misunderstood goal of orgasm) and their ignorance of and/or low opinion of amative sex. Women who have subscribed to “I must orgasm” teachings are not even aware of the victim they have made of themselves. At this point any sex that leads to climax and orgasm cease to relieve even partially the symptoms that they have created.

    I can remember when I was bringing up a family. If my child would do something wrong I would quickly lose my temper to an extent that was out of all proportion to what he had done.

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    Why are PMOers so stressd when they are not getting their fix, even after a real sex with a real woman? I read about a guy who has 9’s and 10’s open for dating with him as he was in the advertising field. I am talking about dinner and stuff only - but he lost interest in those dinners as his Internet porn is far more ‘easy’ for him - no restaurant spending and no hearing a ‘no’ from his date at the end of an evening. Why would he bother when his little monster tells him about the low-risk high-reward scheme called PMO that is at his fingertips when he reaches home? Those real girls sure have competition.

    Why are non-PMOers completely relaxed then? Why are PMOers not able to relax without a fix for a day or two? If you read about the experience of a PMOer taking the abstinence oath and quitting and you notice his struggle with the temptations. You can clearly see that they are not relaxed at all when they are not allowed to have the ‘only pleasure’ they are “entitled to enjoy.” They’ve forgotten what it feels like to be completely relaxed. That’s one of the many joys you have to come. The whole business of PMOing can be likened to a fly being caught in a pitcher plant. To begin with, the fly is eating the nectar. At some imperceptible stage the plant begins to eat the fly.

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    This is a misinformation that seems to make sense but then it does not. In order to have control of eating, will you eat at home before leaving to go to a restaurant or a party? This is what you are doing when you PMO before your social night. You will look tired and will not be up to your best. If you have dating jitters then work on it beforehand and then go with the flow even with some butterflies in your stomach. I like a bit of the anxiety in me to keep me going. Tiring yourself mentally and physically with an orgasm is not going to help you, unless of course you are going to see a prostitute. The goal is entirely different in that angle.

    The widespread adoption of pick-up techniques has put pressure on guys to perform, to attract and to ‘score’. You can get knowledge but you should know how to use it. I can guarantee that 100% of the other guys hanging at that bar know exactly what you know. It comes down to the ‘how’ of how you use it when you get the chance. Even before that, there is one very critical thing about any knowledge pertaining to human interactions, that ‘knowledge’ should never force your actions. This is important.

    I once masturbated and then poured wine to quiet the butterflies in my stomach before a date. I looked tired after just one hour into the date, the loud noise of the bar, dehydration, excessive self-consciousness (PUA teachings) etc. made my time unenjoyable. Somehow the girl and her friend liked it all. However, I do think it would have been better if I had gone without any props. I ended up being successful by claiming my ‘goal(s)’ - which I consider unfortunate and as random luck.

    The PMO session I had before the date triggered a dopamine flooding and its withdrawal hit around the time I was with the date. I had to over-do my conversation to compensate the ineffective dopamine effects after that earlier orgasm. I am also sure that I was suffering from hypofrontality - where my impulses were failing my controls. That gushing moment, an extra decibel in the tone etc. would easily have given my nervousness to the girls - only if I was not protected by the loud noise in the bar. Why do you want to take chances?

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    Even if the date went fine and hours later you are at her door and which ever way it goes, you will not be satisfied if your goal is fully on the orgasm-seek. At other times, you drive home alone and all you want to do is to go to your online harem instead of patting yourself on the back for your efforts and enjoying yourself.

    You can bet that this unfortunate guy is going to PMO after he reaches home. It is often after nights like these, when we wake to feel the uneasy emptiness, are often the special ones, the ones that we think we’ll miss the most when we are contemplating stopping PMOing. We think that life will never be quite as enjoyable again. In fact, it is the same principle at work: these PMO sessions simply provide relief from withdrawal pangs and at certain times we have greater need to relieve them than at others. You had ended up ‘greasing’ the neural ‘waterslides’ in your brain and made it ready to slide again on the next cue.

    Let us make it quite clear. It is not the internet porn and the harem dwellers that are special; it is the occasion. Once we have removed the need for the PMO, such occasions will become more enjoyable and the stressful situations less stressful. This will be explained in greater detail in the next chapter.

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    ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! The thing that makes it difficult for us to give up is fear. The fear that we are being deprived of our pleasure or prop. The fear that certain pleasant situations will never be quite the same again. The fear of being unable to cope with stressful situations. In other words, the effect of brainwashing is to delude us into believing that sex and by extension orgasm, is a must for all human beings. Or that there is something inherent in Internet porn that we need and that when we stop PMOing we will be self-denying ourselves and there will be a void.

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    These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on this planet. Whether you believe in a creator, a process of natural selection or a combination of both, whatever being or system devised these bodies of ours, it is a thousand times more effective than man! Man cannot create the smallest living cell, let alone the miracle of eyesight, reproduction, our circulatory system or our brains. We don’t have our systems upgraded yet to properly assess the supranormal stimulus such as rich high density food or high speed internet novelty porn with multiple active windows.

    If the creator or process had intended us to handle novelty triggering stimuli, we would have been provided with some other brain reward circuits. Our bodies are, in fact, provided with fail-safe warning devices and we ignore these at our peril. Excessive edging results in body pain, irritation, and inflammation. In women, excessive flooding of dopamine and stress enzymes such as prostaglandin-E2 can cause difficulty to orgasm and PME.

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    The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.

    The problem I have is to make a convincing point as I’d have done for, let us say… smokers? All of us have seen smokers who develop excuses to sneak off for a crafty puff. It is easy to see the true addiction in action. Addicts do not do it because they enjoy it. They do it because they are miserable without it.

    Because many of us started out our first sexual experience that ended in an orgasm and we acquired the belief that we cannot enjoy sex without an orgasm. And for men, porn is sold as an aid towards sex, sometimes even as an education to be confident during the act of sex. It used to be static, but now we have supranormal internet porn. But this is nonsense. Internet porn takes away your confidence.

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    The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn’t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.

    Porn and internet porn does not help your sex life; it destroys it totally. Having to hide your internet footprints, trying to delete your history, fearing accidental exposure to your boyfriend or kids, body pains, doubtful symptoms, fighting self doubts, arguing with yourself about your responsibilities in the ill effects of your addiction… well, why do you want to put yourself in such a bad situation?

    Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous positive gains to be had. When PMOers contemplate quitting they tend to concentrate on health and virility. These are obviously valid and important issues but I personally believe the greatest gains from stopping are psychological:

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    1. Not to have to go through life suffering the awful black shadows at the back of your mind, knowing you are being despised by half of the population and, worst of all, despising yourself.

    Not only is life better as a non-PMOer but it is infinitely more enjoyable. I do not only mean you will be healthier. I mean you will be happier and enjoy life far more. The marvellous gains from being a non-PMOer are discussed in the next few chapters. Some PMOers find it difficult to appreciate the concept of the ‘void’ and the following analogy may assist you.

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    Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I’ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can’t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.

    By now you are completely dependent on the ointment. You never go out without ensuring that you have a tube of the ointment with you. If you go abroad, you make sure that you take several tubes with you. Now, in addition to your worries about your health, I’m charging you $100 per tube. You have no choice but to pay.

    You then read in the medical column of your newspaper that this isn’t happening just to you; many other people have been suffering from the same problem. In fact, pharmacists have discovered that the ointment doesn’t actually cure the sore. All that it does is to take the sore beneath the surface of the skin. It is the ointment that has caused the sore to grow. All you have to do to get rid of the sore is to stop using the ointment. The sore will eventually disappear in due course.

    Would you continue to use the ointment? Would it take willpower not to use the ointment? If you didn’t believe the medical article, there might be a few days of apprehension, but once you realized that the sore was beginning to get better, the need or desire to use the ointment would go, Would you be miserable? Of course you wouldn’t. You had an awful problem which you thought was insoluble. Now you’ve found the solution. Even if it took a year for that sore to disappear completely, each day, as it improved, you’d think. “isn’t it marvellous? I’m not going to die!” This was the magic that happened to me on my final PMO day. Let me make one point quite clear in the analogy of the sore and the ointment.

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    The sore is what makes us close our minds to all these things. It’s that panic feeling of, “I want a fix.” Non-PMOers don’t suffer from that feeling. The worst thing we ever suffer from is fear, and the greatest gain you will receive is to be rid of that fear. It was as if a great mist had suddenly lifted from my mind. I could see so clearly that that panic feeling of wanting a porn fix wasn’t some sort of weakness in me or some magic quality of internet porn. It was caused by the first PMO session; and each subsequent one - far from relieving the feeling, it was actually causing it.

    At the same time I could see all these other “happy” PMOers - the ones who are blinded by their cunning little porn monsters - were going through the same nightmare that I was. Not as bad as mine yet all putting up phony arguments to try to justify their stupidity.

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    Usually when PMOers try to stop the main reasons given are health, religion and partner stigma. Part of the brainwashing of this awful drug is the sheer slavery. Man fought hard in the last century to abolish slavery and yet the PMOer spends his life suffering self-imposed slavery. He seems to be oblivious to the fact that when he is allowed to PMO he wishes that he were a non-PMOer. With most of the masturbation we do in our lives, not only do we not enjoy them but we aren’t even aware that we are masturbating. It is only after a period of abstinence that we actually suffer the delusion of enjoying PMO (e.g. the first day after a 4 day abstinence with the intent of rebooting etc.). The only time that the porn becomes precious is when we are ’trying’ to cut down or abstain or when abstinence is forced on us (e.g. when on a business trips, holiday trips to locations where the Internet is not available and so on).

    The confirmed PMOer should bear in mind that more studies and even more people are coming out and talking about the ill effects of internet porn. This trend will get “worse and worse.” Today, it is non-medical people talking. Tomorrow, it will be in your doctor’s list of diagnostic tests to perform. Gone are the days when the PMOer can hide behind “just a bit of downtime due to work stress” in his or her sex life. Your partner is going to ask you why you are on your laptop at this time too late into the night. The poor PMOer, who was already feeling wretched, wants the ground to open up and swallow him.

    I remember every time my partner stayed up late it was an ordeal waiting to open up my laptop. When on business trips the dinner with the clients and colleagues dragged on or was I just going through the natural ups and downs in human interactions? What was I doing? I was thinking, “let’s get on with it, so that I can get over with this and go to my room for some porn.” I have thought many times, “am I not lucky? I have got my little reward. The poor non-PMOer with no internet access somewhere in an Amish village hasn’t got a reward.” The ‘poor’ non-PMOer doesn’t need a reward. We were not designed to go through life systematically flooding our brains with dopamine and opioids. The pathetic thing is that even when masturbating with internet porn the PMOer doesn’t achieve those feelings of peace, confidence and tranquillity that the non-PMOer has experienced for the whole of his non-PMO life. The non-PMOer isn’t sitting in the family room, feeling agitated and wishing his life away. He can enjoy the whole of his life.

    No, this wasn’t a fourteen-year-old schoolboy but a forty-year-old professional. How pathetic. I wouldn’t admit to myself that I wasn’t enjoying it. I was looking for the right clip and/or pictures to reach orgasm or better, edge forever. I don’t know what I am supposed to be ‘watching’ sometimes. That is the confusing part. The ’edging’ and then the orgasm floods my brain. Yet this was supposed to be my way of relaxing and enjoying my “favourite hobby.”

    To me, one of the tremendous joys of being a non-PMOer is to be freed from that slavery. To be able to enjoy the whole of my life and not spend half of it craving for more and more internet porn and then, when I get to fire up my browser, wishing I didn’t have to do it. PMOers should bear in mind that when they see or meet non-PMOers, it is not the self-righteous non-PMOer who is depriving them but their very own “little monster.”

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    I cannot repeat too often that it is brainwashing that makes it difficult to stop PMOing. So, the more brainwashing we can dispel before we start, the easier you will find it to achieve your goal. Occasionally I get into arguments with people whom I call “confirmed PMOers.” By my definition a confirmed PMOer is somebody who doesn’t believe PMO has any negative effect on his health @@ -44,20 +46,20 @@ pleasure.”

    If you see the argument as factual, ask yourself how you would feel if there were a cheque from your state’s lotto for a year and half worth of your current salary lying on your carpet tomorrow? You’d be dancing with delight! So start dancing! You are about to start receiving that bonus and that’s just one of the several fantastic gains you are about to receive.

    During the withdrawal period you may be tempted to have just one final ‘look’. It will help you to resist the temptation if you remind yourself it will cost you one year’s worth of your peak annual salary (or whatever your estimate is)! I could be making that offer on television and radio programmes yet I bet no-one will take it.

    If you are mentoring someone online for his PMO addiction tell him that he knows someone who has refused a job offer that pays his current annual salary and also gives him a full month’s of PTO. When he ask who that idiot is, tell him, “you!” I know it’s rude but you may sometimes need to get your point across in a less-than-polite way.

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    This is the area where the brainwashing is the greatest. PMOers, especially the young and single, think they are aware of the health risks. They are not. Even in my case, when I was expecting my head to explode any moment and honestly believed I was prepared to accept the consequences, I was still kidding myself. I didn’t in those days have an app that started a red beeper to flash and sound every time my internet router hits a porn site, followed by a warning voice saying, “OK, this is the one!” Fortunately you do get a warning, and this is it. That warning would say, “Up to now you have got away with it but if you stay another minute your head will explode,” do you think I would have PMOed?

    If you are in doubt about the answer just try walking up to a cliff, stand on the edge with your eyes closed and imagine you then have the choice of either quitting PMO or walking up blindfolded before your next PMO.

    There is no doubt what your choice would be. I had been doing what every internet porn PMOer does all his life: closing my mind and keeping my head in the sand, hoping that I would wake up one morning and just not want to PMO any more. PMOers cannot allow themselves to think of the health risks. If they do, even the illusion of enjoying the ‘habit’ goes.

    This explains why a shock treatment is so ineffective in the first stages of quitting. It is only non-users who can bring themselves to read the destructive brain changes. It also explains why PMOers, influenced by their little monster, wrongly recall that filthy room mate who PMOed everyday and was still remaining ‘horny’ 24 hours a day – they will ignore the thousands of people who are brought “down” in their prime because of this poisonous ‘habit’.

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    Most PMOers are aware of the effect that this progressive process of PMO, leading to novelty and escalation seeking, has on their brain’s reward circuits and their sexual system. However, they are not so aware of the effect it has on their energy level.

    One of the subtleties of the PMO trap is that the effects it has on us, both physical and mental, happen so gradually and imperceptibly that we are not aware of them and regard them as normal. It is very similar to the effects of bad eating habits. The pot-belly appears so gradually that it causes us no alarm. We look at people who are grossly overweight and wonder how they could possibly have allowed themselves to reach that state.

    But supposing it happened overnight. You went to bed weighing 140 lbs, trim, rippling with muscles and not an ounce of fat on your body. You awoke weighing 180 lbs, fat, bloated and pot-bellied. Instead of waking up feeling fully rested and full of energy, you wake up feeling miserable, lethargic and you can hardly open your eyes. You would be panic-stricken, wondering what awful disease you had contracted overnight. Yet the disease is exactly the same.

    The fact that it took you twenty years to reach that state is irrelevant. So it is with PMOing. If I could immediately transfer you into your mind and body to give you a direct comparison on how you would feel having stopped internet porn for just three weeks, that is all I would need to do to persuade you to quit. You would think: “Will I really feel this good?” Or what it really amounts to: “Had I really sunk that low?” I emphasize that I don’t just mean that you would feel healthier and have more energy but how you would also feel more confident and relaxed and better able to concentrate.

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    By this time, the lack of energy, tiredness and everything related to it is nicely swept under the rug of ‘getting’ older. My friends and colleagues by this time are all living sedentary lifestyles. I hought this behaviour was normal. I believed that energy was the exclusive prerogative of children and teenagers, and that old age began in the early twenties. I did not notice that I was paying attention to my health in general by eating right - which they did not. But I did not notice that anomaly.

    Shortly after I stopped PMO, I was relieved that this foggy and muggy feeling left me. For example, I can keep a steady gaze with my eyes on just about anything for a longer time. If I am looking into someone’s eyes it is even longer. However something truly marvellous and unexpected also happened. I started waking at seven o’clock in the morning feeling completely rested and full of energy, actually wanting to exercise, jog and swim. I have read about a forty-eight year old who couldn’t run a step or swim a stroke. The only sporting activities were confined to such dynamic pursuits as green bowling, affectionately referred to as “the old man’s game,” and golf, for which he had to use a motorized cart. But after quitting PMO he started going to gym - not that it is necessary that everyone would - but still. Almost all us know that it’s great to have energy and when you feel physically and mentally strong, it feels great to be alive.

    That is the point with PMOing - you are always debiting your energy. And in that process tampering with your brain codes of the reward circuit. Which again is going to make you miserable and vulnerable to stress and strain attacks. Unfortunately when you feel down with all of this you will seek a cigarette or alcohol or again porn. Unlike quitting smoking, where the return of your physical and mental health is only gradual, quitting PMO gives you excellent results from day one. Starting with energy. Then your mental programming to close the ‘water slides’ takes a bit of time. You need to kill the Little Monster - which will be explained in later chapters. Recovering your RC is nothing like as slow as the slide into the pit and if you are going through the trauma of the willpower method of quitting, any health or energy gains will be obliterated by the depression you will be going through. Unfortunately, I cannot immediately transfer you into your mind and body in three weeks’ time. But you can! You know instinctively that what I am telling you is correct. All you need to do is: USE YOUR IMAGINATION!

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    This is the worst fallacy of all about PMOing and for me it ranks with the ending of the slavery, the greatest benefit from quitting - is not to have to go through life with the permanent feelings of insecurity that PMOers suffer from.

    PMOers find it very difficult to believe that masturbation to internet porn actually causes those insecure feelings you get when you are out late at night after a contentious day at home or work. Non-PMOers do not suffer from that feeling. It is the porn that causes it. I only became aware of many of the advantages of stopping months afterwards, as a result of my consultations with other PMOers.

    I refused to see my PMO as causing so much of the mental tug of war in my mind that I am foolishly working hard to have nominal levels of confidence in my day to day life. Forget about getting an erection, I am talking about focusing, taking challenges, fighting, choosing, deciding - actions that define our lives. Especially when we are often forced to act when the facts are not clear. Come to think of it, facts were and will never be clear and hence it is to our great advantage anyway to act.

    Also of note is in dating area as well, the fire to go forward is being misappropriated to this ‘high reward zero pain’ porn. If you have read some top PUA books and forums, what do they say? Go on a ‘diet1’? Yes of course when you have the good hunger your internal juices and your brain will do the rest. Copping out is not an option at all. Playing the numbers is not tiresome by no means. All PUA advice in a nut-shell is this - try more numbers. Even if your approach is wrong you will be right twice a day like a broken clock. But if your mind is fighting a tug of war with effortless easy access to a harem of online women, how would you get back on your feet when that girl ignores you? Oh, if it was a public outright rejection I am running, not walking, to my porn girlfriend.

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    Another of the great joys of quitting porn is to be free of those sinister black shadows at the back of our minds. All PMOers know they are fools to close their minds on the ill-effects of PMO. For most of our lives PMO is automatic but the black shadows are always lurking in our subconscious minds, just beneath the surface. There are several marvellous advantages to achieve from quitting PMO. Some of them I was consciously aware of throughout my life, such as the health risks, the waste of time and the sheer stupidity of making love to a two dimensional image. However, such was my fear of quitting, so obsessed was I in resisting all the attempts of do-gooders and anyone else who tried to persuade me to quit, that all my imagination and energy was directed to finding any flimsy excuse that would allow me to continue to PMO.

    Amazingly, my most ingenious thoughts occurred when I was actually trying to quit. They were of course inspired by the fear and misery I suffered when attempting to quit by using willpower. No way could I block my mind from the health and sexual aspects. But now that I am free it amazes me how I successfully blocked my mind from even more important advantages to be gained from quitting. I’ve already mentioned the sheer slavery - spending half of our lives being allowed to PMO, doing it automatically and wishing we had never started, the other half feeling miserable and deprived because the knowledge of the destructive effects of internet porn won’t allow us to PMO. In the last chapter I’ve referred to the incredible joy of having energy again. But for me the greatest joy of being free was not the health, the time, the energy, or the ending of the slavery, it was the removal of those sinister black shadows, the removal of feeling despised by and feeling apologetic to myself and to other quitters, and most of all to be able to respect yourself.

    Most PMOers aren’t the weak-willed, spineless jellyfish that both society and themselves tend to believe. In every other aspect of my life I was in control. I loathed myself for being dependent on an evil crutch that I knew was ruining my life. I cannot tell you of the utter joy of being free of those sinister black shadows, the dependency and the self-despising. I can’t tell you how nice it is to be able to look at all other users, whether they be young, old, casual or heavy, not with a feeling of envy, but with a feeling of pity for them and elation for yourself that you are no longer the slave of that insidious trap. The other day I felt pity for the guy on a TV show who was so excited to get to watch porn - another case of society slipping one in your drink under the pretence of comedy.

    The last two chapters have dealt with the considerable advantages of being a non-PMOer. I feel it necessary to give a balanced account, so the next chapter lists the advantages of being a PMOer.

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    It is an accepted fact in our society that it is very difficult to stop PMO. Even books and forums advising you how to do so usually start off by telling you how difficult it is. The truth is that it is ridiculously easy. Yes, I can understand you questioning that statement but just consider it. If your aim is to run a mile in under four minutes, that’s difficult. You may have to undergo years of hard training and even then you may be physically incapable of doing it. (Much of our achievement lies in the mind. Isn’t it strange how difficult it was until Roger Bannister actually did it but nowadays it is commonplace?).

    However, in order to stop PMOing all you have to do is not watch internet porn and or masturbate any more. No one forces you to masturbate (apart from yourself) and unlike food or drink, you don’t need it to survive. So if you want to stop doing it, why should it be difficult? In fact, it isn’t. It is PMOers who make it difficult by using the Willpower Method. I define the Willpower Method as any method that forces the PMOer to feel he is making some sort of sacrifice. Let us just consider the Willpower Method.

    We do not decide to become PMOers. We merely experiment with porn magazines or websites and because they are awful, yes that is right – awful - except for our desired clip, we are convinced that we can stop whenever we want to. In the main, we watch those first few clips only when we want to and that is usually on special occasions. Before we realize it, we are not only visiting those sites regularly and masturbating when we want to, we are masturbating to them every day. PMO has become a part of our lives. We then ensure that we always have an internet connection wherever we go. We believe that we are entitled to love, sex and orgasms - and also that porn helps to relieve stress. It doesn’t seem to occur to us that the same clip and actors do not provide us the same degree of arousal and that we are either escalating or fighting against the ‘red line’ we have put around ourselves to avoid harmful “bad porn.” In fact, masturbation and internet porn neither improves our sex life nor does it relieve stress, it’s just that PMOers believe they can’t enjoy life or handle stress without an orgasm - even mind induced porn orgasms. Because that is what many times we are doing.

    It usually takes us a long time to realize that we are hooked because we suffer from the illusion that PMOers masturbate because they enjoy porn - not because they have to have porn - a need. While we are not “enjoying” porn (which we can never do unless novelty, shock or escalation is added), we suffer from the illusion that we can stop whenever we want to. This is a confidence trap. I don’t enjoy porn, so I am sure I can stop when I want to. Only that you never seem to ‘want’ to stop though.

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    Many PMOers resort to cutting down either as a stepping-stone towards stopping or as an attempt to control the little monster. Many recommend cutting down or a ‘porn diet’1 as a pick-me-up. Obviously, the less you PMO the better off you are but as a stepping-stone to stopping, cutting down is fatal. It is these attempts to cut down that keep us trapped all our lives.

    Usually cutting down follows failed attempts to stop. After a few hours or days of abstinence the PMOer says to himself something like:

    “I cannot face the thought of going to sleep without visiting my online harem, so from now on I will just PMO once in four days or I will purge my collection of ‘bad’ porn. If I can follow this ‘porn diet’, I can either hold it there or cut down further.”

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    Heavy PMOers tend to envy the casual porn user. We’ve all met these characters: “Oh, I can go all week without a PMO, it really doesn’t bother me.” We think: “I wish I were like that!” I know this is hard to believe but no PMOer enjoys being a PMOer. Never forget:

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      I used to think of my ‘non-casual’ PMOing as a weakness. I couldn’t understand why my friends could limit their “intake.” I knew I was a very strong-willed person. It never occurred to me that most PMOers are incapable of chain-PMOing - you need a very strong imagination and also extraordinarily strong penis stamina in order to do it. Some of these once-a-week PMOers that heavy PMOers tend to envy do it less frequently because physically their constitution cannot do more, or because they cannot afford to PMO more, or because their job, or society, or their own hatred of being hooked won’t allow them to PMO more.

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      If he enjoys his entitlement to orgasm, why does he use internet porn to orgasm only once a day? If he can take it or leave it, why does he bother to PMO at all? Remember, the ‘habit’ is really banging your head against the brick wall only to make it relaxing when you stop. The once-a-day PMOer is relieving his withdrawal pangs for less than one hour each day. The rest of the day, although he doesn’t realize it, he is banging his head against the wall and does so for most of his life. He is PMOing only once a day because either he cannot take the risk of getting caught or screwing up his brain health. It is easy to convince the heavy PMOer that he doesn’t enjoy it but you try convincing a casual PMOer. Anybody who has gone through an attempt to cut down will know it is the worst torture of all and almost guaranteed to keep you hooked for the rest of your life.

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      This PMOer demands the right to his/her orgasm(s) every day. And of course his sex partner is not always up to it. So he goes on the internet for porn initially. Once he takes “the ride” to fix “the void” he is trapped on this most exciting ‘water slide’ of novelty, shock, supranormal images etc. He is in fact dichotomously ‘happy’ with the partner’s rejection – it gives him something of an excuse. If internet porn is giving so much to you, why even bother to have a partner at all? Set him or her free. He is not even enjoying the PMO when he has to ‘carry’ his partner in his mind. At some point he is using his real life partner to hand him an excuse to go out into the valleys of the dark side of the internet.

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      (Or, “I can stop whenever I want to. I have done it thousands of times”). If he thinks dieting helps with his moods to ‘get out to get women,’ why is he even on the diet of once every four days? How can one predict the future, what if the happenstance of meeting occurred just an hour after your scheduled PMO session? Also, if he thinks this occasional “cleaning the plumbing” is good to relieve tension and relax why not plumb every day? It has been proven that masturbation is not required to keep the genitals healthy. Internet porn is not required at all. Even if that may be the case, any PUA guru who has read about the brain chemistry and its plasticity will never recommend watching super stimulus porn. The truth is he is still hooked. Although he gets rid of the physical addiction, he is left with the main problem - the brainwashing. He hopes each time that he will stop for good and soon falls for the same trap again.

      Many PMOers actually envy these stoppers and starters. They think, “how lucky to be able to control it like that, to do PMO when you want to and stop when you want to,” What they always overlook is that these stoppers and starters aren’t controlling it. When they are PMOers, they wish they weren’t. They go through the hassle of stopping, then begin to feel deprived and fall for the trap again, then wish they hadn’t. They get the worst of both worlds. If you think about it, this is true in the lives of the PMOers. When we are allowed to PMO we either take it as entitled or wish we didn’t. It’s only when we can’t have PMO that it appears to be so precious. The ‘forbidden fruit syndrome’. This is the awful dilemma of PMOers. They can never win because they are moping for a myth, an illusion. There is one way they can win and that is to stop PMOing and stop moping!

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      Yes, we all do it to start with but isn’t it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner’s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes… you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one.

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      In a way such peeking PMOers are the most pathetic of all. Either they go through their lives believing they are being deprived or, more often, the occasional peek becomes two. They remain on the slippery slope and it goes only one way - DOWNWARDS. Sooner or later they are back to being heavy PMOers. They have fallen again for the very trap that they fell into in the first place.

      There are two other categories of casual PMOers. The first is the type who masturbates to images or clips of the latest celebrity sex tapes that hit the news. Or something they ‘carried home’ from their ‘accidental’ viewing at school or work. These people are really non-PMOers. It’s just that they feel they are missing out. They want to be part of the action. We all start off like this. Next time watch how, after a while, the celebrity sex tape, the same star of your fantasy is not ‘doing it’ to you any more. The more ‘unattainable’ the target of your fantasy is, the more frustrating the withdrawal of the orgasm is.

      The second category is recently getting attention. The type can best be described by outlining a case shared online. A woman who is a professional, had been using internet porn stories for many years and had never PMOed more or less than one time every night. She was, incidentally, a very strong-willed lady. Most PMOers would wonder why she wanted to stop in the first place. They would gladly point out to her that there is no worries of PIED, or PE in her case as she is a women. She is using not even static images and the stories are far tamer than any they use on a daily basis.

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      “I am forty years old. I suffered PIED with real women and even when I’d be doing PMO. Most times I am only rubbing it out. It has been a while since I had a full erection. Before going on the one-in-four days porn diet, I used to sleep soundly through the night after my PMO. Now I wake up every hour of the night and all I can think about is PMO. Even when I am sleeping. I dream about my favourite clips. On days after my scheduled PMO I feel pretty down and this diet would take up all my energy. My SO would leave me alone because I am so bad-tempered and if she can’t get out, she will not have me in the house. I go for a jog outside but my mind is obsessed with PMOing. On the schedule day I begin planning earlier in the night. I get very irritated if something happens against my plans. I’d give up on conversation and give in (only to later regret) at work and at home. I am not an argumentative guy but I don’t want the topic or conversation to hold me down. I remember occasions when I’d pick up silly fights with my SO. I then wait for 10 o’clock. When it arrives my hands are shaking uncontrollably. I do not start the deed right away. As there are new videos that has been added, I had to ‘shop’ around. As I click around, my mind tells me that since I had ‘starved’ myself for 4 days I deserve a ‘special’ clip and it has to be worth the time spent searching. Eventually I settle for one or two but then I want it to last so that I can ‘survive’ through the next 4 days. So I take more time to finish the deed.”

      In addition to his other troubles, this poor man has no idea that he treating himself to a poison. First he is suffering the “forbidden fruit syndrome.” Next he is forcing his brain to flush dopamine. His dopamine receptors are not as cut down comparatively either. But he is sliding and greasing the porn slides, seeking and searching for edging, novelty, variety, shock-value, anxiety-value (“I must treat myself so that I can survive the next three days”) etc. You probably have visions of a pathetic imbecile. Not so. This man was over six feet tall and an ex-sergeant in the Marines. He was a former athlete and didn’t want to become an addict to anything. However, when he returned from the war he was trained as a techie in a veterans rehab program. When he entered the civil work force he was a well paid IT professional in a bank and was given a laptop (one of the ways to ensure you take work home). It was the year that famous socialites ‘leaked’ their porn videos online. There was much talk about it. And he got hooked. He has spent the rest of his life paying through the nose and it has ruined him physically and mentally. If he were an animal, our society would have put him out of his misery, yet we still allow mentally and physically healthy young teenagers to become hooked. You may think the above case and my notes are exaggerated. It is extreme but not unique. There are literally thousands of similar stories. That man poured his heart out to me but you can be sure that many of his friends and acquaintances envied him for being a once-a-week man. If you think this couldn’t happen to you, STOP KIDDING YOURSELF.

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    “I was three weeks into one of my failed attempts to stop. The attempt had been triggered off by my wife’s worry about my unreliable hard-ons and lack of interest. I had told her that it was not her and it was just job pressure. She said, ‘I know you had handled the work pressure before but how would you feel if you were me and had to watch someone you love systematically destroying themselves?’ It was an argument that I found irresistible, hence the attempt to stop. She knows that I am not cheating - but this in a way is as worse as that (sic). The attempt ended after three weeks after a heated argument with an old friend. It did not register until years afterwards that my devious mind had deliberately triggered off the argument. I felt justly aggrieved at the time but I do not believe that it was coincidence, as I had never argued with this particular friend before, nor have I since. It was clearly the little monster at work. Anyway, I had my excuse. I desperately needed a release of orgasm and it doesn’t matter how. As it happens she was not in the mood right away and I was in an “entitlement” hurry. So I convinced myself that it is OK if I ‘restrict’ myself by avoiding a porn site and just stay this side of the ‘red line’ and watch only YouTube videos. But she ‘came around’ as the night unfolded and wanted to make love. But I was tired and not with all my ‘horsepower.’ I then invented a headache. I could not bear to think of the disappointment this would cause my wife. Then gradually I returned to the old ways, only YouTube became my new harem destination. I remember being quite pleased at the time. I thought, ‘well, at least it is cutting my consumption down;’ Eventually she accused me of continuing to ignore her in the bed. I had not realized it but she described the times I had caused an argument and stormed out of the house. At other times I had taken two hours to purchase some minor item and faked a sprain or something. I had made feeble excuses to cop out of the whole wooing her and etc. when I have a reliable online harem it is even more hard.”

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    It happened to me several times. Have you ever watched the TV detective series Columbo? The theme of each episode is similar. The villain, usually a wealthy and respected businessman, has committed what he is convinced is the perfect murder and his confidence in his crime remaining undetected receives a boost when he discovers that the rather shabby and unimpressive-looking Detective Columbo is in charge of the case.

    Columbo has this frustrating practice of closing the door after finishing his interrogation, having assured the suspect that he is in the clear and before the satisfied look has disappeared from the murderer’s face, Columbo reappears with: “just one small point, sir, which I’m sure you can explain…” The suspect stammers and from that point on we know and he knows that Columbo will gradually wear him down. No matter how heinous the crime, from that point on my sympathies were with the murderer.

    It was almost as if I were the criminal and that’s exactly how those bouts made me feel. The tension of not being allowed to cross the red line to get my porn fix that I “rightly deserve because I am hard working man and why shouldn’t I when every man does it?” entitlement, click, click, clicking on videos that come close to the right one. Longing for the porn tube videos. And then finishing the deed - just a limp rub out, wondering where the pleasure was. The fear of crossing the line losing control. The relief of returning to the bed, immediately followed by the fear that she would toss around and ask for sex. As the “safe” YouTube videos started not to do it for me - desensitization and lack of novelty and the certain knowledge that sooner or later I was bound to visit my favourite online harem. The final humiliation and shame when that certainty became a fact, followed by the immediate return to chain-PMOing.

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    Health of mind and body are the main reason why we should want to stop but then they always have been. We do not actually need scientific research and knowledge in brain chemistry to tell us that internet porn is addictive and can potentially shatter our lives. These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on the planet and any PMOer knows instantly, from the first session, that the stimulus can go to excess and it can turn poisonous.

    The only reason why we ever get involved with internet porn is the PMO’s overlap with their evolutionary brain programming. Porn is available for free and it gets streamed 24 hours a day. No risk and no traces and with very high brain rewards. Porn was once considered as harmless but that was when the images were static and involved a trip to the local store for a VHS tape.

    Today it is generally considered even by PMOers themselves to be a supra-stimulus and addiction forming. In the old days, the strong man did not admit he masturbated. Jerk is a derogatory term. In every pub or club bar the majority of men would be proudly wanting to take a woman home and have real sex. Today the position is completely reversed for the internet porn addicts. Today’s man realizes that he is starting to feel that he doesn’t need a woman. This scares him. He bands together online and starts discussing experiences, devise strategies and explore options. Today’s strong man does not want to depend on drugs. With the social revolution all PMOers nowadays are giving serious thought to stopping internet porn and masturbation. Today’s PMOers consider PMO as an useless and harmful activity.

    The most significant trend that I have noticed in forums is the increasing emphasis on the anti-social aspect of PMOing. The days when a man boasted of having sex and orgasms every day is slowly getting replaced with, “why do I need to be a slave for this porn monster when I know ‘it’ is controlling my wand (and mind)?”

    The only reason why people continue to PMO after getting educated is because they have failed to stop or are too frightened to try. There are even talks about no porn, no masturbation and no orgasms - with or without partners. Karezza is discussed widely and people are trying it out. Many aforementioned failures are “fail forwards” and thus somewhat benefiting the people who practice them. Once you start in the no-PMO route you will find your best fit that applies to your life. I strongly encourage devising your own plan on orgasms after understanding and practising the separation of the amative and the propagative parts of sex. I am sure whichever route you take you will see the value of preserving the “seed” by limiting the number of times you flush your brain with chemicals by orgasming. You will then never see porn, sex and orgasms as a pleasure or as a crutch for your emotional ups and downs.

    I was reading a Reddit forum by non-PMOers dedicated to quitting not only porn but also masturbation. As I read along I thought. “This is good, I see so many have taken to quitting masturbation and I think that is the right way to quit PMO.” However, I found most of the notes pointing to them to try with the Willpower Method. There was a lot of self-pitying as well. Except a few… almost all were not feeling elated and not having the, “yippee I am free from slavery” attitude. Eventually someone broke down - as I unfortunately expected to happen. And the result was a domino effect. All those other PMOers had been sitting there thinking, “surely I can’t be the only PMOer here.” However, they were “failing forward” albeit with a lot of self-torturing as they shut down their browsers but did not shut down the desire and the need. This method is the reverse as - we shut down the desire and the need first before shutting down the browser screen. As every day more and more PMOers leave the sinking ship, so those left on it become terrified they’ll be the last.

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    Apart from the obvious point that as it is doing you no good, now is the right time to stop. I believe timing is important. Our society treats internet porn flippantly as a slightly distasteful habit that can not injure your health. It is not. It is drug addiction, a disease and a destroyer of relationships in society. The worst thing that happens in most PMOer’s lives is getting hooked on that awful addiction. If they stay hooked, horrendous things happen. Timing is important to give yourself the right to a proper cure.

    First of all, identify the times or occasions when PMO appears to be important to you. If you are a businessman and use it for the illusion of relief of stress, pick a relatively slack period; a good idea is to choose your annual holiday. If you PMO mainly during boring or relaxing periods, weekends etc. do the opposite. In any event, take the matter seriously and make the attempt the most important thing in your life.

    Look ahead for a period of about three weeks and try to anticipate any event that might lead to failure. Occasions like a conference trip, partner out of town etc. need not deter you, providing you anticipate them in advance and do not feel you will be deprived. Do not attempt to cut down in the meantime as this will only create the illusion that being denied is enjoyable. In fact, it helps to force yourself to watch and have as many PMO sessions as possible. While you are having the last session and that last time, be conscious of the disappointment due to satiation, unfulfilled expectations (porn can never satisfy you), any bodily pain or pain in the genitals, the withdrawal effects, the peevishness and the melancholy. Think how marvellous it will be when you allow yourself to stop doing it.

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    For years the medical profession viewed porn is harmless without knowing the difference between the tame static porn of yesteryear and the latest VR streaming porn. The problem is this; although every PMOer uses internet porn purely to relieve the brain chemical craving for dopamine, it is not the addiction to the brain chemical itself that hooks the PMOer but the self-brainwashing that results from that addiction. An intelligent person will fall for a confidence trick. But only a fool will go on falling for it once he realizes that it’s a confidence trick. Fortunately, most PMOers aren’t fools; they only think they are. Each individual PMOer has his own private brainwashing. That is why there appears to be such a wide range of different types of PMOer, which only serves to compound the mysteries.

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    A few years ago I thought I had all the worries in the world. I was suicidal - not in the sense that I would have jumped off a roof but in the sense that I knew that this mental tug of war would soon kill me. I argued that if this was life with my crutch, life just wouldn’t be worth living without it. What I didn’t realize was that when you are physically and mentally depressed everything gets you down. Now I feel like a young boy again. Only one thing made the change in my life: I’m now out of the porn pit.

    I know it’s a cliché to say, “if you haven’t got your health, you’ve got nothing,” but it’s absolutely true. I used to think that physical fitness fanatics like Gary Player were a pain. I used to claim there’s more to life than feeling fit; there’s sex, booze and tobacco. That’s nonsense. When you feel physically and mentally strong you can enjoy the highs and handle the lows. We confuse responsibility with stress. Responsibility becomes stressful only when you don’t feel strong enough to handle it. The Richard Burtons of this world are physically and mentally strong. What destroys them is not the stresses of life or their jobs, or old age but the lying crutches they turn to which are just illusions. Sadly in his case and for millions like him those lying crutches kill.

    Look at it this way. You’ve already decided that you are not going to stay in the trap the rest of your life. Therefore at some time in your life whether you find it easy or difficult, you will have to go through the process of getting free. PMOing is not a habit or pleasure. It is drug addiction and a disease. We’ve already established that far from being easier to stop tomorrow, it will get progressively harder. With a disease that’s going to get progressively worse, the time to get rid of it is NOW - or as near to now as you can manage. Just think how quickly each week of our lives comes and goes. That’s all it takes. Just think how nice it will he to enjoy the rest of your life without that ever-increasing black shadow hanging over you. And if you follow all my instructions, you won’t even have to wait five days. You won’t only find it easy after closing down your bowser: YOU’LL ENJOY IT!

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    No! Once that little porn monster is dead and your body stops craving dopamine and the porn water slides in your brain start to fade due to lack of ‘greasing’, any remaining brainwashing will vanish and you will find yourself both physically and mentally better equipped not only to cope with the stresses and strains of life but to enjoy the good times to the full.

    There is only one danger and that is the influence of those who still use sex as their lying crutch and damned pleasure. “The other man’s grass is always greener,” is commonplace in many aspects of our lives and is easily understandable. Why is it in the case of PMOing, where the disadvantages are so enormous as compared with even the illusory ‘advantages,’ that the ex-PMOer tend to envy the man or woman who appears to demand sex and use porn for pleasure and a crutch?

    With all the brainwashing of our childhood it is quite understandable that we fall into the trap. Why is it that, once we realize what a mug’s game it is and many of us manage to kick the habit, we walk straight back into the same trap? It is the influence of society’s brainwashing of porn being conflated with sex and presented as normal. The ex-PMOer has a pang! The insecure void feelings of them being single, which in itself is not a crime anyway, causes anxiety and cues them to PMO water slide. This is indeed a curious anomaly, particularly if you consider this piece of observation: not only is every non-PMOer in the world happy to be a non-PMOer but every PMOer in the world, even with his warped, addicted, brainwashed mind suffering the delusion that he enjoys it or it relaxes him, wishes he had never become hooked in the first place. So why do some ex-PMOers envy the PMOer on these occasions? There are two reasons.

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      You wouldn’t envy a heroin addict. Like all drug addiction, yours won’t get better. Each year it will get worse and worse. If you don’t enjoy being a PMOer today, you’ll enjoy it even less tomorrow. Don’t envy other PMOers. Pity them. Believe me: THEY NEED YOUR PITY.

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    This is another myth about PMOing spread mainly by PMOers who, when attempting to stop on the Willpower Method, substitute mental gymnastics - they propose to act -Jekyll and Hyde: “Porn is for my alter ego side and real life romance is for my relationship side.” Nothing is further from the truth. The porn waterslides - the deltaFosBs and all the brain changes are going to overrun the real life romance and will make it less desirable. Mr Hyde is most definitely going to overrule Dr. Jekyll’s instructions.

    If you use internet porn, you may be training yourself for the role of voyeur or to need the option of clicking to something more arousing at the least drop in your dopamine levels, or to search and search for just the right scene for maximum effect. Also, you may be masturbating in a hunched-over position – or watching your smartphone in bed nightly. You will eventually desire those cues more than the real life action. The thing that goes against real sex is the lack of novelty, variety, ‘harem’ like 24/7 quick delivery etc. and so it stands no chance compared to your online harem. The younger you were when you started on PMO the longer to rewire and break down those ‘porn water slides’ and get back those ‘real water slides’ if there were any from the past or create new ones. Also powerful and lasting are the associated memories from when you were young.

    Every time you take a ride on the ‘porn water slide’ you are ‘greasing’ it - keeping the nerves fresh. When you park next to a fast food restaurant the smell of the fries floats from the pan into your nostrils and the sale was already made. Likewise, the porn water slides in your brain are there for you to get sucked in and they are open 24 hours a day. Each of these cues, or triggers, can now light up your reward circuit with the promise of sex… only it isn’t sex. Nevertheless, nerve cells may solidify these associations with sexual arousal by sprouting new branches to strengthen the connections. The more you use porn the stronger the nerve connections can become, with the result that you may ultimately need to be a voyeur, need to click to new material, need to climax to porn to get to sleep, or need to search for the perfect ending just to get the job done.

    As with any substance or behavioural drug, after a while the body becomes immune and the “drug” ceases to relieve the withdrawal pangs completely. As soon as we close a session, the addict wants another one very soon and he has a permanent hunger. The natural inclination is eventually to ‘escalate’ just to get the dopamine rush. However, most PMOers are prevented from doing this for one, or both, of two reasons.

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    Once that little monster leaves your body the awful feeling of insecurity ends. Your confidence returns, together with a marvellous feeling of self-respect. You obtain the assurance to take control of your life, not only in your other habits but also in all other ways. This is one of the many great advantages of being free from any addiction.

    As I have said, the ‘compartment’ myth is due to one of many tricks that the little monster plays with your mind. In fact, these tricks do not make it easier to stop, they make it harder. The PMOer is therefore left with a permanent hunger that he can never satisfy. This is why many PMOers turn to cigarettes, heavy drinking or even harder drugs in order to satisfy the void.

    I had suggested watching porn with one of my partners. But eventually I noticed it did not enhance my arousal at all. The sex was not better. I realized that it actually diminished my attraction towards her. We humans are rating animals - we always self rate and other rate. I am sure she rated me against the male porn start too. Why take chances? Do you want Brad Pitt in your bedroom, even if he is in a poster? No one man or woman can match a harem where each ‘experience’ is acted, scripted and directed by professionals and at the ready 24 hours a day.

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    Many PMOers, while trying to stop on the Willpower Method, attempt to increase their motivation by building up false incentives. There are many examples of this, a typical one is, “I will reward myself with a gift after no-PMO for a month.” This appears to be a logical and sensible approach but in fact it is false because any self-respecting PMOer would rather continue PMOing every day than receive a “self given gift.” In any case there is a doubt in the PMOer’s mind because not only will she have to abstain for thirty days but will she even enjoy the days without a PMO? Her only pleasure or crutch is taken away! All this does is to increase the size of the sacrifice that the PMOer feels she is making, which makes it even more precious in her mind.

    Other examples: “I’ll stop PMO so that I will force myself to get a social life and seek more sex in real life” OR “I’ll stop so some magical energy will help me to leap above the competitors and get this woman I pursue” OR “I commit to not waste my energy and enthusiasm in PMO, so I can grow enough hunger in myself.” These are true and can be effective and you may end up getting what you want. But think about it for a second - if you do get what you had wanted, once the novelty has gone you will feel deprived - if you didn’t then you will feel miserable and either way sooner or later you will fall for the trap again.

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    1. Another classic example of false incentives is the guru promise. When I was younger it would make me feel angry if you’d call me a saint. It is a cuss word. Stopping will give you happiness as you are not engaged in the tug of war and your brain is starting to re-wire and regain impulse controls and all that. However you must keep in mind that none of this will make you a sex god or win a lotto. No one, except you, cares if you stop PMO. You are not a weak person either if you are doing PMO three times a day and have PIED. And you are not a strong person if you are an addict and don’t have PIED.

    Stop kidding yourself. If the job offer that I mentioned before, of 10 months work for 12 months salary a year won’t stop him. Or if the risks of cutting down your brain’s capacity to cope with just any normal day-to-day stress and strains or if putting yourself at odds with having a reliable erection, or if the lifetime of mental and physical torture and slavery did not stop him or her - the above said few phoney incentives will not make the slightest bit of difference. They will only make the sacrifice appear worse. Instead concentrate on the other side:

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    Keep looking at the other side of the tug of war. What is PMOing doing for me? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Why do I need to do it? YOU DON’T! YOU ARE ONLY PUNISHING YOURSELF. Try looking at it from the Pascal’s Wager perspective. You have almost nothing to lose (a rub-out with half arousals) for sure, chances of big profits (a full and reliable arousal, mental well being and happiness) and no chance of losing big (unreliable full arousals, premature ejaculations, fading penetrations, loss of general impulse controls, lower tolerance for frustrations and anger).

    Why not declare your quitting to friends and family? Well, it will make you a proud ex-addict, ex-PMOer, not an elated and happy non-PMOer. It will scare your partner a bit since they may see this as an effort to have more sex, sort of a new-age thing. They may also fear to lose you if this turns you into sex machine. It is hard to explain to them unless they are open minded.

    Any attempt to get others to help you in your quitting gives more power to the little monster of addiction. Pushing it from your mind and totally ignoring it has the effect of trying NOT to think of it. As soon as you spot the thoughts, when you hit the cues (home alone) or just absent minded thoughts - just say to yourself: “Great, I don’t have to do it like a slave animal. I am free. I am happy to know the differences in sex.” This will cut the life of the thought and will deny oxygen to it and will stop it from burning towards urges and cravings.

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    This chapter contains instructions about the easy way to stop PMO. Providing you follow the instructions, you will find that stopping ranges from relatively easy to enjoyable! But remember the definition of a brunette: “a girl who didn’t read the instructions on the bottle.” It is ridiculously easy to stop PMO. All you have to do is two things:

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      I started talking to ex-PMOers. Up to this point I had regarded them as people who had been forced to give up PMO for health and religious reasons and who were always secretly longing for a harem visit. A few did say, “You get the odd pangs but they are so few and far between they aren’t worth bothering about.” But most said, “Miss it? You must be joking! I have never felt better in my life.” Even failures were fail forwards for them. They did not condemn themselves. It was easier for them to unconditionally accept themselves. Like a coach who will accept a mistake by a genuinely golden player. Talking to ex-PMOers exploded another myth that I had always had in my mind. I had thought that there was an inherent weakness in me and it suddenly dawned on me that all PMOers go through this private nightmare.

      Basically I said to myself, “Scores of people are stopping now and leading perfectly happy lives. I didn’t need to do it before I started and I can remember having to work hard to get used to this filth. So why do I need to do it now?” In any event I didn’t enjoy PMO, I hated the whole filthy ritual and I didn’t want to spend the rest of my life being the slave of this disgusting porn addiction.

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      I knew, right from that point, that I would never PMO again. I wasn’t expecting it to be easy; in fact, just the reverse. I fully believed that I was in for months of black depression and that I would spend the rest of my life having the occasional pang. Instead it has been absolute bliss right from the start.

      It took me a long time to work out why it had been so easy and why this time I hadn’t suffered those terrifying withdrawal pangs. The reason is that they do not exist. It is the doubt and uncertainty that causes the pangs. The beautiful truth is: IT IS EASY TO STOP PMO. It is only the indecision and moping about it that makes it difficult. Even while they are addicted to porn, PMOers can go for relatively long periods at certain times in their lives without bothering about it. It is only when you want it but can’t have one that you suffer.

      Therefore the key to making it easy is to make stopping certain and final. Not to hope but to know you have kicked it, having made the decision. Never to doubt or question it. In fact, just the reverse - always to rejoice about it. If you can be certain from the start, it will be easy. But how can you be certain from the start unless you know it is going to be easy? This is why the rest of the book is necessary. There are certain essential points and it is necessary to get them clear in your mind before you start:

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    4. I have mentioned several times a withdrawal period of up to three weeks. This can cause misunderstanding. First, you may subconsciously feel that you have to suffer for three weeks. You don’t. Secondly, avoid the trap of thinking, “Somehow I have just got to abstain for three weeks and then I will be free.” Nothing magic will actually happen after three weeks. You won’t suddenly feel like a non-PMOer. Non-PMOers do not feel any different from PMOers. If you are moping about stopping during the three weeks, in all probability you will still be moping about it after the three weeks. What I am saying is, if you can start right now by saying, “I am never going to PMO again. Isn’t it marvelous?” After three weeks all temptation will go. Whereas if you say, “If only I can survive three weeks without a PMO,” you will be dying for a harem visit after the three weeks are up.

    Sexual dysfunction has a lot to do with your brain and your mind frame. Internet Porn rewires your brain’s reward circuit and gives your mind a ‘doubting’ mind frame. This self doubt will undoubtedly cause your sexual dysfunctions. Having all the desire in your upper part but putting up no arousal in your lower part is the worst thing to happen to your mind frame. Libido going hand in hand with romance is the elixir of youth that you can have until you die. You will keep the probabilities high by quitting. But that is not the only or the major gain in all this. It is your freedom from slavery.

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      Whatever you do DO NOT DOUBT YOUR DECISION. Once you start to doubt, you will start to mope and it will get worse. Instead use the moment as a boost. CONVERT MOPE TO BOOST. If the cause is depression then remind yourself that’s what the internet porn and PMO were doing to you. If you are forwarded a URL by a friend, take pride in saying, “I’m happy to say I do not need them any more.” That will hurt him but when he sees that it isn’t bothering you he will be halfway to joining you.

      Remember that you had very powerful reasons for stopping in the first place. Remind yourself of the costs and ask yourself whether you really want to risk too much of those fearful ‘malfunctions’ of your ‘equipage’ which is not the greatest loss if you ask me - but the most important loss of mental happiness and well being - of not living under a ‘spell’. This is called ‘referenting’ or spotting of the minimizing efforts of the monster about the hazards. Above all, remember that the feeling is only temporary and each moment is a moment nearer to your goal.

      Some PMOers fear that they will have to spend the rest of their lives reversing the ‘automatic triggers’. In other words, they believe that they will have to go through life kidding themselves that they don’t really need PMO by the use of psychology. This is not so. Remember that the optimist sees the bottle as half full and the pessimist sees it as half empty. In the case of PMO, the bottle is empty and the PMOer sees it as full. There are just no advantages with internet porn and PMO. It is the PMOer who has been brainwashed. Once you start telling yourself that you don’t need to orgasm using PMO, in a very short time you won’t even need to say it because the beautiful truth is… you do not need to PMO. It’s the last thing you need to do; make sure it’s not the last thing you do.

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    This is the undoing of many PMOers who try to stop on the Willpower Method. They will go through three or four days and then have the odd peek or a PMO or two to tide them over. They do not realize the devastating effect this has on their morale.

    For most PMOers that first peek at the tube site harem was not as good as sex with a real person. The clips that are clean are far in between. This gives their conscious minds a boost. They think, “Good. That wasn’t entirely all that enjoyable. I am losing the urge to PMO and I am not that much into the shocking stuff.” In fact, the reverse is the case. Get it clear in your mind - enjoyment of orgasm wasn’t the reason why you hit porn. If PMOers were there for orgasm alone, they’d never watch more than one clip. The only reason why you PMO was to feed that little monster. Just think: you had starved him for four days. How precious that one peek must have been to him. You are not aware of it in your conscious mind but the fix your body received will be communicated to your subconscious mind and all your sound preparation will be undermined. There will be a little voice at the back of your mind saying, “In spite of all the logic they are precious. I want another one.”

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    The combinations of factors that will determine how easily each individual PMOer will quit are infinite. To start with, each of us has his own character, type of work, personal circumstances, timing, etc. Certain professions may make it harder than others but providing the brainwashing is removed it doesn’t have to be so. A few individual examples will help.

    It tends to be particularly difficult for members of the medical profession. We think it should be easier for doctors because they are more aware of the effects of ill- health and are seeing daily evidence of it. Although this supplies more forceful reasons for stopping, it doesn’t make it any easier to do. The reasons are these:

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      After his hard day at work, when the stress is momentarily relieved by PMO, that session becomes wrongly attached to the relief experienced. Because of this mis-association of ideas the porn and the PMO gets credit for the total situation. It becomes very precious when he eventually quits and goes through his withdrawal pangs. This is a form of casual PMO and applies to any situation where the PMOer is forced to abstain for lengthy-periods. Under the Willpower Method the PMOer is miserable because he is being deprived. He is not enjoying the tiredness and sleep that goes after a PMO. His sense of loss is therefore greatly increased. However, if you can first remove the brainwashing and stop moping about the PMO, the break and the sleep can still be enjoyed even while the body is craving the amine transmitters - serotonin, norepinephrine and dopamine.

      Another difficult situation is boredom, particularly when it is combined with periods of stress. Typical examples are students and single parents. The work is stressful, yet much of the work is monotonous. During an attempt to stop on the Willpower Method the single person has long periods in which to mope about his or her “loss” which increases the feeling of depression. Again this can be easily overcome if your frame of mind is correct. Do not worry that you are continually reminded that you have stopped PMOing. Use such moments to rejoice in the fact that you are ridding yourself of the evil monster.

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    There are two main reasons for failure. The first is the influence of external stimuli - a commercial, online news articles, internet browsing etc. At a weak moment or even during a social occasion somebody will get intimate with their partner. I have already dealt with this topic at length. Use that moment to remind yourself that there is no such thing as one visit or one peek. Rejoice in the fact that you have broken the chain of mental slavery. Remember that the PMOer envies you, and feel sorry for him. Believe me, he needs your pity. The other main reason for failure is having a bad day. Get it clear in your mind before you start that, whether you are a PMOer or a non-PMOer, there are good days and bad days. It rains for both the pope and the murderer.

    Life is a matter of relativity and you cannot have ups without having downs. The problem with the Willpower Method of stopping is that as soon as the PMOer has a bad day he starts moping for his ‘harem’ visit and all that does is make a bad day worse. The non-PMOer is better equipped, not only physically but also mentally, to cope with the stresses and strains of life. If you have a bad day during the withdrawal period just take it on the chin. Remind yourself that you had bad days when you were addicted (otherwise you wouldn’t have decided to stop). Instead of moping about it, say to yourself something like, “OK, today’s not so good but masturbating is not going to cure it. Tomorrow will be better and at least I have got a marvellous bonus at the moment. I have kicked that awful PMO habit.”

    When you are a PMOer you have to block your mind to the bad side of PMO. PMOer never have brain fog just “a bit down.” When you are having life’s inevitable troubles you want to PMO but are you happy and cheerful? Of course you aren’t. Once you stop, the tendency is to blame everything that goes wrong in your life on the fact that you have stopped.

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    The diving board is 1 foot high but seems to be 6 feet high. The water is 6 feet deep but appears to be 1 foot deep. It takes courage to launch yourself. You are convinced you are going to smash your head. The launching is the hardest part. If you can find the courage to do it, the rest is easy. This explains why many otherwise strong-willed PMOers either have never attempted to stop or can survive only a few days when they do. In fact, there are some PMOers on a porn diet who when they decide to stop, actually binge and escalate to harsher clips more quickly than if they had not decided to stop. The decision causes panic, which is stressful. This is one of the occasions when the brain triggers the instruction, “take a trip to your own personal harem.” But now you can’t take one. You are being deprived - more stress.

    The trigger starts again quickly when the fuse blows and you fire up the browser. Don’t worry. That panic is just psychological. It is the fear that you are dependent. The beautiful truth is that you are not, even when you are still addicted. Do not panic. Just trust me and launch yourself.

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    The moment of revelation usually takes place about three weeks after stopping. The sky appears to become brighter and it is the moment when the brainwashing ends completely. When instead of telling yourself you do not need to PMO, you suddenly realize that the last thread is broken and you can enjoy the rest of your life without ever needing PMO again. It is also usually from this point that you start looking at other PMOers as objects of pity.

    PMOers using the Willpower Method do not normally experience this moment because although they are glad to be ex-PMOers they continue through life believing they are making a sacrifice. The more you were addicted, the more marvellous this moment is and it lasts a lifetime. I consider I have been very fortunate in this life and had some wonderful moments but the most wonderful of all was that moment of revelation. With all the other highlights of my life, although I can remember they were happy times, I can never recapture the actual feeling. I can never get over the joy of not having to PMO any more. If ever I am feeling low and need a boost nowadays, I just think how lovely it is not to be hooked on that awful addiction. Half the people who contact me after they have stopped visiting the online harems say exactly the same thing: that it was the most marvellous event of their lives. Ah! What pleasure you have to come! With additional feedback, both from forums and personal interactions, I have learned that in most cases the moment of revelation occurs not after three weeks, as stated above, but within a few days.

    In my own case it happened before I was finished on my last harem visit. I am sure many of the readers here, before they’d even got to the end of the chapters would say something like: “You needn’t say another word. I can see it all so clearly, I know I’ll never PMO again.” From the messages I receive I’m also aware that it frequently happens.

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    Most ex-PMOers experience the moment of revelation around this period. What usually happens is you are in one of those stressful or social situations that once you couldn’t cope with or enjoy without a harem visit. You suddenly realize that not only are you enjoying or coping with it but the thought of PMO has never even occurred to you. From that point on it is usually plain sailing. That’s when you know you are free.

    I have noticed from my previous attempts using the Willpower Method and from feedback from others, that around the three-week period is when most serious attempts to stop fail. I believe that what usually happens is that after about three weeks you sense that you have lost the desire to PMO. You need to prove this to yourself and so you hop on your browser to visit your harem. It feels weird. You’ve proved you have kicked it. But you’ve also greased the DeltaFosB porn water slides thanks to the fresh dopamine rush into your brain and this dopamine rush is what your body has been craving for three weeks. As soon as you finish the deed the dopamine starts to leave your body. Now a little voice is saying, “You haven’t kicked it. You want another one.”

    You don’t scurry back straight away because you don’t want to get hooked again. You allow a safe period to pass. When you are next tempted you are able to say to yourself: “But I didn’t get hooked again, so there’s no harm in having another one.” You are already on your way down the slippery slope. The key to the problem is not to wait for the moment of revelation but to realize that once you close the browser it is finished. You’ve already done all you need to do. You’ve cut off the supply of oxygen to your little monster. No force on earth can prevent you from being free unless you mope about it or wait for revelation. Go and enjoy life; cope with it right from the start. That way you’ll soon experience the moment.

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    No matter how long you have stopped or how confident you are that you will never become hooked again, make it a rule of life not to PMO for any reason. Resist the allusions and innuendoes in the media, and remember they are pushing their image of ‘openness’ by bringing porn into mainstream without realizing how porn, internet porn etc. are killers of relationships and of the personal sense of well being for a huge number of men and some women.

    Remember, that first peek or visit will do nothing for you. You will have no withdrawal pangs to relieve and it will make you feel awful. What it will do is to put the pleasure of dopamine rush into your mind and brain, and a little voice at the back of your mind will be saying, “you want another one.” Then you have got the choice of being miserable for a while or starting the whole filthy chain again.

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    This method will be pooh-poohed by the so-called experts - as I have kept it thin, deliberately, on the ‘science’ side of porn addiction. This ‘hackbook’ is based on a very successful technique used by Alan Carr for quitting smoking, alcohol and gambling. I have personally broken away from the prisons of cigarette, alcohol and internet porn with this technique. I’d like to add here that I’ve tried some of the best programmes - such as CBT, DEADS and AVERT before arriving at the EasyWay. I could not close the deal. I was then led to studying about self hypnosis that deals with bad habits. The key idea that sold me on this method is his emphasis on the “feelings of misery and deprivation, misery and sacrifice, misery and guilt.” If you use the Will Power method you will invariably have all or one of these awful feelings that in themselves provide the grease to slide back to the addiction.

    I’m not a do-gooder. My war - which, I emphasize, is not against PMOers but against the porn trap, I wage for the purely selfish reason that I enjoy it. Every time I hear of a PMOer escaping from the prison I get a feeling of great pleasure, even when it has nothing to do with me. You can imagine also the immense pleasure I obtain from the grateful letters that I have received over time.

    There has also been considerable frustration. The frustration is caused mainly by two main categories of PMOer. First, in spite of the warning in the previous chapter, I am disturbed by the number of PMOers who find it easy to stop, yet later get hooked again and find they can’t succeed the next time.

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    Find out which one it is. Some people understand and believe everything I say but still start off with a feeling of doom and gloom, as if something terrible were happening. You are doing not only what you’d like to do but what every PMOer on the planet would like to do. With any method of stopping, what the ex PMOer is trying to achieve is a certain frame of mind, so that whenever he thinks about PMO he says to himself, “YIPPEE! I’M FREE!” If that’s your object, why wait? Start off in that frame of mind and never lose it. The rest of the book is designed to make you understand why there is no alternative.

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    2. Get this clear in your mind: there is absolutely nothing to give up. By that I don’t mean simply that you will be better off as a non-PMOer (you’ve known that all this time); nor do I mean that although there is no rational reason why you PMO, you must get some form of pleasure or crutch from it or you wouldn’t do it. What I mean is, there is no genuine pleasure or crutch in PMOing. It is just an illusion, it’s an addiction like banging your head against a wall to make it pleasant when you stop.
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    PMOers are panicking nowadays. They sense that there is a change in the way internet porn is perceived by men and women. Internet porn’s addictive nature is being studied by more and more people. It is now rightly regarded not as the same as old traditional porn. It’s easy reach and effortless availability raises alarm even in the hearts of porn supporters. They also sense that their crusade for free speech and free thought is being hijacked by vicious elements. The wild wild west nature of the unpoliced internet makes it hard for enforcing age restrictive access to supranormal stimuli. Yet I don’t think this whole thing will be coming to an end anytime soon. Thousands of PMOers are now stopping and all porn users are conscious of the new brain studies that point their studied fingers to the similarities of drug and substance addiction. Every time a PMOer leaves the sinking ship, the ones left on it feel more miserable. Every PMOer instinctively knows that it is ridiculous to self sabotage and spend time in front of two dimensional pixels, treat the poor brain to super surges, develop porn brain water slides that will guarantee him unreliable erections and fading penetrations. If you still don’t think it is silly, try talking to a porn magazine standing at the centre of the city square and ask yourself what the difference is. Just one. You cannot get the pleasure of warmth and intimacy that way. If you can stop buying alcohol and cigarettes every time you go grocery shopping you can definitely stop visiting your online harems. PMOers cannot find a rational reason for PMOing but if someone else is doing it, they do not feel quite so silly.

    PMOers blatantly lie about their habit, not only to others and university researchers but worse of all to themselves. They have to. The brainwashing is essential if they are to retain some self-respect. They feel the need to justify their “habit” not only to themselves but to non-PMOers. They are therefore forever advertising the illusory advantages of porn and PMO by more subtler means.

    If a PMOer stops using the Willpower Method he still feels deprived and tends to become a moaner. All this does is to confirm to other PMOers how right they are to keep PMOing. If the ex-PMOer succeeds in kicking the habit, he is then grateful that he no longer has to go through life sabotaging himself or wasting energy. But he has no need to justify himself, he doesn’t sit there saying how marvellous it is not to be PMOing. He will do that only if he is asked and PMOers won’t ask that question. They wouldn’t like the answer. Remember: it is fear that keeps them in their addiction and they would rather keep their heads in the sand. The only time they ask that question is when it is time to stop. Help the PMOer. Remove these fears. Tell him how marvellous it is not to have to go through life living in a prison, how lovely it is to wake up in the morning feeling fit and healthy instead of lacking in energy and self loathing, how wonderful it is to be free of slavery, to be able to enjoy the whole of your life, to be rid of those awful black shadows. Or, better still; get him to read this book.

    It is essential not to belittle a married PMOer by indicating that he is deliberately ruining his relationship or is in some way a cheat and is unclean. There is a common conception that the ex-PMOer is the worst in this respect. I believe this conception has some substance but I think this is due to the Willpower Method of stopping. Because the ex-PMOer, although he has kicked the habit, retains part of the brainwashing - part of him still believes that he has made a sacrifice. He feels vulnerable and his natural defensive mechanism is to attack the PMOer.

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    Enforced abstinences do not actually cut down the intake because the PMOer just indulges himself even more when he is eventually allowed to be alone. All it does is to ingrain in the PMOer’s mind how precious internet porn and PMO are and how dependent he is upon them. I think the most insidious aspect of this enforced abstinence is its effect on younger population. We allow the “hijackers” of “freedom of expression” - the porn producers - to target unfortunate teenagers to get hooked in the first place. Then, at what is probably the most stressful period in their lives, when in their deluded minds they need PMO most of all, we blackmail them into giving up because of the harm they are causing to themselves.

    Many are unable to do so and are forced, through no fault of their own, to suffer a guilt complex for the rest of their lives. Many of them succeed and are pleased to do so, thinking, “Fine. I will do this for now and after it’s over I will be cured anyway.” Then comes the pain and fear of finding work etc. followed by the biggest “high” of their lives - finding a job. The pain and fear are over. Then they feel secure and the old trigger mechanism comes back into operation. Part of the brainwashing is still there and almost before the smell of the new work laptop is gone the PMOer is at the threshold of his favourite online harem. The elation of the occasion blocks the foul feelings from his or her mind. She has no intention of becoming hooked again. But… “just the one peek.” Too late! She is already hooked again.

    The little porn monster has got into her body again. The old craving will start and even if she doesn’t become hooked again straight away, post-high depression will probably catch her out. It is strange that although heroin addicts are criminals in law, our society’s attitude is quite rightly, “What can we do to help these pathetic individuals?” Let us adopt the same attitude to the poor PMOer. He is not doing it because he wants to but because he thinks he has got to and, unlike the heroin addict, he usually has to suffer years and years of mental and physical torture. We always say a quick death is better than a slow one, so do not envy the poor PMOer. He and she deserves your pity.

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    Instead, concentrate on the other side of the coin. Get him into the company of ex-PMOers (there are many blogs, forums etc. YBOP, No-Fap etc.). Get them to tell the PMOer how they too thought they were hooked for life and how much better life is as a non-PMOer. Once you have got him believing that he can stop then his mind will start to open up. Then start explaining the delusion created by withdrawal pangs. Not only are the “dopamine rushes” not giving him a boost but they are destroying his confidence and making him irritable and tired.

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    Because he is not talking about PMOing, you may think he has forgotten about it and don’t want to remind him. Usually the complete opposite is the case with the Willpower Method, as the ex-PMOer tends to be obsessed by nothing else. So do not be frightened to bring the subject up and keep praising him: he will tell you if he doesn’t want you to remind him of PMOing.

    Go out of your way to relieve him of pressures during the withdrawal period. Try to think of ways of making his life interesting and enjoyable. This can also be a trying period for non-PMOers - that is those of you who have never had this addiction. If one member of a group is irritable, it can cause general misery all round. So anticipate this if the ex-PMOer is feeling irritable. He may well take it out on you but do not retaliate: it is at this time that he needs your praise and sympathy the most. If you are feeling irritable yourself, try not to show it.

    One of the tricks an addict will play when trying to give up with the aid of the Willpower Method was to get into a tantrum, hoping that wife or friends would say, “I cannot bear to see you suffering like this. For goodness sake, have your poison.” The PMOer then does not lose face, as he isn’t “giving in” - he has been instructed. If the ex-PMOer uses this ploy, on no account encourage him to lapse. Instead say, “if that is what PMO does to you, thank goodness you will soon be free. How marvellous that you had the courage and sense to give up.”

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    The producers of porn are not doing this in good faith, in the genuine belief that they help mankind, especially now as the addiction to internet porn is widely studied. Maybe in its initial stages people genuinely believed that porn taught intimacy to men and women but today the authorities know that it is a fallacy. Just watch any tube sites nowadays. They make no claims about education. The only claims they make are about the shock, novelty, escalation quality of their clips.

    The sheer hypocrisy is incredible. As a society we get uptight about school bullying and objectification of human body. Compared with internet porn, these problems are mere pimples in our society. Thirty five per cent of the population have been addicted to porn and most of them spend quality time with imaginary and illusory pixel people at the expense of health, virility, energy and time. Tens of thousands of people have their lives ruined every year because they become hooked. Internet high speed porn is by far the biggest killer in relationships and yet the biggest vested interest is our for-profit companies. Internet porn producers don’t spend on advertising the filth in mainstream publications - they don’t have to. Our biological urges will lead us to the thresholds of their well stocked internet harems. They give free samples just like your local drug dealer. Heck the tube sites don’t even stock the wares any more as they encourage visitors to post the content.

    How clever that porn companies show the 18+ warning at their home page as the deterrent for under age users. Some even don’t bother to do that. Internet porn affect everyone at all ages. “We have warned you of the danger. It is your choice.” Is the attitude they have. Anyway, do they take any steps to verify the age? No. That would discourage their customers. And of course if age verification is legislated they will find another country to host. Or they will pay some ‘elite’ to write how prohibition resulted in bootlegging and the creation of the Mafia. Conveniently forgotten is the question of why repealing prohibition did not result in the reduction of alcohol related casualty numbers. And the contribution of the failure of law enforcement to control the Mafia’s growth. So let’s not waste time in talking about them.

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    I remember reading H. G. Well’s The Time Machine. The book describes an incident in the distant future in which a man falls into a river. His companions merely sit around the bank like cattle, oblivious to his cries of desperation. I found that incident inhuman and very disturbing. I find the general apathy of our society to the PMO problem very similar. We find characters in movies and TV series talking about or even engaging in porn in a casual way.

    Why do we allow society to subject healthy young teenagers, youngsters whose lives are complete before they start to get online, to claim their independence just for the privilege of destroying themselves mentally and physically in a lifetime of slavery, a lifetime of filth and disease? You may feel that I over-dramatize the facts. Not so. There are cases where lives were cut down in his early years of marriage because of PMO. He was a strong man and might still have been alive today. I believe I was within an inch of PIED during my forties, although I would have attributed it to my divorce rather than to PMO. I now spend my life being consulted by people who have been crippled by the disease or are in the last stages. And, if you care to think about it, you probably know of many too.

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      Should I tell my wife, girlfriend and SO about my PMO? The intention here is that it would help you in quitting. I am of the solid opinion that all these are not needed. It would only reinforce your weakness against PMO.

      If you slip, you will feel miserable and guilty if you are following the Willpower Method. Add to that the feeling of deceiving your loved one will definitely push you through the vicious cycle of slip-lapse-relapse.

      If you are caught once - just say you are feeling good that you got caught and you are out of the prison. And you don’t want to talk about it. Many women can’t digest it. Many men wrongly attribute the woman to be of loose morals and hence a bad person. And if the SO breaks up with you (even if for some other reason) you will feel guilty for having screwed up your sex life with PMO OR feeling you “sacrificed” so much if you were successful in quitting - adding to the heart ache.

      You will look very weak. They will treat you as a weak person - of course only subconsciously. But you can smell it. Why the stress?

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      You are relaxed now and because you are so relaxed you begin to feel free from all tensions, anxiety and fear. You now realize that you are more confident and sure of yourself because you have taken the enormous first step toward helping yourself. Great!

      You begin to feel this strength from within, motivating you to overcome any and every obstacle that may stand in the way of your happiness, social life and home life. You are not a slave to PMO any more!

      You will find that from this moment on you are developing more self control. You will now face every situation in a calm, relaxed state of mind. Your thinking is very clear and sharp at all times. You are free!

      You begin to feel that your self respect and confidence are expanding more and more each and every day in every way. You now realize that in the past addiction was an escape and weakness that you are replacing with confidence, strength and self control. You are becoming a happy person now, with a positive attitude toward life. You are succeeding now and you have all the abilities for success.

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      As so from this moment on, you have no compulsion toward porn, that’s been removed. You’re going to be surprised and amazed at how much better you feel. You’ve lost all desire to watch porn. The desire is gone for you. You’re no longer interested in porn in any form… And all those suggestions take complete and thorough effect on you… The fourth point is rehabilitation.

      That consists of breaking the habit pattern and strengthening the self. The habit pattern is only part of yesterday and yesterday’s habit pattern with regard to porn is gone. Your damaged ego has been repaired. For this is a dynamic way with dealing with PMOers. And it’s a dynamic pattern in dealing with you. For we removed your habit pattern, and porn to you is distasteful, you have no desire for it in any form and should you even accidentally glance it, it will be distasteful to you. Your faith in your own self is strengthened and these suggestions are reinforced which is the fifth point…

      … over and over again at regular intervals in you life. Now you sink deeper and deeper and deeper… And your PMO problem vanishes leaving you sound in mind, sound in spirit, sound in body and sound in health.

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      As you go deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance and you pay attention only to the sound of my voice. As you listen carefully to the sound of my voice, we are going to remove a number of suggestions which have been in your mind. We are going to remove them completely and as you listen carefully to them we’re simply going to dissolve them… throw them out of your mind completely and forever… Nothing disturbs you and nothing bothers you and nothing can distract you in any way from listening to the sound of my voice… and from completely accepting everything I tell you… for everything I tell you is the absolute truth to you… and we’re going to remove all suggestions from your mind that have been detrimental to you in the past.

      The first suggestion you had in your mind is that somehow or another that porn, an image, an illusion, has been of some use to you. Masturbating to porn is of no use to you and you know it. You’re through PMO for any reason. It doesn’t make you relax, it doesn’t make you sleep well, it doesn’t do anything for you. As a matter of fact it ruins your efficiency… and consequently you’re through with it. The fact that porn has ever been beneficial to you in any way is completely removed from your mind. I am going to count to five and that suggestion is completely removed from your mind never to return. One, Two, Three, Four, Five.

      The next suggestion that you may have accepted is that porn is a good means of punishing yourself. In the first place, you’re through punishing yourself and in the second place you’re through using porn as a means to do it. The only reason anyone ever punishes himself is because somewhere deep in his mind he feels guilty and you’re through allowing your-self to feel guilty. And so with one count we’re going to remove the guilt, whatever it is and from whatever source the punishment, the need for punishment, and that porn could be used as a vehicle to achieve it. One. Two. Three. Four. Five.

      Those ideas are all gone. Porn to you is a poison and a lousy inefficient poison at that… just enough poison to make you sick and ineffective. But then you’re through poisoning yourself and you’re through using porn and so that need is also removed from your mind. One. Two. Three. Four. Five.

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      Even if offered it, you’d refuse it, because you think of it as disgusting, foul tasting and vomit producing. And so the negative suggestions are now removed from your mind and those suggestions which I have given you now replace them. At the count of five. One. Two. Three. Four. Five.

      From this moment on you are free, free from the porn, free from it’s entangling octopus like tentacles, free from it’s degrading self-punishing nature, free from from its ruination, free from it’s ability to wreck your life. You’re completely free because all the connections in your mind with the porn and it’s substitutes have been completely removed. The wires have been pulled out and you are unable to restore them even if you should want to. Just imagine that a big telephone switchboard exists in your head and that we pulled out all of the wires connected to the hole marked “porn” so that even if something is plugged into it nothing will happen. You don’t want it. You can’t buy it. You don’t need it and if offered you’d refuse it. It’s disgusting to you. It’s awful. Has a terrible effect and makes you sick to your stomach to even think about it. One. Two. Three. Four. Five.

      Now you are going to be completely successful in every way and surprised and amazed at the self discipline and confidence that you have in yourself knowing that you’ve licked the problem and that it will stay licked. Now sleep. Sleep deeply. And your mind concentrates on the sound of my voice and you go deeper and deeper and deeper. Relax.

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      Now as you sink deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance. You pay no attention to any other sound but the sound of my voice. You sink deeper and deeper with every breath you take. Deeper and deeper and deeper, way down, deeper and deeper relaxed.

      In the past porn may have been to you something that meant life. In your mind you may have accepted a suggestion that porn saves your life from boredom or porn protects you from being injured socially, porn is good for you in some manner or another. But that was yesterday and we are in the future. All that was yesterday, because porn may have protected you from injury in the past socially, it could have even saved your life from boredom.

      And those suggestions may have been good suggestions at one time but they have outlived their usefulness and if any of those suggestions are present to any degree in your mind, they are completely removed as of now. And that suggestion takes complete and thorough effect upon your mind, body and spirit.

      Now to other people porn means death. It’s a way of punishing oneself. It’s a poison and some people want to poison themselves. It’s a method of slow suicide. Well, you don’t need that now. If porn ever meant death and suicide to you and you have a need to punish yourself, that need is now long gone and we remove that suggestion. The truth of the matter is that porn is just porn. It’s not life. It’s not death. As a matter of fact, it’s not anything to you anymore. It’s nothing, neutral feelings. It’s something that you don’t need nor do you want.

      You’ve lost all desire for porn in any form. You’re interested in YouTube. You love funny videos, National Geographic videos, Ted talks when it’s good. And there are many other videos that you like and that you can watch. There’s NFL and NBA, Food Network, and many game shows, a number of which you enjoy. But the one that doesn’t do you any good and that you don’t even care about anymore is porn. Now that was yesterday when porn may have saved your life from boredom or protected you from social injury or when it was a means of self punishment. That was when you ran yourself down and lost your self. That was yesterday when you thought ill of yourself. That was yesterday when you made yourself into a failure. And today is when you put porn aside forever. And when you put it aside, you put it aside with all the other failures. You put it aside with all the other means of self punishment, with all the fears and anxieties, and everything else.

      Because you don’t need any of that. Today is the day in which you make yourself successful. Today is the day in which you set goals and strive towards those goals. Today is the day in which you have a nice clean cut appearance, in which you feel vitality and can think straight and reason and make decisions upon good judgement and past experience. Today is the day in which you start loving yourself and appreciating yourself for the really good and intelligent individual that you are. Today is the day in which you turn yourself over and turn your life over to something higher than just you, not only to a higher principle, but to a higher inside power. Let that power run your life. Today is the day that you’ll bury your past mistakes and make something out of yourself. Today is the day that you wipe failure out of your book of life and that success becomes really meaningful to you in a very personal way. To be completely succinct about this, today is the day that you throw porn away. You throw it away for good. You don’t need it and you’ll never need it. You don’t want it and you’ll never want it. You can’t desire it and you don’t. You’re through with porn. You don’t need it, you don’t want it, and you can’t watch it. It is terrible. It acts terrible. And it makes you feel terrible.

      You’re going to enjoy life fully in every way and feel happy, live, laugh, love, and be happy for that’s what today means to you. Now all these suggestions take complete and thorough effect upon you mind, body and spirit as you sink deeper and deeper relaxed and they seal themselves into your subconscious mind and they reinforce themselves over and over again. I’m going to give you a period of silence in which all this takes effect and that period of silence begins now…

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      To an individual who has had a PMO problem, porn is poison. It’s poison in two ways. First of all it’s poison because it breaks down the very will power, the very ego, the very faith in oneself that the individual is able to build up. And so it is a psychological poison because having once conquered the porn problem, if you ever allow it to get back into you again then you begin thinking about yourself all the thoughts that you thought about yourself before, namely, well I really am no good anyway, I really didn’t lick it and so on. So it’s a psychological poison.

      Now in addition to that for anyone who has ever had a porn problem, it’s a physical poison. It actually poisons your system. Because you’re allergic to porn just like other people are allergic to other things. And so if you’re allergic to something, even penicillin, it’s poison to you and you must never take it. The same is true with porn. If you’re allergic to it, you’re through with it. Now you’ve been allergic to porn. porn is a poison to you. What’s even more fascinating is that usually the reason why one is drawn to porn is not for most of the reasons that most people reiterate, namely that it makes me feel good, I like it, all these things. On the contrary, almost every person who has a porn problem will tell you just the opposite. I don’t like it. It’s ruining my life. It’s terrible.

      And if that’s true, then why are they drawn to it? For precisely that reason. Because it is a poison and because they in their subconscious mind need to commit suicide and so they do it the slow tortuous way. And so that’s why it’s so important that the underlying cause of the problem be completely removed so that you don’t need to punish yourself again with porn. And that’s why we have removed them.

      That’s why you don’t need to punish yourself anymore. Because you realize you’re not guilty to begin with. And if you’re not guilty you don’t have to punish yourself. And since you’re through punishing yourself, you’re through poisoning yourself. Yes porn is a poison. It’s important that you realize that it’s a poison and you are leaving poisons alone. Because you don’t need poison any more. You don’t need to poison yourself. You don’t need to punish yourself. You’re through with all that.

      You’re going to appreciate yourself. That’s what you’re going to do, appreciate yourself for the talents that you have, for the fact that you have life, for all the good that you can do in that life for yourself and others. In talking about porn we frequently say he got his fix. Interesting how drugs and porn go together. You’re through with porn. You don’t even take a peek at it. You’re just beginning to appreciate yourself, to value yourself, your mind and your body and to make them really work for you.

      You’re going to make yourself happy and you’re going to make others happy by staying abstinent, by avoiding completely like the plague any video which you are allergic to and porn especially for you’re most allergic to that. You have obtained a great victory in forever placing porn behind you for you have now placed a beautiful future before you. For no matter what may befall you, good, bad, indifferent, it’s still better and easier and happier to face the future as an ex-PMOer than a PMOer. Indeed, you’re going to have twice the fun as ex-PMOer than you ever had PMOed because when PMOing you never had any fun. You were only using porn to assassinate yourself, to poison yourself, to get rid of yourself, to fix yourself, and to become dead lover. And you almost succeeded in that. But you removed all those thoughts from your mind. You’re through punishing yourself. You’re through beating yourself down. You’re now going to build yourself up. You’re through assassinating and you’re going to appreciate and as you start appreciating instead of assassinating you’re going to build yourself up more and more and more with every breath you take as you go deeper and deeper relaxed, deeper and deeper and deeper. And all these suggestions are going to be reinforced in your mind every single day of your life. Now sleep.

