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They have greatly increased the life expectancy of those of us who live in “advanced” countries, but they have destabilized society, have made life unfulfilling, have subjected human beings to indignities, have led to widespread psychological suffering (in the Third World to physical suffering as well) and have inflicted severe damage on the natural world. The continued development of technology will worsen the situation. It will certainly subject human beings to greater indignities and inflict greater damage on the natural world, it will probably lead to greater social disruption and psychological suffering, and it may lead to increased physical suffering even in “advanced” countries.</p> </li> @@ -34,8 +35,9 @@ <p>In this article we give attention to only some of the negative developments that have grown out of the industrial-technological system. Other such developments we mention only briefly or ignore altogether. This does not mean that we regard these other developments as unimportant. For practical reasons we have to confine our discussion to areas that have received insufficient public attention or in which we have something new to say. For example, since there are well-developed environmental and wilderness movements, we have written very little about environmental degradation or the destruction of wild nature, even though we consider these to be highly important.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-psychology-of-modern-leftism">The Psychology of Modern Leftism</h2> -<ol start="6"> +<h2 id="the-psychology-of-modern-leftism">The Psychology of Modern Leftism <a class="anchor" href="#the-psychology-of-modern-leftism"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="6"> <li> <p>Almost everyone will agree that we live in a deeply troubled society. One of the most widespread manifestations of the craziness of our world is leftism, so a discussion of the psychology of leftism can serve as an introduction to the discussion of the problems of modern society in general.</p> </li> @@ -49,8 +51,9 @@ <p>The two psychological tendencies that underlie modern leftism we call feelings of inferiority and oversocialization. Feelings of inferiority are characteristic of modern leftism as a whole, while oversocialization is characteristic only of a certain segment of modern leftism; but this segment is highly influential.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="feelings-of-inferiority">Feelings of Inferiority</h2> -<ol start="10"> +<h2 id="feelings-of-inferiority">Feelings of Inferiority <a class="anchor" href="#feelings-of-inferiority"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="10"> <li> <p>By “feelings of inferiority” we mean not only inferiority feelings in the strict sense but a whole spectrum of related traits: low self-esteem, feelings of powerlessness, depressive tendencies, defeatism, guilt, self-hatred, etc. We argue that modern leftists tend to have some such feelings (possibly more or less repressed), and that these feelings are decisive in determining the direction of modern leftism.</p> </li> @@ -94,8 +97,9 @@ <p>We emphasize that the foregoing does not pretend to be an accurate description of everyone who might be considered a leftist. It is only a rough indication of a general tendency of leftism.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="oversocialization">Oversocialization</h2> -<ol start="24"> +<h2 id="oversocialization">Oversocialization <a class="anchor" href="#oversocialization"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="24"> <li> <p>Psychologists use the term “socialization” to designate the process by which children are trained to think and act as society demands. A person is said to be well socialized if he believes in and obeys the moral code of his society and fits in well as a functioning part of that society. It may seem senseless to say that many leftists are oversocialized, since the leftist is perceived as a rebel. Nevertheless, the position can be defended. Many leftists are not such rebels as they seem.</p> </li> @@ -124,8 +128,9 @@ <p>The problems of the leftist are indicative of the problems of our society as a whole. Low self-esteem, depressive tendencies and defeatism are not restricted to the left. Though they are especially noticeable in the left, they are widespread in our society. And today’s society tries to socialize us to a greater extent than any previous society. We are even told by experts how to eat, how to exercise, how to make love, how to raise our kids and so forth.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-power-process">The Power Process</h2> -<ol start="33"> +<h2 id="the-power-process">The Power Process <a class="anchor" href="#the-power-process"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="33"> <li> <p>Human beings have a need (probably based in biology) for something that we will call the power process. This is closely related to the need for power (which is widely recognized) but is not quite the same thing. The power process has four elements. The three most clear-cut of these we call goal, effort and attainment of goal. (Everyone needs to have goals whose attainment requires effort, and needs to succeed in attaining at least some of his goals.) The fourth element is more difficult to define and may not be necessary for everyone. We call it autonomy and will discuss it later (paragraphs 42–44).</p> </li> @@ -142,8 +147,9 @@ <p>Thus, in order to avoid serious psychological problems, a human being needs goals whose attainment requires effort, and he must have a reasonable rate of success in attaining his goals.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="surrogate-activities">Surrogate Activities</h2> -<ol start="38"> +<h2 id="surrogate-activities">Surrogate Activities <a class="anchor" href="#surrogate-activities"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="38"> <li> <p>But not every leisured aristocrat becomes bored and demoralized. For example, the emperor Hirohito, instead of sinking into decadent hedonism, devoted himself to marine biology, a field in which he became distinguished. When people do not have to exert themselves to satisfy their physical needs they often set up artificial goals for themselves. In many cases they then pursue these goals with the same energy and emotional involvement that they otherwise would have put into the search for physical necessities. Thus the aristocrats of the Roman Empire had their literary pretensions; many European aristocrats a few centuries ago invested tremendous time and energy in hunting, though they certainly didn’t need the meat; other aristocracies have competed for status through elaborate displays of wealth; and a few aristocrats, like Hirohito, have turned to science.</p> </li> @@ -157,8 +163,9 @@ <p>For many if not most people, surrogate activities are less satistying than the pursuit of real goals (that is, goals that people would want to attain even if their need for the power process were already fulfilled). One indication of this is the fact that, in many or most cases, people who are deeply involved in surrogate activities are never satisfied, never at rest. Thus the money-maker constantly strives for more and more wealth. The scientist no sooner solves one problem than he moves on to the next. The long-distance runner drives himself to run always farther and faster. Many people who pursue surrogate activities will say that they get far more fulfillment from these activities than they do from the “mundane” business of satisfying their biological needs, but that is because in our society the effort required to satisfy the biological needs has been reduced to triviality. More importantly, in our society people do not satisty their biological needs AUTONOMOUSLY but by functioning as parts of an immense social machine. In contrast, people generally have a great deal of autonomy in pursuing their surrogate activities.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="autonomy">Autonomy</h2> -<ol start="42"> +<h2 id="autonomy">Autonomy <a class="anchor" href="#autonomy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="42"> <li> <p>Autonomy as a part of the power process may not be necessary for every individual. But most people need a greater or lesser degree of autonomy in working toward their goals. Their efforts must be undertaken on their own initiative and must be under their own direction and control. Yet most people do not have to exert this initiative, direction and control as single individuals. It is usually enough to act as a member of a SMALL group. Thus if half a dozen people discuss a goal among themselves and make a successful joint effort to attain that goal, their need for the power process will be served. But if they work under rigid orders handed down from above that leave them no room for autonomous decision and initiative, then their need for the power process will not be served. The same is true when decisions are made on a collective basis if the group making the collective decision is so large that the role of each individual is insignificant.<sup id="fnref:5"><a href="#fn:5" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">5</a></sup></p> </li> @@ -169,8 +176,9 @@ <p>But for most people it is through the power process—having a goal, making an AUTONOMOUS effort and attaining the goal—that self-esteem, self-confidence and a sense of power are acquired. When one does not have adequate opportunity to go through the power process the consequences are (depending on the individual and on the way the power process is disrupted) boredom, demoralization, low self-esteem, inferiority feelings, defeatism, depression, anxiety, guilt, frustration, hostility, spouse or child abuse, insatiable hedonism, abnormal sexual behavior, sleep disorders, eating disorders, etc.<sup id="fnref:6"><a href="#fn:6" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">6</a></sup></p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="sources-of-social-problems">Sources of Social Problems</h2> -<ol start="45"> +<h2 id="sources-of-social-problems">Sources of Social Problems <a class="anchor" href="#sources-of-social-problems"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="45"> <li> <p>Any of the foregoing symptoms can occur in any society, but in modern industrial society they are present on a massive scale. We aren’t the first to mention that the world today seems to be going crazy. This sort of thing is not normal for human societies. There is good reason to believe that primitive man suffered from less stress and frustration and was better satisfied with his way of life than modern man is. It is true that not all was sweetness and light in primitive societies. Abuse of women was common among the Australian aborigines, transsexuality was fairly common among some of the American Indian tribes. But it does appear that GENERALLY SPEAKING the kinds of problems that we have listed in the preceding paragraph were far less common among primitive peoples than they are in modern society.</p> </li> @@ -214,8 +222,9 @@ <p>It would be possible to give other examples of societies in which there has been rapid change and/or lack of close community ties without the kind of massive behavioral aberration that is seen in today’s industrial society. We contend that the most important cause of social and psychological problems in modern society is the fact that people have insufficient opportunity to go through the power process in a normal way. We don’t mean to say that modern society is the only one in which the power process has been disrupted. Probably most if not all civilized societies have interfered with the power process to a greater or lesser extent. But in modern industrial society the problem has become particularly acute. Leftism, at least in its recent (mid- to late-20th century) form, is in part a symptom of deprivation with respect to the power process.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="disruption-of-the-power-process-in-modern-society">Disruption of the Power Process in Modern Society</h2> -<ol start="59"> +<h2 id="disruption-of-the-power-process-in-modern-society">Disruption of the Power Process in Modern Society <a class="anchor" href="#disruption-of-the-power-process-in-modern-society"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="59"> <li> <p>We divide human drives into three groups: (1) those drives that can be satisfied with minimal effort; (2) those that can be satisfied but only at the cost of serious effort; (3) those that cannot be adequately satisfied no matter how much effort one makes. The power process is the process of satistying the drives of the second group. The more drives there are in the third group, the more there is frustration, anger, eventually defeatism, depression, etc.</p> </li> @@ -271,8 +280,9 @@ <p>In response to the arguments of this section someone will say, “Society must find a way to give people the opportunity to go through the power process.” This won’t work for those who need autonomy in the power process. For such people the value of the opportunity is destroyed by the very fact that society gives it to them. What they need is to find or make their own opportunities. As long as the system GIVES them their opportunities it still has them on a leash. To attain autonomy they must get off that leash.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="how-some-people-adjust">How Some People Adjust</h2> -<ol start="77"> +<h2 id="how-some-people-adjust">How Some People Adjust <a class="anchor" href="#how-some-people-adjust"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="77"> <li> <p>Not everyone in industrial-technological society suffers from psychological problems. Some people even profess to be quite satisfied with society as it is. We now discuss some of the reasons why people differ so greatly in their response to modern society.</p> </li> @@ -304,8 +314,9 @@ <p>But even if most people in industrial-technological society were well satisfied, we (FC) would still be opposed to that form of society, because (among other reasons) we consider it demeaning to fulfill one’s need for the power process through surrogate activities or through identification with an organization, rather than through pursuit of real goals.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-motives-of-scientists">The Motives of Scientists</h2> -<ol start="87"> +<h2 id="the-motives-of-scientists">The Motives of Scientists <a class="anchor" href="#the-motives-of-scientists"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="87"> <li> <p>Science and technology provide the most important examples of surrogate activities. Some scientists claim that they are motivated by “curiosity” or by a desire to “benefit humanity.” But it is easy to see that neither of these can be the principal motive of most scientists. As for “curiosity,” that notion is simply absurd. Most scientists work on highly specialized problems that are not the object of any normal curiosity. For example, is an astronomer, a mathematician or an entomologist curious about the properties of isopropyltrimethylmethane? Of course not. Only a chemist is curious about such a thing, and he is curious about it only because chemistry is his surrogate activity. Is the chemist curious about the appropriate classification of a new species of beetle? No. That question is of interest only to the entomologist, and he is interested in it only because entomology is his surrogate activity. If the chemist and the entomologist had to exert themselves seriously to obtain the physical necessities, and if that effort exercised their abilities in an interesting way but in some nonscientific pursuit, then they wouldn’t give a damn about isopropyltrimethylmethane or the classification of beetles. Suppose that lack of funds for postgraduate education had led the chemist to become an insurance broker instead of a chemist. In that case he would have been very interested in insurance matters but would have cared nothing about isopropyltrimcthylmethane. In any case it is not normal to put into the satisfaction of mere curiosity the amount of time and effort that scientists put into their work. The “curiosity” explanation for the scientists’ motive just doesn’t stand up.</p> </li> @@ -325,8 +336,9 @@ <p>Thus science marches on blindly, without regard to the real welfare of the human race or to any other standard, obedient only to the psychological needs of the scientists and of the government officials and corporation executives who provide the funds for research.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-nature-of-freedom">The Nature of Freedom</h2> -<ol start="93"> +<h2 id="the-nature-of-freedom">The Nature of Freedom <a class="anchor" href="#the-nature-of-freedom"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="93"> <li> <p>We are going to argue that industrial-technological society cannot be reformed in such a way as to prevent it from progressively narrowing the sphere of human freedom. But because “freedom” is a word that can be interpreted in many ways, we must first make clear what kind of freedom we are concerned with.</p> </li> @@ -346,8 +358,9 @@ <p>One more point to be made in this section: It should not be assumed that a person has enough freedom just because he SAYS he has enough. Freedom is restricted in part by psychological controls of which people are unconscious, and moreover many people’s ideas of what constitutes freedom are governed more by social convention than by their real needs. For example, it’s likely that many leftists of the oversocialized type would say that most people, including themselves, are socialized too little rather than too much, yet the oversocialized leftist pays a heavy psychological price for his high level of socialization.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="some-principles-of-history">Some Principles of History</h2> -<ol start="99"> +<h2 id="some-principles-of-history">Some Principles of History <a class="anchor" href="#some-principles-of-history"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="99"> <li> <p>Think of history as being the sum of two components: an erratic component that consists of unpredictable events that follow no discernible pattern, and a regular component that consists of long-term historical trends. Here we are concerned with the long-term trends.</p> </li> @@ -385,8 +398,9 @@ <p>Still, one has to use common sense in applying the principles. They are expressed in imprecise language that allows latitude for interpretation, and exceptions to them can be found. So we present these principles not as inviolable laws but as rules of thumb, or guides to thinking, that may provide a partial antidote to naive ideas about the future of society. The principles should be borne constantly in mind, and whenever one reaches a conclusion that conflicts with them one should carefully reexamine one’s thinking and retain the conclusion only if one has good, solid reasons for doing so.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="industrial-technological-society-cannot-be-reformed">Industrial-Technological Society Cannot Be Reformed</h2> -<ol start="111"> +<h2 id="industrial-technological-society-cannot-be-reformed">Industrial-Technological Society Cannot Be Reformed <a class="anchor" href="#industrial-technological-society-cannot-be-reformed"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="111"> <li> <p>The foregoing principles help to show how hopelessly difficult it would be to reform the industrial system in such a way as to prevent it from progressively narrowing our sphere of freedom. There has been a consistent tendency, going back at least to the Industrial Revolution, for technology to strengthen the system at a high cost in individual freedom and local autonomy. Hence any change designed to protect freedom from technology would be contrary to a fundamental trend in the development of our society. Consequently, such a change either would be a transitory one—soon swamped by the tide of history—or, if large enough to be permanent, would alter the nature of our whole society. This by the first and second principles. Moreover, since society would be altered in a way that could not be predicted in advance (third principle) there would be great risk. Changes large enough to make a lasting difference in favor of freedom would not be initiated because it would be realized that they would gravely disrupt the system. So any attempts at reform would be too timid to be effective. Even if changes large enough to make a lasting difference were initiated, they would be retracted when their disruptive effects became apparent. Thus, permanent changes in favor of freedom could be brought about only by persons prepared to accept radical, dangerous and unpredictable alteration of the entire system. In other words by revolutionaries, not reformers.</p> </li> @@ -397,8 +411,9 @@ <p>So even on very general grounds it seems highly improbable that any way of changing society could be found that would reconcile freedom with modern technology. In the next few sections we will give more specific reasons for concluding that freedom and technological progress are incompatible.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="restriction-of-freedom-is-unavoidable-in-industrial-society">Restriction of Freedom is Unavoidable in Industrial Society</h2> -<ol start="114"> +<h2 id="restriction-of-freedom-is-unavoidable-in-industrial-society">Restriction of Freedom is Unavoidable in Industrial Society <a class="anchor" href="#restriction-of-freedom-is-unavoidable-in-industrial-society"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="114"> <li> <p>As explained in paragraphs 65–67, 70–73, modern man is strapped down by a network of rules and regulations, and his fate depends on the actions of persons remote from him whose decisions he cannot influence. This is not accidental or a result of the arbitrariness of arrogant bureaucrats. It is necessary and inevitable in any technologically advanced society. The system HAS TO regulate human behavior closely in order to function. At work, people have to do what they are told to do, when they are told to do it and in the way they are told to do it, otherwise production would be thrown into chaos. Bureaucracies HAVE TO be run according to rigid rules. To allow any substantial personal discretion to lower-level bureaucrats would disrupt the system and lead to charges of unfairness due to differences in the way individual bureaucrats exercised their discretion. It is true that some restrictions on our freedom could be eliminated. but GENERALLY SPEAKING the regulation of our lives by large organizations is necessary for the functioning of industrial-technological society. The result is a sense of powerlessness on the part of the average person. It may be. however. that formal regulations will tend increasingly to be replaced by psychological tools that make us want to do what the system requires of us. (Propaganda,<sup id="fnref1:14"><a href="#fn:14" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">14</a></sup> educational techniques, “mental health” programs, etc.)</p> </li> @@ -421,8 +436,9 @@ <p>Efforts to make room for a sense of purpose and for autonomy within the system are no better than a joke. For example, one company, instead of having each of its employees assemble only one section of a catalogue, had each assemble a whole catalogue, and this was supposed to give them a sense of purpose and achievement. Some companies have tried to give their employees more autonomy in their work, but for practical reasons this usually can be done only to a very limited extent, and in any case employees are never given autonomy as to ultimate goals—their “autonomous” efforts can never be directed toward goals that they select personally, but only toward their employer’s goals, such as the survival and growth of the company. Any company would soon go out of business if it permitted its employees to act otherwise. Similarly, in any enterprise within a socialist system, workers must direct their efforts toward the goals of the enterprise, otherwise the enterprise will not serve its purpose as part of the system. Once again, for purely technical reasons it is not possible for most individuals or small groups to have much autonomy in industrial society. Even the small-business owner commonly has only limited autonomy. Apart from the necessity of government regulation, he is restricted by the fact that he must fit into the economic system and conform to its requirements. For instance, when someone develops a new technology, the small-business person often has to use that technology whether he wants to or not, in order to remain competitive.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-bad-parts-of-technology-cannot-be-separated-from-the-good-parts">The “Bad” Parts of Technology Cannot Be Separated from the “Good” Parts</h2> -<ol start="121"> +<h2 id="the-bad-parts-of-technology-cannot-be-separated-from-the-good-parts">The “Bad” Parts of Technology Cannot Be Separated from the “Good” Parts <a class="anchor" href="#the-bad-parts-of-technology-cannot-be-separated-from-the-good-parts"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="121"> <li> <p>A further reason why industrial society cannot be reformed in favor of freedom is that modern technology is a unified system in which all parts are dependent on one another. You can’t get rid of the “bad” parts of technology and retain only the “good” parts. Take modern medicine, for example. Progress in medical science depends on progress in chemistry, physics, biology, computer science and other fields. Advanced medical treatments require expensive, high-tech equipment that can be made available only by a technologically progressive, economically rich society. Clearly you can’t have much progress in medicine without the whole technological system and everything that goes with it.</p> </li> @@ -436,8 +452,9 @@ <p>The usual response to such concerns is to talk about “medical ethics.” But a code of ethics would not serve to protect freedom in the face of medical progress; it would only make matters worse. A code of ethics applicable to genetic engineering would be in effect a means of regulating the genetic constitution of human beings. Somebody (probably the upper middle class, mostly) would decide that such and such applications of genetic engineering were “ethical” and others were not, so that in effect they would be imposing their own values on the genetic constitution of the population at large. Even if a code of ethics were chosen on a completely democratic basis, the majority would be imposing their own values on any minorities who might have a different idea of what constituted an “ethical” use of genetic engineering. The only code of ethics that would truly protect freedom would be one that prohibited ANY genetic engineering of human beings, and you can be sure that no such code will ever be applied in a technological society. No code that reduced genetic engineering to a minor role could stand up for long, because the temptation presented by the immense power of biotechnology would be irresistible, especially since to the majority of people many of its applications will seem obviously and unequivocally good (eliminating physical and mental diseases, giving people the abilities they need to get along in today’s world). Inevitably, genetic engineering will be used extensively, but only in ways consistent with the needs of the industrial-technological system.<sup id="fnref:20"><a href="#fn:20" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">20</a></sup></p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="technology-is-a-more-powerful-social-force-than-the-aspiration-for-freedom">Technology is a More Powerful Social Force than the Aspiration for Freedom</h2> -<ol start="125"> +<h2 id="technology-is-a-more-powerful-social-force-than-the-aspiration-for-freedom">Technology is a More Powerful Social Force than the Aspiration for Freedom <a class="anchor" href="#technology-is-a-more-powerful-social-force-than-the-aspiration-for-freedom"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="125"> <li> <p>It is not possible to make a LASTING compromise between technology and freedom, because technology is by far the more powerful social force and continually encroaches on freedom through REPEATED compromises. Imagine the case of two neighbors, each of whom at the outset owns the same amount of land, but one of whom is more powerful than the other. The powerful one demands a piece of the other’s land. The weak one refuses. The powerful one says, “Okay, let’s compromise. Give me half of what I asked.” The weak one has little choice but to give in. Some time later the powerful neighbor demands another piece of land, again there is a compromise, and so forth. By forcing a long series of compromises on the weaker man, the powerful one eventually gets all of his land. So it goes in the conflict between technology and freedom.</p> </li> @@ -472,8 +489,9 @@ <p>In paragraph 125 we used an analogy of a weak neighbor who is left destitute by a strong neighbor who takes all his land by forcing on him a series of compromises. But suppose now that the strong neighbor gets sick, so that he is unable to defend himself. The weak neighbor can force the strong one to give him his land back, or he can kill him. If he lets the strong man survive and only forces him to give the land back, he is a fool, because when the strong man gets well he will again take all the land for himself. The only sensible alternative for the weaker man is to kill the strong one while he has the chance. In the same way, while the industrial system is sick we must destroy it. If we compromise with it and let it recover from its sickness, it will eventually wipe out all of our freedom.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="simpler-social-problems-have-proved-intractable">Simpler Social Problems Have Proved Intractable</h2> -<ol start="136"> +<h2 id="simpler-social-problems-have-proved-intractable">Simpler Social Problems Have Proved Intractable <a class="anchor" href="#simpler-social-problems-have-proved-intractable"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="136"> <li> <p>If anyone still imagines that it would be possible to reform the system in such a way as to protect freedom from technology, let him consider how clumsily and for the most part unsuccessfully our society has dealt with other social problems that are far more simple and straightforward. Among other things, the system has failed to stop environmental degradation, political corruption, drug trafficking or domestic abuse.</p> </li> @@ -487,8 +505,9 @@ <p>And note this important difference: It is conceivable that our environmental problems (for example) may some day be settled through a rational, comprehensive plan, but if this happens it will be only because it is in the long-term interest of the system to solve these problems. But it is NOT in the interest of the system to preserve freedom or small-group autonomy. On the contrary, it is in the interest of the system to bring human behavior under control to the greatest possible extent.<sup id="fnref:24"><a href="#fn:24" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">24</a></sup> Thus, while practical considerations may eventually force the system to take a rational, prudent approach to environmental problems, equally practical considerations will force the system to regulate human behavior ever more closely (preferably by indirect means that will disguise the encroachment on freedom). This isn’t just our opinion. Eminent social scientists (e.g., James Q. Wilson) have stressed the importance of “socializing” people more effectively.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="revolution-is-easier-than-reform">Revolution is Easier than Reform</h2> -<ol start="140"> +<h2 id="revolution-is-easier-than-reform">Revolution is Easier than Reform <a class="anchor" href="#revolution-is-easier-than-reform"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="140"> <li> <p>We hope we have convinced the reader that the system cannot be reformed in such a way as to reconcile freedom with technology. The only way out is to dispense with the industrial-technological system altogether. This implies revolution, not necessarily an armed uprising, but certainly a radical and fundamental change in the nature of society.</p> </li> @@ -499,8 +518,9 @@ <p>Reform is always restrained by the fear of painful consequences if changes go too far. But once a revolutionary fever has taken hold of a society, people are willing to undergo unlimited hardships for the sake of their revolution. This was clearly shown in the French and Russian Revolutions. It may be that in such cases only a minoriry of the population is really committed to the revolution, but this minority is sufficiently large and active so that it becomes the dominant force in society. We will have more to say about revolution in paragraphs 180–205).</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="control-of-human-behavior">Control of Human Behavior</h2> -<ol start="143"> +<h2 id="control-of-human-behavior">Control of Human Behavior <a class="anchor" href="#control-of-human-behavior"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="143"> <li> <p>Since the beginning of civilization, organized societies have had to put pressures on human beings for the sake of the functioning of the social organism. The kinds of pressures vary greatly from one society to another. Some of the pressures are physical (poor diet, excessive labor, environmental pollution), some are psychological (noise, crowding, forcing human behavior into the mold that society requires). In the past, human nature has been approximately constant, or at any rate has varied only within certain bounds. Consequently, societies have been able to push people only up to certain limits. When the limit of human endurance has been passed, things start going wrong: rebellion, or crime, or corruption, or evasion of work, or depression and other mental problems, or an elevated death rate, or a declining birth rate or something else, so that either the society breaks down, or its functioning becomes too inefficient and it is (quickly or gradually, through conquest, attrition or evolution) replaced by some more efficient form of society.<sup id="fnref:25"><a href="#fn:25" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">25</a></sup></p> </li> @@ -556,8 +576,9 @@ <p>To those who think that all this sounds like science fiction, we point out that yesterday’s science fiction is today’s fact. The Industrial Revolution has radically altered man’s environment and way of life, and it is only to be expected that as technology is increasingly applied to the human body and mind, man himself will be altered as radically as his environment and way of life have been.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="human-race-at-a-crossroads">Human Race at a Crossroads</h2> -<ol start="161"> +<h2 id="human-race-at-a-crossroads">Human Race at a Crossroads <a class="anchor" href="#human-race-at-a-crossroads"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="161"> <li> <p>But we have gotten ahead of our story. It is one thing to develop in the laboratory a series of psychological or biological techniques for manipulating human behavior and quite another to integrate these techniques into a functioning social system. The latter problem is the more difficult of the two. For example, while the techniques of educational psychology doubtless work quite well in the “lab schools” where they are developed, it is not necessarily easy to apply them effectively throughout our educational system. We all know what many of our schools are like. The teachers are too busy taking knives and guns away from the kids to subject them to the latest techniques for making them into computer nerds. Thus, in spite of all its technical advances relating to human behavior, the system to date has not been impressively successful in controlling human beings. The people whose behavior is fairly well under the control of the system are those of the type that might be called “bourgeois.” But there are growing numbers of people who in one way or another are rebels against the system: welfare leeches, youth gangs, cultists, satanists, Nazis, radical environmentalists, militia-men, etc.</p> </li> @@ -577,8 +598,9 @@ <p>Therefore two tasks confront those who hate the servitude to which the industrial system is reducing the human race. First, we must work to heighten the social stresses within the system so as to increase the likelihood that it will break down or be weakened sufficiently so that a revolution against it becomes possible. Second, it is necessary to develop and propagate an ideology that opposes technology and the industrial system. Such an ideology can become the basis for a revolution against industrial society if and when the system becomes sufficiently weakened. And such an ideology will help to assure that, if and when industrial society breaks down, its remnants will be smashed beyond repair, so that the system cannot be reconstituted. The factories should be destroyed, technical books burned, etc.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="human-suffering">Human Suffering</h2> -<ol start="167"> +<h2 id="human-suffering">Human Suffering <a class="anchor" href="#human-suffering"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="167"> <li> <p>The industrial system will not break down purely as a result of revolutionary action. It will not be vulnerable to revolutionary attack unless its own internal problems of development lead it into very serious difficulties. So if the system breaks down it will do so either spontaneously, or through a process that is in part spontaneous but helped along by revolutionaries. If the breakdown is sudden, many people will die, since the world’s population has become so overblown that it cannot even feed itself any longer without advanced technology. Even if the breakdown is gradual enough so that reduction of the population can occur more through lowering of the birth rate than through elevation of the death rate, the process of de-industrialization probably will be very chaotic and involve much suffering. It is naive to think it likely that technology can be phased out in a smoothly managed, orderly way, especially since the technophiles will fight stubbornly at every step. Is it therefore cruel to work for the breakdown of the system? Maybe, but maybe not. In the first place, revolutionaries will not be able to break the system down unless it is already in enough trouble so that there would be a good chance of its eventually breaking down by itself anyway; and the bigger the system grows, the more disastrous the consequences of its breakdown will be; so it may be that revolutionaries, by hastening the onset of the breakdown, will be reducing the extent of the disaster.</p> </li> @@ -592,8 +614,9 @@ <p>“Oh!” say the technophiles, “Science is going to fix all that! We will conquer famine, eliminate psychological suffering, make everybody healthy and happy!” Yeah, sure. That’s what they said 200 years ago. The Industrial Revolution was supposed to eliminate poverty, make everybody happy, etc. The actual result has been quite different. The technophiles are hopelessly naive (or self-deceiving) in their understanding of social problems. They are unaware of (or choose to ignore) the fact that when large changes, even seemingly beneficial ones, are introduced into a society, they lead to a long sequence of other changes, most of which are impossible to predict (paragraph 103). In the mean time there will be great suffering. So it is not at all clear that the survival of industrial society would involve less suffering than the breakdown of that society would. Technology has gotten the human race into a fix from which there is not likely to be any easy escape.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-future">The Future</h2> -<ol start="171"> +<h2 id="the-future">The Future <a class="anchor" href="#the-future"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="171"> <li> <p>But suppose now that industrial society does survive the next several decades and that the bugs do eventually get worked out of the system, so that it functions smoothly. What kind of system will it be? We will consider several possibilities.</p> </li> @@ -622,8 +645,9 @@ <p>It would be better to dump the whole stinking system and take the consequences.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="strategy">Strategy</h2> -<ol start="180"> +<h2 id="strategy">Strategy <a class="anchor" href="#strategy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="180"> <li> <p>The technophiles are taking us all on an utterly reckless ride into the unknown. Many people understand something of what technological progress is doing to us, yet take a passive attitude toward it because they think it is inevitable. But we (FC) don’t think it is inevitable. We think it can be stopped, and we will give here some indications of how to go about stopping it.</p> </li> @@ -706,8 +730,9 @@ <p>With regard to revolutionary strategy, the only points on which we absolutely insist are that the single, overriding goal must be the elimination of modern technology, and that no other goal can be allowed to compete with this one. For the rest, revolutionaries should take an empirical approach. If experience indicates that some of the recommendations made in the foregoing paragraphs are not going to give good results, then those recommendations should be discarded.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="two-kinds-of-technology">Two Kinds of Technology</h2> -<ol start="207"> +<h2 id="two-kinds-of-technology">Two Kinds of Technology <a class="anchor" href="#two-kinds-of-technology"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="207"> <li> <p>An argument likely to be raised against our proposed revolution is that it is bound to fail, because (it is claimed) throughout history technology has always progressed, never regressed, hence technological regression is impossible. But this claim is false.</p> </li> @@ -727,8 +752,9 @@ <p>Would society EVENTUALLY develop again toward an industrial-technological form? Maybe, but there is no use in worrying about it, since we can’t predict or control events 500 or 1,000 years in the future. Those problems must be dealt with by the people who will live at that time.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-danger-of-leftism">The Danger of Leftism</h2> -<ol start="213"> +<h2 id="the-danger-of-leftism">The Danger of Leftism <a class="anchor" href="#the-danger-of-leftism"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="213"> <li> <p>Because of their need for rebellion and for membership in a movement, leftists or persons of similar psychological type often are attracted to a rebellious or activist movement whose goals and membership are not initially leftist. The resulting influx of leftish types can easily turn a non-leftist movement into a leftist one, so that leftist goals replace or distort the original goals of the movement.</p> </li> @@ -784,8 +810,9 @@ <p>The more dangerous leftists, that is, those who are most power-hungry, are often characterized by arrogance or by a dogmatic approach to ideology. However, the most dangerous leftists of all may be certain oversocialized types who avoid irritating displays of aggressiveness and refrain from advertising their leftism, but work quietly and unobtrusively to promote collectivist values, “enlightened” psychological techniques for socializing children, dependence of the individual on the system, and so forth. These crypto-leftists (as we may call them) approximate certain bourgeois types as far as practical action is concerned, but differ from them in psychology, ideology and motivation. The ordinary bourgeois tries to bring people under control of the system in order to protect his way of life, or he does so simply because his attitudes are conventional. The crypto-leftist tries to bring people under control of the system because he is a True Believer in a collectivistic ideology. The crypto-leftist is differentiated from the average leftist of the oversocialized type by the fact that his rebellious impulse is weaker and he is more securely socialized. He is differentiated from the ordinary well-socialized bourgeois by the fact that there is some deep lack within him that makes it necessary for him to devote himself to a cause and immerse himself in a collectivity. And maybe his (well-sublimated) drive for power is stronger than that of the average bourgeois.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="final-note">Final Note</h2> -<ol start="231"> +<h2 id="final-note">Final Note <a class="anchor" href="#final-note"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="231"> <li> <p>Throughout this article we’ve made imprecise statements and statements that ought to have had all sorts of qualifications and reservations attached to them; and some of our statements may be flatly false. Lack of sufficient information and the need for brevity made it impossible for us to formulate our assertions more precisely or add all the necessary qualifications. And of course in a discussion of this kind one must rely heavily on intuitive judgment, and that can sometimes be wrong. So we don’t claim that this article expresses more than a crude approximation to the truth.</p> </li> @@ -915,8 +942,9 @@ Thu, 12 Jan 2023 21:34:30 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/recover-lost-anki-streak/ - <h1 id="how-to-recover-a-lost-anki-streak">How to recover a lost anki streak</h1> -<p>Word for word copy paste of what fixed my issue. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/Anki/comments/ndt6ag/comment/gycwiti/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">Original post</a></p> + <h1 id="how-to-recover-a-lost-anki-streak">How to recover a lost anki streak <a class="anchor" href="#how-to-recover-a-lost-anki-streak"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><p>Word for word copy paste of what fixed my issue. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/Anki/comments/ndt6ag/comment/gycwiti/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">Original post</a></p> <p><em>btw i had to create a seperate Custom Study for cards i had forgotten, i set it to 1 day, did one review and followed from step 7</em></p> <p>Happened to me as well, idk why. But there is a way to cheat streaks:</p> <ol> @@ -938,10 +966,12 @@ Wed, 04 Jan 2023 22:52:24 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/meta-description-in-hugo/ - <h1 id="adding-meta-description-in-hugo">Adding meta description in Hugo</h1> -<p>I assume you are using Luke Smith&rsquo;s theme - Lugo, if you are not, you&rsquo;d have to find these files yourself (e.g. search using vscode).</p> -<h2 id="setting-a-global-meta-description">Setting a global meta description</h2> -<ol> + <h1 id="adding-meta-description-in-hugo">Adding meta description in Hugo <a class="anchor" href="#adding-meta-description-in-hugo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><p>I assume you are using Luke Smith&rsquo;s theme - Lugo, if you are not, you&rsquo;d have to find these files yourself (e.g. search using vscode).</p> +<h2 id="setting-a-global-meta-description">Setting a global meta description <a class="anchor" href="#setting-a-global-meta-description"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Locate your config.toml or config.yaml file</li> <li>Add the following line inside it</li> </ol> @@ -952,15 +982,17 @@ <div class="highlight"><pre tabindex="0" style="color:#f8f8f2;background-color:#272822;-moz-tab-size:4;-o-tab-size:4;tab-size:4;"><code class="language-yaml" data-lang="yaml"><span style="display:flex;"><span><span style="color:#f92672">params</span>: </span></span><span style="display:flex;"><span> <span style="color:#f92672">description</span>: <span style="color:#ae81ff">The global meta description of your website</span> </span></span></code></pre></div><p>It won&rsquo;t work just yet because you have to update the <code>baseof.html</code> file.</p> -<h2 id="updating-the-baseofhtml-file">Updating the baseof.html file</h2> -<ol> +<h2 id="updating-the-baseofhtml-file">Updating the baseof.html file <a class="anchor" href="#updating-the-baseofhtml-file"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Locate baseof.html</li> <li>Add or change the meta description line with the following</li> </ol> <div class="highlight"><pre tabindex="0" style="color:#f8f8f2;background-color:#272822;-moz-tab-size:4;-o-tab-size:4;tab-size:4;"><code class="language-html" data-lang="html"><span style="display:flex;"><span>&lt;<span style="color:#f92672">meta</span> <span style="color:#a6e22e">name</span><span style="color:#f92672">=</span><span style="color:#e6db74">&#34;description&#34;</span> <span style="color:#a6e22e">content</span><span style="color:#f92672">=</span><span style="color:#e6db74">&#34;{{ if .Page.Params.description }}{{ .Page.Params.description }}{{ else if .Summary}}{{ .Summary }}{{else}}{{ .Site.Params.description}}{{ end }}&#34;</span>/&gt; </span></span></code></pre></div><p>And now if you start your Hugo server locally with <code>hugo serve --noHTTPCache</code> and you right click on your page -&gt; View Page Source -&gt; Search for the meta description tag. It should match what you left in the config file.</p> -<h2 id="replacing-the-global-description-with-a-custom-one">Replacing the global description with a custom one</h2> -<ol> +<h2 id="replacing-the-global-description-with-a-custom-one">Replacing the global description with a custom one <a class="anchor" href="#replacing-the-global-description-with-a-custom-one"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Have a markdown file ready</li> <li>In the preamble, add</li> </ol> @@ -978,8 +1010,9 @@ https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/multiple-index-pages-in-hugo/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="this-is-how-to-create-multiple-index-pages-in-hugo">This is how to create multiple index pages in Hugo</h2> -</div> +<h2 id="this-is-how-to-create-multiple-index-pages-in-hugo">This is how to create multiple index pages in Hugo <a class="anchor" href="#this-is-how-to-create-multiple-index-pages-in-hugo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>I wanted to order <a href="https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook">Hackbook</a> in reverse (i.e. oldest to newest) so that it&rsquo;s easier for the reader to start at the correct page.</p> <p>I ran into the following problem - the default <strong><code>list.html</code></strong> does them from newest to oldest.</p> <p>So I found <a href="https://discourse.gohugo.io/t/two-home-pages/31312/9">this forum post</a> and I created a file in the <strong><code>_default</code></strong> directory as follows:</p> @@ -1012,11 +1045,14 @@ {{- end }} &lt;/ul&gt; {{- end }} -</code></pre><h4 id="if-you-want-to-display-the-date-on-the-left-of-the-titles-you-have-to-add-datesinlisttrue-in-your-configtoml-or-datesinlist-true-in-your-configyaml">if you want to display the date on the left of the titles, you have to add <strong><code>datesinlist=true</code></strong> in your config.toml or <strong><code>datesinlist: true</code></strong> in your config.yaml</h4> -<h5 id="you-probably-dont-need-enablegitinfo--true-as-that-will-crash-your-website-i-have-no-idea-what-it-does-you-dont-need-it">You probably don&rsquo;t need <strong><code>enableGitInfo = true</code></strong> as that will crash your website, I have no idea what it does, you don&rsquo;t need it.</h5> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="using-your-custom-_indexhtml">Using your custom _index.html</h2> -</div> +</code></pre><h4 id="if-you-want-to-display-the-date-on-the-left-of-the-titles-you-have-to-add-datesinlisttrue-in-your-configtoml-or-datesinlist-true-in-your-configyaml">if you want to display the date on the left of the titles, you have to add <strong><code>datesinlist=true</code></strong> in your config.toml or <strong><code>datesinlist: true</code></strong> in your config.yaml <a class="anchor" href="#if-you-want-to-display-the-date-on-the-left-of-the-titles-you-have-to-add-datesinlisttrue-in-your-configtoml-or-datesinlist-true-in-your-configyaml"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h5 id="you-probably-dont-need-enablegitinfo--true-as-that-will-crash-your-website-i-have-no-idea-what-it-does-you-dont-need-it">You probably don&rsquo;t need <strong><code>enableGitInfo = true</code></strong> as that will crash your website, I have no idea what it does, you don&rsquo;t need it. <a class="anchor" href="#you-probably-dont-need-enablegitinfo--true-as-that-will-crash-your-website-i-have-no-idea-what-it-does-you-dont-need-it"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h5><div style="text-align: center;"> +<h2 id="using-your-custom-_indexhtml">Using your custom _index.html <a class="anchor" href="#using-your-custom-_indexhtml"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>After creating your custom _index.html you&rsquo;d use it as follows:</p> <ol> <li>Create an _index.md file in your desired directory</li> @@ -1227,8 +1263,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true <li>Never PMO again.</li> </ol> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="affirmations">Affirmations</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="affirmations">Affirmations <a class="anchor" href="#affirmations"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <ul> <li>I am free from the slavery of PMO.</li> <li>It is easy for me to ignore my thoughts about PMO.</li> @@ -1269,21 +1306,24 @@ strains of life.</li> https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-43-advice-to-non-pmoers/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK <a class="anchor" href="#help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>First study the contents of this book and try to put yourself in the place of the PMOer. Do not force him to read this book or try to stop him by telling him he is ruining his health or playing with fire. He already knows this better than you do. PMOers do not continue in it because they enjoy it or because they want to. They only tell themselves and other people this in order to retain self-respect. They do it because they feel dependent on PMO because they think that it relaxes them and gives them courage and confidence (pleasure or crutch) and that life will never be enjoyable without “sex” - their version of it. If you try to force a PMOer to stop, he feels like a trapped animal and wants to be in his harem even more. This may turn him into a secret PMOer and in his mind the porn will become even more precious (see Chapter 26).</p> <p>Instead, concentrate on the other side of the coin. Get him into the company of ex-PMOers (there are many blogs, forums etc. YBOP, No-Fap etc.). Get them to tell the PMOer how they too thought they were hooked for life and how much better life is as a non-PMOer. Once you have got him believing that he can stop then his mind will start to open up. Then start explaining the delusion created by withdrawal pangs. Not only are the “dopamine rushes” not giving him a boost but they are destroying his confidence and making him irritable and tired.</p> <p>He should now be ready to read this book himself. He will be expecting to read pages and pages about unreliable arousal, fading penetrations, PIED, PE, etc. Explain that the approach is completely different and that references to illness are just a small fraction of the material in the book.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD <a class="anchor" href="#help-during-the-withdrawal-period"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>If you are dealing with a girlfriend or boyfriend - whether the ex-PMOer is suffering or not, assume that she/he is. Do not try to minimize his suffering by telling him it is easy to stop; he can do that himself. Instead keep telling him how proud you are, how much better he is looking, how much sweeter it is to be with him, how much easier he is in general. It is particularly important to keep doing this. When a PMOer makes an attempt to stop, the euphoria of the attempt and the attention he gets from friends and colleagues can help him along. However, they tend to forget quickly, so keep that praise going.</p> <p>Because he is not talking about PMOing, you may think he has forgotten about it and don&rsquo;t want to remind him. Usually the complete opposite is the case with the Willpower Method, as the ex-PMOer tends to be obsessed by nothing else. So do not be frightened to bring the subject up and keep praising him: he will tell you if he doesn&rsquo;t want you to remind him of PMOing.</p> <p>Go out of your way to relieve him of pressures during the withdrawal period. Try to think of ways of making his life interesting and enjoyable. This can also be a trying period for non-PMOers - that is those of you who have never had this addiction. If one member of a group is irritable, it can cause general misery all round. So anticipate this if the ex-PMOer is feeling irritable. He may well take it out on you but do not retaliate: it is at this time that he needs your praise and sympathy the most. If you are feeling irritable yourself, try not to show it.</p> <p>One of the tricks an addict will play when trying to give up with the aid of the Willpower Method was to get into a tantrum, hoping that wife or friends would say, “I cannot bear to see you suffering like this. For goodness sake, have your poison.” The PMOer then does not lose face, as he isn&rsquo;t “giving in” - he has been instructed. If the ex-PMOer uses this ploy, on no account encourage him to lapse. Instead say, “if that is what PMO does to you, thank goodness you will soon be free. How marvellous that you had the courage and sense to give up.”</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL <a class="anchor" href="#help-end-this-scandal"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>In my opinion, internet porn is one of the dangers in a free society, piggy backing on the good willed efforts of personal freedoms. Surely the very basis of civilization, the reason why the human species has advanced so far, is that we are capable of communicating our knowledge and experiences not only to each other but to future generations. Even the lower species find it necessary to warn their offspring of the pitfalls in life.</p> <p>The producers of porn are not doing this in good faith, in the genuine belief that they help mankind, especially now as the addiction to internet porn is widely studied. Maybe in its initial stages people genuinely believed that porn taught intimacy to men and women but today the authorities know that it is a fallacy. Just watch any tube sites nowadays. They make no claims about education. The only claims they make are about the shock, novelty, escalation quality of their clips.</p> <p>The sheer hypocrisy is incredible. As a society we get uptight about school bullying and objectification of human body. Compared with internet porn, these problems are mere pimples in our society. Thirty five per cent of the population have been addicted to porn and most of them spend quality time with imaginary and illusory pixel people at the expense of health, virility, energy and time. Tens of thousands of people have their lives ruined every year because they become hooked. Internet high speed porn is by far the biggest killer in relationships and yet the biggest vested interest is our for-profit companies. Internet porn producers don’t spend on advertising the filth in mainstream publications - they don’t have to. Our biological urges will lead us to the thresholds of their well stocked internet harems. They give free samples just like your local drug dealer. Heck the tube sites don’t even stock the wares any more as they encourage visitors to post the content.</p> @@ -1296,8 +1336,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <p>Why do we allow society to subject healthy young teenagers, youngsters whose lives are complete before they start to get online, to claim their independence just for the privilege of destroying themselves mentally and physically in a lifetime of slavery, a lifetime of filth and disease? You may feel that I over-dramatize the facts. Not so. There are cases where lives were cut down in his early years of marriage because of PMO. He was a strong man and might still have been alive today. I believe I was within an inch of PIED during my forties, although I would have attributed it to my divorce rather than to PMO. I now spend my life being consulted by people who have been crippled by the disease or are in the last stages. And, if you care to think about it, you probably know of many too.</p> <p>There is a wind of change in society. A snowball has started that I hope this book will help turn into an avalanche. You too can help by spreading the message.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING <a class="anchor" href="#final-warning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>You can now enjoy the rest of your life as a happy non-PMOer. In order to make sure that you do, you need to follow these simple instructions:</p> <ol> <li>Keep this page in your bookmarks and refer to it as much as you need.</li> @@ -1396,8 +1437,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <p>Find out which one it is. Some people understand and believe everything I say but still start off with a feeling of doom and gloom, as if something terrible were happening. You are doing not only what you&rsquo;d like to do but what every PMOer on the planet would like to do. With any method of stopping, what the ex PMOer is trying to achieve is a certain frame of mind, so that whenever he thinks about PMO he says to himself, “YIPPEE! I&rsquo;M FREE!” If that&rsquo;s your object, why wait? Start off in that frame of mind and never lose it. The rest of the book is designed to make you understand why there is no alternative.</p> </blockquote> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="the-check-list"><strong>THE CHECK LIST</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="the-check-list"><strong>THE CHECK LIST</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-check-list"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>If you follow these simple instructions, you cannot fail:</p> <ol> <li>Make a solemn vow that you will never, ever, go online to visit your harem OR settle down for static pictures OR make peace with erotic graphics OR anything that contains supra normal stimuli, and stick to your vow.</li> @@ -1511,14 +1553,16 @@ sites in my life again.”<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1& <p>I have been direct in my advice so far and would ask you to treat this advice as instruction rather than suggestion. I am explicit and direct, first because there are sound, practical reasons for my advice and second, because those reasons have been backed up by thousands of case studies. On the question of whether or not to try to avoid temptation during the withdrawal period, I regret that I cannot be direct. Each PMOer will need to decide for himself. I can, however, make what I hope will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all our lives and this fear consists of two distinct phases:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO?</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO? <a class="anchor" href="#phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>This fear is that panicky feeling the PMOer gets when they are alone in a single phase or have an asexual, uninterested or unavailable partner. The fear isn&rsquo;t caused by withdrawal pangs but is the psychological fear of dependency - you cannot survive without sex and orgasm. It actually reaches its height when you are on the verge of quitting (I won’t use giving up); at that time your withdrawal pangs are at their lowest. It is the fear of the unknown, the sort of fear that people have when they are learning to dive.</p> <p>The diving board is 1 foot high but seems to be 6 feet high. The water is 6 feet deep but appears to be 1 foot deep. It takes courage to launch yourself. You are convinced you are going to smash your head. The launching is the hardest part. If you can find the courage to do it, the rest is easy. This explains why many otherwise strong-willed PMOers either have never attempted to stop or can survive only a few days when they do. In fact, there are some PMOers on a porn diet who when they decide to stop, actually binge and escalate to harsher clips more quickly than if they had not decided to stop. The decision causes panic, which is stressful. This is one of the occasions when the brain triggers the instruction, “take a trip to your own personal harem.” But now you can&rsquo;t take one. You are being deprived - more stress.</p> <p>The trigger starts again quickly when the fuse blows and you fire up the browser. Don&rsquo;t worry. That panic is just psychological. It is the fear that you are dependent. The beautiful truth is that you are not, even when you are still addicted. Do not panic. Just trust me and launch yourself.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear <a class="anchor" href="#phase-2-longer-term-fear"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>The second phase of fear is longer-term. It involves the fear that certain situations in the future will not be enjoyable or that you will not be able to cope with a trauma without PMO. Don&rsquo;t worry. If you can launch yourself you will find the opposite to be the case. The avoidance of temptation itself falls into two main categories:</p> <ol> <li>“I will subscribe to a porn-diet of once in 4 days. I will feel more confident knowing that I can go online if it gets hard. It is OK if I fail I can just add up additional days to my next cycle.”</li> @@ -1621,8 +1665,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict <li>What&rsquo;s worse, it keeps the big monster alive in your mind. If you had the “last peek”, it will be easier to have the next one.</li> </ol> <p>Above all, remember:</p> -<h2 id="just-one-peek-is-how-people-get-into-pmo-addiction-in-the-first-place">“Just one peek” is how people get into PMO addiction in the first place.</h2> - +<h2 id="just-one-peek-is-how-people-get-into-pmo-addiction-in-the-first-place">“Just one peek” is how people get into PMO addiction in the first place. <a class="anchor" href="#just-one-peek-is-how-people-get-into-pmo-addiction-in-the-first-place"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2> @@ -1727,8 +1772,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict </ol> <p>Stop kidding yourself. If the job offer that I mentioned before, of 10 months work for 12 months salary a year won&rsquo;t stop him. Or if the risks of cutting down your brain’s capacity to cope with just any normal day-to-day stress and strains or if putting yourself at odds with having a reliable erection, or if the lifetime of mental and physical torture and slavery did not stop him or her - the above said few phoney incentives will not make the slightest bit of difference. They will only make the sacrifice appear worse. Instead concentrate on the other side:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"><strong>“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?”</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"><strong>“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?”</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>Keep looking at the other side of the tug of war. What is PMOing doing for me? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Why do I need to do it? YOU DON&rsquo;T! YOU ARE ONLY PUNISHING YOURSELF. Try looking at it from the Pascal’s Wager perspective. You have almost nothing to lose (a rub-out with half arousals) for sure, chances of big profits (a full and reliable arousal, mental well being and happiness) and no chance of losing big (unreliable full arousals, premature ejaculations, fading penetrations, loss of general impulse controls, lower tolerance for frustrations and anger).</p> <p>Why not declare your quitting to friends and family? Well, it will make you a proud ex-addict, ex-PMOer, not an elated and happy non-PMOer. It will scare your partner a bit since they may see this as an effort to have more sex, sort of a new-age thing. They may also fear to lose you if this turns you into sex machine. It is hard to explain to them unless they are open minded.</p> <p>Any attempt to get others to help you in your quitting gives more power to the little monster of addiction. Pushing it from your mind and totally ignoring it has the effect of trying NOT to think of it. As soon as you spot the thoughts, when you hit the cues (home alone) or just absent minded thoughts - just say to yourself: “Great, I don’t have to do it like a slave animal. I am free. I am happy to know the differences in sex.” This will cut the life of the thought and will deny oxygen to it and will stop it from burning towards urges and cravings.</p> @@ -1796,8 +1842,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <p>First of all, identify the times or occasions when PMO appears to be important to you. If you are a businessman and use it for the illusion of relief of stress, pick a relatively slack period; a good idea is to choose your annual holiday. If you PMO mainly during boring or relaxing periods, weekends etc. do the opposite. In any event, take the matter seriously and make the attempt the most important thing in your life.</p> <p>Look ahead for a period of about three weeks and try to anticipate any event that might lead to failure. Occasions like a conference trip, partner out of town etc. need not deter you, providing you anticipate them in advance and do not feel you will be deprived. Do not attempt to cut down in the meantime as this will only create the illusion that being denied is enjoyable. In fact, it helps to force yourself to watch and have as many PMO sessions as possible. While you are having the last session and that last time, be conscious of the disappointment due to satiation, unfulfilled expectations (porn can never satisfy you), any bodily pain or pain in the genitals, the withdrawal effects, the peevishness and the melancholy. Think how marvellous it will be when you allow yourself to stop doing it.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="whatever-you-do-dont-fall-into-the-trap-of-just-saying-not-now-later-and-putting-it-out-of-your-mind-work-out-your-timetable-now-and-look-forward-to-it">WHATEVER YOU DO, DON&rsquo;T FALL INTO THE TRAP OF JUST SAYING, “NOT NOW. LATER,” AND PUTTING IT OUT OF YOUR MIND. WORK OUT YOUR TIMETABLE NOW AND LOOK FORWARD TO IT.</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="whatever-you-do-dont-fall-into-the-trap-of-just-saying-not-now-later-and-putting-it-out-of-your-mind-work-out-your-timetable-now-and-look-forward-to-it">WHATEVER YOU DO, DON&rsquo;T FALL INTO THE TRAP OF JUST SAYING, “NOT NOW. LATER,” AND PUTTING IT OUT OF YOUR MIND. WORK OUT YOUR TIMETABLE NOW AND LOOK FORWARD TO IT. <a class="anchor" href="#whatever-you-do-dont-fall-into-the-trap-of-just-saying-not-now-later-and-putting-it-out-of-your-mind-work-out-your-timetable-now-and-look-forward-to-it"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>Remember you aren&rsquo;t giving anything up. On the contrary: you are about to receive marvellous positive gains.</p> <p>For years the medical profession viewed porn is harmless without knowing the difference between the tame static porn of yesteryear and the latest VR streaming porn. The problem is this; although every PMOer uses internet porn purely to relieve the brain chemical craving for dopamine, it is not the addiction to the brain chemical itself that hooks the PMOer but the self-brainwashing that results from that addiction. An intelligent person will fall for a confidence trick. But only a fool will go on falling for it once he realizes that it&rsquo;s a confidence trick. Fortunately, most PMOers aren&rsquo;t fools; they only think they are. Each individual PMOer has his own private brainwashing. That is why there appears to be such a wide range of different types of PMOer, which only serves to compound the mysteries.</p> <p>With the benefit of the original book that used this method to stop smoking, which dealt with nicotine addiction (one of the most quickest and addictive drug known to man) and bearing in mind that the personal logs that I collected from Reddit, NoFap and YBOP blogs and forums, I was agreeably surprised to realize that the philosophy propounded in the original book was still sound. The accumulated knowledge that was acquired by the original author Alan Carr and by myself the hack-author is how to communicate that knowledge to each individual PMOer. The fact that I know every PMOer can not only find it easy to stop but can actually enjoy the process is not only pointless but exceedingly frustrating unless I can make the PMOer realize it. The original author of the quit smoking book explains some controversial advice:</p> @@ -1835,8 +1882,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <p>The only reason why people continue to PMO after getting educated is because they have failed to stop or are too frightened to try. There are even talks about no porn, no masturbation and no orgasms - with or without partners. Karezza is discussed widely and people are trying it out. Many aforementioned failures are “fail forwards” and thus somewhat benefiting the people who practice them. Once you start in the no-PMO route you will find your best fit that applies to your life. I strongly encourage devising your own plan on orgasms after understanding and practising the separation of the amative and the propagative parts of sex. I am sure whichever route you take you will see the value of preserving the “seed” by limiting the number of times you flush your brain with chemicals by orgasming. You will then never see porn, sex and orgasms as a pleasure or as a crutch for your emotional ups and downs.</p> <p>I was reading a Reddit forum by non-PMOers dedicated to quitting not only porn but also masturbation. As I read along I thought. “This is good, I see so many have taken to quitting masturbation and I think that is the right way to quit PMO.” However, I found most of the notes pointing to them to try with the Willpower Method. There was a lot of self-pitying as well. Except a few&hellip; almost all were not feeling elated and not having the, “yippee I am free from slavery” attitude. Eventually someone broke down - as I unfortunately expected to happen. And the result was a domino effect. All those other PMOers had been sitting there thinking, “surely I can&rsquo;t be the only PMOer here.” However, they were “failing forward” albeit with a lot of self-torturing as they shut down their browsers but did not shut down the desire and the need. This method is the reverse as - we shut down the desire and the need first before shutting down the browser screen. As every day more and more PMOers leave the sinking ship, so those left on it become terrified they&rsquo;ll be the last.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="dont-let-it-be-you"><strong>DON&rsquo;T LET IT BE YOU!</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="dont-let-it-be-you"><strong>DON&rsquo;T LET IT BE YOU!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#dont-let-it-be-you"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> @@ -1854,8 +1902,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <p>Columbo has this frustrating practice of closing the door after finishing his interrogation, having assured the suspect that he is in the clear and before the satisfied look has disappeared from the murderer&rsquo;s face, Columbo reappears with: “just one small point, sir, which I&rsquo;m sure you can explain&hellip;” The suspect stammers and from that point on we know and he knows that Columbo will gradually wear him down. No matter how heinous the crime, from that point on my sympathies were with the murderer.</p> <p>It was almost as if I were the criminal and that&rsquo;s exactly how those bouts made me feel. The tension of not being allowed to cross the red line to get my porn fix that I “rightly deserve because I am hard working man and why shouldn’t I when every man does it?” entitlement, click, click, clicking on videos that come close to the right one. Longing for the porn tube videos. And then finishing the deed - just a limp rub out, wondering where the pleasure was. The fear of crossing the line losing control. The relief of returning to the bed, immediately followed by the fear that she would toss around and ask for sex. As the “safe” YouTube videos started not to do it for me - desensitization and lack of novelty and the certain knowledge that sooner or later I was bound to visit my favourite online harem. The final humiliation and shame when that certainty became a fact, followed by the immediate return to chain-PMOing.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="oh-the-joys-of-being-a-pmo-er"><strong>OH THE JOYS OF BEING A PMO-er!</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="oh-the-joys-of-being-a-pmo-er"><strong>OH THE JOYS OF BEING A PMO-er!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#oh-the-joys-of-being-a-pmo-er"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> @@ -1882,25 +1931,32 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p </ol> <p>I used to think of my ‘non-casual’ PMOing as a weakness. I couldn&rsquo;t understand why my friends could limit their “intake.” I knew I was a very strong-willed person. It never occurred to me that most PMOers are incapable of chain-PMOing - you need a very strong imagination and also extraordinarily strong penis stamina in order to do it. Some of these once-a-week PMOers that heavy PMOers tend to envy do it less frequently because physically their constitution cannot do more, or because they cannot afford to PMO more, or because their job, or society, or their own hatred of being hooked won&rsquo;t allow them to PMO more.</p> <p>It may be of advantage at this stage to provide a few definitions:</p> -<h3 id="the-non-pmoer">THE NON-PMOer</h3> -<p>Someone who has never fallen for the trap but should not be complacent. He is a non-PMOer only by luck or the grace of goodness. All PMOers were convinced that they would never become hooked and some non-PMOers keep trying an occasional session.</p> -<h3 id="the-casual-pmoer">THE CASUAL PMOer</h3> -<p>There are two basic classifications of casual PMOers:</p> +<h3 id="the-non-pmoer">THE NON-PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-non-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>Someone who has never fallen for the trap but should not be complacent. He is a non-PMOer only by luck or the grace of goodness. All PMOers were convinced that they would never become hooked and some non-PMOers keep trying an occasional session.</p> +<h3 id="the-casual-pmoer">THE CASUAL PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-casual-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>There are two basic classifications of casual PMOers:</p> <ol> <li>The PMOer who has fallen for the trap but doesn&rsquo;t realize it. Do not envy such PMOers. They are merely sampling the nectar at the mouth of the pitcher plant and in all probability will soon be heavy users. Remember, just as all alcoholics started off as casual drinkers, so all PMOers started off as casual PMOers.</li> <li>The PMOer who was previously a heavy PMOer and thinks he cannot stop. These PMOers are the saddest of all. They fall into various categories, each of which needs separate comment.</li> </ol> -<h3 id="the-oncea--day-pmoer">THE ONCE–A- DAY PMOer</h3> -<p>If he enjoys his entitlement to orgasm, why does he use internet porn to orgasm only once a day? If he can take it or leave it, why does he bother to PMO at all? Remember, the ‘habit’ is really banging your head against the brick wall only to make it relaxing when you stop. The once-a-day PMOer is relieving his withdrawal pangs for less than one hour each day. The rest of the day, although he doesn&rsquo;t realize it, he is banging his head against the wall and does so for most of his life. He is PMOing only once a day because either he cannot take the risk of getting caught or screwing up his brain health. It is easy to convince the heavy PMOer that he doesn&rsquo;t enjoy it but you try convincing a casual PMOer. Anybody who has gone through an attempt to cut down will know it is the worst torture of all and almost guaranteed to keep you hooked for the rest of your life.</p> -<h3 id="the-rejected-pmoer">THE REJECTED PMOer</h3> -<p>This PMOer demands the right to his/her orgasm(s) every day. And of course his sex partner is not always up to it. So he goes on the internet for porn initially. Once he takes “the ride” to fix “the void” he is trapped on this most exciting ‘water slide’ of novelty, shock, supranormal images etc. He is in fact dichotomously ‘happy’ with the partner’s rejection – it gives him something of an excuse. If internet porn is giving so much to you, why even bother to have a partner at all? Set him or her free. He is not even enjoying the PMO when he has to ‘carry’ his partner in his mind. At some point he is using his real life partner to hand him an excuse to go out into the valleys of the dark side of the internet.</p> -<h3 id="the-porn-diet-pmoer">THE PORN DIET PMOer</h3> -<p>(Or, “I can stop whenever I want to. I have done it thousands of times”). If he thinks dieting helps with his moods to ‘get out to get women,’ why is he even on the diet of once every four days? How can one predict the future, what if the happenstance of meeting occurred just an hour after your scheduled PMO session? Also, if he thinks this occasional “cleaning the plumbing” is good to relieve tension and relax why not plumb every day? It has been proven that masturbation is not required to keep the genitals healthy. Internet porn is not required at all. Even if that may be the case, any PUA guru who has read about the brain chemistry and its plasticity will never recommend watching super stimulus porn. The truth is he is still hooked. Although he gets rid of the physical addiction, he is left with the main problem - the brainwashing. He hopes each time that he will stop for good and soon falls for the same trap again.</p> +<h3 id="the-oncea--day-pmoer">THE ONCE–A- DAY PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-oncea--day-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>If he enjoys his entitlement to orgasm, why does he use internet porn to orgasm only once a day? If he can take it or leave it, why does he bother to PMO at all? Remember, the ‘habit’ is really banging your head against the brick wall only to make it relaxing when you stop. The once-a-day PMOer is relieving his withdrawal pangs for less than one hour each day. The rest of the day, although he doesn&rsquo;t realize it, he is banging his head against the wall and does so for most of his life. He is PMOing only once a day because either he cannot take the risk of getting caught or screwing up his brain health. It is easy to convince the heavy PMOer that he doesn&rsquo;t enjoy it but you try convincing a casual PMOer. Anybody who has gone through an attempt to cut down will know it is the worst torture of all and almost guaranteed to keep you hooked for the rest of your life.</p> +<h3 id="the-rejected-pmoer">THE REJECTED PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-rejected-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>This PMOer demands the right to his/her orgasm(s) every day. And of course his sex partner is not always up to it. So he goes on the internet for porn initially. Once he takes “the ride” to fix “the void” he is trapped on this most exciting ‘water slide’ of novelty, shock, supranormal images etc. He is in fact dichotomously ‘happy’ with the partner’s rejection – it gives him something of an excuse. If internet porn is giving so much to you, why even bother to have a partner at all? Set him or her free. He is not even enjoying the PMO when he has to ‘carry’ his partner in his mind. At some point he is using his real life partner to hand him an excuse to go out into the valleys of the dark side of the internet.</p> +<h3 id="the-porn-diet-pmoer">THE PORN DIET PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-porn-diet-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>(Or, “I can stop whenever I want to. I have done it thousands of times”). If he thinks dieting helps with his moods to ‘get out to get women,’ why is he even on the diet of once every four days? How can one predict the future, what if the happenstance of meeting occurred just an hour after your scheduled PMO session? Also, if he thinks this occasional “cleaning the plumbing” is good to relieve tension and relax why not plumb every day? It has been proven that masturbation is not required to keep the genitals healthy. Internet porn is not required at all. Even if that may be the case, any PUA guru who has read about the brain chemistry and its plasticity will never recommend watching super stimulus porn. The truth is he is still hooked. Although he gets rid of the physical addiction, he is left with the main problem - the brainwashing. He hopes each time that he will stop for good and soon falls for the same trap again.</p> <p>Many PMOers actually envy these stoppers and starters. They think, “how lucky to be able to control it like that, to do PMO when you want to and stop when you want to,” What they always overlook is that these stoppers and starters aren&rsquo;t controlling it. When they are PMOers, they wish they weren&rsquo;t. They go through the hassle of stopping, then begin to feel deprived and fall for the trap again, then wish they hadn&rsquo;t. They get the worst of both worlds. If you think about it, this is true in the lives of the PMOers. When we are allowed to PMO we either take it as entitled or wish we didn&rsquo;t. It&rsquo;s only when we can&rsquo;t have PMO that it appears to be so precious. The ‘forbidden fruit syndrome’. This is the awful dilemma of PMOers. They can never win because they are moping for a myth, an illusion. There is one way they can win and that is to stop PMOing and stop moping!</p> -<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC/TAME/HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer</h3> -<p>Yes, we all do it to start with but isn&rsquo;t it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner&rsquo;s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes&hellip; you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one.</p> -<h3 id="the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer">THE I-HAVE-STOPPED-BUT-I-HAVE-AN-OCCASIONAL-PEEK PMOer</h3> -<p>In a way such peeking PMOers are the most pathetic of all. Either they go through their lives believing they are being deprived or, more often, the occasional peek becomes two. They remain on the slippery slope and it goes only one way - DOWNWARDS. Sooner or later they are back to being heavy PMOers. They have fallen again for the very trap that they fell into in the first place.</p> +<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC/TAME/HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>Yes, we all do it to start with but isn&rsquo;t it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner&rsquo;s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes&hellip; you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one.</p> +<h3 id="the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer">THE I-HAVE-STOPPED-BUT-I-HAVE-AN-OCCASIONAL-PEEK PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>In a way such peeking PMOers are the most pathetic of all. Either they go through their lives believing they are being deprived or, more often, the occasional peek becomes two. They remain on the slippery slope and it goes only one way - DOWNWARDS. Sooner or later they are back to being heavy PMOers. They have fallen again for the very trap that they fell into in the first place.</p> <p>There are two other categories of casual PMOers. The first is the type who masturbates to images or clips of the latest celebrity sex tapes that hit the news. Or something they ‘carried home’ from their ‘accidental’ viewing at school or work. These people are really non-PMOers. It&rsquo;s just that they feel they are missing out. They want to be part of the action. We all start off like this. Next time watch how, after a while, the celebrity sex tape, the same star of your fantasy is not ‘doing it’ to you any more. The more ‘unattainable’ the target of your fantasy is, the more frustrating the withdrawal of the orgasm is.</p> <p>The second category is recently getting attention. The type can best be described by outlining a case shared online. A woman who is a professional, had been using internet porn stories for many years and had never PMOed more or less than one time every night. She was, incidentally, a very strong-willed lady. Most PMOers would wonder why she wanted to stop in the first place. They would gladly point out to her that there is no worries of PIED, or PE in her case as she is a women. She is using not even static images and the stories are far tamer than any they use on a daily basis.</p> <p>They make the mistake of assuming that casual PMOers are happier and more in control. In control they may be but happy they are not. In this case, she is not satisfied with her partner, not interested in real sex, highly irritable with her daily stress and strains. Her nearest-and-dearest could not find out what is bothering her. Even if she convinced herself not to be afraid of her use of internet porn by rationalizing, she still finds herself not being able to enjoy real relationships which almost invariably involve ups and downs. Her brain’s RC<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> is not able to make use of the normal de-stress brain chemicals as she is flooding dopamine into her brain on an everyday basis. The down regulation<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> of her brain receptors has rendered her melancholic most times. Like me, she had a great fear of internet porn’s dark side of the treatment of women- before her first time. Like me, she eventually fell victim to the massive social brainwash and tried that first porn site. Like me, she can remember the foul clips of violence staged as entertainment. Unlike me, who capitulated and became a chain-PMOer very quickly, she resisted the slide.</p> @@ -1913,8 +1969,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p </blockquote> <p>In addition to his other troubles, this poor man has no idea that he treating himself to a poison. First he is suffering the “forbidden fruit syndrome.” Next he is forcing his brain to flush dopamine. His dopamine receptors are not as cut down comparatively either. But he is sliding and greasing the porn slides, seeking and searching for edging, novelty, variety, shock-value, anxiety-value (“I must treat myself so that I can survive the next three days”) etc. You probably have visions of a pathetic imbecile. Not so. This man was over six feet tall and an ex-sergeant in the Marines. He was a former athlete and didn&rsquo;t want to become an addict to anything. However, when he returned from the war he was trained as a techie in a veterans rehab program. When he entered the civil work force he was a well paid IT professional in a bank and was given a laptop (one of the ways to ensure you take work home). It was the year that famous socialites ‘leaked’ their porn videos online. There was much talk about it. And he got hooked. He has spent the rest of his life paying through the nose and it has ruined him physically and mentally. If he were an animal, our society would have put him out of his misery, yet we still allow mentally and physically healthy young teenagers to become hooked. You may think the above case and my notes are exaggerated. It is extreme but not unique. There are literally thousands of similar stories. That man poured his heart out to me but you can be sure that many of his friends and acquaintances envied him for being a once-a-week man. If you think this couldn&rsquo;t happen to you, STOP KIDDING YOURSELF.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="it-is-already-happening"><strong>IT IS ALREADY HAPPENING.</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="it-is-already-happening"><strong>IT IS ALREADY HAPPENING.</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#it-is-already-happening"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>In any event, PMOers like other addicts are notorious liars, even to themselves. They have to be. Most casual PMOers indulge far more times and on far more occasions than they will admit to. I have had many conversations with so-called twice-a-week PMOers during which they have done it more than three times that week. If you read the Reddit or No-Fap forums of casual PMOers, they are either counting the days or waiting to fail. You do not need to envy casual PMOers. You do not need to PMO. Life is infinitely sweeter without PMO. One log says&hellip;</p> <blockquote> <p><em>“It started with a simple challenge to not touch my penis for a day. And being unable. I don&rsquo;t think about masturbation anymore. It doesn&rsquo;t cross my mind. That is possible, I promise you. And the riches that await those who are able - they&rsquo;re incredible.”</em></p> @@ -2015,8 +2072,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p </ol> <p>The other important point that cutting down demonstrates is that there is no such thing as the odd or occasional harem visit. Internet porn is a chain reaction that will last the rest of your life unless you make a positive effort to break it:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="remember-cutting-down-will-drag-you-down"><strong>REMEMBER: CUTTING DOWN WILL DRAG YOU DOWN.</strong></h3> -</div><div class="footnotes" role="doc-endnotes"> +<h3 id="remember-cutting-down-will-drag-you-down"><strong>REMEMBER: CUTTING DOWN WILL DRAG YOU DOWN.</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#remember-cutting-down-will-drag-you-down"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div><div class="footnotes" role="doc-endnotes"> <hr> <ol> <li id="fn:1"> @@ -2337,14 +2395,16 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on this planet. Whether you believe in a creator, a process of natural selection or a combination of both, whatever being or system devised these bodies of ours, it is a thousand times more effective than man! Man cannot create the smallest living cell, let alone the miracle of eyesight, reproduction, our circulatory system or our brains. We don’t have our systems upgraded yet to properly assess the supranormal stimulus such as rich high density food or high speed internet novelty porn with multiple active windows.</p> <p>If the creator or process had intended us to handle novelty triggering stimuli, we would have been provided with some other brain reward circuits. Our bodies are, in fact, provided with fail-safe warning devices and we ignore these at our peril. Excessive edging results in body pain, irritation, and inflammation. In women, excessive flooding of dopamine and stress enzymes such as prostaglandin-E2 can cause difficulty to orgasm and PME.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up"><strong>There Is Nothing To Give Up</strong></h2> -</div> +<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up"><strong>There Is Nothing To Give Up</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#there-is-nothing-to-give-up"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.</p> <p>The problem I have is to make a convincing point as I’d have done for, let us say&hellip; smokers? All of us have seen smokers who develop excuses to sneak off for a crafty puff. It is easy to see the true addiction in action. Addicts do not do it because they enjoy it. They do it because they are miserable without it.</p> <p>Because many of us started out our first sexual experience that ended in an orgasm and we acquired the belief that we cannot enjoy sex without an orgasm. And for men, porn is sold as an aid towards sex, sometimes even as an education to be confident during the act of sex. It used to be static, but now we have supranormal internet porn. But this is nonsense. Internet porn takes away your confidence.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="women-and-porn"><strong>Women And Porn</strong></h2> -</div> +<h2 id="women-and-porn"><strong>Women And Porn</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#women-and-porn"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn&rsquo;t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.</p> <p>Porn and internet porn does not help your sex life; it destroys it totally. Having to hide your internet footprints, trying to delete your history, fearing accidental exposure to your boyfriend or kids, body pains, doubtful symptoms, fighting self doubts, arguing with yourself about your responsibilities in the ill effects of your addiction&hellip; well, why do you want to put yourself in such a bad situation?</p> <p>Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous positive gains to be had. When PMOers contemplate quitting they tend to concentrate on health and virility. These are obviously valid and important issues but I personally believe the greatest gains from stopping are psychological:</p> @@ -2355,8 +2415,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> </ol> <p>Not only is life better as a non-PMOer but it is infinitely more enjoyable. I do not only mean you will be healthier. I mean you will be happier and enjoy life far more. The marvellous gains from being a non-PMOer are discussed in the next few chapters. Some PMOers find it difficult to appreciate the concept of the &lsquo;void&rsquo; and the following analogy may assist you.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"><strong>Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void!</strong></h2> -</div> +<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"><strong>Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I&rsquo;ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can&rsquo;t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.</p> <p>By now you are completely dependent on the ointment. You never go out without ensuring that you have a tube of the ointment with you. If you go abroad, you make sure that you take several tubes with you. Now, in addition to your worries about your health, I&rsquo;m charging you $100 per tube. You have no choice but to pay.</p> <p>You then read in the medical column of your newspaper that this isn&rsquo;t happening just to you; many other people have been suffering from the same problem. In fact, pharmacists have discovered that the ointment doesn&rsquo;t actually cure the sore. All that it does is to take the sore beneath the surface of the skin. It is the ointment that has caused the sore to grow. All you have to do to get rid of the sore is to stop using the ointment. The sore will eventually disappear in due course.</p> @@ -2494,15 +2555,17 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>We can have an ‘information overload’ from the same internet but our reward circuits are not going to squirt dopamine at the levels when ‘porn overload’ is involved. We are evolutionarily programmed to seek and access sex related stuff. And we wrongly appraise the stimulus mostly based on this reward circuit action. If all you wanted is to masturbate why can’t you just use one clip and get the business done?</p> <p>Here is another question - next time after a long day or some stressful incident can you consciously embellish your self-talk with “Do you know what I would really enjoy today? The marvellous warm glow of dopamine rush going to my online harem.” You will find that even people who dislike PMO will join you.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="past-misguided-advice"><strong>Past Misguided Advice</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="past-misguided-advice"><strong>Past Misguided Advice</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#past-misguided-advice"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.</p> <p>From our earliest years our subconscious minds are bombarded daily with information telling us that sex is good and that the most precious thing on this earth is to ‘achieve’ orgasm. Girls are taught to achieve it and claim it&rsquo;s because they were wrongly suppressed of their sexual side for a very long time and still are. You think I exaggerate? Watch any TV or movie plot and you will see the mix-up of the amative (touch, smell, voice etc.) and the propagative (orgasmic) sides of sex. The impact of this does not register on our conscious minds but the sleeping partner, the subconscious mind, has time to absorb it. What the message is really saying is, “The most precious thing on this earth, my last thought and action, will be the goal of orgasm.” If you don’t have an orgasm then you are an old man with zero libido.</p> <p>Our children are being bombarded by sex and porn clips and many don’t even know how to protect them from it all. Large hoardings and magazine adverts are loaded with sexual innuendo. Some of the pop videos are extremely suggestive - again they hide behind free speech. Don’t be vexed and feel powerless about it. Make it a game and find you which of the components they are using - is it novelty, shock value, color, size, taboo etc. If the kids are pre-teen some of these can be disclosed to them and it would make an excellent show-and-tell game.</p> <p>A while back there was a wave of ‘leaked’ private videos of celebrities on the internet. If the youngster is too smitten by their favourite star, even if the conscious mind blames the ‘leak’ on the blood thirsty internet paparazzi, the &lsquo;sleeping partner&rsquo; is patiently digesting the notion that, “yes, even my shambolic hero does it and if I don’t, I won’t look the part.”</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-scientific-reasoning"><strong>The Scientific Reasoning</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-scientific-reasoning"><strong>The Scientific Reasoning</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-scientific-reasoning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>, Reboot<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> forums, underground PUA<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup>, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn&rsquo;t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.</p> <p>Ironically, the most powerful force in this melee of confusion is the PMOer himself. It is a fallacy that they are weak-willed or are physically weak specimens. You have to be physically strong in order to cope with an addiction after you know it is. This is one of the reasons why PMOers refuse to accept the overwhelming statistics that prove that internet porn with its ‘novelty’ cripples your brain. Add to that the sexologists who are doing half-baked studies and declare PMO is not an issue - they just help to add to the confusion.</p> <p>Everyone knows a friend who PMOed every day - he started with the ‘static’ to internet porn, always horny in real life, chasing girls and you never doubted him to have sex problems of course. You want to believe him. He never complained about any ED right? Guys and girls like them refuse even to consider the hundreds of ex-addicts and non-PMOers who painfully recount their difficulties. It is the “little monster” brain chemical addiction and the “big monster” - illusions and delusions. In this hackbook, I&rsquo;ve put together almost all the sorts of brainwashing a PMOer can suffer from. There will always be a few out there that I haven&rsquo;t touched upon.</p> @@ -2510,8 +2573,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>If you do a small survey among your online forum members, friends and colleagues, you will find that most PMOers are, in fact, strong-willed people. They tend to be self-employed, business executives or in certain specialized professions, such as doctors<sup id="fnref:4"><a href="#fn:4" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">4</a></sup>, lawyers, policemen, teachers, salesmen, nurses, secretaries, housewives with children, etc. In other words, anybody leading a stressful existence. Yes, I did include women and mothers. It’s the brain and it’s the same for them too. The main delusion of the PMOer is that porn helps to masturbate to orgasm and that relieves stress. This tends to be associated with the dominant type, the type that takes on responsibility and stress and, of course, that is the type that we admire and therefore tend to copy. Another group that tends to get hooked are people in monotonous jobs because the other main reason for PMOing is boredom. However, the idea that internet porn relieves boredom is also an illusion, I am afraid.</p> <p>As a society we get all uptight about glue-sniffing, heroin addiction, etc. Actual deaths from glue-sniffing do not amount to ten per annum, and deaths from heroin are less than a hundred a year in this country. There is another drug, internet porn, on which over 45 per cent of us become hooked at some time in our lives and the majority spend the rest of their lives regretting it. Some even don’t know that their ED is due to this.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-willpower-method"><strong>The Willpower Method</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-willpower-method"><strong>The Willpower Method</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why?</p> <p>Constant exposure to internet porn re-wires your brain. You need to start building resistance to this brainwashing, just as if you were buying a car from a second-hand car dealer. You would be nodding politely but you would not believe a word the man was saying. So don’t believe everything they say either - that you must have sex as much as you can and you must have it exceptional good. And that in the absence of real sex you claim it by the substitute called internet porn - which is only a component of the good old porn.</p> <p>And don’t play ‘safe’ porn game either - because your “little porn monster” invented that scheme to lure you. Even the content - ‘amateur’? Really? Is there a certification authority that certifies it? Tube sites and porn producers gather site visitor profiles and cater to their needs. If they see a trend in crowd sourced collection of a particular genre they will focus on that and get content out ASAP. The statistics of what genre users like is collected to the level of how long and which portion the users were preferring. Do not be fooled by their educational intent or the safe female oriented clips (for you ladies). Start asking yourself:</p> @@ -2523,22 +2587,25 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>I find this brainwashing aspect the most difficult of all to explain. Why is it that an otherwise rational, intelligent human being becomes a complete imbecile about his own addiction? It pains me to confess that out of the thousands of people that I have assisted in kicking the habit, I (not Allen Carr) was the biggest idiot of all.</p> <p>At the age of thirteen, although I was doing well at school and games, I was still an insufferable introvert. I read books from the library that were not within my main study list. However, I can see that I was attracted to erotica. I started masturbating to TV programs, song and dance sequences etc. I must have to have it every day. The tired feeling I felt was misappropriated by my ‘little porn monster’ as work stress. I didn’t know my “I-must-masturbate-as-I-am-entitled” attitude was the one that created the ‘stress’ in the first place. Then I got pictures and GIFs via email on my laptop - the first step towards electronic porn. The colour and texture of the images were amazing for me at that time - won’t be now for sure. Then came dial-up but still they were predominantly static pictures. Then came downloadable videos. It’s a pain to download and watch now - but it was heaven sent then as we were coming out of the static porn era! Oh, the streaming tube sites haven’t arrived yet.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"><strong>When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"><strong>When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn.</p> <p>At the age of forty, I was visiting my online harem daily, drinking ‘socially’ (whatever that means) and smoking ‘sometimes’ but not so often. I had wrongly subscribed to misguided ideas of ‘moderation’ and ‘entitlement’. I had reached the stage where I couldn&rsquo;t get through a single day without reaching out to porn in the night. With most PMOers, the triggers are the normal stresses of life, like answering the telephone or socializing.</p> <p>When I experienced PIED - I knew it was killing my virility. There was no way I could kid myself otherwise. I am smart enough not to ‘project’ the porn fantasies on to real life. But it was like pacifying a dog straining at its leash. But why I couldn&rsquo;t see what it was doing to me mentally, I could not understand. It was almost jumping up and biting me on the nose. The ridiculous thing is that most PMOers suffer the delusion at some time in their life that they enjoy internet porn because it is ‘normal’ and ‘healthy’. I never suffered that delusion, I PMOed because I thought enjoying sex is a ‘birthright’ and I am only doing a normal thing.</p> <p>Since it was easier at most times for me to get internet porn than a partner I thought I am doing the normal thing. Now I am a non-PMOer, the most difficult part is trying to believe that those days actually happened. It&rsquo;s like awakening from a nightmare and that is about the size of it. Internet porn is a supranormal drug. It is weakening your de-stressing mechanisms, your virility and your energy. The worst aspect of PMO isn&rsquo;t the injury to your health or manliness, it is the warping of the mind. You search for any plausible excuse to go on.</p> <p>I remember at one stage switching to static images, a failed attempt to cut down on internet porn, in the belief that it was less harmful and I could reign in my ‘habit’. I failed to see the ‘novelty’ and the ‘shock’ demands from my ‘little monster’ to just get more dopamine. Did I ‘stay’ within my boundaries? I ‘favorited’ 2 dimensional photos and my harem collection saw pictures and videos of ‘mild’ type porn rotating in and out like musical chair. When their ‘music’ stopped they ‘exited’. I didn’t understand the novelty-seeking, shock-seeking nature of my brain.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pied-and-my-excuses"><strong>PIED And My Excuses</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="pied-and-my-excuses"><strong>PIED And My Excuses</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pied-and-my-excuses"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.</p> <p>Most PMOers swear that they only watch static and soft porn and so they are OK. They are actually straining at the leash and thus fighting with their willpower to resist temptations. If they do this too often and for too long they will debit their willpower considerably and fail in other life projects where willpower is of much great value, like in daily exercise, dieting etc. Continuous failure in those areas will make them feel miserable and guilty and very soon they will find themselves back to their entitled relief. If not, they will vent their anger and depression onto their loved ones.</p> <p>The answer is that once you have become addicted to internet porn, the brainwashing is increased. Your subconscious mind knows that the little monster has to be fed and you block everything else from your mind. As I have already stated, it is fear that keeps people quitting, the fear of that empty, insecure feeling that you get when you stop supplying the brain with dopamine flooding. Just because you are not aware of it doesn&rsquo;t mean it isn&rsquo;t there. You don&rsquo;t have to understand it any more than a cat needs to understand where the under-floor hot-water pipes are. It just knows that if it sits in a certain place it gets the feeling of warmth.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind"><strong>The Passivity Of Our Mind</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind"><strong>The Passivity Of Our Mind</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-passivity-of-our-mind"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I&rsquo;ve frequently referred to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo; PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo;, but to stopping, quitting or the true position: <strong>ESCAPING!</strong></p> <p>The only thing that persuades us to PMO in the first place is all the other people doing it. We feel we are missing out. We work so hard to become hooked, yet nobody ever finds out what they have been missing. But every time we see another new video clip it reassures us that there must be something in it, otherwise people wouldn&rsquo;t be doing it - and it wouldn&rsquo;t be such big business all over the world. Even when he has kicked the habit, the ex-PMOer feels he is being deprived when a discussion on a sexy entertainer, singer or even a porn star comes up at a party or other social function. She or he must be good to have all my friends talk about them, no? Do they have ‘hot’ pictures of her in my tube site? He feels safe. He can have just one ‘peek’ that night. And, before he knows it, he is hooked again.</p> <p>This brainwashing is extremely powerful and you need to be aware of its effects. I have heard scare stories about wicked men giving heroin mixed candies to kids at schoolyards. The concept of addiction and being compelled to go on taking the drug, filled me with horror. Even to this day, in spite of the fact that I am fairly convinced that &lsquo;pot&rsquo; is not addictive, I would not dare take one puff of marijuana. How ironic that I should have ended up a porn junky. Technology will continue to grow and we will have even faster tube sites and more faster access methods. The industry is investing millions in Virtual Reality so it will become the next best thing. The point is, do we know where we are going? Are we equipped with an under armour of defence so we can enjoy the benefits of technology yet at the same time protect ourselves from its bad effects?</p> @@ -2586,8 +2653,9 @@ action more happy feelings.</p> <p>So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. All of which will now be stored as a script in your brain for easy access next time. I call this a ‘water slide’. Next time at the cue - a sexy commercial or alone time or stress or feeling a little down - you are ready to take a ride on the ‘water slide’. One more thing is that every time to repeat this you are ‘greasing’ it as well - so it is active, alive and more easier to slide the next time.</p> <p>As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating. Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish, ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you won’t on your first time.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="my-own-online-harem"><strong>My Own Online Harem!</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="my-own-online-harem"><strong>My Own Online Harem!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#my-own-online-harem"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost.</p> <p>Going back to the earlier discussion - in this cycle as you crossed the ‘red line’ you also trigger emotions such as guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety and fear - which in turn raise dopamine levels as well. Now the brain may mistakenly associate feelings of anxiety and fear as sexual arousal. This perpetual cycle is only broken by natural causes - fortunately sooner or later. With its free access and privacy it provides boundless harem-like novelty. The dopamine can be theoretically kept very high for a very very long time. I can be satisfied with one lobster once in awhile. But Internet porn is different. It is even worse than drugs. Don’t let me make you nervous. I will shortly show you how to be free from this slavery.</p> <p>Now our human body has a self-correcting system by which the number of dopamine and opioid receptors are cut short when frequent and daily ‘flooding’ of dopamine is detected. Unfortunately - these receptors are also needed for receiving dopamine and to keep us even and balanced to handle the inevitable and normal day-to-day stresses. But this natural nominal amount of dopamine will not be absorbed efficiently with decreased receptors and you will feel mores tressed and irritated than normal.</p> @@ -2601,14 +2669,16 @@ action more happy feelings.</p> use?</p> <p>This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I will explain more about this later.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-little-monster"><strong>The Little Monster</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-little-monster"><strong>The Little Monster</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-little-monster"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&rsquo; we think we just &lsquo;got into the habit&rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.</p> <p>Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, resulting in the feeling of fulfilment and pleasure that the action gives to the PMOer. In the early days, when we first start PMOing, the withdrawal pangs and their relief are so slight that we are not even aware that they exist. When we begin to masturbate regularly to internet porn we think it is because we&rsquo;ve either come to enjoy them or got into the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. The truth is we&rsquo;re already hooked; we do not realize it, but that little monster is already inside our stomach and every now and again we have to feed it.</p> <p>All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster. The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had before he became hooked in the first place.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm"><strong>The Annoying Burglar Alarm</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm"><strong>The Annoying Burglar Alarm</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-annoying-burglar-alarm"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain goes on. It is a chain for life - <strong>UNLESS YOU BREAK IT</strong>.</p> <p>The whole business of PMO is like wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure you feel when you take them off. There are three main reasons why PMOers cannot see things that way:</p> @@ -2621,8 +2691,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <p>The heroin doesn&rsquo;t relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a 14 year old in 2008 - didn&rsquo;t suffer the empty feeling of needing internet porn or start to panic when they are off- line. Non-PMOers cannot understand how PMOers can possibly obtain pleasure from two dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. And do you know something? PMOers themselves cannot understand why they do it after some time either.</p> <p>We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don&rsquo;t non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their &rsquo;little monster&rsquo;?</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch"><strong>A Pleasure or Crutch?</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch"><strong>A Pleasure or Crutch?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#a-pleasure-or-crutch"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;I need to eat.&rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.</p> <p>PMOing appears to be almost identical. The empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;wanting or needing an PMO orgasm’ is identical to a hunger for food, although one will not satisfy the other. Like hunger, there is no physical pain and the feeling is so imperceptible that we are not even aware of it between PMO sessions. It&rsquo;s only if we want to masturbate and aren&rsquo;t able to reach internet for porn that we become aware of any discomfort. But when we do PMO we feel satisfied.</p> <p>It is this similarity to eating which helps to fool PMOers into believing that they receive some genuine pleasure. Some PMOers find it very difficult to grasp that there is no pleasure or crutch, whatsoever to PMO. Some argue: “How can you say there is no crutch? When I orgasm up then I&rsquo;llfeel less nervous than before.”</p> @@ -2633,13 +2704,15 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <li>Eating doesn&rsquo;t create hunger and genuinely relieves it, whereas the first PMO starts the craving for dopamine and each subsequent one, far from relieving it, ensures that you suffer it for the rest of life.</li> </ol> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pmo-is-a-habit"><strong>PMO is a Habit?</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="pmo-is-a-habit"><strong>PMO is a Habit?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pmo-is-a-habit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.</p> <p>On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience, I also refer to the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> - we have to then have more bizarre and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting&hellip; not in the killing. If we don&rsquo;t then panic sets in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great!</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="crossing-the-red-line"><strong>Crossing The Red Line</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="crossing-the-red-line"><strong>Crossing The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#crossing-the-red-line"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.</p> <p>You feel better than you did before starting this PMO session but you are in fact more nervous and less relaxed than you would be as a non-PMOer, like someone who is living in Loma Linda or in an Amish village, even though you are actually PMOing and living in your supposed “porn paradise.” This position is even more ridiculous than wearing tight shoes because as you go through life an increasing amount of the discomfort remains even when the shoes are removed.</p> <p>Once the orgasm is achieved, the dopamine rapidly begins to leave the brain, causing a mood dip. Which explains why the PMOer wants to ‘edge’<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> and switch through multiple browser windows as they seek and search. As I said, the ‘habit’ doesn&rsquo;t exist. The real reason why every user goes on using internet porn is because of that little porn monster inside his stomach. Every now and again he has to feed it. The PMOer himself will decide when he does that and it tends to be on four types of occasion or a combination of them.</p> @@ -2651,20 +2724,23 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <p>What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If you think about it, what other types of occasion are there in our lives; apart from sleep? The truth is that PMO neither relieves boredom and stress nor promotes concentration and relaxation. It is all just illusion. Apart from being a drug, PMO is also a destroyer of happiness and virility.</p> <p>In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes, print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’ and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive without knowing the difference between food and poison.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"><strong>Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"><strong>Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!</p> <p>When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were titillating but most were disgusting, causing you to avert your eyes away. Like you would if had accidentally glanced a feeding mother’s breast. And some of us are even revolted with what they saw when the star reminded them of someone dear to their heart or a scene which recalled their own instance of being the victim. Some don’t feel like it to browse and masturbate at the same time. It may be hard to believe for you but the non-PMOs, who don’t PMO after their first time, are the lucky ones. They actually decided that it was not their cup of tea. It must be hard for you to believe but stay with me.</p> <p>How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even after a hard day? Why not? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That&rsquo;s all.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak"><strong>Are PMOers Mentally Weak?</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak"><strong>Are PMOers Mentally Weak?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#are-pmoers-mentally-weak"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.</p> <p>To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to become hooked, and this is why it is difficult to stop teenagers. Because they are skilled in seeking and finding material, they know online privacy options and can clean their tracks - if they still feel some stigma and they (wrongfully) believe they can stop whenever they want to. Why do they not learn from us? Then again, why did we not learn from our PMOers and addicts?</p> <p>Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of ‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying is the ritual of relieving those pangs.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"><strong>The High From The Dance Around The Red Line</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"><strong>The High From The Dance Around The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.</p> <p>Ask a user who believes that he sticks to a certain actor or genre - only because he likes something about the star or the theme (if any) of the clip: “If you cannot get your normal brand of porn and can only obtain a poor or unsafe brand, do you stop masturbating?” No way. A PMOer will masturbate to anything rather than abstain and it doesn&rsquo;t matter if he has to switch to escalating themes, different sex-orientation-themes, look-alike actresses, dangerous settings shocking relationships etc. To begin with they taste awful but if you persevere you will learn to like them. Most PMOers will also try to seek masturbation even after having real sex (unfulfilment, porn-induced unrealistic expectations etc.), or after a long, stressful work day, fever, colds, flu, sore throats and even when admitted in hospitals.</p> <p>Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wanted then it makes no sense to be with your laptop. During my conversation some PMOers find it alarming to realize they are drug addicts and think it will make it even more difficult to stop. In fact, it is all good news for two important reasons:</p> @@ -2674,14 +2750,16 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to </ol> <p>You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc. The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn&rsquo;t bother the PMOers.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-smokers-analogy"><strong>The Smokers Analogy</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-smokers-analogy"><strong>The Smokers Analogy</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-smokers-analogy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they&rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn&rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.</p> <p>PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their parents while visiting for family get togethers etc. with little discomfort to themselves. In fact, most PMOers have extended periods during which they abstain without effort. Even in my case I would quite happily go a week or so without a PMO incident. In the later years as a PMOer I actually used to look forward to these days when I could stop choking my penis (what a ridiculous &lsquo;habit&rsquo;).</p> <p>The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"><strong>The Big Monster - The Brainwashing</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"><strong>The Big Monster - The Brainwashing</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.</p> <p>Not all the amateurs are ‘amateurs’ on these tube sites, oversized body parts and overcharged scenarios are the norm, aided by a bit of the ‘viagran’ help.</p> <p>As I say, the actual porn addiction is not the main problem. It just acts as a catalyst to keep our minds confused over the real problem: the brainwashing. It may be of consolation to lifelong and heavy PMOers to know that it is just as easy for them to stop as casual PMOers. In a peculiar way. it is easier. The further you go along with the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;, the more it drags you down and the greater the gain when you stop.</p> @@ -2911,8 +2989,9 @@ Do not take anything for granted. Question not only what I tell you but also you https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/02-01-introduction/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo">&lsquo;I&rsquo;M GOING TO CURE THE WORLD OF PMO&rsquo;</h2> -</div> +<h2 id="im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo">&lsquo;I&rsquo;M GOING TO CURE THE WORLD OF PMO&rsquo; <a class="anchor" href="#im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>I was talking to my mentor. He thought that I had flipped. Understandable if you consider that he had watched me fail on numerous attempts to quit. The most recent had been two years previously. I&rsquo;d actually survived six months of sheer purgatory before I finally succumbed and found myself clicking on stacked up tabs of porn sites. I&rsquo;m not ashamed to admit that I cried like a baby. I was crying because I knew that I was condemned to be an addict for life. I&rsquo;d put so much effort into that attempt and suffered so much misery that I knew I would never have the strength to go through that ordeal again. I&rsquo;m not a violent man, but if some patronizing non-PMO’er had been stupid enough at that moment to suggest to me that all users can find it easy to quit, immediately and permanently, I would not have been responsible for my actions. However, I&rsquo;m convinced that any jury in the world, comprised of PMOers only, would have pardoned me on the grounds of justifiable homicide.</p> <p>Perhaps you too find it impossible to believe that any PMOer can find it easy to quit. If so, I beg you not to cast this book into the rubbish bin. Please trust me. I assure you that you can find it easy to quit.</p> @@ -3049,21 +3128,30 @@ porn and or masturbation&#160;<a href="#fnref:2" class="footn https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/00-00-hackbookeasypeasy/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h1 id="a-hrefhackbookhackbookpdfclick-to-download-hackbookeasypeasy-original-pdfa"><a href="https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook/hackbook.pdf">Click to download HackBookEasyPeasy (original pdf)</a></h1> -<h3 id="easypeasyway">EasyPeasyWay</h3> -<h4 id="httpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhomehttpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhome"><a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a></h4> -<p><em>HackBookEasyPeasy EasyPeasyWay <a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a> I am Allen Carr. I am also not Allen Carr. So yes I am not the author. I am the hack-author.</em></p> +<h1 id="a-hrefhackbookhackbookpdfclick-to-download-hackbookeasypeasy-original-pdfa"><a href="https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook/hackbook.pdf">Click to download HackBookEasyPeasy (original pdf)</a> <a class="anchor" href="#a-hrefhackbookhackbookpdfclick-to-download-hackbookeasypeasy-original-pdfa"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><h3 id="easypeasyway">EasyPeasyWay <a class="anchor" href="#easypeasyway"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><h4 id="httpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhomehttpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhome"><a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a> <a class="anchor" href="#httpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhomehttpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhome"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><p><em>HackBookEasyPeasy EasyPeasyWay <a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a> I am Allen Carr. I am also not Allen Carr. So yes I am not the author. I am the hack-author.</em></p> <p><em>I hacked Allen Carr’s book and his method of de-addiction to adapt it for PMO. Why? Because his method helped me in getting rid of cigarettes, alcohol and then PMO. Why did I hack his work? Because he is dead now. And the institution that he had formed does not list Internet pornography as one of the addictions that it provides services for. I don&rsquo;t gain monetarily or otherwise. Above all - you won’t ‘find’ me in this book. Myself and Allen will appear and disappear in this book to provide you with an unique and effective method to get your mind de-addicted.</em></p> -<h4 id="important-advice-for-you"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong></h4> -<p><em>The common thread running through Allen Carr&rsquo;s work is the removal of fear. Indeed, his genius lies in eliminating the phobias and anxieties which prevent people from being able to enjoy life to the full, as his best-selling books vividly demonstrate. His method is solid and has high success rates. It helped cure me of not one but three addictions. There is a network of clinics that uses his methods that span the globe and has a phenomenal reputation for success in helping people to quit addictions (except PMO). Their success rate is over 95% with money-back guarantees.</em></p> +<h4 id="important-advice-for-you"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#important-advice-for-you"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#do-not-jump-chapters"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><p><em>The common thread running through Allen Carr&rsquo;s work is the removal of fear. Indeed, his genius lies in eliminating the phobias and anxieties which prevent people from being able to enjoy life to the full, as his best-selling books vividly demonstrate. His method is solid and has high success rates. It helped cure me of not one but three addictions. There is a network of clinics that uses his methods that span the globe and has a phenomenal reputation for success in helping people to quit addictions (except PMO). Their success rate is over 95% with money-back guarantees.</em></p> <p><em>Hackbook : A book based and hacked from another book. The original author is credited fully.</em></p> -<h4 id="important-advice-for-you-1"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters-1"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence-1"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong></h4> -<p><em>Dr. Albert Ellis&rsquo; autobiography - &ldquo;All Out!&rdquo;</em></p> +<h4 id="important-advice-for-you-1"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#important-advice-for-you-1"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters-1"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#do-not-jump-chapters-1"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence-1"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence-1"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><p><em>Dr. Albert Ellis&rsquo; autobiography - &ldquo;All Out!&rdquo;</em></p> <p><em>“I used to wrongly think that most of them (addicts) were aided by self-help groups like AA, by therapy, or some other real support. But no. The facts show that more people surrender their addictions on their own-without any notable help from others. How? Mainly by seeing, acknowledging, and emphasizing how hard it is not to stop and how much easier it is-in the long run- to suffer through the withdrawal process.”</em></p> </div> @@ -3075,8 +3163,9 @@ formed does not list Internet pornography as one of the addictions that it provi Sat, 17 Dec 2022 22:33:25 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/pluralization-issues/ - <h3 id="this-is-my-first-entry-and-im-already-having-issues-lol">this is my first entry and i&rsquo;m already having issues lol</h3> -<p>So I wanted to make a quick entry, see how it looks like and I stumbled upon this issue of hugo pluralzing Blog into Blogs</p> + <h3 id="this-is-my-first-entry-and-im-already-having-issues-lol">this is my first entry and i&rsquo;m already having issues lol <a class="anchor" href="#this-is-my-first-entry-and-im-already-having-issues-lol"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>So I wanted to make a quick entry, see how it looks like and I stumbled upon this issue of hugo pluralzing Blog into Blogs</p> <p>You can fix this in config.toml with the following line</p> <blockquote> <div class="highlight"><pre tabindex="0" style="color:#f8f8f2;background-color:#272822;-moz-tab-size:4;-o-tab-size:4;tab-size:4;"><code class="language-toml" data-lang="toml"><span style="display:flex;"><span><span style="color:#a6e22e">pluralizelisttitles</span> = <span style="color:#66d9ef">false</span> @@ -3090,11 +3179,13 @@ formed does not list Internet pornography as one of the addictions that it provi Sat, 17 Dec 2022 17:20:18 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/helloworld/ - <h1 id="obligatory-hello-world">Obligatory Hello World!</h1> -<p>trying to see which hugo theme i like best</p> + <h1 id="obligatory-hello-world">Obligatory Hello World! <a class="anchor" href="#obligatory-hello-world"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><p>trying to see which hugo theme i like best</p> <p>had some issues with papermod and their css not working so for now i&rsquo;ll use lugo</p> -<h2 id="stuff-i-like">stuff i like</h2> -<ul> +<h2 id="stuff-i-like">stuff i like <a class="anchor" href="#stuff-i-like"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ul> <li>touching grass and nature in general (wannabe farmer)</li> <li>にっぽんese <ul> diff --git a/new-site/public/blog/meta-description-in-hugo/index.html b/new-site/public/blog/meta-description-in-hugo/index.html index 1097ba27..d6c76a62 100644 --- a/new-site/public/blog/meta-description-in-hugo/index.html +++ b/new-site/public/blog/meta-description-in-hugo/index.html @@ -17,10 +17,12 @@

Meta Description in Hugo

-

Adding meta description in Hugo

-

I assume you are using Luke Smith’s theme - Lugo, if you are not, you’d have to find these files yourself (e.g. search using vscode).