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    4. 01-03 Fear
    5. 02-01 Introduction
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    15. 03-03 Why Is It Difficult to Stop?
    16. 03-04 The Sinister Trap
    17. 03-05 Why Do We Carry on With PMO
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    20. 03-19 It Relaxes Me and Gives Me Confidence
    21. 03-20 Those Sinister Black Shadows
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    26. 03-22 Beware of Cutting Down
    27. 03-23 Just One Peek
    28. 03-24 Casual PMOers, Teenagers, Non PMOers
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    30. 03-28 Will I Miss the Fun?
    31. 03-29 Can I Compartmentalize?
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    37. 03-32 The Withdrawal Period
    38. 03-33 Just One Peek
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    43. 03-35 The Main Reasons for Failure
    44. 03-36 Substitutes
    45. 03-37 Should I Avoid Temptation Situations?
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    47. diff --git a/new-site/public/library/hackbook/index.xml b/new-site/public/library/hackbook/index.xml index 9c802b05..f1d1e0d9 100644 --- a/new-site/public/library/hackbook/index.xml +++ b/new-site/public/library/hackbook/index.xml @@ -2620,7 +2620,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:22:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-05/ - <p>“Go inside and try in vain to have the same problem. It was a terrible problem, wasn&rsquo;t it? You want to make changes, haven&rsquo;t you?&hellip; What would it be like when you have made those changes, now? In the future as you look back and see what it was like to have had that problem&hellip; as you think about it now, if you could make this change for yourself so that you could STOP&hellip; having made that change and see yourself now. Do you like the way you look if you could make that change and look back at yourself having made that change now!”</p> + <h2 id="scripts-05">Scripts-05 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-05"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>“Go inside and try in vain to have the same problem. It was a terrible problem, wasn&rsquo;t it? You want to make changes, haven&rsquo;t you?&hellip; What would it be like when you have made those changes, now? In the future as you look back and see what it was like to have had that problem&hellip; as you think about it now, if you could make this change for yourself so that you could STOP&hellip; having made that change and see yourself now. Do you like the way you look if you could make that change and look back at yourself having made that change now!”</p> <p>Credit to <a href="http://www.hypnosis.com/scripts_full.php?id2=48">http://www.hypnosis.com/scripts_full.php?id2=48</a></p> @@ -2631,7 +2633,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:21:45 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-04/ - <p>To an individual who has had a PMO problem, porn is poison. It&rsquo;s poison in two ways. First of all it&rsquo;s poison because it breaks down the very will power, the very ego, the very faith in oneself that the individual is able to build up. And so it is a psychological poison because having once conquered the porn problem, if you ever allow it to get back into you again then you begin thinking about yourself all the thoughts that you thought about yourself before, namely, well I really am no good anyway, I really didn&rsquo;t lick it and so on. So it&rsquo;s a psychological poison.</p> + <h2 id="scripts-04">Scripts-04 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-04"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>To an individual who has had a PMO problem, porn is poison. It&rsquo;s poison in two ways. First of all it&rsquo;s poison because it breaks down the very will power, the very ego, the very faith in oneself that the individual is able to build up. And so it is a psychological poison because having once conquered the porn problem, if you ever allow it to get back into you again then you begin thinking about yourself all the thoughts that you thought about yourself before, namely, well I really am no good anyway, I really didn&rsquo;t lick it and so on. So it&rsquo;s a psychological poison.</p> <p>Now in addition to that for anyone who has ever had a porn problem, it&rsquo;s a physical poison. It actually poisons your system. Because you&rsquo;re allergic to porn just like other people are allergic to other things. And so if you&rsquo;re allergic to something, even penicillin, it&rsquo;s poison to you and you must never take it. The same is true with porn. If you&rsquo;re allergic to it, you&rsquo;re through with it. Now you&rsquo;ve been allergic to porn. porn is a poison to you. What&rsquo;s even more fascinating is that usually the reason why one is drawn to porn is not for most of the reasons that most people reiterate, namely that it makes me feel good, I like it, all these things. On the contrary, almost every person who has a porn problem will tell you just the opposite. I don&rsquo;t like it. It&rsquo;s ruining my life. It&rsquo;s terrible.</p> <p>And if that&rsquo;s true, then why are they drawn to it? For precisely that reason. Because it is a poison and because they in their subconscious mind need to commit suicide and so they do it the slow tortuous way. And so that&rsquo;s why it&rsquo;s so important that the underlying cause of the problem be completely removed so that you don&rsquo;t need to punish yourself again with porn. And that&rsquo;s why we have removed them.</p> <p>That&rsquo;s why you don&rsquo;t need to punish yourself anymore. Because you realize you&rsquo;re not guilty to begin with. And if you&rsquo;re not guilty you don&rsquo;t have to punish yourself. And since you&rsquo;re through punishing yourself, you&rsquo;re through poisoning yourself. Yes porn is a poison. It&rsquo;s important that you realize that it&rsquo;s a poison and you are leaving poisons alone. Because you don&rsquo;t need poison any more. You don&rsquo;t need to poison yourself. You don&rsquo;t need to punish yourself. You&rsquo;re through with all that.</p> @@ -2646,7 +2650,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:20:17 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-03/ - <p>Now as you sink deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance. You pay no attention to any other sound but the sound of my voice. You sink deeper and deeper with every breath you take. Deeper and deeper and deeper, way down, deeper and deeper relaxed.</p> + <h2 id="scripts-03">Scripts-03 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-03"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Now as you sink deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance. You pay no attention to any other sound but the sound of my voice. You sink deeper and deeper with every breath you take. Deeper and deeper and deeper, way down, deeper and deeper relaxed.</p> <p>In the past porn may have been to you something that meant life. In your mind you may have accepted a suggestion that porn saves your life from boredom or porn protects you from being injured socially, porn is good for you in some manner or another. But that was yesterday and we are in the future. All that was yesterday, because porn may have protected you from injury in the past socially, it could have even saved your life from boredom.</p> <p>And those suggestions may have been good suggestions at one time but they have outlived their usefulness and if any of those suggestions are present to any degree in your mind, they are completely removed as of now. And that suggestion takes complete and thorough effect upon your mind, body and spirit.</p> <p>Now to other people porn means death. It&rsquo;s a way of punishing oneself. It&rsquo;s a poison and some people want to poison themselves. It&rsquo;s a method of slow suicide. Well, you don&rsquo;t need that now. If porn ever meant death and suicide to you and you have a need to punish yourself, that need is now long gone and we remove that suggestion. The truth of the matter is that porn is just porn. It&rsquo;s not life. It&rsquo;s not death. As a matter of fact, it&rsquo;s not anything to you anymore. It&rsquo;s nothing, neutral feelings. It&rsquo;s something that you don&rsquo;t need nor do you want.</p> @@ -2662,7 +2668,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:18:50 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-02/ - <p>As you go deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance and you pay attention only to the sound of my voice. As you listen carefully to the sound of my voice, we are going to remove a number of suggestions which have been in your mind. We are going to remove them completely and as you listen carefully to them we&rsquo;re simply going to dissolve them&hellip; throw them out of your mind completely and forever&hellip; Nothing disturbs you and nothing bothers you and nothing can distract you in any way from listening to the sound of my voice&hellip; and from completely accepting everything I tell you&hellip; for everything I tell you is the absolute truth to you&hellip; and we&rsquo;re going to remove all suggestions from your mind that have been detrimental to you in the past.</p> + <h2 id="scripts-02">Scripts-02 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-02"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As you go deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance and you pay attention only to the sound of my voice. As you listen carefully to the sound of my voice, we are going to remove a number of suggestions which have been in your mind. We are going to remove them completely and as you listen carefully to them we&rsquo;re simply going to dissolve them&hellip; throw them out of your mind completely and forever&hellip; Nothing disturbs you and nothing bothers you and nothing can distract you in any way from listening to the sound of my voice&hellip; and from completely accepting everything I tell you&hellip; for everything I tell you is the absolute truth to you&hellip; and we&rsquo;re going to remove all suggestions from your mind that have been detrimental to you in the past.</p> <p>The first suggestion you had in your mind is that somehow or another that porn, an image, an illusion, has been of some use to you. Masturbating to porn is of no use to you and you know it. You&rsquo;re through PMO for any reason. It doesn&rsquo;t make you relax, it doesn&rsquo;t make you sleep well, it doesn&rsquo;t do anything for you. As a matter of fact it ruins your efficiency&hellip; and consequently you&rsquo;re through with it. The fact that porn has ever been beneficial to you in any way is completely removed from your mind. I am going to count to five and that suggestion is completely removed from your mind never to return. One, Two, Three, Four, Five.</p> <p>The next suggestion that you may have accepted is that porn is a good means of punishing yourself. In the first place, you&rsquo;re through punishing yourself and in the second place you&rsquo;re through using porn as a means to do it. The only reason anyone ever punishes himself is because somewhere deep in his mind he feels guilty and you&rsquo;re through allowing your-self to feel guilty. And so with one count we&rsquo;re going to remove the guilt, whatever it is and from whatever source the punishment, the need for punishment, and that porn could be used as a vehicle to achieve it. One. Two. Three. Four. Five.</p> <p>Those ideas are all gone. Porn to you is a poison and a lousy inefficient poison at that&hellip; just enough poison to make you sick and ineffective. But then you&rsquo;re through poisoning yourself and you&rsquo;re through using porn and so that need is also removed from your mind. One. Two. Three. Four. Five.</p> @@ -2679,7 +2687,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:17:25 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-01/ - <p>You are relaxed now and because you are so relaxed you begin to feel free from all tensions, anxiety and fear. You now realize that you are more confident and sure of yourself because you have taken the enormous first step toward helping yourself. Great!</p> + <h2 id="scripts-01">Scripts-01 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-01"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>You are relaxed now and because you are so relaxed you begin to feel free from all tensions, anxiety and fear. You now realize that you are more confident and sure of yourself because you have taken the enormous first step toward helping yourself. Great!</p> <p>You begin to feel this strength from within, motivating you to overcome any and every obstacle that may stand in the way of your happiness, social life and home life. You are not a slave to PMO any more!</p> <p>You will find that from this moment on you are developing more self control. You will now face every situation in a calm, relaxed state of mind. Your thinking is very clear and sharp at all times. You are free!</p> <p>You begin to feel that your self respect and confidence are expanding more and more each and every day in every way. You now realize that in the past addiction was an escape and weakness that you are replacing with confidence, strength and self control. You are becoming a happy person now, with a positive attitude toward life. You are succeeding now and you have all the abilities for success.</p> @@ -2697,7 +2707,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:14:53 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/04-02-rebt-coping-statements/ - <ul> + <h2 id="rebt-coping-statements">REBT Coping Statements <a class="anchor" href="#rebt-coping-statements"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ul> <li><em>“I can stop PMO, even though it appears &lsquo;hard&rsquo; to do so. It’s not too hard and no matter how much trouble it takes, it’s worth it!”</em></li> <li><em>“If I keep ignoring and never giving into my powerful urges to PMO, I will make it easier and easier to resist them”</em></li> <li><em>“I can fully and unconditionally accept myself- yes, even with all my flaws and failings”</em></li> @@ -2722,7 +2734,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:13:26 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/04-01-the-instructions/ - <ol> + <h2 id="the-instructions">The Instructions <a class="anchor" href="#the-instructions"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Follow all the instructions.</li> <li>Keep an open mind.</li> <li>Start with a feeling of elation.</li> @@ -2734,11 +2748,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true <li>Always remember there&rsquo;s no such thing as &ldquo;Just One Peek&rdquo;.</li> <li>Never PMO again.</li> </ol> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="affirmations">Affirmations <a class="anchor" href="#affirmations"> +<h3 id="affirmations">Affirmations <a class="anchor" href="#affirmations"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<ul> +</a></h3><ul> <li>I am free from the slavery of PMO.</li> <li>It is easy for me to ignore my thoughts about PMO.</li> <li>Bye bye thoughts, bye bye Urges. Oh, there goes my cravings.</li> @@ -2763,7 +2775,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 11:36:58 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-44-should-i-tell-my-so/ - <p>Should I tell my wife, girlfriend and SO about my PMO? The intention here is that it would help you in quitting. I am of the solid opinion that all these are not needed. It would only reinforce your weakness against PMO.</p> + <h2 id="should-i-tell-my-so">Should I Tell My SO <a class="anchor" href="#should-i-tell-my-so"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Should I tell my wife, girlfriend and SO about my PMO? The intention here is that it would help you in quitting. I am of the solid opinion that all these are not needed. It would only reinforce your weakness against PMO.</p> <p>If you slip, you will feel miserable and guilty if you are following the Willpower Method. Add to that the feeling of deceiving your loved one will definitely push you through the vicious cycle of slip-lapse-relapse.</p> <p>If you are caught once - just say you are feeling good that you got caught and you are out of the prison. And you don’t want to talk about it. Many women can’t digest it. Many men wrongly attribute the woman to be of loose morals and hence a bad person. And if the SO breaks up with you (even if for some other reason) you will feel guilty for having screwed up your sex life with PMO OR feeling you “sacrificed” so much if you were successful in quitting - adding to the heart ache.</p> <p>You will look very weak. They will treat you as a weak person - of course only subconsciously. But you can smell it. Why the stress?</p> @@ -2777,26 +2791,22 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 11:31:13 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-43-advice-to-non-pmoers/ - <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK <a class="anchor" href="#help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book"> + <h2 id="advice-to-non-pmoers">Advice to Non-PMOers <a class="anchor" href="#advice-to-non-pmoers"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>First study the contents of this book and try to put yourself in the place of the PMOer. Do not force him to read this book or try to stop him by telling him he is ruining his health or playing with fire. He already knows this better than you do. PMOers do not continue in it because they enjoy it or because they want to. They only tell themselves and other people this in order to retain self-respect. They do it because they feel dependent on PMO because they think that it relaxes them and gives them courage and confidence (pleasure or crutch) and that life will never be enjoyable without “sex” - their version of it. If you try to force a PMOer to stop, he feels like a trapped animal and wants to be in his harem even more. This may turn him into a secret PMOer and in his mind the porn will become even more precious (see Chapter 26).</p> +</a></h2><h3 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK <a class="anchor" href="#help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>First study the contents of this book and try to put yourself in the place of the PMOer. Do not force him to read this book or try to stop him by telling him he is ruining his health or playing with fire. He already knows this better than you do. PMOers do not continue in it because they enjoy it or because they want to. They only tell themselves and other people this in order to retain self-respect. They do it because they feel dependent on PMO because they think that it relaxes them and gives them courage and confidence (pleasure or crutch) and that life will never be enjoyable without “sex” - their version of it. If you try to force a PMOer to stop, he feels like a trapped animal and wants to be in his harem even more. This may turn him into a secret PMOer and in his mind the porn will become even more precious (see Chapter 26).</p> <p>Instead, concentrate on the other side of the coin. Get him into the company of ex-PMOers (there are many blogs, forums etc. YBOP, No-Fap etc.). Get them to tell the PMOer how they too thought they were hooked for life and how much better life is as a non-PMOer. Once you have got him believing that he can stop then his mind will start to open up. Then start explaining the delusion created by withdrawal pangs. Not only are the “dopamine rushes” not giving him a boost but they are destroying his confidence and making him irritable and tired.</p> <p>He should now be ready to read this book himself. He will be expecting to read pages and pages about unreliable arousal, fading penetrations, PIED, PE, etc. Explain that the approach is completely different and that references to illness are just a small fraction of the material in the book.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD <a class="anchor" href="#help-during-the-withdrawal-period"> +<h3 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD <a class="anchor" href="#help-during-the-withdrawal-period"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>If you are dealing with a girlfriend or boyfriend - whether the ex-PMOer is suffering or not, assume that she/he is. Do not try to minimize his suffering by telling him it is easy to stop; he can do that himself. Instead keep telling him how proud you are, how much better he is looking, how much sweeter it is to be with him, how much easier he is in general. It is particularly important to keep doing this. When a PMOer makes an attempt to stop, the euphoria of the attempt and the attention he gets from friends and colleagues can help him along. However, they tend to forget quickly, so keep that praise going.</p> +</a></h3><p>If you are dealing with a girlfriend or boyfriend - whether the ex-PMOer is suffering or not, assume that she/he is. Do not try to minimize his suffering by telling him it is easy to stop; he can do that himself. Instead keep telling him how proud you are, how much better he is looking, how much sweeter it is to be with him, how much easier he is in general. It is particularly important to keep doing this. When a PMOer makes an attempt to stop, the euphoria of the attempt and the attention he gets from friends and colleagues can help him along. However, they tend to forget quickly, so keep that praise going.</p> <p>Because he is not talking about PMOing, you may think he has forgotten about it and don&rsquo;t want to remind him. Usually the complete opposite is the case with the Willpower Method, as the ex-PMOer tends to be obsessed by nothing else. So do not be frightened to bring the subject up and keep praising him: he will tell you if he doesn&rsquo;t want you to remind him of PMOing.</p> <p>Go out of your way to relieve him of pressures during the withdrawal period. Try to think of ways of making his life interesting and enjoyable. This can also be a trying period for non-PMOers - that is those of you who have never had this addiction. If one member of a group is irritable, it can cause general misery all round. So anticipate this if the ex-PMOer is feeling irritable. He may well take it out on you but do not retaliate: it is at this time that he needs your praise and sympathy the most. If you are feeling irritable yourself, try not to show it.</p> <p>One of the tricks an addict will play when trying to give up with the aid of the Willpower Method was to get into a tantrum, hoping that wife or friends would say, “I cannot bear to see you suffering like this. For goodness sake, have your poison.” The PMOer then does not lose face, as he isn&rsquo;t “giving in” - he has been instructed. If the ex-PMOer uses this ploy, on no account encourage him to lapse. Instead say, “if that is what PMO does to you, thank goodness you will soon be free. How marvellous that you had the courage and sense to give up.”</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL <a class="anchor" href="#help-end-this-scandal"> +<h3 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL <a class="anchor" href="#help-end-this-scandal"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>In my opinion, internet porn is one of the dangers in a free society, piggy backing on the good willed efforts of personal freedoms. Surely the very basis of civilization, the reason why the human species has advanced so far, is that we are capable of communicating our knowledge and experiences not only to each other but to future generations. Even the lower species find it necessary to warn their offspring of the pitfalls in life.</p> +</a></h3><p>In my opinion, internet porn is one of the dangers in a free society, piggy backing on the good willed efforts of personal freedoms. Surely the very basis of civilization, the reason why the human species has advanced so far, is that we are capable of communicating our knowledge and experiences not only to each other but to future generations. Even the lower species find it necessary to warn their offspring of the pitfalls in life.</p> <p>The producers of porn are not doing this in good faith, in the genuine belief that they help mankind, especially now as the addiction to internet porn is widely studied. Maybe in its initial stages people genuinely believed that porn taught intimacy to men and women but today the authorities know that it is a fallacy. Just watch any tube sites nowadays. They make no claims about education. The only claims they make are about the shock, novelty, escalation quality of their clips.</p> <p>The sheer hypocrisy is incredible. As a society we get uptight about school bullying and objectification of human body. Compared with internet porn, these problems are mere pimples in our society. Thirty five per cent of the population have been addicted to porn and most of them spend quality time with imaginary and illusory pixel people at the expense of health, virility, energy and time. Tens of thousands of people have their lives ruined every year because they become hooked. Internet high speed porn is by far the biggest killer in relationships and yet the biggest vested interest is our for-profit companies. Internet porn producers don’t spend on advertising the filth in mainstream publications - they don’t have to. Our biological urges will lead us to the thresholds of their well stocked internet harems. They give free samples just like your local drug dealer. Heck the tube sites don’t even stock the wares any more as they encourage visitors to post the content.</p> <p>How clever that porn companies show the 18+ warning at their home page as the deterrent for under age users. Some even don’t bother to do that. Internet porn affect everyone at all ages. “We have warned you of the danger. It is your choice.” Is the attitude they have. Anyway, do they take any steps to verify the age? No. That would discourage their customers. And of course if age verification is legislated they will find another country to host. Or they will pay some ‘elite’ to write how prohibition resulted in bootlegging and the creation of the Mafia. Conveniently forgotten is the question of why repealing prohibition did not result in the reduction of alcohol related casualty numbers. And the contribution of the failure of law enforcement to control the Mafia’s growth. So let’s not waste time in talking about them.</p> @@ -2807,11 +2817,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <p>I remember reading H. G. Well’s The Time Machine. The book describes an incident in the distant future in which a man falls into a river. His companions merely sit around the bank like cattle, oblivious to his cries of desperation. I found that incident inhuman and very disturbing. I find the general apathy of our society to the PMO problem very similar. We find characters in movies and TV series talking about or even engaging in porn in a casual way.</p> <p>Why do we allow society to subject healthy young teenagers, youngsters whose lives are complete before they start to get online, to claim their independence just for the privilege of destroying themselves mentally and physically in a lifetime of slavery, a lifetime of filth and disease? You may feel that I over-dramatize the facts. Not so. There are cases where lives were cut down in his early years of marriage because of PMO. He was a strong man and might still have been alive today. I believe I was within an inch of PIED during my forties, although I would have attributed it to my divorce rather than to PMO. I now spend my life being consulted by people who have been crippled by the disease or are in the last stages. And, if you care to think about it, you probably know of many too.</p> <p>There is a wind of change in society. A snowball has started that I hope this book will help turn into an avalanche. You too can help by spreading the message.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING <a class="anchor" href="#final-warning"> +<h3 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING <a class="anchor" href="#final-warning"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>You can now enjoy the rest of your life as a happy non-PMOer. In order to make sure that you do, you need to follow these simple instructions:</p> +</a></h3><p>You can now enjoy the rest of your life as a happy non-PMOer. In order to make sure that you do, you need to follow these simple instructions:</p> <ol> <li>Keep this page in your bookmarks and refer to it as much as you need.</li> <li>If you ever start to envy another PMOer, realize that they will be envious of you. You are not being deprived. They are.</li> @@ -2829,7 +2837,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 11:28:29 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-42-help-the-pmoer-left-on-the-sinking-ship/ - <p>PMOers are panicking nowadays. They sense that there is a change in the way internet porn is perceived by men and women. Internet porn’s addictive nature is being studied by more and more people. It is now rightly regarded not as the same as old traditional porn. It’s easy reach and effortless availability raises alarm even in the hearts of porn supporters. They also sense that their crusade for free speech and free thought is being hijacked by vicious elements. The wild wild west nature of the unpoliced internet makes it hard for enforcing age restrictive access to supranormal stimuli. Yet I don’t think this whole thing will be coming to an end anytime soon. Thousands of PMOers are now stopping and all porn users are conscious of the new brain studies that point their studied fingers to the similarities of drug and substance addiction. Every time a PMOer leaves the sinking ship, the ones left on it feel more miserable. Every PMOer instinctively knows that it is ridiculous to self sabotage and spend time in front of two dimensional pixels, treat the poor brain to super surges, develop porn brain water slides that will guarantee him unreliable erections and fading penetrations. If you still don&rsquo;t think it is silly, try talking to a porn magazine standing at the centre of the city square and ask yourself what the difference is. Just one. You cannot get the pleasure of warmth and intimacy that way. If you can stop buying alcohol and cigarettes every time you go grocery shopping you can definitely stop visiting your online harems. PMOers cannot find a rational reason for PMOing but if someone else is doing it, they do not feel quite so silly.</p> + <h2 id="help-the-pmoer-left-on-the-sinking-ship">Help the PMOer Left on the Sinking Ship <a class="anchor" href="#help-the-pmoer-left-on-the-sinking-ship"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>PMOers are panicking nowadays. They sense that there is a change in the way internet porn is perceived by men and women. Internet porn’s addictive nature is being studied by more and more people. It is now rightly regarded not as the same as old traditional porn. It’s easy reach and effortless availability raises alarm even in the hearts of porn supporters. They also sense that their crusade for free speech and free thought is being hijacked by vicious elements. The wild wild west nature of the unpoliced internet makes it hard for enforcing age restrictive access to supranormal stimuli. Yet I don’t think this whole thing will be coming to an end anytime soon. Thousands of PMOers are now stopping and all porn users are conscious of the new brain studies that point their studied fingers to the similarities of drug and substance addiction. Every time a PMOer leaves the sinking ship, the ones left on it feel more miserable. Every PMOer instinctively knows that it is ridiculous to self sabotage and spend time in front of two dimensional pixels, treat the poor brain to super surges, develop porn brain water slides that will guarantee him unreliable erections and fading penetrations. If you still don&rsquo;t think it is silly, try talking to a porn magazine standing at the centre of the city square and ask yourself what the difference is. Just one. You cannot get the pleasure of warmth and intimacy that way. If you can stop buying alcohol and cigarettes every time you go grocery shopping you can definitely stop visiting your online harems. PMOers cannot find a rational reason for PMOing but if someone else is doing it, they do not feel quite so silly.</p> <p>PMOers blatantly lie about their habit, not only to others and university researchers but worse of all to themselves. They have to. The brainwashing is essential if they are to retain some self-respect. They feel the need to justify their “habit” not only to themselves but to non-PMOers. They are therefore forever advertising the illusory advantages of porn and PMO by more subtler means.</p> <p>If a PMOer stops using the Willpower Method he still feels deprived and tends to become a moaner. All this does is to confirm to other PMOers how right they are to keep PMOing. If the ex-PMOer succeeds in kicking the habit, he is then grateful that he no longer has to go through life sabotaging himself or wasting energy. But he has no need to justify himself, he doesn&rsquo;t sit there saying how marvellous it is not to be PMOing. He will do that only if he is asked and PMOers won&rsquo;t ask that question. They wouldn&rsquo;t like the answer. Remember: it is fear that keeps them in their addiction and they would rather keep their heads in the sand. The only time they ask that question is when it is time to stop. Help the PMOer. Remove these fears. Tell him how marvellous it is not to have to go through life living in a prison, how lovely it is to wake up in the morning feeling fit and healthy instead of lacking in energy and self loathing, how wonderful it is to be free of slavery, to be able to enjoy the whole of your life, to be rid of those awful black shadows. Or, better still; get him to read this book.</p> <p>It is essential not to belittle a married PMOer by indicating that he is deliberately ruining his relationship or is in some way a cheat and is unclean. There is a common conception that the ex-PMOer is the worst in this respect. I believe this conception has some substance but I think this is due to the Willpower Method of stopping. Because the ex-PMOer, although he has kicked the habit, retains part of the brainwashing - part of him still believes that he has made a sacrifice. He feels vulnerable and his natural defensive mechanism is to attack the PMOer.</p> @@ -2848,7 +2858,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:21:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-41-feedback/ - <p>This method will be pooh-poohed by the so-called experts - as I have kept it thin, deliberately, on the ‘science’ side of porn addiction. This ‘hackbook’ is based on a very successful technique used by Alan Carr for quitting smoking, alcohol and gambling. I have personally broken away from the prisons of cigarette, alcohol and internet porn with this technique. I’d like to add here that I’ve tried some of the best programmes - such as CBT, DEADS and AVERT before arriving at the EasyWay. I could not close the deal. I was then led to studying about self hypnosis that deals with bad habits. The key idea that sold me on this method is his emphasis on the “feelings of misery and deprivation, misery and sacrifice, misery and guilt.” If you use the Will Power method you will invariably have all or one of these awful feelings that in themselves provide the grease to slide back to the addiction.</p> + <h2 id="feedback">Feedback <a class="anchor" href="#feedback"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This method will be pooh-poohed by the so-called experts - as I have kept it thin, deliberately, on the ‘science’ side of porn addiction. This ‘hackbook’ is based on a very successful technique used by Alan Carr for quitting smoking, alcohol and gambling. I have personally broken away from the prisons of cigarette, alcohol and internet porn with this technique. I’d like to add here that I’ve tried some of the best programmes - such as CBT, DEADS and AVERT before arriving at the EasyWay. I could not close the deal. I was then led to studying about self hypnosis that deals with bad habits. The key idea that sold me on this method is his emphasis on the “feelings of misery and deprivation, misery and sacrifice, misery and guilt.” If you use the Will Power method you will invariably have all or one of these awful feelings that in themselves provide the grease to slide back to the addiction.</p> <p>I&rsquo;m not a do-gooder. My war - which, I emphasize, is not against PMOers but against the porn trap, I wage for the purely selfish reason that I enjoy it. Every time I hear of a PMOer escaping from the prison I get a feeling of great pleasure, even when it has nothing to do with me. You can imagine also the immense pleasure I obtain from the grateful letters that I have received over time.</p> <p>There has also been considerable frustration. The frustration is caused mainly by two main categories of PMOer. First, in spite of the warning in the previous chapter, I am disturbed by the number of PMOers who find it easy to stop, yet later get hooked again and find they can&rsquo;t succeed the next time.</p> <p>Practically the last thing I say to ex-PMOers is: “Remember, you must never visit another online harem again.”</p> @@ -2908,11 +2920,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <blockquote> <p>Find out which one it is. Some people understand and believe everything I say but still start off with a feeling of doom and gloom, as if something terrible were happening. You are doing not only what you&rsquo;d like to do but what every PMOer on the planet would like to do. With any method of stopping, what the ex PMOer is trying to achieve is a certain frame of mind, so that whenever he thinks about PMO he says to himself, “YIPPEE! I&rsquo;M FREE!” If that&rsquo;s your object, why wait? Start off in that frame of mind and never lose it. The rest of the book is designed to make you understand why there is no alternative.</p> </blockquote> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="the-check-list"><strong>THE CHECK LIST</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-check-list"> +<h2 id="the-check-list">THE CHECK LIST <a class="anchor" href="#the-check-list"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>If you follow these simple instructions, you cannot fail:</p> +</a></h2><p>If you follow these simple instructions, you cannot fail:</p> <ol> <li>Make a solemn vow that you will never, ever, go online to visit your harem OR settle down for static pictures OR make peace with erotic graphics OR anything that contains supra normal stimuli, and stick to your vow.</li> <li>Get this clear in your mind: there is absolutely nothing to give up. By that I don&rsquo;t mean simply that you will be better off as a non-PMOer (you&rsquo;ve known that all this time); nor do I mean that although there is no rational reason why you PMO, you must get some form of pleasure or crutch from it or you wouldn&rsquo;t do it. What I mean is, there is no genuine pleasure or crutch in PMOing. It is just an illusion, it’s an addiction like banging your head against a wall to make it pleasant when you stop.</li> @@ -2926,7 +2936,7 @@ strains of life.</li> <hr> <ol> <li id="fn:1"> -<p><strong>MoR</strong> moment of revelation. R2T resistance to temptation. MaD misery and deprived. MaS misery and sacrifice. MaG misery and guilty. DSC dopamine surge claims.&#160;<a href="#fnref:1" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p> +<p><strong>MoR</strong> - moment of revelation. R2T resistance to temptation. MaD misery and deprived. MaS misery and sacrifice. MaG misery and guilty. DSC dopamine surge claims.&#160;<a href="#fnref:1" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p> </li> </ol> </div> @@ -2939,7 +2949,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:20:54 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-40-a-final-warning/ - <p>No PMOer, given the chance of going back to the time before he became hooked with the knowledge he has now, would opt to start. Many of the them who consult me are convinced that if I could only help them stop, they would never dream of PMOing again, and yet thousands of PMOers successfully kick the habit for many years and lead perfectly happy lives, only to get trapped once again. I trust that this book will help you to find it relatively easy to stop. But be warned: PMOers who find it easy to stop find it easy to start again, DO NOT FALL FOR THIS TRAP.</p> + <h2 id="a-final-warning">A Final Warning <a class="anchor" href="#a-final-warning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>No PMOer, given the chance of going back to the time before he became hooked with the knowledge he has now, would opt to start. Many of the them who consult me are convinced that if I could only help them stop, they would never dream of PMOing again, and yet thousands of PMOers successfully kick the habit for many years and lead perfectly happy lives, only to get trapped once again. I trust that this book will help you to find it relatively easy to stop. But be warned: PMOers who find it easy to stop find it easy to start again, DO NOT FALL FOR THIS TRAP.</p> <p>No matter how long you have stopped or how confident you are that you will never become hooked again, make it a rule of life not to PMO for any reason. Resist the allusions and innuendoes in the media, and remember they are pushing their image of ‘openness’ by bringing porn into mainstream without realizing how porn, internet porn etc. are killers of relationships and of the personal sense of well being for a huge number of men and some women.</p> <p>Remember, that first peek or visit will do nothing for you. You will have no withdrawal pangs to relieve and it will make you feel awful. What it will do is to put the pleasure of dopamine rush into your mind and brain, and a little voice at the back of your mind will be saying, “you want another one.” Then you have got the choice of being miserable for a while or starting the whole filthy chain again.</p> @@ -2951,7 +2963,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:15:27 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-39-the-final-visit/ - <p>Having decided on your timing, you are now ready to visit your harem one last time. Before you do so, check on the two essentials:</p> + <h2 id="the-final-visit">The Final Visit <a class="anchor" href="#the-final-visit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Having decided on your timing, you are now ready to visit your harem one last time. Before you do so, check on the two essentials:</p> <ol> <li>Do you feel certain of success?</li> <li>Have you a feeling of doom and gloom or a sense of excitement that you are about to achieve something marvelous?</li> @@ -3002,7 +3016,9 @@ sites in my life again.”<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1& Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:13:13 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-38-the-moment-of-revelation/ - <p>The moment of revelation usually takes place about three weeks after stopping. The sky appears to become brighter and it is the moment when the brainwashing ends completely. When instead of telling yourself you do not need to PMO, you suddenly realize that the last thread is broken and you can enjoy the rest of your life without ever needing PMO again. It is also usually from this point that you start looking at other PMOers as objects of pity.</p> + <h2 id="the-moment-of-revelation">The Moment of Revelation <a class="anchor" href="#the-moment-of-revelation"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The moment of revelation usually takes place about three weeks after stopping. The sky appears to become brighter and it is the moment when the brainwashing ends completely. When instead of telling yourself you do not need to PMO, you suddenly realize that the last thread is broken and you can enjoy the rest of your life without ever needing PMO again. It is also usually from this point that you start looking at other PMOers as objects of pity.</p> <p>PMOers using the Willpower Method do not normally experience this moment because although they are glad to be ex-PMOers they continue through life believing they are making a sacrifice. The more you were addicted, the more marvellous this moment is and it lasts a lifetime. I consider I have been very fortunate in this life and had some wonderful moments but the most wonderful of all was that moment of revelation. With all the other highlights of my life, although I can remember they were happy times, I can never recapture the actual feeling. I can never get over the joy of not having to PMO any more. If ever I am feeling low and need a boost nowadays, I just think how lovely it is not to be hooked on that awful addiction. Half the people who contact me after they have stopped visiting the online harems say exactly the same thing: that it was the most marvellous event of their lives. Ah! What pleasure you have to come! With additional feedback, both from forums and personal interactions, I have learned that in most cases the moment of revelation occurs not after three weeks, as stated above, but within a few days.</p> <p>In my own case it happened before I was finished on my last harem visit. I am sure many of the readers here, before they’d even got to the end of the chapters would say something like: “You needn&rsquo;t say another word. I can see it all so clearly, I know I&rsquo;ll never PMO again.” From the messages I receive I&rsquo;m also aware that it frequently happens.</p> <p>Ideally if you follow all the instructions and understand the psychology completely, it should happen to you immediately.</p> @@ -3022,20 +3038,18 @@ sites in my life again.”<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1& Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:10:40 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-37-should-i-avoid-temptation-situations/ - <p>I have been direct in my advice so far and would ask you to treat this advice as instruction rather than suggestion. I am explicit and direct, first because there are sound, practical reasons for my advice and second, because those reasons have been backed up by thousands of case studies. On the question of whether or not to try to avoid temptation during the withdrawal period, I regret that I cannot be direct. Each PMOer will need to decide for himself. I can, however, make what I hope -will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all our lives and this fear consists of two distinct phases:</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO? <a class="anchor" href="#phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo"> + <h2 id="should-i-avoid-temptation-situations">Should I Avoid Temptation Situations? <a class="anchor" href="#should-i-avoid-temptation-situations"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>This fear is that panicky feeling the PMOer gets when they are alone in a single phase or have an asexual, uninterested or unavailable partner. The fear isn&rsquo;t caused by withdrawal pangs but is the psychological fear of dependency - you cannot survive without sex and orgasm. It actually reaches its height when you are on the verge of quitting (I won’t use giving up); at that time your withdrawal pangs are at their lowest. It is the fear of the unknown, the sort of fear that people have when they are learning to dive.</p> +</a></h2><p>I have been direct in my advice so far and would ask you to treat this advice as instruction rather than suggestion. I am explicit and direct, first because there are sound, practical reasons for my advice and second, because those reasons have been backed up by thousands of case studies. On the question of whether or not to try to avoid temptation during the withdrawal period, I regret that I cannot be direct. Each PMOer will need to decide for himself. I can, however, make what I hope +will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all our lives and this fear consists of two distinct phases:</p> +<h3 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO? <a class="anchor" href="#phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>This fear is that panicky feeling the PMOer gets when they are alone in a single phase or have an asexual, uninterested or unavailable partner. The fear isn&rsquo;t caused by withdrawal pangs but is the psychological fear of dependency - you cannot survive without sex and orgasm. It actually reaches its height when you are on the verge of quitting (I won’t use giving up); at that time your withdrawal pangs are at their lowest. It is the fear of the unknown, the sort of fear that people have when they are learning to dive.</p> <p>The diving board is 1 foot high but seems to be 6 feet high. The water is 6 feet deep but appears to be 1 foot deep. It takes courage to launch yourself. You are convinced you are going to smash your head. The launching is the hardest part. If you can find the courage to do it, the rest is easy. This explains why many otherwise strong-willed PMOers either have never attempted to stop or can survive only a few days when they do. In fact, there are some PMOers on a porn diet who when they decide to stop, actually binge and escalate to harsher clips more quickly than if they had not decided to stop. The decision causes panic, which is stressful. This is one of the occasions when the brain triggers the instruction, “take a trip to your own personal harem.” But now you can&rsquo;t take one. You are being deprived - more stress.</p> <p>The trigger starts again quickly when the fuse blows and you fire up the browser. Don&rsquo;t worry. That panic is just psychological. It is the fear that you are dependent. The beautiful truth is that you are not, even when you are still addicted. Do not panic. Just trust me and launch yourself.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear <a class="anchor" href="#phase-2-longer-term-fear"> +<h3 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear <a class="anchor" href="#phase-2-longer-term-fear"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>The second phase of fear is longer-term. It involves the fear that certain situations in the future will not be enjoyable or that you will not be able to cope with a trauma without PMO. Don&rsquo;t worry. If you can launch yourself you will find the opposite to be the case. The avoidance of temptation itself falls into two main categories:</p> +</a></h3><p>The second phase of fear is longer-term. It involves the fear that certain situations in the future will not be enjoyable or that you will not be able to cope with a trauma without PMO. Don&rsquo;t worry. If you can launch yourself you will find the opposite to be the case. The avoidance of temptation itself falls into two main categories:</p> <ol> <li>“I will subscribe to a porn-diet of once in 4 days. I will feel more confident knowing that I can go online if it gets hard. It is OK if I fail I can just add up additional days to my next cycle.”</li> </ol> @@ -3058,7 +3072,9 @@ will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all o Sat, 24 Dec 2022 08:46:33 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-36-substitutes/ - <p>Substitutes include restricting to porn magazines, static internet images, going on a porn-diet<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> etc. <strong>DO NOT USE ANY OF THEM</strong>. They make it harder, not easier. If you do get a pang and use a substitute it will prolong the pang and make it harder. What you are really saying is, “I need to PMO to fill the void.” It will be like giving in to a hijacker or the tantrums of a child. It will just keep the pangs coming and prolong the torture. In any event the substitutes will not relieve the pangs. Your craving is for amino acids in the brain. All it will do is keep you thinking about PMOing. Remember these points:</p> + <h2 id="substitutes">Substitutes <a class="anchor" href="#substitutes"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Substitutes include restricting to porn magazines, static internet images, going on a porn-diet<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> etc. <strong>DO NOT USE ANY OF THEM</strong>. They make it harder, not easier. If you do get a pang and use a substitute it will prolong the pang and make it harder. What you are really saying is, “I need to PMO to fill the void.” It will be like giving in to a hijacker or the tantrums of a child. It will just keep the pangs coming and prolong the torture. In any event the substitutes will not relieve the pangs. Your craving is for amino acids in the brain. All it will do is keep you thinking about PMOing. Remember these points:</p> <ol> <li>There is no substitute for PMO.</li> <li>You do not need porn or PMO. It is not food; it is poison. When the pangs come remind yourself that it is PMOers who suffer withdrawal pangs, not non-PMOers. See them as another evil of the drug. See them as the death of a monster.</li> @@ -3090,12 +3106,13 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict - 03-35 the Main Reasons for Failure + 03-35 The Main Reasons for Failure https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-35-the-main-reasons-for-failure/ Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:23:39 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-35-the-main-reasons-for-failure/ - <p>There are two main reasons for failure. The first is the influence of external stimuli - a commercial, online news articles, internet browsing etc. At a weak moment or even during a social occasion somebody will get intimate with their partner. I have already dealt with this topic at length. Use that moment to remind yourself that there is no such thing as one visit or one peek. Rejoice in the fact that you have broken the chain of mental slavery. Remember that the PMOer envies you, and feel sorry for him. Believe me, he needs your pity. The other main reason for failure is having a bad day. Get it clear in your mind before you start that, whether you are a PMOer or a non-PMOer, there are good days and bad days. It rains for both the pope and the murderer.</p> + <p>The Main Reasons for Failure</p> +<p>There are two main reasons for failure. The first is the influence of external stimuli - a commercial, online news articles, internet browsing etc. At a weak moment or even during a social occasion somebody will get intimate with their partner. I have already dealt with this topic at length. Use that moment to remind yourself that there is no such thing as one visit or one peek. Rejoice in the fact that you have broken the chain of mental slavery. Remember that the PMOer envies you, and feel sorry for him. Believe me, he needs your pity. The other main reason for failure is having a bad day. Get it clear in your mind before you start that, whether you are a PMOer or a non-PMOer, there are good days and bad days. It rains for both the pope and the murderer.</p> <p>Life is a matter of relativity and you cannot have ups without having downs. The problem with the Willpower Method of stopping is that as soon as the PMOer has a bad day he starts moping for his ‘harem’ visit and all that does is make a bad day worse. The non-PMOer is better equipped, not only physically but also mentally, to cope with the stresses and strains of life. If you have a bad day during the withdrawal period just take it on the chin. Remind yourself that you had bad days when you were addicted (otherwise you wouldn&rsquo;t have decided to stop). Instead of moping about it, say to yourself something like, “OK, today&rsquo;s not so good but masturbating is not going to cure it. Tomorrow will be better and at least I have got a marvellous bonus at the moment. I have kicked that awful PMO habit.”</p> <p>When you are a PMOer you have to block your mind to the bad side of PMO. PMOer never have brain fog just “a bit down.” When you are having life’s inevitable troubles you want to PMO but are you happy and cheerful? Of course you aren&rsquo;t. Once you stop, the tendency is to blame everything that goes wrong in your life on the fact that you have stopped.</p> <p>Now if your work stresses you out you think, “At times like this I would have PMOed.” That&rsquo;s true but the important thing you forget is that the PMO didn&rsquo;t solve the problem and you are simply punishing yourself by moping for an illusory crutch. You are creating an impossible situation. You are miserable because you can&rsquo;t have the porn and masturbation yet you&rsquo;ll be even more miserable if you do. You know that you have made the correct decision by stopping PMO so why punish yourself by ever doubting the decision?</p> @@ -3110,7 +3127,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:22:12 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-34-will-it-be-harder-for-me/ - <p>The combinations of factors that will determine how easily each individual PMOer will quit are infinite. To start with, each of us has his own character, type of work, personal circumstances, timing, etc. Certain professions may make it harder than others but providing the brainwashing is removed it doesn&rsquo;t have to be so. A few individual examples will help.</p> + <h2 id="will-it-be-harder-for-me">Will It Be Harder for Me? <a class="anchor" href="#will-it-be-harder-for-me"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The combinations of factors that will determine how easily each individual PMOer will quit are infinite. To start with, each of us has his own character, type of work, personal circumstances, timing, etc. Certain professions may make it harder than others but providing the brainwashing is removed it doesn&rsquo;t have to be so. A few individual examples will help.</p> <p>It tends to be particularly difficult for members of the medical profession. We think it should be easier for doctors because they are more aware of the effects of ill- health and are seeing daily evidence of it. Although this supplies more forceful reasons for stopping, it doesn&rsquo;t make it any easier to do. The reasons are these:</p> <ol> <li>The constant awareness of the health risks creates fear which is one of the conditions under which we need to relieve our withdrawal pangs.</li> @@ -3129,7 +3148,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:20:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-33-just-one-peek/ - <p>This is the undoing of many PMOers who try to stop on the Willpower Method. They will go through three or four days and then have the odd peek or a PMO or two to tide them over. They do not realize the devastating effect this has on their morale.</p> + <h2 id="just-one-peek">Just One Peek <a class="anchor" href="#just-one-peek"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is the undoing of many PMOers who try to stop on the Willpower Method. They will go through three or four days and then have the odd peek or a PMO or two to tide them over. They do not realize the devastating effect this has on their morale.</p> <p>For most PMOers that first peek at the tube site harem was not as good as sex with a real person. The clips that are clean are far in between. This gives their conscious minds a boost. They think, “Good. That wasn&rsquo;t entirely all that enjoyable. I am losing the urge to PMO and I am not that much into the shocking stuff.” In fact, the reverse is the case. Get it clear in your mind - enjoyment of orgasm wasn&rsquo;t the reason why you hit porn. If PMOers were there for orgasm alone, they&rsquo;d never watch more than one clip. The only reason why you PMO was to feed that little monster. Just think: you had starved him for four days. How precious that one peek must have been to him. You are not aware of it in your conscious mind but the fix your body received will be communicated to your subconscious mind and all your sound preparation will be undermined. There will be a little voice at the back of your mind saying, “In spite of all the logic they are precious. I want another one.”</p> <p>That little peek has two damaging effects:</p> <ol> @@ -3148,7 +3169,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:16:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-32-the-withdrawal-period/ - <p>For up to three weeks after your last PMO session you may be subjected to withdrawal pangs. These consist of two quite separate factors:</p> + <h2 id="the-withdrawal-period">The Withdrawal Period <a class="anchor" href="#the-withdrawal-period"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>For up to three weeks after your last PMO session you may be subjected to withdrawal pangs. These consist of two quite separate factors:</p> <ol> <li>The withdrawal pangs of dopamine, that empty, insecure feeling, like a hunger, which PMOers identify as a craving or “something I must to do” feeling.</li> <li>The psychological trigger of certain external stimuli such as a commercial, online browsing, a telephone conversation etc.</li> @@ -3178,12 +3201,14 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict - 03-31 the Easy Way to Stop + 03-31 The Easy Way to Stop https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-31-the-easy-way-to-stop/ Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:07:43 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-31-the-easy-way-to-stop/ - <p>This chapter contains instructions about the easy way to stop PMO. Providing you follow the instructions, you will find that stopping ranges from relatively easy to enjoyable! But remember the definition of a brunette: “a girl who didn&rsquo;t read the instructions on the bottle.” It is ridiculously easy to stop PMO. All you have to do is two things:</p> + <h2 id="the-easy-way-to-stop">The Easy Way to Stop <a class="anchor" href="#the-easy-way-to-stop"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This chapter contains instructions about the easy way to stop PMO. Providing you follow the instructions, you will find that stopping ranges from relatively easy to enjoyable! But remember the definition of a brunette: “a girl who didn&rsquo;t read the instructions on the bottle.” It is ridiculously easy to stop PMO. All you have to do is two things:</p> <ol> <li>Make the decision that you are never going to PMO again.</li> <li>Don&rsquo;t mope about it. Rejoice.</li> @@ -3197,8 +3222,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict <p>Basically I said to myself, “Scores of people are stopping now and leading perfectly happy lives. I didn&rsquo;t need to do it before I started and I can remember having to work hard to get used to this filth. So why do I need to do it now?” In any event I didn&rsquo;t enjoy PMO, I hated the whole filthy ritual and I didn&rsquo;t want to spend the rest of my life being the slave of this disgusting porn addiction.</p> <p>I then said to myself:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<p><strong>“WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT. YOU HAVE COMPLETED YOUR LAST PMO VISIT”</strong></p> -</div> +<h3 id="whether-you-like-it-or-not-you-have-completed-your-last-pmo-visit">“WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT. YOU HAVE COMPLETED YOUR LAST PMO VISIT” <a class="anchor" href="#whether-you-like-it-or-not-you-have-completed-your-last-pmo-visit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>I knew, right from that point, that I would never PMO again. I wasn&rsquo;t expecting it to be easy; in fact, just the reverse. I fully believed that I was in for months of black depression and that I would spend the rest of my life having the occasional pang. Instead it has been absolute bliss right from the start.</p> <p>It took me a long time to work out why it had been so easy and why this time I hadn&rsquo;t suffered those terrifying withdrawal pangs. The reason is that they do not exist. It is the doubt and uncertainty that causes the pangs. The beautiful truth is: IT IS EASY TO STOP PMO. It is only the indecision and moping about it that makes it difficult. Even while they are addicted to porn, PMOers can go for relatively long periods at certain times in their lives without bothering about it. It is only when you want it but can&rsquo;t have one that you suffer.</p> <p>Therefore the key to making it easy is to make stopping certain and final. Not to hope but to know you have kicked it, having made the decision. Never to doubt or question it. In fact, just the reverse - always to rejoice about it. If you can be certain from the start, it will be easy. But how can you be certain from the start unless you know it is going to be easy? This is why the rest of the book is necessary. There are certain essential points and it is necessary to get them clear in your mind before you start:</p> @@ -3233,7 +3259,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:05:14 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-30-avoid-false-incentives/ - <p>Many PMOers, while trying to stop on the Willpower Method, attempt to increase their motivation by building up false incentives. There are many examples of this, a typical one is, “I will reward myself with a gift after no-PMO for a month.” This appears to be a logical and sensible approach but in fact it is false because any self-respecting PMOer would rather continue PMOing every day than receive a “self given gift.” In any case there is a doubt in the PMOer’s mind because not only will she have to abstain for thirty days but will she even enjoy the days without a PMO? Her only pleasure or crutch is taken away! All this does is to increase the size of the sacrifice that the PMOer feels she is making, which makes it even more precious in her mind.</p> + <h2 id="avoid-false-incentives">Avoid False Incentives <a class="anchor" href="#avoid-false-incentives"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Many PMOers, while trying to stop on the Willpower Method, attempt to increase their motivation by building up false incentives. There are many examples of this, a typical one is, “I will reward myself with a gift after no-PMO for a month.” This appears to be a logical and sensible approach but in fact it is false because any self-respecting PMOer would rather continue PMOing every day than receive a “self given gift.” In any case there is a doubt in the PMOer’s mind because not only will she have to abstain for thirty days but will she even enjoy the days without a PMO? Her only pleasure or crutch is taken away! All this does is to increase the size of the sacrifice that the PMOer feels she is making, which makes it even more precious in her mind.</p> <p>Other examples: “I&rsquo;ll stop PMO so that I will force myself to get a social life and seek more sex in real life” OR “I’ll stop so some magical energy will help me to leap above the competitors and get this woman I pursue” OR “I commit to not waste my energy and enthusiasm in PMO, so I can grow enough hunger in myself.” These are true and can be effective and you may end up getting what you want. But think about it for a second - if you do get what you had wanted, once the novelty has gone you will feel deprived - if you didn’t then you will feel miserable and either way sooner or later you will fall for the trap again.</p> <p>Another typical example is online or forum pacts. These have the advantage of eliminating temptation for certain periods. However, they generally fail for the following reasons:</p> <ol> @@ -3244,9 +3272,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict </ol> <p>Stop kidding yourself. If the job offer that I mentioned before, of 10 months work for 12 months salary a year won&rsquo;t stop him. Or if the risks of cutting down your brain’s capacity to cope with just any normal day-to-day stress and strains or if putting yourself at odds with having a reliable erection, or if the lifetime of mental and physical torture and slavery did not stop him or her - the above said few phoney incentives will not make the slightest bit of difference. They will only make the sacrifice appear worse. Instead concentrate on the other side:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"><strong>“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?”</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"> +<h2 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo">“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?” <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> +</a></h2></div> <p>Keep looking at the other side of the tug of war. What is PMOing doing for me? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Why do I need to do it? YOU DON&rsquo;T! YOU ARE ONLY PUNISHING YOURSELF. Try looking at it from the Pascal’s Wager perspective. You have almost nothing to lose (a rub-out with half arousals) for sure, chances of big profits (a full and reliable arousal, mental well being and happiness) and no chance of losing big (unreliable full arousals, premature ejaculations, fading penetrations, loss of general impulse controls, lower tolerance for frustrations and anger).</p> <p>Why not declare your quitting to friends and family? Well, it will make you a proud ex-addict, ex-PMOer, not an elated and happy non-PMOer. It will scare your partner a bit since they may see this as an effort to have more sex, sort of a new-age thing. They may also fear to lose you if this turns you into sex machine. It is hard to explain to them unless they are open minded.</p> <p>Any attempt to get others to help you in your quitting gives more power to the little monster of addiction. Pushing it from your mind and totally ignoring it has the effect of trying NOT to think of it. As soon as you spot the thoughts, when you hit the cues (home alone) or just absent minded thoughts - just say to yourself: “Great, I don’t have to do it like a slave animal. I am free. I am happy to know the differences in sex.” This will cut the life of the thought and will deny oxygen to it and will stop it from burning towards urges and cravings.</p> @@ -3259,7 +3287,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:03:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-29-can-i-compartmentalize/ - <p>This is another myth about PMOing spread mainly by PMOers who, when attempting to stop on the Willpower Method, substitute mental gymnastics - they propose to act -Jekyll and Hyde: “Porn is for my alter ego side and real life romance is for my relationship side.” Nothing is further from the truth. The porn waterslides - the deltaFosBs and all the brain changes are going to overrun the real life romance and will make it less desirable. Mr Hyde is most definitely going to overrule Dr. Jekyll’s instructions.</p> + <h2 id="can-i-compartmentalize">Can I Compartmentalize? <a class="anchor" href="#can-i-compartmentalize"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is another myth about PMOing spread mainly by PMOers who, when attempting to stop on the Willpower Method, substitute mental gymnastics - they propose to act -Jekyll and Hyde: “Porn is for my alter ego side and real life romance is for my relationship side.” Nothing is further from the truth. The porn waterslides - the deltaFosBs and all the brain changes are going to overrun the real life romance and will make it less desirable. Mr Hyde is most definitely going to overrule Dr. Jekyll’s instructions.</p> <p>If you use internet porn, you may be training yourself for the role of voyeur or to need the option of clicking to something more arousing at the least drop in your dopamine levels, or to search and search for just the right scene for maximum effect. Also, you may be masturbating in a hunched-over position – or watching your smartphone in bed nightly. You will eventually desire those cues more than the real life action. The thing that goes against real sex is the lack of novelty, variety, ‘harem’ like 24/7 quick delivery etc. and so it stands no chance compared to your online harem. The younger you were when you started on PMO the longer to rewire and break down those ‘porn water slides’ and get back those ‘real water slides’ if there were any from the past or create new ones. Also powerful and lasting are the associated memories from when you were young.</p> <p>Every time you take a ride on the ‘porn water slide’ you are ‘greasing’ it - keeping the nerves fresh. When you park next to a fast food restaurant the smell of the fries floats from the pan into your nostrils and the sale was already made. Likewise, the porn water slides in your brain are there for you to get sucked in and they are open 24 hours a day. Each of these cues, or triggers, can now light up your reward circuit with the promise of sex&hellip; only it isn&rsquo;t sex. Nevertheless, nerve cells may solidify these associations with sexual arousal by sprouting new branches to strengthen the connections. The more you use porn the stronger the nerve connections can become, with the result that you may ultimately need to be a voyeur, need to click to new material, need to climax to porn to get to sleep, or need to search for the perfect ending just to get the job done.</p> <p>As with any substance or behavioural drug, after a while the body becomes immune and the “drug” ceases to relieve the withdrawal pangs completely. As soon as we close a session, the addict wants another one very soon and he has a permanent hunger. The natural inclination is eventually to ‘escalate’ just to get the dopamine rush. However, most PMOers are prevented from doing this for one, or both, of two reasons.</p> @@ -3279,7 +3309,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:01:03 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-28-will-i-miss-the-fun/ - <p>No! Once that little porn monster is dead and your body stops craving dopamine and the porn water slides in your brain start to fade due to lack of ‘greasing’, any remaining brainwashing will vanish and you will find yourself both physically and mentally better equipped not only to cope with the stresses and strains of life but to enjoy the good times to the full.</p> + <h2 id="will-i-miss-the-fun">Will I Miss the Fun? <a class="anchor" href="#will-i-miss-the-fun"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>No! Once that little porn monster is dead and your body stops craving dopamine and the porn water slides in your brain start to fade due to lack of ‘greasing’, any remaining brainwashing will vanish and you will find yourself both physically and mentally better equipped not only to cope with the stresses and strains of life but to enjoy the good times to the full.</p> <p>There is only one danger and that is the influence of those who still use sex as their lying crutch and damned pleasure. “The other man&rsquo;s grass is always greener,” is commonplace in many aspects of our lives and is easily understandable. Why is it in the case of PMOing, where the disadvantages are so enormous as compared with even the illusory ‘advantages,’ that the ex-PMOer tend to envy the man or woman who appears to demand sex and use porn for pleasure and a crutch?</p> <p>With all the brainwashing of our childhood it is quite understandable that we fall into the trap. Why is it that, once we realize what a mug&rsquo;s game it is and many of us manage to kick the habit, we walk straight back into the same trap? It is the influence of society&rsquo;s brainwashing of porn being conflated with sex and presented as normal. The ex-PMOer has a pang! The insecure void feelings of them being single, which in itself is not a crime anyway, causes anxiety and cues them to PMO water slide. This is indeed a curious anomaly, particularly if you consider this piece of observation: not only is every non-PMOer in the world happy to be a non-PMOer but every PMOer in the world, even with his warped, addicted, brainwashed mind suffering the delusion that he enjoys it or it relaxes him, wishes he had never become hooked in the first place. So why do some ex-PMOers envy the PMOer on these occasions? There are two reasons.</p> <ol> @@ -3310,7 +3342,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:55:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-27-timing/ - <p>Apart from the obvious point that as it is doing you no good, now is the right time to stop. I believe timing is important. Our society treats internet porn flippantly as a slightly distasteful habit that can not injure your health. It is not. It is drug addiction, a disease and a destroyer of relationships in society. The worst thing that happens in most PMOer’s lives is getting hooked on that awful addiction. If they stay hooked, horrendous things happen. Timing is important to give yourself the right to a proper cure.</p> + <h2 id="timing">Timing <a class="anchor" href="#timing"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Apart from the obvious point that as it is doing you no good, now is the right time to stop. I believe timing is important. Our society treats internet porn flippantly as a slightly distasteful habit that can not injure your health. It is not. It is drug addiction, a disease and a destroyer of relationships in society. The worst thing that happens in most PMOer’s lives is getting hooked on that awful addiction. If they stay hooked, horrendous things happen. Timing is important to give yourself the right to a proper cure.</p> <p>First of all, identify the times or occasions when PMO appears to be important to you. If you are a businessman and use it for the illusion of relief of stress, pick a relatively slack period; a good idea is to choose your annual holiday. If you PMO mainly during boring or relaxing periods, weekends etc. do the opposite. In any event, take the matter seriously and make the attempt the most important thing in your life.</p> <p>Look ahead for a period of about three weeks and try to anticipate any event that might lead to failure. Occasions like a conference trip, partner out of town etc. need not deter you, providing you anticipate them in advance and do not feel you will be deprived. Do not attempt to cut down in the meantime as this will only create the illusion that being denied is enjoyable. In fact, it helps to force yourself to watch and have as many PMO sessions as possible. While you are having the last session and that last time, be conscious of the disappointment due to satiation, unfulfilled expectations (porn can never satisfy you), any bodily pain or pain in the genitals, the withdrawal effects, the peevishness and the melancholy. Think how marvellous it will be when you allow yourself to stop doing it.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> @@ -3347,7 +3381,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:54:03 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-26-a-social-habit/ - <p>Health of mind and body are the main reason why we should want to stop but then they always have been. We do not actually need scientific research and knowledge in brain chemistry to tell us that internet porn is addictive and can potentially shatter our lives. These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on the planet and any PMOer knows instantly, from the first session, that the stimulus can go to excess and it can turn poisonous.</p> + <h2 id="a-social-habit">A Social Habit? <a class="anchor" href="#a-social-habit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Health of mind and body are the main reason why we should want to stop but then they always have been. We do not actually need scientific research and knowledge in brain chemistry to tell us that internet porn is addictive and can potentially shatter our lives. These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on the planet and any PMOer knows instantly, from the first session, that the stimulus can go to excess and it can turn poisonous.</p> <p>The only reason why we ever get involved with internet porn is the PMO’s overlap with their evolutionary brain programming. Porn is available for free and it gets streamed 24 hours a day. No risk and no traces and with very high brain rewards. Porn was once considered as harmless but that was when the images were static and involved a trip to the local store for a VHS tape.</p> <p>Today it is generally considered even by PMOers themselves to be a supra-stimulus and addiction forming. In the old days, the strong man did not admit he masturbated. Jerk is a derogatory term. In every pub or club bar the majority of men would be proudly wanting to take a woman home and have real sex. Today the position is completely reversed for the internet porn addicts. Today&rsquo;s man realizes that he is starting to feel that he doesn&rsquo;t need a woman. This scares him. He bands together online and starts discussing experiences, devise strategies and explore options. Today&rsquo;s strong man does not want to depend on drugs. With the social revolution all PMOers nowadays are giving serious thought to stopping internet porn and masturbation. Today&rsquo;s PMOers consider PMO as an useless and harmful activity.</p> <p>The most significant trend that I have noticed in forums is the increasing emphasis on the anti-social aspect of PMOing. The days when a man boasted of having sex and orgasms every day is slowly getting replaced with, “why do I need to be a slave for this porn monster when I know ‘it’ is controlling my wand (and mind)?”</p> @@ -3365,7 +3401,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:51:35 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-25-the-youtube-pmoer/ - <p>The YouTube PMOer should be grouped with casual PMOers but the effects of a YouTube PMOer are so insidious that it merits a separate chapter. It can lead to the breakdown of personal self control. In one case it nearly caused a split for a No-Fap forum user.</p> + <h2 id="the-youtube-pmoer">The YouTube PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-youtube-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The YouTube PMOer should be grouped with casual PMOers but the effects of a YouTube PMOer are so insidious that it merits a separate chapter. It can lead to the breakdown of personal self control. In one case it nearly caused a split for a No-Fap forum user.</p> <blockquote> <p><em>“I was three weeks into one of my failed attempts to stop. The attempt had been triggered off by my wife&rsquo;s worry about my unreliable hard-ons and lack of interest. I had told her that it was not her and it was just job pressure. She said, &lsquo;I know you had handled the work pressure before but how would you feel if you were me and had to watch someone you love systematically destroying themselves?’ It was an argument that I found irresistible, hence the attempt to stop. She knows that I am not cheating - but this in a way is as worse as that (sic). The attempt ended after three weeks after a heated argument with an old friend. It did not register until years afterwards that my devious mind had deliberately triggered off the argument. I felt justly aggrieved at the time but I do not believe that it was coincidence, as I had never argued with this particular friend before, nor have I since. It was clearly the little monster at work. Anyway, I had my excuse. I desperately needed a release of orgasm and it doesn’t matter how. As it happens she was not in the mood right away and I was in an “entitlement” hurry. So I convinced myself that it is OK if I ‘restrict’ myself by avoiding a porn site and just stay this side of the ‘red line’ and watch only YouTube videos. But she ‘came around’ as the night unfolded and wanted to make love. But I was tired and not with all my ‘horsepower.’ I then invented a headache. I could not bear to think of the disappointment this would cause my wife. Then gradually I returned to the old ways, only YouTube became my new harem destination. I remember being quite pleased at the time. I thought, &lsquo;well, at least it is cutting my consumption down;’ Eventually she accused me of continuing to ignore her in the bed. I had not realized it but she described the times I had caused an argument and stormed out of the house. At other times I had taken two hours to purchase some minor item and faked a sprain or something. I had made feeble excuses to cop out of the whole wooing her and etc. when I have a reliable online harem it is even more hard.”</em></p> </blockquote> @@ -3385,7 +3423,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:40:22 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-24-casual-pmoers-teenagers-non-pmoers/ - <p>Heavy PMOers tend to envy the casual porn user. We&rsquo;ve all met these characters: “Oh, I can go all week without a PMO, it really doesn&rsquo;t bother me.” We think: “I wish I were like that!” I know this is hard to believe but no PMOer enjoys being a PMOer. Never forget:</p> + <h2 id="casual-pmoers-teenagers-non-pmoers">Casual PMOers, Teenagers, Non PMOers <a class="anchor" href="#casual-pmoers-teenagers-non-pmoers"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Heavy PMOers tend to envy the casual porn user. We&rsquo;ve all met these characters: “Oh, I can go all week without a PMO, it really doesn&rsquo;t bother me.” We think: “I wish I were like that!” I know this is hard to believe but no PMOer enjoys being a PMOer. Never forget:</p> <ul> <li>No PMOer ever decided to become a PMOer casual or otherwise, therefore:</li> <li>All PMOers feel stupid, therefore:</li> @@ -3423,7 +3463,7 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> </a></h3><p>(Or, “I can stop whenever I want to. I have done it thousands of times”). If he thinks dieting helps with his moods to ‘get out to get women,’ why is he even on the diet of once every four days? How can one predict the future, what if the happenstance of meeting occurred just an hour after your scheduled PMO session? Also, if he thinks this occasional “cleaning the plumbing” is good to relieve tension and relax why not plumb every day? It has been proven that masturbation is not required to keep the genitals healthy. Internet porn is not required at all. Even if that may be the case, any PUA guru who has read about the brain chemistry and its plasticity will never recommend watching super stimulus porn. The truth is he is still hooked. Although he gets rid of the physical addiction, he is left with the main problem - the brainwashing. He hopes each time that he will stop for good and soon falls for the same trap again.</p> <p>Many PMOers actually envy these stoppers and starters. They think, “how lucky to be able to control it like that, to do PMO when you want to and stop when you want to,” What they always overlook is that these stoppers and starters aren&rsquo;t controlling it. When they are PMOers, they wish they weren&rsquo;t. They go through the hassle of stopping, then begin to feel deprived and fall for the trap again, then wish they hadn&rsquo;t. They get the worst of both worlds. If you think about it, this is true in the lives of the PMOers. When we are allowed to PMO we either take it as entitled or wish we didn&rsquo;t. It&rsquo;s only when we can&rsquo;t have PMO that it appears to be so precious. The ‘forbidden fruit syndrome’. This is the awful dilemma of PMOers. They can never win because they are moping for a myth, an illusion. There is one way they can win and that is to stop PMOing and stop moping!</p> -<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC/TAME/HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer"> +<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-static--tame--home-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC / TAME / HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-only-pmo-to-static--tame--home-made-porn-pmoer"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> </a></h3><p>Yes, we all do it to start with but isn&rsquo;t it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner&rsquo;s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes&hellip; you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one.</p> <h3 id="the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer">THE I-HAVE-STOPPED-BUT-I-HAVE-AN-OCCASIONAL-PEEK PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer"> @@ -3471,7 +3511,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:35:22 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-23-just-one-peek/ - <p>“Just one peek” is a myth you must get out of your mind:</p> + <h2 id="just-one-peek">Just One Peek <a class="anchor" href="#just-one-peek"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>“Just one peek” is a myth you must get out of your mind:</p> <ul> <li>It is just one peek that gets us started in the first place.</li> <li>It is just one peek to tide us over a difficult patch or on a special occasion that defeats most of our attempts to stop.</li> @@ -3510,7 +3552,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:28:58 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-22-beware-of-cutting-down/ - <p>Many PMOers resort to cutting down either as a stepping-stone towards stopping or as an attempt to control the little monster. Many recommend cutting down or a ‘porn diet’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> as a pick-me-up. Obviously, the less you PMO the better off you are but as a stepping-stone to stopping, cutting down is fatal. It is these attempts to cut down that keep us trapped all our lives.</p> + <h2 id="beware-of-cutting-down">Beware of Cutting Down <a class="anchor" href="#beware-of-cutting-down"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Many PMOers resort to cutting down either as a stepping-stone towards stopping or as an attempt to control the little monster. Many recommend cutting down or a ‘porn diet’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> as a pick-me-up. Obviously, the less you PMO the better off you are but as a stepping-stone to stopping, cutting down is fatal. It is these attempts to cut down that keep us trapped all our lives.</p> <p>Usually cutting down follows failed attempts to stop. After a few hours or days of abstinence the PMOer says to himself something like:</p> <blockquote> <p><em>“I cannot face the thought of going to sleep without visiting my online harem, so from now on I will just PMO once in four days or I will purge my collection of ‘bad’ porn. If I can follow this ‘porn diet’, I can either hold it there or cut down further.”</em></p> @@ -3561,12 +3605,14 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p - 03-21 the Willpower Method of Stopping + 03-21 The Willpower Method of Stopping https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-21-the-willpower-method-of-stopping/ Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:20:42 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-21-the-willpower-method-of-stopping/ - <p>It is an accepted fact in our society that it is very difficult to stop PMO. Even books and forums advising you how to do so usually start off by telling you how difficult it is. The truth is that it is ridiculously easy. Yes, I can understand you questioning that statement but just consider it. If your aim is to run a mile in under four minutes, that&rsquo;s difficult. You may have to undergo years of hard training and even then you may be physically incapable of doing it. (Much of our achievement lies in the mind. Isn&rsquo;t it strange how difficult it was until Roger Bannister actually did it but nowadays it is commonplace?).</p> + <h2 id="the-willpower-method-of-stopping">The Willpower Method of Stopping <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method-of-stopping"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>It is an accepted fact in our society that it is very difficult to stop PMO. Even books and forums advising you how to do so usually start off by telling you how difficult it is. The truth is that it is ridiculously easy. Yes, I can understand you questioning that statement but just consider it. If your aim is to run a mile in under four minutes, that&rsquo;s difficult. You may have to undergo years of hard training and even then you may be physically incapable of doing it. (Much of our achievement lies in the mind. Isn&rsquo;t it strange how difficult it was until Roger Bannister actually did it but nowadays it is commonplace?).</p> <p>However, in order to stop PMOing all you have to do is not watch internet porn and or masturbate any more. No one forces you to masturbate (apart from yourself) and unlike food or drink, you don&rsquo;t need it to survive. So if you want to stop doing it, why should it be difficult? In fact, it isn&rsquo;t. It is PMOers who make it difficult by using the Willpower Method. I define the Willpower Method as any method that forces the PMOer to feel he is making some sort of sacrifice. Let us just consider the Willpower Method.</p> <p>We do not decide to become PMOers. We merely experiment with porn magazines or websites and because they are awful, yes that is right – awful - except for our desired clip, we are convinced that we can stop whenever we want to. In the main, we watch those first few clips only when we want to and that is usually on special occasions. Before we realize it, we are not only visiting those sites regularly and masturbating when we want to, we are masturbating to them every day. PMO has become a part of our lives. We then ensure that we always have an internet connection wherever we go. We believe that we are entitled to love, sex and orgasms - and also that porn helps to relieve stress. It doesn&rsquo;t seem to occur to us that the same clip and actors do not provide us the same degree of arousal and that we are either escalating or fighting against the ‘red line’ we have put around ourselves to avoid harmful “bad porn.” In fact, masturbation and internet porn neither improves our sex life nor does it relieve stress, it&rsquo;s just that PMOers believe they can&rsquo;t enjoy life or handle stress without an orgasm - even mind induced porn orgasms. Because that is what many times we are doing.</p> <p>It usually takes us a long time to realize that we are hooked because we suffer from the illusion that PMOers masturbate because they enjoy porn - not because they have to have porn - a need. While we are not “enjoying” porn (which we can never do unless novelty, shock or escalation is added), we suffer from the illusion that we can stop whenever we want to. This is a confidence trap. I don’t enjoy porn, so I am sure I can stop when I want to. Only that you never seem to ‘want’ to stop though.</p> @@ -3630,7 +3676,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:18:55 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-20-those-sinister-black-shadows/ - <p>Another of the great joys of quitting porn is to be free of those sinister black shadows at the back of our minds. All PMOers know they are fools to close their minds on the ill-effects of PMO. For most of our lives PMO is automatic but the black shadows are always lurking in our subconscious minds, just beneath the surface. There are several marvellous advantages to achieve from quitting PMO. Some of them I was consciously aware of throughout my life, such as the health risks, the waste of time and the sheer stupidity of making love to a two dimensional image. However, such was my fear of quitting, so obsessed was I in resisting all the attempts of do-gooders and anyone else who tried to persuade me to quit, that all my imagination and energy was directed to finding any flimsy excuse that would allow me to continue to PMO.</p> + <h2 id="those-sinister-black-shadows">Those Sinister Black Shadows <a class="anchor" href="#those-sinister-black-shadows"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Another of the great joys of quitting porn is to be free of those sinister black shadows at the back of our minds. All PMOers know they are fools to close their minds on the ill-effects of PMO. For most of our lives PMO is automatic but the black shadows are always lurking in our subconscious minds, just beneath the surface. There are several marvellous advantages to achieve from quitting PMO. Some of them I was consciously aware of throughout my life, such as the health risks, the waste of time and the sheer stupidity of making love to a two dimensional image. However, such was my fear of quitting, so obsessed was I in resisting all the attempts of do-gooders and anyone else who tried to persuade me to quit, that all my imagination and energy was directed to finding any flimsy excuse that would allow me to continue to PMO.</p> <p>Amazingly, my most ingenious thoughts occurred when I was actually trying to quit. They were of course inspired by the fear and misery I suffered when attempting to quit by using willpower. No way could I block my mind from the health and sexual aspects. But now that I am free it amazes me how I successfully blocked my mind from even more important advantages to be gained from quitting. I&rsquo;ve already mentioned the sheer slavery - spending half of our lives being allowed to PMO, doing it automatically and wishing we had never started, the other half feeling miserable and deprived because the knowledge of the destructive effects of internet porn won&rsquo;t allow us to PMO. In the last chapter I&rsquo;ve referred to the incredible joy of having energy again. But for me the greatest joy of being free was not the health, the time, the energy, or the ending of the slavery, it was the removal of those sinister black shadows, the removal of feeling despised by and feeling apologetic to myself and to other quitters, and most of all to be able to respect yourself.</p> <p>Most PMOers aren&rsquo;t the weak-willed, spineless jellyfish that both society and themselves tend to believe. In every other aspect of my life I was in control. I loathed myself for being dependent on an evil crutch that I knew was ruining my life. I cannot tell you of the utter joy of being free of those sinister black shadows, the dependency and the self-despising. I can&rsquo;t tell you how nice it is to be able to look at all other users, whether they be young, old, casual or heavy, not with a feeling of envy, but with a feeling of pity for them and elation for yourself that you are no longer the slave of that insidious trap. The other day I felt pity for the guy on a TV show who was so excited to get to watch porn - another case of society slipping one in your drink under the pretence of comedy.</p> <p>The last two chapters have dealt with the considerable advantages of being a non-PMOer. I feel it necessary to give a balanced account, so the next chapter lists the advantages of being a PMOer.</p> @@ -3643,7 +3691,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:16:17 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-19-it-relaxes-me-and-gives-me-confidence/ - <p>This is the worst fallacy of all about PMOing and for me it ranks with the ending of the slavery, the greatest benefit from quitting - is not to have to go through life with the permanent feelings of insecurity that PMOers suffer from.</p> + <h2 id="it-relaxes-me-and-gives-me-confidence">It Relaxes Me and Gives Me Confidence <a class="anchor" href="#it-relaxes-me-and-gives-me-confidence"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is the worst fallacy of all about PMOing and for me it ranks with the ending of the slavery, the greatest benefit from quitting - is not to have to go through life with the permanent feelings of insecurity that PMOers suffer from.</p> <p>PMOers find it very difficult to believe that masturbation to internet porn actually causes those insecure feelings you get when you are out late at night after a contentious day at home or work. Non-PMOers do not suffer from that feeling. It is the porn that causes it. I only became aware of many of the advantages of stopping months afterwards, as a result of my consultations with other PMOers.</p> <p>I refused to see my PMO as causing so much of the mental tug of war in my mind that I am foolishly working hard to have nominal levels of confidence in my day to day life. Forget about getting an erection, I am talking about focusing, taking challenges, fighting, choosing, deciding - actions that define our lives. Especially when we are often forced to act when the facts are not clear. Come to think of it, facts were and will never be clear and hence it is to our great advantage anyway to act.</p> <p>Also of note is in dating area as well, the fire to go forward is being misappropriated to this ‘high reward zero pain’ porn. If you have read some top PUA books and forums, what do they say? Go on a ‘diet<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>’? Yes of course when you have the good hunger your internal juices and your brain will do the rest. Copping out is not an option at all. Playing the numbers is not tiresome by no means. All PUA advice in a nut-shell is this - try more numbers. Even if your approach is wrong you will be right twice a day like a broken clock. But if your mind is fighting a tug of war with effortless easy access to a harem of online women, how would you get back on your feet when that girl ignores you? Oh, if it was a public outright rejection I am running, not walking, to my porn girlfriend.</p> @@ -3665,7 +3715,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:12:56 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-18-energy/ - <p>Most PMOers are aware of the effect that this progressive process of PMO, leading to novelty and escalation seeking, has on their brain’s reward circuits and their sexual system. However, they are not so aware of the effect it has on their energy level.</p> + <h2 id="energy">Energy <a class="anchor" href="#energy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Most PMOers are aware of the effect that this progressive process of PMO, leading to novelty and escalation seeking, has on their brain’s reward circuits and their sexual system. However, they are not so aware of the effect it has on their energy level.</p> <p>One of the subtleties of the PMO trap is that the effects it has on us, both physical and mental, happen so gradually and imperceptibly that we are not aware of them and regard them as normal. It is very similar to the effects of bad eating habits. The pot-belly appears so gradually that it causes us no alarm. We look at people who are grossly overweight and wonder how they could possibly have allowed themselves to reach that state.</p> <p>But supposing it happened overnight. You went to bed weighing 140 lbs, trim, rippling with muscles and not an ounce of fat on your body. You awoke weighing 180 lbs, fat, bloated and pot-bellied. Instead of waking up feeling fully rested and full of energy, you wake up feeling miserable, lethargic and you can hardly open your eyes. You would be panic-stricken, wondering what awful disease you had contracted overnight. Yet the disease is exactly the same.</p> <p>The fact that it took you twenty years to reach that state is irrelevant. So it is with PMOing. If I could immediately transfer you into your mind and body to give you a direct comparison on how you would feel having stopped internet porn for just three weeks, that is all I would need to do to persuade you to quit. You would think: “Will I really feel this good?” Or what it really amounts to: “Had I really sunk that low?” I emphasize that I don&rsquo;t just mean that you would feel healthier and have more energy but how you would also feel more confident and relaxed and better able to concentrate.</p> @@ -3683,7 +3735,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 12:12:31 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-17-health/ - <p>This is the area where the brainwashing is the greatest. PMOers, especially the young and single, think they are aware of the health risks. They are not. Even in my case, when I was expecting my head to explode any moment and honestly believed I was prepared to accept the consequences, I was still kidding myself. I didn&rsquo;t in those days have an app that started a red beeper to flash and sound every time my internet router hits a porn site, followed by a warning voice saying, “OK, this is the one!” Fortunately you do get a warning, and this is it. That warning would say, “Up to now you have got away with it but if you stay another minute your head will explode,” do you think I would have PMOed?</p> + <h2 id="health">Health <a class="anchor" href="#health"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is the area where the brainwashing is the greatest. PMOers, especially the young and single, think they are aware of the health risks. They are not. Even in my case, when I was expecting my head to explode any moment and honestly believed I was prepared to accept the consequences, I was still kidding myself. I didn&rsquo;t in those days have an app that started a red beeper to flash and sound every time my internet router hits a porn site, followed by a warning voice saying, “OK, this is the one!” Fortunately you do get a warning, and this is it. That warning would say, “Up to now you have got away with it but if you stay another minute your head will explode,” do you think I would have PMOed?</p> <p>If you are in doubt about the answer just try walking up to a cliff, stand on the edge with your eyes closed and imagine you then have the choice of either quitting PMO or walking up blindfolded before your next PMO.</p> <p>There is no doubt what your choice would be. I had been doing what every internet porn PMOer does all his life: closing my mind and keeping my head in the sand, hoping that I would wake up one morning and just not want to PMO any more. PMOers cannot allow themselves to think of the health risks. If they do, even the illusion of enjoying the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; goes.</p> <p>This explains why a shock treatment is so ineffective in the first stages of quitting. It is only non-users who can bring themselves to read the destructive brain changes. It also explains why PMOers, influenced by their little monster, wrongly recall that filthy room mate who PMOed everyday and was still remaining ‘horny’ 24 hours a day – they will ignore the thousands of people who are brought “down” in their prime because of this poisonous ‘habit’.</p> @@ -3794,7 +3848,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 12:08:55 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-16-i-will-save-x-hours-a-week/ - <p>I cannot repeat too often that it is brainwashing that makes it difficult to stop PMOing. So, the + <h2 id="i-will-save-x-hours-a-week">I Will Save X Hours a Week <a class="anchor" href="#i-will-save-x-hours-a-week"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>I cannot repeat too often that it is brainwashing that makes it difficult to stop PMOing. So, the more brainwashing we can dispel before we start, the easier you will find it to achieve your goal. Occasionally I get into arguments with people whom I call “confirmed PMOers.” By my definition a confirmed PMOer is somebody who doesn&rsquo;t believe PMO has any negative effect on his health @@ -3831,7 +3887,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 12:06:39 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-15-self-imposed-slavery/ - <p>Usually when PMOers try to stop the main reasons given are health, religion and partner stigma. Part of the brainwashing of this awful drug is the sheer slavery. Man fought hard in the last century to abolish slavery and yet the PMOer spends his life suffering self-imposed slavery. He seems to be oblivious to the fact that when he is allowed to PMO he wishes that he were a non-PMOer. With most of the masturbation we do in our lives, not only do we not enjoy them but we aren&rsquo;t even aware that we are masturbating. It is only after a period of abstinence that we actually suffer the delusion of enjoying PMO (e.g. the first day after a 4 day abstinence with the intent of rebooting etc.). The only time that the porn becomes precious is when we are &rsquo;trying&rsquo; to cut down or abstain or when abstinence is forced on us (e.g. when on a business trips, holiday trips to locations where the Internet is not available and so on).</p> + <h2 id="self-imposed-slavery">Self-Imposed Slavery <a class="anchor" href="#self-imposed-slavery"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Usually when PMOers try to stop the main reasons given are health, religion and partner stigma. Part of the brainwashing of this awful drug is the sheer slavery. Man fought hard in the last century to abolish slavery and yet the PMOer spends his life suffering self-imposed slavery. He seems to be oblivious to the fact that when he is allowed to PMO he wishes that he were a non-PMOer. With most of the masturbation we do in our lives, not only do we not enjoy them but we aren&rsquo;t even aware that we are masturbating. It is only after a period of abstinence that we actually suffer the delusion of enjoying PMO (e.g. the first day after a 4 day abstinence with the intent of rebooting etc.). The only time that the porn becomes precious is when we are &rsquo;trying&rsquo; to cut down or abstain or when abstinence is forced on us (e.g. when on a business trips, holiday trips to locations where the Internet is not available and so on).</p> <p>The confirmed PMOer should bear in mind that more studies and even more people are coming out and talking about the ill effects of internet porn. This trend will get “worse and worse.” Today, it is non-medical people talking. Tomorrow, it will be in your doctor’s list of diagnostic tests to perform. Gone are the days when the PMOer can hide behind “just a bit of downtime due to work stress” in his or her sex life. Your partner is going to ask you why you are on your laptop at this time too late into the night. The poor PMOer, who was already feeling wretched, wants the ground to open up and swallow him.</p> <p>I remember every time my partner stayed up late it was an ordeal waiting to open up my laptop. When on business trips the dinner with the clients and colleagues dragged on or was I just going through the natural ups and downs in human interactions? What was I doing? I was thinking, “let&rsquo;s get on with it, so that I can get over with this and go to my room for some porn.” I have thought many times, “am I not lucky? I have got my little reward. The poor non-PMOer with no internet access somewhere in an Amish village hasn&rsquo;t got a reward.” The &lsquo;poor&rsquo; non-PMOer doesn&rsquo;t need a reward. We were not designed to go through life systematically flooding our brains with dopamine and opioids. The pathetic thing is that even when masturbating with internet porn the PMOer doesn&rsquo;t achieve those feelings of peace, confidence and tranquillity that the non-PMOer has experienced for the whole of his non-PMO life. The non-PMOer isn&rsquo;t sitting in the family room, feeling agitated and wishing his life away. He can enjoy the whole of his life.</p> <p>No, this wasn&rsquo;t a fourteen-year-old schoolboy but a forty-year-old professional. How pathetic. I wouldn&rsquo;t admit to myself that I wasn&rsquo;t enjoying it. I was looking for the right clip and/or pictures to reach orgasm or better, edge forever. I don&rsquo;t know what I am supposed to be &lsquo;watching&rsquo; sometimes. That is the confusing part. The &rsquo;edging&rsquo; and then the orgasm floods my brain. Yet this was supposed to be my way of relaxing and enjoying my “favourite hobby.”</p> @@ -3845,7 +3903,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:49:35 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-14-what-am-i-giving-up/ - <p>ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! The thing that makes it difficult for us to give up is fear. The fear that we are being deprived of our pleasure or prop. The fear that certain pleasant situations will never be quite the same again. The fear of being unable to cope with stressful situations. In other words, the effect of brainwashing is to delude us into believing that sex and by extension orgasm, is a must for all human beings. Or that there is something inherent in Internet porn that we need and that when we stop PMOing we will be self-denying ourselves and there will be a void.</p> + <h2 id="what-am-i-giving-up">What Am I Giving Up? <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-giving-up"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! The thing that makes it difficult for us to give up is fear. The fear that we are being deprived of our pleasure or prop. The fear that certain pleasant situations will never be quite the same again. The fear of being unable to cope with stressful situations. In other words, the effect of brainwashing is to delude us into believing that sex and by extension orgasm, is a must for all human beings. Or that there is something inherent in Internet porn that we need and that when we stop PMOing we will be self-denying ourselves and there will be a void.</p> <blockquote> <p>Get it clear in your mind:</p> </blockquote> @@ -3866,18 +3926,14 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> </blockquote> <p>These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on this planet. Whether you believe in a creator, a process of natural selection or a combination of both, whatever being or system devised these bodies of ours, it is a thousand times more effective than man! Man cannot create the smallest living cell, let alone the miracle of eyesight, reproduction, our circulatory system or our brains. We don’t have our systems upgraded yet to properly assess the supranormal stimulus such as rich high density food or high speed internet novelty porn with multiple active windows.</p> <p>If the creator or process had intended us to handle novelty triggering stimuli, we would have been provided with some other brain reward circuits. Our bodies are, in fact, provided with fail-safe warning devices and we ignore these at our peril. Excessive edging results in body pain, irritation, and inflammation. In women, excessive flooding of dopamine and stress enzymes such as prostaglandin-E2 can cause difficulty to orgasm and PME.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up"><strong>There Is Nothing To Give Up</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#there-is-nothing-to-give-up"> +<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up">There Is Nothing To Give Up <a class="anchor" href="#there-is-nothing-to-give-up"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h2></div> -<p>The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.</p> +</a></h2><p>The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.</p> <p>The problem I have is to make a convincing point as I’d have done for, let us say&hellip; smokers? All of us have seen smokers who develop excuses to sneak off for a crafty puff. It is easy to see the true addiction in action. Addicts do not do it because they enjoy it. They do it because they are miserable without it.</p> <p>Because many of us started out our first sexual experience that ended in an orgasm and we acquired the belief that we cannot enjoy sex without an orgasm. And for men, porn is sold as an aid towards sex, sometimes even as an education to be confident during the act of sex. It used to be static, but now we have supranormal internet porn. But this is nonsense. Internet porn takes away your confidence.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="women-and-porn"><strong>Women And Porn</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#women-and-porn"> +<h2 id="women-and-porn">Women And Porn <a class="anchor" href="#women-and-porn"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h2></div> -<p>The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn&rsquo;t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.</p> +</a></h2><p>The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn&rsquo;t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.</p> <p>Porn and internet porn does not help your sex life; it destroys it totally. Having to hide your internet footprints, trying to delete your history, fearing accidental exposure to your boyfriend or kids, body pains, doubtful symptoms, fighting self doubts, arguing with yourself about your responsibilities in the ill effects of your addiction&hellip; well, why do you want to put yourself in such a bad situation?</p> <p>Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous positive gains to be had. When PMOers contemplate quitting they tend to concentrate on health and virility. These are obviously valid and important issues but I personally believe the greatest gains from stopping are psychological:</p> <ol> @@ -3886,11 +3942,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <li>Not to have to go through life suffering the awful black shadows at the back of your mind, knowing you are being despised by half of the population and, worst of all, despising yourself.</li> </ol> <p>Not only is life better as a non-PMOer but it is infinitely more enjoyable. I do not only mean you will be healthier. I mean you will be happier and enjoy life far more. The marvellous gains from being a non-PMOer are discussed in the next few chapters. Some PMOers find it difficult to appreciate the concept of the &lsquo;void&rsquo; and the following analogy may assist you.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"><strong>Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"> +<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void">Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void! <a class="anchor" href="#void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h2></div> -<p>Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I&rsquo;ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can&rsquo;t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.</p> +</a></h2><p>Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I&rsquo;ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can&rsquo;t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.</p> <p>By now you are completely dependent on the ointment. You never go out without ensuring that you have a tube of the ointment with you. If you go abroad, you make sure that you take several tubes with you. Now, in addition to your worries about your health, I&rsquo;m charging you $100 per tube. You have no choice but to pay.</p> <p>You then read in the medical column of your newspaper that this isn&rsquo;t happening just to you; many other people have been suffering from the same problem. In fact, pharmacists have discovered that the ointment doesn&rsquo;t actually cure the sore. All that it does is to take the sore beneath the surface of the skin. It is the ointment that has caused the sore to grow. All you have to do to get rid of the sore is to stop using the ointment. The sore will eventually disappear in due course.</p> <p>Would you continue to use the ointment? Would it take willpower not to use the ointment? If you didn&rsquo;t believe the medical article, there might be a few days of apprehension, but once you realized that the sore was beginning to get better, the need or desire to use the ointment would go, Would you be miserable? Of course you wouldn&rsquo;t. You had an awful problem which you thought was insoluble. Now you&rsquo;ve found the solution. Even if it took a year for that sore to disappear completely, each day, as it improved, you&rsquo;d think. “isn&rsquo;t it marvellous? I&rsquo;m not going to die!” This was the magic that happened to me on my final PMO day. Let me make one point quite clear in the analogy of the sore and the ointment.</p> @@ -3907,7 +3961,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:47:03 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-13-social-night-pmoing/ - <p>This is a misinformation that seems to make sense but then it does not. In order to have control of eating, will you eat at home before leaving to go to a restaurant or a party? This is what you are doing when you PMO before your social night. You will look tired and will not be up to your best. If you have dating jitters then work on it beforehand and then go with the flow even with some butterflies in your stomach. I like a bit of the anxiety in me to keep me going. Tiring yourself mentally and physically with an orgasm is not going to help you, unless of course you are going to see a prostitute. The goal is entirely different in that angle.</p> + <h2 id="social-night-pmoing">Social Night PMOing <a class="anchor" href="#social-night-pmoing"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is a misinformation that seems to make sense but then it does not. In order to have control of eating, will you eat at home before leaving to go to a restaurant or a party? This is what you are doing when you PMO before your social night. You will look tired and will not be up to your best. If you have dating jitters then work on it beforehand and then go with the flow even with some butterflies in your stomach. I like a bit of the anxiety in me to keep me going. Tiring yourself mentally and physically with an orgasm is not going to help you, unless of course you are going to see a prostitute. The goal is entirely different in that angle.</p> <p>The widespread adoption of pick-up techniques has put pressure on guys to perform, to attract and to ‘score’. You can get knowledge but you should know how to use it. I can guarantee that 100% of the other guys hanging at that bar know exactly what you know. It comes down to the ‘how’ of how you use it when you get the chance. Even before that, there is one very critical thing about any knowledge pertaining to human interactions, that ‘knowledge’ should never force your actions. This is important.</p> <p>I once masturbated and then poured wine to quiet the butterflies in my stomach before a date. I looked tired after just one hour into the date, the loud noise of the bar, dehydration, excessive self-consciousness (PUA teachings) etc. made my time unenjoyable. Somehow the girl and her friend liked it all. However, I do think it would have been better if I had gone without any props. I ended up being successful by claiming my &lsquo;goal(s)&rsquo; - which I consider unfortunate and as random luck.</p> <p>The PMO session I had before the date triggered a dopamine flooding and its withdrawal hit around the time I was with the date. I had to over-do my conversation to compensate the ineffective dopamine effects after that earlier orgasm. I am also sure that I was suffering from hypofrontality - where my impulses were failing my controls. That gushing moment, an extra decibel in the tone etc. would easily have given my nervousness to the girls - only if I was not protected by the loud noise in the bar. Why do you want to take chances?</p> @@ -3926,7 +3982,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:44:10 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-12-relaxation/ - <p>Most PMOers think that PMO helps to relax them. The truth is that internet porn used in PMO acts like a chemical stimulant. The frantic search to get the fix in those “dark alleys of the internet” and the internal struggle to reign in the dog straining at its leash for more shocking clips does not sound much like an activity of relaxation to me.</p> + <h2 id="relaxation">Relaxation <a class="anchor" href="#relaxation"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Most PMOers think that PMO helps to relax them. The truth is that internet porn used in PMO acts like a chemical stimulant. The frantic search to get the fix in those “dark alleys of the internet” and the internal struggle to reign in the dog straining at its leash for more shocking clips does not sound much like an activity of relaxation to me.</p> <p>One of the favourite PMO sessions for most is the one after a trip to a new place or after along day. As the night rolls in we stop working; we sit down and relax, relieve our hunger and thirst and are then completely satisfied. However, the poor PMOer cannot relax, as he has another hunger to satisfy. He thinks of the PMO as the icing on the cake but it is the &rsquo;little monster&rsquo; that needs feeding.</p> <p>The truth is that the addict can never be completely relaxed and as you go through life it gets worse. The most stressed people on this planet aren&rsquo;t non-PMOers but those young men and women who have a need to hunt (with the misunderstood goal of orgasm) and their ignorance of and/or low opinion of amative sex. Women who have subscribed to “I must orgasm” teachings are not even aware of the victim they have made of themselves. At this point any sex that leads to climax and orgasm cease to relieve even partially the symptoms that they have created.</p> <p>I can remember when I was bringing up a family. If my child would do something wrong I would quickly lose my temper to an extent that was out of all proportion to what he had done.</p> @@ -3947,7 +4005,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:42:13 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-11-concentration/ - <p>Sex and masturbation do not help concentration. That is just another illusion. When you are trying to concentrate, you automatically try to avoid distractions. So when a PMOer wants to concentrate he doesn&rsquo;t even have to think about it. He automatically PMOs, partially ending the craving, gets on with the matter in hand and has already forgotten that he just PMOed. Sex in general do not help concentration. After years of masturbation your brain changes affect abilities such as assessing, planning and impulse control. The PMOer is already suffering: that little monster wants his fix.</p> + <h2 id="concentration">Concentration <a class="anchor" href="#concentration"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Sex and masturbation do not help concentration. That is just another illusion. When you are trying to concentrate, you automatically try to avoid distractions. So when a PMOer wants to concentrate he doesn&rsquo;t even have to think about it. He automatically PMOs, partially ending the craving, gets on with the matter in hand and has already forgotten that he just PMOed. Sex in general do not help concentration. After years of masturbation your brain changes affect abilities such as assessing, planning and impulse control. The PMOer is already suffering: that little monster wants his fix.</p> <p>You are also stressed to provide novelty for the next PMO session as the same stuff will not generate enough dopamine and opioids. You have to “roam the internet streets” for novelty - all the while fighting the pull to cross the line towards shock. This creates more stress. After you orgasm, you feel unfulfilled as well.</p> <p>Concentration is also affected adversely for another reason. Your dopamine receptors have already started to get reduced by building up natural tolerance to these large surges, reducing the benefit of the smaller dopamine boosts from natural de-stressors.</p> <p>In fact, your concentration and inspiration will be greatly improved as this process is reversed. For some it will be the concentration aspect that prevents them from succeeding when using the willpower method. They could put up with the irritability and bad temper but when they really needed to concentrate on something difficult they have to have that porn fix. I can well remember the panic I felt when I discovered that the hotel has no internet connection and I had this huge presentation the day after.</p> @@ -3963,7 +4023,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:40:46 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-10-boredom/ - <p>As soon as you get into your bed - and if you are like many people you are already on your favorite tube site - you will probably have already forgotten about it until I reminded you. It has become second nature. Another fallacy about PMOing is that it relieves boredom. Boredom is a frame of mind. The only time that happens is when you have been deprived for a long time or are trying to cut down, or during those first few PMO sessions after a failed attempt to stop.</p> + <h2 id="boredom">Boredom <a class="anchor" href="#boredom"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As soon as you get into your bed - and if you are like many people you are already on your favorite tube site - you will probably have already forgotten about it until I reminded you. It has become second nature. Another fallacy about PMOing is that it relieves boredom. Boredom is a frame of mind. The only time that happens is when you have been deprived for a long time or are trying to cut down, or during those first few PMO sessions after a failed attempt to stop.</p> <p>The true situation is this: when you are addicted to internet porn’s supranormal novelty and then you decide to abstain from internet porn, there is something missing. If you have something to occupy your mind that isn&rsquo;t stressful, you can go for long periods without being bothered by the absence of the drug. However, when you are bored there&rsquo;s nothing to take your mind off it, so you feed the monster. When you are indulging yourself (i.e. not trying to stop or cut down), even firing up your incognito browser becomes subconscious. The PMOer can perform this ritual automatically. If any PMOer tries to remember the session during the last week, he can only remember a small proportion of them - e.g. the very last one or after a long abstinence.</p> <p>The truth is that PMOing tend to increase boredom indirectly because orgasms make you feel lethargic and instead of undertaking some energetic activity, PMOers tend to prefer lounge around, bored, relieving their withdrawal pangs. This is why countering the brainwashing is so important. Because it&rsquo;s a fact that PMOers tend to masturbate when they are bored and that we&rsquo;re wired to interpret PMO as interesting. It doesn&rsquo;t occur to us to question the fact how a two dimensional supranormal stimulus relieves boredom.</p> <p>We&rsquo;ve also been brainwashed into believing that sex - even a bad sex - aids relaxation. It is a fact that when under stress or sad, couples want to have sex. In the absence of discrimination between amative and propagative sex, the goal is set to achieve orgasms by hook or by crook. Next time you do this watch how you both want to get away from each other as soon as it’s over. It is obvious that if they had just decided to cuddle, speak, hug and touch each other and go to sleep without the mandatory orgasms, the couple would have felt relieved. Well, if in the process, they wanted to have the propagative part then by all means they can but that is a topic not meant to be discussed in this book.</p> @@ -3976,7 +4038,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:38:59 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-09-stress/ - <p>I am referring not only to the great tragedies of life but also to the minor stresses, the socializing, the telephone call, the anxieties of the housewife with noisy young children and so on. Let us use the telephone conversation as an example. For most people the telephone is slightly stressful, particularly for the businessman. Most calls aren&rsquo;t from satisfied customers or your boss congratulating you. There&rsquo;s usually some sort of aggravation - something going wrong or somebody making demands. Then he or she comes home to the mundane family life of kids screaming and wife&rsquo;s emotional demands on you. His already PMO weakened de-stressors are in no way ready to take the aggravation. At that time the PMOer, if he isn&rsquo;t already doing so, will fantasize the relief of internet porn that he promised himself that night. He will even allow himself to “take one step more” into the ‘forbidden’ area that he had previously self-excluded. He doesn&rsquo;t know why he does this but he does know that for some reason it appears to help.</p> + <h2 id="stress">Stress <a class="anchor" href="#stress"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>I am referring not only to the great tragedies of life but also to the minor stresses, the socializing, the telephone call, the anxieties of the housewife with noisy young children and so on. Let us use the telephone conversation as an example. For most people the telephone is slightly stressful, particularly for the businessman. Most calls aren&rsquo;t from satisfied customers or your boss congratulating you. There&rsquo;s usually some sort of aggravation - something going wrong or somebody making demands. Then he or she comes home to the mundane family life of kids screaming and wife&rsquo;s emotional demands on you. His already PMO weakened de-stressors are in no way ready to take the aggravation. At that time the PMOer, if he isn&rsquo;t already doing so, will fantasize the relief of internet porn that he promised himself that night. He will even allow himself to “take one step more” into the ‘forbidden’ area that he had previously self-excluded. He doesn&rsquo;t know why he does this but he does know that for some reason it appears to help.</p> <p>What has actually happened is this: without being conscious of it, he has already been suffering aggravation (i.e. the withdrawal pangs). By partially relieving that aggravation at the same time as normal stress, the total stress is reduced and the PMOer gets a boost. At this point the boost is not, in fact, an illusion. The Internet porn user will feel better than before. However, even when using porn to masturbate he or she is more tense than if he were a non-PMOer because the more you go into the drug, the more it knocks you down and the less it restores you when you masturbate. I promised no shock treatment. In the example I am about to give, I am not trying to shock you, I am merely emphasizing that PMO destroy your nerves rather than relax them.</p> <p>Try to imagine getting to the stage where you cannot get aroused even with a very sexy and attractive partner. Just for a moment pause and try to visualize life where one very lovely and charming woman has to compete and fail with all the virtual porn stars who are in your &lsquo;harem&rsquo; to get your attention! Try to imagine the frame of mind of a man who, issued with that warning, actually continues PMOing and then dies without ever having had real sex with this charming and willing real woman. I had read real life stories like that from men and dismissed them as weirdos. In fact, I used to wish a doctor would tell me that this weird condition would happen if I continue PMO; then I would have stopped. Yet I was already fully expecting that PIED and hypofrontality where I am guaranteed to lose in a brain war. I didn&rsquo;t think of myself as an impotent, just a heavy PMOer. Now, let’s talk about the stress that this is putting on me.</p> <p>Such weird stories as the above are not fakes. That is what this awful ‘novelty’ porn drug does to you. As you go through life, it systematically takes away your nerve and courage. The more it takes your courage away, the more you are deluded into believing the porn is doing the opposite.</p> @@ -3992,7 +4056,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:36:16 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-08-relieving-withdrawal-pangs/ - <p>As I explained earlier, PMOers think they do it for enjoyment, relaxation or some sort of education. In fact, this an illusion. The actual reason is the relief of withdrawal pangs. In the early days we use the porn as a curious and novel thing or even educational or as a rebel. We can take it or leave it. However, the subtle chain has started. Our subconscious mind begins to learn that internet porn and masturbation taken at certain times tends to be pleasurable. The more we become hooked on the drug, the greater the need to relieve the withdrawal pangs and the further the PMO drags you down and the more you are fooled into believing it is doing the opposite. It all happens so slowly, so gradually, you are not even aware of it. Each day you feel no different from the day before. Most young PMOers don&rsquo;t even realize they are hooked until they actually try to stop and even then many won&rsquo;t admit to it. A few stalwarts just keep their heads in the sand all their lives,trying to convince themselves and other people that they enjoy it.</p> + <h2 id="relieving-withdrawal-pangs">Relieving Withdrawal Pangs <a class="anchor" href="#relieving-withdrawal-pangs"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As I explained earlier, PMOers think they do it for enjoyment, relaxation or some sort of education. In fact, this an illusion. The actual reason is the relief of withdrawal pangs. In the early days we use the porn as a curious and novel thing or even educational or as a rebel. We can take it or leave it. However, the subtle chain has started. Our subconscious mind begins to learn that internet porn and masturbation taken at certain times tends to be pleasurable. The more we become hooked on the drug, the greater the need to relieve the withdrawal pangs and the further the PMO drags you down and the more you are fooled into believing it is doing the opposite. It all happens so slowly, so gradually, you are not even aware of it. Each day you feel no different from the day before. Most young PMOers don&rsquo;t even realize they are hooked until they actually try to stop and even then many won&rsquo;t admit to it. A few stalwarts just keep their heads in the sand all their lives,trying to convince themselves and other people that they enjoy it.</p> <p>Listen to this conversation a therapist had with hundreds of teenagers.</p> <blockquote> <p>TH: “You realize that internet porn is a drug and that the only reason why you are using is that you cannot stop.”</p> @@ -4022,33 +4088,29 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 08:39:02 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-07-brainwashing-and-the-primitive-mechanism/ - <p>How or why do we start PMOing in the first place? To understand this fully you need to examine the powerful effect of the supernormal stimulus. We all tend to think we are intelligent, dominant human beings determining our paths through life. We act and act frequently when our brain reward circuit are rewarded. Nobel laureate Nikolaas Tinbergen coined the term “supranormal stimulus.” He said mammals could be tricked into preferring fake eggs and mates. Female birds, for example, struggled to sit on larger-than life, vividly spotted plaster eggs while their own pale, dappled eggs perished untended.</p> + <h2 id="brainwashing-and-the-primitive-mechanism">Brainwashing and the Primitive Mechanism <a class="anchor" href="#brainwashing-and-the-primitive-mechanism"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>How or why do we start PMOing in the first place? To understand this fully you need to examine the powerful effect of the supernormal stimulus. We all tend to think we are intelligent, dominant human beings determining our paths through life. We act and act frequently when our brain reward circuit are rewarded. Nobel laureate Nikolaas Tinbergen coined the term “supranormal stimulus.” He said mammals could be tricked into preferring fake eggs and mates. Female birds, for example, struggled to sit on larger-than life, vividly spotted plaster eggs while their own pale, dappled eggs perished untended.</p> <p>The stimulation here in internet porn is not it brings stimulating actors and themes to your home - it is a genie at your bidding to create a harem in your mind. You can switch between genres and theme, home-made and viewer rated, commented and discussed, so rapid and so easy. We absolutely are not ready for the high speed internet porn and our brains are not designed to handle this supranormal stimuli.</p> <p>We can have an ‘information overload’ from the same internet but our reward circuits are not going to squirt dopamine at the levels when ‘porn overload’ is involved. We are evolutionarily programmed to seek and access sex related stuff. And we wrongly appraise the stimulus mostly based on this reward circuit action. If all you wanted is to masturbate why can’t you just use one clip and get the business done?</p> <p>Here is another question - next time after a long day or some stressful incident can you consciously embellish your self-talk with “Do you know what I would really enjoy today? The marvellous warm glow of dopamine rush going to my online harem.” You will find that even people who dislike PMO will join you.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="past-misguided-advice"><strong>Past Misguided Advice</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#past-misguided-advice"> +<h2 id="past-misguided-advice">Past Misguided Advice <a class="anchor" href="#past-misguided-advice"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.</p> +</a></h2><p>There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.</p> <p>From our earliest years our subconscious minds are bombarded daily with information telling us that sex is good and that the most precious thing on this earth is to ‘achieve’ orgasm. Girls are taught to achieve it and claim it&rsquo;s because they were wrongly suppressed of their sexual side for a very long time and still are. You think I exaggerate? Watch any TV or movie plot and you will see the mix-up of the amative (touch, smell, voice etc.) and the propagative (orgasmic) sides of sex. The impact of this does not register on our conscious minds but the sleeping partner, the subconscious mind, has time to absorb it. What the message is really saying is, “The most precious thing on this earth, my last thought and action, will be the goal of orgasm.” If you don’t have an orgasm then you are an old man with zero libido.</p> <p>Our children are being bombarded by sex and porn clips and many don’t even know how to protect them from it all. Large hoardings and magazine adverts are loaded with sexual innuendo. Some of the pop videos are extremely suggestive - again they hide behind free speech. Don’t be vexed and feel powerless about it. Make it a game and find you which of the components they are using - is it novelty, shock value, color, size, taboo etc. If the kids are pre-teen some of these can be disclosed to them and it would make an excellent show-and-tell game.</p> <p>A while back there was a wave of ‘leaked’ private videos of celebrities on the internet. If the youngster is too smitten by their favourite star, even if the conscious mind blames the ‘leak’ on the blood thirsty internet paparazzi, the &lsquo;sleeping partner&rsquo; is patiently digesting the notion that, “yes, even my shambolic hero does it and if I don’t, I won’t look the part.”</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-scientific-reasoning"><strong>The Scientific Reasoning</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-scientific-reasoning"> +<h2 id="the-scientific-reasoning">The Scientific Reasoning <a class="anchor" href="#the-scientific-reasoning"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>, Reboot<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> forums, underground PUA<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup>, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn&rsquo;t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.</p> +</a></h2><p>True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>, Reboot<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> forums, underground PUA<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup>, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn&rsquo;t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.</p> <p>Ironically, the most powerful force in this melee of confusion is the PMOer himself. It is a fallacy that they are weak-willed or are physically weak specimens. You have to be physically strong in order to cope with an addiction after you know it is. This is one of the reasons why PMOers refuse to accept the overwhelming statistics that prove that internet porn with its ‘novelty’ cripples your brain. Add to that the sexologists who are doing half-baked studies and declare PMO is not an issue - they just help to add to the confusion.</p> <p>Everyone knows a friend who PMOed every day - he started with the ‘static’ to internet porn, always horny in real life, chasing girls and you never doubted him to have sex problems of course. You want to believe him. He never complained about any ED right? Guys and girls like them refuse even to consider the hundreds of ex-addicts and non-PMOers who painfully recount their difficulties. It is the “little monster” brain chemical addiction and the “big monster” - illusions and delusions. In this hackbook, I&rsquo;ve put together almost all the sorts of brainwashing a PMOer can suffer from. There will always be a few out there that I haven&rsquo;t touched upon.</p> <p>Even more painful is they think of themselves as unsuccessful losers and insufferable introverts. A possible fact is that a PMO friend could have been more interesting in person if he hadn’t put himself down for seeking self-pleasure.</p> <p>If you do a small survey among your online forum members, friends and colleagues, you will find that most PMOers are, in fact, strong-willed people. They tend to be self-employed, business executives or in certain specialized professions, such as doctors<sup id="fnref:4"><a href="#fn:4" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">4</a></sup>, lawyers, policemen, teachers, salesmen, nurses, secretaries, housewives with children, etc. In other words, anybody leading a stressful existence. Yes, I did include women and mothers. It’s the brain and it’s the same for them too. The main delusion of the PMOer is that porn helps to masturbate to orgasm and that relieves stress. This tends to be associated with the dominant type, the type that takes on responsibility and stress and, of course, that is the type that we admire and therefore tend to copy. Another group that tends to get hooked are people in monotonous jobs because the other main reason for PMOing is boredom. However, the idea that internet porn relieves boredom is also an illusion, I am afraid.</p> <p>As a society we get all uptight about glue-sniffing, heroin addiction, etc. Actual deaths from glue-sniffing do not amount to ten per annum, and deaths from heroin are less than a hundred a year in this country. There is another drug, internet porn, on which over 45 per cent of us become hooked at some time in our lives and the majority spend the rest of their lives regretting it. Some even don’t know that their ED is due to this.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-willpower-method"><strong>The Willpower Method</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method"> +<h2 id="the-willpower-method">The Willpower Method <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why?</p> +</a></h2><p>PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why?</p> <p>Constant exposure to internet porn re-wires your brain. You need to start building resistance to this brainwashing, just as if you were buying a car from a second-hand car dealer. You would be nodding politely but you would not believe a word the man was saying. So don’t believe everything they say either - that you must have sex as much as you can and you must have it exceptional good. And that in the absence of real sex you claim it by the substitute called internet porn - which is only a component of the good old porn.</p> <p>And don’t play ‘safe’ porn game either - because your “little porn monster” invented that scheme to lure you. Even the content - ‘amateur’? Really? Is there a certification authority that certifies it? Tube sites and porn producers gather site visitor profiles and cater to their needs. If they see a trend in crowd sourced collection of a particular genre they will focus on that and get content out ASAP. The statistics of what genre users like is collected to the level of how long and which portion the users were preferring. Do not be fooled by their educational intent or the safe female oriented clips (for you ladies). Start asking yourself:</p> <ul> @@ -4058,27 +4120,21 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p><strong>NO, OF COURSE YOU DON&rsquo;T.</strong></p> <p>I find this brainwashing aspect the most difficult of all to explain. Why is it that an otherwise rational, intelligent human being becomes a complete imbecile about his own addiction? It pains me to confess that out of the thousands of people that I have assisted in kicking the habit, I (not Allen Carr) was the biggest idiot of all.</p> <p>At the age of thirteen, although I was doing well at school and games, I was still an insufferable introvert. I read books from the library that were not within my main study list. However, I can see that I was attracted to erotica. I started masturbating to TV programs, song and dance sequences etc. I must have to have it every day. The tired feeling I felt was misappropriated by my ‘little porn monster’ as work stress. I didn’t know my “I-must-masturbate-as-I-am-entitled” attitude was the one that created the ‘stress’ in the first place. Then I got pictures and GIFs via email on my laptop - the first step towards electronic porn. The colour and texture of the images were amazing for me at that time - won’t be now for sure. Then came dial-up but still they were predominantly static pictures. Then came downloadable videos. It’s a pain to download and watch now - but it was heaven sent then as we were coming out of the static porn era! Oh, the streaming tube sites haven’t arrived yet.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"><strong>When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"> +<h2 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore">When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore <a class="anchor" href="#when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn.</p> +</a></h2><p>I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn.</p> <p>At the age of forty, I was visiting my online harem daily, drinking ‘socially’ (whatever that means) and smoking ‘sometimes’ but not so often. I had wrongly subscribed to misguided ideas of ‘moderation’ and ‘entitlement’. I had reached the stage where I couldn&rsquo;t get through a single day without reaching out to porn in the night. With most PMOers, the triggers are the normal stresses of life, like answering the telephone or socializing.</p> <p>When I experienced PIED - I knew it was killing my virility. There was no way I could kid myself otherwise. I am smart enough not to ‘project’ the porn fantasies on to real life. But it was like pacifying a dog straining at its leash. But why I couldn&rsquo;t see what it was doing to me mentally, I could not understand. It was almost jumping up and biting me on the nose. The ridiculous thing is that most PMOers suffer the delusion at some time in their life that they enjoy internet porn because it is ‘normal’ and ‘healthy’. I never suffered that delusion, I PMOed because I thought enjoying sex is a ‘birthright’ and I am only doing a normal thing.</p> <p>Since it was easier at most times for me to get internet porn than a partner I thought I am doing the normal thing. Now I am a non-PMOer, the most difficult part is trying to believe that those days actually happened. It&rsquo;s like awakening from a nightmare and that is about the size of it. Internet porn is a supranormal drug. It is weakening your de-stressing mechanisms, your virility and your energy. The worst aspect of PMO isn&rsquo;t the injury to your health or manliness, it is the warping of the mind. You search for any plausible excuse to go on.</p> <p>I remember at one stage switching to static images, a failed attempt to cut down on internet porn, in the belief that it was less harmful and I could reign in my ‘habit’. I failed to see the ‘novelty’ and the ‘shock’ demands from my ‘little monster’ to just get more dopamine. Did I ‘stay’ within my boundaries? I ‘favorited’ 2 dimensional photos and my harem collection saw pictures and videos of ‘mild’ type porn rotating in and out like musical chair. When their ‘music’ stopped they ‘exited’. I didn’t understand the novelty-seeking, shock-seeking nature of my brain.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pied-and-my-excuses"><strong>PIED And My Excuses</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pied-and-my-excuses"> +<h2 id="pied-and-my-excuses">PIED And My Excuses <a class="anchor" href="#pied-and-my-excuses"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.</p> +</a></h2><p>Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.</p> <p>Most PMOers swear that they only watch static and soft porn and so they are OK. They are actually straining at the leash and thus fighting with their willpower to resist temptations. If they do this too often and for too long they will debit their willpower considerably and fail in other life projects where willpower is of much great value, like in daily exercise, dieting etc. Continuous failure in those areas will make them feel miserable and guilty and very soon they will find themselves back to their entitled relief. If not, they will vent their anger and depression onto their loved ones.</p> <p>The answer is that once you have become addicted to internet porn, the brainwashing is increased. Your subconscious mind knows that the little monster has to be fed and you block everything else from your mind. As I have already stated, it is fear that keeps people quitting, the fear of that empty, insecure feeling that you get when you stop supplying the brain with dopamine flooding. Just because you are not aware of it doesn&rsquo;t mean it isn&rsquo;t there. You don&rsquo;t have to understand it any more than a cat needs to understand where the under-floor hot-water pipes are. It just knows that if it sits in a certain place it gets the feeling of warmth.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind"><strong>The Passivity Of Our Mind</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-passivity-of-our-mind"> +<h2 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind">The Passivity Of Our Mind <a class="anchor" href="#the-passivity-of-our-mind"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I&rsquo;ve frequently referred to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo; PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo;, but to stopping, quitting or the true position: <strong>ESCAPING!</strong></p> +</a></h2><p>It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I&rsquo;ve frequently referred to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo; PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo;, but to stopping, quitting or the true position: <strong>ESCAPING!</strong></p> <p>The only thing that persuades us to PMO in the first place is all the other people doing it. We feel we are missing out. We work so hard to become hooked, yet nobody ever finds out what they have been missing. But every time we see another new video clip it reassures us that there must be something in it, otherwise people wouldn&rsquo;t be doing it - and it wouldn&rsquo;t be such big business all over the world. Even when he has kicked the habit, the ex-PMOer feels he is being deprived when a discussion on a sexy entertainer, singer or even a porn star comes up at a party or other social function. She or he must be good to have all my friends talk about them, no? Do they have ‘hot’ pictures of her in my tube site? He feels safe. He can have just one ‘peek’ that night. And, before he knows it, he is hooked again.</p> <p>This brainwashing is extremely powerful and you need to be aware of its effects. I have heard scare stories about wicked men giving heroin mixed candies to kids at schoolyards. The concept of addiction and being compelled to go on taking the drug, filled me with horror. Even to this day, in spite of the fact that I am fairly convinced that &lsquo;pot&rsquo; is not addictive, I would not dare take one puff of marijuana. How ironic that I should have ended up a porn junky. Technology will continue to grow and we will have even faster tube sites and more faster access methods. The industry is investing millions in Virtual Reality so it will become the next best thing. The point is, do we know where we are going? Are we equipped with an under armour of defence so we can enjoy the benefits of technology yet at the same time protect ourselves from its bad effects?</p> <p>We are about to remove the brainwashing. It is not the non-PMOer who is being deprived but the poor user who is forfeiting a lifetime of:</p> @@ -4120,15 +4176,15 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:44:00 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-06-internet-porn/ - <p>Erotic novelty of the internet porn is a mental ‘drug’ and internet porn beats anything that is known to mankind and its streaming straight to your home for free ! We are not even talking VR virtual reality here. Porn triggers the ‘flooding’ of dopamine in our brain. Dopamine amps up the brain reward circuitry to produce experiences and feels of cravings and pleasure by locking themselves into ‘receptors’. More dopamine more wanting. Less dopamine no wanting. New experiences, tasty food - more dopamine - more wanting. Sex and sex related stuff gives the biggest injection of dopamine in the reward circuits. Dopamine is not the final pleasure stuff, if it were you would feel happy when you are done with it, but it is only a brain chemical that encourages seeking and action in you. The real pleasure is produced by opioids. More dopamine more opioids more + <h2 id="internet-porn">Internet Porn <a class="anchor" href="#internet-porn"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Erotic novelty of the internet porn is a mental ‘drug’ and internet porn beats anything that is known to mankind and its streaming straight to your home for free ! We are not even talking VR virtual reality here. Porn triggers the ‘flooding’ of dopamine in our brain. Dopamine amps up the brain reward circuitry to produce experiences and feels of cravings and pleasure by locking themselves into ‘receptors’. More dopamine more wanting. Less dopamine no wanting. New experiences, tasty food - more dopamine - more wanting. Sex and sex related stuff gives the biggest injection of dopamine in the reward circuits. Dopamine is not the final pleasure stuff, if it were you would feel happy when you are done with it, but it is only a brain chemical that encourages seeking and action in you. The real pleasure is produced by opioids. More dopamine more opioids more action more happy feelings.</p> <p>So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. All of which will now be stored as a script in your brain for easy access next time. I call this a ‘water slide’. Next time at the cue - a sexy commercial or alone time or stress or feeling a little down - you are ready to take a ride on the ‘water slide’. One more thing is that every time to repeat this you are ‘greasing’ it as well - so it is active, alive and more easier to slide the next time.</p> <p>As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating. Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish, ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you won’t on your first time.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="my-own-online-harem"><strong>My Own Online Harem!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#my-own-online-harem"> +<h2 id="my-own-online-harem">My Own Online Harem! <a class="anchor" href="#my-own-online-harem"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost.</p> +</a></h2><p>This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost.</p> <p>Going back to the earlier discussion - in this cycle as you crossed the ‘red line’ you also trigger emotions such as guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety and fear - which in turn raise dopamine levels as well. Now the brain may mistakenly associate feelings of anxiety and fear as sexual arousal. This perpetual cycle is only broken by natural causes - fortunately sooner or later. With its free access and privacy it provides boundless harem-like novelty. The dopamine can be theoretically kept very high for a very very long time. I can be satisfied with one lobster once in awhile. But Internet porn is different. It is even worse than drugs. Don’t let me make you nervous. I will shortly show you how to be free from this slavery.</p> <p>Now our human body has a self-correcting system by which the number of dopamine and opioid receptors are cut short when frequent and daily ‘flooding’ of dopamine is detected. Unfortunately - these receptors are also needed for receiving dopamine and to keep us even and balanced to handle the inevitable and normal day-to-day stresses. But this natural nominal amount of dopamine will not be absorbed efficiently with decreased receptors and you will feel mores tressed and irritated than normal.</p> <blockquote> @@ -4140,18 +4196,14 @@ action more happy feelings.</p> <p>A fleeting feeling of security is all that is needed to get through a rough spot in life - but will your brain be able to catch that drop of de-stressor that a non-PMOers’ brain is able to catch and use?</p> <p>This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I will explain more about this later.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-little-monster"><strong>The Little Monster</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-little-monster"> +<h2 id="the-little-monster">The Little Monster <a class="anchor" href="#the-little-monster"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&rsquo; we think we just &lsquo;got into the habit&rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.</p> +</a></h2><p>The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&rsquo; we think we just &lsquo;got into the habit&rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.</p> <p>Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, resulting in the feeling of fulfilment and pleasure that the action gives to the PMOer. In the early days, when we first start PMOing, the withdrawal pangs and their relief are so slight that we are not even aware that they exist. When we begin to masturbate regularly to internet porn we think it is because we&rsquo;ve either come to enjoy them or got into the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. The truth is we&rsquo;re already hooked; we do not realize it, but that little monster is already inside our stomach and every now and again we have to feed it.</p> <p>All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster. The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had before he became hooked in the first place.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm"><strong>The Annoying Burglar Alarm</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-annoying-burglar-alarm"> +<h2 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm">The Annoying Burglar Alarm <a class="anchor" href="#the-annoying-burglar-alarm"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we +</a></h2><p>You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain goes on. It is a chain for life - <strong>UNLESS YOU BREAK IT</strong>.</p> <p>The whole business of PMO is like wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure you feel when you take them off. There are three main reasons why PMOers cannot see things that way:</p> <ol> @@ -4162,11 +4214,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <p>It is this &lsquo;back to front&rsquo; reverse process that makes all drugs difficult to kick. Picture the panic state of a heroin addict who has no heroin. Now picture the utter joy when that addict can finally plunge a needle into his vein. Can you visualize someone actually getting pleasure by injecting themselves, or does the mere thought fill you with horror? Non-heroin addicts don&rsquo;t suffer that panic feeling.</p> <p>The heroin doesn&rsquo;t relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a 14 year old in 2008 - didn&rsquo;t suffer the empty feeling of needing internet porn or start to panic when they are off- line. Non-PMOers cannot understand how PMOers can possibly obtain pleasure from two dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. And do you know something? PMOers themselves cannot understand why they do it after some time either.</p> <p>We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don&rsquo;t non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their &rsquo;little monster&rsquo;?</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch"><strong>A Pleasure or Crutch?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#a-pleasure-or-crutch"> +<h2 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch">A Pleasure or Crutch? <a class="anchor" href="#a-pleasure-or-crutch"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;I need to eat.&rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.</p> +</a></h2><p>Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;I need to eat.&rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.</p> <p>PMOing appears to be almost identical. The empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;wanting or needing an PMO orgasm’ is identical to a hunger for food, although one will not satisfy the other. Like hunger, there is no physical pain and the feeling is so imperceptible that we are not even aware of it between PMO sessions. It&rsquo;s only if we want to masturbate and aren&rsquo;t able to reach internet for porn that we become aware of any discomfort. But when we do PMO we feel satisfied.</p> <p>It is this similarity to eating which helps to fool PMOers into believing that they receive some genuine pleasure. Some PMOers find it very difficult to grasp that there is no pleasure or crutch, whatsoever to PMO. Some argue: “How can you say there is no crutch? When I orgasm up then I&rsquo;llfeel less nervous than before.”</p> <p>Although eating and PMOing appear to be very similar. In fact they are exact opposites:</p> @@ -4175,17 +4225,13 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <li>Food does genuinely taste good, and eating is a genuinely pleasant experience that we can enjoy throughout our lives, whereas PMOing involves self-sabotaging the happiness receptors and thus destroying your chances to cope and to feel happy.</li> <li>Eating doesn&rsquo;t create hunger and genuinely relieves it, whereas the first PMO starts the craving for dopamine and each subsequent one, far from relieving it, ensures that you suffer it for the rest of life.</li> </ol> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pmo-is-a-habit"><strong>PMO is a Habit?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pmo-is-a-habit"> +<h2 id="pmo-is-a-habit">PMO is a Habit? <a class="anchor" href="#pmo-is-a-habit"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.</p> +</a></h2><p>This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.</p> <p>On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience, I also refer to the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> - we have to then have more bizarre and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting&hellip; not in the killing. If we don&rsquo;t then panic sets in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great!</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="crossing-the-red-line"><strong>Crossing The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#crossing-the-red-line"> +<h2 id="crossing-the-red-line">Crossing The Red Line <a class="anchor" href="#crossing-the-red-line"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.</p> +</a></h2><p>This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.</p> <p>You feel better than you did before starting this PMO session but you are in fact more nervous and less relaxed than you would be as a non-PMOer, like someone who is living in Loma Linda or in an Amish village, even though you are actually PMOing and living in your supposed “porn paradise.” This position is even more ridiculous than wearing tight shoes because as you go through life an increasing amount of the discomfort remains even when the shoes are removed.</p> <p>Once the orgasm is achieved, the dopamine rapidly begins to leave the brain, causing a mood dip. Which explains why the PMOer wants to ‘edge’<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> and switch through multiple browser windows as they seek and search. As I said, the ‘habit’ doesn&rsquo;t exist. The real reason why every user goes on using internet porn is because of that little porn monster inside his stomach. Every now and again he has to feed it. The PMOer himself will decide when he does that and it tends to be on four types of occasion or a combination of them.</p> <p>These occasions are:</p> @@ -4195,25 +4241,19 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to </ul> <p>What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If you think about it, what other types of occasion are there in our lives; apart from sleep? The truth is that PMO neither relieves boredom and stress nor promotes concentration and relaxation. It is all just illusion. Apart from being a drug, PMO is also a destroyer of happiness and virility.</p> <p>In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes, print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’ and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive without knowing the difference between food and poison.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"><strong>Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"> +<h2 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics">Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics <a class="anchor" href="#brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!</p> +</a></h2><p>Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!</p> <p>When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were titillating but most were disgusting, causing you to avert your eyes away. Like you would if had accidentally glanced a feeding mother’s breast. And some of us are even revolted with what they saw when the star reminded them of someone dear to their heart or a scene which recalled their own instance of being the victim. Some don’t feel like it to browse and masturbate at the same time. It may be hard to believe for you but the non-PMOs, who don’t PMO after their first time, are the lucky ones. They actually decided that it was not their cup of tea. It must be hard for you to believe but stay with me.</p> <p>How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even after a hard day? Why not? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That&rsquo;s all.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak"><strong>Are PMOers Mentally Weak?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#are-pmoers-mentally-weak"> +<h2 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak">Are PMOers Mentally Weak? <a class="anchor" href="#are-pmoers-mentally-weak"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.</p> +</a></h2><p>It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.</p> <p>To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to become hooked, and this is why it is difficult to stop teenagers. Because they are skilled in seeking and finding material, they know online privacy options and can clean their tracks - if they still feel some stigma and they (wrongfully) believe they can stop whenever they want to. Why do they not learn from us? Then again, why did we not learn from our PMOers and addicts?</p> <p>Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of ‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying is the ritual of relieving those pangs.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"><strong>The High From The Dance Around The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"> +<h2 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line">The High From The Dance Around The Red Line <a class="anchor" href="#the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.</p> +</a></h2><p>Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.</p> <p>Ask a user who believes that he sticks to a certain actor or genre - only because he likes something about the star or the theme (if any) of the clip: “If you cannot get your normal brand of porn and can only obtain a poor or unsafe brand, do you stop masturbating?” No way. A PMOer will masturbate to anything rather than abstain and it doesn&rsquo;t matter if he has to switch to escalating themes, different sex-orientation-themes, look-alike actresses, dangerous settings shocking relationships etc. To begin with they taste awful but if you persevere you will learn to like them. Most PMOers will also try to seek masturbation even after having real sex (unfulfilment, porn-induced unrealistic expectations etc.), or after a long, stressful work day, fever, colds, flu, sore throats and even when admitted in hospitals.</p> <p>Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wanted then it makes no sense to be with your laptop. During my conversation some PMOers find it alarming to realize they are drug addicts and think it will make it even more difficult to stop. In fact, it is all good news for two important reasons:</p> <ol> @@ -4221,18 +4261,14 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <li>Although internet porn is the most powerful trigger for ‘novelty’ and ‘sex’ based dopamine ‘flooding’ - because of the speed with which you become hooked, you are never badly hooked. The actual withdrawal pangs are so mild that most PMOers have lived and died without ever realizing that they have suffered them.</li> </ol> <p>You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc. The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn&rsquo;t bother the PMOers.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-smokers-analogy"><strong>The Smokers Analogy</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-smokers-analogy"> +<h2 id="the-smokers-analogy">The Smokers Analogy <a class="anchor" href="#the-smokers-analogy"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they&rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn&rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.</p> +</a></h2><p>A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they&rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn&rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.</p> <p>PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their parents while visiting for family get togethers etc. with little discomfort to themselves. In fact, most PMOers have extended periods during which they abstain without effort. Even in my case I would quite happily go a week or so without a PMO incident. In the later years as a PMOer I actually used to look forward to these days when I could stop choking my penis (what a ridiculous &lsquo;habit&rsquo;).</p> <p>The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"><strong>The Big Monster - The Brainwashing</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"> +<h2 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing">The Big Monster - The Brainwashing <a class="anchor" href="#the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.</p> +</a></h2><p>You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.</p> <p>Not all the amateurs are ‘amateurs’ on these tube sites, oversized body parts and overcharged scenarios are the norm, aided by a bit of the ‘viagran’ help.</p> <p>As I say, the actual porn addiction is not the main problem. It just acts as a catalyst to keep our minds confused over the real problem: the brainwashing. It may be of consolation to lifelong and heavy PMOers to know that it is just as easy for them to stop as casual PMOers. In a peculiar way. it is easier. The further you go along with the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;, the more it drags you down and the greater the gain when you stop.</p> <p>It may be of further consolation for you to know that the rumours that occasionally circulate that the neural pathways created are there for life, and so at the right (or wrong) time and with strong stimuli you will be sliding again down the ‘water slide’ of internet porn and masturbation to permanently destroy your real life sex are untrue.</p> @@ -4259,7 +4295,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:42:16 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-05-why-do-we-carry-on-with-pmo/ - <p>We all start PMOing for many reasons, usually social pressures or our biological curiosity, but once we feel we are becoming hooked, why do we carry on using porn? No regular PMOer knows why he or she looks at porn. If PMOers knew the true reason, they would stop doing it. The true answer is the same for all PMOers but the variety of replies is infinite, I find this part of the consultation the most amusing and at the same time the most pathetic.</p> + <h2 id="why-do-we-carry-on-with-pmo">Why Do We Carry on With PMO <a class="anchor" href="#why-do-we-carry-on-with-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>We all start PMOing for many reasons, usually social pressures or our biological curiosity, but once we feel we are becoming hooked, why do we carry on using porn? No regular PMOer knows why he or she looks at porn. If PMOers knew the true reason, they would stop doing it. The true answer is the same for all PMOers but the variety of replies is infinite, I find this part of the consultation the most amusing and at the same time the most pathetic.</p> <p>All PMOers know in their heart of hearts that they are fools. They know that they had no need to use porn or internet porn before they became hooked. Most of them can remember that their first ‘peek’ was a mix of revulsion and novel curiosity. They then filter out and get “skilled” at “locating” and “bookmarking” the right porn sites. They know that they had to work hard in order to become hooked.</p> <p>The most annoying part is that they sense that non-addicts - most women, older guys, people living in countries where hi-speed internet porn is not available “on tap” - are not missing anything and that they are laughing at them.</p> <p>However, PMOers are intelligent, rational human beings. They know that they are taking enormous future risks and so they spend a lot of time rationalizing their ‘habit’. The actual reason why PMOers continue is a subtle combination of the factors that I will elaborate in the next two chapters. They are:</p> @@ -4276,7 +4314,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:38:28 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-04-the-sinister-trap/ - <p>Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it&rsquo;s an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked.</p> + <h2 id="the-sinister-trap">The Sinister Trap <a class="anchor" href="#the-sinister-trap"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it&rsquo;s an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked.</p> <p>It is the only trap in nature which has does not require a lot of hard work to set up. The thing that springs the trap is not that all porn clips feature young, high quality, sexy models; it’s that most of the thumbnails on any porn web page are ugly looking, unattractive, amateurish, home-made clips of unknown models. If the first timer’s first look at a tube page was only filled with angelic beauties, professional models and high quality then the alarm bells would ring. And as intelligent human beings, we could then understand why half the adult population was systematically addicted to watching something that is cutting down their very same potential to do what they are viewing. In many known and yet unknown ways porn cuts down sexual performance and the feeling of satisfaction.</p> <p>But because that first “peek” has “stains and holes,” a mishmash of low quality clips of not-so-hot models, our young minds are reassured that we will never become hooked, and we think that because we are not enjoying them we can stop whenever we want to. It is the only drug in nature that prevents you from achieving your aim. Our curiosity brings us to its door steps. You dare not even click on all of the thumbnails because some of them will make you feel sick and throw up! If you were to accidentally click on an “I-did-not-see-that” clip - all you want to do is get away from the site and close your laptop.</p> <p>With women, the aim is to be the sophisticated modern young lady. We have all seen them acting up and looking absolutely ridiculous. By the time the boys have learnt to look tough and the girls have learnt to look sophisticated, they wish they had never started in the first place. I wonder whether women ever look sophisticated when they discuss the top 10 porn sites, or whether this is a figment of our imaginations created by internet porn companies.</p> @@ -4294,7 +4334,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:31:45 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-03-why-is-it-difficult-to-stop/ - <p>As I explained earlier, I got interested in this subject because of my own addiction. When I finally stopped it was like magic. When I had previously tried to stop there were weeks of black depression. There would be odd days when I was comparatively cheerful but the next day back with the depression. It was like clawing your way out of a slippery pit, you feel you are near the top, you see the sunshine and then find yourself sliding down again. Eventually you open your browser and as you masturbate you feel awful and you try to work out why you have to do it.</p> + <h2 id="why-is-it-difficult-to-stop">Why Is It Difficult to Stop? <a class="anchor" href="#why-is-it-difficult-to-stop"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As I explained earlier, I got interested in this subject because of my own addiction. When I finally stopped it was like magic. When I had previously tried to stop there were weeks of black depression. There would be odd days when I was comparatively cheerful but the next day back with the depression. It was like clawing your way out of a slippery pit, you feel you are near the top, you see the sunshine and then find yourself sliding down again. Eventually you open your browser and as you masturbate you feel awful and you try to work out why you have to do it.</p> <p>One of the questions I always ask online is: “do you want to stop PMO?” In a way it is a stupid question. All users (including members who dispute total abstinence) would love to stop PMO. If you ask to the most confirmed PMOer: “if you could go back to the time before you became hooked, with the knowledge you have now, would you have started PMO?”</p> <p>“NO WAY,” would be the reply.</p> <p>Say to the confirmed PMOer - someone who defends internet porn and who doesn&rsquo;t think that it cause injury to the brain (PIED, hypofrontality or the decreases in the dopamine receptors and etc.) - “do you encourage your children to use PMO?”</p> @@ -4343,12 +4385,14 @@ man and woman from performance based anxieties.&#160;<a href="#fnref: - 03-02 the Easy Method + 03-02 The Easy Method https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-02-the-easy-method/ Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:26:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-02-the-easy-method/ - <p>The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy.</p> + <h2 id="the-easy-method">The Easy Method <a class="anchor" href="#the-easy-method"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy.</p> <p>Provided that you are not a non-PMOer (who had never got addicted) or an ex-PMOer (who had quit or is in the fasting days of the porn-diet), it is essential to not quit until you have finished the book completely. This may appear to be a contradiction. Later I shall be explaining that porn do absolutely nothing for you at all. In fact, one of the many conundrums about internet porn is that when we are actually masturbating to a porn clip, we look at it and wonder why we are doing it. It is only when we have been deprived that the craving for PMO becomes precious.</p> <p>However, let us accept that, whether you like it or not, you believe you are hooked. When you believe you are hooked, you can never be completely relaxed or concentrate properly unless you are using PMO. So do not attempt to stop PMO before you have finished the whole book. This instruction to continue to masturbate using porn until you have completed the book has caused me more frustration than any other. As you read further your desire to masturbate to porn will gradually be reduced. Do not go off half-cocked; this could be fatal. Remember, all you have to do is to follow the instructions in the right order. When I first started writing on forums many of the readers also stopped purely because I had done it. They thought, “if he can do it, anybody can.”</p> <p>Over the years, I managed to persuade the ones that hadn&rsquo;t stopped to realize just how nice it is to be free! I gave my hackbook for free upon request. I worked on the basis that, even if it were the most boring book ever written, they would still read it, if only because it had been written by an ex-PMOer. I was surprised and hurt to learn that,they hadn&rsquo;t bothered to finish the book.</p> @@ -4380,12 +4424,14 @@ man and woman from performance based anxieties.&#160;<a href="#fnref: - 03-01 the Worst PMO Addict I Have Yet to Meet + 03-01 The Worst PMO Addict I Have Yet to Meet https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-01-the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet/ Tue, 20 Dec 2022 17:10:39 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-01-the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet/ - <p>Perhaps I should begin by describing my competence for writing this book. No, I am not a doctor or a psychiatrist; my qualifications are far more appropriate. I spent thirty years of my life as a confirmed fapper. In the later years I used porn on a daily bases to get orgasm(s).During my life I had made a great number of attempts to stop. I never got past a full week of abstinence, and I was still climbing up the wall, with an “annoying alarm clock beeping” in my head called craving. With most PMOers, on the health side, it&rsquo;s a question of “ I&rsquo;ll stop before it happens to me.” I had reached the stage where I knew it has caused PIED, hypofrontality (inability to control and execute action towards a goal), irritability, lack of energy, soulless eyes, mental dryness, stress and pain in the lower back, genital irritations. It bothered me, but it still didn&rsquo;t stop me.</p> + <h2 id="the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet">The Worst PMO Addict I Have Yet to Meet <a class="anchor" href="#the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Perhaps I should begin by describing my competence for writing this book. No, I am not a doctor or a psychiatrist; my qualifications are far more appropriate. I spent thirty years of my life as a confirmed fapper. In the later years I used porn on a daily bases to get orgasm(s).During my life I had made a great number of attempts to stop. I never got past a full week of abstinence, and I was still climbing up the wall, with an “annoying alarm clock beeping” in my head called craving. With most PMOers, on the health side, it&rsquo;s a question of “ I&rsquo;ll stop before it happens to me.” I had reached the stage where I knew it has caused PIED, hypofrontality (inability to control and execute action towards a goal), irritability, lack of energy, soulless eyes, mental dryness, stress and pain in the lower back, genital irritations. It bothered me, but it still didn&rsquo;t stop me.</p> <p>I felt lack of enthusiasm to go to gym or just a walk even if it’s sunny outside or simple weight lifting at home either. I had reached the stage where I gave up even trying to stop. I found excuses in substitute methods (controlled use, safe porn, porn-diet and etc. discussed later) as advocated by sexologists, forum users and medical pros - who have no idea of its effect on brain chemistry and who are themselves fooled by their &rsquo;little monster&rsquo; (not devil or satan - we will talk about monsters later) . The novelty trap and shock value provided by internet porn delivered at home with a low risk high reward deal is something that they can’t even think of. They are still in the static playboy era. And the younger ones have buried their heads under the sand so they can still continue to PMO.</p> <p>The worst part is it was not so much that I enjoyed the PMO. It was just doing it routinely, a chore - like slipping down the water slides, in fact there are brain water slides greased well by the neuro chemicals (DeltaFosB proteins made by dopamine which store emotion scripts for easy recall, will be discussing later). A simple cue such as a commercial, or a day to day stress that got ‘relieved’ temporarily by PMO is all it takes to complete the ride down the ‘waterslide’. Some time in their lives most PMOers have suffered from the illusion that they enjoy the ride, the novelty, the rush and of course the orgasm, but I never had that illusion.</p> <p>I have most times detested the porn, even when I liked the orgasm. But at all times I thought a release from PMO helped me to relax. It gave me courage and confidence, and I was always miserable when I tried to stop, never being able to visualize an enjoyable life without PMO. And so my PMO habit which had started before my marriage stayed with me during and after my marriage was over. I had experienced PIED but I blocked it out and found excuses , “it happens to every man”. Well it does of course - but &lsquo;it&rsquo; happened to me again and again. My penis, I found it difficult to get hard - when I am with real woman. Could it be because I had habituated it to work in limp mode? Later I found that it was hard for me to get hard even with porn.</p> @@ -4423,7 +4469,9 @@ Do not take anything for granted. Question not only what I tell you but also you Tue, 20 Dec 2022 16:58:54 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/02-02-sister-kenny/ - <p>You&rsquo;ve probably seen the film Sister Kenny. In case you haven&rsquo;t, it was about the time when infantile paralysis or polio was the scourge of our children. I vividly remember that the words engendered the same fear in me as the word cancer does today. The effect of polio was not only to paralyze the legs and arms but to distort the limbs. The established medical treatment was to put those limbs in irons and thus prevent the distortion. The result was paralysis for life.</p> + <h2 id="sister-kenny">Sister Kenny <a class="anchor" href="#sister-kenny"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>You&rsquo;ve probably seen the film Sister Kenny. In case you haven&rsquo;t, it was about the time when infantile paralysis or polio was the scourge of our children. I vividly remember that the words engendered the same fear in me as the word cancer does today. The effect of polio was not only to paralyze the legs and arms but to distort the limbs. The established medical treatment was to put those limbs in irons and thus prevent the distortion. The result was paralysis for life.</p> <p>Sister Kenny believed the irons inhibited recovery and proved a thousand times over that the muscles could be re-educated so that the child could walk again. However, Sister Kenny wasn&rsquo;t a doctor, she was merely a nurse. How dare she dabble in a province that was confined to qualified doctors? It didn&rsquo;t seem to matter that Sister Kenny had found the solution to the problem and had proved her solution to be effective. The children that were treated by Sister Kenny knew she was right, so did their parents, yet the established medical profession not only refused to adopt her methods but actually prevented her from practicing. It took Sister Kenny twenty years before the medical profession would accept the obvious.</p> <p>I (Allen Carr) first saw that film years before I (Allen Carr) discovered EASYWAY, The film was very interesting and no doubt there was an element of truth. However, it was equally obvious that Hollywood had used a large portion of poetic license. Sister Kenny couldn&rsquo;t possibly have discovered something that the combined knowledge of medical science had failed to discover. Surely the established medical specialists weren&rsquo;t the dinosaurs they were being portrayed as? How could it possibly have taken them twenty years to accept the facts that were staring them in the face?</p> <p>They say that fact is stranger than fiction, I apologize for accusing the makers of Sister Kenny for using poetic license. Even in this so-called enlightened age of modern communications, even having access to modern communications, I&rsquo;ve failed to get my message across.</p> @@ -4460,7 +4508,9 @@ Do not take anything for granted. Question not only what I tell you but also you Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:27:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/02-01-introduction/ - <div style="text-align: center;"> + <h2 id="introduction">Introduction <a class="anchor" href="#introduction"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><div style="text-align: center;"> <h2 id="im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo">&lsquo;I&rsquo;M GOING TO CURE THE WORLD OF PMO&rsquo; <a class="anchor" href="#im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> </a></h2></div> @@ -4506,7 +4556,9 @@ the world would also see the light and adopt my method.</li> Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:23:44 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/01-03-fear/ - <p>Fear that we will have to survive an indeterminate period of misery, deprivation and unsatisfied craving in order to be free. Fear that a night all by yourself or the eve of a test or exam will be miserable fighting uncontrollable impulses. Fear that we&rsquo;ll never be able to concentrate, handle stress or be as confident without our little crutch. Fear that our personality and character will change.</p> + <h2 id="fear">Fear <a class="anchor" href="#fear"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Fear that we will have to survive an indeterminate period of misery, deprivation and unsatisfied craving in order to be free. Fear that a night all by yourself or the eve of a test or exam will be miserable fighting uncontrollable impulses. Fear that we&rsquo;ll never be able to concentrate, handle stress or be as confident without our little crutch. Fear that our personality and character will change.</p> <p>But most of all, the fear of &lsquo;once an addict always an addict,&rsquo; that we will never be completely free and spend the rest of our lives at odd times craving the occasional porn induced orgasm. If, as I did, you have already tried all the conventional ways to quit and been through the misery of what I describe as the willpower method of stopping, you will not only be affected by that fear, but convinced you can never quit.</p> <p>If you are apprehensive, panic-stricken or feel that the time is not right for you to give up, then let me assure you that your apprehension or panic is caused by fear. That fear is not relieved by PMO but was indeed created by PMO. You didn&rsquo;t decide to fall into the porn trap. But like all traps, it is designed to ensure that you remain trapped. Ask yourself, when you viewed those first porn pictures and videos, did you decide to come back to view them as long as you have? So when are you going to quit? Tomorrow? Next year? Stop kidding yourself! The trap is designed to hold you for life. Why else do you think all these other PMO addicts don&rsquo;t quit before it kills their lives?</p> <p>As you will soon be reading, the feedbacks I got has revealed information that has exceeded my wildest aspirations of the effectiveness of my method. It has also revealed two aspects of the method that have caused me concern. The second I will be covering later.</p> @@ -4537,7 +4589,9 @@ the world would also see the light and adopt my method.</li> Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:19:35 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/01-02-warning/ - <p>Perhaps you are somewhat apprehensive about reading this book. Perhaps, like the majority of PMO addicts, the mere thought of stopping fills you with panic and although you have every intention of stopping one day, it is not today.</p> + <h2 id="warning">Warning <a class="anchor" href="#warning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Perhaps you are somewhat apprehensive about reading this book. Perhaps, like the majority of PMO addicts, the mere thought of stopping fills you with panic and although you have every intention of stopping one day, it is not today.</p> <p>If you are expecting me to inform you of the terrible health issues that PMO addicts risk, that they are susceptible to be affected by PIED (porn induced erectile disfunction), unreliable arousals, fading penetration, loss of interest in real partners,loss of control over themselves, loss of relationships, that it is a filthy, disgusting habit and that <em>YOU</em> are a stupid, spineless, weak-willed jellyfish, then I must disappoint you. Those tactics never helped me to quit and if they were going to help you, you would already have quit.</p> <p>Our Method, which I shall refer to as EASYPEASY doesn&rsquo;t work that way. Some of the things that I am about to say, you might find difficult to believe. However by the time you&rsquo;ve finished reading the book, you&rsquo;ll not only believe them, but wonder how you could ever have been brainwashed into believing otherwise.</p> <p>There is a common misapprehension that we choose to watch porn. PMO addicts ( yes addicts) no more choose to do that than alcoholics choose to become alcoholics, or heroin addicts choose to become heroin addicts. It is true that we choose to boot up the laptop, fire up the browser and visit our favourite online harem<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> tube sites. I occasionally choose to go to the cinema, but I certainly didn&rsquo;t choose to spend my whole life in the cinema theatre. The curiosity and my nature took me there but I would not have done that if I had known it would addict me and cause me my health, happiness and relationships. Only if I had heard about PIED on my first visit to that porn site?</p> @@ -4562,7 +4616,9 @@ the world would also see the light and adopt my method.</li> Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:14:52 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/01-01-preface/ - <p>This hackbook will enable you to stop PMO, immediately, painlessly, and permanently, without the need for Willpower or feeling any sense of deprivation or sacrifice. It will not judge you. It will not embarrass you. It will not put pressure on you to undergo painful measures.</p> + <h2 id="preface">Preface <a class="anchor" href="#preface"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This hackbook will enable you to stop PMO, immediately, painlessly, and permanently, without the need for Willpower or feeling any sense of deprivation or sacrifice. It will not judge you. It will not embarrass you. It will not put pressure on you to undergo painful measures.</p> <p>That goes against everything you&rsquo;ve ever been told about PMO. But ask yourself what you&rsquo;ve been told before worked for you? If it had, you wouldn&rsquo;t be reading this site.</p> <ul> <li>Instantaneous</li> diff --git a/new-site/public/library/index.xml b/new-site/public/library/index.xml index 860562d9..2510c0d9 100644 --- a/new-site/public/library/index.xml +++ b/new-site/public/library/index.xml @@ -2620,7 +2620,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:22:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-05/ - <p>“Go inside and try in vain to have the same problem. It was a terrible problem, wasn&rsquo;t it? You want to make changes, haven&rsquo;t you?&hellip; What would it be like when you have made those changes, now? In the future as you look back and see what it was like to have had that problem&hellip; as you think about it now, if you could make this change for yourself so that you could STOP&hellip; having made that change and see yourself now. Do you like the way you look if you could make that change and look back at yourself having made that change now!”</p> + <h2 id="scripts-05">Scripts-05 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-05"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>“Go inside and try in vain to have the same problem. It was a terrible problem, wasn&rsquo;t it? You want to make changes, haven&rsquo;t you?&hellip; What would it be like when you have made those changes, now? In the future as you look back and see what it was like to have had that problem&hellip; as you think about it now, if you could make this change for yourself so that you could STOP&hellip; having made that change and see yourself now. Do you like the way you look if you could make that change and look back at yourself having made that change now!”</p> <p>Credit to <a href="http://www.hypnosis.com/scripts_full.php?id2=48">http://www.hypnosis.com/scripts_full.php?id2=48</a></p> @@ -2631,7 +2633,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:21:45 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-04/ - <p>To an individual who has had a PMO problem, porn is poison. It&rsquo;s poison in two ways. First of all it&rsquo;s poison because it breaks down the very will power, the very ego, the very faith in oneself that the individual is able to build up. And so it is a psychological poison because having once conquered the porn problem, if you ever allow it to get back into you again then you begin thinking about yourself all the thoughts that you thought about yourself before, namely, well I really am no good anyway, I really didn&rsquo;t lick it and so on. So it&rsquo;s a psychological poison.</p> + <h2 id="scripts-04">Scripts-04 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-04"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>To an individual who has had a PMO problem, porn is poison. It&rsquo;s poison in two ways. First of all it&rsquo;s poison because it breaks down the very will power, the very ego, the very faith in oneself that the individual is able to build up. And so it is a psychological poison because having once conquered the porn problem, if you ever allow it to get back into you again then you begin thinking about yourself all the thoughts that you thought about yourself before, namely, well I really am no good anyway, I really didn&rsquo;t lick it and so on. So it&rsquo;s a psychological poison.</p> <p>Now in addition to that for anyone who has ever had a porn problem, it&rsquo;s a physical poison. It actually poisons your system. Because you&rsquo;re allergic to porn just like other people are allergic to other things. And so if you&rsquo;re allergic to something, even penicillin, it&rsquo;s poison to you and you must never take it. The same is true with porn. If you&rsquo;re allergic to it, you&rsquo;re through with it. Now you&rsquo;ve been allergic to porn. porn is a poison to you. What&rsquo;s even more fascinating is that usually the reason why one is drawn to porn is not for most of the reasons that most people reiterate, namely that it makes me feel good, I like it, all these things. On the contrary, almost every person who has a porn problem will tell you just the opposite. I don&rsquo;t like it. It&rsquo;s ruining my life. It&rsquo;s terrible.</p> <p>And if that&rsquo;s true, then why are they drawn to it? For precisely that reason. Because it is a poison and because they in their subconscious mind need to commit suicide and so they do it the slow tortuous way. And so that&rsquo;s why it&rsquo;s so important that the underlying cause of the problem be completely removed so that you don&rsquo;t need to punish yourself again with porn. And that&rsquo;s why we have removed them.</p> <p>That&rsquo;s why you don&rsquo;t need to punish yourself anymore. Because you realize you&rsquo;re not guilty to begin with. And if you&rsquo;re not guilty you don&rsquo;t have to punish yourself. And since you&rsquo;re through punishing yourself, you&rsquo;re through poisoning yourself. Yes porn is a poison. It&rsquo;s important that you realize that it&rsquo;s a poison and you are leaving poisons alone. Because you don&rsquo;t need poison any more. You don&rsquo;t need to poison yourself. You don&rsquo;t need to punish yourself. You&rsquo;re through with all that.</p> @@ -2646,7 +2650,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:20:17 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-03/ - <p>Now as you sink deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance. You pay no attention to any other sound but the sound of my voice. You sink deeper and deeper with every breath you take. Deeper and deeper and deeper, way down, deeper and deeper relaxed.</p> + <h2 id="scripts-03">Scripts-03 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-03"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Now as you sink deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance. You pay no attention to any other sound but the sound of my voice. You sink deeper and deeper with every breath you take. Deeper and deeper and deeper, way down, deeper and deeper relaxed.</p> <p>In the past porn may have been to you something that meant life. In your mind you may have accepted a suggestion that porn saves your life from boredom or porn protects you from being injured socially, porn is good for you in some manner or another. But that was yesterday and we are in the future. All that was yesterday, because porn may have protected you from injury in the past socially, it could have even saved your life from boredom.</p> <p>And those suggestions may have been good suggestions at one time but they have outlived their usefulness and if any of those suggestions are present to any degree in your mind, they are completely removed as of now. And that suggestion takes complete and thorough effect upon your mind, body and spirit.</p> <p>Now to other people porn means death. It&rsquo;s a way of punishing oneself. It&rsquo;s a poison and some people want to poison themselves. It&rsquo;s a method of slow suicide. Well, you don&rsquo;t need that now. If porn ever meant death and suicide to you and you have a need to punish yourself, that need is now long gone and we remove that suggestion. The truth of the matter is that porn is just porn. It&rsquo;s not life. It&rsquo;s not death. As a matter of fact, it&rsquo;s not anything to you anymore. It&rsquo;s nothing, neutral feelings. It&rsquo;s something that you don&rsquo;t need nor do you want.</p> @@ -2662,7 +2668,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:18:50 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-02/ - <p>As you go deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance and you pay attention only to the sound of my voice. As you listen carefully to the sound of my voice, we are going to remove a number of suggestions which have been in your mind. We are going to remove them completely and as you listen carefully to them we&rsquo;re simply going to dissolve them&hellip; throw them out of your mind completely and forever&hellip; Nothing disturbs you and nothing bothers you and nothing can distract you in any way from listening to the sound of my voice&hellip; and from completely accepting everything I tell you&hellip; for everything I tell you is the absolute truth to you&hellip; and we&rsquo;re going to remove all suggestions from your mind that have been detrimental to you in the past.</p> + <h2 id="scripts-02">Scripts-02 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-02"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As you go deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance and you pay attention only to the sound of my voice. As you listen carefully to the sound of my voice, we are going to remove a number of suggestions which have been in your mind. We are going to remove them completely and as you listen carefully to them we&rsquo;re simply going to dissolve them&hellip; throw them out of your mind completely and forever&hellip; Nothing disturbs you and nothing bothers you and nothing can distract you in any way from listening to the sound of my voice&hellip; and from completely accepting everything I tell you&hellip; for everything I tell you is the absolute truth to you&hellip; and we&rsquo;re going to remove all suggestions from your mind that have been detrimental to you in the past.</p> <p>The first suggestion you had in your mind is that somehow or another that porn, an image, an illusion, has been of some use to you. Masturbating to porn is of no use to you and you know it. You&rsquo;re through PMO for any reason. It doesn&rsquo;t make you relax, it doesn&rsquo;t make you sleep well, it doesn&rsquo;t do anything for you. As a matter of fact it ruins your efficiency&hellip; and consequently you&rsquo;re through with it. The fact that porn has ever been beneficial to you in any way is completely removed from your mind. I am going to count to five and that suggestion is completely removed from your mind never to return. One, Two, Three, Four, Five.</p> <p>The next suggestion that you may have accepted is that porn is a good means of punishing yourself. In the first place, you&rsquo;re through punishing yourself and in the second place you&rsquo;re through using porn as a means to do it. The only reason anyone ever punishes himself is because somewhere deep in his mind he feels guilty and you&rsquo;re through allowing your-self to feel guilty. And so with one count we&rsquo;re going to remove the guilt, whatever it is and from whatever source the punishment, the need for punishment, and that porn could be used as a vehicle to achieve it. One. Two. Three. Four. Five.</p> <p>Those ideas are all gone. Porn to you is a poison and a lousy inefficient poison at that&hellip; just enough poison to make you sick and ineffective. But then you&rsquo;re through poisoning yourself and you&rsquo;re through using porn and so that need is also removed from your mind. One. Two. Three. Four. Five.</p> @@ -2679,7 +2687,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:17:25 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-01/ - <p>You are relaxed now and because you are so relaxed you begin to feel free from all tensions, anxiety and fear. You now realize that you are more confident and sure of yourself because you have taken the enormous first step toward helping yourself. Great!</p> + <h2 id="scripts-01">Scripts-01 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-01"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>You are relaxed now and because you are so relaxed you begin to feel free from all tensions, anxiety and fear. You now realize that you are more confident and sure of yourself because you have taken the enormous first step toward helping yourself. Great!</p> <p>You begin to feel this strength from within, motivating you to overcome any and every obstacle that may stand in the way of your happiness, social life and home life. You are not a slave to PMO any more!</p> <p>You will find that from this moment on you are developing more self control. You will now face every situation in a calm, relaxed state of mind. Your thinking is very clear and sharp at all times. You are free!</p> <p>You begin to feel that your self respect and confidence are expanding more and more each and every day in every way. You now realize that in the past addiction was an escape and weakness that you are replacing with confidence, strength and self control. You are becoming a happy person now, with a positive attitude toward life. You are succeeding now and you have all the abilities for success.</p> @@ -2697,7 +2707,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:14:53 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/04-02-rebt-coping-statements/ - <ul> + <h2 id="rebt-coping-statements">REBT Coping Statements <a class="anchor" href="#rebt-coping-statements"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ul> <li><em>“I can stop PMO, even though it appears &lsquo;hard&rsquo; to do so. It’s not too hard and no matter how much trouble it takes, it’s worth it!”</em></li> <li><em>“If I keep ignoring and never giving into my powerful urges to PMO, I will make it easier and easier to resist them”</em></li> <li><em>“I can fully and unconditionally accept myself- yes, even with all my flaws and failings”</em></li> @@ -2722,7 +2734,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:13:26 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/04-01-the-instructions/ - <ol> + <h2 id="the-instructions">The Instructions <a class="anchor" href="#the-instructions"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Follow all the instructions.</li> <li>Keep an open mind.</li> <li>Start with a feeling of elation.</li> @@ -2734,11 +2748,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true <li>Always remember there&rsquo;s no such thing as &ldquo;Just One Peek&rdquo;.</li> <li>Never PMO again.</li> </ol> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="affirmations">Affirmations <a class="anchor" href="#affirmations"> +<h3 id="affirmations">Affirmations <a class="anchor" href="#affirmations"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<ul> +</a></h3><ul> <li>I am free from the slavery of PMO.</li> <li>It is easy for me to ignore my thoughts about PMO.</li> <li>Bye bye thoughts, bye bye Urges. Oh, there goes my cravings.</li> @@ -2763,7 +2775,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 11:36:58 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-44-should-i-tell-my-so/ - <p>Should I tell my wife, girlfriend and SO about my PMO? The intention here is that it would help you in quitting. I am of the solid opinion that all these are not needed. It would only reinforce your weakness against PMO.</p> + <h2 id="should-i-tell-my-so">Should I Tell My SO <a class="anchor" href="#should-i-tell-my-so"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Should I tell my wife, girlfriend and SO about my PMO? The intention here is that it would help you in quitting. I am of the solid opinion that all these are not needed. It would only reinforce your weakness against PMO.</p> <p>If you slip, you will feel miserable and guilty if you are following the Willpower Method. Add to that the feeling of deceiving your loved one will definitely push you through the vicious cycle of slip-lapse-relapse.</p> <p>If you are caught once - just say you are feeling good that you got caught and you are out of the prison. And you don’t want to talk about it. Many women can’t digest it. Many men wrongly attribute the woman to be of loose morals and hence a bad person. And if the SO breaks up with you (even if for some other reason) you will feel guilty for having screwed up your sex life with PMO OR feeling you “sacrificed” so much if you were successful in quitting - adding to the heart ache.</p> <p>You will look very weak. They will treat you as a weak person - of course only subconsciously. But you can smell it. Why the stress?</p> @@ -2777,26 +2791,22 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 11:31:13 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-43-advice-to-non-pmoers/ - <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK <a class="anchor" href="#help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book"> + <h2 id="advice-to-non-pmoers">Advice to Non-PMOers <a class="anchor" href="#advice-to-non-pmoers"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>First study the contents of this book and try to put yourself in the place of the PMOer. Do not force him to read this book or try to stop him by telling him he is ruining his health or playing with fire. He already knows this better than you do. PMOers do not continue in it because they enjoy it or because they want to. They only tell themselves and other people this in order to retain self-respect. They do it because they feel dependent on PMO because they think that it relaxes them and gives them courage and confidence (pleasure or crutch) and that life will never be enjoyable without “sex” - their version of it. If you try to force a PMOer to stop, he feels like a trapped animal and wants to be in his harem even more. This may turn him into a secret PMOer and in his mind the porn will become even more precious (see Chapter 26).</p> +</a></h2><h3 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK <a class="anchor" href="#help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>First study the contents of this book and try to put yourself in the place of the PMOer. Do not force him to read this book or try to stop him by telling him he is ruining his health or playing with fire. He already knows this better than you do. PMOers do not continue in it because they enjoy it or because they want to. They only tell themselves and other people this in order to retain self-respect. They do it because they feel dependent on PMO because they think that it relaxes them and gives them courage and confidence (pleasure or crutch) and that life will never be enjoyable without “sex” - their version of it. If you try to force a PMOer to stop, he feels like a trapped animal and wants to be in his harem even more. This may turn him into a secret PMOer and in his mind the porn will become even more precious (see Chapter 26).</p> <p>Instead, concentrate on the other side of the coin. Get him into the company of ex-PMOers (there are many blogs, forums etc. YBOP, No-Fap etc.). Get them to tell the PMOer how they too thought they were hooked for life and how much better life is as a non-PMOer. Once you have got him believing that he can stop then his mind will start to open up. Then start explaining the delusion created by withdrawal pangs. Not only are the “dopamine rushes” not giving him a boost but they are destroying his confidence and making him irritable and tired.</p> <p>He should now be ready to read this book himself. He will be expecting to read pages and pages about unreliable arousal, fading penetrations, PIED, PE, etc. Explain that the approach is completely different and that references to illness are just a small fraction of the material in the book.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD <a class="anchor" href="#help-during-the-withdrawal-period"> +<h3 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD <a class="anchor" href="#help-during-the-withdrawal-period"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>If you are dealing with a girlfriend or boyfriend - whether the ex-PMOer is suffering or not, assume that she/he is. Do not try to minimize his suffering by telling him it is easy to stop; he can do that himself. Instead keep telling him how proud you are, how much better he is looking, how much sweeter it is to be with him, how much easier he is in general. It is particularly important to keep doing this. When a PMOer makes an attempt to stop, the euphoria of the attempt and the attention he gets from friends and colleagues can help him along. However, they tend to forget quickly, so keep that praise going.</p> +</a></h3><p>If you are dealing with a girlfriend or boyfriend - whether the ex-PMOer is suffering or not, assume that she/he is. Do not try to minimize his suffering by telling him it is easy to stop; he can do that himself. Instead keep telling him how proud you are, how much better he is looking, how much sweeter it is to be with him, how much easier he is in general. It is particularly important to keep doing this. When a PMOer makes an attempt to stop, the euphoria of the attempt and the attention he gets from friends and colleagues can help him along. However, they tend to forget quickly, so keep that praise going.</p> <p>Because he is not talking about PMOing, you may think he has forgotten about it and don&rsquo;t want to remind him. Usually the complete opposite is the case with the Willpower Method, as the ex-PMOer tends to be obsessed by nothing else. So do not be frightened to bring the subject up and keep praising him: he will tell you if he doesn&rsquo;t want you to remind him of PMOing.</p> <p>Go out of your way to relieve him of pressures during the withdrawal period. Try to think of ways of making his life interesting and enjoyable. This can also be a trying period for non-PMOers - that is those of you who have never had this addiction. If one member of a group is irritable, it can cause general misery all round. So anticipate this if the ex-PMOer is feeling irritable. He may well take it out on you but do not retaliate: it is at this time that he needs your praise and sympathy the most. If you are feeling irritable yourself, try not to show it.</p> <p>One of the tricks an addict will play when trying to give up with the aid of the Willpower Method was to get into a tantrum, hoping that wife or friends would say, “I cannot bear to see you suffering like this. For goodness sake, have your poison.” The PMOer then does not lose face, as he isn&rsquo;t “giving in” - he has been instructed. If the ex-PMOer uses this ploy, on no account encourage him to lapse. Instead say, “if that is what PMO does to you, thank goodness you will soon be free. How marvellous that you had the courage and sense to give up.”</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL <a class="anchor" href="#help-end-this-scandal"> +<h3 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL <a class="anchor" href="#help-end-this-scandal"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>In my opinion, internet porn is one of the dangers in a free society, piggy backing on the good willed efforts of personal freedoms. Surely the very basis of civilization, the reason why the human species has advanced so far, is that we are capable of communicating our knowledge and experiences not only to each other but to future generations. Even the lower species find it necessary to warn their offspring of the pitfalls in life.</p> +</a></h3><p>In my opinion, internet porn is one of the dangers in a free society, piggy backing on the good willed efforts of personal freedoms. Surely the very basis of civilization, the reason why the human species has advanced so far, is that we are capable of communicating our knowledge and experiences not only to each other but to future generations. Even the lower species find it necessary to warn their offspring of the pitfalls in life.</p> <p>The producers of porn are not doing this in good faith, in the genuine belief that they help mankind, especially now as the addiction to internet porn is widely studied. Maybe in its initial stages people genuinely believed that porn taught intimacy to men and women but today the authorities know that it is a fallacy. Just watch any tube sites nowadays. They make no claims about education. The only claims they make are about the shock, novelty, escalation quality of their clips.</p> <p>The sheer hypocrisy is incredible. As a society we get uptight about school bullying and objectification of human body. Compared with internet porn, these problems are mere pimples in our society. Thirty five per cent of the population have been addicted to porn and most of them spend quality time with imaginary and illusory pixel people at the expense of health, virility, energy and time. Tens of thousands of people have their lives ruined every year because they become hooked. Internet high speed porn is by far the biggest killer in relationships and yet the biggest vested interest is our for-profit companies. Internet porn producers don’t spend on advertising the filth in mainstream publications - they don’t have to. Our biological urges will lead us to the thresholds of their well stocked internet harems. They give free samples just like your local drug dealer. Heck the tube sites don’t even stock the wares any more as they encourage visitors to post the content.</p> <p>How clever that porn companies show the 18+ warning at their home page as the deterrent for under age users. Some even don’t bother to do that. Internet porn affect everyone at all ages. “We have warned you of the danger. It is your choice.” Is the attitude they have. Anyway, do they take any steps to verify the age? No. That would discourage their customers. And of course if age verification is legislated they will find another country to host. Or they will pay some ‘elite’ to write how prohibition resulted in bootlegging and the creation of the Mafia. Conveniently forgotten is the question of why repealing prohibition did not result in the reduction of alcohol related casualty numbers. And the contribution of the failure of law enforcement to control the Mafia’s growth. So let’s not waste time in talking about them.</p> @@ -2807,11 +2817,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <p>I remember reading H. G. Well’s The Time Machine. The book describes an incident in the distant future in which a man falls into a river. His companions merely sit around the bank like cattle, oblivious to his cries of desperation. I found that incident inhuman and very disturbing. I find the general apathy of our society to the PMO problem very similar. We find characters in movies and TV series talking about or even engaging in porn in a casual way.</p> <p>Why do we allow society to subject healthy young teenagers, youngsters whose lives are complete before they start to get online, to claim their independence just for the privilege of destroying themselves mentally and physically in a lifetime of slavery, a lifetime of filth and disease? You may feel that I over-dramatize the facts. Not so. There are cases where lives were cut down in his early years of marriage because of PMO. He was a strong man and might still have been alive today. I believe I was within an inch of PIED during my forties, although I would have attributed it to my divorce rather than to PMO. I now spend my life being consulted by people who have been crippled by the disease or are in the last stages. And, if you care to think about it, you probably know of many too.</p> <p>There is a wind of change in society. A snowball has started that I hope this book will help turn into an avalanche. You too can help by spreading the message.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING <a class="anchor" href="#final-warning"> +<h3 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING <a class="anchor" href="#final-warning"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>You can now enjoy the rest of your life as a happy non-PMOer. In order to make sure that you do, you need to follow these simple instructions:</p> +</a></h3><p>You can now enjoy the rest of your life as a happy non-PMOer. In order to make sure that you do, you need to follow these simple instructions:</p> <ol> <li>Keep this page in your bookmarks and refer to it as much as you need.</li> <li>If you ever start to envy another PMOer, realize that they will be envious of you. You are not being deprived. They are.</li> @@ -2829,7 +2837,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 11:28:29 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-42-help-the-pmoer-left-on-the-sinking-ship/ - <p>PMOers are panicking nowadays. They sense that there is a change in the way internet porn is perceived by men and women. Internet porn’s addictive nature is being studied by more and more people. It is now rightly regarded not as the same as old traditional porn. It’s easy reach and effortless availability raises alarm even in the hearts of porn supporters. They also sense that their crusade for free speech and free thought is being hijacked by vicious elements. The wild wild west nature of the unpoliced internet makes it hard for enforcing age restrictive access to supranormal stimuli. Yet I don’t think this whole thing will be coming to an end anytime soon. Thousands of PMOers are now stopping and all porn users are conscious of the new brain studies that point their studied fingers to the similarities of drug and substance addiction. Every time a PMOer leaves the sinking ship, the ones left on it feel more miserable. Every PMOer instinctively knows that it is ridiculous to self sabotage and spend time in front of two dimensional pixels, treat the poor brain to super surges, develop porn brain water slides that will guarantee him unreliable erections and fading penetrations. If you still don&rsquo;t think it is silly, try talking to a porn magazine standing at the centre of the city square and ask yourself what the difference is. Just one. You cannot get the pleasure of warmth and intimacy that way. If you can stop buying alcohol and cigarettes every time you go grocery shopping you can definitely stop visiting your online harems. PMOers cannot find a rational reason for PMOing but if someone else is doing it, they do not feel quite so silly.</p> + <h2 id="help-the-pmoer-left-on-the-sinking-ship">Help the PMOer Left on the Sinking Ship <a class="anchor" href="#help-the-pmoer-left-on-the-sinking-ship"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>PMOers are panicking nowadays. They sense that there is a change in the way internet porn is perceived by men and women. Internet porn’s addictive nature is being studied by more and more people. It is now rightly regarded not as the same as old traditional porn. It’s easy reach and effortless availability raises alarm even in the hearts of porn supporters. They also sense that their crusade for free speech and free thought is being hijacked by vicious elements. The wild wild west nature of the unpoliced internet makes it hard for enforcing age restrictive access to supranormal stimuli. Yet I don’t think this whole thing will be coming to an end anytime soon. Thousands of PMOers are now stopping and all porn users are conscious of the new brain studies that point their studied fingers to the similarities of drug and substance addiction. Every time a PMOer leaves the sinking ship, the ones left on it feel more miserable. Every PMOer instinctively knows that it is ridiculous to self sabotage and spend time in front of two dimensional pixels, treat the poor brain to super surges, develop porn brain water slides that will guarantee him unreliable erections and fading penetrations. If you still don&rsquo;t think it is silly, try talking to a porn magazine standing at the centre of the city square and ask yourself what the difference is. Just one. You cannot get the pleasure of warmth and intimacy that way. If you can stop buying alcohol and cigarettes every time you go grocery shopping you can definitely stop visiting your online harems. PMOers cannot find a rational reason for PMOing but if someone else is doing it, they do not feel quite so silly.</p> <p>PMOers blatantly lie about their habit, not only to others and university researchers but worse of all to themselves. They have to. The brainwashing is essential if they are to retain some self-respect. They feel the need to justify their “habit” not only to themselves but to non-PMOers. They are therefore forever advertising the illusory advantages of porn and PMO by more subtler means.</p> <p>If a PMOer stops using the Willpower Method he still feels deprived and tends to become a moaner. All this does is to confirm to other PMOers how right they are to keep PMOing. If the ex-PMOer succeeds in kicking the habit, he is then grateful that he no longer has to go through life sabotaging himself or wasting energy. But he has no need to justify himself, he doesn&rsquo;t sit there saying how marvellous it is not to be PMOing. He will do that only if he is asked and PMOers won&rsquo;t ask that question. They wouldn&rsquo;t like the answer. Remember: it is fear that keeps them in their addiction and they would rather keep their heads in the sand. The only time they ask that question is when it is time to stop. Help the PMOer. Remove these fears. Tell him how marvellous it is not to have to go through life living in a prison, how lovely it is to wake up in the morning feeling fit and healthy instead of lacking in energy and self loathing, how wonderful it is to be free of slavery, to be able to enjoy the whole of your life, to be rid of those awful black shadows. Or, better still; get him to read this book.</p> <p>It is essential not to belittle a married PMOer by indicating that he is deliberately ruining his relationship or is in some way a cheat and is unclean. There is a common conception that the ex-PMOer is the worst in this respect. I believe this conception has some substance but I think this is due to the Willpower Method of stopping. Because the ex-PMOer, although he has kicked the habit, retains part of the brainwashing - part of him still believes that he has made a sacrifice. He feels vulnerable and his natural defensive mechanism is to attack the PMOer.</p> @@ -2848,7 +2858,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:21:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-41-feedback/ - <p>This method will be pooh-poohed by the so-called experts - as I have kept it thin, deliberately, on the ‘science’ side of porn addiction. This ‘hackbook’ is based on a very successful technique used by Alan Carr for quitting smoking, alcohol and gambling. I have personally broken away from the prisons of cigarette, alcohol and internet porn with this technique. I’d like to add here that I’ve tried some of the best programmes - such as CBT, DEADS and AVERT before arriving at the EasyWay. I could not close the deal. I was then led to studying about self hypnosis that deals with bad habits. The key idea that sold me on this method is his emphasis on the “feelings of misery and deprivation, misery and sacrifice, misery and guilt.” If you use the Will Power method you will invariably have all or one of these awful feelings that in themselves provide the grease to slide back to the addiction.</p> + <h2 id="feedback">Feedback <a class="anchor" href="#feedback"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This method will be pooh-poohed by the so-called experts - as I have kept it thin, deliberately, on the ‘science’ side of porn addiction. This ‘hackbook’ is based on a very successful technique used by Alan Carr for quitting smoking, alcohol and gambling. I have personally broken away from the prisons of cigarette, alcohol and internet porn with this technique. I’d like to add here that I’ve tried some of the best programmes - such as CBT, DEADS and AVERT before arriving at the EasyWay. I could not close the deal. I was then led to studying about self hypnosis that deals with bad habits. The key idea that sold me on this method is his emphasis on the “feelings of misery and deprivation, misery and sacrifice, misery and guilt.” If you use the Will Power method you will invariably have all or one of these awful feelings that in themselves provide the grease to slide back to the addiction.</p> <p>I&rsquo;m not a do-gooder. My war - which, I emphasize, is not against PMOers but against the porn trap, I wage for the purely selfish reason that I enjoy it. Every time I hear of a PMOer escaping from the prison I get a feeling of great pleasure, even when it has nothing to do with me. You can imagine also the immense pleasure I obtain from the grateful letters that I have received over time.</p> <p>There has also been considerable frustration. The frustration is caused mainly by two main categories of PMOer. First, in spite of the warning in the previous chapter, I am disturbed by the number of PMOers who find it easy to stop, yet later get hooked again and find they can&rsquo;t succeed the next time.</p> <p>Practically the last thing I say to ex-PMOers is: “Remember, you must never visit another online harem again.”</p> @@ -2908,11 +2920,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <blockquote> <p>Find out which one it is. Some people understand and believe everything I say but still start off with a feeling of doom and gloom, as if something terrible were happening. You are doing not only what you&rsquo;d like to do but what every PMOer on the planet would like to do. With any method of stopping, what the ex PMOer is trying to achieve is a certain frame of mind, so that whenever he thinks about PMO he says to himself, “YIPPEE! I&rsquo;M FREE!” If that&rsquo;s your object, why wait? Start off in that frame of mind and never lose it. The rest of the book is designed to make you understand why there is no alternative.</p> </blockquote> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="the-check-list"><strong>THE CHECK LIST</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-check-list"> +<h2 id="the-check-list">THE CHECK LIST <a class="anchor" href="#the-check-list"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>If you follow these simple instructions, you cannot fail:</p> +</a></h2><p>If you follow these simple instructions, you cannot fail:</p> <ol> <li>Make a solemn vow that you will never, ever, go online to visit your harem OR settle down for static pictures OR make peace with erotic graphics OR anything that contains supra normal stimuli, and stick to your vow.</li> <li>Get this clear in your mind: there is absolutely nothing to give up. By that I don&rsquo;t mean simply that you will be better off as a non-PMOer (you&rsquo;ve known that all this time); nor do I mean that although there is no rational reason why you PMO, you must get some form of pleasure or crutch from it or you wouldn&rsquo;t do it. What I mean is, there is no genuine pleasure or crutch in PMOing. It is just an illusion, it’s an addiction like banging your head against a wall to make it pleasant when you stop.</li> @@ -2926,7 +2936,7 @@ strains of life.</li> <hr> <ol> <li id="fn:1"> -<p><strong>MoR</strong> moment of revelation. R2T resistance to temptation. MaD misery and deprived. MaS misery and sacrifice. MaG misery and guilty. DSC dopamine surge claims.&#160;<a href="#fnref:1" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p> +<p><strong>MoR</strong> - moment of revelation. R2T resistance to temptation. MaD misery and deprived. MaS misery and sacrifice. MaG misery and guilty. DSC dopamine surge claims.&#160;<a href="#fnref:1" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p> </li> </ol> </div> @@ -2939,7 +2949,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:20:54 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-40-a-final-warning/ - <p>No PMOer, given the chance of going back to the time before he became hooked with the knowledge he has now, would opt to start. Many of the them who consult me are convinced that if I could only help them stop, they would never dream of PMOing again, and yet thousands of PMOers successfully kick the habit for many years and lead perfectly happy lives, only to get trapped once again. I trust that this book will help you to find it relatively easy to stop. But be warned: PMOers who find it easy to stop find it easy to start again, DO NOT FALL FOR THIS TRAP.</p> + <h2 id="a-final-warning">A Final Warning <a class="anchor" href="#a-final-warning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>No PMOer, given the chance of going back to the time before he became hooked with the knowledge he has now, would opt to start. Many of the them who consult me are convinced that if I could only help them stop, they would never dream of PMOing again, and yet thousands of PMOers successfully kick the habit for many years and lead perfectly happy lives, only to get trapped once again. I trust that this book will help you to find it relatively easy to stop. But be warned: PMOers who find it easy to stop find it easy to start again, DO NOT FALL FOR THIS TRAP.</p> <p>No matter how long you have stopped or how confident you are that you will never become hooked again, make it a rule of life not to PMO for any reason. Resist the allusions and innuendoes in the media, and remember they are pushing their image of ‘openness’ by bringing porn into mainstream without realizing how porn, internet porn etc. are killers of relationships and of the personal sense of well being for a huge number of men and some women.</p> <p>Remember, that first peek or visit will do nothing for you. You will have no withdrawal pangs to relieve and it will make you feel awful. What it will do is to put the pleasure of dopamine rush into your mind and brain, and a little voice at the back of your mind will be saying, “you want another one.” Then you have got the choice of being miserable for a while or starting the whole filthy chain again.</p> @@ -2951,7 +2963,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:15:27 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-39-the-final-visit/ - <p>Having decided on your timing, you are now ready to visit your harem one last time. Before you do so, check on the two essentials:</p> + <h2 id="the-final-visit">The Final Visit <a class="anchor" href="#the-final-visit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Having decided on your timing, you are now ready to visit your harem one last time. Before you do so, check on the two essentials:</p> <ol> <li>Do you feel certain of success?</li> <li>Have you a feeling of doom and gloom or a sense of excitement that you are about to achieve something marvelous?</li> @@ -3002,7 +3016,9 @@ sites in my life again.”<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1& Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:13:13 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-38-the-moment-of-revelation/ - <p>The moment of revelation usually takes place about three weeks after stopping. The sky appears to become brighter and it is the moment when the brainwashing ends completely. When instead of telling yourself you do not need to PMO, you suddenly realize that the last thread is broken and you can enjoy the rest of your life without ever needing PMO again. It is also usually from this point that you start looking at other PMOers as objects of pity.</p> + <h2 id="the-moment-of-revelation">The Moment of Revelation <a class="anchor" href="#the-moment-of-revelation"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The moment of revelation usually takes place about three weeks after stopping. The sky appears to become brighter and it is the moment when the brainwashing ends completely. When instead of telling yourself you do not need to PMO, you suddenly realize that the last thread is broken and you can enjoy the rest of your life without ever needing PMO again. It is also usually from this point that you start looking at other PMOers as objects of pity.</p> <p>PMOers using the Willpower Method do not normally experience this moment because although they are glad to be ex-PMOers they continue through life believing they are making a sacrifice. The more you were addicted, the more marvellous this moment is and it lasts a lifetime. I consider I have been very fortunate in this life and had some wonderful moments but the most wonderful of all was that moment of revelation. With all the other highlights of my life, although I can remember they were happy times, I can never recapture the actual feeling. I can never get over the joy of not having to PMO any more. If ever I am feeling low and need a boost nowadays, I just think how lovely it is not to be hooked on that awful addiction. Half the people who contact me after they have stopped visiting the online harems say exactly the same thing: that it was the most marvellous event of their lives. Ah! What pleasure you have to come! With additional feedback, both from forums and personal interactions, I have learned that in most cases the moment of revelation occurs not after three weeks, as stated above, but within a few days.</p> <p>In my own case it happened before I was finished on my last harem visit. I am sure many of the readers here, before they’d even got to the end of the chapters would say something like: “You needn&rsquo;t say another word. I can see it all so clearly, I know I&rsquo;ll never PMO again.” From the messages I receive I&rsquo;m also aware that it frequently happens.</p> <p>Ideally if you follow all the instructions and understand the psychology completely, it should happen to you immediately.</p> @@ -3022,20 +3038,18 @@ sites in my life again.”<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1& Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:10:40 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-37-should-i-avoid-temptation-situations/ - <p>I have been direct in my advice so far and would ask you to treat this advice as instruction rather than suggestion. I am explicit and direct, first because there are sound, practical reasons for my advice and second, because those reasons have been backed up by thousands of case studies. On the question of whether or not to try to avoid temptation during the withdrawal period, I regret that I cannot be direct. Each PMOer will need to decide for himself. I can, however, make what I hope -will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all our lives and this fear consists of two distinct phases:</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO? <a class="anchor" href="#phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo"> + <h2 id="should-i-avoid-temptation-situations">Should I Avoid Temptation Situations? <a class="anchor" href="#should-i-avoid-temptation-situations"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>This fear is that panicky feeling the PMOer gets when they are alone in a single phase or have an asexual, uninterested or unavailable partner. The fear isn&rsquo;t caused by withdrawal pangs but is the psychological fear of dependency - you cannot survive without sex and orgasm. It actually reaches its height when you are on the verge of quitting (I won’t use giving up); at that time your withdrawal pangs are at their lowest. It is the fear of the unknown, the sort of fear that people have when they are learning to dive.</p> +</a></h2><p>I have been direct in my advice so far and would ask you to treat this advice as instruction rather than suggestion. I am explicit and direct, first because there are sound, practical reasons for my advice and second, because those reasons have been backed up by thousands of case studies. On the question of whether or not to try to avoid temptation during the withdrawal period, I regret that I cannot be direct. Each PMOer will need to decide for himself. I can, however, make what I hope +will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all our lives and this fear consists of two distinct phases:</p> +<h3 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO? <a class="anchor" href="#phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>This fear is that panicky feeling the PMOer gets when they are alone in a single phase or have an asexual, uninterested or unavailable partner. The fear isn&rsquo;t caused by withdrawal pangs but is the psychological fear of dependency - you cannot survive without sex and orgasm. It actually reaches its height when you are on the verge of quitting (I won’t use giving up); at that time your withdrawal pangs are at their lowest. It is the fear of the unknown, the sort of fear that people have when they are learning to dive.</p> <p>The diving board is 1 foot high but seems to be 6 feet high. The water is 6 feet deep but appears to be 1 foot deep. It takes courage to launch yourself. You are convinced you are going to smash your head. The launching is the hardest part. If you can find the courage to do it, the rest is easy. This explains why many otherwise strong-willed PMOers either have never attempted to stop or can survive only a few days when they do. In fact, there are some PMOers on a porn diet who when they decide to stop, actually binge and escalate to harsher clips more quickly than if they had not decided to stop. The decision causes panic, which is stressful. This is one of the occasions when the brain triggers the instruction, “take a trip to your own personal harem.” But now you can&rsquo;t take one. You are being deprived - more stress.</p> <p>The trigger starts again quickly when the fuse blows and you fire up the browser. Don&rsquo;t worry. That panic is just psychological. It is the fear that you are dependent. The beautiful truth is that you are not, even when you are still addicted. Do not panic. Just trust me and launch yourself.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear <a class="anchor" href="#phase-2-longer-term-fear"> +<h3 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear <a class="anchor" href="#phase-2-longer-term-fear"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>The second phase of fear is longer-term. It involves the fear that certain situations in the future will not be enjoyable or that you will not be able to cope with a trauma without PMO. Don&rsquo;t worry. If you can launch yourself you will find the opposite to be the case. The avoidance of temptation itself falls into two main categories:</p> +</a></h3><p>The second phase of fear is longer-term. It involves the fear that certain situations in the future will not be enjoyable or that you will not be able to cope with a trauma without PMO. Don&rsquo;t worry. If you can launch yourself you will find the opposite to be the case. The avoidance of temptation itself falls into two main categories:</p> <ol> <li>“I will subscribe to a porn-diet of once in 4 days. I will feel more confident knowing that I can go online if it gets hard. It is OK if I fail I can just add up additional days to my next cycle.”</li> </ol> @@ -3058,7 +3072,9 @@ will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all o Sat, 24 Dec 2022 08:46:33 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-36-substitutes/ - <p>Substitutes include restricting to porn magazines, static internet images, going on a porn-diet<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> etc. <strong>DO NOT USE ANY OF THEM</strong>. They make it harder, not easier. If you do get a pang and use a substitute it will prolong the pang and make it harder. What you are really saying is, “I need to PMO to fill the void.” It will be like giving in to a hijacker or the tantrums of a child. It will just keep the pangs coming and prolong the torture. In any event the substitutes will not relieve the pangs. Your craving is for amino acids in the brain. All it will do is keep you thinking about PMOing. Remember these points:</p> + <h2 id="substitutes">Substitutes <a class="anchor" href="#substitutes"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Substitutes include restricting to porn magazines, static internet images, going on a porn-diet<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> etc. <strong>DO NOT USE ANY OF THEM</strong>. They make it harder, not easier. If you do get a pang and use a substitute it will prolong the pang and make it harder. What you are really saying is, “I need to PMO to fill the void.” It will be like giving in to a hijacker or the tantrums of a child. It will just keep the pangs coming and prolong the torture. In any event the substitutes will not relieve the pangs. Your craving is for amino acids in the brain. All it will do is keep you thinking about PMOing. Remember these points:</p> <ol> <li>There is no substitute for PMO.</li> <li>You do not need porn or PMO. It is not food; it is poison. When the pangs come remind yourself that it is PMOers who suffer withdrawal pangs, not non-PMOers. See them as another evil of the drug. See them as the death of a monster.</li> @@ -3090,12 +3106,13 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict - 03-35 the Main Reasons for Failure + 03-35 The Main Reasons for Failure https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-35-the-main-reasons-for-failure/ Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:23:39 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-35-the-main-reasons-for-failure/ - <p>There are two main reasons for failure. The first is the influence of external stimuli - a commercial, online news articles, internet browsing etc. At a weak moment or even during a social occasion somebody will get intimate with their partner. I have already dealt with this topic at length. Use that moment to remind yourself that there is no such thing as one visit or one peek. Rejoice in the fact that you have broken the chain of mental slavery. Remember that the PMOer envies you, and feel sorry for him. Believe me, he needs your pity. The other main reason for failure is having a bad day. Get it clear in your mind before you start that, whether you are a PMOer or a non-PMOer, there are good days and bad days. It rains for both the pope and the murderer.</p> + <p>The Main Reasons for Failure</p> +<p>There are two main reasons for failure. The first is the influence of external stimuli - a commercial, online news articles, internet browsing etc. At a weak moment or even during a social occasion somebody will get intimate with their partner. I have already dealt with this topic at length. Use that moment to remind yourself that there is no such thing as one visit or one peek. Rejoice in the fact that you have broken the chain of mental slavery. Remember that the PMOer envies you, and feel sorry for him. Believe me, he needs your pity. The other main reason for failure is having a bad day. Get it clear in your mind before you start that, whether you are a PMOer or a non-PMOer, there are good days and bad days. It rains for both the pope and the murderer.</p> <p>Life is a matter of relativity and you cannot have ups without having downs. The problem with the Willpower Method of stopping is that as soon as the PMOer has a bad day he starts moping for his ‘harem’ visit and all that does is make a bad day worse. The non-PMOer is better equipped, not only physically but also mentally, to cope with the stresses and strains of life. If you have a bad day during the withdrawal period just take it on the chin. Remind yourself that you had bad days when you were addicted (otherwise you wouldn&rsquo;t have decided to stop). Instead of moping about it, say to yourself something like, “OK, today&rsquo;s not so good but masturbating is not going to cure it. Tomorrow will be better and at least I have got a marvellous bonus at the moment. I have kicked that awful PMO habit.”</p> <p>When you are a PMOer you have to block your mind to the bad side of PMO. PMOer never have brain fog just “a bit down.” When you are having life’s inevitable troubles you want to PMO but are you happy and cheerful? Of course you aren&rsquo;t. Once you stop, the tendency is to blame everything that goes wrong in your life on the fact that you have stopped.</p> <p>Now if your work stresses you out you think, “At times like this I would have PMOed.” That&rsquo;s true but the important thing you forget is that the PMO didn&rsquo;t solve the problem and you are simply punishing yourself by moping for an illusory crutch. You are creating an impossible situation. You are miserable because you can&rsquo;t have the porn and masturbation yet you&rsquo;ll be even more miserable if you do. You know that you have made the correct decision by stopping PMO so why punish yourself by ever doubting the decision?</p> @@ -3110,7 +3127,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:22:12 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-34-will-it-be-harder-for-me/ - <p>The combinations of factors that will determine how easily each individual PMOer will quit are infinite. To start with, each of us has his own character, type of work, personal circumstances, timing, etc. Certain professions may make it harder than others but providing the brainwashing is removed it doesn&rsquo;t have to be so. A few individual examples will help.</p> + <h2 id="will-it-be-harder-for-me">Will It Be Harder for Me? <a class="anchor" href="#will-it-be-harder-for-me"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The combinations of factors that will determine how easily each individual PMOer will quit are infinite. To start with, each of us has his own character, type of work, personal circumstances, timing, etc. Certain professions may make it harder than others but providing the brainwashing is removed it doesn&rsquo;t have to be so. A few individual examples will help.</p> <p>It tends to be particularly difficult for members of the medical profession. We think it should be easier for doctors because they are more aware of the effects of ill- health and are seeing daily evidence of it. Although this supplies more forceful reasons for stopping, it doesn&rsquo;t make it any easier to do. The reasons are these:</p> <ol> <li>The constant awareness of the health risks creates fear which is one of the conditions under which we need to relieve our withdrawal pangs.</li> @@ -3129,7 +3148,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:20:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-33-just-one-peek/ - <p>This is the undoing of many PMOers who try to stop on the Willpower Method. They will go through three or four days and then have the odd peek or a PMO or two to tide them over. They do not realize the devastating effect this has on their morale.</p> + <h2 id="just-one-peek">Just One Peek <a class="anchor" href="#just-one-peek"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is the undoing of many PMOers who try to stop on the Willpower Method. They will go through three or four days and then have the odd peek or a PMO or two to tide them over. They do not realize the devastating effect this has on their morale.</p> <p>For most PMOers that first peek at the tube site harem was not as good as sex with a real person. The clips that are clean are far in between. This gives their conscious minds a boost. They think, “Good. That wasn&rsquo;t entirely all that enjoyable. I am losing the urge to PMO and I am not that much into the shocking stuff.” In fact, the reverse is the case. Get it clear in your mind - enjoyment of orgasm wasn&rsquo;t the reason why you hit porn. If PMOers were there for orgasm alone, they&rsquo;d never watch more than one clip. The only reason why you PMO was to feed that little monster. Just think: you had starved him for four days. How precious that one peek must have been to him. You are not aware of it in your conscious mind but the fix your body received will be communicated to your subconscious mind and all your sound preparation will be undermined. There will be a little voice at the back of your mind saying, “In spite of all the logic they are precious. I want another one.”</p> <p>That little peek has two damaging effects:</p> <ol> @@ -3148,7 +3169,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:16:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-32-the-withdrawal-period/ - <p>For up to three weeks after your last PMO session you may be subjected to withdrawal pangs. These consist of two quite separate factors:</p> + <h2 id="the-withdrawal-period">The Withdrawal Period <a class="anchor" href="#the-withdrawal-period"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>For up to three weeks after your last PMO session you may be subjected to withdrawal pangs. These consist of two quite separate factors:</p> <ol> <li>The withdrawal pangs of dopamine, that empty, insecure feeling, like a hunger, which PMOers identify as a craving or “something I must to do” feeling.</li> <li>The psychological trigger of certain external stimuli such as a commercial, online browsing, a telephone conversation etc.</li> @@ -3178,12 +3201,14 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict - 03-31 the Easy Way to Stop + 03-31 The Easy Way to Stop https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-31-the-easy-way-to-stop/ Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:07:43 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-31-the-easy-way-to-stop/ - <p>This chapter contains instructions about the easy way to stop PMO. Providing you follow the instructions, you will find that stopping ranges from relatively easy to enjoyable! But remember the definition of a brunette: “a girl who didn&rsquo;t read the instructions on the bottle.” It is ridiculously easy to stop PMO. All you have to do is two things:</p> + <h2 id="the-easy-way-to-stop">The Easy Way to Stop <a class="anchor" href="#the-easy-way-to-stop"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This chapter contains instructions about the easy way to stop PMO. Providing you follow the instructions, you will find that stopping ranges from relatively easy to enjoyable! But remember the definition of a brunette: “a girl who didn&rsquo;t read the instructions on the bottle.” It is ridiculously easy to stop PMO. All you have to do is two things:</p> <ol> <li>Make the decision that you are never going to PMO again.</li> <li>Don&rsquo;t mope about it. Rejoice.</li> @@ -3197,8 +3222,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict <p>Basically I said to myself, “Scores of people are stopping now and leading perfectly happy lives. I didn&rsquo;t need to do it before I started and I can remember having to work hard to get used to this filth. So why do I need to do it now?” In any event I didn&rsquo;t enjoy PMO, I hated the whole filthy ritual and I didn&rsquo;t want to spend the rest of my life being the slave of this disgusting porn addiction.</p> <p>I then said to myself:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<p><strong>“WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT. YOU HAVE COMPLETED YOUR LAST PMO VISIT”</strong></p> -</div> +<h3 id="whether-you-like-it-or-not-you-have-completed-your-last-pmo-visit">“WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT. YOU HAVE COMPLETED YOUR LAST PMO VISIT” <a class="anchor" href="#whether-you-like-it-or-not-you-have-completed-your-last-pmo-visit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>I knew, right from that point, that I would never PMO again. I wasn&rsquo;t expecting it to be easy; in fact, just the reverse. I fully believed that I was in for months of black depression and that I would spend the rest of my life having the occasional pang. Instead it has been absolute bliss right from the start.</p> <p>It took me a long time to work out why it had been so easy and why this time I hadn&rsquo;t suffered those terrifying withdrawal pangs. The reason is that they do not exist. It is the doubt and uncertainty that causes the pangs. The beautiful truth is: IT IS EASY TO STOP PMO. It is only the indecision and moping about it that makes it difficult. Even while they are addicted to porn, PMOers can go for relatively long periods at certain times in their lives without bothering about it. It is only when you want it but can&rsquo;t have one that you suffer.</p> <p>Therefore the key to making it easy is to make stopping certain and final. Not to hope but to know you have kicked it, having made the decision. Never to doubt or question it. In fact, just the reverse - always to rejoice about it. If you can be certain from the start, it will be easy. But how can you be certain from the start unless you know it is going to be easy? This is why the rest of the book is necessary. There are certain essential points and it is necessary to get them clear in your mind before you start:</p> @@ -3233,7 +3259,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:05:14 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-30-avoid-false-incentives/ - <p>Many PMOers, while trying to stop on the Willpower Method, attempt to increase their motivation by building up false incentives. There are many examples of this, a typical one is, “I will reward myself with a gift after no-PMO for a month.” This appears to be a logical and sensible approach but in fact it is false because any self-respecting PMOer would rather continue PMOing every day than receive a “self given gift.” In any case there is a doubt in the PMOer’s mind because not only will she have to abstain for thirty days but will she even enjoy the days without a PMO? Her only pleasure or crutch is taken away! All this does is to increase the size of the sacrifice that the PMOer feels she is making, which makes it even more precious in her mind.</p> + <h2 id="avoid-false-incentives">Avoid False Incentives <a class="anchor" href="#avoid-false-incentives"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Many PMOers, while trying to stop on the Willpower Method, attempt to increase their motivation by building up false incentives. There are many examples of this, a typical one is, “I will reward myself with a gift after no-PMO for a month.” This appears to be a logical and sensible approach but in fact it is false because any self-respecting PMOer would rather continue PMOing every day than receive a “self given gift.” In any case there is a doubt in the PMOer’s mind because not only will she have to abstain for thirty days but will she even enjoy the days without a PMO? Her only pleasure or crutch is taken away! All this does is to increase the size of the sacrifice that the PMOer feels she is making, which makes it even more precious in her mind.</p> <p>Other examples: “I&rsquo;ll stop PMO so that I will force myself to get a social life and seek more sex in real life” OR “I’ll stop so some magical energy will help me to leap above the competitors and get this woman I pursue” OR “I commit to not waste my energy and enthusiasm in PMO, so I can grow enough hunger in myself.” These are true and can be effective and you may end up getting what you want. But think about it for a second - if you do get what you had wanted, once the novelty has gone you will feel deprived - if you didn’t then you will feel miserable and either way sooner or later you will fall for the trap again.</p> <p>Another typical example is online or forum pacts. These have the advantage of eliminating temptation for certain periods. However, they generally fail for the following reasons:</p> <ol> @@ -3244,9 +3272,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict </ol> <p>Stop kidding yourself. If the job offer that I mentioned before, of 10 months work for 12 months salary a year won&rsquo;t stop him. Or if the risks of cutting down your brain’s capacity to cope with just any normal day-to-day stress and strains or if putting yourself at odds with having a reliable erection, or if the lifetime of mental and physical torture and slavery did not stop him or her - the above said few phoney incentives will not make the slightest bit of difference. They will only make the sacrifice appear worse. Instead concentrate on the other side:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"><strong>“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?”</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"> +<h2 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo">“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?” <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> +</a></h2></div> <p>Keep looking at the other side of the tug of war. What is PMOing doing for me? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Why do I need to do it? YOU DON&rsquo;T! YOU ARE ONLY PUNISHING YOURSELF. Try looking at it from the Pascal’s Wager perspective. You have almost nothing to lose (a rub-out with half arousals) for sure, chances of big profits (a full and reliable arousal, mental well being and happiness) and no chance of losing big (unreliable full arousals, premature ejaculations, fading penetrations, loss of general impulse controls, lower tolerance for frustrations and anger).</p> <p>Why not declare your quitting to friends and family? Well, it will make you a proud ex-addict, ex-PMOer, not an elated and happy non-PMOer. It will scare your partner a bit since they may see this as an effort to have more sex, sort of a new-age thing. They may also fear to lose you if this turns you into sex machine. It is hard to explain to them unless they are open minded.</p> <p>Any attempt to get others to help you in your quitting gives more power to the little monster of addiction. Pushing it from your mind and totally ignoring it has the effect of trying NOT to think of it. As soon as you spot the thoughts, when you hit the cues (home alone) or just absent minded thoughts - just say to yourself: “Great, I don’t have to do it like a slave animal. I am free. I am happy to know the differences in sex.” This will cut the life of the thought and will deny oxygen to it and will stop it from burning towards urges and cravings.</p> @@ -3259,7 +3287,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:03:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-29-can-i-compartmentalize/ - <p>This is another myth about PMOing spread mainly by PMOers who, when attempting to stop on the Willpower Method, substitute mental gymnastics - they propose to act -Jekyll and Hyde: “Porn is for my alter ego side and real life romance is for my relationship side.” Nothing is further from the truth. The porn waterslides - the deltaFosBs and all the brain changes are going to overrun the real life romance and will make it less desirable. Mr Hyde is most definitely going to overrule Dr. Jekyll’s instructions.</p> + <h2 id="can-i-compartmentalize">Can I Compartmentalize? <a class="anchor" href="#can-i-compartmentalize"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is another myth about PMOing spread mainly by PMOers who, when attempting to stop on the Willpower Method, substitute mental gymnastics - they propose to act -Jekyll and Hyde: “Porn is for my alter ego side and real life romance is for my relationship side.” Nothing is further from the truth. The porn waterslides - the deltaFosBs and all the brain changes are going to overrun the real life romance and will make it less desirable. Mr Hyde is most definitely going to overrule Dr. Jekyll’s instructions.</p> <p>If you use internet porn, you may be training yourself for the role of voyeur or to need the option of clicking to something more arousing at the least drop in your dopamine levels, or to search and search for just the right scene for maximum effect. Also, you may be masturbating in a hunched-over position – or watching your smartphone in bed nightly. You will eventually desire those cues more than the real life action. The thing that goes against real sex is the lack of novelty, variety, ‘harem’ like 24/7 quick delivery etc. and so it stands no chance compared to your online harem. The younger you were when you started on PMO the longer to rewire and break down those ‘porn water slides’ and get back those ‘real water slides’ if there were any from the past or create new ones. Also powerful and lasting are the associated memories from when you were young.</p> <p>Every time you take a ride on the ‘porn water slide’ you are ‘greasing’ it - keeping the nerves fresh. When you park next to a fast food restaurant the smell of the fries floats from the pan into your nostrils and the sale was already made. Likewise, the porn water slides in your brain are there for you to get sucked in and they are open 24 hours a day. Each of these cues, or triggers, can now light up your reward circuit with the promise of sex&hellip; only it isn&rsquo;t sex. Nevertheless, nerve cells may solidify these associations with sexual arousal by sprouting new branches to strengthen the connections. The more you use porn the stronger the nerve connections can become, with the result that you may ultimately need to be a voyeur, need to click to new material, need to climax to porn to get to sleep, or need to search for the perfect ending just to get the job done.</p> <p>As with any substance or behavioural drug, after a while the body becomes immune and the “drug” ceases to relieve the withdrawal pangs completely. As soon as we close a session, the addict wants another one very soon and he has a permanent hunger. The natural inclination is eventually to ‘escalate’ just to get the dopamine rush. However, most PMOers are prevented from doing this for one, or both, of two reasons.</p> @@ -3279,7 +3309,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:01:03 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-28-will-i-miss-the-fun/ - <p>No! Once that little porn monster is dead and your body stops craving dopamine and the porn water slides in your brain start to fade due to lack of ‘greasing’, any remaining brainwashing will vanish and you will find yourself both physically and mentally better equipped not only to cope with the stresses and strains of life but to enjoy the good times to the full.</p> + <h2 id="will-i-miss-the-fun">Will I Miss the Fun? <a class="anchor" href="#will-i-miss-the-fun"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>No! Once that little porn monster is dead and your body stops craving dopamine and the porn water slides in your brain start to fade due to lack of ‘greasing’, any remaining brainwashing will vanish and you will find yourself both physically and mentally better equipped not only to cope with the stresses and strains of life but to enjoy the good times to the full.</p> <p>There is only one danger and that is the influence of those who still use sex as their lying crutch and damned pleasure. “The other man&rsquo;s grass is always greener,” is commonplace in many aspects of our lives and is easily understandable. Why is it in the case of PMOing, where the disadvantages are so enormous as compared with even the illusory ‘advantages,’ that the ex-PMOer tend to envy the man or woman who appears to demand sex and use porn for pleasure and a crutch?</p> <p>With all the brainwashing of our childhood it is quite understandable that we fall into the trap. Why is it that, once we realize what a mug&rsquo;s game it is and many of us manage to kick the habit, we walk straight back into the same trap? It is the influence of society&rsquo;s brainwashing of porn being conflated with sex and presented as normal. The ex-PMOer has a pang! The insecure void feelings of them being single, which in itself is not a crime anyway, causes anxiety and cues them to PMO water slide. This is indeed a curious anomaly, particularly if you consider this piece of observation: not only is every non-PMOer in the world happy to be a non-PMOer but every PMOer in the world, even with his warped, addicted, brainwashed mind suffering the delusion that he enjoys it or it relaxes him, wishes he had never become hooked in the first place. So why do some ex-PMOers envy the PMOer on these occasions? There are two reasons.</p> <ol> @@ -3310,7 +3342,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:55:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-27-timing/ - <p>Apart from the obvious point that as it is doing you no good, now is the right time to stop. I believe timing is important. Our society treats internet porn flippantly as a slightly distasteful habit that can not injure your health. It is not. It is drug addiction, a disease and a destroyer of relationships in society. The worst thing that happens in most PMOer’s lives is getting hooked on that awful addiction. If they stay hooked, horrendous things happen. Timing is important to give yourself the right to a proper cure.</p> + <h2 id="timing">Timing <a class="anchor" href="#timing"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Apart from the obvious point that as it is doing you no good, now is the right time to stop. I believe timing is important. Our society treats internet porn flippantly as a slightly distasteful habit that can not injure your health. It is not. It is drug addiction, a disease and a destroyer of relationships in society. The worst thing that happens in most PMOer’s lives is getting hooked on that awful addiction. If they stay hooked, horrendous things happen. Timing is important to give yourself the right to a proper cure.</p> <p>First of all, identify the times or occasions when PMO appears to be important to you. If you are a businessman and use it for the illusion of relief of stress, pick a relatively slack period; a good idea is to choose your annual holiday. If you PMO mainly during boring or relaxing periods, weekends etc. do the opposite. In any event, take the matter seriously and make the attempt the most important thing in your life.</p> <p>Look ahead for a period of about three weeks and try to anticipate any event that might lead to failure. Occasions like a conference trip, partner out of town etc. need not deter you, providing you anticipate them in advance and do not feel you will be deprived. Do not attempt to cut down in the meantime as this will only create the illusion that being denied is enjoyable. In fact, it helps to force yourself to watch and have as many PMO sessions as possible. While you are having the last session and that last time, be conscious of the disappointment due to satiation, unfulfilled expectations (porn can never satisfy you), any bodily pain or pain in the genitals, the withdrawal effects, the peevishness and the melancholy. Think how marvellous it will be when you allow yourself to stop doing it.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> @@ -3347,7 +3381,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:54:03 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-26-a-social-habit/ - <p>Health of mind and body are the main reason why we should want to stop but then they always have been. We do not actually need scientific research and knowledge in brain chemistry to tell us that internet porn is addictive and can potentially shatter our lives. These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on the planet and any PMOer knows instantly, from the first session, that the stimulus can go to excess and it can turn poisonous.</p> + <h2 id="a-social-habit">A Social Habit? <a class="anchor" href="#a-social-habit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Health of mind and body are the main reason why we should want to stop but then they always have been. We do not actually need scientific research and knowledge in brain chemistry to tell us that internet porn is addictive and can potentially shatter our lives. These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on the planet and any PMOer knows instantly, from the first session, that the stimulus can go to excess and it can turn poisonous.</p> <p>The only reason why we ever get involved with internet porn is the PMO’s overlap with their evolutionary brain programming. Porn is available for free and it gets streamed 24 hours a day. No risk and no traces and with very high brain rewards. Porn was once considered as harmless but that was when the images were static and involved a trip to the local store for a VHS tape.</p> <p>Today it is generally considered even by PMOers themselves to be a supra-stimulus and addiction forming. In the old days, the strong man did not admit he masturbated. Jerk is a derogatory term. In every pub or club bar the majority of men would be proudly wanting to take a woman home and have real sex. Today the position is completely reversed for the internet porn addicts. Today&rsquo;s man realizes that he is starting to feel that he doesn&rsquo;t need a woman. This scares him. He bands together online and starts discussing experiences, devise strategies and explore options. Today&rsquo;s strong man does not want to depend on drugs. With the social revolution all PMOers nowadays are giving serious thought to stopping internet porn and masturbation. Today&rsquo;s PMOers consider PMO as an useless and harmful activity.</p> <p>The most significant trend that I have noticed in forums is the increasing emphasis on the anti-social aspect of PMOing. The days when a man boasted of having sex and orgasms every day is slowly getting replaced with, “why do I need to be a slave for this porn monster when I know ‘it’ is controlling my wand (and mind)?”</p> @@ -3365,7 +3401,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:51:35 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-25-the-youtube-pmoer/ - <p>The YouTube PMOer should be grouped with casual PMOers but the effects of a YouTube PMOer are so insidious that it merits a separate chapter. It can lead to the breakdown of personal self control. In one case it nearly caused a split for a No-Fap forum user.</p> + <h2 id="the-youtube-pmoer">The YouTube PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-youtube-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The YouTube PMOer should be grouped with casual PMOers but the effects of a YouTube PMOer are so insidious that it merits a separate chapter. It can lead to the breakdown of personal self control. In one case it nearly caused a split for a No-Fap forum user.</p> <blockquote> <p><em>“I was three weeks into one of my failed attempts to stop. The attempt had been triggered off by my wife&rsquo;s worry about my unreliable hard-ons and lack of interest. I had told her that it was not her and it was just job pressure. She said, &lsquo;I know you had handled the work pressure before but how would you feel if you were me and had to watch someone you love systematically destroying themselves?’ It was an argument that I found irresistible, hence the attempt to stop. She knows that I am not cheating - but this in a way is as worse as that (sic). The attempt ended after three weeks after a heated argument with an old friend. It did not register until years afterwards that my devious mind had deliberately triggered off the argument. I felt justly aggrieved at the time but I do not believe that it was coincidence, as I had never argued with this particular friend before, nor have I since. It was clearly the little monster at work. Anyway, I had my excuse. I desperately needed a release of orgasm and it doesn’t matter how. As it happens she was not in the mood right away and I was in an “entitlement” hurry. So I convinced myself that it is OK if I ‘restrict’ myself by avoiding a porn site and just stay this side of the ‘red line’ and watch only YouTube videos. But she ‘came around’ as the night unfolded and wanted to make love. But I was tired and not with all my ‘horsepower.’ I then invented a headache. I could not bear to think of the disappointment this would cause my wife. Then gradually I returned to the old ways, only YouTube became my new harem destination. I remember being quite pleased at the time. I thought, &lsquo;well, at least it is cutting my consumption down;’ Eventually she accused me of continuing to ignore her in the bed. I had not realized it but she described the times I had caused an argument and stormed out of the house. At other times I had taken two hours to purchase some minor item and faked a sprain or something. I had made feeble excuses to cop out of the whole wooing her and etc. when I have a reliable online harem it is even more hard.”</em></p> </blockquote> @@ -3385,7 +3423,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:40:22 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-24-casual-pmoers-teenagers-non-pmoers/ - <p>Heavy PMOers tend to envy the casual porn user. We&rsquo;ve all met these characters: “Oh, I can go all week without a PMO, it really doesn&rsquo;t bother me.” We think: “I wish I were like that!” I know this is hard to believe but no PMOer enjoys being a PMOer. Never forget:</p> + <h2 id="casual-pmoers-teenagers-non-pmoers">Casual PMOers, Teenagers, Non PMOers <a class="anchor" href="#casual-pmoers-teenagers-non-pmoers"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Heavy PMOers tend to envy the casual porn user. We&rsquo;ve all met these characters: “Oh, I can go all week without a PMO, it really doesn&rsquo;t bother me.” We think: “I wish I were like that!” I know this is hard to believe but no PMOer enjoys being a PMOer. Never forget:</p> <ul> <li>No PMOer ever decided to become a PMOer casual or otherwise, therefore:</li> <li>All PMOers feel stupid, therefore:</li> @@ -3423,7 +3463,7 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> </a></h3><p>(Or, “I can stop whenever I want to. I have done it thousands of times”). If he thinks dieting helps with his moods to ‘get out to get women,’ why is he even on the diet of once every four days? How can one predict the future, what if the happenstance of meeting occurred just an hour after your scheduled PMO session? Also, if he thinks this occasional “cleaning the plumbing” is good to relieve tension and relax why not plumb every day? It has been proven that masturbation is not required to keep the genitals healthy. Internet porn is not required at all. Even if that may be the case, any PUA guru who has read about the brain chemistry and its plasticity will never recommend watching super stimulus porn. The truth is he is still hooked. Although he gets rid of the physical addiction, he is left with the main problem - the brainwashing. He hopes each time that he will stop for good and soon falls for the same trap again.</p> <p>Many PMOers actually envy these stoppers and starters. They think, “how lucky to be able to control it like that, to do PMO when you want to and stop when you want to,” What they always overlook is that these stoppers and starters aren&rsquo;t controlling it. When they are PMOers, they wish they weren&rsquo;t. They go through the hassle of stopping, then begin to feel deprived and fall for the trap again, then wish they hadn&rsquo;t. They get the worst of both worlds. If you think about it, this is true in the lives of the PMOers. When we are allowed to PMO we either take it as entitled or wish we didn&rsquo;t. It&rsquo;s only when we can&rsquo;t have PMO that it appears to be so precious. The ‘forbidden fruit syndrome’. This is the awful dilemma of PMOers. They can never win because they are moping for a myth, an illusion. There is one way they can win and that is to stop PMOing and stop moping!</p> -<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC/TAME/HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer"> +<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-static--tame--home-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC / TAME / HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-only-pmo-to-static--tame--home-made-porn-pmoer"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> </a></h3><p>Yes, we all do it to start with but isn&rsquo;t it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner&rsquo;s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes&hellip; you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one.</p> <h3 id="the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer">THE I-HAVE-STOPPED-BUT-I-HAVE-AN-OCCASIONAL-PEEK PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer"> @@ -3471,7 +3511,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:35:22 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-23-just-one-peek/ - <p>“Just one peek” is a myth you must get out of your mind:</p> + <h2 id="just-one-peek">Just One Peek <a class="anchor" href="#just-one-peek"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>“Just one peek” is a myth you must get out of your mind:</p> <ul> <li>It is just one peek that gets us started in the first place.</li> <li>It is just one peek to tide us over a difficult patch or on a special occasion that defeats most of our attempts to stop.</li> @@ -3510,7 +3552,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:28:58 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-22-beware-of-cutting-down/ - <p>Many PMOers resort to cutting down either as a stepping-stone towards stopping or as an attempt to control the little monster. Many recommend cutting down or a ‘porn diet’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> as a pick-me-up. Obviously, the less you PMO the better off you are but as a stepping-stone to stopping, cutting down is fatal. It is these attempts to cut down that keep us trapped all our lives.</p> + <h2 id="beware-of-cutting-down">Beware of Cutting Down <a class="anchor" href="#beware-of-cutting-down"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Many PMOers resort to cutting down either as a stepping-stone towards stopping or as an attempt to control the little monster. Many recommend cutting down or a ‘porn diet’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> as a pick-me-up. Obviously, the less you PMO the better off you are but as a stepping-stone to stopping, cutting down is fatal. It is these attempts to cut down that keep us trapped all our lives.</p> <p>Usually cutting down follows failed attempts to stop. After a few hours or days of abstinence the PMOer says to himself something like:</p> <blockquote> <p><em>“I cannot face the thought of going to sleep without visiting my online harem, so from now on I will just PMO once in four days or I will purge my collection of ‘bad’ porn. If I can follow this ‘porn diet’, I can either hold it there or cut down further.”</em></p> @@ -3561,12 +3605,14 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p - 03-21 the Willpower Method of Stopping + 03-21 The Willpower Method of Stopping https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-21-the-willpower-method-of-stopping/ Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:20:42 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-21-the-willpower-method-of-stopping/ - <p>It is an accepted fact in our society that it is very difficult to stop PMO. Even books and forums advising you how to do so usually start off by telling you how difficult it is. The truth is that it is ridiculously easy. Yes, I can understand you questioning that statement but just consider it. If your aim is to run a mile in under four minutes, that&rsquo;s difficult. You may have to undergo years of hard training and even then you may be physically incapable of doing it. (Much of our achievement lies in the mind. Isn&rsquo;t it strange how difficult it was until Roger Bannister actually did it but nowadays it is commonplace?).</p> + <h2 id="the-willpower-method-of-stopping">The Willpower Method of Stopping <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method-of-stopping"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>It is an accepted fact in our society that it is very difficult to stop PMO. Even books and forums advising you how to do so usually start off by telling you how difficult it is. The truth is that it is ridiculously easy. Yes, I can understand you questioning that statement but just consider it. If your aim is to run a mile in under four minutes, that&rsquo;s difficult. You may have to undergo years of hard training and even then you may be physically incapable of doing it. (Much of our achievement lies in the mind. Isn&rsquo;t it strange how difficult it was until Roger Bannister actually did it but nowadays it is commonplace?).</p> <p>However, in order to stop PMOing all you have to do is not watch internet porn and or masturbate any more. No one forces you to masturbate (apart from yourself) and unlike food or drink, you don&rsquo;t need it to survive. So if you want to stop doing it, why should it be difficult? In fact, it isn&rsquo;t. It is PMOers who make it difficult by using the Willpower Method. I define the Willpower Method as any method that forces the PMOer to feel he is making some sort of sacrifice. Let us just consider the Willpower Method.</p> <p>We do not decide to become PMOers. We merely experiment with porn magazines or websites and because they are awful, yes that is right – awful - except for our desired clip, we are convinced that we can stop whenever we want to. In the main, we watch those first few clips only when we want to and that is usually on special occasions. Before we realize it, we are not only visiting those sites regularly and masturbating when we want to, we are masturbating to them every day. PMO has become a part of our lives. We then ensure that we always have an internet connection wherever we go. We believe that we are entitled to love, sex and orgasms - and also that porn helps to relieve stress. It doesn&rsquo;t seem to occur to us that the same clip and actors do not provide us the same degree of arousal and that we are either escalating or fighting against the ‘red line’ we have put around ourselves to avoid harmful “bad porn.” In fact, masturbation and internet porn neither improves our sex life nor does it relieve stress, it&rsquo;s just that PMOers believe they can&rsquo;t enjoy life or handle stress without an orgasm - even mind induced porn orgasms. Because that is what many times we are doing.</p> <p>It usually takes us a long time to realize that we are hooked because we suffer from the illusion that PMOers masturbate because they enjoy porn - not because they have to have porn - a need. While we are not “enjoying” porn (which we can never do unless novelty, shock or escalation is added), we suffer from the illusion that we can stop whenever we want to. This is a confidence trap. I don’t enjoy porn, so I am sure I can stop when I want to. Only that you never seem to ‘want’ to stop though.</p> @@ -3630,7 +3676,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:18:55 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-20-those-sinister-black-shadows/ - <p>Another of the great joys of quitting porn is to be free of those sinister black shadows at the back of our minds. All PMOers know they are fools to close their minds on the ill-effects of PMO. For most of our lives PMO is automatic but the black shadows are always lurking in our subconscious minds, just beneath the surface. There are several marvellous advantages to achieve from quitting PMO. Some of them I was consciously aware of throughout my life, such as the health risks, the waste of time and the sheer stupidity of making love to a two dimensional image. However, such was my fear of quitting, so obsessed was I in resisting all the attempts of do-gooders and anyone else who tried to persuade me to quit, that all my imagination and energy was directed to finding any flimsy excuse that would allow me to continue to PMO.</p> + <h2 id="those-sinister-black-shadows">Those Sinister Black Shadows <a class="anchor" href="#those-sinister-black-shadows"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Another of the great joys of quitting porn is to be free of those sinister black shadows at the back of our minds. All PMOers know they are fools to close their minds on the ill-effects of PMO. For most of our lives PMO is automatic but the black shadows are always lurking in our subconscious minds, just beneath the surface. There are several marvellous advantages to achieve from quitting PMO. Some of them I was consciously aware of throughout my life, such as the health risks, the waste of time and the sheer stupidity of making love to a two dimensional image. However, such was my fear of quitting, so obsessed was I in resisting all the attempts of do-gooders and anyone else who tried to persuade me to quit, that all my imagination and energy was directed to finding any flimsy excuse that would allow me to continue to PMO.</p> <p>Amazingly, my most ingenious thoughts occurred when I was actually trying to quit. They were of course inspired by the fear and misery I suffered when attempting to quit by using willpower. No way could I block my mind from the health and sexual aspects. But now that I am free it amazes me how I successfully blocked my mind from even more important advantages to be gained from quitting. I&rsquo;ve already mentioned the sheer slavery - spending half of our lives being allowed to PMO, doing it automatically and wishing we had never started, the other half feeling miserable and deprived because the knowledge of the destructive effects of internet porn won&rsquo;t allow us to PMO. In the last chapter I&rsquo;ve referred to the incredible joy of having energy again. But for me the greatest joy of being free was not the health, the time, the energy, or the ending of the slavery, it was the removal of those sinister black shadows, the removal of feeling despised by and feeling apologetic to myself and to other quitters, and most of all to be able to respect yourself.</p> <p>Most PMOers aren&rsquo;t the weak-willed, spineless jellyfish that both society and themselves tend to believe. In every other aspect of my life I was in control. I loathed myself for being dependent on an evil crutch that I knew was ruining my life. I cannot tell you of the utter joy of being free of those sinister black shadows, the dependency and the self-despising. I can&rsquo;t tell you how nice it is to be able to look at all other users, whether they be young, old, casual or heavy, not with a feeling of envy, but with a feeling of pity for them and elation for yourself that you are no longer the slave of that insidious trap. The other day I felt pity for the guy on a TV show who was so excited to get to watch porn - another case of society slipping one in your drink under the pretence of comedy.</p> <p>The last two chapters have dealt with the considerable advantages of being a non-PMOer. I feel it necessary to give a balanced account, so the next chapter lists the advantages of being a PMOer.</p> @@ -3643,7 +3691,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:16:17 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-19-it-relaxes-me-and-gives-me-confidence/ - <p>This is the worst fallacy of all about PMOing and for me it ranks with the ending of the slavery, the greatest benefit from quitting - is not to have to go through life with the permanent feelings of insecurity that PMOers suffer from.</p> + <h2 id="it-relaxes-me-and-gives-me-confidence">It Relaxes Me and Gives Me Confidence <a class="anchor" href="#it-relaxes-me-and-gives-me-confidence"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is the worst fallacy of all about PMOing and for me it ranks with the ending of the slavery, the greatest benefit from quitting - is not to have to go through life with the permanent feelings of insecurity that PMOers suffer from.</p> <p>PMOers find it very difficult to believe that masturbation to internet porn actually causes those insecure feelings you get when you are out late at night after a contentious day at home or work. Non-PMOers do not suffer from that feeling. It is the porn that causes it. I only became aware of many of the advantages of stopping months afterwards, as a result of my consultations with other PMOers.</p> <p>I refused to see my PMO as causing so much of the mental tug of war in my mind that I am foolishly working hard to have nominal levels of confidence in my day to day life. Forget about getting an erection, I am talking about focusing, taking challenges, fighting, choosing, deciding - actions that define our lives. Especially when we are often forced to act when the facts are not clear. Come to think of it, facts were and will never be clear and hence it is to our great advantage anyway to act.</p> <p>Also of note is in dating area as well, the fire to go forward is being misappropriated to this ‘high reward zero pain’ porn. If you have read some top PUA books and forums, what do they say? Go on a ‘diet<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>’? Yes of course when you have the good hunger your internal juices and your brain will do the rest. Copping out is not an option at all. Playing the numbers is not tiresome by no means. All PUA advice in a nut-shell is this - try more numbers. Even if your approach is wrong you will be right twice a day like a broken clock. But if your mind is fighting a tug of war with effortless easy access to a harem of online women, how would you get back on your feet when that girl ignores you? Oh, if it was a public outright rejection I am running, not walking, to my porn girlfriend.</p> @@ -3665,7 +3715,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:12:56 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-18-energy/ - <p>Most PMOers are aware of the effect that this progressive process of PMO, leading to novelty and escalation seeking, has on their brain’s reward circuits and their sexual system. However, they are not so aware of the effect it has on their energy level.</p> + <h2 id="energy">Energy <a class="anchor" href="#energy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Most PMOers are aware of the effect that this progressive process of PMO, leading to novelty and escalation seeking, has on their brain’s reward circuits and their sexual system. However, they are not so aware of the effect it has on their energy level.</p> <p>One of the subtleties of the PMO trap is that the effects it has on us, both physical and mental, happen so gradually and imperceptibly that we are not aware of them and regard them as normal. It is very similar to the effects of bad eating habits. The pot-belly appears so gradually that it causes us no alarm. We look at people who are grossly overweight and wonder how they could possibly have allowed themselves to reach that state.</p> <p>But supposing it happened overnight. You went to bed weighing 140 lbs, trim, rippling with muscles and not an ounce of fat on your body. You awoke weighing 180 lbs, fat, bloated and pot-bellied. Instead of waking up feeling fully rested and full of energy, you wake up feeling miserable, lethargic and you can hardly open your eyes. You would be panic-stricken, wondering what awful disease you had contracted overnight. Yet the disease is exactly the same.</p> <p>The fact that it took you twenty years to reach that state is irrelevant. So it is with PMOing. If I could immediately transfer you into your mind and body to give you a direct comparison on how you would feel having stopped internet porn for just three weeks, that is all I would need to do to persuade you to quit. You would think: “Will I really feel this good?” Or what it really amounts to: “Had I really sunk that low?” I emphasize that I don&rsquo;t just mean that you would feel healthier and have more energy but how you would also feel more confident and relaxed and better able to concentrate.</p> @@ -3683,7 +3735,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 12:12:31 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-17-health/ - <p>This is the area where the brainwashing is the greatest. PMOers, especially the young and single, think they are aware of the health risks. They are not. Even in my case, when I was expecting my head to explode any moment and honestly believed I was prepared to accept the consequences, I was still kidding myself. I didn&rsquo;t in those days have an app that started a red beeper to flash and sound every time my internet router hits a porn site, followed by a warning voice saying, “OK, this is the one!” Fortunately you do get a warning, and this is it. That warning would say, “Up to now you have got away with it but if you stay another minute your head will explode,” do you think I would have PMOed?</p> + <h2 id="health">Health <a class="anchor" href="#health"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is the area where the brainwashing is the greatest. PMOers, especially the young and single, think they are aware of the health risks. They are not. Even in my case, when I was expecting my head to explode any moment and honestly believed I was prepared to accept the consequences, I was still kidding myself. I didn&rsquo;t in those days have an app that started a red beeper to flash and sound every time my internet router hits a porn site, followed by a warning voice saying, “OK, this is the one!” Fortunately you do get a warning, and this is it. That warning would say, “Up to now you have got away with it but if you stay another minute your head will explode,” do you think I would have PMOed?</p> <p>If you are in doubt about the answer just try walking up to a cliff, stand on the edge with your eyes closed and imagine you then have the choice of either quitting PMO or walking up blindfolded before your next PMO.</p> <p>There is no doubt what your choice would be. I had been doing what every internet porn PMOer does all his life: closing my mind and keeping my head in the sand, hoping that I would wake up one morning and just not want to PMO any more. PMOers cannot allow themselves to think of the health risks. If they do, even the illusion of enjoying the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; goes.</p> <p>This explains why a shock treatment is so ineffective in the first stages of quitting. It is only non-users who can bring themselves to read the destructive brain changes. It also explains why PMOers, influenced by their little monster, wrongly recall that filthy room mate who PMOed everyday and was still remaining ‘horny’ 24 hours a day – they will ignore the thousands of people who are brought “down” in their prime because of this poisonous ‘habit’.</p> @@ -3794,7 +3848,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 12:08:55 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-16-i-will-save-x-hours-a-week/ - <p>I cannot repeat too often that it is brainwashing that makes it difficult to stop PMOing. So, the + <h2 id="i-will-save-x-hours-a-week">I Will Save X Hours a Week <a class="anchor" href="#i-will-save-x-hours-a-week"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>I cannot repeat too often that it is brainwashing that makes it difficult to stop PMOing. So, the more brainwashing we can dispel before we start, the easier you will find it to achieve your goal. Occasionally I get into arguments with people whom I call “confirmed PMOers.” By my definition a confirmed PMOer is somebody who doesn&rsquo;t believe PMO has any negative effect on his health @@ -3831,7 +3887,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 12:06:39 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-15-self-imposed-slavery/ - <p>Usually when PMOers try to stop the main reasons given are health, religion and partner stigma. Part of the brainwashing of this awful drug is the sheer slavery. Man fought hard in the last century to abolish slavery and yet the PMOer spends his life suffering self-imposed slavery. He seems to be oblivious to the fact that when he is allowed to PMO he wishes that he were a non-PMOer. With most of the masturbation we do in our lives, not only do we not enjoy them but we aren&rsquo;t even aware that we are masturbating. It is only after a period of abstinence that we actually suffer the delusion of enjoying PMO (e.g. the first day after a 4 day abstinence with the intent of rebooting etc.). The only time that the porn becomes precious is when we are &rsquo;trying&rsquo; to cut down or abstain or when abstinence is forced on us (e.g. when on a business trips, holiday trips to locations where the Internet is not available and so on).</p> + <h2 id="self-imposed-slavery">Self-Imposed Slavery <a class="anchor" href="#self-imposed-slavery"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Usually when PMOers try to stop the main reasons given are health, religion and partner stigma. Part of the brainwashing of this awful drug is the sheer slavery. Man fought hard in the last century to abolish slavery and yet the PMOer spends his life suffering self-imposed slavery. He seems to be oblivious to the fact that when he is allowed to PMO he wishes that he were a non-PMOer. With most of the masturbation we do in our lives, not only do we not enjoy them but we aren&rsquo;t even aware that we are masturbating. It is only after a period of abstinence that we actually suffer the delusion of enjoying PMO (e.g. the first day after a 4 day abstinence with the intent of rebooting etc.). The only time that the porn becomes precious is when we are &rsquo;trying&rsquo; to cut down or abstain or when abstinence is forced on us (e.g. when on a business trips, holiday trips to locations where the Internet is not available and so on).</p> <p>The confirmed PMOer should bear in mind that more studies and even more people are coming out and talking about the ill effects of internet porn. This trend will get “worse and worse.” Today, it is non-medical people talking. Tomorrow, it will be in your doctor’s list of diagnostic tests to perform. Gone are the days when the PMOer can hide behind “just a bit of downtime due to work stress” in his or her sex life. Your partner is going to ask you why you are on your laptop at this time too late into the night. The poor PMOer, who was already feeling wretched, wants the ground to open up and swallow him.</p> <p>I remember every time my partner stayed up late it was an ordeal waiting to open up my laptop. When on business trips the dinner with the clients and colleagues dragged on or was I just going through the natural ups and downs in human interactions? What was I doing? I was thinking, “let&rsquo;s get on with it, so that I can get over with this and go to my room for some porn.” I have thought many times, “am I not lucky? I have got my little reward. The poor non-PMOer with no internet access somewhere in an Amish village hasn&rsquo;t got a reward.” The &lsquo;poor&rsquo; non-PMOer doesn&rsquo;t need a reward. We were not designed to go through life systematically flooding our brains with dopamine and opioids. The pathetic thing is that even when masturbating with internet porn the PMOer doesn&rsquo;t achieve those feelings of peace, confidence and tranquillity that the non-PMOer has experienced for the whole of his non-PMO life. The non-PMOer isn&rsquo;t sitting in the family room, feeling agitated and wishing his life away. He can enjoy the whole of his life.</p> <p>No, this wasn&rsquo;t a fourteen-year-old schoolboy but a forty-year-old professional. How pathetic. I wouldn&rsquo;t admit to myself that I wasn&rsquo;t enjoying it. I was looking for the right clip and/or pictures to reach orgasm or better, edge forever. I don&rsquo;t know what I am supposed to be &lsquo;watching&rsquo; sometimes. That is the confusing part. The &rsquo;edging&rsquo; and then the orgasm floods my brain. Yet this was supposed to be my way of relaxing and enjoying my “favourite hobby.”</p> @@ -3845,7 +3903,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:49:35 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-14-what-am-i-giving-up/ - <p>ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! The thing that makes it difficult for us to give up is fear. The fear that we are being deprived of our pleasure or prop. The fear that certain pleasant situations will never be quite the same again. The fear of being unable to cope with stressful situations. In other words, the effect of brainwashing is to delude us into believing that sex and by extension orgasm, is a must for all human beings. Or that there is something inherent in Internet porn that we need and that when we stop PMOing we will be self-denying ourselves and there will be a void.</p> + <h2 id="what-am-i-giving-up">What Am I Giving Up? <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-giving-up"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! The thing that makes it difficult for us to give up is fear. The fear that we are being deprived of our pleasure or prop. The fear that certain pleasant situations will never be quite the same again. The fear of being unable to cope with stressful situations. In other words, the effect of brainwashing is to delude us into believing that sex and by extension orgasm, is a must for all human beings. Or that there is something inherent in Internet porn that we need and that when we stop PMOing we will be self-denying ourselves and there will be a void.</p> <blockquote> <p>Get it clear in your mind:</p> </blockquote> @@ -3866,18 +3926,14 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> </blockquote> <p>These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on this planet. Whether you believe in a creator, a process of natural selection or a combination of both, whatever being or system devised these bodies of ours, it is a thousand times more effective than man! Man cannot create the smallest living cell, let alone the miracle of eyesight, reproduction, our circulatory system or our brains. We don’t have our systems upgraded yet to properly assess the supranormal stimulus such as rich high density food or high speed internet novelty porn with multiple active windows.</p> <p>If the creator or process had intended us to handle novelty triggering stimuli, we would have been provided with some other brain reward circuits. Our bodies are, in fact, provided with fail-safe warning devices and we ignore these at our peril. Excessive edging results in body pain, irritation, and inflammation. In women, excessive flooding of dopamine and stress enzymes such as prostaglandin-E2 can cause difficulty to orgasm and PME.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up"><strong>There Is Nothing To Give Up</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#there-is-nothing-to-give-up"> +<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up">There Is Nothing To Give Up <a class="anchor" href="#there-is-nothing-to-give-up"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h2></div> -<p>The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.</p> +</a></h2><p>The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.</p> <p>The problem I have is to make a convincing point as I’d have done for, let us say&hellip; smokers? All of us have seen smokers who develop excuses to sneak off for a crafty puff. It is easy to see the true addiction in action. Addicts do not do it because they enjoy it. They do it because they are miserable without it.</p> <p>Because many of us started out our first sexual experience that ended in an orgasm and we acquired the belief that we cannot enjoy sex without an orgasm. And for men, porn is sold as an aid towards sex, sometimes even as an education to be confident during the act of sex. It used to be static, but now we have supranormal internet porn. But this is nonsense. Internet porn takes away your confidence.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="women-and-porn"><strong>Women And Porn</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#women-and-porn"> +<h2 id="women-and-porn">Women And Porn <a class="anchor" href="#women-and-porn"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h2></div> -<p>The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn&rsquo;t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.</p> +</a></h2><p>The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn&rsquo;t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.</p> <p>Porn and internet porn does not help your sex life; it destroys it totally. Having to hide your internet footprints, trying to delete your history, fearing accidental exposure to your boyfriend or kids, body pains, doubtful symptoms, fighting self doubts, arguing with yourself about your responsibilities in the ill effects of your addiction&hellip; well, why do you want to put yourself in such a bad situation?</p> <p>Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous positive gains to be had. When PMOers contemplate quitting they tend to concentrate on health and virility. These are obviously valid and important issues but I personally believe the greatest gains from stopping are psychological:</p> <ol> @@ -3886,11 +3942,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <li>Not to have to go through life suffering the awful black shadows at the back of your mind, knowing you are being despised by half of the population and, worst of all, despising yourself.</li> </ol> <p>Not only is life better as a non-PMOer but it is infinitely more enjoyable. I do not only mean you will be healthier. I mean you will be happier and enjoy life far more. The marvellous gains from being a non-PMOer are discussed in the next few chapters. Some PMOers find it difficult to appreciate the concept of the &lsquo;void&rsquo; and the following analogy may assist you.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"><strong>Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"> +<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void">Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void! <a class="anchor" href="#void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h2></div> -<p>Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I&rsquo;ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can&rsquo;t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.</p> +</a></h2><p>Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I&rsquo;ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can&rsquo;t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.</p> <p>By now you are completely dependent on the ointment. You never go out without ensuring that you have a tube of the ointment with you. If you go abroad, you make sure that you take several tubes with you. Now, in addition to your worries about your health, I&rsquo;m charging you $100 per tube. You have no choice but to pay.</p> <p>You then read in the medical column of your newspaper that this isn&rsquo;t happening just to you; many other people have been suffering from the same problem. In fact, pharmacists have discovered that the ointment doesn&rsquo;t actually cure the sore. All that it does is to take the sore beneath the surface of the skin. It is the ointment that has caused the sore to grow. All you have to do to get rid of the sore is to stop using the ointment. The sore will eventually disappear in due course.</p> <p>Would you continue to use the ointment? Would it take willpower not to use the ointment? If you didn&rsquo;t believe the medical article, there might be a few days of apprehension, but once you realized that the sore was beginning to get better, the need or desire to use the ointment would go, Would you be miserable? Of course you wouldn&rsquo;t. You had an awful problem which you thought was insoluble. Now you&rsquo;ve found the solution. Even if it took a year for that sore to disappear completely, each day, as it improved, you&rsquo;d think. “isn&rsquo;t it marvellous? I&rsquo;m not going to die!” This was the magic that happened to me on my final PMO day. Let me make one point quite clear in the analogy of the sore and the ointment.</p> @@ -3907,7 +3961,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:47:03 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-13-social-night-pmoing/ - <p>This is a misinformation that seems to make sense but then it does not. In order to have control of eating, will you eat at home before leaving to go to a restaurant or a party? This is what you are doing when you PMO before your social night. You will look tired and will not be up to your best. If you have dating jitters then work on it beforehand and then go with the flow even with some butterflies in your stomach. I like a bit of the anxiety in me to keep me going. Tiring yourself mentally and physically with an orgasm is not going to help you, unless of course you are going to see a prostitute. The goal is entirely different in that angle.</p> + <h2 id="social-night-pmoing">Social Night PMOing <a class="anchor" href="#social-night-pmoing"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is a misinformation that seems to make sense but then it does not. In order to have control of eating, will you eat at home before leaving to go to a restaurant or a party? This is what you are doing when you PMO before your social night. You will look tired and will not be up to your best. If you have dating jitters then work on it beforehand and then go with the flow even with some butterflies in your stomach. I like a bit of the anxiety in me to keep me going. Tiring yourself mentally and physically with an orgasm is not going to help you, unless of course you are going to see a prostitute. The goal is entirely different in that angle.</p> <p>The widespread adoption of pick-up techniques has put pressure on guys to perform, to attract and to ‘score’. You can get knowledge but you should know how to use it. I can guarantee that 100% of the other guys hanging at that bar know exactly what you know. It comes down to the ‘how’ of how you use it when you get the chance. Even before that, there is one very critical thing about any knowledge pertaining to human interactions, that ‘knowledge’ should never force your actions. This is important.</p> <p>I once masturbated and then poured wine to quiet the butterflies in my stomach before a date. I looked tired after just one hour into the date, the loud noise of the bar, dehydration, excessive self-consciousness (PUA teachings) etc. made my time unenjoyable. Somehow the girl and her friend liked it all. However, I do think it would have been better if I had gone without any props. I ended up being successful by claiming my &lsquo;goal(s)&rsquo; - which I consider unfortunate and as random luck.</p> <p>The PMO session I had before the date triggered a dopamine flooding and its withdrawal hit around the time I was with the date. I had to over-do my conversation to compensate the ineffective dopamine effects after that earlier orgasm. I am also sure that I was suffering from hypofrontality - where my impulses were failing my controls. That gushing moment, an extra decibel in the tone etc. would easily have given my nervousness to the girls - only if I was not protected by the loud noise in the bar. Why do you want to take chances?</p> @@ -3926,7 +3982,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:44:10 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-12-relaxation/ - <p>Most PMOers think that PMO helps to relax them. The truth is that internet porn used in PMO acts like a chemical stimulant. The frantic search to get the fix in those “dark alleys of the internet” and the internal struggle to reign in the dog straining at its leash for more shocking clips does not sound much like an activity of relaxation to me.</p> + <h2 id="relaxation">Relaxation <a class="anchor" href="#relaxation"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Most PMOers think that PMO helps to relax them. The truth is that internet porn used in PMO acts like a chemical stimulant. The frantic search to get the fix in those “dark alleys of the internet” and the internal struggle to reign in the dog straining at its leash for more shocking clips does not sound much like an activity of relaxation to me.</p> <p>One of the favourite PMO sessions for most is the one after a trip to a new place or after along day. As the night rolls in we stop working; we sit down and relax, relieve our hunger and thirst and are then completely satisfied. However, the poor PMOer cannot relax, as he has another hunger to satisfy. He thinks of the PMO as the icing on the cake but it is the &rsquo;little monster&rsquo; that needs feeding.</p> <p>The truth is that the addict can never be completely relaxed and as you go through life it gets worse. The most stressed people on this planet aren&rsquo;t non-PMOers but those young men and women who have a need to hunt (with the misunderstood goal of orgasm) and their ignorance of and/or low opinion of amative sex. Women who have subscribed to “I must orgasm” teachings are not even aware of the victim they have made of themselves. At this point any sex that leads to climax and orgasm cease to relieve even partially the symptoms that they have created.</p> <p>I can remember when I was bringing up a family. If my child would do something wrong I would quickly lose my temper to an extent that was out of all proportion to what he had done.</p> @@ -3947,7 +4005,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:42:13 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-11-concentration/ - <p>Sex and masturbation do not help concentration. That is just another illusion. When you are trying to concentrate, you automatically try to avoid distractions. So when a PMOer wants to concentrate he doesn&rsquo;t even have to think about it. He automatically PMOs, partially ending the craving, gets on with the matter in hand and has already forgotten that he just PMOed. Sex in general do not help concentration. After years of masturbation your brain changes affect abilities such as assessing, planning and impulse control. The PMOer is already suffering: that little monster wants his fix.</p> + <h2 id="concentration">Concentration <a class="anchor" href="#concentration"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Sex and masturbation do not help concentration. That is just another illusion. When you are trying to concentrate, you automatically try to avoid distractions. So when a PMOer wants to concentrate he doesn&rsquo;t even have to think about it. He automatically PMOs, partially ending the craving, gets on with the matter in hand and has already forgotten that he just PMOed. Sex in general do not help concentration. After years of masturbation your brain changes affect abilities such as assessing, planning and impulse control. The PMOer is already suffering: that little monster wants his fix.</p> <p>You are also stressed to provide novelty for the next PMO session as the same stuff will not generate enough dopamine and opioids. You have to “roam the internet streets” for novelty - all the while fighting the pull to cross the line towards shock. This creates more stress. After you orgasm, you feel unfulfilled as well.</p> <p>Concentration is also affected adversely for another reason. Your dopamine receptors have already started to get reduced by building up natural tolerance to these large surges, reducing the benefit of the smaller dopamine boosts from natural de-stressors.</p> <p>In fact, your concentration and inspiration will be greatly improved as this process is reversed. For some it will be the concentration aspect that prevents them from succeeding when using the willpower method. They could put up with the irritability and bad temper but when they really needed to concentrate on something difficult they have to have that porn fix. I can well remember the panic I felt when I discovered that the hotel has no internet connection and I had this huge presentation the day after.</p> @@ -3963,7 +4023,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:40:46 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-10-boredom/ - <p>As soon as you get into your bed - and if you are like many people you are already on your favorite tube site - you will probably have already forgotten about it until I reminded you. It has become second nature. Another fallacy about PMOing is that it relieves boredom. Boredom is a frame of mind. The only time that happens is when you have been deprived for a long time or are trying to cut down, or during those first few PMO sessions after a failed attempt to stop.</p> + <h2 id="boredom">Boredom <a class="anchor" href="#boredom"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As soon as you get into your bed - and if you are like many people you are already on your favorite tube site - you will probably have already forgotten about it until I reminded you. It has become second nature. Another fallacy about PMOing is that it relieves boredom. Boredom is a frame of mind. The only time that happens is when you have been deprived for a long time or are trying to cut down, or during those first few PMO sessions after a failed attempt to stop.</p> <p>The true situation is this: when you are addicted to internet porn’s supranormal novelty and then you decide to abstain from internet porn, there is something missing. If you have something to occupy your mind that isn&rsquo;t stressful, you can go for long periods without being bothered by the absence of the drug. However, when you are bored there&rsquo;s nothing to take your mind off it, so you feed the monster. When you are indulging yourself (i.e. not trying to stop or cut down), even firing up your incognito browser becomes subconscious. The PMOer can perform this ritual automatically. If any PMOer tries to remember the session during the last week, he can only remember a small proportion of them - e.g. the very last one or after a long abstinence.</p> <p>The truth is that PMOing tend to increase boredom indirectly because orgasms make you feel lethargic and instead of undertaking some energetic activity, PMOers tend to prefer lounge around, bored, relieving their withdrawal pangs. This is why countering the brainwashing is so important. Because it&rsquo;s a fact that PMOers tend to masturbate when they are bored and that we&rsquo;re wired to interpret PMO as interesting. It doesn&rsquo;t occur to us to question the fact how a two dimensional supranormal stimulus relieves boredom.</p> <p>We&rsquo;ve also been brainwashed into believing that sex - even a bad sex - aids relaxation. It is a fact that when under stress or sad, couples want to have sex. In the absence of discrimination between amative and propagative sex, the goal is set to achieve orgasms by hook or by crook. Next time you do this watch how you both want to get away from each other as soon as it’s over. It is obvious that if they had just decided to cuddle, speak, hug and touch each other and go to sleep without the mandatory orgasms, the couple would have felt relieved. Well, if in the process, they wanted to have the propagative part then by all means they can but that is a topic not meant to be discussed in this book.</p> @@ -3976,7 +4038,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:38:59 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-09-stress/ - <p>I am referring not only to the great tragedies of life but also to the minor stresses, the socializing, the telephone call, the anxieties of the housewife with noisy young children and so on. Let us use the telephone conversation as an example. For most people the telephone is slightly stressful, particularly for the businessman. Most calls aren&rsquo;t from satisfied customers or your boss congratulating you. There&rsquo;s usually some sort of aggravation - something going wrong or somebody making demands. Then he or she comes home to the mundane family life of kids screaming and wife&rsquo;s emotional demands on you. His already PMO weakened de-stressors are in no way ready to take the aggravation. At that time the PMOer, if he isn&rsquo;t already doing so, will fantasize the relief of internet porn that he promised himself that night. He will even allow himself to “take one step more” into the ‘forbidden’ area that he had previously self-excluded. He doesn&rsquo;t know why he does this but he does know that for some reason it appears to help.</p> + <h2 id="stress">Stress <a class="anchor" href="#stress"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>I am referring not only to the great tragedies of life but also to the minor stresses, the socializing, the telephone call, the anxieties of the housewife with noisy young children and so on. Let us use the telephone conversation as an example. For most people the telephone is slightly stressful, particularly for the businessman. Most calls aren&rsquo;t from satisfied customers or your boss congratulating you. There&rsquo;s usually some sort of aggravation - something going wrong or somebody making demands. Then he or she comes home to the mundane family life of kids screaming and wife&rsquo;s emotional demands on you. His already PMO weakened de-stressors are in no way ready to take the aggravation. At that time the PMOer, if he isn&rsquo;t already doing so, will fantasize the relief of internet porn that he promised himself that night. He will even allow himself to “take one step more” into the ‘forbidden’ area that he had previously self-excluded. He doesn&rsquo;t know why he does this but he does know that for some reason it appears to help.</p> <p>What has actually happened is this: without being conscious of it, he has already been suffering aggravation (i.e. the withdrawal pangs). By partially relieving that aggravation at the same time as normal stress, the total stress is reduced and the PMOer gets a boost. At this point the boost is not, in fact, an illusion. The Internet porn user will feel better than before. However, even when using porn to masturbate he or she is more tense than if he were a non-PMOer because the more you go into the drug, the more it knocks you down and the less it restores you when you masturbate. I promised no shock treatment. In the example I am about to give, I am not trying to shock you, I am merely emphasizing that PMO destroy your nerves rather than relax them.</p> <p>Try to imagine getting to the stage where you cannot get aroused even with a very sexy and attractive partner. Just for a moment pause and try to visualize life where one very lovely and charming woman has to compete and fail with all the virtual porn stars who are in your &lsquo;harem&rsquo; to get your attention! Try to imagine the frame of mind of a man who, issued with that warning, actually continues PMOing and then dies without ever having had real sex with this charming and willing real woman. I had read real life stories like that from men and dismissed them as weirdos. In fact, I used to wish a doctor would tell me that this weird condition would happen if I continue PMO; then I would have stopped. Yet I was already fully expecting that PIED and hypofrontality where I am guaranteed to lose in a brain war. I didn&rsquo;t think of myself as an impotent, just a heavy PMOer. Now, let’s talk about the stress that this is putting on me.</p> <p>Such weird stories as the above are not fakes. That is what this awful ‘novelty’ porn drug does to you. As you go through life, it systematically takes away your nerve and courage. The more it takes your courage away, the more you are deluded into believing the porn is doing the opposite.</p> @@ -3992,7 +4056,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:36:16 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-08-relieving-withdrawal-pangs/ - <p>As I explained earlier, PMOers think they do it for enjoyment, relaxation or some sort of education. In fact, this an illusion. The actual reason is the relief of withdrawal pangs. In the early days we use the porn as a curious and novel thing or even educational or as a rebel. We can take it or leave it. However, the subtle chain has started. Our subconscious mind begins to learn that internet porn and masturbation taken at certain times tends to be pleasurable. The more we become hooked on the drug, the greater the need to relieve the withdrawal pangs and the further the PMO drags you down and the more you are fooled into believing it is doing the opposite. It all happens so slowly, so gradually, you are not even aware of it. Each day you feel no different from the day before. Most young PMOers don&rsquo;t even realize they are hooked until they actually try to stop and even then many won&rsquo;t admit to it. A few stalwarts just keep their heads in the sand all their lives,trying to convince themselves and other people that they enjoy it.</p> + <h2 id="relieving-withdrawal-pangs">Relieving Withdrawal Pangs <a class="anchor" href="#relieving-withdrawal-pangs"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As I explained earlier, PMOers think they do it for enjoyment, relaxation or some sort of education. In fact, this an illusion. The actual reason is the relief of withdrawal pangs. In the early days we use the porn as a curious and novel thing or even educational or as a rebel. We can take it or leave it. However, the subtle chain has started. Our subconscious mind begins to learn that internet porn and masturbation taken at certain times tends to be pleasurable. The more we become hooked on the drug, the greater the need to relieve the withdrawal pangs and the further the PMO drags you down and the more you are fooled into believing it is doing the opposite. It all happens so slowly, so gradually, you are not even aware of it. Each day you feel no different from the day before. Most young PMOers don&rsquo;t even realize they are hooked until they actually try to stop and even then many won&rsquo;t admit to it. A few stalwarts just keep their heads in the sand all their lives,trying to convince themselves and other people that they enjoy it.</p> <p>Listen to this conversation a therapist had with hundreds of teenagers.</p> <blockquote> <p>TH: “You realize that internet porn is a drug and that the only reason why you are using is that you cannot stop.”</p> @@ -4022,33 +4088,29 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 08:39:02 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-07-brainwashing-and-the-primitive-mechanism/ - <p>How or why do we start PMOing in the first place? To understand this fully you need to examine the powerful effect of the supernormal stimulus. We all tend to think we are intelligent, dominant human beings determining our paths through life. We act and act frequently when our brain reward circuit are rewarded. Nobel laureate Nikolaas Tinbergen coined the term “supranormal stimulus.” He said mammals could be tricked into preferring fake eggs and mates. Female birds, for example, struggled to sit on larger-than life, vividly spotted plaster eggs while their own pale, dappled eggs perished untended.</p> + <h2 id="brainwashing-and-the-primitive-mechanism">Brainwashing and the Primitive Mechanism <a class="anchor" href="#brainwashing-and-the-primitive-mechanism"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>How or why do we start PMOing in the first place? To understand this fully you need to examine the powerful effect of the supernormal stimulus. We all tend to think we are intelligent, dominant human beings determining our paths through life. We act and act frequently when our brain reward circuit are rewarded. Nobel laureate Nikolaas Tinbergen coined the term “supranormal stimulus.” He said mammals could be tricked into preferring fake eggs and mates. Female birds, for example, struggled to sit on larger-than life, vividly spotted plaster eggs while their own pale, dappled eggs perished untended.</p> <p>The stimulation here in internet porn is not it brings stimulating actors and themes to your home - it is a genie at your bidding to create a harem in your mind. You can switch between genres and theme, home-made and viewer rated, commented and discussed, so rapid and so easy. We absolutely are not ready for the high speed internet porn and our brains are not designed to handle this supranormal stimuli.</p> <p>We can have an ‘information overload’ from the same internet but our reward circuits are not going to squirt dopamine at the levels when ‘porn overload’ is involved. We are evolutionarily programmed to seek and access sex related stuff. And we wrongly appraise the stimulus mostly based on this reward circuit action. If all you wanted is to masturbate why can’t you just use one clip and get the business done?</p> <p>Here is another question - next time after a long day or some stressful incident can you consciously embellish your self-talk with “Do you know what I would really enjoy today? The marvellous warm glow of dopamine rush going to my online harem.” You will find that even people who dislike PMO will join you.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="past-misguided-advice"><strong>Past Misguided Advice</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#past-misguided-advice"> +<h2 id="past-misguided-advice">Past Misguided Advice <a class="anchor" href="#past-misguided-advice"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.</p> +</a></h2><p>There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.</p> <p>From our earliest years our subconscious minds are bombarded daily with information telling us that sex is good and that the most precious thing on this earth is to ‘achieve’ orgasm. Girls are taught to achieve it and claim it&rsquo;s because they were wrongly suppressed of their sexual side for a very long time and still are. You think I exaggerate? Watch any TV or movie plot and you will see the mix-up of the amative (touch, smell, voice etc.) and the propagative (orgasmic) sides of sex. The impact of this does not register on our conscious minds but the sleeping partner, the subconscious mind, has time to absorb it. What the message is really saying is, “The most precious thing on this earth, my last thought and action, will be the goal of orgasm.” If you don’t have an orgasm then you are an old man with zero libido.</p> <p>Our children are being bombarded by sex and porn clips and many don’t even know how to protect them from it all. Large hoardings and magazine adverts are loaded with sexual innuendo. Some of the pop videos are extremely suggestive - again they hide behind free speech. Don’t be vexed and feel powerless about it. Make it a game and find you which of the components they are using - is it novelty, shock value, color, size, taboo etc. If the kids are pre-teen some of these can be disclosed to them and it would make an excellent show-and-tell game.