-

Setting a global meta description

-
    +

    Adding meta description in Hugo + # +

    I assume you are using Luke Smith’s theme - Lugo, if you are not, you’d have to find these files yourself (e.g. search using vscode).

    +

    Setting a global meta description + # +

    1. Locate your config.toml or config.yaml file
    2. Add the following line inside it
    @@ -31,15 +33,17 @@ 
    params:
   description: The global meta description of your website

    It won’t work just yet because you have to update the baseof.html file.

    -

    Updating the baseof.html file

    -
      +

      Updating the baseof.html file + # +

      1. Locate baseof.html
      2. Add or change the meta description line with the following
      <meta name="description" content="{{ if .Page.Params.description }}{{ .Page.Params.description }}{{ else if .Summary}}{{ .Summary }}{{else}}{{ .Site.Params.description}}{{ end }}"/>

      And now if you start your Hugo server locally with hugo serve --noHTTPCache and you right click on your page -> View Page Source -> Search for the meta description tag. It should match what you left in the config file.

      -

      Replacing the global description with a custom one

      -
        +

        Replacing the global description with a custom one + # +

        1. Have a markdown file ready
        2. In the preamble, add
        diff --git a/new-site/public/blog/multiple-index-pages-in-hugo/index.html b/new-site/public/blog/multiple-index-pages-in-hugo/index.html index 3e203e89..0862baf9 100644 --- a/new-site/public/blog/multiple-index-pages-in-hugo/index.html +++ b/new-site/public/blog/multiple-index-pages-in-hugo/index.html @@ -1,28 +1,29 @@ - - - - Multiple Index Pages in Hugo | vodoraslo - - - - - + + Multiple Index Pages in Hugo | vodoraslo + + + + + - - - - - - -
        -

        Multiple Index Pages in Hugo

        -
        - -
        -

        This is how to create multiple index pages in Hugo

        -
        +layouts |----**_default** |-------**hackbook** |-----------**order-by-oldest."/> + + + + + + +
        +

        Multiple Index Pages in Hugo

        +
        + +
        +

        This is how to create multiple index pages in Hugo + # +

        I wanted to order Hackbook in reverse (i.e. oldest to newest) so that it’s easier for the reader to start at the correct page.

        I ran into the following problem - the default list.html does them from newest to oldest.

        So I found this forum post and I created a file in the _default directory as follows:

        @@ -34,8 +35,8 @@ layouts |----**_default** |-------**hackbook** |-----------**order-by-oldest."/> |-------index.html |-------list.html |-------single.html - -
        Picture of the directory
        + +
        Picture of the directory

        I named my file order by oldest because I plan on reusing it in other places. This is what’s contained inside it:

        {{ define "title" -}}
@@ -55,18 +56,21 @@ layouts |----**_default** |-------**hackbook** |-----------**order-by-oldest."/>
 {{- end }}
 </ul>
 {{- end }}
-

        if you want to display the date on the left of the titles, you have to add datesinlist=true in your config.toml or datesinlist: true in your config.yaml

        -
        You probably don’t need enableGitInfo = true as that will crash your website, I have no idea what it does, you don’t need it.
        -
        -

        Using your custom _index.html

        -
        +

        if you want to display the date on the left of the titles, you have to add datesinlist=true in your config.toml or datesinlist: true in your config.yaml + # +

        You probably don’t need enableGitInfo = true as that will crash your website, I have no idea what it does, you don’t need it. + # +
        +

        Using your custom _index.html + # +

        After creating your custom _index.html you’d use it as follows:

        1. Create an _index.md file in your desired directory
        2. Add layout: "hackbook/order-by-oldest" to your preamble (if you named your folder and or file something else, you have to change it here)
        - -
        Picture of the layout in the preamble
        + +
        Picture of the layout in the preamble

        And now you should have a custom _index.html for your pages! :)

        Here is a verbose copy paste of the original hugo forum answer in case it gets deleted:

        @@ -123,22 +127,22 @@ layouts/index.html config.toml (see https://gohugo.io/variables/git/#lastmod) enableGitInfo = true - - - -
        - Tags: [Blog] -
        -

        -
        -
        - - - - - + + + +
        + Tags: [Blog] +
        +

        +
        +
        + + + + + diff --git a/new-site/public/blog/pluralization-issues/index.html b/new-site/public/blog/pluralization-issues/index.html index ad5530cd..c66ce444 100644 --- a/new-site/public/blog/pluralization-issues/index.html +++ b/new-site/public/blog/pluralization-issues/index.html @@ -1,46 +1,47 @@ - - - - Pluralization Issues (Blogs Instead of Blog) | vodoraslo - - - - - + + Pluralization Issues (Blogs Instead of Blog) | vodoraslo + + + + + - - - - - - -
        -

        Pluralization issues (Blogs instead of Blog)

        -
        - -

        this is my first entry and i’m already having issues lol

        -

        So I wanted to make a quick entry, see how it looks like and I stumbled upon this issue of hugo pluralzing Blog into Blogs

        +pluralizelisttitles = false "/> + + + + + + +
        +

        Pluralization issues (Blogs instead of Blog)

        +
        + +

        this is my first entry and i’m already having issues lol + # +

        So I wanted to make a quick entry, see how it looks like and I stumbled upon this issue of hugo pluralzing Blog into Blogs

        You can fix this in config.toml with the following line

        pluralizelisttitles = false
        - - - -
        - Tags: [Blog] -
        -

        -
        -
        - - - - - + + + +
        + Tags: [Blog] +
        +

        +
        +
        + + + + + diff --git a/new-site/public/blog/recover-lost-anki-streak/index.html b/new-site/public/blog/recover-lost-anki-streak/index.html index 089a799e..1f9daace 100644 --- a/new-site/public/blog/recover-lost-anki-streak/index.html +++ b/new-site/public/blog/recover-lost-anki-streak/index.html @@ -1,27 +1,28 @@ - - - - Recover Lost Anki Streak | vodoraslo - - - - - + + Recover Lost Anki Streak | vodoraslo + + + + + - - - - - - -
        -

        Recover Lost Anki Streak

        -
        - -

        How to recover a lost anki streak

        -

        Word for word copy paste of what fixed my issue. Original post

        +Check what was the date when you broke your streak, aka the date of that day when you had 0 reviews Turn Anki off Disable “Set time automatically” in Windows (assuming you’re using Windows) Manually set the date to that date when you missed a review Turn the Internet connection off (or just unplug your cable) Turn Anki on, do at least 1 review, turn Anki off again Enable “Set time automatically”, turn the Internet connection on Turn Anki on and you’ll see that it counts as if you really did a review on that day "/> + + + + + + +
        +

        Recover Lost Anki Streak

        +
        + +

        How to recover a lost anki streak + # +

        Word for word copy paste of what fixed my issue. Original post

        btw i had to create a seperate Custom Study for cards i had forgotten, i set it to 1 day, did one review and followed from step 7

        Happened to me as well, idk why. But there is a way to cheat streaks:

          @@ -34,22 +35,22 @@ Check what was the date when you broke your streak, aka the date of that day whe
        1. Enable “Set time automatically”, turn the Internet connection on
        2. Turn Anki on and you’ll see that it counts as if you really did a review on that day
        - - - -
        - Tags: [Blog] -
        -

        -
        -
        - - - - - + + + +
        + Tags: [Blog] +
        +

        +
        +
        + + + + + diff --git a/new-site/public/categories/index.xml b/new-site/public/categories/index.xml index dbba8b1a..0ae903b9 100644 --- a/new-site/public/categories/index.xml +++ b/new-site/public/categories/index.xml @@ -15,8 +15,9 @@ Thu, 23 Mar 2023 18:06:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/ted-kaczynski/industrial-society-and-its-future/ - <h2 id="introduction">Introduction</h2> -<ol> + <h2 id="introduction">Introduction <a class="anchor" href="#introduction"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li> <p>The Industrial Revolution and its consequences have been a disaster for the human race. They have greatly increased the life expectancy of those of us who live in “advanced” countries, but they have destabilized society, have made life unfulfilling, have subjected human beings to indignities, have led to widespread psychological suffering (in the Third World to physical suffering as well) and have inflicted severe damage on the natural world. The continued development of technology will worsen the situation. It will certainly subject human beings to greater indignities and inflict greater damage on the natural world, it will probably lead to greater social disruption and psychological suffering, and it may lead to increased physical suffering even in “advanced” countries.</p> </li> @@ -33,8 +34,9 @@ <p>In this article we give attention to only some of the negative developments that have grown out of the industrial-technological system. Other such developments we mention only briefly or ignore altogether. This does not mean that we regard these other developments as unimportant. For practical reasons we have to confine our discussion to areas that have received insufficient public attention or in which we have something new to say. For example, since there are well-developed environmental and wilderness movements, we have written very little about environmental degradation or the destruction of wild nature, even though we consider these to be highly important.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-psychology-of-modern-leftism">The Psychology of Modern Leftism</h2> -<ol start="6"> +<h2 id="the-psychology-of-modern-leftism">The Psychology of Modern Leftism <a class="anchor" href="#the-psychology-of-modern-leftism"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="6"> <li> <p>Almost everyone will agree that we live in a deeply troubled society. One of the most widespread manifestations of the craziness of our world is leftism, so a discussion of the psychology of leftism can serve as an introduction to the discussion of the problems of modern society in general.</p> </li> @@ -48,8 +50,9 @@ <p>The two psychological tendencies that underlie modern leftism we call feelings of inferiority and oversocialization. Feelings of inferiority are characteristic of modern leftism as a whole, while oversocialization is characteristic only of a certain segment of modern leftism; but this segment is highly influential.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="feelings-of-inferiority">Feelings of Inferiority</h2> -<ol start="10"> +<h2 id="feelings-of-inferiority">Feelings of Inferiority <a class="anchor" href="#feelings-of-inferiority"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="10"> <li> <p>By “feelings of inferiority” we mean not only inferiority feelings in the strict sense but a whole spectrum of related traits: low self-esteem, feelings of powerlessness, depressive tendencies, defeatism, guilt, self-hatred, etc. We argue that modern leftists tend to have some such feelings (possibly more or less repressed), and that these feelings are decisive in determining the direction of modern leftism.</p> </li> @@ -93,8 +96,9 @@ <p>We emphasize that the foregoing does not pretend to be an accurate description of everyone who might be considered a leftist. It is only a rough indication of a general tendency of leftism.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="oversocialization">Oversocialization</h2> -<ol start="24"> +<h2 id="oversocialization">Oversocialization <a class="anchor" href="#oversocialization"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="24"> <li> <p>Psychologists use the term “socialization” to designate the process by which children are trained to think and act as society demands. A person is said to be well socialized if he believes in and obeys the moral code of his society and fits in well as a functioning part of that society. It may seem senseless to say that many leftists are oversocialized, since the leftist is perceived as a rebel. Nevertheless, the position can be defended. Many leftists are not such rebels as they seem.</p> </li> @@ -123,8 +127,9 @@ <p>The problems of the leftist are indicative of the problems of our society as a whole. Low self-esteem, depressive tendencies and defeatism are not restricted to the left. Though they are especially noticeable in the left, they are widespread in our society. And today’s society tries to socialize us to a greater extent than any previous society. We are even told by experts how to eat, how to exercise, how to make love, how to raise our kids and so forth.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-power-process">The Power Process</h2> -<ol start="33"> +<h2 id="the-power-process">The Power Process <a class="anchor" href="#the-power-process"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="33"> <li> <p>Human beings have a need (probably based in biology) for something that we will call the power process. This is closely related to the need for power (which is widely recognized) but is not quite the same thing. The power process has four elements. The three most clear-cut of these we call goal, effort and attainment of goal. (Everyone needs to have goals whose attainment requires effort, and needs to succeed in attaining at least some of his goals.) The fourth element is more difficult to define and may not be necessary for everyone. We call it autonomy and will discuss it later (paragraphs 42–44).</p> </li> @@ -141,8 +146,9 @@ <p>Thus, in order to avoid serious psychological problems, a human being needs goals whose attainment requires effort, and he must have a reasonable rate of success in attaining his goals.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="surrogate-activities">Surrogate Activities</h2> -<ol start="38"> +<h2 id="surrogate-activities">Surrogate Activities <a class="anchor" href="#surrogate-activities"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="38"> <li> <p>But not every leisured aristocrat becomes bored and demoralized. For example, the emperor Hirohito, instead of sinking into decadent hedonism, devoted himself to marine biology, a field in which he became distinguished. When people do not have to exert themselves to satisfy their physical needs they often set up artificial goals for themselves. In many cases they then pursue these goals with the same energy and emotional involvement that they otherwise would have put into the search for physical necessities. Thus the aristocrats of the Roman Empire had their literary pretensions; many European aristocrats a few centuries ago invested tremendous time and energy in hunting, though they certainly didn’t need the meat; other aristocracies have competed for status through elaborate displays of wealth; and a few aristocrats, like Hirohito, have turned to science.</p> </li> @@ -156,8 +162,9 @@ <p>For many if not most people, surrogate activities are less satistying than the pursuit of real goals (that is, goals that people would want to attain even if their need for the power process were already fulfilled). One indication of this is the fact that, in many or most cases, people who are deeply involved in surrogate activities are never satisfied, never at rest. Thus the money-maker constantly strives for more and more wealth. The scientist no sooner solves one problem than he moves on to the next. The long-distance runner drives himself to run always farther and faster. Many people who pursue surrogate activities will say that they get far more fulfillment from these activities than they do from the “mundane” business of satisfying their biological needs, but that is because in our society the effort required to satisfy the biological needs has been reduced to triviality. More importantly, in our society people do not satisty their biological needs AUTONOMOUSLY but by functioning as parts of an immense social machine. In contrast, people generally have a great deal of autonomy in pursuing their surrogate activities.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="autonomy">Autonomy</h2> -<ol start="42"> +<h2 id="autonomy">Autonomy <a class="anchor" href="#autonomy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="42"> <li> <p>Autonomy as a part of the power process may not be necessary for every individual. But most people need a greater or lesser degree of autonomy in working toward their goals. Their efforts must be undertaken on their own initiative and must be under their own direction and control. Yet most people do not have to exert this initiative, direction and control as single individuals. It is usually enough to act as a member of a SMALL group. Thus if half a dozen people discuss a goal among themselves and make a successful joint effort to attain that goal, their need for the power process will be served. But if they work under rigid orders handed down from above that leave them no room for autonomous decision and initiative, then their need for the power process will not be served. The same is true when decisions are made on a collective basis if the group making the collective decision is so large that the role of each individual is insignificant.<sup id="fnref:5"><a href="#fn:5" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">5</a></sup></p> </li> @@ -168,8 +175,9 @@ <p>But for most people it is through the power process—having a goal, making an AUTONOMOUS effort and attaining the goal—that self-esteem, self-confidence and a sense of power are acquired. When one does not have adequate opportunity to go through the power process the consequences are (depending on the individual and on the way the power process is disrupted) boredom, demoralization, low self-esteem, inferiority feelings, defeatism, depression, anxiety, guilt, frustration, hostility, spouse or child abuse, insatiable hedonism, abnormal sexual behavior, sleep disorders, eating disorders, etc.<sup id="fnref:6"><a href="#fn:6" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">6</a></sup></p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="sources-of-social-problems">Sources of Social Problems</h2> -<ol start="45"> +<h2 id="sources-of-social-problems">Sources of Social Problems <a class="anchor" href="#sources-of-social-problems"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="45"> <li> <p>Any of the foregoing symptoms can occur in any society, but in modern industrial society they are present on a massive scale. We aren’t the first to mention that the world today seems to be going crazy. This sort of thing is not normal for human societies. There is good reason to believe that primitive man suffered from less stress and frustration and was better satisfied with his way of life than modern man is. It is true that not all was sweetness and light in primitive societies. Abuse of women was common among the Australian aborigines, transsexuality was fairly common among some of the American Indian tribes. But it does appear that GENERALLY SPEAKING the kinds of problems that we have listed in the preceding paragraph were far less common among primitive peoples than they are in modern society.</p> </li> @@ -213,8 +221,9 @@ <p>It would be possible to give other examples of societies in which there has been rapid change and/or lack of close community ties without the kind of massive behavioral aberration that is seen in today’s industrial society. We contend that the most important cause of social and psychological problems in modern society is the fact that people have insufficient opportunity to go through the power process in a normal way. We don’t mean to say that modern society is the only one in which the power process has been disrupted. Probably most if not all civilized societies have interfered with the power process to a greater or lesser extent. But in modern industrial society the problem has become particularly acute. Leftism, at least in its recent (mid- to late-20th century) form, is in part a symptom of deprivation with respect to the power process.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="disruption-of-the-power-process-in-modern-society">Disruption of the Power Process in Modern Society</h2> -<ol start="59"> +<h2 id="disruption-of-the-power-process-in-modern-society">Disruption of the Power Process in Modern Society <a class="anchor" href="#disruption-of-the-power-process-in-modern-society"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="59"> <li> <p>We divide human drives into three groups: (1) those drives that can be satisfied with minimal effort; (2) those that can be satisfied but only at the cost of serious effort; (3) those that cannot be adequately satisfied no matter how much effort one makes. The power process is the process of satistying the drives of the second group. The more drives there are in the third group, the more there is frustration, anger, eventually defeatism, depression, etc.</p> </li> @@ -270,8 +279,9 @@ <p>In response to the arguments of this section someone will say, “Society must find a way to give people the opportunity to go through the power process.” This won’t work for those who need autonomy in the power process. For such people the value of the opportunity is destroyed by the very fact that society gives it to them. What they need is to find or make their own opportunities. As long as the system GIVES them their opportunities it still has them on a leash. To attain autonomy they must get off that leash.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="how-some-people-adjust">How Some People Adjust</h2> -<ol start="77"> +<h2 id="how-some-people-adjust">How Some People Adjust <a class="anchor" href="#how-some-people-adjust"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="77"> <li> <p>Not everyone in industrial-technological society suffers from psychological problems. Some people even profess to be quite satisfied with society as it is. We now discuss some of the reasons why people differ so greatly in their response to modern society.</p> </li> @@ -303,8 +313,9 @@ <p>But even if most people in industrial-technological society were well satisfied, we (FC) would still be opposed to that form of society, because (among other reasons) we consider it demeaning to fulfill one’s need for the power process through surrogate activities or through identification with an organization, rather than through pursuit of real goals.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-motives-of-scientists">The Motives of Scientists</h2> -<ol start="87"> +<h2 id="the-motives-of-scientists">The Motives of Scientists <a class="anchor" href="#the-motives-of-scientists"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="87"> <li> <p>Science and technology provide the most important examples of surrogate activities. Some scientists claim that they are motivated by “curiosity” or by a desire to “benefit humanity.” But it is easy to see that neither of these can be the principal motive of most scientists. As for “curiosity,” that notion is simply absurd. Most scientists work on highly specialized problems that are not the object of any normal curiosity. For example, is an astronomer, a mathematician or an entomologist curious about the properties of isopropyltrimethylmethane? Of course not. Only a chemist is curious about such a thing, and he is curious about it only because chemistry is his surrogate activity. Is the chemist curious about the appropriate classification of a new species of beetle? No. That question is of interest only to the entomologist, and he is interested in it only because entomology is his surrogate activity. If the chemist and the entomologist had to exert themselves seriously to obtain the physical necessities, and if that effort exercised their abilities in an interesting way but in some nonscientific pursuit, then they wouldn’t give a damn about isopropyltrimethylmethane or the classification of beetles. Suppose that lack of funds for postgraduate education had led the chemist to become an insurance broker instead of a chemist. In that case he would have been very interested in insurance matters but would have cared nothing about isopropyltrimcthylmethane. In any case it is not normal to put into the satisfaction of mere curiosity the amount of time and effort that scientists put into their work. The “curiosity” explanation for the scientists’ motive just doesn’t stand up.</p> </li> @@ -324,8 +335,9 @@ <p>Thus science marches on blindly, without regard to the real welfare of the human race or to any other standard, obedient only to the psychological needs of the scientists and of the government officials and corporation executives who provide the funds for research.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-nature-of-freedom">The Nature of Freedom</h2> -<ol start="93"> +<h2 id="the-nature-of-freedom">The Nature of Freedom <a class="anchor" href="#the-nature-of-freedom"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="93"> <li> <p>We are going to argue that industrial-technological society cannot be reformed in such a way as to prevent it from progressively narrowing the sphere of human freedom. But because “freedom” is a word that can be interpreted in many ways, we must first make clear what kind of freedom we are concerned with.</p> </li> @@ -345,8 +357,9 @@ <p>One more point to be made in this section: It should not be assumed that a person has enough freedom just because he SAYS he has enough. Freedom is restricted in part by psychological controls of which people are unconscious, and moreover many people’s ideas of what constitutes freedom are governed more by social convention than by their real needs. For example, it’s likely that many leftists of the oversocialized type would say that most people, including themselves, are socialized too little rather than too much, yet the oversocialized leftist pays a heavy psychological price for his high level of socialization.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="some-principles-of-history">Some Principles of History</h2> -<ol start="99"> +<h2 id="some-principles-of-history">Some Principles of History <a class="anchor" href="#some-principles-of-history"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="99"> <li> <p>Think of history as being the sum of two components: an erratic component that consists of unpredictable events that follow no discernible pattern, and a regular component that consists of long-term historical trends. Here we are concerned with the long-term trends.</p> </li> @@ -384,8 +397,9 @@ <p>Still, one has to use common sense in applying the principles. They are expressed in imprecise language that allows latitude for interpretation, and exceptions to them can be found. So we present these principles not as inviolable laws but as rules of thumb, or guides to thinking, that may provide a partial antidote to naive ideas about the future of society. The principles should be borne constantly in mind, and whenever one reaches a conclusion that conflicts with them one should carefully reexamine one’s thinking and retain the conclusion only if one has good, solid reasons for doing so.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="industrial-technological-society-cannot-be-reformed">Industrial-Technological Society Cannot Be Reformed</h2> -<ol start="111"> +<h2 id="industrial-technological-society-cannot-be-reformed">Industrial-Technological Society Cannot Be Reformed <a class="anchor" href="#industrial-technological-society-cannot-be-reformed"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="111"> <li> <p>The foregoing principles help to show how hopelessly difficult it would be to reform the industrial system in such a way as to prevent it from progressively narrowing our sphere of freedom. There has been a consistent tendency, going back at least to the Industrial Revolution, for technology to strengthen the system at a high cost in individual freedom and local autonomy. Hence any change designed to protect freedom from technology would be contrary to a fundamental trend in the development of our society. Consequently, such a change either would be a transitory one—soon swamped by the tide of history—or, if large enough to be permanent, would alter the nature of our whole society. This by the first and second principles. Moreover, since society would be altered in a way that could not be predicted in advance (third principle) there would be great risk. Changes large enough to make a lasting difference in favor of freedom would not be initiated because it would be realized that they would gravely disrupt the system. So any attempts at reform would be too timid to be effective. Even if changes large enough to make a lasting difference were initiated, they would be retracted when their disruptive effects became apparent. Thus, permanent changes in favor of freedom could be brought about only by persons prepared to accept radical, dangerous and unpredictable alteration of the entire system. In other words by revolutionaries, not reformers.</p> </li> @@ -396,8 +410,9 @@ <p>So even on very general grounds it seems highly improbable that any way of changing society could be found that would reconcile freedom with modern technology. In the next few sections we will give more specific reasons for concluding that freedom and technological progress are incompatible.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="restriction-of-freedom-is-unavoidable-in-industrial-society">Restriction of Freedom is Unavoidable in Industrial Society</h2> -<ol start="114"> +<h2 id="restriction-of-freedom-is-unavoidable-in-industrial-society">Restriction of Freedom is Unavoidable in Industrial Society <a class="anchor" href="#restriction-of-freedom-is-unavoidable-in-industrial-society"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="114"> <li> <p>As explained in paragraphs 65–67, 70–73, modern man is strapped down by a network of rules and regulations, and his fate depends on the actions of persons remote from him whose decisions he cannot influence. This is not accidental or a result of the arbitrariness of arrogant bureaucrats. It is necessary and inevitable in any technologically advanced society. The system HAS TO regulate human behavior closely in order to function. At work, people have to do what they are told to do, when they are told to do it and in the way they are told to do it, otherwise production would be thrown into chaos. Bureaucracies HAVE TO be run according to rigid rules. To allow any substantial personal discretion to lower-level bureaucrats would disrupt the system and lead to charges of unfairness due to differences in the way individual bureaucrats exercised their discretion. It is true that some restrictions on our freedom could be eliminated. but GENERALLY SPEAKING the regulation of our lives by large organizations is necessary for the functioning of industrial-technological society. The result is a sense of powerlessness on the part of the average person. It may be. however. that formal regulations will tend increasingly to be replaced by psychological tools that make us want to do what the system requires of us. (Propaganda,<sup id="fnref1:14"><a href="#fn:14" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">14</a></sup> educational techniques, “mental health” programs, etc.)</p> </li> @@ -420,8 +435,9 @@ <p>Efforts to make room for a sense of purpose and for autonomy within the system are no better than a joke. For example, one company, instead of having each of its employees assemble only one section of a catalogue, had each assemble a whole catalogue, and this was supposed to give them a sense of purpose and achievement. Some companies have tried to give their employees more autonomy in their work, but for practical reasons this usually can be done only to a very limited extent, and in any case employees are never given autonomy as to ultimate goals—their “autonomous” efforts can never be directed toward goals that they select personally, but only toward their employer’s goals, such as the survival and growth of the company. Any company would soon go out of business if it permitted its employees to act otherwise. Similarly, in any enterprise within a socialist system, workers must direct their efforts toward the goals of the enterprise, otherwise the enterprise will not serve its purpose as part of the system. Once again, for purely technical reasons it is not possible for most individuals or small groups to have much autonomy in industrial society. Even the small-business owner commonly has only limited autonomy. Apart from the necessity of government regulation, he is restricted by the fact that he must fit into the economic system and conform to its requirements. For instance, when someone develops a new technology, the small-business person often has to use that technology whether he wants to or not, in order to remain competitive.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-bad-parts-of-technology-cannot-be-separated-from-the-good-parts">The “Bad” Parts of Technology Cannot Be Separated from the “Good” Parts</h2> -<ol start="121"> +<h2 id="the-bad-parts-of-technology-cannot-be-separated-from-the-good-parts">The “Bad” Parts of Technology Cannot Be Separated from the “Good” Parts <a class="anchor" href="#the-bad-parts-of-technology-cannot-be-separated-from-the-good-parts"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="121"> <li> <p>A further reason why industrial society cannot be reformed in favor of freedom is that modern technology is a unified system in which all parts are dependent on one another. You can’t get rid of the “bad” parts of technology and retain only the “good” parts. Take modern medicine, for example. Progress in medical science depends on progress in chemistry, physics, biology, computer science and other fields. Advanced medical treatments require expensive, high-tech equipment that can be made available only by a technologically progressive, economically rich society. Clearly you can’t have much progress in medicine without the whole technological system and everything that goes with it.</p> </li> @@ -435,8 +451,9 @@ <p>The usual response to such concerns is to talk about “medical ethics.” But a code of ethics would not serve to protect freedom in the face of medical progress; it would only make matters worse. A code of ethics applicable to genetic engineering would be in effect a means of regulating the genetic constitution of human beings. Somebody (probably the upper middle class, mostly) would decide that such and such applications of genetic engineering were “ethical” and others were not, so that in effect they would be imposing their own values on the genetic constitution of the population at large. Even if a code of ethics were chosen on a completely democratic basis, the majority would be imposing their own values on any minorities who might have a different idea of what constituted an “ethical” use of genetic engineering. The only code of ethics that would truly protect freedom would be one that prohibited ANY genetic engineering of human beings, and you can be sure that no such code will ever be applied in a technological society. No code that reduced genetic engineering to a minor role could stand up for long, because the temptation presented by the immense power of biotechnology would be irresistible, especially since to the majority of people many of its applications will seem obviously and unequivocally good (eliminating physical and mental diseases, giving people the abilities they need to get along in today’s world). Inevitably, genetic engineering will be used extensively, but only in ways consistent with the needs of the industrial-technological system.<sup id="fnref:20"><a href="#fn:20" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">20</a></sup></p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="technology-is-a-more-powerful-social-force-than-the-aspiration-for-freedom">Technology is a More Powerful Social Force than the Aspiration for Freedom</h2> -<ol start="125"> +<h2 id="technology-is-a-more-powerful-social-force-than-the-aspiration-for-freedom">Technology is a More Powerful Social Force than the Aspiration for Freedom <a class="anchor" href="#technology-is-a-more-powerful-social-force-than-the-aspiration-for-freedom"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="125"> <li> <p>It is not possible to make a LASTING compromise between technology and freedom, because technology is by far the more powerful social force and continually encroaches on freedom through REPEATED compromises. Imagine the case of two neighbors, each of whom at the outset owns the same amount of land, but one of whom is more powerful than the other. The powerful one demands a piece of the other’s land. The weak one refuses. The powerful one says, “Okay, let’s compromise. Give me half of what I asked.” The weak one has little choice but to give in. Some time later the powerful neighbor demands another piece of land, again there is a compromise, and so forth. By forcing a long series of compromises on the weaker man, the powerful one eventually gets all of his land. So it goes in the conflict between technology and freedom.</p> </li> @@ -471,8 +488,9 @@ <p>In paragraph 125 we used an analogy of a weak neighbor who is left destitute by a strong neighbor who takes all his land by forcing on him a series of compromises. But suppose now that the strong neighbor gets sick, so that he is unable to defend himself. The weak neighbor can force the strong one to give him his land back, or he can kill him. If he lets the strong man survive and only forces him to give the land back, he is a fool, because when the strong man gets well he will again take all the land for himself. The only sensible alternative for the weaker man is to kill the strong one while he has the chance. In the same way, while the industrial system is sick we must destroy it. If we compromise with it and let it recover from its sickness, it will eventually wipe out all of our freedom.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="simpler-social-problems-have-proved-intractable">Simpler Social Problems Have Proved Intractable</h2> -<ol start="136"> +<h2 id="simpler-social-problems-have-proved-intractable">Simpler Social Problems Have Proved Intractable <a class="anchor" href="#simpler-social-problems-have-proved-intractable"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="136"> <li> <p>If anyone still imagines that it would be possible to reform the system in such a way as to protect freedom from technology, let him consider how clumsily and for the most part unsuccessfully our society has dealt with other social problems that are far more simple and straightforward. Among other things, the system has failed to stop environmental degradation, political corruption, drug trafficking or domestic abuse.</p> </li> @@ -486,8 +504,9 @@ <p>And note this important difference: It is conceivable that our environmental problems (for example) may some day be settled through a rational, comprehensive plan, but if this happens it will be only because it is in the long-term interest of the system to solve these problems. But it is NOT in the interest of the system to preserve freedom or small-group autonomy. On the contrary, it is in the interest of the system to bring human behavior under control to the greatest possible extent.<sup id="fnref:24"><a href="#fn:24" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">24</a></sup> Thus, while practical considerations may eventually force the system to take a rational, prudent approach to environmental problems, equally practical considerations will force the system to regulate human behavior ever more closely (preferably by indirect means that will disguise the encroachment on freedom). This isn’t just our opinion. Eminent social scientists (e.g., James Q. Wilson) have stressed the importance of “socializing” people more effectively.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="revolution-is-easier-than-reform">Revolution is Easier than Reform</h2> -<ol start="140"> +<h2 id="revolution-is-easier-than-reform">Revolution is Easier than Reform <a class="anchor" href="#revolution-is-easier-than-reform"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="140"> <li> <p>We hope we have convinced the reader that the system cannot be reformed in such a way as to reconcile freedom with technology. The only way out is to dispense with the industrial-technological system altogether. This implies revolution, not necessarily an armed uprising, but certainly a radical and fundamental change in the nature of society.</p> </li> @@ -498,8 +517,9 @@ <p>Reform is always restrained by the fear of painful consequences if changes go too far. But once a revolutionary fever has taken hold of a society, people are willing to undergo unlimited hardships for the sake of their revolution. This was clearly shown in the French and Russian Revolutions. It may be that in such cases only a minoriry of the population is really committed to the revolution, but this minority is sufficiently large and active so that it becomes the dominant force in society. We will have more to say about revolution in paragraphs 180–205).</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="control-of-human-behavior">Control of Human Behavior</h2> -<ol start="143"> +<h2 id="control-of-human-behavior">Control of Human Behavior <a class="anchor" href="#control-of-human-behavior"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="143"> <li> <p>Since the beginning of civilization, organized societies have had to put pressures on human beings for the sake of the functioning of the social organism. The kinds of pressures vary greatly from one society to another. Some of the pressures are physical (poor diet, excessive labor, environmental pollution), some are psychological (noise, crowding, forcing human behavior into the mold that society requires). In the past, human nature has been approximately constant, or at any rate has varied only within certain bounds. Consequently, societies have been able to push people only up to certain limits. When the limit of human endurance has been passed, things start going wrong: rebellion, or crime, or corruption, or evasion of work, or depression and other mental problems, or an elevated death rate, or a declining birth rate or something else, so that either the society breaks down, or its functioning becomes too inefficient and it is (quickly or gradually, through conquest, attrition or evolution) replaced by some more efficient form of society.<sup id="fnref:25"><a href="#fn:25" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">25</a></sup></p> </li> @@ -555,8 +575,9 @@ <p>To those who think that all this sounds like science fiction, we point out that yesterday’s science fiction is today’s fact. The Industrial Revolution has radically altered man’s environment and way of life, and it is only to be expected that as technology is increasingly applied to the human body and mind, man himself will be altered as radically as his environment and way of life have been.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="human-race-at-a-crossroads">Human Race at a Crossroads</h2> -<ol start="161"> +<h2 id="human-race-at-a-crossroads">Human Race at a Crossroads <a class="anchor" href="#human-race-at-a-crossroads"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="161"> <li> <p>But we have gotten ahead of our story. It is one thing to develop in the laboratory a series of psychological or biological techniques for manipulating human behavior and quite another to integrate these techniques into a functioning social system. The latter problem is the more difficult of the two. For example, while the techniques of educational psychology doubtless work quite well in the “lab schools” where they are developed, it is not necessarily easy to apply them effectively throughout our educational system. We all know what many of our schools are like. The teachers are too busy taking knives and guns away from the kids to subject them to the latest techniques for making them into computer nerds. Thus, in spite of all its technical advances relating to human behavior, the system to date has not been impressively successful in controlling human beings. The people whose behavior is fairly well under the control of the system are those of the type that might be called “bourgeois.” But there are growing numbers of people who in one way or another are rebels against the system: welfare leeches, youth gangs, cultists, satanists, Nazis, radical environmentalists, militia-men, etc.</p> </li> @@ -576,8 +597,9 @@ <p>Therefore two tasks confront those who hate the servitude to which the industrial system is reducing the human race. First, we must work to heighten the social stresses within the system so as to increase the likelihood that it will break down or be weakened sufficiently so that a revolution against it becomes possible. Second, it is necessary to develop and propagate an ideology that opposes technology and the industrial system. Such an ideology can become the basis for a revolution against industrial society if and when the system becomes sufficiently weakened. And such an ideology will help to assure that, if and when industrial society breaks down, its remnants will be smashed beyond repair, so that the system cannot be reconstituted. The factories should be destroyed, technical books burned, etc.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="human-suffering">Human Suffering</h2> -<ol start="167"> +<h2 id="human-suffering">Human Suffering <a class="anchor" href="#human-suffering"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="167"> <li> <p>The industrial system will not break down purely as a result of revolutionary action. It will not be vulnerable to revolutionary attack unless its own internal problems of development lead it into very serious difficulties. So if the system breaks down it will do so either spontaneously, or through a process that is in part spontaneous but helped along by revolutionaries. If the breakdown is sudden, many people will die, since the world’s population has become so overblown that it cannot even feed itself any longer without advanced technology. Even if the breakdown is gradual enough so that reduction of the population can occur more through lowering of the birth rate than through elevation of the death rate, the process of de-industrialization probably will be very chaotic and involve much suffering. It is naive to think it likely that technology can be phased out in a smoothly managed, orderly way, especially since the technophiles will fight stubbornly at every step. Is it therefore cruel to work for the breakdown of the system? Maybe, but maybe not. In the first place, revolutionaries will not be able to break the system down unless it is already in enough trouble so that there would be a good chance of its eventually breaking down by itself anyway; and the bigger the system grows, the more disastrous the consequences of its breakdown will be; so it may be that revolutionaries, by hastening the onset of the breakdown, will be reducing the extent of the disaster.</p> </li> @@ -591,8 +613,9 @@ <p>“Oh!” say the technophiles, “Science is going to fix all that! We will conquer famine, eliminate psychological suffering, make everybody healthy and happy!” Yeah, sure. That’s what they said 200 years ago. The Industrial Revolution was supposed to eliminate poverty, make everybody happy, etc. The actual result has been quite different. The technophiles are hopelessly naive (or self-deceiving) in their understanding of social problems. They are unaware of (or choose to ignore) the fact that when large changes, even seemingly beneficial ones, are introduced into a society, they lead to a long sequence of other changes, most of which are impossible to predict (paragraph 103). In the mean time there will be great suffering. So it is not at all clear that the survival of industrial society would involve less suffering than the breakdown of that society would. Technology has gotten the human race into a fix from which there is not likely to be any easy escape.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-future">The Future</h2> -<ol start="171"> +<h2 id="the-future">The Future <a class="anchor" href="#the-future"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="171"> <li> <p>But suppose now that industrial society does survive the next several decades and that the bugs do eventually get worked out of the system, so that it functions smoothly. What kind of system will it be? We will consider several possibilities.</p> </li> @@ -621,8 +644,9 @@ <p>It would be better to dump the whole stinking system and take the consequences.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="strategy">Strategy</h2> -<ol start="180"> +<h2 id="strategy">Strategy <a class="anchor" href="#strategy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="180"> <li> <p>The technophiles are taking us all on an utterly reckless ride into the unknown. Many people understand something of what technological progress is doing to us, yet take a passive attitude toward it because they think it is inevitable. But we (FC) don’t think it is inevitable. We think it can be stopped, and we will give here some indications of how to go about stopping it.</p> </li> @@ -705,8 +729,9 @@ <p>With regard to revolutionary strategy, the only points on which we absolutely insist are that the single, overriding goal must be the elimination of modern technology, and that no other goal can be allowed to compete with this one. For the rest, revolutionaries should take an empirical approach. If experience indicates that some of the recommendations made in the foregoing paragraphs are not going to give good results, then those recommendations should be discarded.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="two-kinds-of-technology">Two Kinds of Technology</h2> -<ol start="207"> +<h2 id="two-kinds-of-technology">Two Kinds of Technology <a class="anchor" href="#two-kinds-of-technology"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="207"> <li> <p>An argument likely to be raised against our proposed revolution is that it is bound to fail, because (it is claimed) throughout history technology has always progressed, never regressed, hence technological regression is impossible. But this claim is false.</p> </li> @@ -726,8 +751,9 @@ <p>Would society EVENTUALLY develop again toward an industrial-technological form? Maybe, but there is no use in worrying about it, since we can’t predict or control events 500 or 1,000 years in the future. Those problems must be dealt with by the people who will live at that time.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-danger-of-leftism">The Danger of Leftism</h2> -<ol start="213"> +<h2 id="the-danger-of-leftism">The Danger of Leftism <a class="anchor" href="#the-danger-of-leftism"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="213"> <li> <p>Because of their need for rebellion and for membership in a movement, leftists or persons of similar psychological type often are attracted to a rebellious or activist movement whose goals and membership are not initially leftist. The resulting influx of leftish types can easily turn a non-leftist movement into a leftist one, so that leftist goals replace or distort the original goals of the movement.</p> </li> @@ -783,8 +809,9 @@ <p>The more dangerous leftists, that is, those who are most power-hungry, are often characterized by arrogance or by a dogmatic approach to ideology. However, the most dangerous leftists of all may be certain oversocialized types who avoid irritating displays of aggressiveness and refrain from advertising their leftism, but work quietly and unobtrusively to promote collectivist values, “enlightened” psychological techniques for socializing children, dependence of the individual on the system, and so forth. These crypto-leftists (as we may call them) approximate certain bourgeois types as far as practical action is concerned, but differ from them in psychology, ideology and motivation. The ordinary bourgeois tries to bring people under control of the system in order to protect his way of life, or he does so simply because his attitudes are conventional. The crypto-leftist tries to bring people under control of the system because he is a True Believer in a collectivistic ideology. The crypto-leftist is differentiated from the average leftist of the oversocialized type by the fact that his rebellious impulse is weaker and he is more securely socialized. He is differentiated from the ordinary well-socialized bourgeois by the fact that there is some deep lack within him that makes it necessary for him to devote himself to a cause and immerse himself in a collectivity. And maybe his (well-sublimated) drive for power is stronger than that of the average bourgeois.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="final-note">Final Note</h2> -<ol start="231"> +<h2 id="final-note">Final Note <a class="anchor" href="#final-note"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="231"> <li> <p>Throughout this article we’ve made imprecise statements and statements that ought to have had all sorts of qualifications and reservations attached to them; and some of our statements may be flatly false. Lack of sufficient information and the need for brevity made it impossible for us to formulate our assertions more precisely or add all the necessary qualifications. And of course in a discussion of this kind one must rely heavily on intuitive judgment, and that can sometimes be wrong. So we don’t claim that this article expresses more than a crude approximation to the truth.</p> </li> @@ -914,8 +941,9 @@ Thu, 12 Jan 2023 21:34:30 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/recover-lost-anki-streak/ - <h1 id="how-to-recover-a-lost-anki-streak">How to recover a lost anki streak</h1> -<p>Word for word copy paste of what fixed my issue. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/Anki/comments/ndt6ag/comment/gycwiti/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">Original post</a></p> + <h1 id="how-to-recover-a-lost-anki-streak">How to recover a lost anki streak <a class="anchor" href="#how-to-recover-a-lost-anki-streak"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><p>Word for word copy paste of what fixed my issue. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/Anki/comments/ndt6ag/comment/gycwiti/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">Original post</a></p> <p><em>btw i had to create a seperate Custom Study for cards i had forgotten, i set it to 1 day, did one review and followed from step 7</em></p> <p>Happened to me as well, idk why. But there is a way to cheat streaks:</p> <ol> @@ -937,10 +965,12 @@ Wed, 04 Jan 2023 22:52:24 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/meta-description-in-hugo/ - <h1 id="adding-meta-description-in-hugo">Adding meta description in Hugo</h1> -<p>I assume you are using Luke Smith&rsquo;s theme - Lugo, if you are not, you&rsquo;d have to find these files yourself (e.g. search using vscode).</p> -<h2 id="setting-a-global-meta-description">Setting a global meta description</h2> -<ol> + <h1 id="adding-meta-description-in-hugo">Adding meta description in Hugo <a class="anchor" href="#adding-meta-description-in-hugo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><p>I assume you are using Luke Smith&rsquo;s theme - Lugo, if you are not, you&rsquo;d have to find these files yourself (e.g. search using vscode).</p> +<h2 id="setting-a-global-meta-description">Setting a global meta description <a class="anchor" href="#setting-a-global-meta-description"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Locate your config.toml or config.yaml file</li> <li>Add the following line inside it</li> </ol> @@ -951,15 +981,17 @@ <div class="highlight"><pre tabindex="0" style="color:#f8f8f2;background-color:#272822;-moz-tab-size:4;-o-tab-size:4;tab-size:4;"><code class="language-yaml" data-lang="yaml"><span style="display:flex;"><span><span style="color:#f92672">params</span>: </span></span><span style="display:flex;"><span> <span style="color:#f92672">description</span>: <span style="color:#ae81ff">The global meta description of your website</span> </span></span></code></pre></div><p>It won&rsquo;t work just yet because you have to update the <code>baseof.html</code> file.</p> -<h2 id="updating-the-baseofhtml-file">Updating the baseof.html file</h2> -<ol> +<h2 id="updating-the-baseofhtml-file">Updating the baseof.html file <a class="anchor" href="#updating-the-baseofhtml-file"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Locate baseof.html</li> <li>Add or change the meta description line with the following</li> </ol> <div class="highlight"><pre tabindex="0" style="color:#f8f8f2;background-color:#272822;-moz-tab-size:4;-o-tab-size:4;tab-size:4;"><code class="language-html" data-lang="html"><span style="display:flex;"><span>&lt;<span style="color:#f92672">meta</span> <span style="color:#a6e22e">name</span><span style="color:#f92672">=</span><span style="color:#e6db74">&#34;description&#34;</span> <span style="color:#a6e22e">content</span><span style="color:#f92672">=</span><span style="color:#e6db74">&#34;{{ if .Page.Params.description }}{{ .Page.Params.description }}{{ else if .Summary}}{{ .Summary }}{{else}}{{ .Site.Params.description}}{{ end }}&#34;</span>/&gt; </span></span></code></pre></div><p>And now if you start your Hugo server locally with <code>hugo serve --noHTTPCache</code> and you right click on your page -&gt; View Page Source -&gt; Search for the meta description tag. It should match what you left in the config file.</p> -<h2 id="replacing-the-global-description-with-a-custom-one">Replacing the global description with a custom one</h2> -<ol> +<h2 id="replacing-the-global-description-with-a-custom-one">Replacing the global description with a custom one <a class="anchor" href="#replacing-the-global-description-with-a-custom-one"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Have a markdown file ready</li> <li>In the preamble, add</li> </ol> @@ -977,8 +1009,9 @@ https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/multiple-index-pages-in-hugo/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="this-is-how-to-create-multiple-index-pages-in-hugo">This is how to create multiple index pages in Hugo</h2> -</div> +<h2 id="this-is-how-to-create-multiple-index-pages-in-hugo">This is how to create multiple index pages in Hugo <a class="anchor" href="#this-is-how-to-create-multiple-index-pages-in-hugo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>I wanted to order <a href="https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook">Hackbook</a> in reverse (i.e. oldest to newest) so that it&rsquo;s easier for the reader to start at the correct page.</p> <p>I ran into the following problem - the default <strong><code>list.html</code></strong> does them from newest to oldest.</p> <p>So I found <a href="https://discourse.gohugo.io/t/two-home-pages/31312/9">this forum post</a> and I created a file in the <strong><code>_default</code></strong> directory as follows:</p> @@ -1011,11 +1044,14 @@ {{- end }} &lt;/ul&gt; {{- end }} -</code></pre><h4 id="if-you-want-to-display-the-date-on-the-left-of-the-titles-you-have-to-add-datesinlisttrue-in-your-configtoml-or-datesinlist-true-in-your-configyaml">if you want to display the date on the left of the titles, you have to add <strong><code>datesinlist=true</code></strong> in your config.toml or <strong><code>datesinlist: true</code></strong> in your config.yaml</h4> -<h5 id="you-probably-dont-need-enablegitinfo--true-as-that-will-crash-your-website-i-have-no-idea-what-it-does-you-dont-need-it">You probably don&rsquo;t need <strong><code>enableGitInfo = true</code></strong> as that will crash your website, I have no idea what it does, you don&rsquo;t need it.</h5> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="using-your-custom-_indexhtml">Using your custom _index.html</h2> -</div> +</code></pre><h4 id="if-you-want-to-display-the-date-on-the-left-of-the-titles-you-have-to-add-datesinlisttrue-in-your-configtoml-or-datesinlist-true-in-your-configyaml">if you want to display the date on the left of the titles, you have to add <strong><code>datesinlist=true</code></strong> in your config.toml or <strong><code>datesinlist: true</code></strong> in your config.yaml <a class="anchor" href="#if-you-want-to-display-the-date-on-the-left-of-the-titles-you-have-to-add-datesinlisttrue-in-your-configtoml-or-datesinlist-true-in-your-configyaml"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h5 id="you-probably-dont-need-enablegitinfo--true-as-that-will-crash-your-website-i-have-no-idea-what-it-does-you-dont-need-it">You probably don&rsquo;t need <strong><code>enableGitInfo = true</code></strong> as that will crash your website, I have no idea what it does, you don&rsquo;t need it. <a class="anchor" href="#you-probably-dont-need-enablegitinfo--true-as-that-will-crash-your-website-i-have-no-idea-what-it-does-you-dont-need-it"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h5><div style="text-align: center;"> +<h2 id="using-your-custom-_indexhtml">Using your custom _index.html <a class="anchor" href="#using-your-custom-_indexhtml"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>After creating your custom _index.html you&rsquo;d use it as follows:</p> <ol> <li>Create an _index.md file in your desired directory</li> @@ -1226,8 +1262,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true <li>Never PMO again.</li> </ol> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="affirmations">Affirmations</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="affirmations">Affirmations <a class="anchor" href="#affirmations"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <ul> <li>I am free from the slavery of PMO.</li> <li>It is easy for me to ignore my thoughts about PMO.</li> @@ -1268,21 +1305,24 @@ strains of life.</li> https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-43-advice-to-non-pmoers/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK <a class="anchor" href="#help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>First study the contents of this book and try to put yourself in the place of the PMOer. Do not force him to read this book or try to stop him by telling him he is ruining his health or playing with fire. He already knows this better than you do. PMOers do not continue in it because they enjoy it or because they want to. They only tell themselves and other people this in order to retain self-respect. They do it because they feel dependent on PMO because they think that it relaxes them and gives them courage and confidence (pleasure or crutch) and that life will never be enjoyable without “sex” - their version of it. If you try to force a PMOer to stop, he feels like a trapped animal and wants to be in his harem even more. This may turn him into a secret PMOer and in his mind the porn will become even more precious (see Chapter 26).</p> <p>Instead, concentrate on the other side of the coin. Get him into the company of ex-PMOers (there are many blogs, forums etc. YBOP, No-Fap etc.). Get them to tell the PMOer how they too thought they were hooked for life and how much better life is as a non-PMOer. Once you have got him believing that he can stop then his mind will start to open up. Then start explaining the delusion created by withdrawal pangs. Not only are the “dopamine rushes” not giving him a boost but they are destroying his confidence and making him irritable and tired.</p> <p>He should now be ready to read this book himself. He will be expecting to read pages and pages about unreliable arousal, fading penetrations, PIED, PE, etc. Explain that the approach is completely different and that references to illness are just a small fraction of the material in the book.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD <a class="anchor" href="#help-during-the-withdrawal-period"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>If you are dealing with a girlfriend or boyfriend - whether the ex-PMOer is suffering or not, assume that she/he is. Do not try to minimize his suffering by telling him it is easy to stop; he can do that himself. Instead keep telling him how proud you are, how much better he is looking, how much sweeter it is to be with him, how much easier he is in general. It is particularly important to keep doing this. When a PMOer makes an attempt to stop, the euphoria of the attempt and the attention he gets from friends and colleagues can help him along. However, they tend to forget quickly, so keep that praise going.</p> <p>Because he is not talking about PMOing, you may think he has forgotten about it and don&rsquo;t want to remind him. Usually the complete opposite is the case with the Willpower Method, as the ex-PMOer tends to be obsessed by nothing else. So do not be frightened to bring the subject up and keep praising him: he will tell you if he doesn&rsquo;t want you to remind him of PMOing.</p> <p>Go out of your way to relieve him of pressures during the withdrawal period. Try to think of ways of making his life interesting and enjoyable. This can also be a trying period for non-PMOers - that is those of you who have never had this addiction. If one member of a group is irritable, it can cause general misery all round. So anticipate this if the ex-PMOer is feeling irritable. He may well take it out on you but do not retaliate: it is at this time that he needs your praise and sympathy the most. If you are feeling irritable yourself, try not to show it.</p> <p>One of the tricks an addict will play when trying to give up with the aid of the Willpower Method was to get into a tantrum, hoping that wife or friends would say, “I cannot bear to see you suffering like this. For goodness sake, have your poison.” The PMOer then does not lose face, as he isn&rsquo;t “giving in” - he has been instructed. If the ex-PMOer uses this ploy, on no account encourage him to lapse. Instead say, “if that is what PMO does to you, thank goodness you will soon be free. How marvellous that you had the courage and sense to give up.”</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL <a class="anchor" href="#help-end-this-scandal"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>In my opinion, internet porn is one of the dangers in a free society, piggy backing on the good willed efforts of personal freedoms. Surely the very basis of civilization, the reason why the human species has advanced so far, is that we are capable of communicating our knowledge and experiences not only to each other but to future generations. Even the lower species find it necessary to warn their offspring of the pitfalls in life.</p> <p>The producers of porn are not doing this in good faith, in the genuine belief that they help mankind, especially now as the addiction to internet porn is widely studied. Maybe in its initial stages people genuinely believed that porn taught intimacy to men and women but today the authorities know that it is a fallacy. Just watch any tube sites nowadays. They make no claims about education. The only claims they make are about the shock, novelty, escalation quality of their clips.</p> <p>The sheer hypocrisy is incredible. As a society we get uptight about school bullying and objectification of human body. Compared with internet porn, these problems are mere pimples in our society. Thirty five per cent of the population have been addicted to porn and most of them spend quality time with imaginary and illusory pixel people at the expense of health, virility, energy and time. Tens of thousands of people have their lives ruined every year because they become hooked. Internet high speed porn is by far the biggest killer in relationships and yet the biggest vested interest is our for-profit companies. Internet porn producers don’t spend on advertising the filth in mainstream publications - they don’t have to. Our biological urges will lead us to the thresholds of their well stocked internet harems. They give free samples just like your local drug dealer. Heck the tube sites don’t even stock the wares any more as they encourage visitors to post the content.</p> @@ -1295,8 +1335,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <p>Why do we allow society to subject healthy young teenagers, youngsters whose lives are complete before they start to get online, to claim their independence just for the privilege of destroying themselves mentally and physically in a lifetime of slavery, a lifetime of filth and disease? You may feel that I over-dramatize the facts. Not so. There are cases where lives were cut down in his early years of marriage because of PMO. He was a strong man and might still have been alive today. I believe I was within an inch of PIED during my forties, although I would have attributed it to my divorce rather than to PMO. I now spend my life being consulted by people who have been crippled by the disease or are in the last stages. And, if you care to think about it, you probably know of many too.</p> <p>There is a wind of change in society. A snowball has started that I hope this book will help turn into an avalanche. You too can help by spreading the message.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING <a class="anchor" href="#final-warning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>You can now enjoy the rest of your life as a happy non-PMOer. In order to make sure that you do, you need to follow these simple instructions:</p> <ol> <li>Keep this page in your bookmarks and refer to it as much as you need.</li> @@ -1395,8 +1436,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <p>Find out which one it is. Some people understand and believe everything I say but still start off with a feeling of doom and gloom, as if something terrible were happening. You are doing not only what you&rsquo;d like to do but what every PMOer on the planet would like to do. With any method of stopping, what the ex PMOer is trying to achieve is a certain frame of mind, so that whenever he thinks about PMO he says to himself, “YIPPEE! I&rsquo;M FREE!” If that&rsquo;s your object, why wait? Start off in that frame of mind and never lose it. The rest of the book is designed to make you understand why there is no alternative.</p> </blockquote> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="the-check-list"><strong>THE CHECK LIST</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="the-check-list"><strong>THE CHECK LIST</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-check-list"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>If you follow these simple instructions, you cannot fail:</p> <ol> <li>Make a solemn vow that you will never, ever, go online to visit your harem OR settle down for static pictures OR make peace with erotic graphics OR anything that contains supra normal stimuli, and stick to your vow.</li> @@ -1510,14 +1552,16 @@ sites in my life again.”<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1& <p>I have been direct in my advice so far and would ask you to treat this advice as instruction rather than suggestion. I am explicit and direct, first because there are sound, practical reasons for my advice and second, because those reasons have been backed up by thousands of case studies. On the question of whether or not to try to avoid temptation during the withdrawal period, I regret that I cannot be direct. Each PMOer will need to decide for himself. I can, however, make what I hope will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all our lives and this fear consists of two distinct phases:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO?</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO? <a class="anchor" href="#phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>This fear is that panicky feeling the PMOer gets when they are alone in a single phase or have an asexual, uninterested or unavailable partner. The fear isn&rsquo;t caused by withdrawal pangs but is the psychological fear of dependency - you cannot survive without sex and orgasm. It actually reaches its height when you are on the verge of quitting (I won’t use giving up); at that time your withdrawal pangs are at their lowest. It is the fear of the unknown, the sort of fear that people have when they are learning to dive.</p> <p>The diving board is 1 foot high but seems to be 6 feet high. The water is 6 feet deep but appears to be 1 foot deep. It takes courage to launch yourself. You are convinced you are going to smash your head. The launching is the hardest part. If you can find the courage to do it, the rest is easy. This explains why many otherwise strong-willed PMOers either have never attempted to stop or can survive only a few days when they do. In fact, there are some PMOers on a porn diet who when they decide to stop, actually binge and escalate to harsher clips more quickly than if they had not decided to stop. The decision causes panic, which is stressful. This is one of the occasions when the brain triggers the instruction, “take a trip to your own personal harem.” But now you can&rsquo;t take one. You are being deprived - more stress.</p> <p>The trigger starts again quickly when the fuse blows and you fire up the browser. Don&rsquo;t worry. That panic is just psychological. It is the fear that you are dependent. The beautiful truth is that you are not, even when you are still addicted. Do not panic. Just trust me and launch yourself.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear <a class="anchor" href="#phase-2-longer-term-fear"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>The second phase of fear is longer-term. It involves the fear that certain situations in the future will not be enjoyable or that you will not be able to cope with a trauma without PMO. Don&rsquo;t worry. If you can launch yourself you will find the opposite to be the case. The avoidance of temptation itself falls into two main categories:</p> <ol> <li>“I will subscribe to a porn-diet of once in 4 days. I will feel more confident knowing that I can go online if it gets hard. It is OK if I fail I can just add up additional days to my next cycle.”</li> @@ -1620,8 +1664,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict <li>What&rsquo;s worse, it keeps the big monster alive in your mind. If you had the “last peek”, it will be easier to have the next one.</li> </ol> <p>Above all, remember:</p> -<h2 id="just-one-peek-is-how-people-get-into-pmo-addiction-in-the-first-place">“Just one peek” is how people get into PMO addiction in the first place.</h2> - +<h2 id="just-one-peek-is-how-people-get-into-pmo-addiction-in-the-first-place">“Just one peek” is how people get into PMO addiction in the first place. <a class="anchor" href="#just-one-peek-is-how-people-get-into-pmo-addiction-in-the-first-place"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2> @@ -1726,8 +1771,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict </ol> <p>Stop kidding yourself. If the job offer that I mentioned before, of 10 months work for 12 months salary a year won&rsquo;t stop him. Or if the risks of cutting down your brain’s capacity to cope with just any normal day-to-day stress and strains or if putting yourself at odds with having a reliable erection, or if the lifetime of mental and physical torture and slavery did not stop him or her - the above said few phoney incentives will not make the slightest bit of difference. They will only make the sacrifice appear worse. Instead concentrate on the other side:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"><strong>“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?”</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"><strong>“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?”</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>Keep looking at the other side of the tug of war. What is PMOing doing for me? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Why do I need to do it? YOU DON&rsquo;T! YOU ARE ONLY PUNISHING YOURSELF. Try looking at it from the Pascal’s Wager perspective. You have almost nothing to lose (a rub-out with half arousals) for sure, chances of big profits (a full and reliable arousal, mental well being and happiness) and no chance of losing big (unreliable full arousals, premature ejaculations, fading penetrations, loss of general impulse controls, lower tolerance for frustrations and anger).</p> <p>Why not declare your quitting to friends and family? Well, it will make you a proud ex-addict, ex-PMOer, not an elated and happy non-PMOer. It will scare your partner a bit since they may see this as an effort to have more sex, sort of a new-age thing. They may also fear to lose you if this turns you into sex machine. It is hard to explain to them unless they are open minded.</p> <p>Any attempt to get others to help you in your quitting gives more power to the little monster of addiction. Pushing it from your mind and totally ignoring it has the effect of trying NOT to think of it. As soon as you spot the thoughts, when you hit the cues (home alone) or just absent minded thoughts - just say to yourself: “Great, I don’t have to do it like a slave animal. I am free. I am happy to know the differences in sex.” This will cut the life of the thought and will deny oxygen to it and will stop it from burning towards urges and cravings.</p> @@ -1795,8 +1841,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <p>First of all, identify the times or occasions when PMO appears to be important to you. If you are a businessman and use it for the illusion of relief of stress, pick a relatively slack period; a good idea is to choose your annual holiday. If you PMO mainly during boring or relaxing periods, weekends etc. do the opposite. In any event, take the matter seriously and make the attempt the most important thing in your life.</p> <p>Look ahead for a period of about three weeks and try to anticipate any event that might lead to failure. Occasions like a conference trip, partner out of town etc. need not deter you, providing you anticipate them in advance and do not feel you will be deprived. Do not attempt to cut down in the meantime as this will only create the illusion that being denied is enjoyable. In fact, it helps to force yourself to watch and have as many PMO sessions as possible. While you are having the last session and that last time, be conscious of the disappointment due to satiation, unfulfilled expectations (porn can never satisfy you), any bodily pain or pain in the genitals, the withdrawal effects, the peevishness and the melancholy. Think how marvellous it will be when you allow yourself to stop doing it.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="whatever-you-do-dont-fall-into-the-trap-of-just-saying-not-now-later-and-putting-it-out-of-your-mind-work-out-your-timetable-now-and-look-forward-to-it">WHATEVER YOU DO, DON&rsquo;T FALL INTO THE TRAP OF JUST SAYING, “NOT NOW. LATER,” AND PUTTING IT OUT OF YOUR MIND. WORK OUT YOUR TIMETABLE NOW AND LOOK FORWARD TO IT.</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="whatever-you-do-dont-fall-into-the-trap-of-just-saying-not-now-later-and-putting-it-out-of-your-mind-work-out-your-timetable-now-and-look-forward-to-it">WHATEVER YOU DO, DON&rsquo;T FALL INTO THE TRAP OF JUST SAYING, “NOT NOW. LATER,” AND PUTTING IT OUT OF YOUR MIND. WORK OUT YOUR TIMETABLE NOW AND LOOK FORWARD TO IT. <a class="anchor" href="#whatever-you-do-dont-fall-into-the-trap-of-just-saying-not-now-later-and-putting-it-out-of-your-mind-work-out-your-timetable-now-and-look-forward-to-it"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>Remember you aren&rsquo;t giving anything up. On the contrary: you are about to receive marvellous positive gains.</p> <p>For years the medical profession viewed porn is harmless without knowing the difference between the tame static porn of yesteryear and the latest VR streaming porn. The problem is this; although every PMOer uses internet porn purely to relieve the brain chemical craving for dopamine, it is not the addiction to the brain chemical itself that hooks the PMOer but the self-brainwashing that results from that addiction. An intelligent person will fall for a confidence trick. But only a fool will go on falling for it once he realizes that it&rsquo;s a confidence trick. Fortunately, most PMOers aren&rsquo;t fools; they only think they are. Each individual PMOer has his own private brainwashing. That is why there appears to be such a wide range of different types of PMOer, which only serves to compound the mysteries.</p> <p>With the benefit of the original book that used this method to stop smoking, which dealt with nicotine addiction (one of the most quickest and addictive drug known to man) and bearing in mind that the personal logs that I collected from Reddit, NoFap and YBOP blogs and forums, I was agreeably surprised to realize that the philosophy propounded in the original book was still sound. The accumulated knowledge that was acquired by the original author Alan Carr and by myself the hack-author is how to communicate that knowledge to each individual PMOer. The fact that I know every PMOer can not only find it easy to stop but can actually enjoy the process is not only pointless but exceedingly frustrating unless I can make the PMOer realize it. The original author of the quit smoking book explains some controversial advice:</p> @@ -1834,8 +1881,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <p>The only reason why people continue to PMO after getting educated is because they have failed to stop or are too frightened to try. There are even talks about no porn, no masturbation and no orgasms - with or without partners. Karezza is discussed widely and people are trying it out. Many aforementioned failures are “fail forwards” and thus somewhat benefiting the people who practice them. Once you start in the no-PMO route you will find your best fit that applies to your life. I strongly encourage devising your own plan on orgasms after understanding and practising the separation of the amative and the propagative parts of sex. I am sure whichever route you take you will see the value of preserving the “seed” by limiting the number of times you flush your brain with chemicals by orgasming. You will then never see porn, sex and orgasms as a pleasure or as a crutch for your emotional ups and downs.</p> <p>I was reading a Reddit forum by non-PMOers dedicated to quitting not only porn but also masturbation. As I read along I thought. “This is good, I see so many have taken to quitting masturbation and I think that is the right way to quit PMO.” However, I found most of the notes pointing to them to try with the Willpower Method. There was a lot of self-pitying as well. Except a few&hellip; almost all were not feeling elated and not having the, “yippee I am free from slavery” attitude. Eventually someone broke down - as I unfortunately expected to happen. And the result was a domino effect. All those other PMOers had been sitting there thinking, “surely I can&rsquo;t be the only PMOer here.” However, they were “failing forward” albeit with a lot of self-torturing as they shut down their browsers but did not shut down the desire and the need. This method is the reverse as - we shut down the desire and the need first before shutting down the browser screen. As every day more and more PMOers leave the sinking ship, so those left on it become terrified they&rsquo;ll be the last.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="dont-let-it-be-you"><strong>DON&rsquo;T LET IT BE YOU!</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="dont-let-it-be-you"><strong>DON&rsquo;T LET IT BE YOU!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#dont-let-it-be-you"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> @@ -1853,8 +1901,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <p>Columbo has this frustrating practice of closing the door after finishing his interrogation, having assured the suspect that he is in the clear and before the satisfied look has disappeared from the murderer&rsquo;s face, Columbo reappears with: “just one small point, sir, which I&rsquo;m sure you can explain&hellip;” The suspect stammers and from that point on we know and he knows that Columbo will gradually wear him down. No matter how heinous the crime, from that point on my sympathies were with the murderer.</p> <p>It was almost as if I were the criminal and that&rsquo;s exactly how those bouts made me feel. The tension of not being allowed to cross the red line to get my porn fix that I “rightly deserve because I am hard working man and why shouldn’t I when every man does it?” entitlement, click, click, clicking on videos that come close to the right one. Longing for the porn tube videos. And then finishing the deed - just a limp rub out, wondering where the pleasure was. The fear of crossing the line losing control. The relief of returning to the bed, immediately followed by the fear that she would toss around and ask for sex. As the “safe” YouTube videos started not to do it for me - desensitization and lack of novelty and the certain knowledge that sooner or later I was bound to visit my favourite online harem. The final humiliation and shame when that certainty became a fact, followed by the immediate return to chain-PMOing.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="oh-the-joys-of-being-a-pmo-er"><strong>OH THE JOYS OF BEING A PMO-er!</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="oh-the-joys-of-being-a-pmo-er"><strong>OH THE JOYS OF BEING A PMO-er!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#oh-the-joys-of-being-a-pmo-er"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> @@ -1881,25 +1930,32 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p </ol> <p>I used to think of my ‘non-casual’ PMOing as a weakness. I couldn&rsquo;t understand why my friends could limit their “intake.” I knew I was a very strong-willed person. It never occurred to me that most PMOers are incapable of chain-PMOing - you need a very strong imagination and also extraordinarily strong penis stamina in order to do it. Some of these once-a-week PMOers that heavy PMOers tend to envy do it less frequently because physically their constitution cannot do more, or because they cannot afford to PMO more, or because their job, or society, or their own hatred of being hooked won&rsquo;t allow them to PMO more.</p> <p>It may be of advantage at this stage to provide a few definitions:</p> -<h3 id="the-non-pmoer">THE NON-PMOer</h3> -<p>Someone who has never fallen for the trap but should not be complacent. He is a non-PMOer only by luck or the grace of goodness. All PMOers were convinced that they would never become hooked and some non-PMOers keep trying an occasional session.</p> -<h3 id="the-casual-pmoer">THE CASUAL PMOer</h3> -<p>There are two basic classifications of casual PMOers:</p> +<h3 id="the-non-pmoer">THE NON-PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-non-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>Someone who has never fallen for the trap but should not be complacent. He is a non-PMOer only by luck or the grace of goodness. All PMOers were convinced that they would never become hooked and some non-PMOers keep trying an occasional session.</p> +<h3 id="the-casual-pmoer">THE CASUAL PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-casual-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>There are two basic classifications of casual PMOers:</p> <ol> <li>The PMOer who has fallen for the trap but doesn&rsquo;t realize it. Do not envy such PMOers. They are merely sampling the nectar at the mouth of the pitcher plant and in all probability will soon be heavy users. Remember, just as all alcoholics started off as casual drinkers, so all PMOers started off as casual PMOers.</li> <li>The PMOer who was previously a heavy PMOer and thinks he cannot stop. These PMOers are the saddest of all. They fall into various categories, each of which needs separate comment.</li> </ol> -<h3 id="the-oncea--day-pmoer">THE ONCE–A- DAY PMOer</h3> -<p>If he enjoys his entitlement to orgasm, why does he use internet porn to orgasm only once a day? If he can take it or leave it, why does he bother to PMO at all? Remember, the ‘habit’ is really banging your head against the brick wall only to make it relaxing when you stop. The once-a-day PMOer is relieving his withdrawal pangs for less than one hour each day. The rest of the day, although he doesn&rsquo;t realize it, he is banging his head against the wall and does so for most of his life. He is PMOing only once a day because either he cannot take the risk of getting caught or screwing up his brain health. It is easy to convince the heavy PMOer that he doesn&rsquo;t enjoy it but you try convincing a casual PMOer. Anybody who has gone through an attempt to cut down will know it is the worst torture of all and almost guaranteed to keep you hooked for the rest of your life.</p> -<h3 id="the-rejected-pmoer">THE REJECTED PMOer</h3> -<p>This PMOer demands the right to his/her orgasm(s) every day. And of course his sex partner is not always up to it. So he goes on the internet for porn initially. Once he takes “the ride” to fix “the void” he is trapped on this most exciting ‘water slide’ of novelty, shock, supranormal images etc. He is in fact dichotomously ‘happy’ with the partner’s rejection – it gives him something of an excuse. If internet porn is giving so much to you, why even bother to have a partner at all? Set him or her free. He is not even enjoying the PMO when he has to ‘carry’ his partner in his mind. At some point he is using his real life partner to hand him an excuse to go out into the valleys of the dark side of the internet.</p> -<h3 id="the-porn-diet-pmoer">THE PORN DIET PMOer</h3> -<p>(Or, “I can stop whenever I want to. I have done it thousands of times”). If he thinks dieting helps with his moods to ‘get out to get women,’ why is he even on the diet of once every four days? How can one predict the future, what if the happenstance of meeting occurred just an hour after your scheduled PMO session? Also, if he thinks this occasional “cleaning the plumbing” is good to relieve tension and relax why not plumb every day? It has been proven that masturbation is not required to keep the genitals healthy. Internet porn is not required at all. Even if that may be the case, any PUA guru who has read about the brain chemistry and its plasticity will never recommend watching super stimulus porn. The truth is he is still hooked. Although he gets rid of the physical addiction, he is left with the main problem - the brainwashing. He hopes each time that he will stop for good and soon falls for the same trap again.</p> +<h3 id="the-oncea--day-pmoer">THE ONCE–A- DAY PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-oncea--day-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>If he enjoys his entitlement to orgasm, why does he use internet porn to orgasm only once a day? If he can take it or leave it, why does he bother to PMO at all? Remember, the ‘habit’ is really banging your head against the brick wall only to make it relaxing when you stop. The once-a-day PMOer is relieving his withdrawal pangs for less than one hour each day. The rest of the day, although he doesn&rsquo;t realize it, he is banging his head against the wall and does so for most of his life. He is PMOing only once a day because either he cannot take the risk of getting caught or screwing up his brain health. It is easy to convince the heavy PMOer that he doesn&rsquo;t enjoy it but you try convincing a casual PMOer. Anybody who has gone through an attempt to cut down will know it is the worst torture of all and almost guaranteed to keep you hooked for the rest of your life.</p> +<h3 id="the-rejected-pmoer">THE REJECTED PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-rejected-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>This PMOer demands the right to his/her orgasm(s) every day. And of course his sex partner is not always up to it. So he goes on the internet for porn initially. Once he takes “the ride” to fix “the void” he is trapped on this most exciting ‘water slide’ of novelty, shock, supranormal images etc. He is in fact dichotomously ‘happy’ with the partner’s rejection – it gives him something of an excuse. If internet porn is giving so much to you, why even bother to have a partner at all? Set him or her free. He is not even enjoying the PMO when he has to ‘carry’ his partner in his mind. At some point he is using his real life partner to hand him an excuse to go out into the valleys of the dark side of the internet.</p> +<h3 id="the-porn-diet-pmoer">THE PORN DIET PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-porn-diet-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>(Or, “I can stop whenever I want to. I have done it thousands of times”). If he thinks dieting helps with his moods to ‘get out to get women,’ why is he even on the diet of once every four days? How can one predict the future, what if the happenstance of meeting occurred just an hour after your scheduled PMO session? Also, if he thinks this occasional “cleaning the plumbing” is good to relieve tension and relax why not plumb every day? It has been proven that masturbation is not required to keep the genitals healthy. Internet porn is not required at all. Even if that may be the case, any PUA guru who has read about the brain chemistry and its plasticity will never recommend watching super stimulus porn. The truth is he is still hooked. Although he gets rid of the physical addiction, he is left with the main problem - the brainwashing. He hopes each time that he will stop for good and soon falls for the same trap again.</p> <p>Many PMOers actually envy these stoppers and starters. They think, “how lucky to be able to control it like that, to do PMO when you want to and stop when you want to,” What they always overlook is that these stoppers and starters aren&rsquo;t controlling it. When they are PMOers, they wish they weren&rsquo;t. They go through the hassle of stopping, then begin to feel deprived and fall for the trap again, then wish they hadn&rsquo;t. They get the worst of both worlds. If you think about it, this is true in the lives of the PMOers. When we are allowed to PMO we either take it as entitled or wish we didn&rsquo;t. It&rsquo;s only when we can&rsquo;t have PMO that it appears to be so precious. The ‘forbidden fruit syndrome’. This is the awful dilemma of PMOers. They can never win because they are moping for a myth, an illusion. There is one way they can win and that is to stop PMOing and stop moping!</p> -<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC/TAME/HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer</h3> -<p>Yes, we all do it to start with but isn&rsquo;t it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner&rsquo;s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes&hellip; you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one.</p> -<h3 id="the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer">THE I-HAVE-STOPPED-BUT-I-HAVE-AN-OCCASIONAL-PEEK PMOer</h3> -<p>In a way such peeking PMOers are the most pathetic of all. Either they go through their lives believing they are being deprived or, more often, the occasional peek becomes two. They remain on the slippery slope and it goes only one way - DOWNWARDS. Sooner or later they are back to being heavy PMOers. They have fallen again for the very trap that they fell into in the first place.</p> +<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC/TAME/HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>Yes, we all do it to start with but isn&rsquo;t it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner&rsquo;s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes&hellip; you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one.</p> +<h3 id="the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer">THE I-HAVE-STOPPED-BUT-I-HAVE-AN-OCCASIONAL-PEEK PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>In a way such peeking PMOers are the most pathetic of all. Either they go through their lives believing they are being deprived or, more often, the occasional peek becomes two. They remain on the slippery slope and it goes only one way - DOWNWARDS. Sooner or later they are back to being heavy PMOers. They have fallen again for the very trap that they fell into in the first place.</p> <p>There are two other categories of casual PMOers. The first is the type who masturbates to images or clips of the latest celebrity sex tapes that hit the news. Or something they ‘carried home’ from their ‘accidental’ viewing at school or work. These people are really non-PMOers. It&rsquo;s just that they feel they are missing out. They want to be part of the action. We all start off like this. Next time watch how, after a while, the celebrity sex tape, the same star of your fantasy is not ‘doing it’ to you any more. The more ‘unattainable’ the target of your fantasy is, the more frustrating the withdrawal of the orgasm is.</p> <p>The second category is recently getting attention. The type can best be described by outlining a case shared online. A woman who is a professional, had been using internet porn stories for many years and had never PMOed more or less than one time every night. She was, incidentally, a very strong-willed lady. Most PMOers would wonder why she wanted to stop in the first place. They would gladly point out to her that there is no worries of PIED, or PE in her case as she is a women. She is using not even static images and the stories are far tamer than any they use on a daily basis.</p> <p>They make the mistake of assuming that casual PMOers are happier and more in control. In control they may be but happy they are not. In this case, she is not satisfied with her partner, not interested in real sex, highly irritable with her daily stress and strains. Her nearest-and-dearest could not find out what is bothering her. Even if she convinced herself not to be afraid of her use of internet porn by rationalizing, she still finds herself not being able to enjoy real relationships which almost invariably involve ups and downs. Her brain’s RC<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> is not able to make use of the normal de-stress brain chemicals as she is flooding dopamine into her brain on an everyday basis. The down regulation<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> of her brain receptors has rendered her melancholic most times. Like me, she had a great fear of internet porn’s dark side of the treatment of women- before her first time. Like me, she eventually fell victim to the massive social brainwash and tried that first porn site. Like me, she can remember the foul clips of violence staged as entertainment. Unlike me, who capitulated and became a chain-PMOer very quickly, she resisted the slide.</p> @@ -1912,8 +1968,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p </blockquote> <p>In addition to his other troubles, this poor man has no idea that he treating himself to a poison. First he is suffering the “forbidden fruit syndrome.” Next he is forcing his brain to flush dopamine. His dopamine receptors are not as cut down comparatively either. But he is sliding and greasing the porn slides, seeking and searching for edging, novelty, variety, shock-value, anxiety-value (“I must treat myself so that I can survive the next three days”) etc. You probably have visions of a pathetic imbecile. Not so. This man was over six feet tall and an ex-sergeant in the Marines. He was a former athlete and didn&rsquo;t want to become an addict to anything. However, when he returned from the war he was trained as a techie in a veterans rehab program. When he entered the civil work force he was a well paid IT professional in a bank and was given a laptop (one of the ways to ensure you take work home). It was the year that famous socialites ‘leaked’ their porn videos online. There was much talk about it. And he got hooked. He has spent the rest of his life paying through the nose and it has ruined him physically and mentally. If he were an animal, our society would have put him out of his misery, yet we still allow mentally and physically healthy young teenagers to become hooked. You may think the above case and my notes are exaggerated. It is extreme but not unique. There are literally thousands of similar stories. That man poured his heart out to me but you can be sure that many of his friends and acquaintances envied him for being a once-a-week man. If you think this couldn&rsquo;t happen to you, STOP KIDDING YOURSELF.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="it-is-already-happening"><strong>IT IS ALREADY HAPPENING.</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="it-is-already-happening"><strong>IT IS ALREADY HAPPENING.</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#it-is-already-happening"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>In any event, PMOers like other addicts are notorious liars, even to themselves. They have to be. Most casual PMOers indulge far more times and on far more occasions than they will admit to. I have had many conversations with so-called twice-a-week PMOers during which they have done it more than three times that week. If you read the Reddit or No-Fap forums of casual PMOers, they are either counting the days or waiting to fail. You do not need to envy casual PMOers. You do not need to PMO. Life is infinitely sweeter without PMO. One log says&hellip;</p> <blockquote> <p><em>“It started with a simple challenge to not touch my penis for a day. And being unable. I don&rsquo;t think about masturbation anymore. It doesn&rsquo;t cross my mind. That is possible, I promise you. And the riches that await those who are able - they&rsquo;re incredible.”</em></p> @@ -2014,8 +2071,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p </ol> <p>The other important point that cutting down demonstrates is that there is no such thing as the odd or occasional harem visit. Internet porn is a chain reaction that will last the rest of your life unless you make a positive effort to break it:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="remember-cutting-down-will-drag-you-down"><strong>REMEMBER: CUTTING DOWN WILL DRAG YOU DOWN.</strong></h3> -</div><div class="footnotes" role="doc-endnotes"> +<h3 id="remember-cutting-down-will-drag-you-down"><strong>REMEMBER: CUTTING DOWN WILL DRAG YOU DOWN.</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#remember-cutting-down-will-drag-you-down"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div><div class="footnotes" role="doc-endnotes"> <hr> <ol> <li id="fn:1"> @@ -2336,14 +2394,16 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on this planet. Whether you believe in a creator, a process of natural selection or a combination of both, whatever being or system devised these bodies of ours, it is a thousand times more effective than man! Man cannot create the smallest living cell, let alone the miracle of eyesight, reproduction, our circulatory system or our brains. We don’t have our systems upgraded yet to properly assess the supranormal stimulus such as rich high density food or high speed internet novelty porn with multiple active windows.</p> <p>If the creator or process had intended us to handle novelty triggering stimuli, we would have been provided with some other brain reward circuits. Our bodies are, in fact, provided with fail-safe warning devices and we ignore these at our peril. Excessive edging results in body pain, irritation, and inflammation. In women, excessive flooding of dopamine and stress enzymes such as prostaglandin-E2 can cause difficulty to orgasm and PME.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up"><strong>There Is Nothing To Give Up</strong></h2> -</div> +<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up"><strong>There Is Nothing To Give Up</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#there-is-nothing-to-give-up"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.</p> <p>The problem I have is to make a convincing point as I’d have done for, let us say&hellip; smokers? All of us have seen smokers who develop excuses to sneak off for a crafty puff. It is easy to see the true addiction in action. Addicts do not do it because they enjoy it. They do it because they are miserable without it.</p> <p>Because many of us started out our first sexual experience that ended in an orgasm and we acquired the belief that we cannot enjoy sex without an orgasm. And for men, porn is sold as an aid towards sex, sometimes even as an education to be confident during the act of sex. It used to be static, but now we have supranormal internet porn. But this is nonsense. Internet porn takes away your confidence.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="women-and-porn"><strong>Women And Porn</strong></h2> -</div> +<h2 id="women-and-porn"><strong>Women And Porn</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#women-and-porn"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn&rsquo;t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.</p> <p>Porn and internet porn does not help your sex life; it destroys it totally. Having to hide your internet footprints, trying to delete your history, fearing accidental exposure to your boyfriend or kids, body pains, doubtful symptoms, fighting self doubts, arguing with yourself about your responsibilities in the ill effects of your addiction&hellip; well, why do you want to put yourself in such a bad situation?</p> <p>Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous positive gains to be had. When PMOers contemplate quitting they tend to concentrate on health and virility. These are obviously valid and important issues but I personally believe the greatest gains from stopping are psychological:</p> @@ -2354,8 +2414,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> </ol> <p>Not only is life better as a non-PMOer but it is infinitely more enjoyable. I do not only mean you will be healthier. I mean you will be happier and enjoy life far more. The marvellous gains from being a non-PMOer are discussed in the next few chapters. Some PMOers find it difficult to appreciate the concept of the &lsquo;void&rsquo; and the following analogy may assist you.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"><strong>Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void!</strong></h2> -</div> +<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"><strong>Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I&rsquo;ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can&rsquo;t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.</p> <p>By now you are completely dependent on the ointment. You never go out without ensuring that you have a tube of the ointment with you. If you go abroad, you make sure that you take several tubes with you. Now, in addition to your worries about your health, I&rsquo;m charging you $100 per tube. You have no choice but to pay.</p> <p>You then read in the medical column of your newspaper that this isn&rsquo;t happening just to you; many other people have been suffering from the same problem. In fact, pharmacists have discovered that the ointment doesn&rsquo;t actually cure the sore. All that it does is to take the sore beneath the surface of the skin. It is the ointment that has caused the sore to grow. All you have to do to get rid of the sore is to stop using the ointment. The sore will eventually disappear in due course.</p> @@ -2493,15 +2554,17 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>We can have an ‘information overload’ from the same internet but our reward circuits are not going to squirt dopamine at the levels when ‘porn overload’ is involved. We are evolutionarily programmed to seek and access sex related stuff. And we wrongly appraise the stimulus mostly based on this reward circuit action. If all you wanted is to masturbate why can’t you just use one clip and get the business done?</p> <p>Here is another question - next time after a long day or some stressful incident can you consciously embellish your self-talk with “Do you know what I would really enjoy today? The marvellous warm glow of dopamine rush going to my online harem.” You will find that even people who dislike PMO will join you.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="past-misguided-advice"><strong>Past Misguided Advice</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="past-misguided-advice"><strong>Past Misguided Advice</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#past-misguided-advice"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.</p> <p>From our earliest years our subconscious minds are bombarded daily with information telling us that sex is good and that the most precious thing on this earth is to ‘achieve’ orgasm. Girls are taught to achieve it and claim it&rsquo;s because they were wrongly suppressed of their sexual side for a very long time and still are. You think I exaggerate? Watch any TV or movie plot and you will see the mix-up of the amative (touch, smell, voice etc.) and the propagative (orgasmic) sides of sex. The impact of this does not register on our conscious minds but the sleeping partner, the subconscious mind, has time to absorb it. What the message is really saying is, “The most precious thing on this earth, my last thought and action, will be the goal of orgasm.” If you don’t have an orgasm then you are an old man with zero libido.</p> <p>Our children are being bombarded by sex and porn clips and many don’t even know how to protect them from it all. Large hoardings and magazine adverts are loaded with sexual innuendo. Some of the pop videos are extremely suggestive - again they hide behind free speech. Don’t be vexed and feel powerless about it. Make it a game and find you which of the components they are using - is it novelty, shock value, color, size, taboo etc. If the kids are pre-teen some of these can be disclosed to them and it would make an excellent show-and-tell game.</p> <p>A while back there was a wave of ‘leaked’ private videos of celebrities on the internet. If the youngster is too smitten by their favourite star, even if the conscious mind blames the ‘leak’ on the blood thirsty internet paparazzi, the &lsquo;sleeping partner&rsquo; is patiently digesting the notion that, “yes, even my shambolic hero does it and if I don’t, I won’t look the part.”</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-scientific-reasoning"><strong>The Scientific Reasoning</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-scientific-reasoning"><strong>The Scientific Reasoning</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-scientific-reasoning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>, Reboot<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> forums, underground PUA<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup>, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn&rsquo;t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.</p> <p>Ironically, the most powerful force in this melee of confusion is the PMOer himself. It is a fallacy that they are weak-willed or are physically weak specimens. You have to be physically strong in order to cope with an addiction after you know it is. This is one of the reasons why PMOers refuse to accept the overwhelming statistics that prove that internet porn with its ‘novelty’ cripples your brain. Add to that the sexologists who are doing half-baked studies and declare PMO is not an issue - they just help to add to the confusion.</p> <p>Everyone knows a friend who PMOed every day - he started with the ‘static’ to internet porn, always horny in real life, chasing girls and you never doubted him to have sex problems of course. You want to believe him. He never complained about any ED right? Guys and girls like them refuse even to consider the hundreds of ex-addicts and non-PMOers who painfully recount their difficulties. It is the “little monster” brain chemical addiction and the “big monster” - illusions and delusions. In this hackbook, I&rsquo;ve put together almost all the sorts of brainwashing a PMOer can suffer from. There will always be a few out there that I haven&rsquo;t touched upon.</p> @@ -2509,8 +2572,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>If you do a small survey among your online forum members, friends and colleagues, you will find that most PMOers are, in fact, strong-willed people. They tend to be self-employed, business executives or in certain specialized professions, such as doctors<sup id="fnref:4"><a href="#fn:4" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">4</a></sup>, lawyers, policemen, teachers, salesmen, nurses, secretaries, housewives with children, etc. In other words, anybody leading a stressful existence. Yes, I did include women and mothers. It’s the brain and it’s the same for them too. The main delusion of the PMOer is that porn helps to masturbate to orgasm and that relieves stress. This tends to be associated with the dominant type, the type that takes on responsibility and stress and, of course, that is the type that we admire and therefore tend to copy. Another group that tends to get hooked are people in monotonous jobs because the other main reason for PMOing is boredom. However, the idea that internet porn relieves boredom is also an illusion, I am afraid.</p> <p>As a society we get all uptight about glue-sniffing, heroin addiction, etc. Actual deaths from glue-sniffing do not amount to ten per annum, and deaths from heroin are less than a hundred a year in this country. There is another drug, internet porn, on which over 45 per cent of us become hooked at some time in our lives and the majority spend the rest of their lives regretting it. Some even don’t know that their ED is due to this.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-willpower-method"><strong>The Willpower Method</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-willpower-method"><strong>The Willpower Method</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why?</p> <p>Constant exposure to internet porn re-wires your brain. You need to start building resistance to this brainwashing, just as if you were buying a car from a second-hand car dealer. You would be nodding politely but you would not believe a word the man was saying. So don’t believe everything they say either - that you must have sex as much as you can and you must have it exceptional good. And that in the absence of real sex you claim it by the substitute called internet porn - which is only a component of the good old porn.</p> <p>And don’t play ‘safe’ porn game either - because your “little porn monster” invented that scheme to lure you. Even the content - ‘amateur’? Really? Is there a certification authority that certifies it? Tube sites and porn producers gather site visitor profiles and cater to their needs. If they see a trend in crowd sourced collection of a particular genre they will focus on that and get content out ASAP. The statistics of what genre users like is collected to the level of how long and which portion the users were preferring. Do not be fooled by their educational intent or the safe female oriented clips (for you ladies). Start asking yourself:</p> @@ -2522,22 +2586,25 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>I find this brainwashing aspect the most difficult of all to explain. Why is it that an otherwise rational, intelligent human being becomes a complete imbecile about his own addiction? It pains me to confess that out of the thousands of people that I have assisted in kicking the habit, I (not Allen Carr) was the biggest idiot of all.</p> <p>At the age of thirteen, although I was doing well at school and games, I was still an insufferable introvert. I read books from the library that were not within my main study list. However, I can see that I was attracted to erotica. I started masturbating to TV programs, song and dance sequences etc. I must have to have it every day. The tired feeling I felt was misappropriated by my ‘little porn monster’ as work stress. I didn’t know my “I-must-masturbate-as-I-am-entitled” attitude was the one that created the ‘stress’ in the first place. Then I got pictures and GIFs via email on my laptop - the first step towards electronic porn. The colour and texture of the images were amazing for me at that time - won’t be now for sure. Then came dial-up but still they were predominantly static pictures. Then came downloadable videos. It’s a pain to download and watch now - but it was heaven sent then as we were coming out of the static porn era! Oh, the streaming tube sites haven’t arrived yet.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"><strong>When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"><strong>When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn.</p> <p>At the age of forty, I was visiting my online harem daily, drinking ‘socially’ (whatever that means) and smoking ‘sometimes’ but not so often. I had wrongly subscribed to misguided ideas of ‘moderation’ and ‘entitlement’. I had reached the stage where I couldn&rsquo;t get through a single day without reaching out to porn in the night. With most PMOers, the triggers are the normal stresses of life, like answering the telephone or socializing.</p> <p>When I experienced PIED - I knew it was killing my virility. There was no way I could kid myself otherwise. I am smart enough not to ‘project’ the porn fantasies on to real life. But it was like pacifying a dog straining at its leash. But why I couldn&rsquo;t see what it was doing to me mentally, I could not understand. It was almost jumping up and biting me on the nose. The ridiculous thing is that most PMOers suffer the delusion at some time in their life that they enjoy internet porn because it is ‘normal’ and ‘healthy’. I never suffered that delusion, I PMOed because I thought enjoying sex is a ‘birthright’ and I am only doing a normal thing.</p> <p>Since it was easier at most times for me to get internet porn than a partner I thought I am doing the normal thing. Now I am a non-PMOer, the most difficult part is trying to believe that those days actually happened. It&rsquo;s like awakening from a nightmare and that is about the size of it. Internet porn is a supranormal drug. It is weakening your de-stressing mechanisms, your virility and your energy. The worst aspect of PMO isn&rsquo;t the injury to your health or manliness, it is the warping of the mind. You search for any plausible excuse to go on.</p> <p>I remember at one stage switching to static images, a failed attempt to cut down on internet porn, in the belief that it was less harmful and I could reign in my ‘habit’. I failed to see the ‘novelty’ and the ‘shock’ demands from my ‘little monster’ to just get more dopamine. Did I ‘stay’ within my boundaries? I ‘favorited’ 2 dimensional photos and my harem collection saw pictures and videos of ‘mild’ type porn rotating in and out like musical chair. When their ‘music’ stopped they ‘exited’. I didn’t understand the novelty-seeking, shock-seeking nature of my brain.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pied-and-my-excuses"><strong>PIED And My Excuses</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="pied-and-my-excuses"><strong>PIED And My Excuses</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pied-and-my-excuses"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.</p> <p>Most PMOers swear that they only watch static and soft porn and so they are OK. They are actually straining at the leash and thus fighting with their willpower to resist temptations. If they do this too often and for too long they will debit their willpower considerably and fail in other life projects where willpower is of much great value, like in daily exercise, dieting etc. Continuous failure in those areas will make them feel miserable and guilty and very soon they will find themselves back to their entitled relief. If not, they will vent their anger and depression onto their loved ones.</p> <p>The answer is that once you have become addicted to internet porn, the brainwashing is increased. Your subconscious mind knows that the little monster has to be fed and you block everything else from your mind. As I have already stated, it is fear that keeps people quitting, the fear of that empty, insecure feeling that you get when you stop supplying the brain with dopamine flooding. Just because you are not aware of it doesn&rsquo;t mean it isn&rsquo;t there. You don&rsquo;t have to understand it any more than a cat needs to understand where the under-floor hot-water pipes are. It just knows that if it sits in a certain place it gets the feeling of warmth.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind"><strong>The Passivity Of Our Mind</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind"><strong>The Passivity Of Our Mind</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-passivity-of-our-mind"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I&rsquo;ve frequently referred to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo; PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo;, but to stopping, quitting or the true position: <strong>ESCAPING!</strong></p> <p>The only thing that persuades us to PMO in the first place is all the other people doing it. We feel we are missing out. We work so hard to become hooked, yet nobody ever finds out what they have been missing. But every time we see another new video clip it reassures us that there must be something in it, otherwise people wouldn&rsquo;t be doing it - and it wouldn&rsquo;t be such big business all over the world. Even when he has kicked the habit, the ex-PMOer feels he is being deprived when a discussion on a sexy entertainer, singer or even a porn star comes up at a party or other social function. She or he must be good to have all my friends talk about them, no? Do they have ‘hot’ pictures of her in my tube site? He feels safe. He can have just one ‘peek’ that night. And, before he knows it, he is hooked again.</p> <p>This brainwashing is extremely powerful and you need to be aware of its effects. I have heard scare stories about wicked men giving heroin mixed candies to kids at schoolyards. The concept of addiction and being compelled to go on taking the drug, filled me with horror. Even to this day, in spite of the fact that I am fairly convinced that &lsquo;pot&rsquo; is not addictive, I would not dare take one puff of marijuana. How ironic that I should have ended up a porn junky. Technology will continue to grow and we will have even faster tube sites and more faster access methods. The industry is investing millions in Virtual Reality so it will become the next best thing. The point is, do we know where we are going? Are we equipped with an under armour of defence so we can enjoy the benefits of technology yet at the same time protect ourselves from its bad effects?</p> @@ -2585,8 +2652,9 @@ action more happy feelings.</p> <p>So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. All of which will now be stored as a script in your brain for easy access next time. I call this a ‘water slide’. Next time at the cue - a sexy commercial or alone time or stress or feeling a little down - you are ready to take a ride on the ‘water slide’. One more thing is that every time to repeat this you are ‘greasing’ it as well - so it is active, alive and more easier to slide the next time.</p> <p>As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating. Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish, ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you won’t on your first time.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="my-own-online-harem"><strong>My Own Online Harem!</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="my-own-online-harem"><strong>My Own Online Harem!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#my-own-online-harem"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost.</p> <p>Going back to the earlier discussion - in this cycle as you crossed the ‘red line’ you also trigger emotions such as guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety and fear - which in turn raise dopamine levels as well. Now the brain may mistakenly associate feelings of anxiety and fear as sexual arousal. This perpetual cycle is only broken by natural causes - fortunately sooner or later. With its free access and privacy it provides boundless harem-like novelty. The dopamine can be theoretically kept very high for a very very long time. I can be satisfied with one lobster once in awhile. But Internet porn is different. It is even worse than drugs. Don’t let me make you nervous. I will shortly show you how to be free from this slavery.</p> <p>Now our human body has a self-correcting system by which the number of dopamine and opioid receptors are cut short when frequent and daily ‘flooding’ of dopamine is detected. Unfortunately - these receptors are also needed for receiving dopamine and to keep us even and balanced to handle the inevitable and normal day-to-day stresses. But this natural nominal amount of dopamine will not be absorbed efficiently with decreased receptors and you will feel mores tressed and irritated than normal.</p> @@ -2600,14 +2668,16 @@ action more happy feelings.</p> use?</p> <p>This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I will explain more about this later.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-little-monster"><strong>The Little Monster</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-little-monster"><strong>The Little Monster</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-little-monster"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&rsquo; we think we just &lsquo;got into the habit&rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.</p> <p>Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, resulting in the feeling of fulfilment and pleasure that the action gives to the PMOer. In the early days, when we first start PMOing, the withdrawal pangs and their relief are so slight that we are not even aware that they exist. When we begin to masturbate regularly to internet porn we think it is because we&rsquo;ve either come to enjoy them or got into the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. The truth is we&rsquo;re already hooked; we do not realize it, but that little monster is already inside our stomach and every now and again we have to feed it.</p> <p>All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster. The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had before he became hooked in the first place.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm"><strong>The Annoying Burglar Alarm</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm"><strong>The Annoying Burglar Alarm</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-annoying-burglar-alarm"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain goes on. It is a chain for life - <strong>UNLESS YOU BREAK IT</strong>.</p> <p>The whole business of PMO is like wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure you feel when you take them off. There are three main reasons why PMOers cannot see things that way:</p> @@ -2620,8 +2690,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <p>The heroin doesn&rsquo;t relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a 14 year old in 2008 - didn&rsquo;t suffer the empty feeling of needing internet porn or start to panic when they are off- line. Non-PMOers cannot understand how PMOers can possibly obtain pleasure from two dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. And do you know something? PMOers themselves cannot understand why they do it after some time either.</p> <p>We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don&rsquo;t non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their &rsquo;little monster&rsquo;?</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch"><strong>A Pleasure or Crutch?</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch"><strong>A Pleasure or Crutch?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#a-pleasure-or-crutch"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;I need to eat.&rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.</p> <p>PMOing appears to be almost identical. The empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;wanting or needing an PMO orgasm’ is identical to a hunger for food, although one will not satisfy the other. Like hunger, there is no physical pain and the feeling is so imperceptible that we are not even aware of it between PMO sessions. It&rsquo;s only if we want to masturbate and aren&rsquo;t able to reach internet for porn that we become aware of any discomfort. But when we do PMO we feel satisfied.</p> <p>It is this similarity to eating which helps to fool PMOers into believing that they receive some genuine pleasure. Some PMOers find it very difficult to grasp that there is no pleasure or crutch, whatsoever to PMO. Some argue: “How can you say there is no crutch? When I orgasm up then I&rsquo;llfeel less nervous than before.”</p> @@ -2632,13 +2703,15 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <li>Eating doesn&rsquo;t create hunger and genuinely relieves it, whereas the first PMO starts the craving for dopamine and each subsequent one, far from relieving it, ensures that you suffer it for the rest of life.</li> </ol> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pmo-is-a-habit"><strong>PMO is a Habit?</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="pmo-is-a-habit"><strong>PMO is a Habit?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pmo-is-a-habit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.</p> <p>On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience, I also refer to the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> - we have to then have more bizarre and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting&hellip; not in the killing. If we don&rsquo;t then panic sets in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great!</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="crossing-the-red-line"><strong>Crossing The Red Line</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="crossing-the-red-line"><strong>Crossing The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#crossing-the-red-line"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.</p> <p>You feel better than you did before starting this PMO session but you are in fact more nervous and less relaxed than you would be as a non-PMOer, like someone who is living in Loma Linda or in an Amish village, even though you are actually PMOing and living in your supposed “porn paradise.” This position is even more ridiculous than wearing tight shoes because as you go through life an increasing amount of the discomfort remains even when the shoes are removed.</p> <p>Once the orgasm is achieved, the dopamine rapidly begins to leave the brain, causing a mood dip. Which explains why the PMOer wants to ‘edge’<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> and switch through multiple browser windows as they seek and search. As I said, the ‘habit’ doesn&rsquo;t exist. The real reason why every user goes on using internet porn is because of that little porn monster inside his stomach. Every now and again he has to feed it. The PMOer himself will decide when he does that and it tends to be on four types of occasion or a combination of them.</p> @@ -2650,20 +2723,23 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <p>What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If you think about it, what other types of occasion are there in our lives; apart from sleep? The truth is that PMO neither relieves boredom and stress nor promotes concentration and relaxation. It is all just illusion. Apart from being a drug, PMO is also a destroyer of happiness and virility.</p> <p>In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes, print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’ and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive without knowing the difference between food and poison.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"><strong>Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"><strong>Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!</p> <p>When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were titillating but most were disgusting, causing you to avert your eyes away. Like you would if had accidentally glanced a feeding mother’s breast. And some of us are even revolted with what they saw when the star reminded them of someone dear to their heart or a scene which recalled their own instance of being the victim. Some don’t feel like it to browse and masturbate at the same time. It may be hard to believe for you but the non-PMOs, who don’t PMO after their first time, are the lucky ones. They actually decided that it was not their cup of tea. It must be hard for you to believe but stay with me.</p> <p>How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even after a hard day? Why not? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That&rsquo;s all.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak"><strong>Are PMOers Mentally Weak?</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak"><strong>Are PMOers Mentally Weak?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#are-pmoers-mentally-weak"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.</p> <p>To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to become hooked, and this is why it is difficult to stop teenagers. Because they are skilled in seeking and finding material, they know online privacy options and can clean their tracks - if they still feel some stigma and they (wrongfully) believe they can stop whenever they want to. Why do they not learn from us? Then again, why did we not learn from our PMOers and addicts?</p> <p>Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of ‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying is the ritual of relieving those pangs.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"><strong>The High From The Dance Around The Red Line</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"><strong>The High From The Dance Around The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.</p> <p>Ask a user who believes that he sticks to a certain actor or genre - only because he likes something about the star or the theme (if any) of the clip: “If you cannot get your normal brand of porn and can only obtain a poor or unsafe brand, do you stop masturbating?” No way. A PMOer will masturbate to anything rather than abstain and it doesn&rsquo;t matter if he has to switch to escalating themes, different sex-orientation-themes, look-alike actresses, dangerous settings shocking relationships etc. To begin with they taste awful but if you persevere you will learn to like them. Most PMOers will also try to seek masturbation even after having real sex (unfulfilment, porn-induced unrealistic expectations etc.), or after a long, stressful work day, fever, colds, flu, sore throats and even when admitted in hospitals.</p> <p>Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wanted then it makes no sense to be with your laptop. During my conversation some PMOers find it alarming to realize they are drug addicts and think it will make it even more difficult to stop. In fact, it is all good news for two important reasons:</p> @@ -2673,14 +2749,16 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to </ol> <p>You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc. The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn&rsquo;t bother the PMOers.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-smokers-analogy"><strong>The Smokers Analogy</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-smokers-analogy"><strong>The Smokers Analogy</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-smokers-analogy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they&rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn&rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.</p> <p>PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their parents while visiting for family get togethers etc. with little discomfort to themselves. In fact, most PMOers have extended periods during which they abstain without effort. Even in my case I would quite happily go a week or so without a PMO incident. In the later years as a PMOer I actually used to look forward to these days when I could stop choking my penis (what a ridiculous &lsquo;habit&rsquo;).</p> <p>The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"><strong>The Big Monster - The Brainwashing</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"><strong>The Big Monster - The Brainwashing</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.</p> <p>Not all the amateurs are ‘amateurs’ on these tube sites, oversized body parts and overcharged scenarios are the norm, aided by a bit of the ‘viagran’ help.</p> <p>As I say, the actual porn addiction is not the main problem. It just acts as a catalyst to keep our minds confused over the real problem: the brainwashing. It may be of consolation to lifelong and heavy PMOers to know that it is just as easy for them to stop as casual PMOers. In a peculiar way. it is easier. The further you go along with the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;, the more it drags you down and the greater the gain when you stop.</p> @@ -2910,8 +2988,9 @@ Do not take anything for granted. Question not only what I tell you but also you https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/02-01-introduction/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo">&lsquo;I&rsquo;M GOING TO CURE THE WORLD OF PMO&rsquo;</h2> -</div> +<h2 id="im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo">&lsquo;I&rsquo;M GOING TO CURE THE WORLD OF PMO&rsquo; <a class="anchor" href="#im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>I was talking to my mentor. He thought that I had flipped. Understandable if you consider that he had watched me fail on numerous attempts to quit. The most recent had been two years previously. I&rsquo;d actually survived six months of sheer purgatory before I finally succumbed and found myself clicking on stacked up tabs of porn sites. I&rsquo;m not ashamed to admit that I cried like a baby. I was crying because I knew that I was condemned to be an addict for life. I&rsquo;d put so much effort into that attempt and suffered so much misery that I knew I would never have the strength to go through that ordeal again. I&rsquo;m not a violent man, but if some patronizing non-PMO’er had been stupid enough at that moment to suggest to me that all users can find it easy to quit, immediately and permanently, I would not have been responsible for my actions. However, I&rsquo;m convinced that any jury in the world, comprised of PMOers only, would have pardoned me on the grounds of justifiable homicide.</p> <p>Perhaps you too find it impossible to believe that any PMOer can find it easy to quit. If so, I beg you not to cast this book into the rubbish bin. Please trust me. I assure you that you can find it easy to quit.</p> @@ -3048,21 +3127,30 @@ porn and or masturbation&#160;<a href="#fnref:2" class="footn https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/00-00-hackbookeasypeasy/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h1 id="a-hrefhackbookhackbookpdfclick-to-download-hackbookeasypeasy-original-pdfa"><a href="https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook/hackbook.pdf">Click to download HackBookEasyPeasy (original pdf)</a></h1> -<h3 id="easypeasyway">EasyPeasyWay</h3> -<h4 id="httpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhomehttpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhome"><a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a></h4> -<p><em>HackBookEasyPeasy EasyPeasyWay <a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a> I am Allen Carr. I am also not Allen Carr. So yes I am not the author. I am the hack-author.</em></p> +<h1 id="a-hrefhackbookhackbookpdfclick-to-download-hackbookeasypeasy-original-pdfa"><a href="https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook/hackbook.pdf">Click to download HackBookEasyPeasy (original pdf)</a> <a class="anchor" href="#a-hrefhackbookhackbookpdfclick-to-download-hackbookeasypeasy-original-pdfa"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><h3 id="easypeasyway">EasyPeasyWay <a class="anchor" href="#easypeasyway"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><h4 id="httpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhomehttpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhome"><a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a> <a class="anchor" href="#httpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhomehttpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhome"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><p><em>HackBookEasyPeasy EasyPeasyWay <a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a> I am Allen Carr. I am also not Allen Carr. So yes I am not the author. I am the hack-author.</em></p> <p><em>I hacked Allen Carr’s book and his method of de-addiction to adapt it for PMO. Why? Because his method helped me in getting rid of cigarettes, alcohol and then PMO. Why did I hack his work? Because he is dead now. And the institution that he had formed does not list Internet pornography as one of the addictions that it provides services for. I don&rsquo;t gain monetarily or otherwise. Above all - you won’t ‘find’ me in this book. Myself and Allen will appear and disappear in this book to provide you with an unique and effective method to get your mind de-addicted.</em></p> -<h4 id="important-advice-for-you"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong></h4> -<p><em>The common thread running through Allen Carr&rsquo;s work is the removal of fear. Indeed, his genius lies in eliminating the phobias and anxieties which prevent people from being able to enjoy life to the full, as his best-selling books vividly demonstrate. His method is solid and has high success rates. It helped cure me of not one but three addictions. There is a network of clinics that uses his methods that span the globe and has a phenomenal reputation for success in helping people to quit addictions (except PMO). Their success rate is over 95% with money-back guarantees.</em></p> +<h4 id="important-advice-for-you"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#important-advice-for-you"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#do-not-jump-chapters"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><p><em>The common thread running through Allen Carr&rsquo;s work is the removal of fear. Indeed, his genius lies in eliminating the phobias and anxieties which prevent people from being able to enjoy life to the full, as his best-selling books vividly demonstrate. His method is solid and has high success rates. It helped cure me of not one but three addictions. There is a network of clinics that uses his methods that span the globe and has a phenomenal reputation for success in helping people to quit addictions (except PMO). Their success rate is over 95% with money-back guarantees.</em></p> <p><em>Hackbook : A book based and hacked from another book. The original author is credited fully.</em></p> -<h4 id="important-advice-for-you-1"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters-1"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence-1"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong></h4> -<p><em>Dr. Albert Ellis&rsquo; autobiography - &ldquo;All Out!&rdquo;</em></p> +<h4 id="important-advice-for-you-1"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#important-advice-for-you-1"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters-1"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#do-not-jump-chapters-1"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence-1"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence-1"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><p><em>Dr. Albert Ellis&rsquo; autobiography - &ldquo;All Out!&rdquo;</em></p> <p><em>“I used to wrongly think that most of them (addicts) were aided by self-help groups like AA, by therapy, or some other real support. But no. The facts show that more people surrender their addictions on their own-without any notable help from others. How? Mainly by seeing, acknowledging, and emphasizing how hard it is not to stop and how much easier it is-in the long run- to suffer through the withdrawal process.”</em></p> </div> @@ -3074,8 +3162,9 @@ formed does not list Internet pornography as one of the addictions that it provi Sat, 17 Dec 2022 22:33:25 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/pluralization-issues/ - <h3 id="this-is-my-first-entry-and-im-already-having-issues-lol">this is my first entry and i&rsquo;m already having issues lol</h3> -<p>So I wanted to make a quick entry, see how it looks like and I stumbled upon this issue of hugo pluralzing Blog into Blogs</p> + <h3 id="this-is-my-first-entry-and-im-already-having-issues-lol">this is my first entry and i&rsquo;m already having issues lol <a class="anchor" href="#this-is-my-first-entry-and-im-already-having-issues-lol"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>So I wanted to make a quick entry, see how it looks like and I stumbled upon this issue of hugo pluralzing Blog into Blogs</p> <p>You can fix this in config.toml with the following line</p> <blockquote> <div class="highlight"><pre tabindex="0" style="color:#f8f8f2;background-color:#272822;-moz-tab-size:4;-o-tab-size:4;tab-size:4;"><code class="language-toml" data-lang="toml"><span style="display:flex;"><span><span style="color:#a6e22e">pluralizelisttitles</span> = <span style="color:#66d9ef">false</span> @@ -3089,11 +3178,13 @@ formed does not list Internet pornography as one of the addictions that it provi Sat, 17 Dec 2022 17:20:18 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/helloworld/ - <h1 id="obligatory-hello-world">Obligatory Hello World!</h1> -<p>trying to see which hugo theme i like best</p> + <h1 id="obligatory-hello-world">Obligatory Hello World! <a class="anchor" href="#obligatory-hello-world"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><p>trying to see which hugo theme i like best</p> <p>had some issues with papermod and their css not working so for now i&rsquo;ll use lugo</p> -<h2 id="stuff-i-like">stuff i like</h2> -<ul> +<h2 id="stuff-i-like">stuff i like <a class="anchor" href="#stuff-i-like"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ul> <li>touching grass and nature in general (wannabe farmer)</li> <li>にっぽんese <ul> diff --git a/new-site/public/helloworld/index.html b/new-site/public/helloworld/index.html index 9dcd0d57..ad6b6d4c 100644 --- a/new-site/public/helloworld/index.html +++ b/new-site/public/helloworld/index.html @@ -1,30 +1,32 @@ - - - - Hello World | vodoraslo - - - - - + + Hello World | vodoraslo + + + + + - - - - - - -
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        diff --git a/new-site/public/index.xml b/new-site/public/index.xml index 6f41f276..c1e3fdb6 100644 --- a/new-site/public/index.xml +++ b/new-site/public/index.xml @@ -16,8 +16,9 @@ Thu, 23 Mar 2023 18:06:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/ted-kaczynski/industrial-society-and-its-future/ - <h2 id="introduction">Introduction</h2> -<ol> + <h2 id="introduction">Introduction <a class="anchor" href="#introduction"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li> <p>The Industrial Revolution and its consequences have been a disaster for the human race. They have greatly increased the life expectancy of those of us who live in “advanced” countries, but they have destabilized society, have made life unfulfilling, have subjected human beings to indignities, have led to widespread psychological suffering (in the Third World to physical suffering as well) and have inflicted severe damage on the natural world. The continued development of technology will worsen the situation. It will certainly subject human beings to greater indignities and inflict greater damage on the natural world, it will probably lead to greater social disruption and psychological suffering, and it may lead to increased physical suffering even in “advanced” countries.</p> </li> @@ -34,8 +35,9 @@ <p>In this article we give attention to only some of the negative developments that have grown out of the industrial-technological system. Other such developments we mention only briefly or ignore altogether. This does not mean that we regard these other developments as unimportant. For practical reasons we have to confine our discussion to areas that have received insufficient public attention or in which we have something new to say. For example, since there are well-developed environmental and wilderness movements, we have written very little about environmental degradation or the destruction of wild nature, even though we consider these to be highly important.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-psychology-of-modern-leftism">The Psychology of Modern Leftism</h2> -<ol start="6"> +<h2 id="the-psychology-of-modern-leftism">The Psychology of Modern Leftism <a class="anchor" href="#the-psychology-of-modern-leftism"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="6"> <li> <p>Almost everyone will agree that we live in a deeply troubled society. One of the most widespread manifestations of the craziness of our world is leftism, so a discussion of the psychology of leftism can serve as an introduction to the discussion of the problems of modern society in general.</p> </li> @@ -49,8 +51,9 @@ <p>The two psychological tendencies that underlie modern leftism we call feelings of inferiority and oversocialization. Feelings of inferiority are characteristic of modern leftism as a whole, while oversocialization is characteristic only of a certain segment of modern leftism; but this segment is highly influential.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="feelings-of-inferiority">Feelings of Inferiority</h2> -<ol start="10"> +<h2 id="feelings-of-inferiority">Feelings of Inferiority <a class="anchor" href="#feelings-of-inferiority"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="10"> <li> <p>By “feelings of inferiority” we mean not only inferiority feelings in the strict sense but a whole spectrum of related traits: low self-esteem, feelings of powerlessness, depressive tendencies, defeatism, guilt, self-hatred, etc. We argue that modern leftists tend to have some such feelings (possibly more or less repressed), and that these feelings are decisive in determining the direction of modern leftism.</p> </li> @@ -94,8 +97,9 @@ <p>We emphasize that the foregoing does not pretend to be an accurate description of everyone who might be considered a leftist. It is only a rough indication of a general tendency of leftism.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="oversocialization">Oversocialization</h2> -<ol start="24"> +<h2 id="oversocialization">Oversocialization <a class="anchor" href="#oversocialization"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="24"> <li> <p>Psychologists use the term “socialization” to designate the process by which children are trained to think and act as society demands. A person is said to be well socialized if he believes in and obeys the moral code of his society and fits in well as a functioning part of that society. It may seem senseless to say that many leftists are oversocialized, since the leftist is perceived as a rebel. Nevertheless, the position can be defended. Many leftists are not such rebels as they seem.</p> </li> @@ -124,8 +128,9 @@ <p>The problems of the leftist are indicative of the problems of our society as a whole. Low self-esteem, depressive tendencies and defeatism are not restricted to the left. Though they are especially noticeable in the left, they are widespread in our society. And today’s society tries to socialize us to a greater extent than any previous society. We are even told by experts how to eat, how to exercise, how to make love, how to raise our kids and so forth.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-power-process">The Power Process</h2> -<ol start="33"> +<h2 id="the-power-process">The Power Process <a class="anchor" href="#the-power-process"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="33"> <li> <p>Human beings have a need (probably based in biology) for something that we will call the power process. This is closely related to the need for power (which is widely recognized) but is not quite the same thing. The power process has four elements. The three most clear-cut of these we call goal, effort and attainment of goal. (Everyone needs to have goals whose attainment requires effort, and needs to succeed in attaining at least some of his goals.) The fourth element is more difficult to define and may not be necessary for everyone. We call it autonomy and will discuss it later (paragraphs 42–44).</p> </li> @@ -142,8 +147,9 @@ <p>Thus, in order to avoid serious psychological problems, a human being needs goals whose attainment requires effort, and he must have a reasonable rate of success in attaining his goals.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="surrogate-activities">Surrogate Activities</h2> -<ol start="38"> +<h2 id="surrogate-activities">Surrogate Activities <a class="anchor" href="#surrogate-activities"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="38"> <li> <p>But not every leisured aristocrat becomes bored and demoralized. For example, the emperor Hirohito, instead of sinking into decadent hedonism, devoted himself to marine biology, a field in which he became distinguished. When people do not have to exert themselves to satisfy their physical needs they often set up artificial goals for themselves. In many cases they then pursue these goals with the same energy and emotional involvement that they otherwise would have put into the search for physical necessities. Thus the aristocrats of the Roman Empire had their literary pretensions; many European aristocrats a few centuries ago invested tremendous time and energy in hunting, though they certainly didn’t need the meat; other aristocracies have competed for status through elaborate displays of wealth; and a few aristocrats, like Hirohito, have turned to science.</p> </li> @@ -157,8 +163,9 @@ <p>For many if not most people, surrogate activities are less satistying than the pursuit of real goals (that is, goals that people would want to attain even if their need for the power process were already fulfilled). One indication of this is the fact that, in many or most cases, people who are deeply involved in surrogate activities are never satisfied, never at rest. Thus the money-maker constantly strives for more and more wealth. The scientist no sooner solves one problem than he moves on to the next. The long-distance runner drives himself to run always farther and faster. Many people who pursue surrogate activities will say that they get far more fulfillment from these activities than they do from the “mundane” business of satisfying their biological needs, but that is because in our society the effort required to satisfy the biological needs has been reduced to triviality. More importantly, in our society people do not satisty their biological needs AUTONOMOUSLY but by functioning as parts of an immense social machine. In contrast, people generally have a great deal of autonomy in pursuing their surrogate activities.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="autonomy">Autonomy</h2> -<ol start="42"> +<h2 id="autonomy">Autonomy <a class="anchor" href="#autonomy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="42"> <li> <p>Autonomy as a part of the power process may not be necessary for every individual. But most people need a greater or lesser degree of autonomy in working toward their goals. Their efforts must be undertaken on their own initiative and must be under their own direction and control. Yet most people do not have to exert this initiative, direction and control as single individuals. It is usually enough to act as a member of a SMALL group. Thus if half a dozen people discuss a goal among themselves and make a successful joint effort to attain that goal, their need for the power process will be served. But if they work under rigid orders handed down from above that leave them no room for autonomous decision and initiative, then their need for the power process will not be served. The same is true when decisions are made on a collective basis if the group making the collective decision is so large that the role of each individual is insignificant.<sup id="fnref:5"><a href="#fn:5" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">5</a></sup></p> </li> @@ -169,8 +176,9 @@ <p>But for most people it is through the power process—having a goal, making an AUTONOMOUS effort and attaining the goal—that self-esteem, self-confidence and a sense of power are acquired. When one does not have adequate opportunity to go through the power process the consequences are (depending on the individual and on the way the power process is disrupted) boredom, demoralization, low self-esteem, inferiority feelings, defeatism, depression, anxiety, guilt, frustration, hostility, spouse or child abuse, insatiable hedonism, abnormal sexual behavior, sleep disorders, eating disorders, etc.<sup id="fnref:6"><a href="#fn:6" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">6</a></sup></p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="sources-of-social-problems">Sources of Social Problems</h2> -<ol start="45"> +<h2 id="sources-of-social-problems">Sources of Social Problems <a class="anchor" href="#sources-of-social-problems"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="45"> <li> <p>Any of the foregoing symptoms can occur in any society, but in modern industrial society they are present on a massive scale. We aren’t the first to mention that the world today seems to be going crazy. This sort of thing is not normal for human societies. There is good reason to believe that primitive man suffered from less stress and frustration and was better satisfied with his way of life than modern man is. It is true that not all was sweetness and light in primitive societies. Abuse of women was common among the Australian aborigines, transsexuality was fairly common among some of the American Indian tribes. But it does appear that GENERALLY SPEAKING the kinds of problems that we have listed in the preceding paragraph were far less common among primitive peoples than they are in modern society.</p> </li> @@ -214,8 +222,9 @@ <p>It would be possible to give other examples of societies in which there has been rapid change and/or lack of close community ties without the kind of massive behavioral aberration that is seen in today’s industrial society. We contend that the most important cause of social and psychological problems in modern society is the fact that people have insufficient opportunity to go through the power process in a normal way. We don’t mean to say that modern society is the only one in which the power process has been disrupted. Probably most if not all civilized societies have interfered with the power process to a greater or lesser extent. But in modern industrial society the problem has become particularly acute. Leftism, at least in its recent (mid- to late-20th century) form, is in part a symptom of deprivation with respect to the power process.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="disruption-of-the-power-process-in-modern-society">Disruption of the Power Process in Modern Society</h2> -<ol start="59"> +<h2 id="disruption-of-the-power-process-in-modern-society">Disruption of the Power Process in Modern Society <a class="anchor" href="#disruption-of-the-power-process-in-modern-society"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="59"> <li> <p>We divide human drives into three groups: (1) those drives that can be satisfied with minimal effort; (2) those that can be satisfied but only at the cost of serious effort; (3) those that cannot be adequately satisfied no matter how much effort one makes. The power process is the process of satistying the drives of the second group. The more drives there are in the third group, the more there is frustration, anger, eventually defeatism, depression, etc.</p> </li> @@ -271,8 +280,9 @@ <p>In response to the arguments of this section someone will say, “Society must find a way to give people the opportunity to go through the power process.” This won’t work for those who need autonomy in the power process. For such people the value of the opportunity is destroyed by the very fact that society gives it to them. What they need is to find or make their own opportunities. As long as the system GIVES them their opportunities it still has them on a leash. To attain autonomy they must get off that leash.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="how-some-people-adjust">How Some People Adjust</h2> -<ol start="77"> +<h2 id="how-some-people-adjust">How Some People Adjust <a class="anchor" href="#how-some-people-adjust"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="77"> <li> <p>Not everyone in industrial-technological society suffers from psychological problems. Some people even profess to be quite satisfied with society as it is. We now discuss some of the reasons why people differ so greatly in their response to modern society.</p> </li> @@ -304,8 +314,9 @@ <p>But even if most people in industrial-technological society were well satisfied, we (FC) would still be opposed to that form of society, because (among other reasons) we consider it demeaning to fulfill one’s need for the power process through surrogate activities or through identification with an organization, rather than through pursuit of real goals.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-motives-of-scientists">The Motives of Scientists</h2> -<ol start="87"> +<h2 id="the-motives-of-scientists">The Motives of Scientists <a class="anchor" href="#the-motives-of-scientists"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="87"> <li> <p>Science and technology provide the most important examples of surrogate activities. Some scientists claim that they are motivated by “curiosity” or by a desire to “benefit humanity.” But it is easy to see that neither of these can be the principal motive of most scientists. As for “curiosity,” that notion is simply absurd. Most scientists work on highly specialized problems that are not the object of any normal curiosity. For example, is an astronomer, a mathematician or an entomologist curious about the properties of isopropyltrimethylmethane? Of course not. Only a chemist is curious about such a thing, and he is curious about it only because chemistry is his surrogate activity. Is the chemist curious about the appropriate classification of a new species of beetle? No. That question is of interest only to the entomologist, and he is interested in it only because entomology is his surrogate activity. If the chemist and the entomologist had to exert themselves seriously to obtain the physical necessities, and if that effort exercised their abilities in an interesting way but in some nonscientific pursuit, then they wouldn’t give a damn about isopropyltrimethylmethane or the classification of beetles. Suppose that lack of funds for postgraduate education had led the chemist to become an insurance broker instead of a chemist. In that case he would have been very interested in insurance matters but would have cared nothing about isopropyltrimcthylmethane. In any case it is not normal to put into the satisfaction of mere curiosity the amount of time and effort that scientists put into their work. The “curiosity” explanation for the scientists’ motive just doesn’t stand up.</p> </li> @@ -325,8 +336,9 @@ <p>Thus science marches on blindly, without regard to the real welfare of the human race or to any other standard, obedient only to the psychological needs of the scientists and of the government officials and corporation executives who provide the funds for research.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-nature-of-freedom">The Nature of Freedom</h2> -<ol start="93"> +<h2 id="the-nature-of-freedom">The Nature of Freedom <a class="anchor" href="#the-nature-of-freedom"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="93"> <li> <p>We are going to argue that industrial-technological society cannot be reformed in such a way as to prevent it from progressively narrowing the sphere of human freedom. But because “freedom” is a word that can be interpreted in many ways, we must first make clear what kind of freedom we are concerned with.</p> </li> @@ -346,8 +358,9 @@ <p>One more point to be made in this section: It should not be assumed that a person has enough freedom just because he SAYS he has enough. Freedom is restricted in part by psychological controls of which people are unconscious, and moreover many people’s ideas of what constitutes freedom are governed more by social convention than by their real needs. For example, it’s likely that many leftists of the oversocialized type would say that most people, including themselves, are socialized too little rather than too much, yet the oversocialized leftist pays a heavy psychological price for his high level of socialization.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="some-principles-of-history">Some Principles of History</h2> -<ol start="99"> +<h2 id="some-principles-of-history">Some Principles of History <a class="anchor" href="#some-principles-of-history"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="99"> <li> <p>Think of history as being the sum of two components: an erratic component that consists of unpredictable events that follow no discernible pattern, and a regular component that consists of long-term historical trends. Here we are concerned with the long-term trends.</p> </li> @@ -385,8 +398,9 @@ <p>Still, one has to use common sense in applying the principles. They are expressed in imprecise language that allows latitude for interpretation, and exceptions to them can be found. So we present these principles not as inviolable laws but as rules of thumb, or guides to thinking, that may provide a partial antidote to naive ideas about the future of society. The principles should be borne constantly in mind, and whenever one reaches a conclusion that conflicts with them one should carefully reexamine one’s thinking and retain the conclusion only if one has good, solid reasons for doing so.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="industrial-technological-society-cannot-be-reformed">Industrial-Technological Society Cannot Be Reformed</h2> -<ol start="111"> +<h2 id="industrial-technological-society-cannot-be-reformed">Industrial-Technological Society Cannot Be Reformed <a class="anchor" href="#industrial-technological-society-cannot-be-reformed"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="111"> <li> <p>The foregoing principles help to show how hopelessly difficult it would be to reform the industrial system in such a way as to prevent it from progressively narrowing our sphere of freedom. There has been a consistent tendency, going back at least to the Industrial Revolution, for technology to strengthen the system at a high cost in individual freedom and local autonomy. Hence any change designed to protect freedom from technology would be contrary to a fundamental trend in the development of our society. Consequently, such a change either would be a transitory one—soon swamped by the tide of history—or, if large enough to be permanent, would alter the nature of our whole society. This by the first and second principles. Moreover, since society would be altered in a way that could not be predicted in advance (third principle) there would be great risk. Changes large enough to make a lasting difference in favor of freedom would not be initiated because it would be realized that they would gravely disrupt the system. So any attempts at reform would be too timid to be effective. Even if changes large enough to make a lasting difference were initiated, they would be retracted when their disruptive effects became apparent. Thus, permanent changes in favor of freedom could be brought about only by persons prepared to accept radical, dangerous and unpredictable alteration of the entire system. In other words by revolutionaries, not reformers.</p> </li> @@ -397,8 +411,9 @@ <p>So even on very general grounds it seems highly improbable that any way of changing society could be found that would reconcile freedom with modern technology. In the next few sections we will give more specific reasons for concluding that freedom and technological progress are incompatible.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="restriction-of-freedom-is-unavoidable-in-industrial-society">Restriction of Freedom is Unavoidable in Industrial Society</h2> -<ol start="114"> +<h2 id="restriction-of-freedom-is-unavoidable-in-industrial-society">Restriction of Freedom is Unavoidable in Industrial Society <a class="anchor" href="#restriction-of-freedom-is-unavoidable-in-industrial-society"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="114"> <li> <p>As explained in paragraphs 65–67, 70–73, modern man is strapped down by a network of rules and regulations, and his fate depends on the actions of persons remote from him whose decisions he cannot influence. This is not accidental or a result of the arbitrariness of arrogant bureaucrats. It is necessary and inevitable in any technologically advanced society. The system HAS TO regulate human behavior closely in order to function. At work, people have to do what they are told to do, when they are told to do it and in the way they are told to do it, otherwise production would be thrown into chaos. Bureaucracies HAVE TO be run according to rigid rules. To allow any substantial personal discretion to lower-level bureaucrats would disrupt the system and lead to charges of unfairness due to differences in the way individual bureaucrats exercised their discretion. It is true that some restrictions on our freedom could be eliminated. but GENERALLY SPEAKING the regulation of our lives by large organizations is necessary for the functioning of industrial-technological society. The result is a sense of powerlessness on the part of the average person. It may be. however. that formal regulations will tend increasingly to be replaced by psychological tools that make us want to do what the system requires of us. (Propaganda,<sup id="fnref1:14"><a href="#fn:14" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">14</a></sup> educational techniques, “mental health” programs, etc.)</p> </li> @@ -421,8 +436,9 @@ <p>Efforts to make room for a sense of purpose and for autonomy within the system are no better than a joke. For example, one company, instead of having each of its employees assemble only one section of a catalogue, had each assemble a whole catalogue, and this was supposed to give them a sense of purpose and achievement. Some companies have tried to give their employees more autonomy in their work, but for practical reasons this usually can be done only to a very limited extent, and in any case employees are never given autonomy as to ultimate goals—their “autonomous” efforts can never be directed toward goals that they select personally, but only toward their employer’s goals, such as the survival and growth of the company. Any company would soon go out of business if it permitted its employees to act otherwise. Similarly, in any enterprise within a socialist system, workers must direct their efforts toward the goals of the enterprise, otherwise the enterprise will not serve its purpose as part of the system. Once again, for purely technical reasons it is not possible for most individuals or small groups to have much autonomy in industrial society. Even the small-business owner commonly has only limited autonomy. Apart from the necessity of government regulation, he is restricted by the fact that he must fit into the economic system and conform to its requirements. For instance, when someone develops a new technology, the small-business person often has to use that technology whether he wants to or not, in order to remain competitive.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-bad-parts-of-technology-cannot-be-separated-from-the-good-parts">The “Bad” Parts of Technology Cannot Be Separated from the “Good” Parts</h2> -<ol start="121"> +<h2 id="the-bad-parts-of-technology-cannot-be-separated-from-the-good-parts">The “Bad” Parts of Technology Cannot Be Separated from the “Good” Parts <a class="anchor" href="#the-bad-parts-of-technology-cannot-be-separated-from-the-good-parts"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="121"> <li> <p>A further reason why industrial society cannot be reformed in favor of freedom is that modern technology is a unified system in which all parts are dependent on one another. You can’t get rid of the “bad” parts of technology and retain only the “good” parts. Take modern medicine, for example. Progress in medical science depends on progress in chemistry, physics, biology, computer science and other fields. Advanced medical treatments require expensive, high-tech equipment that can be made available only by a technologically progressive, economically rich society. Clearly you can’t have much progress in medicine without the whole technological system and everything that goes with it.</p> </li> @@ -436,8 +452,9 @@ <p>The usual response to such concerns is to talk about “medical ethics.” But a code of ethics would not serve to protect freedom in the face of medical progress; it would only make matters worse. A code of ethics applicable to genetic engineering would be in effect a means of regulating the genetic constitution of human beings. Somebody (probably the upper middle class, mostly) would decide that such and such applications of genetic engineering were “ethical” and others were not, so that in effect they would be imposing their own values on the genetic constitution of the population at large. Even if a code of ethics were chosen on a completely democratic basis, the majority would be imposing their own values on any minorities who might have a different idea of what constituted an “ethical” use of genetic engineering. The only code of ethics that would truly protect freedom would be one that prohibited ANY genetic engineering of human beings, and you can be sure that no such code will ever be applied in a technological society. No code that reduced genetic engineering to a minor role could stand up for long, because the temptation presented by the immense power of biotechnology would be irresistible, especially since to the majority of people many of its applications will seem obviously and unequivocally good (eliminating physical and mental diseases, giving people the abilities they need to get along in today’s world). Inevitably, genetic engineering will be used extensively, but only in ways consistent with the needs of the industrial-technological system.<sup id="fnref:20"><a href="#fn:20" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">20</a></sup></p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="technology-is-a-more-powerful-social-force-than-the-aspiration-for-freedom">Technology is a More Powerful Social Force than the Aspiration for Freedom</h2> -<ol start="125"> +<h2 id="technology-is-a-more-powerful-social-force-than-the-aspiration-for-freedom">Technology is a More Powerful Social Force than the Aspiration for Freedom <a class="anchor" href="#technology-is-a-more-powerful-social-force-than-the-aspiration-for-freedom"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="125"> <li> <p>It is not possible to make a LASTING compromise between technology and freedom, because technology is by far the more powerful social force and continually encroaches on freedom through REPEATED compromises. Imagine the case of two neighbors, each of whom at the outset owns the same amount of land, but one of whom is more powerful than the other. The powerful one demands a piece of the other’s land. The weak one refuses. The powerful one says, “Okay, let’s compromise. Give me half of what I asked.” The weak one has little choice but to give in. Some time later the powerful neighbor demands another piece of land, again there is a compromise, and so forth. By forcing a long series of compromises on the weaker man, the powerful one eventually gets all of his land. So it goes in the conflict between technology and freedom.</p> </li> @@ -472,8 +489,9 @@ <p>In paragraph 125 we used an analogy of a weak neighbor who is left destitute by a strong neighbor who takes all his land by forcing on him a series of compromises. But suppose now that the strong neighbor gets sick, so that he is unable to defend himself. The weak neighbor can force the strong one to give him his land back, or he can kill him. If he lets the strong man survive and only forces him to give the land back, he is a fool, because when the strong man gets well he will again take all the land for himself. The only sensible alternative for the weaker man is to kill the strong one while he has the chance. In the same way, while the industrial system is sick we must destroy it. If we compromise with it and let it recover from its sickness, it will eventually wipe out all of our freedom.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="simpler-social-problems-have-proved-intractable">Simpler Social Problems Have Proved Intractable</h2> -<ol start="136"> +<h2 id="simpler-social-problems-have-proved-intractable">Simpler Social Problems Have Proved Intractable <a class="anchor" href="#simpler-social-problems-have-proved-intractable"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="136"> <li> <p>If anyone still imagines that it would be possible to reform the system in such a way as to protect freedom from technology, let him consider how clumsily and for the most part unsuccessfully our society has dealt with other social problems that are far more simple and straightforward. Among other things, the system has failed to stop environmental degradation, political corruption, drug trafficking or domestic abuse.</p> </li> @@ -487,8 +505,9 @@ <p>And note this important difference: It is conceivable that our environmental problems (for example) may some day be settled through a rational, comprehensive plan, but if this happens it will be only because it is in the long-term interest of the system to solve these problems. But it is NOT in the interest of the system to preserve freedom or small-group autonomy. On the contrary, it is in the interest of the system to bring human behavior under control to the greatest possible extent.<sup id="fnref:24"><a href="#fn:24" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">24</a></sup> Thus, while practical considerations may eventually force the system to take a rational, prudent approach to environmental problems, equally practical considerations will force the system to regulate human behavior ever more closely (preferably by indirect means that will disguise the encroachment on freedom). This isn’t just our opinion. Eminent social scientists (e.g., James Q. Wilson) have stressed the importance of “socializing” people more effectively.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="revolution-is-easier-than-reform">Revolution is Easier than Reform</h2> -<ol start="140"> +<h2 id="revolution-is-easier-than-reform">Revolution is Easier than Reform <a class="anchor" href="#revolution-is-easier-than-reform"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="140"> <li> <p>We hope we have convinced the reader that the system cannot be reformed in such a way as to reconcile freedom with technology. The only way out is to dispense with the industrial-technological system altogether. This implies revolution, not necessarily an armed uprising, but certainly a radical and fundamental change in the nature of society.</p> </li> @@ -499,8 +518,9 @@ <p>Reform is always restrained by the fear of painful consequences if changes go too far. But once a revolutionary fever has taken hold of a society, people are willing to undergo unlimited hardships for the sake of their revolution. This was clearly shown in the French and Russian Revolutions. It may be that in such cases only a minoriry of the population is really committed to the revolution, but this minority is sufficiently large and active so that it becomes the dominant force in society. We will have more to say about revolution in paragraphs 180–205).</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="control-of-human-behavior">Control of Human Behavior</h2> -<ol start="143"> +<h2 id="control-of-human-behavior">Control of Human Behavior <a class="anchor" href="#control-of-human-behavior"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="143"> <li> <p>Since the beginning of civilization, organized societies have had to put pressures on human beings for the sake of the functioning of the social organism. The kinds of pressures vary greatly from one society to another. Some of the pressures are physical (poor diet, excessive labor, environmental pollution), some are psychological (noise, crowding, forcing human behavior into the mold that society requires). In the past, human nature has been approximately constant, or at any rate has varied only within certain bounds. Consequently, societies have been able to push people only up to certain limits. When the limit of human endurance has been passed, things start going wrong: rebellion, or crime, or corruption, or evasion of work, or depression and other mental problems, or an elevated death rate, or a declining birth rate or something else, so that either the society breaks down, or its functioning becomes too inefficient and it is (quickly or gradually, through conquest, attrition or evolution) replaced by some more efficient form of society.<sup id="fnref:25"><a href="#fn:25" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">25</a></sup></p> </li> @@ -556,8 +576,9 @@ <p>To those who think that all this sounds like science fiction, we point out that yesterday’s science fiction is today’s fact. The Industrial Revolution has radically altered man’s environment and way of life, and it is only to be expected that as technology is increasingly applied to the human body and mind, man himself will be altered as radically as his environment and way of life have been.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="human-race-at-a-crossroads">Human Race at a Crossroads</h2> -<ol start="161"> +<h2 id="human-race-at-a-crossroads">Human Race at a Crossroads <a class="anchor" href="#human-race-at-a-crossroads"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="161"> <li> <p>But we have gotten ahead of our story. It is one thing to develop in the laboratory a series of psychological or biological techniques for manipulating human behavior and quite another to integrate these techniques into a functioning social system. The latter problem is the more difficult of the two. For example, while the techniques of educational psychology doubtless work quite well in the “lab schools” where they are developed, it is not necessarily easy to apply them effectively throughout our educational system. We all know what many of our schools are like. The teachers are too busy taking knives and guns away from the kids to subject them to the latest techniques for making them into computer nerds. Thus, in spite of all its technical advances relating to human behavior, the system to date has not been impressively successful in controlling human beings. The people whose behavior is fairly well under the control of the system are those of the type that might be called “bourgeois.” But there are growing numbers of people who in one way or another are rebels against the system: welfare leeches, youth gangs, cultists, satanists, Nazis, radical environmentalists, militia-men, etc.</p> </li> @@ -577,8 +598,9 @@ <p>Therefore two tasks confront those who hate the servitude to which the industrial system is reducing the human race. First, we must work to heighten the social stresses within the system so as to increase the likelihood that it will break down or be weakened sufficiently so that a revolution against it becomes possible. Second, it is necessary to develop and propagate an ideology that opposes technology and the industrial system. Such an ideology can become the basis for a revolution against industrial society if and when the system becomes sufficiently weakened. And such an ideology will help to assure that, if and when industrial society breaks down, its remnants will be smashed beyond repair, so that the system cannot be reconstituted. The factories should be destroyed, technical books burned, etc.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="human-suffering">Human Suffering</h2> -<ol start="167"> +<h2 id="human-suffering">Human Suffering <a class="anchor" href="#human-suffering"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="167"> <li> <p>The industrial system will not break down purely as a result of revolutionary action. It will not be vulnerable to revolutionary attack unless its own internal problems of development lead it into very serious difficulties. So if the system breaks down it will do so either spontaneously, or through a process that is in part spontaneous but helped along by revolutionaries. If the breakdown is sudden, many people will die, since the world’s population has become so overblown that it cannot even feed itself any longer without advanced technology. Even if the breakdown is gradual enough so that reduction of the population can occur more through lowering of the birth rate than through elevation of the death rate, the process of de-industrialization probably will be very chaotic and involve much suffering. It is naive to think it likely that technology can be phased out in a smoothly managed, orderly way, especially since the technophiles will fight stubbornly at every step. Is it therefore cruel to work for the breakdown of the system? Maybe, but maybe not. In the first place, revolutionaries will not be able to break the system down unless it is already in enough trouble so that there would be a good chance of its eventually breaking down by itself anyway; and the bigger the system grows, the more disastrous the consequences of its breakdown will be; so it may be that revolutionaries, by hastening the onset of the breakdown, will be reducing the extent of the disaster.</p> </li> @@ -592,8 +614,9 @@ <p>“Oh!” say the technophiles, “Science is going to fix all that! We will conquer famine, eliminate psychological suffering, make everybody healthy and happy!” Yeah, sure. That’s what they said 200 years ago. The Industrial Revolution was supposed to eliminate poverty, make everybody happy, etc. The actual result has been quite different. The technophiles are hopelessly naive (or self-deceiving) in their understanding of social problems. They are unaware of (or choose to ignore) the fact that when large changes, even seemingly beneficial ones, are introduced into a society, they lead to a long sequence of other changes, most of which are impossible to predict (paragraph 103). In the mean time there will be great suffering. So it is not at all clear that the survival of industrial society would involve less suffering than the breakdown of that society would. Technology has gotten the human race into a fix from which there is not likely to be any easy escape.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-future">The Future</h2> -<ol start="171"> +<h2 id="the-future">The Future <a class="anchor" href="#the-future"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="171"> <li> <p>But suppose now that industrial society does survive the next several decades and that the bugs do eventually get worked out of the system, so that it functions smoothly. What kind of system will it be? We will consider several possibilities.</p> </li> @@ -622,8 +645,9 @@ <p>It would be better to dump the whole stinking system and take the consequences.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="strategy">Strategy</h2> -<ol start="180"> +<h2 id="strategy">Strategy <a class="anchor" href="#strategy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="180"> <li> <p>The technophiles are taking us all on an utterly reckless ride into the unknown. Many people understand something of what technological progress is doing to us, yet take a passive attitude toward it because they think it is inevitable. But we (FC) don’t think it is inevitable. We think it can be stopped, and we will give here some indications of how to go about stopping it.</p> </li> @@ -706,8 +730,9 @@ <p>With regard to revolutionary strategy, the only points on which we absolutely insist are that the single, overriding goal must be the elimination of modern technology, and that no other goal can be allowed to compete with this one. For the rest, revolutionaries should take an empirical approach. If experience indicates that some of the recommendations made in the foregoing paragraphs are not going to give good results, then those recommendations should be discarded.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="two-kinds-of-technology">Two Kinds of Technology</h2> -<ol start="207"> +<h2 id="two-kinds-of-technology">Two Kinds of Technology <a class="anchor" href="#two-kinds-of-technology"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="207"> <li> <p>An argument likely to be raised against our proposed revolution is that it is bound to fail, because (it is claimed) throughout history technology has always progressed, never regressed, hence technological regression is impossible. But this claim is false.</p> </li> @@ -727,8 +752,9 @@ <p>Would society EVENTUALLY develop again toward an industrial-technological form? Maybe, but there is no use in worrying about it, since we can’t predict or control events 500 or 1,000 years in the future. Those problems must be dealt with by the people who will live at that time.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-danger-of-leftism">The Danger of Leftism</h2> -<ol start="213"> +<h2 id="the-danger-of-leftism">The Danger of Leftism <a class="anchor" href="#the-danger-of-leftism"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="213"> <li> <p>Because of their need for rebellion and for membership in a movement, leftists or persons of similar psychological type often are attracted to a rebellious or activist movement whose goals and membership are not initially leftist. The resulting influx of leftish types can easily turn a non-leftist movement into a leftist one, so that leftist goals replace or distort the original goals of the movement.</p> </li> @@ -784,8 +810,9 @@ <p>The more dangerous leftists, that is, those who are most power-hungry, are often characterized by arrogance or by a dogmatic approach to ideology. However, the most dangerous leftists of all may be certain oversocialized types who avoid irritating displays of aggressiveness and refrain from advertising their leftism, but work quietly and unobtrusively to promote collectivist values, “enlightened” psychological techniques for socializing children, dependence of the individual on the system, and so forth. These crypto-leftists (as we may call them) approximate certain bourgeois types as far as practical action is concerned, but differ from them in psychology, ideology and motivation. The ordinary bourgeois tries to bring people under control of the system in order to protect his way of life, or he does so simply because his attitudes are conventional. The crypto-leftist tries to bring people under control of the system because he is a True Believer in a collectivistic ideology. The crypto-leftist is differentiated from the average leftist of the oversocialized type by the fact that his rebellious impulse is weaker and he is more securely socialized. He is differentiated from the ordinary well-socialized bourgeois by the fact that there is some deep lack within him that makes it necessary for him to devote himself to a cause and immerse himself in a collectivity. And maybe his (well-sublimated) drive for power is stronger than that of the average bourgeois.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="final-note">Final Note</h2> -<ol start="231"> +<h2 id="final-note">Final Note <a class="anchor" href="#final-note"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="231"> <li> <p>Throughout this article we’ve made imprecise statements and statements that ought to have had all sorts of qualifications and reservations attached to them; and some of our statements may be flatly false. Lack of sufficient information and the need for brevity made it impossible for us to formulate our assertions more precisely or add all the necessary qualifications. And of course in a discussion of this kind one must rely heavily on intuitive judgment, and that can sometimes be wrong. So we don’t claim that this article expresses more than a crude approximation to the truth.</p> </li> @@ -915,8 +942,9 @@ Thu, 12 Jan 2023 21:34:30 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/recover-lost-anki-streak/ - <h1 id="how-to-recover-a-lost-anki-streak">How to recover a lost anki streak</h1> -<p>Word for word copy paste of what fixed my issue. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/Anki/comments/ndt6ag/comment/gycwiti/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">Original post</a></p> + <h1 id="how-to-recover-a-lost-anki-streak">How to recover a lost anki streak <a class="anchor" href="#how-to-recover-a-lost-anki-streak"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><p>Word for word copy paste of what fixed my issue. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/Anki/comments/ndt6ag/comment/gycwiti/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">Original post</a></p> <p><em>btw i had to create a seperate Custom Study for cards i had forgotten, i set it to 1 day, did one review and followed from step 7</em></p> <p>Happened to me as well, idk why. But there is a way to cheat streaks:</p> <ol> @@ -938,10 +966,12 @@ Wed, 04 Jan 2023 22:52:24 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/meta-description-in-hugo/ - <h1 id="adding-meta-description-in-hugo">Adding meta description in Hugo</h1> -<p>I assume you are using Luke Smith&rsquo;s theme - Lugo, if you are not, you&rsquo;d have to find these files yourself (e.g. search using vscode).</p> -<h2 id="setting-a-global-meta-description">Setting a global meta description</h2> -<ol> + <h1 id="adding-meta-description-in-hugo">Adding meta description in Hugo <a class="anchor" href="#adding-meta-description-in-hugo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><p>I assume you are using Luke Smith&rsquo;s theme - Lugo, if you are not, you&rsquo;d have to find these files yourself (e.g. search using vscode).</p> +<h2 id="setting-a-global-meta-description">Setting a global meta description <a class="anchor" href="#setting-a-global-meta-description"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Locate your config.toml or config.yaml file</li> <li>Add the following line inside it</li> </ol> @@ -952,15 +982,17 @@ <div class="highlight"><pre tabindex="0" style="color:#f8f8f2;background-color:#272822;-moz-tab-size:4;-o-tab-size:4;tab-size:4;"><code class="language-yaml" data-lang="yaml"><span style="display:flex;"><span><span style="color:#f92672">params</span>: </span></span><span style="display:flex;"><span> <span style="color:#f92672">description</span>: <span style="color:#ae81ff">The global meta description of your website</span> </span></span></code></pre></div><p>It won&rsquo;t work just yet because you have to update the <code>baseof.html</code> file.</p> -<h2 id="updating-the-baseofhtml-file">Updating the baseof.html file</h2> -<ol> +<h2 id="updating-the-baseofhtml-file">Updating the baseof.html file <a class="anchor" href="#updating-the-baseofhtml-file"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Locate baseof.html</li> <li>Add or change the meta description line with the following</li> </ol> <div class="highlight"><pre tabindex="0" style="color:#f8f8f2;background-color:#272822;-moz-tab-size:4;-o-tab-size:4;tab-size:4;"><code class="language-html" data-lang="html"><span style="display:flex;"><span>&lt;<span style="color:#f92672">meta</span> <span style="color:#a6e22e">name</span><span style="color:#f92672">=</span><span style="color:#e6db74">&#34;description&#34;</span> <span style="color:#a6e22e">content</span><span style="color:#f92672">=</span><span style="color:#e6db74">&#34;{{ if .Page.Params.description }}{{ .Page.Params.description }}{{ else if .Summary}}{{ .Summary }}{{else}}{{ .Site.Params.description}}{{ end }}&#34;</span>/&gt; </span></span></code></pre></div><p>And now if you start your Hugo server locally with <code>hugo serve --noHTTPCache</code> and you right click on your page -&gt; View Page Source -&gt; Search for the meta description tag. It should match what you left in the config file.</p> -<h2 id="replacing-the-global-description-with-a-custom-one">Replacing the global description with a custom one</h2> -<ol> +<h2 id="replacing-the-global-description-with-a-custom-one">Replacing the global description with a custom one <a class="anchor" href="#replacing-the-global-description-with-a-custom-one"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Have a markdown file ready</li> <li>In the preamble, add</li> </ol> @@ -978,8 +1010,9 @@ https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/multiple-index-pages-in-hugo/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="this-is-how-to-create-multiple-index-pages-in-hugo">This is how to create multiple index pages in Hugo</h2> -</div> +<h2 id="this-is-how-to-create-multiple-index-pages-in-hugo">This is how to create multiple index pages in Hugo <a class="anchor" href="#this-is-how-to-create-multiple-index-pages-in-hugo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>I wanted to order <a href="https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook">Hackbook</a> in reverse (i.e. oldest to newest) so that it&rsquo;s easier for the reader to start at the correct page.</p> <p>I ran into the following problem - the default <strong><code>list.html</code></strong> does them from newest to oldest.</p> <p>So I found <a href="https://discourse.gohugo.io/t/two-home-pages/31312/9">this forum post</a> and I created a file in the <strong><code>_default</code></strong> directory as follows:</p> @@ -1012,11 +1045,14 @@ {{- end }} &lt;/ul&gt; {{- end }} -</code></pre><h4 id="if-you-want-to-display-the-date-on-the-left-of-the-titles-you-have-to-add-datesinlisttrue-in-your-configtoml-or-datesinlist-true-in-your-configyaml">if you want to display the date on the left of the titles, you have to add <strong><code>datesinlist=true</code></strong> in your config.toml or <strong><code>datesinlist: true</code></strong> in your config.yaml</h4> -<h5 id="you-probably-dont-need-enablegitinfo--true-as-that-will-crash-your-website-i-have-no-idea-what-it-does-you-dont-need-it">You probably don&rsquo;t need <strong><code>enableGitInfo = true</code></strong> as that will crash your website, I have no idea what it does, you don&rsquo;t need it.</h5> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="using-your-custom-_indexhtml">Using your custom _index.html</h2> -</div> +</code></pre><h4 id="if-you-want-to-display-the-date-on-the-left-of-the-titles-you-have-to-add-datesinlisttrue-in-your-configtoml-or-datesinlist-true-in-your-configyaml">if you want to display the date on the left of the titles, you have to add <strong><code>datesinlist=true</code></strong> in your config.toml or <strong><code>datesinlist: true</code></strong> in your config.yaml <a class="anchor" href="#if-you-want-to-display-the-date-on-the-left-of-the-titles-you-have-to-add-datesinlisttrue-in-your-configtoml-or-datesinlist-true-in-your-configyaml"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h5 id="you-probably-dont-need-enablegitinfo--true-as-that-will-crash-your-website-i-have-no-idea-what-it-does-you-dont-need-it">You probably don&rsquo;t need <strong><code>enableGitInfo = true</code></strong> as that will crash your website, I have no idea what it does, you don&rsquo;t need it. <a class="anchor" href="#you-probably-dont-need-enablegitinfo--true-as-that-will-crash-your-website-i-have-no-idea-what-it-does-you-dont-need-it"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h5><div style="text-align: center;"> +<h2 id="using-your-custom-_indexhtml">Using your custom _index.html <a class="anchor" href="#using-your-custom-_indexhtml"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>After creating your custom _index.html you&rsquo;d use it as follows:</p> <ol> <li>Create an _index.md file in your desired directory</li> @@ -1227,8 +1263,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true <li>Never PMO again.</li> </ol> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="affirmations">Affirmations</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="affirmations">Affirmations <a class="anchor" href="#affirmations"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <ul> <li>I am free from the slavery of PMO.</li> <li>It is easy for me to ignore my thoughts about PMO.</li> @@ -1269,21 +1306,24 @@ strains of life.</li> https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-43-advice-to-non-pmoers/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK <a class="anchor" href="#help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>First study the contents of this book and try to put yourself in the place of the PMOer. Do not force him to read this book or try to stop him by telling him he is ruining his health or playing with fire. He already knows this better than you do. PMOers do not continue in it because they enjoy it or because they want to. They only tell themselves and other people this in order to retain self-respect. They do it because they feel dependent on PMO because they think that it relaxes them and gives them courage and confidence (pleasure or crutch) and that life will never be enjoyable without “sex” - their version of it. If you try to force a PMOer to stop, he feels like a trapped animal and wants to be in his harem even more. This may turn him into a secret PMOer and in his mind the porn will become even more precious (see Chapter 26).</p> <p>Instead, concentrate on the other side of the coin. Get him into the company of ex-PMOers (there are many blogs, forums etc. YBOP, No-Fap etc.). Get them to tell the PMOer how they too thought they were hooked for life and how much better life is as a non-PMOer. Once you have got him believing that he can stop then his mind will start to open up. Then start explaining the delusion created by withdrawal pangs. Not only are the “dopamine rushes” not giving him a boost but they are destroying his confidence and making him irritable and tired.</p> <p>He should now be ready to read this book himself. He will be expecting to read pages and pages about unreliable arousal, fading penetrations, PIED, PE, etc. Explain that the approach is completely different and that references to illness are just a small fraction of the material in the book.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD <a class="anchor" href="#help-during-the-withdrawal-period"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>If you are dealing with a girlfriend or boyfriend - whether the ex-PMOer is suffering or not, assume that she/he is. Do not try to minimize his suffering by telling him it is easy to stop; he can do that himself. Instead keep telling him how proud you are, how much better he is looking, how much sweeter it is to be with him, how much easier he is in general. It is particularly important to keep doing this. When a PMOer makes an attempt to stop, the euphoria of the attempt and the attention he gets from friends and colleagues can help him along. However, they tend to forget quickly, so keep that praise going.</p> <p>Because he is not talking about PMOing, you may think he has forgotten about it and don&rsquo;t want to remind him. Usually the complete opposite is the case with the Willpower Method, as the ex-PMOer tends to be obsessed by nothing else. So do not be frightened to bring the subject up and keep praising him: he will tell you if he doesn&rsquo;t want you to remind him of PMOing.</p> <p>Go out of your way to relieve him of pressures during the withdrawal period. Try to think of ways of making his life interesting and enjoyable. This can also be a trying period for non-PMOers - that is those of you who have never had this addiction. If one member of a group is irritable, it can cause general misery all round. So anticipate this if the ex-PMOer is feeling irritable. He may well take it out on you but do not retaliate: it is at this time that he needs your praise and sympathy the most. If you are feeling irritable yourself, try not to show it.</p> <p>One of the tricks an addict will play when trying to give up with the aid of the Willpower Method was to get into a tantrum, hoping that wife or friends would say, “I cannot bear to see you suffering like this. For goodness sake, have your poison.” The PMOer then does not lose face, as he isn&rsquo;t “giving in” - he has been instructed. If the ex-PMOer uses this ploy, on no account encourage him to lapse. Instead say, “if that is what PMO does to you, thank goodness you will soon be free. How marvellous that you had the courage and sense to give up.”</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL <a class="anchor" href="#help-end-this-scandal"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>In my opinion, internet porn is one of the dangers in a free society, piggy backing on the good willed efforts of personal freedoms. Surely the very basis of civilization, the reason why the human species has advanced so far, is that we are capable of communicating our knowledge and experiences not only to each other but to future generations. Even the lower species find it necessary to warn their offspring of the pitfalls in life.</p> <p>The producers of porn are not doing this in good faith, in the genuine belief that they help mankind, especially now as the addiction to internet porn is widely studied. Maybe in its initial stages people genuinely believed that porn taught intimacy to men and women but today the authorities know that it is a fallacy. Just watch any tube sites nowadays. They make no claims about education. The only claims they make are about the shock, novelty, escalation quality of their clips.</p> <p>The sheer hypocrisy is incredible. As a society we get uptight about school bullying and objectification of human body. Compared with internet porn, these problems are mere pimples in our society. Thirty five per cent of the population have been addicted to porn and most of them spend quality time with imaginary and illusory pixel people at the expense of health, virility, energy and time. Tens of thousands of people have their lives ruined every year because they become hooked. Internet high speed porn is by far the biggest killer in relationships and yet the biggest vested interest is our for-profit companies. Internet porn producers don’t spend on advertising the filth in mainstream publications - they don’t have to. Our biological urges will lead us to the thresholds of their well stocked internet harems. They give free samples just like your local drug dealer. Heck the tube sites don’t even stock the wares any more as they encourage visitors to post the content.</p> @@ -1296,8 +1336,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <p>Why do we allow society to subject healthy young teenagers, youngsters whose lives are complete before they start to get online, to claim their independence just for the privilege of destroying themselves mentally and physically in a lifetime of slavery, a lifetime of filth and disease? You may feel that I over-dramatize the facts. Not so. There are cases where lives were cut down in his early years of marriage because of PMO. He was a strong man and might still have been alive today. I believe I was within an inch of PIED during my forties, although I would have attributed it to my divorce rather than to PMO. I now spend my life being consulted by people who have been crippled by the disease or are in the last stages. And, if you care to think about it, you probably know of many too.</p> <p>There is a wind of change in society. A snowball has started that I hope this book will help turn into an avalanche. You too can help by spreading the message.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING <a class="anchor" href="#final-warning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>You can now enjoy the rest of your life as a happy non-PMOer. In order to make sure that you do, you need to follow these simple instructions:</p> <ol> <li>Keep this page in your bookmarks and refer to it as much as you need.</li> @@ -1396,8 +1437,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <p>Find out which one it is. Some people understand and believe everything I say but still start off with a feeling of doom and gloom, as if something terrible were happening. You are doing not only what you&rsquo;d like to do but what every PMOer on the planet would like to do. With any method of stopping, what the ex PMOer is trying to achieve is a certain frame of mind, so that whenever he thinks about PMO he says to himself, “YIPPEE! I&rsquo;M FREE!” If that&rsquo;s your object, why wait? Start off in that frame of mind and never lose it. The rest of the book is designed to make you understand why there is no alternative.</p> </blockquote> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="the-check-list"><strong>THE CHECK LIST</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="the-check-list"><strong>THE CHECK LIST</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-check-list"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>If you follow these simple instructions, you cannot fail:</p> <ol> <li>Make a solemn vow that you will never, ever, go online to visit your harem OR settle down for static pictures OR make peace with erotic graphics OR anything that contains supra normal stimuli, and stick to your vow.</li> @@ -1511,14 +1553,16 @@ sites in my life again.”<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1& <p>I have been direct in my advice so far and would ask you to treat this advice as instruction rather than suggestion. I am explicit and direct, first because there are sound, practical reasons for my advice and second, because those reasons have been backed up by thousands of case studies. On the question of whether or not to try to avoid temptation during the withdrawal period, I regret that I cannot be direct. Each PMOer will need to decide for himself. I can, however, make what I hope will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all our lives and this fear consists of two distinct phases:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO?</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO? <a class="anchor" href="#phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>This fear is that panicky feeling the PMOer gets when they are alone in a single phase or have an asexual, uninterested or unavailable partner. The fear isn&rsquo;t caused by withdrawal pangs but is the psychological fear of dependency - you cannot survive without sex and orgasm. It actually reaches its height when you are on the verge of quitting (I won’t use giving up); at that time your withdrawal pangs are at their lowest. It is the fear of the unknown, the sort of fear that people have when they are learning to dive.</p> <p>The diving board is 1 foot high but seems to be 6 feet high. The water is 6 feet deep but appears to be 1 foot deep. It takes courage to launch yourself. You are convinced you are going to smash your head. The launching is the hardest part. If you can find the courage to do it, the rest is easy. This explains why many otherwise strong-willed PMOers either have never attempted to stop or can survive only a few days when they do. In fact, there are some PMOers on a porn diet who when they decide to stop, actually binge and escalate to harsher clips more quickly than if they had not decided to stop. The decision causes panic, which is stressful. This is one of the occasions when the brain triggers the instruction, “take a trip to your own personal harem.” But now you can&rsquo;t take one. You are being deprived - more stress.</p> <p>The trigger starts again quickly when the fuse blows and you fire up the browser. Don&rsquo;t worry. That panic is just psychological. It is the fear that you are dependent. The beautiful truth is that you are not, even when you are still addicted. Do not panic. Just trust me and launch yourself.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear <a class="anchor" href="#phase-2-longer-term-fear"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>The second phase of fear is longer-term. It involves the fear that certain situations in the future will not be enjoyable or that you will not be able to cope with a trauma without PMO. Don&rsquo;t worry. If you can launch yourself you will find the opposite to be the case. The avoidance of temptation itself falls into two main categories:</p> <ol> <li>“I will subscribe to a porn-diet of once in 4 days. I will feel more confident knowing that I can go online if it gets hard. It is OK if I fail I can just add up additional days to my next cycle.”</li> @@ -1621,8 +1665,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict <li>What&rsquo;s worse, it keeps the big monster alive in your mind. If you had the “last peek”, it will be easier to have the next one.</li> </ol> <p>Above all, remember:</p> -<h2 id="just-one-peek-is-how-people-get-into-pmo-addiction-in-the-first-place">“Just one peek” is how people get into PMO addiction in the first place.</h2> - +<h2 id="just-one-peek-is-how-people-get-into-pmo-addiction-in-the-first-place">“Just one peek” is how people get into PMO addiction in the first place. <a class="anchor" href="#just-one-peek-is-how-people-get-into-pmo-addiction-in-the-first-place"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2> @@ -1727,8 +1772,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict </ol> <p>Stop kidding yourself. If the job offer that I mentioned before, of 10 months work for 12 months salary a year won&rsquo;t stop him. Or if the risks of cutting down your brain’s capacity to cope with just any normal day-to-day stress and strains or if putting yourself at odds with having a reliable erection, or if the lifetime of mental and physical torture and slavery did not stop him or her - the above said few phoney incentives will not make the slightest bit of difference. They will only make the sacrifice appear worse. Instead concentrate on the other side:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"><strong>“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?”</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"><strong>“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?”</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>Keep looking at the other side of the tug of war. What is PMOing doing for me? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Why do I need to do it? YOU DON&rsquo;T! YOU ARE ONLY PUNISHING YOURSELF. Try looking at it from the Pascal’s Wager perspective. You have almost nothing to lose (a rub-out with half arousals) for sure, chances of big profits (a full and reliable arousal, mental well being and happiness) and no chance of losing big (unreliable full arousals, premature ejaculations, fading penetrations, loss of general impulse controls, lower tolerance for frustrations and anger).</p> <p>Why not declare your quitting to friends and family? Well, it will make you a proud ex-addict, ex-PMOer, not an elated and happy non-PMOer. It will scare your partner a bit since they may see this as an effort to have more sex, sort of a new-age thing. They may also fear to lose you if this turns you into sex machine. It is hard to explain to them unless they are open minded.</p> <p>Any attempt to get others to help you in your quitting gives more power to the little monster of addiction. Pushing it from your mind and totally ignoring it has the effect of trying NOT to think of it. As soon as you spot the thoughts, when you hit the cues (home alone) or just absent minded thoughts - just say to yourself: “Great, I don’t have to do it like a slave animal. I am free. I am happy to know the differences in sex.” This will cut the life of the thought and will deny oxygen to it and will stop it from burning towards urges and cravings.</p> @@ -1796,8 +1842,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <p>First of all, identify the times or occasions when PMO appears to be important to you. If you are a businessman and use it for the illusion of relief of stress, pick a relatively slack period; a good idea is to choose your annual holiday. If you PMO mainly during boring or relaxing periods, weekends etc. do the opposite. In any event, take the matter seriously and make the attempt the most important thing in your life.</p> <p>Look ahead for a period of about three weeks and try to anticipate any event that might lead to failure. Occasions like a conference trip, partner out of town etc. need not deter you, providing you anticipate them in advance and do not feel you will be deprived. Do not attempt to cut down in the meantime as this will only create the illusion that being denied is enjoyable. In fact, it helps to force yourself to watch and have as many PMO sessions as possible. While you are having the last session and that last time, be conscious of the disappointment due to satiation, unfulfilled expectations (porn can never satisfy you), any bodily pain or pain in the genitals, the withdrawal effects, the peevishness and the melancholy. Think how marvellous it will be when you allow yourself to stop doing it.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="whatever-you-do-dont-fall-into-the-trap-of-just-saying-not-now-later-and-putting-it-out-of-your-mind-work-out-your-timetable-now-and-look-forward-to-it">WHATEVER YOU DO, DON&rsquo;T FALL INTO THE TRAP OF JUST SAYING, “NOT NOW. LATER,” AND PUTTING IT OUT OF YOUR MIND. WORK OUT YOUR TIMETABLE NOW AND LOOK FORWARD TO IT.</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="whatever-you-do-dont-fall-into-the-trap-of-just-saying-not-now-later-and-putting-it-out-of-your-mind-work-out-your-timetable-now-and-look-forward-to-it">WHATEVER YOU DO, DON&rsquo;T FALL INTO THE TRAP OF JUST SAYING, “NOT NOW. LATER,” AND PUTTING IT OUT OF YOUR MIND. WORK OUT YOUR TIMETABLE NOW AND LOOK FORWARD TO IT. <a class="anchor" href="#whatever-you-do-dont-fall-into-the-trap-of-just-saying-not-now-later-and-putting-it-out-of-your-mind-work-out-your-timetable-now-and-look-forward-to-it"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>Remember you aren&rsquo;t giving anything up. On the contrary: you are about to receive marvellous positive gains.</p> <p>For years the medical profession viewed porn is harmless without knowing the difference between the tame static porn of yesteryear and the latest VR streaming porn. The problem is this; although every PMOer uses internet porn purely to relieve the brain chemical craving for dopamine, it is not the addiction to the brain chemical itself that hooks the PMOer but the self-brainwashing that results from that addiction. An intelligent person will fall for a confidence trick. But only a fool will go on falling for it once he realizes that it&rsquo;s a confidence trick. Fortunately, most PMOers aren&rsquo;t fools; they only think they are. Each individual PMOer has his own private brainwashing. That is why there appears to be such a wide range of different types of PMOer, which only serves to compound the mysteries.</p> <p>With the benefit of the original book that used this method to stop smoking, which dealt with nicotine addiction (one of the most quickest and addictive drug known to man) and bearing in mind that the personal logs that I collected from Reddit, NoFap and YBOP blogs and forums, I was agreeably surprised to realize that the philosophy propounded in the original book was still sound. The accumulated knowledge that was acquired by the original author Alan Carr and by myself the hack-author is how to communicate that knowledge to each individual PMOer. The fact that I know every PMOer can not only find it easy to stop but can actually enjoy the process is not only pointless but exceedingly frustrating unless I can make the PMOer realize it. The original author of the quit smoking book explains some controversial advice:</p> @@ -1835,8 +1882,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <p>The only reason why people continue to PMO after getting educated is because they have failed to stop or are too frightened to try. There are even talks about no porn, no masturbation and no orgasms - with or without partners. Karezza is discussed widely and people are trying it out. Many aforementioned failures are “fail forwards” and thus somewhat benefiting the people who practice them. Once you start in the no-PMO route you will find your best fit that applies to your life. I strongly encourage devising your own plan on orgasms after understanding and practising the separation of the amative and the propagative parts of sex. I am sure whichever route you take you will see the value of preserving the “seed” by limiting the number of times you flush your brain with chemicals by orgasming. You will then never see porn, sex and orgasms as a pleasure or as a crutch for your emotional ups and downs.</p> <p>I was reading a Reddit forum by non-PMOers dedicated to quitting not only porn but also masturbation. As I read along I thought. “This is good, I see so many have taken to quitting masturbation and I think that is the right way to quit PMO.” However, I found most of the notes pointing to them to try with the Willpower Method. There was a lot of self-pitying as well. Except a few&hellip; almost all were not feeling elated and not having the, “yippee I am free from slavery” attitude. Eventually someone broke down - as I unfortunately expected to happen. And the result was a domino effect. All those other PMOers had been sitting there thinking, “surely I can&rsquo;t be the only PMOer here.” However, they were “failing forward” albeit with a lot of self-torturing as they shut down their browsers but did not shut down the desire and the need. This method is the reverse as - we shut down the desire and the need first before shutting down the browser screen. As every day more and more PMOers leave the sinking ship, so those left on it become terrified they&rsquo;ll be the last.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="dont-let-it-be-you"><strong>DON&rsquo;T LET IT BE YOU!</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="dont-let-it-be-you"><strong>DON&rsquo;T LET IT BE YOU!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#dont-let-it-be-you"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> @@ -1854,8 +1902,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <p>Columbo has this frustrating practice of closing the door after finishing his interrogation, having assured the suspect that he is in the clear and before the satisfied look has disappeared from the murderer&rsquo;s face, Columbo reappears with: “just one small point, sir, which I&rsquo;m sure you can explain&hellip;” The suspect stammers and from that point on we know and he knows that Columbo will gradually wear him down. No matter how heinous the crime, from that point on my sympathies were with the murderer.</p> <p>It was almost as if I were the criminal and that&rsquo;s exactly how those bouts made me feel. The tension of not being allowed to cross the red line to get my porn fix that I “rightly deserve because I am hard working man and why shouldn’t I when every man does it?” entitlement, click, click, clicking on videos that come close to the right one. Longing for the porn tube videos. And then finishing the deed - just a limp rub out, wondering where the pleasure was. The fear of crossing the line losing control. The relief of returning to the bed, immediately followed by the fear that she would toss around and ask for sex. As the “safe” YouTube videos started not to do it for me - desensitization and lack of novelty and the certain knowledge that sooner or later I was bound to visit my favourite online harem. The final humiliation and shame when that certainty became a fact, followed by the immediate return to chain-PMOing.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="oh-the-joys-of-being-a-pmo-er"><strong>OH THE JOYS OF BEING A PMO-er!</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="oh-the-joys-of-being-a-pmo-er"><strong>OH THE JOYS OF BEING A PMO-er!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#oh-the-joys-of-being-a-pmo-er"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> @@ -1882,25 +1931,32 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p </ol> <p>I used to think of my ‘non-casual’ PMOing as a weakness. I couldn&rsquo;t understand why my friends could limit their “intake.” I knew I was a very strong-willed person. It never occurred to me that most PMOers are incapable of chain-PMOing - you need a very strong imagination and also extraordinarily strong penis stamina in order to do it. Some of these once-a-week PMOers that heavy PMOers tend to envy do it less frequently because physically their constitution cannot do more, or because they cannot afford to PMO more, or because their job, or society, or their own hatred of being hooked won&rsquo;t allow them to PMO more.</p> <p>It may be of advantage at this stage to provide a few definitions:</p> -<h3 id="the-non-pmoer">THE NON-PMOer</h3> -<p>Someone who has never fallen for the trap but should not be complacent. He is a non-PMOer only by luck or the grace of goodness. All PMOers were convinced that they would never become hooked and some non-PMOers keep trying an occasional session.</p> -<h3 id="the-casual-pmoer">THE CASUAL PMOer</h3> -<p>There are two basic classifications of casual PMOers:</p> +<h3 id="the-non-pmoer">THE NON-PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-non-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>Someone who has never fallen for the trap but should not be complacent. He is a non-PMOer only by luck or the grace of goodness. All PMOers were convinced that they would never become hooked and some non-PMOers keep trying an occasional session.</p> +<h3 id="the-casual-pmoer">THE CASUAL PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-casual-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>There are two basic classifications of casual PMOers:</p> <ol> <li>The PMOer who has fallen for the trap but doesn&rsquo;t realize it. Do not envy such PMOers. They are merely sampling the nectar at the mouth of the pitcher plant and in all probability will soon be heavy users. Remember, just as all alcoholics started off as casual drinkers, so all PMOers started off as casual PMOers.</li> <li>The PMOer who was previously a heavy PMOer and thinks he cannot stop. These PMOers are the saddest of all. They fall into various categories, each of which needs separate comment.</li> </ol> -<h3 id="the-oncea--day-pmoer">THE ONCE–A- DAY PMOer</h3> -<p>If he enjoys his entitlement to orgasm, why does he use internet porn to orgasm only once a day? If he can take it or leave it, why does he bother to PMO at all? Remember, the ‘habit’ is really banging your head against the brick wall only to make it relaxing when you stop. The once-a-day PMOer is relieving his withdrawal pangs for less than one hour each day. The rest of the day, although he doesn&rsquo;t realize it, he is banging his head against the wall and does so for most of his life. He is PMOing only once a day because either he cannot take the risk of getting caught or screwing up his brain health. It is easy to convince the heavy PMOer that he doesn&rsquo;t enjoy it but you try convincing a casual PMOer. Anybody who has gone through an attempt to cut down will know it is the worst torture of all and almost guaranteed to keep you hooked for the rest of your life.</p> -<h3 id="the-rejected-pmoer">THE REJECTED PMOer</h3> -<p>This PMOer demands the right to his/her orgasm(s) every day. And of course his sex partner is not always up to it. So he goes on the internet for porn initially. Once he takes “the ride” to fix “the void” he is trapped on this most exciting ‘water slide’ of novelty, shock, supranormal images etc. He is in fact dichotomously ‘happy’ with the partner’s rejection – it gives him something of an excuse. If internet porn is giving so much to you, why even bother to have a partner at all? Set him or her free. He is not even enjoying the PMO when he has to ‘carry’ his partner in his mind. At some point he is using his real life partner to hand him an excuse to go out into the valleys of the dark side of the internet.</p> -<h3 id="the-porn-diet-pmoer">THE PORN DIET PMOer</h3> -<p>(Or, “I can stop whenever I want to. I have done it thousands of times”). If he thinks dieting helps with his moods to ‘get out to get women,’ why is he even on the diet of once every four days? How can one predict the future, what if the happenstance of meeting occurred just an hour after your scheduled PMO session? Also, if he thinks this occasional “cleaning the plumbing” is good to relieve tension and relax why not plumb every day? It has been proven that masturbation is not required to keep the genitals healthy. Internet porn is not required at all. Even if that may be the case, any PUA guru who has read about the brain chemistry and its plasticity will never recommend watching super stimulus porn. The truth is he is still hooked. Although he gets rid of the physical addiction, he is left with the main problem - the brainwashing. He hopes each time that he will stop for good and soon falls for the same trap again.</p> +<h3 id="the-oncea--day-pmoer">THE ONCE–A- DAY PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-oncea--day-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>If he enjoys his entitlement to orgasm, why does he use internet porn to orgasm only once a day? If he can take it or leave it, why does he bother to PMO at all? Remember, the ‘habit’ is really banging your head against the brick wall only to make it relaxing when you stop. The once-a-day PMOer is relieving his withdrawal pangs for less than one hour each day. The rest of the day, although he doesn&rsquo;t realize it, he is banging his head against the wall and does so for most of his life. He is PMOing only once a day because either he cannot take the risk of getting caught or screwing up his brain health. It is easy to convince the heavy PMOer that he doesn&rsquo;t enjoy it but you try convincing a casual PMOer. Anybody who has gone through an attempt to cut down will know it is the worst torture of all and almost guaranteed to keep you hooked for the rest of your life.</p> +<h3 id="the-rejected-pmoer">THE REJECTED PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-rejected-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>This PMOer demands the right to his/her orgasm(s) every day. And of course his sex partner is not always up to it. So he goes on the internet for porn initially. Once he takes “the ride” to fix “the void” he is trapped on this most exciting ‘water slide’ of novelty, shock, supranormal images etc. He is in fact dichotomously ‘happy’ with the partner’s rejection – it gives him something of an excuse. If internet porn is giving so much to you, why even bother to have a partner at all? Set him or her free. He is not even enjoying the PMO when he has to ‘carry’ his partner in his mind. At some point he is using his real life partner to hand him an excuse to go out into the valleys of the dark side of the internet.</p> +<h3 id="the-porn-diet-pmoer">THE PORN DIET PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-porn-diet-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>(Or, “I can stop whenever I want to. I have done it thousands of times”). If he thinks dieting helps with his moods to ‘get out to get women,’ why is he even on the diet of once every four days? How can one predict the future, what if the happenstance of meeting occurred just an hour after your scheduled PMO session? Also, if he thinks this occasional “cleaning the plumbing” is good to relieve tension and relax why not plumb every day? It has been proven that masturbation is not required to keep the genitals healthy. Internet porn is not required at all. Even if that may be the case, any PUA guru who has read about the brain chemistry and its plasticity will never recommend watching super stimulus porn. The truth is he is still hooked. Although he gets rid of the physical addiction, he is left with the main problem - the brainwashing. He hopes each time that he will stop for good and soon falls for the same trap again.</p> <p>Many PMOers actually envy these stoppers and starters. They think, “how lucky to be able to control it like that, to do PMO when you want to and stop when you want to,” What they always overlook is that these stoppers and starters aren&rsquo;t controlling it. When they are PMOers, they wish they weren&rsquo;t. They go through the hassle of stopping, then begin to feel deprived and fall for the trap again, then wish they hadn&rsquo;t. They get the worst of both worlds. If you think about it, this is true in the lives of the PMOers. When we are allowed to PMO we either take it as entitled or wish we didn&rsquo;t. It&rsquo;s only when we can&rsquo;t have PMO that it appears to be so precious. The ‘forbidden fruit syndrome’. This is the awful dilemma of PMOers. They can never win because they are moping for a myth, an illusion. There is one way they can win and that is to stop PMOing and stop moping!</p> -<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC/TAME/HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer</h3> -<p>Yes, we all do it to start with but isn&rsquo;t it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner&rsquo;s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes&hellip; you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one.</p> -<h3 id="the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer">THE I-HAVE-STOPPED-BUT-I-HAVE-AN-OCCASIONAL-PEEK PMOer</h3> -<p>In a way such peeking PMOers are the most pathetic of all. Either they go through their lives believing they are being deprived or, more often, the occasional peek becomes two. They remain on the slippery slope and it goes only one way - DOWNWARDS. Sooner or later they are back to being heavy PMOers. They have fallen again for the very trap that they fell into in the first place.</p> +<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC/TAME/HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>Yes, we all do it to start with but isn&rsquo;t it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner&rsquo;s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes&hellip; you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one.</p> +<h3 id="the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer">THE I-HAVE-STOPPED-BUT-I-HAVE-AN-OCCASIONAL-PEEK PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>In a way such peeking PMOers are the most pathetic of all. Either they go through their lives believing they are being deprived or, more often, the occasional peek becomes two. They remain on the slippery slope and it goes only one way - DOWNWARDS. Sooner or later they are back to being heavy PMOers. They have fallen again for the very trap that they fell into in the first place.</p> <p>There are two other categories of casual PMOers. The first is the type who masturbates to images or clips of the latest celebrity sex tapes that hit the news. Or something they ‘carried home’ from their ‘accidental’ viewing at school or work. These people are really non-PMOers. It&rsquo;s just that they feel they are missing out. They want to be part of the action. We all start off like this. Next time watch how, after a while, the celebrity sex tape, the same star of your fantasy is not ‘doing it’ to you any more. The more ‘unattainable’ the target of your fantasy is, the more frustrating the withdrawal of the orgasm is.</p> <p>The second category is recently getting attention. The type can best be described by outlining a case shared online. A woman who is a professional, had been using internet porn stories for many years and had never PMOed more or less than one time every night. She was, incidentally, a very strong-willed lady. Most PMOers would wonder why she wanted to stop in the first place. They would gladly point out to her that there is no worries of PIED, or PE in her case as she is a women. She is using not even static images and the stories are far tamer than any they use on a daily basis.</p> <p>They make the mistake of assuming that casual PMOers are happier and more in control. In control they may be but happy they are not. In this case, she is not satisfied with her partner, not interested in real sex, highly irritable with her daily stress and strains. Her nearest-and-dearest could not find out what is bothering her. Even if she convinced herself not to be afraid of her use of internet porn by rationalizing, she still finds herself not being able to enjoy real relationships which almost invariably involve ups and downs. Her brain’s RC<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> is not able to make use of the normal de-stress brain chemicals as she is flooding dopamine into her brain on an everyday basis. The down regulation<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> of her brain receptors has rendered her melancholic most times. Like me, she had a great fear of internet porn’s dark side of the treatment of women- before her first time. Like me, she eventually fell victim to the massive social brainwash and tried that first porn site. Like me, she can remember the foul clips of violence staged as entertainment. Unlike me, who capitulated and became a chain-PMOer very quickly, she resisted the slide.</p> @@ -1913,8 +1969,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p </blockquote> <p>In addition to his other troubles, this poor man has no idea that he treating himself to a poison. First he is suffering the “forbidden fruit syndrome.” Next he is forcing his brain to flush dopamine. His dopamine receptors are not as cut down comparatively either. But he is sliding and greasing the porn slides, seeking and searching for edging, novelty, variety, shock-value, anxiety-value (“I must treat myself so that I can survive the next three days”) etc. You probably have visions of a pathetic imbecile. Not so. This man was over six feet tall and an ex-sergeant in the Marines. He was a former athlete and didn&rsquo;t want to become an addict to anything. However, when he returned from the war he was trained as a techie in a veterans rehab program. When he entered the civil work force he was a well paid IT professional in a bank and was given a laptop (one of the ways to ensure you take work home). It was the year that famous socialites ‘leaked’ their porn videos online. There was much talk about it. And he got hooked. He has spent the rest of his life paying through the nose and it has ruined him physically and mentally. If he were an animal, our society would have put him out of his misery, yet we still allow mentally and physically healthy young teenagers to become hooked. You may think the above case and my notes are exaggerated. It is extreme but not unique. There are literally thousands of similar stories. That man poured his heart out to me but you can be sure that many of his friends and acquaintances envied him for being a once-a-week man. If you think this couldn&rsquo;t happen to you, STOP KIDDING YOURSELF.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="it-is-already-happening"><strong>IT IS ALREADY HAPPENING.</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="it-is-already-happening"><strong>IT IS ALREADY HAPPENING.</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#it-is-already-happening"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>In any event, PMOers like other addicts are notorious liars, even to themselves. They have to be. Most casual PMOers indulge far more times and on far more occasions than they will admit to. I have had many conversations with so-called twice-a-week PMOers during which they have done it more than three times that week. If you read the Reddit or No-Fap forums of casual PMOers, they are either counting the days or waiting to fail. You do not need to envy casual PMOers. You do not need to PMO. Life is infinitely sweeter without PMO. One log says&hellip;</p> <blockquote> <p><em>“It started with a simple challenge to not touch my penis for a day. And being unable. I don&rsquo;t think about masturbation anymore. It doesn&rsquo;t cross my mind. That is possible, I promise you. And the riches that await those who are able - they&rsquo;re incredible.”</em></p> @@ -2015,8 +2072,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p </ol> <p>The other important point that cutting down demonstrates is that there is no such thing as the odd or occasional harem visit. Internet porn is a chain reaction that will last the rest of your life unless you make a positive effort to break it:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="remember-cutting-down-will-drag-you-down"><strong>REMEMBER: CUTTING DOWN WILL DRAG YOU DOWN.</strong></h3> -</div><div class="footnotes" role="doc-endnotes"> +<h3 id="remember-cutting-down-will-drag-you-down"><strong>REMEMBER: CUTTING DOWN WILL DRAG YOU DOWN.</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#remember-cutting-down-will-drag-you-down"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div><div class="footnotes" role="doc-endnotes"> <hr> <ol> <li id="fn:1"> @@ -2337,14 +2395,16 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on this planet. Whether you believe in a creator, a process of natural selection or a combination of both, whatever being or system devised these bodies of ours, it is a thousand times more effective than man! Man cannot create the smallest living cell, let alone the miracle of eyesight, reproduction, our circulatory system or our brains. We don’t have our systems upgraded yet to properly assess the supranormal stimulus such as rich high density food or high speed internet novelty porn with multiple active windows.</p> <p>If the creator or process had intended us to handle novelty triggering stimuli, we would have been provided with some other brain reward circuits. Our bodies are, in fact, provided with fail-safe warning devices and we ignore these at our peril. Excessive edging results in body pain, irritation, and inflammation. In women, excessive flooding of dopamine and stress enzymes such as prostaglandin-E2 can cause difficulty to orgasm and PME.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up"><strong>There Is Nothing To Give Up</strong></h2> -</div> +<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up"><strong>There Is Nothing To Give Up</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#there-is-nothing-to-give-up"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.</p> <p>The problem I have is to make a convincing point as I’d have done for, let us say&hellip; smokers? All of us have seen smokers who develop excuses to sneak off for a crafty puff. It is easy to see the true addiction in action. Addicts do not do it because they enjoy it. They do it because they are miserable without it.</p> <p>Because many of us started out our first sexual experience that ended in an orgasm and we acquired the belief that we cannot enjoy sex without an orgasm. And for men, porn is sold as an aid towards sex, sometimes even as an education to be confident during the act of sex. It used to be static, but now we have supranormal internet porn. But this is nonsense. Internet porn takes away your confidence.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="women-and-porn"><strong>Women And Porn</strong></h2> -</div> +<h2 id="women-and-porn"><strong>Women And Porn</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#women-and-porn"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn&rsquo;t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.</p> <p>Porn and internet porn does not help your sex life; it destroys it totally. Having to hide your internet footprints, trying to delete your history, fearing accidental exposure to your boyfriend or kids, body pains, doubtful symptoms, fighting self doubts, arguing with yourself about your responsibilities in the ill effects of your addiction&hellip; well, why do you want to put yourself in such a bad situation?</p> <p>Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous positive gains to be had. When PMOers contemplate quitting they tend to concentrate on health and virility. These are obviously valid and important issues but I personally believe the greatest gains from stopping are psychological:</p> @@ -2355,8 +2415,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> </ol> <p>Not only is life better as a non-PMOer but it is infinitely more enjoyable. I do not only mean you will be healthier. I mean you will be happier and enjoy life far more. The marvellous gains from being a non-PMOer are discussed in the next few chapters. Some PMOers find it difficult to appreciate the concept of the &lsquo;void&rsquo; and the following analogy may assist you.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"><strong>Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void!</strong></h2> -</div> +<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"><strong>Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I&rsquo;ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can&rsquo;t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.</p> <p>By now you are completely dependent on the ointment. You never go out without ensuring that you have a tube of the ointment with you. If you go abroad, you make sure that you take several tubes with you. Now, in addition to your worries about your health, I&rsquo;m charging you $100 per tube. You have no choice but to pay.</p> <p>You then read in the medical column of your newspaper that this isn&rsquo;t happening just to you; many other people have been suffering from the same problem. In fact, pharmacists have discovered that the ointment doesn&rsquo;t actually cure the sore. All that it does is to take the sore beneath the surface of the skin. It is the ointment that has caused the sore to grow. All you have to do to get rid of the sore is to stop using the ointment. The sore will eventually disappear in due course.</p> @@ -2494,15 +2555,17 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>We can have an ‘information overload’ from the same internet but our reward circuits are not going to squirt dopamine at the levels when ‘porn overload’ is involved. We are evolutionarily programmed to seek and access sex related stuff. And we wrongly appraise the stimulus mostly based on this reward circuit action. If all you wanted is to masturbate why can’t you just use one clip and get the business done?</p> <p>Here is another question - next time after a long day or some stressful incident can you consciously embellish your self-talk with “Do you know what I would really enjoy today? The marvellous warm glow of dopamine rush going to my online harem.” You will find that even people who dislike PMO will join you.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="past-misguided-advice"><strong>Past Misguided Advice</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="past-misguided-advice"><strong>Past Misguided Advice</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#past-misguided-advice"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.</p> <p>From our earliest years our subconscious minds are bombarded daily with information telling us that sex is good and that the most precious thing on this earth is to ‘achieve’ orgasm. Girls are taught to achieve it and claim it&rsquo;s because they were wrongly suppressed of their sexual side for a very long time and still are. You think I exaggerate? Watch any TV or movie plot and you will see the mix-up of the amative (touch, smell, voice etc.) and the propagative (orgasmic) sides of sex. The impact of this does not register on our conscious minds but the sleeping partner, the subconscious mind, has time to absorb it. What the message is really saying is, “The most precious thing on this earth, my last thought and action, will be the goal of orgasm.” If you don’t have an orgasm then you are an old man with zero libido.</p> <p>Our children are being bombarded by sex and porn clips and many don’t even know how to protect them from it all. Large hoardings and magazine adverts are loaded with sexual innuendo. Some of the pop videos are extremely suggestive - again they hide behind free speech. Don’t be vexed and feel powerless about it. Make it a game and find you which of the components they are using - is it novelty, shock value, color, size, taboo etc. If the kids are pre-teen some of these can be disclosed to them and it would make an excellent show-and-tell game.</p> <p>A while back there was a wave of ‘leaked’ private videos of celebrities on the internet. If the youngster is too smitten by their favourite star, even if the conscious mind blames the ‘leak’ on the blood thirsty internet paparazzi, the &lsquo;sleeping partner&rsquo; is patiently digesting the notion that, “yes, even my shambolic hero does it and if I don’t, I won’t look the part.”</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-scientific-reasoning"><strong>The Scientific Reasoning</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-scientific-reasoning"><strong>The Scientific Reasoning</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-scientific-reasoning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>, Reboot<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> forums, underground PUA<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup>, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn&rsquo;t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.</p> <p>Ironically, the most powerful force in this melee of confusion is the PMOer himself. It is a fallacy that they are weak-willed or are physically weak specimens. You have to be physically strong in order to cope with an addiction after you know it is. This is one of the reasons why PMOers refuse to accept the overwhelming statistics that prove that internet porn with its ‘novelty’ cripples your brain. Add to that the sexologists who are doing half-baked studies and declare PMO is not an issue - they just help to add to the confusion.</p> <p>Everyone knows a friend who PMOed every day - he started with the ‘static’ to internet porn, always horny in real life, chasing girls and you never doubted him to have sex problems of course. You want to believe him. He never complained about any ED right? Guys and girls like them refuse even to consider the hundreds of ex-addicts and non-PMOers who painfully recount their difficulties. It is the “little monster” brain chemical addiction and the “big monster” - illusions and delusions. In this hackbook, I&rsquo;ve put together almost all the sorts of brainwashing a PMOer can suffer from. There will always be a few out there that I haven&rsquo;t touched upon.</p> @@ -2510,8 +2573,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>If you do a small survey among your online forum members, friends and colleagues, you will find that most PMOers are, in fact, strong-willed people. They tend to be self-employed, business executives or in certain specialized professions, such as doctors<sup id="fnref:4"><a href="#fn:4" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">4</a></sup>, lawyers, policemen, teachers, salesmen, nurses, secretaries, housewives with children, etc. In other words, anybody leading a stressful existence. Yes, I did include women and mothers. It’s the brain and it’s the same for them too. The main delusion of the PMOer is that porn helps to masturbate to orgasm and that relieves stress. This tends to be associated with the dominant type, the type that takes on responsibility and stress and, of course, that is the type that we admire and therefore tend to copy. Another group that tends to get hooked are people in monotonous jobs because the other main reason for PMOing is boredom. However, the idea that internet porn relieves boredom is also an illusion, I am afraid.</p> <p>As a society we get all uptight about glue-sniffing, heroin addiction, etc. Actual deaths from glue-sniffing do not amount to ten per annum, and deaths from heroin are less than a hundred a year in this country. There is another drug, internet porn, on which over 45 per cent of us become hooked at some time in our lives and the majority spend the rest of their lives regretting it. Some even don’t know that their ED is due to this.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-willpower-method"><strong>The Willpower Method</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-willpower-method"><strong>The Willpower Method</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why?</p> <p>Constant exposure to internet porn re-wires your brain. You need to start building resistance to this brainwashing, just as if you were buying a car from a second-hand car dealer. You would be nodding politely but you would not believe a word the man was saying. So don’t believe everything they say either - that you must have sex as much as you can and you must have it exceptional good. And that in the absence of real sex you claim it by the substitute called internet porn - which is only a component of the good old porn.</p> <p>And don’t play ‘safe’ porn game either - because your “little porn monster” invented that scheme to lure you. Even the content - ‘amateur’? Really? Is there a certification authority that certifies it? Tube sites and porn producers gather site visitor profiles and cater to their needs. If they see a trend in crowd sourced collection of a particular genre they will focus on that and get content out ASAP. The statistics of what genre users like is collected to the level of how long and which portion the users were preferring. Do not be fooled by their educational intent or the safe female oriented clips (for you ladies). Start asking yourself:</p> @@ -2523,22 +2587,25 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>I find this brainwashing aspect the most difficult of all to explain. Why is it that an otherwise rational, intelligent human being becomes a complete imbecile about his own addiction? It pains me to confess that out of the thousands of people that I have assisted in kicking the habit, I (not Allen Carr) was the biggest idiot of all.</p> <p>At the age of thirteen, although I was doing well at school and games, I was still an insufferable introvert. I read books from the library that were not within my main study list. However, I can see that I was attracted to erotica. I started masturbating to TV programs, song and dance sequences etc. I must have to have it every day. The tired feeling I felt was misappropriated by my ‘little porn monster’ as work stress. I didn’t know my “I-must-masturbate-as-I-am-entitled” attitude was the one that created the ‘stress’ in the first place. Then I got pictures and GIFs via email on my laptop - the first step towards electronic porn. The colour and texture of the images were amazing for me at that time - won’t be now for sure. Then came dial-up but still they were predominantly static pictures. Then came downloadable videos. It’s a pain to download and watch now - but it was heaven sent then as we were coming out of the static porn era! Oh, the streaming tube sites haven’t arrived yet.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"><strong>When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"><strong>When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn.</p> <p>At the age of forty, I was visiting my online harem daily, drinking ‘socially’ (whatever that means) and smoking ‘sometimes’ but not so often. I had wrongly subscribed to misguided ideas of ‘moderation’ and ‘entitlement’. I had reached the stage where I couldn&rsquo;t get through a single day without reaching out to porn in the night. With most PMOers, the triggers are the normal stresses of life, like answering the telephone or socializing.</p> <p>When I experienced PIED - I knew it was killing my virility. There was no way I could kid myself otherwise. I am smart enough not to ‘project’ the porn fantasies on to real life. But it was like pacifying a dog straining at its leash. But why I couldn&rsquo;t see what it was doing to me mentally, I could not understand. It was almost jumping up and biting me on the nose. The ridiculous thing is that most PMOers suffer the delusion at some time in their life that they enjoy internet porn because it is ‘normal’ and ‘healthy’. I never suffered that delusion, I PMOed because I thought enjoying sex is a ‘birthright’ and I am only doing a normal thing.</p> <p>Since it was easier at most times for me to get internet porn than a partner I thought I am doing the normal thing. Now I am a non-PMOer, the most difficult part is trying to believe that those days actually happened. It&rsquo;s like awakening from a nightmare and that is about the size of it. Internet porn is a supranormal drug. It is weakening your de-stressing mechanisms, your virility and your energy. The worst aspect of PMO isn&rsquo;t the injury to your health or manliness, it is the warping of the mind. You search for any plausible excuse to go on.</p> <p>I remember at one stage switching to static images, a failed attempt to cut down on internet porn, in the belief that it was less harmful and I could reign in my ‘habit’. I failed to see the ‘novelty’ and the ‘shock’ demands from my ‘little monster’ to just get more dopamine. Did I ‘stay’ within my boundaries? I ‘favorited’ 2 dimensional photos and my harem collection saw pictures and videos of ‘mild’ type porn rotating in and out like musical chair. When their ‘music’ stopped they ‘exited’. I didn’t understand the novelty-seeking, shock-seeking nature of my brain.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pied-and-my-excuses"><strong>PIED And My Excuses</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="pied-and-my-excuses"><strong>PIED And My Excuses</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pied-and-my-excuses"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.</p> <p>Most PMOers swear that they only watch static and soft porn and so they are OK. They are actually straining at the leash and thus fighting with their willpower to resist temptations. If they do this too often and for too long they will debit their willpower considerably and fail in other life projects where willpower is of much great value, like in daily exercise, dieting etc. Continuous failure in those areas will make them feel miserable and guilty and very soon they will find themselves back to their entitled relief. If not, they will vent their anger and depression onto their loved ones.</p> <p>The answer is that once you have become addicted to internet porn, the brainwashing is increased. Your subconscious mind knows that the little monster has to be fed and you block everything else from your mind. As I have already stated, it is fear that keeps people quitting, the fear of that empty, insecure feeling that you get when you stop supplying the brain with dopamine flooding. Just because you are not aware of it doesn&rsquo;t mean it isn&rsquo;t there. You don&rsquo;t have to understand it any more than a cat needs to understand where the under-floor hot-water pipes are. It just knows that if it sits in a certain place it gets the feeling of warmth.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind"><strong>The Passivity Of Our Mind</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind"><strong>The Passivity Of Our Mind</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-passivity-of-our-mind"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I&rsquo;ve frequently referred to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo; PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo;, but to stopping, quitting or the true position: <strong>ESCAPING!</strong></p> <p>The only thing that persuades us to PMO in the first place is all the other people doing it. We feel we are missing out. We work so hard to become hooked, yet nobody ever finds out what they have been missing. But every time we see another new video clip it reassures us that there must be something in it, otherwise people wouldn&rsquo;t be doing it - and it wouldn&rsquo;t be such big business all over the world. Even when he has kicked the habit, the ex-PMOer feels he is being deprived when a discussion on a sexy entertainer, singer or even a porn star comes up at a party or other social function. She or he must be good to have all my friends talk about them, no? Do they have ‘hot’ pictures of her in my tube site? He feels safe. He can have just one ‘peek’ that night. And, before he knows it, he is hooked again.</p> <p>This brainwashing is extremely powerful and you need to be aware of its effects. I have heard scare stories about wicked men giving heroin mixed candies to kids at schoolyards. The concept of addiction and being compelled to go on taking the drug, filled me with horror. Even to this day, in spite of the fact that I am fairly convinced that &lsquo;pot&rsquo; is not addictive, I would not dare take one puff of marijuana. How ironic that I should have ended up a porn junky. Technology will continue to grow and we will have even faster tube sites and more faster access methods. The industry is investing millions in Virtual Reality so it will become the next best thing. The point is, do we know where we are going? Are we equipped with an under armour of defence so we can enjoy the benefits of technology yet at the same time protect ourselves from its bad effects?</p> @@ -2586,8 +2653,9 @@ action more happy feelings.</p> <p>So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. All of which will now be stored as a script in your brain for easy access next time. I call this a ‘water slide’. Next time at the cue - a sexy commercial or alone time or stress or feeling a little down - you are ready to take a ride on the ‘water slide’. One more thing is that every time to repeat this you are ‘greasing’ it as well - so it is active, alive and more easier to slide the next time.</p> <p>As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating. Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish, ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you won’t on your first time.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="my-own-online-harem"><strong>My Own Online Harem!</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="my-own-online-harem"><strong>My Own Online Harem!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#my-own-online-harem"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost.</p> <p>Going back to the earlier discussion - in this cycle as you crossed the ‘red line’ you also trigger emotions such as guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety and fear - which in turn raise dopamine levels as well. Now the brain may mistakenly associate feelings of anxiety and fear as sexual arousal. This perpetual cycle is only broken by natural causes - fortunately sooner or later. With its free access and privacy it provides boundless harem-like novelty. The dopamine can be theoretically kept very high for a very very long time. I can be satisfied with one lobster once in awhile. But Internet porn is different. It is even worse than drugs. Don’t let me make you nervous. I will shortly show you how to be free from this slavery.</p> <p>Now our human body has a self-correcting system by which the number of dopamine and opioid receptors are cut short when frequent and daily ‘flooding’ of dopamine is detected. Unfortunately - these receptors are also needed for receiving dopamine and to keep us even and balanced to handle the inevitable and normal day-to-day stresses. But this natural nominal amount of dopamine will not be absorbed efficiently with decreased receptors and you will feel mores tressed and irritated than normal.</p> @@ -2601,14 +2669,16 @@ action more happy feelings.</p> use?</p> <p>This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I will explain more about this later.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-little-monster"><strong>The Little Monster</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-little-monster"><strong>The Little Monster</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-little-monster"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&rsquo; we think we just &lsquo;got into the habit&rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.</p> <p>Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, resulting in the feeling of fulfilment and pleasure that the action gives to the PMOer. In the early days, when we first start PMOing, the withdrawal pangs and their relief are so slight that we are not even aware that they exist. When we begin to masturbate regularly to internet porn we think it is because we&rsquo;ve either come to enjoy them or got into the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. The truth is we&rsquo;re already hooked; we do not realize it, but that little monster is already inside our stomach and every now and again we have to feed it.</p> <p>All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster. The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had before he became hooked in the first place.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm"><strong>The Annoying Burglar Alarm</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm"><strong>The Annoying Burglar Alarm</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-annoying-burglar-alarm"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain goes on. It is a chain for life - <strong>UNLESS YOU BREAK IT</strong>.</p> <p>The whole business of PMO is like wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure you feel when you take them off. There are three main reasons why PMOers cannot see things that way:</p> @@ -2621,8 +2691,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <p>The heroin doesn&rsquo;t relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a 14 year old in 2008 - didn&rsquo;t suffer the empty feeling of needing internet porn or start to panic when they are off- line. Non-PMOers cannot understand how PMOers can possibly obtain pleasure from two dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. And do you know something? PMOers themselves cannot understand why they do it after some time either.</p> <p>We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don&rsquo;t non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their &rsquo;little monster&rsquo;?</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch"><strong>A Pleasure or Crutch?</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch"><strong>A Pleasure or Crutch?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#a-pleasure-or-crutch"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;I need to eat.&rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.</p> <p>PMOing appears to be almost identical. The empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;wanting or needing an PMO orgasm’ is identical to a hunger for food, although one will not satisfy the other. Like hunger, there is no physical pain and the feeling is so imperceptible that we are not even aware of it between PMO sessions. It&rsquo;s only if we want to masturbate and aren&rsquo;t able to reach internet for porn that we become aware of any discomfort. But when we do PMO we feel satisfied.</p> <p>It is this similarity to eating which helps to fool PMOers into believing that they receive some genuine pleasure. Some PMOers find it very difficult to grasp that there is no pleasure or crutch, whatsoever to PMO. Some argue: “How can you say there is no crutch? When I orgasm up then I&rsquo;llfeel less nervous than before.”</p> @@ -2633,13 +2704,15 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <li>Eating doesn&rsquo;t create hunger and genuinely relieves it, whereas the first PMO starts the craving for dopamine and each subsequent one, far from relieving it, ensures that you suffer it for the rest of life.</li> </ol> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pmo-is-a-habit"><strong>PMO is a Habit?</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="pmo-is-a-habit"><strong>PMO is a Habit?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pmo-is-a-habit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.</p> <p>On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience, I also refer to the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> - we have to then have more bizarre and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting&hellip; not in the killing. If we don&rsquo;t then panic sets in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great!</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="crossing-the-red-line"><strong>Crossing The Red Line</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="crossing-the-red-line"><strong>Crossing The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#crossing-the-red-line"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.</p> <p>You feel better than you did before starting this PMO session but you are in fact more nervous and less relaxed than you would be as a non-PMOer, like someone who is living in Loma Linda or in an Amish village, even though you are actually PMOing and living in your supposed “porn paradise.” This position is even more ridiculous than wearing tight shoes because as you go through life an increasing amount of the discomfort remains even when the shoes are removed.</p> <p>Once the orgasm is achieved, the dopamine rapidly begins to leave the brain, causing a mood dip. Which explains why the PMOer wants to ‘edge’<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> and switch through multiple browser windows as they seek and search. As I said, the ‘habit’ doesn&rsquo;t exist. The real reason why every user goes on using internet porn is because of that little porn monster inside his stomach. Every now and again he has to feed it. The PMOer himself will decide when he does that and it tends to be on four types of occasion or a combination of them.</p> @@ -2651,20 +2724,23 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <p>What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If you think about it, what other types of occasion are there in our lives; apart from sleep? The truth is that PMO neither relieves boredom and stress nor promotes concentration and relaxation. It is all just illusion. Apart from being a drug, PMO is also a destroyer of happiness and virility.</p> <p>In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes, print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’ and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive without knowing the difference between food and poison.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"><strong>Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"><strong>Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!</p> <p>When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were titillating but most were disgusting, causing you to avert your eyes away. Like you would if had accidentally glanced a feeding mother’s breast. And some of us are even revolted with what they saw when the star reminded them of someone dear to their heart or a scene which recalled their own instance of being the victim. Some don’t feel like it to browse and masturbate at the same time. It may be hard to believe for you but the non-PMOs, who don’t PMO after their first time, are the lucky ones. They actually decided that it was not their cup of tea. It must be hard for you to believe but stay with me.</p> <p>How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even after a hard day? Why not? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That&rsquo;s all.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak"><strong>Are PMOers Mentally Weak?</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak"><strong>Are PMOers Mentally Weak?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#are-pmoers-mentally-weak"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.</p> <p>To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to become hooked, and this is why it is difficult to stop teenagers. Because they are skilled in seeking and finding material, they know online privacy options and can clean their tracks - if they still feel some stigma and they (wrongfully) believe they can stop whenever they want to. Why do they not learn from us? Then again, why did we not learn from our PMOers and addicts?</p> <p>Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of ‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying is the ritual of relieving those pangs.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"><strong>The High From The Dance Around The Red Line</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"><strong>The High From The Dance Around The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.</p> <p>Ask a user who believes that he sticks to a certain actor or genre - only because he likes something about the star or the theme (if any) of the clip: “If you cannot get your normal brand of porn and can only obtain a poor or unsafe brand, do you stop masturbating?” No way. A PMOer will masturbate to anything rather than abstain and it doesn&rsquo;t matter if he has to switch to escalating themes, different sex-orientation-themes, look-alike actresses, dangerous settings shocking relationships etc. To begin with they taste awful but if you persevere you will learn to like them. Most PMOers will also try to seek masturbation even after having real sex (unfulfilment, porn-induced unrealistic expectations etc.), or after a long, stressful work day, fever, colds, flu, sore throats and even when admitted in hospitals.</p> <p>Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wanted then it makes no sense to be with your laptop. During my conversation some PMOers find it alarming to realize they are drug addicts and think it will make it even more difficult to stop. In fact, it is all good news for two important reasons:</p> @@ -2674,14 +2750,16 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to </ol> <p>You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc. The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn&rsquo;t bother the PMOers.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-smokers-analogy"><strong>The Smokers Analogy</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-smokers-analogy"><strong>The Smokers Analogy</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-smokers-analogy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they&rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn&rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.</p> <p>PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their parents while visiting for family get togethers etc. with little discomfort to themselves. In fact, most PMOers have extended periods during which they abstain without effort. Even in my case I would quite happily go a week or so without a PMO incident. In the later years as a PMOer I actually used to look forward to these days when I could stop choking my penis (what a ridiculous &lsquo;habit&rsquo;).</p> <p>The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"><strong>The Big Monster - The Brainwashing</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"><strong>The Big Monster - The Brainwashing</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.</p> <p>Not all the amateurs are ‘amateurs’ on these tube sites, oversized body parts and overcharged scenarios are the norm, aided by a bit of the ‘viagran’ help.</p> <p>As I say, the actual porn addiction is not the main problem. It just acts as a catalyst to keep our minds confused over the real problem: the brainwashing. It may be of consolation to lifelong and heavy PMOers to know that it is just as easy for them to stop as casual PMOers. In a peculiar way. it is easier. The further you go along with the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;, the more it drags you down and the greater the gain when you stop.</p> @@ -2911,8 +2989,9 @@ Do not take anything for granted. Question not only what I tell you but also you https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/02-01-introduction/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo">&lsquo;I&rsquo;M GOING TO CURE THE WORLD OF PMO&rsquo;</h2> -</div> +<h2 id="im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo">&lsquo;I&rsquo;M GOING TO CURE THE WORLD OF PMO&rsquo; <a class="anchor" href="#im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>I was talking to my mentor. He thought that I had flipped. Understandable if you consider that he had watched me fail on numerous attempts to quit. The most recent had been two years previously. I&rsquo;d actually survived six months of sheer purgatory before I finally succumbed and found myself clicking on stacked up tabs of porn sites. I&rsquo;m not ashamed to admit that I cried like a baby. I was crying because I knew that I was condemned to be an addict for life. I&rsquo;d put so much effort into that attempt and suffered so much misery that I knew I would never have the strength to go through that ordeal again. I&rsquo;m not a violent man, but if some patronizing non-PMO’er had been stupid enough at that moment to suggest to me that all users can find it easy to quit, immediately and permanently, I would not have been responsible for my actions. However, I&rsquo;m convinced that any jury in the world, comprised of PMOers only, would have pardoned me on the grounds of justifiable homicide.</p> <p>Perhaps you too find it impossible to believe that any PMOer can find it easy to quit. If so, I beg you not to cast this book into the rubbish bin. Please trust me. I assure you that you can find it easy to quit.</p> @@ -3049,21 +3128,30 @@ porn and or masturbation&#160;<a href="#fnref:2" class="footn https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/00-00-hackbookeasypeasy/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h1 id="a-hrefhackbookhackbookpdfclick-to-download-hackbookeasypeasy-original-pdfa"><a href="https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook/hackbook.pdf">Click to download HackBookEasyPeasy (original pdf)</a></h1> -<h3 id="easypeasyway">EasyPeasyWay</h3> -<h4 id="httpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhomehttpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhome"><a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a></h4> -<p><em>HackBookEasyPeasy EasyPeasyWay <a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a> I am Allen Carr. I am also not Allen Carr. So yes I am not the author. I am the hack-author.</em></p> +<h1 id="a-hrefhackbookhackbookpdfclick-to-download-hackbookeasypeasy-original-pdfa"><a href="https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook/hackbook.pdf">Click to download HackBookEasyPeasy (original pdf)</a> <a class="anchor" href="#a-hrefhackbookhackbookpdfclick-to-download-hackbookeasypeasy-original-pdfa"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><h3 id="easypeasyway">EasyPeasyWay <a class="anchor" href="#easypeasyway"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><h4 id="httpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhomehttpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhome"><a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a> <a class="anchor" href="#httpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhomehttpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhome"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><p><em>HackBookEasyPeasy EasyPeasyWay <a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a> I am Allen Carr. I am also not Allen Carr. So yes I am not the author. I am the hack-author.</em></p> <p><em>I hacked Allen Carr’s book and his method of de-addiction to adapt it for PMO. Why? Because his method helped me in getting rid of cigarettes, alcohol and then PMO. Why did I hack his work? Because he is dead now. And the institution that he had formed does not list Internet pornography as one of the addictions that it provides services for. I don&rsquo;t gain monetarily or otherwise. Above all - you won’t ‘find’ me in this book. Myself and Allen will appear and disappear in this book to provide you with an unique and effective method to get your mind de-addicted.</em></p> -<h4 id="important-advice-for-you"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong></h4> -<p><em>The common thread running through Allen Carr&rsquo;s work is the removal of fear. Indeed, his genius lies in eliminating the phobias and anxieties which prevent people from being able to enjoy life to the full, as his best-selling books vividly demonstrate. His method is solid and has high success rates. It helped cure me of not one but three addictions. There is a network of clinics that uses his methods that span the globe and has a phenomenal reputation for success in helping people to quit addictions (except PMO). Their success rate is over 95% with money-back guarantees.</em></p> +<h4 id="important-advice-for-you"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#important-advice-for-you"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#do-not-jump-chapters"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><p><em>The common thread running through Allen Carr&rsquo;s work is the removal of fear. Indeed, his genius lies in eliminating the phobias and anxieties which prevent people from being able to enjoy life to the full, as his best-selling books vividly demonstrate. His method is solid and has high success rates. It helped cure me of not one but three addictions. There is a network of clinics that uses his methods that span the globe and has a phenomenal reputation for success in helping people to quit addictions (except PMO). Their success rate is over 95% with money-back guarantees.</em></p> <p><em>Hackbook : A book based and hacked from another book. The original author is credited fully.</em></p> -<h4 id="important-advice-for-you-1"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters-1"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence-1"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong></h4> -<p><em>Dr. Albert Ellis&rsquo; autobiography - &ldquo;All Out!&rdquo;</em></p> +<h4 id="important-advice-for-you-1"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#important-advice-for-you-1"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters-1"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#do-not-jump-chapters-1"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence-1"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence-1"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><p><em>Dr. Albert Ellis&rsquo; autobiography - &ldquo;All Out!&rdquo;</em></p> <p><em>“I used to wrongly think that most of them (addicts) were aided by self-help groups like AA, by therapy, or some other real support. But no. The facts show that more people surrender their addictions on their own-without any notable help from others. How? 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        HackBookEasyPeasy EasyPeasyWay https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home I am Allen Carr. I am also not Allen Carr. So yes I am not the author. I am the hack-author.