</p> <p>A while back there was a wave of ‘leaked’ private videos of celebrities on the internet. If the youngster is too smitten by their favourite star, even if the conscious mind blames the ‘leak’ on the blood thirsty internet paparazzi, the &lsquo;sleeping partner&rsquo; is patiently digesting the notion that, “yes, even my shambolic hero does it and if I don’t, I won’t look the part.”</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-scientific-reasoning"><strong>The Scientific Reasoning</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-scientific-reasoning"> +<h2 id="the-scientific-reasoning">The Scientific Reasoning <a class="anchor" href="#the-scientific-reasoning"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>, Reboot<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> forums, underground PUA<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup>, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn&rsquo;t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.</p> +</a></h2><p>True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>, Reboot<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> forums, underground PUA<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup>, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn&rsquo;t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.</p> <p>Ironically, the most powerful force in this melee of confusion is the PMOer himself. It is a fallacy that they are weak-willed or are physically weak specimens. You have to be physically strong in order to cope with an addiction after you know it is. This is one of the reasons why PMOers refuse to accept the overwhelming statistics that prove that internet porn with its ‘novelty’ cripples your brain. Add to that the sexologists who are doing half-baked studies and declare PMO is not an issue - they just help to add to the confusion.</p> <p>Everyone knows a friend who PMOed every day - he started with the ‘static’ to internet porn, always horny in real life, chasing girls and you never doubted him to have sex problems of course. You want to believe him. He never complained about any ED right? Guys and girls like them refuse even to consider the hundreds of ex-addicts and non-PMOers who painfully recount their difficulties. It is the “little monster” brain chemical addiction and the “big monster” - illusions and delusions. In this hackbook, I&rsquo;ve put together almost all the sorts of brainwashing a PMOer can suffer from. There will always be a few out there that I haven&rsquo;t touched upon.</p> <p>Even more painful is they think of themselves as unsuccessful losers and insufferable introverts. A possible fact is that a PMO friend could have been more interesting in person if he hadn’t put himself down for seeking self-pleasure.</p> <p>If you do a small survey among your online forum members, friends and colleagues, you will find that most PMOers are, in fact, strong-willed people. They tend to be self-employed, business executives or in certain specialized professions, such as doctors<sup id="fnref:4"><a href="#fn:4" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">4</a></sup>, lawyers, policemen, teachers, salesmen, nurses, secretaries, housewives with children, etc. In other words, anybody leading a stressful existence. Yes, I did include women and mothers. It’s the brain and it’s the same for them too. The main delusion of the PMOer is that porn helps to masturbate to orgasm and that relieves stress. This tends to be associated with the dominant type, the type that takes on responsibility and stress and, of course, that is the type that we admire and therefore tend to copy. Another group that tends to get hooked are people in monotonous jobs because the other main reason for PMOing is boredom. However, the idea that internet porn relieves boredom is also an illusion, I am afraid.</p> <p>As a society we get all uptight about glue-sniffing, heroin addiction, etc. Actual deaths from glue-sniffing do not amount to ten per annum, and deaths from heroin are less than a hundred a year in this country. There is another drug, internet porn, on which over 45 per cent of us become hooked at some time in our lives and the majority spend the rest of their lives regretting it. Some even don’t know that their ED is due to this.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-willpower-method"><strong>The Willpower Method</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method"> +<h2 id="the-willpower-method">The Willpower Method <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why?</p> +</a></h2><p>PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why?</p> <p>Constant exposure to internet porn re-wires your brain. You need to start building resistance to this brainwashing, just as if you were buying a car from a second-hand car dealer. You would be nodding politely but you would not believe a word the man was saying. So don’t believe everything they say either - that you must have sex as much as you can and you must have it exceptional good. And that in the absence of real sex you claim it by the substitute called internet porn - which is only a component of the good old porn.</p> <p>And don’t play ‘safe’ porn game either - because your “little porn monster” invented that scheme to lure you. Even the content - ‘amateur’? Really? Is there a certification authority that certifies it? Tube sites and porn producers gather site visitor profiles and cater to their needs. If they see a trend in crowd sourced collection of a particular genre they will focus on that and get content out ASAP. The statistics of what genre users like is collected to the level of how long and which portion the users were preferring. Do not be fooled by their educational intent or the safe female oriented clips (for you ladies). Start asking yourself:</p> <ul> @@ -4058,27 +4120,21 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p><strong>NO, OF COURSE YOU DON&rsquo;T.</strong></p> <p>I find this brainwashing aspect the most difficult of all to explain. Why is it that an otherwise rational, intelligent human being becomes a complete imbecile about his own addiction? It pains me to confess that out of the thousands of people that I have assisted in kicking the habit, I (not Allen Carr) was the biggest idiot of all.</p> <p>At the age of thirteen, although I was doing well at school and games, I was still an insufferable introvert. I read books from the library that were not within my main study list. However, I can see that I was attracted to erotica. I started masturbating to TV programs, song and dance sequences etc. I must have to have it every day. The tired feeling I felt was misappropriated by my ‘little porn monster’ as work stress. I didn’t know my “I-must-masturbate-as-I-am-entitled” attitude was the one that created the ‘stress’ in the first place. Then I got pictures and GIFs via email on my laptop - the first step towards electronic porn. The colour and texture of the images were amazing for me at that time - won’t be now for sure. Then came dial-up but still they were predominantly static pictures. Then came downloadable videos. It’s a pain to download and watch now - but it was heaven sent then as we were coming out of the static porn era! Oh, the streaming tube sites haven’t arrived yet.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"><strong>When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"> +<h2 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore">When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore <a class="anchor" href="#when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn.</p> +</a></h2><p>I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn.</p> <p>At the age of forty, I was visiting my online harem daily, drinking ‘socially’ (whatever that means) and smoking ‘sometimes’ but not so often. I had wrongly subscribed to misguided ideas of ‘moderation’ and ‘entitlement’. I had reached the stage where I couldn&rsquo;t get through a single day without reaching out to porn in the night. With most PMOers, the triggers are the normal stresses of life, like answering the telephone or socializing.</p> <p>When I experienced PIED - I knew it was killing my virility. There was no way I could kid myself otherwise. I am smart enough not to ‘project’ the porn fantasies on to real life. But it was like pacifying a dog straining at its leash. But why I couldn&rsquo;t see what it was doing to me mentally, I could not understand. It was almost jumping up and biting me on the nose. The ridiculous thing is that most PMOers suffer the delusion at some time in their life that they enjoy internet porn because it is ‘normal’ and ‘healthy’. I never suffered that delusion, I PMOed because I thought enjoying sex is a ‘birthright’ and I am only doing a normal thing.</p> <p>Since it was easier at most times for me to get internet porn than a partner I thought I am doing the normal thing. Now I am a non-PMOer, the most difficult part is trying to believe that those days actually happened. It&rsquo;s like awakening from a nightmare and that is about the size of it. Internet porn is a supranormal drug. It is weakening your de-stressing mechanisms, your virility and your energy. The worst aspect of PMO isn&rsquo;t the injury to your health or manliness, it is the warping of the mind. You search for any plausible excuse to go on.</p> <p>I remember at one stage switching to static images, a failed attempt to cut down on internet porn, in the belief that it was less harmful and I could reign in my ‘habit’. I failed to see the ‘novelty’ and the ‘shock’ demands from my ‘little monster’ to just get more dopamine. Did I ‘stay’ within my boundaries? I ‘favorited’ 2 dimensional photos and my harem collection saw pictures and videos of ‘mild’ type porn rotating in and out like musical chair. When their ‘music’ stopped they ‘exited’. I didn’t understand the novelty-seeking, shock-seeking nature of my brain.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pied-and-my-excuses"><strong>PIED And My Excuses</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pied-and-my-excuses"> +<h2 id="pied-and-my-excuses">PIED And My Excuses <a class="anchor" href="#pied-and-my-excuses"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.</p> +</a></h2><p>Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.</p> <p>Most PMOers swear that they only watch static and soft porn and so they are OK. They are actually straining at the leash and thus fighting with their willpower to resist temptations. If they do this too often and for too long they will debit their willpower considerably and fail in other life projects where willpower is of much great value, like in daily exercise, dieting etc. Continuous failure in those areas will make them feel miserable and guilty and very soon they will find themselves back to their entitled relief. If not, they will vent their anger and depression onto their loved ones.</p> <p>The answer is that once you have become addicted to internet porn, the brainwashing is increased. Your subconscious mind knows that the little monster has to be fed and you block everything else from your mind. As I have already stated, it is fear that keeps people quitting, the fear of that empty, insecure feeling that you get when you stop supplying the brain with dopamine flooding. Just because you are not aware of it doesn&rsquo;t mean it isn&rsquo;t there. You don&rsquo;t have to understand it any more than a cat needs to understand where the under-floor hot-water pipes are. It just knows that if it sits in a certain place it gets the feeling of warmth.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind"><strong>The Passivity Of Our Mind</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-passivity-of-our-mind"> +<h2 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind">The Passivity Of Our Mind <a class="anchor" href="#the-passivity-of-our-mind"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I&rsquo;ve frequently referred to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo; PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo;, but to stopping, quitting or the true position: <strong>ESCAPING!</strong></p> +</a></h2><p>It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I&rsquo;ve frequently referred to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo; PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo;, but to stopping, quitting or the true position: <strong>ESCAPING!</strong></p> <p>The only thing that persuades us to PMO in the first place is all the other people doing it. We feel we are missing out. We work so hard to become hooked, yet nobody ever finds out what they have been missing. But every time we see another new video clip it reassures us that there must be something in it, otherwise people wouldn&rsquo;t be doing it - and it wouldn&rsquo;t be such big business all over the world. Even when he has kicked the habit, the ex-PMOer feels he is being deprived when a discussion on a sexy entertainer, singer or even a porn star comes up at a party or other social function. She or he must be good to have all my friends talk about them, no? Do they have ‘hot’ pictures of her in my tube site? He feels safe. He can have just one ‘peek’ that night. And, before he knows it, he is hooked again.</p> <p>This brainwashing is extremely powerful and you need to be aware of its effects. I have heard scare stories about wicked men giving heroin mixed candies to kids at schoolyards. The concept of addiction and being compelled to go on taking the drug, filled me with horror. Even to this day, in spite of the fact that I am fairly convinced that &lsquo;pot&rsquo; is not addictive, I would not dare take one puff of marijuana. How ironic that I should have ended up a porn junky. Technology will continue to grow and we will have even faster tube sites and more faster access methods. The industry is investing millions in Virtual Reality so it will become the next best thing. The point is, do we know where we are going? Are we equipped with an under armour of defence so we can enjoy the benefits of technology yet at the same time protect ourselves from its bad effects?</p> <p>We are about to remove the brainwashing. It is not the non-PMOer who is being deprived but the poor user who is forfeiting a lifetime of:</p> @@ -4120,15 +4176,15 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:44:00 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-06-internet-porn/ - <p>Erotic novelty of the internet porn is a mental ‘drug’ and internet porn beats anything that is known to mankind and its streaming straight to your home for free ! We are not even talking VR virtual reality here. Porn triggers the ‘flooding’ of dopamine in our brain. Dopamine amps up the brain reward circuitry to produce experiences and feels of cravings and pleasure by locking themselves into ‘receptors’. More dopamine more wanting. Less dopamine no wanting. New experiences, tasty food - more dopamine - more wanting. Sex and sex related stuff gives the biggest injection of dopamine in the reward circuits. Dopamine is not the final pleasure stuff, if it were you would feel happy when you are done with it, but it is only a brain chemical that encourages seeking and action in you. The real pleasure is produced by opioids. More dopamine more opioids more + <h2 id="internet-porn">Internet Porn <a class="anchor" href="#internet-porn"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Erotic novelty of the internet porn is a mental ‘drug’ and internet porn beats anything that is known to mankind and its streaming straight to your home for free ! We are not even talking VR virtual reality here. Porn triggers the ‘flooding’ of dopamine in our brain. Dopamine amps up the brain reward circuitry to produce experiences and feels of cravings and pleasure by locking themselves into ‘receptors’. More dopamine more wanting. Less dopamine no wanting. New experiences, tasty food - more dopamine - more wanting. Sex and sex related stuff gives the biggest injection of dopamine in the reward circuits. Dopamine is not the final pleasure stuff, if it were you would feel happy when you are done with it, but it is only a brain chemical that encourages seeking and action in you. The real pleasure is produced by opioids. More dopamine more opioids more action more happy feelings.</p> <p>So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. All of which will now be stored as a script in your brain for easy access next time. I call this a ‘water slide’. Next time at the cue - a sexy commercial or alone time or stress or feeling a little down - you are ready to take a ride on the ‘water slide’. One more thing is that every time to repeat this you are ‘greasing’ it as well - so it is active, alive and more easier to slide the next time.</p> <p>As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating. Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish, ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you won’t on your first time.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="my-own-online-harem"><strong>My Own Online Harem!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#my-own-online-harem"> +<h2 id="my-own-online-harem">My Own Online Harem! <a class="anchor" href="#my-own-online-harem"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost.</p> +</a></h2><p>This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost.</p> <p>Going back to the earlier discussion - in this cycle as you crossed the ‘red line’ you also trigger emotions such as guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety and fear - which in turn raise dopamine levels as well. Now the brain may mistakenly associate feelings of anxiety and fear as sexual arousal. This perpetual cycle is only broken by natural causes - fortunately sooner or later. With its free access and privacy it provides boundless harem-like novelty. The dopamine can be theoretically kept very high for a very very long time. I can be satisfied with one lobster once in awhile. But Internet porn is different. It is even worse than drugs. Don’t let me make you nervous. I will shortly show you how to be free from this slavery.</p> <p>Now our human body has a self-correcting system by which the number of dopamine and opioid receptors are cut short when frequent and daily ‘flooding’ of dopamine is detected. Unfortunately - these receptors are also needed for receiving dopamine and to keep us even and balanced to handle the inevitable and normal day-to-day stresses. But this natural nominal amount of dopamine will not be absorbed efficiently with decreased receptors and you will feel mores tressed and irritated than normal.</p> <blockquote> @@ -4140,18 +4196,14 @@ action more happy feelings.</p> <p>A fleeting feeling of security is all that is needed to get through a rough spot in life - but will your brain be able to catch that drop of de-stressor that a non-PMOers’ brain is able to catch and use?</p> <p>This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I will explain more about this later.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-little-monster"><strong>The Little Monster</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-little-monster"> +<h2 id="the-little-monster">The Little Monster <a class="anchor" href="#the-little-monster"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&rsquo; we think we just &lsquo;got into the habit&rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.</p> +</a></h2><p>The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&rsquo; we think we just &lsquo;got into the habit&rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.</p> <p>Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, resulting in the feeling of fulfilment and pleasure that the action gives to the PMOer. In the early days, when we first start PMOing, the withdrawal pangs and their relief are so slight that we are not even aware that they exist. When we begin to masturbate regularly to internet porn we think it is because we&rsquo;ve either come to enjoy them or got into the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. The truth is we&rsquo;re already hooked; we do not realize it, but that little monster is already inside our stomach and every now and again we have to feed it.</p> <p>All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster. The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had before he became hooked in the first place.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm"><strong>The Annoying Burglar Alarm</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-annoying-burglar-alarm"> +<h2 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm">The Annoying Burglar Alarm <a class="anchor" href="#the-annoying-burglar-alarm"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we +</a></h2><p>You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain goes on. It is a chain for life - <strong>UNLESS YOU BREAK IT</strong>.</p> <p>The whole business of PMO is like wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure you feel when you take them off. There are three main reasons why PMOers cannot see things that way:</p> <ol> @@ -4162,11 +4214,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <p>It is this &lsquo;back to front&rsquo; reverse process that makes all drugs difficult to kick. Picture the panic state of a heroin addict who has no heroin. Now picture the utter joy when that addict can finally plunge a needle into his vein. Can you visualize someone actually getting pleasure by injecting themselves, or does the mere thought fill you with horror? Non-heroin addicts don&rsquo;t suffer that panic feeling.</p> <p>The heroin doesn&rsquo;t relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a 14 year old in 2008 - didn&rsquo;t suffer the empty feeling of needing internet porn or start to panic when they are off- line. Non-PMOers cannot understand how PMOers can possibly obtain pleasure from two dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. And do you know something? PMOers themselves cannot understand why they do it after some time either.</p> <p>We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don&rsquo;t non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their &rsquo;little monster&rsquo;?</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch"><strong>A Pleasure or Crutch?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#a-pleasure-or-crutch"> +<h2 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch">A Pleasure or Crutch? <a class="anchor" href="#a-pleasure-or-crutch"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;I need to eat.&rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.</p> +</a></h2><p>Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;I need to eat.&rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.</p> <p>PMOing appears to be almost identical. The empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;wanting or needing an PMO orgasm’ is identical to a hunger for food, although one will not satisfy the other. Like hunger, there is no physical pain and the feeling is so imperceptible that we are not even aware of it between PMO sessions. It&rsquo;s only if we want to masturbate and aren&rsquo;t able to reach internet for porn that we become aware of any discomfort. But when we do PMO we feel satisfied.</p> <p>It is this similarity to eating which helps to fool PMOers into believing that they receive some genuine pleasure. Some PMOers find it very difficult to grasp that there is no pleasure or crutch, whatsoever to PMO. Some argue: “How can you say there is no crutch? When I orgasm up then I&rsquo;llfeel less nervous than before.”</p> <p>Although eating and PMOing appear to be very similar. In fact they are exact opposites:</p> @@ -4175,17 +4225,13 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <li>Food does genuinely taste good, and eating is a genuinely pleasant experience that we can enjoy throughout our lives, whereas PMOing involves self-sabotaging the happiness receptors and thus destroying your chances to cope and to feel happy.</li> <li>Eating doesn&rsquo;t create hunger and genuinely relieves it, whereas the first PMO starts the craving for dopamine and each subsequent one, far from relieving it, ensures that you suffer it for the rest of life.</li> </ol> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pmo-is-a-habit"><strong>PMO is a Habit?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pmo-is-a-habit"> +<h2 id="pmo-is-a-habit">PMO is a Habit? <a class="anchor" href="#pmo-is-a-habit"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.</p> +</a></h2><p>This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.</p> <p>On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience, I also refer to the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> - we have to then have more bizarre and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting&hellip; not in the killing. If we don&rsquo;t then panic sets in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great!</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="crossing-the-red-line"><strong>Crossing The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#crossing-the-red-line"> +<h2 id="crossing-the-red-line">Crossing The Red Line <a class="anchor" href="#crossing-the-red-line"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.</p> +</a></h2><p>This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.</p> <p>You feel better than you did before starting this PMO session but you are in fact more nervous and less relaxed than you would be as a non-PMOer, like someone who is living in Loma Linda or in an Amish village, even though you are actually PMOing and living in your supposed “porn paradise.” This position is even more ridiculous than wearing tight shoes because as you go through life an increasing amount of the discomfort remains even when the shoes are removed.</p> <p>Once the orgasm is achieved, the dopamine rapidly begins to leave the brain, causing a mood dip. Which explains why the PMOer wants to ‘edge’<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> and switch through multiple browser windows as they seek and search. As I said, the ‘habit’ doesn&rsquo;t exist. The real reason why every user goes on using internet porn is because of that little porn monster inside his stomach. Every now and again he has to feed it. The PMOer himself will decide when he does that and it tends to be on four types of occasion or a combination of them.</p> <p>These occasions are:</p> @@ -4195,25 +4241,19 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to </ul> <p>What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If you think about it, what other types of occasion are there in our lives; apart from sleep? The truth is that PMO neither relieves boredom and stress nor promotes concentration and relaxation. It is all just illusion. Apart from being a drug, PMO is also a destroyer of happiness and virility.</p> <p>In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes, print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’ and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive without knowing the difference between food and poison.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"><strong>Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"> +<h2 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics">Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics <a class="anchor" href="#brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!</p> +</a></h2><p>Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!</p> <p>When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were titillating but most were disgusting, causing you to avert your eyes away. Like you would if had accidentally glanced a feeding mother’s breast. And some of us are even revolted with what they saw when the star reminded them of someone dear to their heart or a scene which recalled their own instance of being the victim. Some don’t feel like it to browse and masturbate at the same time. It may be hard to believe for you but the non-PMOs, who don’t PMO after their first time, are the lucky ones. They actually decided that it was not their cup of tea. It must be hard for you to believe but stay with me.</p> <p>How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even after a hard day? Why not? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That&rsquo;s all.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak"><strong>Are PMOers Mentally Weak?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#are-pmoers-mentally-weak"> +<h2 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak">Are PMOers Mentally Weak? <a class="anchor" href="#are-pmoers-mentally-weak"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.</p> +</a></h2><p>It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.</p> <p>To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to become hooked, and this is why it is difficult to stop teenagers. Because they are skilled in seeking and finding material, they know online privacy options and can clean their tracks - if they still feel some stigma and they (wrongfully) believe they can stop whenever they want to. Why do they not learn from us? Then again, why did we not learn from our PMOers and addicts?</p> <p>Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of ‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying is the ritual of relieving those pangs.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"><strong>The High From The Dance Around The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"> +<h2 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line">The High From The Dance Around The Red Line <a class="anchor" href="#the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.</p> +</a></h2><p>Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.</p> <p>Ask a user who believes that he sticks to a certain actor or genre - only because he likes something about the star or the theme (if any) of the clip: “If you cannot get your normal brand of porn and can only obtain a poor or unsafe brand, do you stop masturbating?” No way. A PMOer will masturbate to anything rather than abstain and it doesn&rsquo;t matter if he has to switch to escalating themes, different sex-orientation-themes, look-alike actresses, dangerous settings shocking relationships etc. To begin with they taste awful but if you persevere you will learn to like them. Most PMOers will also try to seek masturbation even after having real sex (unfulfilment, porn-induced unrealistic expectations etc.), or after a long, stressful work day, fever, colds, flu, sore throats and even when admitted in hospitals.</p> <p>Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wanted then it makes no sense to be with your laptop. During my conversation some PMOers find it alarming to realize they are drug addicts and think it will make it even more difficult to stop. In fact, it is all good news for two important reasons:</p> <ol> @@ -4221,18 +4261,14 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <li>Although internet porn is the most powerful trigger for ‘novelty’ and ‘sex’ based dopamine ‘flooding’ - because of the speed with which you become hooked, you are never badly hooked. The actual withdrawal pangs are so mild that most PMOers have lived and died without ever realizing that they have suffered them.</li> </ol> <p>You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc. The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn&rsquo;t bother the PMOers.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-smokers-analogy"><strong>The Smokers Analogy</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-smokers-analogy"> +<h2 id="the-smokers-analogy">The Smokers Analogy <a class="anchor" href="#the-smokers-analogy"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they&rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn&rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.</p> +</a></h2><p>A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they&rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn&rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.</p> <p>PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their parents while visiting for family get togethers etc. with little discomfort to themselves. In fact, most PMOers have extended periods during which they abstain without effort. Even in my case I would quite happily go a week or so without a PMO incident. In the later years as a PMOer I actually used to look forward to these days when I could stop choking my penis (what a ridiculous &lsquo;habit&rsquo;).</p> <p>The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"><strong>The Big Monster - The Brainwashing</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"> +<h2 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing">The Big Monster - The Brainwashing <a class="anchor" href="#the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.</p> +</a></h2><p>You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.</p> <p>Not all the amateurs are ‘amateurs’ on these tube sites, oversized body parts and overcharged scenarios are the norm, aided by a bit of the ‘viagran’ help.</p> <p>As I say, the actual porn addiction is not the main problem. It just acts as a catalyst to keep our minds confused over the real problem: the brainwashing. It may be of consolation to lifelong and heavy PMOers to know that it is just as easy for them to stop as casual PMOers. In a peculiar way. it is easier. The further you go along with the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;, the more it drags you down and the greater the gain when you stop.</p> <p>It may be of further consolation for you to know that the rumours that occasionally circulate that the neural pathways created are there for life, and so at the right (or wrong) time and with strong stimuli you will be sliding again down the ‘water slide’ of internet porn and masturbation to permanently destroy your real life sex are untrue.</p> @@ -4259,7 +4295,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:42:16 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-05-why-do-we-carry-on-with-pmo/ - <p>We all start PMOing for many reasons, usually social pressures or our biological curiosity, but once we feel we are becoming hooked, why do we carry on using porn? No regular PMOer knows why he or she looks at porn. If PMOers knew the true reason, they would stop doing it. The true answer is the same for all PMOers but the variety of replies is infinite, I find this part of the consultation the most amusing and at the same time the most pathetic.</p> + <h2 id="why-do-we-carry-on-with-pmo">Why Do We Carry on With PMO <a class="anchor" href="#why-do-we-carry-on-with-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>We all start PMOing for many reasons, usually social pressures or our biological curiosity, but once we feel we are becoming hooked, why do we carry on using porn? No regular PMOer knows why he or she looks at porn. If PMOers knew the true reason, they would stop doing it. The true answer is the same for all PMOers but the variety of replies is infinite, I find this part of the consultation the most amusing and at the same time the most pathetic.</p> <p>All PMOers know in their heart of hearts that they are fools. They know that they had no need to use porn or internet porn before they became hooked. Most of them can remember that their first ‘peek’ was a mix of revulsion and novel curiosity. They then filter out and get “skilled” at “locating” and “bookmarking” the right porn sites. They know that they had to work hard in order to become hooked.</p> <p>The most annoying part is that they sense that non-addicts - most women, older guys, people living in countries where hi-speed internet porn is not available “on tap” - are not missing anything and that they are laughing at them.</p> <p>However, PMOers are intelligent, rational human beings. They know that they are taking enormous future risks and so they spend a lot of time rationalizing their ‘habit’. The actual reason why PMOers continue is a subtle combination of the factors that I will elaborate in the next two chapters. They are:</p> @@ -4276,7 +4314,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:38:28 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-04-the-sinister-trap/ - <p>Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it&rsquo;s an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked.</p> + <h2 id="the-sinister-trap">The Sinister Trap <a class="anchor" href="#the-sinister-trap"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it&rsquo;s an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked.</p> <p>It is the only trap in nature which has does not require a lot of hard work to set up. The thing that springs the trap is not that all porn clips feature young, high quality, sexy models; it’s that most of the thumbnails on any porn web page are ugly looking, unattractive, amateurish, home-made clips of unknown models. If the first timer’s first look at a tube page was only filled with angelic beauties, professional models and high quality then the alarm bells would ring. And as intelligent human beings, we could then understand why half the adult population was systematically addicted to watching something that is cutting down their very same potential to do what they are viewing. In many known and yet unknown ways porn cuts down sexual performance and the feeling of satisfaction.</p> <p>But because that first “peek” has “stains and holes,” a mishmash of low quality clips of not-so-hot models, our young minds are reassured that we will never become hooked, and we think that because we are not enjoying them we can stop whenever we want to. It is the only drug in nature that prevents you from achieving your aim. Our curiosity brings us to its door steps. You dare not even click on all of the thumbnails because some of them will make you feel sick and throw up! If you were to accidentally click on an “I-did-not-see-that” clip - all you want to do is get away from the site and close your laptop.</p> <p>With women, the aim is to be the sophisticated modern young lady. We have all seen them acting up and looking absolutely ridiculous. By the time the boys have learnt to look tough and the girls have learnt to look sophisticated, they wish they had never started in the first place. I wonder whether women ever look sophisticated when they discuss the top 10 porn sites, or whether this is a figment of our imaginations created by internet porn companies.</p> @@ -4294,7 +4334,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:31:45 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-03-why-is-it-difficult-to-stop/ - <p>As I explained earlier, I got interested in this subject because of my own addiction. When I finally stopped it was like magic. When I had previously tried to stop there were weeks of black depression. There would be odd days when I was comparatively cheerful but the next day back with the depression. It was like clawing your way out of a slippery pit, you feel you are near the top, you see the sunshine and then find yourself sliding down again. Eventually you open your browser and as you masturbate you feel awful and you try to work out why you have to do it.</p> + <h2 id="why-is-it-difficult-to-stop">Why Is It Difficult to Stop? <a class="anchor" href="#why-is-it-difficult-to-stop"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As I explained earlier, I got interested in this subject because of my own addiction. When I finally stopped it was like magic. When I had previously tried to stop there were weeks of black depression. There would be odd days when I was comparatively cheerful but the next day back with the depression. It was like clawing your way out of a slippery pit, you feel you are near the top, you see the sunshine and then find yourself sliding down again. Eventually you open your browser and as you masturbate you feel awful and you try to work out why you have to do it.</p> <p>One of the questions I always ask online is: “do you want to stop PMO?” In a way it is a stupid question. All users (including members who dispute total abstinence) would love to stop PMO. If you ask to the most confirmed PMOer: “if you could go back to the time before you became hooked, with the knowledge you have now, would you have started PMO?”</p> <p>“NO WAY,” would be the reply.</p> <p>Say to the confirmed PMOer - someone who defends internet porn and who doesn&rsquo;t think that it cause injury to the brain (PIED, hypofrontality or the decreases in the dopamine receptors and etc.) - “do you encourage your children to use PMO?”</p> @@ -4343,12 +4385,14 @@ man and woman from performance based anxieties.&#160;<a href="#fnref: - 03-02 the Easy Method + 03-02 The Easy Method https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-02-the-easy-method/ Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:26:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-02-the-easy-method/ - <p>The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy.</p> + <h2 id="the-easy-method">The Easy Method <a class="anchor" href="#the-easy-method"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy.</p> <p>Provided that you are not a non-PMOer (who had never got addicted) or an ex-PMOer (who had quit or is in the fasting days of the porn-diet), it is essential to not quit until you have finished the book completely. This may appear to be a contradiction. Later I shall be explaining that porn do absolutely nothing for you at all. In fact, one of the many conundrums about internet porn is that when we are actually masturbating to a porn clip, we look at it and wonder why we are doing it. It is only when we have been deprived that the craving for PMO becomes precious.</p> <p>However, let us accept that, whether you like it or not, you believe you are hooked. When you believe you are hooked, you can never be completely relaxed or concentrate properly unless you are using PMO. So do not attempt to stop PMO before you have finished the whole book. This instruction to continue to masturbate using porn until you have completed the book has caused me more frustration than any other. As you read further your desire to masturbate to porn will gradually be reduced. Do not go off half-cocked; this could be fatal. Remember, all you have to do is to follow the instructions in the right order. When I first started writing on forums many of the readers also stopped purely because I had done it. They thought, “if he can do it, anybody can.”</p> <p>Over the years, I managed to persuade the ones that hadn&rsquo;t stopped to realize just how nice it is to be free! I gave my hackbook for free upon request. I worked on the basis that, even if it were the most boring book ever written, they would still read it, if only because it had been written by an ex-PMOer. I was surprised and hurt to learn that,they hadn&rsquo;t bothered to finish the book.</p> @@ -4380,12 +4424,14 @@ man and woman from performance based anxieties.&#160;<a href="#fnref: - 03-01 the Worst PMO Addict I Have Yet to Meet + 03-01 The Worst PMO Addict I Have Yet to Meet https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-01-the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet/ Tue, 20 Dec 2022 17:10:39 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-01-the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet/ - <p>Perhaps I should begin by describing my competence for writing this book. No, I am not a doctor or a psychiatrist; my qualifications are far more appropriate. I spent thirty years of my life as a confirmed fapper. In the later years I used porn on a daily bases to get orgasm(s).During my life I had made a great number of attempts to stop. I never got past a full week of abstinence, and I was still climbing up the wall, with an “annoying alarm clock beeping” in my head called craving. With most PMOers, on the health side, it&rsquo;s a question of “ I&rsquo;ll stop before it happens to me.” I had reached the stage where I knew it has caused PIED, hypofrontality (inability to control and execute action towards a goal), irritability, lack of energy, soulless eyes, mental dryness, stress and pain in the lower back, genital irritations. It bothered me, but it still didn&rsquo;t stop me.</p> + <h2 id="the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet">The Worst PMO Addict I Have Yet to Meet <a class="anchor" href="#the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Perhaps I should begin by describing my competence for writing this book. No, I am not a doctor or a psychiatrist; my qualifications are far more appropriate. I spent thirty years of my life as a confirmed fapper. In the later years I used porn on a daily bases to get orgasm(s).During my life I had made a great number of attempts to stop. I never got past a full week of abstinence, and I was still climbing up the wall, with an “annoying alarm clock beeping” in my head called craving. With most PMOers, on the health side, it&rsquo;s a question of “ I&rsquo;ll stop before it happens to me.” I had reached the stage where I knew it has caused PIED, hypofrontality (inability to control and execute action towards a goal), irritability, lack of energy, soulless eyes, mental dryness, stress and pain in the lower back, genital irritations. It bothered me, but it still didn&rsquo;t stop me.</p> <p>I felt lack of enthusiasm to go to gym or just a walk even if it’s sunny outside or simple weight lifting at home either. I had reached the stage where I gave up even trying to stop. I found excuses in substitute methods (controlled use, safe porn, porn-diet and etc. discussed later) as advocated by sexologists, forum users and medical pros - who have no idea of its effect on brain chemistry and who are themselves fooled by their &rsquo;little monster&rsquo; (not devil or satan - we will talk about monsters later) . The novelty trap and shock value provided by internet porn delivered at home with a low risk high reward deal is something that they can’t even think of. They are still in the static playboy era. And the younger ones have buried their heads under the sand so they can still continue to PMO.</p> <p>The worst part is it was not so much that I enjoyed the PMO. It was just doing it routinely, a chore - like slipping down the water slides, in fact there are brain water slides greased well by the neuro chemicals (DeltaFosB proteins made by dopamine which store emotion scripts for easy recall, will be discussing later). A simple cue such as a commercial, or a day to day stress that got ‘relieved’ temporarily by PMO is all it takes to complete the ride down the ‘waterslide’. Some time in their lives most PMOers have suffered from the illusion that they enjoy the ride, the novelty, the rush and of course the orgasm, but I never had that illusion.</p> <p>I have most times detested the porn, even when I liked the orgasm. But at all times I thought a release from PMO helped me to relax. It gave me courage and confidence, and I was always miserable when I tried to stop, never being able to visualize an enjoyable life without PMO. And so my PMO habit which had started before my marriage stayed with me during and after my marriage was over. I had experienced PIED but I blocked it out and found excuses , “it happens to every man”. Well it does of course - but &lsquo;it&rsquo; happened to me again and again. My penis, I found it difficult to get hard - when I am with real woman. Could it be because I had habituated it to work in limp mode? Later I found that it was hard for me to get hard even with porn.</p> @@ -4423,7 +4469,9 @@ Do not take anything for granted. Question not only what I tell you but also you Tue, 20 Dec 2022 16:58:54 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/02-02-sister-kenny/ - <p>You&rsquo;ve probably seen the film Sister Kenny. In case you haven&rsquo;t, it was about the time when infantile paralysis or polio was the scourge of our children. I vividly remember that the words engendered the same fear in me as the word cancer does today. The effect of polio was not only to paralyze the legs and arms but to distort the limbs. The established medical treatment was to put those limbs in irons and thus prevent the distortion. The result was paralysis for life.</p> + <h2 id="sister-kenny">Sister Kenny <a class="anchor" href="#sister-kenny"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>You&rsquo;ve probably seen the film Sister Kenny. In case you haven&rsquo;t, it was about the time when infantile paralysis or polio was the scourge of our children. I vividly remember that the words engendered the same fear in me as the word cancer does today. The effect of polio was not only to paralyze the legs and arms but to distort the limbs. The established medical treatment was to put those limbs in irons and thus prevent the distortion. The result was paralysis for life.</p> <p>Sister Kenny believed the irons inhibited recovery and proved a thousand times over that the muscles could be re-educated so that the child could walk again. However, Sister Kenny wasn&rsquo;t a doctor, she was merely a nurse. How dare she dabble in a province that was confined to qualified doctors? It didn&rsquo;t seem to matter that Sister Kenny had found the solution to the problem and had proved her solution to be effective. The children that were treated by Sister Kenny knew she was right, so did their parents, yet the established medical profession not only refused to adopt her methods but actually prevented her from practicing. It took Sister Kenny twenty years before the medical profession would accept the obvious.</p> <p>I (Allen Carr) first saw that film years before I (Allen Carr) discovered EASYWAY, The film was very interesting and no doubt there was an element of truth. However, it was equally obvious that Hollywood had used a large portion of poetic license. Sister Kenny couldn&rsquo;t possibly have discovered something that the combined knowledge of medical science had failed to discover. Surely the established medical specialists weren&rsquo;t the dinosaurs they were being portrayed as? How could it possibly have taken them twenty years to accept the facts that were staring them in the face?</p> <p>They say that fact is stranger than fiction, I apologize for accusing the makers of Sister Kenny for using poetic license. Even in this so-called enlightened age of modern communications, even having access to modern communications, I&rsquo;ve failed to get my message across.</p> @@ -4460,7 +4508,9 @@ Do not take anything for granted. Question not only what I tell you but also you Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:27:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/02-01-introduction/ - <div style="text-align: center;"> + <h2 id="introduction">Introduction <a class="anchor" href="#introduction"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><div style="text-align: center;"> <h2 id="im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo">&lsquo;I&rsquo;M GOING TO CURE THE WORLD OF PMO&rsquo; <a class="anchor" href="#im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> </a></h2></div> @@ -4506,7 +4556,9 @@ the world would also see the light and adopt my method.</li> Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:23:44 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/01-03-fear/ - <p>Fear that we will have to survive an indeterminate period of misery, deprivation and unsatisfied craving in order to be free. Fear that a night all by yourself or the eve of a test or exam will be miserable fighting uncontrollable impulses. Fear that we&rsquo;ll never be able to concentrate, handle stress or be as confident without our little crutch. Fear that our personality and character will change.</p> + <h2 id="fear">Fear <a class="anchor" href="#fear"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Fear that we will have to survive an indeterminate period of misery, deprivation and unsatisfied craving in order to be free. Fear that a night all by yourself or the eve of a test or exam will be miserable fighting uncontrollable impulses. Fear that we&rsquo;ll never be able to concentrate, handle stress or be as confident without our little crutch. Fear that our personality and character will change.</p> <p>But most of all, the fear of &lsquo;once an addict always an addict,&rsquo; that we will never be completely free and spend the rest of our lives at odd times craving the occasional porn induced orgasm. If, as I did, you have already tried all the conventional ways to quit and been through the misery of what I describe as the willpower method of stopping, you will not only be affected by that fear, but convinced you can never quit.</p> <p>If you are apprehensive, panic-stricken or feel that the time is not right for you to give up, then let me assure you that your apprehension or panic is caused by fear. That fear is not relieved by PMO but was indeed created by PMO. You didn&rsquo;t decide to fall into the porn trap. But like all traps, it is designed to ensure that you remain trapped. Ask yourself, when you viewed those first porn pictures and videos, did you decide to come back to view them as long as you have? So when are you going to quit? Tomorrow? Next year? Stop kidding yourself! The trap is designed to hold you for life. Why else do you think all these other PMO addicts don&rsquo;t quit before it kills their lives?</p> <p>As you will soon be reading, the feedbacks I got has revealed information that has exceeded my wildest aspirations of the effectiveness of my method. It has also revealed two aspects of the method that have caused me concern. The second I will be covering later.</p> @@ -4537,7 +4589,9 @@ the world would also see the light and adopt my method.</li> Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:19:35 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/01-02-warning/ - <p>Perhaps you are somewhat apprehensive about reading this book. Perhaps, like the majority of PMO addicts, the mere thought of stopping fills you with panic and although you have every intention of stopping one day, it is not today.</p> + <h2 id="warning">Warning <a class="anchor" href="#warning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Perhaps you are somewhat apprehensive about reading this book. Perhaps, like the majority of PMO addicts, the mere thought of stopping fills you with panic and although you have every intention of stopping one day, it is not today.</p> <p>If you are expecting me to inform you of the terrible health issues that PMO addicts risk, that they are susceptible to be affected by PIED (porn induced erectile disfunction), unreliable arousals, fading penetration, loss of interest in real partners,loss of control over themselves, loss of relationships, that it is a filthy, disgusting habit and that <em>YOU</em> are a stupid, spineless, weak-willed jellyfish, then I must disappoint you. Those tactics never helped me to quit and if they were going to help you, you would already have quit.</p> <p>Our Method, which I shall refer to as EASYPEASY doesn&rsquo;t work that way. Some of the things that I am about to say, you might find difficult to believe. However by the time you&rsquo;ve finished reading the book, you&rsquo;ll not only believe them, but wonder how you could ever have been brainwashed into believing otherwise.</p> <p>There is a common misapprehension that we choose to watch porn. PMO addicts ( yes addicts) no more choose to do that than alcoholics choose to become alcoholics, or heroin addicts choose to become heroin addicts. It is true that we choose to boot up the laptop, fire up the browser and visit our favourite online harem<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> tube sites. I occasionally choose to go to the cinema, but I certainly didn&rsquo;t choose to spend my whole life in the cinema theatre. The curiosity and my nature took me there but I would not have done that if I had known it would addict me and cause me my health, happiness and relationships. Only if I had heard about PIED on my first visit to that porn site?</p> @@ -4562,7 +4616,9 @@ the world would also see the light and adopt my method.</li> Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:14:52 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/01-01-preface/ - <p>This hackbook will enable you to stop PMO, immediately, painlessly, and permanently, without the need for Willpower or feeling any sense of deprivation or sacrifice. It will not judge you. It will not embarrass you. It will not put pressure on you to undergo painful measures.</p> + <h2 id="preface">Preface <a class="anchor" href="#preface"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This hackbook will enable you to stop PMO, immediately, painlessly, and permanently, without the need for Willpower or feeling any sense of deprivation or sacrifice. It will not judge you. It will not embarrass you. It will not put pressure on you to undergo painful measures.</p> <p>That goes against everything you&rsquo;ve ever been told about PMO. But ask yourself what you&rsquo;ve been told before worked for you? If it had, you wouldn&rsquo;t be reading this site.</p> <ul> <li>Instantaneous</li> diff --git a/new-site/public/library/ted-kaczynski/index.xml b/new-site/public/library/ted-kaczynski/index.xml index 9130fe07..10714a33 100644 --- a/new-site/public/library/ted-kaczynski/index.xml +++ b/new-site/public/library/ted-kaczynski/index.xml @@ -2620,7 +2620,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:22:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-05/ - <p>“Go inside and try in vain to have the same problem. It was a terrible problem, wasn&rsquo;t it? You want to make changes, haven&rsquo;t you?&hellip; What would it be like when you have made those changes, now? In the future as you look back and see what it was like to have had that problem&hellip; as you think about it now, if you could make this change for yourself so that you could STOP&hellip; having made that change and see yourself now. Do you like the way you look if you could make that change and look back at yourself having made that change now!”</p> + <h2 id="scripts-05">Scripts-05 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-05"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>“Go inside and try in vain to have the same problem. It was a terrible problem, wasn&rsquo;t it? You want to make changes, haven&rsquo;t you?&hellip; What would it be like when you have made those changes, now? In the future as you look back and see what it was like to have had that problem&hellip; as you think about it now, if you could make this change for yourself so that you could STOP&hellip; having made that change and see yourself now. Do you like the way you look if you could make that change and look back at yourself having made that change now!”</p> <p>Credit to <a href="http://www.hypnosis.com/scripts_full.php?id2=48">http://www.hypnosis.com/scripts_full.php?id2=48</a></p> @@ -2631,7 +2633,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:21:45 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-04/ - <p>To an individual who has had a PMO problem, porn is poison. It&rsquo;s poison in two ways. First of all it&rsquo;s poison because it breaks down the very will power, the very ego, the very faith in oneself that the individual is able to build up. And so it is a psychological poison because having once conquered the porn problem, if you ever allow it to get back into you again then you begin thinking about yourself all the thoughts that you thought about yourself before, namely, well I really am no good anyway, I really didn&rsquo;t lick it and so on. So it&rsquo;s a psychological poison.</p> + <h2 id="scripts-04">Scripts-04 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-04"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>To an individual who has had a PMO problem, porn is poison. It&rsquo;s poison in two ways. First of all it&rsquo;s poison because it breaks down the very will power, the very ego, the very faith in oneself that the individual is able to build up. And so it is a psychological poison because having once conquered the porn problem, if you ever allow it to get back into you again then you begin thinking about yourself all the thoughts that you thought about yourself before, namely, well I really am no good anyway, I really didn&rsquo;t lick it and so on. So it&rsquo;s a psychological poison.</p> <p>Now in addition to that for anyone who has ever had a porn problem, it&rsquo;s a physical poison. It actually poisons your system. Because you&rsquo;re allergic to porn just like other people are allergic to other things. And so if you&rsquo;re allergic to something, even penicillin, it&rsquo;s poison to you and you must never take it. The same is true with porn. If you&rsquo;re allergic to it, you&rsquo;re through with it. Now you&rsquo;ve been allergic to porn. porn is a poison to you. What&rsquo;s even more fascinating is that usually the reason why one is drawn to porn is not for most of the reasons that most people reiterate, namely that it makes me feel good, I like it, all these things. On the contrary, almost every person who has a porn problem will tell you just the opposite. I don&rsquo;t like it. It&rsquo;s ruining my life. It&rsquo;s terrible.</p> <p>And if that&rsquo;s true, then why are they drawn to it? For precisely that reason. Because it is a poison and because they in their subconscious mind need to commit suicide and so they do it the slow tortuous way. And so that&rsquo;s why it&rsquo;s so important that the underlying cause of the problem be completely removed so that you don&rsquo;t need to punish yourself again with porn. And that&rsquo;s why we have removed them.</p> <p>That&rsquo;s why you don&rsquo;t need to punish yourself anymore. Because you realize you&rsquo;re not guilty to begin with. And if you&rsquo;re not guilty you don&rsquo;t have to punish yourself. And since you&rsquo;re through punishing yourself, you&rsquo;re through poisoning yourself. Yes porn is a poison. It&rsquo;s important that you realize that it&rsquo;s a poison and you are leaving poisons alone. Because you don&rsquo;t need poison any more. You don&rsquo;t need to poison yourself. You don&rsquo;t need to punish yourself. You&rsquo;re through with all that.</p> @@ -2646,7 +2650,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:20:17 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-03/ - <p>Now as you sink deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance. You pay no attention to any other sound but the sound of my voice. You sink deeper and deeper with every breath you take. Deeper and deeper and deeper, way down, deeper and deeper relaxed.</p> + <h2 id="scripts-03">Scripts-03 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-03"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Now as you sink deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance. You pay no attention to any other sound but the sound of my voice. You sink deeper and deeper with every breath you take. Deeper and deeper and deeper, way down, deeper and deeper relaxed.</p> <p>In the past porn may have been to you something that meant life. In your mind you may have accepted a suggestion that porn saves your life from boredom or porn protects you from being injured socially, porn is good for you in some manner or another. But that was yesterday and we are in the future. All that was yesterday, because porn may have protected you from injury in the past socially, it could have even saved your life from boredom.</p> <p>And those suggestions may have been good suggestions at one time but they have outlived their usefulness and if any of those suggestions are present to any degree in your mind, they are completely removed as of now. And that suggestion takes complete and thorough effect upon your mind, body and spirit.</p> <p>Now to other people porn means death. It&rsquo;s a way of punishing oneself. It&rsquo;s a poison and some people want to poison themselves. It&rsquo;s a method of slow suicide. Well, you don&rsquo;t need that now. If porn ever meant death and suicide to you and you have a need to punish yourself, that need is now long gone and we remove that suggestion. The truth of the matter is that porn is just porn. It&rsquo;s not life. It&rsquo;s not death. As a matter of fact, it&rsquo;s not anything to you anymore. It&rsquo;s nothing, neutral feelings. It&rsquo;s something that you don&rsquo;t need nor do you want.</p> @@ -2662,7 +2668,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:18:50 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-02/ - <p>As you go deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance and you pay attention only to the sound of my voice. As you listen carefully to the sound of my voice, we are going to remove a number of suggestions which have been in your mind. We are going to remove them completely and as you listen carefully to them we&rsquo;re simply going to dissolve them&hellip; throw them out of your mind completely and forever&hellip; Nothing disturbs you and nothing bothers you and nothing can distract you in any way from listening to the sound of my voice&hellip; and from completely accepting everything I tell you&hellip; for everything I tell you is the absolute truth to you&hellip; and we&rsquo;re going to remove all suggestions from your mind that have been detrimental to you in the past.</p> + <h2 id="scripts-02">Scripts-02 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-02"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As you go deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance and you pay attention only to the sound of my voice. As you listen carefully to the sound of my voice, we are going to remove a number of suggestions which have been in your mind. We are going to remove them completely and as you listen carefully to them we&rsquo;re simply going to dissolve them&hellip; throw them out of your mind completely and forever&hellip; Nothing disturbs you and nothing bothers you and nothing can distract you in any way from listening to the sound of my voice&hellip; and from completely accepting everything I tell you&hellip; for everything I tell you is the absolute truth to you&hellip; and we&rsquo;re going to remove all suggestions from your mind that have been detrimental to you in the past.</p> <p>The first suggestion you had in your mind is that somehow or another that porn, an image, an illusion, has been of some use to you. Masturbating to porn is of no use to you and you know it. You&rsquo;re through PMO for any reason. It doesn&rsquo;t make you relax, it doesn&rsquo;t make you sleep well, it doesn&rsquo;t do anything for you. As a matter of fact it ruins your efficiency&hellip; and consequently you&rsquo;re through with it. The fact that porn has ever been beneficial to you in any way is completely removed from your mind. I am going to count to five and that suggestion is completely removed from your mind never to return. One, Two, Three, Four, Five.</p> <p>The next suggestion that you may have accepted is that porn is a good means of punishing yourself. In the first place, you&rsquo;re through punishing yourself and in the second place you&rsquo;re through using porn as a means to do it. The only reason anyone ever punishes himself is because somewhere deep in his mind he feels guilty and you&rsquo;re through allowing your-self to feel guilty. And so with one count we&rsquo;re going to remove the guilt, whatever it is and from whatever source the punishment, the need for punishment, and that porn could be used as a vehicle to achieve it. One. Two. Three. Four. Five.</p> <p>Those ideas are all gone. Porn to you is a poison and a lousy inefficient poison at that&hellip; just enough poison to make you sick and ineffective. But then you&rsquo;re through poisoning yourself and you&rsquo;re through using porn and so that need is also removed from your mind. One. Two. Three. Four. Five.</p> @@ -2679,7 +2687,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:17:25 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-01/ - <p>You are relaxed now and because you are so relaxed you begin to feel free from all tensions, anxiety and fear. You now realize that you are more confident and sure of yourself because you have taken the enormous first step toward helping yourself. Great!</p> + <h2 id="scripts-01">Scripts-01 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-01"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>You are relaxed now and because you are so relaxed you begin to feel free from all tensions, anxiety and fear. You now realize that you are more confident and sure of yourself because you have taken the enormous first step toward helping yourself. Great!</p> <p>You begin to feel this strength from within, motivating you to overcome any and every obstacle that may stand in the way of your happiness, social life and home life. You are not a slave to PMO any more!</p> <p>You will find that from this moment on you are developing more self control. You will now face every situation in a calm, relaxed state of mind. Your thinking is very clear and sharp at all times. You are free!</p> <p>You begin to feel that your self respect and confidence are expanding more and more each and every day in every way. You now realize that in the past addiction was an escape and weakness that you are replacing with confidence, strength and self control. You are becoming a happy person now, with a positive attitude toward life. You are succeeding now and you have all the abilities for success.</p> @@ -2697,7 +2707,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:14:53 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/04-02-rebt-coping-statements/ - <ul> + <h2 id="rebt-coping-statements">REBT Coping Statements <a class="anchor" href="#rebt-coping-statements"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ul> <li><em>“I can stop PMO, even though it appears &lsquo;hard&rsquo; to do so. It’s not too hard and no matter how much trouble it takes, it’s worth it!”</em></li> <li><em>“If I keep ignoring and never giving into my powerful urges to PMO, I will make it easier and easier to resist them”</em></li> <li><em>“I can fully and unconditionally accept myself- yes, even with all my flaws and failings”</em></li> @@ -2722,7 +2734,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:13:26 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/04-01-the-instructions/ - <ol> + <h2 id="the-instructions">The Instructions <a class="anchor" href="#the-instructions"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Follow all the instructions.</li> <li>Keep an open mind.</li> <li>Start with a feeling of elation.</li> @@ -2734,11 +2748,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true <li>Always remember there&rsquo;s no such thing as &ldquo;Just One Peek&rdquo;.</li> <li>Never PMO again.</li> </ol> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="affirmations">Affirmations <a class="anchor" href="#affirmations"> +<h3 id="affirmations">Affirmations <a class="anchor" href="#affirmations"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<ul> +</a></h3><ul> <li>I am free from the slavery of PMO.</li> <li>It is easy for me to ignore my thoughts about PMO.</li> <li>Bye bye thoughts, bye bye Urges. Oh, there goes my cravings.</li> @@ -2763,7 +2775,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 11:36:58 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-44-should-i-tell-my-so/ - <p>Should I tell my wife, girlfriend and SO about my PMO? The intention here is that it would help you in quitting. I am of the solid opinion that all these are not needed. It would only reinforce your weakness against PMO.</p> + <h2 id="should-i-tell-my-so">Should I Tell My SO <a class="anchor" href="#should-i-tell-my-so"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Should I tell my wife, girlfriend and SO about my PMO? The intention here is that it would help you in quitting. I am of the solid opinion that all these are not needed. It would only reinforce your weakness against PMO.</p> <p>If you slip, you will feel miserable and guilty if you are following the Willpower Method. Add to that the feeling of deceiving your loved one will definitely push you through the vicious cycle of slip-lapse-relapse.</p> <p>If you are caught once - just say you are feeling good that you got caught and you are out of the prison. And you don’t want to talk about it. Many women can’t digest it. Many men wrongly attribute the woman to be of loose morals and hence a bad person. And if the SO breaks up with you (even if for some other reason) you will feel guilty for having screwed up your sex life with PMO OR feeling you “sacrificed” so much if you were successful in quitting - adding to the heart ache.</p> <p>You will look very weak. They will treat you as a weak person - of course only subconsciously. But you can smell it. Why the stress?</p> @@ -2777,26 +2791,22 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 11:31:13 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-43-advice-to-non-pmoers/ - <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK <a class="anchor" href="#help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book"> + <h2 id="advice-to-non-pmoers">Advice to Non-PMOers <a class="anchor" href="#advice-to-non-pmoers"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>First study the contents of this book and try to put yourself in the place of the PMOer. Do not force him to read this book or try to stop him by telling him he is ruining his health or playing with fire. He already knows this better than you do. PMOers do not continue in it because they enjoy it or because they want to. They only tell themselves and other people this in order to retain self-respect. They do it because they feel dependent on PMO because they think that it relaxes them and gives them courage and confidence (pleasure or crutch) and that life will never be enjoyable without “sex” - their version of it. If you try to force a PMOer to stop, he feels like a trapped animal and wants to be in his harem even more. This may turn him into a secret PMOer and in his mind the porn will become even more precious (see Chapter 26).</p> +</a></h2><h3 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK <a class="anchor" href="#help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>First study the contents of this book and try to put yourself in the place of the PMOer. Do not force him to read this book or try to stop him by telling him he is ruining his health or playing with fire. He already knows this better than you do. PMOers do not continue in it because they enjoy it or because they want to. They only tell themselves and other people this in order to retain self-respect. They do it because they feel dependent on PMO because they think that it relaxes them and gives them courage and confidence (pleasure or crutch) and that life will never be enjoyable without “sex” - their version of it. If you try to force a PMOer to stop, he feels like a trapped animal and wants to be in his harem even more. This may turn him into a secret PMOer and in his mind the porn will become even more precious (see Chapter 26).</p> <p>Instead, concentrate on the other side of the coin. Get him into the company of ex-PMOers (there are many blogs, forums etc. YBOP, No-Fap etc.). Get them to tell the PMOer how they too thought they were hooked for life and how much better life is as a non-PMOer. Once you have got him believing that he can stop then his mind will start to open up. Then start explaining the delusion created by withdrawal pangs. Not only are the “dopamine rushes” not giving him a boost but they are destroying his confidence and making him irritable and tired.</p> <p>He should now be ready to read this book himself. He will be expecting to read pages and pages about unreliable arousal, fading penetrations, PIED, PE, etc. Explain that the approach is completely different and that references to illness are just a small fraction of the material in the book.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD <a class="anchor" href="#help-during-the-withdrawal-period"> +<h3 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD <a class="anchor" href="#help-during-the-withdrawal-period"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>If you are dealing with a girlfriend or boyfriend - whether the ex-PMOer is suffering or not, assume that she/he is. Do not try to minimize his suffering by telling him it is easy to stop; he can do that himself. Instead keep telling him how proud you are, how much better he is looking, how much sweeter it is to be with him, how much easier he is in general. It is particularly important to keep doing this. When a PMOer makes an attempt to stop, the euphoria of the attempt and the attention he gets from friends and colleagues can help him along. However, they tend to forget quickly, so keep that praise going.</p> +</a></h3><p>If you are dealing with a girlfriend or boyfriend - whether the ex-PMOer is suffering or not, assume that she/he is. Do not try to minimize his suffering by telling him it is easy to stop; he can do that himself. Instead keep telling him how proud you are, how much better he is looking, how much sweeter it is to be with him, how much easier he is in general. It is particularly important to keep doing this. When a PMOer makes an attempt to stop, the euphoria of the attempt and the attention he gets from friends and colleagues can help him along. However, they tend to forget quickly, so keep that praise going.</p> <p>Because he is not talking about PMOing, you may think he has forgotten about it and don&rsquo;t want to remind him. Usually the complete opposite is the case with the Willpower Method, as the ex-PMOer tends to be obsessed by nothing else. So do not be frightened to bring the subject up and keep praising him: he will tell you if he doesn&rsquo;t want you to remind him of PMOing.</p> <p>Go out of your way to relieve him of pressures during the withdrawal period. Try to think of ways of making his life interesting and enjoyable. This can also be a trying period for non-PMOers - that is those of you who have never had this addiction. If one member of a group is irritable, it can cause general misery all round. So anticipate this if the ex-PMOer is feeling irritable. He may well take it out on you but do not retaliate: it is at this time that he needs your praise and sympathy the most. If you are feeling irritable yourself, try not to show it.</p> <p>One of the tricks an addict will play when trying to give up with the aid of the Willpower Method was to get into a tantrum, hoping that wife or friends would say, “I cannot bear to see you suffering like this. For goodness sake, have your poison.” The PMOer then does not lose face, as he isn&rsquo;t “giving in” - he has been instructed. If the ex-PMOer uses this ploy, on no account encourage him to lapse. Instead say, “if that is what PMO does to you, thank goodness you will soon be free. How marvellous that you had the courage and sense to give up.”</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL <a class="anchor" href="#help-end-this-scandal"> +<h3 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL <a class="anchor" href="#help-end-this-scandal"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>In my opinion, internet porn is one of the dangers in a free society, piggy backing on the good willed efforts of personal freedoms. Surely the very basis of civilization, the reason why the human species has advanced so far, is that we are capable of communicating our knowledge and experiences not only to each other but to future generations. Even the lower species find it necessary to warn their offspring of the pitfalls in life.</p> +</a></h3><p>In my opinion, internet porn is one of the dangers in a free society, piggy backing on the good willed efforts of personal freedoms. Surely the very basis of civilization, the reason why the human species has advanced so far, is that we are capable of communicating our knowledge and experiences not only to each other but to future generations. Even the lower species find it necessary to warn their offspring of the pitfalls in life.</p> <p>The producers of porn are not doing this in good faith, in the genuine belief that they help mankind, especially now as the addiction to internet porn is widely studied. Maybe in its initial stages people genuinely believed that porn taught intimacy to men and women but today the authorities know that it is a fallacy. Just watch any tube sites nowadays. They make no claims about education. The only claims they make are about the shock, novelty, escalation quality of their clips.</p> <p>The sheer hypocrisy is incredible. As a society we get uptight about school bullying and objectification of human body. Compared with internet porn, these problems are mere pimples in our society. Thirty five per cent of the population have been addicted to porn and most of them spend quality time with imaginary and illusory pixel people at the expense of health, virility, energy and time. Tens of thousands of people have their lives ruined every year because they become hooked. Internet high speed porn is by far the biggest killer in relationships and yet the biggest vested interest is our for-profit companies. Internet porn producers don’t spend on advertising the filth in mainstream publications - they don’t have to. Our biological urges will lead us to the thresholds of their well stocked internet harems. They give free samples just like your local drug dealer. Heck the tube sites don’t even stock the wares any more as they encourage visitors to post the content.</p> <p>How clever that porn companies show the 18+ warning at their home page as the deterrent for under age users. Some even don’t bother to do that. Internet porn affect everyone at all ages. “We have warned you of the danger. It is your choice.” Is the attitude they have. Anyway, do they take any steps to verify the age? No. That would discourage their customers. And of course if age verification is legislated they will find another country to host. Or they will pay some ‘elite’ to write how prohibition resulted in bootlegging and the creation of the Mafia. Conveniently forgotten is the question of why repealing prohibition did not result in the reduction of alcohol related casualty numbers. And the contribution of the failure of law enforcement to control the Mafia’s growth. So let’s not waste time in talking about them.</p> @@ -2807,11 +2817,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <p>I remember reading H. G. Well’s The Time Machine. The book describes an incident in the distant future in which a man falls into a river. His companions merely sit around the bank like cattle, oblivious to his cries of desperation. I found that incident inhuman and very disturbing. I find the general apathy of our society to the PMO problem very similar. We find characters in movies and TV series talking about or even engaging in porn in a casual way.</p> <p>Why do we allow society to subject healthy young teenagers, youngsters whose lives are complete before they start to get online, to claim their independence just for the privilege of destroying themselves mentally and physically in a lifetime of slavery, a lifetime of filth and disease? You may feel that I over-dramatize the facts. Not so. There are cases where lives were cut down in his early years of marriage because of PMO. He was a strong man and might still have been alive today. I believe I was within an inch of PIED during my forties, although I would have attributed it to my divorce rather than to PMO. I now spend my life being consulted by people who have been crippled by the disease or are in the last stages. And, if you care to think about it, you probably know of many too.</p> <p>There is a wind of change in society. A snowball has started that I hope this book will help turn into an avalanche. You too can help by spreading the message.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING <a class="anchor" href="#final-warning"> +<h3 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING <a class="anchor" href="#final-warning"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>You can now enjoy the rest of your life as a happy non-PMOer. In order to make sure that you do, you need to follow these simple instructions:</p> +</a></h3><p>You can now enjoy the rest of your life as a happy non-PMOer. In order to make sure that you do, you need to follow these simple instructions:</p> <ol> <li>Keep this page in your bookmarks and refer to it as much as you need.</li> <li>If you ever start to envy another PMOer, realize that they will be envious of you. You are not being deprived. They are.</li> @@ -2829,7 +2837,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 11:28:29 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-42-help-the-pmoer-left-on-the-sinking-ship/ - <p>PMOers are panicking nowadays. They sense that there is a change in the way internet porn is perceived by men and women. Internet porn’s addictive nature is being studied by more and more people. It is now rightly regarded not as the same as old traditional porn. It’s easy reach and effortless availability raises alarm even in the hearts of porn supporters. They also sense that their crusade for free speech and free thought is being hijacked by vicious elements. The wild wild west nature of the unpoliced internet makes it hard for enforcing age restrictive access to supranormal stimuli. Yet I don’t think this whole thing will be coming to an end anytime soon. Thousands of PMOers are now stopping and all porn users are conscious of the new brain studies that point their studied fingers to the similarities of drug and substance addiction. Every time a PMOer leaves the sinking ship, the ones left on it feel more miserable. Every PMOer instinctively knows that it is ridiculous to self sabotage and spend time in front of two dimensional pixels, treat the poor brain to super surges, develop porn brain water slides that will guarantee him unreliable erections and fading penetrations. If you still don&rsquo;t think it is silly, try talking to a porn magazine standing at the centre of the city square and ask yourself what the difference is. Just one. You cannot get the pleasure of warmth and intimacy that way. If you can stop buying alcohol and cigarettes every time you go grocery shopping you can definitely stop visiting your online harems. PMOers cannot find a rational reason for PMOing but if someone else is doing it, they do not feel quite so silly.</p> + <h2 id="help-the-pmoer-left-on-the-sinking-ship">Help the PMOer Left on the Sinking Ship <a class="anchor" href="#help-the-pmoer-left-on-the-sinking-ship"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>PMOers are panicking nowadays. They sense that there is a change in the way internet porn is perceived by men and women. Internet porn’s addictive nature is being studied by more and more people. It is now rightly regarded not as the same as old traditional porn. It’s easy reach and effortless availability raises alarm even in the hearts of porn supporters. They also sense that their crusade for free speech and free thought is being hijacked by vicious elements. The wild wild west nature of the unpoliced internet makes it hard for enforcing age restrictive access to supranormal stimuli. Yet I don’t think this whole thing will be coming to an end anytime soon. Thousands of PMOers are now stopping and all porn users are conscious of the new brain studies that point their studied fingers to the similarities of drug and substance addiction. Every time a PMOer leaves the sinking ship, the ones left on it feel more miserable. Every PMOer instinctively knows that it is ridiculous to self sabotage and spend time in front of two dimensional pixels, treat the poor brain to super surges, develop porn brain water slides that will guarantee him unreliable erections and fading penetrations. If you still don&rsquo;t think it is silly, try talking to a porn magazine standing at the centre of the city square and ask yourself what the difference is. Just one. You cannot get the pleasure of warmth and intimacy that way. If you can stop buying alcohol and cigarettes every time you go grocery shopping you can definitely stop visiting your online harems. PMOers cannot find a rational reason for PMOing but if someone else is doing it, they do not feel quite so silly.</p> <p>PMOers blatantly lie about their habit, not only to others and university researchers but worse of all to themselves. They have to. The brainwashing is essential if they are to retain some self-respect. They feel the need to justify their “habit” not only to themselves but to non-PMOers. They are therefore forever advertising the illusory advantages of porn and PMO by more subtler means.</p> <p>If a PMOer stops using the Willpower Method he still feels deprived and tends to become a moaner. All this does is to confirm to other PMOers how right they are to keep PMOing. If the ex-PMOer succeeds in kicking the habit, he is then grateful that he no longer has to go through life sabotaging himself or wasting energy. But he has no need to justify himself, he doesn&rsquo;t sit there saying how marvellous it is not to be PMOing. He will do that only if he is asked and PMOers won&rsquo;t ask that question. They wouldn&rsquo;t like the answer. Remember: it is fear that keeps them in their addiction and they would rather keep their heads in the sand. The only time they ask that question is when it is time to stop. Help the PMOer. Remove these fears. Tell him how marvellous it is not to have to go through life living in a prison, how lovely it is to wake up in the morning feeling fit and healthy instead of lacking in energy and self loathing, how wonderful it is to be free of slavery, to be able to enjoy the whole of your life, to be rid of those awful black shadows. Or, better still; get him to read this book.</p> <p>It is essential not to belittle a married PMOer by indicating that he is deliberately ruining his relationship or is in some way a cheat and is unclean. There is a common conception that the ex-PMOer is the worst in this respect. I believe this conception has some substance but I think this is due to the Willpower Method of stopping. Because the ex-PMOer, although he has kicked the habit, retains part of the brainwashing - part of him still believes that he has made a sacrifice. He feels vulnerable and his natural defensive mechanism is to attack the PMOer.</p> @@ -2848,7 +2858,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:21:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-41-feedback/ - <p>This method will be pooh-poohed by the so-called experts - as I have kept it thin, deliberately, on the ‘science’ side of porn addiction. This ‘hackbook’ is based on a very successful technique used by Alan Carr for quitting smoking, alcohol and gambling. I have personally broken away from the prisons of cigarette, alcohol and internet porn with this technique. I’d like to add here that I’ve tried some of the best programmes - such as CBT, DEADS and AVERT before arriving at the EasyWay. I could not close the deal. I was then led to studying about self hypnosis that deals with bad habits. The key idea that sold me on this method is his emphasis on the “feelings of misery and deprivation, misery and sacrifice, misery and guilt.” If you use the Will Power method you will invariably have all or one of these awful feelings that in themselves provide the grease to slide back to the addiction.</p> + <h2 id="feedback">Feedback <a class="anchor" href="#feedback"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This method will be pooh-poohed by the so-called experts - as I have kept it thin, deliberately, on the ‘science’ side of porn addiction. This ‘hackbook’ is based on a very successful technique used by Alan Carr for quitting smoking, alcohol and gambling. I have personally broken away from the prisons of cigarette, alcohol and internet porn with this technique. I’d like to add here that I’ve tried some of the best programmes - such as CBT, DEADS and AVERT before arriving at the EasyWay. I could not close the deal. I was then led to studying about self hypnosis that deals with bad habits. The key idea that sold me on this method is his emphasis on the “feelings of misery and deprivation, misery and sacrifice, misery and guilt.” If you use the Will Power method you will invariably have all or one of these awful feelings that in themselves provide the grease to slide back to the addiction.</p> <p>I&rsquo;m not a do-gooder. My war - which, I emphasize, is not against PMOers but against the porn trap, I wage for the purely selfish reason that I enjoy it. Every time I hear of a PMOer escaping from the prison I get a feeling of great pleasure, even when it has nothing to do with me. You can imagine also the immense pleasure I obtain from the grateful letters that I have received over time.</p> <p>There has also been considerable frustration. The frustration is caused mainly by two main categories of PMOer. First, in spite of the warning in the previous chapter, I am disturbed by the number of PMOers who find it easy to stop, yet later get hooked again and find they can&rsquo;t succeed the next time.</p> <p>Practically the last thing I say to ex-PMOers is: “Remember, you must never visit another online harem again.”</p> @@ -2908,11 +2920,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <blockquote> <p>Find out which one it is. Some people understand and believe everything I say but still start off with a feeling of doom and gloom, as if something terrible were happening. You are doing not only what you&rsquo;d like to do but what every PMOer on the planet would like to do. With any method of stopping, what the ex PMOer is trying to achieve is a certain frame of mind, so that whenever he thinks about PMO he says to himself, “YIPPEE! I&rsquo;M FREE!” If that&rsquo;s your object, why wait? Start off in that frame of mind and never lose it. The rest of the book is designed to make you understand why there is no alternative.</p> </blockquote> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="the-check-list"><strong>THE CHECK LIST</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-check-list"> +<h2 id="the-check-list">THE CHECK LIST <a class="anchor" href="#the-check-list"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>If you follow these simple instructions, you cannot fail:</p> +</a></h2><p>If you follow these simple instructions, you cannot fail:</p> <ol> <li>Make a solemn vow that you will never, ever, go online to visit your harem OR settle down for static pictures OR make peace with erotic graphics OR anything that contains supra normal stimuli, and stick to your vow.</li> <li>Get this clear in your mind: there is absolutely nothing to give up. By that I don&rsquo;t mean simply that you will be better off as a non-PMOer (you&rsquo;ve known that all this time); nor do I mean that although there is no rational reason why you PMO, you must get some form of pleasure or crutch from it or you wouldn&rsquo;t do it. What I mean is, there is no genuine pleasure or crutch in PMOing. It is just an illusion, it’s an addiction like banging your head against a wall to make it pleasant when you stop.</li> @@ -2926,7 +2936,7 @@ strains of life.</li> <hr> <ol> <li id="fn:1"> -<p><strong>MoR</strong> moment of revelation. R2T resistance to temptation. MaD misery and deprived. MaS misery and sacrifice. MaG misery and guilty. DSC dopamine surge claims.&#160;<a href="#fnref:1" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p> +<p><strong>MoR</strong> - moment of revelation. R2T resistance to temptation. MaD misery and deprived. MaS misery and sacrifice. MaG misery and guilty. DSC dopamine surge claims.&#160;<a href="#fnref:1" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p> </li> </ol> </div> @@ -2939,7 +2949,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:20:54 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-40-a-final-warning/ - <p>No PMOer, given the chance of going back to the time before he became hooked with the knowledge he has now, would opt to start. Many of the them who consult me are convinced that if I could only help them stop, they would never dream of PMOing again, and yet thousands of PMOers successfully kick the habit for many years and lead perfectly happy lives, only to get trapped once again. I trust that this book will help you to find it relatively easy to stop. But be warned: PMOers who find it easy to stop find it easy to start again, DO NOT FALL FOR THIS TRAP.</p> + <h2 id="a-final-warning">A Final Warning <a class="anchor" href="#a-final-warning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>No PMOer, given the chance of going back to the time before he became hooked with the knowledge he has now, would opt to start. Many of the them who consult me are convinced that if I could only help them stop, they would never dream of PMOing again, and yet thousands of PMOers successfully kick the habit for many years and lead perfectly happy lives, only to get trapped once again. I trust that this book will help you to find it relatively easy to stop. But be warned: PMOers who find it easy to stop find it easy to start again, DO NOT FALL FOR THIS TRAP.</p> <p>No matter how long you have stopped or how confident you are that you will never become hooked again, make it a rule of life not to PMO for any reason. Resist the allusions and innuendoes in the media, and remember they are pushing their image of ‘openness’ by bringing porn into mainstream without realizing how porn, internet porn etc. are killers of relationships and of the personal sense of well being for a huge number of men and some women.</p> <p>Remember, that first peek or visit will do nothing for you. You will have no withdrawal pangs to relieve and it will make you feel awful. What it will do is to put the pleasure of dopamine rush into your mind and brain, and a little voice at the back of your mind will be saying, “you want another one.” Then you have got the choice of being miserable for a while or starting the whole filthy chain again.</p> @@ -2951,7 +2963,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:15:27 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-39-the-final-visit/ - <p>Having decided on your timing, you are now ready to visit your harem one last time. Before you do so, check on the two essentials:</p> + <h2 id="the-final-visit">The Final Visit <a class="anchor" href="#the-final-visit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Having decided on your timing, you are now ready to visit your harem one last time. Before you do so, check on the two essentials:</p> <ol> <li>Do you feel certain of success?</li> <li>Have you a feeling of doom and gloom or a sense of excitement that you are about to achieve something marvelous?</li> @@ -3002,7 +3016,9 @@ sites in my life again.”<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1& Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:13:13 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-38-the-moment-of-revelation/ - <p>The moment of revelation usually takes place about three weeks after stopping. The sky appears to become brighter and it is the moment when the brainwashing ends completely. When instead of telling yourself you do not need to PMO, you suddenly realize that the last thread is broken and you can enjoy the rest of your life without ever needing PMO again. It is also usually from this point that you start looking at other PMOers as objects of pity.</p> + <h2 id="the-moment-of-revelation">The Moment of Revelation <a class="anchor" href="#the-moment-of-revelation"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The moment of revelation usually takes place about three weeks after stopping. The sky appears to become brighter and it is the moment when the brainwashing ends completely. When instead of telling yourself you do not need to PMO, you suddenly realize that the last thread is broken and you can enjoy the rest of your life without ever needing PMO again. It is also usually from this point that you start looking at other PMOers as objects of pity.</p> <p>PMOers using the Willpower Method do not normally experience this moment because although they are glad to be ex-PMOers they continue through life believing they are making a sacrifice. The more you were addicted, the more marvellous this moment is and it lasts a lifetime. I consider I have been very fortunate in this life and had some wonderful moments but the most wonderful of all was that moment of revelation. With all the other highlights of my life, although I can remember they were happy times, I can never recapture the actual feeling. I can never get over the joy of not having to PMO any more. If ever I am feeling low and need a boost nowadays, I just think how lovely it is not to be hooked on that awful addiction. Half the people who contact me after they have stopped visiting the online harems say exactly the same thing: that it was the most marvellous event of their lives. Ah! What pleasure you have to come! With additional feedback, both from forums and personal interactions, I have learned that in most cases the moment of revelation occurs not after three weeks, as stated above, but within a few days.</p> <p>In my own case it happened before I was finished on my last harem visit. I am sure many of the readers here, before they’d even got to the end of the chapters would say something like: “You needn&rsquo;t say another word. I can see it all so clearly, I know I&rsquo;ll never PMO again.” From the messages I receive I&rsquo;m also aware that it frequently happens.</p> <p>Ideally if you follow all the instructions and understand the psychology completely, it should happen to you immediately.</p> @@ -3022,20 +3038,18 @@ sites in my life again.”<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1& Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:10:40 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-37-should-i-avoid-temptation-situations/ - <p>I have been direct in my advice so far and would ask you to treat this advice as instruction rather than suggestion. I am explicit and direct, first because there are sound, practical reasons for my advice and second, because those reasons have been backed up by thousands of case studies. On the question of whether or not to try to avoid temptation during the withdrawal period, I regret that I cannot be direct. Each PMOer will need to decide for himself. I can, however, make what I hope -will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all our lives and this fear consists of two distinct phases:</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO? <a class="anchor" href="#phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo"> + <h2 id="should-i-avoid-temptation-situations">Should I Avoid Temptation Situations? <a class="anchor" href="#should-i-avoid-temptation-situations"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>This fear is that panicky feeling the PMOer gets when they are alone in a single phase or have an asexual, uninterested or unavailable partner. The fear isn&rsquo;t caused by withdrawal pangs but is the psychological fear of dependency - you cannot survive without sex and orgasm. It actually reaches its height when you are on the verge of quitting (I won’t use giving up); at that time your withdrawal pangs are at their lowest. It is the fear of the unknown, the sort of fear that people have when they are learning to dive.</p> +</a></h2><p>I have been direct in my advice so far and would ask you to treat this advice as instruction rather than suggestion. I am explicit and direct, first because there are sound, practical reasons for my advice and second, because those reasons have been backed up by thousands of case studies. On the question of whether or not to try to avoid temptation during the withdrawal period, I regret that I cannot be direct. Each PMOer will need to decide for himself. I can, however, make what I hope +will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all our lives and this fear consists of two distinct phases:</p> +<h3 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO? <a class="anchor" href="#phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>This fear is that panicky feeling the PMOer gets when they are alone in a single phase or have an asexual, uninterested or unavailable partner. The fear isn&rsquo;t caused by withdrawal pangs but is the psychological fear of dependency - you cannot survive without sex and orgasm. It actually reaches its height when you are on the verge of quitting (I won’t use giving up); at that time your withdrawal pangs are at their lowest. It is the fear of the unknown, the sort of fear that people have when they are learning to dive.</p> <p>The diving board is 1 foot high but seems to be 6 feet high. The water is 6 feet deep but appears to be 1 foot deep. It takes courage to launch yourself. You are convinced you are going to smash your head. The launching is the hardest part. If you can find the courage to do it, the rest is easy. This explains why many otherwise strong-willed PMOers either have never attempted to stop or can survive only a few days when they do. In fact, there are some PMOers on a porn diet who when they decide to stop, actually binge and escalate to harsher clips more quickly than if they had not decided to stop. The decision causes panic, which is stressful. This is one of the occasions when the brain triggers the instruction, “take a trip to your own personal harem.” But now you can&rsquo;t take one. You are being deprived - more stress.</p> <p>The trigger starts again quickly when the fuse blows and you fire up the browser. Don&rsquo;t worry. That panic is just psychological. It is the fear that you are dependent. The beautiful truth is that you are not, even when you are still addicted. Do not panic. Just trust me and launch yourself.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear <a class="anchor" href="#phase-2-longer-term-fear"> +<h3 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear <a class="anchor" href="#phase-2-longer-term-fear"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>The second phase of fear is longer-term. It involves the fear that certain situations in the future will not be enjoyable or that you will not be able to cope with a trauma without PMO. Don&rsquo;t worry. If you can launch yourself you will find the opposite to be the case. The avoidance of temptation itself falls into two main categories:</p> +</a></h3><p>The second phase of fear is longer-term. It involves the fear that certain situations in the future will not be enjoyable or that you will not be able to cope with a trauma without PMO. Don&rsquo;t worry. If you can launch yourself you will find the opposite to be the case. The avoidance of temptation itself falls into two main categories:</p> <ol> <li>“I will subscribe to a porn-diet of once in 4 days. I will feel more confident knowing that I can go online if it gets hard. It is OK if I fail I can just add up additional days to my next cycle.”</li> </ol> @@ -3058,7 +3072,9 @@ will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all o Sat, 24 Dec 2022 08:46:33 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-36-substitutes/ - <p>Substitutes include restricting to porn magazines, static internet images, going on a porn-diet<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> etc. <strong>DO NOT USE ANY OF THEM</strong>. They make it harder, not easier. If you do get a pang and use a substitute it will prolong the pang and make it harder. What you are really saying is, “I need to PMO to fill the void.” It will be like giving in to a hijacker or the tantrums of a child. It will just keep the pangs coming and prolong the torture. In any event the substitutes will not relieve the pangs. Your craving is for amino acids in the brain. All it will do is keep you thinking about PMOing. Remember these points:</p> + <h2 id="substitutes">Substitutes <a class="anchor" href="#substitutes"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Substitutes include restricting to porn magazines, static internet images, going on a porn-diet<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> etc. <strong>DO NOT USE ANY OF THEM</strong>. They make it harder, not easier. If you do get a pang and use a substitute it will prolong the pang and make it harder. What you are really saying is, “I need to PMO to fill the void.” It will be like giving in to a hijacker or the tantrums of a child. It will just keep the pangs coming and prolong the torture. In any event the substitutes will not relieve the pangs. Your craving is for amino acids in the brain. All it will do is keep you thinking about PMOing. Remember these points:</p> <ol> <li>There is no substitute for PMO.</li> <li>You do not need porn or PMO. It is not food; it is poison. When the pangs come remind yourself that it is PMOers who suffer withdrawal pangs, not non-PMOers. See them as another evil of the drug. See them as the death of a monster.</li> @@ -3090,12 +3106,13 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict - 03-35 the Main Reasons for Failure + 03-35 The Main Reasons for Failure https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-35-the-main-reasons-for-failure/ Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:23:39 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-35-the-main-reasons-for-failure/ - <p>There are two main reasons for failure. The first is the influence of external stimuli - a commercial, online news articles, internet browsing etc. At a weak moment or even during a social occasion somebody will get intimate with their partner. I have already dealt with this topic at length. Use that moment to remind yourself that there is no such thing as one visit or one peek. Rejoice in the fact that you have broken the chain of mental slavery. Remember that the PMOer envies you, and feel sorry for him. Believe me, he needs your pity. The other main reason for failure is having a bad day. Get it clear in your mind before you start that, whether you are a PMOer or a non-PMOer, there are good days and bad days. It rains for both the pope and the murderer.</p> + <p>The Main Reasons for Failure</p> +<p>There are two main reasons for failure. The first is the influence of external stimuli - a commercial, online news articles, internet browsing etc. At a weak moment or even during a social occasion somebody will get intimate with their partner. I have already dealt with this topic at length. Use that moment to remind yourself that there is no such thing as one visit or one peek. Rejoice in the fact that you have broken the chain of mental slavery. Remember that the PMOer envies you, and feel sorry for him. Believe me, he needs your pity. The other main reason for failure is having a bad day. Get it clear in your mind before you start that, whether you are a PMOer or a non-PMOer, there are good days and bad days. It rains for both the pope and the murderer.</p> <p>Life is a matter of relativity and you cannot have ups without having downs. The problem with the Willpower Method of stopping is that as soon as the PMOer has a bad day he starts moping for his ‘harem’ visit and all that does is make a bad day worse. The non-PMOer is better equipped, not only physically but also mentally, to cope with the stresses and strains of life. If you have a bad day during the withdrawal period just take it on the chin. Remind yourself that you had bad days when you were addicted (otherwise you wouldn&rsquo;t have decided to stop). Instead of moping about it, say to yourself something like, “OK, today&rsquo;s not so good but masturbating is not going to cure it. Tomorrow will be better and at least I have got a marvellous bonus at the moment. I have kicked that awful PMO habit.”</p> <p>When you are a PMOer you have to block your mind to the bad side of PMO. PMOer never have brain fog just “a bit down.” When you are having life’s inevitable troubles you want to PMO but are you happy and cheerful? Of course you aren&rsquo;t. Once you stop, the tendency is to blame everything that goes wrong in your life on the fact that you have stopped.</p> <p>Now if your work stresses you out you think, “At times like this I would have PMOed.” That&rsquo;s true but the important thing you forget is that the PMO didn&rsquo;t solve the problem and you are simply punishing yourself by moping for an illusory crutch. You are creating an impossible situation. You are miserable because you can&rsquo;t have the porn and masturbation yet you&rsquo;ll be even more miserable if you do. You know that you have made the correct decision by stopping PMO so why punish yourself by ever doubting the decision?</p> @@ -3110,7 +3127,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:22:12 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-34-will-it-be-harder-for-me/ - <p>The combinations of factors that will determine how easily each individual PMOer will quit are infinite. To start with, each of us has his own character, type of work, personal circumstances, timing, etc. Certain professions may make it harder than others but providing the brainwashing is removed it doesn&rsquo;t have to be so. A few individual examples will help.</p> + <h2 id="will-it-be-harder-for-me">Will It Be Harder for Me? <a class="anchor" href="#will-it-be-harder-for-me"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The combinations of factors that will determine how easily each individual PMOer will quit are infinite. To start with, each of us has his own character, type of work, personal circumstances, timing, etc. Certain professions may make it harder than others but providing the brainwashing is removed it doesn&rsquo;t have to be so. A few individual examples will help.</p> <p>It tends to be particularly difficult for members of the medical profession. We think it should be easier for doctors because they are more aware of the effects of ill- health and are seeing daily evidence of it. Although this supplies more forceful reasons for stopping, it doesn&rsquo;t make it any easier to do. The reasons are these:</p> <ol> <li>The constant awareness of the health risks creates fear which is one of the conditions under which we need to relieve our withdrawal pangs.</li> @@ -3129,7 +3148,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:20:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-33-just-one-peek/ - <p>This is the undoing of many PMOers who try to stop on the Willpower Method. They will go through three or four days and then have the odd peek or a PMO or two to tide them over. They do not realize the devastating effect this has on their morale.</p> + <h2 id="just-one-peek">Just One Peek <a class="anchor" href="#just-one-peek"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is the undoing of many PMOers who try to stop on the Willpower Method. They will go through three or four days and then have the odd peek or a PMO or two to tide them over. They do not realize the devastating effect this has on their morale.</p> <p>For most PMOers that first peek at the tube site harem was not as good as sex with a real person. The clips that are clean are far in between. This gives their conscious minds a boost. They think, “Good. That wasn&rsquo;t entirely all that enjoyable. I am losing the urge to PMO and I am not that much into the shocking stuff.” In fact, the reverse is the case. Get it clear in your mind - enjoyment of orgasm wasn&rsquo;t the reason why you hit porn. If PMOers were there for orgasm alone, they&rsquo;d never watch more than one clip. The only reason why you PMO was to feed that little monster. Just think: you had starved him for four days. How precious that one peek must have been to him. You are not aware of it in your conscious mind but the fix your body received will be communicated to your subconscious mind and all your sound preparation will be undermined. There will be a little voice at the back of your mind saying, “In spite of all the logic they are precious. I want another one.”</p> <p>That little peek has two damaging effects:</p> <ol> @@ -3148,7 +3169,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:16:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-32-the-withdrawal-period/ - <p>For up to three weeks after your last PMO session you may be subjected to withdrawal pangs. These consist of two quite separate factors:</p> + <h2 id="the-withdrawal-period">The Withdrawal Period <a class="anchor" href="#the-withdrawal-period"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>For up to three weeks after your last PMO session you may be subjected to withdrawal pangs. These consist of two quite separate factors:</p> <ol> <li>The withdrawal pangs of dopamine, that empty, insecure feeling, like a hunger, which PMOers identify as a craving or “something I must to do” feeling.</li> <li>The psychological trigger of certain external stimuli such as a commercial, online browsing, a telephone conversation etc.</li> @@ -3178,12 +3201,14 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict - 03-31 the Easy Way to Stop + 03-31 The Easy Way to Stop https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-31-the-easy-way-to-stop/ Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:07:43 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-31-the-easy-way-to-stop/ - <p>This chapter contains instructions about the easy way to stop PMO. Providing you follow the instructions, you will find that stopping ranges from relatively easy to enjoyable! But remember the definition of a brunette: “a girl who didn&rsquo;t read the instructions on the bottle.” It is ridiculously easy to stop PMO. All you have to do is two things:</p> + <h2 id="the-easy-way-to-stop">The Easy Way to Stop <a class="anchor" href="#the-easy-way-to-stop"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This chapter contains instructions about the easy way to stop PMO. Providing you follow the instructions, you will find that stopping ranges from relatively easy to enjoyable! But remember the definition of a brunette: “a girl who didn&rsquo;t read the instructions on the bottle.” It is ridiculously easy to stop PMO. All you have to do is two things:</p> <ol> <li>Make the decision that you are never going to PMO again.</li> <li>Don&rsquo;t mope about it. Rejoice.</li> @@ -3197,8 +3222,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict <p>Basically I said to myself, “Scores of people are stopping now and leading perfectly happy lives. I didn&rsquo;t need to do it before I started and I can remember having to work hard to get used to this filth. So why do I need to do it now?” In any event I didn&rsquo;t enjoy PMO, I hated the whole filthy ritual and I didn&rsquo;t want to spend the rest of my life being the slave of this disgusting porn addiction.</p> <p>I then said to myself:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<p><strong>“WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT. YOU HAVE COMPLETED YOUR LAST PMO VISIT”</strong></p> -</div> +<h3 id="whether-you-like-it-or-not-you-have-completed-your-last-pmo-visit">“WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT. YOU HAVE COMPLETED YOUR LAST PMO VISIT” <a class="anchor" href="#whether-you-like-it-or-not-you-have-completed-your-last-pmo-visit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>I knew, right from that point, that I would never PMO again. I wasn&rsquo;t expecting it to be easy; in fact, just the reverse. I fully believed that I was in for months of black depression and that I would spend the rest of my life having the occasional pang. Instead it has been absolute bliss right from the start.</p> <p>It took me a long time to work out why it had been so easy and why this time I hadn&rsquo;t suffered those terrifying withdrawal pangs. The reason is that they do not exist. It is the doubt and uncertainty that causes the pangs. The beautiful truth is: IT IS EASY TO STOP PMO. It is only the indecision and moping about it that makes it difficult. Even while they are addicted to porn, PMOers can go for relatively long periods at certain times in their lives without bothering about it. It is only when you want it but can&rsquo;t have one that you suffer.</p> <p>Therefore the key to making it easy is to make stopping certain and final. Not to hope but to know you have kicked it, having made the decision. Never to doubt or question it. In fact, just the reverse - always to rejoice about it. If you can be certain from the start, it will be easy. But how can you be certain from the start unless you know it is going to be easy? This is why the rest of the book is necessary. There are certain essential points and it is necessary to get them clear in your mind before you start:</p> @@ -3233,7 +3259,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:05:14 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-30-avoid-false-incentives/ - <p>Many PMOers, while trying to stop on the Willpower Method, attempt to increase their motivation by building up false incentives. There are many examples of this, a typical one is, “I will reward myself with a gift after no-PMO for a month.” This appears to be a logical and sensible approach but in fact it is false because any self-respecting PMOer would rather continue PMOing every day than receive a “self given gift.” In any case there is a doubt in the PMOer’s mind because not only will she have to abstain for thirty days but will she even enjoy the days without a PMO? Her only pleasure or crutch is taken away! All this does is to increase the size of the sacrifice that the PMOer feels she is making, which makes it even more precious in her mind.</p> + <h2 id="avoid-false-incentives">Avoid False Incentives <a class="anchor" href="#avoid-false-incentives"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Many PMOers, while trying to stop on the Willpower Method, attempt to increase their motivation by building up false incentives. There are many examples of this, a typical one is, “I will reward myself with a gift after no-PMO for a month.” This appears to be a logical and sensible approach but in fact it is false because any self-respecting PMOer would rather continue PMOing every day than receive a “self given gift.” In any case there is a doubt in the PMOer’s mind because not only will she have to abstain for thirty days but will she even enjoy the days without a PMO? Her only pleasure or crutch is taken away! All this does is to increase the size of the sacrifice that the PMOer feels she is making, which makes it even more precious in her mind.</p> <p>Other examples: “I&rsquo;ll stop PMO so that I will force myself to get a social life and seek more sex in real life” OR “I’ll stop so some magical energy will help me to leap above the competitors and get this woman I pursue” OR “I commit to not waste my energy and enthusiasm in PMO, so I can grow enough hunger in myself.” These are true and can be effective and you may end up getting what you want. But think about it for a second - if you do get what you had wanted, once the novelty has gone you will feel deprived - if you didn’t then you will feel miserable and either way sooner or later you will fall for the trap again.</p> <p>Another typical example is online or forum pacts. These have the advantage of eliminating temptation for certain periods. However, they generally fail for the following reasons:</p> <ol> @@ -3244,9 +3272,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict </ol> <p>Stop kidding yourself. If the job offer that I mentioned before, of 10 months work for 12 months salary a year won&rsquo;t stop him. Or if the risks of cutting down your brain’s capacity to cope with just any normal day-to-day stress and strains or if putting yourself at odds with having a reliable erection, or if the lifetime of mental and physical torture and slavery did not stop him or her - the above said few phoney incentives will not make the slightest bit of difference. They will only make the sacrifice appear worse. Instead concentrate on the other side:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"><strong>“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?”</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"> +<h2 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo">“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?” <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> +</a></h2></div> <p>Keep looking at the other side of the tug of war. What is PMOing doing for me? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Why do I need to do it? YOU DON&rsquo;T! YOU ARE ONLY PUNISHING YOURSELF. Try looking at it from the Pascal’s Wager perspective. You have almost nothing to lose (a rub-out with half arousals) for sure, chances of big profits (a full and reliable arousal, mental well being and happiness) and no chance of losing big (unreliable full arousals, premature ejaculations, fading penetrations, loss of general impulse controls, lower tolerance for frustrations and anger).</p> <p>Why not declare your quitting to friends and family? Well, it will make you a proud ex-addict, ex-PMOer, not an elated and happy non-PMOer. It will scare your partner a bit since they may see this as an effort to have more sex, sort of a new-age thing. They may also fear to lose you if this turns you into sex machine. It is hard to explain to them unless they are open minded.</p> <p>Any attempt to get others to help you in your quitting gives more power to the little monster of addiction. Pushing it from your mind and totally ignoring it has the effect of trying NOT to think of it. As soon as you spot the thoughts, when you hit the cues (home alone) or just absent minded thoughts - just say to yourself: “Great, I don’t have to do it like a slave animal. I am free. I am happy to know the differences in sex.” This will cut the life of the thought and will deny oxygen to it and will stop it from burning towards urges and cravings.</p> @@ -3259,7 +3287,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:03:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-29-can-i-compartmentalize/ - <p>This is another myth about PMOing spread mainly by PMOers who, when attempting to stop on the Willpower Method, substitute mental gymnastics - they propose to act -Jekyll and Hyde: “Porn is for my alter ego side and real life romance is for my relationship side.” Nothing is further from the truth. The porn waterslides - the deltaFosBs and all the brain changes are going to overrun the real life romance and will make it less desirable. Mr Hyde is most definitely going to overrule Dr. Jekyll’s instructions.</p> + <h2 id="can-i-compartmentalize">Can I Compartmentalize? <a class="anchor" href="#can-i-compartmentalize"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is another myth about PMOing spread mainly by PMOers who, when attempting to stop on the Willpower Method, substitute mental gymnastics - they propose to act -Jekyll and Hyde: “Porn is for my alter ego side and real life romance is for my relationship side.” Nothing is further from the truth. The porn waterslides - the deltaFosBs and all the brain changes are going to overrun the real life romance and will make it less desirable. Mr Hyde is most definitely going to overrule Dr. Jekyll’s instructions.</p> <p>If you use internet porn, you may be training yourself for the role of voyeur or to need the option of clicking to something more arousing at the least drop in your dopamine levels, or to search and search for just the right scene for maximum effect. Also, you may be masturbating in a hunched-over position – or watching your smartphone in bed nightly. You will eventually desire those cues more than the real life action. The thing that goes against real sex is the lack of novelty, variety, ‘harem’ like 24/7 quick delivery etc. and so it stands no chance compared to your online harem. The younger you were when you started on PMO the longer to rewire and break down those ‘porn water slides’ and get back those ‘real water slides’ if there were any from the past or create new ones. Also powerful and lasting are the associated memories from when you were young.</p> <p>Every time you take a ride on the ‘porn water slide’ you are ‘greasing’ it - keeping the nerves fresh. When you park next to a fast food restaurant the smell of the fries floats from the pan into your nostrils and the sale was already made. Likewise, the porn water slides in your brain are there for you to get sucked in and they are open 24 hours a day. Each of these cues, or triggers, can now light up your reward circuit with the promise of sex&hellip; only it isn&rsquo;t sex. Nevertheless, nerve cells may solidify these associations with sexual arousal by sprouting new branches to strengthen the connections. The more you use porn the stronger the nerve connections can become, with the result that you may ultimately need to be a voyeur, need to click to new material, need to climax to porn to get to sleep, or need to search for the perfect ending just to get the job done.</p> <p>As with any substance or behavioural drug, after a while the body becomes immune and the “drug” ceases to relieve the withdrawal pangs completely. As soon as we close a session, the addict wants another one very soon and he has a permanent hunger. The natural inclination is eventually to ‘escalate’ just to get the dopamine rush. However, most PMOers are prevented from doing this for one, or both, of two reasons.</p> @@ -3279,7 +3309,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:01:03 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-28-will-i-miss-the-fun/ - <p>No! Once that little porn monster is dead and your body stops craving dopamine and the porn water slides in your brain start to fade due to lack of ‘greasing’, any remaining brainwashing will vanish and you will find yourself both physically and mentally better equipped not only to cope with the stresses and strains of life but to enjoy the good times to the full.</p> + <h2 id="will-i-miss-the-fun">Will I Miss the Fun? <a class="anchor" href="#will-i-miss-the-fun"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>No! Once that little porn monster is dead and your body stops craving dopamine and the porn water slides in your brain start to fade due to lack of ‘greasing’, any remaining brainwashing will vanish and you will find yourself both physically and mentally better equipped not only to cope with the stresses and strains of life but to enjoy the good times to the full.</p> <p>There is only one danger and that is the influence of those who still use sex as their lying crutch and damned pleasure. “The other man&rsquo;s grass is always greener,” is commonplace in many aspects of our lives and is easily understandable. Why is it in the case of PMOing, where the disadvantages are so enormous as compared with even the illusory ‘advantages,’ that the ex-PMOer tend to envy the man or woman who appears to demand sex and use porn for pleasure and a crutch?</p> <p>With all the brainwashing of our childhood it is quite understandable that we fall into the trap. Why is it that, once we realize what a mug&rsquo;s game it is and many of us manage to kick the habit, we walk straight back into the same trap? It is the influence of society&rsquo;s brainwashing of porn being conflated with sex and presented as normal. The ex-PMOer has a pang! The insecure void feelings of them being single, which in itself is not a crime anyway, causes anxiety and cues them to PMO water slide. This is indeed a curious anomaly, particularly if you consider this piece of observation: not only is every non-PMOer in the world happy to be a non-PMOer but every PMOer in the world, even with his warped, addicted, brainwashed mind suffering the delusion that he enjoys it or it relaxes him, wishes he had never become hooked in the first place. So why do some ex-PMOers envy the PMOer on these occasions? There are two reasons.</p> <ol> @@ -3310,7 +3342,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:55:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-27-timing/ - <p>Apart from the obvious point that as it is doing you no good, now is the right time to stop. I believe timing is important. Our society treats internet porn flippantly as a slightly distasteful habit that can not injure your health. It is not. It is drug addiction, a disease and a destroyer of relationships in society. The worst thing that happens in most PMOer’s lives is getting hooked on that awful addiction. If they stay hooked, horrendous things happen. Timing is important to give yourself the right to a proper cure.</p> + <h2 id="timing">Timing <a class="anchor" href="#timing"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Apart from the obvious point that as it is doing you no good, now is the right time to stop. I believe timing is important. Our society treats internet porn flippantly as a slightly distasteful habit that can not injure your health. It is not. It is drug addiction, a disease and a destroyer of relationships in society. The worst thing that happens in most PMOer’s lives is getting hooked on that awful addiction. If they stay hooked, horrendous things happen. Timing is important to give yourself the right to a proper cure.</p> <p>First of all, identify the times or occasions when PMO appears to be important to you. If you are a businessman and use it for the illusion of relief of stress, pick a relatively slack period; a good idea is to choose your annual holiday. If you PMO mainly during boring or relaxing periods, weekends etc. do the opposite. In any event, take the matter seriously and make the attempt the most important thing in your life.</p> <p>Look ahead for a period of about three weeks and try to anticipate any event that might lead to failure. Occasions like a conference trip, partner out of town etc. need not deter you, providing you anticipate them in advance and do not feel you will be deprived. Do not attempt to cut down in the meantime as this will only create the illusion that being denied is enjoyable. In fact, it helps to force yourself to watch and have as many PMO sessions as possible. While you are having the last session and that last time, be conscious of the disappointment due to satiation, unfulfilled expectations (porn can never satisfy you), any bodily pain or pain in the genitals, the withdrawal effects, the peevishness and the melancholy. Think how marvellous it will be when you allow yourself to stop doing it.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> @@ -3347,7 +3381,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:54:03 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-26-a-social-habit/ - <p>Health of mind and body are the main reason why we should want to stop but then they always have been. We do not actually need scientific research and knowledge in brain chemistry to tell us that internet porn is addictive and can potentially shatter our lives. These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on the planet and any PMOer knows instantly, from the first session, that the stimulus can go to excess and it can turn poisonous.</p> + <h2 id="a-social-habit">A Social Habit? <a class="anchor" href="#a-social-habit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Health of mind and body are the main reason why we should want to stop but then they always have been. We do not actually need scientific research and knowledge in brain chemistry to tell us that internet porn is addictive and can potentially shatter our lives. These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on the planet and any PMOer knows instantly, from the first session, that the stimulus can go to excess and it can turn poisonous.</p> <p>The only reason why we ever get involved with internet porn is the PMO’s overlap with their evolutionary brain programming. Porn is available for free and it gets streamed 24 hours a day. No risk and no traces and with very high brain rewards. Porn was once considered as harmless but that was when the images were static and involved a trip to the local store for a VHS tape.</p> <p>Today it is generally considered even by PMOers themselves to be a supra-stimulus and addiction forming. In the old days, the strong man did not admit he masturbated. Jerk is a derogatory term. In every pub or club bar the majority of men would be proudly wanting to take a woman home and have real sex. Today the position is completely reversed for the internet porn addicts. Today&rsquo;s man realizes that he is starting to feel that he doesn&rsquo;t need a woman. This scares him. He bands together online and starts discussing experiences, devise strategies and explore options. Today&rsquo;s strong man does not want to depend on drugs. With the social revolution all PMOers nowadays are giving serious thought to stopping internet porn and masturbation. Today&rsquo;s PMOers consider PMO as an useless and harmful activity.</p> <p>The most significant trend that I have noticed in forums is the increasing emphasis on the anti-social aspect of PMOing. The days when a man boasted of having sex and orgasms every day is slowly getting replaced with, “why do I need to be a slave for this porn monster when I know ‘it’ is controlling my wand (and mind)?”</p> @@ -3365,7 +3401,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:51:35 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-25-the-youtube-pmoer/ - <p>The YouTube PMOer should be grouped with casual PMOers but the effects of a YouTube PMOer are so insidious that it merits a separate chapter. It can lead to the breakdown of personal self control. In one case it nearly caused a split for a No-Fap forum user.</p> + <h2 id="the-youtube-pmoer">The YouTube PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-youtube-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The YouTube PMOer should be grouped with casual PMOers but the effects of a YouTube PMOer are so insidious that it merits a separate chapter. It can lead to the breakdown of personal self control. In one case it nearly caused a split for a No-Fap forum user.</p> <blockquote> <p><em>“I was three weeks into one of my failed attempts to stop. The attempt had been triggered off by my wife&rsquo;s worry about my unreliable hard-ons and lack of interest. I had told her that it was not her and it was just job pressure. She said, &lsquo;I know you had handled the work pressure before but how would you feel if you were me and had to watch someone you love systematically destroying themselves?’ It was an argument that I found irresistible, hence the attempt to stop. She knows that I am not cheating - but this in a way is as worse as that (sic). The attempt ended after three weeks after a heated argument with an old friend. It did not register until years afterwards that my devious mind had deliberately triggered off the argument. I felt justly aggrieved at the time but I do not believe that it was coincidence, as I had never argued with this particular friend before, nor have I since. It was clearly the little monster at work. Anyway, I had my excuse. I desperately needed a release of orgasm and it doesn’t matter how. As it happens she was not in the mood right away and I was in an “entitlement” hurry. So I convinced myself that it is OK if I ‘restrict’ myself by avoiding a porn site and just stay this side of the ‘red line’ and watch only YouTube videos. But she ‘came around’ as the night unfolded and wanted to make love. But I was tired and not with all my ‘horsepower.’ I then invented a headache. I could not bear to think of the disappointment this would cause my wife. Then gradually I returned to the old ways, only YouTube became my new harem destination. I remember being quite pleased at the time. I thought, &lsquo;well, at least it is cutting my consumption down;’ Eventually she accused me of continuing to ignore her in the bed. I had not realized it but she described the times I had caused an argument and stormed out of the house. At other times I had taken two hours to purchase some minor item and faked a sprain or something. I had made feeble excuses to cop out of the whole wooing her and etc. when I have a reliable online harem it is even more hard.”</em></p> </blockquote> @@ -3385,7 +3423,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:40:22 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-24-casual-pmoers-teenagers-non-pmoers/ - <p>Heavy PMOers tend to envy the casual porn user. We&rsquo;ve all met these characters: “Oh, I can go all week without a PMO, it really doesn&rsquo;t bother me.” We think: “I wish I were like that!” I know this is hard to believe but no PMOer enjoys being a PMOer. Never forget:</p> + <h2 id="casual-pmoers-teenagers-non-pmoers">Casual PMOers, Teenagers, Non PMOers <a class="anchor" href="#casual-pmoers-teenagers-non-pmoers"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Heavy PMOers tend to envy the casual porn user. We&rsquo;ve all met these characters: “Oh, I can go all week without a PMO, it really doesn&rsquo;t bother me.” We think: “I wish I were like that!” I know this is hard to believe but no PMOer enjoys being a PMOer. Never forget:</p> <ul> <li>No PMOer ever decided to become a PMOer casual or otherwise, therefore:</li> <li>All PMOers feel stupid, therefore:</li> @@ -3423,7 +3463,7 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> </a></h3><p>(Or, “I can stop whenever I want to. I have done it thousands of times”). If he thinks dieting helps with his moods to ‘get out to get women,’ why is he even on the diet of once every four days? How can one predict the future, what if the happenstance of meeting occurred just an hour after your scheduled PMO session? Also, if he thinks this occasional “cleaning the plumbing” is good to relieve tension and relax why not plumb every day? It has been proven that masturbation is not required to keep the genitals healthy. Internet porn is not required at all. Even if that may be the case, any PUA guru who has read about the brain chemistry and its plasticity will never recommend watching super stimulus porn. The truth is he is still hooked. Although he gets rid of the physical addiction, he is left with the main problem - the brainwashing. He hopes each time that he will stop for good and soon falls for the same trap again.</p> <p>Many PMOers actually envy these stoppers and starters. They think, “how lucky to be able to control it like that, to do PMO when you want to and stop when you want to,” What they always overlook is that these stoppers and starters aren&rsquo;t controlling it. When they are PMOers, they wish they weren&rsquo;t. They go through the hassle of stopping, then begin to feel deprived and fall for the trap again, then wish they hadn&rsquo;t. They get the worst of both worlds. If you think about it, this is true in the lives of the PMOers. When we are allowed to PMO we either take it as entitled or wish we didn&rsquo;t. It&rsquo;s only when we can&rsquo;t have PMO that it appears to be so precious. The ‘forbidden fruit syndrome’. This is the awful dilemma of PMOers. They can never win because they are moping for a myth, an illusion. There is one way they can win and that is to stop PMOing and stop moping!</p> -<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC/TAME/HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer"> +<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-static--tame--home-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC / TAME / HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-only-pmo-to-static--tame--home-made-porn-pmoer"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> </a></h3><p>Yes, we all do it to start with but isn&rsquo;t it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner&rsquo;s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes&hellip; you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one.</p> <h3 id="the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer">THE I-HAVE-STOPPED-BUT-I-HAVE-AN-OCCASIONAL-PEEK PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer"> @@ -3471,7 +3511,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:35:22 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-23-just-one-peek/ - <p>“Just one peek” is a myth you must get out of your mind:</p> + <h2 id="just-one-peek">Just One Peek <a class="anchor" href="#just-one-peek"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>“Just one peek” is a myth you must get out of your mind:</p> <ul> <li>It is just one peek that gets us started in the first place.</li> <li>It is just one peek to tide us over a difficult patch or on a special occasion that defeats most of our attempts to stop.</li> @@ -3510,7 +3552,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:28:58 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-22-beware-of-cutting-down/ - <p>Many PMOers resort to cutting down either as a stepping-stone towards stopping or as an attempt to control the little monster. Many recommend cutting down or a ‘porn diet’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> as a pick-me-up. Obviously, the less you PMO the better off you are but as a stepping-stone to stopping, cutting down is fatal. It is these attempts to cut down that keep us trapped all our lives.</p> + <h2 id="beware-of-cutting-down">Beware of Cutting Down <a class="anchor" href="#beware-of-cutting-down"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Many PMOers resort to cutting down either as a stepping-stone towards stopping or as an attempt to control the little monster. Many recommend cutting down or a ‘porn diet’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> as a pick-me-up. Obviously, the less you PMO the better off you are but as a stepping-stone to stopping, cutting down is fatal. It is these attempts to cut down that keep us trapped all our lives.</p> <p>Usually cutting down follows failed attempts to stop. After a few hours or days of abstinence the PMOer says to himself something like:</p> <blockquote> <p><em>“I cannot face the thought of going to sleep without visiting my online harem, so from now on I will just PMO once in four days or I will purge my collection of ‘bad’ porn. If I can follow this ‘porn diet’, I can either hold it there or cut down further.”</em></p> @@ -3561,12 +3605,14 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p - 03-21 the Willpower Method of Stopping + 03-21 The Willpower Method of Stopping https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-21-the-willpower-method-of-stopping/ Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:20:42 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-21-the-willpower-method-of-stopping/ - <p>It is an accepted fact in our society that it is very difficult to stop PMO. Even books and forums advising you how to do so usually start off by telling you how difficult it is. The truth is that it is ridiculously easy. Yes, I can understand you questioning that statement but just consider it. If your aim is to run a mile in under four minutes, that&rsquo;s difficult. You may have to undergo years of hard training and even then you may be physically incapable of doing it. (Much of our achievement lies in the mind. Isn&rsquo;t it strange how difficult it was until Roger Bannister actually did it but nowadays it is commonplace?).</p> + <h2 id="the-willpower-method-of-stopping">The Willpower Method of Stopping <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method-of-stopping"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>It is an accepted fact in our society that it is very difficult to stop PMO. Even books and forums advising you how to do so usually start off by telling you how difficult it is. The truth is that it is ridiculously easy. Yes, I can understand you questioning that statement but just consider it. If your aim is to run a mile in under four minutes, that&rsquo;s difficult. You may have to undergo years of hard training and even then you may be physically incapable of doing it. (Much of our achievement lies in the mind. Isn&rsquo;t it strange how difficult it was until Roger Bannister actually did it but nowadays it is commonplace?).</p> <p>However, in order to stop PMOing all you have to do is not watch internet porn and or masturbate any more. No one forces you to masturbate (apart from yourself) and unlike food or drink, you don&rsquo;t need it to survive. So if you want to stop doing it, why should it be difficult? In fact, it isn&rsquo;t. It is PMOers who make it difficult by using the Willpower Method. I define the Willpower Method as any method that forces the PMOer to feel he is making some sort of sacrifice. Let us just consider the Willpower Method.</p> <p>We do not decide to become PMOers. We merely experiment with porn magazines or websites and because they are awful, yes that is right – awful - except for our desired clip, we are convinced that we can stop whenever we want to. In the main, we watch those first few clips only when we want to and that is usually on special occasions. Before we realize it, we are not only visiting those sites regularly and masturbating when we want to, we are masturbating to them every day. PMO has become a part of our lives. We then ensure that we always have an internet connection wherever we go. We believe that we are entitled to love, sex and orgasms - and also that porn helps to relieve stress. It doesn&rsquo;t seem to occur to us that the same clip and actors do not provide us the same degree of arousal and that we are either escalating or fighting against the ‘red line’ we have put around ourselves to avoid harmful “bad porn.” In fact, masturbation and internet porn neither improves our sex life nor does it relieve stress, it&rsquo;s just that PMOers believe they can&rsquo;t enjoy life or handle stress without an orgasm - even mind induced porn orgasms. Because that is what many times we are doing.</p> <p>It usually takes us a long time to realize that we are hooked because we suffer from the illusion that PMOers masturbate because they enjoy porn - not because they have to have porn - a need. While we are not “enjoying” porn (which we can never do unless novelty, shock or escalation is added), we suffer from the illusion that we can stop whenever we want to. This is a confidence trap. I don’t enjoy porn, so I am sure I can stop when I want to. Only that you never seem to ‘want’ to stop though.</p> @@ -3630,7 +3676,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:18:55 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-20-those-sinister-black-shadows/ - <p>Another of the great joys of quitting porn is to be free of those sinister black shadows at the back of our minds. All PMOers know they are fools to close their minds on the ill-effects of PMO. For most of our lives PMO is automatic but the black shadows are always lurking in our subconscious minds, just beneath the surface. There are several marvellous advantages to achieve from quitting PMO. Some of them I was consciously aware of throughout my life, such as the health risks, the waste of time and the sheer stupidity of making love to a two dimensional image. However, such was my fear of quitting, so obsessed was I in resisting all the attempts of do-gooders and anyone else who tried to persuade me to quit, that all my imagination and energy was directed to finding any flimsy excuse that would allow me to continue to PMO.</p> + <h2 id="those-sinister-black-shadows">Those Sinister Black Shadows <a class="anchor" href="#those-sinister-black-shadows"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Another of the great joys of quitting porn is to be free of those sinister black shadows at the back of our minds. All PMOers know they are fools to close their minds on the ill-effects of PMO. For most of our lives PMO is automatic but the black shadows are always lurking in our subconscious minds, just beneath the surface. There are several marvellous advantages to achieve from quitting PMO. Some of them I was consciously aware of throughout my life, such as the health risks, the waste of time and the sheer stupidity of making love to a two dimensional image. However, such was my fear of quitting, so obsessed was I in resisting all the attempts of do-gooders and anyone else who tried to persuade me to quit, that all my imagination and energy was directed to finding any flimsy excuse that would allow me to continue to PMO.</p> <p>Amazingly, my most ingenious thoughts occurred when I was actually trying to quit. They were of course inspired by the fear and misery I suffered when attempting to quit by using willpower. No way could I block my mind from the health and sexual aspects. But now that I am free it amazes me how I successfully blocked my mind from even more important advantages to be gained from quitting. I&rsquo;ve already mentioned the sheer slavery - spending half of our lives being allowed to PMO, doing it automatically and wishing we had never started, the other half feeling miserable and deprived because the knowledge of the destructive effects of internet porn won&rsquo;t allow us to PMO. In the last chapter I&rsquo;ve referred to the incredible joy of having energy again. But for me the greatest joy of being free was not the health, the time, the energy, or the ending of the slavery, it was the removal of those sinister black shadows, the removal of feeling despised by and feeling apologetic to myself and to other quitters, and most of all to be able to respect yourself.</p> <p>Most PMOers aren&rsquo;t the weak-willed, spineless jellyfish that both society and themselves tend to believe. In every other aspect of my life I was in control. I loathed myself for being dependent on an evil crutch that I knew was ruining my life. I cannot tell you of the utter joy of being free of those sinister black shadows, the dependency and the self-despising. I can&rsquo;t tell you how nice it is to be able to look at all other users, whether they be young, old, casual or heavy, not with a feeling of envy, but with a feeling of pity for them and elation for yourself that you are no longer the slave of that insidious trap. The other day I felt pity for the guy on a TV show who was so excited to get to watch porn - another case of society slipping one in your drink under the pretence of comedy.</p> <p>The last two chapters have dealt with the considerable advantages of being a non-PMOer. I feel it necessary to give a balanced account, so the next chapter lists the advantages of being a PMOer.</p> @@ -3643,7 +3691,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:16:17 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-19-it-relaxes-me-and-gives-me-confidence/ - <p>This is the worst fallacy of all about PMOing and for me it ranks with the ending of the slavery, the greatest benefit from quitting - is not to have to go through life with the permanent feelings of insecurity that PMOers suffer from.</p> + <h2 id="it-relaxes-me-and-gives-me-confidence">It Relaxes Me and Gives Me Confidence <a class="anchor" href="#it-relaxes-me-and-gives-me-confidence"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is the worst fallacy of all about PMOing and for me it ranks with the ending of the slavery, the greatest benefit from quitting - is not to have to go through life with the permanent feelings of insecurity that PMOers suffer from.</p> <p>PMOers find it very difficult to believe that masturbation to internet porn actually causes those insecure feelings you get when you are out late at night after a contentious day at home or work. Non-PMOers do not suffer from that feeling. It is the porn that causes it. I only became aware of many of the advantages of stopping months afterwards, as a result of my consultations with other PMOers.</p> <p>I refused to see my PMO as causing so much of the mental tug of war in my mind that I am foolishly working hard to have nominal levels of confidence in my day to day life. Forget about getting an erection, I am talking about focusing, taking challenges, fighting, choosing, deciding - actions that define our lives. Especially when we are often forced to act when the facts are not clear. Come to think of it, facts were and will never be clear and hence it is to our great advantage anyway to act.</p> <p>Also of note is in dating area as well, the fire to go forward is being misappropriated to this ‘high reward zero pain’ porn. If you have read some top PUA books and forums, what do they say? Go on a ‘diet<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>’? Yes of course when you have the good hunger your internal juices and your brain will do the rest. Copping out is not an option at all. Playing the numbers is not tiresome by no means. All PUA advice in a nut-shell is this - try more numbers. Even if your approach is wrong you will be right twice a day like a broken clock. But if your mind is fighting a tug of war with effortless easy access to a harem of online women, how would you get back on your feet when that girl ignores you? Oh, if it was a public outright rejection I am running, not walking, to my porn girlfriend.</p> @@ -3665,7 +3715,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:12:56 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-18-energy/ - <p>Most PMOers are aware of the effect that this progressive process of PMO, leading to novelty and escalation seeking, has on their brain’s reward circuits and their sexual system. However, they are not so aware of the effect it has on their energy level.</p> + <h2 id="energy">Energy <a class="anchor" href="#energy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Most PMOers are aware of the effect that this progressive process of PMO, leading to novelty and escalation seeking, has on their brain’s reward circuits and their sexual system. However, they are not so aware of the effect it has on their energy level.</p> <p>One of the subtleties of the PMO trap is that the effects it has on us, both physical and mental, happen so gradually and imperceptibly that we are not aware of them and regard them as normal. It is very similar to the effects of bad eating habits. The pot-belly appears so gradually that it causes us no alarm. We look at people who are grossly overweight and wonder how they could possibly have allowed themselves to reach that state.</p> <p>But supposing it happened overnight. You went to bed weighing 140 lbs, trim, rippling with muscles and not an ounce of fat on your body. You awoke weighing 180 lbs, fat, bloated and pot-bellied. Instead of waking up feeling fully rested and full of energy, you wake up feeling miserable, lethargic and you can hardly open your eyes. You would be panic-stricken, wondering what awful disease you had contracted overnight. Yet the disease is exactly the same.</p> <p>The fact that it took you twenty years to reach that state is irrelevant. So it is with PMOing. If I could immediately transfer you into your mind and body to give you a direct comparison on how you would feel having stopped internet porn for just three weeks, that is all I would need to do to persuade you to quit. You would think: “Will I really feel this good?” Or what it really amounts to: “Had I really sunk that low?” I emphasize that I don&rsquo;t just mean that you would feel healthier and have more energy but how you would also feel more confident and relaxed and better able to concentrate.</p> @@ -3683,7 +3735,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 12:12:31 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-17-health/ - <p>This is the area where the brainwashing is the greatest. PMOers, especially the young and single, think they are aware of the health risks. They are not. Even in my case, when I was expecting my head to explode any moment and honestly believed I was prepared to accept the consequences, I was still kidding myself. I didn&rsquo;t in those days have an app that started a red beeper to flash and sound every time my internet router hits a porn site, followed by a warning voice saying, “OK, this is the one!” Fortunately you do get a warning, and this is it. That warning would say, “Up to now you have got away with it but if you stay another minute your head will explode,” do you think I would have PMOed?</p> + <h2 id="health">Health <a class="anchor" href="#health"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is the area where the brainwashing is the greatest. PMOers, especially the young and single, think they are aware of the health risks. They are not. Even in my case, when I was expecting my head to explode any moment and honestly believed I was prepared to accept the consequences, I was still kidding myself. I didn&rsquo;t in those days have an app that started a red beeper to flash and sound every time my internet router hits a porn site, followed by a warning voice saying, “OK, this is the one!” Fortunately you do get a warning, and this is it. That warning would say, “Up to now you have got away with it but if you stay another minute your head will explode,” do you think I would have PMOed?</p> <p>If you are in doubt about the answer just try walking up to a cliff, stand on the edge with your eyes closed and imagine you then have the choice of either quitting PMO or walking up blindfolded before your next PMO.</p> <p>There is no doubt what your choice would be. I had been doing what every internet porn PMOer does all his life: closing my mind and keeping my head in the sand, hoping that I would wake up one morning and just not want to PMO any more. PMOers cannot allow themselves to think of the health risks. If they do, even the illusion of enjoying the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; goes.</p> <p>This explains why a shock treatment is so ineffective in the first stages of quitting. It is only non-users who can bring themselves to read the destructive brain changes. It also explains why PMOers, influenced by their little monster, wrongly recall that filthy room mate who PMOed everyday and was still remaining ‘horny’ 24 hours a day – they will ignore the thousands of people who are brought “down” in their prime because of this poisonous ‘habit’.</p> @@ -3794,7 +3848,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 12:08:55 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-16-i-will-save-x-hours-a-week/ - <p>I cannot repeat too often that it is brainwashing that makes it difficult to stop PMOing. So, the + <h2 id="i-will-save-x-hours-a-week">I Will Save X Hours a Week <a class="anchor" href="#i-will-save-x-hours-a-week"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>I cannot repeat too often that it is brainwashing that makes it difficult to stop PMOing. So, the more brainwashing we can dispel before we start, the easier you will find it to achieve your goal. Occasionally I get into arguments with people whom I call “confirmed PMOers.” By my definition a confirmed PMOer is somebody who doesn&rsquo;t believe PMO has any negative effect on his health @@ -3831,7 +3887,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 12:06:39 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-15-self-imposed-slavery/ - <p>Usually when PMOers try to stop the main reasons given are health, religion and partner stigma. Part of the brainwashing of this awful drug is the sheer slavery. Man fought hard in the last century to abolish slavery and yet the PMOer spends his life suffering self-imposed slavery. He seems to be oblivious to the fact that when he is allowed to PMO he wishes that he were a non-PMOer. With most of the masturbation we do in our lives, not only do we not enjoy them but we aren&rsquo;t even aware that we are masturbating. It is only after a period of abstinence that we actually suffer the delusion of enjoying PMO (e.g. the first day after a 4 day abstinence with the intent of rebooting etc.). The only time that the porn becomes precious is when we are &rsquo;trying&rsquo; to cut down or abstain or when abstinence is forced on us (e.g. when on a business trips, holiday trips to locations where the Internet is not available and so on).</p> + <h2 id="self-imposed-slavery">Self-Imposed Slavery <a class="anchor" href="#self-imposed-slavery"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Usually when PMOers try to stop the main reasons given are health, religion and partner stigma. Part of the brainwashing of this awful drug is the sheer slavery. Man fought hard in the last century to abolish slavery and yet the PMOer spends his life suffering self-imposed slavery. He seems to be oblivious to the fact that when he is allowed to PMO he wishes that he were a non-PMOer. With most of the masturbation we do in our lives, not only do we not enjoy them but we aren&rsquo;t even aware that we are masturbating. It is only after a period of abstinence that we actually suffer the delusion of enjoying PMO (e.g. the first day after a 4 day abstinence with the intent of rebooting etc.). The only time that the porn becomes precious is when we are &rsquo;trying&rsquo; to cut down or abstain or when abstinence is forced on us (e.g. when on a business trips, holiday trips to locations where the Internet is not available and so on).</p> <p>The confirmed PMOer should bear in mind that more studies and even more people are coming out and talking about the ill effects of internet porn. This trend will get “worse and worse.” Today, it is non-medical people talking. Tomorrow, it will be in your doctor’s list of diagnostic tests to perform. Gone are the days when the PMOer can hide behind “just a bit of downtime due to work stress” in his or her sex life. Your partner is going to ask you why you are on your laptop at this time too late into the night. The poor PMOer, who was already feeling wretched, wants the ground to open up and swallow him.</p> <p>I remember every time my partner stayed up late it was an ordeal waiting to open up my laptop. When on business trips the dinner with the clients and colleagues dragged on or was I just going through the natural ups and downs in human interactions? What was I doing? I was thinking, “let&rsquo;s get on with it, so that I can get over with this and go to my room for some porn.” I have thought many times, “am I not lucky? I have got my little reward. The poor non-PMOer with no internet access somewhere in an Amish village hasn&rsquo;t got a reward.” The &lsquo;poor&rsquo; non-PMOer doesn&rsquo;t need a reward. We were not designed to go through life systematically flooding our brains with dopamine and opioids. The pathetic thing is that even when masturbating with internet porn the PMOer doesn&rsquo;t achieve those feelings of peace, confidence and tranquillity that the non-PMOer has experienced for the whole of his non-PMO life. The non-PMOer isn&rsquo;t sitting in the family room, feeling agitated and wishing his life away. He can enjoy the whole of his life.</p> <p>No, this wasn&rsquo;t a fourteen-year-old schoolboy but a forty-year-old professional. How pathetic. I wouldn&rsquo;t admit to myself that I wasn&rsquo;t enjoying it. I was looking for the right clip and/or pictures to reach orgasm or better, edge forever. I don&rsquo;t know what I am supposed to be &lsquo;watching&rsquo; sometimes. That is the confusing part. The &rsquo;edging&rsquo; and then the orgasm floods my brain. Yet this was supposed to be my way of relaxing and enjoying my “favourite hobby.”</p> @@ -3845,7 +3903,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:49:35 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-14-what-am-i-giving-up/ - <p>ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! The thing that makes it difficult for us to give up is fear. The fear that we are being deprived of our pleasure or prop. The fear that certain pleasant situations will never be quite the same again. The fear of being unable to cope with stressful situations. In other words, the effect of brainwashing is to delude us into believing that sex and by extension orgasm, is a must for all human beings. Or that there is something inherent in Internet porn that we need and that when we stop PMOing we will be self-denying ourselves and there will be a void.</p> + <h2 id="what-am-i-giving-up">What Am I Giving Up? <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-giving-up"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! The thing that makes it difficult for us to give up is fear. The fear that we are being deprived of our pleasure or prop. The fear that certain pleasant situations will never be quite the same again. The fear of being unable to cope with stressful situations. In other words, the effect of brainwashing is to delude us into believing that sex and by extension orgasm, is a must for all human beings. Or that there is something inherent in Internet porn that we need and that when we stop PMOing we will be self-denying ourselves and there will be a void.</p> <blockquote> <p>Get it clear in your mind:</p> </blockquote> @@ -3866,18 +3926,14 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> </blockquote> <p>These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on this planet. Whether you believe in a creator, a process of natural selection or a combination of both, whatever being or system devised these bodies of ours, it is a thousand times more effective than man! Man cannot create the smallest living cell, let alone the miracle of eyesight, reproduction, our circulatory system or our brains. We don’t have our systems upgraded yet to properly assess the supranormal stimulus such as rich high density food or high speed internet novelty porn with multiple active windows.</p> <p>If the creator or process had intended us to handle novelty triggering stimuli, we would have been provided with some other brain reward circuits. Our bodies are, in fact, provided with fail-safe warning devices and we ignore these at our peril. Excessive edging results in body pain, irritation, and inflammation. In women, excessive flooding of dopamine and stress enzymes such as prostaglandin-E2 can cause difficulty to orgasm and PME.