        I hacked Allen Carr’s book and his method of de-addiction to adapt it for PMO. Why? Because his method helped me in getting rid of cigarettes, alcohol and then PMO. Why did I hack his work? Because he is dead now. And the institution that he had formed does not list Internet pornography as one of the addictions that it provides services for. I don’t gain monetarily or otherwise. Above all - you won’t ‘find’ me in this book. Myself and Allen will appear and disappear in this book to provide you with an unique and effective method to get your mind de-addicted.

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        The common thread running through Allen Carr’s work is the removal of fear. Indeed, his genius lies in eliminating the phobias and anxieties which prevent people from being able to enjoy life to the full, as his best-selling books vividly demonstrate. His method is solid and has high success rates. It helped cure me of not one but three addictions. There is a network of clinics that uses his methods that span the globe and has a phenomenal reputation for success in helping people to quit addictions (except PMO). Their success rate is over 95% with money-back guarantees.

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        The common thread running through Allen Carr’s work is the removal of fear. Indeed, his genius lies in eliminating the phobias and anxieties which prevent people from being able to enjoy life to the full, as his best-selling books vividly demonstrate. His method is solid and has high success rates. It helped cure me of not one but three addictions. There is a network of clinics that uses his methods that span the globe and has a phenomenal reputation for success in helping people to quit addictions (except PMO). Their success rate is over 95% with money-back guarantees.

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        “I used to wrongly think that most of them (addicts) were aided by self-help groups like AA, by therapy, or some other real support. But no. The facts show that more people surrender their addictions on their own-without any notable help from others. How? Mainly by seeing, acknowledging, and emphasizing how hard it is not to stop and how much easier it is-in the long run- to suffer through the withdrawal process.”

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        I was talking to my mentor. He thought that I had flipped. Understandable if you consider that he had watched me fail on numerous attempts to quit. The most recent had been two years previously. I’d actually survived six months of sheer purgatory before I finally succumbed and found myself clicking on stacked up tabs of porn sites. I’m not ashamed to admit that I cried like a baby. I was crying because I knew that I was condemned to be an addict for life. I’d put so much effort into that attempt and suffered so much misery that I knew I would never have the strength to go through that ordeal again. I’m not a violent man, but if some patronizing non-PMO’er had been stupid enough at that moment to suggest to me that all users can find it easy to quit, immediately and permanently, I would not have been responsible for my actions. However, I’m convinced that any jury in the world, comprised of PMOers only, would have pardoned me on the grounds of justifiable homicide.

        Perhaps you too find it impossible to believe that any PMOer can find it easy to quit. If so, I beg you not to cast this book into the rubbish bin. Please trust me. I assure you that you can find it easy to quit.

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        I thought my chief antagonist would be the porn industry. Amazingly, my chief stumbling blocks were the very institutions that I thought would be my greatest allies: the control/regulated safe sex advocates in the noFap forum,the media and the established medical profession.

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        So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. All of which will now be stored as a script in your brain for easy access next time. I call this a ‘water slide’. Next time at the cue - a sexy commercial or alone time or stress or feeling a little down - you are ready to take a ride on the ‘water slide’. One more thing is that every time to repeat this you are ‘greasing’ it as well - so it is active, alive and more easier to slide the next time.

        As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating. Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish, ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you won’t on your first time.

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        This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost.

        Going back to the earlier discussion - in this cycle as you crossed the ‘red line’ you also trigger emotions such as guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety and fear - which in turn raise dopamine levels as well. Now the brain may mistakenly associate feelings of anxiety and fear as sexual arousal. This perpetual cycle is only broken by natural causes - fortunately sooner or later. With its free access and privacy it provides boundless harem-like novelty. The dopamine can be theoretically kept very high for a very very long time. I can be satisfied with one lobster once in awhile. But Internet porn is different. It is even worse than drugs. Don’t let me make you nervous. I will shortly show you how to be free from this slavery.

        Now our human body has a self-correcting system by which the number of dopamine and opioid receptors are cut short when frequent and daily ‘flooding’ of dopamine is detected. Unfortunately - these receptors are also needed for receiving dopamine and to keep us even and balanced to handle the inevitable and normal day-to-day stresses. But this natural nominal amount of dopamine will not be absorbed efficiently with decreased receptors and you will feel mores tressed and irritated than normal.

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        This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I will explain more about this later.

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        The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict’ we think we just ‘got into the habit’. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that’s exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.

        Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, resulting in the feeling of fulfilment and pleasure that the action gives to the PMOer. In the early days, when we first start PMOing, the withdrawal pangs and their relief are so slight that we are not even aware that they exist. When we begin to masturbate regularly to internet porn we think it is because we’ve either come to enjoy them or got into the ‘habit’. The truth is we’re already hooked; we do not realize it, but that little monster is already inside our stomach and every now and again we have to feed it.

        All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster. The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had before he became hooked in the first place.

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        You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain goes on. It is a chain for life - UNLESS YOU BREAK IT.

        The whole business of PMO is like wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure you feel when you take them off. There are three main reasons why PMOers cannot see things that way:

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        The heroin doesn’t relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a 14 year old in 2008 - didn’t suffer the empty feeling of needing internet porn or start to panic when they are off- line. Non-PMOers cannot understand how PMOers can possibly obtain pleasure from two dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. And do you know something? PMOers themselves cannot understand why they do it after some time either.

        We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don’t non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their ’little monster’?

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        Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: ‘I need to eat.’ And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.

        PMOing appears to be almost identical. The empty, insecure feeling which we know as: ‘wanting or needing an PMO orgasm’ is identical to a hunger for food, although one will not satisfy the other. Like hunger, there is no physical pain and the feeling is so imperceptible that we are not even aware of it between PMO sessions. It’s only if we want to masturbate and aren’t able to reach internet for porn that we become aware of any discomfort. But when we do PMO we feel satisfied.

        It is this similarity to eating which helps to fool PMOers into believing that they receive some genuine pleasure. Some PMOers find it very difficult to grasp that there is no pleasure or crutch, whatsoever to PMO. Some argue: “How can you say there is no crutch? When I orgasm up then I’llfeel less nervous than before.”

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      This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.

      On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience, I also refer to the ‘habit’. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’1 - we have to then have more bizarre and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting… not in the killing. If we don’t then panic sets in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great!

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      This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.

      You feel better than you did before starting this PMO session but you are in fact more nervous and less relaxed than you would be as a non-PMOer, like someone who is living in Loma Linda or in an Amish village, even though you are actually PMOing and living in your supposed “porn paradise.” This position is even more ridiculous than wearing tight shoes because as you go through life an increasing amount of the discomfort remains even when the shoes are removed.

      Once the orgasm is achieved, the dopamine rapidly begins to leave the brain, causing a mood dip. Which explains why the PMOer wants to ‘edge’2 and switch through multiple browser windows as they seek and search. As I said, the ‘habit’ doesn’t exist. The real reason why every user goes on using internet porn is because of that little porn monster inside his stomach. Every now and again he has to feed it. The PMOer himself will decide when he does that and it tends to be on four types of occasion or a combination of them.

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      What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If you think about it, what other types of occasion are there in our lives; apart from sleep? The truth is that PMO neither relieves boredom and stress nor promotes concentration and relaxation. It is all just illusion. Apart from being a drug, PMO is also a destroyer of happiness and virility.

      In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes, print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’ and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive without knowing the difference between food and poison.

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      Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!

      When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were titillating but most were disgusting, causing you to avert your eyes away. Like you would if had accidentally glanced a feeding mother’s breast. And some of us are even revolted with what they saw when the star reminded them of someone dear to their heart or a scene which recalled their own instance of being the victim. Some don’t feel like it to browse and masturbate at the same time. It may be hard to believe for you but the non-PMOs, who don’t PMO after their first time, are the lucky ones. They actually decided that it was not their cup of tea. It must be hard for you to believe but stay with me.

      How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even after a hard day? Why not? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That’s all.

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      It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.

      To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to become hooked, and this is why it is difficult to stop teenagers. Because they are skilled in seeking and finding material, they know online privacy options and can clean their tracks - if they still feel some stigma and they (wrongfully) believe they can stop whenever they want to. Why do they not learn from us? Then again, why did we not learn from our PMOers and addicts?

      Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of ‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying is the ritual of relieving those pangs.

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      Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.

      Ask a user who believes that he sticks to a certain actor or genre - only because he likes something about the star or the theme (if any) of the clip: “If you cannot get your normal brand of porn and can only obtain a poor or unsafe brand, do you stop masturbating?” No way. A PMOer will masturbate to anything rather than abstain and it doesn’t matter if he has to switch to escalating themes, different sex-orientation-themes, look-alike actresses, dangerous settings shocking relationships etc. To begin with they taste awful but if you persevere you will learn to like them. Most PMOers will also try to seek masturbation even after having real sex (unfulfilment, porn-induced unrealistic expectations etc.), or after a long, stressful work day, fever, colds, flu, sore throats and even when admitted in hospitals.

      Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wanted then it makes no sense to be with your laptop. During my conversation some PMOers find it alarming to realize they are drug addicts and think it will make it even more difficult to stop. In fact, it is all good news for two important reasons:

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    You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc. The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn’t bother the PMOers.

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    A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they’d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn’t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.

    PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their parents while visiting for family get togethers etc. with little discomfort to themselves. In fact, most PMOers have extended periods during which they abstain without effort. Even in my case I would quite happily go a week or so without a PMO incident. In the later years as a PMOer I actually used to look forward to these days when I could stop choking my penis (what a ridiculous ‘habit’).

    The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the ‘habit’ but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood.

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    You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.

    Not all the amateurs are ‘amateurs’ on these tube sites, oversized body parts and overcharged scenarios are the norm, aided by a bit of the ‘viagran’ help.

    As I say, the actual porn addiction is not the main problem. It just acts as a catalyst to keep our minds confused over the real problem: the brainwashing. It may be of consolation to lifelong and heavy PMOers to know that it is just as easy for them to stop as casual PMOers. In a peculiar way. it is easier. The further you go along with the ‘habit’, the more it drags you down and the greater the gain when you stop.

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    We can have an ‘information overload’ from the same internet but our reward circuits are not going to squirt dopamine at the levels when ‘porn overload’ is involved. We are evolutionarily programmed to seek and access sex related stuff. And we wrongly appraise the stimulus mostly based on this reward circuit action. If all you wanted is to masturbate why can’t you just use one clip and get the business done?

    Here is another question - next time after a long day or some stressful incident can you consciously embellish your self-talk with “Do you know what I would really enjoy today? The marvellous warm glow of dopamine rush going to my online harem.” You will find that even people who dislike PMO will join you.

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    There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.

    From our earliest years our subconscious minds are bombarded daily with information telling us that sex is good and that the most precious thing on this earth is to ‘achieve’ orgasm. Girls are taught to achieve it and claim it’s because they were wrongly suppressed of their sexual side for a very long time and still are. You think I exaggerate? Watch any TV or movie plot and you will see the mix-up of the amative (touch, smell, voice etc.) and the propagative (orgasmic) sides of sex. The impact of this does not register on our conscious minds but the sleeping partner, the subconscious mind, has time to absorb it. What the message is really saying is, “The most precious thing on this earth, my last thought and action, will be the goal of orgasm.” If you don’t have an orgasm then you are an old man with zero libido.

    Our children are being bombarded by sex and porn clips and many don’t even know how to protect them from it all. Large hoardings and magazine adverts are loaded with sexual innuendo. Some of the pop videos are extremely suggestive - again they hide behind free speech. Don’t be vexed and feel powerless about it. Make it a game and find you which of the components they are using - is it novelty, shock value, color, size, taboo etc. If the kids are pre-teen some of these can be disclosed to them and it would make an excellent show-and-tell game.

    A while back there was a wave of ‘leaked’ private videos of celebrities on the internet. If the youngster is too smitten by their favourite star, even if the conscious mind blames the ‘leak’ on the blood thirsty internet paparazzi, the ‘sleeping partner’ is patiently digesting the notion that, “yes, even my shambolic hero does it and if I don’t, I won’t look the part.”

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    True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP1, Reboot2 forums, underground PUA3, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn’t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.

    Ironically, the most powerful force in this melee of confusion is the PMOer himself. It is a fallacy that they are weak-willed or are physically weak specimens. You have to be physically strong in order to cope with an addiction after you know it is. This is one of the reasons why PMOers refuse to accept the overwhelming statistics that prove that internet porn with its ‘novelty’ cripples your brain. Add to that the sexologists who are doing half-baked studies and declare PMO is not an issue - they just help to add to the confusion.

    Everyone knows a friend who PMOed every day - he started with the ‘static’ to internet porn, always horny in real life, chasing girls and you never doubted him to have sex problems of course. You want to believe him. He never complained about any ED right? Guys and girls like them refuse even to consider the hundreds of ex-addicts and non-PMOers who painfully recount their difficulties. It is the “little monster” brain chemical addiction and the “big monster” - illusions and delusions. In this hackbook, I’ve put together almost all the sorts of brainwashing a PMOer can suffer from. There will always be a few out there that I haven’t touched upon.

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    If you do a small survey among your online forum members, friends and colleagues, you will find that most PMOers are, in fact, strong-willed people. They tend to be self-employed, business executives or in certain specialized professions, such as doctors4, lawyers, policemen, teachers, salesmen, nurses, secretaries, housewives with children, etc. In other words, anybody leading a stressful existence. Yes, I did include women and mothers. It’s the brain and it’s the same for them too. The main delusion of the PMOer is that porn helps to masturbate to orgasm and that relieves stress. This tends to be associated with the dominant type, the type that takes on responsibility and stress and, of course, that is the type that we admire and therefore tend to copy. Another group that tends to get hooked are people in monotonous jobs because the other main reason for PMOing is boredom. However, the idea that internet porn relieves boredom is also an illusion, I am afraid.

    As a society we get all uptight about glue-sniffing, heroin addiction, etc. Actual deaths from glue-sniffing do not amount to ten per annum, and deaths from heroin are less than a hundred a year in this country. There is another drug, internet porn, on which over 45 per cent of us become hooked at some time in our lives and the majority spend the rest of their lives regretting it. Some even don’t know that their ED is due to this.

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    PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why?

    Constant exposure to internet porn re-wires your brain. You need to start building resistance to this brainwashing, just as if you were buying a car from a second-hand car dealer. You would be nodding politely but you would not believe a word the man was saying. So don’t believe everything they say either - that you must have sex as much as you can and you must have it exceptional good. And that in the absence of real sex you claim it by the substitute called internet porn - which is only a component of the good old porn.

    And don’t play ‘safe’ porn game either - because your “little porn monster” invented that scheme to lure you. Even the content - ‘amateur’? Really? Is there a certification authority that certifies it? Tube sites and porn producers gather site visitor profiles and cater to their needs. If they see a trend in crowd sourced collection of a particular genre they will focus on that and get content out ASAP. The statistics of what genre users like is collected to the level of how long and which portion the users were preferring. Do not be fooled by their educational intent or the safe female oriented clips (for you ladies). Start asking yourself:

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    I find this brainwashing aspect the most difficult of all to explain. Why is it that an otherwise rational, intelligent human being becomes a complete imbecile about his own addiction? It pains me to confess that out of the thousands of people that I have assisted in kicking the habit, I (not Allen Carr) was the biggest idiot of all.

    At the age of thirteen, although I was doing well at school and games, I was still an insufferable introvert. I read books from the library that were not within my main study list. However, I can see that I was attracted to erotica. I started masturbating to TV programs, song and dance sequences etc. I must have to have it every day. The tired feeling I felt was misappropriated by my ‘little porn monster’ as work stress. I didn’t know my “I-must-masturbate-as-I-am-entitled” attitude was the one that created the ‘stress’ in the first place. Then I got pictures and GIFs via email on my laptop - the first step towards electronic porn. The colour and texture of the images were amazing for me at that time - won’t be now for sure. Then came dial-up but still they were predominantly static pictures. Then came downloadable videos. It’s a pain to download and watch now - but it was heaven sent then as we were coming out of the static porn era! Oh, the streaming tube sites haven’t arrived yet.

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    I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn.

    At the age of forty, I was visiting my online harem daily, drinking ‘socially’ (whatever that means) and smoking ‘sometimes’ but not so often. I had wrongly subscribed to misguided ideas of ‘moderation’ and ‘entitlement’. I had reached the stage where I couldn’t get through a single day without reaching out to porn in the night. With most PMOers, the triggers are the normal stresses of life, like answering the telephone or socializing.

    When I experienced PIED - I knew it was killing my virility. There was no way I could kid myself otherwise. I am smart enough not to ‘project’ the porn fantasies on to real life. But it was like pacifying a dog straining at its leash. But why I couldn’t see what it was doing to me mentally, I could not understand. It was almost jumping up and biting me on the nose. The ridiculous thing is that most PMOers suffer the delusion at some time in their life that they enjoy internet porn because it is ‘normal’ and ‘healthy’. I never suffered that delusion, I PMOed because I thought enjoying sex is a ‘birthright’ and I am only doing a normal thing.

    Since it was easier at most times for me to get internet porn than a partner I thought I am doing the normal thing. Now I am a non-PMOer, the most difficult part is trying to believe that those days actually happened. It’s like awakening from a nightmare and that is about the size of it. Internet porn is a supranormal drug. It is weakening your de-stressing mechanisms, your virility and your energy. The worst aspect of PMO isn’t the injury to your health or manliness, it is the warping of the mind. You search for any plausible excuse to go on.

    I remember at one stage switching to static images, a failed attempt to cut down on internet porn, in the belief that it was less harmful and I could reign in my ‘habit’. I failed to see the ‘novelty’ and the ‘shock’ demands from my ‘little monster’ to just get more dopamine. Did I ‘stay’ within my boundaries? I ‘favorited’ 2 dimensional photos and my harem collection saw pictures and videos of ‘mild’ type porn rotating in and out like musical chair. When their ‘music’ stopped they ‘exited’. I didn’t understand the novelty-seeking, shock-seeking nature of my brain.

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    Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.

    Most PMOers swear that they only watch static and soft porn and so they are OK. They are actually straining at the leash and thus fighting with their willpower to resist temptations. If they do this too often and for too long they will debit their willpower considerably and fail in other life projects where willpower is of much great value, like in daily exercise, dieting etc. Continuous failure in those areas will make them feel miserable and guilty and very soon they will find themselves back to their entitled relief. If not, they will vent their anger and depression onto their loved ones.

    The answer is that once you have become addicted to internet porn, the brainwashing is increased. Your subconscious mind knows that the little monster has to be fed and you block everything else from your mind. As I have already stated, it is fear that keeps people quitting, the fear of that empty, insecure feeling that you get when you stop supplying the brain with dopamine flooding. Just because you are not aware of it doesn’t mean it isn’t there. You don’t have to understand it any more than a cat needs to understand where the under-floor hot-water pipes are. It just knows that if it sits in a certain place it gets the feeling of warmth.

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    It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I’ve frequently referred to ‘giving up’ PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to ‘giving up’, but to stopping, quitting or the true position: ESCAPING!

    The only thing that persuades us to PMO in the first place is all the other people doing it. We feel we are missing out. We work so hard to become hooked, yet nobody ever finds out what they have been missing. But every time we see another new video clip it reassures us that there must be something in it, otherwise people wouldn’t be doing it - and it wouldn’t be such big business all over the world. Even when he has kicked the habit, the ex-PMOer feels he is being deprived when a discussion on a sexy entertainer, singer or even a porn star comes up at a party or other social function. She or he must be good to have all my friends talk about them, no? Do they have ‘hot’ pictures of her in my tube site? He feels safe. He can have just one ‘peek’ that night. And, before he knows it, he is hooked again.

    This brainwashing is extremely powerful and you need to be aware of its effects. I have heard scare stories about wicked men giving heroin mixed candies to kids at schoolyards. The concept of addiction and being compelled to go on taking the drug, filled me with horror. Even to this day, in spite of the fact that I am fairly convinced that ‘pot’ is not addictive, I would not dare take one puff of marijuana. How ironic that I should have ended up a porn junky. Technology will continue to grow and we will have even faster tube sites and more faster access methods. The industry is investing millions in Virtual Reality so it will become the next best thing. The point is, do we know where we are going? Are we equipped with an under armour of defence so we can enjoy the benefits of technology yet at the same time protect ourselves from its bad effects?

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    These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on this planet. Whether you believe in a creator, a process of natural selection or a combination of both, whatever being or system devised these bodies of ours, it is a thousand times more effective than man! Man cannot create the smallest living cell, let alone the miracle of eyesight, reproduction, our circulatory system or our brains. We don’t have our systems upgraded yet to properly assess the supranormal stimulus such as rich high density food or high speed internet novelty porn with multiple active windows.

    If the creator or process had intended us to handle novelty triggering stimuli, we would have been provided with some other brain reward circuits. Our bodies are, in fact, provided with fail-safe warning devices and we ignore these at our peril. Excessive edging results in body pain, irritation, and inflammation. In women, excessive flooding of dopamine and stress enzymes such as prostaglandin-E2 can cause difficulty to orgasm and PME.

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    The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.

    The problem I have is to make a convincing point as I’d have done for, let us say… smokers? All of us have seen smokers who develop excuses to sneak off for a crafty puff. It is easy to see the true addiction in action. Addicts do not do it because they enjoy it. They do it because they are miserable without it.

    Because many of us started out our first sexual experience that ended in an orgasm and we acquired the belief that we cannot enjoy sex without an orgasm. And for men, porn is sold as an aid towards sex, sometimes even as an education to be confident during the act of sex. It used to be static, but now we have supranormal internet porn. But this is nonsense. Internet porn takes away your confidence.

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    The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn’t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.

    Porn and internet porn does not help your sex life; it destroys it totally. Having to hide your internet footprints, trying to delete your history, fearing accidental exposure to your boyfriend or kids, body pains, doubtful symptoms, fighting self doubts, arguing with yourself about your responsibilities in the ill effects of your addiction… well, why do you want to put yourself in such a bad situation?

    Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous positive gains to be had. When PMOers contemplate quitting they tend to concentrate on health and virility. These are obviously valid and important issues but I personally believe the greatest gains from stopping are psychological:

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Not only is life better as a non-PMOer but it is infinitely more enjoyable. I do not only mean you will be healthier. I mean you will be happier and enjoy life far more. The marvellous gains from being a non-PMOer are discussed in the next few chapters. Some PMOers find it difficult to appreciate the concept of the ‘void’ and the following analogy may assist you.

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Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I’ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can’t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.

By now you are completely dependent on the ointment. You never go out without ensuring that you have a tube of the ointment with you. If you go abroad, you make sure that you take several tubes with you. Now, in addition to your worries about your health, I’m charging you $100 per tube. You have no choice but to pay.

You then read in the medical column of your newspaper that this isn’t happening just to you; many other people have been suffering from the same problem. In fact, pharmacists have discovered that the ointment doesn’t actually cure the sore. All that it does is to take the sore beneath the surface of the skin. It is the ointment that has caused the sore to grow. All you have to do to get rid of the sore is to stop using the ointment. The sore will eventually disappear in due course.

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The other important point that cutting down demonstrates is that there is no such thing as the odd or occasional harem visit. Internet porn is a chain reaction that will last the rest of your life unless you make a positive effort to break it:

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I used to think of my ‘non-casual’ PMOing as a weakness. I couldn’t understand why my friends could limit their “intake.” I knew I was a very strong-willed person. It never occurred to me that most PMOers are incapable of chain-PMOing - you need a very strong imagination and also extraordinarily strong penis stamina in order to do it. Some of these once-a-week PMOers that heavy PMOers tend to envy do it less frequently because physically their constitution cannot do more, or because they cannot afford to PMO more, or because their job, or society, or their own hatred of being hooked won’t allow them to PMO more.

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Someone who has never fallen for the trap but should not be complacent. He is a non-PMOer only by luck or the grace of goodness. All PMOers were convinced that they would never become hooked and some non-PMOers keep trying an occasional session.

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There are two basic classifications of casual PMOers:

  1. The PMOer who has fallen for the trap but doesn’t realize it. Do not envy such PMOers. They are merely sampling the nectar at the mouth of the pitcher plant and in all probability will soon be heavy users. Remember, just as all alcoholics started off as casual drinkers, so all PMOers started off as casual PMOers.
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If he enjoys his entitlement to orgasm, why does he use internet porn to orgasm only once a day? If he can take it or leave it, why does he bother to PMO at all? Remember, the ‘habit’ is really banging your head against the brick wall only to make it relaxing when you stop. The once-a-day PMOer is relieving his withdrawal pangs for less than one hour each day. The rest of the day, although he doesn’t realize it, he is banging his head against the wall and does so for most of his life. He is PMOing only once a day because either he cannot take the risk of getting caught or screwing up his brain health. It is easy to convince the heavy PMOer that he doesn’t enjoy it but you try convincing a casual PMOer. Anybody who has gone through an attempt to cut down will know it is the worst torture of all and almost guaranteed to keep you hooked for the rest of your life.

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This PMOer demands the right to his/her orgasm(s) every day. And of course his sex partner is not always up to it. So he goes on the internet for porn initially. Once he takes “the ride” to fix “the void” he is trapped on this most exciting ‘water slide’ of novelty, shock, supranormal images etc. He is in fact dichotomously ‘happy’ with the partner’s rejection – it gives him something of an excuse. If internet porn is giving so much to you, why even bother to have a partner at all? Set him or her free. He is not even enjoying the PMO when he has to ‘carry’ his partner in his mind. At some point he is using his real life partner to hand him an excuse to go out into the valleys of the dark side of the internet.

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(Or, “I can stop whenever I want to. I have done it thousands of times”). If he thinks dieting helps with his moods to ‘get out to get women,’ why is he even on the diet of once every four days? How can one predict the future, what if the happenstance of meeting occurred just an hour after your scheduled PMO session? Also, if he thinks this occasional “cleaning the plumbing” is good to relieve tension and relax why not plumb every day? It has been proven that masturbation is not required to keep the genitals healthy. Internet porn is not required at all. Even if that may be the case, any PUA guru who has read about the brain chemistry and its plasticity will never recommend watching super stimulus porn. The truth is he is still hooked. Although he gets rid of the physical addiction, he is left with the main problem - the brainwashing. He hopes each time that he will stop for good and soon falls for the same trap again.

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If he enjoys his entitlement to orgasm, why does he use internet porn to orgasm only once a day? If he can take it or leave it, why does he bother to PMO at all? Remember, the ‘habit’ is really banging your head against the brick wall only to make it relaxing when you stop. The once-a-day PMOer is relieving his withdrawal pangs for less than one hour each day. The rest of the day, although he doesn’t realize it, he is banging his head against the wall and does so for most of his life. He is PMOing only once a day because either he cannot take the risk of getting caught or screwing up his brain health. It is easy to convince the heavy PMOer that he doesn’t enjoy it but you try convincing a casual PMOer. Anybody who has gone through an attempt to cut down will know it is the worst torture of all and almost guaranteed to keep you hooked for the rest of your life.

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This PMOer demands the right to his/her orgasm(s) every day. And of course his sex partner is not always up to it. So he goes on the internet for porn initially. Once he takes “the ride” to fix “the void” he is trapped on this most exciting ‘water slide’ of novelty, shock, supranormal images etc. He is in fact dichotomously ‘happy’ with the partner’s rejection – it gives him something of an excuse. If internet porn is giving so much to you, why even bother to have a partner at all? Set him or her free. He is not even enjoying the PMO when he has to ‘carry’ his partner in his mind. At some point he is using his real life partner to hand him an excuse to go out into the valleys of the dark side of the internet.

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(Or, “I can stop whenever I want to. I have done it thousands of times”). If he thinks dieting helps with his moods to ‘get out to get women,’ why is he even on the diet of once every four days? How can one predict the future, what if the happenstance of meeting occurred just an hour after your scheduled PMO session? Also, if he thinks this occasional “cleaning the plumbing” is good to relieve tension and relax why not plumb every day? It has been proven that masturbation is not required to keep the genitals healthy. Internet porn is not required at all. Even if that may be the case, any PUA guru who has read about the brain chemistry and its plasticity will never recommend watching super stimulus porn. The truth is he is still hooked. Although he gets rid of the physical addiction, he is left with the main problem - the brainwashing. He hopes each time that he will stop for good and soon falls for the same trap again.

Many PMOers actually envy these stoppers and starters. They think, “how lucky to be able to control it like that, to do PMO when you want to and stop when you want to,” What they always overlook is that these stoppers and starters aren’t controlling it. When they are PMOers, they wish they weren’t. They go through the hassle of stopping, then begin to feel deprived and fall for the trap again, then wish they hadn’t. They get the worst of both worlds. If you think about it, this is true in the lives of the PMOers. When we are allowed to PMO we either take it as entitled or wish we didn’t. It’s only when we can’t have PMO that it appears to be so precious. The ‘forbidden fruit syndrome’. This is the awful dilemma of PMOers. They can never win because they are moping for a myth, an illusion. There is one way they can win and that is to stop PMOing and stop moping!

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Yes, we all do it to start with but isn’t it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner’s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes… you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one.

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In a way such peeking PMOers are the most pathetic of all. Either they go through their lives believing they are being deprived or, more often, the occasional peek becomes two. They remain on the slippery slope and it goes only one way - DOWNWARDS. Sooner or later they are back to being heavy PMOers. They have fallen again for the very trap that they fell into in the first place.

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Yes, we all do it to start with but isn’t it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner’s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes… you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one.

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In a way such peeking PMOers are the most pathetic of all. Either they go through their lives believing they are being deprived or, more often, the occasional peek becomes two. They remain on the slippery slope and it goes only one way - DOWNWARDS. Sooner or later they are back to being heavy PMOers. They have fallen again for the very trap that they fell into in the first place.

There are two other categories of casual PMOers. The first is the type who masturbates to images or clips of the latest celebrity sex tapes that hit the news. Or something they ‘carried home’ from their ‘accidental’ viewing at school or work. These people are really non-PMOers. It’s just that they feel they are missing out. They want to be part of the action. We all start off like this. Next time watch how, after a while, the celebrity sex tape, the same star of your fantasy is not ‘doing it’ to you any more. The more ‘unattainable’ the target of your fantasy is, the more frustrating the withdrawal of the orgasm is.

The second category is recently getting attention. The type can best be described by outlining a case shared online. A woman who is a professional, had been using internet porn stories for many years and had never PMOed more or less than one time every night. She was, incidentally, a very strong-willed lady. Most PMOers would wonder why she wanted to stop in the first place. They would gladly point out to her that there is no worries of PIED, or PE in her case as she is a women. She is using not even static images and the stories are far tamer than any they use on a daily basis.

They make the mistake of assuming that casual PMOers are happier and more in control. In control they may be but happy they are not. In this case, she is not satisfied with her partner, not interested in real sex, highly irritable with her daily stress and strains. Her nearest-and-dearest could not find out what is bothering her. Even if she convinced herself not to be afraid of her use of internet porn by rationalizing, she still finds herself not being able to enjoy real relationships which almost invariably involve ups and downs. Her brain’s RC1 is not able to make use of the normal de-stress brain chemicals as she is flooding dopamine into her brain on an everyday basis. The down regulation2 of her brain receptors has rendered her melancholic most times. Like me, she had a great fear of internet porn’s dark side of the treatment of women- before her first time. Like me, she eventually fell victim to the massive social brainwash and tried that first porn site. Like me, she can remember the foul clips of violence staged as entertainment. Unlike me, who capitulated and became a chain-PMOer very quickly, she resisted the slide.

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In addition to his other troubles, this poor man has no idea that he treating himself to a poison. First he is suffering the “forbidden fruit syndrome.” Next he is forcing his brain to flush dopamine. His dopamine receptors are not as cut down comparatively either. But he is sliding and greasing the porn slides, seeking and searching for edging, novelty, variety, shock-value, anxiety-value (“I must treat myself so that I can survive the next three days”) etc. You probably have visions of a pathetic imbecile. Not so. This man was over six feet tall and an ex-sergeant in the Marines. He was a former athlete and didn’t want to become an addict to anything. However, when he returned from the war he was trained as a techie in a veterans rehab program. When he entered the civil work force he was a well paid IT professional in a bank and was given a laptop (one of the ways to ensure you take work home). It was the year that famous socialites ‘leaked’ their porn videos online. There was much talk about it. And he got hooked. He has spent the rest of his life paying through the nose and it has ruined him physically and mentally. If he were an animal, our society would have put him out of his misery, yet we still allow mentally and physically healthy young teenagers to become hooked. You may think the above case and my notes are exaggerated. It is extreme but not unique. There are literally thousands of similar stories. That man poured his heart out to me but you can be sure that many of his friends and acquaintances envied him for being a once-a-week man. If you think this couldn’t happen to you, STOP KIDDING YOURSELF.

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In any event, PMOers like other addicts are notorious liars, even to themselves. They have to be. Most casual PMOers indulge far more times and on far more occasions than they will admit to. I have had many conversations with so-called twice-a-week PMOers during which they have done it more than three times that week. If you read the Reddit or No-Fap forums of casual PMOers, they are either counting the days or waiting to fail. You do not need to envy casual PMOers. You do not need to PMO. Life is infinitely sweeter without PMO. One log says…

“It started with a simple challenge to not touch my penis for a day. And being unable. I don’t think about masturbation anymore. It doesn’t cross my mind. That is possible, I promise you. And the riches that await those who are able - they’re incredible.”

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Columbo has this frustrating practice of closing the door after finishing his interrogation, having assured the suspect that he is in the clear and before the satisfied look has disappeared from the murderer’s face, Columbo reappears with: “just one small point, sir, which I’m sure you can explain…” The suspect stammers and from that point on we know and he knows that Columbo will gradually wear him down. No matter how heinous the crime, from that point on my sympathies were with the murderer.

It was almost as if I were the criminal and that’s exactly how those bouts made me feel. The tension of not being allowed to cross the red line to get my porn fix that I “rightly deserve because I am hard working man and why shouldn’t I when every man does it?” entitlement, click, click, clicking on videos that come close to the right one. Longing for the porn tube videos. And then finishing the deed - just a limp rub out, wondering where the pleasure was. The fear of crossing the line losing control. The relief of returning to the bed, immediately followed by the fear that she would toss around and ask for sex. As the “safe” YouTube videos started not to do it for me - desensitization and lack of novelty and the certain knowledge that sooner or later I was bound to visit my favourite online harem. The final humiliation and shame when that certainty became a fact, followed by the immediate return to chain-PMOing.

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The only reason why people continue to PMO after getting educated is because they have failed to stop or are too frightened to try. There are even talks about no porn, no masturbation and no orgasms - with or without partners. Karezza is discussed widely and people are trying it out. Many aforementioned failures are “fail forwards” and thus somewhat benefiting the people who practice them. Once you start in the no-PMO route you will find your best fit that applies to your life. I strongly encourage devising your own plan on orgasms after understanding and practising the separation of the amative and the propagative parts of sex. I am sure whichever route you take you will see the value of preserving the “seed” by limiting the number of times you flush your brain with chemicals by orgasming. You will then never see porn, sex and orgasms as a pleasure or as a crutch for your emotional ups and downs.

I was reading a Reddit forum by non-PMOers dedicated to quitting not only porn but also masturbation. As I read along I thought. “This is good, I see so many have taken to quitting masturbation and I think that is the right way to quit PMO.” However, I found most of the notes pointing to them to try with the Willpower Method. There was a lot of self-pitying as well. Except a few… almost all were not feeling elated and not having the, “yippee I am free from slavery” attitude. Eventually someone broke down - as I unfortunately expected to happen. And the result was a domino effect. All those other PMOers had been sitting there thinking, “surely I can’t be the only PMOer here.” However, they were “failing forward” albeit with a lot of self-torturing as they shut down their browsers but did not shut down the desire and the need. This method is the reverse as - we shut down the desire and the need first before shutting down the browser screen. As every day more and more PMOers leave the sinking ship, so those left on it become terrified they’ll be the last.

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First of all, identify the times or occasions when PMO appears to be important to you. If you are a businessman and use it for the illusion of relief of stress, pick a relatively slack period; a good idea is to choose your annual holiday. If you PMO mainly during boring or relaxing periods, weekends etc. do the opposite. In any event, take the matter seriously and make the attempt the most important thing in your life.

Look ahead for a period of about three weeks and try to anticipate any event that might lead to failure. Occasions like a conference trip, partner out of town etc. need not deter you, providing you anticipate them in advance and do not feel you will be deprived. Do not attempt to cut down in the meantime as this will only create the illusion that being denied is enjoyable. In fact, it helps to force yourself to watch and have as many PMO sessions as possible. While you are having the last session and that last time, be conscious of the disappointment due to satiation, unfulfilled expectations (porn can never satisfy you), any bodily pain or pain in the genitals, the withdrawal effects, the peevishness and the melancholy. Think how marvellous it will be when you allow yourself to stop doing it.

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Remember you aren’t giving anything up. On the contrary: you are about to receive marvellous positive gains.

For years the medical profession viewed porn is harmless without knowing the difference between the tame static porn of yesteryear and the latest VR streaming porn. The problem is this; although every PMOer uses internet porn purely to relieve the brain chemical craving for dopamine, it is not the addiction to the brain chemical itself that hooks the PMOer but the self-brainwashing that results from that addiction. An intelligent person will fall for a confidence trick. But only a fool will go on falling for it once he realizes that it’s a confidence trick. Fortunately, most PMOers aren’t fools; they only think they are. Each individual PMOer has his own private brainwashing. That is why there appears to be such a wide range of different types of PMOer, which only serves to compound the mysteries.

With the benefit of the original book that used this method to stop smoking, which dealt with nicotine addiction (one of the most quickest and addictive drug known to man) and bearing in mind that the personal logs that I collected from Reddit, NoFap and YBOP blogs and forums, I was agreeably surprised to realize that the philosophy propounded in the original book was still sound. The accumulated knowledge that was acquired by the original author Alan Carr and by myself the hack-author is how to communicate that knowledge to each individual PMOer. The fact that I know every PMOer can not only find it easy to stop but can actually enjoy the process is not only pointless but exceedingly frustrating unless I can make the PMOer realize it. The original author of the quit smoking book explains some controversial advice:

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Stop kidding yourself. If the job offer that I mentioned before, of 10 months work for 12 months salary a year won’t stop him. Or if the risks of cutting down your brain’s capacity to cope with just any normal day-to-day stress and strains or if putting yourself at odds with having a reliable erection, or if the lifetime of mental and physical torture and slavery did not stop him or her - the above said few phoney incentives will not make the slightest bit of difference. They will only make the sacrifice appear worse. Instead concentrate on the other side:

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Keep looking at the other side of the tug of war. What is PMOing doing for me? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Why do I need to do it? YOU DON’T! YOU ARE ONLY PUNISHING YOURSELF. Try looking at it from the Pascal’s Wager perspective. You have almost nothing to lose (a rub-out with half arousals) for sure, chances of big profits (a full and reliable arousal, mental well being and happiness) and no chance of losing big (unreliable full arousals, premature ejaculations, fading penetrations, loss of general impulse controls, lower tolerance for frustrations and anger).

Why not declare your quitting to friends and family? Well, it will make you a proud ex-addict, ex-PMOer, not an elated and happy non-PMOer. It will scare your partner a bit since they may see this as an effort to have more sex, sort of a new-age thing. They may also fear to lose you if this turns you into sex machine. It is hard to explain to them unless they are open minded.

Any attempt to get others to help you in your quitting gives more power to the little monster of addiction. Pushing it from your mind and totally ignoring it has the effect of trying NOT to think of it. As soon as you spot the thoughts, when you hit the cues (home alone) or just absent minded thoughts - just say to yourself: “Great, I don’t have to do it like a slave animal. I am free. I am happy to know the differences in sex.” This will cut the life of the thought and will deny oxygen to it and will stop it from burning towards urges and cravings.

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    I have been direct in my advice so far and would ask you to treat this advice as instruction rather than suggestion. I am explicit and direct, first because there are sound, practical reasons for my advice and second, because those reasons have been backed up by thousands of case studies. On the question of whether or not to try to avoid temptation during the withdrawal period, I regret that I cannot be direct. Each PMOer will need to decide for himself. I can, however, make what I hope will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all our lives and this fear consists of two distinct phases:

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    This fear is that panicky feeling the PMOer gets when they are alone in a single phase or have an asexual, uninterested or unavailable partner. The fear isn’t caused by withdrawal pangs but is the psychological fear of dependency - you cannot survive without sex and orgasm. It actually reaches its height when you are on the verge of quitting (I won’t use giving up); at that time your withdrawal pangs are at their lowest. It is the fear of the unknown, the sort of fear that people have when they are learning to dive.

    The diving board is 1 foot high but seems to be 6 feet high. The water is 6 feet deep but appears to be 1 foot deep. It takes courage to launch yourself. You are convinced you are going to smash your head. The launching is the hardest part. If you can find the courage to do it, the rest is easy. This explains why many otherwise strong-willed PMOers either have never attempted to stop or can survive only a few days when they do. In fact, there are some PMOers on a porn diet who when they decide to stop, actually binge and escalate to harsher clips more quickly than if they had not decided to stop. The decision causes panic, which is stressful. This is one of the occasions when the brain triggers the instruction, “take a trip to your own personal harem.” But now you can’t take one. You are being deprived - more stress.

    The trigger starts again quickly when the fuse blows and you fire up the browser. Don’t worry. That panic is just psychological. It is the fear that you are dependent. The beautiful truth is that you are not, even when you are still addicted. Do not panic. Just trust me and launch yourself.

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    The second phase of fear is longer-term. It involves the fear that certain situations in the future will not be enjoyable or that you will not be able to cope with a trauma without PMO. Don’t worry. If you can launch yourself you will find the opposite to be the case. The avoidance of temptation itself falls into two main categories:

    1. “I will subscribe to a porn-diet of once in 4 days. I will feel more confident knowing that I can go online if it gets hard. It is OK if I fail I can just add up additional days to my next cycle.”
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      Find out which one it is. Some people understand and believe everything I say but still start off with a feeling of doom and gloom, as if something terrible were happening. You are doing not only what you’d like to do but what every PMOer on the planet would like to do. With any method of stopping, what the ex PMOer is trying to achieve is a certain frame of mind, so that whenever he thinks about PMO he says to himself, “YIPPEE! I’M FREE!” If that’s your object, why wait? Start off in that frame of mind and never lose it. The rest of the book is designed to make you understand why there is no alternative.

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      First study the contents of this book and try to put yourself in the place of the PMOer. Do not force him to read this book or try to stop him by telling him he is ruining his health or playing with fire. He already knows this better than you do. PMOers do not continue in it because they enjoy it or because they want to. They only tell themselves and other people this in order to retain self-respect. They do it because they feel dependent on PMO because they think that it relaxes them and gives them courage and confidence (pleasure or crutch) and that life will never be enjoyable without “sex” - their version of it. If you try to force a PMOer to stop, he feels like a trapped animal and wants to be in his harem even more. This may turn him into a secret PMOer and in his mind the porn will become even more precious (see Chapter 26).

      Instead, concentrate on the other side of the coin. Get him into the company of ex-PMOers (there are many blogs, forums etc. YBOP, No-Fap etc.). Get them to tell the PMOer how they too thought they were hooked for life and how much better life is as a non-PMOer. Once you have got him believing that he can stop then his mind will start to open up. Then start explaining the delusion created by withdrawal pangs. Not only are the “dopamine rushes” not giving him a boost but they are destroying his confidence and making him irritable and tired.

      He should now be ready to read this book himself. He will be expecting to read pages and pages about unreliable arousal, fading penetrations, PIED, PE, etc. Explain that the approach is completely different and that references to illness are just a small fraction of the material in the book.

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      If you are dealing with a girlfriend or boyfriend - whether the ex-PMOer is suffering or not, assume that she/he is. Do not try to minimize his suffering by telling him it is easy to stop; he can do that himself. Instead keep telling him how proud you are, how much better he is looking, how much sweeter it is to be with him, how much easier he is in general. It is particularly important to keep doing this. When a PMOer makes an attempt to stop, the euphoria of the attempt and the attention he gets from friends and colleagues can help him along. However, they tend to forget quickly, so keep that praise going.

      Because he is not talking about PMOing, you may think he has forgotten about it and don’t want to remind him. Usually the complete opposite is the case with the Willpower Method, as the ex-PMOer tends to be obsessed by nothing else. So do not be frightened to bring the subject up and keep praising him: he will tell you if he doesn’t want you to remind him of PMOing.

      Go out of your way to relieve him of pressures during the withdrawal period. Try to think of ways of making his life interesting and enjoyable. This can also be a trying period for non-PMOers - that is those of you who have never had this addiction. If one member of a group is irritable, it can cause general misery all round. So anticipate this if the ex-PMOer is feeling irritable. He may well take it out on you but do not retaliate: it is at this time that he needs your praise and sympathy the most. If you are feeling irritable yourself, try not to show it.

      One of the tricks an addict will play when trying to give up with the aid of the Willpower Method was to get into a tantrum, hoping that wife or friends would say, “I cannot bear to see you suffering like this. For goodness sake, have your poison.” The PMOer then does not lose face, as he isn’t “giving in” - he has been instructed. If the ex-PMOer uses this ploy, on no account encourage him to lapse. Instead say, “if that is what PMO does to you, thank goodness you will soon be free. How marvellous that you had the courage and sense to give up.”

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      In my opinion, internet porn is one of the dangers in a free society, piggy backing on the good willed efforts of personal freedoms. Surely the very basis of civilization, the reason why the human species has advanced so far, is that we are capable of communicating our knowledge and experiences not only to each other but to future generations. Even the lower species find it necessary to warn their offspring of the pitfalls in life.

      The producers of porn are not doing this in good faith, in the genuine belief that they help mankind, especially now as the addiction to internet porn is widely studied. Maybe in its initial stages people genuinely believed that porn taught intimacy to men and women but today the authorities know that it is a fallacy. Just watch any tube sites nowadays. They make no claims about education. The only claims they make are about the shock, novelty, escalation quality of their clips.

      The sheer hypocrisy is incredible. As a society we get uptight about school bullying and objectification of human body. Compared with internet porn, these problems are mere pimples in our society. Thirty five per cent of the population have been addicted to porn and most of them spend quality time with imaginary and illusory pixel people at the expense of health, virility, energy and time. Tens of thousands of people have their lives ruined every year because they become hooked. Internet high speed porn is by far the biggest killer in relationships and yet the biggest vested interest is our for-profit companies. Internet porn producers don’t spend on advertising the filth in mainstream publications - they don’t have to. Our biological urges will lead us to the thresholds of their well stocked internet harems. They give free samples just like your local drug dealer. Heck the tube sites don’t even stock the wares any more as they encourage visitors to post the content.

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      I remember reading H. G. Well’s The Time Machine. The book describes an incident in the distant future in which a man falls into a river. His companions merely sit around the bank like cattle, oblivious to his cries of desperation. I found that incident inhuman and very disturbing. I find the general apathy of our society to the PMO problem very similar. We find characters in movies and TV series talking about or even engaging in porn in a casual way.

      Why do we allow society to subject healthy young teenagers, youngsters whose lives are complete before they start to get online, to claim their independence just for the privilege of destroying themselves mentally and physically in a lifetime of slavery, a lifetime of filth and disease? You may feel that I over-dramatize the facts. Not so. There are cases where lives were cut down in his early years of marriage because of PMO. He was a strong man and might still have been alive today. I believe I was within an inch of PIED during my forties, although I would have attributed it to my divorce rather than to PMO. I now spend my life being consulted by people who have been crippled by the disease or are in the last stages. And, if you care to think about it, you probably know of many too.

      There is a wind of change in society. A snowball has started that I hope this book will help turn into an avalanche. You too can help by spreading the message.

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      You can now enjoy the rest of your life as a happy non-PMOer. In order to make sure that you do, you need to follow these simple instructions:

      1. Keep this page in your bookmarks and refer to it as much as you need.
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      2. Never doubt your decision never to PMO again. You know it’s the correct decision.
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    • I am free from the slavery of PMO.
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      • – 01-01 Preface
        • diff --git a/new-site/public/library/hackbook/index.xml b/new-site/public/library/hackbook/index.xml index 07240318..a7b25107 100644 --- a/new-site/public/library/hackbook/index.xml +++ b/new-site/public/library/hackbook/index.xml @@ -16,8 +16,9 @@ Thu, 23 Mar 2023 18:06:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/ted-kaczynski/industrial-society-and-its-future/ - <h2 id="introduction">Introduction</h2> -<ol> + <h2 id="introduction">Introduction <a class="anchor" href="#introduction"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li> <p>The Industrial Revolution and its consequences have been a disaster for the human race. They have greatly increased the life expectancy of those of us who live in “advanced” countries, but they have destabilized society, have made life unfulfilling, have subjected human beings to indignities, have led to widespread psychological suffering (in the Third World to physical suffering as well) and have inflicted severe damage on the natural world. The continued development of technology will worsen the situation. It will certainly subject human beings to greater indignities and inflict greater damage on the natural world, it will probably lead to greater social disruption and psychological suffering, and it may lead to increased physical suffering even in “advanced” countries.</p> </li> @@ -34,8 +35,9 @@ <p>In this article we give attention to only some of the negative developments that have grown out of the industrial-technological system. Other such developments we mention only briefly or ignore altogether. This does not mean that we regard these other developments as unimportant. For practical reasons we have to confine our discussion to areas that have received insufficient public attention or in which we have something new to say. For example, since there are well-developed environmental and wilderness movements, we have written very little about environmental degradation or the destruction of wild nature, even though we consider these to be highly important.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-psychology-of-modern-leftism">The Psychology of Modern Leftism</h2> -<ol start="6"> +<h2 id="the-psychology-of-modern-leftism">The Psychology of Modern Leftism <a class="anchor" href="#the-psychology-of-modern-leftism"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="6"> <li> <p>Almost everyone will agree that we live in a deeply troubled society. One of the most widespread manifestations of the craziness of our world is leftism, so a discussion of the psychology of leftism can serve as an introduction to the discussion of the problems of modern society in general.</p> </li> @@ -49,8 +51,9 @@ <p>The two psychological tendencies that underlie modern leftism we call feelings of inferiority and oversocialization. Feelings of inferiority are characteristic of modern leftism as a whole, while oversocialization is characteristic only of a certain segment of modern leftism; but this segment is highly influential.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="feelings-of-inferiority">Feelings of Inferiority</h2> -<ol start="10"> +<h2 id="feelings-of-inferiority">Feelings of Inferiority <a class="anchor" href="#feelings-of-inferiority"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="10"> <li> <p>By “feelings of inferiority” we mean not only inferiority feelings in the strict sense but a whole spectrum of related traits: low self-esteem, feelings of powerlessness, depressive tendencies, defeatism, guilt, self-hatred, etc. We argue that modern leftists tend to have some such feelings (possibly more or less repressed), and that these feelings are decisive in determining the direction of modern leftism.</p> </li> @@ -94,8 +97,9 @@ <p>We emphasize that the foregoing does not pretend to be an accurate description of everyone who might be considered a leftist. It is only a rough indication of a general tendency of leftism.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="oversocialization">Oversocialization</h2> -<ol start="24"> +<h2 id="oversocialization">Oversocialization <a class="anchor" href="#oversocialization"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="24"> <li> <p>Psychologists use the term “socialization” to designate the process by which children are trained to think and act as society demands. A person is said to be well socialized if he believes in and obeys the moral code of his society and fits in well as a functioning part of that society. It may seem senseless to say that many leftists are oversocialized, since the leftist is perceived as a rebel. Nevertheless, the position can be defended. Many leftists are not such rebels as they seem.</p> </li> @@ -124,8 +128,9 @@ <p>The problems of the leftist are indicative of the problems of our society as a whole. Low self-esteem, depressive tendencies and defeatism are not restricted to the left. Though they are especially noticeable in the left, they are widespread in our society. And today’s society tries to socialize us to a greater extent than any previous society. We are even told by experts how to eat, how to exercise, how to make love, how to raise our kids and so forth.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-power-process">The Power Process</h2> -<ol start="33"> +<h2 id="the-power-process">The Power Process <a class="anchor" href="#the-power-process"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="33"> <li> <p>Human beings have a need (probably based in biology) for something that we will call the power process. This is closely related to the need for power (which is widely recognized) but is not quite the same thing. The power process has four elements. The three most clear-cut of these we call goal, effort and attainment of goal. (Everyone needs to have goals whose attainment requires effort, and needs to succeed in attaining at least some of his goals.) The fourth element is more difficult to define and may not be necessary for everyone. We call it autonomy and will discuss it later (paragraphs 42–44).</p> </li> @@ -142,8 +147,9 @@ <p>Thus, in order to avoid serious psychological problems, a human being needs goals whose attainment requires effort, and he must have a reasonable rate of success in attaining his goals.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="surrogate-activities">Surrogate Activities</h2> -<ol start="38"> +<h2 id="surrogate-activities">Surrogate Activities <a class="anchor" href="#surrogate-activities"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="38"> <li> <p>But not every leisured aristocrat becomes bored and demoralized. For example, the emperor Hirohito, instead of sinking into decadent hedonism, devoted himself to marine biology, a field in which he became distinguished. When people do not have to exert themselves to satisfy their physical needs they often set up artificial goals for themselves. In many cases they then pursue these goals with the same energy and emotional involvement that they otherwise would have put into the search for physical necessities. Thus the aristocrats of the Roman Empire had their literary pretensions; many European aristocrats a few centuries ago invested tremendous time and energy in hunting, though they certainly didn’t need the meat; other aristocracies have competed for status through elaborate displays of wealth; and a few aristocrats, like Hirohito, have turned to science.</p> </li> @@ -157,8 +163,9 @@ <p>For many if not most people, surrogate activities are less satistying than the pursuit of real goals (that is, goals that people would want to attain even if their need for the power process were already fulfilled). One indication of this is the fact that, in many or most cases, people who are deeply involved in surrogate activities are never satisfied, never at rest. Thus the money-maker constantly strives for more and more wealth. The scientist no sooner solves one problem than he moves on to the next. The long-distance runner drives himself to run always farther and faster. Many people who pursue surrogate activities will say that they get far more fulfillment from these activities than they do from the “mundane” business of satisfying their biological needs, but that is because in our society the effort required to satisfy the biological needs has been reduced to triviality. More importantly, in our society people do not satisty their biological needs AUTONOMOUSLY but by functioning as parts of an immense social machine. In contrast, people generally have a great deal of autonomy in pursuing their surrogate activities.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="autonomy">Autonomy</h2> -<ol start="42"> +<h2 id="autonomy">Autonomy <a class="anchor" href="#autonomy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="42"> <li> <p>Autonomy as a part of the power process may not be necessary for every individual. But most people need a greater or lesser degree of autonomy in working toward their goals. Their efforts must be undertaken on their own initiative and must be under their own direction and control. Yet most people do not have to exert this initiative, direction and control as single individuals. It is usually enough to act as a member of a SMALL group. Thus if half a dozen people discuss a goal among themselves and make a successful joint effort to attain that goal, their need for the power process will be served. But if they work under rigid orders handed down from above that leave them no room for autonomous decision and initiative, then their need for the power process will not be served. The same is true when decisions are made on a collective basis if the group making the collective decision is so large that the role of each individual is insignificant.<sup id="fnref:5"><a href="#fn:5" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">5</a></sup></p> </li> @@ -169,8 +176,9 @@ <p>But for most people it is through the power process—having a goal, making an AUTONOMOUS effort and attaining the goal—that self-esteem, self-confidence and a sense of power are acquired. When one does not have adequate opportunity to go through the power process the consequences are (depending on the individual and on the way the power process is disrupted) boredom, demoralization, low self-esteem, inferiority feelings, defeatism, depression, anxiety, guilt, frustration, hostility, spouse or child abuse, insatiable hedonism, abnormal sexual behavior, sleep disorders, eating disorders, etc.<sup id="fnref:6"><a href="#fn:6" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">6</a></sup></p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="sources-of-social-problems">Sources of Social Problems</h2> -<ol start="45"> +<h2 id="sources-of-social-problems">Sources of Social Problems <a class="anchor" href="#sources-of-social-problems"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="45"> <li> <p>Any of the foregoing symptoms can occur in any society, but in modern industrial society they are present on a massive scale. We aren’t the first to mention that the world today seems to be going crazy. This sort of thing is not normal for human societies. There is good reason to believe that primitive man suffered from less stress and frustration and was better satisfied with his way of life than modern man is. It is true that not all was sweetness and light in primitive societies. Abuse of women was common among the Australian aborigines, transsexuality was fairly common among some of the American Indian tribes. But it does appear that GENERALLY SPEAKING the kinds of problems that we have listed in the preceding paragraph were far less common among primitive peoples than they are in modern society.</p> </li> @@ -214,8 +222,9 @@ <p>It would be possible to give other examples of societies in which there has been rapid change and/or lack of close community ties without the kind of massive behavioral aberration that is seen in today’s industrial society. We contend that the most important cause of social and psychological problems in modern society is the fact that people have insufficient opportunity to go through the power process in a normal way. We don’t mean to say that modern society is the only one in which the power process has been disrupted. Probably most if not all civilized societies have interfered with the power process to a greater or lesser extent. But in modern industrial society the problem has become particularly acute. Leftism, at least in its recent (mid- to late-20th century) form, is in part a symptom of deprivation with respect to the power process.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="disruption-of-the-power-process-in-modern-society">Disruption of the Power Process in Modern Society</h2> -<ol start="59"> +<h2 id="disruption-of-the-power-process-in-modern-society">Disruption of the Power Process in Modern Society <a class="anchor" href="#disruption-of-the-power-process-in-modern-society"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="59"> <li> <p>We divide human drives into three groups: (1) those drives that can be satisfied with minimal effort; (2) those that can be satisfied but only at the cost of serious effort; (3) those that cannot be adequately satisfied no matter how much effort one makes. The power process is the process of satistying the drives of the second group. The more drives there are in the third group, the more there is frustration, anger, eventually defeatism, depression, etc.</p> </li> @@ -271,8 +280,9 @@ <p>In response to the arguments of this section someone will say, “Society must find a way to give people the opportunity to go through the power process.” This won’t work for those who need autonomy in the power process. For such people the value of the opportunity is destroyed by the very fact that society gives it to them. What they need is to find or make their own opportunities. As long as the system GIVES them their opportunities it still has them on a leash. To attain autonomy they must get off that leash.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="how-some-people-adjust">How Some People Adjust</h2> -<ol start="77"> +<h2 id="how-some-people-adjust">How Some People Adjust <a class="anchor" href="#how-some-people-adjust"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="77"> <li> <p>Not everyone in industrial-technological society suffers from psychological problems. Some people even profess to be quite satisfied with society as it is. We now discuss some of the reasons why people differ so greatly in their response to modern society.</p> </li> @@ -304,8 +314,9 @@ <p>But even if most people in industrial-technological society were well satisfied, we (FC) would still be opposed to that form of society, because (among other reasons) we consider it demeaning to fulfill one’s need for the power process through surrogate activities or through identification with an organization, rather than through pursuit of real goals.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-motives-of-scientists">The Motives of Scientists</h2> -<ol start="87"> +<h2 id="the-motives-of-scientists">The Motives of Scientists <a class="anchor" href="#the-motives-of-scientists"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="87"> <li> <p>Science and technology provide the most important examples of surrogate activities. Some scientists claim that they are motivated by “curiosity” or by a desire to “benefit humanity.” But it is easy to see that neither of these can be the principal motive of most scientists. As for “curiosity,” that notion is simply absurd. Most scientists work on highly specialized problems that are not the object of any normal curiosity. For example, is an astronomer, a mathematician or an entomologist curious about the properties of isopropyltrimethylmethane? Of course not. Only a chemist is curious about such a thing, and he is curious about it only because chemistry is his surrogate activity. Is the chemist curious about the appropriate classification of a new species of beetle? No. That question is of interest only to the entomologist, and he is interested in it only because entomology is his surrogate activity. If the chemist and the entomologist had to exert themselves seriously to obtain the physical necessities, and if that effort exercised their abilities in an interesting way but in some nonscientific pursuit, then they wouldn’t give a damn about isopropyltrimethylmethane or the classification of beetles. Suppose that lack of funds for postgraduate education had led the chemist to become an insurance broker instead of a chemist. In that case he would have been very interested in insurance matters but would have cared nothing about isopropyltrimcthylmethane. In any case it is not normal to put into the satisfaction of mere curiosity the amount of time and effort that scientists put into their work. The “curiosity” explanation for the scientists’ motive just doesn’t stand up.</p> </li> @@ -325,8 +336,9 @@ <p>Thus science marches on blindly, without regard to the real welfare of the human race or to any other standard, obedient only to the psychological needs of the scientists and of the government officials and corporation executives who provide the funds for research.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-nature-of-freedom">The Nature of Freedom</h2> -<ol start="93"> +<h2 id="the-nature-of-freedom">The Nature of Freedom <a class="anchor" href="#the-nature-of-freedom"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="93"> <li> <p>We are going to argue that industrial-technological society cannot be reformed in such a way as to prevent it from progressively narrowing the sphere of human freedom. But because “freedom” is a word that can be interpreted in many ways, we must first make clear what kind of freedom we are concerned with.</p> </li> @@ -346,8 +358,9 @@ <p>One more point to be made in this section: It should not be assumed that a person has enough freedom just because he SAYS he has enough. Freedom is restricted in part by psychological controls of which people are unconscious, and moreover many people’s ideas of what constitutes freedom are governed more by social convention than by their real needs. For example, it’s likely that many leftists of the oversocialized type would say that most people, including themselves, are socialized too little rather than too much, yet the oversocialized leftist pays a heavy psychological price for his high level of socialization.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="some-principles-of-history">Some Principles of History</h2> -<ol start="99"> +<h2 id="some-principles-of-history">Some Principles of History <a class="anchor" href="#some-principles-of-history"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="99"> <li> <p>Think of history as being the sum of two components: an erratic component that consists of unpredictable events that follow no discernible pattern, and a regular component that consists of long-term historical trends. Here we are concerned with the long-term trends.</p> </li> @@ -385,8 +398,9 @@ <p>Still, one has to use common sense in applying the principles. They are expressed in imprecise language that allows latitude for interpretation, and exceptions to them can be found. So we present these principles not as inviolable laws but as rules of thumb, or guides to thinking, that may provide a partial antidote to naive ideas about the future of society. The principles should be borne constantly in mind, and whenever one reaches a conclusion that conflicts with them one should carefully reexamine one’s thinking and retain the conclusion only if one has good, solid reasons for doing so.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="industrial-technological-society-cannot-be-reformed">Industrial-Technological Society Cannot Be Reformed</h2> -<ol start="111"> +<h2 id="industrial-technological-society-cannot-be-reformed">Industrial-Technological Society Cannot Be Reformed <a class="anchor" href="#industrial-technological-society-cannot-be-reformed"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="111"> <li> <p>The foregoing principles help to show how hopelessly difficult it would be to reform the industrial system in such a way as to prevent it from progressively narrowing our sphere of freedom. There has been a consistent tendency, going back at least to the Industrial Revolution, for technology to strengthen the system at a high cost in individual freedom and local autonomy. Hence any change designed to protect freedom from technology would be contrary to a fundamental trend in the development of our society. Consequently, such a change either would be a transitory one—soon swamped by the tide of history—or, if large enough to be permanent, would alter the nature of our whole society. This by the first and second principles. Moreover, since society would be altered in a way that could not be predicted in advance (third principle) there would be great risk. Changes large enough to make a lasting difference in favor of freedom would not be initiated because it would be realized that they would gravely disrupt the system. So any attempts at reform would be too timid to be effective. Even if changes large enough to make a lasting difference were initiated, they would be retracted when their disruptive effects became apparent. Thus, permanent changes in favor of freedom could be brought about only by persons prepared to accept radical, dangerous and unpredictable alteration of the entire system. In other words by revolutionaries, not reformers.</p> </li> @@ -397,8 +411,9 @@ <p>So even on very general grounds it seems highly improbable that any way of changing society could be found that would reconcile freedom with modern technology. In the next few sections we will give more specific reasons for concluding that freedom and technological progress are incompatible.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="restriction-of-freedom-is-unavoidable-in-industrial-society">Restriction of Freedom is Unavoidable in Industrial Society</h2> -<ol start="114"> +<h2 id="restriction-of-freedom-is-unavoidable-in-industrial-society">Restriction of Freedom is Unavoidable in Industrial Society <a class="anchor" href="#restriction-of-freedom-is-unavoidable-in-industrial-society"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="114"> <li> <p>As explained in paragraphs 65–67, 70–73, modern man is strapped down by a network of rules and regulations, and his fate depends on the actions of persons remote from him whose decisions he cannot influence. This is not accidental or a result of the arbitrariness of arrogant bureaucrats. It is necessary and inevitable in any technologically advanced society. The system HAS TO regulate human behavior closely in order to function. At work, people have to do what they are told to do, when they are told to do it and in the way they are told to do it, otherwise production would be thrown into chaos. Bureaucracies HAVE TO be run according to rigid rules. To allow any substantial personal discretion to lower-level bureaucrats would disrupt the system and lead to charges of unfairness due to differences in the way individual bureaucrats exercised their discretion. It is true that some restrictions on our freedom could be eliminated. but GENERALLY SPEAKING the regulation of our lives by large organizations is necessary for the functioning of industrial-technological society. The result is a sense of powerlessness on the part of the average person. It may be. however. that formal regulations will tend increasingly to be replaced by psychological tools that make us want to do what the system requires of us. (Propaganda,<sup id="fnref1:14"><a href="#fn:14" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">14</a></sup> educational techniques, “mental health” programs, etc.)</p> </li> @@ -421,8 +436,9 @@ <p>Efforts to make room for a sense of purpose and for autonomy within the system are no better than a joke. For example, one company, instead of having each of its employees assemble only one section of a catalogue, had each assemble a whole catalogue, and this was supposed to give them a sense of purpose and achievement. Some companies have tried to give their employees more autonomy in their work, but for practical reasons this usually can be done only to a very limited extent, and in any case employees are never given autonomy as to ultimate goals—their “autonomous” efforts can never be directed toward goals that they select personally, but only toward their employer’s goals, such as the survival and growth of the company. Any company would soon go out of business if it permitted its employees to act otherwise. Similarly, in any enterprise within a socialist system, workers must direct their efforts toward the goals of the enterprise, otherwise the enterprise will not serve its purpose as part of the system. Once again, for purely technical reasons it is not possible for most individuals or small groups to have much autonomy in industrial society. Even the small-business owner commonly has only limited autonomy. Apart from the necessity of government regulation, he is restricted by the fact that he must fit into the economic system and conform to its requirements. For instance, when someone develops a new technology, the small-business person often has to use that technology whether he wants to or not, in order to remain competitive.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-bad-parts-of-technology-cannot-be-separated-from-the-good-parts">The “Bad” Parts of Technology Cannot Be Separated from the “Good” Parts</h2> -<ol start="121"> +<h2 id="the-bad-parts-of-technology-cannot-be-separated-from-the-good-parts">The “Bad” Parts of Technology Cannot Be Separated from the “Good” Parts <a class="anchor" href="#the-bad-parts-of-technology-cannot-be-separated-from-the-good-parts"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="121"> <li> <p>A further reason why industrial society cannot be reformed in favor of freedom is that modern technology is a unified system in which all parts are dependent on one another. You can’t get rid of the “bad” parts of technology and retain only the “good” parts. Take modern medicine, for example. Progress in medical science depends on progress in chemistry, physics, biology, computer science and other fields. Advanced medical treatments require expensive, high-tech equipment that can be made available only by a technologically progressive, economically rich society. Clearly you can’t have much progress in medicine without the whole technological system and everything that goes with it.</p> </li> @@ -436,8 +452,9 @@ <p>The usual response to such concerns is to talk about “medical ethics.” But a code of ethics would not serve to protect freedom in the face of medical progress; it would only make matters worse. A code of ethics applicable to genetic engineering would be in effect a means of regulating the genetic constitution of human beings. Somebody (probably the upper middle class, mostly) would decide that such and such applications of genetic engineering were “ethical” and others were not, so that in effect they would be imposing their own values on the genetic constitution of the population at large. Even if a code of ethics were chosen on a completely democratic basis, the majority would be imposing their own values on any minorities who might have a different idea of what constituted an “ethical” use of genetic engineering. The only code of ethics that would truly protect freedom would be one that prohibited ANY genetic engineering of human beings, and you can be sure that no such code will ever be applied in a technological society. No code that reduced genetic engineering to a minor role could stand up for long, because the temptation presented by the immense power of biotechnology would be irresistible, especially since to the majority of people many of its applications will seem obviously and unequivocally good (eliminating physical and mental diseases, giving people the abilities they need to get along in today’s world). Inevitably, genetic engineering will be used extensively, but only in ways consistent with the needs of the industrial-technological system.<sup id="fnref:20"><a href="#fn:20" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">20</a></sup></p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="technology-is-a-more-powerful-social-force-than-the-aspiration-for-freedom">Technology is a More Powerful Social Force than the Aspiration for Freedom</h2> -<ol start="125"> +<h2 id="technology-is-a-more-powerful-social-force-than-the-aspiration-for-freedom">Technology is a More Powerful Social Force than the Aspiration for Freedom <a class="anchor" href="#technology-is-a-more-powerful-social-force-than-the-aspiration-for-freedom"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="125"> <li> <p>It is not possible to make a LASTING compromise between technology and freedom, because technology is by far the more powerful social force and continually encroaches on freedom through REPEATED compromises. Imagine the case of two neighbors, each of whom at the outset owns the same amount of land, but one of whom is more powerful than the other. The powerful one demands a piece of the other’s land. The weak one refuses. The powerful one says, “Okay, let’s compromise. Give me half of what I asked.” The weak one has little choice but to give in. Some time later the powerful neighbor demands another piece of land, again there is a compromise, and so forth. By forcing a long series of compromises on the weaker man, the powerful one eventually gets all of his land. So it goes in the conflict between technology and freedom.</p> </li> @@ -472,8 +489,9 @@ <p>In paragraph 125 we used an analogy of a weak neighbor who is left destitute by a strong neighbor who takes all his land by forcing on him a series of compromises. But suppose now that the strong neighbor gets sick, so that he is unable to defend himself. The weak neighbor can force the strong one to give him his land back, or he can kill him. If he lets the strong man survive and only forces him to give the land back, he is a fool, because when the strong man gets well he will again take all the land for himself. The only sensible alternative for the weaker man is to kill the strong one while he has the chance. In the same way, while the industrial system is sick we must destroy it. If we compromise with it and let it recover from its sickness, it will eventually wipe out all of our freedom.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="simpler-social-problems-have-proved-intractable">Simpler Social Problems Have Proved Intractable</h2> -<ol start="136"> +<h2 id="simpler-social-problems-have-proved-intractable">Simpler Social Problems Have Proved Intractable <a class="anchor" href="#simpler-social-problems-have-proved-intractable"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="136"> <li> <p>If anyone still imagines that it would be possible to reform the system in such a way as to protect freedom from technology, let him consider how clumsily and for the most part unsuccessfully our society has dealt with other social problems that are far more simple and straightforward. Among other things, the system has failed to stop environmental degradation, political corruption, drug trafficking or domestic abuse.</p> </li> @@ -487,8 +505,9 @@ <p>And note this important difference: It is conceivable that our environmental problems (for example) may some day be settled through a rational, comprehensive plan, but if this happens it will be only because it is in the long-term interest of the system to solve these problems. But it is NOT in the interest of the system to preserve freedom or small-group autonomy. On the contrary, it is in the interest of the system to bring human behavior under control to the greatest possible extent.<sup id="fnref:24"><a href="#fn:24" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">24</a></sup> Thus, while practical considerations may eventually force the system to take a rational, prudent approach to environmental problems, equally practical considerations will force the system to regulate human behavior ever more closely (preferably by indirect means that will disguise the encroachment on freedom). This isn’t just our opinion. Eminent social scientists (e.g., James Q. Wilson) have stressed the importance of “socializing” people more effectively.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="revolution-is-easier-than-reform">Revolution is Easier than Reform</h2> -<ol start="140"> +<h2 id="revolution-is-easier-than-reform">Revolution is Easier than Reform <a class="anchor" href="#revolution-is-easier-than-reform"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="140"> <li> <p>We hope we have convinced the reader that the system cannot be reformed in such a way as to reconcile freedom with technology. The only way out is to dispense with the industrial-technological system altogether. This implies revolution, not necessarily an armed uprising, but certainly a radical and fundamental change in the nature of society.</p> </li> @@ -499,8 +518,9 @@ <p>Reform is always restrained by the fear of painful consequences if changes go too far. But once a revolutionary fever has taken hold of a society, people are willing to undergo unlimited hardships for the sake of their revolution. This was clearly shown in the French and Russian Revolutions. It may be that in such cases only a minoriry of the population is really committed to the revolution, but this minority is sufficiently large and active so that it becomes the dominant force in society. We will have more to say about revolution in paragraphs 180–205).</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="control-of-human-behavior">Control of Human Behavior</h2> -<ol start="143"> +<h2 id="control-of-human-behavior">Control of Human Behavior <a class="anchor" href="#control-of-human-behavior"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="143"> <li> <p>Since the beginning of civilization, organized societies have had to put pressures on human beings for the sake of the functioning of the social organism. The kinds of pressures vary greatly from one society to another. Some of the pressures are physical (poor diet, excessive labor, environmental pollution), some are psychological (noise, crowding, forcing human behavior into the mold that society requires). In the past, human nature has been approximately constant, or at any rate has varied only within certain bounds. Consequently, societies have been able to push people only up to certain limits. When the limit of human endurance has been passed, things start going wrong: rebellion, or crime, or corruption, or evasion of work, or depression and other mental problems, or an elevated death rate, or a declining birth rate or something else, so that either the society breaks down, or its functioning becomes too inefficient and it is (quickly or gradually, through conquest, attrition or evolution) replaced by some more efficient form of society.<sup id="fnref:25"><a href="#fn:25" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">25</a></sup></p> </li> @@ -556,8 +576,9 @@ <p>To those who think that all this sounds like science fiction, we point out that yesterday’s science fiction is today’s fact. The Industrial Revolution has radically altered man’s environment and way of life, and it is only to be expected that as technology is increasingly applied to the human body and mind, man himself will be altered as radically as his environment and way of life have been.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="human-race-at-a-crossroads">Human Race at a Crossroads</h2> -<ol start="161"> +<h2 id="human-race-at-a-crossroads">Human Race at a Crossroads <a class="anchor" href="#human-race-at-a-crossroads"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="161"> <li> <p>But we have gotten ahead of our story. It is one thing to develop in the laboratory a series of psychological or biological techniques for manipulating human behavior and quite another to integrate these techniques into a functioning social system. The latter problem is the more difficult of the two. For example, while the techniques of educational psychology doubtless work quite well in the “lab schools” where they are developed, it is not necessarily easy to apply them effectively throughout our educational system. We all know what many of our schools are like. The teachers are too busy taking knives and guns away from the kids to subject them to the latest techniques for making them into computer nerds. Thus, in spite of all its technical advances relating to human behavior, the system to date has not been impressively successful in controlling human beings. The people whose behavior is fairly well under the control of the system are those of the type that might be called “bourgeois.” But there are growing numbers of people who in one way or another are rebels against the system: welfare leeches, youth gangs, cultists, satanists, Nazis, radical environmentalists, militia-men, etc.</p> </li> @@ -577,8 +598,9 @@ <p>Therefore two tasks confront those who hate the servitude to which the industrial system is reducing the human race. First, we must work to heighten the social stresses within the system so as to increase the likelihood that it will break down or be weakened sufficiently so that a revolution against it becomes possible. Second, it is necessary to develop and propagate an ideology that opposes technology and the industrial system. Such an ideology can become the basis for a revolution against industrial society if and when the system becomes sufficiently weakened. And such an ideology will help to assure that, if and when industrial society breaks down, its remnants will be smashed beyond repair, so that the system cannot be reconstituted. The factories should be destroyed, technical books burned, etc.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="human-suffering">Human Suffering</h2> -<ol start="167"> +<h2 id="human-suffering">Human Suffering <a class="anchor" href="#human-suffering"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="167"> <li> <p>The industrial system will not break down purely as a result of revolutionary action. It will not be vulnerable to revolutionary attack unless its own internal problems of development lead it into very serious difficulties. So if the system breaks down it will do so either spontaneously, or through a process that is in part spontaneous but helped along by revolutionaries. If the breakdown is sudden, many people will die, since the world’s population has become so overblown that it cannot even feed itself any longer without advanced technology. Even if the breakdown is gradual enough so that reduction of the population can occur more through lowering of the birth rate than through elevation of the death rate, the process of de-industrialization probably will be very chaotic and involve much suffering. It is naive to think it likely that technology can be phased out in a smoothly managed, orderly way, especially since the technophiles will fight stubbornly at every step. Is it therefore cruel to work for the breakdown of the system? Maybe, but maybe not. In the first place, revolutionaries will not be able to break the system down unless it is already in enough trouble so that there would be a good chance of its eventually breaking down by itself anyway; and the bigger the system grows, the more disastrous the consequences of its breakdown will be; so it may be that revolutionaries, by hastening the onset of the breakdown, will be reducing the extent of the disaster.</p> </li> @@ -592,8 +614,9 @@ <p>“Oh!” say the technophiles, “Science is going to fix all that! We will conquer famine, eliminate psychological suffering, make everybody healthy and happy!” Yeah, sure. That’s what they said 200 years ago. The Industrial Revolution was supposed to eliminate poverty, make everybody happy, etc. The actual result has been quite different. The technophiles are hopelessly naive (or self-deceiving) in their understanding of social problems. They are unaware of (or choose to ignore) the fact that when large changes, even seemingly beneficial ones, are introduced into a society, they lead to a long sequence of other changes, most of which are impossible to predict (paragraph 103). In the mean time there will be great suffering. So it is not at all clear that the survival of industrial society would involve less suffering than the breakdown of that society would. Technology has gotten the human race into a fix from which there is not likely to be any easy escape.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-future">The Future</h2> -<ol start="171"> +<h2 id="the-future">The Future <a class="anchor" href="#the-future"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="171"> <li> <p>But suppose now that industrial society does survive the next several decades and that the bugs do eventually get worked out of the system, so that it functions smoothly. What kind of system will it be? We will consider several possibilities.</p> </li> @@ -622,8 +645,9 @@ <p>It would be better to dump the whole stinking system and take the consequences.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="strategy">Strategy</h2> -<ol start="180"> +<h2 id="strategy">Strategy <a class="anchor" href="#strategy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="180"> <li> <p>The technophiles are taking us all on an utterly reckless ride into the unknown. Many people understand something of what technological progress is doing to us, yet take a passive attitude toward it because they think it is inevitable. But we (FC) don’t think it is inevitable. We think it can be stopped, and we will give here some indications of how to go about stopping it.</p> </li> @@ -706,8 +730,9 @@ <p>With regard to revolutionary strategy, the only points on which we absolutely insist are that the single, overriding goal must be the elimination of modern technology, and that no other goal can be allowed to compete with this one. For the rest, revolutionaries should take an empirical approach. If experience indicates that some of the recommendations made in the foregoing paragraphs are not going to give good results, then those recommendations should be discarded.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="two-kinds-of-technology">Two Kinds of Technology</h2> -<ol start="207"> +<h2 id="two-kinds-of-technology">Two Kinds of Technology <a class="anchor" href="#two-kinds-of-technology"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="207"> <li> <p>An argument likely to be raised against our proposed revolution is that it is bound to fail, because (it is claimed) throughout history technology has always progressed, never regressed, hence technological regression is impossible. But this claim is false.</p> </li> @@ -727,8 +752,9 @@ <p>Would society EVENTUALLY develop again toward an industrial-technological form? Maybe, but there is no use in worrying about it, since we can’t predict or control events 500 or 1,000 years in the future. Those problems must be dealt with by the people who will live at that time.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-danger-of-leftism">The Danger of Leftism</h2> -<ol start="213"> +<h2 id="the-danger-of-leftism">The Danger of Leftism <a class="anchor" href="#the-danger-of-leftism"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="213"> <li> <p>Because of their need for rebellion and for membership in a movement, leftists or persons of similar psychological type often are attracted to a rebellious or activist movement whose goals and membership are not initially leftist. The resulting influx of leftish types can easily turn a non-leftist movement into a leftist one, so that leftist goals replace or distort the original goals of the movement.</p> </li> @@ -784,8 +810,9 @@ <p>The more dangerous leftists, that is, those who are most power-hungry, are often characterized by arrogance or by a dogmatic approach to ideology. However, the most dangerous leftists of all may be certain oversocialized types who avoid irritating displays of aggressiveness and refrain from advertising their leftism, but work quietly and unobtrusively to promote collectivist values, “enlightened” psychological techniques for socializing children, dependence of the individual on the system, and so forth. These crypto-leftists (as we may call them) approximate certain bourgeois types as far as practical action is concerned, but differ from them in psychology, ideology and motivation. The ordinary bourgeois tries to bring people under control of the system in order to protect his way of life, or he does so simply because his attitudes are conventional. The crypto-leftist tries to bring people under control of the system because he is a True Believer in a collectivistic ideology. The crypto-leftist is differentiated from the average leftist of the oversocialized type by the fact that his rebellious impulse is weaker and he is more securely socialized. He is differentiated from the ordinary well-socialized bourgeois by the fact that there is some deep lack within him that makes it necessary for him to devote himself to a cause and immerse himself in a collectivity. And maybe his (well-sublimated) drive for power is stronger than that of the average bourgeois.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="final-note">Final Note</h2> -<ol start="231"> +<h2 id="final-note">Final Note <a class="anchor" href="#final-note"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="231"> <li> <p>Throughout this article we’ve made imprecise statements and statements that ought to have had all sorts of qualifications and reservations attached to them; and some of our statements may be flatly false. Lack of sufficient information and the need for brevity made it impossible for us to formulate our assertions more precisely or add all the necessary qualifications. And of course in a discussion of this kind one must rely heavily on intuitive judgment, and that can sometimes be wrong. So we don’t claim that this article expresses more than a crude approximation to the truth.</p> </li> @@ -915,8 +942,9 @@ Thu, 12 Jan 2023 21:34:30 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/recover-lost-anki-streak/ - <h1 id="how-to-recover-a-lost-anki-streak">How to recover a lost anki streak</h1> -<p>Word for word copy paste of what fixed my issue. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/Anki/comments/ndt6ag/comment/gycwiti/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">Original post</a></p> + <h1 id="how-to-recover-a-lost-anki-streak">How to recover a lost anki streak <a class="anchor" href="#how-to-recover-a-lost-anki-streak"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><p>Word for word copy paste of what fixed my issue. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/Anki/comments/ndt6ag/comment/gycwiti/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">Original post</a></p> <p><em>btw i had to create a seperate Custom Study for cards i had forgotten, i set it to 1 day, did one review and followed from step 7</em></p> <p>Happened to me as well, idk why. But there is a way to cheat streaks:</p> <ol> @@ -938,10 +966,12 @@ Wed, 04 Jan 2023 22:52:24 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/meta-description-in-hugo/ - <h1 id="adding-meta-description-in-hugo">Adding meta description in Hugo</h1> -<p>I assume you are using Luke Smith&rsquo;s theme - Lugo, if you are not, you&rsquo;d have to find these files yourself (e.g. search using vscode).</p> -<h2 id="setting-a-global-meta-description">Setting a global meta description</h2> -<ol> + <h1 id="adding-meta-description-in-hugo">Adding meta description in Hugo <a class="anchor" href="#adding-meta-description-in-hugo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><p>I assume you are using Luke Smith&rsquo;s theme - Lugo, if you are not, you&rsquo;d have to find these files yourself (e.g. search using vscode).</p> +<h2 id="setting-a-global-meta-description">Setting a global meta description <a class="anchor" href="#setting-a-global-meta-description"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Locate your config.toml or config.yaml file</li> <li>Add the following line inside it</li> </ol> @@ -952,15 +982,17 @@ <div class="highlight"><pre tabindex="0" style="color:#f8f8f2;background-color:#272822;-moz-tab-size:4;-o-tab-size:4;tab-size:4;"><code class="language-yaml" data-lang="yaml"><span style="display:flex;"><span><span style="color:#f92672">params</span>: </span></span><span style="display:flex;"><span> <span style="color:#f92672">description</span>: <span style="color:#ae81ff">The global meta description of your website</span> </span></span></code></pre></div><p>It won&rsquo;t work just yet because you have to update the <code>baseof.html</code> file.</p> -<h2 id="updating-the-baseofhtml-file">Updating the baseof.html file</h2> -<ol> +<h2 id="updating-the-baseofhtml-file">Updating the baseof.html file <a class="anchor" href="#updating-the-baseofhtml-file"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Locate baseof.html</li> <li>Add or change the meta description line with the following</li> </ol> <div class="highlight"><pre tabindex="0" style="color:#f8f8f2;background-color:#272822;-moz-tab-size:4;-o-tab-size:4;tab-size:4;"><code class="language-html" data-lang="html"><span style="display:flex;"><span>&lt;<span style="color:#f92672">meta</span> <span style="color:#a6e22e">name</span><span style="color:#f92672">=</span><span style="color:#e6db74">&#34;description&#34;</span> <span style="color:#a6e22e">content</span><span style="color:#f92672">=</span><span style="color:#e6db74">&#34;{{ if .Page.Params.description }}{{ .Page.Params.description }}{{ else if .Summary}}{{ .Summary }}{{else}}{{ .Site.Params.description}}{{ end }}&#34;</span>/&gt; </span></span></code></pre></div><p>And now if you start your Hugo server locally with <code>hugo serve --noHTTPCache</code> and you right click on your page -&gt; View Page Source -&gt; Search for the meta description tag. It should match what you left in the config file.</p> -<h2 id="replacing-the-global-description-with-a-custom-one">Replacing the global description with a custom one</h2> -<ol> +<h2 id="replacing-the-global-description-with-a-custom-one">Replacing the global description with a custom one <a class="anchor" href="#replacing-the-global-description-with-a-custom-one"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Have a markdown file ready</li> <li>In the preamble, add</li> </ol> @@ -978,8 +1010,9 @@ https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/multiple-index-pages-in-hugo/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="this-is-how-to-create-multiple-index-pages-in-hugo">This is how to create multiple index pages in Hugo</h2> -</div> +<h2 id="this-is-how-to-create-multiple-index-pages-in-hugo">This is how to create multiple index pages in Hugo <a class="anchor" href="#this-is-how-to-create-multiple-index-pages-in-hugo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>I wanted to order <a href="https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook">Hackbook</a> in reverse (i.e. oldest to newest) so that it&rsquo;s easier for the reader to start at the correct page.</p> <p>I ran into the following problem - the default <strong><code>list.html</code></strong> does them from newest to oldest.</p> <p>So I found <a href="https://discourse.gohugo.io/t/two-home-pages/31312/9">this forum post</a> and I created a file in the <strong><code>_default</code></strong> directory as follows:</p> @@ -1012,11 +1045,14 @@ {{- end }} &lt;/ul&gt; {{- end }} -</code></pre><h4 id="if-you-want-to-display-the-date-on-the-left-of-the-titles-you-have-to-add-datesinlisttrue-in-your-configtoml-or-datesinlist-true-in-your-configyaml">if you want to display the date on the left of the titles, you have to add <strong><code>datesinlist=true</code></strong> in your config.toml or <strong><code>datesinlist: true</code></strong> in your config.yaml</h4> -<h5 id="you-probably-dont-need-enablegitinfo--true-as-that-will-crash-your-website-i-have-no-idea-what-it-does-you-dont-need-it">You probably don&rsquo;t need <strong><code>enableGitInfo = true</code></strong> as that will crash your website, I have no idea what it does, you don&rsquo;t need it.</h5> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="using-your-custom-_indexhtml">Using your custom _index.html</h2> -</div> +</code></pre><h4 id="if-you-want-to-display-the-date-on-the-left-of-the-titles-you-have-to-add-datesinlisttrue-in-your-configtoml-or-datesinlist-true-in-your-configyaml">if you want to display the date on the left of the titles, you have to add <strong><code>datesinlist=true</code></strong> in your config.toml or <strong><code>datesinlist: true</code></strong> in your config.yaml <a class="anchor" href="#if-you-want-to-display-the-date-on-the-left-of-the-titles-you-have-to-add-datesinlisttrue-in-your-configtoml-or-datesinlist-true-in-your-configyaml"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h5 id="you-probably-dont-need-enablegitinfo--true-as-that-will-crash-your-website-i-have-no-idea-what-it-does-you-dont-need-it">You probably don&rsquo;t need <strong><code>enableGitInfo = true</code></strong> as that will crash your website, I have no idea what it does, you don&rsquo;t need it. <a class="anchor" href="#you-probably-dont-need-enablegitinfo--true-as-that-will-crash-your-website-i-have-no-idea-what-it-does-you-dont-need-it"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h5><div style="text-align: center;"> +<h2 id="using-your-custom-_indexhtml">Using your custom _index.html <a class="anchor" href="#using-your-custom-_indexhtml"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>After creating your custom _index.html you&rsquo;d use it as follows:</p> <ol> <li>Create an _index.md file in your desired directory</li> @@ -1227,8 +1263,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true <li>Never PMO again.</li> </ol> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="affirmations">Affirmations</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="affirmations">Affirmations <a class="anchor" href="#affirmations"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <ul> <li>I am free from the slavery of PMO.</li> <li>It is easy for me to ignore my thoughts about PMO.</li> @@ -1269,21 +1306,24 @@ strains of life.</li> https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-43-advice-to-non-pmoers/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK <a class="anchor" href="#help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>First study the contents of this book and try to put yourself in the place of the PMOer. Do not force him to read this book or try to stop him by telling him he is ruining his health or playing with fire. He already knows this better than you do. PMOers do not continue in it because they enjoy it or because they want to. They only tell themselves and other people this in order to retain self-respect. They do it because they feel dependent on PMO because they think that it relaxes them and gives them courage and confidence (pleasure or crutch) and that life will never be enjoyable without “sex” - their version of it. If you try to force a PMOer to stop, he feels like a trapped animal and wants to be in his harem even more. This may turn him into a secret PMOer and in his mind the porn will become even more precious (see Chapter 26).</p> <p>Instead, concentrate on the other side of the coin. Get him into the company of ex-PMOers (there are many blogs, forums etc. YBOP, No-Fap etc.). Get them to tell the PMOer how they too thought they were hooked for life and how much better life is as a non-PMOer. Once you have got him believing that he can stop then his mind will start to open up. Then start explaining the delusion created by withdrawal pangs. Not only are the “dopamine rushes” not giving him a boost but they are destroying his confidence and making him irritable and tired.</p> <p>He should now be ready to read this book himself. He will be expecting to read pages and pages about unreliable arousal, fading penetrations, PIED, PE, etc. Explain that the approach is completely different and that references to illness are just a small fraction of the material in the book.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD <a class="anchor" href="#help-during-the-withdrawal-period"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>If you are dealing with a girlfriend or boyfriend - whether the ex-PMOer is suffering or not, assume that she/he is. Do not try to minimize his suffering by telling him it is easy to stop; he can do that himself. Instead keep telling him how proud you are, how much better he is looking, how much sweeter it is to be with him, how much easier he is in general. It is particularly important to keep doing this. When a PMOer makes an attempt to stop, the euphoria of the attempt and the attention he gets from friends and colleagues can help him along. However, they tend to forget quickly, so keep that praise going.</p> <p>Because he is not talking about PMOing, you may think he has forgotten about it and don&rsquo;t want to remind him. Usually the complete opposite is the case with the Willpower Method, as the ex-PMOer tends to be obsessed by nothing else. So do not be frightened to bring the subject up and keep praising him: he will tell you if he doesn&rsquo;t want you to remind him of PMOing.</p> <p>Go out of your way to relieve him of pressures during the withdrawal period. Try to think of ways of making his life interesting and enjoyable. This can also be a trying period for non-PMOers - that is those of you who have never had this addiction. If one member of a group is irritable, it can cause general misery all round. So anticipate this if the ex-PMOer is feeling irritable. He may well take it out on you but do not retaliate: it is at this time that he needs your praise and sympathy the most. If you are feeling irritable yourself, try not to show it.</p> <p>One of the tricks an addict will play when trying to give up with the aid of the Willpower Method was to get into a tantrum, hoping that wife or friends would say, “I cannot bear to see you suffering like this. For goodness sake, have your poison.” The PMOer then does not lose face, as he isn&rsquo;t “giving in” - he has been instructed. If the ex-PMOer uses this ploy, on no account encourage him to lapse. Instead say, “if that is what PMO does to you, thank goodness you will soon be free. How marvellous that you had the courage and sense to give up.”</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL <a class="anchor" href="#help-end-this-scandal"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>In my opinion, internet porn is one of the dangers in a free society, piggy backing on the good willed efforts of personal freedoms. Surely the very basis of civilization, the reason why the human species has advanced so far, is that we are capable of communicating our knowledge and experiences not only to each other but to future generations. Even the lower species find it necessary to warn their offspring of the pitfalls in life.</p> <p>The producers of porn are not doing this in good faith, in the genuine belief that they help mankind, especially now as the addiction to internet porn is widely studied. Maybe in its initial stages people genuinely believed that porn taught intimacy to men and women but today the authorities know that it is a fallacy. Just watch any tube sites nowadays. They make no claims about education. The only claims they make are about the shock, novelty, escalation quality of their clips.</p> <p>The sheer hypocrisy is incredible. As a society we get uptight about school bullying and objectification of human body. Compared with internet porn, these problems are mere pimples in our society. Thirty five per cent of the population have been addicted to porn and most of them spend quality time with imaginary and illusory pixel people at the expense of health, virility, energy and time. Tens of thousands of people have their lives ruined every year because they become hooked. Internet high speed porn is by far the biggest killer in relationships and yet the biggest vested interest is our for-profit companies. Internet porn producers don’t spend on advertising the filth in mainstream publications - they don’t have to. Our biological urges will lead us to the thresholds of their well stocked internet harems. They give free samples just like your local drug dealer. Heck the tube sites don’t even stock the wares any more as they encourage visitors to post the content.</p> @@ -1296,8 +1336,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <p>Why do we allow society to subject healthy young teenagers, youngsters whose lives are complete before they start to get online, to claim their independence just for the privilege of destroying themselves mentally and physically in a lifetime of slavery, a lifetime of filth and disease? You may feel that I over-dramatize the facts. Not so. There are cases where lives were cut down in his early years of marriage because of PMO. He was a strong man and might still have been alive today. I believe I was within an inch of PIED during my forties, although I would have attributed it to my divorce rather than to PMO. I now spend my life being consulted by people who have been crippled by the disease or are in the last stages. And, if you care to think about it, you probably know of many too.</p> <p>There is a wind of change in society. A snowball has started that I hope this book will help turn into an avalanche. You too can help by spreading the message.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING <a class="anchor" href="#final-warning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>You can now enjoy the rest of your life as a happy non-PMOer. In order to make sure that you do, you need to follow these simple instructions:</p> <ol> <li>Keep this page in your bookmarks and refer to it as much as you need.</li> @@ -1396,8 +1437,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <p>Find out which one it is. Some people understand and believe everything I say but still start off with a feeling of doom and gloom, as if something terrible were happening. You are doing not only what you&rsquo;d like to do but what every PMOer on the planet would like to do. With any method of stopping, what the ex PMOer is trying to achieve is a certain frame of mind, so that whenever he thinks about PMO he says to himself, “YIPPEE! I&rsquo;M FREE!” If that&rsquo;s your object, why wait? Start off in that frame of mind and never lose it. The rest of the book is designed to make you understand why there is no alternative.</p> </blockquote> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="the-check-list"><strong>THE CHECK LIST</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="the-check-list"><strong>THE CHECK LIST</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-check-list"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>If you follow these simple instructions, you cannot fail:</p> <ol> <li>Make a solemn vow that you will never, ever, go online to visit your harem OR settle down for static pictures OR make peace with erotic graphics OR anything that contains supra normal stimuli, and stick to your vow.</li> @@ -1511,14 +1553,16 @@ sites in my life again.”<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1& <p>I have been direct in my advice so far and would ask you to treat this advice as instruction rather than suggestion. I am explicit and direct, first because there are sound, practical reasons for my advice and second, because those reasons have been backed up by thousands of case studies. On the question of whether or not to try to avoid temptation during the withdrawal period, I regret that I cannot be direct. Each PMOer will need to decide for himself. I can, however, make what I hope will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all our lives and this fear consists of two distinct phases:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO?</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO? <a class="anchor" href="#phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>This fear is that panicky feeling the PMOer gets when they are alone in a single phase or have an asexual, uninterested or unavailable partner. The fear isn&rsquo;t caused by withdrawal pangs but is the psychological fear of dependency - you cannot survive without sex and orgasm. It actually reaches its height when you are on the verge of quitting (I won’t use giving up); at that time your withdrawal pangs are at their lowest. It is the fear of the unknown, the sort of fear that people have when they are learning to dive.</p> <p>The diving board is 1 foot high but seems to be 6 feet high. The water is 6 feet deep but appears to be 1 foot deep. It takes courage to launch yourself. You are convinced you are going to smash your head. The launching is the hardest part. If you can find the courage to do it, the rest is easy. This explains why many otherwise strong-willed PMOers either have never attempted to stop or can survive only a few days when they do. In fact, there are some PMOers on a porn diet who when they decide to stop, actually binge and escalate to harsher clips more quickly than if they had not decided to stop. The decision causes panic, which is stressful. This is one of the occasions when the brain triggers the instruction, “take a trip to your own personal harem.” But now you can&rsquo;t take one. You are being deprived - more stress.</p> <p>The trigger starts again quickly when the fuse blows and you fire up the browser. Don&rsquo;t worry. That panic is just psychological. It is the fear that you are dependent. The beautiful truth is that you are not, even when you are still addicted. Do not panic. Just trust me and launch yourself.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear <a class="anchor" href="#phase-2-longer-term-fear"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>The second phase of fear is longer-term. It involves the fear that certain situations in the future will not be enjoyable or that you will not be able to cope with a trauma without PMO. Don&rsquo;t worry. If you can launch yourself you will find the opposite to be the case. The avoidance of temptation itself falls into two main categories:</p> <ol> <li>“I will subscribe to a porn-diet of once in 4 days. I will feel more confident knowing that I can go online if it gets hard. It is OK if I fail I can just add up additional days to my next cycle.”</li> @@ -1621,8 +1665,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict <li>What&rsquo;s worse, it keeps the big monster alive in your mind. If you had the “last peek”, it will be easier to have the next one.</li> </ol> <p>Above all, remember:</p> -<h2 id="just-one-peek-is-how-people-get-into-pmo-addiction-in-the-first-place">“Just one peek” is how people get into PMO addiction in the first place.</h2> - +<h2 id="just-one-peek-is-how-people-get-into-pmo-addiction-in-the-first-place">“Just one peek” is how people get into PMO addiction in the first place. <a class="anchor" href="#just-one-peek-is-how-people-get-into-pmo-addiction-in-the-first-place"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2> @@ -1727,8 +1772,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict </ol> <p>Stop kidding yourself. If the job offer that I mentioned before, of 10 months work for 12 months salary a year won&rsquo;t stop him. Or if the risks of cutting down your brain’s capacity to cope with just any normal day-to-day stress and strains or if putting yourself at odds with having a reliable erection, or if the lifetime of mental and physical torture and slavery did not stop him or her - the above said few phoney incentives will not make the slightest bit of difference. They will only make the sacrifice appear worse. Instead concentrate on the other side:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"><strong>“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?”</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"><strong>“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?”</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>Keep looking at the other side of the tug of war. What is PMOing doing for me? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Why do I need to do it? YOU DON&rsquo;T! YOU ARE ONLY PUNISHING YOURSELF. Try looking at it from the Pascal’s Wager perspective. You have almost nothing to lose (a rub-out with half arousals) for sure, chances of big profits (a full and reliable arousal, mental well being and happiness) and no chance of losing big (unreliable full arousals, premature ejaculations, fading penetrations, loss of general impulse controls, lower tolerance for frustrations and anger).</p> <p>Why not declare your quitting to friends and family? Well, it will make you a proud ex-addict, ex-PMOer, not an elated and happy non-PMOer. It will scare your partner a bit since they may see this as an effort to have more sex, sort of a new-age thing. They may also fear to lose you if this turns you into sex machine. It is hard to explain to them unless they are open minded.</p> <p>Any attempt to get others to help you in your quitting gives more power to the little monster of addiction. Pushing it from your mind and totally ignoring it has the effect of trying NOT to think of it. As soon as you spot the thoughts, when you hit the cues (home alone) or just absent minded thoughts - just say to yourself: “Great, I don’t have to do it like a slave animal. I am free. I am happy to know the differences in sex.” This will cut the life of the thought and will deny oxygen to it and will stop it from burning towards urges and cravings.</p> @@ -1796,8 +1842,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <p>First of all, identify the times or occasions when PMO appears to be important to you. If you are a businessman and use it for the illusion of relief of stress, pick a relatively slack period; a good idea is to choose your annual holiday. If you PMO mainly during boring or relaxing periods, weekends etc. do the opposite. In any event, take the matter seriously and make the attempt the most important thing in your life.</p> <p>Look ahead for a period of about three weeks and try to anticipate any event that might lead to failure. Occasions like a conference trip, partner out of town etc. need not deter you, providing you anticipate them in advance and do not feel you will be deprived. Do not attempt to cut down in the meantime as this will only create the illusion that being denied is enjoyable. In fact, it helps to force yourself to watch and have as many PMO sessions as possible. While you are having the last session and that last time, be conscious of the disappointment due to satiation, unfulfilled expectations (porn can never satisfy you), any bodily pain or pain in the genitals, the withdrawal effects, the peevishness and the melancholy. Think how marvellous it will be when you allow yourself to stop doing it.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="whatever-you-do-dont-fall-into-the-trap-of-just-saying-not-now-later-and-putting-it-out-of-your-mind-work-out-your-timetable-now-and-look-forward-to-it">WHATEVER YOU DO, DON&rsquo;T FALL INTO THE TRAP OF JUST SAYING, “NOT NOW. LATER,” AND PUTTING IT OUT OF YOUR MIND. WORK OUT YOUR TIMETABLE NOW AND LOOK FORWARD TO IT.</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="whatever-you-do-dont-fall-into-the-trap-of-just-saying-not-now-later-and-putting-it-out-of-your-mind-work-out-your-timetable-now-and-look-forward-to-it">WHATEVER YOU DO, DON&rsquo;T FALL INTO THE TRAP OF JUST SAYING, “NOT NOW. LATER,” AND PUTTING IT OUT OF YOUR MIND. WORK OUT YOUR TIMETABLE NOW AND LOOK FORWARD TO IT. <a class="anchor" href="#whatever-you-do-dont-fall-into-the-trap-of-just-saying-not-now-later-and-putting-it-out-of-your-mind-work-out-your-timetable-now-and-look-forward-to-it"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>Remember you aren&rsquo;t giving anything up. On the contrary: you are about to receive marvellous positive gains.</p> <p>For years the medical profession viewed porn is harmless without knowing the difference between the tame static porn of yesteryear and the latest VR streaming porn. The problem is this; although every PMOer uses internet porn purely to relieve the brain chemical craving for dopamine, it is not the addiction to the brain chemical itself that hooks the PMOer but the self-brainwashing that results from that addiction. An intelligent person will fall for a confidence trick. But only a fool will go on falling for it once he realizes that it&rsquo;s a confidence trick. Fortunately, most PMOers aren&rsquo;t fools; they only think they are. Each individual PMOer has his own private brainwashing. That is why there appears to be such a wide range of different types of PMOer, which only serves to compound the mysteries.</p> <p>With the benefit of the original book that used this method to stop smoking, which dealt with nicotine addiction (one of the most quickest and addictive drug known to man) and bearing in mind that the personal logs that I collected from Reddit, NoFap and YBOP blogs and forums, I was agreeably surprised to realize that the philosophy propounded in the original book was still sound. The accumulated knowledge that was acquired by the original author Alan Carr and by myself the hack-author is how to communicate that knowledge to each individual PMOer. The fact that I know every PMOer can not only find it easy to stop but can actually enjoy the process is not only pointless but exceedingly frustrating unless I can make the PMOer realize it. The original author of the quit smoking book explains some controversial advice:</p> @@ -1835,8 +1882,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <p>The only reason why people continue to PMO after getting educated is because they have failed to stop or are too frightened to try. There are even talks about no porn, no masturbation and no orgasms - with or without partners. Karezza is discussed widely and people are trying it out. Many aforementioned failures are “fail forwards” and thus somewhat benefiting the people who practice them. Once you start in the no-PMO route you will find your best fit that applies to your life. I strongly encourage devising your own plan on orgasms after understanding and practising the separation of the amative and the propagative parts of sex. I am sure whichever route you take you will see the value of preserving the “seed” by limiting the number of times you flush your brain with chemicals by orgasming. You will then never see porn, sex and orgasms as a pleasure or as a crutch for your emotional ups and downs.</p> <p>I was reading a Reddit forum by non-PMOers dedicated to quitting not only porn but also masturbation. As I read along I thought. “This is good, I see so many have taken to quitting masturbation and I think that is the right way to quit PMO.” However, I found most of the notes pointing to them to try with the Willpower Method. There was a lot of self-pitying as well. Except a few&hellip; almost all were not feeling elated and not having the, “yippee I am free from slavery” attitude. Eventually someone broke down - as I unfortunately expected to happen. And the result was a domino effect. All those other PMOers had been sitting there thinking, “surely I can&rsquo;t be the only PMOer here.” However, they were “failing forward” albeit with a lot of self-torturing as they shut down their browsers but did not shut down the desire and the need. This method is the reverse as - we shut down the desire and the need first before shutting down the browser screen. As every day more and more PMOers leave the sinking ship, so those left on it become terrified they&rsquo;ll be the last.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="dont-let-it-be-you"><strong>DON&rsquo;T LET IT BE YOU!</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="dont-let-it-be-you"><strong>DON&rsquo;T LET IT BE YOU!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#dont-let-it-be-you"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> @@ -1854,8 +1902,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <p>Columbo has this frustrating practice of closing the door after finishing his interrogation, having assured the suspect that he is in the clear and before the satisfied look has disappeared from the murderer&rsquo;s face, Columbo reappears with: “just one small point, sir, which I&rsquo;m sure you can explain&hellip;” The suspect stammers and from that point on we know and he knows that Columbo will gradually wear him down. No matter how heinous the crime, from that point on my sympathies were with the murderer.</p> <p>It was almost as if I were the criminal and that&rsquo;s exactly how those bouts made me feel. The tension of not being allowed to cross the red line to get my porn fix that I “rightly deserve because I am hard working man and why shouldn’t I when every man does it?” entitlement, click, click, clicking on videos that come close to the right one. Longing for the porn tube videos. And then finishing the deed - just a limp rub out, wondering where the pleasure was. The fear of crossing the line losing control. The relief of returning to the bed, immediately followed by the fear that she would toss around and ask for sex. As the “safe” YouTube videos started not to do it for me - desensitization and lack of novelty and the certain knowledge that sooner or later I was bound to visit my favourite online harem. The final humiliation and shame when that certainty became a fact, followed by the immediate return to chain-PMOing.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="oh-the-joys-of-being-a-pmo-er"><strong>OH THE JOYS OF BEING A PMO-er!</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="oh-the-joys-of-being-a-pmo-er"><strong>OH THE JOYS OF BEING A PMO-er!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#oh-the-joys-of-being-a-pmo-er"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> @@ -1882,25 +1931,32 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p </ol> <p>I used to think of my ‘non-casual’ PMOing as a weakness. I couldn&rsquo;t understand why my friends could limit their “intake.” I knew I was a very strong-willed person. It never occurred to me that most PMOers are incapable of chain-PMOing - you need a very strong imagination and also extraordinarily strong penis stamina in order to do it. Some of these once-a-week PMOers that heavy PMOers tend to envy do it less frequently because physically their constitution cannot do more, or because they cannot afford to PMO more, or because their job, or society, or their own hatred of being hooked won&rsquo;t allow them to PMO more.</p> <p>It may be of advantage at this stage to provide a few definitions:</p> -<h3 id="the-non-pmoer">THE NON-PMOer</h3> -<p>Someone who has never fallen for the trap but should not be complacent. He is a non-PMOer only by luck or the grace of goodness. All PMOers were convinced that they would never become hooked and some non-PMOers keep trying an occasional session.</p> -<h3 id="the-casual-pmoer">THE CASUAL PMOer</h3> -<p>There are two basic classifications of casual PMOers:</p> +<h3 id="the-non-pmoer">THE NON-PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-non-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>Someone who has never fallen for the trap but should not be complacent. He is a non-PMOer only by luck or the grace of goodness. All PMOers were convinced that they would never become hooked and some non-PMOers keep trying an occasional session.</p> +<h3 id="the-casual-pmoer">THE CASUAL PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-casual-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>There are two basic classifications of casual PMOers:</p> <ol> <li>The PMOer who has fallen for the trap but doesn&rsquo;t realize it. Do not envy such PMOers. They are merely sampling the nectar at the mouth of the pitcher plant and in all probability will soon be heavy users. Remember, just as all alcoholics started off as casual drinkers, so all PMOers started off as casual PMOers.</li> <li>The PMOer who was previously a heavy PMOer and thinks he cannot stop. These PMOers are the saddest of all. They fall into various categories, each of which needs separate comment.</li> </ol> -<h3 id="the-oncea--day-pmoer">THE ONCE–A- DAY PMOer</h3> -<p>If he enjoys his entitlement to orgasm, why does he use internet porn to orgasm only once a day? If he can take it or leave it, why does he bother to PMO at all? Remember, the ‘habit’ is really banging your head against the brick wall only to make it relaxing when you stop. The once-a-day PMOer is relieving his withdrawal pangs for less than one hour each day. The rest of the day, although he doesn&rsquo;t realize it, he is banging his head against the wall and does so for most of his life. He is PMOing only once a day because either he cannot take the risk of getting caught or screwing up his brain health. It is easy to convince the heavy PMOer that he doesn&rsquo;t enjoy it but you try convincing a casual PMOer. Anybody who has gone through an attempt to cut down will know it is the worst torture of all and almost guaranteed to keep you hooked for the rest of your life.</p> -<h3 id="the-rejected-pmoer">THE REJECTED PMOer</h3> -<p>This PMOer demands the right to his/her orgasm(s) every day. And of course his sex partner is not always up to it. So he goes on the internet for porn initially. Once he takes “the ride” to fix “the void” he is trapped on this most exciting ‘water slide’ of novelty, shock, supranormal images etc. He is in fact dichotomously ‘happy’ with the partner’s rejection – it gives him something of an excuse. If internet porn is giving so much to you, why even bother to have a partner at all? Set him or her free. He is not even enjoying the PMO when he has to ‘carry’ his partner in his mind. At some point he is using his real life partner to hand him an excuse to go out into the valleys of the dark side of the internet.</p> -<h3 id="the-porn-diet-pmoer">THE PORN DIET PMOer</h3> -<p>(Or, “I can stop whenever I want to. I have done it thousands of times”). If he thinks dieting helps with his moods to ‘get out to get women,’ why is he even on the diet of once every four days? How can one predict the future, what if the happenstance of meeting occurred just an hour after your scheduled PMO session? Also, if he thinks this occasional “cleaning the plumbing” is good to relieve tension and relax why not plumb every day? It has been proven that masturbation is not required to keep the genitals healthy. Internet porn is not required at all. Even if that may be the case, any PUA guru who has read about the brain chemistry and its plasticity will never recommend watching super stimulus porn. The truth is he is still hooked. Although he gets rid of the physical addiction, he is left with the main problem - the brainwashing. He hopes each time that he will stop for good and soon falls for the same trap again.</p> +<h3 id="the-oncea--day-pmoer">THE ONCE–A- DAY PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-oncea--day-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>If he enjoys his entitlement to orgasm, why does he use internet porn to orgasm only once a day? If he can take it or leave it, why does he bother to PMO at all? Remember, the ‘habit’ is really banging your head against the brick wall only to make it relaxing when you stop. The once-a-day PMOer is relieving his withdrawal pangs for less than one hour each day. The rest of the day, although he doesn&rsquo;t realize it, he is banging his head against the wall and does so for most of his life. He is PMOing only once a day because either he cannot take the risk of getting caught or screwing up his brain health. It is easy to convince the heavy PMOer that he doesn&rsquo;t enjoy it but you try convincing a casual PMOer. Anybody who has gone through an attempt to cut down will know it is the worst torture of all and almost guaranteed to keep you hooked for the rest of your life.</p> +<h3 id="the-rejected-pmoer">THE REJECTED PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-rejected-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>This PMOer demands the right to his/her orgasm(s) every day. And of course his sex partner is not always up to it. So he goes on the internet for porn initially. Once he takes “the ride” to fix “the void” he is trapped on this most exciting ‘water slide’ of novelty, shock, supranormal images etc. He is in fact dichotomously ‘happy’ with the partner’s rejection – it gives him something of an excuse. If internet porn is giving so much to you, why even bother to have a partner at all? Set him or her free. He is not even enjoying the PMO when he has to ‘carry’ his partner in his mind. At some point he is using his real life partner to hand him an excuse to go out into the valleys of the dark side of the internet.</p> +<h3 id="the-porn-diet-pmoer">THE PORN DIET PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-porn-diet-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>(Or, “I can stop whenever I want to. I have done it thousands of times”). If he thinks dieting helps with his moods to ‘get out to get women,’ why is he even on the diet of once every four days? How can one predict the future, what if the happenstance of meeting occurred just an hour after your scheduled PMO session? Also, if he thinks this occasional “cleaning the plumbing” is good to relieve tension and relax why not plumb every day? It has been proven that masturbation is not required to keep the genitals healthy. Internet porn is not required at all. Even if that may be the case, any PUA guru who has read about the brain chemistry and its plasticity will never recommend watching super stimulus porn. The truth is he is still hooked. Although he gets rid of the physical addiction, he is left with the main problem - the brainwashing. He hopes each time that he will stop for good and soon falls for the same trap again.</p> <p>Many PMOers actually envy these stoppers and starters. They think, “how lucky to be able to control it like that, to do PMO when you want to and stop when you want to,” What they always overlook is that these stoppers and starters aren&rsquo;t controlling it. When they are PMOers, they wish they weren&rsquo;t. They go through the hassle of stopping, then begin to feel deprived and fall for the trap again, then wish they hadn&rsquo;t. They get the worst of both worlds. If you think about it, this is true in the lives of the PMOers. When we are allowed to PMO we either take it as entitled or wish we didn&rsquo;t. It&rsquo;s only when we can&rsquo;t have PMO that it appears to be so precious. The ‘forbidden fruit syndrome’. This is the awful dilemma of PMOers. They can never win because they are moping for a myth, an illusion. There is one way they can win and that is to stop PMOing and stop moping!</p> -<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC/TAME/HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer</h3> -<p>Yes, we all do it to start with but isn&rsquo;t it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner&rsquo;s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes&hellip; you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one.</p> -<h3 id="the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer">THE I-HAVE-STOPPED-BUT-I-HAVE-AN-OCCASIONAL-PEEK PMOer</h3> -<p>In a way such peeking PMOers are the most pathetic of all. Either they go through their lives believing they are being deprived or, more often, the occasional peek becomes two. They remain on the slippery slope and it goes only one way - DOWNWARDS. Sooner or later they are back to being heavy PMOers. They have fallen again for the very trap that they fell into in the first place.</p> +<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC/TAME/HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>Yes, we all do it to start with but isn&rsquo;t it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner&rsquo;s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes&hellip; you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one.</p> +<h3 id="the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer">THE I-HAVE-STOPPED-BUT-I-HAVE-AN-OCCASIONAL-PEEK PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>In a way such peeking PMOers are the most pathetic of all. Either they go through their lives believing they are being deprived or, more often, the occasional peek becomes two. They remain on the slippery slope and it goes only one way - DOWNWARDS. Sooner or later they are back to being heavy PMOers. They have fallen again for the very trap that they fell into in the first place.</p> <p>There are two other categories of casual PMOers. The first is the type who masturbates to images or clips of the latest celebrity sex tapes that hit the news. Or something they ‘carried home’ from their ‘accidental’ viewing at school or work. These people are really non-PMOers. It&rsquo;s just that they feel they are missing out. They want to be part of the action. We all start off like this. Next time watch how, after a while, the celebrity sex tape, the same star of your fantasy is not ‘doing it’ to you any more. The more ‘unattainable’ the target of your fantasy is, the more frustrating the withdrawal of the orgasm is.</p> <p>The second category is recently getting attention. The type can best be described by outlining a case shared online. A woman who is a professional, had been using internet porn stories for many years and had never PMOed more or less than one time every night. She was, incidentally, a very strong-willed lady. Most PMOers would wonder why she wanted to stop in the first place. They would gladly point out to her that there is no worries of PIED, or PE in her case as she is a women. She is using not even static images and the stories are far tamer than any they use on a daily basis.</p> <p>They make the mistake of assuming that casual PMOers are happier and more in control. In control they may be but happy they are not. In this case, she is not satisfied with her partner, not interested in real sex, highly irritable with her daily stress and strains. Her nearest-and-dearest could not find out what is bothering her. Even if she convinced herself not to be afraid of her use of internet porn by rationalizing, she still finds herself not being able to enjoy real relationships which almost invariably involve ups and downs. Her brain’s RC<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> is not able to make use of the normal de-stress brain chemicals as she is flooding dopamine into her brain on an everyday basis. The down regulation<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> of her brain receptors has rendered her melancholic most times. Like me, she had a great fear of internet porn’s dark side of the treatment of women- before her first time. Like me, she eventually fell victim to the massive social brainwash and tried that first porn site. Like me, she can remember the foul clips of violence staged as entertainment. Unlike me, who capitulated and became a chain-PMOer very quickly, she resisted the slide.</p> @@ -1913,8 +1969,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p </blockquote> <p>In addition to his other troubles, this poor man has no idea that he treating himself to a poison. First he is suffering the “forbidden fruit syndrome.” Next he is forcing his brain to flush dopamine. His dopamine receptors are not as cut down comparatively either. But he is sliding and greasing the porn slides, seeking and searching for edging, novelty, variety, shock-value, anxiety-value (“I must treat myself so that I can survive the next three days”) etc. You probably have visions of a pathetic imbecile. Not so. This man was over six feet tall and an ex-sergeant in the Marines. He was a former athlete and didn&rsquo;t want to become an addict to anything. However, when he returned from the war he was trained as a techie in a veterans rehab program. When he entered the civil work force he was a well paid IT professional in a bank and was given a laptop (one of the ways to ensure you take work home). It was the year that famous socialites ‘leaked’ their porn videos online. There was much talk about it. And he got hooked. He has spent the rest of his life paying through the nose and it has ruined him physically and mentally. If he were an animal, our society would have put him out of his misery, yet we still allow mentally and physically healthy young teenagers to become hooked. You may think the above case and my notes are exaggerated. It is extreme but not unique. There are literally thousands of similar stories. That man poured his heart out to me but you can be sure that many of his friends and acquaintances envied him for being a once-a-week man. If you think this couldn&rsquo;t happen to you, STOP KIDDING YOURSELF.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="it-is-already-happening"><strong>IT IS ALREADY HAPPENING.</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="it-is-already-happening"><strong>IT IS ALREADY HAPPENING.</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#it-is-already-happening"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>In any event, PMOers like other addicts are notorious liars, even to themselves. They have to be. Most casual PMOers indulge far more times and on far more occasions than they will admit to. I have had many conversations with so-called twice-a-week PMOers during which they have done it more than three times that week. If you read the Reddit or No-Fap forums of casual PMOers, they are either counting the days or waiting to fail. You do not need to envy casual PMOers. You do not need to PMO. Life is infinitely sweeter without PMO. One log says&hellip;</p> <blockquote> <p><em>“It started with a simple challenge to not touch my penis for a day. And being unable. I don&rsquo;t think about masturbation anymore. It doesn&rsquo;t cross my mind. That is possible, I promise you. And the riches that await those who are able - they&rsquo;re incredible.”</em></p> @@ -2015,8 +2072,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p </ol> <p>The other important point that cutting down demonstrates is that there is no such thing as the odd or occasional harem visit. Internet porn is a chain reaction that will last the rest of your life unless you make a positive effort to break it:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="remember-cutting-down-will-drag-you-down"><strong>REMEMBER: CUTTING DOWN WILL DRAG YOU DOWN.</strong></h3> -</div><div class="footnotes" role="doc-endnotes"> +<h3 id="remember-cutting-down-will-drag-you-down"><strong>REMEMBER: CUTTING DOWN WILL DRAG YOU DOWN.</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#remember-cutting-down-will-drag-you-down"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div><div class="footnotes" role="doc-endnotes"> <hr> <ol> <li id="fn:1"> @@ -2337,14 +2395,16 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on this planet. Whether you believe in a creator, a process of natural selection or a combination of both, whatever being or system devised these bodies of ours, it is a thousand times more effective than man! Man cannot create the smallest living cell, let alone the miracle of eyesight, reproduction, our circulatory system or our brains. We don’t have our systems upgraded yet to properly assess the supranormal stimulus such as rich high density food or high speed internet novelty porn with multiple active windows.</p> <p>If the creator or process had intended us to handle novelty triggering stimuli, we would have been provided with some other brain reward circuits. Our bodies are, in fact, provided with fail-safe warning devices and we ignore these at our peril. Excessive edging results in body pain, irritation, and inflammation. In women, excessive flooding of dopamine and stress enzymes such as prostaglandin-E2 can cause difficulty to orgasm and PME.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up"><strong>There Is Nothing To Give Up</strong></h2> -</div> +<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up"><strong>There Is Nothing To Give Up</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#there-is-nothing-to-give-up"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.</p> <p>The problem I have is to make a convincing point as I’d have done for, let us say&hellip; smokers? All of us have seen smokers who develop excuses to sneak off for a crafty puff. It is easy to see the true addiction in action. Addicts do not do it because they enjoy it. They do it because they are miserable without it.</p> <p>Because many of us started out our first sexual experience that ended in an orgasm and we acquired the belief that we cannot enjoy sex without an orgasm. And for men, porn is sold as an aid towards sex, sometimes even as an education to be confident during the act of sex. It used to be static, but now we have supranormal internet porn. But this is nonsense. Internet porn takes away your confidence.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="women-and-porn"><strong>Women And Porn</strong></h2> -</div> +<h2 id="women-and-porn"><strong>Women And Porn</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#women-and-porn"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn&rsquo;t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.</p> <p>Porn and internet porn does not help your sex life; it destroys it totally. Having to hide your internet footprints, trying to delete your history, fearing accidental exposure to your boyfriend or kids, body pains, doubtful symptoms, fighting self doubts, arguing with yourself about your responsibilities in the ill effects of your addiction&hellip; well, why do you want to put yourself in such a bad situation?</p> <p>Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous positive gains to be had. When PMOers contemplate quitting they tend to concentrate on health and virility. These are obviously valid and important issues but I personally believe the greatest gains from stopping are psychological:</p> @@ -2355,8 +2415,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> </ol> <p>Not only is life better as a non-PMOer but it is infinitely more enjoyable. I do not only mean you will be healthier. I mean you will be happier and enjoy life far more. The marvellous gains from being a non-PMOer are discussed in the next few chapters. Some PMOers find it difficult to appreciate the concept of the &lsquo;void&rsquo; and the following analogy may assist you.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"><strong>Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void!</strong></h2> -</div> +<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"><strong>Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I&rsquo;ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can&rsquo;t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.</p> <p>By now you are completely dependent on the ointment. You never go out without ensuring that you have a tube of the ointment with you. If you go abroad, you make sure that you take several tubes with you. Now, in addition to your worries about your health, I&rsquo;m charging you $100 per tube. You have no choice but to pay.</p> <p>You then read in the medical column of your newspaper that this isn&rsquo;t happening just to you; many other people have been suffering from the same problem. In fact, pharmacists have discovered that the ointment doesn&rsquo;t actually cure the sore. All that it does is to take the sore beneath the surface of the skin. It is the ointment that has caused the sore to grow. All you have to do to get rid of the sore is to stop using the ointment. The sore will eventually disappear in due course.</p> @@ -2494,15 +2555,17 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>We can have an ‘information overload’ from the same internet but our reward circuits are not going to squirt dopamine at the levels when ‘porn overload’ is involved. We are evolutionarily programmed to seek and access sex related stuff. And we wrongly appraise the stimulus mostly based on this reward circuit action. If all you wanted is to masturbate why can’t you just use one clip and get the business done?</p> <p>Here is another question - next time after a long day or some stressful incident can you consciously embellish your self-talk with “Do you know what I would really enjoy today? The marvellous warm glow of dopamine rush going to my online harem.” You will find that even people who dislike PMO will join you.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="past-misguided-advice"><strong>Past Misguided Advice</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="past-misguided-advice"><strong>Past Misguided Advice</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#past-misguided-advice"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.</p> <p>From our earliest years our subconscious minds are bombarded daily with information telling us that sex is good and that the most precious thing on this earth is to ‘achieve’ orgasm. Girls are taught to achieve it and claim it&rsquo;s because they were wrongly suppressed of their sexual side for a very long time and still are. You think I exaggerate? Watch any TV or movie plot and you will see the mix-up of the amative (touch, smell, voice etc.) and the propagative (orgasmic) sides of sex. The impact of this does not register on our conscious minds but the sleeping partner, the subconscious mind, has time to absorb it. What the message is really saying is, “The most precious thing on this earth, my last thought and action, will be the goal of orgasm.” If you don’t have an orgasm then you are an old man with zero libido.</p> <p>Our children are being bombarded by sex and porn clips and many don’t even know how to protect them from it all. Large hoardings and magazine adverts are loaded with sexual innuendo. Some of the pop videos are extremely suggestive - again they hide behind free speech. Don’t be vexed and feel powerless about it. Make it a game and find you which of the components they are using - is it novelty, shock value, color, size, taboo etc. If the kids are pre-teen some of these can be disclosed to them and it would make an excellent show-and-tell game.</p> <p>A while back there was a wave of ‘leaked’ private videos of celebrities on the internet. If the youngster is too smitten by their favourite star, even if the conscious mind blames the ‘leak’ on the blood thirsty internet paparazzi, the &lsquo;sleeping partner&rsquo; is patiently digesting the notion that, “yes, even my shambolic hero does it and if I don’t, I won’t look the part.”</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-scientific-reasoning"><strong>The Scientific Reasoning</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-scientific-reasoning"><strong>The Scientific Reasoning</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-scientific-reasoning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>, Reboot<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> forums, underground PUA<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup>, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn&rsquo;t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.</p> <p>Ironically, the most powerful force in this melee of confusion is the PMOer himself. It is a fallacy that they are weak-willed or are physically weak specimens. You have to be physically strong in order to cope with an addiction after you know it is. This is one of the reasons why PMOers refuse to accept the overwhelming statistics that prove that internet porn with its ‘novelty’ cripples your brain. Add to that the sexologists who are doing half-baked studies and declare PMO is not an issue - they just help to add to the confusion.</p> <p>Everyone knows a friend who PMOed every day - he started with the ‘static’ to internet porn, always horny in real life, chasing girls and you never doubted him to have sex problems of course. You want to believe him. He never complained about any ED right? Guys and girls like them refuse even to consider the hundreds of ex-addicts and non-PMOers who painfully recount their difficulties. It is the “little monster” brain chemical addiction and the “big monster” - illusions and delusions. In this hackbook, I&rsquo;ve put together almost all the sorts of brainwashing a PMOer can suffer from. There will always be a few out there that I haven&rsquo;t touched upon.</p> @@ -2510,8 +2573,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>If you do a small survey among your online forum members, friends and colleagues, you will find that most PMOers are, in fact, strong-willed people. They tend to be self-employed, business executives or in certain specialized professions, such as doctors<sup id="fnref:4"><a href="#fn:4" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">4</a></sup>, lawyers, policemen, teachers, salesmen, nurses, secretaries, housewives with children, etc. In other words, anybody leading a stressful existence. Yes, I did include women and mothers. It’s the brain and it’s the same for them too. The main delusion of the PMOer is that porn helps to masturbate to orgasm and that relieves stress. This tends to be associated with the dominant type, the type that takes on responsibility and stress and, of course, that is the type that we admire and therefore tend to copy. Another group that tends to get hooked are people in monotonous jobs because the other main reason for PMOing is boredom. However, the idea that internet porn relieves boredom is also an illusion, I am afraid.</p> <p>As a society we get all uptight about glue-sniffing, heroin addiction, etc. Actual deaths from glue-sniffing do not amount to ten per annum, and deaths from heroin are less than a hundred a year in this country. There is another drug, internet porn, on which over 45 per cent of us become hooked at some time in our lives and the majority spend the rest of their lives regretting it. Some even don’t know that their ED is due to this.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-willpower-method"><strong>The Willpower Method</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-willpower-method"><strong>The Willpower Method</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why?</p> <p>Constant exposure to internet porn re-wires your brain. You need to start building resistance to this brainwashing, just as if you were buying a car from a second-hand car dealer. You would be nodding politely but you would not believe a word the man was saying. So don’t believe everything they say either - that you must have sex as much as you can and you must have it exceptional good. And that in the absence of real sex you claim it by the substitute called internet porn - which is only a component of the good old porn.</p> <p>And don’t play ‘safe’ porn game either - because your “little porn monster” invented that scheme to lure you. Even the content - ‘amateur’? Really? Is there a certification authority that certifies it? Tube sites and porn producers gather site visitor profiles and cater to their needs. If they see a trend in crowd sourced collection of a particular genre they will focus on that and get content out ASAP. The statistics of what genre users like is collected to the level of how long and which portion the users were preferring. Do not be fooled by their educational intent or the safe female oriented clips (for you ladies). Start asking yourself:</p> @@ -2523,22 +2587,25 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>I find this brainwashing aspect the most difficult of all to explain. Why is it that an otherwise rational, intelligent human being becomes a complete imbecile about his own addiction? It pains me to confess that out of the thousands of people that I have assisted in kicking the habit, I (not Allen Carr) was the biggest idiot of all.</p> <p>At the age of thirteen, although I was doing well at school and games, I was still an insufferable introvert. I read books from the library that were not within my main study list. However, I can see that I was attracted to erotica. I started masturbating to TV programs, song and dance sequences etc. I must have to have it every day. The tired feeling I felt was misappropriated by my ‘little porn monster’ as work stress. I didn’t know my “I-must-masturbate-as-I-am-entitled” attitude was the one that created the ‘stress’ in the first place. Then I got pictures and GIFs via email on my laptop - the first step towards electronic porn. The colour and texture of the images were amazing for me at that time - won’t be now for sure. Then came dial-up but still they were predominantly static pictures. Then came downloadable videos. It’s a pain to download and watch now - but it was heaven sent then as we were coming out of the static porn era! Oh, the streaming tube sites haven’t arrived yet.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"><strong>When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"><strong>When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn.</p> <p>At the age of forty, I was visiting my online harem daily, drinking ‘socially’ (whatever that means) and smoking ‘sometimes’ but not so often. I had wrongly subscribed to misguided ideas of ‘moderation’ and ‘entitlement’. I had reached the stage where I couldn&rsquo;t get through a single day without reaching out to porn in the night. With most PMOers, the triggers are the normal stresses of life, like answering the telephone or socializing.</p> <p>When I experienced PIED - I knew it was killing my virility. There was no way I could kid myself otherwise. I am smart enough not to ‘project’ the porn fantasies on to real life. But it was like pacifying a dog straining at its leash. But why I couldn&rsquo;t see what it was doing to me mentally, I could not understand. It was almost jumping up and biting me on the nose. The ridiculous thing is that most PMOers suffer the delusion at some time in their life that they enjoy internet porn because it is ‘normal’ and ‘healthy’. I never suffered that delusion, I PMOed because I thought enjoying sex is a ‘birthright’ and I am only doing a normal thing.</p> <p>Since it was easier at most times for me to get internet porn than a partner I thought I am doing the normal thing. Now I am a non-PMOer, the most difficult part is trying to believe that those days actually happened. It&rsquo;s like awakening from a nightmare and that is about the size of it. Internet porn is a supranormal drug. It is weakening your de-stressing mechanisms, your virility and your energy. The worst aspect of PMO isn&rsquo;t the injury to your health or manliness, it is the warping of the mind. You search for any plausible excuse to go on.</p> <p>I remember at one stage switching to static images, a failed attempt to cut down on internet porn, in the belief that it was less harmful and I could reign in my ‘habit’. I failed to see the ‘novelty’ and the ‘shock’ demands from my ‘little monster’ to just get more dopamine. Did I ‘stay’ within my boundaries? I ‘favorited’ 2 dimensional photos and my harem collection saw pictures and videos of ‘mild’ type porn rotating in and out like musical chair. When their ‘music’ stopped they ‘exited’. I didn’t understand the novelty-seeking, shock-seeking nature of my brain.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pied-and-my-excuses"><strong>PIED And My Excuses</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="pied-and-my-excuses"><strong>PIED And My Excuses</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pied-and-my-excuses"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.</p> <p>Most PMOers swear that they only watch static and soft porn and so they are OK. They are actually straining at the leash and thus fighting with their willpower to resist temptations. If they do this too often and for too long they will debit their willpower considerably and fail in other life projects where willpower is of much great value, like in daily exercise, dieting etc. Continuous failure in those areas will make them feel miserable and guilty and very soon they will find themselves back to their entitled relief. If not, they will vent their anger and depression onto their loved ones.</p> <p>The answer is that once you have become addicted to internet porn, the brainwashing is increased. Your subconscious mind knows that the little monster has to be fed and you block everything else from your mind. As I have already stated, it is fear that keeps people quitting, the fear of that empty, insecure feeling that you get when you stop supplying the brain with dopamine flooding. Just because you are not aware of it doesn&rsquo;t mean it isn&rsquo;t there. You don&rsquo;t have to understand it any more than a cat needs to understand where the under-floor hot-water pipes are. It just knows that if it sits in a certain place it gets the feeling of warmth.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind"><strong>The Passivity Of Our Mind</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind"><strong>The Passivity Of Our Mind</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-passivity-of-our-mind"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I&rsquo;ve frequently referred to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo; PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo;, but to stopping, quitting or the true position: <strong>ESCAPING!</strong></p> <p>The only thing that persuades us to PMO in the first place is all the other people doing it. We feel we are missing out. We work so hard to become hooked, yet nobody ever finds out what they have been missing. But every time we see another new video clip it reassures us that there must be something in it, otherwise people wouldn&rsquo;t be doing it - and it wouldn&rsquo;t be such big business all over the world. Even when he has kicked the habit, the ex-PMOer feels he is being deprived when a discussion on a sexy entertainer, singer or even a porn star comes up at a party or other social function. She or he must be good to have all my friends talk about them, no? Do they have ‘hot’ pictures of her in my tube site? He feels safe. He can have just one ‘peek’ that night. And, before he knows it, he is hooked again.</p> <p>This brainwashing is extremely powerful and you need to be aware of its effects. I have heard scare stories about wicked men giving heroin mixed candies to kids at schoolyards. The concept of addiction and being compelled to go on taking the drug, filled me with horror. Even to this day, in spite of the fact that I am fairly convinced that &lsquo;pot&rsquo; is not addictive, I would not dare take one puff of marijuana. How ironic that I should have ended up a porn junky. Technology will continue to grow and we will have even faster tube sites and more faster access methods. The industry is investing millions in Virtual Reality so it will become the next best thing. The point is, do we know where we are going? Are we equipped with an under armour of defence so we can enjoy the benefits of technology yet at the same time protect ourselves from its bad effects?</p> @@ -2586,8 +2653,9 @@ action more happy feelings.</p> <p>So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. All of which will now be stored as a script in your brain for easy access next time. I call this a ‘water slide’. Next time at the cue - a sexy commercial or alone time or stress or feeling a little down - you are ready to take a ride on the ‘water slide’. One more thing is that every time to repeat this you are ‘greasing’ it as well - so it is active, alive and more easier to slide the next time.</p> <p>As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating. Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish, ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you won’t on your first time.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="my-own-online-harem"><strong>My Own Online Harem!</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="my-own-online-harem"><strong>My Own Online Harem!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#my-own-online-harem"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost.</p> <p>Going back to the earlier discussion - in this cycle as you crossed the ‘red line’ you also trigger emotions such as guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety and fear - which in turn raise dopamine levels as well. Now the brain may mistakenly associate feelings of anxiety and fear as sexual arousal. This perpetual cycle is only broken by natural causes - fortunately sooner or later. With its free access and privacy it provides boundless harem-like novelty. The dopamine can be theoretically kept very high for a very very long time. I can be satisfied with one lobster once in awhile. But Internet porn is different. It is even worse than drugs. Don’t let me make you nervous. I will shortly show you how to be free from this slavery.</p> <p>Now our human body has a self-correcting system by which the number of dopamine and opioid receptors are cut short when frequent and daily ‘flooding’ of dopamine is detected. Unfortunately - these receptors are also needed for receiving dopamine and to keep us even and balanced to handle the inevitable and normal day-to-day stresses. But this natural nominal amount of dopamine will not be absorbed efficiently with decreased receptors and you will feel mores tressed and irritated than normal.</p> @@ -2601,14 +2669,16 @@ action more happy feelings.</p> use?</p> <p>This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I will explain more about this later.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-little-monster"><strong>The Little Monster</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-little-monster"><strong>The Little Monster</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-little-monster"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&rsquo; we think we just &lsquo;got into the habit&rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.</p> <p>Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, resulting in the feeling of fulfilment and pleasure that the action gives to the PMOer. In the early days, when we first start PMOing, the withdrawal pangs and their relief are so slight that we are not even aware that they exist. When we begin to masturbate regularly to internet porn we think it is because we&rsquo;ve either come to enjoy them or got into the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. The truth is we&rsquo;re already hooked; we do not realize it, but that little monster is already inside our stomach and every now and again we have to feed it.</p> <p>All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster. The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had before he became hooked in the first place.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm"><strong>The Annoying Burglar Alarm</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm"><strong>The Annoying Burglar Alarm</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-annoying-burglar-alarm"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain goes on. It is a chain for life - <strong>UNLESS YOU BREAK IT</strong>.</p> <p>The whole business of PMO is like wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure you feel when you take them off. There are three main reasons why PMOers cannot see things that way:</p> @@ -2621,8 +2691,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <p>The heroin doesn&rsquo;t relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a 14 year old in 2008 - didn&rsquo;t suffer the empty feeling of needing internet porn or start to panic when they are off- line. Non-PMOers cannot understand how PMOers can possibly obtain pleasure from two dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. And do you know something? PMOers themselves cannot understand why they do it after some time either.</p> <p>We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don&rsquo;t non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their &rsquo;little monster&rsquo;?</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch"><strong>A Pleasure or Crutch?</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch"><strong>A Pleasure or Crutch?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#a-pleasure-or-crutch"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;I need to eat.&rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.</p> <p>PMOing appears to be almost identical. The empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;wanting or needing an PMO orgasm’ is identical to a hunger for food, although one will not satisfy the other. Like hunger, there is no physical pain and the feeling is so imperceptible that we are not even aware of it between PMO sessions. It&rsquo;s only if we want to masturbate and aren&rsquo;t able to reach internet for porn that we become aware of any discomfort. But when we do PMO we feel satisfied.</p> <p>It is this similarity to eating which helps to fool PMOers into believing that they receive some genuine pleasure. Some PMOers find it very difficult to grasp that there is no pleasure or crutch, whatsoever to PMO. Some argue: “How can you say there is no crutch? When I orgasm up then I&rsquo;llfeel less nervous than before.”</p> @@ -2633,13 +2704,15 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <li>Eating doesn&rsquo;t create hunger and genuinely relieves it, whereas the first PMO starts the craving for dopamine and each subsequent one, far from relieving it, ensures that you suffer it for the rest of life.</li> </ol> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pmo-is-a-habit"><strong>PMO is a Habit?</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="pmo-is-a-habit"><strong>PMO is a Habit?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pmo-is-a-habit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.</p> <p>On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience, I also refer to the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> - we have to then have more bizarre and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting&hellip; not in the killing. If we don&rsquo;t then panic sets in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great!</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="crossing-the-red-line"><strong>Crossing The Red Line</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="crossing-the-red-line"><strong>Crossing The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#crossing-the-red-line"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.</p> <p>You feel better than you did before starting this PMO session but you are in fact more nervous and less relaxed than you would be as a non-PMOer, like someone who is living in Loma Linda or in an Amish village, even though you are actually PMOing and living in your supposed “porn paradise.” This position is even more ridiculous than wearing tight shoes because as you go through life an increasing amount of the discomfort remains even when the shoes are removed.</p> <p>Once the orgasm is achieved, the dopamine rapidly begins to leave the brain, causing a mood dip. Which explains why the PMOer wants to ‘edge’<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> and switch through multiple browser windows as they seek and search. As I said, the ‘habit’ doesn&rsquo;t exist. The real reason why every user goes on using internet porn is because of that little porn monster inside his stomach. Every now and again he has to feed it. The PMOer himself will decide when he does that and it tends to be on four types of occasion or a combination of them.</p> @@ -2651,20 +2724,23 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <p>What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If you think about it, what other types of occasion are there in our lives; apart from sleep? The truth is that PMO neither relieves boredom and stress nor promotes concentration and relaxation. It is all just illusion. Apart from being a drug, PMO is also a destroyer of happiness and virility.</p> <p>In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes, print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’ and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive without knowing the difference between food and poison.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"><strong>Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"><strong>Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!</p> <p>When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were titillating but most were disgusting, causing you to avert your eyes away. Like you would if had accidentally glanced a feeding mother’s breast. And some of us are even revolted with what they saw when the star reminded them of someone dear to their heart or a scene which recalled their own instance of being the victim. Some don’t feel like it to browse and masturbate at the same time. It may be hard to believe for you but the non-PMOs, who don’t PMO after their first time, are the lucky ones. They actually decided that it was not their cup of tea. It must be hard for you to believe but stay with me.</p> <p>How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even after a hard day? Why not? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That&rsquo;s all.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak"><strong>Are PMOers Mentally Weak?</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak"><strong>Are PMOers Mentally Weak?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#are-pmoers-mentally-weak"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.</p> <p>To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to become hooked, and this is why it is difficult to stop teenagers. Because they are skilled in seeking and finding material, they know online privacy options and can clean their tracks - if they still feel some stigma and they (wrongfully) believe they can stop whenever they want to. Why do they not learn from us? Then again, why did we not learn from our PMOers and addicts?</p> <p>Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of ‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying is the ritual of relieving those pangs.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"><strong>The High From The Dance Around The Red Line</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"><strong>The High From The Dance Around The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.</p> <p>Ask a user who believes that he sticks to a certain actor or genre - only because he likes something about the star or the theme (if any) of the clip: “If you cannot get your normal brand of porn and can only obtain a poor or unsafe brand, do you stop masturbating?” No way. A PMOer will masturbate to anything rather than abstain and it doesn&rsquo;t matter if he has to switch to escalating themes, different sex-orientation-themes, look-alike actresses, dangerous settings shocking relationships etc. To begin with they taste awful but if you persevere you will learn to like them. Most PMOers will also try to seek masturbation even after having real sex (unfulfilment, porn-induced unrealistic expectations etc.), or after a long, stressful work day, fever, colds, flu, sore throats and even when admitted in hospitals.</p> <p>Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wanted then it makes no sense to be with your laptop. During my conversation some PMOers find it alarming to realize they are drug addicts and think it will make it even more difficult to stop. In fact, it is all good news for two important reasons:</p> @@ -2674,14 +2750,16 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to </ol> <p>You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc. The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn&rsquo;t bother the PMOers.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-smokers-analogy"><strong>The Smokers Analogy</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-smokers-analogy"><strong>The Smokers Analogy</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-smokers-analogy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they&rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn&rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.</p> <p>PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their parents while visiting for family get togethers etc. with little discomfort to themselves. In fact, most PMOers have extended periods during which they abstain without effort. Even in my case I would quite happily go a week or so without a PMO incident. In the later years as a PMOer I actually used to look forward to these days when I could stop choking my penis (what a ridiculous &lsquo;habit&rsquo;).</p> <p>The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"><strong>The Big Monster - The Brainwashing</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"><strong>The Big Monster - The Brainwashing</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.</p> <p>Not all the amateurs are ‘amateurs’ on these tube sites, oversized body parts and overcharged scenarios are the norm, aided by a bit of the ‘viagran’ help.</p> <p>As I say, the actual porn addiction is not the main problem. It just acts as a catalyst to keep our minds confused over the real problem: the brainwashing. It may be of consolation to lifelong and heavy PMOers to know that it is just as easy for them to stop as casual PMOers. In a peculiar way. it is easier. The further you go along with the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;, the more it drags you down and the greater the gain when you stop.</p> @@ -2911,8 +2989,9 @@ Do not take anything for granted. Question not only what I tell you but also you https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/02-01-introduction/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo">&lsquo;I&rsquo;M GOING TO CURE THE WORLD OF PMO&rsquo;</h2> -</div> +<h2 id="im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo">&lsquo;I&rsquo;M GOING TO CURE THE WORLD OF PMO&rsquo; <a class="anchor" href="#im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>I was talking to my mentor. He thought that I had flipped. Understandable if you consider that he had watched me fail on numerous attempts to quit. The most recent had been two years previously. I&rsquo;d actually survived six months of sheer purgatory before I finally succumbed and found myself clicking on stacked up tabs of porn sites. I&rsquo;m not ashamed to admit that I cried like a baby. I was crying because I knew that I was condemned to be an addict for life. I&rsquo;d put so much effort into that attempt and suffered so much misery that I knew I would never have the strength to go through that ordeal again. I&rsquo;m not a violent man, but if some patronizing non-PMO’er had been stupid enough at that moment to suggest to me that all users can find it easy to quit, immediately and permanently, I would not have been responsible for my actions. However, I&rsquo;m convinced that any jury in the world, comprised of PMOers only, would have pardoned me on the grounds of justifiable homicide.</p> <p>Perhaps you too find it impossible to believe that any PMOer can find it easy to quit. If so, I beg you not to cast this book into the rubbish bin. Please trust me. I assure you that you can find it easy to quit.</p> @@ -3049,21 +3128,30 @@ porn and or masturbation&#160;<a href="#fnref:2" class="footn https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/00-00-hackbookeasypeasy/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h1 id="a-hrefhackbookhackbookpdfclick-to-download-hackbookeasypeasy-original-pdfa"><a href="https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook/hackbook.pdf">Click to download HackBookEasyPeasy (original pdf)</a></h1> -<h3 id="easypeasyway">EasyPeasyWay</h3> -<h4 id="httpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhomehttpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhome"><a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a></h4> -<p><em>HackBookEasyPeasy EasyPeasyWay <a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a> I am Allen Carr. I am also not Allen Carr. So yes I am not the author. I am the hack-author.</em></p> +<h1 id="a-hrefhackbookhackbookpdfclick-to-download-hackbookeasypeasy-original-pdfa"><a href="https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook/hackbook.pdf">Click to download HackBookEasyPeasy (original pdf)</a> <a class="anchor" href="#a-hrefhackbookhackbookpdfclick-to-download-hackbookeasypeasy-original-pdfa"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><h3 id="easypeasyway">EasyPeasyWay <a class="anchor" href="#easypeasyway"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><h4 id="httpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhomehttpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhome"><a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a> <a class="anchor" href="#httpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhomehttpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhome"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><p><em>HackBookEasyPeasy EasyPeasyWay <a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a> I am Allen Carr. I am also not Allen Carr. So yes I am not the author. I am the hack-author.</em></p> <p><em>I hacked Allen Carr’s book and his method of de-addiction to adapt it for PMO. Why? Because his method helped me in getting rid of cigarettes, alcohol and then PMO. Why did I hack his work? Because he is dead now. And the institution that he had formed does not list Internet pornography as one of the addictions that it provides services for. I don&rsquo;t gain monetarily or otherwise. Above all - you won’t ‘find’ me in this book. Myself and Allen will appear and disappear in this book to provide you with an unique and effective method to get your mind de-addicted.</em></p> -<h4 id="important-advice-for-you"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong></h4> -<p><em>The common thread running through Allen Carr&rsquo;s work is the removal of fear. Indeed, his genius lies in eliminating the phobias and anxieties which prevent people from being able to enjoy life to the full, as his best-selling books vividly demonstrate. His method is solid and has high success rates. It helped cure me of not one but three addictions. There is a network of clinics that uses his methods that span the globe and has a phenomenal reputation for success in helping people to quit addictions (except PMO). Their success rate is over 95% with money-back guarantees.</em></p> +<h4 id="important-advice-for-you"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#important-advice-for-you"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#do-not-jump-chapters"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><p><em>The common thread running through Allen Carr&rsquo;s work is the removal of fear. Indeed, his genius lies in eliminating the phobias and anxieties which prevent people from being able to enjoy life to the full, as his best-selling books vividly demonstrate. His method is solid and has high success rates. It helped cure me of not one but three addictions. There is a network of clinics that uses his methods that span the globe and has a phenomenal reputation for success in helping people to quit addictions (except PMO). Their success rate is over 95% with money-back guarantees.</em></p> <p><em>Hackbook : A book based and hacked from another book. The original author is credited fully.</em></p> -<h4 id="important-advice-for-you-1"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters-1"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence-1"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong></h4> -<p><em>Dr. Albert Ellis&rsquo; autobiography - &ldquo;All Out!&rdquo;</em></p> +<h4 id="important-advice-for-you-1"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#important-advice-for-you-1"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters-1"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#do-not-jump-chapters-1"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence-1"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence-1"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><p><em>Dr. Albert Ellis&rsquo; autobiography - &ldquo;All Out!&rdquo;</em></p> <p><em>“I used to wrongly think that most of them (addicts) were aided by self-help groups like AA, by therapy, or some other real support. But no. The facts show that more people surrender their addictions on their own-without any notable help from others. How? Mainly by seeing, acknowledging, and emphasizing how hard it is not to stop and how much easier it is-in the long run- to suffer through the withdrawal process.”</em></p> </div> @@ -3075,8 +3163,9 @@ formed does not list Internet pornography as one of the addictions that it provi Sat, 17 Dec 2022 22:33:25 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/pluralization-issues/ - <h3 id="this-is-my-first-entry-and-im-already-having-issues-lol">this is my first entry and i&rsquo;m already having issues lol</h3> -<p>So I wanted to make a quick entry, see how it looks like and I stumbled upon this issue of hugo pluralzing Blog into Blogs</p> + <h3 id="this-is-my-first-entry-and-im-already-having-issues-lol">this is my first entry and i&rsquo;m already having issues lol <a class="anchor" href="#this-is-my-first-entry-and-im-already-having-issues-lol"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>So I wanted to make a quick entry, see how it looks like and I stumbled upon this issue of hugo pluralzing Blog into Blogs</p> <p>You can fix this in config.toml with the following line</p> <blockquote> <div class="highlight"><pre tabindex="0" style="color:#f8f8f2;background-color:#272822;-moz-tab-size:4;-o-tab-size:4;tab-size:4;"><code class="language-toml" data-lang="toml"><span style="display:flex;"><span><span style="color:#a6e22e">pluralizelisttitles</span> = <span style="color:#66d9ef">false</span> @@ -3090,11 +3179,13 @@ formed does not list Internet pornography as one of the addictions that it provi Sat, 17 Dec 2022 17:20:18 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/helloworld/ - <h1 id="obligatory-hello-world">Obligatory Hello World!