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up"><strong>There Is Nothing To Give Up</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#there-is-nothing-to-give-up"> +<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up">There Is Nothing To Give Up <a class="anchor" href="#there-is-nothing-to-give-up"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h2></div> -<p>The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.</p> +</a></h2><p>The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.</p> <p>The problem I have is to make a convincing point as I’d have done for, let us say&hellip; smokers? All of us have seen smokers who develop excuses to sneak off for a crafty puff. It is easy to see the true addiction in action. Addicts do not do it because they enjoy it. They do it because they are miserable without it.</p> <p>Because many of us started out our first sexual experience that ended in an orgasm and we acquired the belief that we cannot enjoy sex without an orgasm. And for men, porn is sold as an aid towards sex, sometimes even as an education to be confident during the act of sex. It used to be static, but now we have supranormal internet porn. But this is nonsense. Internet porn takes away your confidence.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="women-and-porn"><strong>Women And Porn</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#women-and-porn"> +<h2 id="women-and-porn">Women And Porn <a class="anchor" href="#women-and-porn"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h2></div> -<p>The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn&rsquo;t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.</p> +</a></h2><p>The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn&rsquo;t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.</p> <p>Porn and internet porn does not help your sex life; it destroys it totally. Having to hide your internet footprints, trying to delete your history, fearing accidental exposure to your boyfriend or kids, body pains, doubtful symptoms, fighting self doubts, arguing with yourself about your responsibilities in the ill effects of your addiction&hellip; well, why do you want to put yourself in such a bad situation?</p> <p>Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous positive gains to be had. When PMOers contemplate quitting they tend to concentrate on health and virility. These are obviously valid and important issues but I personally believe the greatest gains from stopping are psychological:</p> <ol> @@ -3886,11 +3942,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <li>Not to have to go through life suffering the awful black shadows at the back of your mind, knowing you are being despised by half of the population and, worst of all, despising yourself.</li> </ol> <p>Not only is life better as a non-PMOer but it is infinitely more enjoyable. I do not only mean you will be healthier. I mean you will be happier and enjoy life far more. The marvellous gains from being a non-PMOer are discussed in the next few chapters. Some PMOers find it difficult to appreciate the concept of the &lsquo;void&rsquo; and the following analogy may assist you.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"><strong>Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"> +<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void">Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void! <a class="anchor" href="#void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h2></div> -<p>Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I&rsquo;ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can&rsquo;t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.</p> +</a></h2><p>Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I&rsquo;ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can&rsquo;t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.</p> <p>By now you are completely dependent on the ointment. You never go out without ensuring that you have a tube of the ointment with you. If you go abroad, you make sure that you take several tubes with you. Now, in addition to your worries about your health, I&rsquo;m charging you $100 per tube. You have no choice but to pay.</p> <p>You then read in the medical column of your newspaper that this isn&rsquo;t happening just to you; many other people have been suffering from the same problem. In fact, pharmacists have discovered that the ointment doesn&rsquo;t actually cure the sore. All that it does is to take the sore beneath the surface of the skin. It is the ointment that has caused the sore to grow. All you have to do to get rid of the sore is to stop using the ointment. The sore will eventually disappear in due course.</p> <p>Would you continue to use the ointment? Would it take willpower not to use the ointment? If you didn&rsquo;t believe the medical article, there might be a few days of apprehension, but once you realized that the sore was beginning to get better, the need or desire to use the ointment would go, Would you be miserable? Of course you wouldn&rsquo;t. You had an awful problem which you thought was insoluble. Now you&rsquo;ve found the solution. Even if it took a year for that sore to disappear completely, each day, as it improved, you&rsquo;d think. “isn&rsquo;t it marvellous? I&rsquo;m not going to die!” This was the magic that happened to me on my final PMO day. Let me make one point quite clear in the analogy of the sore and the ointment.</p> @@ -3907,7 +3961,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:47:03 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-13-social-night-pmoing/ - <p>This is a misinformation that seems to make sense but then it does not. In order to have control of eating, will you eat at home before leaving to go to a restaurant or a party? This is what you are doing when you PMO before your social night. You will look tired and will not be up to your best. If you have dating jitters then work on it beforehand and then go with the flow even with some butterflies in your stomach. I like a bit of the anxiety in me to keep me going. Tiring yourself mentally and physically with an orgasm is not going to help you, unless of course you are going to see a prostitute. The goal is entirely different in that angle.</p> + <h2 id="social-night-pmoing">Social Night PMOing <a class="anchor" href="#social-night-pmoing"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is a misinformation that seems to make sense but then it does not. In order to have control of eating, will you eat at home before leaving to go to a restaurant or a party? This is what you are doing when you PMO before your social night. You will look tired and will not be up to your best. If you have dating jitters then work on it beforehand and then go with the flow even with some butterflies in your stomach. I like a bit of the anxiety in me to keep me going. Tiring yourself mentally and physically with an orgasm is not going to help you, unless of course you are going to see a prostitute. The goal is entirely different in that angle.</p> <p>The widespread adoption of pick-up techniques has put pressure on guys to perform, to attract and to ‘score’. You can get knowledge but you should know how to use it. I can guarantee that 100% of the other guys hanging at that bar know exactly what you know. It comes down to the ‘how’ of how you use it when you get the chance. Even before that, there is one very critical thing about any knowledge pertaining to human interactions, that ‘knowledge’ should never force your actions. This is important.</p> <p>I once masturbated and then poured wine to quiet the butterflies in my stomach before a date. I looked tired after just one hour into the date, the loud noise of the bar, dehydration, excessive self-consciousness (PUA teachings) etc. made my time unenjoyable. Somehow the girl and her friend liked it all. However, I do think it would have been better if I had gone without any props. I ended up being successful by claiming my &lsquo;goal(s)&rsquo; - which I consider unfortunate and as random luck.</p> <p>The PMO session I had before the date triggered a dopamine flooding and its withdrawal hit around the time I was with the date. I had to over-do my conversation to compensate the ineffective dopamine effects after that earlier orgasm. I am also sure that I was suffering from hypofrontality - where my impulses were failing my controls. That gushing moment, an extra decibel in the tone etc. would easily have given my nervousness to the girls - only if I was not protected by the loud noise in the bar. Why do you want to take chances?</p> @@ -3926,7 +3982,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:44:10 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-12-relaxation/ - <p>Most PMOers think that PMO helps to relax them. The truth is that internet porn used in PMO acts like a chemical stimulant. The frantic search to get the fix in those “dark alleys of the internet” and the internal struggle to reign in the dog straining at its leash for more shocking clips does not sound much like an activity of relaxation to me.</p> + <h2 id="relaxation">Relaxation <a class="anchor" href="#relaxation"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Most PMOers think that PMO helps to relax them. The truth is that internet porn used in PMO acts like a chemical stimulant. The frantic search to get the fix in those “dark alleys of the internet” and the internal struggle to reign in the dog straining at its leash for more shocking clips does not sound much like an activity of relaxation to me.</p> <p>One of the favourite PMO sessions for most is the one after a trip to a new place or after along day. As the night rolls in we stop working; we sit down and relax, relieve our hunger and thirst and are then completely satisfied. However, the poor PMOer cannot relax, as he has another hunger to satisfy. He thinks of the PMO as the icing on the cake but it is the &rsquo;little monster&rsquo; that needs feeding.</p> <p>The truth is that the addict can never be completely relaxed and as you go through life it gets worse. The most stressed people on this planet aren&rsquo;t non-PMOers but those young men and women who have a need to hunt (with the misunderstood goal of orgasm) and their ignorance of and/or low opinion of amative sex. Women who have subscribed to “I must orgasm” teachings are not even aware of the victim they have made of themselves. At this point any sex that leads to climax and orgasm cease to relieve even partially the symptoms that they have created.</p> <p>I can remember when I was bringing up a family. If my child would do something wrong I would quickly lose my temper to an extent that was out of all proportion to what he had done.</p> @@ -3947,7 +4005,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:42:13 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-11-concentration/ - <p>Sex and masturbation do not help concentration. That is just another illusion. When you are trying to concentrate, you automatically try to avoid distractions. So when a PMOer wants to concentrate he doesn&rsquo;t even have to think about it. He automatically PMOs, partially ending the craving, gets on with the matter in hand and has already forgotten that he just PMOed. Sex in general do not help concentration. After years of masturbation your brain changes affect abilities such as assessing, planning and impulse control. The PMOer is already suffering: that little monster wants his fix.</p> + <h2 id="concentration">Concentration <a class="anchor" href="#concentration"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Sex and masturbation do not help concentration. That is just another illusion. When you are trying to concentrate, you automatically try to avoid distractions. So when a PMOer wants to concentrate he doesn&rsquo;t even have to think about it. He automatically PMOs, partially ending the craving, gets on with the matter in hand and has already forgotten that he just PMOed. Sex in general do not help concentration. After years of masturbation your brain changes affect abilities such as assessing, planning and impulse control. The PMOer is already suffering: that little monster wants his fix.</p> <p>You are also stressed to provide novelty for the next PMO session as the same stuff will not generate enough dopamine and opioids. You have to “roam the internet streets” for novelty - all the while fighting the pull to cross the line towards shock. This creates more stress. After you orgasm, you feel unfulfilled as well.</p> <p>Concentration is also affected adversely for another reason. Your dopamine receptors have already started to get reduced by building up natural tolerance to these large surges, reducing the benefit of the smaller dopamine boosts from natural de-stressors.</p> <p>In fact, your concentration and inspiration will be greatly improved as this process is reversed. For some it will be the concentration aspect that prevents them from succeeding when using the willpower method. They could put up with the irritability and bad temper but when they really needed to concentrate on something difficult they have to have that porn fix. I can well remember the panic I felt when I discovered that the hotel has no internet connection and I had this huge presentation the day after.</p> @@ -3963,7 +4023,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:40:46 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-10-boredom/ - <p>As soon as you get into your bed - and if you are like many people you are already on your favorite tube site - you will probably have already forgotten about it until I reminded you. It has become second nature. Another fallacy about PMOing is that it relieves boredom. Boredom is a frame of mind. The only time that happens is when you have been deprived for a long time or are trying to cut down, or during those first few PMO sessions after a failed attempt to stop.</p> + <h2 id="boredom">Boredom <a class="anchor" href="#boredom"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As soon as you get into your bed - and if you are like many people you are already on your favorite tube site - you will probably have already forgotten about it until I reminded you. It has become second nature. Another fallacy about PMOing is that it relieves boredom. Boredom is a frame of mind. The only time that happens is when you have been deprived for a long time or are trying to cut down, or during those first few PMO sessions after a failed attempt to stop.</p> <p>The true situation is this: when you are addicted to internet porn’s supranormal novelty and then you decide to abstain from internet porn, there is something missing. If you have something to occupy your mind that isn&rsquo;t stressful, you can go for long periods without being bothered by the absence of the drug. However, when you are bored there&rsquo;s nothing to take your mind off it, so you feed the monster. When you are indulging yourself (i.e. not trying to stop or cut down), even firing up your incognito browser becomes subconscious. The PMOer can perform this ritual automatically. If any PMOer tries to remember the session during the last week, he can only remember a small proportion of them - e.g. the very last one or after a long abstinence.</p> <p>The truth is that PMOing tend to increase boredom indirectly because orgasms make you feel lethargic and instead of undertaking some energetic activity, PMOers tend to prefer lounge around, bored, relieving their withdrawal pangs. This is why countering the brainwashing is so important. Because it&rsquo;s a fact that PMOers tend to masturbate when they are bored and that we&rsquo;re wired to interpret PMO as interesting. It doesn&rsquo;t occur to us to question the fact how a two dimensional supranormal stimulus relieves boredom.</p> <p>We&rsquo;ve also been brainwashed into believing that sex - even a bad sex - aids relaxation. It is a fact that when under stress or sad, couples want to have sex. In the absence of discrimination between amative and propagative sex, the goal is set to achieve orgasms by hook or by crook. Next time you do this watch how you both want to get away from each other as soon as it’s over. It is obvious that if they had just decided to cuddle, speak, hug and touch each other and go to sleep without the mandatory orgasms, the couple would have felt relieved. Well, if in the process, they wanted to have the propagative part then by all means they can but that is a topic not meant to be discussed in this book.</p> @@ -3976,7 +4038,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:38:59 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-09-stress/ - <p>I am referring not only to the great tragedies of life but also to the minor stresses, the socializing, the telephone call, the anxieties of the housewife with noisy young children and so on. Let us use the telephone conversation as an example. For most people the telephone is slightly stressful, particularly for the businessman. Most calls aren&rsquo;t from satisfied customers or your boss congratulating you. There&rsquo;s usually some sort of aggravation - something going wrong or somebody making demands. Then he or she comes home to the mundane family life of kids screaming and wife&rsquo;s emotional demands on you. His already PMO weakened de-stressors are in no way ready to take the aggravation. At that time the PMOer, if he isn&rsquo;t already doing so, will fantasize the relief of internet porn that he promised himself that night. He will even allow himself to “take one step more” into the ‘forbidden’ area that he had previously self-excluded. He doesn&rsquo;t know why he does this but he does know that for some reason it appears to help.</p> + <h2 id="stress">Stress <a class="anchor" href="#stress"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>I am referring not only to the great tragedies of life but also to the minor stresses, the socializing, the telephone call, the anxieties of the housewife with noisy young children and so on. Let us use the telephone conversation as an example. For most people the telephone is slightly stressful, particularly for the businessman. Most calls aren&rsquo;t from satisfied customers or your boss congratulating you. There&rsquo;s usually some sort of aggravation - something going wrong or somebody making demands. Then he or she comes home to the mundane family life of kids screaming and wife&rsquo;s emotional demands on you. His already PMO weakened de-stressors are in no way ready to take the aggravation. At that time the PMOer, if he isn&rsquo;t already doing so, will fantasize the relief of internet porn that he promised himself that night. He will even allow himself to “take one step more” into the ‘forbidden’ area that he had previously self-excluded. He doesn&rsquo;t know why he does this but he does know that for some reason it appears to help.</p> <p>What has actually happened is this: without being conscious of it, he has already been suffering aggravation (i.e. the withdrawal pangs). By partially relieving that aggravation at the same time as normal stress, the total stress is reduced and the PMOer gets a boost. At this point the boost is not, in fact, an illusion. The Internet porn user will feel better than before. However, even when using porn to masturbate he or she is more tense than if he were a non-PMOer because the more you go into the drug, the more it knocks you down and the less it restores you when you masturbate. I promised no shock treatment. In the example I am about to give, I am not trying to shock you, I am merely emphasizing that PMO destroy your nerves rather than relax them.</p> <p>Try to imagine getting to the stage where you cannot get aroused even with a very sexy and attractive partner. Just for a moment pause and try to visualize life where one very lovely and charming woman has to compete and fail with all the virtual porn stars who are in your &lsquo;harem&rsquo; to get your attention! Try to imagine the frame of mind of a man who, issued with that warning, actually continues PMOing and then dies without ever having had real sex with this charming and willing real woman. I had read real life stories like that from men and dismissed them as weirdos. In fact, I used to wish a doctor would tell me that this weird condition would happen if I continue PMO; then I would have stopped. Yet I was already fully expecting that PIED and hypofrontality where I am guaranteed to lose in a brain war. I didn&rsquo;t think of myself as an impotent, just a heavy PMOer. Now, let’s talk about the stress that this is putting on me.</p> <p>Such weird stories as the above are not fakes. That is what this awful ‘novelty’ porn drug does to you. As you go through life, it systematically takes away your nerve and courage. The more it takes your courage away, the more you are deluded into believing the porn is doing the opposite.</p> @@ -3992,7 +4056,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:36:16 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-08-relieving-withdrawal-pangs/ - <p>As I explained earlier, PMOers think they do it for enjoyment, relaxation or some sort of education. In fact, this an illusion. The actual reason is the relief of withdrawal pangs. In the early days we use the porn as a curious and novel thing or even educational or as a rebel. We can take it or leave it. However, the subtle chain has started. Our subconscious mind begins to learn that internet porn and masturbation taken at certain times tends to be pleasurable. The more we become hooked on the drug, the greater the need to relieve the withdrawal pangs and the further the PMO drags you down and the more you are fooled into believing it is doing the opposite. It all happens so slowly, so gradually, you are not even aware of it. Each day you feel no different from the day before. Most young PMOers don&rsquo;t even realize they are hooked until they actually try to stop and even then many won&rsquo;t admit to it. A few stalwarts just keep their heads in the sand all their lives,trying to convince themselves and other people that they enjoy it.</p> + <h2 id="relieving-withdrawal-pangs">Relieving Withdrawal Pangs <a class="anchor" href="#relieving-withdrawal-pangs"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As I explained earlier, PMOers think they do it for enjoyment, relaxation or some sort of education. In fact, this an illusion. The actual reason is the relief of withdrawal pangs. In the early days we use the porn as a curious and novel thing or even educational or as a rebel. We can take it or leave it. However, the subtle chain has started. Our subconscious mind begins to learn that internet porn and masturbation taken at certain times tends to be pleasurable. The more we become hooked on the drug, the greater the need to relieve the withdrawal pangs and the further the PMO drags you down and the more you are fooled into believing it is doing the opposite. It all happens so slowly, so gradually, you are not even aware of it. Each day you feel no different from the day before. Most young PMOers don&rsquo;t even realize they are hooked until they actually try to stop and even then many won&rsquo;t admit to it. A few stalwarts just keep their heads in the sand all their lives,trying to convince themselves and other people that they enjoy it.</p> <p>Listen to this conversation a therapist had with hundreds of teenagers.</p> <blockquote> <p>TH: “You realize that internet porn is a drug and that the only reason why you are using is that you cannot stop.”</p> @@ -4022,33 +4088,29 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 08:39:02 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-07-brainwashing-and-the-primitive-mechanism/ - <p>How or why do we start PMOing in the first place? To understand this fully you need to examine the powerful effect of the supernormal stimulus. We all tend to think we are intelligent, dominant human beings determining our paths through life. We act and act frequently when our brain reward circuit are rewarded. Nobel laureate Nikolaas Tinbergen coined the term “supranormal stimulus.” He said mammals could be tricked into preferring fake eggs and mates. Female birds, for example, struggled to sit on larger-than life, vividly spotted plaster eggs while their own pale, dappled eggs perished untended.</p> + <h2 id="brainwashing-and-the-primitive-mechanism">Brainwashing and the Primitive Mechanism <a class="anchor" href="#brainwashing-and-the-primitive-mechanism"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>How or why do we start PMOing in the first place? To understand this fully you need to examine the powerful effect of the supernormal stimulus. We all tend to think we are intelligent, dominant human beings determining our paths through life. We act and act frequently when our brain reward circuit are rewarded. Nobel laureate Nikolaas Tinbergen coined the term “supranormal stimulus.” He said mammals could be tricked into preferring fake eggs and mates. Female birds, for example, struggled to sit on larger-than life, vividly spotted plaster eggs while their own pale, dappled eggs perished untended.</p> <p>The stimulation here in internet porn is not it brings stimulating actors and themes to your home - it is a genie at your bidding to create a harem in your mind. You can switch between genres and theme, home-made and viewer rated, commented and discussed, so rapid and so easy. We absolutely are not ready for the high speed internet porn and our brains are not designed to handle this supranormal stimuli.</p> <p>We can have an ‘information overload’ from the same internet but our reward circuits are not going to squirt dopamine at the levels when ‘porn overload’ is involved. We are evolutionarily programmed to seek and access sex related stuff. And we wrongly appraise the stimulus mostly based on this reward circuit action. If all you wanted is to masturbate why can’t you just use one clip and get the business done?</p> <p>Here is another question - next time after a long day or some stressful incident can you consciously embellish your self-talk with “Do you know what I would really enjoy today? The marvellous warm glow of dopamine rush going to my online harem.” You will find that even people who dislike PMO will join you.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="past-misguided-advice"><strong>Past Misguided Advice</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#past-misguided-advice"> +<h2 id="past-misguided-advice">Past Misguided Advice <a class="anchor" href="#past-misguided-advice"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.</p> +</a></h2><p>There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.</p> <p>From our earliest years our subconscious minds are bombarded daily with information telling us that sex is good and that the most precious thing on this earth is to ‘achieve’ orgasm. Girls are taught to achieve it and claim it&rsquo;s because they were wrongly suppressed of their sexual side for a very long time and still are. You think I exaggerate? Watch any TV or movie plot and you will see the mix-up of the amative (touch, smell, voice etc.) and the propagative (orgasmic) sides of sex. The impact of this does not register on our conscious minds but the sleeping partner, the subconscious mind, has time to absorb it. What the message is really saying is, “The most precious thing on this earth, my last thought and action, will be the goal of orgasm.” If you don’t have an orgasm then you are an old man with zero libido.</p> <p>Our children are being bombarded by sex and porn clips and many don’t even know how to protect them from it all. Large hoardings and magazine adverts are loaded with sexual innuendo. Some of the pop videos are extremely suggestive - again they hide behind free speech. Don’t be vexed and feel powerless about it. Make it a game and find you which of the components they are using - is it novelty, shock value, color, size, taboo etc. If the kids are pre-teen some of these can be disclosed to them and it would make an excellent show-and-tell game.</p> <p>A while back there was a wave of ‘leaked’ private videos of celebrities on the internet. If the youngster is too smitten by their favourite star, even if the conscious mind blames the ‘leak’ on the blood thirsty internet paparazzi, the &lsquo;sleeping partner&rsquo; is patiently digesting the notion that, “yes, even my shambolic hero does it and if I don’t, I won’t look the part.”</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-scientific-reasoning"><strong>The Scientific Reasoning</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-scientific-reasoning"> +<h2 id="the-scientific-reasoning">The Scientific Reasoning <a class="anchor" href="#the-scientific-reasoning"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>, Reboot<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> forums, underground PUA<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup>, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn&rsquo;t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.</p> +</a></h2><p>True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>, Reboot<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> forums, underground PUA<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup>, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn&rsquo;t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.</p> <p>Ironically, the most powerful force in this melee of confusion is the PMOer himself. It is a fallacy that they are weak-willed or are physically weak specimens. You have to be physically strong in order to cope with an addiction after you know it is. This is one of the reasons why PMOers refuse to accept the overwhelming statistics that prove that internet porn with its ‘novelty’ cripples your brain. Add to that the sexologists who are doing half-baked studies and declare PMO is not an issue - they just help to add to the confusion.</p> <p>Everyone knows a friend who PMOed every day - he started with the ‘static’ to internet porn, always horny in real life, chasing girls and you never doubted him to have sex problems of course. You want to believe him. He never complained about any ED right? Guys and girls like them refuse even to consider the hundreds of ex-addicts and non-PMOers who painfully recount their difficulties. It is the “little monster” brain chemical addiction and the “big monster” - illusions and delusions. In this hackbook, I&rsquo;ve put together almost all the sorts of brainwashing a PMOer can suffer from. There will always be a few out there that I haven&rsquo;t touched upon.</p> <p>Even more painful is they think of themselves as unsuccessful losers and insufferable introverts. A possible fact is that a PMO friend could have been more interesting in person if he hadn’t put himself down for seeking self-pleasure.</p> <p>If you do a small survey among your online forum members, friends and colleagues, you will find that most PMOers are, in fact, strong-willed people. They tend to be self-employed, business executives or in certain specialized professions, such as doctors<sup id="fnref:4"><a href="#fn:4" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">4</a></sup>, lawyers, policemen, teachers, salesmen, nurses, secretaries, housewives with children, etc. In other words, anybody leading a stressful existence. Yes, I did include women and mothers. It’s the brain and it’s the same for them too. The main delusion of the PMOer is that porn helps to masturbate to orgasm and that relieves stress. This tends to be associated with the dominant type, the type that takes on responsibility and stress and, of course, that is the type that we admire and therefore tend to copy. Another group that tends to get hooked are people in monotonous jobs because the other main reason for PMOing is boredom. However, the idea that internet porn relieves boredom is also an illusion, I am afraid.</p> <p>As a society we get all uptight about glue-sniffing, heroin addiction, etc. Actual deaths from glue-sniffing do not amount to ten per annum, and deaths from heroin are less than a hundred a year in this country. There is another drug, internet porn, on which over 45 per cent of us become hooked at some time in our lives and the majority spend the rest of their lives regretting it. Some even don’t know that their ED is due to this.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-willpower-method"><strong>The Willpower Method</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method"> +<h2 id="the-willpower-method">The Willpower Method <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why?</p> +</a></h2><p>PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why?</p> <p>Constant exposure to internet porn re-wires your brain. You need to start building resistance to this brainwashing, just as if you were buying a car from a second-hand car dealer. You would be nodding politely but you would not believe a word the man was saying. So don’t believe everything they say either - that you must have sex as much as you can and you must have it exceptional good. And that in the absence of real sex you claim it by the substitute called internet porn - which is only a component of the good old porn.</p> <p>And don’t play ‘safe’ porn game either - because your “little porn monster” invented that scheme to lure you. Even the content - ‘amateur’? Really? Is there a certification authority that certifies it? Tube sites and porn producers gather site visitor profiles and cater to their needs. If they see a trend in crowd sourced collection of a particular genre they will focus on that and get content out ASAP. The statistics of what genre users like is collected to the level of how long and which portion the users were preferring. Do not be fooled by their educational intent or the safe female oriented clips (for you ladies). Start asking yourself:</p> <ul> @@ -4058,27 +4120,21 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p><strong>NO, OF COURSE YOU DON&rsquo;T.</strong></p> <p>I find this brainwashing aspect the most difficult of all to explain. Why is it that an otherwise rational, intelligent human being becomes a complete imbecile about his own addiction? It pains me to confess that out of the thousands of people that I have assisted in kicking the habit, I (not Allen Carr) was the biggest idiot of all.</p> <p>At the age of thirteen, although I was doing well at school and games, I was still an insufferable introvert. I read books from the library that were not within my main study list. However, I can see that I was attracted to erotica. I started masturbating to TV programs, song and dance sequences etc. I must have to have it every day. The tired feeling I felt was misappropriated by my ‘little porn monster’ as work stress. I didn’t know my “I-must-masturbate-as-I-am-entitled” attitude was the one that created the ‘stress’ in the first place. Then I got pictures and GIFs via email on my laptop - the first step towards electronic porn. The colour and texture of the images were amazing for me at that time - won’t be now for sure. Then came dial-up but still they were predominantly static pictures. Then came downloadable videos. It’s a pain to download and watch now - but it was heaven sent then as we were coming out of the static porn era! Oh, the streaming tube sites haven’t arrived yet.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"><strong>When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"> +<h2 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore">When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore <a class="anchor" href="#when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn.</p> +</a></h2><p>I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn.</p> <p>At the age of forty, I was visiting my online harem daily, drinking ‘socially’ (whatever that means) and smoking ‘sometimes’ but not so often. I had wrongly subscribed to misguided ideas of ‘moderation’ and ‘entitlement’. I had reached the stage where I couldn&rsquo;t get through a single day without reaching out to porn in the night. With most PMOers, the triggers are the normal stresses of life, like answering the telephone or socializing.</p> <p>When I experienced PIED - I knew it was killing my virility. There was no way I could kid myself otherwise. I am smart enough not to ‘project’ the porn fantasies on to real life. But it was like pacifying a dog straining at its leash. But why I couldn&rsquo;t see what it was doing to me mentally, I could not understand. It was almost jumping up and biting me on the nose. The ridiculous thing is that most PMOers suffer the delusion at some time in their life that they enjoy internet porn because it is ‘normal’ and ‘healthy’. I never suffered that delusion, I PMOed because I thought enjoying sex is a ‘birthright’ and I am only doing a normal thing.</p> <p>Since it was easier at most times for me to get internet porn than a partner I thought I am doing the normal thing. Now I am a non-PMOer, the most difficult part is trying to believe that those days actually happened. It&rsquo;s like awakening from a nightmare and that is about the size of it. Internet porn is a supranormal drug. It is weakening your de-stressing mechanisms, your virility and your energy. The worst aspect of PMO isn&rsquo;t the injury to your health or manliness, it is the warping of the mind. You search for any plausible excuse to go on.</p> <p>I remember at one stage switching to static images, a failed attempt to cut down on internet porn, in the belief that it was less harmful and I could reign in my ‘habit’. I failed to see the ‘novelty’ and the ‘shock’ demands from my ‘little monster’ to just get more dopamine. Did I ‘stay’ within my boundaries? I ‘favorited’ 2 dimensional photos and my harem collection saw pictures and videos of ‘mild’ type porn rotating in and out like musical chair. When their ‘music’ stopped they ‘exited’. I didn’t understand the novelty-seeking, shock-seeking nature of my brain.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pied-and-my-excuses"><strong>PIED And My Excuses</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pied-and-my-excuses"> +<h2 id="pied-and-my-excuses">PIED And My Excuses <a class="anchor" href="#pied-and-my-excuses"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.</p> +</a></h2><p>Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.</p> <p>Most PMOers swear that they only watch static and soft porn and so they are OK. They are actually straining at the leash and thus fighting with their willpower to resist temptations. If they do this too often and for too long they will debit their willpower considerably and fail in other life projects where willpower is of much great value, like in daily exercise, dieting etc. Continuous failure in those areas will make them feel miserable and guilty and very soon they will find themselves back to their entitled relief. If not, they will vent their anger and depression onto their loved ones.</p> <p>The answer is that once you have become addicted to internet porn, the brainwashing is increased. Your subconscious mind knows that the little monster has to be fed and you block everything else from your mind. As I have already stated, it is fear that keeps people quitting, the fear of that empty, insecure feeling that you get when you stop supplying the brain with dopamine flooding. Just because you are not aware of it doesn&rsquo;t mean it isn&rsquo;t there. You don&rsquo;t have to understand it any more than a cat needs to understand where the under-floor hot-water pipes are. It just knows that if it sits in a certain place it gets the feeling of warmth.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind"><strong>The Passivity Of Our Mind</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-passivity-of-our-mind"> +<h2 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind">The Passivity Of Our Mind <a class="anchor" href="#the-passivity-of-our-mind"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I&rsquo;ve frequently referred to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo; PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo;, but to stopping, quitting or the true position: <strong>ESCAPING!</strong></p> +</a></h2><p>It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I&rsquo;ve frequently referred to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo; PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo;, but to stopping, quitting or the true position: <strong>ESCAPING!</strong></p> <p>The only thing that persuades us to PMO in the first place is all the other people doing it. We feel we are missing out. We work so hard to become hooked, yet nobody ever finds out what they have been missing. But every time we see another new video clip it reassures us that there must be something in it, otherwise people wouldn&rsquo;t be doing it - and it wouldn&rsquo;t be such big business all over the world. Even when he has kicked the habit, the ex-PMOer feels he is being deprived when a discussion on a sexy entertainer, singer or even a porn star comes up at a party or other social function. She or he must be good to have all my friends talk about them, no? Do they have ‘hot’ pictures of her in my tube site? He feels safe. He can have just one ‘peek’ that night. And, before he knows it, he is hooked again.</p> <p>This brainwashing is extremely powerful and you need to be aware of its effects. I have heard scare stories about wicked men giving heroin mixed candies to kids at schoolyards. The concept of addiction and being compelled to go on taking the drug, filled me with horror. Even to this day, in spite of the fact that I am fairly convinced that &lsquo;pot&rsquo; is not addictive, I would not dare take one puff of marijuana. How ironic that I should have ended up a porn junky. Technology will continue to grow and we will have even faster tube sites and more faster access methods. The industry is investing millions in Virtual Reality so it will become the next best thing. The point is, do we know where we are going? Are we equipped with an under armour of defence so we can enjoy the benefits of technology yet at the same time protect ourselves from its bad effects?</p> <p>We are about to remove the brainwashing. It is not the non-PMOer who is being deprived but the poor user who is forfeiting a lifetime of:</p> @@ -4120,15 +4176,15 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:44:00 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-06-internet-porn/ - <p>Erotic novelty of the internet porn is a mental ‘drug’ and internet porn beats anything that is known to mankind and its streaming straight to your home for free ! We are not even talking VR virtual reality here. Porn triggers the ‘flooding’ of dopamine in our brain. Dopamine amps up the brain reward circuitry to produce experiences and feels of cravings and pleasure by locking themselves into ‘receptors’. More dopamine more wanting. Less dopamine no wanting. New experiences, tasty food - more dopamine - more wanting. Sex and sex related stuff gives the biggest injection of dopamine in the reward circuits. Dopamine is not the final pleasure stuff, if it were you would feel happy when you are done with it, but it is only a brain chemical that encourages seeking and action in you. The real pleasure is produced by opioids. More dopamine more opioids more + <h2 id="internet-porn">Internet Porn <a class="anchor" href="#internet-porn"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Erotic novelty of the internet porn is a mental ‘drug’ and internet porn beats anything that is known to mankind and its streaming straight to your home for free ! We are not even talking VR virtual reality here. Porn triggers the ‘flooding’ of dopamine in our brain. Dopamine amps up the brain reward circuitry to produce experiences and feels of cravings and pleasure by locking themselves into ‘receptors’. More dopamine more wanting. Less dopamine no wanting. New experiences, tasty food - more dopamine - more wanting. Sex and sex related stuff gives the biggest injection of dopamine in the reward circuits. Dopamine is not the final pleasure stuff, if it were you would feel happy when you are done with it, but it is only a brain chemical that encourages seeking and action in you. The real pleasure is produced by opioids. More dopamine more opioids more action more happy feelings.</p> <p>So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. All of which will now be stored as a script in your brain for easy access next time. I call this a ‘water slide’. Next time at the cue - a sexy commercial or alone time or stress or feeling a little down - you are ready to take a ride on the ‘water slide’. One more thing is that every time to repeat this you are ‘greasing’ it as well - so it is active, alive and more easier to slide the next time.</p> <p>As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating. Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish, ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you won’t on your first time.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="my-own-online-harem"><strong>My Own Online Harem!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#my-own-online-harem"> +<h2 id="my-own-online-harem">My Own Online Harem! <a class="anchor" href="#my-own-online-harem"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost.</p> +</a></h2><p>This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost.</p> <p>Going back to the earlier discussion - in this cycle as you crossed the ‘red line’ you also trigger emotions such as guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety and fear - which in turn raise dopamine levels as well. Now the brain may mistakenly associate feelings of anxiety and fear as sexual arousal. This perpetual cycle is only broken by natural causes - fortunately sooner or later. With its free access and privacy it provides boundless harem-like novelty. The dopamine can be theoretically kept very high for a very very long time. I can be satisfied with one lobster once in awhile. But Internet porn is different. It is even worse than drugs. Don’t let me make you nervous. I will shortly show you how to be free from this slavery.</p> <p>Now our human body has a self-correcting system by which the number of dopamine and opioid receptors are cut short when frequent and daily ‘flooding’ of dopamine is detected. Unfortunately - these receptors are also needed for receiving dopamine and to keep us even and balanced to handle the inevitable and normal day-to-day stresses. But this natural nominal amount of dopamine will not be absorbed efficiently with decreased receptors and you will feel mores tressed and irritated than normal.</p> <blockquote> @@ -4140,18 +4196,14 @@ action more happy feelings.</p> <p>A fleeting feeling of security is all that is needed to get through a rough spot in life - but will your brain be able to catch that drop of de-stressor that a non-PMOers’ brain is able to catch and use?</p> <p>This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I will explain more about this later.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-little-monster"><strong>The Little Monster</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-little-monster"> +<h2 id="the-little-monster">The Little Monster <a class="anchor" href="#the-little-monster"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&rsquo; we think we just &lsquo;got into the habit&rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.</p> +</a></h2><p>The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&rsquo; we think we just &lsquo;got into the habit&rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.</p> <p>Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, resulting in the feeling of fulfilment and pleasure that the action gives to the PMOer. In the early days, when we first start PMOing, the withdrawal pangs and their relief are so slight that we are not even aware that they exist. When we begin to masturbate regularly to internet porn we think it is because we&rsquo;ve either come to enjoy them or got into the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. The truth is we&rsquo;re already hooked; we do not realize it, but that little monster is already inside our stomach and every now and again we have to feed it.</p> <p>All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster. The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had before he became hooked in the first place.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm"><strong>The Annoying Burglar Alarm</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-annoying-burglar-alarm"> +<h2 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm">The Annoying Burglar Alarm <a class="anchor" href="#the-annoying-burglar-alarm"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we +</a></h2><p>You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain goes on. It is a chain for life - <strong>UNLESS YOU BREAK IT</strong>.</p> <p>The whole business of PMO is like wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure you feel when you take them off. There are three main reasons why PMOers cannot see things that way:</p> <ol> @@ -4162,11 +4214,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <p>It is this &lsquo;back to front&rsquo; reverse process that makes all drugs difficult to kick. Picture the panic state of a heroin addict who has no heroin. Now picture the utter joy when that addict can finally plunge a needle into his vein. Can you visualize someone actually getting pleasure by injecting themselves, or does the mere thought fill you with horror? Non-heroin addicts don&rsquo;t suffer that panic feeling.</p> <p>The heroin doesn&rsquo;t relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a 14 year old in 2008 - didn&rsquo;t suffer the empty feeling of needing internet porn or start to panic when they are off- line. Non-PMOers cannot understand how PMOers can possibly obtain pleasure from two dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. And do you know something? PMOers themselves cannot understand why they do it after some time either.</p> <p>We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don&rsquo;t non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their &rsquo;little monster&rsquo;?</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch"><strong>A Pleasure or Crutch?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#a-pleasure-or-crutch"> +<h2 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch">A Pleasure or Crutch? <a class="anchor" href="#a-pleasure-or-crutch"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;I need to eat.&rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.</p> +</a></h2><p>Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;I need to eat.&rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.</p> <p>PMOing appears to be almost identical. The empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;wanting or needing an PMO orgasm’ is identical to a hunger for food, although one will not satisfy the other. Like hunger, there is no physical pain and the feeling is so imperceptible that we are not even aware of it between PMO sessions. It&rsquo;s only if we want to masturbate and aren&rsquo;t able to reach internet for porn that we become aware of any discomfort. But when we do PMO we feel satisfied.</p> <p>It is this similarity to eating which helps to fool PMOers into believing that they receive some genuine pleasure. Some PMOers find it very difficult to grasp that there is no pleasure or crutch, whatsoever to PMO. Some argue: “How can you say there is no crutch? When I orgasm up then I&rsquo;llfeel less nervous than before.”</p> <p>Although eating and PMOing appear to be very similar. In fact they are exact opposites:</p> @@ -4175,17 +4225,13 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <li>Food does genuinely taste good, and eating is a genuinely pleasant experience that we can enjoy throughout our lives, whereas PMOing involves self-sabotaging the happiness receptors and thus destroying your chances to cope and to feel happy.</li> <li>Eating doesn&rsquo;t create hunger and genuinely relieves it, whereas the first PMO starts the craving for dopamine and each subsequent one, far from relieving it, ensures that you suffer it for the rest of life.</li> </ol> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pmo-is-a-habit"><strong>PMO is a Habit?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pmo-is-a-habit"> +<h2 id="pmo-is-a-habit">PMO is a Habit? <a class="anchor" href="#pmo-is-a-habit"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.</p> +</a></h2><p>This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.</p> <p>On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience, I also refer to the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> - we have to then have more bizarre and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting&hellip; not in the killing. If we don&rsquo;t then panic sets in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great!</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="crossing-the-red-line"><strong>Crossing The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#crossing-the-red-line"> +<h2 id="crossing-the-red-line">Crossing The Red Line <a class="anchor" href="#crossing-the-red-line"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.</p> +</a></h2><p>This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.</p> <p>You feel better than you did before starting this PMO session but you are in fact more nervous and less relaxed than you would be as a non-PMOer, like someone who is living in Loma Linda or in an Amish village, even though you are actually PMOing and living in your supposed “porn paradise.” This position is even more ridiculous than wearing tight shoes because as you go through life an increasing amount of the discomfort remains even when the shoes are removed.</p> <p>Once the orgasm is achieved, the dopamine rapidly begins to leave the brain, causing a mood dip. Which explains why the PMOer wants to ‘edge’<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> and switch through multiple browser windows as they seek and search. As I said, the ‘habit’ doesn&rsquo;t exist. The real reason why every user goes on using internet porn is because of that little porn monster inside his stomach. Every now and again he has to feed it. The PMOer himself will decide when he does that and it tends to be on four types of occasion or a combination of them.</p> <p>These occasions are:</p> @@ -4195,25 +4241,19 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to </ul> <p>What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If you think about it, what other types of occasion are there in our lives; apart from sleep? The truth is that PMO neither relieves boredom and stress nor promotes concentration and relaxation. It is all just illusion. Apart from being a drug, PMO is also a destroyer of happiness and virility.</p> <p>In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes, print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’ and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive without knowing the difference between food and poison.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"><strong>Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"> +<h2 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics">Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics <a class="anchor" href="#brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!</p> +</a></h2><p>Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!</p> <p>When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were titillating but most were disgusting, causing you to avert your eyes away. Like you would if had accidentally glanced a feeding mother’s breast. And some of us are even revolted with what they saw when the star reminded them of someone dear to their heart or a scene which recalled their own instance of being the victim. Some don’t feel like it to browse and masturbate at the same time. It may be hard to believe for you but the non-PMOs, who don’t PMO after their first time, are the lucky ones. They actually decided that it was not their cup of tea. It must be hard for you to believe but stay with me.</p> <p>How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even after a hard day? Why not? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That&rsquo;s all.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak"><strong>Are PMOers Mentally Weak?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#are-pmoers-mentally-weak"> +<h2 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak">Are PMOers Mentally Weak? <a class="anchor" href="#are-pmoers-mentally-weak"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.</p> +</a></h2><p>It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.</p> <p>To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to become hooked, and this is why it is difficult to stop teenagers. Because they are skilled in seeking and finding material, they know online privacy options and can clean their tracks - if they still feel some stigma and they (wrongfully) believe they can stop whenever they want to. Why do they not learn from us? Then again, why did we not learn from our PMOers and addicts?</p> <p>Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of ‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying is the ritual of relieving those pangs.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"><strong>The High From The Dance Around The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"> +<h2 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line">The High From The Dance Around The Red Line <a class="anchor" href="#the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.</p> +</a></h2><p>Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.</p> <p>Ask a user who believes that he sticks to a certain actor or genre - only because he likes something about the star or the theme (if any) of the clip: “If you cannot get your normal brand of porn and can only obtain a poor or unsafe brand, do you stop masturbating?” No way. A PMOer will masturbate to anything rather than abstain and it doesn&rsquo;t matter if he has to switch to escalating themes, different sex-orientation-themes, look-alike actresses, dangerous settings shocking relationships etc. To begin with they taste awful but if you persevere you will learn to like them. Most PMOers will also try to seek masturbation even after having real sex (unfulfilment, porn-induced unrealistic expectations etc.), or after a long, stressful work day, fever, colds, flu, sore throats and even when admitted in hospitals.</p> <p>Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wanted then it makes no sense to be with your laptop. During my conversation some PMOers find it alarming to realize they are drug addicts and think it will make it even more difficult to stop. In fact, it is all good news for two important reasons:</p> <ol> @@ -4221,18 +4261,14 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <li>Although internet porn is the most powerful trigger for ‘novelty’ and ‘sex’ based dopamine ‘flooding’ - because of the speed with which you become hooked, you are never badly hooked. The actual withdrawal pangs are so mild that most PMOers have lived and died without ever realizing that they have suffered them.</li> </ol> <p>You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc. The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn&rsquo;t bother the PMOers.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-smokers-analogy"><strong>The Smokers Analogy</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-smokers-analogy"> +<h2 id="the-smokers-analogy">The Smokers Analogy <a class="anchor" href="#the-smokers-analogy"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they&rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn&rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.</p> +</a></h2><p>A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they&rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn&rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.</p> <p>PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their parents while visiting for family get togethers etc. with little discomfort to themselves. In fact, most PMOers have extended periods during which they abstain without effort. Even in my case I would quite happily go a week or so without a PMO incident. In the later years as a PMOer I actually used to look forward to these days when I could stop choking my penis (what a ridiculous &lsquo;habit&rsquo;).</p> <p>The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"><strong>The Big Monster - The Brainwashing</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"> +<h2 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing">The Big Monster - The Brainwashing <a class="anchor" href="#the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.</p> +</a></h2><p>You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.</p> <p>Not all the amateurs are ‘amateurs’ on these tube sites, oversized body parts and overcharged scenarios are the norm, aided by a bit of the ‘viagran’ help.</p> <p>As I say, the actual porn addiction is not the main problem. It just acts as a catalyst to keep our minds confused over the real problem: the brainwashing. It may be of consolation to lifelong and heavy PMOers to know that it is just as easy for them to stop as casual PMOers. In a peculiar way. it is easier. The further you go along with the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;, the more it drags you down and the greater the gain when you stop.</p> <p>It may be of further consolation for you to know that the rumours that occasionally circulate that the neural pathways created are there for life, and so at the right (or wrong) time and with strong stimuli you will be sliding again down the ‘water slide’ of internet porn and masturbation to permanently destroy your real life sex are untrue.</p> @@ -4259,7 +4295,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:42:16 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-05-why-do-we-carry-on-with-pmo/ - <p>We all start PMOing for many reasons, usually social pressures or our biological curiosity, but once we feel we are becoming hooked, why do we carry on using porn? No regular PMOer knows why he or she looks at porn. If PMOers knew the true reason, they would stop doing it. The true answer is the same for all PMOers but the variety of replies is infinite, I find this part of the consultation the most amusing and at the same time the most pathetic.</p> + <h2 id="why-do-we-carry-on-with-pmo">Why Do We Carry on With PMO <a class="anchor" href="#why-do-we-carry-on-with-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>We all start PMOing for many reasons, usually social pressures or our biological curiosity, but once we feel we are becoming hooked, why do we carry on using porn? No regular PMOer knows why he or she looks at porn. If PMOers knew the true reason, they would stop doing it. The true answer is the same for all PMOers but the variety of replies is infinite, I find this part of the consultation the most amusing and at the same time the most pathetic.</p> <p>All PMOers know in their heart of hearts that they are fools. They know that they had no need to use porn or internet porn before they became hooked. Most of them can remember that their first ‘peek’ was a mix of revulsion and novel curiosity. They then filter out and get “skilled” at “locating” and “bookmarking” the right porn sites. They know that they had to work hard in order to become hooked.</p> <p>The most annoying part is that they sense that non-addicts - most women, older guys, people living in countries where hi-speed internet porn is not available “on tap” - are not missing anything and that they are laughing at them.</p> <p>However, PMOers are intelligent, rational human beings. They know that they are taking enormous future risks and so they spend a lot of time rationalizing their ‘habit’. The actual reason why PMOers continue is a subtle combination of the factors that I will elaborate in the next two chapters. They are:</p> @@ -4276,7 +4314,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:38:28 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-04-the-sinister-trap/ - <p>Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it&rsquo;s an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked.</p> + <h2 id="the-sinister-trap">The Sinister Trap <a class="anchor" href="#the-sinister-trap"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it&rsquo;s an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked.</p> <p>It is the only trap in nature which has does not require a lot of hard work to set up. The thing that springs the trap is not that all porn clips feature young, high quality, sexy models; it’s that most of the thumbnails on any porn web page are ugly looking, unattractive, amateurish, home-made clips of unknown models. If the first timer’s first look at a tube page was only filled with angelic beauties, professional models and high quality then the alarm bells would ring. And as intelligent human beings, we could then understand why half the adult population was systematically addicted to watching something that is cutting down their very same potential to do what they are viewing. In many known and yet unknown ways porn cuts down sexual performance and the feeling of satisfaction.</p> <p>But because that first “peek” has “stains and holes,” a mishmash of low quality clips of not-so-hot models, our young minds are reassured that we will never become hooked, and we think that because we are not enjoying them we can stop whenever we want to. It is the only drug in nature that prevents you from achieving your aim. Our curiosity brings us to its door steps. You dare not even click on all of the thumbnails because some of them will make you feel sick and throw up! If you were to accidentally click on an “I-did-not-see-that” clip - all you want to do is get away from the site and close your laptop.</p> <p>With women, the aim is to be the sophisticated modern young lady. We have all seen them acting up and looking absolutely ridiculous. By the time the boys have learnt to look tough and the girls have learnt to look sophisticated, they wish they had never started in the first place. I wonder whether women ever look sophisticated when they discuss the top 10 porn sites, or whether this is a figment of our imaginations created by internet porn companies.</p> @@ -4294,7 +4334,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:31:45 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-03-why-is-it-difficult-to-stop/ - <p>As I explained earlier, I got interested in this subject because of my own addiction. When I finally stopped it was like magic. When I had previously tried to stop there were weeks of black depression. There would be odd days when I was comparatively cheerful but the next day back with the depression. It was like clawing your way out of a slippery pit, you feel you are near the top, you see the sunshine and then find yourself sliding down again. Eventually you open your browser and as you masturbate you feel awful and you try to work out why you have to do it.</p> + <h2 id="why-is-it-difficult-to-stop">Why Is It Difficult to Stop? <a class="anchor" href="#why-is-it-difficult-to-stop"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As I explained earlier, I got interested in this subject because of my own addiction. When I finally stopped it was like magic. When I had previously tried to stop there were weeks of black depression. There would be odd days when I was comparatively cheerful but the next day back with the depression. It was like clawing your way out of a slippery pit, you feel you are near the top, you see the sunshine and then find yourself sliding down again. Eventually you open your browser and as you masturbate you feel awful and you try to work out why you have to do it.</p> <p>One of the questions I always ask online is: “do you want to stop PMO?” In a way it is a stupid question. All users (including members who dispute total abstinence) would love to stop PMO. If you ask to the most confirmed PMOer: “if you could go back to the time before you became hooked, with the knowledge you have now, would you have started PMO?”</p> <p>“NO WAY,” would be the reply.</p> <p>Say to the confirmed PMOer - someone who defends internet porn and who doesn&rsquo;t think that it cause injury to the brain (PIED, hypofrontality or the decreases in the dopamine receptors and etc.) - “do you encourage your children to use PMO?”</p> @@ -4343,12 +4385,14 @@ man and woman from performance based anxieties.&#160;<a href="#fnref: - 03-02 the Easy Method + 03-02 The Easy Method https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-02-the-easy-method/ Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:26:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-02-the-easy-method/ - <p>The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy.</p> + <h2 id="the-easy-method">The Easy Method <a class="anchor" href="#the-easy-method"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy.</p> <p>Provided that you are not a non-PMOer (who had never got addicted) or an ex-PMOer (who had quit or is in the fasting days of the porn-diet), it is essential to not quit until you have finished the book completely. This may appear to be a contradiction. Later I shall be explaining that porn do absolutely nothing for you at all. In fact, one of the many conundrums about internet porn is that when we are actually masturbating to a porn clip, we look at it and wonder why we are doing it. It is only when we have been deprived that the craving for PMO becomes precious.</p> <p>However, let us accept that, whether you like it or not, you believe you are hooked. When you believe you are hooked, you can never be completely relaxed or concentrate properly unless you are using PMO. So do not attempt to stop PMO before you have finished the whole book. This instruction to continue to masturbate using porn until you have completed the book has caused me more frustration than any other. As you read further your desire to masturbate to porn will gradually be reduced. Do not go off half-cocked; this could be fatal. Remember, all you have to do is to follow the instructions in the right order. When I first started writing on forums many of the readers also stopped purely because I had done it. They thought, “if he can do it, anybody can.”</p> <p>Over the years, I managed to persuade the ones that hadn&rsquo;t stopped to realize just how nice it is to be free! I gave my hackbook for free upon request. I worked on the basis that, even if it were the most boring book ever written, they would still read it, if only because it had been written by an ex-PMOer. I was surprised and hurt to learn that,they hadn&rsquo;t bothered to finish the book.</p> @@ -4380,12 +4424,14 @@ man and woman from performance based anxieties.&#160;<a href="#fnref: - 03-01 the Worst PMO Addict I Have Yet to Meet + 03-01 The Worst PMO Addict I Have Yet to Meet https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-01-the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet/ Tue, 20 Dec 2022 17:10:39 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-01-the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet/ - <p>Perhaps I should begin by describing my competence for writing this book. No, I am not a doctor or a psychiatrist; my qualifications are far more appropriate. I spent thirty years of my life as a confirmed fapper. In the later years I used porn on a daily bases to get orgasm(s).During my life I had made a great number of attempts to stop. I never got past a full week of abstinence, and I was still climbing up the wall, with an “annoying alarm clock beeping” in my head called craving. With most PMOers, on the health side, it&rsquo;s a question of “ I&rsquo;ll stop before it happens to me.” I had reached the stage where I knew it has caused PIED, hypofrontality (inability to control and execute action towards a goal), irritability, lack of energy, soulless eyes, mental dryness, stress and pain in the lower back, genital irritations. It bothered me, but it still didn&rsquo;t stop me.</p> + <h2 id="the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet">The Worst PMO Addict I Have Yet to Meet <a class="anchor" href="#the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Perhaps I should begin by describing my competence for writing this book. No, I am not a doctor or a psychiatrist; my qualifications are far more appropriate. I spent thirty years of my life as a confirmed fapper. In the later years I used porn on a daily bases to get orgasm(s).During my life I had made a great number of attempts to stop. I never got past a full week of abstinence, and I was still climbing up the wall, with an “annoying alarm clock beeping” in my head called craving. With most PMOers, on the health side, it&rsquo;s a question of “ I&rsquo;ll stop before it happens to me.” I had reached the stage where I knew it has caused PIED, hypofrontality (inability to control and execute action towards a goal), irritability, lack of energy, soulless eyes, mental dryness, stress and pain in the lower back, genital irritations. It bothered me, but it still didn&rsquo;t stop me.</p> <p>I felt lack of enthusiasm to go to gym or just a walk even if it’s sunny outside or simple weight lifting at home either. I had reached the stage where I gave up even trying to stop. I found excuses in substitute methods (controlled use, safe porn, porn-diet and etc. discussed later) as advocated by sexologists, forum users and medical pros - who have no idea of its effect on brain chemistry and who are themselves fooled by their &rsquo;little monster&rsquo; (not devil or satan - we will talk about monsters later) . The novelty trap and shock value provided by internet porn delivered at home with a low risk high reward deal is something that they can’t even think of. They are still in the static playboy era. And the younger ones have buried their heads under the sand so they can still continue to PMO.</p> <p>The worst part is it was not so much that I enjoyed the PMO. It was just doing it routinely, a chore - like slipping down the water slides, in fact there are brain water slides greased well by the neuro chemicals (DeltaFosB proteins made by dopamine which store emotion scripts for easy recall, will be discussing later). A simple cue such as a commercial, or a day to day stress that got ‘relieved’ temporarily by PMO is all it takes to complete the ride down the ‘waterslide’. Some time in their lives most PMOers have suffered from the illusion that they enjoy the ride, the novelty, the rush and of course the orgasm, but I never had that illusion.</p> <p>I have most times detested the porn, even when I liked the orgasm. But at all times I thought a release from PMO helped me to relax. It gave me courage and confidence, and I was always miserable when I tried to stop, never being able to visualize an enjoyable life without PMO. And so my PMO habit which had started before my marriage stayed with me during and after my marriage was over. I had experienced PIED but I blocked it out and found excuses , “it happens to every man”. Well it does of course - but &lsquo;it&rsquo; happened to me again and again. My penis, I found it difficult to get hard - when I am with real woman. Could it be because I had habituated it to work in limp mode? Later I found that it was hard for me to get hard even with porn.</p> @@ -4423,7 +4469,9 @@ Do not take anything for granted. Question not only what I tell you but also you Tue, 20 Dec 2022 16:58:54 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/02-02-sister-kenny/ - <p>You&rsquo;ve probably seen the film Sister Kenny. In case you haven&rsquo;t, it was about the time when infantile paralysis or polio was the scourge of our children. I vividly remember that the words engendered the same fear in me as the word cancer does today. The effect of polio was not only to paralyze the legs and arms but to distort the limbs. The established medical treatment was to put those limbs in irons and thus prevent the distortion. The result was paralysis for life.</p> + <h2 id="sister-kenny">Sister Kenny <a class="anchor" href="#sister-kenny"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>You&rsquo;ve probably seen the film Sister Kenny. In case you haven&rsquo;t, it was about the time when infantile paralysis or polio was the scourge of our children. I vividly remember that the words engendered the same fear in me as the word cancer does today. The effect of polio was not only to paralyze the legs and arms but to distort the limbs. The established medical treatment was to put those limbs in irons and thus prevent the distortion. The result was paralysis for life.</p> <p>Sister Kenny believed the irons inhibited recovery and proved a thousand times over that the muscles could be re-educated so that the child could walk again. However, Sister Kenny wasn&rsquo;t a doctor, she was merely a nurse. How dare she dabble in a province that was confined to qualified doctors? It didn&rsquo;t seem to matter that Sister Kenny had found the solution to the problem and had proved her solution to be effective. The children that were treated by Sister Kenny knew she was right, so did their parents, yet the established medical profession not only refused to adopt her methods but actually prevented her from practicing. It took Sister Kenny twenty years before the medical profession would accept the obvious.</p> <p>I (Allen Carr) first saw that film years before I (Allen Carr) discovered EASYWAY, The film was very interesting and no doubt there was an element of truth. However, it was equally obvious that Hollywood had used a large portion of poetic license. Sister Kenny couldn&rsquo;t possibly have discovered something that the combined knowledge of medical science had failed to discover. Surely the established medical specialists weren&rsquo;t the dinosaurs they were being portrayed as? How could it possibly have taken them twenty years to accept the facts that were staring them in the face?</p> <p>They say that fact is stranger than fiction, I apologize for accusing the makers of Sister Kenny for using poetic license. Even in this so-called enlightened age of modern communications, even having access to modern communications, I&rsquo;ve failed to get my message across.</p> @@ -4460,7 +4508,9 @@ Do not take anything for granted. Question not only what I tell you but also you Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:27:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/02-01-introduction/ - <div style="text-align: center;"> + <h2 id="introduction">Introduction <a class="anchor" href="#introduction"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><div style="text-align: center;"> <h2 id="im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo">&lsquo;I&rsquo;M GOING TO CURE THE WORLD OF PMO&rsquo; <a class="anchor" href="#im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> </a></h2></div> @@ -4506,7 +4556,9 @@ the world would also see the light and adopt my method.</li> Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:23:44 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/01-03-fear/ - <p>Fear that we will have to survive an indeterminate period of misery, deprivation and unsatisfied craving in order to be free. Fear that a night all by yourself or the eve of a test or exam will be miserable fighting uncontrollable impulses. Fear that we&rsquo;ll never be able to concentrate, handle stress or be as confident without our little crutch. Fear that our personality and character will change.</p> + <h2 id="fear">Fear <a class="anchor" href="#fear"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Fear that we will have to survive an indeterminate period of misery, deprivation and unsatisfied craving in order to be free. Fear that a night all by yourself or the eve of a test or exam will be miserable fighting uncontrollable impulses. Fear that we&rsquo;ll never be able to concentrate, handle stress or be as confident without our little crutch. Fear that our personality and character will change.</p> <p>But most of all, the fear of &lsquo;once an addict always an addict,&rsquo; that we will never be completely free and spend the rest of our lives at odd times craving the occasional porn induced orgasm. If, as I did, you have already tried all the conventional ways to quit and been through the misery of what I describe as the willpower method of stopping, you will not only be affected by that fear, but convinced you can never quit.</p> <p>If you are apprehensive, panic-stricken or feel that the time is not right for you to give up, then let me assure you that your apprehension or panic is caused by fear. That fear is not relieved by PMO but was indeed created by PMO. You didn&rsquo;t decide to fall into the porn trap. But like all traps, it is designed to ensure that you remain trapped. Ask yourself, when you viewed those first porn pictures and videos, did you decide to come back to view them as long as you have? So when are you going to quit? Tomorrow? Next year? Stop kidding yourself! The trap is designed to hold you for life. Why else do you think all these other PMO addicts don&rsquo;t quit before it kills their lives?</p> <p>As you will soon be reading, the feedbacks I got has revealed information that has exceeded my wildest aspirations of the effectiveness of my method. It has also revealed two aspects of the method that have caused me concern. The second I will be covering later.</p> @@ -4537,7 +4589,9 @@ the world would also see the light and adopt my method.</li> Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:19:35 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/01-02-warning/ - <p>Perhaps you are somewhat apprehensive about reading this book. Perhaps, like the majority of PMO addicts, the mere thought of stopping fills you with panic and although you have every intention of stopping one day, it is not today.</p> + <h2 id="warning">Warning <a class="anchor" href="#warning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Perhaps you are somewhat apprehensive about reading this book. Perhaps, like the majority of PMO addicts, the mere thought of stopping fills you with panic and although you have every intention of stopping one day, it is not today.</p> <p>If you are expecting me to inform you of the terrible health issues that PMO addicts risk, that they are susceptible to be affected by PIED (porn induced erectile disfunction), unreliable arousals, fading penetration, loss of interest in real partners,loss of control over themselves, loss of relationships, that it is a filthy, disgusting habit and that <em>YOU</em> are a stupid, spineless, weak-willed jellyfish, then I must disappoint you. Those tactics never helped me to quit and if they were going to help you, you would already have quit.</p> <p>Our Method, which I shall refer to as EASYPEASY doesn&rsquo;t work that way. Some of the things that I am about to say, you might find difficult to believe. However by the time you&rsquo;ve finished reading the book, you&rsquo;ll not only believe them, but wonder how you could ever have been brainwashed into believing otherwise.</p> <p>There is a common misapprehension that we choose to watch porn. PMO addicts ( yes addicts) no more choose to do that than alcoholics choose to become alcoholics, or heroin addicts choose to become heroin addicts. It is true that we choose to boot up the laptop, fire up the browser and visit our favourite online harem<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> tube sites. I occasionally choose to go to the cinema, but I certainly didn&rsquo;t choose to spend my whole life in the cinema theatre. The curiosity and my nature took me there but I would not have done that if I had known it would addict me and cause me my health, happiness and relationships. Only if I had heard about PIED on my first visit to that porn site?</p> @@ -4562,7 +4616,9 @@ the world would also see the light and adopt my method.</li> Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:14:52 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/01-01-preface/ - <p>This hackbook will enable you to stop PMO, immediately, painlessly, and permanently, without the need for Willpower or feeling any sense of deprivation or sacrifice. It will not judge you. It will not embarrass you. It will not put pressure on you to undergo painful measures.</p> + <h2 id="preface">Preface <a class="anchor" href="#preface"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This hackbook will enable you to stop PMO, immediately, painlessly, and permanently, without the need for Willpower or feeling any sense of deprivation or sacrifice. It will not judge you. It will not embarrass you. It will not put pressure on you to undergo painful measures.</p> <p>That goes against everything you&rsquo;ve ever been told about PMO. But ask yourself what you&rsquo;ve been told before worked for you? If it had, you wouldn&rsquo;t be reading this site.</p> <ul> <li>Instantaneous</li> diff --git a/new-site/public/style.css b/new-site/public/style.css index f94b0f92..3aa95e30 100644 --- a/new-site/public/style.css +++ b/new-site/public/style.css @@ -93,7 +93,7 @@ h2 { } h3 { - color: tan; + color: rgb(164, 135, 97) } h4 { diff --git a/new-site/public/tags/blog/index.xml b/new-site/public/tags/blog/index.xml index 69bb08cd..c173f981 100644 --- a/new-site/public/tags/blog/index.xml +++ b/new-site/public/tags/blog/index.xml @@ -2620,7 +2620,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:22:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-05/ - <p>“Go inside and try in vain to have the same problem. It was a terrible problem, wasn&rsquo;t it? You want to make changes, haven&rsquo;t you?&hellip; What would it be like when you have made those changes, now? In the future as you look back and see what it was like to have had that problem&hellip; as you think about it now, if you could make this change for yourself so that you could STOP&hellip; having made that change and see yourself now. Do you like the way you look if you could make that change and look back at yourself having made that change now!”</p> + <h2 id="scripts-05">Scripts-05 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-05"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>“Go inside and try in vain to have the same problem. It was a terrible problem, wasn&rsquo;t it? You want to make changes, haven&rsquo;t you?&hellip; What would it be like when you have made those changes, now? In the future as you look back and see what it was like to have had that problem&hellip; as you think about it now, if you could make this change for yourself so that you could STOP&hellip; having made that change and see yourself now. Do you like the way you look if you could make that change and look back at yourself having made that change now!”</p> <p>Credit to <a href="http://www.hypnosis.com/scripts_full.php?id2=48">http://www.hypnosis.com/scripts_full.php?id2=48</a></p> @@ -2631,7 +2633,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:21:45 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-04/ - <p>To an individual who has had a PMO problem, porn is poison. It&rsquo;s poison in two ways. First of all it&rsquo;s poison because it breaks down the very will power, the very ego, the very faith in oneself that the individual is able to build up. And so it is a psychological poison because having once conquered the porn problem, if you ever allow it to get back into you again then you begin thinking about yourself all the thoughts that you thought about yourself before, namely, well I really am no good anyway, I really didn&rsquo;t lick it and so on. So it&rsquo;s a psychological poison.</p> + <h2 id="scripts-04">Scripts-04 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-04"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>To an individual who has had a PMO problem, porn is poison. It&rsquo;s poison in two ways. First of all it&rsquo;s poison because it breaks down the very will power, the very ego, the very faith in oneself that the individual is able to build up. And so it is a psychological poison because having once conquered the porn problem, if you ever allow it to get back into you again then you begin thinking about yourself all the thoughts that you thought about yourself before, namely, well I really am no good anyway, I really didn&rsquo;t lick it and so on. So it&rsquo;s a psychological poison.</p> <p>Now in addition to that for anyone who has ever had a porn problem, it&rsquo;s a physical poison. It actually poisons your system. Because you&rsquo;re allergic to porn just like other people are allergic to other things. And so if you&rsquo;re allergic to something, even penicillin, it&rsquo;s poison to you and you must never take it. The same is true with porn. If you&rsquo;re allergic to it, you&rsquo;re through with it. Now you&rsquo;ve been allergic to porn. porn is a poison to you. What&rsquo;s even more fascinating is that usually the reason why one is drawn to porn is not for most of the reasons that most people reiterate, namely that it makes me feel good, I like it, all these things. On the contrary, almost every person who has a porn problem will tell you just the opposite. I don&rsquo;t like it. It&rsquo;s ruining my life. It&rsquo;s terrible.</p> <p>And if that&rsquo;s true, then why are they drawn to it? For precisely that reason. Because it is a poison and because they in their subconscious mind need to commit suicide and so they do it the slow tortuous way. And so that&rsquo;s why it&rsquo;s so important that the underlying cause of the problem be completely removed so that you don&rsquo;t need to punish yourself again with porn. And that&rsquo;s why we have removed them.</p> <p>That&rsquo;s why you don&rsquo;t need to punish yourself anymore. Because you realize you&rsquo;re not guilty to begin with. And if you&rsquo;re not guilty you don&rsquo;t have to punish yourself. And since you&rsquo;re through punishing yourself, you&rsquo;re through poisoning yourself. Yes porn is a poison. It&rsquo;s important that you realize that it&rsquo;s a poison and you are leaving poisons alone. Because you don&rsquo;t need poison any more. You don&rsquo;t need to poison yourself. You don&rsquo;t need to punish yourself. You&rsquo;re through with all that.</p> @@ -2646,7 +2650,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:20:17 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-03/ - <p>Now as you sink deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance. You pay no attention to any other sound but the sound of my voice. You sink deeper and deeper with every breath you take. Deeper and deeper and deeper, way down, deeper and deeper relaxed.</p> + <h2 id="scripts-03">Scripts-03 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-03"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Now as you sink deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance. You pay no attention to any other sound but the sound of my voice. You sink deeper and deeper with every breath you take. Deeper and deeper and deeper, way down, deeper and deeper relaxed.</p> <p>In the past porn may have been to you something that meant life. In your mind you may have accepted a suggestion that porn saves your life from boredom or porn protects you from being injured socially, porn is good for you in some manner or another. But that was yesterday and we are in the future. All that was yesterday, because porn may have protected you from injury in the past socially, it could have even saved your life from boredom.</p> <p>And those suggestions may have been good suggestions at one time but they have outlived their usefulness and if any of those suggestions are present to any degree in your mind, they are completely removed as of now. And that suggestion takes complete and thorough effect upon your mind, body and spirit.</p> <p>Now to other people porn means death. It&rsquo;s a way of punishing oneself. It&rsquo;s a poison and some people want to poison themselves. It&rsquo;s a method of slow suicide. Well, you don&rsquo;t need that now. If porn ever meant death and suicide to you and you have a need to punish yourself, that need is now long gone and we remove that suggestion. The truth of the matter is that porn is just porn. It&rsquo;s not life. It&rsquo;s not death. As a matter of fact, it&rsquo;s not anything to you anymore. It&rsquo;s nothing, neutral feelings. It&rsquo;s something that you don&rsquo;t need nor do you want.</p> @@ -2662,7 +2668,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:18:50 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-02/ - <p>As you go deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance and you pay attention only to the sound of my voice. As you listen carefully to the sound of my voice, we are going to remove a number of suggestions which have been in your mind. We are going to remove them completely and as you listen carefully to them we&rsquo;re simply going to dissolve them&hellip; throw them out of your mind completely and forever&hellip; Nothing disturbs you and nothing bothers you and nothing can distract you in any way from listening to the sound of my voice&hellip; and from completely accepting everything I tell you&hellip; for everything I tell you is the absolute truth to you&hellip; and we&rsquo;re going to remove all suggestions from your mind that have been detrimental to you in the past.</p> + <h2 id="scripts-02">Scripts-02 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-02"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As you go deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance and you pay attention only to the sound of my voice. As you listen carefully to the sound of my voice, we are going to remove a number of suggestions which have been in your mind. We are going to remove them completely and as you listen carefully to them we&rsquo;re simply going to dissolve them&hellip; throw them out of your mind completely and forever&hellip; Nothing disturbs you and nothing bothers you and nothing can distract you in any way from listening to the sound of my voice&hellip; and from completely accepting everything I tell you&hellip; for everything I tell you is the absolute truth to you&hellip; and we&rsquo;re going to remove all suggestions from your mind that have been detrimental to you in the past.</p> <p>The first suggestion you had in your mind is that somehow or another that porn, an image, an illusion, has been of some use to you. Masturbating to porn is of no use to you and you know it. You&rsquo;re through PMO for any reason. It doesn&rsquo;t make you relax, it doesn&rsquo;t make you sleep well, it doesn&rsquo;t do anything for you. As a matter of fact it ruins your efficiency&hellip; and consequently you&rsquo;re through with it. The fact that porn has ever been beneficial to you in any way is completely removed from your mind. I am going to count to five and that suggestion is completely removed from your mind never to return. One, Two, Three, Four, Five.</p> <p>The next suggestion that you may have accepted is that porn is a good means of punishing yourself. In the first place, you&rsquo;re through punishing yourself and in the second place you&rsquo;re through using porn as a means to do it. The only reason anyone ever punishes himself is because somewhere deep in his mind he feels guilty and you&rsquo;re through allowing your-self to feel guilty. And so with one count we&rsquo;re going to remove the guilt, whatever it is and from whatever source the punishment, the need for punishment, and that porn could be used as a vehicle to achieve it. One. Two. Three. Four. Five.</p> <p>Those ideas are all gone. Porn to you is a poison and a lousy inefficient poison at that&hellip; just enough poison to make you sick and ineffective. But then you&rsquo;re through poisoning yourself and you&rsquo;re through using porn and so that need is also removed from your mind. One. Two. Three. Four. Five.</p> @@ -2679,7 +2687,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:17:25 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-01/ - <p>You are relaxed now and because you are so relaxed you begin to feel free from all tensions, anxiety and fear. You now realize that you are more confident and sure of yourself because you have taken the enormous first step toward helping yourself. Great!</p> + <h2 id="scripts-01">Scripts-01 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-01"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>You are relaxed now and because you are so relaxed you begin to feel free from all tensions, anxiety and fear. You now realize that you are more confident and sure of yourself because you have taken the enormous first step toward helping yourself. Great!</p> <p>You begin to feel this strength from within, motivating you to overcome any and every obstacle that may stand in the way of your happiness, social life and home life. You are not a slave to PMO any more!</p> <p>You will find that from this moment on you are developing more self control. You will now face every situation in a calm, relaxed state of mind. Your thinking is very clear and sharp at all times. You are free!</p> <p>You begin to feel that your self respect and confidence are expanding more and more each and every day in every way. You now realize that in the past addiction was an escape and weakness that you are replacing with confidence, strength and self control. You are becoming a happy person now, with a positive attitude toward life. You are succeeding now and you have all the abilities for success.</p> @@ -2697,7 +2707,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:14:53 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/04-02-rebt-coping-statements/ - <ul> + <h2 id="rebt-coping-statements">REBT Coping Statements <a class="anchor" href="#rebt-coping-statements"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ul> <li><em>“I can stop PMO, even though it appears &lsquo;hard&rsquo; to do so. It’s not too hard and no matter how much trouble it takes, it’s worth it!”</em></li> <li><em>“If I keep ignoring and never giving into my powerful urges to PMO, I will make it easier and easier to resist them”</em></li> <li><em>“I can fully and unconditionally accept myself- yes, even with all my flaws and failings”</em></li> @@ -2722,7 +2734,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:13:26 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/04-01-the-instructions/ - <ol> + <h2 id="the-instructions">The Instructions <a class="anchor" href="#the-instructions"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Follow all the instructions.</li> <li>Keep an open mind.</li> <li>Start with a feeling of elation.</li> @@ -2734,11 +2748,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true <li>Always remember there&rsquo;s no such thing as &ldquo;Just One Peek&rdquo;.</li> <li>Never PMO again.</li> </ol> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="affirmations">Affirmations <a class="anchor" href="#affirmations"> +<h3 id="affirmations">Affirmations <a class="anchor" href="#affirmations"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<ul> +</a></h3><ul> <li>I am free from the slavery of PMO.</li> <li>It is easy for me to ignore my thoughts about PMO.</li> <li>Bye bye thoughts, bye bye Urges. Oh, there goes my cravings.</li> @@ -2763,7 +2775,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 11:36:58 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-44-should-i-tell-my-so/ - <p>Should I tell my wife, girlfriend and SO about my PMO? The intention here is that it would help you in quitting. I am of the solid opinion that all these are not needed. It would only reinforce your weakness against PMO.</p> + <h2 id="should-i-tell-my-so">Should I Tell My SO <a class="anchor" href="#should-i-tell-my-so"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Should I tell my wife, girlfriend and SO about my PMO? The intention here is that it would help you in quitting. I am of the solid opinion that all these are not needed. It would only reinforce your weakness against PMO.</p> <p>If you slip, you will feel miserable and guilty if you are following the Willpower Method. Add to that the feeling of deceiving your loved one will definitely push you through the vicious cycle of slip-lapse-relapse.</p> <p>If you are caught once - just say you are feeling good that you got caught and you are out of the prison. And you don’t want to talk about it. Many women can’t digest it. Many men wrongly attribute the woman to be of loose morals and hence a bad person. And if the SO breaks up with you (even if for some other reason) you will feel guilty for having screwed up your sex life with PMO OR feeling you “sacrificed” so much if you were successful in quitting - adding to the heart ache.</p> <p>You will look very weak. They will treat you as a weak person - of course only subconsciously. But you can smell it. Why the stress?</p> @@ -2777,26 +2791,22 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 11:31:13 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-43-advice-to-non-pmoers/ - <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK <a class="anchor" href="#help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book"> + <h2 id="advice-to-non-pmoers">Advice to Non-PMOers <a class="anchor" href="#advice-to-non-pmoers"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>First study the contents of this book and try to put yourself in the place of the PMOer. Do not force him to read this book or try to stop him by telling him he is ruining his health or playing with fire. He already knows this better than you do. PMOers do not continue in it because they enjoy it or because they want to. They only tell themselves and other people this in order to retain self-respect. They do it because they feel dependent on PMO because they think that it relaxes them and gives them courage and confidence (pleasure or crutch) and that life will never be enjoyable without “sex” - their version of it. If you try to force a PMOer to stop, he feels like a trapped animal and wants to be in his harem even more. This may turn him into a secret PMOer and in his mind the porn will become even more precious (see Chapter 26).</p> +</a></h2><h3 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK <a class="anchor" href="#help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>First study the contents of this book and try to put yourself in the place of the PMOer. Do not force him to read this book or try to stop him by telling him he is ruining his health or playing with fire. He already knows this better than you do. PMOers do not continue in it because they enjoy it or because they want to. They only tell themselves and other people this in order to retain self-respect. They do it because they feel dependent on PMO because they think that it relaxes them and gives them courage and confidence (pleasure or crutch) and that life will never be enjoyable without “sex” - their version of it. If you try to force a PMOer to stop, he feels like a trapped animal and wants to be in his harem even more. This may turn him into a secret PMOer and in his mind the porn will become even more precious (see Chapter 26).</p> <p>Instead, concentrate on the other side of the coin. Get him into the company of ex-PMOers (there are many blogs, forums etc. YBOP, No-Fap etc.). Get them to tell the PMOer how they too thought they were hooked for life and how much better life is as a non-PMOer. Once you have got him believing that he can stop then his mind will start to open up. Then start explaining the delusion created by withdrawal pangs. Not only are the “dopamine rushes” not giving him a boost but they are destroying his confidence and making him irritable and tired.</p> <p>He should now be ready to read this book himself. He will be expecting to read pages and pages about unreliable arousal, fading penetrations, PIED, PE, etc. Explain that the approach is completely different and that references to illness are just a small fraction of the material in the book.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD <a class="anchor" href="#help-during-the-withdrawal-period"> +<h3 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD <a class="anchor" href="#help-during-the-withdrawal-period"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>If you are dealing with a girlfriend or boyfriend - whether the ex-PMOer is suffering or not, assume that she/he is. Do not try to minimize his suffering by telling him it is easy to stop; he can do that himself. Instead keep telling him how proud you are, how much better he is looking, how much sweeter it is to be with him, how much easier he is in general. It is particularly important to keep doing this. When a PMOer makes an attempt to stop, the euphoria of the attempt and the attention he gets from friends and colleagues can help him along. However, they tend to forget quickly, so keep that praise going.</p> +</a></h3><p>If you are dealing with a girlfriend or boyfriend - whether the ex-PMOer is suffering or not, assume that she/he is. Do not try to minimize his suffering by telling him it is easy to stop; he can do that himself. Instead keep telling him how proud you are, how much better he is looking, how much sweeter it is to be with him, how much easier he is in general. It is particularly important to keep doing this. When a PMOer makes an attempt to stop, the euphoria of the attempt and the attention he gets from friends and colleagues can help him along. However, they tend to forget quickly, so keep that praise going.</p> <p>Because he is not talking about PMOing, you may think he has forgotten about it and don&rsquo;t want to remind him. Usually the complete opposite is the case with the Willpower Method, as the ex-PMOer tends to be obsessed by nothing else. So do not be frightened to bring the subject up and keep praising him: he will tell you if he doesn&rsquo;t want you to remind him of PMOing.</p> <p>Go out of your way to relieve him of pressures during the withdrawal period. Try to think of ways of making his life interesting and enjoyable. This can also be a trying period for non-PMOers - that is those of you who have never had this addiction. If one member of a group is irritable, it can cause general misery all round. So anticipate this if the ex-PMOer is feeling irritable. He may well take it out on you but do not retaliate: it is at this time that he needs your praise and sympathy the most. If you are feeling irritable yourself, try not to show it.</p> <p>One of the tricks an addict will play when trying to give up with the aid of the Willpower Method was to get into a tantrum, hoping that wife or friends would say, “I cannot bear to see you suffering like this. For goodness sake, have your poison.” The PMOer then does not lose face, as he isn&rsquo;t “giving in” - he has been instructed. If the ex-PMOer uses this ploy, on no account encourage him to lapse. Instead say, “if that is what PMO does to you, thank goodness you will soon be free. How marvellous that you had the courage and sense to give up.”</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL <a class="anchor" href="#help-end-this-scandal"> +<h3 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL <a class="anchor" href="#help-end-this-scandal"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>In my opinion, internet porn is one of the dangers in a free society, piggy backing on the good willed efforts of personal freedoms. Surely the very basis of civilization, the reason why the human species has advanced so far, is that we are capable of communicating our knowledge and experiences not only to each other but to future generations. Even the lower species find it necessary to warn their offspring of the pitfalls in life.</p> +</a></h3><p>In my opinion, internet porn is one of the dangers in a free society, piggy backing on the good willed efforts of personal freedoms. Surely the very basis of civilization, the reason why the human species has advanced so far, is that we are capable of communicating our knowledge and experiences not only to each other but to future generations. Even the lower species find it necessary to warn their offspring of the pitfalls in life.</p> <p>The producers of porn are not doing this in good faith, in the genuine belief that they help mankind, especially now as the addiction to internet porn is widely studied. Maybe in its initial stages people genuinely believed that porn taught intimacy to men and women but today the authorities know that it is a fallacy. Just watch any tube sites nowadays. They make no claims about education. The only claims they make are about the shock, novelty, escalation quality of their clips.</p> <p>The sheer hypocrisy is incredible. As a society we get uptight about school bullying and objectification of human body. Compared with internet porn, these problems are mere pimples in our society. Thirty five per cent of the population have been addicted to porn and most of them spend quality time with imaginary and illusory pixel people at the expense of health, virility, energy and time. Tens of thousands of people have their lives ruined every year because they become hooked. Internet high speed porn is by far the biggest killer in relationships and yet the biggest vested interest is our for-profit companies. Internet porn producers don’t spend on advertising the filth in mainstream publications - they don’t have to. Our biological urges will lead us to the thresholds of their well stocked internet harems. They give free samples just like your local drug dealer. Heck the tube sites don’t even stock the wares any more as they encourage visitors to post the content.</p> <p>How clever that porn companies show the 18+ warning at their home page as the deterrent for under age users. Some even don’t bother to do that. Internet porn affect everyone at all ages. “We have warned you of the danger. It is your choice.” Is the attitude they have. Anyway, do they take any steps to verify the age? No. That would discourage their customers. And of course if age verification is legislated they will find another country to host. Or they will pay some ‘elite’ to write how prohibition resulted in bootlegging and the creation of the Mafia. Conveniently forgotten is the question of why repealing prohibition did not result in the reduction of alcohol related casualty numbers. And the contribution of the failure of law enforcement to control the Mafia’s growth. So let’s not waste time in talking about them.</p> @@ -2807,11 +2817,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <p>I remember reading H. G. Well’s The Time Machine. The book describes an incident in the distant future in which a man falls into a river. His companions merely sit around the bank like cattle, oblivious to his cries of desperation. I found that incident inhuman and very disturbing. I find the general apathy of our society to the PMO problem very similar. We find characters in movies and TV series talking about or even engaging in porn in a casual way.</p> <p>Why do we allow society to subject healthy young teenagers, youngsters whose lives are complete before they start to get online, to claim their independence just for the privilege of destroying themselves mentally and physically in a lifetime of slavery, a lifetime of filth and disease? You may feel that I over-dramatize the facts. Not so. There are cases where lives were cut down in his early years of marriage because of PMO. He was a strong man and might still have been alive today. I believe I was within an inch of PIED during my forties, although I would have attributed it to my divorce rather than to PMO. I now spend my life being consulted by people who have been crippled by the disease or are in the last stages. And, if you care to think about it, you probably know of many too.</p> <p>There is a wind of change in society. A snowball has started that I hope this book will help turn into an avalanche. You too can help by spreading the message.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING <a class="anchor" href="#final-warning"> +<h3 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING <a class="anchor" href="#final-warning"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>You can now enjoy the rest of your life as a happy non-PMOer. In order to make sure that you do, you need to follow these simple instructions:</p> +</a></h3><p>You can now enjoy the rest of your life as a happy non-PMOer. In order to make sure that you do, you need to follow these simple instructions:</p> <ol> <li>Keep this page in your bookmarks and refer to it as much as you need.</li> <li>If you ever start to envy another PMOer, realize that they will be envious of you. You are not being deprived. They are.</li> @@ -2829,7 +2837,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 11:28:29 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-42-help-the-pmoer-left-on-the-sinking-ship/ - <p>PMOers are panicking nowadays. They sense that there is a change in the way internet porn is perceived by men and women. Internet porn’s addictive nature is being studied by more and more people. It is now rightly regarded not as the same as old traditional porn. It’s easy reach and effortless availability raises alarm even in the hearts of porn supporters. They also sense that their crusade for free speech and free thought is being hijacked by vicious elements. The wild wild west nature of the unpoliced internet makes it hard for enforcing age restrictive access to supranormal stimuli. Yet I don’t think this whole thing will be coming to an end anytime soon. Thousands of PMOers are now stopping and all porn users are conscious of the new brain studies that point their studied fingers to the similarities of drug and substance addiction. Every time a PMOer leaves the sinking ship, the ones left on it feel more miserable. Every PMOer instinctively knows that it is ridiculous to self sabotage and spend time in front of two dimensional pixels, treat the poor brain to super surges, develop porn brain water slides that will guarantee him unreliable erections and fading penetrations. If you still don&rsquo;t think it is silly, try talking to a porn magazine standing at the centre of the city square and ask yourself what the difference is. Just one. You cannot get the pleasure of warmth and intimacy that way. If you can stop buying alcohol and cigarettes every time you go grocery shopping you can definitely stop visiting your online harems. PMOers cannot find a rational reason for PMOing but if someone else is doing it, they do not feel quite so silly.</p> + <h2 id="help-the-pmoer-left-on-the-sinking-ship">Help the PMOer Left on the Sinking Ship <a class="anchor" href="#help-the-pmoer-left-on-the-sinking-ship"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>PMOers are panicking nowadays. They sense that there is a change in the way internet porn is perceived by men and women. Internet porn’s addictive nature is being studied by more and more people. It is now rightly regarded not as the same as old traditional porn. It’s easy reach and effortless availability raises alarm even in the hearts of porn supporters. They also sense that their crusade for free speech and free thought is being hijacked by vicious elements. The wild wild west nature of the unpoliced internet makes it hard for enforcing age restrictive access to supranormal stimuli. Yet I don’t think this whole thing will be coming to an end anytime soon. Thousands of PMOers are now stopping and all porn users are conscious of the new brain studies that point their studied fingers to the similarities of drug and substance addiction. Every time a PMOer leaves the sinking ship, the ones left on it feel more miserable. Every PMOer instinctively knows that it is ridiculous to self sabotage and spend time in front of two dimensional pixels, treat the poor brain to super surges, develop porn brain water slides that will guarantee him unreliable erections and fading penetrations. If you still don&rsquo;t think it is silly, try talking to a porn magazine standing at the centre of the city square and ask yourself what the difference is. Just one. You cannot get the pleasure of warmth and intimacy that way. If you can stop buying alcohol and cigarettes every time you go grocery shopping you can definitely stop visiting your online harems. PMOers cannot find a rational reason for PMOing but if someone else is doing it, they do not feel quite so silly.</p> <p>PMOers blatantly lie about their habit, not only to others and university researchers but worse of all to themselves. They have to. The brainwashing is essential if they are to retain some self-respect. They feel the need to justify their “habit” not only to themselves but to non-PMOers. They are therefore forever advertising the illusory advantages of porn and PMO by more subtler means.</p> <p>If a PMOer stops using the Willpower Method he still feels deprived and tends to become a moaner. All this does is to confirm to other PMOers how right they are to keep PMOing. If the ex-PMOer succeeds in kicking the habit, he is then grateful that he no longer has to go through life sabotaging himself or wasting energy. But he has no need to justify himself, he doesn&rsquo;t sit there saying how marvellous it is not to be PMOing. He will do that only if he is asked and PMOers won&rsquo;t ask that question. They wouldn&rsquo;t like the answer. Remember: it is fear that keeps them in their addiction and they would rather keep their heads in the sand. The only time they ask that question is when it is time to stop. Help the PMOer. Remove these fears. Tell him how marvellous it is not to have to go through life living in a prison, how lovely it is to wake up in the morning feeling fit and healthy instead of lacking in energy and self loathing, how wonderful it is to be free of slavery, to be able to enjoy the whole of your life, to be rid of those awful black shadows. Or, better still; get him to read this book.</p> <p>It is essential not to belittle a married PMOer by indicating that he is deliberately ruining his relationship or is in some way a cheat and is unclean. There is a common conception that the ex-PMOer is the worst in this respect. I believe this conception has some substance but I think this is due to the Willpower Method of stopping. Because the ex-PMOer, although he has kicked the habit, retains part of the brainwashing - part of him still believes that he has made a sacrifice. He feels vulnerable and his natural defensive mechanism is to attack the PMOer.</p> @@ -2848,7 +2858,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:21:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-41-feedback/ - <p>This method will be pooh-poohed by the so-called experts - as I have kept it thin, deliberately, on the ‘science’ side of porn addiction. This ‘hackbook’ is based on a very successful technique used by Alan Carr for quitting smoking, alcohol and gambling. I have personally broken away from the prisons of cigarette, alcohol and internet porn with this technique. I’d like to add here that I’ve tried some of the best programmes - such as CBT, DEADS and AVERT before arriving at the EasyWay. I could not close the deal. I was then led to studying about self hypnosis that deals with bad habits. The key idea that sold me on this method is his emphasis on the “feelings of misery and deprivation, misery and sacrifice, misery and guilt.” If you use the Will Power method you will invariably have all or one of these awful feelings that in themselves provide the grease to slide back to the addiction.</p> + <h2 id="feedback">Feedback <a class="anchor" href="#feedback"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This method will be pooh-poohed by the so-called experts - as I have kept it thin, deliberately, on the ‘science’ side of porn addiction. This ‘hackbook’ is based on a very successful technique used by Alan Carr for quitting smoking, alcohol and gambling. I have personally broken away from the prisons of cigarette, alcohol and internet porn with this technique. I’d like to add here that I’ve tried some of the best programmes - such as CBT, DEADS and AVERT before arriving at the EasyWay. I could not close the deal. I was then led to studying about self hypnosis that deals with bad habits. The key idea that sold me on this method is his emphasis on the “feelings of misery and deprivation, misery and sacrifice, misery and guilt.” If you use the Will Power method you will invariably have all or one of these awful feelings that in themselves provide the grease to slide back to the addiction.</p> <p>I&rsquo;m not a do-gooder. My war - which, I emphasize, is not against PMOers but against the porn trap, I wage for the purely selfish reason that I enjoy it. Every time I hear of a PMOer escaping from the prison I get a feeling of great pleasure, even when it has nothing to do with me. You can imagine also the immense pleasure I obtain from the grateful letters that I have received over time.</p> <p>There has also been considerable frustration. The frustration is caused mainly by two main categories of PMOer. First, in spite of the warning in the previous chapter, I am disturbed by the number of PMOers who find it easy to stop, yet later get hooked again and find they can&rsquo;t succeed the next time.</p> <p>Practically the last thing I say to ex-PMOers is: “Remember, you must never visit another online harem again.”</p> @@ -2908,11 +2920,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <blockquote> <p>Find out which one it is. Some people understand and believe everything I say but still start off with a feeling of doom and gloom, as if something terrible were happening. You are doing not only what you&rsquo;d like to do but what every PMOer on the planet would like to do. With any method of stopping, what the ex PMOer is trying to achieve is a certain frame of mind, so that whenever he thinks about PMO he says to himself, “YIPPEE! I&rsquo;M FREE!” If that&rsquo;s your object, why wait? Start off in that frame of mind and never lose it. The rest of the book is designed to make you understand why there is no alternative.</p> </blockquote> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="the-check-list"><strong>THE CHECK LIST</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-check-list"> +<h2 id="the-check-list">THE CHECK LIST <a class="anchor" href="#the-check-list"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>If you follow these simple instructions, you cannot fail:</p> +</a></h2><p>If you follow these simple instructions, you cannot fail:</p> <ol> <li>Make a solemn vow that you will never, ever, go online to visit your harem OR settle down for static pictures OR make peace with erotic graphics OR anything that contains supra normal stimuli, and stick to your vow.</li> <li>Get this clear in your mind: there is absolutely nothing to give up. By that I don&rsquo;t mean simply that you will be better off as a non-PMOer (you&rsquo;ve known that all this time); nor do I mean that although there is no rational reason why you PMO, you must get some form of pleasure or crutch from it or you wouldn&rsquo;t do it. What I mean is, there is no genuine pleasure or crutch in PMOing. It is just an illusion, it’s an addiction like banging your head against a wall to make it pleasant when you stop.</li> @@ -2926,7 +2936,7 @@ strains of life.</li> <hr> <ol> <li id="fn:1"> -<p><strong>MoR</strong> moment of revelation. R2T resistance to temptation. MaD misery and deprived. MaS misery and sacrifice. MaG misery and guilty. DSC dopamine surge claims.&#160;<a href="#fnref:1" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p> +<p><strong>MoR</strong> - moment of revelation. R2T resistance to temptation. MaD misery and deprived. MaS misery and sacrifice. MaG misery and guilty. DSC dopamine surge claims.&#160;<a href="#fnref:1" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p> </li> </ol> </div> @@ -2939,7 +2949,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:20:54 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-40-a-final-warning/ - <p>No PMOer, given the chance of going back to the time before he became hooked with the knowledge he has now, would opt to start. Many of the them who consult me are convinced that if I could only help them stop, they would never dream of PMOing again, and yet thousands of PMOers successfully kick the habit for many years and lead perfectly happy lives, only to get trapped once again. I trust that this book will help you to find it relatively easy to stop. But be warned: PMOers who find it easy to stop find it easy to start again, DO NOT FALL FOR THIS TRAP.</p> + <h2 id="a-final-warning">A Final Warning <a class="anchor" href="#a-final-warning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>No PMOer, given the chance of going back to the time before he became hooked with the knowledge he has now, would opt to start. Many of the them who consult me are convinced that if I could only help them stop, they would never dream of PMOing again, and yet thousands of PMOers successfully kick the habit for many years and lead perfectly happy lives, only to get trapped once again. I trust that this book will help you to find it relatively easy to stop. But be warned: PMOers who find it easy to stop find it easy to start again, DO NOT FALL FOR THIS TRAP.</p> <p>No matter how long you have stopped or how confident you are that you will never become hooked again, make it a rule of life not to PMO for any reason. Resist the allusions and innuendoes in the media, and remember they are pushing their image of ‘openness’ by bringing porn into mainstream without realizing how porn, internet porn etc. are killers of relationships and of the personal sense of well being for a huge number of men and some women.</p> <p>Remember, that first peek or visit will do nothing for you. You will have no withdrawal pangs to relieve and it will make you feel awful. What it will do is to put the pleasure of dopamine rush into your mind and brain, and a little voice at the back of your mind will be saying, “you want another one.” Then you have got the choice of being miserable for a while or starting the whole filthy chain again.</p> @@ -2951,7 +2963,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:15:27 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-39-the-final-visit/ - <p>Having decided on your timing, you are now ready to visit your harem one last time. Before you do so, check on the two essentials:</p> + <h2 id="the-final-visit">The Final Visit <a class="anchor" href="#the-final-visit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Having decided on your timing, you are now ready to visit your harem one last time. Before you do so, check on the two essentials:</p> <ol> <li>Do you feel certain of success?</li> <li>Have you a feeling of doom and gloom or a sense of excitement that you are about to achieve something marvelous?</li> @@ -3002,7 +3016,9 @@ sites in my life again.”<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1& Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:13:13 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-38-the-moment-of-revelation/ - <p>The moment of revelation usually takes place about three weeks after stopping. The sky appears to become brighter and it is the moment when the brainwashing ends completely. When instead of telling yourself you do not need to PMO, you suddenly realize that the last thread is broken and you can enjoy the rest of your life without ever needing PMO again. It is also usually from this point that you start looking at other PMOers as objects of pity.</p> + <h2 id="the-moment-of-revelation">The Moment of Revelation <a class="anchor" href="#the-moment-of-revelation"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The moment of revelation usually takes place about three weeks after stopping. The sky appears to become brighter and it is the moment when the brainwashing ends completely. When instead of telling yourself you do not need to PMO, you suddenly realize that the last thread is broken and you can enjoy the rest of your life without ever needing PMO again. It is also usually from this point that you start looking at other PMOers as objects of pity.</p> <p>PMOers using the Willpower Method do not normally experience this moment because although they are glad to be ex-PMOers they continue through life believing they are making a sacrifice. The more you were addicted, the more marvellous this moment is and it lasts a lifetime. I consider I have been very fortunate in this life and had some wonderful moments but the most wonderful of all was that moment of revelation. With all the other highlights of my life, although I can remember they were happy times, I can never recapture the actual feeling. I can never get over the joy of not having to PMO any more. If ever I am feeling low and need a boost nowadays, I just think how lovely it is not to be hooked on that awful addiction. Half the people who contact me after they have stopped visiting the online harems say exactly the same thing: that it was the most marvellous event of their lives. Ah! What pleasure you have to come! With additional feedback, both from forums and personal interactions, I have learned that in most cases the moment of revelation occurs not after three weeks, as stated above, but within a few days.</p> <p>In my own case it happened before I was finished on my last harem visit. I am sure many of the readers here, before they’d even got to the end of the chapters would say something like: “You needn&rsquo;t say another word. I can see it all so clearly, I know I&rsquo;ll never PMO again.” From the messages I receive I&rsquo;m also aware that it frequently happens.</p> <p>Ideally if you follow all the instructions and understand the psychology completely, it should happen to you immediately.</p> @@ -3022,20 +3038,18 @@ sites in my life again.”<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1& Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:10:40 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-37-should-i-avoid-temptation-situations/ - <p>I have been direct in my advice so far and would ask you to treat this advice as instruction rather than suggestion. I am explicit and direct, first because there are sound, practical reasons for my advice and second, because those reasons have been backed up by thousands of case studies. On the question of whether or not to try to avoid temptation during the withdrawal period, I regret that I cannot be direct. Each PMOer will need to decide for himself. I can, however, make what I hope -will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all our lives and this fear consists of two distinct phases:</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO? <a class="anchor" href="#phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo"> + <h2 id="should-i-avoid-temptation-situations">Should I Avoid Temptation Situations? <a class="anchor" href="#should-i-avoid-temptation-situations"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>This fear is that panicky feeling the PMOer gets when they are alone in a single phase or have an asexual, uninterested or unavailable partner. The fear isn&rsquo;t caused by withdrawal pangs but is the psychological fear of dependency - you cannot survive without sex and orgasm. It actually reaches its height when you are on the verge of quitting (I won’t use giving up); at that time your withdrawal pangs are at their lowest. It is the fear of the unknown, the sort of fear that people have when they are learning to dive.</p> +</a></h2><p>I have been direct in my advice so far and would ask you to treat this advice as instruction rather than suggestion. I am explicit and direct, first because there are sound, practical reasons for my advice and second, because those reasons have been backed up by thousands of case studies. On the question of whether or not to try to avoid temptation during the withdrawal period, I regret that I cannot be direct. Each PMOer will need to decide for himself. I can, however, make what I hope +will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all our lives and this fear consists of two distinct phases:</p> +<h3 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO? <a class="anchor" href="#phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>This fear is that panicky feeling the PMOer gets when they are alone in a single phase or have an asexual, uninterested or unavailable partner. The fear isn&rsquo;t caused by withdrawal pangs but is the psychological fear of dependency - you cannot survive without sex and orgasm. It actually reaches its height when you are on the verge of quitting (I won’t use giving up); at that time your withdrawal pangs are at their lowest. It is the fear of the unknown, the sort of fear that people have when they are learning to dive.</p> <p>The diving board is 1 foot high but seems to be 6 feet high. The water is 6 feet deep but appears to be 1 foot deep. It takes courage to launch yourself. You are convinced you are going to smash your head. The launching is the hardest part. If you can find the courage to do it, the rest is easy. This explains why many otherwise strong-willed PMOers either have never attempted to stop or can survive only a few days when they do. In fact, there are some PMOers on a porn diet who when they decide to stop, actually binge and escalate to harsher clips more quickly than if they had not decided to stop. The decision causes panic, which is stressful. This is one of the occasions when the brain triggers the instruction, “take a trip to your own personal harem.” But now you can&rsquo;t take one. You are being deprived - more stress.</p> <p>The trigger starts again quickly when the fuse blows and you fire up the browser. Don&rsquo;t worry. That panic is just psychological. It is the fear that you are dependent. The beautiful truth is that you are not, even when you are still addicted. Do not panic. Just trust me and launch yourself.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear <a class="anchor" href="#phase-2-longer-term-fear"> +<h3 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear <a class="anchor" href="#phase-2-longer-term-fear"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>The second phase of fear is longer-term. It involves the fear that certain situations in the future will not be enjoyable or that you will not be able to cope with a trauma without PMO. Don&rsquo;t worry. If you can launch yourself you will find the opposite to be the case. The avoidance of temptation itself falls into two main categories:</p> +</a></h3><p>The second phase of fear is longer-term. It involves the fear that certain situations in the future will not be enjoyable or that you will not be able to cope with a trauma without PMO. Don&rsquo;t worry. If you can launch yourself you will find the opposite to be the case. The avoidance of temptation itself falls into two main categories:</p> <ol> <li>“I will subscribe to a porn-diet of once in 4 days. I will feel more confident knowing that I can go online if it gets hard. It is OK if I fail I can just add up additional days to my next cycle.”</li> </ol> @@ -3058,7 +3072,9 @@ will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all o Sat, 24 Dec 2022 08:46:33 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-36-substitutes/ - <p>Substitutes include restricting to porn magazines, static internet images, going on a porn-diet<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> etc. <strong>DO NOT USE ANY OF THEM</strong>. They make it harder, not easier. If you do get a pang and use a substitute it will prolong the pang and make it harder. What you are really saying is, “I need to PMO to fill the void.” It will be like giving in to a hijacker or the tantrums of a child. It will just keep the pangs coming and prolong the torture. In any event the substitutes will not relieve the pangs. Your craving is for amino acids in the brain. All it will do is keep you thinking about PMOing. Remember these points:</p> + <h2 id="substitutes">Substitutes <a class="anchor" href="#substitutes"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Substitutes include restricting to porn magazines, static internet images, going on a porn-diet<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> etc. <strong>DO NOT USE ANY OF THEM</strong>. They make it harder, not easier. If you do get a pang and use a substitute it will prolong the pang and make it harder. What you are really saying is, “I need to PMO to fill the void.” It will be like giving in to a hijacker or the tantrums of a child. It will just keep the pangs coming and prolong the torture. In any event the substitutes will not relieve the pangs. Your craving is for amino acids in the brain. All it will do is keep you thinking about PMOing. Remember these points:</p> <ol> <li>There is no substitute for PMO.</li> <li>You do not need porn or PMO. It is not food; it is poison. When the pangs come remind yourself that it is PMOers who suffer withdrawal pangs, not non-PMOers. See them as another evil of the drug. See them as the death of a monster.</li> @@ -3090,12 +3106,13 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict - 03-35 the Main Reasons for Failure + 03-35 The Main Reasons for Failure https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-35-the-main-reasons-for-failure/ Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:23:39 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-35-the-main-reasons-for-failure/ - <p>There are two main reasons for failure. The first is the influence of external stimuli - a commercial, online news articles, internet browsing etc. At a weak moment or even during a social occasion somebody will get intimate with their partner. I have already dealt with this topic at length. Use that moment to remind yourself that there is no such thing as one visit or one peek. Rejoice in the fact that you have broken the chain of mental slavery. Remember that the PMOer envies you, and feel sorry for him. Believe me, he needs your pity. The other main reason for failure is having a bad day. Get it clear in your mind before you start that, whether you are a PMOer or a non-PMOer, there are good days and bad days. It rains for both the pope and the murderer.</p> + <p>The Main Reasons for Failure</p> +<p>There are two main reasons for failure. The first is the influence of external stimuli - a commercial, online news articles, internet browsing etc. At a weak moment or even during a social occasion somebody will get intimate with their partner. I have already dealt with this topic at length. Use that moment to remind yourself that there is no such thing as one visit or one peek. Rejoice in the fact that you have broken the chain of mental slavery. Remember that the PMOer envies you, and feel sorry for him. Believe me, he needs your pity. The other main reason for failure is having a bad day. Get it clear in your mind before you start that, whether you are a PMOer or a non-PMOer, there are good days and bad days. It rains for both the pope and the murderer.</p> <p>Life is a matter of relativity and you cannot have ups without having downs. The problem with the Willpower Method of stopping is that as soon as the PMOer has a bad day he starts moping for his ‘harem’ visit and all that does is make a bad day worse. The non-PMOer is better equipped, not only physically but also mentally, to cope with the stresses and strains of life. If you have a bad day during the withdrawal period just take it on the chin. Remind yourself that you had bad days when you were addicted (otherwise you wouldn&rsquo;t have decided to stop). Instead of moping about it, say to yourself something like, “OK, today&rsquo;s not so good but masturbating is not going to cure it. Tomorrow will be better and at least I have got a marvellous bonus at the moment. I have kicked that awful PMO habit.”</p> <p>When you are a PMOer you have to block your mind to the bad side of PMO. PMOer never have brain fog just “a bit down.” When you are having life’s inevitable troubles you want to PMO but are you happy and cheerful? Of course you aren&rsquo;t. Once you stop, the tendency is to blame everything that goes wrong in your life on the fact that you have stopped.</p> <p>Now if your work stresses you out you think, “At times like this I would have PMOed.” That&rsquo;s true but the important thing you forget is that the PMO didn&rsquo;t solve the problem and you are simply punishing yourself by moping for an illusory crutch. You are creating an impossible situation. You are miserable because you can&rsquo;t have the porn and masturbation yet you&rsquo;ll be even more miserable if you do. You know that you have made the correct decision by stopping PMO so why punish yourself by ever doubting the decision?</p> @@ -3110,7 +3127,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:22:12 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-34-will-it-be-harder-for-me/ - <p>The combinations of factors that will determine how easily each individual PMOer will quit are infinite. To start with, each of us has his own character, type of work, personal circumstances, timing, etc. Certain professions may make it harder than others but providing the brainwashing is removed it doesn&rsquo;t have to be so. A few individual examples will help.</p> + <h2 id="will-it-be-harder-for-me">Will It Be Harder for Me? <a class="anchor" href="#will-it-be-harder-for-me"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The combinations of factors that will determine how easily each individual PMOer will quit are infinite. To start with, each of us has his own character, type of work, personal circumstances, timing, etc. Certain professions may make it harder than others but providing the brainwashing is removed it doesn&rsquo;t have to be so. A few individual examples will help.</p> <p>It tends to be particularly difficult for members of the medical profession. We think it should be easier for doctors because they are more aware of the effects of ill- health and are seeing daily evidence of it. Although this supplies more forceful reasons for stopping, it doesn&rsquo;t make it any easier to do. The reasons are these:</p> <ol> <li>The constant awareness of the health risks creates fear which is one of the conditions under which we need to relieve our withdrawal pangs.</li> @@ -3129,7 +3148,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:20:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-33-just-one-peek/ - <p>This is the undoing of many PMOers who try to stop on the Willpower Method. They will go through three or four days and then have the odd peek or a PMO or two to tide them over. They do not realize the devastating effect this has on their morale.</p> + <h2 id="just-one-peek">Just One Peek <a class="anchor" href="#just-one-peek"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is the undoing of many PMOers who try to stop on the Willpower Method. They will go through three or four days and then have the odd peek or a PMO or two to tide them over. They do not realize the devastating effect this has on their morale.</p> <p>For most PMOers that first peek at the tube site harem was not as good as sex with a real person. The clips that are clean are far in between. This gives their conscious minds a boost. They think, “Good. That wasn&rsquo;t entirely all that enjoyable. I am losing the urge to PMO and I am not that much into the shocking stuff.” In fact, the reverse is the case. Get it clear in your mind - enjoyment of orgasm wasn&rsquo;t the reason why you hit porn. If PMOers were there for orgasm alone, they&rsquo;d never watch more than one clip. The only reason why you PMO was to feed that little monster. Just think: you had starved him for four days. How precious that one peek must have been to him. You are not aware of it in your conscious mind but the fix your body received will be communicated to your subconscious mind and all your sound preparation will be undermined. There will be a little voice at the back of your mind saying, “In spite of all the logic they are precious. I want another one.”</p> <p>That little peek has two damaging effects:</p> <ol> @@ -3148,7 +3169,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:16:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-32-the-withdrawal-period/ - <p>For up to three weeks after your last PMO session you may be subjected to withdrawal pangs. These consist of two quite separate factors:</p> + <h2 id="the-withdrawal-period">The Withdrawal Period <a class="anchor" href="#the-withdrawal-period"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>For up to three weeks after your last PMO session you may be subjected to withdrawal pangs. These consist of two quite separate factors:</p> <ol> <li>The withdrawal pangs of dopamine, that empty, insecure feeling, like a hunger, which PMOers identify as a craving or “something I must to do” feeling.</li> <li>The psychological trigger of certain external stimuli such as a commercial, online browsing, a telephone conversation etc.</li> @@ -3178,12 +3201,14 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict - 03-31 the Easy Way to Stop + 03-31 The Easy Way to Stop https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-31-the-easy-way-to-stop/ Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:07:43 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-31-the-easy-way-to-stop/ - <p>This chapter contains instructions about the easy way to stop PMO. Providing you follow the instructions, you will find that stopping ranges from relatively easy to enjoyable! But remember the definition of a brunette: “a girl who didn&rsquo;t read the instructions on the bottle.” It is ridiculously easy to stop PMO. All you have to do is two things:</p> + <h2 id="the-easy-way-to-stop">The Easy Way to Stop <a class="anchor" href="#the-easy-way-to-stop"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This chapter contains instructions about the easy way to stop PMO. Providing you follow the instructions, you will find that stopping ranges from relatively easy to enjoyable! But remember the definition of a brunette: “a girl who didn&rsquo;t read the instructions on the bottle.” It is ridiculously easy to stop PMO. All you have to do is two things:</p> <ol> <li>Make the decision that you are never going to PMO again.</li> <li>Don&rsquo;t mope about it. Rejoice.</li> @@ -3197,8 +3222,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict <p>Basically I said to myself, “Scores of people are stopping now and leading perfectly happy lives. I didn&rsquo;t need to do it before I started and I can remember having to work hard to get used to this filth. So why do I need to do it now?” In any event I didn&rsquo;t enjoy PMO, I hated the whole filthy ritual and I didn&rsquo;t want to spend the rest of my life being the slave of this disgusting porn addiction.</p> <p>I then said to myself:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<p><strong>“WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT. YOU HAVE COMPLETED YOUR LAST PMO VISIT”</strong></p> -</div> +<h3 id="whether-you-like-it-or-not-you-have-completed-your-last-pmo-visit">“WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT. YOU HAVE COMPLETED YOUR LAST PMO VISIT” <a class="anchor" href="#whether-you-like-it-or-not-you-have-completed-your-last-pmo-visit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>I knew, right from that point, that I would never PMO again. I wasn&rsquo;t expecting it to be easy; in fact, just the reverse. I fully believed that I was in for months of black depression and that I would spend the rest of my life having the occasional pang. Instead it has been absolute bliss right from the start.</p> <p>It took me a long time to work out why it had been so easy and why this time I hadn&rsquo;t suffered those terrifying withdrawal pangs. The reason is that they do not exist. It is the doubt and uncertainty that causes the pangs. The beautiful truth is: IT IS EASY TO STOP PMO. It is only the indecision and moping about it that makes it difficult. Even while they are addicted to porn, PMOers can go for relatively long periods at certain times in their lives without bothering about it. It is only when you want it but can&rsquo;t have one that you suffer.</p> <p>Therefore the key to making it easy is to make stopping certain and final. Not to hope but to know you have kicked it, having made the decision. Never to doubt or question it. In fact, just the reverse - always to rejoice about it. If you can be certain from the start, it will be easy. But how can you be certain from the start unless you know it is going to be easy? This is why the rest of the book is necessary. There are certain essential points and it is necessary to get them clear in your mind before you start:</p> @@ -3233,7 +3259,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:05:14 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-30-avoid-false-incentives/ - <p>Many PMOers, while trying to stop on the Willpower Method, attempt to increase their motivation by building up false incentives. There are many examples of this, a typical one is, “I will reward myself with a gift after no-PMO for a month.” This appears to be a logical and sensible approach but in fact it is false because any self-respecting PMOer would rather continue PMOing every day than receive a “self given gift.” In any case there is a doubt in the PMOer’s mind because not only will she have to abstain for thirty days but will she even enjoy the days without a PMO? Her only pleasure or crutch is taken away! All this does is to increase the size of the sacrifice that the PMOer feels she is making, which makes it even more precious in her mind.</p> + <h2 id="avoid-false-incentives">Avoid False Incentives <a class="anchor" href="#avoid-false-incentives"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Many PMOers, while trying to stop on the Willpower Method, attempt to increase their motivation by building up false incentives. There are many examples of this, a typical one is, “I will reward myself with a gift after no-PMO for a month.” This appears to be a logical and sensible approach but in fact it is false because any self-respecting PMOer would rather continue PMOing every day than receive a “self given gift.” In any case there is a doubt in the PMOer’s mind because not only will she have to abstain for thirty days but will she even enjoy the days without a PMO? Her only pleasure or crutch is taken away! All this does is to increase the size of the sacrifice that the PMOer feels she is making, which makes it even more precious in her mind.</p> <p>Other examples: “I&rsquo;ll stop PMO so that I will force myself to get a social life and seek more sex in real life” OR “I’ll stop so some magical energy will help me to leap above the competitors and get this woman I pursue” OR “I commit to not waste my energy and enthusiasm in PMO, so I can grow enough hunger in myself.” These are true and can be effective and you may end up getting what you want. But think about it for a second - if you do get what you had wanted, once the novelty has gone you will feel deprived - if you didn’t then you will feel miserable and either way sooner or later you will fall for the trap again.</p> <p>Another typical example is online or forum pacts. These have the advantage of eliminating temptation for certain periods. However, they generally fail for the following reasons:</p> <ol> @@ -3244,9 +3272,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict </ol> <p>Stop kidding yourself. If the job offer that I mentioned before, of 10 months work for 12 months salary a year won&rsquo;t stop him. Or if the risks of cutting down your brain’s capacity to cope with just any normal day-to-day stress and strains or if putting yourself at odds with having a reliable erection, or if the lifetime of mental and physical torture and slavery did not stop him or her - the above said few phoney incentives will not make the slightest bit of difference. They will only make the sacrifice appear worse. Instead concentrate on the other side:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"><strong>“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?”</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"> +<h2 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo">“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?” <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> +</a></h2></div> <p>Keep looking at the other side of the tug of war. What is PMOing doing for me? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Why do I need to do it? YOU DON&rsquo;T! YOU ARE ONLY PUNISHING YOURSELF. Try looking at it from the Pascal’s Wager perspective. You have almost nothing to lose (a rub-out with half arousals) for sure, chances of big profits (a full and reliable arousal, mental well being and happiness) and no chance of losing big (unreliable full arousals, premature ejaculations, fading penetrations, loss of general impulse controls, lower tolerance for frustrations and anger).</p> <p>Why not declare your quitting to friends and family? Well, it will make you a proud ex-addict, ex-PMOer, not an elated and happy non-PMOer. It will scare your partner a bit since they may see this as an effort to have more sex, sort of a new-age thing. They may also fear to lose you if this turns you into sex machine. It is hard to explain to them unless they are open minded.</p> <p>Any attempt to get others to help you in your quitting gives more power to the little monster of addiction. Pushing it from your mind and totally ignoring it has the effect of trying NOT to think of it. As soon as you spot the thoughts, when you hit the cues (home alone) or just absent minded thoughts - just say to yourself: “Great, I don’t have to do it like a slave animal. I am free. I am happy to know the differences in sex.” This will cut the life of the thought and will deny oxygen to it and will stop it from burning towards urges and cravings.</p> @@ -3259,7 +3287,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:03:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-29-can-i-compartmentalize/ - <p>This is another myth about PMOing spread mainly by PMOers who, when attempting to stop on the Willpower Method, substitute mental gymnastics - they propose to act -Jekyll and Hyde: “Porn is for my alter ego side and real life romance is for my relationship side.” Nothing is further from the truth. The porn waterslides - the deltaFosBs and all the brain changes are going to overrun the real life romance and will make it less desirable. Mr Hyde is most definitely going to overrule Dr. Jekyll’s instructions.</p> + <h2 id="can-i-compartmentalize">Can I Compartmentalize? <a class="anchor" href="#can-i-compartmentalize"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is another myth about PMOing spread mainly by PMOers who, when attempting to stop on the Willpower Method, substitute mental gymnastics - they propose to act -Jekyll and Hyde: “Porn is for my alter ego side and real life romance is for my relationship side.” Nothing is further from the truth. The porn waterslides - the deltaFosBs and all the brain changes are going to overrun the real life romance and will make it less desirable. Mr Hyde is most definitely going to overrule Dr. Jekyll’s instructions.</p> <p>If you use internet porn, you may be training yourself for the role of voyeur or to need the option of clicking to something more arousing at the least drop in your dopamine levels, or to search and search for just the right scene for maximum effect. Also, you may be masturbating in a hunched-over position – or watching your smartphone in bed nightly. You will eventually desire those cues more than the real life action. The thing that goes against real sex is the lack of novelty, variety, ‘harem’ like 24/7 quick delivery etc. and so it stands no chance compared to your online harem. The younger you were when you started on PMO the longer to rewire and break down those ‘porn water slides’ and get back those ‘real water slides’ if there were any from the past or create new ones. Also powerful and lasting are the associated memories from when you were young.</p> <p>Every time you take a ride on the ‘porn water slide’ you are ‘greasing’ it - keeping the nerves fresh. When you park next to a fast food restaurant the smell of the fries floats from the pan into your nostrils and the sale was already made. Likewise, the porn water slides in your brain are there for you to get sucked in and they are open 24 hours a day. Each of these cues, or triggers, can now light up your reward circuit with the promise of sex&hellip; only it isn&rsquo;t sex. Nevertheless, nerve cells may solidify these associations with sexual arousal by sprouting new branches to strengthen the connections. The more you use porn the stronger the nerve connections can become, with the result that you may ultimately need to be a voyeur, need to click to new material, need to climax to porn to get to sleep, or need to search for the perfect ending just to get the job done.</p> <p>As with any substance or behavioural drug, after a while the body becomes immune and the “drug” ceases to relieve the withdrawal pangs completely. As soon as we close a session, the addict wants another one very soon and he has a permanent hunger. The natural inclination is eventually to ‘escalate’ just to get the dopamine rush. However, most PMOers are prevented from doing this for one, or both, of two reasons.</p> @@ -3279,7 +3309,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:01:03 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-28-will-i-miss-the-fun/ - <p>No! Once that little porn monster is dead and your body stops craving dopamine and the porn water slides in your brain start to fade due to lack of ‘greasing’, any remaining brainwashing will vanish and you will find yourself both physically and mentally better equipped not only to cope with the stresses and strains of life but to enjoy the good times to the full.</p> + <h2 id="will-i-miss-the-fun">Will I Miss the Fun? <a class="anchor" href="#will-i-miss-the-fun"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>No! Once that little porn monster is dead and your body stops craving dopamine and the porn water slides in your brain start to fade due to lack of ‘greasing’, any remaining brainwashing will vanish and you will find yourself both physically and mentally better equipped not only to cope with the stresses and strains of life but to enjoy the good times to the full.</p> <p>There is only one danger and that is the influence of those who still use sex as their lying crutch and damned pleasure. “The other man&rsquo;s grass is always greener,” is commonplace in many aspects of our lives and is easily understandable. Why is it in the case of PMOing, where the disadvantages are so enormous as compared with even the illusory ‘advantages,’ that the ex-PMOer tend to envy the man or woman who appears to demand sex and use porn for pleasure and a crutch?</p> <p>With all the brainwashing of our childhood it is quite understandable that we fall into the trap. Why is it that, once we realize what a mug&rsquo;s game it is and many of us manage to kick the habit, we walk straight back into the same trap? It is the influence of society&rsquo;s brainwashing of porn being conflated with sex and presented as normal. The ex-PMOer has a pang! The insecure void feelings of them being single, which in itself is not a crime anyway, causes anxiety and cues them to PMO water slide. This is indeed a curious anomaly, particularly if you consider this piece of observation: not only is every non-PMOer in the world happy to be a non-PMOer but every PMOer in the world, even with his warped, addicted, brainwashed mind suffering the delusion that he enjoys it or it relaxes him, wishes he had never become hooked in the first place. So why do some ex-PMOers envy the PMOer on these occasions? There are two reasons.</p> <ol> @@ -3310,7 +3342,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:55:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-27-timing/ - <p>Apart from the obvious point that as it is doing you no good, now is the right time to stop. I believe timing is important. Our society treats internet porn flippantly as a slightly distasteful habit that can not injure your health. It is not. It is drug addiction, a disease and a destroyer of relationships in society. The worst thing that happens in most PMOer’s lives is getting hooked on that awful addiction. If they stay hooked, horrendous things happen. Timing is important to give yourself the right to a proper cure.</p> + <h2 id="timing">Timing <a class="anchor" href="#timing"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Apart from the obvious point that as it is doing you no good, now is the right time to stop. I believe timing is important. Our society treats internet porn flippantly as a slightly distasteful habit that can not injure your health. It is not. It is drug addiction, a disease and a destroyer of relationships in society. The worst thing that happens in most PMOer’s lives is getting hooked on that awful addiction. If they stay hooked, horrendous things happen. Timing is important to give yourself the right to a proper cure.</p> <p>First of all, identify the times or occasions when PMO appears to be important to you. If you are a businessman and use it for the illusion of relief of stress, pick a relatively slack period; a good idea is to choose your annual holiday. If you PMO mainly during boring or relaxing periods, weekends etc. do the opposite. In any event, take the matter seriously and make the attempt the most important thing in your life.</p> <p>Look ahead for a period of about three weeks and try to anticipate any event that might lead to failure. Occasions like a conference trip, partner out of town etc. need not deter you, providing you anticipate them in advance and do not feel you will be deprived. Do not attempt to cut down in the meantime as this will only create the illusion that being denied is enjoyable. In fact, it helps to force yourself to watch and have as many PMO sessions as possible. While you are having the last session and that last time, be conscious of the disappointment due to satiation, unfulfilled expectations (porn can never satisfy you), any bodily pain or pain in the genitals, the withdrawal effects, the peevishness and the melancholy. Think how marvellous it will be when you allow yourself to stop doing it.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> @@ -3347,7 +3381,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:54:03 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-26-a-social-habit/ - <p>Health of mind and body are the main reason why we should want to stop but then they always have been. We do not actually need scientific research and knowledge in brain chemistry to tell us that internet porn is addictive and can potentially shatter our lives. These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on the planet and any PMOer knows instantly, from the first session, that the stimulus can go to excess and it can turn poisonous.</p> + <h2 id="a-social-habit">A Social Habit? <a class="anchor" href="#a-social-habit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Health of mind and body are the main reason why we should want to stop but then they always have been. We do not actually need scientific research and knowledge in brain chemistry to tell us that internet porn is addictive and can potentially shatter our lives. These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on the planet and any PMOer knows instantly, from the first session, that the stimulus can go to excess and it can turn poisonous.</p> <p>The only reason why we ever get involved with internet porn is the PMO’s overlap with their evolutionary brain programming. Porn is available for free and it gets streamed 24 hours a day. No risk and no traces and with very high brain rewards. Porn was once considered as harmless but that was when the images were static and involved a trip to the local store for a VHS tape.</p> <p>Today it is generally considered even by PMOers themselves to be a supra-stimulus and addiction forming. In the old days, the strong man did not admit he masturbated. Jerk is a derogatory term. In every pub or club bar the majority of men would be proudly wanting to take a woman home and have real sex. Today the position is completely reversed for the internet porn addicts. Today&rsquo;s man realizes that he is starting to feel that he doesn&rsquo;t need a woman. This scares him. He bands together online and starts discussing experiences, devise strategies and explore options. Today&rsquo;s strong man does not want to depend on drugs. With the social revolution all PMOers nowadays are giving serious thought to stopping internet porn and masturbation. Today&rsquo;s PMOers consider PMO as an useless and harmful activity.</p> <p>The most significant trend that I have noticed in forums is the increasing emphasis on the anti-social aspect of PMOing. The days when a man boasted of having sex and orgasms every day is slowly getting replaced with, “why do I need to be a slave for this porn monster when I know ‘it’ is controlling my wand (and mind)?”</p> @@ -3365,7 +3401,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:51:35 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-25-the-youtube-pmoer/ - <p>The YouTube PMOer should be grouped with casual PMOers but the effects of a YouTube PMOer are so insidious that it merits a separate chapter. It can lead to the breakdown of personal self control. In one case it nearly caused a split for a No-Fap forum user.</p> + <h2 id="the-youtube-pmoer">The YouTube PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-youtube-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The YouTube PMOer should be grouped with casual PMOers but the effects of a YouTube PMOer are so insidious that it merits a separate chapter. It can lead to the breakdown of personal self control. In one case it nearly caused a split for a No-Fap forum user.</p> <blockquote> <p><em>“I was three weeks into one of my failed attempts to stop. The attempt had been triggered off by my wife&rsquo;s worry about my unreliable hard-ons and lack of interest. I had told her that it was not her and it was just job pressure. She said, &lsquo;I know you had handled the work pressure before but how would you feel if you were me and had to watch someone you love systematically destroying themselves?’ It was an argument that I found irresistible, hence the attempt to stop. She knows that I am not cheating - but this in a way is as worse as that (sic). The attempt ended after three weeks after a heated argument with an old friend. It did not register until years afterwards that my devious mind had deliberately triggered off the argument. I felt justly aggrieved at the time but I do not believe that it was coincidence, as I had never argued with this particular friend before, nor have I since. It was clearly the little monster at work. Anyway, I had my excuse. I desperately needed a release of orgasm and it doesn’t matter how. As it happens she was not in the mood right away and I was in an “entitlement” hurry. So I convinced myself that it is OK if I ‘restrict’ myself by avoiding a porn site and just stay this side of the ‘red line’ and watch only YouTube videos. But she ‘came around’ as the night unfolded and wanted to make love. But I was tired and not with all my ‘horsepower.’ I then invented a headache. I could not bear to think of the disappointment this would cause my wife. Then gradually I returned to the old ways, only YouTube became my new harem destination. I remember being quite pleased at the time. I thought, &lsquo;well, at least it is cutting my consumption down;’ Eventually she accused me of continuing to ignore her in the bed. I had not realized it but she described the times I had caused an argument and stormed out of the house. At other times I had taken two hours to purchase some minor item and faked a sprain or something. I had made feeble excuses to cop out of the whole wooing her and etc. when I have a reliable online harem it is even more hard.”</em></p> </blockquote> @@ -3385,7 +3423,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:40:22 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-24-casual-pmoers-teenagers-non-pmoers/ - <p>Heavy PMOers tend to envy the casual porn user. We&rsquo;ve all met these characters: “Oh, I can go all week without a PMO, it really doesn&rsquo;t bother me.” We think: “I wish I were like that!” I know this is hard to believe but no PMOer enjoys being a PMOer. Never forget:</p> + <h2 id="casual-pmoers-teenagers-non-pmoers">Casual PMOers, Teenagers, Non PMOers <a class="anchor" href="#casual-pmoers-teenagers-non-pmoers"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Heavy PMOers tend to envy the casual porn user. We&rsquo;ve all met these characters: “Oh, I can go all week without a PMO, it really doesn&rsquo;t bother me.” We think: “I wish I were like that!” I know this is hard to believe but no PMOer enjoys being a PMOer. Never forget:</p> <ul> <li>No PMOer ever decided to become a PMOer casual or otherwise, therefore:</li> <li>All PMOers feel stupid, therefore:</li> @@ -3423,7 +3463,7 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> </a></h3><p>(Or, “I can stop whenever I want to. I have done it thousands of times”). If he thinks dieting helps with his moods to ‘get out to get women,’ why is he even on the diet of once every four days? How can one predict the future, what if the happenstance of meeting occurred just an hour after your scheduled PMO session? Also, if he thinks this occasional “cleaning the plumbing” is good to relieve tension and relax why not plumb every day? It has been proven that masturbation is not required to keep the genitals healthy. Internet porn is not required at all. Even if that may be the case, any PUA guru who has read about the brain chemistry and its plasticity will never recommend watching super stimulus porn. The truth is he is still hooked. Although he gets rid of the physical addiction, he is left with the main problem - the brainwashing. He hopes each time that he will stop for good and soon falls for the same trap again.</p> <p>Many PMOers actually envy these stoppers and starters. They think, “how lucky to be able to control it like that, to do PMO when you want to and stop when you want to,” What they always overlook is that these stoppers and starters aren&rsquo;t controlling it. When they are PMOers, they wish they weren&rsquo;t. They go through the hassle of stopping, then begin to feel deprived and fall for the trap again, then wish they hadn&rsquo;t. They get the worst of both worlds. If you think about it, this is true in the lives of the PMOers. When we are allowed to PMO we either take it as entitled or wish we didn&rsquo;t. It&rsquo;s only when we can&rsquo;t have PMO that it appears to be so precious. The ‘forbidden fruit syndrome’. This is the awful dilemma of PMOers. They can never win because they are moping for a myth, an illusion. There is one way they can win and that is to stop PMOing and stop moping!</p> -<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC/TAME/HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer"> +<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-static--tame--home-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC / TAME / HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-only-pmo-to-static--tame--home-made-porn-pmoer"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> </a></h3><p>Yes, we all do it to start with but isn&rsquo;t it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner&rsquo;s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes&hellip; you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one.</p> <h3 id="the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer">THE I-HAVE-STOPPED-BUT-I-HAVE-AN-OCCASIONAL-PEEK PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer"> @@ -3471,7 +3511,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:35:22 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-23-just-one-peek/ - <p>“Just one peek” is a myth you must get out of your mind:</p> + <h2 id="just-one-peek">Just One Peek <a class="anchor" href="#just-one-peek"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>“Just one peek” is a myth you must get out of your mind:</p> <ul> <li>It is just one peek that gets us started in the first place.</li> <li>It is just one peek to tide us over a difficult patch or on a special occasion that defeats most of our attempts to stop.</li> @@ -3510,7 +3552,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:28:58 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-22-beware-of-cutting-down/ - <p>Many PMOers resort to cutting down either as a stepping-stone towards stopping or as an attempt to control the little monster. Many recommend cutting down or a ‘porn diet’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> as a pick-me-up. Obviously, the less you PMO the better off you are but as a stepping-stone to stopping, cutting down is fatal. It is these attempts to cut down that keep us trapped all our lives.</p> + <h2 id="beware-of-cutting-down">Beware of Cutting Down <a class="anchor" href="#beware-of-cutting-down"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Many PMOers resort to cutting down either as a stepping-stone towards stopping or as an attempt to control the little monster. Many recommend cutting down or a ‘porn diet’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> as a pick-me-up. Obviously, the less you PMO the better off you are but as a stepping-stone to stopping, cutting down is fatal. It is these attempts to cut down that keep us trapped all our lives.</p> <p>Usually cutting down follows failed attempts to stop. After a few hours or days of abstinence the PMOer says to himself something like:</p> <blockquote> <p><em>“I cannot face the thought of going to sleep without visiting my online harem, so from now on I will just PMO once in four days or I will purge my collection of ‘bad’ porn. If I can follow this ‘porn diet’, I can either hold it there or cut down further.”</em></p> @@ -3561,12 +3605,14 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p - 03-21 the Willpower Method of Stopping + 03-21 The Willpower Method of Stopping https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-21-the-willpower-method-of-stopping/ Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:20:42 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-21-the-willpower-method-of-stopping/ - <p>It is an accepted fact in our society that it is very difficult to stop PMO. Even books and forums advising you how to do so usually start off by telling you how difficult it is. The truth is that it is ridiculously easy. Yes, I can understand you questioning that statement but just consider it. If your aim is to run a mile in under four minutes, that&rsquo;s difficult. You may have to undergo years of hard training and even then you may be physically incapable of doing it. (Much of our achievement lies in the mind. Isn&rsquo;t it strange how difficult it was until Roger Bannister actually did it but nowadays it is commonplace?).</p> + <h2 id="the-willpower-method-of-stopping">The Willpower Method of Stopping <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method-of-stopping"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>It is an accepted fact in our society that it is very difficult to stop PMO. Even books and forums advising you how to do so usually start off by telling you how difficult it is. The truth is that it is ridiculously easy. Yes, I can understand you questioning that statement but just consider it. If your aim is to run a mile in under four minutes, that&rsquo;s difficult. You may have to undergo years of hard training and even then you may be physically incapable of doing it. (Much of our achievement lies in the mind. Isn&rsquo;t it strange how difficult it was until Roger Bannister actually did it but nowadays it is commonplace?).</p> <p>However, in order to stop PMOing all you have to do is not watch internet porn and or masturbate any more. No one forces you to masturbate (apart from yourself) and unlike food or drink, you don&rsquo;t need it to survive. So if you want to stop doing it, why should it be difficult? In fact, it isn&rsquo;t. It is PMOers who make it difficult by using the Willpower Method. I define the Willpower Method as any method that forces the PMOer to feel he is making some sort of sacrifice. Let us just consider the Willpower Method.</p> <p>We do not decide to become PMOers. We merely experiment with porn magazines or websites and because they are awful, yes that is right – awful - except for our desired clip, we are convinced that we can stop whenever we want to. In the main, we watch those first few clips only when we want to and that is usually on special occasions. Before we realize it, we are not only visiting those sites regularly and masturbating when we want to, we are masturbating to them every day. PMO has become a part of our lives. We then ensure that we always have an internet connection wherever we go. We believe that we are entitled to love, sex and orgasms - and also that porn helps to relieve stress. It doesn&rsquo;t seem to occur to us that the same clip and actors do not provide us the same degree of arousal and that we are either escalating or fighting against the ‘red line’ we have put around ourselves to avoid harmful “bad porn.” In fact, masturbation and internet porn neither improves our sex life nor does it relieve stress, it&rsquo;s just that PMOers believe they can&rsquo;t enjoy life or handle stress without an orgasm - even mind induced porn orgasms. Because that is what many times we are doing.</p> <p>It usually takes us a long time to realize that we are hooked because we suffer from the illusion that PMOers masturbate because they enjoy porn - not because they have to have porn - a need. While we are not “enjoying” porn (which we can never do unless novelty, shock or escalation is added), we suffer from the illusion that we can stop whenever we want to. This is a confidence trap. I don’t enjoy porn, so I am sure I can stop when I want to. Only that you never seem to ‘want’ to stop though.</p> @@ -3630,7 +3676,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:18:55 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-20-those-sinister-black-shadows/ - <p>Another of the great joys of quitting porn is to be free of those sinister black shadows at the back of our minds. All PMOers know they are fools to close their minds on the ill-effects of PMO. For most of our lives PMO is automatic but the black shadows are always lurking in our subconscious minds, just beneath the surface. There are several marvellous advantages to achieve from quitting PMO. Some of them I was consciously aware of throughout my life, such as the health risks, the waste of time and the sheer stupidity of making love to a two dimensional image. However, such was my fear of quitting, so obsessed was I in resisting all the attempts of do-gooders and anyone else who tried to persuade me to quit, that all my imagination and energy was directed to finding any flimsy excuse that would allow me to continue to PMO.</p> + <h2 id="those-sinister-black-shadows">Those Sinister Black Shadows <a class="anchor" href="#those-sinister-black-shadows"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Another of the great joys of quitting porn is to be free of those sinister black shadows at the back of our minds. All PMOers know they are fools to close their minds on the ill-effects of PMO. For most of our lives PMO is automatic but the black shadows are always lurking in our subconscious minds, just beneath the surface. There are several marvellous advantages to achieve from quitting PMO. Some of them I was consciously aware of throughout my life, such as the health risks, the waste of time and the sheer stupidity of making love to a two dimensional image. However, such was my fear of quitting, so obsessed was I in resisting all the attempts of do-gooders and anyone else who tried to persuade me to quit, that all my imagination and energy was directed to finding any flimsy excuse that would allow me to continue to PMO.</p> <p>Amazingly, my most ingenious thoughts occurred when I was actually trying to quit. They were of course inspired by the fear and misery I suffered when attempting to quit by using willpower. No way could I block my mind from the health and sexual aspects. But now that I am free it amazes me how I successfully blocked my mind from even more important advantages to be gained from quitting. I&rsquo;ve already mentioned the sheer slavery - spending half of our lives being allowed to PMO, doing it automatically and wishing we had never started, the other half feeling miserable and deprived because the knowledge of the destructive effects of internet porn won&rsquo;t allow us to PMO. In the last chapter I&rsquo;ve referred to the incredible joy of having energy again. But for me the greatest joy of being free was not the health, the time, the energy, or the ending of the slavery, it was the removal of those sinister black shadows, the removal of feeling despised by and feeling apologetic to myself and to other quitters, and most of all to be able to respect yourself.</p> <p>Most PMOers aren&rsquo;t the weak-willed, spineless jellyfish that both society and themselves tend to believe. In every other aspect of my life I was in control. I loathed myself for being dependent on an evil crutch that I knew was ruining my life. I cannot tell you of the utter joy of being free of those sinister black shadows, the dependency and the self-despising. I can&rsquo;t tell you how nice it is to be able to look at all other users, whether they be young, old, casual or heavy, not with a feeling of envy, but with a feeling of pity for them and elation for yourself that you are no longer the slave of that insidious trap. The other day I felt pity for the guy on a TV show who was so excited to get to watch porn - another case of society slipping one in your drink under the pretence of comedy.</p> <p>The last two chapters have dealt with the considerable advantages of being a non-PMOer. I feel it necessary to give a balanced account, so the next chapter lists the advantages of being a PMOer.</p> @@ -3643,7 +3691,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:16:17 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-19-it-relaxes-me-and-gives-me-confidence/ - <p>This is the worst fallacy of all about PMOing and for me it ranks with the ending of the slavery, the greatest benefit from quitting - is not to have to go through life with the permanent feelings of insecurity that PMOers suffer from.</p> + <h2 id="it-relaxes-me-and-gives-me-confidence">It Relaxes Me and Gives Me Confidence <a class="anchor" href="#it-relaxes-me-and-gives-me-confidence"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is the worst fallacy of all about PMOing and for me it ranks with the ending of the slavery, the greatest benefit from quitting - is not to have to go through life with the permanent feelings of insecurity that PMOers suffer from.</p> <p>PMOers find it very difficult to believe that masturbation to internet porn actually causes those insecure feelings you get when you are out late at night after a contentious day at home or work. Non-PMOers do not suffer from that feeling. It is the porn that causes it. I only became aware of many of the advantages of stopping months afterwards, as a result of my consultations with other PMOers.</p> <p>I refused to see my PMO as causing so much of the mental tug of war in my mind that I am foolishly working hard to have nominal levels of confidence in my day to day life. Forget about getting an erection, I am talking about focusing, taking challenges, fighting, choosing, deciding - actions that define our lives. Especially when we are often forced to act when the facts are not clear. Come to think of it, facts were and will never be clear and hence it is to our great advantage anyway to act.</p> <p>Also of note is in dating area as well, the fire to go forward is being misappropriated to this ‘high reward zero pain’ porn. If you have read some top PUA books and forums, what do they say? Go on a ‘diet<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>’? Yes of course when you have the good hunger your internal juices and your brain will do the rest. Copping out is not an option at all. Playing the numbers is not tiresome by no means. All PUA advice in a nut-shell is this - try more numbers. Even if your approach is wrong you will be right twice a day like a broken clock. But if your mind is fighting a tug of war with effortless easy access to a harem of online women, how would you get back on your feet when that girl ignores you? Oh, if it was a public outright rejection I am running, not walking, to my porn girlfriend.</p> @@ -3665,7 +3715,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:12:56 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-18-energy/ - <p>Most PMOers are aware of the effect that this progressive process of PMO, leading to novelty and escalation seeking, has on their brain’s reward circuits and their sexual system. However, they are not so aware of the effect it has on their energy level.</p> + <h2 id="energy">Energy <a class="anchor" href="#energy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Most PMOers are aware of the effect that this progressive process of PMO, leading to novelty and escalation seeking, has on their brain’s reward circuits and their sexual system. However, they are not so aware of the effect it has on their energy level.</p> <p>One of the subtleties of the PMO trap is that the effects it has on us, both physical and mental, happen so gradually and imperceptibly that we are not aware of them and regard them as normal. It is very similar to the effects of bad eating habits. The pot-belly appears so gradually that it causes us no alarm. We look at people who are grossly overweight and wonder how they could possibly have allowed themselves to reach that state.</p> <p>But supposing it happened overnight. You went to bed weighing 140 lbs, trim, rippling with muscles and not an ounce of fat on your body. You awoke weighing 180 lbs, fat, bloated and pot-bellied. Instead of waking up feeling fully rested and full of energy, you wake up feeling miserable, lethargic and you can hardly open your eyes. You would be panic-stricken, wondering what awful disease you had contracted overnight. Yet the disease is exactly the same.</p> <p>The fact that it took you twenty years to reach that state is irrelevant. So it is with PMOing. If I could immediately transfer you into your mind and body to give you a direct comparison on how you would feel having stopped internet porn for just three weeks, that is all I would need to do to persuade you to quit. You would think: “Will I really feel this good?” Or what it really amounts to: “Had I really sunk that low?” I emphasize that I don&rsquo;t just mean that you would feel healthier and have more energy but how you would also feel more confident and relaxed and better able to concentrate.</p> @@ -3683,7 +3735,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 12:12:31 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-17-health/ - <p>This is the area where the brainwashing is the greatest. PMOers, especially the young and single, think they are aware of the health risks. They are not. Even in my case, when I was expecting my head to explode any moment and honestly believed I was prepared to accept the consequences, I was still kidding myself. I didn&rsquo;t in those days have an app that started a red beeper to flash and sound every time my internet router hits a porn site, followed by a warning voice saying, “OK, this is the one!” Fortunately you do get a warning, and this is it. That warning would say, “Up to now you have got away with it but if you stay another minute your head will explode,” do you think I would have PMOed?</p> + <h2 id="health">Health <a class="anchor" href="#health"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is the area where the brainwashing is the greatest. PMOers, especially the young and single, think they are aware of the health risks. They are not. Even in my case, when I was expecting my head to explode any moment and honestly believed I was prepared to accept the consequences, I was still kidding myself. I didn&rsquo;t in those days have an app that started a red beeper to flash and sound every time my internet router hits a porn site, followed by a warning voice saying, “OK, this is the one!” Fortunately you do get a warning, and this is it. That warning would say, “Up to now you have got away with it but if you stay another minute your head will explode,” do you think I would have PMOed?</p> <p>If you are in doubt about the answer just try walking up to a cliff, stand on the edge with your eyes closed and imagine you then have the choice of either quitting PMO or walking up blindfolded before your next PMO.</p> <p>There is no doubt what your choice would be. I had been doing what every internet porn PMOer does all his life: closing my mind and keeping my head in the sand, hoping that I would wake up one morning and just not want to PMO any more. PMOers cannot allow themselves to think of the health risks. If they do, even the illusion of enjoying the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; goes.</p> <p>This explains why a shock treatment is so ineffective in the first stages of quitting. It is only non-users who can bring themselves to read the destructive brain changes. It also explains why PMOers, influenced by their little monster, wrongly recall that filthy room mate who PMOed everyday and was still remaining ‘horny’ 24 hours a day – they will ignore the thousands of people who are brought “down” in their prime because of this poisonous ‘habit’.</p> @@ -3794,7 +3848,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 12:08:55 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-16-i-will-save-x-hours-a-week/ - <p>I cannot repeat too often that it is brainwashing that makes it difficult to stop PMOing. So, the + <h2 id="i-will-save-x-hours-a-week">I Will Save X Hours a Week <a class="anchor" href="#i-will-save-x-hours-a-week"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>I cannot repeat too often that it is brainwashing that makes it difficult to stop PMOing. So, the more brainwashing we can dispel before we start, the easier you will find it to achieve your goal. Occasionally I get into arguments with people whom I call “confirmed PMOers.” By my definition a confirmed PMOer is somebody who doesn&rsquo;t believe PMO has any negative effect on his health @@ -3831,7 +3887,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 12:06:39 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-15-self-imposed-slavery/ - <p>Usually when PMOers try to stop the main reasons given are health, religion and partner stigma. Part of the brainwashing of this awful drug is the sheer slavery. Man fought hard in the last century to abolish slavery and yet the PMOer spends his life suffering self-imposed slavery. He seems to be oblivious to the fact that when he is allowed to PMO he wishes that he were a non-PMOer. With most of the masturbation we do in our lives, not only do we not enjoy them but we aren&rsquo;t even aware that we are masturbating. It is only after a period of abstinence that we actually suffer the delusion of enjoying PMO (e.g. the first day after a 4 day abstinence with the intent of rebooting etc.). The only time that the porn becomes precious is when we are &rsquo;trying&rsquo; to cut down or abstain or when abstinence is forced on us (e.g. when on a business trips, holiday trips to locations where the Internet is not available and so on).</p> + <h2 id="self-imposed-slavery">Self-Imposed Slavery <a class="anchor" href="#self-imposed-slavery"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Usually when PMOers try to stop the main reasons given are health, religion and partner stigma. Part of the brainwashing of this awful drug is the sheer slavery. Man fought hard in the last century to abolish slavery and yet the PMOer spends his life suffering self-imposed slavery. He seems to be oblivious to the fact that when he is allowed to PMO he wishes that he were a non-PMOer. With most of the masturbation we do in our lives, not only do we not enjoy them but we aren&rsquo;t even aware that we are masturbating. It is only after a period of abstinence that we actually suffer the delusion of enjoying PMO (e.g. the first day after a 4 day abstinence with the intent of rebooting etc.). The only time that the porn becomes precious is when we are &rsquo;trying&rsquo; to cut down or abstain or when abstinence is forced on us (e.g. when on a business trips, holiday trips to locations where the Internet is not available and so on).</p> <p>The confirmed PMOer should bear in mind that more studies and even more people are coming out and talking about the ill effects of internet porn. This trend will get “worse and worse.” Today, it is non-medical people talking. Tomorrow, it will be in your doctor’s list of diagnostic tests to perform. Gone are the days when the PMOer can hide behind “just a bit of downtime due to work stress” in his or her sex life. Your partner is going to ask you why you are on your laptop at this time too late into the night. The poor PMOer, who was already feeling wretched, wants the ground to open up and swallow him.</p> <p>I remember every time my partner stayed up late it was an ordeal waiting to open up my laptop. When on business trips the dinner with the clients and colleagues dragged on or was I just going through the natural ups and downs in human interactions? What was I doing? I was thinking, “let&rsquo;s get on with it, so that I can get over with this and go to my room for some porn.” I have thought many times, “am I not lucky? I have got my little reward. The poor non-PMOer with no internet access somewhere in an Amish village hasn&rsquo;t got a reward.” The &lsquo;poor&rsquo; non-PMOer doesn&rsquo;t need a reward. We were not designed to go through life systematically flooding our brains with dopamine and opioids. The pathetic thing is that even when masturbating with internet porn the PMOer doesn&rsquo;t achieve those feelings of peace, confidence and tranquillity that the non-PMOer has experienced for the whole of his non-PMO life. The non-PMOer isn&rsquo;t sitting in the family room, feeling agitated and wishing his life away. He can enjoy the whole of his life.</p> <p>No, this wasn&rsquo;t a fourteen-year-old schoolboy but a forty-year-old professional. How pathetic. I wouldn&rsquo;t admit to myself that I wasn&rsquo;t enjoying it. I was looking for the right clip and/or pictures to reach orgasm or better, edge forever. I don&rsquo;t know what I am supposed to be &lsquo;watching&rsquo; sometimes. That is the confusing part. The &rsquo;edging&rsquo; and then the orgasm floods my brain. Yet this was supposed to be my way of relaxing and enjoying my “favourite hobby.”</p> @@ -3845,7 +3903,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:49:35 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-14-what-am-i-giving-up/ - <p>ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! The thing that makes it difficult for us to give up is fear. The fear that we are being deprived of our pleasure or prop. The fear that certain pleasant situations will never be quite the same again. The fear of being unable to cope with stressful situations. In other words, the effect of brainwashing is to delude us into believing that sex and by extension orgasm, is a must for all human beings. Or that there is something inherent in Internet porn that we need and that when we stop PMOing we will be self-denying ourselves and there will be a void.</p> + <h2 id="what-am-i-giving-up">What Am I Giving Up? <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-giving-up"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! The thing that makes it difficult for us to give up is fear. The fear that we are being deprived of our pleasure or prop. The fear that certain pleasant situations will never be quite the same again. The fear of being unable to cope with stressful situations. In other words, the effect of brainwashing is to delude us into believing that sex and by extension orgasm, is a must for all human beings. Or that there is something inherent in Internet porn that we need and that when we stop PMOing we will be self-denying ourselves and there will be a void.</p> <blockquote> <p>Get it clear in your mind:</p> </blockquote> @@ -3866,18 +3926,14 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> </blockquote> <p>These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on this planet. Whether you believe in a creator, a process of natural selection or a combination of both, whatever being or system devised these bodies of ours, it is a thousand times more effective than man! Man cannot create the smallest living cell, let alone the miracle of eyesight, reproduction, our circulatory system or our brains. We don’t have our systems upgraded yet to properly assess the supranormal stimulus such as rich high density food or high speed internet novelty porn with multiple active windows.</p> <p>If the creator or process had intended us to handle novelty triggering stimuli, we would have been provided with some other brain reward circuits. Our bodies are, in fact, provided with fail-safe warning devices and we ignore these at our peril. Excessive edging results in body pain, irritation, and inflammation. In women, excessive flooding of dopamine and stress enzymes such as prostaglandin-E2 can cause difficulty to orgasm and PME.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up"><strong>There Is Nothing To Give Up</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#there-is-nothing-to-give-up"> +<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up">There Is Nothing To Give Up <a class="anchor" href="#there-is-nothing-to-give-up"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h2></div> -<p>The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.</p> +</a></h2><p>The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.</p> <p>The problem I have is to make a convincing point as I’d have done for, let us say&hellip; smokers? All of us have seen smokers who develop excuses to sneak off for a crafty puff. It is easy to see the true addiction in action. Addicts do not do it because they enjoy it. They do it because they are miserable without it.</p> <p>Because many of us started out our first sexual experience that ended in an orgasm and we acquired the belief that we cannot enjoy sex without an orgasm. And for men, porn is sold as an aid towards sex, sometimes even as an education to be confident during the act of sex. It used to be static, but now we have supranormal internet porn. But this is nonsense. Internet porn takes away your confidence.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="women-and-porn"><strong>Women And Porn</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#women-and-porn"> +<h2 id="women-and-porn">Women And Porn <a class="anchor" href="#women-and-porn"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h2></div> -<p>The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn&rsquo;t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.</p> +</a></h2><p>The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn&rsquo;t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.</p> <p>Porn and internet porn does not help your sex life; it destroys it totally. Having to hide your internet footprints, trying to delete your history, fearing accidental exposure to your boyfriend or kids, body pains, doubtful symptoms, fighting self doubts, arguing with yourself about your responsibilities in the ill effects of your addiction&hellip; well, why do you want to put yourself in such a bad situation?</p> <p>Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous positive gains to be had. When PMOers contemplate quitting they tend to concentrate on health and virility. These are obviously valid and important issues but I personally believe the greatest gains from stopping are psychological:</p> <ol> @@ -3886,11 +3942,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <li>Not to have to go through life suffering the awful black shadows at the back of your mind, knowing you are being despised by half of the population and, worst of all, despising yourself.</li> </ol> <p>Not only is life better as a non-PMOer but it is infinitely more enjoyable. I do not only mean you will be healthier. I mean you will be happier and enjoy life far more. The marvellous gains from being a non-PMOer are discussed in the next few chapters. Some PMOers find it difficult to appreciate the concept of the &lsquo;void&rsquo; and the following analogy may assist you.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"><strong>Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"> +<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void">Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void! <a class="anchor" href="#void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h2></div> -<p>Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I&rsquo;ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can&rsquo;t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.</p> +</a></h2><p>Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I&rsquo;ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can&rsquo;t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.</p> <p>By now you are completely dependent on the ointment. You never go out without ensuring that you have a tube of the ointment with you. If you go abroad, you make sure that you take several tubes with you. Now, in addition to your worries about your health, I&rsquo;m charging you $100 per tube. You have no choice but to pay.</p> <p>You then read in the medical column of your newspaper that this isn&rsquo;t happening just to you; many other people have been suffering from the same problem. In fact, pharmacists have discovered that the ointment doesn&rsquo;t actually cure the sore. All that it does is to take the sore beneath the surface of the skin. It is the ointment that has caused the sore to grow. All you have to do to get rid of the sore is to stop using the ointment. The sore will eventually disappear in due course.</p> <p>Would you continue to use the ointment? Would it take willpower not to use the ointment? If you didn&rsquo;t believe the medical article, there might be a few days of apprehension, but once you realized that the sore was beginning to get better, the need or desire to use the ointment would go, Would you be miserable? Of course you wouldn&rsquo;t. You had an awful problem which you thought was insoluble. Now you&rsquo;ve found the solution. Even if it took a year for that sore to disappear completely, each day, as it improved, you&rsquo;d think. “isn&rsquo;t it marvellous? I&rsquo;m not going to die!” This was the magic that happened to me on my final PMO day. Let me make one point quite clear in the analogy of the sore and the ointment.</p> @@ -3907,7 +3961,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:47:03 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-13-social-night-pmoing/ - <p>This is a misinformation that seems to make sense but then it does not. In order to have control of eating, will you eat at home before leaving to go to a restaurant or a party? This is what you are doing when you PMO before your social night. You will look tired and will not be up to your best. If you have dating jitters then work on it beforehand and then go with the flow even with some butterflies in your stomach. I like a bit of the anxiety in me to keep me going. Tiring yourself mentally and physically with an orgasm is not going to help you, unless of course you are going to see a prostitute. The goal is entirely different in that angle.</p> + <h2 id="social-night-pmoing">Social Night PMOing <a class="anchor" href="#social-night-pmoing"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is a misinformation that seems to make sense but then it does not. In order to have control of eating, will you eat at home before leaving to go to a restaurant or a party? This is what you are doing when you PMO before your social night. You will look tired and will not be up to your best. If you have dating jitters then work on it beforehand and then go with the flow even with some butterflies in your stomach. I like a bit of the anxiety in me to keep me going. Tiring yourself mentally and physically with an orgasm is not going to help you, unless of course you are going to see a prostitute. The goal is entirely different in that angle.</p> <p>The widespread adoption of pick-up techniques has put pressure on guys to perform, to attract and to ‘score’. You can get knowledge but you should know how to use it. I can guarantee that 100% of the other guys hanging at that bar know exactly what you know. It comes down to the ‘how’ of how you use it when you get the chance. Even before that, there is one very critical thing about any knowledge pertaining to human interactions, that ‘knowledge’ should never force your actions. This is important.</p> <p>I once masturbated and then poured wine to quiet the butterflies in my stomach before a date. I looked tired after just one hour into the date, the loud noise of the bar, dehydration, excessive self-consciousness (PUA teachings) etc. made my time unenjoyable. Somehow the girl and her friend liked it all. However, I do think it would have been better if I had gone without any props. I ended up being successful by claiming my &lsquo;goal(s)&rsquo; - which I consider unfortunate and as random luck.</p> <p>The PMO session I had before the date triggered a dopamine flooding and its withdrawal hit around the time I was with the date. I had to over-do my conversation to compensate the ineffective dopamine effects after that earlier orgasm. I am also sure that I was suffering from hypofrontality - where my impulses were failing my controls. That gushing moment, an extra decibel in the tone etc. would easily have given my nervousness to the girls - only if I was not protected by the loud noise in the bar. Why do you want to take chances?</p> @@ -3926,7 +3982,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:44:10 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-12-relaxation/ - <p>Most PMOers think that PMO helps to relax them. The truth is that internet porn used in PMO acts like a chemical stimulant. The frantic search to get the fix in those “dark alleys of the internet” and the internal struggle to reign in the dog straining at its leash for more shocking clips does not sound much like an activity of relaxation to me.</p> + <h2 id="relaxation">Relaxation <a class="anchor" href="#relaxation"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Most PMOers think that PMO helps to relax them. The truth is that internet porn used in PMO acts like a chemical stimulant. The frantic search to get the fix in those “dark alleys of the internet” and the internal struggle to reign in the dog straining at its leash for more shocking clips does not sound much like an activity of relaxation to me.</p> <p>One of the favourite PMO sessions for most is the one after a trip to a new place or after along day. As the night rolls in we stop working; we sit down and relax, relieve our hunger and thirst and are then completely satisfied. However, the poor PMOer cannot relax, as he has another hunger to satisfy. He thinks of the PMO as the icing on the cake but it is the &rsquo;little monster&rsquo; that needs feeding.</p> <p>The truth is that the addict can never be completely relaxed and as you go through life it gets worse. The most stressed people on this planet aren&rsquo;t non-PMOers but those young men and women who have a need to hunt (with the misunderstood goal of orgasm) and their ignorance of and/or low opinion of amative sex. Women who have subscribed to “I must orgasm” teachings are not even aware of the victim they have made of themselves. At this point any sex that leads to climax and orgasm cease to relieve even partially the symptoms that they have created.</p> <p>I can remember when I was bringing up a family. If my child would do something wrong I would quickly lose my temper to an extent that was out of all proportion to what he had done.</p> @@ -3947,7 +4005,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:42:13 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-11-concentration/ - <p>Sex and masturbation do not help concentration. That is just another illusion. When you are trying to concentrate, you automatically try to avoid distractions. So when a PMOer wants to concentrate he doesn&rsquo;t even have to think about it. He automatically PMOs, partially ending the craving, gets on with the matter in hand and has already forgotten that he just PMOed. Sex in general do not help concentration. After years of masturbation your brain changes affect abilities such as assessing, planning and impulse control. The PMOer is already suffering: that little monster wants his fix.</p> + <h2 id="concentration">Concentration <a class="anchor" href="#concentration"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Sex and masturbation do not help concentration. That is just another illusion. When you are trying to concentrate, you automatically try to avoid distractions. So when a PMOer wants to concentrate he doesn&rsquo;t even have to think about it. He automatically PMOs, partially ending the craving, gets on with the matter in hand and has already forgotten that he just PMOed. Sex in general do not help concentration. After years of masturbation your brain changes affect abilities such as assessing, planning and impulse control. The PMOer is already suffering: that little monster wants his fix.</p> <p>You are also stressed to provide novelty for the next PMO session as the same stuff will not generate enough dopamine and opioids. You have to “roam the internet streets” for novelty - all the while fighting the pull to cross the line towards shock. This creates more stress. After you orgasm, you feel unfulfilled as well.</p> <p>Concentration is also affected adversely for another reason. Your dopamine receptors have already started to get reduced by building up natural tolerance to these large surges, reducing the benefit of the smaller dopamine boosts from natural de-stressors.</p> <p>In fact, your concentration and inspiration will be greatly improved as this process is reversed. For some it will be the concentration aspect that prevents them from succeeding when using the willpower method. They could put up with the irritability and bad temper but when they really needed to concentrate on something difficult they have to have that porn fix. I can well remember the panic I felt when I discovered that the hotel has no internet connection and I had this huge presentation the day after.</p> @@ -3963,7 +4023,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:40:46 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-10-boredom/ - <p>As soon as you get into your bed - and if you are like many people you are already on your favorite tube site - you will probably have already forgotten about it until I reminded you. It has become second nature. Another fallacy about PMOing is that it relieves boredom. Boredom is a frame of mind. The only time that happens is when you have been deprived for a long time or are trying to cut down, or during those first few PMO sessions after a failed attempt to stop.</p> + <h2 id="boredom">Boredom <a class="anchor" href="#boredom"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As soon as you get into your bed - and if you are like many people you are already on your favorite tube site - you will probably have already forgotten about it until I reminded you. It has become second nature. Another fallacy about PMOing is that it relieves boredom. Boredom is a frame of mind. The only time that happens is when you have been deprived for a long time or are trying to cut down, or during those first few PMO sessions after a failed attempt to stop.</p> <p>The true situation is this: when you are addicted to internet porn’s supranormal novelty and then you decide to abstain from internet porn, there is something missing. If you have something to occupy your mind that isn&rsquo;t stressful, you can go for long periods without being bothered by the absence of the drug. However, when you are bored there&rsquo;s nothing to take your mind off it, so you feed the monster. When you are indulging yourself (i.e. not trying to stop or cut down), even firing up your incognito browser becomes subconscious. The PMOer can perform this ritual automatically. If any PMOer tries to remember the session during the last week, he can only remember a small proportion of them - e.g. the very last one or after a long abstinence.</p> <p>The truth is that PMOing tend to increase boredom indirectly because orgasms make you feel lethargic and instead of undertaking some energetic activity, PMOers tend to prefer lounge around, bored, relieving their withdrawal pangs. This is why countering the brainwashing is so important. Because it&rsquo;s a fact that PMOers tend to masturbate when they are bored and that we&rsquo;re wired to interpret PMO as interesting. It doesn&rsquo;t occur to us to question the fact how a two dimensional supranormal stimulus relieves boredom.</p> <p>We&rsquo;ve also been brainwashed into believing that sex - even a bad sex - aids relaxation. It is a fact that when under stress or sad, couples want to have sex. In the absence of discrimination between amative and propagative sex, the goal is set to achieve orgasms by hook or by crook. Next time you do this watch how you both want to get away from each other as soon as it’s over. It is obvious that if they had just decided to cuddle, speak, hug and touch each other and go to sleep without the mandatory orgasms, the couple would have felt relieved. Well, if in the process, they wanted to have the propagative part then by all means they can but that is a topic not meant to be discussed in this book.</p> @@ -3976,7 +4038,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:38:59 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-09-stress/ - <p>I am referring not only to the great tragedies of life but also to the minor stresses, the socializing, the telephone call, the anxieties of the housewife with noisy young children and so on. Let us use the telephone conversation as an example. For most people the telephone is slightly stressful, particularly for the businessman. Most calls aren&rsquo;t from satisfied customers or your boss congratulating you. There&rsquo;s usually some sort of aggravation - something going wrong or somebody making demands. Then he or she comes home to the mundane family life of kids screaming and wife&rsquo;s emotional demands on you. His already PMO weakened de-stressors are in no way ready to take the aggravation. At that time the PMOer, if he isn&rsquo;t already doing so, will fantasize the relief of internet porn that he promised himself that night. He will even allow himself to “take one step more” into the ‘forbidden’ area that he had previously self-excluded. He doesn&rsquo;t know why he does this but he does know that for some reason it appears to help.</p> + <h2 id="stress">Stress <a class="anchor" href="#stress"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>I am referring not only to the great tragedies of life but also to the minor stresses, the socializing, the telephone call, the anxieties of the housewife with noisy young children and so on. Let us use the telephone conversation as an example. For most people the telephone is slightly stressful, particularly for the businessman. Most calls aren&rsquo;t from satisfied customers or your boss congratulating you. There&rsquo;s usually some sort of aggravation - something going wrong or somebody making demands. Then he or she comes home to the mundane family life of kids screaming and wife&rsquo;s emotional demands on you. His already PMO weakened de-stressors are in no way ready to take the aggravation. At that time the PMOer, if he isn&rsquo;t already doing so, will fantasize the relief of internet porn that he promised himself that night. He will even allow himself to “take one step more” into the ‘forbidden’ area that he had previously self-excluded. He doesn&rsquo;t know why he does this but he does know that for some reason it appears to help.</p> <p>What has actually happened is this: without being conscious of it, he has already been suffering aggravation (i.e. the withdrawal pangs). By partially relieving that aggravation at the same time as normal stress, the total stress is reduced and the PMOer gets a boost. At this point the boost is not, in fact, an illusion. The Internet porn user will feel better than before. However, even when using porn to masturbate he or she is more tense than if he were a non-PMOer because the more you go into the drug, the more it knocks you down and the less it restores you when you masturbate. I promised no shock treatment. In the example I am about to give, I am not trying to shock you, I am merely emphasizing that PMO destroy your nerves rather than relax them.</p> <p>Try to imagine getting to the stage where you cannot get aroused even with a very sexy and attractive partner. Just for a moment pause and try to visualize life where one very lovely and charming woman has to compete and fail with all the virtual porn stars who are in your &lsquo;harem&rsquo; to get your attention! Try to imagine the frame of mind of a man who, issued with that warning, actually continues PMOing and then dies without ever having had real sex with this charming and willing real woman. I had read real life stories like that from men and dismissed them as weirdos. In fact, I used to wish a doctor would tell me that this weird condition would happen if I continue PMO; then I would have stopped. Yet I was already fully expecting that PIED and hypofrontality where I am guaranteed to lose in a brain war. I didn&rsquo;t think of myself as an impotent, just a heavy PMOer. Now, let’s talk about the stress that this is putting on me.</p> <p>Such weird stories as the above are not fakes. That is what this awful ‘novelty’ porn drug does to you. As you go through life, it systematically takes away your nerve and courage. The more it takes your courage away, the more you are deluded into believing the porn is doing the opposite.</p> @@ -3992,7 +4056,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:36:16 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-08-relieving-withdrawal-pangs/ - <p>As I explained earlier, PMOers think they do it for enjoyment, relaxation or some sort of education. In fact, this an illusion. The actual reason is the relief of withdrawal pangs. In the early days we use the porn as a curious and novel thing or even educational or as a rebel. We can take it or leave it. However, the subtle chain has started. Our subconscious mind begins to learn that internet porn and masturbation taken at certain times tends to be pleasurable. The more we become hooked on the drug, the greater the need to relieve the withdrawal pangs and the further the PMO drags you down and the more you are fooled into believing it is doing the opposite. It all happens so slowly, so gradually, you are not even aware of it. Each day you feel no different from the day before. Most young PMOers don&rsquo;t even realize they are hooked until they actually try to stop and even then many won&rsquo;t admit to it. A few stalwarts just keep their heads in the sand all their lives,trying to convince themselves and other people that they enjoy it.</p> + <h2 id="relieving-withdrawal-pangs">Relieving Withdrawal Pangs <a class="anchor" href="#relieving-withdrawal-pangs"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As I explained earlier, PMOers think they do it for enjoyment, relaxation or some sort of education. In fact, this an illusion. The actual reason is the relief of withdrawal pangs. In the early days we use the porn as a curious and novel thing or even educational or as a rebel. We can take it or leave it. However, the subtle chain has started. Our subconscious mind begins to learn that internet porn and masturbation taken at certain times tends to be pleasurable. The more we become hooked on the drug, the greater the need to relieve the withdrawal pangs and the further the PMO drags you down and the more you are fooled into believing it is doing the opposite. It all happens so slowly, so gradually, you are not even aware of it. Each day you feel no different from the day before. Most young PMOers don&rsquo;t even realize they are hooked until they actually try to stop and even then many won&rsquo;t admit to it. A few stalwarts just keep their heads in the sand all their lives,trying to convince themselves and other people that they enjoy it.</p> <p>Listen to this conversation a therapist had with hundreds of teenagers.</p> <blockquote> <p>TH: “You realize that internet porn is a drug and that the only reason why you are using is that you cannot stop.”</p> @@ -4022,33 +4088,29 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 08:39:02 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-07-brainwashing-and-the-primitive-mechanism/ - <p>How or why do we start PMOing in the first place? To understand this fully you need to examine the powerful effect of the supernormal stimulus. We all tend to think we are intelligent, dominant human beings determining our paths through life. We act and act frequently when our brain reward circuit are rewarded. Nobel laureate Nikolaas Tinbergen coined the term “supranormal stimulus.” He said mammals could be tricked into preferring fake eggs and mates. Female birds, for example, struggled to sit on larger-than life, vividly spotted plaster eggs while their own pale, dappled eggs perished untended.</p> + <h2 id="brainwashing-and-the-primitive-mechanism">Brainwashing and the Primitive Mechanism <a class="anchor" href="#brainwashing-and-the-primitive-mechanism"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>How or why do we start PMOing in the first place? To understand this fully you need to examine the powerful effect of the supernormal stimulus. We all tend to think we are intelligent, dominant human beings determining our paths through life. We act and act frequently when our brain reward circuit are rewarded. Nobel laureate Nikolaas Tinbergen coined the term “supranormal stimulus.” He said mammals could be tricked into preferring fake eggs and mates. Female birds, for example, struggled to sit on larger-than life, vividly spotted plaster eggs while their own pale, dappled eggs perished untended.</p> <p>The stimulation here in internet porn is not it brings stimulating actors and themes to your home - it is a genie at your bidding to create a harem in your mind. You can switch between genres and theme, home-made and viewer rated, commented and discussed, so rapid and so easy. We absolutely are not ready for the high speed internet porn and our brains are not designed to handle this supranormal stimuli.</p> <p>We can have an ‘information overload’ from the same internet but our reward circuits are not going to squirt dopamine at the levels when ‘porn overload’ is involved. We are evolutionarily programmed to seek and access sex related stuff. And we wrongly appraise the stimulus mostly based on this reward circuit action. If all you wanted is to masturbate why can’t you just use one clip and get the business done?</p> <p>Here is another question - next time after a long day or some stressful incident can you consciously embellish your self-talk with “Do you know what I would really enjoy today? The marvellous warm glow of dopamine rush going to my online harem.” You will find that even people who dislike PMO will join you.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="past-misguided-advice"><strong>Past Misguided Advice</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#past-misguided-advice"> +<h2 id="past-misguided-advice">Past Misguided Advice <a class="anchor" href="#past-misguided-advice"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.</p> +</a></h2><p>There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.</p> <p>From our earliest years our subconscious minds are bombarded daily with information telling us that sex is good and that the most precious thing on this earth is to ‘achieve’ orgasm. Girls are taught to achieve it and claim it&rsquo;s because they were wrongly suppressed of their sexual side for a very long time and still are. You think I exaggerate? Watch any TV or movie plot and you will see the mix-up of the amative (touch, smell, voice etc.) and the propagative (orgasmic) sides of sex. The impact of this does not register on our conscious minds but the sleeping partner, the subconscious mind, has time to absorb it. What the message is really saying is, “The most precious thing on this earth, my last thought and action, will be the goal of orgasm.” If you don’t have an orgasm then you are an old man with zero libido.</p> <p>Our children are being bombarded by sex and porn clips and many don’t even know how to protect them from it all. Large hoardings and magazine adverts are loaded with sexual innuendo. Some of the pop videos are extremely suggestive - again they hide behind free speech. Don’t be vexed and feel powerless about it. Make it a game and find you which of the components they are using - is it novelty, shock value, color, size, taboo etc. If the kids are pre-teen some of these can be disclosed to them and it would make an excellent show-and-tell game.</p> <p>A while back there was a wave of ‘leaked’ private videos of celebrities on the internet. If the youngster is too smitten by their favourite star, even if the conscious mind blames the ‘leak’ on the blood thirsty internet paparazzi, the &lsquo;sleeping partner&rsquo; is patiently digesting the notion that, “yes, even my shambolic hero does it and if I don’t, I won’t look the part.”</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-scientific-reasoning"><strong>The Scientific Reasoning</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-scientific-reasoning"> +<h2 id="the-scientific-reasoning">The Scientific Reasoning <a class="anchor" href="#the-scientific-reasoning"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>, Reboot<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> forums, underground PUA<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup>, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn&rsquo;t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.</p> +</a></h2><p>True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>, Reboot<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> forums, underground PUA<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup>, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn&rsquo;t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.</p> <p>Ironically, the most powerful force in this melee of confusion is the PMOer himself. It is a fallacy that they are weak-willed or are physically weak specimens. You have to be physically strong in order to cope with an addiction after you know it is. This is one of the reasons why PMOers refuse to accept the overwhelming statistics that prove that internet porn with its ‘novelty’ cripples your brain. Add to that the sexologists who are doing half-baked studies and declare PMO is not an issue - they just help to add to the confusion.</p> <p>Everyone knows a friend who PMOed every day - he started with the ‘static’ to internet porn, always horny in real life, chasing girls and you never doubted him to have sex problems of course. You want to believe him. He never complained about any ED right? Guys and girls like them refuse even to consider the hundreds of ex-addicts and non-PMOers who painfully recount their difficulties. It is the “little monster” brain chemical addiction and the “big monster” - illusions and delusions. In this hackbook, I&rsquo;ve put together almost all the sorts of brainwashing a PMOer can suffer from. There will always be a few out there that I haven&rsquo;t touched upon.</p> <p>Even more painful is they think of themselves as unsuccessful losers and insufferable introverts. A possible fact is that a PMO friend could have been more interesting in person if he hadn’t put himself down for seeking self-pleasure.</p> <p>If you do a small survey among your online forum members, friends and colleagues, you will find that most PMOers are, in fact, strong-willed people. They tend to be self-employed, business executives or in certain specialized professions, such as doctors<sup id="fnref:4"><a href="#fn:4" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">4</a></sup>, lawyers, policemen, teachers, salesmen, nurses, secretaries, housewives with children, etc. In other words, anybody leading a stressful existence. Yes, I did include women and mothers. It’s the brain and it’s the same for them too. The main delusion of the PMOer is that porn helps to masturbate to orgasm and that relieves stress. This tends to be associated with the dominant type, the type that takes on responsibility and stress and, of course, that is the type that we admire and therefore tend to copy. Another group that tends to get hooked are people in monotonous jobs because the other main reason for PMOing is boredom. However, the idea that internet porn relieves boredom is also an illusion, I am afraid.</p> <p>As a society we get all uptight about glue-sniffing, heroin addiction, etc. Actual deaths from glue-sniffing do not amount to ten per annum, and deaths from heroin are less than a hundred a year in this country. There is another drug, internet porn, on which over 45 per cent of us become hooked at some time in our lives and the majority spend the rest of their lives regretting it. Some even don’t know that their ED is due to this.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-willpower-method"><strong>The Willpower Method</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method"> +<h2 id="the-willpower-method">The Willpower Method <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why?</p> +</a></h2><p>PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why?</p> <p>Constant exposure to internet porn re-wires your brain. You need to start building resistance to this brainwashing, just as if you were buying a car from a second-hand car dealer. You would be nodding politely but you would not believe a word the man was saying. So don’t believe everything they say either - that you must have sex as much as you can and you must have it exceptional good. And that in the absence of real sex you claim it by the substitute called internet porn - which is only a component of the good old porn.</p> <p>And don’t play ‘safe’ porn game either - because your “little porn monster” invented that scheme to lure you. Even the content - ‘amateur’? Really? Is there a certification authority that certifies it? Tube sites and porn producers gather site visitor profiles and cater to their needs. If they see a trend in crowd sourced collection of a particular genre they will focus on that and get content out ASAP. The statistics of what genre users like is collected to the level of how long and which portion the users were preferring. Do not be fooled by their educational intent or the safe female oriented clips (for you ladies). Start asking yourself:</p> <ul> @@ -4058,27 +4120,21 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p><strong>NO, OF COURSE YOU DON&rsquo;T.</strong></p> <p>I find this brainwashing aspect the most difficult of all to explain. Why is it that an otherwise rational, intelligent human being becomes a complete imbecile about his own addiction? It pains me to confess that out of the thousands of people that I have assisted in kicking the habit, I (not Allen Carr) was the biggest idiot of all.</p> <p>At the age of thirteen, although I was doing well at school and games, I was still an insufferable introvert. I read books from the library that were not within my main study list. However, I can see that I was attracted to erotica. I started masturbating to TV programs, song and dance sequences etc. I must have to have it every day. The tired feeling I felt was misappropriated by my ‘little porn monster’ as work stress. I didn’t know my “I-must-masturbate-as-I-am-entitled” attitude was the one that created the ‘stress’ in the first place. Then I got pictures and GIFs via email on my laptop - the first step towards electronic porn. The colour and texture of the images were amazing for me at that time - won’t be now for sure. Then came dial-up but still they were predominantly static pictures. Then came downloadable videos. It’s a pain to download and watch now - but it was heaven sent then as we were coming out of the static porn era! Oh, the streaming tube sites haven’t arrived yet.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"><strong>When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"> +<h2 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore">When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore <a class="anchor" href="#when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn.</p> +</a></h2><p>I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn.</p> <p>At the age of forty, I was visiting my online harem daily, drinking ‘socially’ (whatever that means) and smoking ‘sometimes’ but not so often. I had wrongly subscribed to misguided ideas of ‘moderation’ and ‘entitlement’. I had reached the stage where I couldn&rsquo;t get through a single day without reaching out to porn in the night. With most PMOers, the triggers are the normal stresses of life, like answering the telephone or socializing.</p> <p>When I experienced PIED - I knew it was killing my virility. There was no way I could kid myself otherwise. I am smart enough not to ‘project’ the porn fantasies on to real life. But it was like pacifying a dog straining at its leash. But why I couldn&rsquo;t see what it was doing to me mentally, I could not understand. It was almost jumping up and biting me on the nose. The ridiculous thing is that most PMOers suffer the delusion at some time in their life that they enjoy internet porn because it is ‘normal’ and ‘healthy’. I never suffered that delusion, I PMOed because I thought enjoying sex is a ‘birthright’ and I am only doing a normal thing.</p> <p>Since it was easier at most times for me to get internet porn than a partner I thought I am doing the normal thing. Now I am a non-PMOer, the most difficult part is trying to believe that those days actually happened. It&rsquo;s like awakening from a nightmare and that is about the size of it. Internet porn is a supranormal drug. It is weakening your de-stressing mechanisms, your virility and your energy. The worst aspect of PMO isn&rsquo;t the injury to your health or manliness, it is the warping of the mind. You search for any plausible excuse to go on.</p> <p>I remember at one stage switching to static images, a failed attempt to cut down on internet porn, in the belief that it was less harmful and I could reign in my ‘habit’. I failed to see the ‘novelty’ and the ‘shock’ demands from my ‘little monster’ to just get more dopamine. Did I ‘stay’ within my boundaries? I ‘favorited’ 2 dimensional photos and my harem collection saw pictures and videos of ‘mild’ type porn rotating in and out like musical chair. When their ‘music’ stopped they ‘exited’. I didn’t understand the novelty-seeking, shock-seeking nature of my brain.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pied-and-my-excuses"><strong>PIED And My Excuses</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pied-and-my-excuses"> +<h2 id="pied-and-my-excuses">PIED And My Excuses <a class="anchor" href="#pied-and-my-excuses"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.</p> +</a></h2><p>Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.</p> <p>Most PMOers swear that they only watch static and soft porn and so they are OK. They are actually straining at the leash and thus fighting with their willpower to resist temptations. If they do this too often and for too long they will debit their willpower considerably and fail in other life projects where willpower is of much great value, like in daily exercise, dieting etc. Continuous failure in those areas will make them feel miserable and guilty and very soon they will find themselves back to their entitled relief. If not, they will vent their anger and depression onto their loved ones.</p> <p>The answer is that once you have become addicted to internet porn, the brainwashing is increased. Your subconscious mind knows that the little monster has to be fed and you block everything else from your mind. As I have already stated, it is fear that keeps people quitting, the fear of that empty, insecure feeling that you get when you stop supplying the brain with dopamine flooding. Just because you are not aware of it doesn&rsquo;t mean it isn&rsquo;t there. You don&rsquo;t have to understand it any more than a cat needs to understand where the under-floor hot-water pipes are. It just knows that if it sits in a certain place it gets the feeling of warmth.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind"><strong>The Passivity Of Our Mind</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-passivity-of-our-mind"> +<h2 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind">The Passivity Of Our Mind <a class="anchor" href="#the-passivity-of-our-mind"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I&rsquo;ve frequently referred to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo; PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo;, but to stopping, quitting or the true position: <strong>ESCAPING!</strong></p> +</a></h2><p>It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I&rsquo;ve frequently referred to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo; PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo;, but to stopping, quitting or the true position: <strong>ESCAPING!</strong></p> <p>The only thing that persuades us to PMO in the first place is all the other people doing it. We feel we are missing out. We work so hard to become hooked, yet nobody ever finds out what they have been missing. But every time we see another new video clip it reassures us that there must be something in it, otherwise people wouldn&rsquo;t be doing it - and it wouldn&rsquo;t be such big business all over the world. Even when he has kicked the habit, the ex-PMOer feels he is being deprived when a discussion on a sexy entertainer, singer or even a porn star comes up at a party or other social function. She or he must be good to have all my friends talk about them, no? Do they have ‘hot’ pictures of her in my tube site? He feels safe. He can have just one ‘peek’ that night. And, before he knows it, he is hooked again.</p> <p>This brainwashing is extremely powerful and you need to be aware of its effects. I have heard scare stories about wicked men giving heroin mixed candies to kids at schoolyards. The concept of addiction and being compelled to go on taking the drug, filled me with horror. Even to this day, in spite of the fact that I am fairly convinced that &lsquo;pot&rsquo; is not addictive, I would not dare take one puff of marijuana. How ironic that I should have ended up a porn junky. Technology will continue to grow and we will have even faster tube sites and more faster access methods. The industry is investing millions in Virtual Reality so it will become the next best thing. The point is, do we know where we are going? Are we equipped with an under armour of defence so we can enjoy the benefits of technology yet at the same time protect ourselves from its bad effects?</p> <p>We are about to remove the brainwashing. It is not the non-PMOer who is being deprived but the poor user who is forfeiting a lifetime of:</p> @@ -4120,15 +4176,15 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:44:00 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-06-internet-porn/ - <p>Erotic novelty of the internet porn is a mental ‘drug’ and internet porn beats anything that is known to mankind and its streaming straight to your home for free ! We are not even talking VR virtual reality here. Porn triggers the ‘flooding’ of dopamine in our brain. Dopamine amps up the brain reward circuitry to produce experiences and feels of cravings and pleasure by locking themselves into ‘receptors’. More dopamine more wanting. Less dopamine no wanting. New experiences, tasty food - more dopamine - more wanting. Sex and sex related stuff gives the biggest injection of dopamine in the reward circuits. Dopamine is not the final pleasure stuff, if it were you would feel happy when you are done with it, but it is only a brain chemical that encourages seeking and action in you. The real pleasure is produced by opioids. More dopamine more opioids more + <h2 id="internet-porn">Internet Porn <a class="anchor" href="#internet-porn"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Erotic novelty of the internet porn is a mental ‘drug’ and internet porn beats anything that is known to mankind and its streaming straight to your home for free ! We are not even talking VR virtual reality here. Porn triggers the ‘flooding’ of dopamine in our brain. Dopamine amps up the brain reward circuitry to produce experiences and feels of cravings and pleasure by locking themselves into ‘receptors’. More dopamine more wanting. Less dopamine no wanting. New experiences, tasty food - more dopamine - more wanting. Sex and sex related stuff gives the biggest injection of dopamine in the reward circuits. Dopamine is not the final pleasure stuff, if it were you would feel happy when you are done with it, but it is only a brain chemical that encourages seeking and action in you. The real pleasure is produced by opioids. More dopamine more opioids more action more happy feelings.</p> <p>So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. All of which will now be stored as a script in your brain for easy access next time. I call this a ‘water slide’. Next time at the cue - a sexy commercial or alone time or stress or feeling a little down - you are ready to take a ride on the ‘water slide’. One more thing is that every time to repeat this you are ‘greasing’ it as well - so it is active, alive and more easier to slide the next time.</p> <p>As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating. Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish, ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you won’t on your first time.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="my-own-online-harem"><strong>My Own Online Harem!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#my-own-online-harem"> +<h2 id="my-own-online-harem">My Own Online Harem! <a class="anchor" href="#my-own-online-harem"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost.</p> +</a></h2><p>This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost.</p> <p>Going back to the earlier discussion - in this cycle as you crossed the ‘red line’ you also trigger emotions such as guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety and fear - which in turn raise dopamine levels as well. Now the brain may mistakenly associate feelings of anxiety and fear as sexual arousal. This perpetual cycle is only broken by natural causes - fortunately sooner or later. With its free access and privacy it provides boundless harem-like novelty. The dopamine can be theoretically kept very high for a very very long time. I can be satisfied with one lobster once in awhile. But Internet porn is different. It is even worse than drugs. Don’t let me make you nervous. I will shortly show you how to be free from this slavery.</p> <p>Now our human body has a self-correcting system by which the number of dopamine and opioid receptors are cut short when frequent and daily ‘flooding’ of dopamine is detected. Unfortunately - these receptors are also needed for receiving dopamine and to keep us even and balanced to handle the inevitable and normal day-to-day stresses. But this natural nominal amount of dopamine will not be absorbed efficiently with decreased receptors and you will feel mores tressed and irritated than normal.</p> <blockquote> @@ -4140,18 +4196,14 @@ action more happy feelings.</p> <p>A fleeting feeling of security is all that is needed to get through a rough spot in life - but will your brain be able to catch that drop of de-stressor that a non-PMOers’ brain is able to catch and use?</p> <p>This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I will explain more about this later.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-little-monster"><strong>The Little Monster</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-little-monster"> +<h2 id="the-little-monster">The Little Monster <a class="anchor" href="#the-little-monster"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&rsquo; we think we just &lsquo;got into the habit&rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.</p> +</a></h2><p>The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&rsquo; we think we just &lsquo;got into the habit&rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.</p> <p>Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, resulting in the feeling of fulfilment and pleasure that the action gives to the PMOer. In the early days, when we first start PMOing, the withdrawal pangs and their relief are so slight that we are not even aware that they exist. When we begin to masturbate regularly to internet porn we think it is because we&rsquo;ve either come to enjoy them or got into the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. The truth is we&rsquo;re already hooked; we do not realize it, but that little monster is already inside our stomach and every now and again we have to feed it.</p> <p>All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster. The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had before he became hooked in the first place.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm"><strong>The Annoying Burglar Alarm</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-annoying-burglar-alarm"> +<h2 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm">The Annoying Burglar Alarm <a class="anchor" href="#the-annoying-burglar-alarm"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we +</a></h2><p>You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain goes on. It is a chain for life - <strong>UNLESS YOU BREAK IT</strong>.</p> <p>The whole business of PMO is like wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure you feel when you take them off. There are three main reasons why PMOers cannot see things that way:</p> <ol> @@ -4162,11 +4214,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <p>It is this &lsquo;back to front&rsquo; reverse process that makes all drugs difficult to kick. Picture the panic state of a heroin addict who has no heroin. Now picture the utter joy when that addict can finally plunge a needle into his vein. Can you visualize someone actually getting pleasure by injecting themselves, or does the mere thought fill you with horror? Non-heroin addicts don&rsquo;t suffer that panic feeling.</p> <p>The heroin doesn&rsquo;t relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a 14 year old in 2008 - didn&rsquo;t suffer the empty feeling of needing internet porn or start to panic when they are off- line. Non-PMOers cannot understand how PMOers can possibly obtain pleasure from two dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. And do you know something? PMOers themselves cannot understand why they do it after some time either.</p> <p>We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don&rsquo;t non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their &rsquo;little monster&rsquo;?</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch"><strong>A Pleasure or Crutch?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#a-pleasure-or-crutch"> +<h2 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch">A Pleasure or Crutch? <a class="anchor" href="#a-pleasure-or-crutch"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;I need to eat.&rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.</p> +</a></h2><p>Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;I need to eat.&rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.</p> <p>PMOing appears to be almost identical. The empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;wanting or needing an PMO orgasm’ is identical to a hunger for food, although one will not satisfy the other. Like hunger, there is no physical pain and the feeling is so imperceptible that we are not even aware of it between PMO sessions. It&rsquo;s only if we want to masturbate and aren&rsquo;t able to reach internet for porn that we become aware of any discomfort. But when we do PMO we feel satisfied.</p> <p>It is this similarity to eating which helps to fool PMOers into believing that they receive some genuine pleasure. Some PMOers find it very difficult to grasp that there is no pleasure or crutch, whatsoever to PMO. Some argue: “How can you say there is no crutch? When I orgasm up then I&rsquo;llfeel less nervous than before.”</p> <p>Although eating and PMOing appear to be very similar. In fact they are exact opposites:</p> @@ -4175,17 +4225,13 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <li>Food does genuinely taste good, and eating is a genuinely pleasant experience that we can enjoy throughout our lives, whereas PMOing involves self-sabotaging the happiness receptors and thus destroying your chances to cope and to feel happy.</li> <li>Eating doesn&rsquo;t create hunger and genuinely relieves it, whereas the first PMO starts the craving for dopamine and each subsequent one, far from relieving it, ensures that you suffer it for the rest of life.</li> </ol> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pmo-is-a-habit"><strong>PMO is a Habit?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pmo-is-a-habit"> +<h2 id="pmo-is-a-habit">PMO is a Habit? <a class="anchor" href="#pmo-is-a-habit"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.</p> +</a></h2><p>This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.</p> <p>On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience, I also refer to the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> - we have to then have more bizarre and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting&hellip; not in the killing. If we don&rsquo;t then panic sets in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great!</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="crossing-the-red-line"><strong>Crossing The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#crossing-the-red-line"> +<h2 id="crossing-the-red-line">Crossing The Red Line <a class="anchor" href="#crossing-the-red-line"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.</p> +</a></h2><p>This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.</p> <p>You feel better than you did before starting this PMO session but you are in fact more nervous and less relaxed than you would be as a non-PMOer, like someone who is living in Loma Linda or in an Amish village, even though you are actually PMOing and living in your supposed “porn paradise.” This position is even more ridiculous than wearing tight shoes because as you go through life an increasing amount of the discomfort remains even when the shoes are removed.</p> <p>Once the orgasm is achieved, the dopamine rapidly begins to leave the brain, causing a mood dip. Which explains why the PMOer wants to ‘edge’<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> and switch through multiple browser windows as they seek and search. As I said, the ‘habit’ doesn&rsquo;t exist. The real reason why every user goes on using internet porn is because of that little porn monster inside his stomach. Every now and again he has to feed it. The PMOer himself will decide when he does that and it tends to be on four types of occasion or a combination of them.</p> <p>These occasions are:</p> @@ -4195,25 +4241,19 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to </ul> <p>What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If you think about it, what other types of occasion are there in our lives; apart from sleep? The truth is that PMO neither relieves boredom and stress nor promotes concentration and relaxation. It is all just illusion. Apart from being a drug, PMO is also a destroyer of happiness and virility.</p> <p>In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes, print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’ and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive without knowing the difference between food and poison.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"><strong>Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"> +<h2 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics">Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics <a class="anchor" href="#brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!</p> +</a></h2><p>Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!</p> <p>When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were titillating but most were disgusting, causing you to avert your eyes away. Like you would if had accidentally glanced a feeding mother’s breast. And some of us are even revolted with what they saw when the star reminded them of someone dear to their heart or a scene which recalled their own instance of being the victim. Some don’t feel like it to browse and masturbate at the same time. It may be hard to believe for you but the non-PMOs, who don’t PMO after their first time, are the lucky ones. They actually decided that it was not their cup of tea. It must be hard for you to believe but stay with me.</p> <p>How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even after a hard day? Why not? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That&rsquo;s all.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak"><strong>Are PMOers Mentally Weak?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#are-pmoers-mentally-weak"> +<h2 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak">Are PMOers Mentally Weak? <a class="anchor" href="#are-pmoers-mentally-weak"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.</p> +</a></h2><p>It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.</p> <p>To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to become hooked, and this is why it is difficult to stop teenagers. Because they are skilled in seeking and finding material, they know online privacy options and can clean their tracks - if they still feel some stigma and they (wrongfully) believe they can stop whenever they want to. Why do they not learn from us? Then again, why did we not learn from our PMOers and addicts?</p> <p>Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of ‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying is the ritual of relieving those pangs.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"><strong>The High From The Dance Around The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"> +<h2 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line">The High From The Dance Around The Red Line <a class="anchor" href="#the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.</p> +</a></h2><p>Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.</p> <p>Ask a user who believes that he sticks to a certain actor or genre - only because he likes something about the star or the theme (if any) of the clip: “If you cannot get your normal brand of porn and can only obtain a poor or unsafe brand, do you stop masturbating?” No way. A PMOer will masturbate to anything rather than abstain and it doesn&rsquo;t matter if he has to switch to escalating themes, different sex-orientation-themes, look-alike actresses, dangerous settings shocking relationships etc. To begin with they taste awful but if you persevere you will learn to like them. Most PMOers will also try to seek masturbation even after having real sex (unfulfilment, porn-induced unrealistic expectations etc.), or after a long, stressful work day, fever, colds, flu, sore throats and even when admitted in hospitals.</p> <p>Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wanted then it makes no sense to be with your laptop. During my conversation some PMOers find it alarming to realize they are drug addicts and think it will make it even more difficult to stop. In fact, it is all good news for two important reasons:</p> <ol> @@ -4221,18 +4261,14 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <li>Although internet porn is the most powerful trigger for ‘novelty’ and ‘sex’ based dopamine ‘flooding’ - because of the speed with which you become hooked, you are never badly hooked. The actual withdrawal pangs are so mild that most PMOers have lived and died without ever realizing that they have suffered them.</li> </ol> <p>You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc. The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn&rsquo;t bother the PMOers.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-smokers-analogy"><strong>The Smokers Analogy</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-smokers-analogy"> +<h2 id="the-smokers-analogy">The Smokers Analogy <a class="anchor" href="#the-smokers-analogy"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they&rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn&rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.</p> +</a></h2><p>A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they&rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn&rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.</p> <p>PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their parents while visiting for family get togethers etc. with little discomfort to themselves. In fact, most PMOers have extended periods during which they abstain without effort. Even in my case I would quite happily go a week or so without a PMO incident. In the later years as a PMOer I actually used to look forward to these days when I could stop choking my penis (what a ridiculous &lsquo;habit&rsquo;).</p> <p>The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"><strong>The Big Monster - The Brainwashing</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"> +<h2 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing">The Big Monster - The Brainwashing <a class="anchor" href="#the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.</p> +</a></h2><p>You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.</p> <p>Not all the amateurs are ‘amateurs’ on these tube sites, oversized body parts and overcharged scenarios are the norm, aided by a bit of the ‘viagran’ help.</p> <p>As I say, the actual porn addiction is not the main problem. It just acts as a catalyst to keep our minds confused over the real problem: the brainwashing. It may be of consolation to lifelong and heavy PMOers to know that it is just as easy for them to stop as casual PMOers. In a peculiar way. it is easier. The further you go along with the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;, the more it drags you down and the greater the gain when you stop.</p> <p>It may be of further consolation for you to know that the rumours that occasionally circulate that the neural pathways created are there for life, and so at the right (or wrong) time and with strong stimuli you will be sliding again down the ‘water slide’ of internet porn and masturbation to permanently destroy your real life sex are untrue.</p> @@ -4259,7 +4295,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:42:16 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-05-why-do-we-carry-on-with-pmo/ - <p>We all start PMOing for many reasons, usually social pressures or our biological curiosity, but once we feel we are becoming hooked, why do we carry on using porn? No regular PMOer knows why he or she looks at porn. If PMOers knew the true reason, they would stop doing it. The true answer is the same for all PMOers but the variety of replies is infinite, I find this part of the consultation the most amusing and at the same time the most pathetic.</p> + <h2 id="why-do-we-carry-on-with-pmo">Why Do We Carry on With PMO <a class="anchor" href="#why-do-we-carry-on-with-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>We all start PMOing for many reasons, usually social pressures or our biological curiosity, but once we feel we are becoming hooked, why do we carry on using porn? No regular PMOer knows why he or she looks at porn. If PMOers knew the true reason, they would stop doing it. The true answer is the same for all PMOers but the variety of replies is infinite, I find this part of the consultation the most amusing and at the same time the most pathetic.</p> <p>All PMOers know in their heart of hearts that they are fools. They know that they had no need to use porn or internet porn before they became hooked. Most of them can remember that their first ‘peek’ was a mix of revulsion and novel curiosity. They then filter out and get “skilled” at “locating” and “bookmarking” the right porn sites. They know that they had to work hard in order to become hooked.</p> <p>The most annoying part is that they sense that non-addicts - most women, older guys, people living in countries where hi-speed internet porn is not available “on tap” - are not missing anything and that they are laughing at them.</p> <p>However, PMOers are intelligent, rational human beings. They know that they are taking enormous future risks and so they spend a lot of time rationalizing their ‘habit’. The actual reason why PMOers continue is a subtle combination of the factors that I will elaborate in the next two chapters. They are:</p> @@ -4276,7 +4314,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:38:28 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-04-the-sinister-trap/ - <p>Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it&rsquo;s an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked.</p> + <h2 id="the-sinister-trap">The Sinister Trap <a class="anchor" href="#the-sinister-trap"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it&rsquo;s an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked.</p> <p>It is the only trap in nature which has does not require a lot of hard work to set up. The thing that springs the trap is not that all porn clips feature young, high quality, sexy models; it’s that most of the thumbnails on any porn web page are ugly looking, unattractive, amateurish, home-made clips of unknown models. If the first timer’s first look at a tube page was only filled with angelic beauties, professional models and high quality then the alarm bells would ring. And as intelligent human beings, we could then understand why half the adult population was systematically addicted to watching something that is cutting down their very same potential to do what they are viewing. In many known and yet unknown ways porn cuts down sexual performance and the feeling of satisfaction.</p> <p>But because that first “peek” has “stains and holes,” a mishmash of low quality clips of not-so-hot models, our young minds are reassured that we will never become hooked, and we think that because we are not enjoying them we can stop whenever we want to. It is the only drug in nature that prevents you from achieving your aim. Our curiosity brings us to its door steps. You dare not even click on all of the thumbnails because some of them will make you feel sick and throw up! If you were to accidentally click on an “I-did-not-see-that” clip - all you want to do is get away from the site and close your laptop.</p> <p>With women, the aim is to be the sophisticated modern young lady. We have all seen them acting up and looking absolutely ridiculous. By the time the boys have learnt to look tough and the girls have learnt to look sophisticated, they wish they had never started in the first place. I wonder whether women ever look sophisticated when they discuss the top 10 porn sites, or whether this is a figment of our imaginations created by internet porn companies.</p> @@ -4294,7 +4334,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:31:45 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-03-why-is-it-difficult-to-stop/ - <p>As I explained earlier, I got interested in this subject because of my own addiction. When I finally stopped it was like magic. When I had previously tried to stop there were weeks of black depression. There would be odd days when I was comparatively cheerful but the next day back with the depression. It was like clawing your way out of a slippery pit, you feel you are near the top, you see the sunshine and then find yourself sliding down again. Eventually you open your browser and as you masturbate you feel awful and you try to work out why you have to do it.</p> + <h2 id="why-is-it-difficult-to-stop">Why Is It Difficult to Stop? <a class="anchor" href="#why-is-it-difficult-to-stop"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As I explained earlier, I got interested in this subject because of my own addiction. When I finally stopped it was like magic. When I had previously tried to stop there were weeks of black depression. There would be odd days when I was comparatively cheerful but the next day back with the depression. It was like clawing your way out of a slippery pit, you feel you are near the top, you see the sunshine and then find yourself sliding down again. Eventually you open your browser and as you masturbate you feel awful and you try to work out why you have to do it.</p> <p>One of the questions I always ask online is: “do you want to stop PMO?” In a way it is a stupid question. All users (including members who dispute total abstinence) would love to stop PMO. If you ask to the most confirmed PMOer: “if you could go back to the time before you became hooked, with the knowledge you have now, would you have started PMO?”</p> <p>“NO WAY,” would be the reply.</p> <p>Say to the confirmed PMOer - someone who defends internet porn and who doesn&rsquo;t think that it cause injury to the brain (PIED, hypofrontality or the decreases in the dopamine receptors and etc.) - “do you encourage your children to use PMO?”</p> @@ -4343,12 +4385,14 @@ man and woman from performance based anxieties.&#160;<a href="#fnref: - 03-02 the Easy Method + 03-02 The Easy Method https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-02-the-easy-method/ Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:26:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-02-the-easy-method/ - <p>The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy.</p> + <h2 id="the-easy-method">The Easy Method <a class="anchor" href="#the-easy-method"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy.</p> <p>Provided that you are not a non-PMOer (who had never got addicted) or an ex-PMOer (who had quit or is in the fasting days of the porn-diet), it is essential to not quit until you have finished the book completely. This may appear to be a contradiction. Later I shall be explaining that porn do absolutely nothing for you at all. In fact, one of the many conundrums about internet porn is that when we are actually masturbating to a porn clip, we look at it and wonder why we are doing it. It is only when we have been deprived that the craving for PMO becomes precious.</p> <p>However, let us accept that, whether you like it or not, you believe you are hooked. When you believe you are hooked, you can never be completely relaxed or concentrate properly unless you are using PMO. So do not attempt to stop PMO before you have finished the whole book. This instruction to continue to masturbate using porn until you have completed the book has caused me more frustration than any other. As you read further your desire to masturbate to porn will gradually be reduced. Do not go off half-cocked; this could be fatal. Remember, all you have to do is to follow the instructions in the right order. When I first started writing on forums many of the readers also stopped purely because I had done it. They thought, “if he can do it, anybody can.”</p> <p>Over the years, I managed to persuade the ones that hadn&rsquo;t stopped to realize just how nice it is to be free! I gave my hackbook for free upon request. I worked on the basis that, even if it were the most boring book ever written, they would still read it, if only because it had been written by an ex-PMOer. I was surprised and hurt to learn that,they hadn&rsquo;t bothered to finish the book.</p> @@ -4380,12 +4424,14 @@ man and woman from performance based anxieties.&#160;<a href="#fnref: - 03-01 the Worst PMO Addict I Have Yet to Meet + 03-01 The Worst PMO Addict I Have Yet to Meet https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-01-the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet/ Tue, 20 Dec 2022 17:10:39 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-01-the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet/ - <p>Perhaps I should begin by describing my competence for writing this book. No, I am not a doctor or a psychiatrist; my qualifications are far more appropriate. I spent thirty years of my life as a confirmed fapper. In the later years I used porn on a daily bases to get orgasm(s).During my life I had made a great number of attempts to stop. I never got past a full week of abstinence, and I was still climbing up the wall, with an “annoying alarm clock beeping” in my head called craving. With most PMOers, on the health side, it&rsquo;s a question of “ I&rsquo;ll stop before it happens to me.” I had reached the stage where I knew it has caused PIED, hypofrontality (inability to control and execute action towards a goal), irritability, lack of energy, soulless eyes, mental dryness, stress and pain in the lower back, genital irritations. It bothered me, but it still didn&rsquo;t stop me.</p> + <h2 id="the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet">The Worst PMO Addict I Have Yet to Meet <a class="anchor" href="#the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Perhaps I should begin by describing my competence for writing this book. No, I am not a doctor or a psychiatrist; my qualifications are far more appropriate. I spent thirty years of my life as a confirmed fapper. In the later years I used porn on a daily bases to get orgasm(s).During my life I had made a great number of attempts to stop. I never got past a full week of abstinence, and I was still climbing up the wall, with an “annoying alarm clock beeping” in my head called craving. With most PMOers, on the health side, it&rsquo;s a question of “ I&rsquo;ll stop before it happens to me.” I had reached the stage where I knew it has caused PIED, hypofrontality (inability to control and execute action towards a goal), irritability, lack of energy, soulless eyes, mental dryness, stress and pain in the lower back, genital irritations. It bothered me, but it still didn&rsquo;t stop me.</p> <p>I felt lack of enthusiasm to go to gym or just a walk even if it’s sunny outside or simple weight lifting at home either. I had reached the stage where I gave up even trying to stop. I found excuses in substitute methods (controlled use, safe porn, porn-diet and etc. discussed later) as advocated by sexologists, forum users and medical pros - who have no idea of its effect on brain chemistry and who are themselves fooled by their &rsquo;little monster&rsquo; (not devil or satan - we will talk about monsters later) . The novelty trap and shock value provided by internet porn delivered at home with a low risk high reward deal is something that they can’t even think of. They are still in the static playboy era. And the younger ones have buried their heads under the sand so they can still continue to PMO.</p> <p>The worst part is it was not so much that I enjoyed the PMO. It was just doing it routinely, a chore - like slipping down the water slides, in fact there are brain water slides greased well by the neuro chemicals (DeltaFosB proteins made by dopamine which store emotion scripts for easy recall, will be discussing later). A simple cue such as a commercial, or a day to day stress that got ‘relieved’ temporarily by PMO is all it takes to complete the ride down the ‘waterslide’. Some time in their lives most PMOers have suffered from the illusion that they enjoy the ride, the novelty, the rush and of course the orgasm, but I never had that illusion.</p> <p>I have most times detested the porn, even when I liked the orgasm. But at all times I thought a release from PMO helped me to relax. It gave me courage and confidence, and I was always miserable when I tried to stop, never being able to visualize an enjoyable life without PMO. And so my PMO habit which had started before my marriage stayed with me during and after my marriage was over. I had experienced PIED but I blocked it out and found excuses , “it happens to every man”. Well it does of course - but &lsquo;it&rsquo; happened to me again and again. My penis, I found it difficult to get hard - when I am with real woman. Could it be because I had habituated it to work in limp mode? Later I found that it was hard for me to get hard even with porn.</p> @@ -4423,7 +4469,9 @@ Do not take anything for granted. Question not only what I tell you but also you Tue, 20 Dec 2022 16:58:54 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/02-02-sister-kenny/ - <p>You&rsquo;ve probably seen the film Sister Kenny. In case you haven&rsquo;t, it was about the time when infantile paralysis or polio was the scourge of our children. I vividly remember that the words engendered the same fear in me as the word cancer does today. The effect of polio was not only to paralyze the legs and arms but to distort the limbs. The established medical treatment was to put those limbs in irons and thus prevent the distortion. The result was paralysis for life.</p> + <h2 id="sister-kenny">Sister Kenny <a class="anchor" href="#sister-kenny"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>You&rsquo;ve probably seen the film Sister Kenny. In case you haven&rsquo;t, it was about the time when infantile paralysis or polio was the scourge of our children. I vividly remember that the words engendered the same fear in me as the word cancer does today. The effect of polio was not only to paralyze the legs and arms but to distort the limbs. The established medical treatment was to put those limbs in irons and thus prevent the distortion. The result was paralysis for life.</p> <p>Sister Kenny believed the irons inhibited recovery and proved a thousand times over that the muscles could be re-educated so that the child could walk again. However, Sister Kenny wasn&rsquo;t a doctor, she was merely a nurse. How dare she dabble in a province that was confined to qualified doctors? It didn&rsquo;t seem to matter that Sister Kenny had found the solution to the problem and had proved her solution to be effective. The children that were treated by Sister Kenny knew she was right, so did their parents, yet the established medical profession not only refused to adopt her methods but actually prevented her from practicing. It took Sister Kenny twenty years before the medical profession would accept the obvious.</p> <p>I (Allen Carr) first saw that film years before I (Allen Carr) discovered EASYWAY, The film was very interesting and no doubt there was an element of truth. However, it was equally obvious that Hollywood had used a large portion of poetic license. Sister Kenny couldn&rsquo;t possibly have discovered something that the combined knowledge of medical science had failed to discover. Surely the established medical specialists weren&rsquo;t the dinosaurs they were being portrayed as? How could it possibly have taken them twenty years to accept the facts that were staring them in the face?</p> <p>They say that fact is stranger than fiction, I apologize for accusing the makers of Sister Kenny for using poetic license. Even in this so-called enlightened age of modern communications, even having access to modern communications, I&rsquo;ve failed to get my message across.</p> @@ -4460,7 +4508,9 @@ Do not take anything for granted. Question not only what I tell you but also you Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:27:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/02-01-introduction/ - <div style="text-align: center;"> + <h2 id="introduction">Introduction <a class="anchor" href="#introduction"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><div style="text-align: center;"> <h2 id="im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo">&lsquo;I&rsquo;M GOING TO CURE THE WORLD OF PMO&rsquo; <a class="anchor" href="#im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> </a></h2></div> @@ -4506,7 +4556,9 @@ the world would also see the light and adopt my method.</li> Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:23:44 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/01-03-fear/ - <p>Fear that we will have to survive an indeterminate period of misery, deprivation and unsatisfied craving in order to be free. Fear that a night all by yourself or the eve of a test or exam will be miserable fighting uncontrollable impulses. Fear that we&rsquo;ll never be able to concentrate, handle stress or be as confident without our little crutch. Fear that our personality and character will change.</p> + <h2 id="fear">Fear <a class="anchor" href="#fear"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Fear that we will have to survive an indeterminate period of misery, deprivation and unsatisfied craving in order to be free. Fear that a night all by yourself or the eve of a test or exam will be miserable fighting uncontrollable impulses. Fear that we&rsquo;ll never be able to concentrate, handle stress or be as confident without our little crutch. Fear that our personality and character will change.</p> <p>But most of all, the fear of &lsquo;once an addict always an addict,&rsquo; that we will never be completely free and spend the rest of our lives at odd times craving the occasional porn induced orgasm. If, as I did, you have already tried all the conventional ways to quit and been through the misery of what I describe as the willpower method of stopping, you will not only be affected by that fear, but convinced you can never quit.</p> <p>If you are apprehensive, panic-stricken or feel that the time is not right for you to give up, then let me assure you that your apprehension or panic is caused by fear. That fear is not relieved by PMO but was indeed created by PMO. You didn&rsquo;t decide to fall into the porn trap. But like all traps, it is designed to ensure that you remain trapped. Ask yourself, when you viewed those first porn pictures and videos, did you decide to come back to view them as long as you have? So when are you going to quit? Tomorrow? Next year? Stop kidding yourself! The trap is designed to hold you for life. Why else do you think all these other PMO addicts don&rsquo;t quit before it kills their lives?</p> <p>As you will soon be reading, the feedbacks I got has revealed information that has exceeded my wildest aspirations of the effectiveness of my method. It has also revealed two aspects of the method that have caused me concern. The second I will be covering later.</p> @@ -4537,7 +4589,9 @@ the world would also see the light and adopt my method.</li> Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:19:35 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/01-02-warning/ - <p>Perhaps you are somewhat apprehensive about reading this book. Perhaps, like the majority of PMO addicts, the mere thought of stopping fills you with panic and although you have every intention of stopping one day, it is not today.</p> + <h2 id="warning">Warning <a class="anchor" href="#warning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Perhaps you are somewhat apprehensive about reading this book. Perhaps, like the majority of PMO addicts, the mere thought of stopping fills you with panic and although you have every intention of stopping one day, it is not today.</p> <p>If you are expecting me to inform you of the terrible health issues that PMO addicts risk, that they are susceptible to be affected by PIED (porn induced erectile disfunction), unreliable arousals, fading penetration, loss of interest in real partners,loss of control over themselves, loss of relationships, that it is a filthy, disgusting habit and that <em>YOU</em> are a stupid, spineless, weak-willed jellyfish, then I must disappoint you. Those tactics never helped me to quit and if they were going to help you, you would already have quit.</p> <p>Our Method, which I shall refer to as EASYPEASY doesn&rsquo;t work that way. Some of the things that I am about to say, you might find difficult to believe. However by the time you&rsquo;ve finished reading the book, you&rsquo;ll not only believe them, but wonder how you could ever have been brainwashed into believing otherwise.</p> <p>There is a common misapprehension that we choose to watch porn. PMO addicts ( yes addicts) no more choose to do that than alcoholics choose to become alcoholics, or heroin addicts choose to become heroin addicts. It is true that we choose to boot up the laptop, fire up the browser and visit our favourite online harem<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> tube sites. I occasionally choose to go to the cinema, but I certainly didn&rsquo;t choose to spend my whole life in the cinema theatre. The curiosity and my nature took me there but I would not have done that if I had known it would addict me and cause me my health, happiness and relationships. Only if I had heard about PIED on my first visit to that porn site?</p> @@ -4562,7 +4616,9 @@ the world would also see the light and adopt my method.</li> Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:14:52 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/01-01-preface/ - <p>This hackbook will enable you to stop PMO, immediately, painlessly, and permanently, without the need for Willpower or feeling any sense of deprivation or sacrifice. It will not judge you. It will not embarrass you. It will not put pressure on you to undergo painful measures.</p> + <h2 id="preface">Preface <a class="anchor" href="#preface"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This hackbook will enable you to stop PMO, immediately, painlessly, and permanently, without the need for Willpower or feeling any sense of deprivation or sacrifice. It will not judge you. It will not embarrass you. It will not put pressure on you to undergo painful measures.</p> <p>That goes against everything you&rsquo;ve ever been told about PMO. But ask yourself what you&rsquo;ve been told before worked for you? If it had, you wouldn&rsquo;t be reading this site.</p> <ul> <li>Instantaneous</li> diff --git a/new-site/public/tags/index.xml b/new-site/public/tags/index.xml index b7270456..7c3a59f1 100644 --- a/new-site/public/tags/index.xml +++ b/new-site/public/tags/index.xml @@ -2620,7 +2620,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:22:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-05/ - <p>“Go inside and try in vain to have the same problem. It was a terrible problem, wasn&rsquo;t it? You want to make changes, haven&rsquo;t you?&hellip; What would it be like when you have made those changes, now? In the future as you look back and see what it was like to have had that problem&hellip; as you think about it now, if you could make this change for yourself so that you could STOP&hellip; having made that change and see yourself now. Do you like the way you look if you could make that change and look back at yourself having made that change now!”</p> + <h2 id="scripts-05">Scripts-05 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-05"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>“Go inside and try in vain to have the same problem. It was a terrible problem, wasn&rsquo;t it? You want to make changes, haven&rsquo;t you?&hellip; What would it be like when you have made those changes, now? In the future as you look back and see what it was like to have had that problem&hellip; as you think about it now, if you could make this change for yourself so that you could STOP&hellip; having made that change and see yourself now. Do you like the way you look if you could make that change and look back at yourself having made that change now!”</p> <p>Credit to <a href="http://www.hypnosis.com/scripts_full.php?id2=48">http://www.hypnosis.com/scripts_full.php?id2=48</a></p> @@ -2631,7 +2633,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:21:45 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-04/ - <p>To an individual who has had a PMO problem, porn is poison. It&rsquo;s poison in two ways. First of all it&rsquo;s poison because it breaks down the very will power, the very ego, the very faith in oneself that the individual is able to build up. And so it is a psychological poison because having once conquered the porn problem, if you ever allow it to get back into you again then you begin thinking about yourself all the thoughts that you thought about yourself before, namely, well I really am no good anyway, I really didn&rsquo;t lick it and so on. So it&rsquo;s a psychological poison.</p> + <h2 id="scripts-04">Scripts-04 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-04"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>To an individual who has had a PMO problem, porn is poison. It&rsquo;s poison in two ways. First of all it&rsquo;s poison because it breaks down the very will power, the very ego, the very faith in oneself that the individual is able to build up. And so it is a psychological poison because having once conquered the porn problem, if you ever allow it to get back into you again then you begin thinking about yourself all the thoughts that you thought about yourself before, namely, well I really am no good anyway, I really didn&rsquo;t lick it and so on. So it&rsquo;s a psychological poison.</p> <p>Now in addition to that for anyone who has ever had a porn problem, it&rsquo;s a physical poison. It actually poisons your system. Because you&rsquo;re allergic to porn just like other people are allergic to other things. And so if you&rsquo;re allergic to something, even penicillin, it&rsquo;s poison to you and you must never take it. The same is true with porn. If you&rsquo;re allergic to it, you&rsquo;re through with it. Now you&rsquo;ve been allergic to porn. porn is a poison to you. What&rsquo;s even more fascinating is that usually the reason why one is drawn to porn is not for most of the reasons that most people reiterate, namely that it makes me feel good, I like it, all these things. On the contrary, almost every person who has a porn problem will tell you just the opposite. I don&rsquo;t like it. It&rsquo;s ruining my life. It&rsquo;s terrible.</p> <p>And if that&rsquo;s true, then why are they drawn to it? For precisely that reason. Because it is a poison and because they in their subconscious mind need to commit suicide and so they do it the slow tortuous way. And so that&rsquo;s why it&rsquo;s so important that the underlying cause of the problem be completely removed so that you don&rsquo;t need to punish yourself again with porn. And that&rsquo;s why we have removed them.</p> <p>That&rsquo;s why you don&rsquo;t need to punish yourself anymore. Because you realize you&rsquo;re not guilty to begin with. And if you&rsquo;re not guilty you don&rsquo;t have to punish yourself. And since you&rsquo;re through punishing yourself, you&rsquo;re through poisoning yourself. Yes porn is a poison. It&rsquo;s important that you realize that it&rsquo;s a poison and you are leaving poisons alone. Because you don&rsquo;t need poison any more. You don&rsquo;t need to poison yourself. You don&rsquo;t need to punish yourself. You&rsquo;re through with all that.</p> @@ -2646,7 +2650,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:20:17 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-03/ - <p>Now as you sink deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance. You pay no attention to any other sound but the sound of my voice. You sink deeper and deeper with every breath you take. Deeper and deeper and deeper, way down, deeper and deeper relaxed.</p> + <h2 id="scripts-03">Scripts-03 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-03"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Now as you sink deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance. You pay no attention to any other sound but the sound of my voice. You sink deeper and deeper with every breath you take. Deeper and deeper and deeper, way down, deeper and deeper relaxed.</p> <p>In the past porn may have been to you something that meant life. In your mind you may have accepted a suggestion that porn saves your life from boredom or porn protects you from being injured socially, porn is good for you in some manner or another. But that was yesterday and we are in the future. All that was yesterday, because porn may have protected you from injury in the past socially, it could have even saved your life from boredom.</p> <p>And those suggestions may have been good suggestions at one time but they have outlived their usefulness and if any of those suggestions are present to any degree in your mind, they are completely removed as of now. And that suggestion takes complete and thorough effect upon your mind, body and spirit.</p> <p>Now to other people porn means death. It&rsquo;s a way of punishing oneself. It&rsquo;s a poison and some people want to poison themselves. It&rsquo;s a method of slow suicide. Well, you don&rsquo;t need that now. If porn ever meant death and suicide to you and you have a need to punish yourself, that need is now long gone and we remove that suggestion. The truth of the matter is that porn is just porn. It&rsquo;s not life. It&rsquo;s not death. As a matter of fact, it&rsquo;s not anything to you anymore. It&rsquo;s nothing, neutral feelings. It&rsquo;s something that you don&rsquo;t need nor do you want.</p> @@ -2662,7 +2668,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:18:50 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-02/ - <p>As you go deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance and you pay attention only to the sound of my voice. As you listen carefully to the sound of my voice, we are going to remove a number of suggestions which have been in your mind. We are going to remove them completely and as you listen carefully to them we&rsquo;re simply going to dissolve them&hellip; throw them out of your mind completely and forever&hellip; Nothing disturbs you and nothing bothers you and nothing can distract you in any way from listening to the sound of my voice&hellip; and from completely accepting everything I tell you&hellip; for everything I tell you is the absolute truth to you&hellip; and we&rsquo;re going to remove all suggestions from your mind that have been detrimental to you in the past.</p> + <h2 id="scripts-02">Scripts-02 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-02"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As you go deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance and you pay attention only to the sound of my voice. As you listen carefully to the sound of my voice, we are going to remove a number of suggestions which have been in your mind. We are going to remove them completely and as you listen carefully to them we&rsquo;re simply going to dissolve them&hellip; throw them out of your mind completely and forever&hellip; Nothing disturbs you and nothing bothers you and nothing can distract you in any way from listening to the sound of my voice&hellip; and from completely accepting everything I tell you&hellip; for everything I tell you is the absolute truth to you&hellip; and we&rsquo;re going to remove all suggestions from your mind that have been detrimental to you in the past.</p> <p>The first suggestion you had in your mind is that somehow or another that porn, an image, an illusion, has been of some use to you. Masturbating to porn is of no use to you and you know it. You&rsquo;re through PMO for any reason. It doesn&rsquo;t make you relax, it doesn&rsquo;t make you sleep well, it doesn&rsquo;t do anything for you. As a matter of fact it ruins your efficiency&hellip; and consequently you&rsquo;re through with it. The fact that porn has ever been beneficial to you in any way is completely removed from your mind. I am going to count to five and that suggestion is completely removed from your mind never to return. One, Two, Three, Four, Five.</p> <p>The next suggestion that you may have accepted is that porn is a good means of punishing yourself. In the first place, you&rsquo;re through punishing yourself and in the second place you&rsquo;re through using porn as a means to do it. The only reason anyone ever punishes himself is because somewhere deep in his mind he feels guilty and you&rsquo;re through allowing your-self to feel guilty. And so with one count we&rsquo;re going to remove the guilt, whatever it is and from whatever source the punishment, the need for punishment, and that porn could be used as a vehicle to achieve it. One. Two. Three. Four. Five.</p> <p>Those ideas are all gone. Porn to you is a poison and a lousy inefficient poison at that&hellip; just enough poison to make you sick and ineffective. But then you&rsquo;re through poisoning yourself and you&rsquo;re through using porn and so that need is also removed from your mind. One. Two. Three. Four. Five.</p> @@ -2679,7 +2687,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:17:25 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-01/ - <p>You are relaxed now and because you are so relaxed you begin to feel free from all tensions, anxiety and fear. You now realize that you are more confident and sure of yourself because you have taken the enormous first step toward helping yourself. Great!</p> + <h2 id="scripts-01">Scripts-01 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-01"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>You are relaxed now and because you are so relaxed you begin to feel free from all tensions, anxiety and fear. You now realize that you are more confident and sure of yourself because you have taken the enormous first step toward helping yourself. Great!</p> <p>You begin to feel this strength from within, motivating you to overcome any and every obstacle that may stand in the way of your happiness, social life and home life. You are not a slave to PMO any more!</p> <p>You will find that from this moment on you are developing more self control. You will now face every situation in a calm, relaxed state of mind. Your thinking is very clear and sharp at all times. You are free!</p> <p>You begin to feel that your self respect and confidence are expanding more and more each and every day in every way. You now realize that in the past addiction was an escape and weakness that you are replacing with confidence, strength and self control. You are becoming a happy person now, with a positive attitude toward life. You are succeeding now and you have all the abilities for success.</p> @@ -2697,7 +2707,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:14:53 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/04-02-rebt-coping-statements/ - <ul> + <h2 id="rebt-coping-statements">REBT Coping Statements <a class="anchor" href="#rebt-coping-statements"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ul> <li><em>“I can stop PMO, even though it appears &lsquo;hard&rsquo; to do so. It’s not too hard and no matter how much trouble it takes, it’s worth it!”</em></li> <li><em>“If I keep ignoring and never giving into my powerful urges to PMO, I will make it easier and easier to resist them”</em></li> <li><em>“I can fully and unconditionally accept myself- yes, even with all my flaws and failings”</em></li> @@ -2722,7 +2734,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:13:26 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/04-01-the-instructions/ - <ol> + <h2 id="the-instructions">The Instructions <a class="anchor" href="#the-instructions"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Follow all the instructions.</li> <li>Keep an open mind.</li> <li>Start with a feeling of elation.</li> @@ -2734,11 +2748,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true <li>Always remember there&rsquo;s no such thing as &ldquo;Just One Peek&rdquo;.</li> <li>Never PMO again.</li> </ol> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="affirmations">Affirmations <a class="anchor" href="#affirmations"> +<h3 id="affirmations">Affirmations <a class="anchor" href="#affirmations"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<ul> +</a></h3><ul> <li>I am free from the slavery of PMO.</li> <li>It is easy for me to ignore my thoughts about PMO.</li> <li>Bye bye thoughts, bye bye Urges. Oh, there goes my cravings.</li> @@ -2763,7 +2775,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 11:36:58 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-44-should-i-tell-my-so/ - <p>Should I tell my wife, girlfriend and SO about my PMO? The intention here is that it would help you in quitting. I am of the solid opinion that all these are not needed. It would only reinforce your weakness against PMO.</p> + <h2 id="should-i-tell-my-so">Should I Tell My SO <a class="anchor" href="#should-i-tell-my-so"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Should I tell my wife, girlfriend and SO about my PMO? The intention here is that it would help you in quitting. I am of the solid opinion that all these are not needed. It would only reinforce your weakness against PMO.</p> <p>If you slip, you will feel miserable and guilty if you are following the Willpower Method. Add to that the feeling of deceiving your loved one will definitely push you through the vicious cycle of slip-lapse-relapse.</p> <p>If you are caught once - just say you are feeling good that you got caught and you are out of the prison. And you don’t want to talk about it. Many women can’t digest it. Many men wrongly attribute the woman to be of loose morals and hence a bad person. And if the SO breaks up with you (even if for some other reason) you will feel guilty for having screwed up your sex life with PMO OR feeling you “sacrificed” so much if you were successful in quitting - adding to the heart ache.</p> <p>You will look very weak. They will treat you as a weak person - of course only subconsciously. But you can smell it. Why the stress?</p> @@ -2777,26 +2791,22 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 11:31:13 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-43-advice-to-non-pmoers/ - <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK <a class="anchor" href="#help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book"> + <h2 id="advice-to-non-pmoers">Advice to Non-PMOers <a class="anchor" href="#advice-to-non-pmoers"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>First study the contents of this book and try to put yourself in the place of the PMOer. Do not force him to read this book or try to stop him by telling him he is ruining his health or playing with fire. He already knows this better than you do. PMOers do not continue in it because they enjoy it or because they want to. They only tell themselves and other people this in order to retain self-respect. They do it because they feel dependent on PMO because they think that it relaxes them and gives them courage and confidence (pleasure or crutch) and that life will never be enjoyable without “sex” - their version of it. If you try to force a PMOer to stop, he feels like a trapped animal and wants to be in his harem even more. This may turn him into a secret PMOer and in his mind the porn will become even more precious (see Chapter 26).</p> +</a></h2><h3 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK <a class="anchor" href="#help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>First study the contents of this book and try to put yourself in the place of the PMOer. Do not force him to read this book or try to stop him by telling him he is ruining his health or playing with fire. He already knows this better than you do. PMOers do not continue in it because they enjoy it or because they want to. They only tell themselves and other people this in order to retain self-respect. They do it because they feel dependent on PMO because they think that it relaxes them and gives them courage and confidence (pleasure or crutch) and that life will never be enjoyable without “sex” - their version of it. If you try to force a PMOer to stop, he feels like a trapped animal and wants to be in his harem even more. This may turn him into a secret PMOer and in his mind the porn will become even more precious (see Chapter 26).</p> <p>Instead, concentrate on the other side of the coin. Get him into the company of ex-PMOers (there are many blogs, forums etc. YBOP, No-Fap etc.). Get them to tell the PMOer how they too thought they were hooked for life and how much better life is as a non-PMOer. Once you have got him believing that he can stop then his mind will start to open up. Then start explaining the delusion created by withdrawal pangs. Not only are the “dopamine rushes” not giving him a boost but they are destroying his confidence and making him irritable and tired.</p> <p>He should now be ready to read this book himself. He will be expecting to read pages and pages about unreliable arousal, fading penetrations, PIED, PE, etc. Explain that the approach is completely different and that references to illness are just a small fraction of the material in the book.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD <a class="anchor" href="#help-during-the-withdrawal-period"> +<h3 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD <a class="anchor" href="#help-during-the-withdrawal-period"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>If you are dealing with a girlfriend or boyfriend - whether the ex-PMOer is suffering or not, assume that she/he is. Do not try to minimize his suffering by telling him it is easy to stop; he can do that himself. Instead keep telling him how proud you are, how much better he is looking, how much sweeter it is to be with him, how much easier he is in general. It is particularly important to keep doing this. When a PMOer makes an attempt to stop, the euphoria of the attempt and the attention he gets from friends and colleagues can help him along. However, they tend to forget quickly, so keep that praise going.</p> +</a></h3><p>If you are dealing with a girlfriend or boyfriend - whether the ex-PMOer is suffering or not, assume that she/he is. Do not try to minimize his suffering by telling him it is easy to stop; he can do that himself. Instead keep telling him how proud you are, how much better he is looking, how much sweeter it is to be with him, how much easier he is in general. It is particularly important to keep doing this. When a PMOer makes an attempt to stop, the euphoria of the attempt and the attention he gets from friends and colleagues can help him along. However, they tend to forget quickly, so keep that praise going.</p> <p>Because he is not talking about PMOing, you may think he has forgotten about it and don&rsquo;t want to remind him. Usually the complete opposite is the case with the Willpower Method, as the ex-PMOer tends to be obsessed by nothing else. So do not be frightened to bring the subject up and keep praising him: he will tell you if he doesn&rsquo;t want you to remind him of PMOing.</p> <p>Go out of your way to relieve him of pressures during the withdrawal period. Try to think of ways of making his life interesting and enjoyable. This can also be a trying period for non-PMOers - that is those of you who have never had this addiction. If one member of a group is irritable, it can cause general misery all round. So anticipate this if the ex-PMOer is feeling irritable. He may well take it out on you but do not retaliate: it is at this time that he needs your praise and sympathy the most. If you are feeling irritable yourself, try not to show it.</p> <p>One of the tricks an addict will play when trying to give up with the aid of the Willpower Method was to get into a tantrum, hoping that wife or friends would say, “I cannot bear to see you suffering like this. For goodness sake, have your poison.” The PMOer then does not lose face, as he isn&rsquo;t “giving in” - he has been instructed. If the ex-PMOer uses this ploy, on no account encourage him to lapse. Instead say, “if that is what PMO does to you, thank goodness you will soon be free. How marvellous that you had the courage and sense to give up.”</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL <a class="anchor" href="#help-end-this-scandal"> +<h3 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL <a class="anchor" href="#help-end-this-scandal"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>In my opinion, internet porn is one of the dangers in a free society, piggy backing on the good willed efforts of personal freedoms. Surely the very basis of civilization, the reason why the human species has advanced so far, is that we are capable of communicating our knowledge and experiences not only to each other but to future generations. Even the lower species find it necessary to warn their offspring of the pitfalls in life.</p> +</a></h3><p>In my opinion, internet porn is one of the dangers in a free society, piggy backing on the good willed efforts of personal freedoms. Surely the very basis of civilization, the reason why the human species has advanced so far, is that we are capable of communicating our knowledge and experiences not only to each other but to future generations. Even the lower species find it necessary to warn their offspring of the pitfalls in life.</p> <p>The producers of porn are not doing this in good faith, in the genuine belief that they help mankind, especially now as the addiction to internet porn is widely studied. Maybe in its initial stages people genuinely believed that porn taught intimacy to men and women but today the authorities know that it is a fallacy. Just watch any tube sites nowadays. They make no claims about education. The only claims they make are about the shock, novelty, escalation quality of their clips.</p> <p>The sheer hypocrisy is incredible. As a society we get uptight about school bullying and objectification of human body. Compared with internet porn, these problems are mere pimples in our society. Thirty five per cent of the population have been addicted to porn and most of them spend quality time with imaginary and illusory pixel people at the expense of health, virility, energy and time. Tens of thousands of people have their lives ruined every year because they become hooked. Internet high speed porn is by far the biggest killer in relationships and yet the biggest vested interest is our for-profit companies. Internet porn producers don’t spend on advertising the filth in mainstream publications - they don’t have to. Our biological urges will lead us to the thresholds of their well stocked internet harems. They give free samples just like your local drug dealer. Heck the tube sites don’t even stock the wares any more as they encourage visitors to post the content.</p> <p>How clever that porn companies show the 18+ warning at their home page as the deterrent for under age users. Some even don’t bother to do that. Internet porn affect everyone at all ages. “We have warned you of the danger. It is your choice.” Is the attitude they have. Anyway, do they take any steps to verify the age? No. That would discourage their customers. And of course if age verification is legislated they will find another country to host. Or they will pay some ‘elite’ to write how prohibition resulted in bootlegging and the creation of the Mafia. Conveniently forgotten is the question of why repealing prohibition did not result in the reduction of alcohol related casualty numbers. And the contribution of the failure of law enforcement to control the Mafia’s growth. So let’s not waste time in talking about them.</p> @@ -2807,11 +2817,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <p>I remember reading H. G. Well’s The Time Machine. The book describes an incident in the distant future in which a man falls into a river. His companions merely sit around the bank like cattle, oblivious to his cries of desperation. I found that incident inhuman and very disturbing. I find the general apathy of our society to the PMO problem very similar. We find characters in movies and TV series talking about or even engaging in porn in a casual way.</p> <p>Why do we allow society to subject healthy young teenagers, youngsters whose lives are complete before they start to get online, to claim their independence just for the privilege of destroying themselves mentally and physically in a lifetime of slavery, a lifetime of filth and disease? You may feel that I over-dramatize the facts. Not so. There are cases where lives were cut down in his early years of marriage because of PMO. He was a strong man and might still have been alive today. I believe I was within an inch of PIED during my forties, although I would have attributed it to my divorce rather than to PMO. I now spend my life being consulted by people who have been crippled by the disease or are in the last stages. And, if you care to think about it, you probably know of many too.</p> <p>There is a wind of change in society. A snowball has started that I hope this book will help turn into an avalanche. You too can help by spreading the message.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING <a class="anchor" href="#final-warning"> +<h3 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING <a class="anchor" href="#final-warning"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>You can now enjoy the rest of your life as a happy non-PMOer. In order to make sure that you do, you need to follow these simple instructions:</p> +</a></h3><p>You can now enjoy the rest of your life as a happy non-PMOer. In order to make sure that you do, you need to follow these simple instructions:</p> <ol> <li>Keep this page in your bookmarks and refer to it as much as you need.</li> <li>If you ever start to envy another PMOer, realize that they will be envious of you. You are not being deprived. They are.</li> @@ -2829,7 +2837,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 11:28:29 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-42-help-the-pmoer-left-on-the-sinking-ship/ - <p>PMOers are panicking nowadays. They sense that there is a change in the way internet porn is perceived by men and women. Internet porn’s addictive nature is being studied by more and more people. It is now rightly regarded not as the same as old traditional porn. It’s easy reach and effortless availability raises alarm even in the hearts of porn supporters. They also sense that their crusade for free speech and free thought is being hijacked by vicious elements. The wild wild west nature of the unpoliced internet makes it hard for enforcing age restrictive access to supranormal stimuli. Yet I don’t think this whole thing will be coming to an end anytime soon. Thousands of PMOers are now stopping and all porn users are conscious of the new brain studies that point their studied fingers to the similarities of drug and substance addiction. Every time a PMOer leaves the sinking ship, the ones left on it feel more miserable. Every PMOer instinctively knows that it is ridiculous to self sabotage and spend time in front of two dimensional pixels, treat the poor brain to super surges, develop porn brain water slides that will guarantee him unreliable erections and fading penetrations. If you still don&rsquo;t think it is silly, try talking to a porn magazine standing at the centre of the city square and ask yourself what the difference is. Just one. You cannot get the pleasure of warmth and intimacy that way. If you can stop buying alcohol and cigarettes every time you go grocery shopping you can definitely stop visiting your online harems. PMOers cannot find a rational reason for PMOing but if someone else is doing it, they do not feel quite so silly.</p> + <h2 id="help-the-pmoer-left-on-the-sinking-ship">Help the PMOer Left on the Sinking Ship <a class="anchor" href="#help-the-pmoer-left-on-the-sinking-ship"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>PMOers are panicking nowadays. They sense that there is a change in the way internet porn is perceived by men and women. Internet porn’s addictive nature is being studied by more and more people. It is now rightly regarded not as the same as old traditional porn. It’s easy reach and effortless availability raises alarm even in the hearts of porn supporters. They also sense that their crusade for free speech and free thought is being hijacked by vicious elements. The wild wild west nature of the unpoliced internet makes it hard for enforcing age restrictive access to supranormal stimuli. Yet I don’t think this whole thing will be coming to an end anytime soon. Thousands of PMOers are now stopping and all porn users are conscious of the new brain studies that point their studied fingers to the similarities of drug and substance addiction. Every time a PMOer leaves the sinking ship, the ones left on it feel more miserable. Every PMOer instinctively knows that it is ridiculous to self sabotage and spend time in front of two dimensional pixels, treat the poor brain to super surges, develop porn brain water slides that will guarantee him unreliable erections and fading penetrations. If you still don&rsquo;t think it is silly, try talking to a porn magazine standing at the centre of the city square and ask yourself what the difference is. Just one. You cannot get the pleasure of warmth and intimacy that way. If you can stop buying alcohol and cigarettes every time you go grocery shopping you can definitely stop visiting your online harems. PMOers cannot find a rational reason for PMOing but if someone else is doing it, they do not feel quite so silly.</p> <p>PMOers blatantly lie about their habit, not only to others and university researchers but worse of all to themselves. They have to. The brainwashing is essential if they are to retain some self-respect. They feel the need to justify their “habit” not only to themselves but to non-PMOers. They are therefore forever advertising the illusory advantages of porn and PMO by more subtler means.</p> <p>If a PMOer stops using the Willpower Method he still feels deprived and tends to become a moaner. All this does is to confirm to other PMOers how right they are to keep PMOing. If the ex-PMOer succeeds in kicking the habit, he is then grateful that he no longer has to go through life sabotaging himself or wasting energy. But he has no need to justify himself, he doesn&rsquo;t sit there saying how marvellous it is not to be PMOing. He will do that only if he is asked and PMOers won&rsquo;t ask that question. They wouldn&rsquo;t like the answer. Remember: it is fear that keeps them in their addiction and they would rather keep their heads in the sand. The only time they ask that question is when it is time to stop. Help the PMOer. Remove these fears. Tell him how marvellous it is not to have to go through life living in a prison, how lovely it is to wake up in the morning feeling fit and healthy instead of lacking in energy and self loathing, how wonderful it is to be free of slavery, to be able to enjoy the whole of your life, to be rid of those awful black shadows. Or, better still; get him to read this book.</p> <p>It is essential not to belittle a married PMOer by indicating that he is deliberately ruining his relationship or is in some way a cheat and is unclean. There is a common conception that the ex-PMOer is the worst in this respect. I believe this conception has some substance but I think this is due to the Willpower Method of stopping. Because the ex-PMOer, although he has kicked the habit, retains part of the brainwashing - part of him still believes that he has made a sacrifice. He feels vulnerable and his natural defensive mechanism is to attack the PMOer.</p> @@ -2848,7 +2858,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:21:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-41-feedback/ - <p>This method will be pooh-poohed by the so-called experts - as I have kept it thin, deliberately, on the ‘science’ side of porn addiction. This ‘hackbook’ is based on a very successful technique used by Alan Carr for quitting smoking, alcohol and gambling. I have personally broken away from the prisons of cigarette, alcohol and internet porn with this technique. I’d like to add here that I’ve tried some of the best programmes - such as CBT, DEADS and AVERT before arriving at the EasyWay. I could not close the deal. I was then led to studying about self hypnosis that deals with bad habits. The key idea that sold me on this method is his emphasis on the “feelings of misery and deprivation, misery and sacrifice, misery and guilt.” If you use the Will Power method you will invariably have all or one of these awful feelings that in themselves provide the grease to slide back to the addiction.</p> + <h2 id="feedback">Feedback <a class="anchor" href="#feedback"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This method will be pooh-poohed by the so-called experts - as I have kept it thin, deliberately, on the ‘science’ side of porn addiction. This ‘hackbook’ is based on a very successful technique used by Alan Carr for quitting smoking, alcohol and gambling. I have personally broken away from the prisons of cigarette, alcohol and internet porn with this technique. I’d like to add here that I’ve tried some of the best programmes - such as CBT, DEADS and AVERT before arriving at the EasyWay. I could not close the deal. I was then led to studying about self hypnosis that deals with bad habits. The key idea that sold me on this method is his emphasis on the “feelings of misery and deprivation, misery and sacrifice, misery and guilt.” If you use the Will Power method you will invariably have all or one of these awful feelings that in themselves provide the grease to slide back to the addiction.</p> <p>I&rsquo;m not a do-gooder. My war - which, I emphasize, is not against PMOers but against the porn trap, I wage for the purely selfish reason that I enjoy it. Every time I hear of a PMOer escaping from the prison I get a feeling of great pleasure, even when it has nothing to do with me. You can imagine also the immense pleasure I obtain from the grateful letters that I have received over time.</p> <p>There has also been considerable frustration. The frustration is caused mainly by two main categories of PMOer. First, in spite of the warning in the previous chapter, I am disturbed by the number of PMOers who find it easy to stop, yet later get hooked again and find they can&rsquo;t succeed the next time.</p> <p>Practically the last thing I say to ex-PMOers is: “Remember, you must never visit another online harem again.”</p> @@ -2908,11 +2920,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <blockquote> <p>Find out which one it is. Some people understand and believe everything I say but still start off with a feeling of doom and gloom, as if something terrible were happening. You are doing not only what you&rsquo;d like to do but what every PMOer on the planet would like to do. With any method of stopping, what the ex PMOer is trying to achieve is a certain frame of mind, so that whenever he thinks about PMO he says to himself, “YIPPEE! I&rsquo;M FREE!” If that&rsquo;s your object, why wait? Start off in that frame of mind and never lose it. The rest of the book is designed to make you understand why there is no alternative.</p> </blockquote> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="the-check-list"><strong>THE CHECK LIST</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-check-list"> +<h2 id="the-check-list">THE CHECK LIST <a class="anchor" href="#the-check-list"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>If you follow these simple instructions, you cannot fail:</p> +</a></h2><p>If you follow these simple instructions, you cannot fail:</p> <ol> <li>Make a solemn vow that you will never, ever, go online to visit your harem OR settle down for static pictures OR make peace with erotic graphics OR anything that contains supra normal stimuli, and stick to your vow.</li> <li>Get this clear in your mind: there is absolutely nothing to give up. By that I don&rsquo;t mean simply that you will be better off as a non-PMOer (you&rsquo;ve known that all this time); nor do I mean that although there is no rational reason why you PMO, you must get some form of pleasure or crutch from it or you wouldn&rsquo;t do it. What I mean is, there is no genuine pleasure or crutch in PMOing. It is just an illusion, it’s an addiction like banging your head against a wall to make it pleasant when you stop.</li> @@ -2926,7 +2936,7 @@ strains of life.</li> <hr> <ol> <li id="fn:1"> -<p><strong>MoR</strong> moment of revelation. R2T resistance to temptation. MaD misery and deprived. MaS misery and sacrifice. MaG misery and guilty. DSC dopamine surge claims.&#160;<a href="#fnref:1" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p> +<p><strong>MoR</strong> - moment of revelation. R2T resistance to temptation. MaD misery and deprived. MaS misery and sacrifice. MaG misery and guilty. DSC dopamine surge claims.&#160;<a href="#fnref:1" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p> </li> </ol> </div> @@ -2939,7 +2949,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:20:54 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-40-a-final-warning/ - <p>No PMOer, given the chance of going back to the time before he became hooked with the knowledge he has now, would opt to start. Many of the them who consult me are convinced that if I could only help them stop, they would never dream of PMOing again, and yet thousands of PMOers successfully kick the habit for many years and lead perfectly happy lives, only to get trapped once again. I trust that this book will help you to find it relatively easy to stop. But be warned: PMOers who find it easy to stop find it easy to start again, DO NOT FALL FOR THIS TRAP.</p> + <h2 id="a-final-warning">A Final Warning <a class="anchor" href="#a-final-warning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>No PMOer, given the chance of going back to the time before he became hooked with the knowledge he has now, would opt to start. Many of the them who consult me are convinced that if I could only help them stop, they would never dream of PMOing again, and yet thousands of PMOers successfully kick the habit for many years and lead perfectly happy lives, only to get trapped once again. I trust that this book will help you to find it relatively easy to stop. But be warned: PMOers who find it easy to stop find it easy to start again, DO NOT FALL FOR THIS TRAP.</p> <p>No matter how long you have stopped or how confident you are that you will never become hooked again, make it a rule of life not to PMO for any reason. Resist the allusions and innuendoes in the media, and remember they are pushing their image of ‘openness’ by bringing porn into mainstream without realizing how porn, internet porn etc. are killers of relationships and of the personal sense of well being for a huge number of men and some women.</p> <p>Remember, that first peek or visit will do nothing for you. You will have no withdrawal pangs to relieve and it will make you feel awful. What it will do is to put the pleasure of dopamine rush into your mind and brain, and a little voice at the back of your mind will be saying, “you want another one.” Then you have got the choice of being miserable for a while or starting the whole filthy chain again.</p> @@ -2951,7 +2963,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:15:27 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-39-the-final-visit/ - <p>Having decided on your timing, you are now ready to visit your harem one last time. Before you do so, check on the two essentials:</p> + <h2 id="the-final-visit">The Final Visit <a class="anchor" href="#the-final-visit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Having decided on your timing, you are now ready to visit your harem one last time. Before you do so, check on the two essentials:</p> <ol> <li>Do you feel certain of success?</li> <li>Have you a feeling of doom and gloom or a sense of excitement that you are about to achieve something marvelous?</li> @@ -3002,7 +3016,9 @@ sites in my life again.”<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1& Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:13:13 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-38-the-moment-of-revelation/ - <p>The moment of revelation usually takes place about three weeks after stopping. The sky appears to become brighter and it is the moment when the brainwashing ends completely. When instead of telling yourself you do not need to PMO, you suddenly realize that the last thread is broken and you can enjoy the rest of your life without ever needing PMO again. It is also usually from this point that you start looking at other PMOers as objects of pity.</p> + <h2 id="the-moment-of-revelation">The Moment of Revelation <a class="anchor" href="#the-moment-of-revelation"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The moment of revelation usually takes place about three weeks after stopping. The sky appears to become brighter and it is the moment when the brainwashing ends completely. When instead of telling yourself you do not need to PMO, you suddenly realize that the last thread is broken and you can enjoy the rest of your life without ever needing PMO again. It is also usually from this point that you start looking at other PMOers as objects of pity.</p> <p>PMOers using the Willpower Method do not normally experience this moment because although they are glad to be ex-PMOers they continue through life believing they are making a sacrifice. The more you were addicted, the more marvellous this moment is and it lasts a lifetime. I consider I have been very fortunate in this life and had some wonderful moments but the most wonderful of all was that moment of revelation. With all the other highlights of my life, although I can remember they were happy times, I can never recapture the actual feeling. I can never get over the joy of not having to PMO any more. If ever I am feeling low and need a boost nowadays, I just think how lovely it is not to be hooked on that awful addiction. Half the people who contact me after they have stopped visiting the online harems say exactly the same thing: that it was the most marvellous event of their lives. Ah! What pleasure you have to come! With additional feedback, both from forums and personal interactions, I have learned that in most cases the moment of revelation occurs not after three weeks, as stated above, but within a few days.</p> <p>In my own case it happened before I was finished on my last harem visit. I am sure many of the readers here, before they’d even got to the end of the chapters would say something like: “You needn&rsquo;t say another word. I can see it all so clearly, I know I&rsquo;ll never PMO again.” From the messages I receive I&rsquo;m also aware that it frequently happens.</p> <p>Ideally if you follow all the instructions and understand the psychology completely, it should happen to you immediately.</p> @@ -3022,20 +3038,18 @@ sites in my life again.”<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1& Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:10:40 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-37-should-i-avoid-temptation-situations/ - <p>I have been direct in my advice so far and would ask you to treat this advice as instruction rather than suggestion. I am explicit and direct, first because there are sound, practical reasons for my advice and second, because those reasons have been backed up by thousands of case studies. On the question of whether or not to try to avoid temptation during the withdrawal period, I regret that I cannot be direct. Each PMOer will need to decide for himself. I can, however, make what I hope -will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all our lives and this fear consists of two distinct phases:</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO? <a class="anchor" href="#phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo"> + <h2 id="should-i-avoid-temptation-situations">Should I Avoid Temptation Situations? <a class="anchor" href="#should-i-avoid-temptation-situations"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>This fear is that panicky feeling the PMOer gets when they are alone in a single phase or have an asexual, uninterested or unavailable partner. The fear isn&rsquo;t caused by withdrawal pangs but is the psychological fear of dependency - you cannot survive without sex and orgasm. It actually reaches its height when you are on the verge of quitting (I won’t use giving up); at that time your withdrawal pangs are at their lowest. It is the fear of the unknown, the sort of fear that people have when they are learning to dive.</p> +</a></h2><p>I have been direct in my advice so far and would ask you to treat this advice as instruction rather than suggestion. I am explicit and direct, first because there are sound, practical reasons for my advice and second, because those reasons have been backed up by thousands of case studies. On the question of whether or not to try to avoid temptation during the withdrawal period, I regret that I cannot be direct. Each PMOer will need to decide for himself. I can, however, make what I hope +will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all our lives and this fear consists of two distinct phases:</p> +<h3 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO? <a class="anchor" href="#phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>This fear is that panicky feeling the PMOer gets when they are alone in a single phase or have an asexual, uninterested or unavailable partner. The fear isn&rsquo;t caused by withdrawal pangs but is the psychological fear of dependency - you cannot survive without sex and orgasm. It actually reaches its height when you are on the verge of quitting (I won’t use giving up); at that time your withdrawal pangs are at their lowest. It is the fear of the unknown, the sort of fear that people have when they are learning to dive.</p> <p>The diving board is 1 foot high but seems to be 6 feet high. The water is 6 feet deep but appears to be 1 foot deep. It takes courage to launch yourself. You are convinced you are going to smash your head. The launching is the hardest part. If you can find the courage to do it, the rest is easy. This explains why many otherwise strong-willed PMOers either have never attempted to stop or can survive only a few days when they do. In fact, there are some PMOers on a porn diet who when they decide to stop, actually binge and escalate to harsher clips more quickly than if they had not decided to stop. The decision causes panic, which is stressful. This is one of the occasions when the brain triggers the instruction, “take a trip to your own personal harem.” But now you can&rsquo;t take one. You are being deprived - more stress.</p> <p>The trigger starts again quickly when the fuse blows and you fire up the browser. Don&rsquo;t worry. That panic is just psychological. It is the fear that you are dependent. The beautiful truth is that you are not, even when you are still addicted. Do not panic. Just trust me and launch yourself.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear <a class="anchor" href="#phase-2-longer-term-fear"> +<h3 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear <a class="anchor" href="#phase-2-longer-term-fear"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>The second phase of fear is longer-term. It involves the fear that certain situations in the future will not be enjoyable or that you will not be able to cope with a trauma without PMO. Don&rsquo;t worry. If you can launch yourself you will find the opposite to be the case. The avoidance of temptation itself falls into two main categories:</p> +</a></h3><p>The second phase of fear is longer-term. It involves the fear that certain situations in the future will not be enjoyable or that you will not be able to cope with a trauma without PMO. Don&rsquo;t worry. If you can launch yourself you will find the opposite to be the case. The avoidance of temptation itself falls into two main categories:</p> <ol> <li>“I will subscribe to a porn-diet of once in 4 days. I will feel more confident knowing that I can go online if it gets hard. It is OK if I fail I can just add up additional days to my next cycle.”</li> </ol> @@ -3058,7 +3072,9 @@ will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all o Sat, 24 Dec 2022 08:46:33 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-36-substitutes/ - <p>Substitutes include restricting to porn magazines, static internet images, going on a porn-diet<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> etc. <strong>DO NOT USE ANY OF THEM</strong>. They make it harder, not easier. If you do get a pang and use a substitute it will prolong the pang and make it harder. What you are really saying is, “I need to PMO to fill the void.” It will be like giving in to a hijacker or the tantrums of a child. It will just keep the pangs coming and prolong the torture. In any event the substitutes will not relieve the pangs. Your craving is for amino acids in the brain. All it will do is keep you thinking about PMOing. Remember these points:</p> + <h2 id="substitutes">Substitutes <a class="anchor" href="#substitutes"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Substitutes include restricting to porn magazines, static internet images, going on a porn-diet<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> etc. <strong>DO NOT USE ANY OF THEM</strong>. They make it harder, not easier. If you do get a pang and use a substitute it will prolong the pang and make it harder. What you are really saying is, “I need to PMO to fill the void.” It will be like giving in to a hijacker or the tantrums of a child. It will just keep the pangs coming and prolong the torture. In any event the substitutes will not relieve the pangs. Your craving is for amino acids in the brain. All it will do is keep you thinking about PMOing. Remember these points:</p> <ol> <li>There is no substitute for PMO.</li> <li>You do not need porn or PMO. It is not food; it is poison. When the pangs come remind yourself that it is PMOers who suffer withdrawal pangs, not non-PMOers. See them as another evil of the drug. See them as the death of a monster.</li> @@ -3090,12 +3106,13 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict - 03-35 the Main Reasons for Failure + 03-35 The Main Reasons for Failure https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-35-the-main-reasons-for-failure/ Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:23:39 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-35-the-main-reasons-for-failure/ - <p>There are two main reasons for failure. The first is the influence of external stimuli - a commercial, online news articles, internet browsing etc. At a weak moment or even during a social occasion somebody will get intimate with their partner. I have already dealt with this topic at length. Use that moment to remind yourself that there is no such thing as one visit or one peek. Rejoice in the fact that you have broken the chain of mental slavery. Remember that the PMOer envies you, and feel sorry for him. Believe me, he needs your pity. The other main reason for failure is having a bad day. Get it clear in your mind before you start that, whether you are a PMOer or a non-PMOer, there are good days and bad days. It rains for both the pope and the murderer.</p> + <p>The Main Reasons for Failure</p> +<p>There are two main reasons for failure. The first is the influence of external stimuli - a commercial, online news articles, internet browsing etc. At a weak moment or even during a social occasion somebody will get intimate with their partner. I have already dealt with this topic at length. Use that moment to remind yourself that there is no such thing as one visit or one peek. Rejoice in the fact that you have broken the chain of mental slavery. Remember that the PMOer envies you, and feel sorry for him. Believe me, he needs your pity. The other main reason for failure is having a bad day. Get it clear in your mind before you start that, whether you are a PMOer or a non-PMOer, there are good days and bad days. It rains for both the pope and the murderer.</p> <p>Life is a matter of relativity and you cannot have ups without having downs. The problem with the Willpower Method of stopping is that as soon as the PMOer has a bad day he starts moping for his ‘harem’ visit and all that does is make a bad day worse. The non-PMOer is better equipped, not only physically but also mentally, to cope with the stresses and strains of life. If you have a bad day during the withdrawal period just take it on the chin. Remind yourself that you had bad days when you were addicted (otherwise you wouldn&rsquo;t have decided to stop). Instead of moping about it, say to yourself something like, “OK, today&rsquo;s not so good but masturbating is not going to cure it. Tomorrow will be better and at least I have got a marvellous bonus at the moment. I have kicked that awful PMO habit.”</p> <p>When you are a PMOer you have to block your mind to the bad side of PMO. PMOer never have brain fog just “a bit down.” When you are having life’s inevitable troubles you want to PMO but are you happy and cheerful? Of course you aren&rsquo;t. Once you stop, the tendency is to blame everything that goes wrong in your life on the fact that you have stopped.</p> <p>Now if your work stresses you out you think, “At times like this I would have PMOed.” That&rsquo;s true but the important thing you forget is that the PMO didn&rsquo;t solve the problem and you are simply punishing yourself by moping for an illusory crutch. You are creating an impossible situation. You are miserable because you can&rsquo;t have the porn and masturbation yet you&rsquo;ll be even more miserable if you do. You know that you have made the correct decision by stopping PMO so why punish yourself by ever doubting the decision?</p> @@ -3110,7 +3127,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:22:12 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-34-will-it-be-harder-for-me/ - <p>The combinations of factors that will determine how easily each individual PMOer will quit are infinite. To start with, each of us has his own character, type of work, personal circumstances, timing, etc. Certain professions may make it harder than others but providing the brainwashing is removed it doesn&rsquo;t have to be so. A few individual examples will help.</p> + <h2 id="will-it-be-harder-for-me">Will It Be Harder for Me? <a class="anchor" href="#will-it-be-harder-for-me"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The combinations of factors that will determine how easily each individual PMOer will quit are infinite. To start with, each of us has his own character, type of work, personal circumstances, timing, etc. Certain professions may make it harder than others but providing the brainwashing is removed it doesn&rsquo;t have to be so. A few individual examples will help.