</h1> -<p>trying to see which hugo theme i like best</p> + <h1 id="obligatory-hello-world">Obligatory Hello World! <a class="anchor" href="#obligatory-hello-world"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><p>trying to see which hugo theme i like best</p> <p>had some issues with papermod and their css not working so for now i&rsquo;ll use lugo</p> -<h2 id="stuff-i-like">stuff i like</h2> -<ul> +<h2 id="stuff-i-like">stuff i like <a class="anchor" href="#stuff-i-like"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ul> <li>touching grass and nature in general (wannabe farmer)</li> <li>にっぽんese <ul> diff --git a/new-site/public/library/index.xml b/new-site/public/library/index.xml index 4b0ee032..5f1122ea 100644 --- a/new-site/public/library/index.xml +++ b/new-site/public/library/index.xml @@ -16,8 +16,9 @@ Thu, 23 Mar 2023 18:06:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/ted-kaczynski/industrial-society-and-its-future/ - <h2 id="introduction">Introduction</h2> -<ol> + <h2 id="introduction">Introduction <a class="anchor" href="#introduction"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li> <p>The Industrial Revolution and its consequences have been a disaster for the human race. They have greatly increased the life expectancy of those of us who live in “advanced” countries, but they have destabilized society, have made life unfulfilling, have subjected human beings to indignities, have led to widespread psychological suffering (in the Third World to physical suffering as well) and have inflicted severe damage on the natural world. The continued development of technology will worsen the situation. It will certainly subject human beings to greater indignities and inflict greater damage on the natural world, it will probably lead to greater social disruption and psychological suffering, and it may lead to increased physical suffering even in “advanced” countries.</p> </li> @@ -34,8 +35,9 @@ <p>In this article we give attention to only some of the negative developments that have grown out of the industrial-technological system. Other such developments we mention only briefly or ignore altogether. This does not mean that we regard these other developments as unimportant. For practical reasons we have to confine our discussion to areas that have received insufficient public attention or in which we have something new to say. For example, since there are well-developed environmental and wilderness movements, we have written very little about environmental degradation or the destruction of wild nature, even though we consider these to be highly important.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-psychology-of-modern-leftism">The Psychology of Modern Leftism</h2> -<ol start="6"> +<h2 id="the-psychology-of-modern-leftism">The Psychology of Modern Leftism <a class="anchor" href="#the-psychology-of-modern-leftism"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="6"> <li> <p>Almost everyone will agree that we live in a deeply troubled society. One of the most widespread manifestations of the craziness of our world is leftism, so a discussion of the psychology of leftism can serve as an introduction to the discussion of the problems of modern society in general.</p> </li> @@ -49,8 +51,9 @@ <p>The two psychological tendencies that underlie modern leftism we call feelings of inferiority and oversocialization. Feelings of inferiority are characteristic of modern leftism as a whole, while oversocialization is characteristic only of a certain segment of modern leftism; but this segment is highly influential.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="feelings-of-inferiority">Feelings of Inferiority</h2> -<ol start="10"> +<h2 id="feelings-of-inferiority">Feelings of Inferiority <a class="anchor" href="#feelings-of-inferiority"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="10"> <li> <p>By “feelings of inferiority” we mean not only inferiority feelings in the strict sense but a whole spectrum of related traits: low self-esteem, feelings of powerlessness, depressive tendencies, defeatism, guilt, self-hatred, etc. We argue that modern leftists tend to have some such feelings (possibly more or less repressed), and that these feelings are decisive in determining the direction of modern leftism.</p> </li> @@ -94,8 +97,9 @@ <p>We emphasize that the foregoing does not pretend to be an accurate description of everyone who might be considered a leftist. It is only a rough indication of a general tendency of leftism.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="oversocialization">Oversocialization</h2> -<ol start="24"> +<h2 id="oversocialization">Oversocialization <a class="anchor" href="#oversocialization"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="24"> <li> <p>Psychologists use the term “socialization” to designate the process by which children are trained to think and act as society demands. A person is said to be well socialized if he believes in and obeys the moral code of his society and fits in well as a functioning part of that society. It may seem senseless to say that many leftists are oversocialized, since the leftist is perceived as a rebel. Nevertheless, the position can be defended. Many leftists are not such rebels as they seem.</p> </li> @@ -124,8 +128,9 @@ <p>The problems of the leftist are indicative of the problems of our society as a whole. Low self-esteem, depressive tendencies and defeatism are not restricted to the left. Though they are especially noticeable in the left, they are widespread in our society. And today’s society tries to socialize us to a greater extent than any previous society. We are even told by experts how to eat, how to exercise, how to make love, how to raise our kids and so forth.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-power-process">The Power Process</h2> -<ol start="33"> +<h2 id="the-power-process">The Power Process <a class="anchor" href="#the-power-process"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="33"> <li> <p>Human beings have a need (probably based in biology) for something that we will call the power process. This is closely related to the need for power (which is widely recognized) but is not quite the same thing. The power process has four elements. The three most clear-cut of these we call goal, effort and attainment of goal. (Everyone needs to have goals whose attainment requires effort, and needs to succeed in attaining at least some of his goals.) The fourth element is more difficult to define and may not be necessary for everyone. We call it autonomy and will discuss it later (paragraphs 42–44).</p> </li> @@ -142,8 +147,9 @@ <p>Thus, in order to avoid serious psychological problems, a human being needs goals whose attainment requires effort, and he must have a reasonable rate of success in attaining his goals.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="surrogate-activities">Surrogate Activities</h2> -<ol start="38"> +<h2 id="surrogate-activities">Surrogate Activities <a class="anchor" href="#surrogate-activities"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="38"> <li> <p>But not every leisured aristocrat becomes bored and demoralized. For example, the emperor Hirohito, instead of sinking into decadent hedonism, devoted himself to marine biology, a field in which he became distinguished. When people do not have to exert themselves to satisfy their physical needs they often set up artificial goals for themselves. In many cases they then pursue these goals with the same energy and emotional involvement that they otherwise would have put into the search for physical necessities. Thus the aristocrats of the Roman Empire had their literary pretensions; many European aristocrats a few centuries ago invested tremendous time and energy in hunting, though they certainly didn’t need the meat; other aristocracies have competed for status through elaborate displays of wealth; and a few aristocrats, like Hirohito, have turned to science.</p> </li> @@ -157,8 +163,9 @@ <p>For many if not most people, surrogate activities are less satistying than the pursuit of real goals (that is, goals that people would want to attain even if their need for the power process were already fulfilled). One indication of this is the fact that, in many or most cases, people who are deeply involved in surrogate activities are never satisfied, never at rest. Thus the money-maker constantly strives for more and more wealth. The scientist no sooner solves one problem than he moves on to the next. The long-distance runner drives himself to run always farther and faster. Many people who pursue surrogate activities will say that they get far more fulfillment from these activities than they do from the “mundane” business of satisfying their biological needs, but that is because in our society the effort required to satisfy the biological needs has been reduced to triviality. More importantly, in our society people do not satisty their biological needs AUTONOMOUSLY but by functioning as parts of an immense social machine. In contrast, people generally have a great deal of autonomy in pursuing their surrogate activities.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="autonomy">Autonomy</h2> -<ol start="42"> +<h2 id="autonomy">Autonomy <a class="anchor" href="#autonomy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="42"> <li> <p>Autonomy as a part of the power process may not be necessary for every individual. But most people need a greater or lesser degree of autonomy in working toward their goals. Their efforts must be undertaken on their own initiative and must be under their own direction and control. Yet most people do not have to exert this initiative, direction and control as single individuals. It is usually enough to act as a member of a SMALL group. Thus if half a dozen people discuss a goal among themselves and make a successful joint effort to attain that goal, their need for the power process will be served. But if they work under rigid orders handed down from above that leave them no room for autonomous decision and initiative, then their need for the power process will not be served. The same is true when decisions are made on a collective basis if the group making the collective decision is so large that the role of each individual is insignificant.<sup id="fnref:5"><a href="#fn:5" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">5</a></sup></p> </li> @@ -169,8 +176,9 @@ <p>But for most people it is through the power process—having a goal, making an AUTONOMOUS effort and attaining the goal—that self-esteem, self-confidence and a sense of power are acquired. When one does not have adequate opportunity to go through the power process the consequences are (depending on the individual and on the way the power process is disrupted) boredom, demoralization, low self-esteem, inferiority feelings, defeatism, depression, anxiety, guilt, frustration, hostility, spouse or child abuse, insatiable hedonism, abnormal sexual behavior, sleep disorders, eating disorders, etc.<sup id="fnref:6"><a href="#fn:6" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">6</a></sup></p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="sources-of-social-problems">Sources of Social Problems</h2> -<ol start="45"> +<h2 id="sources-of-social-problems">Sources of Social Problems <a class="anchor" href="#sources-of-social-problems"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="45"> <li> <p>Any of the foregoing symptoms can occur in any society, but in modern industrial society they are present on a massive scale. We aren’t the first to mention that the world today seems to be going crazy. This sort of thing is not normal for human societies. There is good reason to believe that primitive man suffered from less stress and frustration and was better satisfied with his way of life than modern man is. It is true that not all was sweetness and light in primitive societies. Abuse of women was common among the Australian aborigines, transsexuality was fairly common among some of the American Indian tribes. But it does appear that GENERALLY SPEAKING the kinds of problems that we have listed in the preceding paragraph were far less common among primitive peoples than they are in modern society.</p> </li> @@ -214,8 +222,9 @@ <p>It would be possible to give other examples of societies in which there has been rapid change and/or lack of close community ties without the kind of massive behavioral aberration that is seen in today’s industrial society. We contend that the most important cause of social and psychological problems in modern society is the fact that people have insufficient opportunity to go through the power process in a normal way. We don’t mean to say that modern society is the only one in which the power process has been disrupted. Probably most if not all civilized societies have interfered with the power process to a greater or lesser extent. But in modern industrial society the problem has become particularly acute. Leftism, at least in its recent (mid- to late-20th century) form, is in part a symptom of deprivation with respect to the power process.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="disruption-of-the-power-process-in-modern-society">Disruption of the Power Process in Modern Society</h2> -<ol start="59"> +<h2 id="disruption-of-the-power-process-in-modern-society">Disruption of the Power Process in Modern Society <a class="anchor" href="#disruption-of-the-power-process-in-modern-society"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="59"> <li> <p>We divide human drives into three groups: (1) those drives that can be satisfied with minimal effort; (2) those that can be satisfied but only at the cost of serious effort; (3) those that cannot be adequately satisfied no matter how much effort one makes. The power process is the process of satistying the drives of the second group. The more drives there are in the third group, the more there is frustration, anger, eventually defeatism, depression, etc.</p> </li> @@ -271,8 +280,9 @@ <p>In response to the arguments of this section someone will say, “Society must find a way to give people the opportunity to go through the power process.” This won’t work for those who need autonomy in the power process. For such people the value of the opportunity is destroyed by the very fact that society gives it to them. What they need is to find or make their own opportunities. As long as the system GIVES them their opportunities it still has them on a leash. To attain autonomy they must get off that leash.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="how-some-people-adjust">How Some People Adjust</h2> -<ol start="77"> +<h2 id="how-some-people-adjust">How Some People Adjust <a class="anchor" href="#how-some-people-adjust"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="77"> <li> <p>Not everyone in industrial-technological society suffers from psychological problems. Some people even profess to be quite satisfied with society as it is. We now discuss some of the reasons why people differ so greatly in their response to modern society.</p> </li> @@ -304,8 +314,9 @@ <p>But even if most people in industrial-technological society were well satisfied, we (FC) would still be opposed to that form of society, because (among other reasons) we consider it demeaning to fulfill one’s need for the power process through surrogate activities or through identification with an organization, rather than through pursuit of real goals.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-motives-of-scientists">The Motives of Scientists</h2> -<ol start="87"> +<h2 id="the-motives-of-scientists">The Motives of Scientists <a class="anchor" href="#the-motives-of-scientists"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="87"> <li> <p>Science and technology provide the most important examples of surrogate activities. Some scientists claim that they are motivated by “curiosity” or by a desire to “benefit humanity.” But it is easy to see that neither of these can be the principal motive of most scientists. As for “curiosity,” that notion is simply absurd. Most scientists work on highly specialized problems that are not the object of any normal curiosity. For example, is an astronomer, a mathematician or an entomologist curious about the properties of isopropyltrimethylmethane? Of course not. Only a chemist is curious about such a thing, and he is curious about it only because chemistry is his surrogate activity. Is the chemist curious about the appropriate classification of a new species of beetle? No. That question is of interest only to the entomologist, and he is interested in it only because entomology is his surrogate activity. If the chemist and the entomologist had to exert themselves seriously to obtain the physical necessities, and if that effort exercised their abilities in an interesting way but in some nonscientific pursuit, then they wouldn’t give a damn about isopropyltrimethylmethane or the classification of beetles. Suppose that lack of funds for postgraduate education had led the chemist to become an insurance broker instead of a chemist. In that case he would have been very interested in insurance matters but would have cared nothing about isopropyltrimcthylmethane. In any case it is not normal to put into the satisfaction of mere curiosity the amount of time and effort that scientists put into their work. The “curiosity” explanation for the scientists’ motive just doesn’t stand up.</p> </li> @@ -325,8 +336,9 @@ <p>Thus science marches on blindly, without regard to the real welfare of the human race or to any other standard, obedient only to the psychological needs of the scientists and of the government officials and corporation executives who provide the funds for research.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-nature-of-freedom">The Nature of Freedom</h2> -<ol start="93"> +<h2 id="the-nature-of-freedom">The Nature of Freedom <a class="anchor" href="#the-nature-of-freedom"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="93"> <li> <p>We are going to argue that industrial-technological society cannot be reformed in such a way as to prevent it from progressively narrowing the sphere of human freedom. But because “freedom” is a word that can be interpreted in many ways, we must first make clear what kind of freedom we are concerned with.</p> </li> @@ -346,8 +358,9 @@ <p>One more point to be made in this section: It should not be assumed that a person has enough freedom just because he SAYS he has enough. Freedom is restricted in part by psychological controls of which people are unconscious, and moreover many people’s ideas of what constitutes freedom are governed more by social convention than by their real needs. For example, it’s likely that many leftists of the oversocialized type would say that most people, including themselves, are socialized too little rather than too much, yet the oversocialized leftist pays a heavy psychological price for his high level of socialization.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="some-principles-of-history">Some Principles of History</h2> -<ol start="99"> +<h2 id="some-principles-of-history">Some Principles of History <a class="anchor" href="#some-principles-of-history"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="99"> <li> <p>Think of history as being the sum of two components: an erratic component that consists of unpredictable events that follow no discernible pattern, and a regular component that consists of long-term historical trends. Here we are concerned with the long-term trends.</p> </li> @@ -385,8 +398,9 @@ <p>Still, one has to use common sense in applying the principles. They are expressed in imprecise language that allows latitude for interpretation, and exceptions to them can be found. So we present these principles not as inviolable laws but as rules of thumb, or guides to thinking, that may provide a partial antidote to naive ideas about the future of society. The principles should be borne constantly in mind, and whenever one reaches a conclusion that conflicts with them one should carefully reexamine one’s thinking and retain the conclusion only if one has good, solid reasons for doing so.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="industrial-technological-society-cannot-be-reformed">Industrial-Technological Society Cannot Be Reformed</h2> -<ol start="111"> +<h2 id="industrial-technological-society-cannot-be-reformed">Industrial-Technological Society Cannot Be Reformed <a class="anchor" href="#industrial-technological-society-cannot-be-reformed"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="111"> <li> <p>The foregoing principles help to show how hopelessly difficult it would be to reform the industrial system in such a way as to prevent it from progressively narrowing our sphere of freedom. There has been a consistent tendency, going back at least to the Industrial Revolution, for technology to strengthen the system at a high cost in individual freedom and local autonomy. Hence any change designed to protect freedom from technology would be contrary to a fundamental trend in the development of our society. Consequently, such a change either would be a transitory one—soon swamped by the tide of history—or, if large enough to be permanent, would alter the nature of our whole society. This by the first and second principles. Moreover, since society would be altered in a way that could not be predicted in advance (third principle) there would be great risk. Changes large enough to make a lasting difference in favor of freedom would not be initiated because it would be realized that they would gravely disrupt the system. So any attempts at reform would be too timid to be effective. Even if changes large enough to make a lasting difference were initiated, they would be retracted when their disruptive effects became apparent. Thus, permanent changes in favor of freedom could be brought about only by persons prepared to accept radical, dangerous and unpredictable alteration of the entire system. In other words by revolutionaries, not reformers.</p> </li> @@ -397,8 +411,9 @@ <p>So even on very general grounds it seems highly improbable that any way of changing society could be found that would reconcile freedom with modern technology. In the next few sections we will give more specific reasons for concluding that freedom and technological progress are incompatible.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="restriction-of-freedom-is-unavoidable-in-industrial-society">Restriction of Freedom is Unavoidable in Industrial Society</h2> -<ol start="114"> +<h2 id="restriction-of-freedom-is-unavoidable-in-industrial-society">Restriction of Freedom is Unavoidable in Industrial Society <a class="anchor" href="#restriction-of-freedom-is-unavoidable-in-industrial-society"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="114"> <li> <p>As explained in paragraphs 65–67, 70–73, modern man is strapped down by a network of rules and regulations, and his fate depends on the actions of persons remote from him whose decisions he cannot influence. This is not accidental or a result of the arbitrariness of arrogant bureaucrats. It is necessary and inevitable in any technologically advanced society. The system HAS TO regulate human behavior closely in order to function. At work, people have to do what they are told to do, when they are told to do it and in the way they are told to do it, otherwise production would be thrown into chaos. Bureaucracies HAVE TO be run according to rigid rules. To allow any substantial personal discretion to lower-level bureaucrats would disrupt the system and lead to charges of unfairness due to differences in the way individual bureaucrats exercised their discretion. It is true that some restrictions on our freedom could be eliminated. but GENERALLY SPEAKING the regulation of our lives by large organizations is necessary for the functioning of industrial-technological society. The result is a sense of powerlessness on the part of the average person. It may be. however. that formal regulations will tend increasingly to be replaced by psychological tools that make us want to do what the system requires of us. (Propaganda,<sup id="fnref1:14"><a href="#fn:14" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">14</a></sup> educational techniques, “mental health” programs, etc.)</p> </li> @@ -421,8 +436,9 @@ <p>Efforts to make room for a sense of purpose and for autonomy within the system are no better than a joke. For example, one company, instead of having each of its employees assemble only one section of a catalogue, had each assemble a whole catalogue, and this was supposed to give them a sense of purpose and achievement. Some companies have tried to give their employees more autonomy in their work, but for practical reasons this usually can be done only to a very limited extent, and in any case employees are never given autonomy as to ultimate goals—their “autonomous” efforts can never be directed toward goals that they select personally, but only toward their employer’s goals, such as the survival and growth of the company. Any company would soon go out of business if it permitted its employees to act otherwise. Similarly, in any enterprise within a socialist system, workers must direct their efforts toward the goals of the enterprise, otherwise the enterprise will not serve its purpose as part of the system. Once again, for purely technical reasons it is not possible for most individuals or small groups to have much autonomy in industrial society. Even the small-business owner commonly has only limited autonomy. Apart from the necessity of government regulation, he is restricted by the fact that he must fit into the economic system and conform to its requirements. For instance, when someone develops a new technology, the small-business person often has to use that technology whether he wants to or not, in order to remain competitive.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-bad-parts-of-technology-cannot-be-separated-from-the-good-parts">The “Bad” Parts of Technology Cannot Be Separated from the “Good” Parts</h2> -<ol start="121"> +<h2 id="the-bad-parts-of-technology-cannot-be-separated-from-the-good-parts">The “Bad” Parts of Technology Cannot Be Separated from the “Good” Parts <a class="anchor" href="#the-bad-parts-of-technology-cannot-be-separated-from-the-good-parts"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="121"> <li> <p>A further reason why industrial society cannot be reformed in favor of freedom is that modern technology is a unified system in which all parts are dependent on one another. You can’t get rid of the “bad” parts of technology and retain only the “good” parts. Take modern medicine, for example. Progress in medical science depends on progress in chemistry, physics, biology, computer science and other fields. Advanced medical treatments require expensive, high-tech equipment that can be made available only by a technologically progressive, economically rich society. Clearly you can’t have much progress in medicine without the whole technological system and everything that goes with it.</p> </li> @@ -436,8 +452,9 @@ <p>The usual response to such concerns is to talk about “medical ethics.” But a code of ethics would not serve to protect freedom in the face of medical progress; it would only make matters worse. A code of ethics applicable to genetic engineering would be in effect a means of regulating the genetic constitution of human beings. Somebody (probably the upper middle class, mostly) would decide that such and such applications of genetic engineering were “ethical” and others were not, so that in effect they would be imposing their own values on the genetic constitution of the population at large. Even if a code of ethics were chosen on a completely democratic basis, the majority would be imposing their own values on any minorities who might have a different idea of what constituted an “ethical” use of genetic engineering. The only code of ethics that would truly protect freedom would be one that prohibited ANY genetic engineering of human beings, and you can be sure that no such code will ever be applied in a technological society. No code that reduced genetic engineering to a minor role could stand up for long, because the temptation presented by the immense power of biotechnology would be irresistible, especially since to the majority of people many of its applications will seem obviously and unequivocally good (eliminating physical and mental diseases, giving people the abilities they need to get along in today’s world). Inevitably, genetic engineering will be used extensively, but only in ways consistent with the needs of the industrial-technological system.<sup id="fnref:20"><a href="#fn:20" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">20</a></sup></p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="technology-is-a-more-powerful-social-force-than-the-aspiration-for-freedom">Technology is a More Powerful Social Force than the Aspiration for Freedom</h2> -<ol start="125"> +<h2 id="technology-is-a-more-powerful-social-force-than-the-aspiration-for-freedom">Technology is a More Powerful Social Force than the Aspiration for Freedom <a class="anchor" href="#technology-is-a-more-powerful-social-force-than-the-aspiration-for-freedom"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="125"> <li> <p>It is not possible to make a LASTING compromise between technology and freedom, because technology is by far the more powerful social force and continually encroaches on freedom through REPEATED compromises. Imagine the case of two neighbors, each of whom at the outset owns the same amount of land, but one of whom is more powerful than the other. The powerful one demands a piece of the other’s land. The weak one refuses. The powerful one says, “Okay, let’s compromise. Give me half of what I asked.” The weak one has little choice but to give in. Some time later the powerful neighbor demands another piece of land, again there is a compromise, and so forth. By forcing a long series of compromises on the weaker man, the powerful one eventually gets all of his land. So it goes in the conflict between technology and freedom.</p> </li> @@ -472,8 +489,9 @@ <p>In paragraph 125 we used an analogy of a weak neighbor who is left destitute by a strong neighbor who takes all his land by forcing on him a series of compromises. But suppose now that the strong neighbor gets sick, so that he is unable to defend himself. The weak neighbor can force the strong one to give him his land back, or he can kill him. If he lets the strong man survive and only forces him to give the land back, he is a fool, because when the strong man gets well he will again take all the land for himself. The only sensible alternative for the weaker man is to kill the strong one while he has the chance. In the same way, while the industrial system is sick we must destroy it. If we compromise with it and let it recover from its sickness, it will eventually wipe out all of our freedom.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="simpler-social-problems-have-proved-intractable">Simpler Social Problems Have Proved Intractable</h2> -<ol start="136"> +<h2 id="simpler-social-problems-have-proved-intractable">Simpler Social Problems Have Proved Intractable <a class="anchor" href="#simpler-social-problems-have-proved-intractable"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="136"> <li> <p>If anyone still imagines that it would be possible to reform the system in such a way as to protect freedom from technology, let him consider how clumsily and for the most part unsuccessfully our society has dealt with other social problems that are far more simple and straightforward. Among other things, the system has failed to stop environmental degradation, political corruption, drug trafficking or domestic abuse.</p> </li> @@ -487,8 +505,9 @@ <p>And note this important difference: It is conceivable that our environmental problems (for example) may some day be settled through a rational, comprehensive plan, but if this happens it will be only because it is in the long-term interest of the system to solve these problems. But it is NOT in the interest of the system to preserve freedom or small-group autonomy. On the contrary, it is in the interest of the system to bring human behavior under control to the greatest possible extent.<sup id="fnref:24"><a href="#fn:24" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">24</a></sup> Thus, while practical considerations may eventually force the system to take a rational, prudent approach to environmental problems, equally practical considerations will force the system to regulate human behavior ever more closely (preferably by indirect means that will disguise the encroachment on freedom). This isn’t just our opinion. Eminent social scientists (e.g., James Q. Wilson) have stressed the importance of “socializing” people more effectively.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="revolution-is-easier-than-reform">Revolution is Easier than Reform</h2> -<ol start="140"> +<h2 id="revolution-is-easier-than-reform">Revolution is Easier than Reform <a class="anchor" href="#revolution-is-easier-than-reform"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="140"> <li> <p>We hope we have convinced the reader that the system cannot be reformed in such a way as to reconcile freedom with technology. The only way out is to dispense with the industrial-technological system altogether. This implies revolution, not necessarily an armed uprising, but certainly a radical and fundamental change in the nature of society.</p> </li> @@ -499,8 +518,9 @@ <p>Reform is always restrained by the fear of painful consequences if changes go too far. But once a revolutionary fever has taken hold of a society, people are willing to undergo unlimited hardships for the sake of their revolution. This was clearly shown in the French and Russian Revolutions. It may be that in such cases only a minoriry of the population is really committed to the revolution, but this minority is sufficiently large and active so that it becomes the dominant force in society. We will have more to say about revolution in paragraphs 180–205).</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="control-of-human-behavior">Control of Human Behavior</h2> -<ol start="143"> +<h2 id="control-of-human-behavior">Control of Human Behavior <a class="anchor" href="#control-of-human-behavior"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="143"> <li> <p>Since the beginning of civilization, organized societies have had to put pressures on human beings for the sake of the functioning of the social organism. The kinds of pressures vary greatly from one society to another. Some of the pressures are physical (poor diet, excessive labor, environmental pollution), some are psychological (noise, crowding, forcing human behavior into the mold that society requires). In the past, human nature has been approximately constant, or at any rate has varied only within certain bounds. Consequently, societies have been able to push people only up to certain limits. When the limit of human endurance has been passed, things start going wrong: rebellion, or crime, or corruption, or evasion of work, or depression and other mental problems, or an elevated death rate, or a declining birth rate or something else, so that either the society breaks down, or its functioning becomes too inefficient and it is (quickly or gradually, through conquest, attrition or evolution) replaced by some more efficient form of society.<sup id="fnref:25"><a href="#fn:25" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">25</a></sup></p> </li> @@ -556,8 +576,9 @@ <p>To those who think that all this sounds like science fiction, we point out that yesterday’s science fiction is today’s fact. The Industrial Revolution has radically altered man’s environment and way of life, and it is only to be expected that as technology is increasingly applied to the human body and mind, man himself will be altered as radically as his environment and way of life have been.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="human-race-at-a-crossroads">Human Race at a Crossroads</h2> -<ol start="161"> +<h2 id="human-race-at-a-crossroads">Human Race at a Crossroads <a class="anchor" href="#human-race-at-a-crossroads"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="161"> <li> <p>But we have gotten ahead of our story. It is one thing to develop in the laboratory a series of psychological or biological techniques for manipulating human behavior and quite another to integrate these techniques into a functioning social system. The latter problem is the more difficult of the two. For example, while the techniques of educational psychology doubtless work quite well in the “lab schools” where they are developed, it is not necessarily easy to apply them effectively throughout our educational system. We all know what many of our schools are like. The teachers are too busy taking knives and guns away from the kids to subject them to the latest techniques for making them into computer nerds. Thus, in spite of all its technical advances relating to human behavior, the system to date has not been impressively successful in controlling human beings. The people whose behavior is fairly well under the control of the system are those of the type that might be called “bourgeois.” But there are growing numbers of people who in one way or another are rebels against the system: welfare leeches, youth gangs, cultists, satanists, Nazis, radical environmentalists, militia-men, etc.</p> </li> @@ -577,8 +598,9 @@ <p>Therefore two tasks confront those who hate the servitude to which the industrial system is reducing the human race. First, we must work to heighten the social stresses within the system so as to increase the likelihood that it will break down or be weakened sufficiently so that a revolution against it becomes possible. Second, it is necessary to develop and propagate an ideology that opposes technology and the industrial system. Such an ideology can become the basis for a revolution against industrial society if and when the system becomes sufficiently weakened. And such an ideology will help to assure that, if and when industrial society breaks down, its remnants will be smashed beyond repair, so that the system cannot be reconstituted. The factories should be destroyed, technical books burned, etc.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="human-suffering">Human Suffering</h2> -<ol start="167"> +<h2 id="human-suffering">Human Suffering <a class="anchor" href="#human-suffering"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="167"> <li> <p>The industrial system will not break down purely as a result of revolutionary action. It will not be vulnerable to revolutionary attack unless its own internal problems of development lead it into very serious difficulties. So if the system breaks down it will do so either spontaneously, or through a process that is in part spontaneous but helped along by revolutionaries. If the breakdown is sudden, many people will die, since the world’s population has become so overblown that it cannot even feed itself any longer without advanced technology. Even if the breakdown is gradual enough so that reduction of the population can occur more through lowering of the birth rate than through elevation of the death rate, the process of de-industrialization probably will be very chaotic and involve much suffering. It is naive to think it likely that technology can be phased out in a smoothly managed, orderly way, especially since the technophiles will fight stubbornly at every step. Is it therefore cruel to work for the breakdown of the system? Maybe, but maybe not. In the first place, revolutionaries will not be able to break the system down unless it is already in enough trouble so that there would be a good chance of its eventually breaking down by itself anyway; and the bigger the system grows, the more disastrous the consequences of its breakdown will be; so it may be that revolutionaries, by hastening the onset of the breakdown, will be reducing the extent of the disaster.</p> </li> @@ -592,8 +614,9 @@ <p>“Oh!” say the technophiles, “Science is going to fix all that! We will conquer famine, eliminate psychological suffering, make everybody healthy and happy!” Yeah, sure. That’s what they said 200 years ago. The Industrial Revolution was supposed to eliminate poverty, make everybody happy, etc. The actual result has been quite different. The technophiles are hopelessly naive (or self-deceiving) in their understanding of social problems. They are unaware of (or choose to ignore) the fact that when large changes, even seemingly beneficial ones, are introduced into a society, they lead to a long sequence of other changes, most of which are impossible to predict (paragraph 103). In the mean time there will be great suffering. So it is not at all clear that the survival of industrial society would involve less suffering than the breakdown of that society would. Technology has gotten the human race into a fix from which there is not likely to be any easy escape.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-future">The Future</h2> -<ol start="171"> +<h2 id="the-future">The Future <a class="anchor" href="#the-future"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="171"> <li> <p>But suppose now that industrial society does survive the next several decades and that the bugs do eventually get worked out of the system, so that it functions smoothly. What kind of system will it be? We will consider several possibilities.</p> </li> @@ -622,8 +645,9 @@ <p>It would be better to dump the whole stinking system and take the consequences.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="strategy">Strategy</h2> -<ol start="180"> +<h2 id="strategy">Strategy <a class="anchor" href="#strategy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="180"> <li> <p>The technophiles are taking us all on an utterly reckless ride into the unknown. Many people understand something of what technological progress is doing to us, yet take a passive attitude toward it because they think it is inevitable. But we (FC) don’t think it is inevitable. We think it can be stopped, and we will give here some indications of how to go about stopping it.</p> </li> @@ -706,8 +730,9 @@ <p>With regard to revolutionary strategy, the only points on which we absolutely insist are that the single, overriding goal must be the elimination of modern technology, and that no other goal can be allowed to compete with this one. For the rest, revolutionaries should take an empirical approach. If experience indicates that some of the recommendations made in the foregoing paragraphs are not going to give good results, then those recommendations should be discarded.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="two-kinds-of-technology">Two Kinds of Technology</h2> -<ol start="207"> +<h2 id="two-kinds-of-technology">Two Kinds of Technology <a class="anchor" href="#two-kinds-of-technology"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="207"> <li> <p>An argument likely to be raised against our proposed revolution is that it is bound to fail, because (it is claimed) throughout history technology has always progressed, never regressed, hence technological regression is impossible. But this claim is false.</p> </li> @@ -727,8 +752,9 @@ <p>Would society EVENTUALLY develop again toward an industrial-technological form? Maybe, but there is no use in worrying about it, since we can’t predict or control events 500 or 1,000 years in the future. Those problems must be dealt with by the people who will live at that time.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-danger-of-leftism">The Danger of Leftism</h2> -<ol start="213"> +<h2 id="the-danger-of-leftism">The Danger of Leftism <a class="anchor" href="#the-danger-of-leftism"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="213"> <li> <p>Because of their need for rebellion and for membership in a movement, leftists or persons of similar psychological type often are attracted to a rebellious or activist movement whose goals and membership are not initially leftist. The resulting influx of leftish types can easily turn a non-leftist movement into a leftist one, so that leftist goals replace or distort the original goals of the movement.</p> </li> @@ -784,8 +810,9 @@ <p>The more dangerous leftists, that is, those who are most power-hungry, are often characterized by arrogance or by a dogmatic approach to ideology. However, the most dangerous leftists of all may be certain oversocialized types who avoid irritating displays of aggressiveness and refrain from advertising their leftism, but work quietly and unobtrusively to promote collectivist values, “enlightened” psychological techniques for socializing children, dependence of the individual on the system, and so forth. These crypto-leftists (as we may call them) approximate certain bourgeois types as far as practical action is concerned, but differ from them in psychology, ideology and motivation. The ordinary bourgeois tries to bring people under control of the system in order to protect his way of life, or he does so simply because his attitudes are conventional. The crypto-leftist tries to bring people under control of the system because he is a True Believer in a collectivistic ideology. The crypto-leftist is differentiated from the average leftist of the oversocialized type by the fact that his rebellious impulse is weaker and he is more securely socialized. He is differentiated from the ordinary well-socialized bourgeois by the fact that there is some deep lack within him that makes it necessary for him to devote himself to a cause and immerse himself in a collectivity. And maybe his (well-sublimated) drive for power is stronger than that of the average bourgeois.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="final-note">Final Note</h2> -<ol start="231"> +<h2 id="final-note">Final Note <a class="anchor" href="#final-note"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="231"> <li> <p>Throughout this article we’ve made imprecise statements and statements that ought to have had all sorts of qualifications and reservations attached to them; and some of our statements may be flatly false. Lack of sufficient information and the need for brevity made it impossible for us to formulate our assertions more precisely or add all the necessary qualifications. And of course in a discussion of this kind one must rely heavily on intuitive judgment, and that can sometimes be wrong. So we don’t claim that this article expresses more than a crude approximation to the truth.</p> </li> @@ -915,8 +942,9 @@ Thu, 12 Jan 2023 21:34:30 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/recover-lost-anki-streak/ - <h1 id="how-to-recover-a-lost-anki-streak">How to recover a lost anki streak</h1> -<p>Word for word copy paste of what fixed my issue. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/Anki/comments/ndt6ag/comment/gycwiti/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">Original post</a></p> + <h1 id="how-to-recover-a-lost-anki-streak">How to recover a lost anki streak <a class="anchor" href="#how-to-recover-a-lost-anki-streak"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><p>Word for word copy paste of what fixed my issue. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/Anki/comments/ndt6ag/comment/gycwiti/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">Original post</a></p> <p><em>btw i had to create a seperate Custom Study for cards i had forgotten, i set it to 1 day, did one review and followed from step 7</em></p> <p>Happened to me as well, idk why. But there is a way to cheat streaks:</p> <ol> @@ -938,10 +966,12 @@ Wed, 04 Jan 2023 22:52:24 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/meta-description-in-hugo/ - <h1 id="adding-meta-description-in-hugo">Adding meta description in Hugo</h1> -<p>I assume you are using Luke Smith&rsquo;s theme - Lugo, if you are not, you&rsquo;d have to find these files yourself (e.g. search using vscode).</p> -<h2 id="setting-a-global-meta-description">Setting a global meta description</h2> -<ol> + <h1 id="adding-meta-description-in-hugo">Adding meta description in Hugo <a class="anchor" href="#adding-meta-description-in-hugo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><p>I assume you are using Luke Smith&rsquo;s theme - Lugo, if you are not, you&rsquo;d have to find these files yourself (e.g. search using vscode).</p> +<h2 id="setting-a-global-meta-description">Setting a global meta description <a class="anchor" href="#setting-a-global-meta-description"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Locate your config.toml or config.yaml file</li> <li>Add the following line inside it</li> </ol> @@ -952,15 +982,17 @@ <div class="highlight"><pre tabindex="0" style="color:#f8f8f2;background-color:#272822;-moz-tab-size:4;-o-tab-size:4;tab-size:4;"><code class="language-yaml" data-lang="yaml"><span style="display:flex;"><span><span style="color:#f92672">params</span>: </span></span><span style="display:flex;"><span> <span style="color:#f92672">description</span>: <span style="color:#ae81ff">The global meta description of your website</span> </span></span></code></pre></div><p>It won&rsquo;t work just yet because you have to update the <code>baseof.html</code> file.</p> -<h2 id="updating-the-baseofhtml-file">Updating the baseof.html file</h2> -<ol> +<h2 id="updating-the-baseofhtml-file">Updating the baseof.html file <a class="anchor" href="#updating-the-baseofhtml-file"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Locate baseof.html</li> <li>Add or change the meta description line with the following</li> </ol> <div class="highlight"><pre tabindex="0" style="color:#f8f8f2;background-color:#272822;-moz-tab-size:4;-o-tab-size:4;tab-size:4;"><code class="language-html" data-lang="html"><span style="display:flex;"><span>&lt;<span style="color:#f92672">meta</span> <span style="color:#a6e22e">name</span><span style="color:#f92672">=</span><span style="color:#e6db74">&#34;description&#34;</span> <span style="color:#a6e22e">content</span><span style="color:#f92672">=</span><span style="color:#e6db74">&#34;{{ if .Page.Params.description }}{{ .Page.Params.description }}{{ else if .Summary}}{{ .Summary }}{{else}}{{ .Site.Params.description}}{{ end }}&#34;</span>/&gt; </span></span></code></pre></div><p>And now if you start your Hugo server locally with <code>hugo serve --noHTTPCache</code> and you right click on your page -&gt; View Page Source -&gt; Search for the meta description tag. It should match what you left in the config file.</p> -<h2 id="replacing-the-global-description-with-a-custom-one">Replacing the global description with a custom one</h2> -<ol> +<h2 id="replacing-the-global-description-with-a-custom-one">Replacing the global description with a custom one <a class="anchor" href="#replacing-the-global-description-with-a-custom-one"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Have a markdown file ready</li> <li>In the preamble, add</li> </ol> @@ -978,8 +1010,9 @@ https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/multiple-index-pages-in-hugo/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="this-is-how-to-create-multiple-index-pages-in-hugo">This is how to create multiple index pages in Hugo</h2> -</div> +<h2 id="this-is-how-to-create-multiple-index-pages-in-hugo">This is how to create multiple index pages in Hugo <a class="anchor" href="#this-is-how-to-create-multiple-index-pages-in-hugo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>I wanted to order <a href="https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook">Hackbook</a> in reverse (i.e. oldest to newest) so that it&rsquo;s easier for the reader to start at the correct page.</p> <p>I ran into the following problem - the default <strong><code>list.html</code></strong> does them from newest to oldest.</p> <p>So I found <a href="https://discourse.gohugo.io/t/two-home-pages/31312/9">this forum post</a> and I created a file in the <strong><code>_default</code></strong> directory as follows:</p> @@ -1012,11 +1045,14 @@ {{- end }} &lt;/ul&gt; {{- end }} -</code></pre><h4 id="if-you-want-to-display-the-date-on-the-left-of-the-titles-you-have-to-add-datesinlisttrue-in-your-configtoml-or-datesinlist-true-in-your-configyaml">if you want to display the date on the left of the titles, you have to add <strong><code>datesinlist=true</code></strong> in your config.toml or <strong><code>datesinlist: true</code></strong> in your config.yaml</h4> -<h5 id="you-probably-dont-need-enablegitinfo--true-as-that-will-crash-your-website-i-have-no-idea-what-it-does-you-dont-need-it">You probably don&rsquo;t need <strong><code>enableGitInfo = true</code></strong> as that will crash your website, I have no idea what it does, you don&rsquo;t need it.</h5> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="using-your-custom-_indexhtml">Using your custom _index.html</h2> -</div> +</code></pre><h4 id="if-you-want-to-display-the-date-on-the-left-of-the-titles-you-have-to-add-datesinlisttrue-in-your-configtoml-or-datesinlist-true-in-your-configyaml">if you want to display the date on the left of the titles, you have to add <strong><code>datesinlist=true</code></strong> in your config.toml or <strong><code>datesinlist: true</code></strong> in your config.yaml <a class="anchor" href="#if-you-want-to-display-the-date-on-the-left-of-the-titles-you-have-to-add-datesinlisttrue-in-your-configtoml-or-datesinlist-true-in-your-configyaml"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h5 id="you-probably-dont-need-enablegitinfo--true-as-that-will-crash-your-website-i-have-no-idea-what-it-does-you-dont-need-it">You probably don&rsquo;t need <strong><code>enableGitInfo = true</code></strong> as that will crash your website, I have no idea what it does, you don&rsquo;t need it. <a class="anchor" href="#you-probably-dont-need-enablegitinfo--true-as-that-will-crash-your-website-i-have-no-idea-what-it-does-you-dont-need-it"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h5><div style="text-align: center;"> +<h2 id="using-your-custom-_indexhtml">Using your custom _index.html <a class="anchor" href="#using-your-custom-_indexhtml"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>After creating your custom _index.html you&rsquo;d use it as follows:</p> <ol> <li>Create an _index.md file in your desired directory</li> @@ -1227,8 +1263,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true <li>Never PMO again.</li> </ol> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="affirmations">Affirmations</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="affirmations">Affirmations <a class="anchor" href="#affirmations"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <ul> <li>I am free from the slavery of PMO.</li> <li>It is easy for me to ignore my thoughts about PMO.</li> @@ -1269,21 +1306,24 @@ strains of life.</li> https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-43-advice-to-non-pmoers/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK <a class="anchor" href="#help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>First study the contents of this book and try to put yourself in the place of the PMOer. Do not force him to read this book or try to stop him by telling him he is ruining his health or playing with fire. He already knows this better than you do. PMOers do not continue in it because they enjoy it or because they want to. They only tell themselves and other people this in order to retain self-respect. They do it because they feel dependent on PMO because they think that it relaxes them and gives them courage and confidence (pleasure or crutch) and that life will never be enjoyable without “sex” - their version of it. If you try to force a PMOer to stop, he feels like a trapped animal and wants to be in his harem even more. This may turn him into a secret PMOer and in his mind the porn will become even more precious (see Chapter 26).</p> <p>Instead, concentrate on the other side of the coin. Get him into the company of ex-PMOers (there are many blogs, forums etc. YBOP, No-Fap etc.). Get them to tell the PMOer how they too thought they were hooked for life and how much better life is as a non-PMOer. Once you have got him believing that he can stop then his mind will start to open up. Then start explaining the delusion created by withdrawal pangs. Not only are the “dopamine rushes” not giving him a boost but they are destroying his confidence and making him irritable and tired.</p> <p>He should now be ready to read this book himself. He will be expecting to read pages and pages about unreliable arousal, fading penetrations, PIED, PE, etc. Explain that the approach is completely different and that references to illness are just a small fraction of the material in the book.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD <a class="anchor" href="#help-during-the-withdrawal-period"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>If you are dealing with a girlfriend or boyfriend - whether the ex-PMOer is suffering or not, assume that she/he is. Do not try to minimize his suffering by telling him it is easy to stop; he can do that himself. Instead keep telling him how proud you are, how much better he is looking, how much sweeter it is to be with him, how much easier he is in general. It is particularly important to keep doing this. When a PMOer makes an attempt to stop, the euphoria of the attempt and the attention he gets from friends and colleagues can help him along. However, they tend to forget quickly, so keep that praise going.</p> <p>Because he is not talking about PMOing, you may think he has forgotten about it and don&rsquo;t want to remind him. Usually the complete opposite is the case with the Willpower Method, as the ex-PMOer tends to be obsessed by nothing else. So do not be frightened to bring the subject up and keep praising him: he will tell you if he doesn&rsquo;t want you to remind him of PMOing.</p> <p>Go out of your way to relieve him of pressures during the withdrawal period. Try to think of ways of making his life interesting and enjoyable. This can also be a trying period for non-PMOers - that is those of you who have never had this addiction. If one member of a group is irritable, it can cause general misery all round. So anticipate this if the ex-PMOer is feeling irritable. He may well take it out on you but do not retaliate: it is at this time that he needs your praise and sympathy the most. If you are feeling irritable yourself, try not to show it.</p> <p>One of the tricks an addict will play when trying to give up with the aid of the Willpower Method was to get into a tantrum, hoping that wife or friends would say, “I cannot bear to see you suffering like this. For goodness sake, have your poison.” The PMOer then does not lose face, as he isn&rsquo;t “giving in” - he has been instructed. If the ex-PMOer uses this ploy, on no account encourage him to lapse. Instead say, “if that is what PMO does to you, thank goodness you will soon be free. How marvellous that you had the courage and sense to give up.”</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL <a class="anchor" href="#help-end-this-scandal"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>In my opinion, internet porn is one of the dangers in a free society, piggy backing on the good willed efforts of personal freedoms. Surely the very basis of civilization, the reason why the human species has advanced so far, is that we are capable of communicating our knowledge and experiences not only to each other but to future generations. Even the lower species find it necessary to warn their offspring of the pitfalls in life.</p> <p>The producers of porn are not doing this in good faith, in the genuine belief that they help mankind, especially now as the addiction to internet porn is widely studied. Maybe in its initial stages people genuinely believed that porn taught intimacy to men and women but today the authorities know that it is a fallacy. Just watch any tube sites nowadays. They make no claims about education. The only claims they make are about the shock, novelty, escalation quality of their clips.</p> <p>The sheer hypocrisy is incredible. As a society we get uptight about school bullying and objectification of human body. Compared with internet porn, these problems are mere pimples in our society. Thirty five per cent of the population have been addicted to porn and most of them spend quality time with imaginary and illusory pixel people at the expense of health, virility, energy and time. Tens of thousands of people have their lives ruined every year because they become hooked. Internet high speed porn is by far the biggest killer in relationships and yet the biggest vested interest is our for-profit companies. Internet porn producers don’t spend on advertising the filth in mainstream publications - they don’t have to. Our biological urges will lead us to the thresholds of their well stocked internet harems. They give free samples just like your local drug dealer. Heck the tube sites don’t even stock the wares any more as they encourage visitors to post the content.</p> @@ -1296,8 +1336,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <p>Why do we allow society to subject healthy young teenagers, youngsters whose lives are complete before they start to get online, to claim their independence just for the privilege of destroying themselves mentally and physically in a lifetime of slavery, a lifetime of filth and disease? You may feel that I over-dramatize the facts. Not so. There are cases where lives were cut down in his early years of marriage because of PMO. He was a strong man and might still have been alive today. I believe I was within an inch of PIED during my forties, although I would have attributed it to my divorce rather than to PMO. I now spend my life being consulted by people who have been crippled by the disease or are in the last stages. And, if you care to think about it, you probably know of many too.</p> <p>There is a wind of change in society. A snowball has started that I hope this book will help turn into an avalanche. You too can help by spreading the message.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING <a class="anchor" href="#final-warning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>You can now enjoy the rest of your life as a happy non-PMOer. In order to make sure that you do, you need to follow these simple instructions:</p> <ol> <li>Keep this page in your bookmarks and refer to it as much as you need.</li> @@ -1396,8 +1437,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <p>Find out which one it is. Some people understand and believe everything I say but still start off with a feeling of doom and gloom, as if something terrible were happening. You are doing not only what you&rsquo;d like to do but what every PMOer on the planet would like to do. With any method of stopping, what the ex PMOer is trying to achieve is a certain frame of mind, so that whenever he thinks about PMO he says to himself, “YIPPEE! I&rsquo;M FREE!” If that&rsquo;s your object, why wait? Start off in that frame of mind and never lose it. The rest of the book is designed to make you understand why there is no alternative.</p> </blockquote> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="the-check-list"><strong>THE CHECK LIST</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="the-check-list"><strong>THE CHECK LIST</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-check-list"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>If you follow these simple instructions, you cannot fail:</p> <ol> <li>Make a solemn vow that you will never, ever, go online to visit your harem OR settle down for static pictures OR make peace with erotic graphics OR anything that contains supra normal stimuli, and stick to your vow.</li> @@ -1511,14 +1553,16 @@ sites in my life again.”<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1& <p>I have been direct in my advice so far and would ask you to treat this advice as instruction rather than suggestion. I am explicit and direct, first because there are sound, practical reasons for my advice and second, because those reasons have been backed up by thousands of case studies. On the question of whether or not to try to avoid temptation during the withdrawal period, I regret that I cannot be direct. Each PMOer will need to decide for himself. I can, however, make what I hope will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all our lives and this fear consists of two distinct phases:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO?</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO? <a class="anchor" href="#phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>This fear is that panicky feeling the PMOer gets when they are alone in a single phase or have an asexual, uninterested or unavailable partner. The fear isn&rsquo;t caused by withdrawal pangs but is the psychological fear of dependency - you cannot survive without sex and orgasm. It actually reaches its height when you are on the verge of quitting (I won’t use giving up); at that time your withdrawal pangs are at their lowest. It is the fear of the unknown, the sort of fear that people have when they are learning to dive.</p> <p>The diving board is 1 foot high but seems to be 6 feet high. The water is 6 feet deep but appears to be 1 foot deep. It takes courage to launch yourself. You are convinced you are going to smash your head. The launching is the hardest part. If you can find the courage to do it, the rest is easy. This explains why many otherwise strong-willed PMOers either have never attempted to stop or can survive only a few days when they do. In fact, there are some PMOers on a porn diet who when they decide to stop, actually binge and escalate to harsher clips more quickly than if they had not decided to stop. The decision causes panic, which is stressful. This is one of the occasions when the brain triggers the instruction, “take a trip to your own personal harem.” But now you can&rsquo;t take one. You are being deprived - more stress.</p> <p>The trigger starts again quickly when the fuse blows and you fire up the browser. Don&rsquo;t worry. That panic is just psychological. It is the fear that you are dependent. The beautiful truth is that you are not, even when you are still addicted. Do not panic. Just trust me and launch yourself.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear <a class="anchor" href="#phase-2-longer-term-fear"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>The second phase of fear is longer-term. It involves the fear that certain situations in the future will not be enjoyable or that you will not be able to cope with a trauma without PMO. Don&rsquo;t worry. If you can launch yourself you will find the opposite to be the case. The avoidance of temptation itself falls into two main categories:</p> <ol> <li>“I will subscribe to a porn-diet of once in 4 days. I will feel more confident knowing that I can go online if it gets hard. It is OK if I fail I can just add up additional days to my next cycle.”</li> @@ -1621,8 +1665,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict <li>What&rsquo;s worse, it keeps the big monster alive in your mind. If you had the “last peek”, it will be easier to have the next one.</li> </ol> <p>Above all, remember:</p> -<h2 id="just-one-peek-is-how-people-get-into-pmo-addiction-in-the-first-place">“Just one peek” is how people get into PMO addiction in the first place.</h2> - +<h2 id="just-one-peek-is-how-people-get-into-pmo-addiction-in-the-first-place">“Just one peek” is how people get into PMO addiction in the first place. <a class="anchor" href="#just-one-peek-is-how-people-get-into-pmo-addiction-in-the-first-place"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2> @@ -1727,8 +1772,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict </ol> <p>Stop kidding yourself. If the job offer that I mentioned before, of 10 months work for 12 months salary a year won&rsquo;t stop him. Or if the risks of cutting down your brain’s capacity to cope with just any normal day-to-day stress and strains or if putting yourself at odds with having a reliable erection, or if the lifetime of mental and physical torture and slavery did not stop him or her - the above said few phoney incentives will not make the slightest bit of difference. They will only make the sacrifice appear worse. Instead concentrate on the other side:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"><strong>“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?”</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"><strong>“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?”</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>Keep looking at the other side of the tug of war. What is PMOing doing for me? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Why do I need to do it? YOU DON&rsquo;T! YOU ARE ONLY PUNISHING YOURSELF. Try looking at it from the Pascal’s Wager perspective. You have almost nothing to lose (a rub-out with half arousals) for sure, chances of big profits (a full and reliable arousal, mental well being and happiness) and no chance of losing big (unreliable full arousals, premature ejaculations, fading penetrations, loss of general impulse controls, lower tolerance for frustrations and anger).</p> <p>Why not declare your quitting to friends and family? Well, it will make you a proud ex-addict, ex-PMOer, not an elated and happy non-PMOer. It will scare your partner a bit since they may see this as an effort to have more sex, sort of a new-age thing. They may also fear to lose you if this turns you into sex machine. It is hard to explain to them unless they are open minded.</p> <p>Any attempt to get others to help you in your quitting gives more power to the little monster of addiction. Pushing it from your mind and totally ignoring it has the effect of trying NOT to think of it. As soon as you spot the thoughts, when you hit the cues (home alone) or just absent minded thoughts - just say to yourself: “Great, I don’t have to do it like a slave animal. I am free. I am happy to know the differences in sex.” This will cut the life of the thought and will deny oxygen to it and will stop it from burning towards urges and cravings.</p> @@ -1796,8 +1842,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <p>First of all, identify the times or occasions when PMO appears to be important to you. If you are a businessman and use it for the illusion of relief of stress, pick a relatively slack period; a good idea is to choose your annual holiday. If you PMO mainly during boring or relaxing periods, weekends etc. do the opposite. In any event, take the matter seriously and make the attempt the most important thing in your life.</p> <p>Look ahead for a period of about three weeks and try to anticipate any event that might lead to failure. Occasions like a conference trip, partner out of town etc. need not deter you, providing you anticipate them in advance and do not feel you will be deprived. Do not attempt to cut down in the meantime as this will only create the illusion that being denied is enjoyable. In fact, it helps to force yourself to watch and have as many PMO sessions as possible. While you are having the last session and that last time, be conscious of the disappointment due to satiation, unfulfilled expectations (porn can never satisfy you), any bodily pain or pain in the genitals, the withdrawal effects, the peevishness and the melancholy. Think how marvellous it will be when you allow yourself to stop doing it.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="whatever-you-do-dont-fall-into-the-trap-of-just-saying-not-now-later-and-putting-it-out-of-your-mind-work-out-your-timetable-now-and-look-forward-to-it">WHATEVER YOU DO, DON&rsquo;T FALL INTO THE TRAP OF JUST SAYING, “NOT NOW. LATER,” AND PUTTING IT OUT OF YOUR MIND. WORK OUT YOUR TIMETABLE NOW AND LOOK FORWARD TO IT.</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="whatever-you-do-dont-fall-into-the-trap-of-just-saying-not-now-later-and-putting-it-out-of-your-mind-work-out-your-timetable-now-and-look-forward-to-it">WHATEVER YOU DO, DON&rsquo;T FALL INTO THE TRAP OF JUST SAYING, “NOT NOW. LATER,” AND PUTTING IT OUT OF YOUR MIND. WORK OUT YOUR TIMETABLE NOW AND LOOK FORWARD TO IT. <a class="anchor" href="#whatever-you-do-dont-fall-into-the-trap-of-just-saying-not-now-later-and-putting-it-out-of-your-mind-work-out-your-timetable-now-and-look-forward-to-it"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>Remember you aren&rsquo;t giving anything up. On the contrary: you are about to receive marvellous positive gains.</p> <p>For years the medical profession viewed porn is harmless without knowing the difference between the tame static porn of yesteryear and the latest VR streaming porn. The problem is this; although every PMOer uses internet porn purely to relieve the brain chemical craving for dopamine, it is not the addiction to the brain chemical itself that hooks the PMOer but the self-brainwashing that results from that addiction. An intelligent person will fall for a confidence trick. But only a fool will go on falling for it once he realizes that it&rsquo;s a confidence trick. Fortunately, most PMOers aren&rsquo;t fools; they only think they are. Each individual PMOer has his own private brainwashing. That is why there appears to be such a wide range of different types of PMOer, which only serves to compound the mysteries.</p> <p>With the benefit of the original book that used this method to stop smoking, which dealt with nicotine addiction (one of the most quickest and addictive drug known to man) and bearing in mind that the personal logs that I collected from Reddit, NoFap and YBOP blogs and forums, I was agreeably surprised to realize that the philosophy propounded in the original book was still sound. The accumulated knowledge that was acquired by the original author Alan Carr and by myself the hack-author is how to communicate that knowledge to each individual PMOer. The fact that I know every PMOer can not only find it easy to stop but can actually enjoy the process is not only pointless but exceedingly frustrating unless I can make the PMOer realize it. The original author of the quit smoking book explains some controversial advice:</p> @@ -1835,8 +1882,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <p>The only reason why people continue to PMO after getting educated is because they have failed to stop or are too frightened to try. There are even talks about no porn, no masturbation and no orgasms - with or without partners. Karezza is discussed widely and people are trying it out. Many aforementioned failures are “fail forwards” and thus somewhat benefiting the people who practice them. Once you start in the no-PMO route you will find your best fit that applies to your life. I strongly encourage devising your own plan on orgasms after understanding and practising the separation of the amative and the propagative parts of sex. I am sure whichever route you take you will see the value of preserving the “seed” by limiting the number of times you flush your brain with chemicals by orgasming. You will then never see porn, sex and orgasms as a pleasure or as a crutch for your emotional ups and downs.</p> <p>I was reading a Reddit forum by non-PMOers dedicated to quitting not only porn but also masturbation. As I read along I thought. “This is good, I see so many have taken to quitting masturbation and I think that is the right way to quit PMO.” However, I found most of the notes pointing to them to try with the Willpower Method. There was a lot of self-pitying as well. Except a few&hellip; almost all were not feeling elated and not having the, “yippee I am free from slavery” attitude. Eventually someone broke down - as I unfortunately expected to happen. And the result was a domino effect. All those other PMOers had been sitting there thinking, “surely I can&rsquo;t be the only PMOer here.” However, they were “failing forward” albeit with a lot of self-torturing as they shut down their browsers but did not shut down the desire and the need. This method is the reverse as - we shut down the desire and the need first before shutting down the browser screen. As every day more and more PMOers leave the sinking ship, so those left on it become terrified they&rsquo;ll be the last.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="dont-let-it-be-you"><strong>DON&rsquo;T LET IT BE YOU!</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="dont-let-it-be-you"><strong>DON&rsquo;T LET IT BE YOU!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#dont-let-it-be-you"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> @@ -1854,8 +1902,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <p>Columbo has this frustrating practice of closing the door after finishing his interrogation, having assured the suspect that he is in the clear and before the satisfied look has disappeared from the murderer&rsquo;s face, Columbo reappears with: “just one small point, sir, which I&rsquo;m sure you can explain&hellip;” The suspect stammers and from that point on we know and he knows that Columbo will gradually wear him down. No matter how heinous the crime, from that point on my sympathies were with the murderer.</p> <p>It was almost as if I were the criminal and that&rsquo;s exactly how those bouts made me feel. The tension of not being allowed to cross the red line to get my porn fix that I “rightly deserve because I am hard working man and why shouldn’t I when every man does it?” entitlement, click, click, clicking on videos that come close to the right one. Longing for the porn tube videos. And then finishing the deed - just a limp rub out, wondering where the pleasure was. The fear of crossing the line losing control. The relief of returning to the bed, immediately followed by the fear that she would toss around and ask for sex. As the “safe” YouTube videos started not to do it for me - desensitization and lack of novelty and the certain knowledge that sooner or later I was bound to visit my favourite online harem. The final humiliation and shame when that certainty became a fact, followed by the immediate return to chain-PMOing.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="oh-the-joys-of-being-a-pmo-er"><strong>OH THE JOYS OF BEING A PMO-er!</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="oh-the-joys-of-being-a-pmo-er"><strong>OH THE JOYS OF BEING A PMO-er!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#oh-the-joys-of-being-a-pmo-er"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> @@ -1882,25 +1931,32 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p </ol> <p>I used to think of my ‘non-casual’ PMOing as a weakness. I couldn&rsquo;t understand why my friends could limit their “intake.” I knew I was a very strong-willed person. It never occurred to me that most PMOers are incapable of chain-PMOing - you need a very strong imagination and also extraordinarily strong penis stamina in order to do it. Some of these once-a-week PMOers that heavy PMOers tend to envy do it less frequently because physically their constitution cannot do more, or because they cannot afford to PMO more, or because their job, or society, or their own hatred of being hooked won&rsquo;t allow them to PMO more.</p> <p>It may be of advantage at this stage to provide a few definitions:</p> -<h3 id="the-non-pmoer">THE NON-PMOer</h3> -<p>Someone who has never fallen for the trap but should not be complacent. He is a non-PMOer only by luck or the grace of goodness. All PMOers were convinced that they would never become hooked and some non-PMOers keep trying an occasional session.</p> -<h3 id="the-casual-pmoer">THE CASUAL PMOer</h3> -<p>There are two basic classifications of casual PMOers:</p> +<h3 id="the-non-pmoer">THE NON-PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-non-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>Someone who has never fallen for the trap but should not be complacent. He is a non-PMOer only by luck or the grace of goodness. All PMOers were convinced that they would never become hooked and some non-PMOers keep trying an occasional session.</p> +<h3 id="the-casual-pmoer">THE CASUAL PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-casual-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>There are two basic classifications of casual PMOers:</p> <ol> <li>The PMOer who has fallen for the trap but doesn&rsquo;t realize it. Do not envy such PMOers. They are merely sampling the nectar at the mouth of the pitcher plant and in all probability will soon be heavy users. Remember, just as all alcoholics started off as casual drinkers, so all PMOers started off as casual PMOers.</li> <li>The PMOer who was previously a heavy PMOer and thinks he cannot stop. These PMOers are the saddest of all. They fall into various categories, each of which needs separate comment.</li> </ol> -<h3 id="the-oncea--day-pmoer">THE ONCE–A- DAY PMOer</h3> -<p>If he enjoys his entitlement to orgasm, why does he use internet porn to orgasm only once a day? If he can take it or leave it, why does he bother to PMO at all? Remember, the ‘habit’ is really banging your head against the brick wall only to make it relaxing when you stop. The once-a-day PMOer is relieving his withdrawal pangs for less than one hour each day. The rest of the day, although he doesn&rsquo;t realize it, he is banging his head against the wall and does so for most of his life. He is PMOing only once a day because either he cannot take the risk of getting caught or screwing up his brain health. It is easy to convince the heavy PMOer that he doesn&rsquo;t enjoy it but you try convincing a casual PMOer. Anybody who has gone through an attempt to cut down will know it is the worst torture of all and almost guaranteed to keep you hooked for the rest of your life.</p> -<h3 id="the-rejected-pmoer">THE REJECTED PMOer</h3> -<p>This PMOer demands the right to his/her orgasm(s) every day. And of course his sex partner is not always up to it. So he goes on the internet for porn initially. Once he takes “the ride” to fix “the void” he is trapped on this most exciting ‘water slide’ of novelty, shock, supranormal images etc. He is in fact dichotomously ‘happy’ with the partner’s rejection – it gives him something of an excuse. If internet porn is giving so much to you, why even bother to have a partner at all? Set him or her free. He is not even enjoying the PMO when he has to ‘carry’ his partner in his mind. At some point he is using his real life partner to hand him an excuse to go out into the valleys of the dark side of the internet.</p> -<h3 id="the-porn-diet-pmoer">THE PORN DIET PMOer</h3> -<p>(Or, “I can stop whenever I want to. I have done it thousands of times”). If he thinks dieting helps with his moods to ‘get out to get women,’ why is he even on the diet of once every four days? How can one predict the future, what if the happenstance of meeting occurred just an hour after your scheduled PMO session? Also, if he thinks this occasional “cleaning the plumbing” is good to relieve tension and relax why not plumb every day? It has been proven that masturbation is not required to keep the genitals healthy. Internet porn is not required at all. Even if that may be the case, any PUA guru who has read about the brain chemistry and its plasticity will never recommend watching super stimulus porn. The truth is he is still hooked. Although he gets rid of the physical addiction, he is left with the main problem - the brainwashing. He hopes each time that he will stop for good and soon falls for the same trap again.</p> +<h3 id="the-oncea--day-pmoer">THE ONCE–A- DAY PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-oncea--day-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>If he enjoys his entitlement to orgasm, why does he use internet porn to orgasm only once a day? If he can take it or leave it, why does he bother to PMO at all? Remember, the ‘habit’ is really banging your head against the brick wall only to make it relaxing when you stop. The once-a-day PMOer is relieving his withdrawal pangs for less than one hour each day. The rest of the day, although he doesn&rsquo;t realize it, he is banging his head against the wall and does so for most of his life. He is PMOing only once a day because either he cannot take the risk of getting caught or screwing up his brain health. It is easy to convince the heavy PMOer that he doesn&rsquo;t enjoy it but you try convincing a casual PMOer. Anybody who has gone through an attempt to cut down will know it is the worst torture of all and almost guaranteed to keep you hooked for the rest of your life.</p> +<h3 id="the-rejected-pmoer">THE REJECTED PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-rejected-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>This PMOer demands the right to his/her orgasm(s) every day. And of course his sex partner is not always up to it. So he goes on the internet for porn initially. Once he takes “the ride” to fix “the void” he is trapped on this most exciting ‘water slide’ of novelty, shock, supranormal images etc. He is in fact dichotomously ‘happy’ with the partner’s rejection – it gives him something of an excuse. If internet porn is giving so much to you, why even bother to have a partner at all? Set him or her free. He is not even enjoying the PMO when he has to ‘carry’ his partner in his mind. At some point he is using his real life partner to hand him an excuse to go out into the valleys of the dark side of the internet.</p> +<h3 id="the-porn-diet-pmoer">THE PORN DIET PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-porn-diet-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>(Or, “I can stop whenever I want to. I have done it thousands of times”). If he thinks dieting helps with his moods to ‘get out to get women,’ why is he even on the diet of once every four days? How can one predict the future, what if the happenstance of meeting occurred just an hour after your scheduled PMO session? Also, if he thinks this occasional “cleaning the plumbing” is good to relieve tension and relax why not plumb every day? It has been proven that masturbation is not required to keep the genitals healthy. Internet porn is not required at all. Even if that may be the case, any PUA guru who has read about the brain chemistry and its plasticity will never recommend watching super stimulus porn. The truth is he is still hooked. Although he gets rid of the physical addiction, he is left with the main problem - the brainwashing. He hopes each time that he will stop for good and soon falls for the same trap again.</p> <p>Many PMOers actually envy these stoppers and starters. They think, “how lucky to be able to control it like that, to do PMO when you want to and stop when you want to,” What they always overlook is that these stoppers and starters aren&rsquo;t controlling it. When they are PMOers, they wish they weren&rsquo;t. They go through the hassle of stopping, then begin to feel deprived and fall for the trap again, then wish they hadn&rsquo;t. They get the worst of both worlds. If you think about it, this is true in the lives of the PMOers. When we are allowed to PMO we either take it as entitled or wish we didn&rsquo;t. It&rsquo;s only when we can&rsquo;t have PMO that it appears to be so precious. The ‘forbidden fruit syndrome’. This is the awful dilemma of PMOers. They can never win because they are moping for a myth, an illusion. There is one way they can win and that is to stop PMOing and stop moping!</p> -<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC/TAME/HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer</h3> -<p>Yes, we all do it to start with but isn&rsquo;t it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner&rsquo;s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes&hellip; you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one.</p> -<h3 id="the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer">THE I-HAVE-STOPPED-BUT-I-HAVE-AN-OCCASIONAL-PEEK PMOer</h3> -<p>In a way such peeking PMOers are the most pathetic of all. Either they go through their lives believing they are being deprived or, more often, the occasional peek becomes two. They remain on the slippery slope and it goes only one way - DOWNWARDS. Sooner or later they are back to being heavy PMOers. They have fallen again for the very trap that they fell into in the first place.</p> +<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC/TAME/HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>Yes, we all do it to start with but isn&rsquo;t it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner&rsquo;s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes&hellip; you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one.</p> +<h3 id="the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer">THE I-HAVE-STOPPED-BUT-I-HAVE-AN-OCCASIONAL-PEEK PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>In a way such peeking PMOers are the most pathetic of all. Either they go through their lives believing they are being deprived or, more often, the occasional peek becomes two. They remain on the slippery slope and it goes only one way - DOWNWARDS. Sooner or later they are back to being heavy PMOers. They have fallen again for the very trap that they fell into in the first place.</p> <p>There are two other categories of casual PMOers. The first is the type who masturbates to images or clips of the latest celebrity sex tapes that hit the news. Or something they ‘carried home’ from their ‘accidental’ viewing at school or work. These people are really non-PMOers. It&rsquo;s just that they feel they are missing out. They want to be part of the action. We all start off like this. Next time watch how, after a while, the celebrity sex tape, the same star of your fantasy is not ‘doing it’ to you any more. The more ‘unattainable’ the target of your fantasy is, the more frustrating the withdrawal of the orgasm is.</p> <p>The second category is recently getting attention. The type can best be described by outlining a case shared online. A woman who is a professional, had been using internet porn stories for many years and had never PMOed more or less than one time every night. She was, incidentally, a very strong-willed lady. Most PMOers would wonder why she wanted to stop in the first place. They would gladly point out to her that there is no worries of PIED, or PE in her case as she is a women. She is using not even static images and the stories are far tamer than any they use on a daily basis.</p> <p>They make the mistake of assuming that casual PMOers are happier and more in control. In control they may be but happy they are not. In this case, she is not satisfied with her partner, not interested in real sex, highly irritable with her daily stress and strains. Her nearest-and-dearest could not find out what is bothering her. Even if she convinced herself not to be afraid of her use of internet porn by rationalizing, she still finds herself not being able to enjoy real relationships which almost invariably involve ups and downs. Her brain’s RC<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> is not able to make use of the normal de-stress brain chemicals as she is flooding dopamine into her brain on an everyday basis. The down regulation<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> of her brain receptors has rendered her melancholic most times. Like me, she had a great fear of internet porn’s dark side of the treatment of women- before her first time. Like me, she eventually fell victim to the massive social brainwash and tried that first porn site. Like me, she can remember the foul clips of violence staged as entertainment. Unlike me, who capitulated and became a chain-PMOer very quickly, she resisted the slide.</p> @@ -1913,8 +1969,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p </blockquote> <p>In addition to his other troubles, this poor man has no idea that he treating himself to a poison. First he is suffering the “forbidden fruit syndrome.” Next he is forcing his brain to flush dopamine. His dopamine receptors are not as cut down comparatively either. But he is sliding and greasing the porn slides, seeking and searching for edging, novelty, variety, shock-value, anxiety-value (“I must treat myself so that I can survive the next three days”) etc. You probably have visions of a pathetic imbecile. Not so. This man was over six feet tall and an ex-sergeant in the Marines. He was a former athlete and didn&rsquo;t want to become an addict to anything. However, when he returned from the war he was trained as a techie in a veterans rehab program. When he entered the civil work force he was a well paid IT professional in a bank and was given a laptop (one of the ways to ensure you take work home). It was the year that famous socialites ‘leaked’ their porn videos online. There was much talk about it. And he got hooked. He has spent the rest of his life paying through the nose and it has ruined him physically and mentally. If he were an animal, our society would have put him out of his misery, yet we still allow mentally and physically healthy young teenagers to become hooked. You may think the above case and my notes are exaggerated. It is extreme but not unique. There are literally thousands of similar stories. That man poured his heart out to me but you can be sure that many of his friends and acquaintances envied him for being a once-a-week man. If you think this couldn&rsquo;t happen to you, STOP KIDDING YOURSELF.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="it-is-already-happening"><strong>IT IS ALREADY HAPPENING.</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="it-is-already-happening"><strong>IT IS ALREADY HAPPENING.</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#it-is-already-happening"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>In any event, PMOers like other addicts are notorious liars, even to themselves. They have to be. Most casual PMOers indulge far more times and on far more occasions than they will admit to. I have had many conversations with so-called twice-a-week PMOers during which they have done it more than three times that week. If you read the Reddit or No-Fap forums of casual PMOers, they are either counting the days or waiting to fail. You do not need to envy casual PMOers. You do not need to PMO. Life is infinitely sweeter without PMO. One log says&hellip;</p> <blockquote> <p><em>“It started with a simple challenge to not touch my penis for a day. And being unable. I don&rsquo;t think about masturbation anymore. It doesn&rsquo;t cross my mind. That is possible, I promise you. And the riches that await those who are able - they&rsquo;re incredible.”</em></p> @@ -2015,8 +2072,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p </ol> <p>The other important point that cutting down demonstrates is that there is no such thing as the odd or occasional harem visit. Internet porn is a chain reaction that will last the rest of your life unless you make a positive effort to break it:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="remember-cutting-down-will-drag-you-down"><strong>REMEMBER: CUTTING DOWN WILL DRAG YOU DOWN.</strong></h3> -</div><div class="footnotes" role="doc-endnotes"> +<h3 id="remember-cutting-down-will-drag-you-down"><strong>REMEMBER: CUTTING DOWN WILL DRAG YOU DOWN.</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#remember-cutting-down-will-drag-you-down"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div><div class="footnotes" role="doc-endnotes"> <hr> <ol> <li id="fn:1"> @@ -2337,14 +2395,16 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on this planet. Whether you believe in a creator, a process of natural selection or a combination of both, whatever being or system devised these bodies of ours, it is a thousand times more effective than man! Man cannot create the smallest living cell, let alone the miracle of eyesight, reproduction, our circulatory system or our brains. We don’t have our systems upgraded yet to properly assess the supranormal stimulus such as rich high density food or high speed internet novelty porn with multiple active windows.</p> <p>If the creator or process had intended us to handle novelty triggering stimuli, we would have been provided with some other brain reward circuits. Our bodies are, in fact, provided with fail-safe warning devices and we ignore these at our peril. Excessive edging results in body pain, irritation, and inflammation. In women, excessive flooding of dopamine and stress enzymes such as prostaglandin-E2 can cause difficulty to orgasm and PME.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up"><strong>There Is Nothing To Give Up</strong></h2> -</div> +<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up"><strong>There Is Nothing To Give Up</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#there-is-nothing-to-give-up"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.</p> <p>The problem I have is to make a convincing point as I’d have done for, let us say&hellip; smokers? All of us have seen smokers who develop excuses to sneak off for a crafty puff. It is easy to see the true addiction in action. Addicts do not do it because they enjoy it. They do it because they are miserable without it.</p> <p>Because many of us started out our first sexual experience that ended in an orgasm and we acquired the belief that we cannot enjoy sex without an orgasm. And for men, porn is sold as an aid towards sex, sometimes even as an education to be confident during the act of sex. It used to be static, but now we have supranormal internet porn. But this is nonsense. Internet porn takes away your confidence.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="women-and-porn"><strong>Women And Porn</strong></h2> -</div> +<h2 id="women-and-porn"><strong>Women And Porn</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#women-and-porn"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn&rsquo;t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.</p> <p>Porn and internet porn does not help your sex life; it destroys it totally. Having to hide your internet footprints, trying to delete your history, fearing accidental exposure to your boyfriend or kids, body pains, doubtful symptoms, fighting self doubts, arguing with yourself about your responsibilities in the ill effects of your addiction&hellip; well, why do you want to put yourself in such a bad situation?</p> <p>Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous positive gains to be had. When PMOers contemplate quitting they tend to concentrate on health and virility. These are obviously valid and important issues but I personally believe the greatest gains from stopping are psychological:</p> @@ -2355,8 +2415,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> </ol> <p>Not only is life better as a non-PMOer but it is infinitely more enjoyable. I do not only mean you will be healthier. I mean you will be happier and enjoy life far more. The marvellous gains from being a non-PMOer are discussed in the next few chapters. Some PMOers find it difficult to appreciate the concept of the &lsquo;void&rsquo; and the following analogy may assist you.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"><strong>Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void!</strong></h2> -</div> +<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"><strong>Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I&rsquo;ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can&rsquo;t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.</p> <p>By now you are completely dependent on the ointment. You never go out without ensuring that you have a tube of the ointment with you. If you go abroad, you make sure that you take several tubes with you. Now, in addition to your worries about your health, I&rsquo;m charging you $100 per tube. You have no choice but to pay.</p> <p>You then read in the medical column of your newspaper that this isn&rsquo;t happening just to you; many other people have been suffering from the same problem. In fact, pharmacists have discovered that the ointment doesn&rsquo;t actually cure the sore. All that it does is to take the sore beneath the surface of the skin. It is the ointment that has caused the sore to grow. All you have to do to get rid of the sore is to stop using the ointment. The sore will eventually disappear in due course.</p> @@ -2494,15 +2555,17 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>We can have an ‘information overload’ from the same internet but our reward circuits are not going to squirt dopamine at the levels when ‘porn overload’ is involved. We are evolutionarily programmed to seek and access sex related stuff. And we wrongly appraise the stimulus mostly based on this reward circuit action. If all you wanted is to masturbate why can’t you just use one clip and get the business done?</p> <p>Here is another question - next time after a long day or some stressful incident can you consciously embellish your self-talk with “Do you know what I would really enjoy today? The marvellous warm glow of dopamine rush going to my online harem.” You will find that even people who dislike PMO will join you.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="past-misguided-advice"><strong>Past Misguided Advice</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="past-misguided-advice"><strong>Past Misguided Advice</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#past-misguided-advice"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.</p> <p>From our earliest years our subconscious minds are bombarded daily with information telling us that sex is good and that the most precious thing on this earth is to ‘achieve’ orgasm. Girls are taught to achieve it and claim it&rsquo;s because they were wrongly suppressed of their sexual side for a very long time and still are. You think I exaggerate? Watch any TV or movie plot and you will see the mix-up of the amative (touch, smell, voice etc.) and the propagative (orgasmic) sides of sex. The impact of this does not register on our conscious minds but the sleeping partner, the subconscious mind, has time to absorb it. What the message is really saying is, “The most precious thing on this earth, my last thought and action, will be the goal of orgasm.” If you don’t have an orgasm then you are an old man with zero libido.</p> <p>Our children are being bombarded by sex and porn clips and many don’t even know how to protect them from it all. Large hoardings and magazine adverts are loaded with sexual innuendo. Some of the pop videos are extremely suggestive - again they hide behind free speech. Don’t be vexed and feel powerless about it. Make it a game and find you which of the components they are using - is it novelty, shock value, color, size, taboo etc. If the kids are pre-teen some of these can be disclosed to them and it would make an excellent show-and-tell game.</p> <p>A while back there was a wave of ‘leaked’ private videos of celebrities on the internet. If the youngster is too smitten by their favourite star, even if the conscious mind blames the ‘leak’ on the blood thirsty internet paparazzi, the &lsquo;sleeping partner&rsquo; is patiently digesting the notion that, “yes, even my shambolic hero does it and if I don’t, I won’t look the part.”</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-scientific-reasoning"><strong>The Scientific Reasoning</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-scientific-reasoning"><strong>The Scientific Reasoning</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-scientific-reasoning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>, Reboot<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> forums, underground PUA<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup>, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn&rsquo;t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.</p> <p>Ironically, the most powerful force in this melee of confusion is the PMOer himself. It is a fallacy that they are weak-willed or are physically weak specimens. You have to be physically strong in order to cope with an addiction after you know it is. This is one of the reasons why PMOers refuse to accept the overwhelming statistics that prove that internet porn with its ‘novelty’ cripples your brain. Add to that the sexologists who are doing half-baked studies and declare PMO is not an issue - they just help to add to the confusion.</p> <p>Everyone knows a friend who PMOed every day - he started with the ‘static’ to internet porn, always horny in real life, chasing girls and you never doubted him to have sex problems of course. You want to believe him. He never complained about any ED right? Guys and girls like them refuse even to consider the hundreds of ex-addicts and non-PMOers who painfully recount their difficulties. It is the “little monster” brain chemical addiction and the “big monster” - illusions and delusions. In this hackbook, I&rsquo;ve put together almost all the sorts of brainwashing a PMOer can suffer from. There will always be a few out there that I haven&rsquo;t touched upon.</p> @@ -2510,8 +2573,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>If you do a small survey among your online forum members, friends and colleagues, you will find that most PMOers are, in fact, strong-willed people. They tend to be self-employed, business executives or in certain specialized professions, such as doctors<sup id="fnref:4"><a href="#fn:4" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">4</a></sup>, lawyers, policemen, teachers, salesmen, nurses, secretaries, housewives with children, etc. In other words, anybody leading a stressful existence. Yes, I did include women and mothers. It’s the brain and it’s the same for them too. The main delusion of the PMOer is that porn helps to masturbate to orgasm and that relieves stress. This tends to be associated with the dominant type, the type that takes on responsibility and stress and, of course, that is the type that we admire and therefore tend to copy. Another group that tends to get hooked are people in monotonous jobs because the other main reason for PMOing is boredom. However, the idea that internet porn relieves boredom is also an illusion, I am afraid.</p> <p>As a society we get all uptight about glue-sniffing, heroin addiction, etc. Actual deaths from glue-sniffing do not amount to ten per annum, and deaths from heroin are less than a hundred a year in this country. There is another drug, internet porn, on which over 45 per cent of us become hooked at some time in our lives and the majority spend the rest of their lives regretting it. Some even don’t know that their ED is due to this.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-willpower-method"><strong>The Willpower Method</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-willpower-method"><strong>The Willpower Method</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why?</p> <p>Constant exposure to internet porn re-wires your brain. You need to start building resistance to this brainwashing, just as if you were buying a car from a second-hand car dealer. You would be nodding politely but you would not believe a word the man was saying. So don’t believe everything they say either - that you must have sex as much as you can and you must have it exceptional good. And that in the absence of real sex you claim it by the substitute called internet porn - which is only a component of the good old porn.</p> <p>And don’t play ‘safe’ porn game either - because your “little porn monster” invented that scheme to lure you. Even the content - ‘amateur’? Really? Is there a certification authority that certifies it? Tube sites and porn producers gather site visitor profiles and cater to their needs. If they see a trend in crowd sourced collection of a particular genre they will focus on that and get content out ASAP. The statistics of what genre users like is collected to the level of how long and which portion the users were preferring. Do not be fooled by their educational intent or the safe female oriented clips (for you ladies). Start asking yourself:</p> @@ -2523,22 +2587,25 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>I find this brainwashing aspect the most difficult of all to explain. Why is it that an otherwise rational, intelligent human being becomes a complete imbecile about his own addiction? It pains me to confess that out of the thousands of people that I have assisted in kicking the habit, I (not Allen Carr) was the biggest idiot of all.</p> <p>At the age of thirteen, although I was doing well at school and games, I was still an insufferable introvert. I read books from the library that were not within my main study list. However, I can see that I was attracted to erotica. I started masturbating to TV programs, song and dance sequences etc. I must have to have it every day. The tired feeling I felt was misappropriated by my ‘little porn monster’ as work stress. I didn’t know my “I-must-masturbate-as-I-am-entitled” attitude was the one that created the ‘stress’ in the first place. Then I got pictures and GIFs via email on my laptop - the first step towards electronic porn. The colour and texture of the images were amazing for me at that time - won’t be now for sure. Then came dial-up but still they were predominantly static pictures. Then came downloadable videos. It’s a pain to download and watch now - but it was heaven sent then as we were coming out of the static porn era! Oh, the streaming tube sites haven’t arrived yet.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"><strong>When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"><strong>When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn.</p> <p>At the age of forty, I was visiting my online harem daily, drinking ‘socially’ (whatever that means) and smoking ‘sometimes’ but not so often. I had wrongly subscribed to misguided ideas of ‘moderation’ and ‘entitlement’. I had reached the stage where I couldn&rsquo;t get through a single day without reaching out to porn in the night. With most PMOers, the triggers are the normal stresses of life, like answering the telephone or socializing.</p> <p>When I experienced PIED - I knew it was killing my virility. There was no way I could kid myself otherwise. I am smart enough not to ‘project’ the porn fantasies on to real life. But it was like pacifying a dog straining at its leash. But why I couldn&rsquo;t see what it was doing to me mentally, I could not understand. It was almost jumping up and biting me on the nose. The ridiculous thing is that most PMOers suffer the delusion at some time in their life that they enjoy internet porn because it is ‘normal’ and ‘healthy’. I never suffered that delusion, I PMOed because I thought enjoying sex is a ‘birthright’ and I am only doing a normal thing.</p> <p>Since it was easier at most times for me to get internet porn than a partner I thought I am doing the normal thing. Now I am a non-PMOer, the most difficult part is trying to believe that those days actually happened. It&rsquo;s like awakening from a nightmare and that is about the size of it. Internet porn is a supranormal drug. It is weakening your de-stressing mechanisms, your virility and your energy. The worst aspect of PMO isn&rsquo;t the injury to your health or manliness, it is the warping of the mind. You search for any plausible excuse to go on.</p> <p>I remember at one stage switching to static images, a failed attempt to cut down on internet porn, in the belief that it was less harmful and I could reign in my ‘habit’. I failed to see the ‘novelty’ and the ‘shock’ demands from my ‘little monster’ to just get more dopamine. Did I ‘stay’ within my boundaries? I ‘favorited’ 2 dimensional photos and my harem collection saw pictures and videos of ‘mild’ type porn rotating in and out like musical chair. When their ‘music’ stopped they ‘exited’. I didn’t understand the novelty-seeking, shock-seeking nature of my brain.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pied-and-my-excuses"><strong>PIED And My Excuses</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="pied-and-my-excuses"><strong>PIED And My Excuses</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pied-and-my-excuses"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.</p> <p>Most PMOers swear that they only watch static and soft porn and so they are OK. They are actually straining at the leash and thus fighting with their willpower to resist temptations. If they do this too often and for too long they will debit their willpower considerably and fail in other life projects where willpower is of much great value, like in daily exercise, dieting etc. Continuous failure in those areas will make them feel miserable and guilty and very soon they will find themselves back to their entitled relief. If not, they will vent their anger and depression onto their loved ones.</p> <p>The answer is that once you have become addicted to internet porn, the brainwashing is increased. Your subconscious mind knows that the little monster has to be fed and you block everything else from your mind. As I have already stated, it is fear that keeps people quitting, the fear of that empty, insecure feeling that you get when you stop supplying the brain with dopamine flooding. Just because you are not aware of it doesn&rsquo;t mean it isn&rsquo;t there. You don&rsquo;t have to understand it any more than a cat needs to understand where the under-floor hot-water pipes are. It just knows that if it sits in a certain place it gets the feeling of warmth.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind"><strong>The Passivity Of Our Mind</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind"><strong>The Passivity Of Our Mind</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-passivity-of-our-mind"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I&rsquo;ve frequently referred to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo; PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo;, but to stopping, quitting or the true position: <strong>ESCAPING!</strong></p> <p>The only thing that persuades us to PMO in the first place is all the other people doing it. We feel we are missing out. We work so hard to become hooked, yet nobody ever finds out what they have been missing. But every time we see another new video clip it reassures us that there must be something in it, otherwise people wouldn&rsquo;t be doing it - and it wouldn&rsquo;t be such big business all over the world. Even when he has kicked the habit, the ex-PMOer feels he is being deprived when a discussion on a sexy entertainer, singer or even a porn star comes up at a party or other social function. She or he must be good to have all my friends talk about them, no? Do they have ‘hot’ pictures of her in my tube site? He feels safe. He can have just one ‘peek’ that night. And, before he knows it, he is hooked again.</p> <p>This brainwashing is extremely powerful and you need to be aware of its effects. I have heard scare stories about wicked men giving heroin mixed candies to kids at schoolyards. The concept of addiction and being compelled to go on taking the drug, filled me with horror. Even to this day, in spite of the fact that I am fairly convinced that &lsquo;pot&rsquo; is not addictive, I would not dare take one puff of marijuana. How ironic that I should have ended up a porn junky. Technology will continue to grow and we will have even faster tube sites and more faster access methods. The industry is investing millions in Virtual Reality so it will become the next best thing. The point is, do we know where we are going? Are we equipped with an under armour of defence so we can enjoy the benefits of technology yet at the same time protect ourselves from its bad effects?</p> @@ -2586,8 +2653,9 @@ action more happy feelings.</p> <p>So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. All of which will now be stored as a script in your brain for easy access next time. I call this a ‘water slide’. Next time at the cue - a sexy commercial or alone time or stress or feeling a little down - you are ready to take a ride on the ‘water slide’. One more thing is that every time to repeat this you are ‘greasing’ it as well - so it is active, alive and more easier to slide the next time.</p> <p>As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating. Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish, ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you won’t on your first time.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="my-own-online-harem"><strong>My Own Online Harem!</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="my-own-online-harem"><strong>My Own Online Harem!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#my-own-online-harem"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost.</p> <p>Going back to the earlier discussion - in this cycle as you crossed the ‘red line’ you also trigger emotions such as guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety and fear - which in turn raise dopamine levels as well. Now the brain may mistakenly associate feelings of anxiety and fear as sexual arousal. This perpetual cycle is only broken by natural causes - fortunately sooner or later. With its free access and privacy it provides boundless harem-like novelty. The dopamine can be theoretically kept very high for a very very long time. I can be satisfied with one lobster once in awhile. But Internet porn is different. It is even worse than drugs. Don’t let me make you nervous. I will shortly show you how to be free from this slavery.</p> <p>Now our human body has a self-correcting system by which the number of dopamine and opioid receptors are cut short when frequent and daily ‘flooding’ of dopamine is detected. Unfortunately - these receptors are also needed for receiving dopamine and to keep us even and balanced to handle the inevitable and normal day-to-day stresses. But this natural nominal amount of dopamine will not be absorbed efficiently with decreased receptors and you will feel mores tressed and irritated than normal.</p> @@ -2601,14 +2669,16 @@ action more happy feelings.</p> use?</p> <p>This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I will explain more about this later.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-little-monster"><strong>The Little Monster</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-little-monster"><strong>The Little Monster</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-little-monster"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&rsquo; we think we just &lsquo;got into the habit&rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.</p> <p>Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, resulting in the feeling of fulfilment and pleasure that the action gives to the PMOer. In the early days, when we first start PMOing, the withdrawal pangs and their relief are so slight that we are not even aware that they exist. When we begin to masturbate regularly to internet porn we think it is because we&rsquo;ve either come to enjoy them or got into the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. The truth is we&rsquo;re already hooked; we do not realize it, but that little monster is already inside our stomach and every now and again we have to feed it.</p> <p>All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster. The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had before he became hooked in the first place.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm"><strong>The Annoying Burglar Alarm</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm"><strong>The Annoying Burglar Alarm</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-annoying-burglar-alarm"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain goes on. It is a chain for life - <strong>UNLESS YOU BREAK IT</strong>.</p> <p>The whole business of PMO is like wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure you feel when you take them off. There are three main reasons why PMOers cannot see things that way:</p> @@ -2621,8 +2691,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <p>The heroin doesn&rsquo;t relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a 14 year old in 2008 - didn&rsquo;t suffer the empty feeling of needing internet porn or start to panic when they are off- line. Non-PMOers cannot understand how PMOers can possibly obtain pleasure from two dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. And do you know something? PMOers themselves cannot understand why they do it after some time either.</p> <p>We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don&rsquo;t non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their &rsquo;little monster&rsquo;?</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch"><strong>A Pleasure or Crutch?</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch"><strong>A Pleasure or Crutch?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#a-pleasure-or-crutch"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;I need to eat.&rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.</p> <p>PMOing appears to be almost identical. The empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;wanting or needing an PMO orgasm’ is identical to a hunger for food, although one will not satisfy the other. Like hunger, there is no physical pain and the feeling is so imperceptible that we are not even aware of it between PMO sessions. It&rsquo;s only if we want to masturbate and aren&rsquo;t able to reach internet for porn that we become aware of any discomfort. But when we do PMO we feel satisfied.</p> <p>It is this similarity to eating which helps to fool PMOers into believing that they receive some genuine pleasure. Some PMOers find it very difficult to grasp that there is no pleasure or crutch, whatsoever to PMO. Some argue: “How can you say there is no crutch? When I orgasm up then I&rsquo;llfeel less nervous than before.”</p> @@ -2633,13 +2704,15 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <li>Eating doesn&rsquo;t create hunger and genuinely relieves it, whereas the first PMO starts the craving for dopamine and each subsequent one, far from relieving it, ensures that you suffer it for the rest of life.</li> </ol> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pmo-is-a-habit"><strong>PMO is a Habit?</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="pmo-is-a-habit"><strong>PMO is a Habit?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pmo-is-a-habit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.</p> <p>On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience, I also refer to the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> - we have to then have more bizarre and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting&hellip; not in the killing. If we don&rsquo;t then panic sets in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great!</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="crossing-the-red-line"><strong>Crossing The Red Line</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="crossing-the-red-line"><strong>Crossing The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#crossing-the-red-line"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.</p> <p>You feel better than you did before starting this PMO session but you are in fact more nervous and less relaxed than you would be as a non-PMOer, like someone who is living in Loma Linda or in an Amish village, even though you are actually PMOing and living in your supposed “porn paradise.” This position is even more ridiculous than wearing tight shoes because as you go through life an increasing amount of the discomfort remains even when the shoes are removed.</p> <p>Once the orgasm is achieved, the dopamine rapidly begins to leave the brain, causing a mood dip. Which explains why the PMOer wants to ‘edge’<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> and switch through multiple browser windows as they seek and search. As I said, the ‘habit’ doesn&rsquo;t exist. The real reason why every user goes on using internet porn is because of that little porn monster inside his stomach. Every now and again he has to feed it. The PMOer himself will decide when he does that and it tends to be on four types of occasion or a combination of them.</p> @@ -2651,20 +2724,23 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <p>What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If you think about it, what other types of occasion are there in our lives; apart from sleep? The truth is that PMO neither relieves boredom and stress nor promotes concentration and relaxation. It is all just illusion. Apart from being a drug, PMO is also a destroyer of happiness and virility.</p> <p>In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes, print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’ and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive without knowing the difference between food and poison.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"><strong>Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"><strong>Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!</p> <p>When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were titillating but most were disgusting, causing you to avert your eyes away. Like you would if had accidentally glanced a feeding mother’s breast. And some of us are even revolted with what they saw when the star reminded them of someone dear to their heart or a scene which recalled their own instance of being the victim. Some don’t feel like it to browse and masturbate at the same time. It may be hard to believe for you but the non-PMOs, who don’t PMO after their first time, are the lucky ones. They actually decided that it was not their cup of tea. It must be hard for you to believe but stay with me.</p> <p>How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even after a hard day? Why not? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That&rsquo;s all.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak"><strong>Are PMOers Mentally Weak?</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak"><strong>Are PMOers Mentally Weak?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#are-pmoers-mentally-weak"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.</p> <p>To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to become hooked, and this is why it is difficult to stop teenagers. Because they are skilled in seeking and finding material, they know online privacy options and can clean their tracks - if they still feel some stigma and they (wrongfully) believe they can stop whenever they want to. Why do they not learn from us? Then again, why did we not learn from our PMOers and addicts?</p> <p>Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of ‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying is the ritual of relieving those pangs.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"><strong>The High From The Dance Around The Red Line</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"><strong>The High From The Dance Around The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.</p> <p>Ask a user who believes that he sticks to a certain actor or genre - only because he likes something about the star or the theme (if any) of the clip: “If you cannot get your normal brand of porn and can only obtain a poor or unsafe brand, do you stop masturbating?” No way. A PMOer will masturbate to anything rather than abstain and it doesn&rsquo;t matter if he has to switch to escalating themes, different sex-orientation-themes, look-alike actresses, dangerous settings shocking relationships etc. To begin with they taste awful but if you persevere you will learn to like them. Most PMOers will also try to seek masturbation even after having real sex (unfulfilment, porn-induced unrealistic expectations etc.), or after a long, stressful work day, fever, colds, flu, sore throats and even when admitted in hospitals.</p> <p>Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wanted then it makes no sense to be with your laptop. During my conversation some PMOers find it alarming to realize they are drug addicts and think it will make it even more difficult to stop. In fact, it is all good news for two important reasons:</p> @@ -2674,14 +2750,16 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to </ol> <p>You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc. The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn&rsquo;t bother the PMOers.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-smokers-analogy"><strong>The Smokers Analogy</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-smokers-analogy"><strong>The Smokers Analogy</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-smokers-analogy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they&rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn&rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.</p> <p>PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their parents while visiting for family get togethers etc. with little discomfort to themselves. In fact, most PMOers have extended periods during which they abstain without effort. Even in my case I would quite happily go a week or so without a PMO incident. In the later years as a PMOer I actually used to look forward to these days when I could stop choking my penis (what a ridiculous &lsquo;habit&rsquo;).</p> <p>The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"><strong>The Big Monster - The Brainwashing</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"><strong>The Big Monster - The Brainwashing</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.</p> <p>Not all the amateurs are ‘amateurs’ on these tube sites, oversized body parts and overcharged scenarios are the norm, aided by a bit of the ‘viagran’ help.</p> <p>As I say, the actual porn addiction is not the main problem. It just acts as a catalyst to keep our minds confused over the real problem: the brainwashing. It may be of consolation to lifelong and heavy PMOers to know that it is just as easy for them to stop as casual PMOers. In a peculiar way. it is easier. The further you go along with the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;, the more it drags you down and the greater the gain when you stop.</p> @@ -2911,8 +2989,9 @@ Do not take anything for granted. Question not only what I tell you but also you https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/02-01-introduction/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo">&lsquo;I&rsquo;M GOING TO CURE THE WORLD OF PMO&rsquo;</h2> -</div> +<h2 id="im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo">&lsquo;I&rsquo;M GOING TO CURE THE WORLD OF PMO&rsquo; <a class="anchor" href="#im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>I was talking to my mentor. He thought that I had flipped. Understandable if you consider that he had watched me fail on numerous attempts to quit. The most recent had been two years previously. I&rsquo;d actually survived six months of sheer purgatory before I finally succumbed and found myself clicking on stacked up tabs of porn sites. I&rsquo;m not ashamed to admit that I cried like a baby. I was crying because I knew that I was condemned to be an addict for life. I&rsquo;d put so much effort into that attempt and suffered so much misery that I knew I would never have the strength to go through that ordeal again. I&rsquo;m not a violent man, but if some patronizing non-PMO’er had been stupid enough at that moment to suggest to me that all users can find it easy to quit, immediately and permanently, I would not have been responsible for my actions. However, I&rsquo;m convinced that any jury in the world, comprised of PMOers only, would have pardoned me on the grounds of justifiable homicide.</p> <p>Perhaps you too find it impossible to believe that any PMOer can find it easy to quit. If so, I beg you not to cast this book into the rubbish bin. Please trust me. I assure you that you can find it easy to quit.</p> @@ -3049,21 +3128,30 @@ porn and or masturbation&#160;<a href="#fnref:2" class="footn https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/00-00-hackbookeasypeasy/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h1 id="a-hrefhackbookhackbookpdfclick-to-download-hackbookeasypeasy-original-pdfa"><a href="https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook/hackbook.pdf">Click to download HackBookEasyPeasy (original pdf)</a></h1> -<h3 id="easypeasyway">EasyPeasyWay</h3> -<h4 id="httpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhomehttpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhome"><a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a></h4> -<p><em>HackBookEasyPeasy EasyPeasyWay <a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a> I am Allen Carr. I am also not Allen Carr. So yes I am not the author. I am the hack-author.</em></p> +<h1 id="a-hrefhackbookhackbookpdfclick-to-download-hackbookeasypeasy-original-pdfa"><a href="https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook/hackbook.pdf">Click to download HackBookEasyPeasy (original pdf)</a> <a class="anchor" href="#a-hrefhackbookhackbookpdfclick-to-download-hackbookeasypeasy-original-pdfa"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><h3 id="easypeasyway">EasyPeasyWay <a class="anchor" href="#easypeasyway"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><h4 id="httpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhomehttpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhome"><a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a> <a class="anchor" href="#httpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhomehttpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhome"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><p><em>HackBookEasyPeasy EasyPeasyWay <a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a> I am Allen Carr. I am also not Allen Carr. So yes I am not the author. I am the hack-author.</em></p> <p><em>I hacked Allen Carr’s book and his method of de-addiction to adapt it for PMO. Why? Because his method helped me in getting rid of cigarettes, alcohol and then PMO. Why did I hack his work? Because he is dead now. And the institution that he had formed does not list Internet pornography as one of the addictions that it provides services for. I don&rsquo;t gain monetarily or otherwise. Above all - you won’t ‘find’ me in this book. Myself and Allen will appear and disappear in this book to provide you with an unique and effective method to get your mind de-addicted.</em></p> -<h4 id="important-advice-for-you"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong></h4> -<p><em>The common thread running through Allen Carr&rsquo;s work is the removal of fear. Indeed, his genius lies in eliminating the phobias and anxieties which prevent people from being able to enjoy life to the full, as his best-selling books vividly demonstrate. His method is solid and has high success rates. It helped cure me of not one but three addictions. There is a network of clinics that uses his methods that span the globe and has a phenomenal reputation for success in helping people to quit addictions (except PMO). Their success rate is over 95% with money-back guarantees.</em></p> +<h4 id="important-advice-for-you"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#important-advice-for-you"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#do-not-jump-chapters"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><p><em>The common thread running through Allen Carr&rsquo;s work is the removal of fear. Indeed, his genius lies in eliminating the phobias and anxieties which prevent people from being able to enjoy life to the full, as his best-selling books vividly demonstrate. His method is solid and has high success rates. It helped cure me of not one but three addictions. There is a network of clinics that uses his methods that span the globe and has a phenomenal reputation for success in helping people to quit addictions (except PMO). Their success rate is over 95% with money-back guarantees.</em></p> <p><em>Hackbook : A book based and hacked from another book. The original author is credited fully.</em></p> -<h4 id="important-advice-for-you-1"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters-1"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence-1"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong></h4> -<p><em>Dr. Albert Ellis&rsquo; autobiography - &ldquo;All Out!&rdquo;</em></p> +<h4 id="important-advice-for-you-1"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#important-advice-for-you-1"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters-1"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#do-not-jump-chapters-1"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence-1"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence-1"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><p><em>Dr. Albert Ellis&rsquo; autobiography - &ldquo;All Out!&rdquo;</em></p> <p><em>“I used to wrongly think that most of them (addicts) were aided by self-help groups like AA, by therapy, or some other real support. But no. The facts show that more people surrender their addictions on their own-without any notable help from others. How? Mainly by seeing, acknowledging, and emphasizing how hard it is not to stop and how much easier it is-in the long run- to suffer through the withdrawal process.”</em></p> </div> @@ -3075,8 +3163,9 @@ formed does not list Internet pornography as one of the addictions that it provi Sat, 17 Dec 2022 22:33:25 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/pluralization-issues/ - <h3 id="this-is-my-first-entry-and-im-already-having-issues-lol">this is my first entry and i&rsquo;m already having issues lol</h3> -<p>So I wanted to make a quick entry, see how it looks like and I stumbled upon this issue of hugo pluralzing Blog into Blogs</p> + <h3 id="this-is-my-first-entry-and-im-already-having-issues-lol">this is my first entry and i&rsquo;m already having issues lol <a class="anchor" href="#this-is-my-first-entry-and-im-already-having-issues-lol"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>So I wanted to make a quick entry, see how it looks like and I stumbled upon this issue of hugo pluralzing Blog into Blogs</p> <p>You can fix this in config.toml with the following line</p> <blockquote> <div class="highlight"><pre tabindex="0" style="color:#f8f8f2;background-color:#272822;-moz-tab-size:4;-o-tab-size:4;tab-size:4;"><code class="language-toml" data-lang="toml"><span style="display:flex;"><span><span style="color:#a6e22e">pluralizelisttitles</span> = <span style="color:#66d9ef">false</span> @@ -3090,11 +3179,13 @@ formed does not list Internet pornography as one of the addictions that it provi Sat, 17 Dec 2022 17:20:18 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/helloworld/ - <h1 id="obligatory-hello-world">Obligatory Hello World!</h1> -<p>trying to see which hugo theme i like best</p> + <h1 id="obligatory-hello-world">Obligatory Hello World! <a class="anchor" href="#obligatory-hello-world"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><p>trying to see which hugo theme i like best</p> <p>had some issues with papermod and their css not working so for now i&rsquo;ll use lugo</p> -<h2 id="stuff-i-like">stuff i like</h2> -<ul> +<h2 id="stuff-i-like">stuff i like <a class="anchor" href="#stuff-i-like"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ul> <li>touching grass and nature in general (wannabe farmer)</li> <li>にっぽんese <ul> diff --git a/new-site/public/library/ted-kaczynski/index.xml b/new-site/public/library/ted-kaczynski/index.xml index f26d03fb..599f5bc0 100644 --- a/new-site/public/library/ted-kaczynski/index.xml +++ b/new-site/public/library/ted-kaczynski/index.xml @@ -16,8 +16,9 @@ Thu, 23 Mar 2023 18:06:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/ted-kaczynski/industrial-society-and-its-future/ - <h2 id="introduction">Introduction</h2> -<ol> + <h2 id="introduction">Introduction <a class="anchor" href="#introduction"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li> <p>The Industrial Revolution and its consequences have been a disaster for the human race. They have greatly increased the life expectancy of those of us who live in “advanced” countries, but they have destabilized society, have made life unfulfilling, have subjected human beings to indignities, have led to widespread psychological suffering (in the Third World to physical suffering as well) and have inflicted severe damage on the natural world. The continued development of technology will worsen the situation. It will certainly subject human beings to greater indignities and inflict greater damage on the natural world, it will probably lead to greater social disruption and psychological suffering, and it may lead to increased physical suffering even in “advanced” countries.</p> </li> @@ -34,8 +35,9 @@ <p>In this article we give attention to only some of the negative developments that have grown out of the industrial-technological system. Other such developments we mention only briefly or ignore altogether. This does not mean that we regard these other developments as unimportant. For practical reasons we have to confine our discussion to areas that have received insufficient public attention or in which we have something new to say. For example, since there are well-developed environmental and wilderness movements, we have written very little about environmental degradation or the destruction of wild nature, even though we consider these to be highly important.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-psychology-of-modern-leftism">The Psychology of Modern Leftism</h2> -<ol start="6"> +<h2 id="the-psychology-of-modern-leftism">The Psychology of Modern Leftism <a class="anchor" href="#the-psychology-of-modern-leftism"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="6"> <li> <p>Almost everyone will agree that we live in a deeply troubled society. One of the most widespread manifestations of the craziness of our world is leftism, so a discussion of the psychology of leftism can serve as an introduction to the discussion of the problems of modern society in general.</p> </li> @@ -49,8 +51,9 @@ <p>The two psychological tendencies that underlie modern leftism we call feelings of inferiority and oversocialization. Feelings of inferiority are characteristic of modern leftism as a whole, while oversocialization is characteristic only of a certain segment of modern leftism; but this segment is highly influential.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="feelings-of-inferiority">Feelings of Inferiority</h2> -<ol start="10"> +<h2 id="feelings-of-inferiority">Feelings of Inferiority <a class="anchor" href="#feelings-of-inferiority"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="10"> <li> <p>By “feelings of inferiority” we mean not only inferiority feelings in the strict sense but a whole spectrum of related traits: low self-esteem, feelings of powerlessness, depressive tendencies, defeatism, guilt, self-hatred, etc. We argue that modern leftists tend to have some such feelings (possibly more or less repressed), and that these feelings are decisive in determining the direction of modern leftism.</p> </li> @@ -94,8 +97,9 @@ <p>We emphasize that the foregoing does not pretend to be an accurate description of everyone who might be considered a leftist. It is only a rough indication of a general tendency of leftism.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="oversocialization">Oversocialization</h2> -<ol start="24"> +<h2 id="oversocialization">Oversocialization <a class="anchor" href="#oversocialization"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="24"> <li> <p>Psychologists use the term “socialization” to designate the process by which children are trained to think and act as society demands. A person is said to be well socialized if he believes in and obeys the moral code of his society and fits in well as a functioning part of that society. It may seem senseless to say that many leftists are oversocialized, since the leftist is perceived as a rebel. Nevertheless, the position can be defended. Many leftists are not such rebels as they seem.</p> </li> @@ -124,8 +128,9 @@ <p>The problems of the leftist are indicative of the problems of our society as a whole. Low self-esteem, depressive tendencies and defeatism are not restricted to the left. Though they are especially noticeable in the left, they are widespread in our society. And today’s society tries to socialize us to a greater extent than any previous society. We are even told by experts how to eat, how to exercise, how to make love, how to raise our kids and so forth.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-power-process">The Power Process</h2> -<ol start="33"> +<h2 id="the-power-process">The Power Process <a class="anchor" href="#the-power-process"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="33"> <li> <p>Human beings have a need (probably based in biology) for something that we will call the power process. This is closely related to the need for power (which is widely recognized) but is not quite the same thing. The power process has four elements. The three most clear-cut of these we call goal, effort and attainment of goal. (Everyone needs to have goals whose attainment requires effort, and needs to succeed in attaining at least some of his goals.) The fourth element is more difficult to define and may not be necessary for everyone. We call it autonomy and will discuss it later (paragraphs 42–44).</p> </li> @@ -142,8 +147,9 @@ <p>Thus, in order to avoid serious psychological problems, a human being needs goals whose attainment requires effort, and he must have a reasonable rate of success in attaining his goals.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="surrogate-activities">Surrogate Activities</h2> -<ol start="38"> +<h2 id="surrogate-activities">Surrogate Activities <a class="anchor" href="#surrogate-activities"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="38"> <li> <p>But not every leisured aristocrat becomes bored and demoralized. For example, the emperor Hirohito, instead of sinking into decadent hedonism, devoted himself to marine biology, a field in which he became distinguished. When people do not have to exert themselves to satisfy their physical needs they often set up artificial goals for themselves. In many cases they then pursue these goals with the same energy and emotional involvement that they otherwise would have put into the search for physical necessities. Thus the aristocrats of the Roman Empire had their literary pretensions; many European aristocrats a few centuries ago invested tremendous time and energy in hunting, though they certainly didn’t need the meat; other aristocracies have competed for status through elaborate displays of wealth; and a few aristocrats, like Hirohito, have turned to science.</p> </li> @@ -157,8 +163,9 @@ <p>For many if not most people, surrogate activities are less satistying than the pursuit of real goals (that is, goals that people would want to attain even if their need for the power process were already fulfilled). One indication of this is the fact that, in many or most cases, people who are deeply involved in surrogate activities are never satisfied, never at rest. Thus the money-maker constantly strives for more and more wealth. The scientist no sooner solves one problem than he moves on to the next. The long-distance runner drives himself to run always farther and faster. Many people who pursue surrogate activities will say that they get far more fulfillment from these activities than they do from the “mundane” business of satisfying their biological needs, but that is because in our society the effort required to satisfy the biological needs has been reduced to triviality. More importantly, in our society people do not satisty their biological needs AUTONOMOUSLY but by functioning as parts of an immense social machine. In contrast, people generally have a great deal of autonomy in pursuing their surrogate activities.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="autonomy">Autonomy</h2> -<ol start="42"> +<h2 id="autonomy">Autonomy <a class="anchor" href="#autonomy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="42"> <li> <p>Autonomy as a part of the power process may not be necessary for every individual. But most people need a greater or lesser degree of autonomy in working toward their goals. Their efforts must be undertaken on their own initiative and must be under their own direction and control. Yet most people do not have to exert this initiative, direction and control as single individuals. It is usually enough to act as a member of a SMALL group. Thus if half a dozen people discuss a goal among themselves and make a successful joint effort to attain that goal, their need for the power process will be served. But if they work under rigid orders handed down from above that leave them no room for autonomous decision and initiative, then their need for the power process will not be served. The same is true when decisions are made on a collective basis if the group making the collective decision is so large that the role of each individual is insignificant.<sup id="fnref:5"><a href="#fn:5" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">5</a></sup></p> </li> @@ -169,8 +176,9 @@ <p>But for most people it is through the power process—having a goal, making an AUTONOMOUS effort and attaining the goal—that self-esteem, self-confidence and a sense of power are acquired. When one does not have adequate opportunity to go through the power process the consequences are (depending on the individual and on the way the power process is disrupted) boredom, demoralization, low self-esteem, inferiority feelings, defeatism, depression, anxiety, guilt, frustration, hostility, spouse or child abuse, insatiable hedonism, abnormal sexual behavior, sleep disorders, eating disorders, etc.<sup id="fnref:6"><a href="#fn:6" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">6</a></sup></p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="sources-of-social-problems">Sources of Social Problems</h2> -<ol start="45"> +<h2 id="sources-of-social-problems">Sources of Social Problems <a class="anchor" href="#sources-of-social-problems"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="45"> <li> <p>Any of the foregoing symptoms can occur in any society, but in modern industrial society they are present on a massive scale. We aren’t the first to mention that the world today seems to be going crazy. This sort of thing is not normal for human societies. There is good reason to believe that primitive man suffered from less stress and frustration and was better satisfied with his way of life than modern man is. It is true that not all was sweetness and light in primitive societies. Abuse of women was common among the Australian aborigines, transsexuality was fairly common among some of the American Indian tribes. But it does appear that GENERALLY SPEAKING the kinds of problems that we have listed in the preceding paragraph were far less common among primitive peoples than they are in modern society.</p> </li> @@ -214,8 +222,9 @@ <p>It would be possible to give other examples of societies in which there has been rapid change and/or lack of close community ties without the kind of massive behavioral aberration that is seen in today’s industrial society. We contend that the most important cause of social and psychological problems in modern society is the fact that people have insufficient opportunity to go through the power process in a normal way. We don’t mean to say that modern society is the only one in which the power process has been disrupted. Probably most if not all civilized societies have interfered with the power process to a greater or lesser extent. But in modern industrial society the problem has become particularly acute. Leftism, at least in its recent (mid- to late-20th century) form, is in part a symptom of deprivation with respect to the power process.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="disruption-of-the-power-process-in-modern-society">Disruption of the Power Process in Modern Society</h2> -<ol start="59"> +<h2 id="disruption-of-the-power-process-in-modern-society">Disruption of the Power Process in Modern Society <a class="anchor" href="#disruption-of-the-power-process-in-modern-society"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="59"> <li> <p>We divide human drives into three groups: (1) those drives that can be satisfied with minimal effort; (2) those that can be satisfied but only at the cost of serious effort; (3) those that cannot be adequately satisfied no matter how much effort one makes. The power process is the process of satistying the drives of the second group. The more drives there are in the third group, the more there is frustration, anger, eventually defeatism, depression, etc.</p> </li> @@ -271,8 +280,9 @@ <p>In response to the arguments of this section someone will say, “Society must find a way to give people the opportunity to go through the power process.” This won’t work for those who need autonomy in the power process. For such people the value of the opportunity is destroyed by the very fact that society gives it to them. What they need is to find or make their own opportunities. As long as the system GIVES them their opportunities it still has them on a leash. To attain autonomy they must get off that leash.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="how-some-people-adjust">How Some People Adjust</h2> -<ol start="77"> +<h2 id="how-some-people-adjust">How Some People Adjust <a class="anchor" href="#how-some-people-adjust"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="77"> <li> <p>Not everyone in industrial-technological society suffers from psychological problems. Some people even profess to be quite satisfied with society as it is. We now discuss some of the reasons why people differ so greatly in their response to modern society.</p> </li> @@ -304,8 +314,9 @@ <p>But even if most people in industrial-technological society were well satisfied, we (FC) would still be opposed to that form of society, because (among other reasons) we consider it demeaning to fulfill one’s need for the power process through surrogate activities or through identification with an organization, rather than through pursuit of real goals.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-motives-of-scientists">The Motives of Scientists</h2> -<ol start="87"> +<h2 id="the-motives-of-scientists">The Motives of Scientists <a class="anchor" href="#the-motives-of-scientists"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="87"> <li> <p>Science and technology provide the most important examples of surrogate activities. Some scientists claim that they are motivated by “curiosity” or by a desire to “benefit humanity.” But it is easy to see that neither of these can be the principal motive of most scientists. As for “curiosity,” that notion is simply absurd. Most scientists work on highly specialized problems that are not the object of any normal curiosity. For example, is an astronomer, a mathematician or an entomologist curious about the properties of isopropyltrimethylmethane? Of course not. Only a chemist is curious about such a thing, and he is curious about it only because chemistry is his surrogate activity. Is the chemist curious about the appropriate classification of a new species of beetle? No. That question is of interest only to the entomologist, and he is interested in it only because entomology is his surrogate activity. If the chemist and the entomologist had to exert themselves seriously to obtain the physical necessities, and if that effort exercised their abilities in an interesting way but in some nonscientific pursuit, then they wouldn’t give a damn about isopropyltrimethylmethane or the classification of beetles. Suppose that lack of funds for postgraduate education had led the chemist to become an insurance broker instead of a chemist. In that case he would have been very interested in insurance matters but would have cared nothing about isopropyltrimcthylmethane. In any case it is not normal to put into the satisfaction of mere curiosity the amount of time and effort that scientists put into their work. The “curiosity” explanation for the scientists’ motive just doesn’t stand up.</p> </li> @@ -325,8 +336,9 @@ <p>Thus science marches on blindly, without regard to the real welfare of the human race or to any other standard, obedient only to the psychological needs of the scientists and of the government officials and corporation executives who provide the funds for research.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-nature-of-freedom">The Nature of Freedom</h2> -<ol start="93"> +<h2 id="the-nature-of-freedom">The Nature of Freedom <a class="anchor" href="#the-nature-of-freedom"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="93"> <li> <p>We are going to argue that industrial-technological society cannot be reformed in such a way as to prevent it from progressively narrowing the sphere of human freedom. But because “freedom” is a word that can be interpreted in many ways, we must first make clear what kind of freedom we are concerned with.</p> </li> @@ -346,8 +358,9 @@ <p>One more point to be made in this section: It should not be assumed that a person has enough freedom just because he SAYS he has enough. Freedom is restricted in part by psychological controls of which people are unconscious, and moreover many people’s ideas of what constitutes freedom are governed more by social convention than by their real needs. For example, it’s likely that many leftists of the oversocialized type would say that most people, including themselves, are socialized too little rather than too much, yet the oversocialized leftist pays a heavy psychological price for his high level of socialization.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="some-principles-of-history">Some Principles of History</h2> -<ol start="99"> +<h2 id="some-principles-of-history">Some Principles of History <a class="anchor" href="#some-principles-of-history"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="99"> <li> <p>Think of history as being the sum of two components: an erratic component that consists of unpredictable events that follow no discernible pattern, and a regular component that consists of long-term historical trends. Here we are concerned with the long-term trends.</p> </li> @@ -385,8 +398,9 @@ <p>Still, one has to use common sense in applying the principles. They are expressed in imprecise language that allows latitude for interpretation, and exceptions to them can be found. So we present these principles not as inviolable laws but as rules of thumb, or guides to thinking, that may provide a partial antidote to naive ideas about the future of society. The principles should be borne constantly in mind, and whenever one reaches a conclusion that conflicts with them one should carefully reexamine one’s thinking and retain the conclusion only if one has good, solid reasons for doing so.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="industrial-technological-society-cannot-be-reformed">Industrial-Technological Society Cannot Be Reformed</h2> -<ol start="111"> +<h2 id="industrial-technological-society-cannot-be-reformed">Industrial-Technological Society Cannot Be Reformed <a class="anchor" href="#industrial-technological-society-cannot-be-reformed"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="111"> <li> <p>The foregoing principles help to show how hopelessly difficult it would be to reform the industrial system in such a way as to prevent it from progressively narrowing our sphere of freedom. There has been a consistent tendency, going back at least to the Industrial Revolution, for technology to strengthen the system at a high cost in individual freedom and local autonomy. Hence any change designed to protect freedom from technology would be contrary to a fundamental trend in the development of our society. Consequently, such a change either would be a transitory one—soon swamped by the tide of history—or, if large enough to be permanent, would alter the nature of our whole society. This by the first and second principles. Moreover, since society would be altered in a way that could not be predicted in advance (third principle) there would be great risk. Changes large enough to make a lasting difference in favor of freedom would not be initiated because it would be realized that they would gravely disrupt the system. So any attempts at reform would be too timid to be effective. Even if changes large enough to make a lasting difference were initiated, they would be retracted when their disruptive effects became apparent. Thus, permanent changes in favor of freedom could be brought about only by persons prepared to accept radical, dangerous and unpredictable alteration of the entire system. In other words by revolutionaries, not reformers.</p> </li> @@ -397,8 +411,9 @@ <p>So even on very general grounds it seems highly improbable that any way of changing society could be found that would reconcile freedom with modern technology. In the next few sections we will give more specific reasons for concluding that freedom and technological progress are incompatible.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="restriction-of-freedom-is-unavoidable-in-industrial-society">Restriction of Freedom is Unavoidable in Industrial Society</h2> -<ol start="114"> +<h2 id="restriction-of-freedom-is-unavoidable-in-industrial-society">Restriction of Freedom is Unavoidable in Industrial Society <a class="anchor" href="#restriction-of-freedom-is-unavoidable-in-industrial-society"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="114"> <li> <p>As explained in paragraphs 65–67, 70–73, modern man is strapped down by a network of rules and regulations, and his fate depends on the actions of persons remote from him whose decisions he cannot influence. This is not accidental or a result of the arbitrariness of arrogant bureaucrats. It is necessary and inevitable in any technologically advanced society. The system HAS TO regulate human behavior closely in order to function. At work, people have to do what they are told to do, when they are told to do it and in the way they are told to do it, otherwise production would be thrown into chaos. Bureaucracies HAVE TO be run according to rigid rules. To allow any substantial personal discretion to lower-level bureaucrats would disrupt the system and lead to charges of unfairness due to differences in the way individual bureaucrats exercised their discretion. It is true that some restrictions on our freedom could be eliminated. but GENERALLY SPEAKING the regulation of our lives by large organizations is necessary for the functioning of industrial-technological society. The result is a sense of powerlessness on the part of the average person. It may be. however. that formal regulations will tend increasingly to be replaced by psychological tools that make us want to do what the system requires of us. (Propaganda,<sup id="fnref1:14"><a href="#fn:14" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">14</a></sup> educational techniques, “mental health” programs, etc.)</p> </li> @@ -421,8 +436,9 @@ <p>Efforts to make room for a sense of purpose and for autonomy within the system are no better than a joke. For example, one company, instead of having each of its employees assemble only one section of a catalogue, had each assemble a whole catalogue, and this was supposed to give them a sense of purpose and achievement. Some companies have tried to give their employees more autonomy in their work, but for practical reasons this usually can be done only to a very limited extent, and in any case employees are never given autonomy as to ultimate goals—their “autonomous” efforts can never be directed toward goals that they select personally, but only toward their employer’s goals, such as the survival and growth of the company. Any company would soon go out of business if it permitted its employees to act otherwise. Similarly, in any enterprise within a socialist system, workers must direct their efforts toward the goals of the enterprise, otherwise the enterprise will not serve its purpose as part of the system. Once again, for purely technical reasons it is not possible for most individuals or small groups to have much autonomy in industrial society. Even the small-business owner commonly has only limited autonomy. Apart from the necessity of government regulation, he is restricted by the fact that he must fit into the economic system and conform to its requirements. For instance, when someone develops a new technology, the small-business person often has to use that technology whether he wants to or not, in order to remain competitive.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-bad-parts-of-technology-cannot-be-separated-from-the-good-parts">The “Bad” Parts of Technology Cannot Be Separated from the “Good” Parts</h2> -<ol start="121"> +<h2 id="the-bad-parts-of-technology-cannot-be-separated-from-the-good-parts">The “Bad” Parts of Technology Cannot Be Separated from the “Good” Parts <a class="anchor" href="#the-bad-parts-of-technology-cannot-be-separated-from-the-good-parts"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="121"> <li> <p>A further reason why industrial society cannot be reformed in favor of freedom is that modern technology is a unified system in which all parts are dependent on one another. You can’t get rid of the “bad” parts of technology and retain only the “good” parts. Take modern medicine, for example. Progress in medical science depends on progress in chemistry, physics, biology, computer science and other fields. Advanced medical treatments require expensive, high-tech equipment that can be made available only by a technologically progressive, economically rich society. Clearly you can’t have much progress in medicine without the whole technological system and everything that goes with it.</p> </li> @@ -436,8 +452,9 @@ <p>The usual response to such concerns is to talk about “medical ethics.” But a code of ethics would not serve to protect freedom in the face of medical progress; it would only make matters worse. A code of ethics applicable to genetic engineering would be in effect a means of regulating the genetic constitution of human beings. Somebody (probably the upper middle class, mostly) would decide that such and such applications of genetic engineering were “ethical” and others were not, so that in effect they would be imposing their own values on the genetic constitution of the population at large. Even if a code of ethics were chosen on a completely democratic basis, the majority would be imposing their own values on any minorities who might have a different idea of what constituted an “ethical” use of genetic engineering. The only code of ethics that would truly protect freedom would be one that prohibited ANY genetic engineering of human beings, and you can be sure that no such code will ever be applied in a technological society. No code that reduced genetic engineering to a minor role could stand up for long, because the temptation presented by the immense power of biotechnology would be irresistible, especially since to the majority of people many of its applications will seem obviously and unequivocally good (eliminating physical and mental diseases, giving people the abilities they need to get along in today’s world). Inevitably, genetic engineering will be used extensively, but only in ways consistent with the needs of the industrial-technological system.<sup id="fnref:20"><a href="#fn:20" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">20</a></sup></p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="technology-is-a-more-powerful-social-force-than-the-aspiration-for-freedom">Technology is a More Powerful Social Force than the Aspiration for Freedom</h2> -<ol start="125"> +<h2 id="technology-is-a-more-powerful-social-force-than-the-aspiration-for-freedom">Technology is a More Powerful Social Force than the Aspiration for Freedom <a class="anchor" href="#technology-is-a-more-powerful-social-force-than-the-aspiration-for-freedom"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="125"> <li> <p>It is not possible to make a LASTING compromise between technology and freedom, because technology is by far the more powerful social force and continually encroaches on freedom through REPEATED compromises. Imagine the case of two neighbors, each of whom at the outset owns the same amount of land, but one of whom is more powerful than the other. The powerful one demands a piece of the other’s land. The weak one refuses. The powerful one says, “Okay, let’s compromise. Give me half of what I asked.” The weak one has little choice but to give in. Some time later the powerful neighbor demands another piece of land, again there is a compromise, and so forth. By forcing a long series of compromises on the weaker man, the powerful one eventually gets all of his land. So it goes in the conflict between technology and freedom.</p> </li> @@ -472,8 +489,9 @@ <p>In paragraph 125 we used an analogy of a weak neighbor who is left destitute by a strong neighbor who takes all his land by forcing on him a series of compromises. But suppose now that the strong neighbor gets sick, so that he is unable to defend himself. The weak neighbor can force the strong one to give him his land back, or he can kill him. If he lets the strong man survive and only forces him to give the land back, he is a fool, because when the strong man gets well he will again take all the land for himself. The only sensible alternative for the weaker man is to kill the strong one while he has the chance. In the same way, while the industrial system is sick we must destroy it. If we compromise with it and let it recover from its sickness, it will eventually wipe out all of our freedom.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="simpler-social-problems-have-proved-intractable">Simpler Social Problems Have Proved Intractable</h2> -<ol start="136"> +<h2 id="simpler-social-problems-have-proved-intractable">Simpler Social Problems Have Proved Intractable <a class="anchor" href="#simpler-social-problems-have-proved-intractable"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="136"> <li> <p>If anyone still imagines that it would be possible to reform the system in such a way as to protect freedom from technology, let him consider how clumsily and for the most part unsuccessfully our society has dealt with other social problems that are far more simple and straightforward. Among other things, the system has failed to stop environmental degradation, political corruption, drug trafficking or domestic abuse.</p> </li> @@ -487,8 +505,9 @@ <p>And note this important difference: It is conceivable that our environmental problems (for example) may some day be settled through a rational, comprehensive plan, but if this happens it will be only because it is in the long-term interest of the system to solve these problems. But it is NOT in the interest of the system to preserve freedom or small-group autonomy. On the contrary, it is in the interest of the system to bring human behavior under control to the greatest possible extent.<sup id="fnref:24"><a href="#fn:24" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">24</a></sup> Thus, while practical considerations may eventually force the system to take a rational, prudent approach to environmental problems, equally practical considerations will force the system to regulate human behavior ever more closely (preferably by indirect means that will disguise the encroachment on freedom). This isn’t just our opinion. Eminent social scientists (e.g., James Q. Wilson) have stressed the importance of “socializing” people more effectively.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="revolution-is-easier-than-reform">Revolution is Easier than Reform</h2> -<ol start="140"> +<h2 id="revolution-is-easier-than-reform">Revolution is Easier than Reform <a class="anchor" href="#revolution-is-easier-than-reform"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="140"> <li> <p>We hope we have convinced the reader that the system cannot be reformed in such a way as to reconcile freedom with technology. The only way out is to dispense with the industrial-technological system altogether. This implies revolution, not necessarily an armed uprising, but certainly a radical and fundamental change in the nature of society.</p> </li> @@ -499,8 +518,9 @@ <p>Reform is always restrained by the fear of painful consequences if changes go too far. But once a revolutionary fever has taken hold of a society, people are willing to undergo unlimited hardships for the sake of their revolution. This was clearly shown in the French and Russian Revolutions. It may be that in such cases only a minoriry of the population is really committed to the revolution, but this minority is sufficiently large and active so that it becomes the dominant force in society. We will have more to say about revolution in paragraphs 180–205).</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="control-of-human-behavior">Control of Human Behavior</h2> -<ol start="143"> +<h2 id="control-of-human-behavior">Control of Human Behavior <a class="anchor" href="#control-of-human-behavior"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="143"> <li> <p>Since the beginning of civilization, organized societies have had to put pressures on human beings for the sake of the functioning of the social organism. The kinds of pressures vary greatly from one society to another. Some of the pressures are physical (poor diet, excessive labor, environmental pollution), some are psychological (noise, crowding, forcing human behavior into the mold that society requires). In the past, human nature has been approximately constant, or at any rate has varied only within certain bounds. Consequently, societies have been able to push people only up to certain limits. When the limit of human endurance has been passed, things start going wrong: rebellion, or crime, or corruption, or evasion of work, or depression and other mental problems, or an elevated death rate, or a declining birth rate or something else, so that either the society breaks down, or its functioning becomes too inefficient and it is (quickly or gradually, through conquest, attrition or evolution) replaced by some more efficient form of society.<sup id="fnref:25"><a href="#fn:25" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">25</a></sup></p> </li> @@ -556,8 +576,9 @@ <p>To those who think that all this sounds like science fiction, we point out that yesterday’s science fiction is today’s fact. The Industrial Revolution has radically altered man’s environment and way of life, and it is only to be expected that as technology is increasingly applied to the human body and mind, man himself will be altered as radically as his environment and way of life have been.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="human-race-at-a-crossroads">Human Race at a Crossroads</h2> -<ol start="161"> +<h2 id="human-race-at-a-crossroads">Human Race at a Crossroads <a class="anchor" href="#human-race-at-a-crossroads"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="161"> <li> <p>But we have gotten ahead of our story. It is one thing to develop in the laboratory a series of psychological or biological techniques for manipulating human behavior and quite another to integrate these techniques into a functioning social system. The latter problem is the more difficult of the two. For example, while the techniques of educational psychology doubtless work quite well in the “lab schools” where they are developed, it is not necessarily easy to apply them effectively throughout our educational system. We all know what many of our schools are like. The teachers are too busy taking knives and guns away from the kids to subject them to the latest techniques for making them into computer nerds. Thus, in spite of all its technical advances relating to human behavior, the system to date has not been impressively successful in controlling human beings. The people whose behavior is fairly well under the control of the system are those of the type that might be called “bourgeois.” But there are growing numbers of people who in one way or another are rebels against the system: welfare leeches, youth gangs, cultists, satanists, Nazis, radical environmentalists, militia-men, etc.</p> </li> @@ -577,8 +598,9 @@ <p>Therefore two tasks confront those who hate the servitude to which the industrial system is reducing the human race. First, we must work to heighten the social stresses within the system so as to increase the likelihood that it will break down or be weakened sufficiently so that a revolution against it becomes possible. Second, it is necessary to develop and propagate an ideology that opposes technology and the industrial system. Such an ideology can become the basis for a revolution against industrial society if and when the system becomes sufficiently weakened. And such an ideology will help to assure that, if and when industrial society breaks down, its remnants will be smashed beyond repair, so that the system cannot be reconstituted. The factories should be destroyed, technical books burned, etc.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="human-suffering">Human Suffering</h2> -<ol start="167"> +<h2 id="human-suffering">Human Suffering <a class="anchor" href="#human-suffering"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="167"> <li> <p>The industrial system will not break down purely as a result of revolutionary action. It will not be vulnerable to revolutionary attack unless its own internal problems of development lead it into very serious difficulties. So if the system breaks down it will do so either spontaneously, or through a process that is in part spontaneous but helped along by revolutionaries. If the breakdown is sudden, many people will die, since the world’s population has become so overblown that it cannot even feed itself any longer without advanced technology. Even if the breakdown is gradual enough so that reduction of the population can occur more through lowering of the birth rate than through elevation of the death rate, the process of de-industrialization probably will be very chaotic and involve much suffering. It is naive to think it likely that technology can be phased out in a smoothly managed, orderly way, especially since the technophiles will fight stubbornly at every step. Is it therefore cruel to work for the breakdown of the system? Maybe, but maybe not. In the first place, revolutionaries will not be able to break the system down unless it is already in enough trouble so that there would be a good chance of its eventually breaking down by itself anyway; and the bigger the system grows, the more disastrous the consequences of its breakdown will be; so it may be that revolutionaries, by hastening the onset of the breakdown, will be reducing the extent of the disaster.</p> </li> @@ -592,8 +614,9 @@ <p>“Oh!” say the technophiles, “Science is going to fix all that! We will conquer famine, eliminate psychological suffering, make everybody healthy and happy!” Yeah, sure. That’s what they said 200 years ago. The Industrial Revolution was supposed to eliminate poverty, make everybody happy, etc. The actual result has been quite different. The technophiles are hopelessly naive (or self-deceiving) in their understanding of social problems. They are unaware of (or choose to ignore) the fact that when large changes, even seemingly beneficial ones, are introduced into a society, they lead to a long sequence of other changes, most of which are impossible to predict (paragraph 103). In the mean time there will be great suffering. So it is not at all clear that the survival of industrial society would involve less suffering than the breakdown of that society would. Technology has gotten the human race into a fix from which there is not likely to be any easy escape.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-future">The Future</h2> -<ol start="171"> +<h2 id="the-future">The Future <a class="anchor" href="#the-future"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="171"> <li> <p>But suppose now that industrial society does survive the next several decades and that the bugs do eventually get worked out of the system, so that it functions smoothly. What kind of system will it be? We will consider several possibilities.</p> </li> @@ -622,8 +645,9 @@ <p>It would be better to dump the whole stinking system and take the consequences.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="strategy">Strategy</h2> -<ol start="180"> +<h2 id="strategy">Strategy <a class="anchor" href="#strategy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="180"> <li> <p>The technophiles are taking us all on an utterly reckless ride into the unknown. Many people understand something of what technological progress is doing to us, yet take a passive attitude toward it because they think it is inevitable. But we (FC) don’t think it is inevitable. We think it can be stopped, and we will give here some indications of how to go about stopping it.</p> </li> @@ -706,8 +730,9 @@ <p>With regard to revolutionary strategy, the only points on which we absolutely insist are that the single, overriding goal must be the elimination of modern technology, and that no other goal can be allowed to compete with this one. For the rest, revolutionaries should take an empirical approach. If experience indicates that some of the recommendations made in the foregoing paragraphs are not going to give good results, then those recommendations should be discarded.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="two-kinds-of-technology">Two Kinds of Technology</h2> -<ol start="207"> +<h2 id="two-kinds-of-technology">Two Kinds of Technology <a class="anchor" href="#two-kinds-of-technology"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="207"> <li> <p>An argument likely to be raised against our proposed revolution is that it is bound to fail, because (it is claimed) throughout history technology has always progressed, never regressed, hence technological regression is impossible. But this claim is false.</p> </li> @@ -727,8 +752,9 @@ <p>Would society EVENTUALLY develop again toward an industrial-technological form? Maybe, but there is no use in worrying about it, since we can’t predict or control events 500 or 1,000 years in the future. Those problems must be dealt with by the people who will live at that time.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-danger-of-leftism">The Danger of Leftism</h2> -<ol start="213"> +<h2 id="the-danger-of-leftism">The Danger of Leftism <a class="anchor" href="#the-danger-of-leftism"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="213"> <li> <p>Because of their need for rebellion and for membership in a movement, leftists or persons of similar psychological type often are attracted to a rebellious or activist movement whose goals and membership are not initially leftist. The resulting influx of leftish types can easily turn a non-leftist movement into a leftist one, so that leftist goals replace or distort the original goals of the movement.</p> </li> @@ -784,8 +810,9 @@ <p>The more dangerous leftists, that is, those who are most power-hungry, are often characterized by arrogance or by a dogmatic approach to ideology. However, the most dangerous leftists of all may be certain oversocialized types who avoid irritating displays of aggressiveness and refrain from advertising their leftism, but work quietly and unobtrusively to promote collectivist values, “enlightened” psychological techniques for socializing children, dependence of the individual on the system, and so forth. These crypto-leftists (as we may call them) approximate certain bourgeois types as far as practical action is concerned, but differ from them in psychology, ideology and motivation. The ordinary bourgeois tries to bring people under control of the system in order to protect his way of life, or he does so simply because his attitudes are conventional. The crypto-leftist tries to bring people under control of the system because he is a True Believer in a collectivistic ideology. The crypto-leftist is differentiated from the average leftist of the oversocialized type by the fact that his rebellious impulse is weaker and he is more securely socialized. He is differentiated from the ordinary well-socialized bourgeois by the fact that there is some deep lack within him that makes it necessary for him to devote himself to a cause and immerse himself in a collectivity. And maybe his (well-sublimated) drive for power is stronger than that of the average bourgeois.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="final-note">Final Note</h2> -<ol start="231"> +<h2 id="final-note">Final Note <a class="anchor" href="#final-note"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="231"> <li> <p>Throughout this article we’ve made imprecise statements and statements that ought to have had all sorts of qualifications and reservations attached to them; and some of our statements may be flatly false. Lack of sufficient information and the need for brevity made it impossible for us to formulate our assertions more precisely or add all the necessary qualifications. And of course in a discussion of this kind one must rely heavily on intuitive judgment, and that can sometimes be wrong. So we don’t claim that this article expresses more than a crude approximation to the truth.</p> </li> @@ -915,8 +942,9 @@ Thu, 12 Jan 2023 21:34:30 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/recover-lost-anki-streak/ - <h1 id="how-to-recover-a-lost-anki-streak">How to recover a lost anki streak</h1> -<p>Word for word copy paste of what fixed my issue. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/Anki/comments/ndt6ag/comment/gycwiti/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">Original post</a></p> + <h1 id="how-to-recover-a-lost-anki-streak">How to recover a lost anki streak <a class="anchor" href="#how-to-recover-a-lost-anki-streak"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><p>Word for word copy paste of what fixed my issue. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/Anki/comments/ndt6ag/comment/gycwiti/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">Original post</a></p> <p><em>btw i had to create a seperate Custom Study for cards i had forgotten, i set it to 1 day, did one review and followed from step 7</em></p> <p>Happened to me as well, idk why. But there is a way to cheat streaks:</p> <ol> @@ -938,10 +966,12 @@ Wed, 04 Jan 2023 22:52:24 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/meta-description-in-hugo/ - <h1 id="adding-meta-description-in-hugo">Adding meta description in Hugo</h1> -<p>I assume you are using Luke Smith&rsquo;s theme - Lugo, if you are not, you&rsquo;d have to find these files yourself (e.g. search using vscode).</p> -<h2 id="setting-a-global-meta-description">Setting a global meta description</h2> -<ol> + <h1 id="adding-meta-description-in-hugo">Adding meta description in Hugo <a class="anchor" href="#adding-meta-description-in-hugo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><p>I assume you are using Luke Smith&rsquo;s theme - Lugo, if you are not, you&rsquo;d have to find these files yourself (e.g. search using vscode).</p> +<h2 id="setting-a-global-meta-description">Setting a global meta description <a class="anchor" href="#setting-a-global-meta-description"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Locate your config.toml or config.yaml file</li> <li>Add the following line inside it</li> </ol> @@ -952,15 +982,17 @@ <div class="highlight"><pre tabindex="0" style="color:#f8f8f2;background-color:#272822;-moz-tab-size:4;-o-tab-size:4;tab-size:4;"><code class="language-yaml" data-lang="yaml"><span style="display:flex;"><span><span style="color:#f92672">params</span>: </span></span><span style="display:flex;"><span> <span style="color:#f92672">description</span>: <span style="color:#ae81ff">The global meta description of your website</span> </span></span></code></pre></div><p>It won&rsquo;t work just yet because you have to update the <code>baseof.html</code> file.</p> -<h2 id="updating-the-baseofhtml-file">Updating the baseof.html file</h2> -<ol> +<h2 id="updating-the-baseofhtml-file">Updating the baseof.html file <a class="anchor" href="#updating-the-baseofhtml-file"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Locate baseof.html</li> <li>Add or change the meta description line with the following</li> </ol> <div class="highlight"><pre tabindex="0" style="color:#f8f8f2;background-color:#272822;-moz-tab-size:4;-o-tab-size:4;tab-size:4;"><code class="language-html" data-lang="html"><span style="display:flex;"><span>&lt;<span style="color:#f92672">meta</span> <span style="color:#a6e22e">name</span><span style="color:#f92672">=</span><span style="color:#e6db74">&#34;description&#34;</span> <span style="color:#a6e22e">content</span><span style="color:#f92672">=</span><span style="color:#e6db74">&#34;{{ if .Page.Params.description }}{{ .Page.Params.description }}{{ else if .Summary}}{{ .Summary }}{{else}}{{ .Site.Params.description}}{{ end }}&#34;</span>/&gt; </span></span></code></pre></div><p>And now if you start your Hugo server locally with <code>hugo serve --noHTTPCache</code> and you right click on your page -&gt; View Page Source -&gt; Search for the meta description tag. It should match what you left in the config file.</p> -<h2 id="replacing-the-global-description-with-a-custom-one">Replacing the global description with a custom one</h2> -<ol> +<h2 id="replacing-the-global-description-with-a-custom-one">Replacing the global description with a custom one <a class="anchor" href="#replacing-the-global-description-with-a-custom-one"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Have a markdown file ready</li> <li>In the preamble, add</li> </ol> @@ -978,8 +1010,9 @@ https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/multiple-index-pages-in-hugo/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="this-is-how-to-create-multiple-index-pages-in-hugo">This is how to create multiple index pages in Hugo</h2> -</div> +<h2 id="this-is-how-to-create-multiple-index-pages-in-hugo">This is how to create multiple index pages in Hugo <a class="anchor" href="#this-is-how-to-create-multiple-index-pages-in-hugo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>I wanted to order <a href="https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook">Hackbook</a> in reverse (i.e. oldest to newest) so that it&rsquo;s easier for the reader to start at the correct page.</p> <p>I ran into the following problem - the default <strong><code>list.html</code></strong> does them from newest to oldest.</p> <p>So I found <a href="https://discourse.gohugo.io/t/two-home-pages/31312/9">this forum post</a> and I created a file in the <strong><code>_default</code></strong> directory as follows:</p> @@ -1012,11 +1045,14 @@ {{- end }} &lt;/ul&gt; {{- end }} -</code></pre><h4 id="if-you-want-to-display-the-date-on-the-left-of-the-titles-you-have-to-add-datesinlisttrue-in-your-configtoml-or-datesinlist-true-in-your-configyaml">if you want to display the date on the left of the titles, you have to add <strong><code>datesinlist=true</code></strong> in your config.toml or <strong><code>datesinlist: true</code></strong> in your config.yaml</h4> -<h5 id="you-probably-dont-need-enablegitinfo--true-as-that-will-crash-your-website-i-have-no-idea-what-it-does-you-dont-need-it">You probably don&rsquo;t need <strong><code>enableGitInfo = true</code></strong> as that will crash your website, I have no idea what it does, you don&rsquo;t need it.</h5> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="using-your-custom-_indexhtml">Using your custom _index.html</h2> -</div> +</code></pre><h4 id="if-you-want-to-display-the-date-on-the-left-of-the-titles-you-have-to-add-datesinlisttrue-in-your-configtoml-or-datesinlist-true-in-your-configyaml">if you want to display the date on the left of the titles, you have to add <strong><code>datesinlist=true</code></strong> in your config.toml or <strong><code>datesinlist: true</code></strong> in your config.yaml <a class="anchor" href="#if-you-want-to-display-the-date-on-the-left-of-the-titles-you-have-to-add-datesinlisttrue-in-your-configtoml-or-datesinlist-true-in-your-configyaml"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h5 id="you-probably-dont-need-enablegitinfo--true-as-that-will-crash-your-website-i-have-no-idea-what-it-does-you-dont-need-it">You probably don&rsquo;t need <strong><code>enableGitInfo = true</code></strong> as that will crash your website, I have no idea what it does, you don&rsquo;t need it. <a class="anchor" href="#you-probably-dont-need-enablegitinfo--true-as-that-will-crash-your-website-i-have-no-idea-what-it-does-you-dont-need-it"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h5><div style="text-align: center;"> +<h2 id="using-your-custom-_indexhtml">Using your custom _index.html <a class="anchor" href="#using-your-custom-_indexhtml"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>After creating your custom _index.html you&rsquo;d use it as follows:</p> <ol> <li>Create an _index.md file in your desired directory</li> @@ -1227,8 +1263,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true <li>Never PMO again.</li> </ol> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="affirmations">Affirmations</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="affirmations">Affirmations <a class="anchor" href="#affirmations"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <ul> <li>I am free from the slavery of PMO.</li> <li>It is easy for me to ignore my thoughts about PMO.</li> @@ -1269,21 +1306,24 @@ strains of life.</li> https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-43-advice-to-non-pmoers/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK <a class="anchor" href="#help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>First study the contents of this book and try to put yourself in the place of the PMOer. Do not force him to read this book or try to stop him by telling him he is ruining his health or playing with fire. He already knows this better than you do. PMOers do not continue in it because they enjoy it or because they want to. They only tell themselves and other people this in order to retain self-respect. They do it because they feel dependent on PMO because they think that it relaxes them and gives them courage and confidence (pleasure or crutch) and that life will never be enjoyable without “sex” - their version of it. If you try to force a PMOer to stop, he feels like a trapped animal and wants to be in his harem even more. This may turn him into a secret PMOer and in his mind the porn will become even more precious (see Chapter 26).</p> <p>Instead, concentrate on the other side of the coin. Get him into the company of ex-PMOers (there are many blogs, forums etc. YBOP, No-Fap etc.). Get them to tell the PMOer how they too thought they were hooked for life and how much better life is as a non-PMOer. Once you have got him believing that he can stop then his mind will start to open up. Then start explaining the delusion created by withdrawal pangs. Not only are the “dopamine rushes” not giving him a boost but they are destroying his confidence and making him irritable and tired.</p> <p>He should now be ready to read this book himself. He will be expecting to read pages and pages about unreliable arousal, fading penetrations, PIED, PE, etc. Explain that the approach is completely different and that references to illness are just a small fraction of the material in the book.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD <a class="anchor" href="#help-during-the-withdrawal-period"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>If you are dealing with a girlfriend or boyfriend - whether the ex-PMOer is suffering or not, assume that she/he is. Do not try to minimize his suffering by telling him it is easy to stop; he can do that himself. Instead keep telling him how proud you are, how much better he is looking, how much sweeter it is to be with him, how much easier he is in general. It is particularly important to keep doing this. When a PMOer makes an attempt to stop, the euphoria of the attempt and the attention he gets from friends and colleagues can help him along. However, they tend to forget quickly, so keep that praise going.</p> <p>Because he is not talking about PMOing, you may think he has forgotten about it and don&rsquo;t want to remind him. Usually the complete opposite is the case with the Willpower Method, as the ex-PMOer tends to be obsessed by nothing else. So do not be frightened to bring the subject up and keep praising him: he will tell you if he doesn&rsquo;t want you to remind him of PMOing.</p> <p>Go out of your way to relieve him of pressures during the withdrawal period. Try to think of ways of making his life interesting and enjoyable. This can also be a trying period for non-PMOers - that is those of you who have never had this addiction. If one member of a group is irritable, it can cause general misery all round. So anticipate this if the ex-PMOer is feeling irritable. He may well take it out on you but do not retaliate: it is at this time that he needs your praise and sympathy the most. If you are feeling irritable yourself, try not to show it.</p> <p>One of the tricks an addict will play when trying to give up with the aid of the Willpower Method was to get into a tantrum, hoping that wife or friends would say, “I cannot bear to see you suffering like this. For goodness sake, have your poison.” The PMOer then does not lose face, as he isn&rsquo;t “giving in” - he has been instructed. If the ex-PMOer uses this ploy, on no account encourage him to lapse. Instead say, “if that is what PMO does to you, thank goodness you will soon be free. How marvellous that you had the courage and sense to give up.”</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL <a class="anchor" href="#help-end-this-scandal"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>In my opinion, internet porn is one of the dangers in a free society, piggy backing on the good willed efforts of personal freedoms. Surely the very basis of civilization, the reason why the human species has advanced so far, is that we are capable of communicating our knowledge and experiences not only to each other but to future generations. Even the lower species find it necessary to warn their offspring of the pitfalls in life.</p> <p>The producers of porn are not doing this in good faith, in the genuine belief that they help mankind, especially now as the addiction to internet porn is widely studied. Maybe in its initial stages people genuinely believed that porn taught intimacy to men and women but today the authorities know that it is a fallacy. Just watch any tube sites nowadays. They make no claims about education. The only claims they make are about the shock, novelty, escalation quality of their clips.</p> <p>The sheer hypocrisy is incredible. As a society we get uptight about school bullying and objectification of human body. Compared with internet porn, these problems are mere pimples in our society. Thirty five per cent of the population have been addicted to porn and most of them spend quality time with imaginary and illusory pixel people at the expense of health, virility, energy and time. Tens of thousands of people have their lives ruined every year because they become hooked. Internet high speed porn is by far the biggest killer in relationships and yet the biggest vested interest is our for-profit companies. Internet porn producers don’t spend on advertising the filth in mainstream publications - they don’t have to. Our biological urges will lead us to the thresholds of their well stocked internet harems. They give free samples just like your local drug dealer. Heck the tube sites don’t even stock the wares any more as they encourage visitors to post the content.</p> @@ -1296,8 +1336,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <p>Why do we allow society to subject healthy young teenagers, youngsters whose lives are complete before they start to get online, to claim their independence just for the privilege of destroying themselves mentally and physically in a lifetime of slavery, a lifetime of filth and disease? You may feel that I over-dramatize the facts. Not so. There are cases where lives were cut down in his early years of marriage because of PMO. He was a strong man and might still have been alive today. I believe I was within an inch of PIED during my forties, although I would have attributed it to my divorce rather than to PMO. I now spend my life being consulted by people who have been crippled by the disease or are in the last stages. And, if you care to think about it, you probably know of many too.</p> <p>There is a wind of change in society. A snowball has started that I hope this book will help turn into an avalanche. You too can help by spreading the message.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING <a class="anchor" href="#final-warning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>You can now enjoy the rest of your life as a happy non-PMOer. In order to make sure that you do, you need to follow these simple instructions:</p> <ol> <li>Keep this page in your bookmarks and refer to it as much as you need.</li> @@ -1396,8 +1437,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <p>Find out which one it is. Some people understand and believe everything I say but still start off with a feeling of doom and gloom, as if something terrible were happening. You are doing not only what you&rsquo;d like to do but what every PMOer on the planet would like to do. With any method of stopping, what the ex PMOer is trying to achieve is a certain frame of mind, so that whenever he thinks about PMO he says to himself, “YIPPEE! I&rsquo;M FREE!” If that&rsquo;s your object, why wait? Start off in that frame of mind and never lose it. The rest of the book is designed to make you understand why there is no alternative.</p> </blockquote> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="the-check-list"><strong>THE CHECK LIST</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="the-check-list"><strong>THE CHECK LIST</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-check-list"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>If you follow these simple instructions, you cannot fail:</p> <ol> <li>Make a solemn vow that you will never, ever, go online to visit your harem OR settle down for static pictures OR make peace with erotic graphics OR anything that contains supra normal stimuli, and stick to your vow.</li> @@ -1511,14 +1553,16 @@ sites in my life again.”<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1& <p>I have been direct in my advice so far and would ask you to treat this advice as instruction rather than suggestion. I am explicit and direct, first because there are sound, practical reasons for my advice and second, because those reasons have been backed up by thousands of case studies. On the question of whether or not to try to avoid temptation during the withdrawal period, I regret that I cannot be direct. Each PMOer will need to decide for himself. I can, however, make what I hope will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all our lives and this fear consists of two distinct phases:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO?</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO? <a class="anchor" href="#phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>This fear is that panicky feeling the PMOer gets when they are alone in a single phase or have an asexual, uninterested or unavailable partner. The fear isn&rsquo;t caused by withdrawal pangs but is the psychological fear of dependency - you cannot survive without sex and orgasm. It actually reaches its height when you are on the verge of quitting (I won’t use giving up); at that time your withdrawal pangs are at their lowest. It is the fear of the unknown, the sort of fear that people have when they are learning to dive.</p> <p>The diving board is 1 foot high but seems to be 6 feet high. The water is 6 feet deep but appears to be 1 foot deep. It takes courage to launch yourself. You are convinced you are going to smash your head. The launching is the hardest part. If you can find the courage to do it, the rest is easy. This explains why many otherwise strong-willed PMOers either have never attempted to stop or can survive only a few days when they do. In fact, there are some PMOers on a porn diet who when they decide to stop, actually binge and escalate to harsher clips more quickly than if they had not decided to stop. The decision causes panic, which is stressful. This is one of the occasions when the brain triggers the instruction, “take a trip to your own personal harem.” But now you can&rsquo;t take one. You are being deprived - more stress.</p> <p>The trigger starts again quickly when the fuse blows and you fire up the browser. Don&rsquo;t worry. That panic is just psychological. It is the fear that you are dependent. The beautiful truth is that you are not, even when you are still addicted. Do not panic. Just trust me and launch yourself.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear <a class="anchor" href="#phase-2-longer-term-fear"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>The second phase of fear is longer-term. It involves the fear that certain situations in the future will not be enjoyable or that you will not be able to cope with a trauma without PMO. Don&rsquo;t worry. If you can launch yourself you will find the opposite to be the case. The avoidance of temptation itself falls into two main categories:</p> <ol> <li>“I will subscribe to a porn-diet of once in 4 days. I will feel more confident knowing that I can go online if it gets hard. It is OK if I fail I can just add up additional days to my next cycle.”</li> @@ -1621,8 +1665,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict <li>What&rsquo;s worse, it keeps the big monster alive in your mind. If you had the “last peek”, it will be easier to have the next one.</li> </ol> <p>Above all, remember:</p> -<h2 id="just-one-peek-is-how-people-get-into-pmo-addiction-in-the-first-place">“Just one peek” is how people get into PMO addiction in the first place.</h2> - +<h2 id="just-one-peek-is-how-people-get-into-pmo-addiction-in-the-first-place">“Just one peek” is how people get into PMO addiction in the first place. <a class="anchor" href="#just-one-peek-is-how-people-get-into-pmo-addiction-in-the-first-place"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2> @@ -1727,8 +1772,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict </ol> <p>Stop kidding yourself. If the job offer that I mentioned before, of 10 months work for 12 months salary a year won&rsquo;t stop him. Or if the risks of cutting down your brain’s capacity to cope with just any normal day-to-day stress and strains or if putting yourself at odds with having a reliable erection, or if the lifetime of mental and physical torture and slavery did not stop him or her - the above said few phoney incentives will not make the slightest bit of difference. They will only make the sacrifice appear worse. Instead concentrate on the other side:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"><strong>“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?”</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"><strong>“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?”</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>Keep looking at the other side of the tug of war. What is PMOing doing for me? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Why do I need to do it? YOU DON&rsquo;T! YOU ARE ONLY PUNISHING YOURSELF. Try looking at it from the Pascal’s Wager perspective. You have almost nothing to lose (a rub-out with half arousals) for sure, chances of big profits (a full and reliable arousal, mental well being and happiness) and no chance of losing big (unreliable full arousals, premature ejaculations, fading penetrations, loss of general impulse controls, lower tolerance for frustrations and anger).</p> <p>Why not declare your quitting to friends and family? Well, it will make you a proud ex-addict, ex-PMOer, not an elated and happy non-PMOer. It will scare your partner a bit since they may see this as an effort to have more sex, sort of a new-age thing. They may also fear to lose you if this turns you into sex machine. It is hard to explain to them unless they are open minded.</p> <p>Any attempt to get others to help you in your quitting gives more power to the little monster of addiction. Pushing it from your mind and totally ignoring it has the effect of trying NOT to think of it. As soon as you spot the thoughts, when you hit the cues (home alone) or just absent minded thoughts - just say to yourself: “Great, I don’t have to do it like a slave animal. I am free. I am happy to know the differences in sex.” This will cut the life of the thought and will deny oxygen to it and will stop it from burning towards urges and cravings.</p> @@ -1796,8 +1842,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <p>First of all, identify the times or occasions when PMO appears to be important to you. If you are a businessman and use it for the illusion of relief of stress, pick a relatively slack period; a good idea is to choose your annual holiday. If you PMO mainly during boring or relaxing periods, weekends etc. do the opposite. In any event, take the matter seriously and make the attempt the most important thing in your life.</p> <p>Look ahead for a period of about three weeks and try to anticipate any event that might lead to failure. Occasions like a conference trip, partner out of town etc. need not deter you, providing you anticipate them in advance and do not feel you will be deprived. Do not attempt to cut down in the meantime as this will only create the illusion that being denied is enjoyable. In fact, it helps to force yourself to watch and have as many PMO sessions as possible. While you are having the last session and that last time, be conscious of the disappointment due to satiation, unfulfilled expectations (porn can never satisfy you), any bodily pain or pain in the genitals, the withdrawal effects, the peevishness and the melancholy. Think how marvellous it will be when you allow yourself to stop doing it.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="whatever-you-do-dont-fall-into-the-trap-of-just-saying-not-now-later-and-putting-it-out-of-your-mind-work-out-your-timetable-now-and-look-forward-to-it">WHATEVER YOU DO, DON&rsquo;T FALL INTO THE TRAP OF JUST SAYING, “NOT NOW. LATER,” AND PUTTING IT OUT OF YOUR MIND. WORK OUT YOUR TIMETABLE NOW AND LOOK FORWARD TO IT.</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="whatever-you-do-dont-fall-into-the-trap-of-just-saying-not-now-later-and-putting-it-out-of-your-mind-work-out-your-timetable-now-and-look-forward-to-it">WHATEVER YOU DO, DON&rsquo;T FALL INTO THE TRAP OF JUST SAYING, “NOT NOW. LATER,” AND PUTTING IT OUT OF YOUR MIND. WORK OUT YOUR TIMETABLE NOW AND LOOK FORWARD TO IT. <a class="anchor" href="#whatever-you-do-dont-fall-into-the-trap-of-just-saying-not-now-later-and-putting-it-out-of-your-mind-work-out-your-timetable-now-and-look-forward-to-it"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>Remember you aren&rsquo;t giving anything up. On the contrary: you are about to receive marvellous positive gains.</p> <p>For years the medical profession viewed porn is harmless without knowing the difference between the tame static porn of yesteryear and the latest VR streaming porn. The problem is this; although every PMOer uses internet porn purely to relieve the brain chemical craving for dopamine, it is not the addiction to the brain chemical itself that hooks the PMOer but the self-brainwashing that results from that addiction. An intelligent person will fall for a confidence trick. But only a fool will go on falling for it once he realizes that it&rsquo;s a confidence trick. Fortunately, most PMOers aren&rsquo;t fools; they only think they are. Each individual PMOer has his own private brainwashing. That is why there appears to be such a wide range of different types of PMOer, which only serves to compound the mysteries.</p> <p>With the benefit of the original book that used this method to stop smoking, which dealt with nicotine addiction (one of the most quickest and addictive drug known to man) and bearing in mind that the personal logs that I collected from Reddit, NoFap and YBOP blogs and forums, I was agreeably surprised to realize that the philosophy propounded in the original book was still sound. The accumulated knowledge that was acquired by the original author Alan Carr and by myself the hack-author is how to communicate that knowledge to each individual PMOer. The fact that I know every PMOer can not only find it easy to stop but can actually enjoy the process is not only pointless but exceedingly frustrating unless I can make the PMOer realize it. The original author of the quit smoking book explains some controversial advice:</p> @@ -1835,8 +1882,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <p>The only reason why people continue to PMO after getting educated is because they have failed to stop or are too frightened to try. There are even talks about no porn, no masturbation and no orgasms - with or without partners. Karezza is discussed widely and people are trying it out. Many aforementioned failures are “fail forwards” and thus somewhat benefiting the people who practice them. Once you start in the no-PMO route you will find your best fit that applies to your life. I strongly encourage devising your own plan on orgasms after understanding and practising the separation of the amative and the propagative parts of sex. I am sure whichever route you take you will see the value of preserving the “seed” by limiting the number of times you flush your brain with chemicals by orgasming. You will then never see porn, sex and orgasms as a pleasure or as a crutch for your emotional ups and downs.</p> <p>I was reading a Reddit forum by non-PMOers dedicated to quitting not only porn but also masturbation. As I read along I thought. “This is good, I see so many have taken to quitting masturbation and I think that is the right way to quit PMO.” However, I found most of the notes pointing to them to try with the Willpower Method. There was a lot of self-pitying as well. Except a few&hellip; almost all were not feeling elated and not having the, “yippee I am free from slavery” attitude. Eventually someone broke down - as I unfortunately expected to happen. And the result was a domino effect. All those other PMOers had been sitting there thinking, “surely I can&rsquo;t be the only PMOer here.” However, they were “failing forward” albeit with a lot of self-torturing as they shut down their browsers but did not shut down the desire and the need. This method is the reverse as - we shut down the desire and the need first before shutting down the browser screen. As every day more and more PMOers leave the sinking ship, so those left on it become terrified they&rsquo;ll be the last.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="dont-let-it-be-you"><strong>DON&rsquo;T LET IT BE YOU!</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="dont-let-it-be-you"><strong>DON&rsquo;T LET IT BE YOU!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#dont-let-it-be-you"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> @@ -1854,8 +1902,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <p>Columbo has this frustrating practice of closing the door after finishing his interrogation, having assured the suspect that he is in the clear and before the satisfied look has disappeared from the murderer&rsquo;s face, Columbo reappears with: “just one small point, sir, which I&rsquo;m sure you can explain&hellip;” The suspect stammers and from that point on we know and he knows that Columbo will gradually wear him down. No matter how heinous the crime, from that point on my sympathies were with the murderer.</p> <p>It was almost as if I were the criminal and that&rsquo;s exactly how those bouts made me feel. The tension of not being allowed to cross the red line to get my porn fix that I “rightly deserve because I am hard working man and why shouldn’t I when every man does it?” entitlement, click, click, clicking on videos that come close to the right one. Longing for the porn tube videos. And then finishing the deed - just a limp rub out, wondering where the pleasure was. The fear of crossing the line losing control. The relief of returning to the bed, immediately followed by the fear that she would toss around and ask for sex. As the “safe” YouTube videos started not to do it for me - desensitization and lack of novelty and the certain knowledge that sooner or later I was bound to visit my favourite online harem. The final humiliation and shame when that certainty became a fact, followed by the immediate return to chain-PMOing.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="oh-the-joys-of-being-a-pmo-er"><strong>OH THE JOYS OF BEING A PMO-er!</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="oh-the-joys-of-being-a-pmo-er"><strong>OH THE JOYS OF BEING A PMO-er!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#oh-the-joys-of-being-a-pmo-er"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> @@ -1882,25 +1931,32 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p </ol> <p>I used to think of my ‘non-casual’ PMOing as a weakness. I couldn&rsquo;t understand why my friends could limit their “intake.” I knew I was a very strong-willed person. It never occurred to me that most PMOers are incapable of chain-PMOing - you need a very strong imagination and also extraordinarily strong penis stamina in order to do it. Some of these once-a-week PMOers that heavy PMOers tend to envy do it less frequently because physically their constitution cannot do more, or because they cannot afford to PMO more, or because their job, or society, or their own hatred of being hooked won&rsquo;t allow them to PMO more.</p> <p>It may be of advantage at this stage to provide a few definitions:</p> -<h3 id="the-non-pmoer">THE NON-PMOer</h3> -<p>Someone who has never fallen for the trap but should not be complacent. He is a non-PMOer only by luck or the grace of goodness. All PMOers were convinced that they would never become hooked and some non-PMOers keep trying an occasional session.</p> -<h3 id="the-casual-pmoer">THE CASUAL PMOer</h3> -<p>There are two basic classifications of casual PMOers:</p> +<h3 id="the-non-pmoer">THE NON-PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-non-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>Someone who has never fallen for the trap but should not be complacent. He is a non-PMOer only by luck or the grace of goodness. All PMOers were convinced that they would never become hooked and some non-PMOers keep trying an occasional session.</p> +<h3 id="the-casual-pmoer">THE CASUAL PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-casual-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>There are two basic classifications of casual PMOers:</p> <ol> <li>The PMOer who has fallen for the trap but doesn&rsquo;t realize it. Do not envy such PMOers. They are merely sampling the nectar at the mouth of the pitcher plant and in all probability will soon be heavy users. Remember, just as all alcoholics started off as casual drinkers, so all PMOers started off as casual PMOers.</li> <li>The PMOer who was previously a heavy PMOer and thinks he cannot stop. These PMOers are the saddest of all. They fall into various categories, each of which needs separate comment.</li> </ol> -<h3 id="the-oncea--day-pmoer">THE ONCE–A- DAY PMOer</h3> -<p>If he enjoys his entitlement to orgasm, why does he use internet porn to orgasm only once a day? If he can take it or leave it, why does he bother to PMO at all? Remember, the ‘habit’ is really banging your head against the brick wall only to make it relaxing when you stop. The once-a-day PMOer is relieving his withdrawal pangs for less than one hour each day. The rest of the day, although he doesn&rsquo;t realize it, he is banging his head against the wall and does so for most of his life. He is PMOing only once a day because either he cannot take the risk of getting caught or screwing up his brain health. It is easy to convince the heavy PMOer that he doesn&rsquo;t enjoy it but you try convincing a casual PMOer. Anybody who has gone through an attempt to cut down will know it is the worst torture of all and almost guaranteed to keep you hooked for the rest of your life.</p> -<h3 id="the-rejected-pmoer">THE REJECTED PMOer</h3> -<p>This PMOer demands the right to his/her orgasm(s) every day. And of course his sex partner is not always up to it. So he goes on the internet for porn initially. Once he takes “the ride” to fix “the void” he is trapped on this most exciting ‘water slide’ of novelty, shock, supranormal images etc. He is in fact dichotomously ‘happy’ with the partner’s rejection – it gives him something of an excuse. If internet porn is giving so much to you, why even bother to have a partner at all? Set him or her free. He is not even enjoying the PMO when he has to ‘carry’ his partner in his mind. At some point he is using his real life partner to hand him an excuse to go out into the valleys of the dark side of the internet.</p> -<h3 id="the-porn-diet-pmoer">THE PORN DIET PMOer</h3> -<p>(Or, “I can stop whenever I want to. I have done it thousands of times”). If he thinks dieting helps with his moods to ‘get out to get women,’ why is he even on the diet of once every four days? How can one predict the future, what if the happenstance of meeting occurred just an hour after your scheduled PMO session? Also, if he thinks this occasional “cleaning the plumbing” is good to relieve tension and relax why not plumb every day? It has been proven that masturbation is not required to keep the genitals healthy. Internet porn is not required at all. Even if that may be the case, any PUA guru who has read about the brain chemistry and its plasticity will never recommend watching super stimulus porn. The truth is he is still hooked. Although he gets rid of the physical addiction, he is left with the main problem - the brainwashing. He hopes each time that he will stop for good and soon falls for the same trap again.</p> +<h3 id="the-oncea--day-pmoer">THE ONCE–A- DAY PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-oncea--day-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>If he enjoys his entitlement to orgasm, why does he use internet porn to orgasm only once a day? If he can take it or leave it, why does he bother to PMO at all? Remember, the ‘habit’ is really banging your head against the brick wall only to make it relaxing when you stop. The once-a-day PMOer is relieving his withdrawal pangs for less than one hour each day. The rest of the day, although he doesn&rsquo;t realize it, he is banging his head against the wall and does so for most of his life. He is PMOing only once a day because either he cannot take the risk of getting caught or screwing up his brain health. It is easy to convince the heavy PMOer that he doesn&rsquo;t enjoy it but you try convincing a casual PMOer. Anybody who has gone through an attempt to cut down will know it is the worst torture of all and almost guaranteed to keep you hooked for the rest of your life.</p> +<h3 id="the-rejected-pmoer">THE REJECTED PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-rejected-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>This PMOer demands the right to his/her orgasm(s) every day. And of course his sex partner is not always up to it. So he goes on the internet for porn initially. Once he takes “the ride” to fix “the void” he is trapped on this most exciting ‘water slide’ of novelty, shock, supranormal images etc. He is in fact dichotomously ‘happy’ with the partner’s rejection – it gives him something of an excuse. If internet porn is giving so much to you, why even bother to have a partner at all? Set him or her free. He is not even enjoying the PMO when he has to ‘carry’ his partner in his mind. At some point he is using his real life partner to hand him an excuse to go out into the valleys of the dark side of the internet.</p> +<h3 id="the-porn-diet-pmoer">THE PORN DIET PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-porn-diet-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>(Or, “I can stop whenever I want to. I have done it thousands of times”). If he thinks dieting helps with his moods to ‘get out to get women,’ why is he even on the diet of once every four days? How can one predict the future, what if the happenstance of meeting occurred just an hour after your scheduled PMO session? Also, if he thinks this occasional “cleaning the plumbing” is good to relieve tension and relax why not plumb every day? It has been proven that masturbation is not required to keep the genitals healthy. Internet porn is not required at all. Even if that may be the case, any PUA guru who has read about the brain chemistry and its plasticity will never recommend watching super stimulus porn. The truth is he is still hooked. Although he gets rid of the physical addiction, he is left with the main problem - the brainwashing. He hopes each time that he will stop for good and soon falls for the same trap again.</p> <p>Many PMOers actually envy these stoppers and starters. They think, “how lucky to be able to control it like that, to do PMO when you want to and stop when you want to,” What they always overlook is that these stoppers and starters aren&rsquo;t controlling it. When they are PMOers, they wish they weren&rsquo;t. They go through the hassle of stopping, then begin to feel deprived and fall for the trap again, then wish they hadn&rsquo;t. They get the worst of both worlds. If you think about it, this is true in the lives of the PMOers. When we are allowed to PMO we either take it as entitled or wish we didn&rsquo;t. It&rsquo;s only when we can&rsquo;t have PMO that it appears to be so precious. The ‘forbidden fruit syndrome’. This is the awful dilemma of PMOers. They can never win because they are moping for a myth, an illusion. There is one way they can win and that is to stop PMOing and stop moping!</p> -<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC/TAME/HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer</h3> -<p>Yes, we all do it to start with but isn&rsquo;t it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner&rsquo;s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes&hellip; you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one.</p> -<h3 id="the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer">THE I-HAVE-STOPPED-BUT-I-HAVE-AN-OCCASIONAL-PEEK PMOer</h3> -<p>In a way such peeking PMOers are the most pathetic of all. Either they go through their lives believing they are being deprived or, more often, the occasional peek becomes two. They remain on the slippery slope and it goes only one way - DOWNWARDS. Sooner or later they are back to being heavy PMOers. They have fallen again for the very trap that they fell into in the first place.</p> +<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC/TAME/HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>Yes, we all do it to start with but isn&rsquo;t it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner&rsquo;s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes&hellip; you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one.</p> +<h3 id="the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer">THE I-HAVE-STOPPED-BUT-I-HAVE-AN-OCCASIONAL-PEEK PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>In a way such peeking PMOers are the most pathetic of all. Either they go through their lives believing they are being deprived or, more often, the occasional peek becomes two. They remain on the slippery slope and it goes only one way - DOWNWARDS. Sooner or later they are back to being heavy PMOers. They have fallen again for the very trap that they fell into in the first place.</p> <p>There are two other categories of casual PMOers. The first is the type who masturbates to images or clips of the latest celebrity sex tapes that hit the news. Or something they ‘carried home’ from their ‘accidental’ viewing at school or work. These people are really non-PMOers. It&rsquo;s just that they feel they are missing out. They want to be part of the action. We all start off like this. Next time watch how, after a while, the celebrity sex tape, the same star of your fantasy is not ‘doing it’ to you any more. The more ‘unattainable’ the target of your fantasy is, the more frustrating the withdrawal of the orgasm is.</p> <p>The second category is recently getting attention. The type can best be described by outlining a case shared online. A woman who is a professional, had been using internet porn stories for many years and had never PMOed more or less than one time every night. She was, incidentally, a very strong-willed lady. Most PMOers would wonder why she wanted to stop in the first place. They would gladly point out to her that there is no worries of PIED, or PE in her case as she is a women. She is using not even static images and the stories are far tamer than any they use on a daily basis.</p> <p>They make the mistake of assuming that casual PMOers are happier and more in control. In control they may be but happy they are not. In this case, she is not satisfied with her partner, not interested in real sex, highly irritable with her daily stress and strains. Her nearest-and-dearest could not find out what is bothering her. Even if she convinced herself not to be afraid of her use of internet porn by rationalizing, she still finds herself not being able to enjoy real relationships which almost invariably involve ups and downs. Her brain’s RC<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> is not able to make use of the normal de-stress brain chemicals as she is flooding dopamine into her brain on an everyday basis. The down regulation<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> of her brain receptors has rendered her melancholic most times. Like me, she had a great fear of internet porn’s dark side of the treatment of women- before her first time. Like me, she eventually fell victim to the massive social brainwash and tried that first porn site. Like me, she can remember the foul clips of violence staged as entertainment. Unlike me, who capitulated and became a chain-PMOer very quickly, she resisted the slide.</p> @@ -1913,8 +1969,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p </blockquote> <p>In addition to his other troubles, this poor man has no idea that he treating himself to a poison. First he is suffering the “forbidden fruit syndrome.” Next he is forcing his brain to flush dopamine. His dopamine receptors are not as cut down comparatively either. But he is sliding and greasing the porn slides, seeking and searching for edging, novelty, variety, shock-value, anxiety-value (“I must treat myself so that I can survive the next three days”) etc. You probably have visions of a pathetic imbecile. Not so. This man was over six feet tall and an ex-sergeant in the Marines. He was a former athlete and didn&rsquo;t want to become an addict to anything. However, when he returned from the war he was trained as a techie in a veterans rehab program. When he entered the civil work force he was a well paid IT professional in a bank and was given a laptop (one of the ways to ensure you take work home). It was the year that famous socialites ‘leaked’ their porn videos online. There was much talk about it. And he got hooked. He has spent the rest of his life paying through the nose and it has ruined him physically and mentally. If he were an animal, our society would have put him out of his misery, yet we still allow mentally and physically healthy young teenagers to become hooked. You may think the above case and my notes are exaggerated. It is extreme but not unique. There are literally thousands of similar stories. That man poured his heart out to me but you can be sure that many of his friends and acquaintances envied him for being a once-a-week man. If you think this couldn&rsquo;t happen to you, STOP KIDDING YOURSELF.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="it-is-already-happening"><strong>IT IS ALREADY HAPPENING.</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="it-is-already-happening"><strong>IT IS ALREADY HAPPENING.</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#it-is-already-happening"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>In any event, PMOers like other addicts are notorious liars, even to themselves. They have to be. Most casual PMOers indulge far more times and on far more occasions than they will admit to. I have had many conversations with so-called twice-a-week PMOers during which they have done it more than three times that week. If you read the Reddit or No-Fap forums of casual PMOers, they are either counting the days or waiting to fail. You do not need to envy casual PMOers. You do not need to PMO. Life is infinitely sweeter without PMO. One log says&hellip;</p> <blockquote> <p><em>“It started with a simple challenge to not touch my penis for a day. And being unable. I don&rsquo;t think about masturbation anymore. It doesn&rsquo;t cross my mind. That is possible, I promise you. And the riches that await those who are able - they&rsquo;re incredible.”</em></p> @@ -2015,8 +2072,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p </ol> <p>The other important point that cutting down demonstrates is that there is no such thing as the odd or occasional harem visit. Internet porn is a chain reaction that will last the rest of your life unless you make a positive effort to break it:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="remember-cutting-down-will-drag-you-down"><strong>REMEMBER: CUTTING DOWN WILL DRAG YOU DOWN.</strong></h3> -</div><div class="footnotes" role="doc-endnotes"> +<h3 id="remember-cutting-down-will-drag-you-down"><strong>REMEMBER: CUTTING DOWN WILL DRAG YOU DOWN.</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#remember-cutting-down-will-drag-you-down"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div><div class="footnotes" role="doc-endnotes"> <hr> <ol> <li id="fn:1"> @@ -2337,14 +2395,16 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on this planet. Whether you believe in a creator, a process of natural selection or a combination of both, whatever being or system devised these bodies of ours, it is a thousand times more effective than man! Man cannot create the smallest living cell, let alone the miracle of eyesight, reproduction, our circulatory system or our brains. We don’t have our systems upgraded yet to properly assess the supranormal stimulus such as rich high density food or high speed internet novelty porn with multiple active windows.</p> <p>If the creator or process had intended us to handle novelty triggering stimuli, we would have been provided with some other brain reward circuits. Our bodies are, in fact, provided with fail-safe warning devices and we ignore these at our peril. Excessive edging results in body pain, irritation, and inflammation. In women, excessive flooding of dopamine and stress enzymes such as prostaglandin-E2 can cause difficulty to orgasm and PME.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up"><strong>There Is Nothing To Give Up</strong></h2> -</div> +<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up"><strong>There Is Nothing To Give Up</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#there-is-nothing-to-give-up"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.</p> <p>The problem I have is to make a convincing point as I’d have done for, let us say&hellip; smokers? All of us have seen smokers who develop excuses to sneak off for a crafty puff. It is easy to see the true addiction in action. Addicts do not do it because they enjoy it. They do it because they are miserable without it.</p> <p>Because many of us started out our first sexual experience that ended in an orgasm and we acquired the belief that we cannot enjoy sex without an orgasm. And for men, porn is sold as an aid towards sex, sometimes even as an education to be confident during the act of sex. It used to be static, but now we have supranormal internet porn. But this is nonsense. Internet porn takes away your confidence.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="women-and-porn"><strong>Women And Porn</strong></h2> -</div> +<h2 id="women-and-porn"><strong>Women And Porn</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#women-and-porn"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn&rsquo;t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.</p> <p>Porn and internet porn does not help your sex life; it destroys it totally. Having to hide your internet footprints, trying to delete your history, fearing accidental exposure to your boyfriend or kids, body pains, doubtful symptoms, fighting self doubts, arguing with yourself about your responsibilities in the ill effects of your addiction&hellip; well, why do you want to put yourself in such a bad situation?</p> <p>Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous positive gains to be had. When PMOers contemplate quitting they tend to concentrate on health and virility. These are obviously valid and important issues but I personally believe the greatest gains from stopping are psychological:</p> @@ -2355,8 +2415,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> </ol> <p>Not only is life better as a non-PMOer but it is infinitely more enjoyable. I do not only mean you will be healthier. I mean you will be happier and enjoy life far more. The marvellous gains from being a non-PMOer are discussed in the next few chapters. Some PMOers find it difficult to appreciate the concept of the &lsquo;void&rsquo; and the following analogy may assist you.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"><strong>Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void!</strong></h2> -</div> +<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"><strong>Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I&rsquo;ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can&rsquo;t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.</p> <p>By now you are completely dependent on the ointment. You never go out without ensuring that you have a tube of the ointment with you. If you go abroad, you make sure that you take several tubes with you. Now, in addition to your worries about your health, I&rsquo;m charging you $100 per tube. You have no choice but to pay.</p> <p>You then read in the medical column of your newspaper that this isn&rsquo;t happening just to you; many other people have been suffering from the same problem. In fact, pharmacists have discovered that the ointment doesn&rsquo;t actually cure the sore. All that it does is to take the sore beneath the surface of the skin. It is the ointment that has caused the sore to grow. All you have to do to get rid of the sore is to stop using the ointment. The sore will eventually disappear in due course.</p> @@ -2494,15 +2555,17 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>We can have an ‘information overload’ from the same internet but our reward circuits are not going to squirt dopamine at the levels when ‘porn overload’ is involved. We are evolutionarily programmed to seek and access sex related stuff. And we wrongly appraise the stimulus mostly based on this reward circuit action. If all you wanted is to masturbate why can’t you just use one clip and get the business done?</p> <p>Here is another question - next time after a long day or some stressful incident can you consciously embellish your self-talk with “Do you know what I would really enjoy today? The marvellous warm glow of dopamine rush going to my online harem.” You will find that even people who dislike PMO will join you.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="past-misguided-advice"><strong>Past Misguided Advice</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="past-misguided-advice"><strong>Past Misguided Advice</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#past-misguided-advice"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.</p> <p>From our earliest years our subconscious minds are bombarded daily with information telling us that sex is good and that the most precious thing on this earth is to ‘achieve’ orgasm. Girls are taught to achieve it and claim it&rsquo;s because they were wrongly suppressed of their sexual side for a very long time and still are. You think I exaggerate? Watch any TV or movie plot and you will see the mix-up of the amative (touch, smell, voice etc.) and the propagative (orgasmic) sides of sex. The impact of this does not register on our conscious minds but the sleeping partner, the subconscious mind, has time to absorb it. What the message is really saying is, “The most precious thing on this earth, my last thought and action, will be the goal of orgasm.” If you don’t have an orgasm then you are an old man with zero libido.</p> <p>Our children are being bombarded by sex and porn clips and many don’t even know how to protect them from it all. Large hoardings and magazine adverts are loaded with sexual innuendo. Some of the pop videos are extremely suggestive - again they hide behind free speech. Don’t be vexed and feel powerless about it. Make it a game and find you which of the components they are using - is it novelty, shock value, color, size, taboo etc. If the kids are pre-teen some of these can be disclosed to them and it would make an excellent show-and-tell game.</p> <p>A while back there was a wave of ‘leaked’ private videos of celebrities on the internet. If the youngster is too smitten by their favourite star, even if the conscious mind blames the ‘leak’ on the blood thirsty internet paparazzi, the &lsquo;sleeping partner&rsquo; is patiently digesting the notion that, “yes, even my shambolic hero does it and if I don’t, I won’t look the part.”</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-scientific-reasoning"><strong>The Scientific Reasoning</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-scientific-reasoning"><strong>The Scientific Reasoning</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-scientific-reasoning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>, Reboot<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> forums, underground PUA<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup>, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn&rsquo;t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.</p> <p>Ironically, the most powerful force in this melee of confusion is the PMOer himself. It is a fallacy that they are weak-willed or are physically weak specimens. You have to be physically strong in order to cope with an addiction after you know it is. This is one of the reasons why PMOers refuse to accept the overwhelming statistics that prove that internet porn with its ‘novelty’ cripples your brain. Add to that the sexologists who are doing half-baked studies and declare PMO is not an issue - they just help to add to the confusion.</p> <p>Everyone knows a friend who PMOed every day - he started with the ‘static’ to internet porn, always horny in real life, chasing girls and you never doubted him to have sex problems of course. You want to believe him. He never complained about any ED right? Guys and girls like them refuse even to consider the hundreds of ex-addicts and non-PMOers who painfully recount their difficulties. It is the “little monster” brain chemical addiction and the “big monster” - illusions and delusions. In this hackbook, I&rsquo;ve put together almost all the sorts of brainwashing a PMOer can suffer from. There will always be a few out there that I haven&rsquo;t touched upon.</p> @@ -2510,8 +2573,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>If you do a small survey among your online forum members, friends and colleagues, you will find that most PMOers are, in fact, strong-willed people. They tend to be self-employed, business executives or in certain specialized professions, such as doctors<sup id="fnref:4"><a href="#fn:4" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">4</a></sup>, lawyers, policemen, teachers, salesmen, nurses, secretaries, housewives with children, etc. In other words, anybody leading a stressful existence. Yes, I did include women and mothers. It’s the brain and it’s the same for them too. The main delusion of the PMOer is that porn helps to masturbate to orgasm and that relieves stress. This tends to be associated with the dominant type, the type that takes on responsibility and stress and, of course, that is the type that we admire and therefore tend to copy. Another group that tends to get hooked are people in monotonous jobs because the other main reason for PMOing is boredom. However, the idea that internet porn relieves boredom is also an illusion, I am afraid.</p> <p>As a society we get all uptight about glue-sniffing, heroin addiction, etc. Actual deaths from glue-sniffing do not amount to ten per annum, and deaths from heroin are less than a hundred a year in this country. There is another drug, internet porn, on which over 45 per cent of us become hooked at some time in our lives and the majority spend the rest of their lives regretting it. Some even don’t know that their ED is due to this.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-willpower-method"><strong>The Willpower Method</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-willpower-method"><strong>The Willpower Method</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why?</p> <p>Constant exposure to internet porn re-wires your brain. You need to start building resistance to this brainwashing, just as if you were buying a car from a second-hand car dealer. You would be nodding politely but you would not believe a word the man was saying. So don’t believe everything they say either - that you must have sex as much as you can and you must have it exceptional good. And that in the absence of real sex you claim it by the substitute called internet porn - which is only a component of the good old porn.</p> <p>And don’t play ‘safe’ porn game either - because your “little porn monster” invented that scheme to lure you. Even the content - ‘amateur’? Really? Is there a certification authority that certifies it? Tube sites and porn producers gather site visitor profiles and cater to their needs. If they see a trend in crowd sourced collection of a particular genre they will focus on that and get content out ASAP. The statistics of what genre users like is collected to the level of how long and which portion the users were preferring. Do not be fooled by their educational intent or the safe female oriented clips (for you ladies). Start asking yourself:</p> @@ -2523,22 +2587,25 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>I find this brainwashing aspect the most difficult of all to explain. Why is it that an otherwise rational, intelligent human being becomes a complete imbecile about his own addiction? It pains me to confess that out of the thousands of people that I have assisted in kicking the habit, I (not Allen Carr) was the biggest idiot of all.</p> <p>At the age of thirteen, although I was doing well at school and games, I was still an insufferable introvert. I read books from the library that were not within my main study list. However, I can see that I was attracted to erotica. I started masturbating to TV programs, song and dance sequences etc. I must have to have it every day. The tired feeling I felt was misappropriated by my ‘little porn monster’ as work stress. I didn’t know my “I-must-masturbate-as-I-am-entitled” attitude was the one that created the ‘stress’ in the first place. Then I got pictures and GIFs via email on my laptop - the first step towards electronic porn. The colour and texture of the images were amazing for me at that time - won’t be now for sure. Then came dial-up but still they were predominantly static pictures. Then came downloadable videos. It’s a pain to download and watch now - but it was heaven sent then as we were coming out of the static porn era! Oh, the streaming tube sites haven’t arrived yet.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"><strong>When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"><strong>When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn.</p> <p>At the age of forty, I was visiting my online harem daily, drinking ‘socially’ (whatever that means) and smoking ‘sometimes’ but not so often. I had wrongly subscribed to misguided ideas of ‘moderation’ and ‘entitlement’. I had reached the stage where I couldn&rsquo;t get through a single day without reaching out to porn in the night. With most PMOers, the triggers are the normal stresses of life, like answering the telephone or socializing.</p> <p>When I experienced PIED - I knew it was killing my virility. There was no way I could kid myself otherwise. I am smart enough not to ‘project’ the porn fantasies on to real life. But it was like pacifying a dog straining at its leash. But why I couldn&rsquo;t see what it was doing to me mentally, I could not understand. It was almost jumping up and biting me on the nose. The ridiculous thing is that most PMOers suffer the delusion at some time in their life that they enjoy internet porn because it is ‘normal’ and ‘healthy’. I never suffered that delusion, I PMOed because I thought enjoying sex is a ‘birthright’ and I am only doing a normal thing.</p> <p>Since it was easier at most times for me to get internet porn than a partner I thought I am doing the normal thing. Now I am a non-PMOer, the most difficult part is trying to believe that those days actually happened. It&rsquo;s like awakening from a nightmare and that is about the size of it. Internet porn is a supranormal drug. It is weakening your de-stressing mechanisms, your virility and your energy. The worst aspect of PMO isn&rsquo;t the injury to your health or manliness, it is the warping of the mind. You search for any plausible excuse to go on.</p> <p>I remember at one stage switching to static images, a failed attempt to cut down on internet porn, in the belief that it was less harmful and I could reign in my ‘habit’. I failed to see the ‘novelty’ and the ‘shock’ demands from my ‘little monster’ to just get more dopamine. Did I ‘stay’ within my boundaries? I ‘favorited’ 2 dimensional photos and my harem collection saw pictures and videos of ‘mild’ type porn rotating in and out like musical chair. When their ‘music’ stopped they ‘exited’. I didn’t understand the novelty-seeking, shock-seeking nature of my brain.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pied-and-my-excuses"><strong>PIED And My Excuses</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="pied-and-my-excuses"><strong>PIED And My Excuses</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pied-and-my-excuses"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.</p> <p>Most PMOers swear that they only watch static and soft porn and so they are OK. They are actually straining at the leash and thus fighting with their willpower to resist temptations. If they do this too often and for too long they will debit their willpower considerably and fail in other life projects where willpower is of much great value, like in daily exercise, dieting etc. Continuous failure in those areas will make them feel miserable and guilty and very soon they will find themselves back to their entitled relief. If not, they will vent their anger and depression onto their loved ones.</p> <p>The answer is that once you have become addicted to internet porn, the brainwashing is increased. Your subconscious mind knows that the little monster has to be fed and you block everything else from your mind. As I have already stated, it is fear that keeps people quitting, the fear of that empty, insecure feeling that you get when you stop supplying the brain with dopamine flooding. Just because you are not aware of it doesn&rsquo;t mean it isn&rsquo;t there. You don&rsquo;t have to understand it any more than a cat needs to understand where the under-floor hot-water pipes are. It just knows that if it sits in a certain place it gets the feeling of warmth.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind"><strong>The Passivity Of Our Mind</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind"><strong>The Passivity Of Our Mind</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-passivity-of-our-mind"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I&rsquo;ve frequently referred to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo; PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo;, but to stopping, quitting or the true position: <strong>ESCAPING!</strong></p> <p>The only thing that persuades us to PMO in the first place is all the other people doing it. We feel we are missing out. We work so hard to become hooked, yet nobody ever finds out what they have been missing. But every time we see another new video clip it reassures us that there must be something in it, otherwise people wouldn&rsquo;t be doing it - and it wouldn&rsquo;t be such big business all over the world. Even when he has kicked the habit, the ex-PMOer feels he is being deprived when a discussion on a sexy entertainer, singer or even a porn star comes up at a party or other social function. She or he must be good to have all my friends talk about them, no? Do they have ‘hot’ pictures of her in my tube site? He feels safe. He can have just one ‘peek’ that night. And, before he knows it, he is hooked again.</p> <p>This brainwashing is extremely powerful and you need to be aware of its effects. I have heard scare stories about wicked men giving heroin mixed candies to kids at schoolyards. The concept of addiction and being compelled to go on taking the drug, filled me with horror. Even to this day, in spite of the fact that I am fairly convinced that &lsquo;pot&rsquo; is not addictive, I would not dare take one puff of marijuana. How ironic that I should have ended up a porn junky. Technology will continue to grow and we will have even faster tube sites and more faster access methods. The industry is investing millions in Virtual Reality so it will become the next best thing. The point is, do we know where we are going? Are we equipped with an under armour of defence so we can enjoy the benefits of technology yet at the same time protect ourselves from its bad effects?</p> @@ -2586,8 +2653,9 @@ action more happy feelings.</p> <p>So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. All of which will now be stored as a script in your brain for easy access next time. I call this a ‘water slide’. Next time at the cue - a sexy commercial or alone time or stress or feeling a little down - you are ready to take a ride on the ‘water slide’. One more thing is that every time to repeat this you are ‘greasing’ it as well - so it is active, alive and more easier to slide the next time.</p> <p>As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating. Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish, ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you won’t on your first time.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="my-own-online-harem"><strong>My Own Online Harem!</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="my-own-online-harem"><strong>My Own Online Harem!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#my-own-online-harem"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost.</p> <p>Going back to the earlier discussion - in this cycle as you crossed the ‘red line’ you also trigger emotions such as guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety and fear - which in turn raise dopamine levels as well. Now the brain may mistakenly associate feelings of anxiety and fear as sexual arousal. This perpetual cycle is only broken by natural causes - fortunately sooner or later. With its free access and privacy it provides boundless harem-like novelty. The dopamine can be theoretically kept very high for a very very long time. I can be satisfied with one lobster once in awhile. But Internet porn is different. It is even worse than drugs. Don’t let me make you nervous. I will shortly show you how to be free from this slavery.</p> <p>Now our human body has a self-correcting system by which the number of dopamine and opioid receptors are cut short when frequent and daily ‘flooding’ of dopamine is detected. Unfortunately - these receptors are also needed for receiving dopamine and to keep us even and balanced to handle the inevitable and normal day-to-day stresses. But this natural nominal amount of dopamine will not be absorbed efficiently with decreased receptors and you will feel mores tressed and irritated than normal.</p> @@ -2601,14 +2669,16 @@ action more happy feelings.</p> use?</p> <p>This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I will explain more about this later.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-little-monster"><strong>The Little Monster</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-little-monster"><strong>The Little Monster</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-little-monster"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&rsquo; we think we just &lsquo;got into the habit&rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.</p> <p>Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, resulting in the feeling of fulfilment and pleasure that the action gives to the PMOer. In the early days, when we first start PMOing, the withdrawal pangs and their relief are so slight that we are not even aware that they exist. When we begin to masturbate regularly to internet porn we think it is because we&rsquo;ve either come to enjoy them or got into the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. The truth is we&rsquo;re already hooked; we do not realize it, but that little monster is already inside our stomach and every now and again we have to feed it.</p> <p>All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster. The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had before he became hooked in the first place.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm"><strong>The Annoying Burglar Alarm</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm"><strong>The Annoying Burglar Alarm</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-annoying-burglar-alarm"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain goes on. It is a chain for life - <strong>UNLESS YOU BREAK IT</strong>.</p> <p>The whole business of PMO is like wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure you feel when you take them off. There are three main reasons why PMOers cannot see things that way:</p> @@ -2621,8 +2691,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <p>The heroin doesn&rsquo;t relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a 14 year old in 2008 - didn&rsquo;t suffer the empty feeling of needing internet porn or start to panic when they are off- line. Non-PMOers cannot understand how PMOers can possibly obtain pleasure from two dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. And do you know something? PMOers themselves cannot understand why they do it after some time either.</p> <p>We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don&rsquo;t non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their &rsquo;little monster&rsquo;?</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch"><strong>A Pleasure or Crutch?</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch"><strong>A Pleasure or Crutch?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#a-pleasure-or-crutch"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;I need to eat.&rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.</p> <p>PMOing appears to be almost identical. The empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;wanting or needing an PMO orgasm’ is identical to a hunger for food, although one will not satisfy the other. Like hunger, there is no physical pain and the feeling is so imperceptible that we are not even aware of it between PMO sessions. It&rsquo;s only if we want to masturbate and aren&rsquo;t able to reach internet for porn that we become aware of any discomfort. But when we do PMO we feel satisfied.</p> <p>It is this similarity to eating which helps to fool PMOers into believing that they receive some genuine pleasure. Some PMOers find it very difficult to grasp that there is no pleasure or crutch, whatsoever to PMO. Some argue: “How can you say there is no crutch? When I orgasm up then I&rsquo;llfeel less nervous than before.”</p> @@ -2633,13 +2704,15 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <li>Eating doesn&rsquo;t create hunger and genuinely relieves it, whereas the first PMO starts the craving for dopamine and each subsequent one, far from relieving it, ensures that you suffer it for the rest of life.</li> </ol> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pmo-is-a-habit"><strong>PMO is a Habit?</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="pmo-is-a-habit"><strong>PMO is a Habit?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pmo-is-a-habit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.</p> <p>On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience, I also refer to the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> - we have to then have more bizarre and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting&hellip; not in the killing. If we don&rsquo;t then panic sets in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great!</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="crossing-the-red-line"><strong>Crossing The Red Line</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="crossing-the-red-line"><strong>Crossing The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#crossing-the-red-line"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.</p> <p>You feel better than you did before starting this PMO session but you are in fact more nervous and less relaxed than you would be as a non-PMOer, like someone who is living in Loma Linda or in an Amish village, even though you are actually PMOing and living in your supposed “porn paradise.” This position is even more ridiculous than wearing tight shoes because as you go through life an increasing amount of the discomfort remains even when the shoes are removed.</p> <p>Once the orgasm is achieved, the dopamine rapidly begins to leave the brain, causing a mood dip. Which explains why the PMOer wants to ‘edge’<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> and switch through multiple browser windows as they seek and search. As I said, the ‘habit’ doesn&rsquo;t exist. The real reason why every user goes on using internet porn is because of that little porn monster inside his stomach. Every now and again he has to feed it. The PMOer himself will decide when he does that and it tends to be on four types of occasion or a combination of them.</p> @@ -2651,20 +2724,23 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <p>What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If you think about it, what other types of occasion are there in our lives; apart from sleep? The truth is that PMO neither relieves boredom and stress nor promotes concentration and relaxation. It is all just illusion. Apart from being a drug, PMO is also a destroyer of happiness and virility.</p> <p>In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes, print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’ and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive without knowing the difference between food and poison.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"><strong>Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"><strong>Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!</p> <p>When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were titillating but most were disgusting, causing you to avert your eyes away. Like you would if had accidentally glanced a feeding mother’s breast. And some of us are even revolted with what they saw when the star reminded them of someone dear to their heart or a scene which recalled their own instance of being the victim. Some don’t feel like it to browse and masturbate at the same time. It may be hard to believe for you but the non-PMOs, who don’t PMO after their first time, are the lucky ones. They actually decided that it was not their cup of tea. It must be hard for you to believe but stay with me.</p> <p>How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even after a hard day? Why not? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That&rsquo;s all.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak"><strong>Are PMOers Mentally Weak?</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak"><strong>Are PMOers Mentally Weak?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#are-pmoers-mentally-weak"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.</p> <p>To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to become hooked, and this is why it is difficult to stop teenagers. Because they are skilled in seeking and finding material, they know online privacy options and can clean their tracks - if they still feel some stigma and they (wrongfully) believe they can stop whenever they want to. Why do they not learn from us? Then again, why did we not learn from our PMOers and addicts?</p> <p>Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of ‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying is the ritual of relieving those pangs.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"><strong>The High From The Dance Around The Red Line</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"><strong>The High From The Dance Around The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.</p> <p>Ask a user who believes that he sticks to a certain actor or genre - only because he likes something about the star or the theme (if any) of the clip: “If you cannot get your normal brand of porn and can only obtain a poor or unsafe brand, do you stop masturbating?” No way. A PMOer will masturbate to anything rather than abstain and it doesn&rsquo;t matter if he has to switch to escalating themes, different sex-orientation-themes, look-alike actresses, dangerous settings shocking relationships etc. To begin with they taste awful but if you persevere you will learn to like them. Most PMOers will also try to seek masturbation even after having real sex (unfulfilment, porn-induced unrealistic expectations etc.), or after a long, stressful work day, fever, colds, flu, sore throats and even when admitted in hospitals.</p> <p>Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wanted then it makes no sense to be with your laptop. During my conversation some PMOers find it alarming to realize they are drug addicts and think it will make it even more difficult to stop. In fact, it is all good news for two important reasons:</p> @@ -2674,14 +2750,16 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to </ol> <p>You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc. The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn&rsquo;t bother the PMOers.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-smokers-analogy"><strong>The Smokers Analogy</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-smokers-analogy"><strong>The Smokers Analogy</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-smokers-analogy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they&rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn&rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.</p> <p>PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their parents while visiting for family get togethers etc. with little discomfort to themselves. In fact, most PMOers have extended periods during which they abstain without effort. Even in my case I would quite happily go a week or so without a PMO incident. In the later years as a PMOer I actually used to look forward to these days when I could stop choking my penis (what a ridiculous &lsquo;habit&rsquo;).</p> <p>The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"><strong>The Big Monster - The Brainwashing</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"><strong>The Big Monster - The Brainwashing</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.</p> <p>Not all the amateurs are ‘amateurs’ on these tube sites, oversized body parts and overcharged scenarios are the norm, aided by a bit of the ‘viagran’ help.</p> <p>As I say, the actual porn addiction is not the main problem. It just acts as a catalyst to keep our minds confused over the real problem: the brainwashing. It may be of consolation to lifelong and heavy PMOers to know that it is just as easy for them to stop as casual PMOers. In a peculiar way. it is easier. The further you go along with the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;, the more it drags you down and the greater the gain when you stop.</p> @@ -2911,8 +2989,9 @@ Do not take anything for granted. Question not only what I tell you but also you https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/02-01-introduction/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo">&lsquo;I&rsquo;M GOING TO CURE THE WORLD OF PMO&rsquo;</h2> -</div> +<h2 id="im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo">&lsquo;I&rsquo;M GOING TO CURE THE WORLD OF PMO&rsquo; <a class="anchor" href="#im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>I was talking to my mentor. He thought that I had flipped. Understandable if you consider that he had watched me fail on numerous attempts to quit. The most recent had been two years previously. I&rsquo;d actually survived six months of sheer purgatory before I finally succumbed and found myself clicking on stacked up tabs of porn sites. I&rsquo;m not ashamed to admit that I cried like a baby. I was crying because I knew that I was condemned to be an addict for life. I&rsquo;d put so much effort into that attempt and suffered so much misery that I knew I would never have the strength to go through that ordeal again. I&rsquo;m not a violent man, but if some patronizing non-PMO’er had been stupid enough at that moment to suggest to me that all users can find it easy to quit, immediately and permanently, I would not have been responsible for my actions. However, I&rsquo;m convinced that any jury in the world, comprised of PMOers only, would have pardoned me on the grounds of justifiable homicide.</p> <p>Perhaps you too find it impossible to believe that any PMOer can find it easy to quit. If so, I beg you not to cast this book into the rubbish bin. Please trust me. I assure you that you can find it easy to quit.</p> @@ -3049,21 +3128,30 @@ porn and or masturbation&#160;<a href="#fnref:2" class="footn https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/00-00-hackbookeasypeasy/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h1 id="a-hrefhackbookhackbookpdfclick-to-download-hackbookeasypeasy-original-pdfa"><a href="https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook/hackbook.pdf">Click to download HackBookEasyPeasy (original pdf)</a></h1> -<h3 id="easypeasyway">EasyPeasyWay</h3> -<h4 id="httpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhomehttpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhome"><a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a></h4> -<p><em>HackBookEasyPeasy EasyPeasyWay <a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a> I am Allen Carr. I am also not Allen Carr. So yes I am not the author. I am the hack-author.</em></p> +<h1 id="a-hrefhackbookhackbookpdfclick-to-download-hackbookeasypeasy-original-pdfa"><a href="https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook/hackbook.pdf">Click to download HackBookEasyPeasy (original pdf)</a> <a class="anchor" href="#a-hrefhackbookhackbookpdfclick-to-download-hackbookeasypeasy-original-pdfa"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><h3 id="easypeasyway">EasyPeasyWay <a class="anchor" href="#easypeasyway"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><h4 id="httpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhomehttpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhome"><a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a> <a class="anchor" href="#httpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhomehttpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhome"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><p><em>HackBookEasyPeasy EasyPeasyWay <a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a> I am Allen Carr. I am also not Allen Carr. So yes I am not the author. I am the hack-author.</em></p> <p><em>I hacked Allen Carr’s book and his method of de-addiction to adapt it for PMO. Why? Because his method helped me in getting rid of cigarettes, alcohol and then PMO. Why did I hack his work? Because he is dead now. And the institution that he had formed does not list Internet pornography as one of the addictions that it provides services for. I don&rsquo;t gain monetarily or otherwise. Above all - you won’t ‘find’ me in this book. Myself and Allen will appear and disappear in this book to provide you with an unique and effective method to get your mind de-addicted.</em></p> -<h4 id="important-advice-for-you"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong></h4> -<p><em>The common thread running through Allen Carr&rsquo;s work is the removal of fear. Indeed, his genius lies in eliminating the phobias and anxieties which prevent people from being able to enjoy life to the full, as his best-selling books vividly demonstrate. His method is solid and has high success rates. It helped cure me of not one but three addictions. There is a network of clinics that uses his methods that span the globe and has a phenomenal reputation for success in helping people to quit addictions (except PMO). Their success rate is over 95% with money-back guarantees.</em></p> +<h4 id="important-advice-for-you"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#important-advice-for-you"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#do-not-jump-chapters"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><p><em>The common thread running through Allen Carr&rsquo;s work is the removal of fear. Indeed, his genius lies in eliminating the phobias and anxieties which prevent people from being able to enjoy life to the full, as his best-selling books vividly demonstrate. His method is solid and has high success rates. It helped cure me of not one but three addictions. There is a network of clinics that uses his methods that span the globe and has a phenomenal reputation for success in helping people to quit addictions (except PMO). Their success rate is over 95% with money-back guarantees.</em></p> <p><em>Hackbook : A book based and hacked from another book. The original author is credited fully.</em></p> -<h4 id="important-advice-for-you-1"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters-1"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence-1"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong></h4> -<p><em>Dr. Albert Ellis&rsquo; autobiography - &ldquo;All Out!&rdquo;</em></p> +<h4 id="important-advice-for-you-1"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#important-advice-for-you-1"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters-1"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#do-not-jump-chapters-1"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence-1"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence-1"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><p><em>Dr. Albert Ellis&rsquo; autobiography - &ldquo;All Out!&rdquo;</em></p> <p><em>“I used to wrongly think that most of them (addicts) were aided by self-help groups like AA, by therapy, or some other real support. But no. The facts show that more people surrender their addictions on their own-without any notable help from others. How? Mainly by seeing, acknowledging, and emphasizing how hard it is not to stop and how much easier it is-in the long run- to suffer through the withdrawal process.”</em></p> </div> @@ -3075,8 +3163,9 @@ formed does not list Internet pornography as one of the addictions that it provi Sat, 17 Dec 2022 22:33:25 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/pluralization-issues/ - <h3 id="this-is-my-first-entry-and-im-already-having-issues-lol">this is my first entry and i&rsquo;m already having issues lol</h3> -<p>So I wanted to make a quick entry, see how it looks like and I stumbled upon this issue of hugo pluralzing Blog into Blogs</p> + <h3 id="this-is-my-first-entry-and-im-already-having-issues-lol">this is my first entry and i&rsquo;m already having issues lol <a class="anchor" href="#this-is-my-first-entry-and-im-already-having-issues-lol"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>So I wanted to make a quick entry, see how it looks like and I stumbled upon this issue of hugo pluralzing Blog into Blogs</p> <p>You can fix this in config.toml with the following line</p> <blockquote> <div class="highlight"><pre tabindex="0" style="color:#f8f8f2;background-color:#272822;-moz-tab-size:4;-o-tab-size:4;tab-size:4;"><code class="language-toml" data-lang="toml"><span style="display:flex;"><span><span style="color:#a6e22e">pluralizelisttitles</span> = <span style="color:#66d9ef">false</span> @@ -3090,11 +3179,13 @@ formed does not list Internet pornography as one of the addictions that it provi Sat, 17 Dec 2022 17:20:18 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/helloworld/ - <h1 id="obligatory-hello-world">Obligatory Hello World!</h1> -<p>trying to see which hugo theme i like best</p> + <h1 id="obligatory-hello-world">Obligatory Hello World! <a class="anchor" href="#obligatory-hello-world"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><p>trying to see which hugo theme i like best</p> <p>had some issues with papermod and their css not working so for now i&rsquo;ll use lugo</p> -<h2 id="stuff-i-like">stuff i like</h2> -<ul> +<h2 id="stuff-i-like">stuff i like <a class="anchor" href="#stuff-i-like"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ul> <li>touching grass and nature in general (wannabe farmer)</li> <li>にっぽんese <ul> diff --git a/new-site/public/library/ted-kaczynski/industrial-society-and-its-future/index.html b/new-site/public/library/ted-kaczynski/industrial-society-and-its-future/index.html index e93d14bf..d7bbcc30 100644 --- a/new-site/public/library/ted-kaczynski/industrial-society-and-its-future/index.html +++ b/new-site/public/library/ted-kaczynski/industrial-society-and-its-future/index.html @@ -1,23 +1,24 @@ - - - - Industrial Society and Its Future | vodoraslo - - - - - - - - - - -
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          1. The Industrial Revolution and its consequences have been a disaster for the human race. They have greatly increased the life expectancy of those of us who live in “advanced” countries, but they have destabilized society, have made life unfulfilling, have subjected human beings to indignities, have led to widespread psychological suffering (in the Third World to physical suffering as well) and have inflicted severe damage on the natural world. The continued development of technology will worsen the situation. It will certainly subject human beings to greater indignities and inflict greater damage on the natural world, it will probably lead to greater social disruption and psychological suffering, and it may lead to increased physical suffering even in “advanced” countries.