</p> <p>It tends to be particularly difficult for members of the medical profession. We think it should be easier for doctors because they are more aware of the effects of ill- health and are seeing daily evidence of it. Although this supplies more forceful reasons for stopping, it doesn&rsquo;t make it any easier to do. The reasons are these:</p> <ol> <li>The constant awareness of the health risks creates fear which is one of the conditions under which we need to relieve our withdrawal pangs.</li> @@ -3129,7 +3148,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:20:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-33-just-one-peek/ - <p>This is the undoing of many PMOers who try to stop on the Willpower Method. They will go through three or four days and then have the odd peek or a PMO or two to tide them over. They do not realize the devastating effect this has on their morale.</p> + <h2 id="just-one-peek">Just One Peek <a class="anchor" href="#just-one-peek"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is the undoing of many PMOers who try to stop on the Willpower Method. They will go through three or four days and then have the odd peek or a PMO or two to tide them over. They do not realize the devastating effect this has on their morale.</p> <p>For most PMOers that first peek at the tube site harem was not as good as sex with a real person. The clips that are clean are far in between. This gives their conscious minds a boost. They think, “Good. That wasn&rsquo;t entirely all that enjoyable. I am losing the urge to PMO and I am not that much into the shocking stuff.” In fact, the reverse is the case. Get it clear in your mind - enjoyment of orgasm wasn&rsquo;t the reason why you hit porn. If PMOers were there for orgasm alone, they&rsquo;d never watch more than one clip. The only reason why you PMO was to feed that little monster. Just think: you had starved him for four days. How precious that one peek must have been to him. You are not aware of it in your conscious mind but the fix your body received will be communicated to your subconscious mind and all your sound preparation will be undermined. There will be a little voice at the back of your mind saying, “In spite of all the logic they are precious. I want another one.”</p> <p>That little peek has two damaging effects:</p> <ol> @@ -3148,7 +3169,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:16:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-32-the-withdrawal-period/ - <p>For up to three weeks after your last PMO session you may be subjected to withdrawal pangs. These consist of two quite separate factors:</p> + <h2 id="the-withdrawal-period">The Withdrawal Period <a class="anchor" href="#the-withdrawal-period"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>For up to three weeks after your last PMO session you may be subjected to withdrawal pangs. These consist of two quite separate factors:</p> <ol> <li>The withdrawal pangs of dopamine, that empty, insecure feeling, like a hunger, which PMOers identify as a craving or “something I must to do” feeling.</li> <li>The psychological trigger of certain external stimuli such as a commercial, online browsing, a telephone conversation etc.</li> @@ -3178,12 +3201,14 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict - 03-31 the Easy Way to Stop + 03-31 The Easy Way to Stop https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-31-the-easy-way-to-stop/ Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:07:43 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-31-the-easy-way-to-stop/ - <p>This chapter contains instructions about the easy way to stop PMO. Providing you follow the instructions, you will find that stopping ranges from relatively easy to enjoyable! But remember the definition of a brunette: “a girl who didn&rsquo;t read the instructions on the bottle.” It is ridiculously easy to stop PMO. All you have to do is two things:</p> + <h2 id="the-easy-way-to-stop">The Easy Way to Stop <a class="anchor" href="#the-easy-way-to-stop"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This chapter contains instructions about the easy way to stop PMO. Providing you follow the instructions, you will find that stopping ranges from relatively easy to enjoyable! But remember the definition of a brunette: “a girl who didn&rsquo;t read the instructions on the bottle.” It is ridiculously easy to stop PMO. All you have to do is two things:</p> <ol> <li>Make the decision that you are never going to PMO again.</li> <li>Don&rsquo;t mope about it. Rejoice.</li> @@ -3197,8 +3222,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict <p>Basically I said to myself, “Scores of people are stopping now and leading perfectly happy lives. I didn&rsquo;t need to do it before I started and I can remember having to work hard to get used to this filth. So why do I need to do it now?” In any event I didn&rsquo;t enjoy PMO, I hated the whole filthy ritual and I didn&rsquo;t want to spend the rest of my life being the slave of this disgusting porn addiction.</p> <p>I then said to myself:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<p><strong>“WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT. YOU HAVE COMPLETED YOUR LAST PMO VISIT”</strong></p> -</div> +<h3 id="whether-you-like-it-or-not-you-have-completed-your-last-pmo-visit">“WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT. YOU HAVE COMPLETED YOUR LAST PMO VISIT” <a class="anchor" href="#whether-you-like-it-or-not-you-have-completed-your-last-pmo-visit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>I knew, right from that point, that I would never PMO again. I wasn&rsquo;t expecting it to be easy; in fact, just the reverse. I fully believed that I was in for months of black depression and that I would spend the rest of my life having the occasional pang. Instead it has been absolute bliss right from the start.</p> <p>It took me a long time to work out why it had been so easy and why this time I hadn&rsquo;t suffered those terrifying withdrawal pangs. The reason is that they do not exist. It is the doubt and uncertainty that causes the pangs. The beautiful truth is: IT IS EASY TO STOP PMO. It is only the indecision and moping about it that makes it difficult. Even while they are addicted to porn, PMOers can go for relatively long periods at certain times in their lives without bothering about it. It is only when you want it but can&rsquo;t have one that you suffer.</p> <p>Therefore the key to making it easy is to make stopping certain and final. Not to hope but to know you have kicked it, having made the decision. Never to doubt or question it. In fact, just the reverse - always to rejoice about it. If you can be certain from the start, it will be easy. But how can you be certain from the start unless you know it is going to be easy? This is why the rest of the book is necessary. There are certain essential points and it is necessary to get them clear in your mind before you start:</p> @@ -3233,7 +3259,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:05:14 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-30-avoid-false-incentives/ - <p>Many PMOers, while trying to stop on the Willpower Method, attempt to increase their motivation by building up false incentives. There are many examples of this, a typical one is, “I will reward myself with a gift after no-PMO for a month.” This appears to be a logical and sensible approach but in fact it is false because any self-respecting PMOer would rather continue PMOing every day than receive a “self given gift.” In any case there is a doubt in the PMOer’s mind because not only will she have to abstain for thirty days but will she even enjoy the days without a PMO? Her only pleasure or crutch is taken away! All this does is to increase the size of the sacrifice that the PMOer feels she is making, which makes it even more precious in her mind.</p> + <h2 id="avoid-false-incentives">Avoid False Incentives <a class="anchor" href="#avoid-false-incentives"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Many PMOers, while trying to stop on the Willpower Method, attempt to increase their motivation by building up false incentives. There are many examples of this, a typical one is, “I will reward myself with a gift after no-PMO for a month.” This appears to be a logical and sensible approach but in fact it is false because any self-respecting PMOer would rather continue PMOing every day than receive a “self given gift.” In any case there is a doubt in the PMOer’s mind because not only will she have to abstain for thirty days but will she even enjoy the days without a PMO? Her only pleasure or crutch is taken away! All this does is to increase the size of the sacrifice that the PMOer feels she is making, which makes it even more precious in her mind.</p> <p>Other examples: “I&rsquo;ll stop PMO so that I will force myself to get a social life and seek more sex in real life” OR “I’ll stop so some magical energy will help me to leap above the competitors and get this woman I pursue” OR “I commit to not waste my energy and enthusiasm in PMO, so I can grow enough hunger in myself.” These are true and can be effective and you may end up getting what you want. But think about it for a second - if you do get what you had wanted, once the novelty has gone you will feel deprived - if you didn’t then you will feel miserable and either way sooner or later you will fall for the trap again.</p> <p>Another typical example is online or forum pacts. These have the advantage of eliminating temptation for certain periods. However, they generally fail for the following reasons:</p> <ol> @@ -3244,9 +3272,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict </ol> <p>Stop kidding yourself. If the job offer that I mentioned before, of 10 months work for 12 months salary a year won&rsquo;t stop him. Or if the risks of cutting down your brain’s capacity to cope with just any normal day-to-day stress and strains or if putting yourself at odds with having a reliable erection, or if the lifetime of mental and physical torture and slavery did not stop him or her - the above said few phoney incentives will not make the slightest bit of difference. They will only make the sacrifice appear worse. Instead concentrate on the other side:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"><strong>“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?”</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"> +<h2 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo">“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?” <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> +</a></h2></div> <p>Keep looking at the other side of the tug of war. What is PMOing doing for me? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Why do I need to do it? YOU DON&rsquo;T! YOU ARE ONLY PUNISHING YOURSELF. Try looking at it from the Pascal’s Wager perspective. You have almost nothing to lose (a rub-out with half arousals) for sure, chances of big profits (a full and reliable arousal, mental well being and happiness) and no chance of losing big (unreliable full arousals, premature ejaculations, fading penetrations, loss of general impulse controls, lower tolerance for frustrations and anger).</p> <p>Why not declare your quitting to friends and family? Well, it will make you a proud ex-addict, ex-PMOer, not an elated and happy non-PMOer. It will scare your partner a bit since they may see this as an effort to have more sex, sort of a new-age thing. They may also fear to lose you if this turns you into sex machine. It is hard to explain to them unless they are open minded.</p> <p>Any attempt to get others to help you in your quitting gives more power to the little monster of addiction. Pushing it from your mind and totally ignoring it has the effect of trying NOT to think of it. As soon as you spot the thoughts, when you hit the cues (home alone) or just absent minded thoughts - just say to yourself: “Great, I don’t have to do it like a slave animal. I am free. I am happy to know the differences in sex.” This will cut the life of the thought and will deny oxygen to it and will stop it from burning towards urges and cravings.</p> @@ -3259,7 +3287,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:03:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-29-can-i-compartmentalize/ - <p>This is another myth about PMOing spread mainly by PMOers who, when attempting to stop on the Willpower Method, substitute mental gymnastics - they propose to act -Jekyll and Hyde: “Porn is for my alter ego side and real life romance is for my relationship side.” Nothing is further from the truth. The porn waterslides - the deltaFosBs and all the brain changes are going to overrun the real life romance and will make it less desirable. Mr Hyde is most definitely going to overrule Dr. Jekyll’s instructions.</p> + <h2 id="can-i-compartmentalize">Can I Compartmentalize? <a class="anchor" href="#can-i-compartmentalize"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is another myth about PMOing spread mainly by PMOers who, when attempting to stop on the Willpower Method, substitute mental gymnastics - they propose to act -Jekyll and Hyde: “Porn is for my alter ego side and real life romance is for my relationship side.” Nothing is further from the truth. The porn waterslides - the deltaFosBs and all the brain changes are going to overrun the real life romance and will make it less desirable. Mr Hyde is most definitely going to overrule Dr. Jekyll’s instructions.</p> <p>If you use internet porn, you may be training yourself for the role of voyeur or to need the option of clicking to something more arousing at the least drop in your dopamine levels, or to search and search for just the right scene for maximum effect. Also, you may be masturbating in a hunched-over position – or watching your smartphone in bed nightly. You will eventually desire those cues more than the real life action. The thing that goes against real sex is the lack of novelty, variety, ‘harem’ like 24/7 quick delivery etc. and so it stands no chance compared to your online harem. The younger you were when you started on PMO the longer to rewire and break down those ‘porn water slides’ and get back those ‘real water slides’ if there were any from the past or create new ones. Also powerful and lasting are the associated memories from when you were young.</p> <p>Every time you take a ride on the ‘porn water slide’ you are ‘greasing’ it - keeping the nerves fresh. When you park next to a fast food restaurant the smell of the fries floats from the pan into your nostrils and the sale was already made. Likewise, the porn water slides in your brain are there for you to get sucked in and they are open 24 hours a day. Each of these cues, or triggers, can now light up your reward circuit with the promise of sex&hellip; only it isn&rsquo;t sex. Nevertheless, nerve cells may solidify these associations with sexual arousal by sprouting new branches to strengthen the connections. The more you use porn the stronger the nerve connections can become, with the result that you may ultimately need to be a voyeur, need to click to new material, need to climax to porn to get to sleep, or need to search for the perfect ending just to get the job done.</p> <p>As with any substance or behavioural drug, after a while the body becomes immune and the “drug” ceases to relieve the withdrawal pangs completely. As soon as we close a session, the addict wants another one very soon and he has a permanent hunger. The natural inclination is eventually to ‘escalate’ just to get the dopamine rush. However, most PMOers are prevented from doing this for one, or both, of two reasons.</p> @@ -3279,7 +3309,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:01:03 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-28-will-i-miss-the-fun/ - <p>No! Once that little porn monster is dead and your body stops craving dopamine and the porn water slides in your brain start to fade due to lack of ‘greasing’, any remaining brainwashing will vanish and you will find yourself both physically and mentally better equipped not only to cope with the stresses and strains of life but to enjoy the good times to the full.</p> + <h2 id="will-i-miss-the-fun">Will I Miss the Fun? <a class="anchor" href="#will-i-miss-the-fun"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>No! Once that little porn monster is dead and your body stops craving dopamine and the porn water slides in your brain start to fade due to lack of ‘greasing’, any remaining brainwashing will vanish and you will find yourself both physically and mentally better equipped not only to cope with the stresses and strains of life but to enjoy the good times to the full.</p> <p>There is only one danger and that is the influence of those who still use sex as their lying crutch and damned pleasure. “The other man&rsquo;s grass is always greener,” is commonplace in many aspects of our lives and is easily understandable. Why is it in the case of PMOing, where the disadvantages are so enormous as compared with even the illusory ‘advantages,’ that the ex-PMOer tend to envy the man or woman who appears to demand sex and use porn for pleasure and a crutch?</p> <p>With all the brainwashing of our childhood it is quite understandable that we fall into the trap. Why is it that, once we realize what a mug&rsquo;s game it is and many of us manage to kick the habit, we walk straight back into the same trap? It is the influence of society&rsquo;s brainwashing of porn being conflated with sex and presented as normal. The ex-PMOer has a pang! The insecure void feelings of them being single, which in itself is not a crime anyway, causes anxiety and cues them to PMO water slide. This is indeed a curious anomaly, particularly if you consider this piece of observation: not only is every non-PMOer in the world happy to be a non-PMOer but every PMOer in the world, even with his warped, addicted, brainwashed mind suffering the delusion that he enjoys it or it relaxes him, wishes he had never become hooked in the first place. So why do some ex-PMOers envy the PMOer on these occasions? There are two reasons.</p> <ol> @@ -3310,7 +3342,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:55:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-27-timing/ - <p>Apart from the obvious point that as it is doing you no good, now is the right time to stop. I believe timing is important. Our society treats internet porn flippantly as a slightly distasteful habit that can not injure your health. It is not. It is drug addiction, a disease and a destroyer of relationships in society. The worst thing that happens in most PMOer’s lives is getting hooked on that awful addiction. If they stay hooked, horrendous things happen. Timing is important to give yourself the right to a proper cure.</p> + <h2 id="timing">Timing <a class="anchor" href="#timing"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Apart from the obvious point that as it is doing you no good, now is the right time to stop. I believe timing is important. Our society treats internet porn flippantly as a slightly distasteful habit that can not injure your health. It is not. It is drug addiction, a disease and a destroyer of relationships in society. The worst thing that happens in most PMOer’s lives is getting hooked on that awful addiction. If they stay hooked, horrendous things happen. Timing is important to give yourself the right to a proper cure.</p> <p>First of all, identify the times or occasions when PMO appears to be important to you. If you are a businessman and use it for the illusion of relief of stress, pick a relatively slack period; a good idea is to choose your annual holiday. If you PMO mainly during boring or relaxing periods, weekends etc. do the opposite. In any event, take the matter seriously and make the attempt the most important thing in your life.</p> <p>Look ahead for a period of about three weeks and try to anticipate any event that might lead to failure. Occasions like a conference trip, partner out of town etc. need not deter you, providing you anticipate them in advance and do not feel you will be deprived. Do not attempt to cut down in the meantime as this will only create the illusion that being denied is enjoyable. In fact, it helps to force yourself to watch and have as many PMO sessions as possible. While you are having the last session and that last time, be conscious of the disappointment due to satiation, unfulfilled expectations (porn can never satisfy you), any bodily pain or pain in the genitals, the withdrawal effects, the peevishness and the melancholy. Think how marvellous it will be when you allow yourself to stop doing it.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> @@ -3347,7 +3381,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:54:03 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-26-a-social-habit/ - <p>Health of mind and body are the main reason why we should want to stop but then they always have been. We do not actually need scientific research and knowledge in brain chemistry to tell us that internet porn is addictive and can potentially shatter our lives. These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on the planet and any PMOer knows instantly, from the first session, that the stimulus can go to excess and it can turn poisonous.</p> + <h2 id="a-social-habit">A Social Habit? <a class="anchor" href="#a-social-habit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Health of mind and body are the main reason why we should want to stop but then they always have been. We do not actually need scientific research and knowledge in brain chemistry to tell us that internet porn is addictive and can potentially shatter our lives. These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on the planet and any PMOer knows instantly, from the first session, that the stimulus can go to excess and it can turn poisonous.</p> <p>The only reason why we ever get involved with internet porn is the PMO’s overlap with their evolutionary brain programming. Porn is available for free and it gets streamed 24 hours a day. No risk and no traces and with very high brain rewards. Porn was once considered as harmless but that was when the images were static and involved a trip to the local store for a VHS tape.</p> <p>Today it is generally considered even by PMOers themselves to be a supra-stimulus and addiction forming. In the old days, the strong man did not admit he masturbated. Jerk is a derogatory term. In every pub or club bar the majority of men would be proudly wanting to take a woman home and have real sex. Today the position is completely reversed for the internet porn addicts. Today&rsquo;s man realizes that he is starting to feel that he doesn&rsquo;t need a woman. This scares him. He bands together online and starts discussing experiences, devise strategies and explore options. Today&rsquo;s strong man does not want to depend on drugs. With the social revolution all PMOers nowadays are giving serious thought to stopping internet porn and masturbation. Today&rsquo;s PMOers consider PMO as an useless and harmful activity.</p> <p>The most significant trend that I have noticed in forums is the increasing emphasis on the anti-social aspect of PMOing. The days when a man boasted of having sex and orgasms every day is slowly getting replaced with, “why do I need to be a slave for this porn monster when I know ‘it’ is controlling my wand (and mind)?”</p> @@ -3365,7 +3401,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:51:35 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-25-the-youtube-pmoer/ - <p>The YouTube PMOer should be grouped with casual PMOers but the effects of a YouTube PMOer are so insidious that it merits a separate chapter. It can lead to the breakdown of personal self control. In one case it nearly caused a split for a No-Fap forum user.</p> + <h2 id="the-youtube-pmoer">The YouTube PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-youtube-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The YouTube PMOer should be grouped with casual PMOers but the effects of a YouTube PMOer are so insidious that it merits a separate chapter. It can lead to the breakdown of personal self control. In one case it nearly caused a split for a No-Fap forum user.</p> <blockquote> <p><em>“I was three weeks into one of my failed attempts to stop. The attempt had been triggered off by my wife&rsquo;s worry about my unreliable hard-ons and lack of interest. I had told her that it was not her and it was just job pressure. She said, &lsquo;I know you had handled the work pressure before but how would you feel if you were me and had to watch someone you love systematically destroying themselves?’ It was an argument that I found irresistible, hence the attempt to stop. She knows that I am not cheating - but this in a way is as worse as that (sic). The attempt ended after three weeks after a heated argument with an old friend. It did not register until years afterwards that my devious mind had deliberately triggered off the argument. I felt justly aggrieved at the time but I do not believe that it was coincidence, as I had never argued with this particular friend before, nor have I since. It was clearly the little monster at work. Anyway, I had my excuse. I desperately needed a release of orgasm and it doesn’t matter how. As it happens she was not in the mood right away and I was in an “entitlement” hurry. So I convinced myself that it is OK if I ‘restrict’ myself by avoiding a porn site and just stay this side of the ‘red line’ and watch only YouTube videos. But she ‘came around’ as the night unfolded and wanted to make love. But I was tired and not with all my ‘horsepower.’ I then invented a headache. I could not bear to think of the disappointment this would cause my wife. Then gradually I returned to the old ways, only YouTube became my new harem destination. I remember being quite pleased at the time. I thought, &lsquo;well, at least it is cutting my consumption down;’ Eventually she accused me of continuing to ignore her in the bed. I had not realized it but she described the times I had caused an argument and stormed out of the house. At other times I had taken two hours to purchase some minor item and faked a sprain or something. I had made feeble excuses to cop out of the whole wooing her and etc. when I have a reliable online harem it is even more hard.”</em></p> </blockquote> @@ -3385,7 +3423,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:40:22 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-24-casual-pmoers-teenagers-non-pmoers/ - <p>Heavy PMOers tend to envy the casual porn user. We&rsquo;ve all met these characters: “Oh, I can go all week without a PMO, it really doesn&rsquo;t bother me.” We think: “I wish I were like that!” I know this is hard to believe but no PMOer enjoys being a PMOer. Never forget:</p> + <h2 id="casual-pmoers-teenagers-non-pmoers">Casual PMOers, Teenagers, Non PMOers <a class="anchor" href="#casual-pmoers-teenagers-non-pmoers"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Heavy PMOers tend to envy the casual porn user. We&rsquo;ve all met these characters: “Oh, I can go all week without a PMO, it really doesn&rsquo;t bother me.” We think: “I wish I were like that!” I know this is hard to believe but no PMOer enjoys being a PMOer. Never forget:</p> <ul> <li>No PMOer ever decided to become a PMOer casual or otherwise, therefore:</li> <li>All PMOers feel stupid, therefore:</li> @@ -3423,7 +3463,7 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> </a></h3><p>(Or, “I can stop whenever I want to. I have done it thousands of times”). If he thinks dieting helps with his moods to ‘get out to get women,’ why is he even on the diet of once every four days? How can one predict the future, what if the happenstance of meeting occurred just an hour after your scheduled PMO session? Also, if he thinks this occasional “cleaning the plumbing” is good to relieve tension and relax why not plumb every day? It has been proven that masturbation is not required to keep the genitals healthy. Internet porn is not required at all. Even if that may be the case, any PUA guru who has read about the brain chemistry and its plasticity will never recommend watching super stimulus porn. The truth is he is still hooked. Although he gets rid of the physical addiction, he is left with the main problem - the brainwashing. He hopes each time that he will stop for good and soon falls for the same trap again.</p> <p>Many PMOers actually envy these stoppers and starters. They think, “how lucky to be able to control it like that, to do PMO when you want to and stop when you want to,” What they always overlook is that these stoppers and starters aren&rsquo;t controlling it. When they are PMOers, they wish they weren&rsquo;t. They go through the hassle of stopping, then begin to feel deprived and fall for the trap again, then wish they hadn&rsquo;t. They get the worst of both worlds. If you think about it, this is true in the lives of the PMOers. When we are allowed to PMO we either take it as entitled or wish we didn&rsquo;t. It&rsquo;s only when we can&rsquo;t have PMO that it appears to be so precious. The ‘forbidden fruit syndrome’. This is the awful dilemma of PMOers. They can never win because they are moping for a myth, an illusion. There is one way they can win and that is to stop PMOing and stop moping!</p> -<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC/TAME/HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer"> +<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-static--tame--home-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC / TAME / HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-only-pmo-to-static--tame--home-made-porn-pmoer"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> </a></h3><p>Yes, we all do it to start with but isn&rsquo;t it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner&rsquo;s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes&hellip; you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one.</p> <h3 id="the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer">THE I-HAVE-STOPPED-BUT-I-HAVE-AN-OCCASIONAL-PEEK PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer"> @@ -3471,7 +3511,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:35:22 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-23-just-one-peek/ - <p>“Just one peek” is a myth you must get out of your mind:</p> + <h2 id="just-one-peek">Just One Peek <a class="anchor" href="#just-one-peek"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>“Just one peek” is a myth you must get out of your mind:</p> <ul> <li>It is just one peek that gets us started in the first place.</li> <li>It is just one peek to tide us over a difficult patch or on a special occasion that defeats most of our attempts to stop.</li> @@ -3510,7 +3552,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:28:58 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-22-beware-of-cutting-down/ - <p>Many PMOers resort to cutting down either as a stepping-stone towards stopping or as an attempt to control the little monster. Many recommend cutting down or a ‘porn diet’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> as a pick-me-up. Obviously, the less you PMO the better off you are but as a stepping-stone to stopping, cutting down is fatal. It is these attempts to cut down that keep us trapped all our lives.</p> + <h2 id="beware-of-cutting-down">Beware of Cutting Down <a class="anchor" href="#beware-of-cutting-down"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Many PMOers resort to cutting down either as a stepping-stone towards stopping or as an attempt to control the little monster. Many recommend cutting down or a ‘porn diet’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> as a pick-me-up. Obviously, the less you PMO the better off you are but as a stepping-stone to stopping, cutting down is fatal. It is these attempts to cut down that keep us trapped all our lives.</p> <p>Usually cutting down follows failed attempts to stop. After a few hours or days of abstinence the PMOer says to himself something like:</p> <blockquote> <p><em>“I cannot face the thought of going to sleep without visiting my online harem, so from now on I will just PMO once in four days or I will purge my collection of ‘bad’ porn. If I can follow this ‘porn diet’, I can either hold it there or cut down further.”</em></p> @@ -3561,12 +3605,14 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p - 03-21 the Willpower Method of Stopping + 03-21 The Willpower Method of Stopping https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-21-the-willpower-method-of-stopping/ Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:20:42 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-21-the-willpower-method-of-stopping/ - <p>It is an accepted fact in our society that it is very difficult to stop PMO. Even books and forums advising you how to do so usually start off by telling you how difficult it is. The truth is that it is ridiculously easy. Yes, I can understand you questioning that statement but just consider it. If your aim is to run a mile in under four minutes, that&rsquo;s difficult. You may have to undergo years of hard training and even then you may be physically incapable of doing it. (Much of our achievement lies in the mind. Isn&rsquo;t it strange how difficult it was until Roger Bannister actually did it but nowadays it is commonplace?).</p> + <h2 id="the-willpower-method-of-stopping">The Willpower Method of Stopping <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method-of-stopping"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>It is an accepted fact in our society that it is very difficult to stop PMO. Even books and forums advising you how to do so usually start off by telling you how difficult it is. The truth is that it is ridiculously easy. Yes, I can understand you questioning that statement but just consider it. If your aim is to run a mile in under four minutes, that&rsquo;s difficult. You may have to undergo years of hard training and even then you may be physically incapable of doing it. (Much of our achievement lies in the mind. Isn&rsquo;t it strange how difficult it was until Roger Bannister actually did it but nowadays it is commonplace?).</p> <p>However, in order to stop PMOing all you have to do is not watch internet porn and or masturbate any more. No one forces you to masturbate (apart from yourself) and unlike food or drink, you don&rsquo;t need it to survive. So if you want to stop doing it, why should it be difficult? In fact, it isn&rsquo;t. It is PMOers who make it difficult by using the Willpower Method. I define the Willpower Method as any method that forces the PMOer to feel he is making some sort of sacrifice. Let us just consider the Willpower Method.</p> <p>We do not decide to become PMOers. We merely experiment with porn magazines or websites and because they are awful, yes that is right – awful - except for our desired clip, we are convinced that we can stop whenever we want to. In the main, we watch those first few clips only when we want to and that is usually on special occasions. Before we realize it, we are not only visiting those sites regularly and masturbating when we want to, we are masturbating to them every day. PMO has become a part of our lives. We then ensure that we always have an internet connection wherever we go. We believe that we are entitled to love, sex and orgasms - and also that porn helps to relieve stress. It doesn&rsquo;t seem to occur to us that the same clip and actors do not provide us the same degree of arousal and that we are either escalating or fighting against the ‘red line’ we have put around ourselves to avoid harmful “bad porn.” In fact, masturbation and internet porn neither improves our sex life nor does it relieve stress, it&rsquo;s just that PMOers believe they can&rsquo;t enjoy life or handle stress without an orgasm - even mind induced porn orgasms. Because that is what many times we are doing.</p> <p>It usually takes us a long time to realize that we are hooked because we suffer from the illusion that PMOers masturbate because they enjoy porn - not because they have to have porn - a need. While we are not “enjoying” porn (which we can never do unless novelty, shock or escalation is added), we suffer from the illusion that we can stop whenever we want to. This is a confidence trap. I don’t enjoy porn, so I am sure I can stop when I want to. Only that you never seem to ‘want’ to stop though.</p> @@ -3630,7 +3676,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:18:55 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-20-those-sinister-black-shadows/ - <p>Another of the great joys of quitting porn is to be free of those sinister black shadows at the back of our minds. All PMOers know they are fools to close their minds on the ill-effects of PMO. For most of our lives PMO is automatic but the black shadows are always lurking in our subconscious minds, just beneath the surface. There are several marvellous advantages to achieve from quitting PMO. Some of them I was consciously aware of throughout my life, such as the health risks, the waste of time and the sheer stupidity of making love to a two dimensional image. However, such was my fear of quitting, so obsessed was I in resisting all the attempts of do-gooders and anyone else who tried to persuade me to quit, that all my imagination and energy was directed to finding any flimsy excuse that would allow me to continue to PMO.</p> + <h2 id="those-sinister-black-shadows">Those Sinister Black Shadows <a class="anchor" href="#those-sinister-black-shadows"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Another of the great joys of quitting porn is to be free of those sinister black shadows at the back of our minds. All PMOers know they are fools to close their minds on the ill-effects of PMO. For most of our lives PMO is automatic but the black shadows are always lurking in our subconscious minds, just beneath the surface. There are several marvellous advantages to achieve from quitting PMO. Some of them I was consciously aware of throughout my life, such as the health risks, the waste of time and the sheer stupidity of making love to a two dimensional image. However, such was my fear of quitting, so obsessed was I in resisting all the attempts of do-gooders and anyone else who tried to persuade me to quit, that all my imagination and energy was directed to finding any flimsy excuse that would allow me to continue to PMO.</p> <p>Amazingly, my most ingenious thoughts occurred when I was actually trying to quit. They were of course inspired by the fear and misery I suffered when attempting to quit by using willpower. No way could I block my mind from the health and sexual aspects. But now that I am free it amazes me how I successfully blocked my mind from even more important advantages to be gained from quitting. I&rsquo;ve already mentioned the sheer slavery - spending half of our lives being allowed to PMO, doing it automatically and wishing we had never started, the other half feeling miserable and deprived because the knowledge of the destructive effects of internet porn won&rsquo;t allow us to PMO. In the last chapter I&rsquo;ve referred to the incredible joy of having energy again. But for me the greatest joy of being free was not the health, the time, the energy, or the ending of the slavery, it was the removal of those sinister black shadows, the removal of feeling despised by and feeling apologetic to myself and to other quitters, and most of all to be able to respect yourself.</p> <p>Most PMOers aren&rsquo;t the weak-willed, spineless jellyfish that both society and themselves tend to believe. In every other aspect of my life I was in control. I loathed myself for being dependent on an evil crutch that I knew was ruining my life. I cannot tell you of the utter joy of being free of those sinister black shadows, the dependency and the self-despising. I can&rsquo;t tell you how nice it is to be able to look at all other users, whether they be young, old, casual or heavy, not with a feeling of envy, but with a feeling of pity for them and elation for yourself that you are no longer the slave of that insidious trap. The other day I felt pity for the guy on a TV show who was so excited to get to watch porn - another case of society slipping one in your drink under the pretence of comedy.</p> <p>The last two chapters have dealt with the considerable advantages of being a non-PMOer. I feel it necessary to give a balanced account, so the next chapter lists the advantages of being a PMOer.</p> @@ -3643,7 +3691,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:16:17 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-19-it-relaxes-me-and-gives-me-confidence/ - <p>This is the worst fallacy of all about PMOing and for me it ranks with the ending of the slavery, the greatest benefit from quitting - is not to have to go through life with the permanent feelings of insecurity that PMOers suffer from.</p> + <h2 id="it-relaxes-me-and-gives-me-confidence">It Relaxes Me and Gives Me Confidence <a class="anchor" href="#it-relaxes-me-and-gives-me-confidence"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is the worst fallacy of all about PMOing and for me it ranks with the ending of the slavery, the greatest benefit from quitting - is not to have to go through life with the permanent feelings of insecurity that PMOers suffer from.</p> <p>PMOers find it very difficult to believe that masturbation to internet porn actually causes those insecure feelings you get when you are out late at night after a contentious day at home or work. Non-PMOers do not suffer from that feeling. It is the porn that causes it. I only became aware of many of the advantages of stopping months afterwards, as a result of my consultations with other PMOers.</p> <p>I refused to see my PMO as causing so much of the mental tug of war in my mind that I am foolishly working hard to have nominal levels of confidence in my day to day life. Forget about getting an erection, I am talking about focusing, taking challenges, fighting, choosing, deciding - actions that define our lives. Especially when we are often forced to act when the facts are not clear. Come to think of it, facts were and will never be clear and hence it is to our great advantage anyway to act.</p> <p>Also of note is in dating area as well, the fire to go forward is being misappropriated to this ‘high reward zero pain’ porn. If you have read some top PUA books and forums, what do they say? Go on a ‘diet<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>’? Yes of course when you have the good hunger your internal juices and your brain will do the rest. Copping out is not an option at all. Playing the numbers is not tiresome by no means. All PUA advice in a nut-shell is this - try more numbers. Even if your approach is wrong you will be right twice a day like a broken clock. But if your mind is fighting a tug of war with effortless easy access to a harem of online women, how would you get back on your feet when that girl ignores you? Oh, if it was a public outright rejection I am running, not walking, to my porn girlfriend.</p> @@ -3665,7 +3715,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:12:56 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-18-energy/ - <p>Most PMOers are aware of the effect that this progressive process of PMO, leading to novelty and escalation seeking, has on their brain’s reward circuits and their sexual system. However, they are not so aware of the effect it has on their energy level.</p> + <h2 id="energy">Energy <a class="anchor" href="#energy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Most PMOers are aware of the effect that this progressive process of PMO, leading to novelty and escalation seeking, has on their brain’s reward circuits and their sexual system. However, they are not so aware of the effect it has on their energy level.</p> <p>One of the subtleties of the PMO trap is that the effects it has on us, both physical and mental, happen so gradually and imperceptibly that we are not aware of them and regard them as normal. It is very similar to the effects of bad eating habits. The pot-belly appears so gradually that it causes us no alarm. We look at people who are grossly overweight and wonder how they could possibly have allowed themselves to reach that state.</p> <p>But supposing it happened overnight. You went to bed weighing 140 lbs, trim, rippling with muscles and not an ounce of fat on your body. You awoke weighing 180 lbs, fat, bloated and pot-bellied. Instead of waking up feeling fully rested and full of energy, you wake up feeling miserable, lethargic and you can hardly open your eyes. You would be panic-stricken, wondering what awful disease you had contracted overnight. Yet the disease is exactly the same.</p> <p>The fact that it took you twenty years to reach that state is irrelevant. So it is with PMOing. If I could immediately transfer you into your mind and body to give you a direct comparison on how you would feel having stopped internet porn for just three weeks, that is all I would need to do to persuade you to quit. You would think: “Will I really feel this good?” Or what it really amounts to: “Had I really sunk that low?” I emphasize that I don&rsquo;t just mean that you would feel healthier and have more energy but how you would also feel more confident and relaxed and better able to concentrate.</p> @@ -3683,7 +3735,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 12:12:31 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-17-health/ - <p>This is the area where the brainwashing is the greatest. PMOers, especially the young and single, think they are aware of the health risks. They are not. Even in my case, when I was expecting my head to explode any moment and honestly believed I was prepared to accept the consequences, I was still kidding myself. I didn&rsquo;t in those days have an app that started a red beeper to flash and sound every time my internet router hits a porn site, followed by a warning voice saying, “OK, this is the one!” Fortunately you do get a warning, and this is it. That warning would say, “Up to now you have got away with it but if you stay another minute your head will explode,” do you think I would have PMOed?</p> + <h2 id="health">Health <a class="anchor" href="#health"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is the area where the brainwashing is the greatest. PMOers, especially the young and single, think they are aware of the health risks. They are not. Even in my case, when I was expecting my head to explode any moment and honestly believed I was prepared to accept the consequences, I was still kidding myself. I didn&rsquo;t in those days have an app that started a red beeper to flash and sound every time my internet router hits a porn site, followed by a warning voice saying, “OK, this is the one!” Fortunately you do get a warning, and this is it. That warning would say, “Up to now you have got away with it but if you stay another minute your head will explode,” do you think I would have PMOed?</p> <p>If you are in doubt about the answer just try walking up to a cliff, stand on the edge with your eyes closed and imagine you then have the choice of either quitting PMO or walking up blindfolded before your next PMO.</p> <p>There is no doubt what your choice would be. I had been doing what every internet porn PMOer does all his life: closing my mind and keeping my head in the sand, hoping that I would wake up one morning and just not want to PMO any more. PMOers cannot allow themselves to think of the health risks. If they do, even the illusion of enjoying the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; goes.</p> <p>This explains why a shock treatment is so ineffective in the first stages of quitting. It is only non-users who can bring themselves to read the destructive brain changes. It also explains why PMOers, influenced by their little monster, wrongly recall that filthy room mate who PMOed everyday and was still remaining ‘horny’ 24 hours a day – they will ignore the thousands of people who are brought “down” in their prime because of this poisonous ‘habit’.</p> @@ -3794,7 +3848,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 12:08:55 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-16-i-will-save-x-hours-a-week/ - <p>I cannot repeat too often that it is brainwashing that makes it difficult to stop PMOing. So, the + <h2 id="i-will-save-x-hours-a-week">I Will Save X Hours a Week <a class="anchor" href="#i-will-save-x-hours-a-week"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>I cannot repeat too often that it is brainwashing that makes it difficult to stop PMOing. So, the more brainwashing we can dispel before we start, the easier you will find it to achieve your goal. Occasionally I get into arguments with people whom I call “confirmed PMOers.” By my definition a confirmed PMOer is somebody who doesn&rsquo;t believe PMO has any negative effect on his health @@ -3831,7 +3887,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 12:06:39 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-15-self-imposed-slavery/ - <p>Usually when PMOers try to stop the main reasons given are health, religion and partner stigma. Part of the brainwashing of this awful drug is the sheer slavery. Man fought hard in the last century to abolish slavery and yet the PMOer spends his life suffering self-imposed slavery. He seems to be oblivious to the fact that when he is allowed to PMO he wishes that he were a non-PMOer. With most of the masturbation we do in our lives, not only do we not enjoy them but we aren&rsquo;t even aware that we are masturbating. It is only after a period of abstinence that we actually suffer the delusion of enjoying PMO (e.g. the first day after a 4 day abstinence with the intent of rebooting etc.). The only time that the porn becomes precious is when we are &rsquo;trying&rsquo; to cut down or abstain or when abstinence is forced on us (e.g. when on a business trips, holiday trips to locations where the Internet is not available and so on).</p> + <h2 id="self-imposed-slavery">Self-Imposed Slavery <a class="anchor" href="#self-imposed-slavery"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Usually when PMOers try to stop the main reasons given are health, religion and partner stigma. Part of the brainwashing of this awful drug is the sheer slavery. Man fought hard in the last century to abolish slavery and yet the PMOer spends his life suffering self-imposed slavery. He seems to be oblivious to the fact that when he is allowed to PMO he wishes that he were a non-PMOer. With most of the masturbation we do in our lives, not only do we not enjoy them but we aren&rsquo;t even aware that we are masturbating. It is only after a period of abstinence that we actually suffer the delusion of enjoying PMO (e.g. the first day after a 4 day abstinence with the intent of rebooting etc.). The only time that the porn becomes precious is when we are &rsquo;trying&rsquo; to cut down or abstain or when abstinence is forced on us (e.g. when on a business trips, holiday trips to locations where the Internet is not available and so on).</p> <p>The confirmed PMOer should bear in mind that more studies and even more people are coming out and talking about the ill effects of internet porn. This trend will get “worse and worse.” Today, it is non-medical people talking. Tomorrow, it will be in your doctor’s list of diagnostic tests to perform. Gone are the days when the PMOer can hide behind “just a bit of downtime due to work stress” in his or her sex life. Your partner is going to ask you why you are on your laptop at this time too late into the night. The poor PMOer, who was already feeling wretched, wants the ground to open up and swallow him.</p> <p>I remember every time my partner stayed up late it was an ordeal waiting to open up my laptop. When on business trips the dinner with the clients and colleagues dragged on or was I just going through the natural ups and downs in human interactions? What was I doing? I was thinking, “let&rsquo;s get on with it, so that I can get over with this and go to my room for some porn.” I have thought many times, “am I not lucky? I have got my little reward. The poor non-PMOer with no internet access somewhere in an Amish village hasn&rsquo;t got a reward.” The &lsquo;poor&rsquo; non-PMOer doesn&rsquo;t need a reward. We were not designed to go through life systematically flooding our brains with dopamine and opioids. The pathetic thing is that even when masturbating with internet porn the PMOer doesn&rsquo;t achieve those feelings of peace, confidence and tranquillity that the non-PMOer has experienced for the whole of his non-PMO life. The non-PMOer isn&rsquo;t sitting in the family room, feeling agitated and wishing his life away. He can enjoy the whole of his life.</p> <p>No, this wasn&rsquo;t a fourteen-year-old schoolboy but a forty-year-old professional. How pathetic. I wouldn&rsquo;t admit to myself that I wasn&rsquo;t enjoying it. I was looking for the right clip and/or pictures to reach orgasm or better, edge forever. I don&rsquo;t know what I am supposed to be &lsquo;watching&rsquo; sometimes. That is the confusing part. The &rsquo;edging&rsquo; and then the orgasm floods my brain. Yet this was supposed to be my way of relaxing and enjoying my “favourite hobby.”</p> @@ -3845,7 +3903,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:49:35 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-14-what-am-i-giving-up/ - <p>ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! The thing that makes it difficult for us to give up is fear. The fear that we are being deprived of our pleasure or prop. The fear that certain pleasant situations will never be quite the same again. The fear of being unable to cope with stressful situations. In other words, the effect of brainwashing is to delude us into believing that sex and by extension orgasm, is a must for all human beings. Or that there is something inherent in Internet porn that we need and that when we stop PMOing we will be self-denying ourselves and there will be a void.</p> + <h2 id="what-am-i-giving-up">What Am I Giving Up? <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-giving-up"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! The thing that makes it difficult for us to give up is fear. The fear that we are being deprived of our pleasure or prop. The fear that certain pleasant situations will never be quite the same again. The fear of being unable to cope with stressful situations. In other words, the effect of brainwashing is to delude us into believing that sex and by extension orgasm, is a must for all human beings. Or that there is something inherent in Internet porn that we need and that when we stop PMOing we will be self-denying ourselves and there will be a void.</p> <blockquote> <p>Get it clear in your mind:</p> </blockquote> @@ -3866,18 +3926,14 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> </blockquote> <p>These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on this planet. Whether you believe in a creator, a process of natural selection or a combination of both, whatever being or system devised these bodies of ours, it is a thousand times more effective than man! Man cannot create the smallest living cell, let alone the miracle of eyesight, reproduction, our circulatory system or our brains. We don’t have our systems upgraded yet to properly assess the supranormal stimulus such as rich high density food or high speed internet novelty porn with multiple active windows.</p> <p>If the creator or process had intended us to handle novelty triggering stimuli, we would have been provided with some other brain reward circuits. Our bodies are, in fact, provided with fail-safe warning devices and we ignore these at our peril. Excessive edging results in body pain, irritation, and inflammation. In women, excessive flooding of dopamine and stress enzymes such as prostaglandin-E2 can cause difficulty to orgasm and PME.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up"><strong>There Is Nothing To Give Up</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#there-is-nothing-to-give-up"> +<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up">There Is Nothing To Give Up <a class="anchor" href="#there-is-nothing-to-give-up"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h2></div> -<p>The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.</p> +</a></h2><p>The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.</p> <p>The problem I have is to make a convincing point as I’d have done for, let us say&hellip; smokers? All of us have seen smokers who develop excuses to sneak off for a crafty puff. It is easy to see the true addiction in action. Addicts do not do it because they enjoy it. They do it because they are miserable without it.</p> <p>Because many of us started out our first sexual experience that ended in an orgasm and we acquired the belief that we cannot enjoy sex without an orgasm. And for men, porn is sold as an aid towards sex, sometimes even as an education to be confident during the act of sex. It used to be static, but now we have supranormal internet porn. But this is nonsense. Internet porn takes away your confidence.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="women-and-porn"><strong>Women And Porn</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#women-and-porn"> +<h2 id="women-and-porn">Women And Porn <a class="anchor" href="#women-and-porn"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h2></div> -<p>The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn&rsquo;t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.</p> +</a></h2><p>The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn&rsquo;t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.</p> <p>Porn and internet porn does not help your sex life; it destroys it totally. Having to hide your internet footprints, trying to delete your history, fearing accidental exposure to your boyfriend or kids, body pains, doubtful symptoms, fighting self doubts, arguing with yourself about your responsibilities in the ill effects of your addiction&hellip; well, why do you want to put yourself in such a bad situation?</p> <p>Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous positive gains to be had. When PMOers contemplate quitting they tend to concentrate on health and virility. These are obviously valid and important issues but I personally believe the greatest gains from stopping are psychological:</p> <ol> @@ -3886,11 +3942,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <li>Not to have to go through life suffering the awful black shadows at the back of your mind, knowing you are being despised by half of the population and, worst of all, despising yourself.</li> </ol> <p>Not only is life better as a non-PMOer but it is infinitely more enjoyable. I do not only mean you will be healthier. I mean you will be happier and enjoy life far more. The marvellous gains from being a non-PMOer are discussed in the next few chapters. Some PMOers find it difficult to appreciate the concept of the &lsquo;void&rsquo; and the following analogy may assist you.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"><strong>Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"> +<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void">Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void! <a class="anchor" href="#void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h2></div> -<p>Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I&rsquo;ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can&rsquo;t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.</p> +</a></h2><p>Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I&rsquo;ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can&rsquo;t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.</p> <p>By now you are completely dependent on the ointment. You never go out without ensuring that you have a tube of the ointment with you. If you go abroad, you make sure that you take several tubes with you. Now, in addition to your worries about your health, I&rsquo;m charging you $100 per tube. You have no choice but to pay.</p> <p>You then read in the medical column of your newspaper that this isn&rsquo;t happening just to you; many other people have been suffering from the same problem. In fact, pharmacists have discovered that the ointment doesn&rsquo;t actually cure the sore. All that it does is to take the sore beneath the surface of the skin. It is the ointment that has caused the sore to grow. All you have to do to get rid of the sore is to stop using the ointment. The sore will eventually disappear in due course.</p> <p>Would you continue to use the ointment? Would it take willpower not to use the ointment? If you didn&rsquo;t believe the medical article, there might be a few days of apprehension, but once you realized that the sore was beginning to get better, the need or desire to use the ointment would go, Would you be miserable? Of course you wouldn&rsquo;t. You had an awful problem which you thought was insoluble. Now you&rsquo;ve found the solution. Even if it took a year for that sore to disappear completely, each day, as it improved, you&rsquo;d think. “isn&rsquo;t it marvellous? I&rsquo;m not going to die!” This was the magic that happened to me on my final PMO day. Let me make one point quite clear in the analogy of the sore and the ointment.</p> @@ -3907,7 +3961,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:47:03 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-13-social-night-pmoing/ - <p>This is a misinformation that seems to make sense but then it does not. In order to have control of eating, will you eat at home before leaving to go to a restaurant or a party? This is what you are doing when you PMO before your social night. You will look tired and will not be up to your best. If you have dating jitters then work on it beforehand and then go with the flow even with some butterflies in your stomach. I like a bit of the anxiety in me to keep me going. Tiring yourself mentally and physically with an orgasm is not going to help you, unless of course you are going to see a prostitute. The goal is entirely different in that angle.</p> + <h2 id="social-night-pmoing">Social Night PMOing <a class="anchor" href="#social-night-pmoing"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is a misinformation that seems to make sense but then it does not. In order to have control of eating, will you eat at home before leaving to go to a restaurant or a party? This is what you are doing when you PMO before your social night. You will look tired and will not be up to your best. If you have dating jitters then work on it beforehand and then go with the flow even with some butterflies in your stomach. I like a bit of the anxiety in me to keep me going. Tiring yourself mentally and physically with an orgasm is not going to help you, unless of course you are going to see a prostitute. The goal is entirely different in that angle.</p> <p>The widespread adoption of pick-up techniques has put pressure on guys to perform, to attract and to ‘score’. You can get knowledge but you should know how to use it. I can guarantee that 100% of the other guys hanging at that bar know exactly what you know. It comes down to the ‘how’ of how you use it when you get the chance. Even before that, there is one very critical thing about any knowledge pertaining to human interactions, that ‘knowledge’ should never force your actions. This is important.</p> <p>I once masturbated and then poured wine to quiet the butterflies in my stomach before a date. I looked tired after just one hour into the date, the loud noise of the bar, dehydration, excessive self-consciousness (PUA teachings) etc. made my time unenjoyable. Somehow the girl and her friend liked it all. However, I do think it would have been better if I had gone without any props. I ended up being successful by claiming my &lsquo;goal(s)&rsquo; - which I consider unfortunate and as random luck.</p> <p>The PMO session I had before the date triggered a dopamine flooding and its withdrawal hit around the time I was with the date. I had to over-do my conversation to compensate the ineffective dopamine effects after that earlier orgasm. I am also sure that I was suffering from hypofrontality - where my impulses were failing my controls. That gushing moment, an extra decibel in the tone etc. would easily have given my nervousness to the girls - only if I was not protected by the loud noise in the bar. Why do you want to take chances?</p> @@ -3926,7 +3982,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:44:10 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-12-relaxation/ - <p>Most PMOers think that PMO helps to relax them. The truth is that internet porn used in PMO acts like a chemical stimulant. The frantic search to get the fix in those “dark alleys of the internet” and the internal struggle to reign in the dog straining at its leash for more shocking clips does not sound much like an activity of relaxation to me.</p> + <h2 id="relaxation">Relaxation <a class="anchor" href="#relaxation"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Most PMOers think that PMO helps to relax them. The truth is that internet porn used in PMO acts like a chemical stimulant. The frantic search to get the fix in those “dark alleys of the internet” and the internal struggle to reign in the dog straining at its leash for more shocking clips does not sound much like an activity of relaxation to me.</p> <p>One of the favourite PMO sessions for most is the one after a trip to a new place or after along day. As the night rolls in we stop working; we sit down and relax, relieve our hunger and thirst and are then completely satisfied. However, the poor PMOer cannot relax, as he has another hunger to satisfy. He thinks of the PMO as the icing on the cake but it is the &rsquo;little monster&rsquo; that needs feeding.</p> <p>The truth is that the addict can never be completely relaxed and as you go through life it gets worse. The most stressed people on this planet aren&rsquo;t non-PMOers but those young men and women who have a need to hunt (with the misunderstood goal of orgasm) and their ignorance of and/or low opinion of amative sex. Women who have subscribed to “I must orgasm” teachings are not even aware of the victim they have made of themselves. At this point any sex that leads to climax and orgasm cease to relieve even partially the symptoms that they have created.</p> <p>I can remember when I was bringing up a family. If my child would do something wrong I would quickly lose my temper to an extent that was out of all proportion to what he had done.</p> @@ -3947,7 +4005,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:42:13 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-11-concentration/ - <p>Sex and masturbation do not help concentration. That is just another illusion. When you are trying to concentrate, you automatically try to avoid distractions. So when a PMOer wants to concentrate he doesn&rsquo;t even have to think about it. He automatically PMOs, partially ending the craving, gets on with the matter in hand and has already forgotten that he just PMOed. Sex in general do not help concentration. After years of masturbation your brain changes affect abilities such as assessing, planning and impulse control. The PMOer is already suffering: that little monster wants his fix.</p> + <h2 id="concentration">Concentration <a class="anchor" href="#concentration"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Sex and masturbation do not help concentration. That is just another illusion. When you are trying to concentrate, you automatically try to avoid distractions. So when a PMOer wants to concentrate he doesn&rsquo;t even have to think about it. He automatically PMOs, partially ending the craving, gets on with the matter in hand and has already forgotten that he just PMOed. Sex in general do not help concentration. After years of masturbation your brain changes affect abilities such as assessing, planning and impulse control. The PMOer is already suffering: that little monster wants his fix.</p> <p>You are also stressed to provide novelty for the next PMO session as the same stuff will not generate enough dopamine and opioids. You have to “roam the internet streets” for novelty - all the while fighting the pull to cross the line towards shock. This creates more stress. After you orgasm, you feel unfulfilled as well.</p> <p>Concentration is also affected adversely for another reason. Your dopamine receptors have already started to get reduced by building up natural tolerance to these large surges, reducing the benefit of the smaller dopamine boosts from natural de-stressors.</p> <p>In fact, your concentration and inspiration will be greatly improved as this process is reversed. For some it will be the concentration aspect that prevents them from succeeding when using the willpower method. They could put up with the irritability and bad temper but when they really needed to concentrate on something difficult they have to have that porn fix. I can well remember the panic I felt when I discovered that the hotel has no internet connection and I had this huge presentation the day after.</p> @@ -3963,7 +4023,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:40:46 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-10-boredom/ - <p>As soon as you get into your bed - and if you are like many people you are already on your favorite tube site - you will probably have already forgotten about it until I reminded you. It has become second nature. Another fallacy about PMOing is that it relieves boredom. Boredom is a frame of mind. The only time that happens is when you have been deprived for a long time or are trying to cut down, or during those first few PMO sessions after a failed attempt to stop.</p> + <h2 id="boredom">Boredom <a class="anchor" href="#boredom"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As soon as you get into your bed - and if you are like many people you are already on your favorite tube site - you will probably have already forgotten about it until I reminded you. It has become second nature. Another fallacy about PMOing is that it relieves boredom. Boredom is a frame of mind. The only time that happens is when you have been deprived for a long time or are trying to cut down, or during those first few PMO sessions after a failed attempt to stop.</p> <p>The true situation is this: when you are addicted to internet porn’s supranormal novelty and then you decide to abstain from internet porn, there is something missing. If you have something to occupy your mind that isn&rsquo;t stressful, you can go for long periods without being bothered by the absence of the drug. However, when you are bored there&rsquo;s nothing to take your mind off it, so you feed the monster. When you are indulging yourself (i.e. not trying to stop or cut down), even firing up your incognito browser becomes subconscious. The PMOer can perform this ritual automatically. If any PMOer tries to remember the session during the last week, he can only remember a small proportion of them - e.g. the very last one or after a long abstinence.</p> <p>The truth is that PMOing tend to increase boredom indirectly because orgasms make you feel lethargic and instead of undertaking some energetic activity, PMOers tend to prefer lounge around, bored, relieving their withdrawal pangs. This is why countering the brainwashing is so important. Because it&rsquo;s a fact that PMOers tend to masturbate when they are bored and that we&rsquo;re wired to interpret PMO as interesting. It doesn&rsquo;t occur to us to question the fact how a two dimensional supranormal stimulus relieves boredom.</p> <p>We&rsquo;ve also been brainwashed into believing that sex - even a bad sex - aids relaxation. It is a fact that when under stress or sad, couples want to have sex. In the absence of discrimination between amative and propagative sex, the goal is set to achieve orgasms by hook or by crook. Next time you do this watch how you both want to get away from each other as soon as it’s over. It is obvious that if they had just decided to cuddle, speak, hug and touch each other and go to sleep without the mandatory orgasms, the couple would have felt relieved. Well, if in the process, they wanted to have the propagative part then by all means they can but that is a topic not meant to be discussed in this book.</p> @@ -3976,7 +4038,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:38:59 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-09-stress/ - <p>I am referring not only to the great tragedies of life but also to the minor stresses, the socializing, the telephone call, the anxieties of the housewife with noisy young children and so on. Let us use the telephone conversation as an example. For most people the telephone is slightly stressful, particularly for the businessman. Most calls aren&rsquo;t from satisfied customers or your boss congratulating you. There&rsquo;s usually some sort of aggravation - something going wrong or somebody making demands. Then he or she comes home to the mundane family life of kids screaming and wife&rsquo;s emotional demands on you. His already PMO weakened de-stressors are in no way ready to take the aggravation. At that time the PMOer, if he isn&rsquo;t already doing so, will fantasize the relief of internet porn that he promised himself that night. He will even allow himself to “take one step more” into the ‘forbidden’ area that he had previously self-excluded. He doesn&rsquo;t know why he does this but he does know that for some reason it appears to help.</p> + <h2 id="stress">Stress <a class="anchor" href="#stress"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>I am referring not only to the great tragedies of life but also to the minor stresses, the socializing, the telephone call, the anxieties of the housewife with noisy young children and so on. Let us use the telephone conversation as an example. For most people the telephone is slightly stressful, particularly for the businessman. Most calls aren&rsquo;t from satisfied customers or your boss congratulating you. There&rsquo;s usually some sort of aggravation - something going wrong or somebody making demands. Then he or she comes home to the mundane family life of kids screaming and wife&rsquo;s emotional demands on you. His already PMO weakened de-stressors are in no way ready to take the aggravation. At that time the PMOer, if he isn&rsquo;t already doing so, will fantasize the relief of internet porn that he promised himself that night. He will even allow himself to “take one step more” into the ‘forbidden’ area that he had previously self-excluded. He doesn&rsquo;t know why he does this but he does know that for some reason it appears to help.</p> <p>What has actually happened is this: without being conscious of it, he has already been suffering aggravation (i.e. the withdrawal pangs). By partially relieving that aggravation at the same time as normal stress, the total stress is reduced and the PMOer gets a boost. At this point the boost is not, in fact, an illusion. The Internet porn user will feel better than before. However, even when using porn to masturbate he or she is more tense than if he were a non-PMOer because the more you go into the drug, the more it knocks you down and the less it restores you when you masturbate. I promised no shock treatment. In the example I am about to give, I am not trying to shock you, I am merely emphasizing that PMO destroy your nerves rather than relax them.</p> <p>Try to imagine getting to the stage where you cannot get aroused even with a very sexy and attractive partner. Just for a moment pause and try to visualize life where one very lovely and charming woman has to compete and fail with all the virtual porn stars who are in your &lsquo;harem&rsquo; to get your attention! Try to imagine the frame of mind of a man who, issued with that warning, actually continues PMOing and then dies without ever having had real sex with this charming and willing real woman. I had read real life stories like that from men and dismissed them as weirdos. In fact, I used to wish a doctor would tell me that this weird condition would happen if I continue PMO; then I would have stopped. Yet I was already fully expecting that PIED and hypofrontality where I am guaranteed to lose in a brain war. I didn&rsquo;t think of myself as an impotent, just a heavy PMOer. Now, let’s talk about the stress that this is putting on me.</p> <p>Such weird stories as the above are not fakes. That is what this awful ‘novelty’ porn drug does to you. As you go through life, it systematically takes away your nerve and courage. The more it takes your courage away, the more you are deluded into believing the porn is doing the opposite.</p> @@ -3992,7 +4056,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:36:16 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-08-relieving-withdrawal-pangs/ - <p>As I explained earlier, PMOers think they do it for enjoyment, relaxation or some sort of education. In fact, this an illusion. The actual reason is the relief of withdrawal pangs. In the early days we use the porn as a curious and novel thing or even educational or as a rebel. We can take it or leave it. However, the subtle chain has started. Our subconscious mind begins to learn that internet porn and masturbation taken at certain times tends to be pleasurable. The more we become hooked on the drug, the greater the need to relieve the withdrawal pangs and the further the PMO drags you down and the more you are fooled into believing it is doing the opposite. It all happens so slowly, so gradually, you are not even aware of it. Each day you feel no different from the day before. Most young PMOers don&rsquo;t even realize they are hooked until they actually try to stop and even then many won&rsquo;t admit to it. A few stalwarts just keep their heads in the sand all their lives,trying to convince themselves and other people that they enjoy it.</p> + <h2 id="relieving-withdrawal-pangs">Relieving Withdrawal Pangs <a class="anchor" href="#relieving-withdrawal-pangs"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As I explained earlier, PMOers think they do it for enjoyment, relaxation or some sort of education. In fact, this an illusion. The actual reason is the relief of withdrawal pangs. In the early days we use the porn as a curious and novel thing or even educational or as a rebel. We can take it or leave it. However, the subtle chain has started. Our subconscious mind begins to learn that internet porn and masturbation taken at certain times tends to be pleasurable. The more we become hooked on the drug, the greater the need to relieve the withdrawal pangs and the further the PMO drags you down and the more you are fooled into believing it is doing the opposite. It all happens so slowly, so gradually, you are not even aware of it. Each day you feel no different from the day before. Most young PMOers don&rsquo;t even realize they are hooked until they actually try to stop and even then many won&rsquo;t admit to it. A few stalwarts just keep their heads in the sand all their lives,trying to convince themselves and other people that they enjoy it.</p> <p>Listen to this conversation a therapist had with hundreds of teenagers.</p> <blockquote> <p>TH: “You realize that internet porn is a drug and that the only reason why you are using is that you cannot stop.”</p> @@ -4022,33 +4088,29 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 08:39:02 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-07-brainwashing-and-the-primitive-mechanism/ - <p>How or why do we start PMOing in the first place? To understand this fully you need to examine the powerful effect of the supernormal stimulus. We all tend to think we are intelligent, dominant human beings determining our paths through life. We act and act frequently when our brain reward circuit are rewarded. Nobel laureate Nikolaas Tinbergen coined the term “supranormal stimulus.” He said mammals could be tricked into preferring fake eggs and mates. Female birds, for example, struggled to sit on larger-than life, vividly spotted plaster eggs while their own pale, dappled eggs perished untended.</p> + <h2 id="brainwashing-and-the-primitive-mechanism">Brainwashing and the Primitive Mechanism <a class="anchor" href="#brainwashing-and-the-primitive-mechanism"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>How or why do we start PMOing in the first place? To understand this fully you need to examine the powerful effect of the supernormal stimulus. We all tend to think we are intelligent, dominant human beings determining our paths through life. We act and act frequently when our brain reward circuit are rewarded. Nobel laureate Nikolaas Tinbergen coined the term “supranormal stimulus.” He said mammals could be tricked into preferring fake eggs and mates. Female birds, for example, struggled to sit on larger-than life, vividly spotted plaster eggs while their own pale, dappled eggs perished untended.</p> <p>The stimulation here in internet porn is not it brings stimulating actors and themes to your home - it is a genie at your bidding to create a harem in your mind. You can switch between genres and theme, home-made and viewer rated, commented and discussed, so rapid and so easy. We absolutely are not ready for the high speed internet porn and our brains are not designed to handle this supranormal stimuli.</p> <p>We can have an ‘information overload’ from the same internet but our reward circuits are not going to squirt dopamine at the levels when ‘porn overload’ is involved. We are evolutionarily programmed to seek and access sex related stuff. And we wrongly appraise the stimulus mostly based on this reward circuit action. If all you wanted is to masturbate why can’t you just use one clip and get the business done?</p> <p>Here is another question - next time after a long day or some stressful incident can you consciously embellish your self-talk with “Do you know what I would really enjoy today? The marvellous warm glow of dopamine rush going to my online harem.” You will find that even people who dislike PMO will join you.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="past-misguided-advice"><strong>Past Misguided Advice</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#past-misguided-advice"> +<h2 id="past-misguided-advice">Past Misguided Advice <a class="anchor" href="#past-misguided-advice"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.</p> +</a></h2><p>There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.</p> <p>From our earliest years our subconscious minds are bombarded daily with information telling us that sex is good and that the most precious thing on this earth is to ‘achieve’ orgasm. Girls are taught to achieve it and claim it&rsquo;s because they were wrongly suppressed of their sexual side for a very long time and still are. You think I exaggerate? Watch any TV or movie plot and you will see the mix-up of the amative (touch, smell, voice etc.) and the propagative (orgasmic) sides of sex. The impact of this does not register on our conscious minds but the sleeping partner, the subconscious mind, has time to absorb it. What the message is really saying is, “The most precious thing on this earth, my last thought and action, will be the goal of orgasm.” If you don’t have an orgasm then you are an old man with zero libido.</p> <p>Our children are being bombarded by sex and porn clips and many don’t even know how to protect them from it all. Large hoardings and magazine adverts are loaded with sexual innuendo. Some of the pop videos are extremely suggestive - again they hide behind free speech. Don’t be vexed and feel powerless about it. Make it a game and find you which of the components they are using - is it novelty, shock value, color, size, taboo etc. If the kids are pre-teen some of these can be disclosed to them and it would make an excellent show-and-tell game.</p> <p>A while back there was a wave of ‘leaked’ private videos of celebrities on the internet. If the youngster is too smitten by their favourite star, even if the conscious mind blames the ‘leak’ on the blood thirsty internet paparazzi, the &lsquo;sleeping partner&rsquo; is patiently digesting the notion that, “yes, even my shambolic hero does it and if I don’t, I won’t look the part.”</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-scientific-reasoning"><strong>The Scientific Reasoning</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-scientific-reasoning"> +<h2 id="the-scientific-reasoning">The Scientific Reasoning <a class="anchor" href="#the-scientific-reasoning"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>, Reboot<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> forums, underground PUA<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup>, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn&rsquo;t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.</p> +</a></h2><p>True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>, Reboot<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> forums, underground PUA<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup>, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn&rsquo;t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.</p> <p>Ironically, the most powerful force in this melee of confusion is the PMOer himself. It is a fallacy that they are weak-willed or are physically weak specimens. You have to be physically strong in order to cope with an addiction after you know it is. This is one of the reasons why PMOers refuse to accept the overwhelming statistics that prove that internet porn with its ‘novelty’ cripples your brain. Add to that the sexologists who are doing half-baked studies and declare PMO is not an issue - they just help to add to the confusion.</p> <p>Everyone knows a friend who PMOed every day - he started with the ‘static’ to internet porn, always horny in real life, chasing girls and you never doubted him to have sex problems of course. You want to believe him. He never complained about any ED right? Guys and girls like them refuse even to consider the hundreds of ex-addicts and non-PMOers who painfully recount their difficulties. It is the “little monster” brain chemical addiction and the “big monster” - illusions and delusions. In this hackbook, I&rsquo;ve put together almost all the sorts of brainwashing a PMOer can suffer from. There will always be a few out there that I haven&rsquo;t touched upon.</p> <p>Even more painful is they think of themselves as unsuccessful losers and insufferable introverts. A possible fact is that a PMO friend could have been more interesting in person if he hadn’t put himself down for seeking self-pleasure.</p> <p>If you do a small survey among your online forum members, friends and colleagues, you will find that most PMOers are, in fact, strong-willed people. They tend to be self-employed, business executives or in certain specialized professions, such as doctors<sup id="fnref:4"><a href="#fn:4" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">4</a></sup>, lawyers, policemen, teachers, salesmen, nurses, secretaries, housewives with children, etc. In other words, anybody leading a stressful existence. Yes, I did include women and mothers. It’s the brain and it’s the same for them too. The main delusion of the PMOer is that porn helps to masturbate to orgasm and that relieves stress. This tends to be associated with the dominant type, the type that takes on responsibility and stress and, of course, that is the type that we admire and therefore tend to copy. Another group that tends to get hooked are people in monotonous jobs because the other main reason for PMOing is boredom. However, the idea that internet porn relieves boredom is also an illusion, I am afraid.</p> <p>As a society we get all uptight about glue-sniffing, heroin addiction, etc. Actual deaths from glue-sniffing do not amount to ten per annum, and deaths from heroin are less than a hundred a year in this country. There is another drug, internet porn, on which over 45 per cent of us become hooked at some time in our lives and the majority spend the rest of their lives regretting it. Some even don’t know that their ED is due to this.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-willpower-method"><strong>The Willpower Method</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method"> +<h2 id="the-willpower-method">The Willpower Method <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why?</p> +</a></h2><p>PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why?</p> <p>Constant exposure to internet porn re-wires your brain. You need to start building resistance to this brainwashing, just as if you were buying a car from a second-hand car dealer. You would be nodding politely but you would not believe a word the man was saying. So don’t believe everything they say either - that you must have sex as much as you can and you must have it exceptional good. And that in the absence of real sex you claim it by the substitute called internet porn - which is only a component of the good old porn.</p> <p>And don’t play ‘safe’ porn game either - because your “little porn monster” invented that scheme to lure you. Even the content - ‘amateur’? Really? Is there a certification authority that certifies it? Tube sites and porn producers gather site visitor profiles and cater to their needs. If they see a trend in crowd sourced collection of a particular genre they will focus on that and get content out ASAP. The statistics of what genre users like is collected to the level of how long and which portion the users were preferring. Do not be fooled by their educational intent or the safe female oriented clips (for you ladies). Start asking yourself:</p> <ul> @@ -4058,27 +4120,21 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p><strong>NO, OF COURSE YOU DON&rsquo;T.</strong></p> <p>I find this brainwashing aspect the most difficult of all to explain. Why is it that an otherwise rational, intelligent human being becomes a complete imbecile about his own addiction? It pains me to confess that out of the thousands of people that I have assisted in kicking the habit, I (not Allen Carr) was the biggest idiot of all.</p> <p>At the age of thirteen, although I was doing well at school and games, I was still an insufferable introvert. I read books from the library that were not within my main study list. However, I can see that I was attracted to erotica. I started masturbating to TV programs, song and dance sequences etc. I must have to have it every day. The tired feeling I felt was misappropriated by my ‘little porn monster’ as work stress. I didn’t know my “I-must-masturbate-as-I-am-entitled” attitude was the one that created the ‘stress’ in the first place. Then I got pictures and GIFs via email on my laptop - the first step towards electronic porn. The colour and texture of the images were amazing for me at that time - won’t be now for sure. Then came dial-up but still they were predominantly static pictures. Then came downloadable videos. It’s a pain to download and watch now - but it was heaven sent then as we were coming out of the static porn era! Oh, the streaming tube sites haven’t arrived yet.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"><strong>When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"> +<h2 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore">When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore <a class="anchor" href="#when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn.</p> +</a></h2><p>I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn.</p> <p>At the age of forty, I was visiting my online harem daily, drinking ‘socially’ (whatever that means) and smoking ‘sometimes’ but not so often. I had wrongly subscribed to misguided ideas of ‘moderation’ and ‘entitlement’. I had reached the stage where I couldn&rsquo;t get through a single day without reaching out to porn in the night. With most PMOers, the triggers are the normal stresses of life, like answering the telephone or socializing.</p> <p>When I experienced PIED - I knew it was killing my virility. There was no way I could kid myself otherwise. I am smart enough not to ‘project’ the porn fantasies on to real life. But it was like pacifying a dog straining at its leash. But why I couldn&rsquo;t see what it was doing to me mentally, I could not understand. It was almost jumping up and biting me on the nose. The ridiculous thing is that most PMOers suffer the delusion at some time in their life that they enjoy internet porn because it is ‘normal’ and ‘healthy’. I never suffered that delusion, I PMOed because I thought enjoying sex is a ‘birthright’ and I am only doing a normal thing.</p> <p>Since it was easier at most times for me to get internet porn than a partner I thought I am doing the normal thing. Now I am a non-PMOer, the most difficult part is trying to believe that those days actually happened. It&rsquo;s like awakening from a nightmare and that is about the size of it. Internet porn is a supranormal drug. It is weakening your de-stressing mechanisms, your virility and your energy. The worst aspect of PMO isn&rsquo;t the injury to your health or manliness, it is the warping of the mind. You search for any plausible excuse to go on.</p> <p>I remember at one stage switching to static images, a failed attempt to cut down on internet porn, in the belief that it was less harmful and I could reign in my ‘habit’. I failed to see the ‘novelty’ and the ‘shock’ demands from my ‘little monster’ to just get more dopamine. Did I ‘stay’ within my boundaries? I ‘favorited’ 2 dimensional photos and my harem collection saw pictures and videos of ‘mild’ type porn rotating in and out like musical chair. When their ‘music’ stopped they ‘exited’. I didn’t understand the novelty-seeking, shock-seeking nature of my brain.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pied-and-my-excuses"><strong>PIED And My Excuses</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pied-and-my-excuses"> +<h2 id="pied-and-my-excuses">PIED And My Excuses <a class="anchor" href="#pied-and-my-excuses"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.</p> +</a></h2><p>Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.</p> <p>Most PMOers swear that they only watch static and soft porn and so they are OK. They are actually straining at the leash and thus fighting with their willpower to resist temptations. If they do this too often and for too long they will debit their willpower considerably and fail in other life projects where willpower is of much great value, like in daily exercise, dieting etc. Continuous failure in those areas will make them feel miserable and guilty and very soon they will find themselves back to their entitled relief. If not, they will vent their anger and depression onto their loved ones.</p> <p>The answer is that once you have become addicted to internet porn, the brainwashing is increased. Your subconscious mind knows that the little monster has to be fed and you block everything else from your mind. As I have already stated, it is fear that keeps people quitting, the fear of that empty, insecure feeling that you get when you stop supplying the brain with dopamine flooding. Just because you are not aware of it doesn&rsquo;t mean it isn&rsquo;t there. You don&rsquo;t have to understand it any more than a cat needs to understand where the under-floor hot-water pipes are. It just knows that if it sits in a certain place it gets the feeling of warmth.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind"><strong>The Passivity Of Our Mind</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-passivity-of-our-mind"> +<h2 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind">The Passivity Of Our Mind <a class="anchor" href="#the-passivity-of-our-mind"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I&rsquo;ve frequently referred to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo; PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo;, but to stopping, quitting or the true position: <strong>ESCAPING!</strong></p> +</a></h2><p>It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I&rsquo;ve frequently referred to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo; PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo;, but to stopping, quitting or the true position: <strong>ESCAPING!</strong></p> <p>The only thing that persuades us to PMO in the first place is all the other people doing it. We feel we are missing out. We work so hard to become hooked, yet nobody ever finds out what they have been missing. But every time we see another new video clip it reassures us that there must be something in it, otherwise people wouldn&rsquo;t be doing it - and it wouldn&rsquo;t be such big business all over the world. Even when he has kicked the habit, the ex-PMOer feels he is being deprived when a discussion on a sexy entertainer, singer or even a porn star comes up at a party or other social function. She or he must be good to have all my friends talk about them, no? Do they have ‘hot’ pictures of her in my tube site? He feels safe. He can have just one ‘peek’ that night. And, before he knows it, he is hooked again.</p> <p>This brainwashing is extremely powerful and you need to be aware of its effects. I have heard scare stories about wicked men giving heroin mixed candies to kids at schoolyards. The concept of addiction and being compelled to go on taking the drug, filled me with horror. Even to this day, in spite of the fact that I am fairly convinced that &lsquo;pot&rsquo; is not addictive, I would not dare take one puff of marijuana. How ironic that I should have ended up a porn junky. Technology will continue to grow and we will have even faster tube sites and more faster access methods. The industry is investing millions in Virtual Reality so it will become the next best thing. The point is, do we know where we are going? Are we equipped with an under armour of defence so we can enjoy the benefits of technology yet at the same time protect ourselves from its bad effects?</p> <p>We are about to remove the brainwashing. It is not the non-PMOer who is being deprived but the poor user who is forfeiting a lifetime of:</p> @@ -4120,15 +4176,15 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:44:00 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-06-internet-porn/ - <p>Erotic novelty of the internet porn is a mental ‘drug’ and internet porn beats anything that is known to mankind and its streaming straight to your home for free ! We are not even talking VR virtual reality here. Porn triggers the ‘flooding’ of dopamine in our brain. Dopamine amps up the brain reward circuitry to produce experiences and feels of cravings and pleasure by locking themselves into ‘receptors’. More dopamine more wanting. Less dopamine no wanting. New experiences, tasty food - more dopamine - more wanting. Sex and sex related stuff gives the biggest injection of dopamine in the reward circuits. Dopamine is not the final pleasure stuff, if it were you would feel happy when you are done with it, but it is only a brain chemical that encourages seeking and action in you. The real pleasure is produced by opioids. More dopamine more opioids more + <h2 id="internet-porn">Internet Porn <a class="anchor" href="#internet-porn"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Erotic novelty of the internet porn is a mental ‘drug’ and internet porn beats anything that is known to mankind and its streaming straight to your home for free ! We are not even talking VR virtual reality here. Porn triggers the ‘flooding’ of dopamine in our brain. Dopamine amps up the brain reward circuitry to produce experiences and feels of cravings and pleasure by locking themselves into ‘receptors’. More dopamine more wanting. Less dopamine no wanting. New experiences, tasty food - more dopamine - more wanting. Sex and sex related stuff gives the biggest injection of dopamine in the reward circuits. Dopamine is not the final pleasure stuff, if it were you would feel happy when you are done with it, but it is only a brain chemical that encourages seeking and action in you. The real pleasure is produced by opioids. More dopamine more opioids more action more happy feelings.</p> <p>So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. All of which will now be stored as a script in your brain for easy access next time. I call this a ‘water slide’. Next time at the cue - a sexy commercial or alone time or stress or feeling a little down - you are ready to take a ride on the ‘water slide’. One more thing is that every time to repeat this you are ‘greasing’ it as well - so it is active, alive and more easier to slide the next time.</p> <p>As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating. Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish, ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you won’t on your first time.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="my-own-online-harem"><strong>My Own Online Harem!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#my-own-online-harem"> +<h2 id="my-own-online-harem">My Own Online Harem! <a class="anchor" href="#my-own-online-harem"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost.</p> +</a></h2><p>This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost.</p> <p>Going back to the earlier discussion - in this cycle as you crossed the ‘red line’ you also trigger emotions such as guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety and fear - which in turn raise dopamine levels as well. Now the brain may mistakenly associate feelings of anxiety and fear as sexual arousal. This perpetual cycle is only broken by natural causes - fortunately sooner or later. With its free access and privacy it provides boundless harem-like novelty. The dopamine can be theoretically kept very high for a very very long time. I can be satisfied with one lobster once in awhile. But Internet porn is different. It is even worse than drugs. Don’t let me make you nervous. I will shortly show you how to be free from this slavery.</p> <p>Now our human body has a self-correcting system by which the number of dopamine and opioid receptors are cut short when frequent and daily ‘flooding’ of dopamine is detected. Unfortunately - these receptors are also needed for receiving dopamine and to keep us even and balanced to handle the inevitable and normal day-to-day stresses. But this natural nominal amount of dopamine will not be absorbed efficiently with decreased receptors and you will feel mores tressed and irritated than normal.</p> <blockquote> @@ -4140,18 +4196,14 @@ action more happy feelings.</p> <p>A fleeting feeling of security is all that is needed to get through a rough spot in life - but will your brain be able to catch that drop of de-stressor that a non-PMOers’ brain is able to catch and use?</p> <p>This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I will explain more about this later.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-little-monster"><strong>The Little Monster</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-little-monster"> +<h2 id="the-little-monster">The Little Monster <a class="anchor" href="#the-little-monster"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&rsquo; we think we just &lsquo;got into the habit&rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.</p> +</a></h2><p>The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&rsquo; we think we just &lsquo;got into the habit&rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.</p> <p>Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, resulting in the feeling of fulfilment and pleasure that the action gives to the PMOer. In the early days, when we first start PMOing, the withdrawal pangs and their relief are so slight that we are not even aware that they exist. When we begin to masturbate regularly to internet porn we think it is because we&rsquo;ve either come to enjoy them or got into the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. The truth is we&rsquo;re already hooked; we do not realize it, but that little monster is already inside our stomach and every now and again we have to feed it.</p> <p>All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster. The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had before he became hooked in the first place.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm"><strong>The Annoying Burglar Alarm</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-annoying-burglar-alarm"> +<h2 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm">The Annoying Burglar Alarm <a class="anchor" href="#the-annoying-burglar-alarm"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we +</a></h2><p>You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain goes on. It is a chain for life - <strong>UNLESS YOU BREAK IT</strong>.</p> <p>The whole business of PMO is like wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure you feel when you take them off. There are three main reasons why PMOers cannot see things that way:</p> <ol> @@ -4162,11 +4214,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <p>It is this &lsquo;back to front&rsquo; reverse process that makes all drugs difficult to kick. Picture the panic state of a heroin addict who has no heroin. Now picture the utter joy when that addict can finally plunge a needle into his vein. Can you visualize someone actually getting pleasure by injecting themselves, or does the mere thought fill you with horror? Non-heroin addicts don&rsquo;t suffer that panic feeling.</p> <p>The heroin doesn&rsquo;t relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a 14 year old in 2008 - didn&rsquo;t suffer the empty feeling of needing internet porn or start to panic when they are off- line. Non-PMOers cannot understand how PMOers can possibly obtain pleasure from two dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. And do you know something? PMOers themselves cannot understand why they do it after some time either.</p> <p>We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don&rsquo;t non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their &rsquo;little monster&rsquo;?</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch"><strong>A Pleasure or Crutch?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#a-pleasure-or-crutch"> +<h2 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch">A Pleasure or Crutch? <a class="anchor" href="#a-pleasure-or-crutch"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;I need to eat.&rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.</p> +</a></h2><p>Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;I need to eat.&rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.</p> <p>PMOing appears to be almost identical. The empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;wanting or needing an PMO orgasm’ is identical to a hunger for food, although one will not satisfy the other. Like hunger, there is no physical pain and the feeling is so imperceptible that we are not even aware of it between PMO sessions. It&rsquo;s only if we want to masturbate and aren&rsquo;t able to reach internet for porn that we become aware of any discomfort. But when we do PMO we feel satisfied.</p> <p>It is this similarity to eating which helps to fool PMOers into believing that they receive some genuine pleasure. Some PMOers find it very difficult to grasp that there is no pleasure or crutch, whatsoever to PMO. Some argue: “How can you say there is no crutch? When I orgasm up then I&rsquo;llfeel less nervous than before.”</p> <p>Although eating and PMOing appear to be very similar. In fact they are exact opposites:</p> @@ -4175,17 +4225,13 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <li>Food does genuinely taste good, and eating is a genuinely pleasant experience that we can enjoy throughout our lives, whereas PMOing involves self-sabotaging the happiness receptors and thus destroying your chances to cope and to feel happy.</li> <li>Eating doesn&rsquo;t create hunger and genuinely relieves it, whereas the first PMO starts the craving for dopamine and each subsequent one, far from relieving it, ensures that you suffer it for the rest of life.</li> </ol> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pmo-is-a-habit"><strong>PMO is a Habit?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pmo-is-a-habit"> +<h2 id="pmo-is-a-habit">PMO is a Habit? <a class="anchor" href="#pmo-is-a-habit"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.</p> +</a></h2><p>This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.</p> <p>On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience, I also refer to the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> - we have to then have more bizarre and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting&hellip; not in the killing. If we don&rsquo;t then panic sets in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great!</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="crossing-the-red-line"><strong>Crossing The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#crossing-the-red-line"> +<h2 id="crossing-the-red-line">Crossing The Red Line <a class="anchor" href="#crossing-the-red-line"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.</p> +</a></h2><p>This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.</p> <p>You feel better than you did before starting this PMO session but you are in fact more nervous and less relaxed than you would be as a non-PMOer, like someone who is living in Loma Linda or in an Amish village, even though you are actually PMOing and living in your supposed “porn paradise.” This position is even more ridiculous than wearing tight shoes because as you go through life an increasing amount of the discomfort remains even when the shoes are removed.</p> <p>Once the orgasm is achieved, the dopamine rapidly begins to leave the brain, causing a mood dip. Which explains why the PMOer wants to ‘edge’<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> and switch through multiple browser windows as they seek and search. As I said, the ‘habit’ doesn&rsquo;t exist. The real reason why every user goes on using internet porn is because of that little porn monster inside his stomach. Every now and again he has to feed it. The PMOer himself will decide when he does that and it tends to be on four types of occasion or a combination of them.</p> <p>These occasions are:</p> @@ -4195,25 +4241,19 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to </ul> <p>What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If you think about it, what other types of occasion are there in our lives; apart from sleep? The truth is that PMO neither relieves boredom and stress nor promotes concentration and relaxation. It is all just illusion. Apart from being a drug, PMO is also a destroyer of happiness and virility.</p> <p>In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes, print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’ and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive without knowing the difference between food and poison.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"><strong>Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"> +<h2 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics">Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics <a class="anchor" href="#brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!</p> +</a></h2><p>Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!</p> <p>When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were titillating but most were disgusting, causing you to avert your eyes away. Like you would if had accidentally glanced a feeding mother’s breast. And some of us are even revolted with what they saw when the star reminded them of someone dear to their heart or a scene which recalled their own instance of being the victim. Some don’t feel like it to browse and masturbate at the same time. It may be hard to believe for you but the non-PMOs, who don’t PMO after their first time, are the lucky ones. They actually decided that it was not their cup of tea. It must be hard for you to believe but stay with me.</p> <p>How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even after a hard day? Why not? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That&rsquo;s all.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak"><strong>Are PMOers Mentally Weak?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#are-pmoers-mentally-weak"> +<h2 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak">Are PMOers Mentally Weak? <a class="anchor" href="#are-pmoers-mentally-weak"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.</p> +</a></h2><p>It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.</p> <p>To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to become hooked, and this is why it is difficult to stop teenagers. Because they are skilled in seeking and finding material, they know online privacy options and can clean their tracks - if they still feel some stigma and they (wrongfully) believe they can stop whenever they want to. Why do they not learn from us? Then again, why did we not learn from our PMOers and addicts?</p> <p>Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of ‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying is the ritual of relieving those pangs.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"><strong>The High From The Dance Around The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"> +<h2 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line">The High From The Dance Around The Red Line <a class="anchor" href="#the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.</p> +</a></h2><p>Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.</p> <p>Ask a user who believes that he sticks to a certain actor or genre - only because he likes something about the star or the theme (if any) of the clip: “If you cannot get your normal brand of porn and can only obtain a poor or unsafe brand, do you stop masturbating?” No way. A PMOer will masturbate to anything rather than abstain and it doesn&rsquo;t matter if he has to switch to escalating themes, different sex-orientation-themes, look-alike actresses, dangerous settings shocking relationships etc. To begin with they taste awful but if you persevere you will learn to like them. Most PMOers will also try to seek masturbation even after having real sex (unfulfilment, porn-induced unrealistic expectations etc.), or after a long, stressful work day, fever, colds, flu, sore throats and even when admitted in hospitals.</p> <p>Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wanted then it makes no sense to be with your laptop. During my conversation some PMOers find it alarming to realize they are drug addicts and think it will make it even more difficult to stop. In fact, it is all good news for two important reasons:</p> <ol> @@ -4221,18 +4261,14 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <li>Although internet porn is the most powerful trigger for ‘novelty’ and ‘sex’ based dopamine ‘flooding’ - because of the speed with which you become hooked, you are never badly hooked. The actual withdrawal pangs are so mild that most PMOers have lived and died without ever realizing that they have suffered them.</li> </ol> <p>You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc. The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn&rsquo;t bother the PMOers.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-smokers-analogy"><strong>The Smokers Analogy</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-smokers-analogy"> +<h2 id="the-smokers-analogy">The Smokers Analogy <a class="anchor" href="#the-smokers-analogy"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they&rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn&rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.</p> +</a></h2><p>A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they&rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn&rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.</p> <p>PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their parents while visiting for family get togethers etc. with little discomfort to themselves. In fact, most PMOers have extended periods during which they abstain without effort. Even in my case I would quite happily go a week or so without a PMO incident. In the later years as a PMOer I actually used to look forward to these days when I could stop choking my penis (what a ridiculous &lsquo;habit&rsquo;).</p> <p>The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"><strong>The Big Monster - The Brainwashing</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"> +<h2 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing">The Big Monster - The Brainwashing <a class="anchor" href="#the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.</p> +</a></h2><p>You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.</p> <p>Not all the amateurs are ‘amateurs’ on these tube sites, oversized body parts and overcharged scenarios are the norm, aided by a bit of the ‘viagran’ help.</p> <p>As I say, the actual porn addiction is not the main problem. It just acts as a catalyst to keep our minds confused over the real problem: the brainwashing. It may be of consolation to lifelong and heavy PMOers to know that it is just as easy for them to stop as casual PMOers. In a peculiar way. it is easier. The further you go along with the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;, the more it drags you down and the greater the gain when you stop.</p> <p>It may be of further consolation for you to know that the rumours that occasionally circulate that the neural pathways created are there for life, and so at the right (or wrong) time and with strong stimuli you will be sliding again down the ‘water slide’ of internet porn and masturbation to permanently destroy your real life sex are untrue.</p> @@ -4259,7 +4295,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:42:16 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-05-why-do-we-carry-on-with-pmo/ - <p>We all start PMOing for many reasons, usually social pressures or our biological curiosity, but once we feel we are becoming hooked, why do we carry on using porn? No regular PMOer knows why he or she looks at porn. If PMOers knew the true reason, they would stop doing it. The true answer is the same for all PMOers but the variety of replies is infinite, I find this part of the consultation the most amusing and at the same time the most pathetic.</p> + <h2 id="why-do-we-carry-on-with-pmo">Why Do We Carry on With PMO <a class="anchor" href="#why-do-we-carry-on-with-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>We all start PMOing for many reasons, usually social pressures or our biological curiosity, but once we feel we are becoming hooked, why do we carry on using porn? No regular PMOer knows why he or she looks at porn. If PMOers knew the true reason, they would stop doing it. The true answer is the same for all PMOers but the variety of replies is infinite, I find this part of the consultation the most amusing and at the same time the most pathetic.</p> <p>All PMOers know in their heart of hearts that they are fools. They know that they had no need to use porn or internet porn before they became hooked. Most of them can remember that their first ‘peek’ was a mix of revulsion and novel curiosity. They then filter out and get “skilled” at “locating” and “bookmarking” the right porn sites. They know that they had to work hard in order to become hooked.</p> <p>The most annoying part is that they sense that non-addicts - most women, older guys, people living in countries where hi-speed internet porn is not available “on tap” - are not missing anything and that they are laughing at them.</p> <p>However, PMOers are intelligent, rational human beings. They know that they are taking enormous future risks and so they spend a lot of time rationalizing their ‘habit’. The actual reason why PMOers continue is a subtle combination of the factors that I will elaborate in the next two chapters. They are:</p> @@ -4276,7 +4314,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:38:28 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-04-the-sinister-trap/ - <p>Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it&rsquo;s an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked.</p> + <h2 id="the-sinister-trap">The Sinister Trap <a class="anchor" href="#the-sinister-trap"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it&rsquo;s an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked.</p> <p>It is the only trap in nature which has does not require a lot of hard work to set up. The thing that springs the trap is not that all porn clips feature young, high quality, sexy models; it’s that most of the thumbnails on any porn web page are ugly looking, unattractive, amateurish, home-made clips of unknown models. If the first timer’s first look at a tube page was only filled with angelic beauties, professional models and high quality then the alarm bells would ring. And as intelligent human beings, we could then understand why half the adult population was systematically addicted to watching something that is cutting down their very same potential to do what they are viewing. In many known and yet unknown ways porn cuts down sexual performance and the feeling of satisfaction.</p> <p>But because that first “peek” has “stains and holes,” a mishmash of low quality clips of not-so-hot models, our young minds are reassured that we will never become hooked, and we think that because we are not enjoying them we can stop whenever we want to. It is the only drug in nature that prevents you from achieving your aim. Our curiosity brings us to its door steps. You dare not even click on all of the thumbnails because some of them will make you feel sick and throw up! If you were to accidentally click on an “I-did-not-see-that” clip - all you want to do is get away from the site and close your laptop.</p> <p>With women, the aim is to be the sophisticated modern young lady. We have all seen them acting up and looking absolutely ridiculous. By the time the boys have learnt to look tough and the girls have learnt to look sophisticated, they wish they had never started in the first place. I wonder whether women ever look sophisticated when they discuss the top 10 porn sites, or whether this is a figment of our imaginations created by internet porn companies.</p> @@ -4294,7 +4334,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:31:45 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-03-why-is-it-difficult-to-stop/ - <p>As I explained earlier, I got interested in this subject because of my own addiction. When I finally stopped it was like magic. When I had previously tried to stop there were weeks of black depression. There would be odd days when I was comparatively cheerful but the next day back with the depression. It was like clawing your way out of a slippery pit, you feel you are near the top, you see the sunshine and then find yourself sliding down again. Eventually you open your browser and as you masturbate you feel awful and you try to work out why you have to do it.</p> + <h2 id="why-is-it-difficult-to-stop">Why Is It Difficult to Stop? <a class="anchor" href="#why-is-it-difficult-to-stop"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As I explained earlier, I got interested in this subject because of my own addiction. When I finally stopped it was like magic. When I had previously tried to stop there were weeks of black depression. There would be odd days when I was comparatively cheerful but the next day back with the depression. It was like clawing your way out of a slippery pit, you feel you are near the top, you see the sunshine and then find yourself sliding down again. Eventually you open your browser and as you masturbate you feel awful and you try to work out why you have to do it.</p> <p>One of the questions I always ask online is: “do you want to stop PMO?” In a way it is a stupid question. All users (including members who dispute total abstinence) would love to stop PMO. If you ask to the most confirmed PMOer: “if you could go back to the time before you became hooked, with the knowledge you have now, would you have started PMO?”</p> <p>“NO WAY,” would be the reply.</p> <p>Say to the confirmed PMOer - someone who defends internet porn and who doesn&rsquo;t think that it cause injury to the brain (PIED, hypofrontality or the decreases in the dopamine receptors and etc.) - “do you encourage your children to use PMO?”</p> @@ -4343,12 +4385,14 @@ man and woman from performance based anxieties.&#160;<a href="#fnref: - 03-02 the Easy Method + 03-02 The Easy Method https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-02-the-easy-method/ Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:26:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-02-the-easy-method/ - <p>The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy.</p> + <h2 id="the-easy-method">The Easy Method <a class="anchor" href="#the-easy-method"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy.</p> <p>Provided that you are not a non-PMOer (who had never got addicted) or an ex-PMOer (who had quit or is in the fasting days of the porn-diet), it is essential to not quit until you have finished the book completely. This may appear to be a contradiction. Later I shall be explaining that porn do absolutely nothing for you at all. In fact, one of the many conundrums about internet porn is that when we are actually masturbating to a porn clip, we look at it and wonder why we are doing it. It is only when we have been deprived that the craving for PMO becomes precious.</p> <p>However, let us accept that, whether you like it or not, you believe you are hooked. When you believe you are hooked, you can never be completely relaxed or concentrate properly unless you are using PMO. So do not attempt to stop PMO before you have finished the whole book. This instruction to continue to masturbate using porn until you have completed the book has caused me more frustration than any other. As you read further your desire to masturbate to porn will gradually be reduced. Do not go off half-cocked; this could be fatal. Remember, all you have to do is to follow the instructions in the right order. When I first started writing on forums many of the readers also stopped purely because I had done it. They thought, “if he can do it, anybody can.”</p> <p>Over the years, I managed to persuade the ones that hadn&rsquo;t stopped to realize just how nice it is to be free! I gave my hackbook for free upon request. I worked on the basis that, even if it were the most boring book ever written, they would still read it, if only because it had been written by an ex-PMOer. I was surprised and hurt to learn that,they hadn&rsquo;t bothered to finish the book.</p> @@ -4380,12 +4424,14 @@ man and woman from performance based anxieties.&#160;<a href="#fnref: - 03-01 the Worst PMO Addict I Have Yet to Meet + 03-01 The Worst PMO Addict I Have Yet to Meet https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-01-the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet/ Tue, 20 Dec 2022 17:10:39 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-01-the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet/ - <p>Perhaps I should begin by describing my competence for writing this book. No, I am not a doctor or a psychiatrist; my qualifications are far more appropriate. I spent thirty years of my life as a confirmed fapper. In the later years I used porn on a daily bases to get orgasm(s).During my life I had made a great number of attempts to stop. I never got past a full week of abstinence, and I was still climbing up the wall, with an “annoying alarm clock beeping” in my head called craving. With most PMOers, on the health side, it&rsquo;s a question of “ I&rsquo;ll stop before it happens to me.” I had reached the stage where I knew it has caused PIED, hypofrontality (inability to control and execute action towards a goal), irritability, lack of energy, soulless eyes, mental dryness, stress and pain in the lower back, genital irritations. It bothered me, but it still didn&rsquo;t stop me.</p> + <h2 id="the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet">The Worst PMO Addict I Have Yet to Meet <a class="anchor" href="#the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Perhaps I should begin by describing my competence for writing this book. No, I am not a doctor or a psychiatrist; my qualifications are far more appropriate. I spent thirty years of my life as a confirmed fapper. In the later years I used porn on a daily bases to get orgasm(s).During my life I had made a great number of attempts to stop. I never got past a full week of abstinence, and I was still climbing up the wall, with an “annoying alarm clock beeping” in my head called craving. With most PMOers, on the health side, it&rsquo;s a question of “ I&rsquo;ll stop before it happens to me.” I had reached the stage where I knew it has caused PIED, hypofrontality (inability to control and execute action towards a goal), irritability, lack of energy, soulless eyes, mental dryness, stress and pain in the lower back, genital irritations. It bothered me, but it still didn&rsquo;t stop me.</p> <p>I felt lack of enthusiasm to go to gym or just a walk even if it’s sunny outside or simple weight lifting at home either. I had reached the stage where I gave up even trying to stop. I found excuses in substitute methods (controlled use, safe porn, porn-diet and etc. discussed later) as advocated by sexologists, forum users and medical pros - who have no idea of its effect on brain chemistry and who are themselves fooled by their &rsquo;little monster&rsquo; (not devil or satan - we will talk about monsters later) . The novelty trap and shock value provided by internet porn delivered at home with a low risk high reward deal is something that they can’t even think of. They are still in the static playboy era. And the younger ones have buried their heads under the sand so they can still continue to PMO.</p> <p>The worst part is it was not so much that I enjoyed the PMO. It was just doing it routinely, a chore - like slipping down the water slides, in fact there are brain water slides greased well by the neuro chemicals (DeltaFosB proteins made by dopamine which store emotion scripts for easy recall, will be discussing later). A simple cue such as a commercial, or a day to day stress that got ‘relieved’ temporarily by PMO is all it takes to complete the ride down the ‘waterslide’. Some time in their lives most PMOers have suffered from the illusion that they enjoy the ride, the novelty, the rush and of course the orgasm, but I never had that illusion.</p> <p>I have most times detested the porn, even when I liked the orgasm. But at all times I thought a release from PMO helped me to relax. It gave me courage and confidence, and I was always miserable when I tried to stop, never being able to visualize an enjoyable life without PMO. And so my PMO habit which had started before my marriage stayed with me during and after my marriage was over. I had experienced PIED but I blocked it out and found excuses , “it happens to every man”. Well it does of course - but &lsquo;it&rsquo; happened to me again and again. My penis, I found it difficult to get hard - when I am with real woman. Could it be because I had habituated it to work in limp mode? Later I found that it was hard for me to get hard even with porn.</p> @@ -4423,7 +4469,9 @@ Do not take anything for granted. Question not only what I tell you but also you Tue, 20 Dec 2022 16:58:54 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/02-02-sister-kenny/ - <p>You&rsquo;ve probably seen the film Sister Kenny. In case you haven&rsquo;t, it was about the time when infantile paralysis or polio was the scourge of our children. I vividly remember that the words engendered the same fear in me as the word cancer does today. The effect of polio was not only to paralyze the legs and arms but to distort the limbs. The established medical treatment was to put those limbs in irons and thus prevent the distortion. The result was paralysis for life.</p> + <h2 id="sister-kenny">Sister Kenny <a class="anchor" href="#sister-kenny"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>You&rsquo;ve probably seen the film Sister Kenny. In case you haven&rsquo;t, it was about the time when infantile paralysis or polio was the scourge of our children. I vividly remember that the words engendered the same fear in me as the word cancer does today. The effect of polio was not only to paralyze the legs and arms but to distort the limbs. The established medical treatment was to put those limbs in irons and thus prevent the distortion. The result was paralysis for life.</p> <p>Sister Kenny believed the irons inhibited recovery and proved a thousand times over that the muscles could be re-educated so that the child could walk again. However, Sister Kenny wasn&rsquo;t a doctor, she was merely a nurse. How dare she dabble in a province that was confined to qualified doctors? It didn&rsquo;t seem to matter that Sister Kenny had found the solution to the problem and had proved her solution to be effective. The children that were treated by Sister Kenny knew she was right, so did their parents, yet the established medical profession not only refused to adopt her methods but actually prevented her from practicing. It took Sister Kenny twenty years before the medical profession would accept the obvious.</p> <p>I (Allen Carr) first saw that film years before I (Allen Carr) discovered EASYWAY, The film was very interesting and no doubt there was an element of truth. However, it was equally obvious that Hollywood had used a large portion of poetic license. Sister Kenny couldn&rsquo;t possibly have discovered something that the combined knowledge of medical science had failed to discover. Surely the established medical specialists weren&rsquo;t the dinosaurs they were being portrayed as? How could it possibly have taken them twenty years to accept the facts that were staring them in the face?</p> <p>They say that fact is stranger than fiction, I apologize for accusing the makers of Sister Kenny for using poetic license. Even in this so-called enlightened age of modern communications, even having access to modern communications, I&rsquo;ve failed to get my message across.</p> @@ -4460,7 +4508,9 @@ Do not take anything for granted. Question not only what I tell you but also you Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:27:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/02-01-introduction/ - <div style="text-align: center;"> + <h2 id="introduction">Introduction <a class="anchor" href="#introduction"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><div style="text-align: center;"> <h2 id="im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo">&lsquo;I&rsquo;M GOING TO CURE THE WORLD OF PMO&rsquo; <a class="anchor" href="#im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> </a></h2></div> @@ -4506,7 +4556,9 @@ the world would also see the light and adopt my method.</li> Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:23:44 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/01-03-fear/ - <p>Fear that we will have to survive an indeterminate period of misery, deprivation and unsatisfied craving in order to be free. Fear that a night all by yourself or the eve of a test or exam will be miserable fighting uncontrollable impulses. Fear that we&rsquo;ll never be able to concentrate, handle stress or be as confident without our little crutch. Fear that our personality and character will change.</p> + <h2 id="fear">Fear <a class="anchor" href="#fear"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Fear that we will have to survive an indeterminate period of misery, deprivation and unsatisfied craving in order to be free. Fear that a night all by yourself or the eve of a test or exam will be miserable fighting uncontrollable impulses. Fear that we&rsquo;ll never be able to concentrate, handle stress or be as confident without our little crutch. Fear that our personality and character will change.</p> <p>But most of all, the fear of &lsquo;once an addict always an addict,&rsquo; that we will never be completely free and spend the rest of our lives at odd times craving the occasional porn induced orgasm. If, as I did, you have already tried all the conventional ways to quit and been through the misery of what I describe as the willpower method of stopping, you will not only be affected by that fear, but convinced you can never quit.</p> <p>If you are apprehensive, panic-stricken or feel that the time is not right for you to give up, then let me assure you that your apprehension or panic is caused by fear. That fear is not relieved by PMO but was indeed created by PMO. You didn&rsquo;t decide to fall into the porn trap. But like all traps, it is designed to ensure that you remain trapped. Ask yourself, when you viewed those first porn pictures and videos, did you decide to come back to view them as long as you have? So when are you going to quit? Tomorrow? Next year? Stop kidding yourself! The trap is designed to hold you for life. Why else do you think all these other PMO addicts don&rsquo;t quit before it kills their lives?</p> <p>As you will soon be reading, the feedbacks I got has revealed information that has exceeded my wildest aspirations of the effectiveness of my method. It has also revealed two aspects of the method that have caused me concern. The second I will be covering later.</p> @@ -4537,7 +4589,9 @@ the world would also see the light and adopt my method.</li> Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:19:35 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/01-02-warning/ - <p>Perhaps you are somewhat apprehensive about reading this book. Perhaps, like the majority of PMO addicts, the mere thought of stopping fills you with panic and although you have every intention of stopping one day, it is not today.</p> + <h2 id="warning">Warning <a class="anchor" href="#warning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Perhaps you are somewhat apprehensive about reading this book. Perhaps, like the majority of PMO addicts, the mere thought of stopping fills you with panic and although you have every intention of stopping one day, it is not today.</p> <p>If you are expecting me to inform you of the terrible health issues that PMO addicts risk, that they are susceptible to be affected by PIED (porn induced erectile disfunction), unreliable arousals, fading penetration, loss of interest in real partners,loss of control over themselves, loss of relationships, that it is a filthy, disgusting habit and that <em>YOU</em> are a stupid, spineless, weak-willed jellyfish, then I must disappoint you. Those tactics never helped me to quit and if they were going to help you, you would already have quit.</p> <p>Our Method, which I shall refer to as EASYPEASY doesn&rsquo;t work that way. Some of the things that I am about to say, you might find difficult to believe. However by the time you&rsquo;ve finished reading the book, you&rsquo;ll not only believe them, but wonder how you could ever have been brainwashed into believing otherwise.</p> <p>There is a common misapprehension that we choose to watch porn. PMO addicts ( yes addicts) no more choose to do that than alcoholics choose to become alcoholics, or heroin addicts choose to become heroin addicts. It is true that we choose to boot up the laptop, fire up the browser and visit our favourite online harem<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> tube sites. I occasionally choose to go to the cinema, but I certainly didn&rsquo;t choose to spend my whole life in the cinema theatre. The curiosity and my nature took me there but I would not have done that if I had known it would addict me and cause me my health, happiness and relationships. Only if I had heard about PIED on my first visit to that porn site?</p> @@ -4562,7 +4616,9 @@ the world would also see the light and adopt my method.</li> Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:14:52 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/01-01-preface/ - <p>This hackbook will enable you to stop PMO, immediately, painlessly, and permanently, without the need for Willpower or feeling any sense of deprivation or sacrifice. It will not judge you. It will not embarrass you. It will not put pressure on you to undergo painful measures.</p> + <h2 id="preface">Preface <a class="anchor" href="#preface"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This hackbook will enable you to stop PMO, immediately, painlessly, and permanently, without the need for Willpower or feeling any sense of deprivation or sacrifice. It will not judge you. It will not embarrass you. It will not put pressure on you to undergo painful measures.</p> <p>That goes against everything you&rsquo;ve ever been told about PMO. But ask yourself what you&rsquo;ve been told before worked for you? If it had, you wouldn&rsquo;t be reading this site.</p> <ul> <li>Instantaneous</li> diff --git a/new-site/public/tags/updates/index.xml b/new-site/public/tags/updates/index.xml index b0c44a61..58764678 100644 --- a/new-site/public/tags/updates/index.xml +++ b/new-site/public/tags/updates/index.xml @@ -2620,7 +2620,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:22:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-05/ - <p>“Go inside and try in vain to have the same problem. It was a terrible problem, wasn&rsquo;t it? You want to make changes, haven&rsquo;t you?&hellip; What would it be like when you have made those changes, now? In the future as you look back and see what it was like to have had that problem&hellip; as you think about it now, if you could make this change for yourself so that you could STOP&hellip; having made that change and see yourself now. Do you like the way you look if you could make that change and look back at yourself having made that change now!”</p> + <h2 id="scripts-05">Scripts-05 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-05"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>“Go inside and try in vain to have the same problem. It was a terrible problem, wasn&rsquo;t it? You want to make changes, haven&rsquo;t you?&hellip; What would it be like when you have made those changes, now? In the future as you look back and see what it was like to have had that problem&hellip; as you think about it now, if you could make this change for yourself so that you could STOP&hellip; having made that change and see yourself now. Do you like the way you look if you could make that change and look back at yourself having made that change now!”</p> <p>Credit to <a href="http://www.hypnosis.com/scripts_full.php?id2=48">http://www.hypnosis.com/scripts_full.php?id2=48</a></p> @@ -2631,7 +2633,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:21:45 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-04/ - <p>To an individual who has had a PMO problem, porn is poison. It&rsquo;s poison in two ways. First of all it&rsquo;s poison because it breaks down the very will power, the very ego, the very faith in oneself that the individual is able to build up. And so it is a psychological poison because having once conquered the porn problem, if you ever allow it to get back into you again then you begin thinking about yourself all the thoughts that you thought about yourself before, namely, well I really am no good anyway, I really didn&rsquo;t lick it and so on. So it&rsquo;s a psychological poison.</p> + <h2 id="scripts-04">Scripts-04 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-04"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>To an individual who has had a PMO problem, porn is poison. It&rsquo;s poison in two ways. First of all it&rsquo;s poison because it breaks down the very will power, the very ego, the very faith in oneself that the individual is able to build up. And so it is a psychological poison because having once conquered the porn problem, if you ever allow it to get back into you again then you begin thinking about yourself all the thoughts that you thought about yourself before, namely, well I really am no good anyway, I really didn&rsquo;t lick it and so on. So it&rsquo;s a psychological poison.</p> <p>Now in addition to that for anyone who has ever had a porn problem, it&rsquo;s a physical poison. It actually poisons your system. Because you&rsquo;re allergic to porn just like other people are allergic to other things. And so if you&rsquo;re allergic to something, even penicillin, it&rsquo;s poison to you and you must never take it. The same is true with porn. If you&rsquo;re allergic to it, you&rsquo;re through with it. Now you&rsquo;ve been allergic to porn. porn is a poison to you. What&rsquo;s even more fascinating is that usually the reason why one is drawn to porn is not for most of the reasons that most people reiterate, namely that it makes me feel good, I like it, all these things. On the contrary, almost every person who has a porn problem will tell you just the opposite. I don&rsquo;t like it. It&rsquo;s ruining my life. It&rsquo;s terrible.</p> <p>And if that&rsquo;s true, then why are they drawn to it? For precisely that reason. Because it is a poison and because they in their subconscious mind need to commit suicide and so they do it the slow tortuous way. And so that&rsquo;s why it&rsquo;s so important that the underlying cause of the problem be completely removed so that you don&rsquo;t need to punish yourself again with porn. And that&rsquo;s why we have removed them.</p> <p>That&rsquo;s why you don&rsquo;t need to punish yourself anymore. Because you realize you&rsquo;re not guilty to begin with. And if you&rsquo;re not guilty you don&rsquo;t have to punish yourself. And since you&rsquo;re through punishing yourself, you&rsquo;re through poisoning yourself. Yes porn is a poison. It&rsquo;s important that you realize that it&rsquo;s a poison and you are leaving poisons alone. Because you don&rsquo;t need poison any more. You don&rsquo;t need to poison yourself. You don&rsquo;t need to punish yourself. You&rsquo;re through with all that.</p> @@ -2646,7 +2650,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:20:17 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-03/ - <p>Now as you sink deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance. You pay no attention to any other sound but the sound of my voice. You sink deeper and deeper with every breath you take. Deeper and deeper and deeper, way down, deeper and deeper relaxed.</p> + <h2 id="scripts-03">Scripts-03 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-03"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Now as you sink deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance. You pay no attention to any other sound but the sound of my voice. You sink deeper and deeper with every breath you take. Deeper and deeper and deeper, way down, deeper and deeper relaxed.</p> <p>In the past porn may have been to you something that meant life. In your mind you may have accepted a suggestion that porn saves your life from boredom or porn protects you from being injured socially, porn is good for you in some manner or another. But that was yesterday and we are in the future. All that was yesterday, because porn may have protected you from injury in the past socially, it could have even saved your life from boredom.</p> <p>And those suggestions may have been good suggestions at one time but they have outlived their usefulness and if any of those suggestions are present to any degree in your mind, they are completely removed as of now. And that suggestion takes complete and thorough effect upon your mind, body and spirit.</p> <p>Now to other people porn means death. It&rsquo;s a way of punishing oneself. It&rsquo;s a poison and some people want to poison themselves. It&rsquo;s a method of slow suicide. Well, you don&rsquo;t need that now. If porn ever meant death and suicide to you and you have a need to punish yourself, that need is now long gone and we remove that suggestion. The truth of the matter is that porn is just porn. It&rsquo;s not life. It&rsquo;s not death. As a matter of fact, it&rsquo;s not anything to you anymore. It&rsquo;s nothing, neutral feelings. It&rsquo;s something that you don&rsquo;t need nor do you want.</p> @@ -2662,7 +2668,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:18:50 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-02/ - <p>As you go deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance and you pay attention only to the sound of my voice. As you listen carefully to the sound of my voice, we are going to remove a number of suggestions which have been in your mind. We are going to remove them completely and as you listen carefully to them we&rsquo;re simply going to dissolve them&hellip; throw them out of your mind completely and forever&hellip; Nothing disturbs you and nothing bothers you and nothing can distract you in any way from listening to the sound of my voice&hellip; and from completely accepting everything I tell you&hellip; for everything I tell you is the absolute truth to you&hellip; and we&rsquo;re going to remove all suggestions from your mind that have been detrimental to you in the past.</p> + <h2 id="scripts-02">Scripts-02 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-02"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As you go deeper and deeper relaxed all of the sounds fade away in the distance and you pay attention only to the sound of my voice. As you listen carefully to the sound of my voice, we are going to remove a number of suggestions which have been in your mind. We are going to remove them completely and as you listen carefully to them we&rsquo;re simply going to dissolve them&hellip; throw them out of your mind completely and forever&hellip; Nothing disturbs you and nothing bothers you and nothing can distract you in any way from listening to the sound of my voice&hellip; and from completely accepting everything I tell you&hellip; for everything I tell you is the absolute truth to you&hellip; and we&rsquo;re going to remove all suggestions from your mind that have been detrimental to you in the past.</p> <p>The first suggestion you had in your mind is that somehow or another that porn, an image, an illusion, has been of some use to you. Masturbating to porn is of no use to you and you know it. You&rsquo;re through PMO for any reason. It doesn&rsquo;t make you relax, it doesn&rsquo;t make you sleep well, it doesn&rsquo;t do anything for you. As a matter of fact it ruins your efficiency&hellip; and consequently you&rsquo;re through with it. The fact that porn has ever been beneficial to you in any way is completely removed from your mind. I am going to count to five and that suggestion is completely removed from your mind never to return. One, Two, Three, Four, Five.</p> <p>The next suggestion that you may have accepted is that porn is a good means of punishing yourself. In the first place, you&rsquo;re through punishing yourself and in the second place you&rsquo;re through using porn as a means to do it. The only reason anyone ever punishes himself is because somewhere deep in his mind he feels guilty and you&rsquo;re through allowing your-self to feel guilty. And so with one count we&rsquo;re going to remove the guilt, whatever it is and from whatever source the punishment, the need for punishment, and that porn could be used as a vehicle to achieve it. One. Two. Three. Four. Five.</p> <p>Those ideas are all gone. Porn to you is a poison and a lousy inefficient poison at that&hellip; just enough poison to make you sick and ineffective. But then you&rsquo;re through poisoning yourself and you&rsquo;re through using porn and so that need is also removed from your mind. One. Two. Three. Four. Five.</p> @@ -2679,7 +2687,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:17:25 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/05-01-scripts-01/ - <p>You are relaxed now and because you are so relaxed you begin to feel free from all tensions, anxiety and fear. You now realize that you are more confident and sure of yourself because you have taken the enormous first step toward helping yourself. Great!</p> + <h2 id="scripts-01">Scripts-01 <a class="anchor" href="#scripts-01"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>You are relaxed now and because you are so relaxed you begin to feel free from all tensions, anxiety and fear. You now realize that you are more confident and sure of yourself because you have taken the enormous first step toward helping yourself. Great!</p> <p>You begin to feel this strength from within, motivating you to overcome any and every obstacle that may stand in the way of your happiness, social life and home life. You are not a slave to PMO any more!</p> <p>You will find that from this moment on you are developing more self control. You will now face every situation in a calm, relaxed state of mind. Your thinking is very clear and sharp at all times. You are free!</p> <p>You begin to feel that your self respect and confidence are expanding more and more each and every day in every way. You now realize that in the past addiction was an escape and weakness that you are replacing with confidence, strength and self control. You are becoming a happy person now, with a positive attitude toward life. You are succeeding now and you have all the abilities for success.</p> @@ -2697,7 +2707,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:14:53 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/04-02-rebt-coping-statements/ - <ul> + <h2 id="rebt-coping-statements">REBT Coping Statements <a class="anchor" href="#rebt-coping-statements"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ul> <li><em>“I can stop PMO, even though it appears &lsquo;hard&rsquo; to do so. It’s not too hard and no matter how much trouble it takes, it’s worth it!”</em></li> <li><em>“If I keep ignoring and never giving into my powerful urges to PMO, I will make it easier and easier to resist them”</em></li> <li><em>“I can fully and unconditionally accept myself- yes, even with all my flaws and failings”</em></li> @@ -2722,7 +2734,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true Sat, 24 Dec 2022 12:13:26 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/04-01-the-instructions/ - <ol> + <h2 id="the-instructions">The Instructions <a class="anchor" href="#the-instructions"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Follow all the instructions.</li> <li>Keep an open mind.</li> <li>Start with a feeling of elation.</li> @@ -2734,11 +2748,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true <li>Always remember there&rsquo;s no such thing as &ldquo;Just One Peek&rdquo;.</li> <li>Never PMO again.</li> </ol> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="affirmations">Affirmations <a class="anchor" href="#affirmations"> +<h3 id="affirmations">Affirmations <a class="anchor" href="#affirmations"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<ul> +</a></h3><ul> <li>I am free from the slavery of PMO.</li> <li>It is easy for me to ignore my thoughts about PMO.</li> <li>Bye bye thoughts, bye bye Urges. Oh, there goes my cravings.</li> @@ -2763,7 +2775,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 11:36:58 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-44-should-i-tell-my-so/ - <p>Should I tell my wife, girlfriend and SO about my PMO? The intention here is that it would help you in quitting. I am of the solid opinion that all these are not needed. It would only reinforce your weakness against PMO.</p> + <h2 id="should-i-tell-my-so">Should I Tell My SO <a class="anchor" href="#should-i-tell-my-so"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Should I tell my wife, girlfriend and SO about my PMO? The intention here is that it would help you in quitting. I am of the solid opinion that all these are not needed. It would only reinforce your weakness against PMO.</p> <p>If you slip, you will feel miserable and guilty if you are following the Willpower Method. Add to that the feeling of deceiving your loved one will definitely push you through the vicious cycle of slip-lapse-relapse.</p> <p>If you are caught once - just say you are feeling good that you got caught and you are out of the prison. And you don’t want to talk about it. Many women can’t digest it. Many men wrongly attribute the woman to be of loose morals and hence a bad person. And if the SO breaks up with you (even if for some other reason) you will feel guilty for having screwed up your sex life with PMO OR feeling you “sacrificed” so much if you were successful in quitting - adding to the heart ache.</p> <p>You will look very weak. They will treat you as a weak person - of course only subconsciously. But you can smell it. Why the stress?</p> @@ -2777,26 +2791,22 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 11:31:13 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-43-advice-to-non-pmoers/ - <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK <a class="anchor" href="#help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book"> + <h2 id="advice-to-non-pmoers">Advice to Non-PMOers <a class="anchor" href="#advice-to-non-pmoers"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>First study the contents of this book and try to put yourself in the place of the PMOer. Do not force him to read this book or try to stop him by telling him he is ruining his health or playing with fire. He already knows this better than you do. PMOers do not continue in it because they enjoy it or because they want to. They only tell themselves and other people this in order to retain self-respect. They do it because they feel dependent on PMO because they think that it relaxes them and gives them courage and confidence (pleasure or crutch) and that life will never be enjoyable without “sex” - their version of it. If you try to force a PMOer to stop, he feels like a trapped animal and wants to be in his harem even more. This may turn him into a secret PMOer and in his mind the porn will become even more precious (see Chapter 26).</p> +</a></h2><h3 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK <a class="anchor" href="#help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>First study the contents of this book and try to put yourself in the place of the PMOer. Do not force him to read this book or try to stop him by telling him he is ruining his health or playing with fire. He already knows this better than you do. PMOers do not continue in it because they enjoy it or because they want to. They only tell themselves and other people this in order to retain self-respect. They do it because they feel dependent on PMO because they think that it relaxes them and gives them courage and confidence (pleasure or crutch) and that life will never be enjoyable without “sex” - their version of it. If you try to force a PMOer to stop, he feels like a trapped animal and wants to be in his harem even more. This may turn him into a secret PMOer and in his mind the porn will become even more precious (see Chapter 26).</p> <p>Instead, concentrate on the other side of the coin. Get him into the company of ex-PMOers (there are many blogs, forums etc. YBOP, No-Fap etc.). Get them to tell the PMOer how they too thought they were hooked for life and how much better life is as a non-PMOer. Once you have got him believing that he can stop then his mind will start to open up. Then start explaining the delusion created by withdrawal pangs. Not only are the “dopamine rushes” not giving him a boost but they are destroying his confidence and making him irritable and tired.</p> <p>He should now be ready to read this book himself. He will be expecting to read pages and pages about unreliable arousal, fading penetrations, PIED, PE, etc. Explain that the approach is completely different and that references to illness are just a small fraction of the material in the book.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD <a class="anchor" href="#help-during-the-withdrawal-period"> +<h3 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD <a class="anchor" href="#help-during-the-withdrawal-period"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>If you are dealing with a girlfriend or boyfriend - whether the ex-PMOer is suffering or not, assume that she/he is. Do not try to minimize his suffering by telling him it is easy to stop; he can do that himself. Instead keep telling him how proud you are, how much better he is looking, how much sweeter it is to be with him, how much easier he is in general. It is particularly important to keep doing this. When a PMOer makes an attempt to stop, the euphoria of the attempt and the attention he gets from friends and colleagues can help him along. However, they tend to forget quickly, so keep that praise going.</p> +</a></h3><p>If you are dealing with a girlfriend or boyfriend - whether the ex-PMOer is suffering or not, assume that she/he is. Do not try to minimize his suffering by telling him it is easy to stop; he can do that himself. Instead keep telling him how proud you are, how much better he is looking, how much sweeter it is to be with him, how much easier he is in general. It is particularly important to keep doing this. When a PMOer makes an attempt to stop, the euphoria of the attempt and the attention he gets from friends and colleagues can help him along. However, they tend to forget quickly, so keep that praise going.</p> <p>Because he is not talking about PMOing, you may think he has forgotten about it and don&rsquo;t want to remind him. Usually the complete opposite is the case with the Willpower Method, as the ex-PMOer tends to be obsessed by nothing else. So do not be frightened to bring the subject up and keep praising him: he will tell you if he doesn&rsquo;t want you to remind him of PMOing.</p> <p>Go out of your way to relieve him of pressures during the withdrawal period. Try to think of ways of making his life interesting and enjoyable. This can also be a trying period for non-PMOers - that is those of you who have never had this addiction. If one member of a group is irritable, it can cause general misery all round. So anticipate this if the ex-PMOer is feeling irritable. He may well take it out on you but do not retaliate: it is at this time that he needs your praise and sympathy the most. If you are feeling irritable yourself, try not to show it.</p> <p>One of the tricks an addict will play when trying to give up with the aid of the Willpower Method was to get into a tantrum, hoping that wife or friends would say, “I cannot bear to see you suffering like this. For goodness sake, have your poison.” The PMOer then does not lose face, as he isn&rsquo;t “giving in” - he has been instructed. If the ex-PMOer uses this ploy, on no account encourage him to lapse. Instead say, “if that is what PMO does to you, thank goodness you will soon be free. How marvellous that you had the courage and sense to give up.”</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL <a class="anchor" href="#help-end-this-scandal"> +<h3 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL <a class="anchor" href="#help-end-this-scandal"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>In my opinion, internet porn is one of the dangers in a free society, piggy backing on the good willed efforts of personal freedoms. Surely the very basis of civilization, the reason why the human species has advanced so far, is that we are capable of communicating our knowledge and experiences not only to each other but to future generations. Even the lower species find it necessary to warn their offspring of the pitfalls in life.</p> +</a></h3><p>In my opinion, internet porn is one of the dangers in a free society, piggy backing on the good willed efforts of personal freedoms. Surely the very basis of civilization, the reason why the human species has advanced so far, is that we are capable of communicating our knowledge and experiences not only to each other but to future generations. Even the lower species find it necessary to warn their offspring of the pitfalls in life.</p> <p>The producers of porn are not doing this in good faith, in the genuine belief that they help mankind, especially now as the addiction to internet porn is widely studied. Maybe in its initial stages people genuinely believed that porn taught intimacy to men and women but today the authorities know that it is a fallacy. Just watch any tube sites nowadays. They make no claims about education. The only claims they make are about the shock, novelty, escalation quality of their clips.</p> <p>The sheer hypocrisy is incredible. As a society we get uptight about school bullying and objectification of human body. Compared with internet porn, these problems are mere pimples in our society. Thirty five per cent of the population have been addicted to porn and most of them spend quality time with imaginary and illusory pixel people at the expense of health, virility, energy and time. Tens of thousands of people have their lives ruined every year because they become hooked. Internet high speed porn is by far the biggest killer in relationships and yet the biggest vested interest is our for-profit companies. Internet porn producers don’t spend on advertising the filth in mainstream publications - they don’t have to. Our biological urges will lead us to the thresholds of their well stocked internet harems. They give free samples just like your local drug dealer. Heck the tube sites don’t even stock the wares any more as they encourage visitors to post the content.</p> <p>How clever that porn companies show the 18+ warning at their home page as the deterrent for under age users. Some even don’t bother to do that. Internet porn affect everyone at all ages. “We have warned you of the danger. It is your choice.” Is the attitude they have. Anyway, do they take any steps to verify the age? No. That would discourage their customers. And of course if age verification is legislated they will find another country to host. Or they will pay some ‘elite’ to write how prohibition resulted in bootlegging and the creation of the Mafia. Conveniently forgotten is the question of why repealing prohibition did not result in the reduction of alcohol related casualty numbers. And the contribution of the failure of law enforcement to control the Mafia’s growth. So let’s not waste time in talking about them.</p> @@ -2807,11 +2817,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <p>I remember reading H. G. Well’s The Time Machine. The book describes an incident in the distant future in which a man falls into a river. His companions merely sit around the bank like cattle, oblivious to his cries of desperation. I found that incident inhuman and very disturbing. I find the general apathy of our society to the PMO problem very similar. We find characters in movies and TV series talking about or even engaging in porn in a casual way.</p> <p>Why do we allow society to subject healthy young teenagers, youngsters whose lives are complete before they start to get online, to claim their independence just for the privilege of destroying themselves mentally and physically in a lifetime of slavery, a lifetime of filth and disease? You may feel that I over-dramatize the facts. Not so. There are cases where lives were cut down in his early years of marriage because of PMO. He was a strong man and might still have been alive today. I believe I was within an inch of PIED during my forties, although I would have attributed it to my divorce rather than to PMO. I now spend my life being consulted by people who have been crippled by the disease or are in the last stages. And, if you care to think about it, you probably know of many too.</p> <p>There is a wind of change in society. A snowball has started that I hope this book will help turn into an avalanche. You too can help by spreading the message.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING <a class="anchor" href="#final-warning"> +<h3 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING <a class="anchor" href="#final-warning"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>You can now enjoy the rest of your life as a happy non-PMOer. In order to make sure that you do, you need to follow these simple instructions:</p> +</a></h3><p>You can now enjoy the rest of your life as a happy non-PMOer. In order to make sure that you do, you need to follow these simple instructions:</p> <ol> <li>Keep this page in your bookmarks and refer to it as much as you need.</li> <li>If you ever start to envy another PMOer, realize that they will be envious of you. You are not being deprived. They are.</li> @@ -2829,7 +2837,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 11:28:29 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-42-help-the-pmoer-left-on-the-sinking-ship/ - <p>PMOers are panicking nowadays. They sense that there is a change in the way internet porn is perceived by men and women. Internet porn’s addictive nature is being studied by more and more people. It is now rightly regarded not as the same as old traditional porn. It’s easy reach and effortless availability raises alarm even in the hearts of porn supporters. They also sense that their crusade for free speech and free thought is being hijacked by vicious elements. The wild wild west nature of the unpoliced internet makes it hard for enforcing age restrictive access to supranormal stimuli. Yet I don’t think this whole thing will be coming to an end anytime soon. Thousands of PMOers are now stopping and all porn users are conscious of the new brain studies that point their studied fingers to the similarities of drug and substance addiction. Every time a PMOer leaves the sinking ship, the ones left on it feel more miserable. Every PMOer instinctively knows that it is ridiculous to self sabotage and spend time in front of two dimensional pixels, treat the poor brain to super surges, develop porn brain water slides that will guarantee him unreliable erections and fading penetrations. If you still don&rsquo;t think it is silly, try talking to a porn magazine standing at the centre of the city square and ask yourself what the difference is. Just one. You cannot get the pleasure of warmth and intimacy that way. If you can stop buying alcohol and cigarettes every time you go grocery shopping you can definitely stop visiting your online harems. PMOers cannot find a rational reason for PMOing but if someone else is doing it, they do not feel quite so silly.</p> + <h2 id="help-the-pmoer-left-on-the-sinking-ship">Help the PMOer Left on the Sinking Ship <a class="anchor" href="#help-the-pmoer-left-on-the-sinking-ship"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>PMOers are panicking nowadays. They sense that there is a change in the way internet porn is perceived by men and women. Internet porn’s addictive nature is being studied by more and more people. It is now rightly regarded not as the same as old traditional porn. It’s easy reach and effortless availability raises alarm even in the hearts of porn supporters. They also sense that their crusade for free speech and free thought is being hijacked by vicious elements. The wild wild west nature of the unpoliced internet makes it hard for enforcing age restrictive access to supranormal stimuli. Yet I don’t think this whole thing will be coming to an end anytime soon. Thousands of PMOers are now stopping and all porn users are conscious of the new brain studies that point their studied fingers to the similarities of drug and substance addiction. Every time a PMOer leaves the sinking ship, the ones left on it feel more miserable. Every PMOer instinctively knows that it is ridiculous to self sabotage and spend time in front of two dimensional pixels, treat the poor brain to super surges, develop porn brain water slides that will guarantee him unreliable erections and fading penetrations. If you still don&rsquo;t think it is silly, try talking to a porn magazine standing at the centre of the city square and ask yourself what the difference is. Just one. You cannot get the pleasure of warmth and intimacy that way. If you can stop buying alcohol and cigarettes every time you go grocery shopping you can definitely stop visiting your online harems. PMOers cannot find a rational reason for PMOing but if someone else is doing it, they do not feel quite so silly.</p> <p>PMOers blatantly lie about their habit, not only to others and university researchers but worse of all to themselves. They have to. The brainwashing is essential if they are to retain some self-respect. They feel the need to justify their “habit” not only to themselves but to non-PMOers. They are therefore forever advertising the illusory advantages of porn and PMO by more subtler means.</p> <p>If a PMOer stops using the Willpower Method he still feels deprived and tends to become a moaner. All this does is to confirm to other PMOers how right they are to keep PMOing. If the ex-PMOer succeeds in kicking the habit, he is then grateful that he no longer has to go through life sabotaging himself or wasting energy. But he has no need to justify himself, he doesn&rsquo;t sit there saying how marvellous it is not to be PMOing. He will do that only if he is asked and PMOers won&rsquo;t ask that question. They wouldn&rsquo;t like the answer. Remember: it is fear that keeps them in their addiction and they would rather keep their heads in the sand. The only time they ask that question is when it is time to stop. Help the PMOer. Remove these fears. Tell him how marvellous it is not to have to go through life living in a prison, how lovely it is to wake up in the morning feeling fit and healthy instead of lacking in energy and self loathing, how wonderful it is to be free of slavery, to be able to enjoy the whole of your life, to be rid of those awful black shadows. Or, better still; get him to read this book.</p> <p>It is essential not to belittle a married PMOer by indicating that he is deliberately ruining his relationship or is in some way a cheat and is unclean. There is a common conception that the ex-PMOer is the worst in this respect. I believe this conception has some substance but I think this is due to the Willpower Method of stopping. Because the ex-PMOer, although he has kicked the habit, retains part of the brainwashing - part of him still believes that he has made a sacrifice. He feels vulnerable and his natural defensive mechanism is to attack the PMOer.</p> @@ -2848,7 +2858,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:21:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-41-feedback/ - <p>This method will be pooh-poohed by the so-called experts - as I have kept it thin, deliberately, on the ‘science’ side of porn addiction. This ‘hackbook’ is based on a very successful technique used by Alan Carr for quitting smoking, alcohol and gambling. I have personally broken away from the prisons of cigarette, alcohol and internet porn with this technique. I’d like to add here that I’ve tried some of the best programmes - such as CBT, DEADS and AVERT before arriving at the EasyWay. I could not close the deal. I was then led to studying about self hypnosis that deals with bad habits. The key idea that sold me on this method is his emphasis on the “feelings of misery and deprivation, misery and sacrifice, misery and guilt.” If you use the Will Power method you will invariably have all or one of these awful feelings that in themselves provide the grease to slide back to the addiction.</p> + <h2 id="feedback">Feedback <a class="anchor" href="#feedback"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This method will be pooh-poohed by the so-called experts - as I have kept it thin, deliberately, on the ‘science’ side of porn addiction. This ‘hackbook’ is based on a very successful technique used by Alan Carr for quitting smoking, alcohol and gambling. I have personally broken away from the prisons of cigarette, alcohol and internet porn with this technique. I’d like to add here that I’ve tried some of the best programmes - such as CBT, DEADS and AVERT before arriving at the EasyWay. I could not close the deal. I was then led to studying about self hypnosis that deals with bad habits. The key idea that sold me on this method is his emphasis on the “feelings of misery and deprivation, misery and sacrifice, misery and guilt.” If you use the Will Power method you will invariably have all or one of these awful feelings that in themselves provide the grease to slide back to the addiction.</p> <p>I&rsquo;m not a do-gooder. My war - which, I emphasize, is not against PMOers but against the porn trap, I wage for the purely selfish reason that I enjoy it. Every time I hear of a PMOer escaping from the prison I get a feeling of great pleasure, even when it has nothing to do with me. You can imagine also the immense pleasure I obtain from the grateful letters that I have received over time.</p> <p>There has also been considerable frustration. The frustration is caused mainly by two main categories of PMOer. First, in spite of the warning in the previous chapter, I am disturbed by the number of PMOers who find it easy to stop, yet later get hooked again and find they can&rsquo;t succeed the next time.</p> <p>Practically the last thing I say to ex-PMOers is: “Remember, you must never visit another online harem again.”</p> @@ -2908,11 +2920,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <blockquote> <p>Find out which one it is. Some people understand and believe everything I say but still start off with a feeling of doom and gloom, as if something terrible were happening. You are doing not only what you&rsquo;d like to do but what every PMOer on the planet would like to do. With any method of stopping, what the ex PMOer is trying to achieve is a certain frame of mind, so that whenever he thinks about PMO he says to himself, “YIPPEE! I&rsquo;M FREE!” If that&rsquo;s your object, why wait? Start off in that frame of mind and never lose it. The rest of the book is designed to make you understand why there is no alternative.</p> </blockquote> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="the-check-list"><strong>THE CHECK LIST</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-check-list"> +<h2 id="the-check-list">THE CHECK LIST <a class="anchor" href="#the-check-list"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>If you follow these simple instructions, you cannot fail:</p> +</a></h2><p>If you follow these simple instructions, you cannot fail:</p> <ol> <li>Make a solemn vow that you will never, ever, go online to visit your harem OR settle down for static pictures OR make peace with erotic graphics OR anything that contains supra normal stimuli, and stick to your vow.</li> <li>Get this clear in your mind: there is absolutely nothing to give up. By that I don&rsquo;t mean simply that you will be better off as a non-PMOer (you&rsquo;ve known that all this time); nor do I mean that although there is no rational reason why you PMO, you must get some form of pleasure or crutch from it or you wouldn&rsquo;t do it. What I mean is, there is no genuine pleasure or crutch in PMOing. It is just an illusion, it’s an addiction like banging your head against a wall to make it pleasant when you stop.</li> @@ -2926,7 +2936,7 @@ strains of life.</li> <hr> <ol> <li id="fn:1"> -<p><strong>MoR</strong> moment of revelation. R2T resistance to temptation. MaD misery and deprived. MaS misery and sacrifice. MaG misery and guilty. DSC dopamine surge claims.&#160;<a href="#fnref:1" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p> +<p><strong>MoR</strong> - moment of revelation. R2T resistance to temptation. MaD misery and deprived. MaS misery and sacrifice. MaG misery and guilty. DSC dopamine surge claims.&#160;<a href="#fnref:1" class="footnote-backref" role="doc-backlink">&#x21a9;&#xfe0e;</a></p> </li> </ol> </div> @@ -2939,7 +2949,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:20:54 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-40-a-final-warning/ - <p>No PMOer, given the chance of going back to the time before he became hooked with the knowledge he has now, would opt to start. Many of the them who consult me are convinced that if I could only help them stop, they would never dream of PMOing again, and yet thousands of PMOers successfully kick the habit for many years and lead perfectly happy lives, only to get trapped once again. I trust that this book will help you to find it relatively easy to stop. But be warned: PMOers who find it easy to stop find it easy to start again, DO NOT FALL FOR THIS TRAP.</p> + <h2 id="a-final-warning">A Final Warning <a class="anchor" href="#a-final-warning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>No PMOer, given the chance of going back to the time before he became hooked with the knowledge he has now, would opt to start. Many of the them who consult me are convinced that if I could only help them stop, they would never dream of PMOing again, and yet thousands of PMOers successfully kick the habit for many years and lead perfectly happy lives, only to get trapped once again. I trust that this book will help you to find it relatively easy to stop. But be warned: PMOers who find it easy to stop find it easy to start again, DO NOT FALL FOR THIS TRAP.</p> <p>No matter how long you have stopped or how confident you are that you will never become hooked again, make it a rule of life not to PMO for any reason. Resist the allusions and innuendoes in the media, and remember they are pushing their image of ‘openness’ by bringing porn into mainstream without realizing how porn, internet porn etc. are killers of relationships and of the personal sense of well being for a huge number of men and some women.</p> <p>Remember, that first peek or visit will do nothing for you. You will have no withdrawal pangs to relieve and it will make you feel awful. What it will do is to put the pleasure of dopamine rush into your mind and brain, and a little voice at the back of your mind will be saying, “you want another one.” Then you have got the choice of being miserable for a while or starting the whole filthy chain again.</p> @@ -2951,7 +2963,9 @@ strains of life.</li> Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:15:27 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-39-the-final-visit/ - <p>Having decided on your timing, you are now ready to visit your harem one last time. Before you do so, check on the two essentials:</p> + <h2 id="the-final-visit">The Final Visit <a class="anchor" href="#the-final-visit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Having decided on your timing, you are now ready to visit your harem one last time. Before you do so, check on the two essentials:</p> <ol> <li>Do you feel certain of success?</li> <li>Have you a feeling of doom and gloom or a sense of excitement that you are about to achieve something marvelous?</li> @@ -3002,7 +3016,9 @@ sites in my life again.”<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1& Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:13:13 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-38-the-moment-of-revelation/ - <p>The moment of revelation usually takes place about three weeks after stopping. The sky appears to become brighter and it is the moment when the brainwashing ends completely. When instead of telling yourself you do not need to PMO, you suddenly realize that the last thread is broken and you can enjoy the rest of your life without ever needing PMO again. It is also usually from this point that you start looking at other PMOers as objects of pity.</p> + <h2 id="the-moment-of-revelation">The Moment of Revelation <a class="anchor" href="#the-moment-of-revelation"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The moment of revelation usually takes place about three weeks after stopping. The sky appears to become brighter and it is the moment when the brainwashing ends completely. When instead of telling yourself you do not need to PMO, you suddenly realize that the last thread is broken and you can enjoy the rest of your life without ever needing PMO again. It is also usually from this point that you start looking at other PMOers as objects of pity.</p> <p>PMOers using the Willpower Method do not normally experience this moment because although they are glad to be ex-PMOers they continue through life believing they are making a sacrifice. The more you were addicted, the more marvellous this moment is and it lasts a lifetime. I consider I have been very fortunate in this life and had some wonderful moments but the most wonderful of all was that moment of revelation. With all the other highlights of my life, although I can remember they were happy times, I can never recapture the actual feeling. I can never get over the joy of not having to PMO any more. If ever I am feeling low and need a boost nowadays, I just think how lovely it is not to be hooked on that awful addiction. Half the people who contact me after they have stopped visiting the online harems say exactly the same thing: that it was the most marvellous event of their lives. Ah! What pleasure you have to come! With additional feedback, both from forums and personal interactions, I have learned that in most cases the moment of revelation occurs not after three weeks, as stated above, but within a few days.</p> <p>In my own case it happened before I was finished on my last harem visit. I am sure many of the readers here, before they’d even got to the end of the chapters would say something like: “You needn&rsquo;t say another word. I can see it all so clearly, I know I&rsquo;ll never PMO again.” From the messages I receive I&rsquo;m also aware that it frequently happens.</p> <p>Ideally if you follow all the instructions and understand the psychology completely, it should happen to you immediately.</p> @@ -3022,20 +3038,18 @@ sites in my life again.”<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1& Sat, 24 Dec 2022 09:10:40 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-37-should-i-avoid-temptation-situations/ - <p>I have been direct in my advice so far and would ask you to treat this advice as instruction rather than suggestion. I am explicit and direct, first because there are sound, practical reasons for my advice and second, because those reasons have been backed up by thousands of case studies. On the question of whether or not to try to avoid temptation during the withdrawal period, I regret that I cannot be direct. Each PMOer will need to decide for himself. I can, however, make what I hope -will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all our lives and this fear consists of two distinct phases:</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO? <a class="anchor" href="#phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo"> + <h2 id="should-i-avoid-temptation-situations">Should I Avoid Temptation Situations? <a class="anchor" href="#should-i-avoid-temptation-situations"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>This fear is that panicky feeling the PMOer gets when they are alone in a single phase or have an asexual, uninterested or unavailable partner. The fear isn&rsquo;t caused by withdrawal pangs but is the psychological fear of dependency - you cannot survive without sex and orgasm. It actually reaches its height when you are on the verge of quitting (I won’t use giving up); at that time your withdrawal pangs are at their lowest. It is the fear of the unknown, the sort of fear that people have when they are learning to dive.</p> +</a></h2><p>I have been direct in my advice so far and would ask you to treat this advice as instruction rather than suggestion. I am explicit and direct, first because there are sound, practical reasons for my advice and second, because those reasons have been backed up by thousands of case studies. On the question of whether or not to try to avoid temptation during the withdrawal period, I regret that I cannot be direct. Each PMOer will need to decide for himself. I can, however, make what I hope +will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all our lives and this fear consists of two distinct phases:</p> +<h3 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO? <a class="anchor" href="#phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>This fear is that panicky feeling the PMOer gets when they are alone in a single phase or have an asexual, uninterested or unavailable partner. The fear isn&rsquo;t caused by withdrawal pangs but is the psychological fear of dependency - you cannot survive without sex and orgasm. It actually reaches its height when you are on the verge of quitting (I won’t use giving up); at that time your withdrawal pangs are at their lowest. It is the fear of the unknown, the sort of fear that people have when they are learning to dive.</p> <p>The diving board is 1 foot high but seems to be 6 feet high. The water is 6 feet deep but appears to be 1 foot deep. It takes courage to launch yourself. You are convinced you are going to smash your head. The launching is the hardest part. If you can find the courage to do it, the rest is easy. This explains why many otherwise strong-willed PMOers either have never attempted to stop or can survive only a few days when they do. In fact, there are some PMOers on a porn diet who when they decide to stop, actually binge and escalate to harsher clips more quickly than if they had not decided to stop. The decision causes panic, which is stressful. This is one of the occasions when the brain triggers the instruction, “take a trip to your own personal harem.” But now you can&rsquo;t take one. You are being deprived - more stress.</p> <p>The trigger starts again quickly when the fuse blows and you fire up the browser. Don&rsquo;t worry. That panic is just psychological. It is the fear that you are dependent. The beautiful truth is that you are not, even when you are still addicted. Do not panic. Just trust me and launch yourself.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear <a class="anchor" href="#phase-2-longer-term-fear"> +<h3 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear <a class="anchor" href="#phase-2-longer-term-fear"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> -<p>The second phase of fear is longer-term. It involves the fear that certain situations in the future will not be enjoyable or that you will not be able to cope with a trauma without PMO. Don&rsquo;t worry. If you can launch yourself you will find the opposite to be the case. The avoidance of temptation itself falls into two main categories:</p> +</a></h3><p>The second phase of fear is longer-term. It involves the fear that certain situations in the future will not be enjoyable or that you will not be able to cope with a trauma without PMO. Don&rsquo;t worry. If you can launch yourself you will find the opposite to be the case. The avoidance of temptation itself falls into two main categories:</p> <ol> <li>“I will subscribe to a porn-diet of once in 4 days. I will feel more confident knowing that I can go online if it gets hard. It is OK if I fail I can just add up additional days to my next cycle.”</li> </ol> @@ -3058,7 +3072,9 @@ will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all o Sat, 24 Dec 2022 08:46:33 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-36-substitutes/ - <p>Substitutes include restricting to porn magazines, static internet images, going on a porn-diet<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> etc. <strong>DO NOT USE ANY OF THEM</strong>. They make it harder, not easier. If you do get a pang and use a substitute it will prolong the pang and make it harder. What you are really saying is, “I need to PMO to fill the void.” It will be like giving in to a hijacker or the tantrums of a child. It will just keep the pangs coming and prolong the torture. In any event the substitutes will not relieve the pangs. Your craving is for amino acids in the brain. All it will do is keep you thinking about PMOing. Remember these points:</p> + <h2 id="substitutes">Substitutes <a class="anchor" href="#substitutes"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Substitutes include restricting to porn magazines, static internet images, going on a porn-diet<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> etc. <strong>DO NOT USE ANY OF THEM</strong>. They make it harder, not easier. If you do get a pang and use a substitute it will prolong the pang and make it harder. What you are really saying is, “I need to PMO to fill the void.” It will be like giving in to a hijacker or the tantrums of a child. It will just keep the pangs coming and prolong the torture. In any event the substitutes will not relieve the pangs. Your craving is for amino acids in the brain. All it will do is keep you thinking about PMOing. Remember these points:</p> <ol> <li>There is no substitute for PMO.</li> <li>You do not need porn or PMO. It is not food; it is poison. When the pangs come remind yourself that it is PMOers who suffer withdrawal pangs, not non-PMOers. See them as another evil of the drug. See them as the death of a monster.</li> @@ -3090,12 +3106,13 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict - 03-35 the Main Reasons for Failure + 03-35 The Main Reasons for Failure https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-35-the-main-reasons-for-failure/ Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:23:39 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-35-the-main-reasons-for-failure/ - <p>There are two main reasons for failure. The first is the influence of external stimuli - a commercial, online news articles, internet browsing etc. At a weak moment or even during a social occasion somebody will get intimate with their partner. I have already dealt with this topic at length. Use that moment to remind yourself that there is no such thing as one visit or one peek. Rejoice in the fact that you have broken the chain of mental slavery. Remember that the PMOer envies you, and feel sorry for him. Believe me, he needs your pity. The other main reason for failure is having a bad day. Get it clear in your mind before you start that, whether you are a PMOer or a non-PMOer, there are good days and bad days. It rains for both the pope and the murderer.</p> + <p>The Main Reasons for Failure</p> +<p>There are two main reasons for failure. The first is the influence of external stimuli - a commercial, online news articles, internet browsing etc. At a weak moment or even during a social occasion somebody will get intimate with their partner. I have already dealt with this topic at length. Use that moment to remind yourself that there is no such thing as one visit or one peek. Rejoice in the fact that you have broken the chain of mental slavery. Remember that the PMOer envies you, and feel sorry for him. Believe me, he needs your pity. The other main reason for failure is having a bad day. Get it clear in your mind before you start that, whether you are a PMOer or a non-PMOer, there are good days and bad days. It rains for both the pope and the murderer.</p> <p>Life is a matter of relativity and you cannot have ups without having downs. The problem with the Willpower Method of stopping is that as soon as the PMOer has a bad day he starts moping for his ‘harem’ visit and all that does is make a bad day worse. The non-PMOer is better equipped, not only physically but also mentally, to cope with the stresses and strains of life. If you have a bad day during the withdrawal period just take it on the chin. Remind yourself that you had bad days when you were addicted (otherwise you wouldn&rsquo;t have decided to stop). Instead of moping about it, say to yourself something like, “OK, today&rsquo;s not so good but masturbating is not going to cure it. Tomorrow will be better and at least I have got a marvellous bonus at the moment. I have kicked that awful PMO habit.”</p> <p>When you are a PMOer you have to block your mind to the bad side of PMO. PMOer never have brain fog just “a bit down.” When you are having life’s inevitable troubles you want to PMO but are you happy and cheerful? Of course you aren&rsquo;t. Once you stop, the tendency is to blame everything that goes wrong in your life on the fact that you have stopped.</p> <p>Now if your work stresses you out you think, “At times like this I would have PMOed.” That&rsquo;s true but the important thing you forget is that the PMO didn&rsquo;t solve the problem and you are simply punishing yourself by moping for an illusory crutch. You are creating an impossible situation. You are miserable because you can&rsquo;t have the porn and masturbation yet you&rsquo;ll be even more miserable if you do. You know that you have made the correct decision by stopping PMO so why punish yourself by ever doubting the decision?</p> @@ -3110,7 +3127,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:22:12 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-34-will-it-be-harder-for-me/ - <p>The combinations of factors that will determine how easily each individual PMOer will quit are infinite. To start with, each of us has his own character, type of work, personal circumstances, timing, etc. Certain professions may make it harder than others but providing the brainwashing is removed it doesn&rsquo;t have to be so. A few individual examples will help.</p> + <h2 id="will-it-be-harder-for-me">Will It Be Harder for Me? <a class="anchor" href="#will-it-be-harder-for-me"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The combinations of factors that will determine how easily each individual PMOer will quit are infinite. To start with, each of us has his own character, type of work, personal circumstances, timing, etc. Certain professions may make it harder than others but providing the brainwashing is removed it doesn&rsquo;t have to be so. A few individual examples will help.</p> <p>It tends to be particularly difficult for members of the medical profession. We think it should be easier for doctors because they are more aware of the effects of ill- health and are seeing daily evidence of it. Although this supplies more forceful reasons for stopping, it doesn&rsquo;t make it any easier to do. The reasons are these:</p> <ol> <li>The constant awareness of the health risks creates fear which is one of the conditions under which we need to relieve our withdrawal pangs.</li> @@ -3129,7 +3148,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:20:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-33-just-one-peek/ - <p>This is the undoing of many PMOers who try to stop on the Willpower Method. They will go through three or four days and then have the odd peek or a PMO or two to tide them over. They do not realize the devastating effect this has on their morale.</p> + <h2 id="just-one-peek">Just One Peek <a class="anchor" href="#just-one-peek"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is the undoing of many PMOers who try to stop on the Willpower Method. They will go through three or four days and then have the odd peek or a PMO or two to tide them over. They do not realize the devastating effect this has on their morale.</p> <p>For most PMOers that first peek at the tube site harem was not as good as sex with a real person. The clips that are clean are far in between. This gives their conscious minds a boost. They think, “Good. That wasn&rsquo;t entirely all that enjoyable. I am losing the urge to PMO and I am not that much into the shocking stuff.” In fact, the reverse is the case. Get it clear in your mind - enjoyment of orgasm wasn&rsquo;t the reason why you hit porn. If PMOers were there for orgasm alone, they&rsquo;d never watch more than one clip. The only reason why you PMO was to feed that little monster. Just think: you had starved him for four days. How precious that one peek must have been to him. You are not aware of it in your conscious mind but the fix your body received will be communicated to your subconscious mind and all your sound preparation will be undermined. There will be a little voice at the back of your mind saying, “In spite of all the logic they are precious. I want another one.”</p> <p>That little peek has two damaging effects:</p> <ol> @@ -3148,7 +3169,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:16:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-32-the-withdrawal-period/ - <p>For up to three weeks after your last PMO session you may be subjected to withdrawal pangs. These consist of two quite separate factors:</p> + <h2 id="the-withdrawal-period">The Withdrawal Period <a class="anchor" href="#the-withdrawal-period"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>For up to three weeks after your last PMO session you may be subjected to withdrawal pangs. These consist of two quite separate factors:</p> <ol> <li>The withdrawal pangs of dopamine, that empty, insecure feeling, like a hunger, which PMOers identify as a craving or “something I must to do” feeling.</li> <li>The psychological trigger of certain external stimuli such as a commercial, online browsing, a telephone conversation etc.</li> @@ -3178,12 +3201,14 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict - 03-31 the Easy Way to Stop + 03-31 The Easy Way to Stop https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-31-the-easy-way-to-stop/ Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:07:43 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-31-the-easy-way-to-stop/ - <p>This chapter contains instructions about the easy way to stop PMO. Providing you follow the instructions, you will find that stopping ranges from relatively easy to enjoyable! But remember the definition of a brunette: “a girl who didn&rsquo;t read the instructions on the bottle.” It is ridiculously easy to stop PMO. All you have to do is two things:</p> + <h2 id="the-easy-way-to-stop">The Easy Way to Stop <a class="anchor" href="#the-easy-way-to-stop"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This chapter contains instructions about the easy way to stop PMO. Providing you follow the instructions, you will find that stopping ranges from relatively easy to enjoyable! But remember the definition of a brunette: “a girl who didn&rsquo;t read the instructions on the bottle.” It is ridiculously easy to stop PMO. All you have to do is two things:</p> <ol> <li>Make the decision that you are never going to PMO again.</li> <li>Don&rsquo;t mope about it. Rejoice.</li> @@ -3197,8 +3222,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict <p>Basically I said to myself, “Scores of people are stopping now and leading perfectly happy lives. I didn&rsquo;t need to do it before I started and I can remember having to work hard to get used to this filth. So why do I need to do it now?” In any event I didn&rsquo;t enjoy PMO, I hated the whole filthy ritual and I didn&rsquo;t want to spend the rest of my life being the slave of this disgusting porn addiction.</p> <p>I then said to myself:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<p><strong>“WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT. YOU HAVE COMPLETED YOUR LAST PMO VISIT”</strong></p> -</div> +<h3 id="whether-you-like-it-or-not-you-have-completed-your-last-pmo-visit">“WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT. YOU HAVE COMPLETED YOUR LAST PMO VISIT” <a class="anchor" href="#whether-you-like-it-or-not-you-have-completed-your-last-pmo-visit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>I knew, right from that point, that I would never PMO again. I wasn&rsquo;t expecting it to be easy; in fact, just the reverse. I fully believed that I was in for months of black depression and that I would spend the rest of my life having the occasional pang. Instead it has been absolute bliss right from the start.</p> <p>It took me a long time to work out why it had been so easy and why this time I hadn&rsquo;t suffered those terrifying withdrawal pangs. The reason is that they do not exist. It is the doubt and uncertainty that causes the pangs. The beautiful truth is: IT IS EASY TO STOP PMO. It is only the indecision and moping about it that makes it difficult. Even while they are addicted to porn, PMOers can go for relatively long periods at certain times in their lives without bothering about it. It is only when you want it but can&rsquo;t have one that you suffer.</p> <p>Therefore the key to making it easy is to make stopping certain and final. Not to hope but to know you have kicked it, having made the decision. Never to doubt or question it. In fact, just the reverse - always to rejoice about it. If you can be certain from the start, it will be easy. But how can you be certain from the start unless you know it is going to be easy? This is why the rest of the book is necessary. There are certain essential points and it is necessary to get them clear in your mind before you start:</p> @@ -3233,7 +3259,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:05:14 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-30-avoid-false-incentives/ - <p>Many PMOers, while trying to stop on the Willpower Method, attempt to increase their motivation by building up false incentives. There are many examples of this, a typical one is, “I will reward myself with a gift after no-PMO for a month.” This appears to be a logical and sensible approach but in fact it is false because any self-respecting PMOer would rather continue PMOing every day than receive a “self given gift.” In any case there is a doubt in the PMOer’s mind because not only will she have to abstain for thirty days but will she even enjoy the days without a PMO? Her only pleasure or crutch is taken away! All this does is to increase the size of the sacrifice that the PMOer feels she is making, which makes it even more precious in her mind.</p> + <h2 id="avoid-false-incentives">Avoid False Incentives <a class="anchor" href="#avoid-false-incentives"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Many PMOers, while trying to stop on the Willpower Method, attempt to increase their motivation by building up false incentives. There are many examples of this, a typical one is, “I will reward myself with a gift after no-PMO for a month.” This appears to be a logical and sensible approach but in fact it is false because any self-respecting PMOer would rather continue PMOing every day than receive a “self given gift.” In any case there is a doubt in the PMOer’s mind because not only will she have to abstain for thirty days but will she even enjoy the days without a PMO? Her only pleasure or crutch is taken away! All this does is to increase the size of the sacrifice that the PMOer feels she is making, which makes it even more precious in her mind.</p> <p>Other examples: “I&rsquo;ll stop PMO so that I will force myself to get a social life and seek more sex in real life” OR “I’ll stop so some magical energy will help me to leap above the competitors and get this woman I pursue” OR “I commit to not waste my energy and enthusiasm in PMO, so I can grow enough hunger in myself.” These are true and can be effective and you may end up getting what you want. But think about it for a second - if you do get what you had wanted, once the novelty has gone you will feel deprived - if you didn’t then you will feel miserable and either way sooner or later you will fall for the trap again.</p> <p>Another typical example is online or forum pacts. These have the advantage of eliminating temptation for certain periods. However, they generally fail for the following reasons:</p> <ol> @@ -3244,9 +3272,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict </ol> <p>Stop kidding yourself. If the job offer that I mentioned before, of 10 months work for 12 months salary a year won&rsquo;t stop him. Or if the risks of cutting down your brain’s capacity to cope with just any normal day-to-day stress and strains or if putting yourself at odds with having a reliable erection, or if the lifetime of mental and physical torture and slavery did not stop him or her - the above said few phoney incentives will not make the slightest bit of difference. They will only make the sacrifice appear worse. Instead concentrate on the other side:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"><strong>“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?”</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"> +<h2 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo">“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?” <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h4></div> +</a></h2></div> <p>Keep looking at the other side of the tug of war. What is PMOing doing for me? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Why do I need to do it? YOU DON&rsquo;T! YOU ARE ONLY PUNISHING YOURSELF. Try looking at it from the Pascal’s Wager perspective. You have almost nothing to lose (a rub-out with half arousals) for sure, chances of big profits (a full and reliable arousal, mental well being and happiness) and no chance of losing big (unreliable full arousals, premature ejaculations, fading penetrations, loss of general impulse controls, lower tolerance for frustrations and anger).</p> <p>Why not declare your quitting to friends and family? Well, it will make you a proud ex-addict, ex-PMOer, not an elated and happy non-PMOer. It will scare your partner a bit since they may see this as an effort to have more sex, sort of a new-age thing. They may also fear to lose you if this turns you into sex machine. It is hard to explain to them unless they are open minded.</p> <p>Any attempt to get others to help you in your quitting gives more power to the little monster of addiction. Pushing it from your mind and totally ignoring it has the effect of trying NOT to think of it. As soon as you spot the thoughts, when you hit the cues (home alone) or just absent minded thoughts - just say to yourself: “Great, I don’t have to do it like a slave animal. I am free. I am happy to know the differences in sex.” This will cut the life of the thought and will deny oxygen to it and will stop it from burning towards urges and cravings.</p> @@ -3259,7 +3287,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:03:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-29-can-i-compartmentalize/ - <p>This is another myth about PMOing spread mainly by PMOers who, when attempting to stop on the Willpower Method, substitute mental gymnastics - they propose to act -Jekyll and Hyde: “Porn is for my alter ego side and real life romance is for my relationship side.” Nothing is further from the truth. The porn waterslides - the deltaFosBs and all the brain changes are going to overrun the real life romance and will make it less desirable. Mr Hyde is most definitely going to overrule Dr. Jekyll’s instructions.</p> + <h2 id="can-i-compartmentalize">Can I Compartmentalize? <a class="anchor" href="#can-i-compartmentalize"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is another myth about PMOing spread mainly by PMOers who, when attempting to stop on the Willpower Method, substitute mental gymnastics - they propose to act -Jekyll and Hyde: “Porn is for my alter ego side and real life romance is for my relationship side.” Nothing is further from the truth. The porn waterslides - the deltaFosBs and all the brain changes are going to overrun the real life romance and will make it less desirable. Mr Hyde is most definitely going to overrule Dr. Jekyll’s instructions.</p> <p>If you use internet porn, you may be training yourself for the role of voyeur or to need the option of clicking to something more arousing at the least drop in your dopamine levels, or to search and search for just the right scene for maximum effect. Also, you may be masturbating in a hunched-over position – or watching your smartphone in bed nightly. You will eventually desire those cues more than the real life action. The thing that goes against real sex is the lack of novelty, variety, ‘harem’ like 24/7 quick delivery etc. and so it stands no chance compared to your online harem. The younger you were when you started on PMO the longer to rewire and break down those ‘porn water slides’ and get back those ‘real water slides’ if there were any from the past or create new ones. Also powerful and lasting are the associated memories from when you were young.</p> <p>Every time you take a ride on the ‘porn water slide’ you are ‘greasing’ it - keeping the nerves fresh. When you park next to a fast food restaurant the smell of the fries floats from the pan into your nostrils and the sale was already made. Likewise, the porn water slides in your brain are there for you to get sucked in and they are open 24 hours a day. Each of these cues, or triggers, can now light up your reward circuit with the promise of sex&hellip; only it isn&rsquo;t sex. Nevertheless, nerve cells may solidify these associations with sexual arousal by sprouting new branches to strengthen the connections. The more you use porn the stronger the nerve connections can become, with the result that you may ultimately need to be a voyeur, need to click to new material, need to climax to porn to get to sleep, or need to search for the perfect ending just to get the job done.</p> <p>As with any substance or behavioural drug, after a while the body becomes immune and the “drug” ceases to relieve the withdrawal pangs completely. As soon as we close a session, the addict wants another one very soon and he has a permanent hunger. The natural inclination is eventually to ‘escalate’ just to get the dopamine rush. However, most PMOers are prevented from doing this for one, or both, of two reasons.</p> @@ -3279,7 +3309,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:01:03 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-28-will-i-miss-the-fun/ - <p>No! Once that little porn monster is dead and your body stops craving dopamine and the porn water slides in your brain start to fade due to lack of ‘greasing’, any remaining brainwashing will vanish and you will find yourself both physically and mentally better equipped not only to cope with the stresses and strains of life but to enjoy the good times to the full.</p> + <h2 id="will-i-miss-the-fun">Will I Miss the Fun? <a class="anchor" href="#will-i-miss-the-fun"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>No! Once that little porn monster is dead and your body stops craving dopamine and the porn water slides in your brain start to fade due to lack of ‘greasing’, any remaining brainwashing will vanish and you will find yourself both physically and mentally better equipped not only to cope with the stresses and strains of life but to enjoy the good times to the full.</p> <p>There is only one danger and that is the influence of those who still use sex as their lying crutch and damned pleasure. “The other man&rsquo;s grass is always greener,” is commonplace in many aspects of our lives and is easily understandable. Why is it in the case of PMOing, where the disadvantages are so enormous as compared with even the illusory ‘advantages,’ that the ex-PMOer tend to envy the man or woman who appears to demand sex and use porn for pleasure and a crutch?</p> <p>With all the brainwashing of our childhood it is quite understandable that we fall into the trap. Why is it that, once we realize what a mug&rsquo;s game it is and many of us manage to kick the habit, we walk straight back into the same trap? It is the influence of society&rsquo;s brainwashing of porn being conflated with sex and presented as normal. The ex-PMOer has a pang! The insecure void feelings of them being single, which in itself is not a crime anyway, causes anxiety and cues them to PMO water slide. This is indeed a curious anomaly, particularly if you consider this piece of observation: not only is every non-PMOer in the world happy to be a non-PMOer but every PMOer in the world, even with his warped, addicted, brainwashed mind suffering the delusion that he enjoys it or it relaxes him, wishes he had never become hooked in the first place. So why do some ex-PMOers envy the PMOer on these occasions? There are two reasons.</p> <ol> @@ -3310,7 +3342,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:55:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-27-timing/ - <p>Apart from the obvious point that as it is doing you no good, now is the right time to stop. I believe timing is important. Our society treats internet porn flippantly as a slightly distasteful habit that can not injure your health. It is not. It is drug addiction, a disease and a destroyer of relationships in society. The worst thing that happens in most PMOer’s lives is getting hooked on that awful addiction. If they stay hooked, horrendous things happen. Timing is important to give yourself the right to a proper cure.</p> + <h2 id="timing">Timing <a class="anchor" href="#timing"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Apart from the obvious point that as it is doing you no good, now is the right time to stop. I believe timing is important. Our society treats internet porn flippantly as a slightly distasteful habit that can not injure your health. It is not. It is drug addiction, a disease and a destroyer of relationships in society. The worst thing that happens in most PMOer’s lives is getting hooked on that awful addiction. If they stay hooked, horrendous things happen. Timing is important to give yourself the right to a proper cure.</p> <p>First of all, identify the times or occasions when PMO appears to be important to you. If you are a businessman and use it for the illusion of relief of stress, pick a relatively slack period; a good idea is to choose your annual holiday. If you PMO mainly during boring or relaxing periods, weekends etc. do the opposite. In any event, take the matter seriously and make the attempt the most important thing in your life.</p> <p>Look ahead for a period of about three weeks and try to anticipate any event that might lead to failure. Occasions like a conference trip, partner out of town etc. need not deter you, providing you anticipate them in advance and do not feel you will be deprived. Do not attempt to cut down in the meantime as this will only create the illusion that being denied is enjoyable. In fact, it helps to force yourself to watch and have as many PMO sessions as possible. While you are having the last session and that last time, be conscious of the disappointment due to satiation, unfulfilled expectations (porn can never satisfy you), any bodily pain or pain in the genitals, the withdrawal effects, the peevishness and the melancholy. Think how marvellous it will be when you allow yourself to stop doing it.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> @@ -3347,7 +3381,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:54:03 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-26-a-social-habit/ - <p>Health of mind and body are the main reason why we should want to stop but then they always have been. We do not actually need scientific research and knowledge in brain chemistry to tell us that internet porn is addictive and can potentially shatter our lives. These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on the planet and any PMOer knows instantly, from the first session, that the stimulus can go to excess and it can turn poisonous.</p> + <h2 id="a-social-habit">A Social Habit? <a class="anchor" href="#a-social-habit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Health of mind and body are the main reason why we should want to stop but then they always have been. We do not actually need scientific research and knowledge in brain chemistry to tell us that internet porn is addictive and can potentially shatter our lives. These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on the planet and any PMOer knows instantly, from the first session, that the stimulus can go to excess and it can turn poisonous.</p> <p>The only reason why we ever get involved with internet porn is the PMO’s overlap with their evolutionary brain programming. Porn is available for free and it gets streamed 24 hours a day. No risk and no traces and with very high brain rewards. Porn was once considered as harmless but that was when the images were static and involved a trip to the local store for a VHS tape.</p> <p>Today it is generally considered even by PMOers themselves to be a supra-stimulus and addiction forming. In the old days, the strong man did not admit he masturbated. Jerk is a derogatory term. In every pub or club bar the majority of men would be proudly wanting to take a woman home and have real sex. Today the position is completely reversed for the internet porn addicts. Today&rsquo;s man realizes that he is starting to feel that he doesn&rsquo;t need a woman. This scares him. He bands together online and starts discussing experiences, devise strategies and explore options. Today&rsquo;s strong man does not want to depend on drugs. With the social revolution all PMOers nowadays are giving serious thought to stopping internet porn and masturbation. Today&rsquo;s PMOers consider PMO as an useless and harmful activity.</p> <p>The most significant trend that I have noticed in forums is the increasing emphasis on the anti-social aspect of PMOing. The days when a man boasted of having sex and orgasms every day is slowly getting replaced with, “why do I need to be a slave for this porn monster when I know ‘it’ is controlling my wand (and mind)?”</p> @@ -3365,7 +3401,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:51:35 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-25-the-youtube-pmoer/ - <p>The YouTube PMOer should be grouped with casual PMOers but the effects of a YouTube PMOer are so insidious that it merits a separate chapter. It can lead to the breakdown of personal self control. In one case it nearly caused a split for a No-Fap forum user.</p> + <h2 id="the-youtube-pmoer">The YouTube PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-youtube-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The YouTube PMOer should be grouped with casual PMOers but the effects of a YouTube PMOer are so insidious that it merits a separate chapter. It can lead to the breakdown of personal self control. In one case it nearly caused a split for a No-Fap forum user.</p> <blockquote> <p><em>“I was three weeks into one of my failed attempts to stop. The attempt had been triggered off by my wife&rsquo;s worry about my unreliable hard-ons and lack of interest. I had told her that it was not her and it was just job pressure. She said, &lsquo;I know you had handled the work pressure before but how would you feel if you were me and had to watch someone you love systematically destroying themselves?’ It was an argument that I found irresistible, hence the attempt to stop. She knows that I am not cheating - but this in a way is as worse as that (sic). The attempt ended after three weeks after a heated argument with an old friend. It did not register until years afterwards that my devious mind had deliberately triggered off the argument. I felt justly aggrieved at the time but I do not believe that it was coincidence, as I had never argued with this particular friend before, nor have I since. It was clearly the little monster at work. Anyway, I had my excuse. I desperately needed a release of orgasm and it doesn’t matter how. As it happens she was not in the mood right away and I was in an “entitlement” hurry. So I convinced myself that it is OK if I ‘restrict’ myself by avoiding a porn site and just stay this side of the ‘red line’ and watch only YouTube videos. But she ‘came around’ as the night unfolded and wanted to make love. But I was tired and not with all my ‘horsepower.’ I then invented a headache. I could not bear to think of the disappointment this would cause my wife. Then gradually I returned to the old ways, only YouTube became my new harem destination. I remember being quite pleased at the time. I thought, &lsquo;well, at least it is cutting my consumption down;’ Eventually she accused me of continuing to ignore her in the bed. I had not realized it but she described the times I had caused an argument and stormed out of the house. At other times I had taken two hours to purchase some minor item and faked a sprain or something. I had made feeble excuses to cop out of the whole wooing her and etc. when I have a reliable online harem it is even more hard.”</em></p> </blockquote> @@ -3385,7 +3423,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:40:22 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-24-casual-pmoers-teenagers-non-pmoers/ - <p>Heavy PMOers tend to envy the casual porn user. We&rsquo;ve all met these characters: “Oh, I can go all week without a PMO, it really doesn&rsquo;t bother me.” We think: “I wish I were like that!” I know this is hard to believe but no PMOer enjoys being a PMOer. Never forget:</p> + <h2 id="casual-pmoers-teenagers-non-pmoers">Casual PMOers, Teenagers, Non PMOers <a class="anchor" href="#casual-pmoers-teenagers-non-pmoers"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Heavy PMOers tend to envy the casual porn user. We&rsquo;ve all met these characters: “Oh, I can go all week without a PMO, it really doesn&rsquo;t bother me.” We think: “I wish I were like that!” I know this is hard to believe but no PMOer enjoys being a PMOer. Never forget:</p> <ul> <li>No PMOer ever decided to become a PMOer casual or otherwise, therefore:</li> <li>All PMOers feel stupid, therefore:</li> @@ -3423,7 +3463,7 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> </a></h3><p>(Or, “I can stop whenever I want to. I have done it thousands of times”). If he thinks dieting helps with his moods to ‘get out to get women,’ why is he even on the diet of once every four days? How can one predict the future, what if the happenstance of meeting occurred just an hour after your scheduled PMO session? Also, if he thinks this occasional “cleaning the plumbing” is good to relieve tension and relax why not plumb every day? It has been proven that masturbation is not required to keep the genitals healthy. Internet porn is not required at all. Even if that may be the case, any PUA guru who has read about the brain chemistry and its plasticity will never recommend watching super stimulus porn. The truth is he is still hooked. Although he gets rid of the physical addiction, he is left with the main problem - the brainwashing. He hopes each time that he will stop for good and soon falls for the same trap again.</p> <p>Many PMOers actually envy these stoppers and starters. They think, “how lucky to be able to control it like that, to do PMO when you want to and stop when you want to,” What they always overlook is that these stoppers and starters aren&rsquo;t controlling it. When they are PMOers, they wish they weren&rsquo;t. They go through the hassle of stopping, then begin to feel deprived and fall for the trap again, then wish they hadn&rsquo;t. They get the worst of both worlds. If you think about it, this is true in the lives of the PMOers. When we are allowed to PMO we either take it as entitled or wish we didn&rsquo;t. It&rsquo;s only when we can&rsquo;t have PMO that it appears to be so precious. The ‘forbidden fruit syndrome’. This is the awful dilemma of PMOers. They can never win because they are moping for a myth, an illusion. There is one way they can win and that is to stop PMOing and stop moping!</p> -<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC/TAME/HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer"> +<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-static--tame--home-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC / TAME / HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-only-pmo-to-static--tame--home-made-porn-pmoer"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> </a></h3><p>Yes, we all do it to start with but isn&rsquo;t it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner&rsquo;s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes&hellip; you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one.</p> <h3 id="the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer">THE I-HAVE-STOPPED-BUT-I-HAVE-AN-OCCASIONAL-PEEK PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer"> @@ -3471,7 +3511,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:35:22 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-23-just-one-peek/ - <p>“Just one peek” is a myth you must get out of your mind:</p> + <h2 id="just-one-peek">Just One Peek <a class="anchor" href="#just-one-peek"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>“Just one peek” is a myth you must get out of your mind:</p> <ul> <li>It is just one peek that gets us started in the first place.</li> <li>It is just one peek to tide us over a difficult patch or on a special occasion that defeats most of our attempts to stop.</li> @@ -3510,7 +3552,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:28:58 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-22-beware-of-cutting-down/ - <p>Many PMOers resort to cutting down either as a stepping-stone towards stopping or as an attempt to control the little monster. Many recommend cutting down or a ‘porn diet’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> as a pick-me-up. Obviously, the less you PMO the better off you are but as a stepping-stone to stopping, cutting down is fatal. It is these attempts to cut down that keep us trapped all our lives.</p> + <h2 id="beware-of-cutting-down">Beware of Cutting Down <a class="anchor" href="#beware-of-cutting-down"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Many PMOers resort to cutting down either as a stepping-stone towards stopping or as an attempt to control the little monster. Many recommend cutting down or a ‘porn diet’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> as a pick-me-up. Obviously, the less you PMO the better off you are but as a stepping-stone to stopping, cutting down is fatal. It is these attempts to cut down that keep us trapped all our lives.</p> <p>Usually cutting down follows failed attempts to stop. After a few hours or days of abstinence the PMOer says to himself something like:</p> <blockquote> <p><em>“I cannot face the thought of going to sleep without visiting my online harem, so from now on I will just PMO once in four days or I will purge my collection of ‘bad’ porn. If I can follow this ‘porn diet’, I can either hold it there or cut down further.”</em></p> @@ -3561,12 +3605,14 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p - 03-21 the Willpower Method of Stopping + 03-21 The Willpower Method of Stopping https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-21-the-willpower-method-of-stopping/ Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:20:42 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-21-the-willpower-method-of-stopping/ - <p>It is an accepted fact in our society that it is very difficult to stop PMO. Even books and forums advising you how to do so usually start off by telling you how difficult it is. The truth is that it is ridiculously easy. Yes, I can understand you questioning that statement but just consider it. If your aim is to run a mile in under four minutes, that&rsquo;s difficult. You may have to undergo years of hard training and even then you may be physically incapable of doing it. (Much of our achievement lies in the mind. Isn&rsquo;t it strange how difficult it was until Roger Bannister actually did it but nowadays it is commonplace?).</p> + <h2 id="the-willpower-method-of-stopping">The Willpower Method of Stopping <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method-of-stopping"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>It is an accepted fact in our society that it is very difficult to stop PMO. Even books and forums advising you how to do so usually start off by telling you how difficult it is. The truth is that it is ridiculously easy. Yes, I can understand you questioning that statement but just consider it. If your aim is to run a mile in under four minutes, that&rsquo;s difficult. You may have to undergo years of hard training and even then you may be physically incapable of doing it. (Much of our achievement lies in the mind. Isn&rsquo;t it strange how difficult it was until Roger Bannister actually did it but nowadays it is commonplace?).</p> <p>However, in order to stop PMOing all you have to do is not watch internet porn and or masturbate any more. No one forces you to masturbate (apart from yourself) and unlike food or drink, you don&rsquo;t need it to survive. So if you want to stop doing it, why should it be difficult? In fact, it isn&rsquo;t. It is PMOers who make it difficult by using the Willpower Method. I define the Willpower Method as any method that forces the PMOer to feel he is making some sort of sacrifice. Let us just consider the Willpower Method.</p> <p>We do not decide to become PMOers. We merely experiment with porn magazines or websites and because they are awful, yes that is right – awful - except for our desired clip, we are convinced that we can stop whenever we want to. In the main, we watch those first few clips only when we want to and that is usually on special occasions. Before we realize it, we are not only visiting those sites regularly and masturbating when we want to, we are masturbating to them every day. PMO has become a part of our lives. We then ensure that we always have an internet connection wherever we go. We believe that we are entitled to love, sex and orgasms - and also that porn helps to relieve stress. It doesn&rsquo;t seem to occur to us that the same clip and actors do not provide us the same degree of arousal and that we are either escalating or fighting against the ‘red line’ we have put around ourselves to avoid harmful “bad porn.” In fact, masturbation and internet porn neither improves our sex life nor does it relieve stress, it&rsquo;s just that PMOers believe they can&rsquo;t enjoy life or handle stress without an orgasm - even mind induced porn orgasms. Because that is what many times we are doing.</p> <p>It usually takes us a long time to realize that we are hooked because we suffer from the illusion that PMOers masturbate because they enjoy porn - not because they have to have porn - a need. While we are not “enjoying” porn (which we can never do unless novelty, shock or escalation is added), we suffer from the illusion that we can stop whenever we want to. This is a confidence trap. I don’t enjoy porn, so I am sure I can stop when I want to. Only that you never seem to ‘want’ to stop though.</p> @@ -3630,7 +3676,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:18:55 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-20-those-sinister-black-shadows/ - <p>Another of the great joys of quitting porn is to be free of those sinister black shadows at the back of our minds. All PMOers know they are fools to close their minds on the ill-effects of PMO. For most of our lives PMO is automatic but the black shadows are always lurking in our subconscious minds, just beneath the surface. There are several marvellous advantages to achieve from quitting PMO. Some of them I was consciously aware of throughout my life, such as the health risks, the waste of time and the sheer stupidity of making love to a two dimensional image. However, such was my fear of quitting, so obsessed was I in resisting all the attempts of do-gooders and anyone else who tried to persuade me to quit, that all my imagination and energy was directed to finding any flimsy excuse that would allow me to continue to PMO.</p> + <h2 id="those-sinister-black-shadows">Those Sinister Black Shadows <a class="anchor" href="#those-sinister-black-shadows"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Another of the great joys of quitting porn is to be free of those sinister black shadows at the back of our minds. All PMOers know they are fools to close their minds on the ill-effects of PMO. For most of our lives PMO is automatic but the black shadows are always lurking in our subconscious minds, just beneath the surface. There are several marvellous advantages to achieve from quitting PMO. Some of them I was consciously aware of throughout my life, such as the health risks, the waste of time and the sheer stupidity of making love to a two dimensional image. However, such was my fear of quitting, so obsessed was I in resisting all the attempts of do-gooders and anyone else who tried to persuade me to quit, that all my imagination and energy was directed to finding any flimsy excuse that would allow me to continue to PMO.</p> <p>Amazingly, my most ingenious thoughts occurred when I was actually trying to quit. They were of course inspired by the fear and misery I suffered when attempting to quit by using willpower. No way could I block my mind from the health and sexual aspects. But now that I am free it amazes me how I successfully blocked my mind from even more important advantages to be gained from quitting. I&rsquo;ve already mentioned the sheer slavery - spending half of our lives being allowed to PMO, doing it automatically and wishing we had never started, the other half feeling miserable and deprived because the knowledge of the destructive effects of internet porn won&rsquo;t allow us to PMO. In the last chapter I&rsquo;ve referred to the incredible joy of having energy again. But for me the greatest joy of being free was not the health, the time, the energy, or the ending of the slavery, it was the removal of those sinister black shadows, the removal of feeling despised by and feeling apologetic to myself and to other quitters, and most of all to be able to respect yourself.</p> <p>Most PMOers aren&rsquo;t the weak-willed, spineless jellyfish that both society and themselves tend to believe. In every other aspect of my life I was in control. I loathed myself for being dependent on an evil crutch that I knew was ruining my life. I cannot tell you of the utter joy of being free of those sinister black shadows, the dependency and the self-despising. I can&rsquo;t tell you how nice it is to be able to look at all other users, whether they be young, old, casual or heavy, not with a feeling of envy, but with a feeling of pity for them and elation for yourself that you are no longer the slave of that insidious trap. The other day I felt pity for the guy on a TV show who was so excited to get to watch porn - another case of society slipping one in your drink under the pretence of comedy.</p> <p>The last two chapters have dealt with the considerable advantages of being a non-PMOer. I feel it necessary to give a balanced account, so the next chapter lists the advantages of being a PMOer.</p> @@ -3643,7 +3691,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:16:17 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-19-it-relaxes-me-and-gives-me-confidence/ - <p>This is the worst fallacy of all about PMOing and for me it ranks with the ending of the slavery, the greatest benefit from quitting - is not to have to go through life with the permanent feelings of insecurity that PMOers suffer from.</p> + <h2 id="it-relaxes-me-and-gives-me-confidence">It Relaxes Me and Gives Me Confidence <a class="anchor" href="#it-relaxes-me-and-gives-me-confidence"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is the worst fallacy of all about PMOing and for me it ranks with the ending of the slavery, the greatest benefit from quitting - is not to have to go through life with the permanent feelings of insecurity that PMOers suffer from.</p> <p>PMOers find it very difficult to believe that masturbation to internet porn actually causes those insecure feelings you get when you are out late at night after a contentious day at home or work. Non-PMOers do not suffer from that feeling. It is the porn that causes it. I only became aware of many of the advantages of stopping months afterwards, as a result of my consultations with other PMOers.</p> <p>I refused to see my PMO as causing so much of the mental tug of war in my mind that I am foolishly working hard to have nominal levels of confidence in my day to day life. Forget about getting an erection, I am talking about focusing, taking challenges, fighting, choosing, deciding - actions that define our lives. Especially when we are often forced to act when the facts are not clear. Come to think of it, facts were and will never be clear and hence it is to our great advantage anyway to act.</p> <p>Also of note is in dating area as well, the fire to go forward is being misappropriated to this ‘high reward zero pain’ porn. If you have read some top PUA books and forums, what do they say? Go on a ‘diet<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>’? Yes of course when you have the good hunger your internal juices and your brain will do the rest. Copping out is not an option at all. Playing the numbers is not tiresome by no means. All PUA advice in a nut-shell is this - try more numbers. Even if your approach is wrong you will be right twice a day like a broken clock. But if your mind is fighting a tug of war with effortless easy access to a harem of online women, how would you get back on your feet when that girl ignores you? Oh, if it was a public outright rejection I am running, not walking, to my porn girlfriend.</p> @@ -3665,7 +3715,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 23:12:56 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-18-energy/ - <p>Most PMOers are aware of the effect that this progressive process of PMO, leading to novelty and escalation seeking, has on their brain’s reward circuits and their sexual system. However, they are not so aware of the effect it has on their energy level.</p> + <h2 id="energy">Energy <a class="anchor" href="#energy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Most PMOers are aware of the effect that this progressive process of PMO, leading to novelty and escalation seeking, has on their brain’s reward circuits and their sexual system. However, they are not so aware of the effect it has on their energy level.</p> <p>One of the subtleties of the PMO trap is that the effects it has on us, both physical and mental, happen so gradually and imperceptibly that we are not aware of them and regard them as normal. It is very similar to the effects of bad eating habits. The pot-belly appears so gradually that it causes us no alarm. We look at people who are grossly overweight and wonder how they could possibly have allowed themselves to reach that state.</p> <p>But supposing it happened overnight. You went to bed weighing 140 lbs, trim, rippling with muscles and not an ounce of fat on your body. You awoke weighing 180 lbs, fat, bloated and pot-bellied. Instead of waking up feeling fully rested and full of energy, you wake up feeling miserable, lethargic and you can hardly open your eyes. You would be panic-stricken, wondering what awful disease you had contracted overnight. Yet the disease is exactly the same.</p> <p>The fact that it took you twenty years to reach that state is irrelevant. So it is with PMOing. If I could immediately transfer you into your mind and body to give you a direct comparison on how you would feel having stopped internet porn for just three weeks, that is all I would need to do to persuade you to quit. You would think: “Will I really feel this good?” Or what it really amounts to: “Had I really sunk that low?” I emphasize that I don&rsquo;t just mean that you would feel healthier and have more energy but how you would also feel more confident and relaxed and better able to concentrate.</p> @@ -3683,7 +3735,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 12:12:31 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-17-health/ - <p>This is the area where the brainwashing is the greatest. PMOers, especially the young and single, think they are aware of the health risks. They are not. Even in my case, when I was expecting my head to explode any moment and honestly believed I was prepared to accept the consequences, I was still kidding myself. I didn&rsquo;t in those days have an app that started a red beeper to flash and sound every time my internet router hits a porn site, followed by a warning voice saying, “OK, this is the one!” Fortunately you do get a warning, and this is it. That warning would say, “Up to now you have got away with it but if you stay another minute your head will explode,” do you think I would have PMOed?</p> + <h2 id="health">Health <a class="anchor" href="#health"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is the area where the brainwashing is the greatest. PMOers, especially the young and single, think they are aware of the health risks. They are not. Even in my case, when I was expecting my head to explode any moment and honestly believed I was prepared to accept the consequences, I was still kidding myself. I didn&rsquo;t in those days have an app that started a red beeper to flash and sound every time my internet router hits a porn site, followed by a warning voice saying, “OK, this is the one!” Fortunately you do get a warning, and this is it. That warning would say, “Up to now you have got away with it but if you stay another minute your head will explode,” do you think I would have PMOed?</p> <p>If you are in doubt about the answer just try walking up to a cliff, stand on the edge with your eyes closed and imagine you then have the choice of either quitting PMO or walking up blindfolded before your next PMO.</p> <p>There is no doubt what your choice would be. I had been doing what every internet porn PMOer does all his life: closing my mind and keeping my head in the sand, hoping that I would wake up one morning and just not want to PMO any more. PMOers cannot allow themselves to think of the health risks. If they do, even the illusion of enjoying the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; goes.</p> <p>This explains why a shock treatment is so ineffective in the first stages of quitting. It is only non-users who can bring themselves to read the destructive brain changes. It also explains why PMOers, influenced by their little monster, wrongly recall that filthy room mate who PMOed everyday and was still remaining ‘horny’ 24 hours a day – they will ignore the thousands of people who are brought “down” in their prime because of this poisonous ‘habit’.</p> @@ -3794,7 +3848,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p Fri, 23 Dec 2022 12:08:55 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-16-i-will-save-x-hours-a-week/ - <p>I cannot repeat too often that it is brainwashing that makes it difficult to stop PMOing. So, the + <h2 id="i-will-save-x-hours-a-week">I Will Save X Hours a Week <a class="anchor" href="#i-will-save-x-hours-a-week"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>I cannot repeat too often that it is brainwashing that makes it difficult to stop PMOing. So, the more brainwashing we can dispel before we start, the easier you will find it to achieve your goal. Occasionally I get into arguments with people whom I call “confirmed PMOers.” By my definition a confirmed PMOer is somebody who doesn&rsquo;t believe PMO has any negative effect on his health @@ -3831,7 +3887,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 12:06:39 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-15-self-imposed-slavery/ - <p>Usually when PMOers try to stop the main reasons given are health, religion and partner stigma. Part of the brainwashing of this awful drug is the sheer slavery. Man fought hard in the last century to abolish slavery and yet the PMOer spends his life suffering self-imposed slavery. He seems to be oblivious to the fact that when he is allowed to PMO he wishes that he were a non-PMOer. With most of the masturbation we do in our lives, not only do we not enjoy them but we aren&rsquo;t even aware that we are masturbating. It is only after a period of abstinence that we actually suffer the delusion of enjoying PMO (e.g. the first day after a 4 day abstinence with the intent of rebooting etc.). The only time that the porn becomes precious is when we are &rsquo;trying&rsquo; to cut down or abstain or when abstinence is forced on us (e.g. when on a business trips, holiday trips to locations where the Internet is not available and so on).</p> + <h2 id="self-imposed-slavery">Self-Imposed Slavery <a class="anchor" href="#self-imposed-slavery"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Usually when PMOers try to stop the main reasons given are health, religion and partner stigma. Part of the brainwashing of this awful drug is the sheer slavery. Man fought hard in the last century to abolish slavery and yet the PMOer spends his life suffering self-imposed slavery. He seems to be oblivious to the fact that when he is allowed to PMO he wishes that he were a non-PMOer. With most of the masturbation we do in our lives, not only do we not enjoy them but we aren&rsquo;t even aware that we are masturbating. It is only after a period of abstinence that we actually suffer the delusion of enjoying PMO (e.g. the first day after a 4 day abstinence with the intent of rebooting etc.). The only time that the porn becomes precious is when we are &rsquo;trying&rsquo; to cut down or abstain or when abstinence is forced on us (e.g. when on a business trips, holiday trips to locations where the Internet is not available and so on).</p> <p>The confirmed PMOer should bear in mind that more studies and even more people are coming out and talking about the ill effects of internet porn. This trend will get “worse and worse.” Today, it is non-medical people talking. Tomorrow, it will be in your doctor’s list of diagnostic tests to perform. Gone are the days when the PMOer can hide behind “just a bit of downtime due to work stress” in his or her sex life. Your partner is going to ask you why you are on your laptop at this time too late into the night. The poor PMOer, who was already feeling wretched, wants the ground to open up and swallow him.</p> <p>I remember every time my partner stayed up late it was an ordeal waiting to open up my laptop. When on business trips the dinner with the clients and colleagues dragged on or was I just going through the natural ups and downs in human interactions? What was I doing? I was thinking, “let&rsquo;s get on with it, so that I can get over with this and go to my room for some porn.” I have thought many times, “am I not lucky? I have got my little reward. The poor non-PMOer with no internet access somewhere in an Amish village hasn&rsquo;t got a reward.” The &lsquo;poor&rsquo; non-PMOer doesn&rsquo;t need a reward. We were not designed to go through life systematically flooding our brains with dopamine and opioids. The pathetic thing is that even when masturbating with internet porn the PMOer doesn&rsquo;t achieve those feelings of peace, confidence and tranquillity that the non-PMOer has experienced for the whole of his non-PMO life. The non-PMOer isn&rsquo;t sitting in the family room, feeling agitated and wishing his life away. He can enjoy the whole of his life.</p> <p>No, this wasn&rsquo;t a fourteen-year-old schoolboy but a forty-year-old professional. How pathetic. I wouldn&rsquo;t admit to myself that I wasn&rsquo;t enjoying it. I was looking for the right clip and/or pictures to reach orgasm or better, edge forever. I don&rsquo;t know what I am supposed to be &lsquo;watching&rsquo; sometimes. That is the confusing part. The &rsquo;edging&rsquo; and then the orgasm floods my brain. Yet this was supposed to be my way of relaxing and enjoying my “favourite hobby.”</p> @@ -3845,7 +3903,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:49:35 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-14-what-am-i-giving-up/ - <p>ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! The thing that makes it difficult for us to give up is fear. The fear that we are being deprived of our pleasure or prop. The fear that certain pleasant situations will never be quite the same again. The fear of being unable to cope with stressful situations. In other words, the effect of brainwashing is to delude us into believing that sex and by extension orgasm, is a must for all human beings. Or that there is something inherent in Internet porn that we need and that when we stop PMOing we will be self-denying ourselves and there will be a void.</p> + <h2 id="what-am-i-giving-up">What Am I Giving Up? <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-giving-up"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! The thing that makes it difficult for us to give up is fear. The fear that we are being deprived of our pleasure or prop. The fear that certain pleasant situations will never be quite the same again. The fear of being unable to cope with stressful situations. In other words, the effect of brainwashing is to delude us into believing that sex and by extension orgasm, is a must for all human beings. Or that there is something inherent in Internet porn that we need and that when we stop PMOing we will be self-denying ourselves and there will be a void.</p> <blockquote> <p>Get it clear in your mind:</p> </blockquote> @@ -3866,18 +3926,14 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> </blockquote> <p>These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on this planet. Whether you believe in a creator, a process of natural selection or a combination of both, whatever being or system devised these bodies of ours, it is a thousand times more effective than man! Man cannot create the smallest living cell, let alone the miracle of eyesight, reproduction, our circulatory system or our brains. We don’t have our systems upgraded yet to properly assess the supranormal stimulus such as rich high density food or high speed internet novelty porn with multiple active windows.</p> <p>If the creator or process had intended us to handle novelty triggering stimuli, we would have been provided with some other brain reward circuits. Our bodies are, in fact, provided with fail-safe warning devices and we ignore these at our peril. Excessive edging results in body pain, irritation, and inflammation. In women, excessive flooding of dopamine and stress enzymes such as prostaglandin-E2 can cause difficulty to orgasm and PME.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up"><strong>There Is Nothing To Give Up</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#there-is-nothing-to-give-up"> +<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up">There Is Nothing To Give Up <a class="anchor" href="#there-is-nothing-to-give-up"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h2></div> -<p>The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.</p> +</a></h2><p>The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.</p> <p>The problem I have is to make a convincing point as I’d have done for, let us say&hellip; smokers? All of us have seen smokers who develop excuses to sneak off for a crafty puff. It is easy to see the true addiction in action. Addicts do not do it because they enjoy it. They do it because they are miserable without it.</p> <p>Because many of us started out our first sexual experience that ended in an orgasm and we acquired the belief that we cannot enjoy sex without an orgasm. And for men, porn is sold as an aid towards sex, sometimes even as an education to be confident during the act of sex. It used to be static, but now we have supranormal internet porn. But this is nonsense. Internet porn takes away your confidence.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="women-and-porn"><strong>Women And Porn</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#women-and-porn"> +<h2 id="women-and-porn">Women And Porn <a class="anchor" href="#women-and-porn"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h2></div> -<p>The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn&rsquo;t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.</p> +</a></h2><p>The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn&rsquo;t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.</p> <p>Porn and internet porn does not help your sex life; it destroys it totally. Having to hide your internet footprints, trying to delete your history, fearing accidental exposure to your boyfriend or kids, body pains, doubtful symptoms, fighting self doubts, arguing with yourself about your responsibilities in the ill effects of your addiction&hellip; well, why do you want to put yourself in such a bad situation?</p> <p>Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous positive gains to be had. When PMOers contemplate quitting they tend to concentrate on health and virility. These are obviously valid and important issues but I personally believe the greatest gains from stopping are psychological:</p> <ol> @@ -3886,11 +3942,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <li>Not to have to go through life suffering the awful black shadows at the back of your mind, knowing you are being despised by half of the population and, worst of all, despising yourself.</li> </ol> <p>Not only is life better as a non-PMOer but it is infinitely more enjoyable. I do not only mean you will be healthier. I mean you will be happier and enjoy life far more. The marvellous gains from being a non-PMOer are discussed in the next few chapters. Some PMOers find it difficult to appreciate the concept of the &lsquo;void&rsquo; and the following analogy may assist you.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"><strong>Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"> +<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void">Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void! <a class="anchor" href="#void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h2></div> -<p>Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I&rsquo;ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can&rsquo;t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.</p> +</a></h2><p>Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I&rsquo;ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can&rsquo;t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.</p> <p>By now you are completely dependent on the ointment. You never go out without ensuring that you have a tube of the ointment with you. If you go abroad, you make sure that you take several tubes with you. Now, in addition to your worries about your health, I&rsquo;m charging you $100 per tube. You have no choice but to pay.</p> <p>You then read in the medical column of your newspaper that this isn&rsquo;t happening just to you; many other people have been suffering from the same problem. In fact, pharmacists have discovered that the ointment doesn&rsquo;t actually cure the sore. All that it does is to take the sore beneath the surface of the skin. It is the ointment that has caused the sore to grow. All you have to do to get rid of the sore is to stop using the ointment. The sore will eventually disappear in due course.</p> <p>Would you continue to use the ointment? Would it take willpower not to use the ointment? If you didn&rsquo;t believe the medical article, there might be a few days of apprehension, but once you realized that the sore was beginning to get better, the need or desire to use the ointment would go, Would you be miserable? Of course you wouldn&rsquo;t. You had an awful problem which you thought was insoluble. Now you&rsquo;ve found the solution. Even if it took a year for that sore to disappear completely, each day, as it improved, you&rsquo;d think. “isn&rsquo;t it marvellous? I&rsquo;m not going to die!” This was the magic that happened to me on my final PMO day. Let me make one point quite clear in the analogy of the sore and the ointment.</p> @@ -3907,7 +3961,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:47:03 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-13-social-night-pmoing/ - <p>This is a misinformation that seems to make sense but then it does not. In order to have control of eating, will you eat at home before leaving to go to a restaurant or a party? This is what you are doing when you PMO before your social night. You will look tired and will not be up to your best. If you have dating jitters then work on it beforehand and then go with the flow even with some butterflies in your stomach. I like a bit of the anxiety in me to keep me going. Tiring yourself mentally and physically with an orgasm is not going to help you, unless of course you are going to see a prostitute. The goal is entirely different in that angle.</p> + <h2 id="social-night-pmoing">Social Night PMOing <a class="anchor" href="#social-night-pmoing"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This is a misinformation that seems to make sense but then it does not. In order to have control of eating, will you eat at home before leaving to go to a restaurant or a party? This is what you are doing when you PMO before your social night. You will look tired and will not be up to your best. If you have dating jitters then work on it beforehand and then go with the flow even with some butterflies in your stomach. I like a bit of the anxiety in me to keep me going. Tiring yourself mentally and physically with an orgasm is not going to help you, unless of course you are going to see a prostitute. The goal is entirely different in that angle.</p> <p>The widespread adoption of pick-up techniques has put pressure on guys to perform, to attract and to ‘score’. You can get knowledge but you should know how to use it. I can guarantee that 100% of the other guys hanging at that bar know exactly what you know. It comes down to the ‘how’ of how you use it when you get the chance. Even before that, there is one very critical thing about any knowledge pertaining to human interactions, that ‘knowledge’ should never force your actions. This is important.</p> <p>I once masturbated and then poured wine to quiet the butterflies in my stomach before a date. I looked tired after just one hour into the date, the loud noise of the bar, dehydration, excessive self-consciousness (PUA teachings) etc. made my time unenjoyable. Somehow the girl and her friend liked it all. However, I do think it would have been better if I had gone without any props. I ended up being successful by claiming my &lsquo;goal(s)&rsquo; - which I consider unfortunate and as random luck.</p> <p>The PMO session I had before the date triggered a dopamine flooding and its withdrawal hit around the time I was with the date. I had to over-do my conversation to compensate the ineffective dopamine effects after that earlier orgasm. I am also sure that I was suffering from hypofrontality - where my impulses were failing my controls. That gushing moment, an extra decibel in the tone etc. would easily have given my nervousness to the girls - only if I was not protected by the loud noise in the bar. Why do you want to take chances?</p> @@ -3926,7 +3982,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:44:10 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-12-relaxation/ - <p>Most PMOers think that PMO helps to relax them. The truth is that internet porn used in PMO acts like a chemical stimulant. The frantic search to get the fix in those “dark alleys of the internet” and the internal struggle to reign in the dog straining at its leash for more shocking clips does not sound much like an activity of relaxation to me.</p> + <h2 id="relaxation">Relaxation <a class="anchor" href="#relaxation"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Most PMOers think that PMO helps to relax them. The truth is that internet porn used in PMO acts like a chemical stimulant. The frantic search to get the fix in those “dark alleys of the internet” and the internal struggle to reign in the dog straining at its leash for more shocking clips does not sound much like an activity of relaxation to me.</p> <p>One of the favourite PMO sessions for most is the one after a trip to a new place or after along day. As the night rolls in we stop working; we sit down and relax, relieve our hunger and thirst and are then completely satisfied. However, the poor PMOer cannot relax, as he has another hunger to satisfy. He thinks of the PMO as the icing on the cake but it is the &rsquo;little monster&rsquo; that needs feeding.</p> <p>The truth is that the addict can never be completely relaxed and as you go through life it gets worse. The most stressed people on this planet aren&rsquo;t non-PMOers but those young men and women who have a need to hunt (with the misunderstood goal of orgasm) and their ignorance of and/or low opinion of amative sex. Women who have subscribed to “I must orgasm” teachings are not even aware of the victim they have made of themselves. At this point any sex that leads to climax and orgasm cease to relieve even partially the symptoms that they have created.</p> <p>I can remember when I was bringing up a family. If my child would do something wrong I would quickly lose my temper to an extent that was out of all proportion to what he had done.</p> @@ -3947,7 +4005,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:42:13 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-11-concentration/ - <p>Sex and masturbation do not help concentration. That is just another illusion. When you are trying to concentrate, you automatically try to avoid distractions. So when a PMOer wants to concentrate he doesn&rsquo;t even have to think about it. He automatically PMOs, partially ending the craving, gets on with the matter in hand and has already forgotten that he just PMOed. Sex in general do not help concentration. After years of masturbation your brain changes affect abilities such as assessing, planning and impulse control. The PMOer is already suffering: that little monster wants his fix.</p> + <h2 id="concentration">Concentration <a class="anchor" href="#concentration"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Sex and masturbation do not help concentration. That is just another illusion. When you are trying to concentrate, you automatically try to avoid distractions. So when a PMOer wants to concentrate he doesn&rsquo;t even have to think about it. He automatically PMOs, partially ending the craving, gets on with the matter in hand and has already forgotten that he just PMOed. Sex in general do not help concentration. After years of masturbation your brain changes affect abilities such as assessing, planning and impulse control. The PMOer is already suffering: that little monster wants his fix.</p> <p>You are also stressed to provide novelty for the next PMO session as the same stuff will not generate enough dopamine and opioids. You have to “roam the internet streets” for novelty - all the while fighting the pull to cross the line towards shock. This creates more stress. After you orgasm, you feel unfulfilled as well.</p> <p>Concentration is also affected adversely for another reason. Your dopamine receptors have already started to get reduced by building up natural tolerance to these large surges, reducing the benefit of the smaller dopamine boosts from natural de-stressors.</p> <p>In fact, your concentration and inspiration will be greatly improved as this process is reversed. For some it will be the concentration aspect that prevents them from succeeding when using the willpower method. They could put up with the irritability and bad temper but when they really needed to concentrate on something difficult they have to have that porn fix. I can well remember the panic I felt when I discovered that the hotel has no internet connection and I had this huge presentation the day after.</p> @@ -3963,7 +4023,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:40:46 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-10-boredom/ - <p>As soon as you get into your bed - and if you are like many people you are already on your favorite tube site - you will probably have already forgotten about it until I reminded you. It has become second nature. Another fallacy about PMOing is that it relieves boredom. Boredom is a frame of mind. The only time that happens is when you have been deprived for a long time or are trying to cut down, or during those first few PMO sessions after a failed attempt to stop.</p> + <h2 id="boredom">Boredom <a class="anchor" href="#boredom"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As soon as you get into your bed - and if you are like many people you are already on your favorite tube site - you will probably have already forgotten about it until I reminded you. It has become second nature. Another fallacy about PMOing is that it relieves boredom. Boredom is a frame of mind. The only time that happens is when you have been deprived for a long time or are trying to cut down, or during those first few PMO sessions after a failed attempt to stop.</p> <p>The true situation is this: when you are addicted to internet porn’s supranormal novelty and then you decide to abstain from internet porn, there is something missing. If you have something to occupy your mind that isn&rsquo;t stressful, you can go for long periods without being bothered by the absence of the drug. However, when you are bored there&rsquo;s nothing to take your mind off it, so you feed the monster. When you are indulging yourself (i.e. not trying to stop or cut down), even firing up your incognito browser becomes subconscious. The PMOer can perform this ritual automatically. If any PMOer tries to remember the session during the last week, he can only remember a small proportion of them - e.g. the very last one or after a long abstinence.</p> <p>The truth is that PMOing tend to increase boredom indirectly because orgasms make you feel lethargic and instead of undertaking some energetic activity, PMOers tend to prefer lounge around, bored, relieving their withdrawal pangs. This is why countering the brainwashing is so important. Because it&rsquo;s a fact that PMOers tend to masturbate when they are bored and that we&rsquo;re wired to interpret PMO as interesting. It doesn&rsquo;t occur to us to question the fact how a two dimensional supranormal stimulus relieves boredom.</p> <p>We&rsquo;ve also been brainwashed into believing that sex - even a bad sex - aids relaxation. It is a fact that when under stress or sad, couples want to have sex. In the absence of discrimination between amative and propagative sex, the goal is set to achieve orgasms by hook or by crook. Next time you do this watch how you both want to get away from each other as soon as it’s over. It is obvious that if they had just decided to cuddle, speak, hug and touch each other and go to sleep without the mandatory orgasms, the couple would have felt relieved. Well, if in the process, they wanted to have the propagative part then by all means they can but that is a topic not meant to be discussed in this book.</p> @@ -3976,7 +4038,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:38:59 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-09-stress/ - <p>I am referring not only to the great tragedies of life but also to the minor stresses, the socializing, the telephone call, the anxieties of the housewife with noisy young children and so on. Let us use the telephone conversation as an example. For most people the telephone is slightly stressful, particularly for the businessman. Most calls aren&rsquo;t from satisfied customers or your boss congratulating you. There&rsquo;s usually some sort of aggravation - something going wrong or somebody making demands. Then he or she comes home to the mundane family life of kids screaming and wife&rsquo;s emotional demands on you. His already PMO weakened de-stressors are in no way ready to take the aggravation. At that time the PMOer, if he isn&rsquo;t already doing so, will fantasize the relief of internet porn that he promised himself that night. He will even allow himself to “take one step more” into the ‘forbidden’ area that he had previously self-excluded. He doesn&rsquo;t know why he does this but he does know that for some reason it appears to help.</p> + <h2 id="stress">Stress <a class="anchor" href="#stress"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>I am referring not only to the great tragedies of life but also to the minor stresses, the socializing, the telephone call, the anxieties of the housewife with noisy young children and so on. Let us use the telephone conversation as an example. For most people the telephone is slightly stressful, particularly for the businessman. Most calls aren&rsquo;t from satisfied customers or your boss congratulating you. There&rsquo;s usually some sort of aggravation - something going wrong or somebody making demands. Then he or she comes home to the mundane family life of kids screaming and wife&rsquo;s emotional demands on you. His already PMO weakened de-stressors are in no way ready to take the aggravation. At that time the PMOer, if he isn&rsquo;t already doing so, will fantasize the relief of internet porn that he promised himself that night. He will even allow himself to “take one step more” into the ‘forbidden’ area that he had previously self-excluded. He doesn&rsquo;t know why he does this but he does know that for some reason it appears to help.</p> <p>What has actually happened is this: without being conscious of it, he has already been suffering aggravation (i.e. the withdrawal pangs). By partially relieving that aggravation at the same time as normal stress, the total stress is reduced and the PMOer gets a boost. At this point the boost is not, in fact, an illusion. The Internet porn user will feel better than before. However, even when using porn to masturbate he or she is more tense than if he were a non-PMOer because the more you go into the drug, the more it knocks you down and the less it restores you when you masturbate. I promised no shock treatment. In the example I am about to give, I am not trying to shock you, I am merely emphasizing that PMO destroy your nerves rather than relax them.</p> <p>Try to imagine getting to the stage where you cannot get aroused even with a very sexy and attractive partner. Just for a moment pause and try to visualize life where one very lovely and charming woman has to compete and fail with all the virtual porn stars who are in your &lsquo;harem&rsquo; to get your attention! Try to imagine the frame of mind of a man who, issued with that warning, actually continues PMOing and then dies without ever having had real sex with this charming and willing real woman. I had read real life stories like that from men and dismissed them as weirdos. In fact, I used to wish a doctor would tell me that this weird condition would happen if I continue PMO; then I would have stopped. Yet I was already fully expecting that PIED and hypofrontality where I am guaranteed to lose in a brain war. I didn&rsquo;t think of myself as an impotent, just a heavy PMOer. Now, let’s talk about the stress that this is putting on me.</p> <p>Such weird stories as the above are not fakes. That is what this awful ‘novelty’ porn drug does to you. As you go through life, it systematically takes away your nerve and courage. The more it takes your courage away, the more you are deluded into believing the porn is doing the opposite.</p> @@ -3992,7 +4056,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 11:36:16 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-08-relieving-withdrawal-pangs/ - <p>As I explained earlier, PMOers think they do it for enjoyment, relaxation or some sort of education. In fact, this an illusion. The actual reason is the relief of withdrawal pangs. In the early days we use the porn as a curious and novel thing or even educational or as a rebel. We can take it or leave it. However, the subtle chain has started. Our subconscious mind begins to learn that internet porn and masturbation taken at certain times tends to be pleasurable. The more we become hooked on the drug, the greater the need to relieve the withdrawal pangs and the further the PMO drags you down and the more you are fooled into believing it is doing the opposite. It all happens so slowly, so gradually, you are not even aware of it. Each day you feel no different from the day before. Most young PMOers don&rsquo;t even realize they are hooked until they actually try to stop and even then many won&rsquo;t admit to it. A few stalwarts just keep their heads in the sand all their lives,trying to convince themselves and other people that they enjoy it.</p> + <h2 id="relieving-withdrawal-pangs">Relieving Withdrawal Pangs <a class="anchor" href="#relieving-withdrawal-pangs"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As I explained earlier, PMOers think they do it for enjoyment, relaxation or some sort of education. In fact, this an illusion. The actual reason is the relief of withdrawal pangs. In the early days we use the porn as a curious and novel thing or even educational or as a rebel. We can take it or leave it. However, the subtle chain has started. Our subconscious mind begins to learn that internet porn and masturbation taken at certain times tends to be pleasurable. The more we become hooked on the drug, the greater the need to relieve the withdrawal pangs and the further the PMO drags you down and the more you are fooled into believing it is doing the opposite. It all happens so slowly, so gradually, you are not even aware of it. Each day you feel no different from the day before. Most young PMOers don&rsquo;t even realize they are hooked until they actually try to stop and even then many won&rsquo;t admit to it. A few stalwarts just keep their heads in the sand all their lives,trying to convince themselves and other people that they enjoy it.</p> <p>Listen to this conversation a therapist had with hundreds of teenagers.</p> <blockquote> <p>TH: “You realize that internet porn is a drug and that the only reason why you are using is that you cannot stop.”</p> @@ -4022,33 +4088,29 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Fri, 23 Dec 2022 08:39:02 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-07-brainwashing-and-the-primitive-mechanism/ - <p>How or why do we start PMOing in the first place? To understand this fully you need to examine the powerful effect of the supernormal stimulus. We all tend to think we are intelligent, dominant human beings determining our paths through life. We act and act frequently when our brain reward circuit are rewarded. Nobel laureate Nikolaas Tinbergen coined the term “supranormal stimulus.” He said mammals could be tricked into preferring fake eggs and mates. Female birds, for example, struggled to sit on larger-than life, vividly spotted plaster eggs while their own pale, dappled eggs perished untended.</p> + <h2 id="brainwashing-and-the-primitive-mechanism">Brainwashing and the Primitive Mechanism <a class="anchor" href="#brainwashing-and-the-primitive-mechanism"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>How or why do we start PMOing in the first place? To understand this fully you need to examine the powerful effect of the supernormal stimulus. We all tend to think we are intelligent, dominant human beings determining our paths through life. We act and act frequently when our brain reward circuit are rewarded. Nobel laureate Nikolaas Tinbergen coined the term “supranormal stimulus.” He said mammals could be tricked into preferring fake eggs and mates. Female birds, for example, struggled to sit on larger-than life, vividly spotted plaster eggs while their own pale, dappled eggs perished untended.</p> <p>The stimulation here in internet porn is not it brings stimulating actors and themes to your home - it is a genie at your bidding to create a harem in your mind. You can switch between genres and theme, home-made and viewer rated, commented and discussed, so rapid and so easy. We absolutely are not ready for the high speed internet porn and our brains are not designed to handle this supranormal stimuli.</p> <p>We can have an ‘information overload’ from the same internet but our reward circuits are not going to squirt dopamine at the levels when ‘porn overload’ is involved. We are evolutionarily programmed to seek and access sex related stuff. And we wrongly appraise the stimulus mostly based on this reward circuit action. If all you wanted is to masturbate why can’t you just use one clip and get the business done?</p> <p>Here is another question - next time after a long day or some stressful incident can you consciously embellish your self-talk with “Do you know what I would really enjoy today? The marvellous warm glow of dopamine rush going to my online harem.” You will find that even people who dislike PMO will join you.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="past-misguided-advice"><strong>Past Misguided Advice</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#past-misguided-advice"> +<h2 id="past-misguided-advice">Past Misguided Advice <a class="anchor" href="#past-misguided-advice"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.</p> +</a></h2><p>There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.</p> <p>From our earliest years our subconscious minds are bombarded daily with information telling us that sex is good and that the most precious thing on this earth is to ‘achieve’ orgasm. Girls are taught to achieve it and claim it&rsquo;s because they were wrongly suppressed of their sexual side for a very long time and still are. You think I exaggerate? Watch any TV or movie plot and you will see the mix-up of the amative (touch, smell, voice etc.) and the propagative (orgasmic) sides of sex. The impact of this does not register on our conscious minds but the sleeping partner, the subconscious mind, has time to absorb it. What the message is really saying is, “The most precious thing on this earth, my last thought and action, will be the goal of orgasm.” If you don’t have an orgasm then you are an old man with zero libido.</p> <p>Our children are being bombarded by sex and porn clips and many don’t even know how to protect them from it all. Large hoardings and magazine adverts are loaded with sexual innuendo. Some of the pop videos are extremely suggestive - again they hide behind free speech. Don’t be vexed and feel powerless about it. Make it a game and find you which of the components they are using - is it novelty, shock value, color, size, taboo etc. If the kids are pre-teen some of these can be disclosed to them and it would make an excellent show-and-tell game.</p> <p>A while back there was a wave of ‘leaked’ private videos of celebrities on the internet. If the youngster is too smitten by their favourite star, even if the conscious mind blames the ‘leak’ on the blood thirsty internet paparazzi, the &lsquo;sleeping partner&rsquo; is patiently digesting the notion that, “yes, even my shambolic hero does it and if I don’t, I won’t look the part.”</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-scientific-reasoning"><strong>The Scientific Reasoning</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-scientific-reasoning"> +<h2 id="the-scientific-reasoning">The Scientific Reasoning <a class="anchor" href="#the-scientific-reasoning"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>, Reboot<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> forums, underground PUA<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup>, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn&rsquo;t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.</p> +</a></h2><p>True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>, Reboot<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> forums, underground PUA<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup>, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn&rsquo;t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.</p> <p>Ironically, the most powerful force in this melee of confusion is the PMOer himself. It is a fallacy that they are weak-willed or are physically weak specimens. You have to be physically strong in order to cope with an addiction after you know it is. This is one of the reasons why PMOers refuse to accept the overwhelming statistics that prove that internet porn with its ‘novelty’ cripples your brain. Add to that the sexologists who are doing half-baked studies and declare PMO is not an issue - they just help to add to the confusion.</p> <p>Everyone knows a friend who PMOed every day - he started with the ‘static’ to internet porn, always horny in real life, chasing girls and you never doubted him to have sex problems of course. You want to believe him. He never complained about any ED right? Guys and girls like them refuse even to consider the hundreds of ex-addicts and non-PMOers who painfully recount their difficulties. It is the “little monster” brain chemical addiction and the “big monster” - illusions and delusions. In this hackbook, I&rsquo;ve put together almost all the sorts of brainwashing a PMOer can suffer from. There will always be a few out there that I haven&rsquo;t touched upon.</p> <p>Even more painful is they think of themselves as unsuccessful losers and insufferable introverts. A possible fact is that a PMO friend could have been more interesting in person if he hadn’t put himself down for seeking self-pleasure.</p> <p>If you do a small survey among your online forum members, friends and colleagues, you will find that most PMOers are, in fact, strong-willed people. They tend to be self-employed, business executives or in certain specialized professions, such as doctors<sup id="fnref:4"><a href="#fn:4" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">4</a></sup>, lawyers, policemen, teachers, salesmen, nurses, secretaries, housewives with children, etc. In other words, anybody leading a stressful existence. Yes, I did include women and mothers. It’s the brain and it’s the same for them too. The main delusion of the PMOer is that porn helps to masturbate to orgasm and that relieves stress. This tends to be associated with the dominant type, the type that takes on responsibility and stress and, of course, that is the type that we admire and therefore tend to copy. Another group that tends to get hooked are people in monotonous jobs because the other main reason for PMOing is boredom. However, the idea that internet porn relieves boredom is also an illusion, I am afraid.</p> <p>As a society we get all uptight about glue-sniffing, heroin addiction, etc. Actual deaths from glue-sniffing do not amount to ten per annum, and deaths from heroin are less than a hundred a year in this country. There is another drug, internet porn, on which over 45 per cent of us become hooked at some time in our lives and the majority spend the rest of their lives regretting it. Some even don’t know that their ED is due to this.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-willpower-method"><strong>The Willpower Method</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method"> +<h2 id="the-willpower-method">The Willpower Method <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why?</p> +</a></h2><p>PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why?</p> <p>Constant exposure to internet porn re-wires your brain. You need to start building resistance to this brainwashing, just as if you were buying a car from a second-hand car dealer. You would be nodding politely but you would not believe a word the man was saying. So don’t believe everything they say either - that you must have sex as much as you can and you must have it exceptional good. And that in the absence of real sex you claim it by the substitute called internet porn - which is only a component of the good old porn.</p> <p>And don’t play ‘safe’ porn game either - because your “little porn monster” invented that scheme to lure you. Even the content - ‘amateur’? Really? Is there a certification authority that certifies it? Tube sites and porn producers gather site visitor profiles and cater to their needs. If they see a trend in crowd sourced collection of a particular genre they will focus on that and get content out ASAP. The statistics of what genre users like is collected to the level of how long and which portion the users were preferring. Do not be fooled by their educational intent or the safe female oriented clips (for you ladies). Start asking yourself:</p> <ul> @@ -4058,27 +4120,21 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p><strong>NO, OF COURSE YOU DON&rsquo;T.</strong></p> <p>I find this brainwashing aspect the most difficult of all to explain. Why is it that an otherwise rational, intelligent human being becomes a complete imbecile about his own addiction? It pains me to confess that out of the thousands of people that I have assisted in kicking the habit, I (not Allen Carr) was the biggest idiot of all.</p> <p>At the age of thirteen, although I was doing well at school and games, I was still an insufferable introvert. I read books from the library that were not within my main study list. However, I can see that I was attracted to erotica. I started masturbating to TV programs, song and dance sequences etc. I must have to have it every day. The tired feeling I felt was misappropriated by my ‘little porn monster’ as work stress. I didn’t know my “I-must-masturbate-as-I-am-entitled” attitude was the one that created the ‘stress’ in the first place. Then I got pictures and GIFs via email on my laptop - the first step towards electronic porn. The colour and texture of the images were amazing for me at that time - won’t be now for sure. Then came dial-up but still they were predominantly static pictures. Then came downloadable videos. It’s a pain to download and watch now - but it was heaven sent then as we were coming out of the static porn era! Oh, the streaming tube sites haven’t arrived yet.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"><strong>When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"> +<h2 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore">When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore <a class="anchor" href="#when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn.</p> +</a></h2><p>I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn.</p> <p>At the age of forty, I was visiting my online harem daily, drinking ‘socially’ (whatever that means) and smoking ‘sometimes’ but not so often. I had wrongly subscribed to misguided ideas of ‘moderation’ and ‘entitlement’. I had reached the stage where I couldn&rsquo;t get through a single day without reaching out to porn in the night. With most PMOers, the triggers are the normal stresses of life, like answering the telephone or socializing.</p> <p>When I experienced PIED - I knew it was killing my virility. There was no way I could kid myself otherwise. I am smart enough not to ‘project’ the porn fantasies on to real life. But it was like pacifying a dog straining at its leash. But why I couldn&rsquo;t see what it was doing to me mentally, I could not understand. It was almost jumping up and biting me on the nose. The ridiculous thing is that most PMOers suffer the delusion at some time in their life that they enjoy internet porn because it is ‘normal’ and ‘healthy’. I never suffered that delusion, I PMOed because I thought enjoying sex is a ‘birthright’ and I am only doing a normal thing.</p> <p>Since it was easier at most times for me to get internet porn than a partner I thought I am doing the normal thing. Now I am a non-PMOer, the most difficult part is trying to believe that those days actually happened. It&rsquo;s like awakening from a nightmare and that is about the size of it. Internet porn is a supranormal drug. It is weakening your de-stressing mechanisms, your virility and your energy. The worst aspect of PMO isn&rsquo;t the injury to your health or manliness, it is the warping of the mind. You search for any plausible excuse to go on.</p> <p>I remember at one stage switching to static images, a failed attempt to cut down on internet porn, in the belief that it was less harmful and I could reign in my ‘habit’. I failed to see the ‘novelty’ and the ‘shock’ demands from my ‘little monster’ to just get more dopamine. Did I ‘stay’ within my boundaries? I ‘favorited’ 2 dimensional photos and my harem collection saw pictures and videos of ‘mild’ type porn rotating in and out like musical chair. When their ‘music’ stopped they ‘exited’. I didn’t understand the novelty-seeking, shock-seeking nature of my brain.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pied-and-my-excuses"><strong>PIED And My Excuses</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pied-and-my-excuses"> +<h2 id="pied-and-my-excuses">PIED And My Excuses <a class="anchor" href="#pied-and-my-excuses"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.</p> +</a></h2><p>Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.</p> <p>Most PMOers swear that they only watch static and soft porn and so they are OK. They are actually straining at the leash and thus fighting with their willpower to resist temptations. If they do this too often and for too long they will debit their willpower considerably and fail in other life projects where willpower is of much great value, like in daily exercise, dieting etc. Continuous failure in those areas will make them feel miserable and guilty and very soon they will find themselves back to their entitled relief. If not, they will vent their anger and depression onto their loved ones.</p> <p>The answer is that once you have become addicted to internet porn, the brainwashing is increased. Your subconscious mind knows that the little monster has to be fed and you block everything else from your mind. As I have already stated, it is fear that keeps people quitting, the fear of that empty, insecure feeling that you get when you stop supplying the brain with dopamine flooding. Just because you are not aware of it doesn&rsquo;t mean it isn&rsquo;t there. You don&rsquo;t have to understand it any more than a cat needs to understand where the under-floor hot-water pipes are. It just knows that if it sits in a certain place it gets the feeling of warmth.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind"><strong>The Passivity Of Our Mind</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-passivity-of-our-mind"> +<h2 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind">The Passivity Of Our Mind <a class="anchor" href="#the-passivity-of-our-mind"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I&rsquo;ve frequently referred to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo; PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo;, but to stopping, quitting or the true position: <strong>ESCAPING!</strong></p> +</a></h2><p>It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I&rsquo;ve frequently referred to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo; PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo;, but to stopping, quitting or the true position: <strong>ESCAPING!</strong></p> <p>The only thing that persuades us to PMO in the first place is all the other people doing it. We feel we are missing out. We work so hard to become hooked, yet nobody ever finds out what they have been missing. But every time we see another new video clip it reassures us that there must be something in it, otherwise people wouldn&rsquo;t be doing it - and it wouldn&rsquo;t be such big business all over the world. Even when he has kicked the habit, the ex-PMOer feels he is being deprived when a discussion on a sexy entertainer, singer or even a porn star comes up at a party or other social function. She or he must be good to have all my friends talk about them, no? Do they have ‘hot’ pictures of her in my tube site? He feels safe. He can have just one ‘peek’ that night. And, before he knows it, he is hooked again.</p> <p>This brainwashing is extremely powerful and you need to be aware of its effects. I have heard scare stories about wicked men giving heroin mixed candies to kids at schoolyards. The concept of addiction and being compelled to go on taking the drug, filled me with horror. Even to this day, in spite of the fact that I am fairly convinced that &lsquo;pot&rsquo; is not addictive, I would not dare take one puff of marijuana. How ironic that I should have ended up a porn junky. Technology will continue to grow and we will have even faster tube sites and more faster access methods. The industry is investing millions in Virtual Reality so it will become the next best thing. The point is, do we know where we are going? Are we equipped with an under armour of defence so we can enjoy the benefits of technology yet at the same time protect ourselves from its bad effects?</p> <p>We are about to remove the brainwashing. It is not the non-PMOer who is being deprived but the poor user who is forfeiting a lifetime of:</p> @@ -4120,15 +4176,15 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:44:00 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-06-internet-porn/ - <p>Erotic novelty of the internet porn is a mental ‘drug’ and internet porn beats anything that is known to mankind and its streaming straight to your home for free ! We are not even talking VR virtual reality here. Porn triggers the ‘flooding’ of dopamine in our brain. Dopamine amps up the brain reward circuitry to produce experiences and feels of cravings and pleasure by locking themselves into ‘receptors’. More dopamine more wanting. Less dopamine no wanting. New experiences, tasty food - more dopamine - more wanting. Sex and sex related stuff gives the biggest injection of dopamine in the reward circuits. Dopamine is not the final pleasure stuff, if it were you would feel happy when you are done with it, but it is only a brain chemical that encourages seeking and action in you. The real pleasure is produced by opioids. More dopamine more opioids more + <h2 id="internet-porn">Internet Porn <a class="anchor" href="#internet-porn"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Erotic novelty of the internet porn is a mental ‘drug’ and internet porn beats anything that is known to mankind and its streaming straight to your home for free ! We are not even talking VR virtual reality here. Porn triggers the ‘flooding’ of dopamine in our brain. Dopamine amps up the brain reward circuitry to produce experiences and feels of cravings and pleasure by locking themselves into ‘receptors’. More dopamine more wanting. Less dopamine no wanting. New experiences, tasty food - more dopamine - more wanting. Sex and sex related stuff gives the biggest injection of dopamine in the reward circuits. Dopamine is not the final pleasure stuff, if it were you would feel happy when you are done with it, but it is only a brain chemical that encourages seeking and action in you. The real pleasure is produced by opioids. More dopamine more opioids more action more happy feelings.</p> <p>So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. All of which will now be stored as a script in your brain for easy access next time. I call this a ‘water slide’. Next time at the cue - a sexy commercial or alone time or stress or feeling a little down - you are ready to take a ride on the ‘water slide’. One more thing is that every time to repeat this you are ‘greasing’ it as well - so it is active, alive and more easier to slide the next time.</p> <p>As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating. Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish, ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you won’t on your first time.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="my-own-online-harem"><strong>My Own Online Harem!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#my-own-online-harem"> +<h2 id="my-own-online-harem">My Own Online Harem! <a class="anchor" href="#my-own-online-harem"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost.</p> +</a></h2><p>This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost.</p> <p>Going back to the earlier discussion - in this cycle as you crossed the ‘red line’ you also trigger emotions such as guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety and fear - which in turn raise dopamine levels as well. Now the brain may mistakenly associate feelings of anxiety and fear as sexual arousal. This perpetual cycle is only broken by natural causes - fortunately sooner or later. With its free access and privacy it provides boundless harem-like novelty. The dopamine can be theoretically kept very high for a very very long time. I can be satisfied with one lobster once in awhile. But Internet porn is different. It is even worse than drugs. Don’t let me make you nervous. I will shortly show you how to be free from this slavery.</p> <p>Now our human body has a self-correcting system by which the number of dopamine and opioid receptors are cut short when frequent and daily ‘flooding’ of dopamine is detected. Unfortunately - these receptors are also needed for receiving dopamine and to keep us even and balanced to handle the inevitable and normal day-to-day stresses. But this natural nominal amount of dopamine will not be absorbed efficiently with decreased receptors and you will feel mores tressed and irritated than normal.</p> <blockquote> @@ -4140,18 +4196,14 @@ action more happy feelings.</p> <p>A fleeting feeling of security is all that is needed to get through a rough spot in life - but will your brain be able to catch that drop of de-stressor that a non-PMOers’ brain is able to catch and use?</p> <p>This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I will explain more about this later.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-little-monster"><strong>The Little Monster</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-little-monster"> +<h2 id="the-little-monster">The Little Monster <a class="anchor" href="#the-little-monster"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&rsquo; we think we just &lsquo;got into the habit&rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.</p> +</a></h2><p>The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&rsquo; we think we just &lsquo;got into the habit&rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.</p> <p>Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, resulting in the feeling of fulfilment and pleasure that the action gives to the PMOer. In the early days, when we first start PMOing, the withdrawal pangs and their relief are so slight that we are not even aware that they exist. When we begin to masturbate regularly to internet porn we think it is because we&rsquo;ve either come to enjoy them or got into the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. The truth is we&rsquo;re already hooked; we do not realize it, but that little monster is already inside our stomach and every now and again we have to feed it.</p> <p>All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster. The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had before he became hooked in the first place.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm"><strong>The Annoying Burglar Alarm</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-annoying-burglar-alarm"> +<h2 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm">The Annoying Burglar Alarm <a class="anchor" href="#the-annoying-burglar-alarm"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we +</a></h2><p>You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain goes on. It is a chain for life - <strong>UNLESS YOU BREAK IT</strong>.</p> <p>The whole business of PMO is like wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure you feel when you take them off. There are three main reasons why PMOers cannot see things that way:</p> <ol> @@ -4162,11 +4214,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <p>It is this &lsquo;back to front&rsquo; reverse process that makes all drugs difficult to kick. Picture the panic state of a heroin addict who has no heroin. Now picture the utter joy when that addict can finally plunge a needle into his vein. Can you visualize someone actually getting pleasure by injecting themselves, or does the mere thought fill you with horror? Non-heroin addicts don&rsquo;t suffer that panic feeling.</p> <p>The heroin doesn&rsquo;t relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a 14 year old in 2008 - didn&rsquo;t suffer the empty feeling of needing internet porn or start to panic when they are off- line. Non-PMOers cannot understand how PMOers can possibly obtain pleasure from two dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. And do you know something? PMOers themselves cannot understand why they do it after some time either.</p> <p>We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don&rsquo;t non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their &rsquo;little monster&rsquo;?</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch"><strong>A Pleasure or Crutch?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#a-pleasure-or-crutch"> +<h2 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch">A Pleasure or Crutch? <a class="anchor" href="#a-pleasure-or-crutch"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;I need to eat.&rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.</p> +</a></h2><p>Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;I need to eat.&rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.</p> <p>PMOing appears to be almost identical. The empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;wanting or needing an PMO orgasm’ is identical to a hunger for food, although one will not satisfy the other. Like hunger, there is no physical pain and the feeling is so imperceptible that we are not even aware of it between PMO sessions. It&rsquo;s only if we want to masturbate and aren&rsquo;t able to reach internet for porn that we become aware of any discomfort. But when we do PMO we feel satisfied.</p> <p>It is this similarity to eating which helps to fool PMOers into believing that they receive some genuine pleasure. Some PMOers find it very difficult to grasp that there is no pleasure or crutch, whatsoever to PMO. Some argue: “How can you say there is no crutch? When I orgasm up then I&rsquo;llfeel less nervous than before.”</p> <p>Although eating and PMOing appear to be very similar. In fact they are exact opposites:</p> @@ -4175,17 +4225,13 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <li>Food does genuinely taste good, and eating is a genuinely pleasant experience that we can enjoy throughout our lives, whereas PMOing involves self-sabotaging the happiness receptors and thus destroying your chances to cope and to feel happy.</li> <li>Eating doesn&rsquo;t create hunger and genuinely relieves it, whereas the first PMO starts the craving for dopamine and each subsequent one, far from relieving it, ensures that you suffer it for the rest of life.</li> </ol> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pmo-is-a-habit"><strong>PMO is a Habit?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pmo-is-a-habit"> +<h2 id="pmo-is-a-habit">PMO is a Habit? <a class="anchor" href="#pmo-is-a-habit"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.</p> +</a></h2><p>This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.</p> <p>On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience, I also refer to the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> - we have to then have more bizarre and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting&hellip; not in the killing. If we don&rsquo;t then panic sets in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great!</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="crossing-the-red-line"><strong>Crossing The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#crossing-the-red-line"> +<h2 id="crossing-the-red-line">Crossing The Red Line <a class="anchor" href="#crossing-the-red-line"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.</p> +</a></h2><p>This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.</p> <p>You feel better than you did before starting this PMO session but you are in fact more nervous and less relaxed than you would be as a non-PMOer, like someone who is living in Loma Linda or in an Amish village, even though you are actually PMOing and living in your supposed “porn paradise.” This position is even more ridiculous than wearing tight shoes because as you go through life an increasing amount of the discomfort remains even when the shoes are removed.</p> <p>Once the orgasm is achieved, the dopamine rapidly begins to leave the brain, causing a mood dip. Which explains why the PMOer wants to ‘edge’<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> and switch through multiple browser windows as they seek and search. As I said, the ‘habit’ doesn&rsquo;t exist. The real reason why every user goes on using internet porn is because of that little porn monster inside his stomach. Every now and again he has to feed it. The PMOer himself will decide when he does that and it tends to be on four types of occasion or a combination of them.</p> <p>These occasions are:</p> @@ -4195,25 +4241,19 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to </ul> <p>What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If you think about it, what other types of occasion are there in our lives; apart from sleep? The truth is that PMO neither relieves boredom and stress nor promotes concentration and relaxation. It is all just illusion. Apart from being a drug, PMO is also a destroyer of happiness and virility.</p> <p>In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes, print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’ and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive without knowing the difference between food and poison.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"><strong>Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"> +<h2 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics">Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics <a class="anchor" href="#brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!</p> +</a></h2><p>Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!</p> <p>When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were titillating but most were disgusting, causing you to avert your eyes away. Like you would if had accidentally glanced a feeding mother’s breast. And some of us are even revolted with what they saw when the star reminded them of someone dear to their heart or a scene which recalled their own instance of being the victim. Some don’t feel like it to browse and masturbate at the same time. It may be hard to believe for you but the non-PMOs, who don’t PMO after their first time, are the lucky ones. They actually decided that it was not their cup of tea. It must be hard for you to believe but stay with me.</p> <p>How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even after a hard day? Why not? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That&rsquo;s all.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak"><strong>Are PMOers Mentally Weak?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#are-pmoers-mentally-weak"> +<h2 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak">Are PMOers Mentally Weak? <a class="anchor" href="#are-pmoers-mentally-weak"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.</p> +</a></h2><p>It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.</p> <p>To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to become hooked, and this is why it is difficult to stop teenagers. Because they are skilled in seeking and finding material, they know online privacy options and can clean their tracks - if they still feel some stigma and they (wrongfully) believe they can stop whenever they want to. Why do they not learn from us? Then again, why did we not learn from our PMOers and addicts?</p> <p>Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of ‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying is the ritual of relieving those pangs.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"><strong>The High From The Dance Around The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"> +<h2 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line">The High From The Dance Around The Red Line <a class="anchor" href="#the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.</p> +</a></h2><p>Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.</p> <p>Ask a user who believes that he sticks to a certain actor or genre - only because he likes something about the star or the theme (if any) of the clip: “If you cannot get your normal brand of porn and can only obtain a poor or unsafe brand, do you stop masturbating?” No way. A PMOer will masturbate to anything rather than abstain and it doesn&rsquo;t matter if he has to switch to escalating themes, different sex-orientation-themes, look-alike actresses, dangerous settings shocking relationships etc. To begin with they taste awful but if you persevere you will learn to like them. Most PMOers will also try to seek masturbation even after having real sex (unfulfilment, porn-induced unrealistic expectations etc.), or after a long, stressful work day, fever, colds, flu, sore throats and even when admitted in hospitals.</p> <p>Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wanted then it makes no sense to be with your laptop. During my conversation some PMOers find it alarming to realize they are drug addicts and think it will make it even more difficult to stop. In fact, it is all good news for two important reasons:</p> <ol> @@ -4221,18 +4261,14 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <li>Although internet porn is the most powerful trigger for ‘novelty’ and ‘sex’ based dopamine ‘flooding’ - because of the speed with which you become hooked, you are never badly hooked. The actual withdrawal pangs are so mild that most PMOers have lived and died without ever realizing that they have suffered them.</li> </ol> <p>You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc. The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn&rsquo;t bother the PMOers.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-smokers-analogy"><strong>The Smokers Analogy</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-smokers-analogy"> +<h2 id="the-smokers-analogy">The Smokers Analogy <a class="anchor" href="#the-smokers-analogy"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they&rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn&rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.</p> +</a></h2><p>A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they&rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn&rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.</p> <p>PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their parents while visiting for family get togethers etc. with little discomfort to themselves. In fact, most PMOers have extended periods during which they abstain without effort. Even in my case I would quite happily go a week or so without a PMO incident. In the later years as a PMOer I actually used to look forward to these days when I could stop choking my penis (what a ridiculous &lsquo;habit&rsquo;).</p> <p>The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood.</p> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"><strong>The Big Monster - The Brainwashing</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"> +<h2 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing">The Big Monster - The Brainwashing <a class="anchor" href="#the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> -</a></h3></div> -<p>You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.</p> +</a></h2><p>You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.</p> <p>Not all the amateurs are ‘amateurs’ on these tube sites, oversized body parts and overcharged scenarios are the norm, aided by a bit of the ‘viagran’ help.</p> <p>As I say, the actual porn addiction is not the main problem. It just acts as a catalyst to keep our minds confused over the real problem: the brainwashing. It may be of consolation to lifelong and heavy PMOers to know that it is just as easy for them to stop as casual PMOers. In a peculiar way. it is easier. The further you go along with the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;, the more it drags you down and the greater the gain when you stop.</p> <p>It may be of further consolation for you to know that the rumours that occasionally circulate that the neural pathways created are there for life, and so at the right (or wrong) time and with strong stimuli you will be sliding again down the ‘water slide’ of internet porn and masturbation to permanently destroy your real life sex are untrue.</p> @@ -4259,7 +4295,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:42:16 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-05-why-do-we-carry-on-with-pmo/ - <p>We all start PMOing for many reasons, usually social pressures or our biological curiosity, but once we feel we are becoming hooked, why do we carry on using porn? No regular PMOer knows why he or she looks at porn. If PMOers knew the true reason, they would stop doing it. The true answer is the same for all PMOers but the variety of replies is infinite, I find this part of the consultation the most amusing and at the same time the most pathetic.</p> + <h2 id="why-do-we-carry-on-with-pmo">Why Do We Carry on With PMO <a class="anchor" href="#why-do-we-carry-on-with-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>We all start PMOing for many reasons, usually social pressures or our biological curiosity, but once we feel we are becoming hooked, why do we carry on using porn? No regular PMOer knows why he or she looks at porn. If PMOers knew the true reason, they would stop doing it. The true answer is the same for all PMOers but the variety of replies is infinite, I find this part of the consultation the most amusing and at the same time the most pathetic.</p> <p>All PMOers know in their heart of hearts that they are fools. They know that they had no need to use porn or internet porn before they became hooked. Most of them can remember that their first ‘peek’ was a mix of revulsion and novel curiosity. They then filter out and get “skilled” at “locating” and “bookmarking” the right porn sites. They know that they had to work hard in order to become hooked.</p> <p>The most annoying part is that they sense that non-addicts - most women, older guys, people living in countries where hi-speed internet porn is not available “on tap” - are not missing anything and that they are laughing at them.</p> <p>However, PMOers are intelligent, rational human beings. They know that they are taking enormous future risks and so they spend a lot of time rationalizing their ‘habit’. The actual reason why PMOers continue is a subtle combination of the factors that I will elaborate in the next two chapters. They are:</p> @@ -4276,7 +4314,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:38:28 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-04-the-sinister-trap/ - <p>Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it&rsquo;s an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked.</p> + <h2 id="the-sinister-trap">The Sinister Trap <a class="anchor" href="#the-sinister-trap"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it&rsquo;s an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked.</p> <p>It is the only trap in nature which has does not require a lot of hard work to set up. The thing that springs the trap is not that all porn clips feature young, high quality, sexy models; it’s that most of the thumbnails on any porn web page are ugly looking, unattractive, amateurish, home-made clips of unknown models. If the first timer’s first look at a tube page was only filled with angelic beauties, professional models and high quality then the alarm bells would ring. And as intelligent human beings, we could then understand why half the adult population was systematically addicted to watching something that is cutting down their very same potential to do what they are viewing. In many known and yet unknown ways porn cuts down sexual performance and the feeling of satisfaction.</p> <p>But because that first “peek” has “stains and holes,” a mishmash of low quality clips of not-so-hot models, our young minds are reassured that we will never become hooked, and we think that because we are not enjoying them we can stop whenever we want to. It is the only drug in nature that prevents you from achieving your aim. Our curiosity brings us to its door steps. You dare not even click on all of the thumbnails because some of them will make you feel sick and throw up! If you were to accidentally click on an “I-did-not-see-that” clip - all you want to do is get away from the site and close your laptop.</p> <p>With women, the aim is to be the sophisticated modern young lady. We have all seen them acting up and looking absolutely ridiculous. By the time the boys have learnt to look tough and the girls have learnt to look sophisticated, they wish they had never started in the first place. I wonder whether women ever look sophisticated when they discuss the top 10 porn sites, or whether this is a figment of our imaginations created by internet porn companies.</p> @@ -4294,7 +4334,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:31:45 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-03-why-is-it-difficult-to-stop/ - <p>As I explained earlier, I got interested in this subject because of my own addiction. When I finally stopped it was like magic. When I had previously tried to stop there were weeks of black depression. There would be odd days when I was comparatively cheerful but the next day back with the depression. It was like clawing your way out of a slippery pit, you feel you are near the top, you see the sunshine and then find yourself sliding down again. Eventually you open your browser and as you masturbate you feel awful and you try to work out why you have to do it.</p> + <h2 id="why-is-it-difficult-to-stop">Why Is It Difficult to Stop? <a class="anchor" href="#why-is-it-difficult-to-stop"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>As I explained earlier, I got interested in this subject because of my own addiction. When I finally stopped it was like magic. When I had previously tried to stop there were weeks of black depression. There would be odd days when I was comparatively cheerful but the next day back with the depression. It was like clawing your way out of a slippery pit, you feel you are near the top, you see the sunshine and then find yourself sliding down again. Eventually you open your browser and as you masturbate you feel awful and you try to work out why you have to do it.</p> <p>One of the questions I always ask online is: “do you want to stop PMO?” In a way it is a stupid question. All users (including members who dispute total abstinence) would love to stop PMO. If you ask to the most confirmed PMOer: “if you could go back to the time before you became hooked, with the knowledge you have now, would you have started PMO?”</p> <p>“NO WAY,” would be the reply.</p> <p>Say to the confirmed PMOer - someone who defends internet porn and who doesn&rsquo;t think that it cause injury to the brain (PIED, hypofrontality or the decreases in the dopamine receptors and etc.) - “do you encourage your children to use PMO?”</p> @@ -4343,12 +4385,14 @@ man and woman from performance based anxieties.&#160;<a href="#fnref: - 03-02 the Easy Method + 03-02 The Easy Method https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-02-the-easy-method/ Tue, 20 Dec 2022 20:26:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-02-the-easy-method/ - <p>The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy.</p> + <h2 id="the-easy-method">The Easy Method <a class="anchor" href="#the-easy-method"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy.</p> <p>Provided that you are not a non-PMOer (who had never got addicted) or an ex-PMOer (who had quit or is in the fasting days of the porn-diet), it is essential to not quit until you have finished the book completely. This may appear to be a contradiction. Later I shall be explaining that porn do absolutely nothing for you at all. In fact, one of the many conundrums about internet porn is that when we are actually masturbating to a porn clip, we look at it and wonder why we are doing it. It is only when we have been deprived that the craving for PMO becomes precious.</p> <p>However, let us accept that, whether you like it or not, you believe you are hooked. When you believe you are hooked, you can never be completely relaxed or concentrate properly unless you are using PMO. So do not attempt to stop PMO before you have finished the whole book. This instruction to continue to masturbate using porn until you have completed the book has caused me more frustration than any other. As you read further your desire to masturbate to porn will gradually be reduced. Do not go off half-cocked; this could be fatal. Remember, all you have to do is to follow the instructions in the right order. When I first started writing on forums many of the readers also stopped purely because I had done it. They thought, “if he can do it, anybody can.”</p> <p>Over the years, I managed to persuade the ones that hadn&rsquo;t stopped to realize just how nice it is to be free! I gave my hackbook for free upon request. I worked on the basis that, even if it were the most boring book ever written, they would still read it, if only because it had been written by an ex-PMOer. I was surprised and hurt to learn that,they hadn&rsquo;t bothered to finish the book.</p> @@ -4380,12 +4424,14 @@ man and woman from performance based anxieties.&#160;<a href="#fnref: - 03-01 the Worst PMO Addict I Have Yet to Meet + 03-01 The Worst PMO Addict I Have Yet to Meet https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-01-the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet/ Tue, 20 Dec 2022 17:10:39 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-01-the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet/ - <p>Perhaps I should begin by describing my competence for writing this book. No, I am not a doctor or a psychiatrist; my qualifications are far more appropriate. I spent thirty years of my life as a confirmed fapper. In the later years I used porn on a daily bases to get orgasm(s).During my life I had made a great number of attempts to stop. I never got past a full week of abstinence, and I was still climbing up the wall, with an “annoying alarm clock beeping” in my head called craving. With most PMOers, on the health side, it&rsquo;s a question of “ I&rsquo;ll stop before it happens to me.” I had reached the stage where I knew it has caused PIED, hypofrontality (inability to control and execute action towards a goal), irritability, lack of energy, soulless eyes, mental dryness, stress and pain in the lower back, genital irritations. It bothered me, but it still didn&rsquo;t stop me.</p> + <h2 id="the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet">The Worst PMO Addict I Have Yet to Meet <a class="anchor" href="#the-worst-pmo-addict-i-have-yet-to-meet"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Perhaps I should begin by describing my competence for writing this book. No, I am not a doctor or a psychiatrist; my qualifications are far more appropriate. I spent thirty years of my life as a confirmed fapper. In the later years I used porn on a daily bases to get orgasm(s).During my life I had made a great number of attempts to stop. I never got past a full week of abstinence, and I was still climbing up the wall, with an “annoying alarm clock beeping” in my head called craving. With most PMOers, on the health side, it&rsquo;s a question of “ I&rsquo;ll stop before it happens to me.” I had reached the stage where I knew it has caused PIED, hypofrontality (inability to control and execute action towards a goal), irritability, lack of energy, soulless eyes, mental dryness, stress and pain in the lower back, genital irritations. It bothered me, but it still didn&rsquo;t stop me.</p> <p>I felt lack of enthusiasm to go to gym or just a walk even if it’s sunny outside or simple weight lifting at home either. I had reached the stage where I gave up even trying to stop. I found excuses in substitute methods (controlled use, safe porn, porn-diet and etc. discussed later) as advocated by sexologists, forum users and medical pros - who have no idea of its effect on brain chemistry and who are themselves fooled by their &rsquo;little monster&rsquo; (not devil or satan - we will talk about monsters later) . The novelty trap and shock value provided by internet porn delivered at home with a low risk high reward deal is something that they can’t even think of. They are still in the static playboy era. And the younger ones have buried their heads under the sand so they can still continue to PMO.</p> <p>The worst part is it was not so much that I enjoyed the PMO. It was just doing it routinely, a chore - like slipping down the water slides, in fact there are brain water slides greased well by the neuro chemicals (DeltaFosB proteins made by dopamine which store emotion scripts for easy recall, will be discussing later). A simple cue such as a commercial, or a day to day stress that got ‘relieved’ temporarily by PMO is all it takes to complete the ride down the ‘waterslide’. Some time in their lives most PMOers have suffered from the illusion that they enjoy the ride, the novelty, the rush and of course the orgasm, but I never had that illusion.</p> <p>I have most times detested the porn, even when I liked the orgasm. But at all times I thought a release from PMO helped me to relax. It gave me courage and confidence, and I was always miserable when I tried to stop, never being able to visualize an enjoyable life without PMO. And so my PMO habit which had started before my marriage stayed with me during and after my marriage was over. I had experienced PIED but I blocked it out and found excuses , “it happens to every man”. Well it does of course - but &lsquo;it&rsquo; happened to me again and again. My penis, I found it difficult to get hard - when I am with real woman. Could it be because I had habituated it to work in limp mode? Later I found that it was hard for me to get hard even with porn.</p> @@ -4423,7 +4469,9 @@ Do not take anything for granted. Question not only what I tell you but also you Tue, 20 Dec 2022 16:58:54 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/02-02-sister-kenny/ - <p>You&rsquo;ve probably seen the film Sister Kenny. In case you haven&rsquo;t, it was about the time when infantile paralysis or polio was the scourge of our children. I vividly remember that the words engendered the same fear in me as the word cancer does today. The effect of polio was not only to paralyze the legs and arms but to distort the limbs. The established medical treatment was to put those limbs in irons and thus prevent the distortion. The result was paralysis for life.</p> + <h2 id="sister-kenny">Sister Kenny <a class="anchor" href="#sister-kenny"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>You&rsquo;ve probably seen the film Sister Kenny. In case you haven&rsquo;t, it was about the time when infantile paralysis or polio was the scourge of our children. I vividly remember that the words engendered the same fear in me as the word cancer does today. The effect of polio was not only to paralyze the legs and arms but to distort the limbs. The established medical treatment was to put those limbs in irons and thus prevent the distortion. The result was paralysis for life.</p> <p>Sister Kenny believed the irons inhibited recovery and proved a thousand times over that the muscles could be re-educated so that the child could walk again. However, Sister Kenny wasn&rsquo;t a doctor, she was merely a nurse. How dare she dabble in a province that was confined to qualified doctors? It didn&rsquo;t seem to matter that Sister Kenny had found the solution to the problem and had proved her solution to be effective. The children that were treated by Sister Kenny knew she was right, so did their parents, yet the established medical profession not only refused to adopt her methods but actually prevented her from practicing. It took Sister Kenny twenty years before the medical profession would accept the obvious.</p> <p>I (Allen Carr) first saw that film years before I (Allen Carr) discovered EASYWAY, The film was very interesting and no doubt there was an element of truth. However, it was equally obvious that Hollywood had used a large portion of poetic license. Sister Kenny couldn&rsquo;t possibly have discovered something that the combined knowledge of medical science had failed to discover. Surely the established medical specialists weren&rsquo;t the dinosaurs they were being portrayed as? How could it possibly have taken them twenty years to accept the facts that were staring them in the face?</p> <p>They say that fact is stranger than fiction, I apologize for accusing the makers of Sister Kenny for using poetic license. Even in this so-called enlightened age of modern communications, even having access to modern communications, I&rsquo;ve failed to get my message across.</p> @@ -4460,7 +4508,9 @@ Do not take anything for granted. Question not only what I tell you but also you Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:27:57 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/02-01-introduction/ - <div style="text-align: center;"> + <h2 id="introduction">Introduction <a class="anchor" href="#introduction"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><div style="text-align: center;"> <h2 id="im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo">&lsquo;I&rsquo;M GOING TO CURE THE WORLD OF PMO&rsquo; <a class="anchor" href="#im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo"> <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> </a></h2></div> @@ -4506,7 +4556,9 @@ the world would also see the light and adopt my method.</li> Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:23:44 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/01-03-fear/ - <p>Fear that we will have to survive an indeterminate period of misery, deprivation and unsatisfied craving in order to be free. Fear that a night all by yourself or the eve of a test or exam will be miserable fighting uncontrollable impulses. Fear that we&rsquo;ll never be able to concentrate, handle stress or be as confident without our little crutch. Fear that our personality and character will change.</p> + <h2 id="fear">Fear <a class="anchor" href="#fear"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Fear that we will have to survive an indeterminate period of misery, deprivation and unsatisfied craving in order to be free. Fear that a night all by yourself or the eve of a test or exam will be miserable fighting uncontrollable impulses. Fear that we&rsquo;ll never be able to concentrate, handle stress or be as confident without our little crutch. Fear that our personality and character will change.</p> <p>But most of all, the fear of &lsquo;once an addict always an addict,&rsquo; that we will never be completely free and spend the rest of our lives at odd times craving the occasional porn induced orgasm. If, as I did, you have already tried all the conventional ways to quit and been through the misery of what I describe as the willpower method of stopping, you will not only be affected by that fear, but convinced you can never quit.</p> <p>If you are apprehensive, panic-stricken or feel that the time is not right for you to give up, then let me assure you that your apprehension or panic is caused by fear. That fear is not relieved by PMO but was indeed created by PMO. You didn&rsquo;t decide to fall into the porn trap. But like all traps, it is designed to ensure that you remain trapped. Ask yourself, when you viewed those first porn pictures and videos, did you decide to come back to view them as long as you have? So when are you going to quit? Tomorrow? Next year? Stop kidding yourself! The trap is designed to hold you for life. Why else do you think all these other PMO addicts don&rsquo;t quit before it kills their lives?</p> <p>As you will soon be reading, the feedbacks I got has revealed information that has exceeded my wildest aspirations of the effectiveness of my method. It has also revealed two aspects of the method that have caused me concern. The second I will be covering later.</p> @@ -4537,7 +4589,9 @@ the world would also see the light and adopt my method.</li> Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:19:35 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/01-02-warning/ - <p>Perhaps you are somewhat apprehensive about reading this book. Perhaps, like the majority of PMO addicts, the mere thought of stopping fills you with panic and although you have every intention of stopping one day, it is not today.</p> + <h2 id="warning">Warning <a class="anchor" href="#warning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>Perhaps you are somewhat apprehensive about reading this book. Perhaps, like the majority of PMO addicts, the mere thought of stopping fills you with panic and although you have every intention of stopping one day, it is not today.</p> <p>If you are expecting me to inform you of the terrible health issues that PMO addicts risk, that they are susceptible to be affected by PIED (porn induced erectile disfunction), unreliable arousals, fading penetration, loss of interest in real partners,loss of control over themselves, loss of relationships, that it is a filthy, disgusting habit and that <em>YOU</em> are a stupid, spineless, weak-willed jellyfish, then I must disappoint you. Those tactics never helped me to quit and if they were going to help you, you would already have quit.</p> <p>Our Method, which I shall refer to as EASYPEASY doesn&rsquo;t work that way. Some of the things that I am about to say, you might find difficult to believe. However by the time you&rsquo;ve finished reading the book, you&rsquo;ll not only believe them, but wonder how you could ever have been brainwashed into believing otherwise.</p> <p>There is a common misapprehension that we choose to watch porn. PMO addicts ( yes addicts) no more choose to do that than alcoholics choose to become alcoholics, or heroin addicts choose to become heroin addicts. It is true that we choose to boot up the laptop, fire up the browser and visit our favourite online harem<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> tube sites. I occasionally choose to go to the cinema, but I certainly didn&rsquo;t choose to spend my whole life in the cinema theatre. The curiosity and my nature took me there but I would not have done that if I had known it would addict me and cause me my health, happiness and relationships. Only if I had heard about PIED on my first visit to that porn site?</p> @@ -4562,7 +4616,9 @@ the world would also see the light and adopt my method.</li> Mon, 19 Dec 2022 22:14:52 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/01-01-preface/ - <p>This hackbook will enable you to stop PMO, immediately, painlessly, and permanently, without the need for Willpower or feeling any sense of deprivation or sacrifice. It will not judge you. It will not embarrass you. It will not put pressure on you to undergo painful measures.</p> + <h2 id="preface">Preface <a class="anchor" href="#preface"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><p>This hackbook will enable you to stop PMO, immediately, painlessly, and permanently, without the need for Willpower or feeling any sense of deprivation or sacrifice. It will not judge you. It will not embarrass you. It will not put pressure on you to undergo painful measures.</p> <p>That goes against everything you&rsquo;ve ever been told about PMO. But ask yourself what you&rsquo;ve been told before worked for you? If it had, you wouldn&rsquo;t be reading this site.</p> <ul> <li>Instantaneous</li> diff --git a/new-site/static/style.css b/new-site/static/style.css index f94b0f92..3aa95e30 100644 --- a/new-site/static/style.css +++ b/new-site/static/style.css @@ -93,7 +93,7 @@ h2 { } h3 { - color: tan; + color: rgb(164, 135, 97) } h4 {