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            In this article we give attention to only some of the negative developments that have grown out of the industrial-technological system. Other such developments we mention only briefly or ignore altogether. This does not mean that we regard these other developments as unimportant. For practical reasons we have to confine our discussion to areas that have received insufficient public attention or in which we have something new to say. For example, since there are well-developed environmental and wilderness movements, we have written very little about environmental degradation or the destruction of wild nature, even though we consider these to be highly important.

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            1. Almost everyone will agree that we live in a deeply troubled society. One of the most widespread manifestations of the craziness of our world is leftism, so a discussion of the psychology of leftism can serve as an introduction to the discussion of the problems of modern society in general.

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              The two psychological tendencies that underlie modern leftism we call feelings of inferiority and oversocialization. Feelings of inferiority are characteristic of modern leftism as a whole, while oversocialization is characteristic only of a certain segment of modern leftism; but this segment is highly influential.

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              1. By “feelings of inferiority” we mean not only inferiority feelings in the strict sense but a whole spectrum of related traits: low self-esteem, feelings of powerlessness, depressive tendencies, defeatism, guilt, self-hatred, etc. We argue that modern leftists tend to have some such feelings (possibly more or less repressed), and that these feelings are decisive in determining the direction of modern leftism.

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                We emphasize that the foregoing does not pretend to be an accurate description of everyone who might be considered a leftist. It is only a rough indication of a general tendency of leftism.

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                1. Psychologists use the term “socialization” to designate the process by which children are trained to think and act as society demands. A person is said to be well socialized if he believes in and obeys the moral code of his society and fits in well as a functioning part of that society. It may seem senseless to say that many leftists are oversocialized, since the leftist is perceived as a rebel. Nevertheless, the position can be defended. Many leftists are not such rebels as they seem.

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                  The problems of the leftist are indicative of the problems of our society as a whole. Low self-esteem, depressive tendencies and defeatism are not restricted to the left. Though they are especially noticeable in the left, they are widespread in our society. And today’s society tries to socialize us to a greater extent than any previous society. We are even told by experts how to eat, how to exercise, how to make love, how to raise our kids and so forth.

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                  1. Human beings have a need (probably based in biology) for something that we will call the power process. This is closely related to the need for power (which is widely recognized) but is not quite the same thing. The power process has four elements. The three most clear-cut of these we call goal, effort and attainment of goal. (Everyone needs to have goals whose attainment requires effort, and needs to succeed in attaining at least some of his goals.) The fourth element is more difficult to define and may not be necessary for everyone. We call it autonomy and will discuss it later (paragraphs 42–44).

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                    Thus, in order to avoid serious psychological problems, a human being needs goals whose attainment requires effort, and he must have a reasonable rate of success in attaining his goals.

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                    1. But not every leisured aristocrat becomes bored and demoralized. For example, the emperor Hirohito, instead of sinking into decadent hedonism, devoted himself to marine biology, a field in which he became distinguished. When people do not have to exert themselves to satisfy their physical needs they often set up artificial goals for themselves. In many cases they then pursue these goals with the same energy and emotional involvement that they otherwise would have put into the search for physical necessities. Thus the aristocrats of the Roman Empire had their literary pretensions; many European aristocrats a few centuries ago invested tremendous time and energy in hunting, though they certainly didn’t need the meat; other aristocracies have competed for status through elaborate displays of wealth; and a few aristocrats, like Hirohito, have turned to science.

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                      For many if not most people, surrogate activities are less satistying than the pursuit of real goals (that is, goals that people would want to attain even if their need for the power process were already fulfilled). One indication of this is the fact that, in many or most cases, people who are deeply involved in surrogate activities are never satisfied, never at rest. Thus the money-maker constantly strives for more and more wealth. The scientist no sooner solves one problem than he moves on to the next. The long-distance runner drives himself to run always farther and faster. Many people who pursue surrogate activities will say that they get far more fulfillment from these activities than they do from the “mundane” business of satisfying their biological needs, but that is because in our society the effort required to satisfy the biological needs has been reduced to triviality. More importantly, in our society people do not satisty their biological needs AUTONOMOUSLY but by functioning as parts of an immense social machine. In contrast, people generally have a great deal of autonomy in pursuing their surrogate activities.

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                      1. Autonomy as a part of the power process may not be necessary for every individual. But most people need a greater or lesser degree of autonomy in working toward their goals. Their efforts must be undertaken on their own initiative and must be under their own direction and control. Yet most people do not have to exert this initiative, direction and control as single individuals. It is usually enough to act as a member of a SMALL group. Thus if half a dozen people discuss a goal among themselves and make a successful joint effort to attain that goal, their need for the power process will be served. But if they work under rigid orders handed down from above that leave them no room for autonomous decision and initiative, then their need for the power process will not be served. The same is true when decisions are made on a collective basis if the group making the collective decision is so large that the role of each individual is insignificant.5

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                        But for most people it is through the power process—having a goal, making an AUTONOMOUS effort and attaining the goal—that self-esteem, self-confidence and a sense of power are acquired. When one does not have adequate opportunity to go through the power process the consequences are (depending on the individual and on the way the power process is disrupted) boredom, demoralization, low self-esteem, inferiority feelings, defeatism, depression, anxiety, guilt, frustration, hostility, spouse or child abuse, insatiable hedonism, abnormal sexual behavior, sleep disorders, eating disorders, etc.6

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                        1. Any of the foregoing symptoms can occur in any society, but in modern industrial society they are present on a massive scale. We aren’t the first to mention that the world today seems to be going crazy. This sort of thing is not normal for human societies. There is good reason to believe that primitive man suffered from less stress and frustration and was better satisfied with his way of life than modern man is. It is true that not all was sweetness and light in primitive societies. Abuse of women was common among the Australian aborigines, transsexuality was fairly common among some of the American Indian tribes. But it does appear that GENERALLY SPEAKING the kinds of problems that we have listed in the preceding paragraph were far less common among primitive peoples than they are in modern society.

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                          It would be possible to give other examples of societies in which there has been rapid change and/or lack of close community ties without the kind of massive behavioral aberration that is seen in today’s industrial society. We contend that the most important cause of social and psychological problems in modern society is the fact that people have insufficient opportunity to go through the power process in a normal way. We don’t mean to say that modern society is the only one in which the power process has been disrupted. Probably most if not all civilized societies have interfered with the power process to a greater or lesser extent. But in modern industrial society the problem has become particularly acute. Leftism, at least in its recent (mid- to late-20th century) form, is in part a symptom of deprivation with respect to the power process.

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                          1. We divide human drives into three groups: (1) those drives that can be satisfied with minimal effort; (2) those that can be satisfied but only at the cost of serious effort; (3) those that cannot be adequately satisfied no matter how much effort one makes. The power process is the process of satistying the drives of the second group. The more drives there are in the third group, the more there is frustration, anger, eventually defeatism, depression, etc.

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                            In response to the arguments of this section someone will say, “Society must find a way to give people the opportunity to go through the power process.” This won’t work for those who need autonomy in the power process. For such people the value of the opportunity is destroyed by the very fact that society gives it to them. What they need is to find or make their own opportunities. As long as the system GIVES them their opportunities it still has them on a leash. To attain autonomy they must get off that leash.

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                            1. Not everyone in industrial-technological society suffers from psychological problems. Some people even profess to be quite satisfied with society as it is. We now discuss some of the reasons why people differ so greatly in their response to modern society.

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                              But even if most people in industrial-technological society were well satisfied, we (FC) would still be opposed to that form of society, because (among other reasons) we consider it demeaning to fulfill one’s need for the power process through surrogate activities or through identification with an organization, rather than through pursuit of real goals.

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                              1. Science and technology provide the most important examples of surrogate activities. Some scientists claim that they are motivated by “curiosity” or by a desire to “benefit humanity.” But it is easy to see that neither of these can be the principal motive of most scientists. As for “curiosity,” that notion is simply absurd. Most scientists work on highly specialized problems that are not the object of any normal curiosity. For example, is an astronomer, a mathematician or an entomologist curious about the properties of isopropyltrimethylmethane? Of course not. Only a chemist is curious about such a thing, and he is curious about it only because chemistry is his surrogate activity. Is the chemist curious about the appropriate classification of a new species of beetle? No. That question is of interest only to the entomologist, and he is interested in it only because entomology is his surrogate activity. If the chemist and the entomologist had to exert themselves seriously to obtain the physical necessities, and if that effort exercised their abilities in an interesting way but in some nonscientific pursuit, then they wouldn’t give a damn about isopropyltrimethylmethane or the classification of beetles. Suppose that lack of funds for postgraduate education had led the chemist to become an insurance broker instead of a chemist. In that case he would have been very interested in insurance matters but would have cared nothing about isopropyltrimcthylmethane. In any case it is not normal to put into the satisfaction of mere curiosity the amount of time and effort that scientists put into their work. The “curiosity” explanation for the scientists’ motive just doesn’t stand up.

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                                Thus science marches on blindly, without regard to the real welfare of the human race or to any other standard, obedient only to the psychological needs of the scientists and of the government officials and corporation executives who provide the funds for research.

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                                1. We are going to argue that industrial-technological society cannot be reformed in such a way as to prevent it from progressively narrowing the sphere of human freedom. But because “freedom” is a word that can be interpreted in many ways, we must first make clear what kind of freedom we are concerned with.

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                                  One more point to be made in this section: It should not be assumed that a person has enough freedom just because he SAYS he has enough. Freedom is restricted in part by psychological controls of which people are unconscious, and moreover many people’s ideas of what constitutes freedom are governed more by social convention than by their real needs. For example, it’s likely that many leftists of the oversocialized type would say that most people, including themselves, are socialized too little rather than too much, yet the oversocialized leftist pays a heavy psychological price for his high level of socialization.

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                                  1. Think of history as being the sum of two components: an erratic component that consists of unpredictable events that follow no discernible pattern, and a regular component that consists of long-term historical trends. Here we are concerned with the long-term trends.

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                                    Still, one has to use common sense in applying the principles. They are expressed in imprecise language that allows latitude for interpretation, and exceptions to them can be found. So we present these principles not as inviolable laws but as rules of thumb, or guides to thinking, that may provide a partial antidote to naive ideas about the future of society. The principles should be borne constantly in mind, and whenever one reaches a conclusion that conflicts with them one should carefully reexamine one’s thinking and retain the conclusion only if one has good, solid reasons for doing so.

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                                    1. The foregoing principles help to show how hopelessly difficult it would be to reform the industrial system in such a way as to prevent it from progressively narrowing our sphere of freedom. There has been a consistent tendency, going back at least to the Industrial Revolution, for technology to strengthen the system at a high cost in individual freedom and local autonomy. Hence any change designed to protect freedom from technology would be contrary to a fundamental trend in the development of our society. Consequently, such a change either would be a transitory one—soon swamped by the tide of history—or, if large enough to be permanent, would alter the nature of our whole society. This by the first and second principles. Moreover, since society would be altered in a way that could not be predicted in advance (third principle) there would be great risk. Changes large enough to make a lasting difference in favor of freedom would not be initiated because it would be realized that they would gravely disrupt the system. So any attempts at reform would be too timid to be effective. Even if changes large enough to make a lasting difference were initiated, they would be retracted when their disruptive effects became apparent. Thus, permanent changes in favor of freedom could be brought about only by persons prepared to accept radical, dangerous and unpredictable alteration of the entire system. In other words by revolutionaries, not reformers.

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                                      So even on very general grounds it seems highly improbable that any way of changing society could be found that would reconcile freedom with modern technology. In the next few sections we will give more specific reasons for concluding that freedom and technological progress are incompatible.

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                                      1. As explained in paragraphs 65–67, 70–73, modern man is strapped down by a network of rules and regulations, and his fate depends on the actions of persons remote from him whose decisions he cannot influence. This is not accidental or a result of the arbitrariness of arrogant bureaucrats. It is necessary and inevitable in any technologically advanced society. The system HAS TO regulate human behavior closely in order to function. At work, people have to do what they are told to do, when they are told to do it and in the way they are told to do it, otherwise production would be thrown into chaos. Bureaucracies HAVE TO be run according to rigid rules. To allow any substantial personal discretion to lower-level bureaucrats would disrupt the system and lead to charges of unfairness due to differences in the way individual bureaucrats exercised their discretion. It is true that some restrictions on our freedom could be eliminated. but GENERALLY SPEAKING the regulation of our lives by large organizations is necessary for the functioning of industrial-technological society. The result is a sense of powerlessness on the part of the average person. It may be. however. that formal regulations will tend increasingly to be replaced by psychological tools that make us want to do what the system requires of us. (Propaganda,14 educational techniques, “mental health” programs, etc.)

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                                        Efforts to make room for a sense of purpose and for autonomy within the system are no better than a joke. For example, one company, instead of having each of its employees assemble only one section of a catalogue, had each assemble a whole catalogue, and this was supposed to give them a sense of purpose and achievement. Some companies have tried to give their employees more autonomy in their work, but for practical reasons this usually can be done only to a very limited extent, and in any case employees are never given autonomy as to ultimate goals—their “autonomous” efforts can never be directed toward goals that they select personally, but only toward their employer’s goals, such as the survival and growth of the company. Any company would soon go out of business if it permitted its employees to act otherwise. Similarly, in any enterprise within a socialist system, workers must direct their efforts toward the goals of the enterprise, otherwise the enterprise will not serve its purpose as part of the system. Once again, for purely technical reasons it is not possible for most individuals or small groups to have much autonomy in industrial society. Even the small-business owner commonly has only limited autonomy. Apart from the necessity of government regulation, he is restricted by the fact that he must fit into the economic system and conform to its requirements. For instance, when someone develops a new technology, the small-business person often has to use that technology whether he wants to or not, in order to remain competitive.

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                                        1. A further reason why industrial society cannot be reformed in favor of freedom is that modern technology is a unified system in which all parts are dependent on one another. You can’t get rid of the “bad” parts of technology and retain only the “good” parts. Take modern medicine, for example. Progress in medical science depends on progress in chemistry, physics, biology, computer science and other fields. Advanced medical treatments require expensive, high-tech equipment that can be made available only by a technologically progressive, economically rich society. Clearly you can’t have much progress in medicine without the whole technological system and everything that goes with it.

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                                          The usual response to such concerns is to talk about “medical ethics.” But a code of ethics would not serve to protect freedom in the face of medical progress; it would only make matters worse. A code of ethics applicable to genetic engineering would be in effect a means of regulating the genetic constitution of human beings. Somebody (probably the upper middle class, mostly) would decide that such and such applications of genetic engineering were “ethical” and others were not, so that in effect they would be imposing their own values on the genetic constitution of the population at large. Even if a code of ethics were chosen on a completely democratic basis, the majority would be imposing their own values on any minorities who might have a different idea of what constituted an “ethical” use of genetic engineering. The only code of ethics that would truly protect freedom would be one that prohibited ANY genetic engineering of human beings, and you can be sure that no such code will ever be applied in a technological society. No code that reduced genetic engineering to a minor role could stand up for long, because the temptation presented by the immense power of biotechnology would be irresistible, especially since to the majority of people many of its applications will seem obviously and unequivocally good (eliminating physical and mental diseases, giving people the abilities they need to get along in today’s world). Inevitably, genetic engineering will be used extensively, but only in ways consistent with the needs of the industrial-technological system.20

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                                          1. It is not possible to make a LASTING compromise between technology and freedom, because technology is by far the more powerful social force and continually encroaches on freedom through REPEATED compromises. Imagine the case of two neighbors, each of whom at the outset owns the same amount of land, but one of whom is more powerful than the other. The powerful one demands a piece of the other’s land. The weak one refuses. The powerful one says, “Okay, let’s compromise. Give me half of what I asked.” The weak one has little choice but to give in. Some time later the powerful neighbor demands another piece of land, again there is a compromise, and so forth. By forcing a long series of compromises on the weaker man, the powerful one eventually gets all of his land. So it goes in the conflict between technology and freedom.

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                                            In paragraph 125 we used an analogy of a weak neighbor who is left destitute by a strong neighbor who takes all his land by forcing on him a series of compromises. But suppose now that the strong neighbor gets sick, so that he is unable to defend himself. The weak neighbor can force the strong one to give him his land back, or he can kill him. If he lets the strong man survive and only forces him to give the land back, he is a fool, because when the strong man gets well he will again take all the land for himself. The only sensible alternative for the weaker man is to kill the strong one while he has the chance. In the same way, while the industrial system is sick we must destroy it. If we compromise with it and let it recover from its sickness, it will eventually wipe out all of our freedom.

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                                            1. If anyone still imagines that it would be possible to reform the system in such a way as to protect freedom from technology, let him consider how clumsily and for the most part unsuccessfully our society has dealt with other social problems that are far more simple and straightforward. Among other things, the system has failed to stop environmental degradation, political corruption, drug trafficking or domestic abuse.

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                                              And note this important difference: It is conceivable that our environmental problems (for example) may some day be settled through a rational, comprehensive plan, but if this happens it will be only because it is in the long-term interest of the system to solve these problems. But it is NOT in the interest of the system to preserve freedom or small-group autonomy. On the contrary, it is in the interest of the system to bring human behavior under control to the greatest possible extent.24 Thus, while practical considerations may eventually force the system to take a rational, prudent approach to environmental problems, equally practical considerations will force the system to regulate human behavior ever more closely (preferably by indirect means that will disguise the encroachment on freedom). This isn’t just our opinion. Eminent social scientists (e.g., James Q. Wilson) have stressed the importance of “socializing” people more effectively.

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                                              1. We hope we have convinced the reader that the system cannot be reformed in such a way as to reconcile freedom with technology. The only way out is to dispense with the industrial-technological system altogether. This implies revolution, not necessarily an armed uprising, but certainly a radical and fundamental change in the nature of society.

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                                                Reform is always restrained by the fear of painful consequences if changes go too far. But once a revolutionary fever has taken hold of a society, people are willing to undergo unlimited hardships for the sake of their revolution. This was clearly shown in the French and Russian Revolutions. It may be that in such cases only a minoriry of the population is really committed to the revolution, but this minority is sufficiently large and active so that it becomes the dominant force in society. We will have more to say about revolution in paragraphs 180–205).

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                                                1. Since the beginning of civilization, organized societies have had to put pressures on human beings for the sake of the functioning of the social organism. The kinds of pressures vary greatly from one society to another. Some of the pressures are physical (poor diet, excessive labor, environmental pollution), some are psychological (noise, crowding, forcing human behavior into the mold that society requires). In the past, human nature has been approximately constant, or at any rate has varied only within certain bounds. Consequently, societies have been able to push people only up to certain limits. When the limit of human endurance has been passed, things start going wrong: rebellion, or crime, or corruption, or evasion of work, or depression and other mental problems, or an elevated death rate, or a declining birth rate or something else, so that either the society breaks down, or its functioning becomes too inefficient and it is (quickly or gradually, through conquest, attrition or evolution) replaced by some more efficient form of society.25

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                                                  To those who think that all this sounds like science fiction, we point out that yesterday’s science fiction is today’s fact. The Industrial Revolution has radically altered man’s environment and way of life, and it is only to be expected that as technology is increasingly applied to the human body and mind, man himself will be altered as radically as his environment and way of life have been.

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                                                  1. But we have gotten ahead of our story. It is one thing to develop in the laboratory a series of psychological or biological techniques for manipulating human behavior and quite another to integrate these techniques into a functioning social system. The latter problem is the more difficult of the two. For example, while the techniques of educational psychology doubtless work quite well in the “lab schools” where they are developed, it is not necessarily easy to apply them effectively throughout our educational system. We all know what many of our schools are like. The teachers are too busy taking knives and guns away from the kids to subject them to the latest techniques for making them into computer nerds. Thus, in spite of all its technical advances relating to human behavior, the system to date has not been impressively successful in controlling human beings. The people whose behavior is fairly well under the control of the system are those of the type that might be called “bourgeois.” But there are growing numbers of people who in one way or another are rebels against the system: welfare leeches, youth gangs, cultists, satanists, Nazis, radical environmentalists, militia-men, etc.

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                                                    Therefore two tasks confront those who hate the servitude to which the industrial system is reducing the human race. First, we must work to heighten the social stresses within the system so as to increase the likelihood that it will break down or be weakened sufficiently so that a revolution against it becomes possible. Second, it is necessary to develop and propagate an ideology that opposes technology and the industrial system. Such an ideology can become the basis for a revolution against industrial society if and when the system becomes sufficiently weakened. And such an ideology will help to assure that, if and when industrial society breaks down, its remnants will be smashed beyond repair, so that the system cannot be reconstituted. The factories should be destroyed, technical books burned, etc.

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                                                    1. The industrial system will not break down purely as a result of revolutionary action. It will not be vulnerable to revolutionary attack unless its own internal problems of development lead it into very serious difficulties. So if the system breaks down it will do so either spontaneously, or through a process that is in part spontaneous but helped along by revolutionaries. If the breakdown is sudden, many people will die, since the world’s population has become so overblown that it cannot even feed itself any longer without advanced technology. Even if the breakdown is gradual enough so that reduction of the population can occur more through lowering of the birth rate than through elevation of the death rate, the process of de-industrialization probably will be very chaotic and involve much suffering. It is naive to think it likely that technology can be phased out in a smoothly managed, orderly way, especially since the technophiles will fight stubbornly at every step. Is it therefore cruel to work for the breakdown of the system? Maybe, but maybe not. In the first place, revolutionaries will not be able to break the system down unless it is already in enough trouble so that there would be a good chance of its eventually breaking down by itself anyway; and the bigger the system grows, the more disastrous the consequences of its breakdown will be; so it may be that revolutionaries, by hastening the onset of the breakdown, will be reducing the extent of the disaster.

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                                                      “Oh!” say the technophiles, “Science is going to fix all that! We will conquer famine, eliminate psychological suffering, make everybody healthy and happy!” Yeah, sure. That’s what they said 200 years ago. The Industrial Revolution was supposed to eliminate poverty, make everybody happy, etc. The actual result has been quite different. The technophiles are hopelessly naive (or self-deceiving) in their understanding of social problems. They are unaware of (or choose to ignore) the fact that when large changes, even seemingly beneficial ones, are introduced into a society, they lead to a long sequence of other changes, most of which are impossible to predict (paragraph 103). In the mean time there will be great suffering. So it is not at all clear that the survival of industrial society would involve less suffering than the breakdown of that society would. Technology has gotten the human race into a fix from which there is not likely to be any easy escape.

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                                                      1. But suppose now that industrial society does survive the next several decades and that the bugs do eventually get worked out of the system, so that it functions smoothly. What kind of system will it be? We will consider several possibilities.

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                                                        It would be better to dump the whole stinking system and take the consequences.

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                                                        1. The technophiles are taking us all on an utterly reckless ride into the unknown. Many people understand something of what technological progress is doing to us, yet take a passive attitude toward it because they think it is inevitable. But we (FC) don’t think it is inevitable. We think it can be stopped, and we will give here some indications of how to go about stopping it.

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                                                          With regard to revolutionary strategy, the only points on which we absolutely insist are that the single, overriding goal must be the elimination of modern technology, and that no other goal can be allowed to compete with this one. For the rest, revolutionaries should take an empirical approach. If experience indicates that some of the recommendations made in the foregoing paragraphs are not going to give good results, then those recommendations should be discarded.

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                                                          1. An argument likely to be raised against our proposed revolution is that it is bound to fail, because (it is claimed) throughout history technology has always progressed, never regressed, hence technological regression is impossible. But this claim is false.

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                                                            Would society EVENTUALLY develop again toward an industrial-technological form? Maybe, but there is no use in worrying about it, since we can’t predict or control events 500 or 1,000 years in the future. Those problems must be dealt with by the people who will live at that time.

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                                                            1. Because of their need for rebellion and for membership in a movement, leftists or persons of similar psychological type often are attracted to a rebellious or activist movement whose goals and membership are not initially leftist. The resulting influx of leftish types can easily turn a non-leftist movement into a leftist one, so that leftist goals replace or distort the original goals of the movement.

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                                                              The more dangerous leftists, that is, those who are most power-hungry, are often characterized by arrogance or by a dogmatic approach to ideology. However, the most dangerous leftists of all may be certain oversocialized types who avoid irritating displays of aggressiveness and refrain from advertising their leftism, but work quietly and unobtrusively to promote collectivist values, “enlightened” psychological techniques for socializing children, dependence of the individual on the system, and so forth. These crypto-leftists (as we may call them) approximate certain bourgeois types as far as practical action is concerned, but differ from them in psychology, ideology and motivation. The ordinary bourgeois tries to bring people under control of the system in order to protect his way of life, or he does so simply because his attitudes are conventional. The crypto-leftist tries to bring people under control of the system because he is a True Believer in a collectivistic ideology. The crypto-leftist is differentiated from the average leftist of the oversocialized type by the fact that his rebellious impulse is weaker and he is more securely socialized. He is differentiated from the ordinary well-socialized bourgeois by the fact that there is some deep lack within him that makes it necessary for him to devote himself to a cause and immerse himself in a collectivity. And maybe his (well-sublimated) drive for power is stronger than that of the average bourgeois.

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                                                              1. Throughout this article we’ve made imprecise statements and statements that ought to have had all sorts of qualifications and reservations attached to them; and some of our statements may be flatly false. Lack of sufficient information and the need for brevity made it impossible for us to formulate our assertions more precisely or add all the necessary qualifications. And of course in a discussion of this kind one must rely heavily on intuitive judgment, and that can sometimes be wrong. So we don’t claim that this article expresses more than a crude approximation to the truth.

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They have greatly increased the life expectancy of those of us who live in “advanced” countries, but they have destabilized society, have made life unfulfilling, have subjected human beings to indignities, have led to widespread psychological suffering (in the Third World to physical suffering as well) and have inflicted severe damage on the natural world. The continued development of technology will worsen the situation. It will certainly subject human beings to greater indignities and inflict greater damage on the natural world, it will probably lead to greater social disruption and psychological suffering, and it may lead to increased physical suffering even in “advanced” countries.</p> </li> @@ -34,8 +35,9 @@ <p>In this article we give attention to only some of the negative developments that have grown out of the industrial-technological system. Other such developments we mention only briefly or ignore altogether. This does not mean that we regard these other developments as unimportant. For practical reasons we have to confine our discussion to areas that have received insufficient public attention or in which we have something new to say. For example, since there are well-developed environmental and wilderness movements, we have written very little about environmental degradation or the destruction of wild nature, even though we consider these to be highly important.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-psychology-of-modern-leftism">The Psychology of Modern Leftism</h2> -<ol start="6"> +<h2 id="the-psychology-of-modern-leftism">The Psychology of Modern Leftism <a class="anchor" href="#the-psychology-of-modern-leftism"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="6"> <li> <p>Almost everyone will agree that we live in a deeply troubled society. One of the most widespread manifestations of the craziness of our world is leftism, so a discussion of the psychology of leftism can serve as an introduction to the discussion of the problems of modern society in general.</p> </li> @@ -49,8 +51,9 @@ <p>The two psychological tendencies that underlie modern leftism we call feelings of inferiority and oversocialization. Feelings of inferiority are characteristic of modern leftism as a whole, while oversocialization is characteristic only of a certain segment of modern leftism; but this segment is highly influential.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="feelings-of-inferiority">Feelings of Inferiority</h2> -<ol start="10"> +<h2 id="feelings-of-inferiority">Feelings of Inferiority <a class="anchor" href="#feelings-of-inferiority"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="10"> <li> <p>By “feelings of inferiority” we mean not only inferiority feelings in the strict sense but a whole spectrum of related traits: low self-esteem, feelings of powerlessness, depressive tendencies, defeatism, guilt, self-hatred, etc. We argue that modern leftists tend to have some such feelings (possibly more or less repressed), and that these feelings are decisive in determining the direction of modern leftism.</p> </li> @@ -94,8 +97,9 @@ <p>We emphasize that the foregoing does not pretend to be an accurate description of everyone who might be considered a leftist. It is only a rough indication of a general tendency of leftism.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="oversocialization">Oversocialization</h2> -<ol start="24"> +<h2 id="oversocialization">Oversocialization <a class="anchor" href="#oversocialization"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="24"> <li> <p>Psychologists use the term “socialization” to designate the process by which children are trained to think and act as society demands. A person is said to be well socialized if he believes in and obeys the moral code of his society and fits in well as a functioning part of that society. It may seem senseless to say that many leftists are oversocialized, since the leftist is perceived as a rebel. Nevertheless, the position can be defended. Many leftists are not such rebels as they seem.</p> </li> @@ -124,8 +128,9 @@ <p>The problems of the leftist are indicative of the problems of our society as a whole. Low self-esteem, depressive tendencies and defeatism are not restricted to the left. Though they are especially noticeable in the left, they are widespread in our society. And today’s society tries to socialize us to a greater extent than any previous society. We are even told by experts how to eat, how to exercise, how to make love, how to raise our kids and so forth.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-power-process">The Power Process</h2> -<ol start="33"> +<h2 id="the-power-process">The Power Process <a class="anchor" href="#the-power-process"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="33"> <li> <p>Human beings have a need (probably based in biology) for something that we will call the power process. This is closely related to the need for power (which is widely recognized) but is not quite the same thing. The power process has four elements. The three most clear-cut of these we call goal, effort and attainment of goal. (Everyone needs to have goals whose attainment requires effort, and needs to succeed in attaining at least some of his goals.) The fourth element is more difficult to define and may not be necessary for everyone. We call it autonomy and will discuss it later (paragraphs 42–44).</p> </li> @@ -142,8 +147,9 @@ <p>Thus, in order to avoid serious psychological problems, a human being needs goals whose attainment requires effort, and he must have a reasonable rate of success in attaining his goals.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="surrogate-activities">Surrogate Activities</h2> -<ol start="38"> +<h2 id="surrogate-activities">Surrogate Activities <a class="anchor" href="#surrogate-activities"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="38"> <li> <p>But not every leisured aristocrat becomes bored and demoralized. For example, the emperor Hirohito, instead of sinking into decadent hedonism, devoted himself to marine biology, a field in which he became distinguished. When people do not have to exert themselves to satisfy their physical needs they often set up artificial goals for themselves. In many cases they then pursue these goals with the same energy and emotional involvement that they otherwise would have put into the search for physical necessities. Thus the aristocrats of the Roman Empire had their literary pretensions; many European aristocrats a few centuries ago invested tremendous time and energy in hunting, though they certainly didn’t need the meat; other aristocracies have competed for status through elaborate displays of wealth; and a few aristocrats, like Hirohito, have turned to science.</p> </li> @@ -157,8 +163,9 @@ <p>For many if not most people, surrogate activities are less satistying than the pursuit of real goals (that is, goals that people would want to attain even if their need for the power process were already fulfilled). One indication of this is the fact that, in many or most cases, people who are deeply involved in surrogate activities are never satisfied, never at rest. Thus the money-maker constantly strives for more and more wealth. The scientist no sooner solves one problem than he moves on to the next. The long-distance runner drives himself to run always farther and faster. Many people who pursue surrogate activities will say that they get far more fulfillment from these activities than they do from the “mundane” business of satisfying their biological needs, but that is because in our society the effort required to satisfy the biological needs has been reduced to triviality. More importantly, in our society people do not satisty their biological needs AUTONOMOUSLY but by functioning as parts of an immense social machine. In contrast, people generally have a great deal of autonomy in pursuing their surrogate activities.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="autonomy">Autonomy</h2> -<ol start="42"> +<h2 id="autonomy">Autonomy <a class="anchor" href="#autonomy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="42"> <li> <p>Autonomy as a part of the power process may not be necessary for every individual. But most people need a greater or lesser degree of autonomy in working toward their goals. Their efforts must be undertaken on their own initiative and must be under their own direction and control. Yet most people do not have to exert this initiative, direction and control as single individuals. It is usually enough to act as a member of a SMALL group. Thus if half a dozen people discuss a goal among themselves and make a successful joint effort to attain that goal, their need for the power process will be served. But if they work under rigid orders handed down from above that leave them no room for autonomous decision and initiative, then their need for the power process will not be served. The same is true when decisions are made on a collective basis if the group making the collective decision is so large that the role of each individual is insignificant.<sup id="fnref:5"><a href="#fn:5" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">5</a></sup></p> </li> @@ -169,8 +176,9 @@ <p>But for most people it is through the power process—having a goal, making an AUTONOMOUS effort and attaining the goal—that self-esteem, self-confidence and a sense of power are acquired. When one does not have adequate opportunity to go through the power process the consequences are (depending on the individual and on the way the power process is disrupted) boredom, demoralization, low self-esteem, inferiority feelings, defeatism, depression, anxiety, guilt, frustration, hostility, spouse or child abuse, insatiable hedonism, abnormal sexual behavior, sleep disorders, eating disorders, etc.<sup id="fnref:6"><a href="#fn:6" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">6</a></sup></p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="sources-of-social-problems">Sources of Social Problems</h2> -<ol start="45"> +<h2 id="sources-of-social-problems">Sources of Social Problems <a class="anchor" href="#sources-of-social-problems"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="45"> <li> <p>Any of the foregoing symptoms can occur in any society, but in modern industrial society they are present on a massive scale. We aren’t the first to mention that the world today seems to be going crazy. This sort of thing is not normal for human societies. There is good reason to believe that primitive man suffered from less stress and frustration and was better satisfied with his way of life than modern man is. It is true that not all was sweetness and light in primitive societies. Abuse of women was common among the Australian aborigines, transsexuality was fairly common among some of the American Indian tribes. But it does appear that GENERALLY SPEAKING the kinds of problems that we have listed in the preceding paragraph were far less common among primitive peoples than they are in modern society.</p> </li> @@ -214,8 +222,9 @@ <p>It would be possible to give other examples of societies in which there has been rapid change and/or lack of close community ties without the kind of massive behavioral aberration that is seen in today’s industrial society. We contend that the most important cause of social and psychological problems in modern society is the fact that people have insufficient opportunity to go through the power process in a normal way. We don’t mean to say that modern society is the only one in which the power process has been disrupted. Probably most if not all civilized societies have interfered with the power process to a greater or lesser extent. But in modern industrial society the problem has become particularly acute. Leftism, at least in its recent (mid- to late-20th century) form, is in part a symptom of deprivation with respect to the power process.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="disruption-of-the-power-process-in-modern-society">Disruption of the Power Process in Modern Society</h2> -<ol start="59"> +<h2 id="disruption-of-the-power-process-in-modern-society">Disruption of the Power Process in Modern Society <a class="anchor" href="#disruption-of-the-power-process-in-modern-society"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="59"> <li> <p>We divide human drives into three groups: (1) those drives that can be satisfied with minimal effort; (2) those that can be satisfied but only at the cost of serious effort; (3) those that cannot be adequately satisfied no matter how much effort one makes. The power process is the process of satistying the drives of the second group. The more drives there are in the third group, the more there is frustration, anger, eventually defeatism, depression, etc.</p> </li> @@ -271,8 +280,9 @@ <p>In response to the arguments of this section someone will say, “Society must find a way to give people the opportunity to go through the power process.” This won’t work for those who need autonomy in the power process. For such people the value of the opportunity is destroyed by the very fact that society gives it to them. What they need is to find or make their own opportunities. As long as the system GIVES them their opportunities it still has them on a leash. To attain autonomy they must get off that leash.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="how-some-people-adjust">How Some People Adjust</h2> -<ol start="77"> +<h2 id="how-some-people-adjust">How Some People Adjust <a class="anchor" href="#how-some-people-adjust"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="77"> <li> <p>Not everyone in industrial-technological society suffers from psychological problems. Some people even profess to be quite satisfied with society as it is. We now discuss some of the reasons why people differ so greatly in their response to modern society.</p> </li> @@ -304,8 +314,9 @@ <p>But even if most people in industrial-technological society were well satisfied, we (FC) would still be opposed to that form of society, because (among other reasons) we consider it demeaning to fulfill one’s need for the power process through surrogate activities or through identification with an organization, rather than through pursuit of real goals.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-motives-of-scientists">The Motives of Scientists</h2> -<ol start="87"> +<h2 id="the-motives-of-scientists">The Motives of Scientists <a class="anchor" href="#the-motives-of-scientists"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="87"> <li> <p>Science and technology provide the most important examples of surrogate activities. Some scientists claim that they are motivated by “curiosity” or by a desire to “benefit humanity.” But it is easy to see that neither of these can be the principal motive of most scientists. As for “curiosity,” that notion is simply absurd. Most scientists work on highly specialized problems that are not the object of any normal curiosity. For example, is an astronomer, a mathematician or an entomologist curious about the properties of isopropyltrimethylmethane? Of course not. Only a chemist is curious about such a thing, and he is curious about it only because chemistry is his surrogate activity. Is the chemist curious about the appropriate classification of a new species of beetle? No. That question is of interest only to the entomologist, and he is interested in it only because entomology is his surrogate activity. If the chemist and the entomologist had to exert themselves seriously to obtain the physical necessities, and if that effort exercised their abilities in an interesting way but in some nonscientific pursuit, then they wouldn’t give a damn about isopropyltrimethylmethane or the classification of beetles. Suppose that lack of funds for postgraduate education had led the chemist to become an insurance broker instead of a chemist. In that case he would have been very interested in insurance matters but would have cared nothing about isopropyltrimcthylmethane. In any case it is not normal to put into the satisfaction of mere curiosity the amount of time and effort that scientists put into their work. The “curiosity” explanation for the scientists’ motive just doesn’t stand up.</p> </li> @@ -325,8 +336,9 @@ <p>Thus science marches on blindly, without regard to the real welfare of the human race or to any other standard, obedient only to the psychological needs of the scientists and of the government officials and corporation executives who provide the funds for research.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-nature-of-freedom">The Nature of Freedom</h2> -<ol start="93"> +<h2 id="the-nature-of-freedom">The Nature of Freedom <a class="anchor" href="#the-nature-of-freedom"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="93"> <li> <p>We are going to argue that industrial-technological society cannot be reformed in such a way as to prevent it from progressively narrowing the sphere of human freedom. But because “freedom” is a word that can be interpreted in many ways, we must first make clear what kind of freedom we are concerned with.</p> </li> @@ -346,8 +358,9 @@ <p>One more point to be made in this section: It should not be assumed that a person has enough freedom just because he SAYS he has enough. Freedom is restricted in part by psychological controls of which people are unconscious, and moreover many people’s ideas of what constitutes freedom are governed more by social convention than by their real needs. For example, it’s likely that many leftists of the oversocialized type would say that most people, including themselves, are socialized too little rather than too much, yet the oversocialized leftist pays a heavy psychological price for his high level of socialization.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="some-principles-of-history">Some Principles of History</h2> -<ol start="99"> +<h2 id="some-principles-of-history">Some Principles of History <a class="anchor" href="#some-principles-of-history"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="99"> <li> <p>Think of history as being the sum of two components: an erratic component that consists of unpredictable events that follow no discernible pattern, and a regular component that consists of long-term historical trends. Here we are concerned with the long-term trends.</p> </li> @@ -385,8 +398,9 @@ <p>Still, one has to use common sense in applying the principles. They are expressed in imprecise language that allows latitude for interpretation, and exceptions to them can be found. So we present these principles not as inviolable laws but as rules of thumb, or guides to thinking, that may provide a partial antidote to naive ideas about the future of society. The principles should be borne constantly in mind, and whenever one reaches a conclusion that conflicts with them one should carefully reexamine one’s thinking and retain the conclusion only if one has good, solid reasons for doing so.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="industrial-technological-society-cannot-be-reformed">Industrial-Technological Society Cannot Be Reformed</h2> -<ol start="111"> +<h2 id="industrial-technological-society-cannot-be-reformed">Industrial-Technological Society Cannot Be Reformed <a class="anchor" href="#industrial-technological-society-cannot-be-reformed"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="111"> <li> <p>The foregoing principles help to show how hopelessly difficult it would be to reform the industrial system in such a way as to prevent it from progressively narrowing our sphere of freedom. There has been a consistent tendency, going back at least to the Industrial Revolution, for technology to strengthen the system at a high cost in individual freedom and local autonomy. Hence any change designed to protect freedom from technology would be contrary to a fundamental trend in the development of our society. Consequently, such a change either would be a transitory one—soon swamped by the tide of history—or, if large enough to be permanent, would alter the nature of our whole society. This by the first and second principles. Moreover, since society would be altered in a way that could not be predicted in advance (third principle) there would be great risk. Changes large enough to make a lasting difference in favor of freedom would not be initiated because it would be realized that they would gravely disrupt the system. So any attempts at reform would be too timid to be effective. Even if changes large enough to make a lasting difference were initiated, they would be retracted when their disruptive effects became apparent. Thus, permanent changes in favor of freedom could be brought about only by persons prepared to accept radical, dangerous and unpredictable alteration of the entire system. In other words by revolutionaries, not reformers.</p> </li> @@ -397,8 +411,9 @@ <p>So even on very general grounds it seems highly improbable that any way of changing society could be found that would reconcile freedom with modern technology. In the next few sections we will give more specific reasons for concluding that freedom and technological progress are incompatible.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="restriction-of-freedom-is-unavoidable-in-industrial-society">Restriction of Freedom is Unavoidable in Industrial Society</h2> -<ol start="114"> +<h2 id="restriction-of-freedom-is-unavoidable-in-industrial-society">Restriction of Freedom is Unavoidable in Industrial Society <a class="anchor" href="#restriction-of-freedom-is-unavoidable-in-industrial-society"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="114"> <li> <p>As explained in paragraphs 65–67, 70–73, modern man is strapped down by a network of rules and regulations, and his fate depends on the actions of persons remote from him whose decisions he cannot influence. This is not accidental or a result of the arbitrariness of arrogant bureaucrats. It is necessary and inevitable in any technologically advanced society. The system HAS TO regulate human behavior closely in order to function. At work, people have to do what they are told to do, when they are told to do it and in the way they are told to do it, otherwise production would be thrown into chaos. Bureaucracies HAVE TO be run according to rigid rules. To allow any substantial personal discretion to lower-level bureaucrats would disrupt the system and lead to charges of unfairness due to differences in the way individual bureaucrats exercised their discretion. It is true that some restrictions on our freedom could be eliminated. but GENERALLY SPEAKING the regulation of our lives by large organizations is necessary for the functioning of industrial-technological society. The result is a sense of powerlessness on the part of the average person. It may be. however. that formal regulations will tend increasingly to be replaced by psychological tools that make us want to do what the system requires of us. (Propaganda,<sup id="fnref1:14"><a href="#fn:14" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">14</a></sup> educational techniques, “mental health” programs, etc.)</p> </li> @@ -421,8 +436,9 @@ <p>Efforts to make room for a sense of purpose and for autonomy within the system are no better than a joke. For example, one company, instead of having each of its employees assemble only one section of a catalogue, had each assemble a whole catalogue, and this was supposed to give them a sense of purpose and achievement. Some companies have tried to give their employees more autonomy in their work, but for practical reasons this usually can be done only to a very limited extent, and in any case employees are never given autonomy as to ultimate goals—their “autonomous” efforts can never be directed toward goals that they select personally, but only toward their employer’s goals, such as the survival and growth of the company. Any company would soon go out of business if it permitted its employees to act otherwise. Similarly, in any enterprise within a socialist system, workers must direct their efforts toward the goals of the enterprise, otherwise the enterprise will not serve its purpose as part of the system. Once again, for purely technical reasons it is not possible for most individuals or small groups to have much autonomy in industrial society. Even the small-business owner commonly has only limited autonomy. Apart from the necessity of government regulation, he is restricted by the fact that he must fit into the economic system and conform to its requirements. For instance, when someone develops a new technology, the small-business person often has to use that technology whether he wants to or not, in order to remain competitive.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-bad-parts-of-technology-cannot-be-separated-from-the-good-parts">The “Bad” Parts of Technology Cannot Be Separated from the “Good” Parts</h2> -<ol start="121"> +<h2 id="the-bad-parts-of-technology-cannot-be-separated-from-the-good-parts">The “Bad” Parts of Technology Cannot Be Separated from the “Good” Parts <a class="anchor" href="#the-bad-parts-of-technology-cannot-be-separated-from-the-good-parts"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="121"> <li> <p>A further reason why industrial society cannot be reformed in favor of freedom is that modern technology is a unified system in which all parts are dependent on one another. You can’t get rid of the “bad” parts of technology and retain only the “good” parts. Take modern medicine, for example. Progress in medical science depends on progress in chemistry, physics, biology, computer science and other fields. Advanced medical treatments require expensive, high-tech equipment that can be made available only by a technologically progressive, economically rich society. Clearly you can’t have much progress in medicine without the whole technological system and everything that goes with it.</p> </li> @@ -436,8 +452,9 @@ <p>The usual response to such concerns is to talk about “medical ethics.” But a code of ethics would not serve to protect freedom in the face of medical progress; it would only make matters worse. A code of ethics applicable to genetic engineering would be in effect a means of regulating the genetic constitution of human beings. Somebody (probably the upper middle class, mostly) would decide that such and such applications of genetic engineering were “ethical” and others were not, so that in effect they would be imposing their own values on the genetic constitution of the population at large. Even if a code of ethics were chosen on a completely democratic basis, the majority would be imposing their own values on any minorities who might have a different idea of what constituted an “ethical” use of genetic engineering. The only code of ethics that would truly protect freedom would be one that prohibited ANY genetic engineering of human beings, and you can be sure that no such code will ever be applied in a technological society. No code that reduced genetic engineering to a minor role could stand up for long, because the temptation presented by the immense power of biotechnology would be irresistible, especially since to the majority of people many of its applications will seem obviously and unequivocally good (eliminating physical and mental diseases, giving people the abilities they need to get along in today’s world). Inevitably, genetic engineering will be used extensively, but only in ways consistent with the needs of the industrial-technological system.<sup id="fnref:20"><a href="#fn:20" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">20</a></sup></p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="technology-is-a-more-powerful-social-force-than-the-aspiration-for-freedom">Technology is a More Powerful Social Force than the Aspiration for Freedom</h2> -<ol start="125"> +<h2 id="technology-is-a-more-powerful-social-force-than-the-aspiration-for-freedom">Technology is a More Powerful Social Force than the Aspiration for Freedom <a class="anchor" href="#technology-is-a-more-powerful-social-force-than-the-aspiration-for-freedom"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="125"> <li> <p>It is not possible to make a LASTING compromise between technology and freedom, because technology is by far the more powerful social force and continually encroaches on freedom through REPEATED compromises. Imagine the case of two neighbors, each of whom at the outset owns the same amount of land, but one of whom is more powerful than the other. The powerful one demands a piece of the other’s land. The weak one refuses. The powerful one says, “Okay, let’s compromise. Give me half of what I asked.” The weak one has little choice but to give in. Some time later the powerful neighbor demands another piece of land, again there is a compromise, and so forth. By forcing a long series of compromises on the weaker man, the powerful one eventually gets all of his land. So it goes in the conflict between technology and freedom.</p> </li> @@ -472,8 +489,9 @@ <p>In paragraph 125 we used an analogy of a weak neighbor who is left destitute by a strong neighbor who takes all his land by forcing on him a series of compromises. But suppose now that the strong neighbor gets sick, so that he is unable to defend himself. The weak neighbor can force the strong one to give him his land back, or he can kill him. If he lets the strong man survive and only forces him to give the land back, he is a fool, because when the strong man gets well he will again take all the land for himself. The only sensible alternative for the weaker man is to kill the strong one while he has the chance. In the same way, while the industrial system is sick we must destroy it. If we compromise with it and let it recover from its sickness, it will eventually wipe out all of our freedom.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="simpler-social-problems-have-proved-intractable">Simpler Social Problems Have Proved Intractable</h2> -<ol start="136"> +<h2 id="simpler-social-problems-have-proved-intractable">Simpler Social Problems Have Proved Intractable <a class="anchor" href="#simpler-social-problems-have-proved-intractable"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="136"> <li> <p>If anyone still imagines that it would be possible to reform the system in such a way as to protect freedom from technology, let him consider how clumsily and for the most part unsuccessfully our society has dealt with other social problems that are far more simple and straightforward. Among other things, the system has failed to stop environmental degradation, political corruption, drug trafficking or domestic abuse.</p> </li> @@ -487,8 +505,9 @@ <p>And note this important difference: It is conceivable that our environmental problems (for example) may some day be settled through a rational, comprehensive plan, but if this happens it will be only because it is in the long-term interest of the system to solve these problems. But it is NOT in the interest of the system to preserve freedom or small-group autonomy. On the contrary, it is in the interest of the system to bring human behavior under control to the greatest possible extent.<sup id="fnref:24"><a href="#fn:24" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">24</a></sup> Thus, while practical considerations may eventually force the system to take a rational, prudent approach to environmental problems, equally practical considerations will force the system to regulate human behavior ever more closely (preferably by indirect means that will disguise the encroachment on freedom). This isn’t just our opinion. Eminent social scientists (e.g., James Q. Wilson) have stressed the importance of “socializing” people more effectively.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="revolution-is-easier-than-reform">Revolution is Easier than Reform</h2> -<ol start="140"> +<h2 id="revolution-is-easier-than-reform">Revolution is Easier than Reform <a class="anchor" href="#revolution-is-easier-than-reform"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="140"> <li> <p>We hope we have convinced the reader that the system cannot be reformed in such a way as to reconcile freedom with technology. The only way out is to dispense with the industrial-technological system altogether. This implies revolution, not necessarily an armed uprising, but certainly a radical and fundamental change in the nature of society.</p> </li> @@ -499,8 +518,9 @@ <p>Reform is always restrained by the fear of painful consequences if changes go too far. But once a revolutionary fever has taken hold of a society, people are willing to undergo unlimited hardships for the sake of their revolution. This was clearly shown in the French and Russian Revolutions. It may be that in such cases only a minoriry of the population is really committed to the revolution, but this minority is sufficiently large and active so that it becomes the dominant force in society. We will have more to say about revolution in paragraphs 180–205).</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="control-of-human-behavior">Control of Human Behavior</h2> -<ol start="143"> +<h2 id="control-of-human-behavior">Control of Human Behavior <a class="anchor" href="#control-of-human-behavior"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="143"> <li> <p>Since the beginning of civilization, organized societies have had to put pressures on human beings for the sake of the functioning of the social organism. The kinds of pressures vary greatly from one society to another. Some of the pressures are physical (poor diet, excessive labor, environmental pollution), some are psychological (noise, crowding, forcing human behavior into the mold that society requires). In the past, human nature has been approximately constant, or at any rate has varied only within certain bounds. Consequently, societies have been able to push people only up to certain limits. When the limit of human endurance has been passed, things start going wrong: rebellion, or crime, or corruption, or evasion of work, or depression and other mental problems, or an elevated death rate, or a declining birth rate or something else, so that either the society breaks down, or its functioning becomes too inefficient and it is (quickly or gradually, through conquest, attrition or evolution) replaced by some more efficient form of society.<sup id="fnref:25"><a href="#fn:25" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">25</a></sup></p> </li> @@ -556,8 +576,9 @@ <p>To those who think that all this sounds like science fiction, we point out that yesterday’s science fiction is today’s fact. The Industrial Revolution has radically altered man’s environment and way of life, and it is only to be expected that as technology is increasingly applied to the human body and mind, man himself will be altered as radically as his environment and way of life have been.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="human-race-at-a-crossroads">Human Race at a Crossroads</h2> -<ol start="161"> +<h2 id="human-race-at-a-crossroads">Human Race at a Crossroads <a class="anchor" href="#human-race-at-a-crossroads"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="161"> <li> <p>But we have gotten ahead of our story. It is one thing to develop in the laboratory a series of psychological or biological techniques for manipulating human behavior and quite another to integrate these techniques into a functioning social system. The latter problem is the more difficult of the two. For example, while the techniques of educational psychology doubtless work quite well in the “lab schools” where they are developed, it is not necessarily easy to apply them effectively throughout our educational system. We all know what many of our schools are like. The teachers are too busy taking knives and guns away from the kids to subject them to the latest techniques for making them into computer nerds. Thus, in spite of all its technical advances relating to human behavior, the system to date has not been impressively successful in controlling human beings. The people whose behavior is fairly well under the control of the system are those of the type that might be called “bourgeois.” But there are growing numbers of people who in one way or another are rebels against the system: welfare leeches, youth gangs, cultists, satanists, Nazis, radical environmentalists, militia-men, etc.</p> </li> @@ -577,8 +598,9 @@ <p>Therefore two tasks confront those who hate the servitude to which the industrial system is reducing the human race. First, we must work to heighten the social stresses within the system so as to increase the likelihood that it will break down or be weakened sufficiently so that a revolution against it becomes possible. Second, it is necessary to develop and propagate an ideology that opposes technology and the industrial system. Such an ideology can become the basis for a revolution against industrial society if and when the system becomes sufficiently weakened. And such an ideology will help to assure that, if and when industrial society breaks down, its remnants will be smashed beyond repair, so that the system cannot be reconstituted. The factories should be destroyed, technical books burned, etc.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="human-suffering">Human Suffering</h2> -<ol start="167"> +<h2 id="human-suffering">Human Suffering <a class="anchor" href="#human-suffering"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="167"> <li> <p>The industrial system will not break down purely as a result of revolutionary action. It will not be vulnerable to revolutionary attack unless its own internal problems of development lead it into very serious difficulties. So if the system breaks down it will do so either spontaneously, or through a process that is in part spontaneous but helped along by revolutionaries. If the breakdown is sudden, many people will die, since the world’s population has become so overblown that it cannot even feed itself any longer without advanced technology. Even if the breakdown is gradual enough so that reduction of the population can occur more through lowering of the birth rate than through elevation of the death rate, the process of de-industrialization probably will be very chaotic and involve much suffering. It is naive to think it likely that technology can be phased out in a smoothly managed, orderly way, especially since the technophiles will fight stubbornly at every step. Is it therefore cruel to work for the breakdown of the system? Maybe, but maybe not. In the first place, revolutionaries will not be able to break the system down unless it is already in enough trouble so that there would be a good chance of its eventually breaking down by itself anyway; and the bigger the system grows, the more disastrous the consequences of its breakdown will be; so it may be that revolutionaries, by hastening the onset of the breakdown, will be reducing the extent of the disaster.</p> </li> @@ -592,8 +614,9 @@ <p>“Oh!” say the technophiles, “Science is going to fix all that! We will conquer famine, eliminate psychological suffering, make everybody healthy and happy!” Yeah, sure. That’s what they said 200 years ago. The Industrial Revolution was supposed to eliminate poverty, make everybody happy, etc. The actual result has been quite different. The technophiles are hopelessly naive (or self-deceiving) in their understanding of social problems. They are unaware of (or choose to ignore) the fact that when large changes, even seemingly beneficial ones, are introduced into a society, they lead to a long sequence of other changes, most of which are impossible to predict (paragraph 103). In the mean time there will be great suffering. So it is not at all clear that the survival of industrial society would involve less suffering than the breakdown of that society would. Technology has gotten the human race into a fix from which there is not likely to be any easy escape.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-future">The Future</h2> -<ol start="171"> +<h2 id="the-future">The Future <a class="anchor" href="#the-future"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="171"> <li> <p>But suppose now that industrial society does survive the next several decades and that the bugs do eventually get worked out of the system, so that it functions smoothly. What kind of system will it be? We will consider several possibilities.</p> </li> @@ -622,8 +645,9 @@ <p>It would be better to dump the whole stinking system and take the consequences.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="strategy">Strategy</h2> -<ol start="180"> +<h2 id="strategy">Strategy <a class="anchor" href="#strategy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="180"> <li> <p>The technophiles are taking us all on an utterly reckless ride into the unknown. Many people understand something of what technological progress is doing to us, yet take a passive attitude toward it because they think it is inevitable. But we (FC) don’t think it is inevitable. We think it can be stopped, and we will give here some indications of how to go about stopping it.</p> </li> @@ -706,8 +730,9 @@ <p>With regard to revolutionary strategy, the only points on which we absolutely insist are that the single, overriding goal must be the elimination of modern technology, and that no other goal can be allowed to compete with this one. For the rest, revolutionaries should take an empirical approach. If experience indicates that some of the recommendations made in the foregoing paragraphs are not going to give good results, then those recommendations should be discarded.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="two-kinds-of-technology">Two Kinds of Technology</h2> -<ol start="207"> +<h2 id="two-kinds-of-technology">Two Kinds of Technology <a class="anchor" href="#two-kinds-of-technology"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="207"> <li> <p>An argument likely to be raised against our proposed revolution is that it is bound to fail, because (it is claimed) throughout history technology has always progressed, never regressed, hence technological regression is impossible. But this claim is false.</p> </li> @@ -727,8 +752,9 @@ <p>Would society EVENTUALLY develop again toward an industrial-technological form? Maybe, but there is no use in worrying about it, since we can’t predict or control events 500 or 1,000 years in the future. Those problems must be dealt with by the people who will live at that time.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-danger-of-leftism">The Danger of Leftism</h2> -<ol start="213"> +<h2 id="the-danger-of-leftism">The Danger of Leftism <a class="anchor" href="#the-danger-of-leftism"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="213"> <li> <p>Because of their need for rebellion and for membership in a movement, leftists or persons of similar psychological type often are attracted to a rebellious or activist movement whose goals and membership are not initially leftist. The resulting influx of leftish types can easily turn a non-leftist movement into a leftist one, so that leftist goals replace or distort the original goals of the movement.</p> </li> @@ -784,8 +810,9 @@ <p>The more dangerous leftists, that is, those who are most power-hungry, are often characterized by arrogance or by a dogmatic approach to ideology. However, the most dangerous leftists of all may be certain oversocialized types who avoid irritating displays of aggressiveness and refrain from advertising their leftism, but work quietly and unobtrusively to promote collectivist values, “enlightened” psychological techniques for socializing children, dependence of the individual on the system, and so forth. These crypto-leftists (as we may call them) approximate certain bourgeois types as far as practical action is concerned, but differ from them in psychology, ideology and motivation. The ordinary bourgeois tries to bring people under control of the system in order to protect his way of life, or he does so simply because his attitudes are conventional. The crypto-leftist tries to bring people under control of the system because he is a True Believer in a collectivistic ideology. The crypto-leftist is differentiated from the average leftist of the oversocialized type by the fact that his rebellious impulse is weaker and he is more securely socialized. He is differentiated from the ordinary well-socialized bourgeois by the fact that there is some deep lack within him that makes it necessary for him to devote himself to a cause and immerse himself in a collectivity. And maybe his (well-sublimated) drive for power is stronger than that of the average bourgeois.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="final-note">Final Note</h2> -<ol start="231"> +<h2 id="final-note">Final Note <a class="anchor" href="#final-note"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="231"> <li> <p>Throughout this article we’ve made imprecise statements and statements that ought to have had all sorts of qualifications and reservations attached to them; and some of our statements may be flatly false. Lack of sufficient information and the need for brevity made it impossible for us to formulate our assertions more precisely or add all the necessary qualifications. And of course in a discussion of this kind one must rely heavily on intuitive judgment, and that can sometimes be wrong. So we don’t claim that this article expresses more than a crude approximation to the truth.</p> </li> @@ -915,8 +942,9 @@ Thu, 12 Jan 2023 21:34:30 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/recover-lost-anki-streak/ - <h1 id="how-to-recover-a-lost-anki-streak">How to recover a lost anki streak</h1> -<p>Word for word copy paste of what fixed my issue. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/Anki/comments/ndt6ag/comment/gycwiti/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">Original post</a></p> + <h1 id="how-to-recover-a-lost-anki-streak">How to recover a lost anki streak <a class="anchor" href="#how-to-recover-a-lost-anki-streak"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><p>Word for word copy paste of what fixed my issue. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/Anki/comments/ndt6ag/comment/gycwiti/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">Original post</a></p> <p><em>btw i had to create a seperate Custom Study for cards i had forgotten, i set it to 1 day, did one review and followed from step 7</em></p> <p>Happened to me as well, idk why. But there is a way to cheat streaks:</p> <ol> @@ -938,10 +966,12 @@ Wed, 04 Jan 2023 22:52:24 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/meta-description-in-hugo/ - <h1 id="adding-meta-description-in-hugo">Adding meta description in Hugo</h1> -<p>I assume you are using Luke Smith&rsquo;s theme - Lugo, if you are not, you&rsquo;d have to find these files yourself (e.g. search using vscode).</p> -<h2 id="setting-a-global-meta-description">Setting a global meta description</h2> -<ol> + <h1 id="adding-meta-description-in-hugo">Adding meta description in Hugo <a class="anchor" href="#adding-meta-description-in-hugo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><p>I assume you are using Luke Smith&rsquo;s theme - Lugo, if you are not, you&rsquo;d have to find these files yourself (e.g. search using vscode).</p> +<h2 id="setting-a-global-meta-description">Setting a global meta description <a class="anchor" href="#setting-a-global-meta-description"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Locate your config.toml or config.yaml file</li> <li>Add the following line inside it</li> </ol> @@ -952,15 +982,17 @@ <div class="highlight"><pre tabindex="0" style="color:#f8f8f2;background-color:#272822;-moz-tab-size:4;-o-tab-size:4;tab-size:4;"><code class="language-yaml" data-lang="yaml"><span style="display:flex;"><span><span style="color:#f92672">params</span>: </span></span><span style="display:flex;"><span> <span style="color:#f92672">description</span>: <span style="color:#ae81ff">The global meta description of your website</span> </span></span></code></pre></div><p>It won&rsquo;t work just yet because you have to update the <code>baseof.html</code> file.</p> -<h2 id="updating-the-baseofhtml-file">Updating the baseof.html file</h2> -<ol> +<h2 id="updating-the-baseofhtml-file">Updating the baseof.html file <a class="anchor" href="#updating-the-baseofhtml-file"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Locate baseof.html</li> <li>Add or change the meta description line with the following</li> </ol> <div class="highlight"><pre tabindex="0" style="color:#f8f8f2;background-color:#272822;-moz-tab-size:4;-o-tab-size:4;tab-size:4;"><code class="language-html" data-lang="html"><span style="display:flex;"><span>&lt;<span style="color:#f92672">meta</span> <span style="color:#a6e22e">name</span><span style="color:#f92672">=</span><span style="color:#e6db74">&#34;description&#34;</span> <span style="color:#a6e22e">content</span><span style="color:#f92672">=</span><span style="color:#e6db74">&#34;{{ if .Page.Params.description }}{{ .Page.Params.description }}{{ else if .Summary}}{{ .Summary }}{{else}}{{ .Site.Params.description}}{{ end }}&#34;</span>/&gt; </span></span></code></pre></div><p>And now if you start your Hugo server locally with <code>hugo serve --noHTTPCache</code> and you right click on your page -&gt; View Page Source -&gt; Search for the meta description tag. It should match what you left in the config file.</p> -<h2 id="replacing-the-global-description-with-a-custom-one">Replacing the global description with a custom one</h2> -<ol> +<h2 id="replacing-the-global-description-with-a-custom-one">Replacing the global description with a custom one <a class="anchor" href="#replacing-the-global-description-with-a-custom-one"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Have a markdown file ready</li> <li>In the preamble, add</li> </ol> @@ -978,8 +1010,9 @@ https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/multiple-index-pages-in-hugo/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="this-is-how-to-create-multiple-index-pages-in-hugo">This is how to create multiple index pages in Hugo</h2> -</div> +<h2 id="this-is-how-to-create-multiple-index-pages-in-hugo">This is how to create multiple index pages in Hugo <a class="anchor" href="#this-is-how-to-create-multiple-index-pages-in-hugo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>I wanted to order <a href="https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook">Hackbook</a> in reverse (i.e. oldest to newest) so that it&rsquo;s easier for the reader to start at the correct page.</p> <p>I ran into the following problem - the default <strong><code>list.html</code></strong> does them from newest to oldest.</p> <p>So I found <a href="https://discourse.gohugo.io/t/two-home-pages/31312/9">this forum post</a> and I created a file in the <strong><code>_default</code></strong> directory as follows:</p> @@ -1012,11 +1045,14 @@ {{- end }} &lt;/ul&gt; {{- end }} -</code></pre><h4 id="if-you-want-to-display-the-date-on-the-left-of-the-titles-you-have-to-add-datesinlisttrue-in-your-configtoml-or-datesinlist-true-in-your-configyaml">if you want to display the date on the left of the titles, you have to add <strong><code>datesinlist=true</code></strong> in your config.toml or <strong><code>datesinlist: true</code></strong> in your config.yaml</h4> -<h5 id="you-probably-dont-need-enablegitinfo--true-as-that-will-crash-your-website-i-have-no-idea-what-it-does-you-dont-need-it">You probably don&rsquo;t need <strong><code>enableGitInfo = true</code></strong> as that will crash your website, I have no idea what it does, you don&rsquo;t need it.</h5> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="using-your-custom-_indexhtml">Using your custom _index.html</h2> -</div> +</code></pre><h4 id="if-you-want-to-display-the-date-on-the-left-of-the-titles-you-have-to-add-datesinlisttrue-in-your-configtoml-or-datesinlist-true-in-your-configyaml">if you want to display the date on the left of the titles, you have to add <strong><code>datesinlist=true</code></strong> in your config.toml or <strong><code>datesinlist: true</code></strong> in your config.yaml <a class="anchor" href="#if-you-want-to-display-the-date-on-the-left-of-the-titles-you-have-to-add-datesinlisttrue-in-your-configtoml-or-datesinlist-true-in-your-configyaml"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h5 id="you-probably-dont-need-enablegitinfo--true-as-that-will-crash-your-website-i-have-no-idea-what-it-does-you-dont-need-it">You probably don&rsquo;t need <strong><code>enableGitInfo = true</code></strong> as that will crash your website, I have no idea what it does, you don&rsquo;t need it. <a class="anchor" href="#you-probably-dont-need-enablegitinfo--true-as-that-will-crash-your-website-i-have-no-idea-what-it-does-you-dont-need-it"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h5><div style="text-align: center;"> +<h2 id="using-your-custom-_indexhtml">Using your custom _index.html <a class="anchor" href="#using-your-custom-_indexhtml"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>After creating your custom _index.html you&rsquo;d use it as follows:</p> <ol> <li>Create an _index.md file in your desired directory</li> @@ -1227,8 +1263,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true <li>Never PMO again.</li> </ol> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="affirmations">Affirmations</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="affirmations">Affirmations <a class="anchor" href="#affirmations"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <ul> <li>I am free from the slavery of PMO.</li> <li>It is easy for me to ignore my thoughts about PMO.</li> @@ -1269,21 +1306,24 @@ strains of life.</li> https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-43-advice-to-non-pmoers/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK <a class="anchor" href="#help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>First study the contents of this book and try to put yourself in the place of the PMOer. Do not force him to read this book or try to stop him by telling him he is ruining his health or playing with fire. He already knows this better than you do. PMOers do not continue in it because they enjoy it or because they want to. They only tell themselves and other people this in order to retain self-respect. They do it because they feel dependent on PMO because they think that it relaxes them and gives them courage and confidence (pleasure or crutch) and that life will never be enjoyable without “sex” - their version of it. If you try to force a PMOer to stop, he feels like a trapped animal and wants to be in his harem even more. This may turn him into a secret PMOer and in his mind the porn will become even more precious (see Chapter 26).</p> <p>Instead, concentrate on the other side of the coin. Get him into the company of ex-PMOers (there are many blogs, forums etc. YBOP, No-Fap etc.). Get them to tell the PMOer how they too thought they were hooked for life and how much better life is as a non-PMOer. Once you have got him believing that he can stop then his mind will start to open up. Then start explaining the delusion created by withdrawal pangs. Not only are the “dopamine rushes” not giving him a boost but they are destroying his confidence and making him irritable and tired.</p> <p>He should now be ready to read this book himself. He will be expecting to read pages and pages about unreliable arousal, fading penetrations, PIED, PE, etc. Explain that the approach is completely different and that references to illness are just a small fraction of the material in the book.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD <a class="anchor" href="#help-during-the-withdrawal-period"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>If you are dealing with a girlfriend or boyfriend - whether the ex-PMOer is suffering or not, assume that she/he is. Do not try to minimize his suffering by telling him it is easy to stop; he can do that himself. Instead keep telling him how proud you are, how much better he is looking, how much sweeter it is to be with him, how much easier he is in general. It is particularly important to keep doing this. When a PMOer makes an attempt to stop, the euphoria of the attempt and the attention he gets from friends and colleagues can help him along. However, they tend to forget quickly, so keep that praise going.</p> <p>Because he is not talking about PMOing, you may think he has forgotten about it and don&rsquo;t want to remind him. Usually the complete opposite is the case with the Willpower Method, as the ex-PMOer tends to be obsessed by nothing else. So do not be frightened to bring the subject up and keep praising him: he will tell you if he doesn&rsquo;t want you to remind him of PMOing.</p> <p>Go out of your way to relieve him of pressures during the withdrawal period. Try to think of ways of making his life interesting and enjoyable. This can also be a trying period for non-PMOers - that is those of you who have never had this addiction. If one member of a group is irritable, it can cause general misery all round. So anticipate this if the ex-PMOer is feeling irritable. He may well take it out on you but do not retaliate: it is at this time that he needs your praise and sympathy the most. If you are feeling irritable yourself, try not to show it.</p> <p>One of the tricks an addict will play when trying to give up with the aid of the Willpower Method was to get into a tantrum, hoping that wife or friends would say, “I cannot bear to see you suffering like this. For goodness sake, have your poison.” The PMOer then does not lose face, as he isn&rsquo;t “giving in” - he has been instructed. If the ex-PMOer uses this ploy, on no account encourage him to lapse. Instead say, “if that is what PMO does to you, thank goodness you will soon be free. How marvellous that you had the courage and sense to give up.”</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL <a class="anchor" href="#help-end-this-scandal"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>In my opinion, internet porn is one of the dangers in a free society, piggy backing on the good willed efforts of personal freedoms. Surely the very basis of civilization, the reason why the human species has advanced so far, is that we are capable of communicating our knowledge and experiences not only to each other but to future generations. Even the lower species find it necessary to warn their offspring of the pitfalls in life.</p> <p>The producers of porn are not doing this in good faith, in the genuine belief that they help mankind, especially now as the addiction to internet porn is widely studied. Maybe in its initial stages people genuinely believed that porn taught intimacy to men and women but today the authorities know that it is a fallacy. Just watch any tube sites nowadays. They make no claims about education. The only claims they make are about the shock, novelty, escalation quality of their clips.</p> <p>The sheer hypocrisy is incredible. As a society we get uptight about school bullying and objectification of human body. Compared with internet porn, these problems are mere pimples in our society. Thirty five per cent of the population have been addicted to porn and most of them spend quality time with imaginary and illusory pixel people at the expense of health, virility, energy and time. Tens of thousands of people have their lives ruined every year because they become hooked. Internet high speed porn is by far the biggest killer in relationships and yet the biggest vested interest is our for-profit companies. Internet porn producers don’t spend on advertising the filth in mainstream publications - they don’t have to. Our biological urges will lead us to the thresholds of their well stocked internet harems. They give free samples just like your local drug dealer. Heck the tube sites don’t even stock the wares any more as they encourage visitors to post the content.</p> @@ -1296,8 +1336,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <p>Why do we allow society to subject healthy young teenagers, youngsters whose lives are complete before they start to get online, to claim their independence just for the privilege of destroying themselves mentally and physically in a lifetime of slavery, a lifetime of filth and disease? You may feel that I over-dramatize the facts. Not so. There are cases where lives were cut down in his early years of marriage because of PMO. He was a strong man and might still have been alive today. I believe I was within an inch of PIED during my forties, although I would have attributed it to my divorce rather than to PMO. I now spend my life being consulted by people who have been crippled by the disease or are in the last stages. And, if you care to think about it, you probably know of many too.</p> <p>There is a wind of change in society. A snowball has started that I hope this book will help turn into an avalanche. You too can help by spreading the message.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING <a class="anchor" href="#final-warning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>You can now enjoy the rest of your life as a happy non-PMOer. In order to make sure that you do, you need to follow these simple instructions:</p> <ol> <li>Keep this page in your bookmarks and refer to it as much as you need.</li> @@ -1396,8 +1437,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <p>Find out which one it is. Some people understand and believe everything I say but still start off with a feeling of doom and gloom, as if something terrible were happening. You are doing not only what you&rsquo;d like to do but what every PMOer on the planet would like to do. With any method of stopping, what the ex PMOer is trying to achieve is a certain frame of mind, so that whenever he thinks about PMO he says to himself, “YIPPEE! I&rsquo;M FREE!” If that&rsquo;s your object, why wait? Start off in that frame of mind and never lose it. The rest of the book is designed to make you understand why there is no alternative.</p> </blockquote> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="the-check-list"><strong>THE CHECK LIST</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="the-check-list"><strong>THE CHECK LIST</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-check-list"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>If you follow these simple instructions, you cannot fail:</p> <ol> <li>Make a solemn vow that you will never, ever, go online to visit your harem OR settle down for static pictures OR make peace with erotic graphics OR anything that contains supra normal stimuli, and stick to your vow.</li> @@ -1511,14 +1553,16 @@ sites in my life again.”<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1& <p>I have been direct in my advice so far and would ask you to treat this advice as instruction rather than suggestion. I am explicit and direct, first because there are sound, practical reasons for my advice and second, because those reasons have been backed up by thousands of case studies. On the question of whether or not to try to avoid temptation during the withdrawal period, I regret that I cannot be direct. Each PMOer will need to decide for himself. I can, however, make what I hope will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all our lives and this fear consists of two distinct phases:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO?</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO? <a class="anchor" href="#phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>This fear is that panicky feeling the PMOer gets when they are alone in a single phase or have an asexual, uninterested or unavailable partner. The fear isn&rsquo;t caused by withdrawal pangs but is the psychological fear of dependency - you cannot survive without sex and orgasm. It actually reaches its height when you are on the verge of quitting (I won’t use giving up); at that time your withdrawal pangs are at their lowest. It is the fear of the unknown, the sort of fear that people have when they are learning to dive.</p> <p>The diving board is 1 foot high but seems to be 6 feet high. The water is 6 feet deep but appears to be 1 foot deep. It takes courage to launch yourself. You are convinced you are going to smash your head. The launching is the hardest part. If you can find the courage to do it, the rest is easy. This explains why many otherwise strong-willed PMOers either have never attempted to stop or can survive only a few days when they do. In fact, there are some PMOers on a porn diet who when they decide to stop, actually binge and escalate to harsher clips more quickly than if they had not decided to stop. The decision causes panic, which is stressful. This is one of the occasions when the brain triggers the instruction, “take a trip to your own personal harem.” But now you can&rsquo;t take one. You are being deprived - more stress.</p> <p>The trigger starts again quickly when the fuse blows and you fire up the browser. Don&rsquo;t worry. That panic is just psychological. It is the fear that you are dependent. The beautiful truth is that you are not, even when you are still addicted. Do not panic. Just trust me and launch yourself.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear <a class="anchor" href="#phase-2-longer-term-fear"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>The second phase of fear is longer-term. It involves the fear that certain situations in the future will not be enjoyable or that you will not be able to cope with a trauma without PMO. Don&rsquo;t worry. If you can launch yourself you will find the opposite to be the case. The avoidance of temptation itself falls into two main categories:</p> <ol> <li>“I will subscribe to a porn-diet of once in 4 days. I will feel more confident knowing that I can go online if it gets hard. It is OK if I fail I can just add up additional days to my next cycle.”</li> @@ -1621,8 +1665,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict <li>What&rsquo;s worse, it keeps the big monster alive in your mind. If you had the “last peek”, it will be easier to have the next one.</li> </ol> <p>Above all, remember:</p> -<h2 id="just-one-peek-is-how-people-get-into-pmo-addiction-in-the-first-place">“Just one peek” is how people get into PMO addiction in the first place.</h2> - +<h2 id="just-one-peek-is-how-people-get-into-pmo-addiction-in-the-first-place">“Just one peek” is how people get into PMO addiction in the first place. <a class="anchor" href="#just-one-peek-is-how-people-get-into-pmo-addiction-in-the-first-place"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2>         @@ -1727,8 +1772,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict </ol> <p>Stop kidding yourself. If the job offer that I mentioned before, of 10 months work for 12 months salary a year won&rsquo;t stop him. Or if the risks of cutting down your brain’s capacity to cope with just any normal day-to-day stress and strains or if putting yourself at odds with having a reliable erection, or if the lifetime of mental and physical torture and slavery did not stop him or her - the above said few phoney incentives will not make the slightest bit of difference. They will only make the sacrifice appear worse. Instead concentrate on the other side:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"><strong>“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?”</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"><strong>“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?”</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>Keep looking at the other side of the tug of war. What is PMOing doing for me? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Why do I need to do it? YOU DON&rsquo;T! YOU ARE ONLY PUNISHING YOURSELF. Try looking at it from the Pascal’s Wager perspective. You have almost nothing to lose (a rub-out with half arousals) for sure, chances of big profits (a full and reliable arousal, mental well being and happiness) and no chance of losing big (unreliable full arousals, premature ejaculations, fading penetrations, loss of general impulse controls, lower tolerance for frustrations and anger).</p> <p>Why not declare your quitting to friends and family? Well, it will make you a proud ex-addict, ex-PMOer, not an elated and happy non-PMOer. It will scare your partner a bit since they may see this as an effort to have more sex, sort of a new-age thing. They may also fear to lose you if this turns you into sex machine. It is hard to explain to them unless they are open minded.</p> <p>Any attempt to get others to help you in your quitting gives more power to the little monster of addiction. Pushing it from your mind and totally ignoring it has the effect of trying NOT to think of it. As soon as you spot the thoughts, when you hit the cues (home alone) or just absent minded thoughts - just say to yourself: “Great, I don’t have to do it like a slave animal. I am free. I am happy to know the differences in sex.” This will cut the life of the thought and will deny oxygen to it and will stop it from burning towards urges and cravings.</p> @@ -1796,8 +1842,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <p>First of all, identify the times or occasions when PMO appears to be important to you. If you are a businessman and use it for the illusion of relief of stress, pick a relatively slack period; a good idea is to choose your annual holiday. If you PMO mainly during boring or relaxing periods, weekends etc. do the opposite. In any event, take the matter seriously and make the attempt the most important thing in your life.</p> <p>Look ahead for a period of about three weeks and try to anticipate any event that might lead to failure. Occasions like a conference trip, partner out of town etc. need not deter you, providing you anticipate them in advance and do not feel you will be deprived. Do not attempt to cut down in the meantime as this will only create the illusion that being denied is enjoyable. In fact, it helps to force yourself to watch and have as many PMO sessions as possible. While you are having the last session and that last time, be conscious of the disappointment due to satiation, unfulfilled expectations (porn can never satisfy you), any bodily pain or pain in the genitals, the withdrawal effects, the peevishness and the melancholy. Think how marvellous it will be when you allow yourself to stop doing it.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="whatever-you-do-dont-fall-into-the-trap-of-just-saying-not-now-later-and-putting-it-out-of-your-mind-work-out-your-timetable-now-and-look-forward-to-it">WHATEVER YOU DO, DON&rsquo;T FALL INTO THE TRAP OF JUST SAYING, “NOT NOW. LATER,” AND PUTTING IT OUT OF YOUR MIND. WORK OUT YOUR TIMETABLE NOW AND LOOK FORWARD TO IT.</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="whatever-you-do-dont-fall-into-the-trap-of-just-saying-not-now-later-and-putting-it-out-of-your-mind-work-out-your-timetable-now-and-look-forward-to-it">WHATEVER YOU DO, DON&rsquo;T FALL INTO THE TRAP OF JUST SAYING, “NOT NOW. LATER,” AND PUTTING IT OUT OF YOUR MIND. WORK OUT YOUR TIMETABLE NOW AND LOOK FORWARD TO IT. <a class="anchor" href="#whatever-you-do-dont-fall-into-the-trap-of-just-saying-not-now-later-and-putting-it-out-of-your-mind-work-out-your-timetable-now-and-look-forward-to-it"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>Remember you aren&rsquo;t giving anything up. On the contrary: you are about to receive marvellous positive gains.</p> <p>For years the medical profession viewed porn is harmless without knowing the difference between the tame static porn of yesteryear and the latest VR streaming porn. The problem is this; although every PMOer uses internet porn purely to relieve the brain chemical craving for dopamine, it is not the addiction to the brain chemical itself that hooks the PMOer but the self-brainwashing that results from that addiction. An intelligent person will fall for a confidence trick. But only a fool will go on falling for it once he realizes that it&rsquo;s a confidence trick. Fortunately, most PMOers aren&rsquo;t fools; they only think they are. Each individual PMOer has his own private brainwashing. That is why there appears to be such a wide range of different types of PMOer, which only serves to compound the mysteries.</p> <p>With the benefit of the original book that used this method to stop smoking, which dealt with nicotine addiction (one of the most quickest and addictive drug known to man) and bearing in mind that the personal logs that I collected from Reddit, NoFap and YBOP blogs and forums, I was agreeably surprised to realize that the philosophy propounded in the original book was still sound. The accumulated knowledge that was acquired by the original author Alan Carr and by myself the hack-author is how to communicate that knowledge to each individual PMOer. The fact that I know every PMOer can not only find it easy to stop but can actually enjoy the process is not only pointless but exceedingly frustrating unless I can make the PMOer realize it. The original author of the quit smoking book explains some controversial advice:</p> @@ -1835,8 +1882,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <p>The only reason why people continue to PMO after getting educated is because they have failed to stop or are too frightened to try. There are even talks about no porn, no masturbation and no orgasms - with or without partners. Karezza is discussed widely and people are trying it out. Many aforementioned failures are “fail forwards” and thus somewhat benefiting the people who practice them. Once you start in the no-PMO route you will find your best fit that applies to your life. I strongly encourage devising your own plan on orgasms after understanding and practising the separation of the amative and the propagative parts of sex. I am sure whichever route you take you will see the value of preserving the “seed” by limiting the number of times you flush your brain with chemicals by orgasming. You will then never see porn, sex and orgasms as a pleasure or as a crutch for your emotional ups and downs.</p> <p>I was reading a Reddit forum by non-PMOers dedicated to quitting not only porn but also masturbation. As I read along I thought. “This is good, I see so many have taken to quitting masturbation and I think that is the right way to quit PMO.” However, I found most of the notes pointing to them to try with the Willpower Method. There was a lot of self-pitying as well. Except a few&hellip; almost all were not feeling elated and not having the, “yippee I am free from slavery” attitude. Eventually someone broke down - as I unfortunately expected to happen. And the result was a domino effect. All those other PMOers had been sitting there thinking, “surely I can&rsquo;t be the only PMOer here.” However, they were “failing forward” albeit with a lot of self-torturing as they shut down their browsers but did not shut down the desire and the need. This method is the reverse as - we shut down the desire and the need first before shutting down the browser screen. As every day more and more PMOers leave the sinking ship, so those left on it become terrified they&rsquo;ll be the last.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="dont-let-it-be-you"><strong>DON&rsquo;T LET IT BE YOU!</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="dont-let-it-be-you"><strong>DON&rsquo;T LET IT BE YOU!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#dont-let-it-be-you"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> @@ -1854,8 +1902,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <p>Columbo has this frustrating practice of closing the door after finishing his interrogation, having assured the suspect that he is in the clear and before the satisfied look has disappeared from the murderer&rsquo;s face, Columbo reappears with: “just one small point, sir, which I&rsquo;m sure you can explain&hellip;” The suspect stammers and from that point on we know and he knows that Columbo will gradually wear him down. No matter how heinous the crime, from that point on my sympathies were with the murderer.</p> <p>It was almost as if I were the criminal and that&rsquo;s exactly how those bouts made me feel. The tension of not being allowed to cross the red line to get my porn fix that I “rightly deserve because I am hard working man and why shouldn’t I when every man does it?” entitlement, click, click, clicking on videos that come close to the right one. Longing for the porn tube videos. And then finishing the deed - just a limp rub out, wondering where the pleasure was. The fear of crossing the line losing control. The relief of returning to the bed, immediately followed by the fear that she would toss around and ask for sex. As the “safe” YouTube videos started not to do it for me - desensitization and lack of novelty and the certain knowledge that sooner or later I was bound to visit my favourite online harem. The final humiliation and shame when that certainty became a fact, followed by the immediate return to chain-PMOing.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="oh-the-joys-of-being-a-pmo-er"><strong>OH THE JOYS OF BEING A PMO-er!</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="oh-the-joys-of-being-a-pmo-er"><strong>OH THE JOYS OF BEING A PMO-er!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#oh-the-joys-of-being-a-pmo-er"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> @@ -1882,25 +1931,32 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p </ol> <p>I used to think of my ‘non-casual’ PMOing as a weakness. I couldn&rsquo;t understand why my friends could limit their “intake.” I knew I was a very strong-willed person. It never occurred to me that most PMOers are incapable of chain-PMOing - you need a very strong imagination and also extraordinarily strong penis stamina in order to do it. Some of these once-a-week PMOers that heavy PMOers tend to envy do it less frequently because physically their constitution cannot do more, or because they cannot afford to PMO more, or because their job, or society, or their own hatred of being hooked won&rsquo;t allow them to PMO more.</p> <p>It may be of advantage at this stage to provide a few definitions:</p> -<h3 id="the-non-pmoer">THE NON-PMOer</h3> -<p>Someone who has never fallen for the trap but should not be complacent. He is a non-PMOer only by luck or the grace of goodness. All PMOers were convinced that they would never become hooked and some non-PMOers keep trying an occasional session.</p> -<h3 id="the-casual-pmoer">THE CASUAL PMOer</h3> -<p>There are two basic classifications of casual PMOers:</p> +<h3 id="the-non-pmoer">THE NON-PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-non-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>Someone who has never fallen for the trap but should not be complacent. He is a non-PMOer only by luck or the grace of goodness. All PMOers were convinced that they would never become hooked and some non-PMOers keep trying an occasional session.</p> +<h3 id="the-casual-pmoer">THE CASUAL PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-casual-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>There are two basic classifications of casual PMOers:</p> <ol> <li>The PMOer who has fallen for the trap but doesn&rsquo;t realize it. Do not envy such PMOers. They are merely sampling the nectar at the mouth of the pitcher plant and in all probability will soon be heavy users. Remember, just as all alcoholics started off as casual drinkers, so all PMOers started off as casual PMOers.</li> <li>The PMOer who was previously a heavy PMOer and thinks he cannot stop. These PMOers are the saddest of all. They fall into various categories, each of which needs separate comment.</li> </ol> -<h3 id="the-oncea--day-pmoer">THE ONCE–A- DAY PMOer</h3> -<p>If he enjoys his entitlement to orgasm, why does he use internet porn to orgasm only once a day? If he can take it or leave it, why does he bother to PMO at all? Remember, the ‘habit’ is really banging your head against the brick wall only to make it relaxing when you stop. The once-a-day PMOer is relieving his withdrawal pangs for less than one hour each day. The rest of the day, although he doesn&rsquo;t realize it, he is banging his head against the wall and does so for most of his life. He is PMOing only once a day because either he cannot take the risk of getting caught or screwing up his brain health. It is easy to convince the heavy PMOer that he doesn&rsquo;t enjoy it but you try convincing a casual PMOer. Anybody who has gone through an attempt to cut down will know it is the worst torture of all and almost guaranteed to keep you hooked for the rest of your life.</p> -<h3 id="the-rejected-pmoer">THE REJECTED PMOer</h3> -<p>This PMOer demands the right to his/her orgasm(s) every day. And of course his sex partner is not always up to it. So he goes on the internet for porn initially. Once he takes “the ride” to fix “the void” he is trapped on this most exciting ‘water slide’ of novelty, shock, supranormal images etc. He is in fact dichotomously ‘happy’ with the partner’s rejection – it gives him something of an excuse. If internet porn is giving so much to you, why even bother to have a partner at all? Set him or her free. He is not even enjoying the PMO when he has to ‘carry’ his partner in his mind. At some point he is using his real life partner to hand him an excuse to go out into the valleys of the dark side of the internet.</p> -<h3 id="the-porn-diet-pmoer">THE PORN DIET PMOer</h3> -<p>(Or, “I can stop whenever I want to. I have done it thousands of times”). If he thinks dieting helps with his moods to ‘get out to get women,’ why is he even on the diet of once every four days? How can one predict the future, what if the happenstance of meeting occurred just an hour after your scheduled PMO session? Also, if he thinks this occasional “cleaning the plumbing” is good to relieve tension and relax why not plumb every day? It has been proven that masturbation is not required to keep the genitals healthy. Internet porn is not required at all. Even if that may be the case, any PUA guru who has read about the brain chemistry and its plasticity will never recommend watching super stimulus porn. The truth is he is still hooked. Although he gets rid of the physical addiction, he is left with the main problem - the brainwashing. He hopes each time that he will stop for good and soon falls for the same trap again.</p> +<h3 id="the-oncea--day-pmoer">THE ONCE–A- DAY PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-oncea--day-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>If he enjoys his entitlement to orgasm, why does he use internet porn to orgasm only once a day? If he can take it or leave it, why does he bother to PMO at all? Remember, the ‘habit’ is really banging your head against the brick wall only to make it relaxing when you stop. The once-a-day PMOer is relieving his withdrawal pangs for less than one hour each day. The rest of the day, although he doesn&rsquo;t realize it, he is banging his head against the wall and does so for most of his life. He is PMOing only once a day because either he cannot take the risk of getting caught or screwing up his brain health. It is easy to convince the heavy PMOer that he doesn&rsquo;t enjoy it but you try convincing a casual PMOer. Anybody who has gone through an attempt to cut down will know it is the worst torture of all and almost guaranteed to keep you hooked for the rest of your life.</p> +<h3 id="the-rejected-pmoer">THE REJECTED PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-rejected-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>This PMOer demands the right to his/her orgasm(s) every day. And of course his sex partner is not always up to it. So he goes on the internet for porn initially. Once he takes “the ride” to fix “the void” he is trapped on this most exciting ‘water slide’ of novelty, shock, supranormal images etc. He is in fact dichotomously ‘happy’ with the partner’s rejection – it gives him something of an excuse. If internet porn is giving so much to you, why even bother to have a partner at all? Set him or her free. He is not even enjoying the PMO when he has to ‘carry’ his partner in his mind. At some point he is using his real life partner to hand him an excuse to go out into the valleys of the dark side of the internet.</p> +<h3 id="the-porn-diet-pmoer">THE PORN DIET PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-porn-diet-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>(Or, “I can stop whenever I want to. I have done it thousands of times”). If he thinks dieting helps with his moods to ‘get out to get women,’ why is he even on the diet of once every four days? How can one predict the future, what if the happenstance of meeting occurred just an hour after your scheduled PMO session? Also, if he thinks this occasional “cleaning the plumbing” is good to relieve tension and relax why not plumb every day? It has been proven that masturbation is not required to keep the genitals healthy. Internet porn is not required at all. Even if that may be the case, any PUA guru who has read about the brain chemistry and its plasticity will never recommend watching super stimulus porn. The truth is he is still hooked. Although he gets rid of the physical addiction, he is left with the main problem - the brainwashing. He hopes each time that he will stop for good and soon falls for the same trap again.</p> <p>Many PMOers actually envy these stoppers and starters. They think, “how lucky to be able to control it like that, to do PMO when you want to and stop when you want to,” What they always overlook is that these stoppers and starters aren&rsquo;t controlling it. When they are PMOers, they wish they weren&rsquo;t. They go through the hassle of stopping, then begin to feel deprived and fall for the trap again, then wish they hadn&rsquo;t. They get the worst of both worlds. If you think about it, this is true in the lives of the PMOers. When we are allowed to PMO we either take it as entitled or wish we didn&rsquo;t. It&rsquo;s only when we can&rsquo;t have PMO that it appears to be so precious. The ‘forbidden fruit syndrome’. This is the awful dilemma of PMOers. They can never win because they are moping for a myth, an illusion. There is one way they can win and that is to stop PMOing and stop moping!</p> -<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC/TAME/HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer</h3> -<p>Yes, we all do it to start with but isn&rsquo;t it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner&rsquo;s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes&hellip; you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one.</p> -<h3 id="the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer">THE I-HAVE-STOPPED-BUT-I-HAVE-AN-OCCASIONAL-PEEK PMOer</h3> -<p>In a way such peeking PMOers are the most pathetic of all. Either they go through their lives believing they are being deprived or, more often, the occasional peek becomes two. They remain on the slippery slope and it goes only one way - DOWNWARDS. Sooner or later they are back to being heavy PMOers. They have fallen again for the very trap that they fell into in the first place.</p> +<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC/TAME/HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>Yes, we all do it to start with but isn&rsquo;t it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner&rsquo;s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes&hellip; you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one.</p> +<h3 id="the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer">THE I-HAVE-STOPPED-BUT-I-HAVE-AN-OCCASIONAL-PEEK PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>In a way such peeking PMOers are the most pathetic of all. Either they go through their lives believing they are being deprived or, more often, the occasional peek becomes two. They remain on the slippery slope and it goes only one way - DOWNWARDS. Sooner or later they are back to being heavy PMOers. They have fallen again for the very trap that they fell into in the first place.</p> <p>There are two other categories of casual PMOers. The first is the type who masturbates to images or clips of the latest celebrity sex tapes that hit the news. Or something they ‘carried home’ from their ‘accidental’ viewing at school or work. These people are really non-PMOers. It&rsquo;s just that they feel they are missing out. They want to be part of the action. We all start off like this. Next time watch how, after a while, the celebrity sex tape, the same star of your fantasy is not ‘doing it’ to you any more. The more ‘unattainable’ the target of your fantasy is, the more frustrating the withdrawal of the orgasm is.</p> <p>The second category is recently getting attention. The type can best be described by outlining a case shared online. A woman who is a professional, had been using internet porn stories for many years and had never PMOed more or less than one time every night. She was, incidentally, a very strong-willed lady. Most PMOers would wonder why she wanted to stop in the first place. They would gladly point out to her that there is no worries of PIED, or PE in her case as she is a women. She is using not even static images and the stories are far tamer than any they use on a daily basis.</p> <p>They make the mistake of assuming that casual PMOers are happier and more in control. In control they may be but happy they are not. In this case, she is not satisfied with her partner, not interested in real sex, highly irritable with her daily stress and strains. Her nearest-and-dearest could not find out what is bothering her. Even if she convinced herself not to be afraid of her use of internet porn by rationalizing, she still finds herself not being able to enjoy real relationships which almost invariably involve ups and downs. Her brain’s RC<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> is not able to make use of the normal de-stress brain chemicals as she is flooding dopamine into her brain on an everyday basis. The down regulation<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> of her brain receptors has rendered her melancholic most times. Like me, she had a great fear of internet porn’s dark side of the treatment of women- before her first time. Like me, she eventually fell victim to the massive social brainwash and tried that first porn site. Like me, she can remember the foul clips of violence staged as entertainment. Unlike me, who capitulated and became a chain-PMOer very quickly, she resisted the slide.</p> @@ -1913,8 +1969,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p </blockquote> <p>In addition to his other troubles, this poor man has no idea that he treating himself to a poison. First he is suffering the “forbidden fruit syndrome.” Next he is forcing his brain to flush dopamine. His dopamine receptors are not as cut down comparatively either. But he is sliding and greasing the porn slides, seeking and searching for edging, novelty, variety, shock-value, anxiety-value (“I must treat myself so that I can survive the next three days”) etc. You probably have visions of a pathetic imbecile. Not so. This man was over six feet tall and an ex-sergeant in the Marines. He was a former athlete and didn&rsquo;t want to become an addict to anything. However, when he returned from the war he was trained as a techie in a veterans rehab program. When he entered the civil work force he was a well paid IT professional in a bank and was given a laptop (one of the ways to ensure you take work home). It was the year that famous socialites ‘leaked’ their porn videos online. There was much talk about it. And he got hooked. He has spent the rest of his life paying through the nose and it has ruined him physically and mentally. If he were an animal, our society would have put him out of his misery, yet we still allow mentally and physically healthy young teenagers to become hooked. You may think the above case and my notes are exaggerated. It is extreme but not unique. There are literally thousands of similar stories. That man poured his heart out to me but you can be sure that many of his friends and acquaintances envied him for being a once-a-week man. If you think this couldn&rsquo;t happen to you, STOP KIDDING YOURSELF.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="it-is-already-happening"><strong>IT IS ALREADY HAPPENING.</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="it-is-already-happening"><strong>IT IS ALREADY HAPPENING.</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#it-is-already-happening"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>In any event, PMOers like other addicts are notorious liars, even to themselves. They have to be. Most casual PMOers indulge far more times and on far more occasions than they will admit to. I have had many conversations with so-called twice-a-week PMOers during which they have done it more than three times that week. If you read the Reddit or No-Fap forums of casual PMOers, they are either counting the days or waiting to fail. You do not need to envy casual PMOers. You do not need to PMO. Life is infinitely sweeter without PMO. One log says&hellip;</p> <blockquote> <p><em>“It started with a simple challenge to not touch my penis for a day. And being unable. I don&rsquo;t think about masturbation anymore. It doesn&rsquo;t cross my mind. That is possible, I promise you. And the riches that await those who are able - they&rsquo;re incredible.”</em></p> @@ -2015,8 +2072,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p </ol> <p>The other important point that cutting down demonstrates is that there is no such thing as the odd or occasional harem visit. Internet porn is a chain reaction that will last the rest of your life unless you make a positive effort to break it:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="remember-cutting-down-will-drag-you-down"><strong>REMEMBER: CUTTING DOWN WILL DRAG YOU DOWN.</strong></h3> -</div><div class="footnotes" role="doc-endnotes"> +<h3 id="remember-cutting-down-will-drag-you-down"><strong>REMEMBER: CUTTING DOWN WILL DRAG YOU DOWN.</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#remember-cutting-down-will-drag-you-down"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div><div class="footnotes" role="doc-endnotes"> <hr> <ol> <li id="fn:1"> @@ -2337,14 +2395,16 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on this planet. Whether you believe in a creator, a process of natural selection or a combination of both, whatever being or system devised these bodies of ours, it is a thousand times more effective than man! Man cannot create the smallest living cell, let alone the miracle of eyesight, reproduction, our circulatory system or our brains. We don’t have our systems upgraded yet to properly assess the supranormal stimulus such as rich high density food or high speed internet novelty porn with multiple active windows.</p> <p>If the creator or process had intended us to handle novelty triggering stimuli, we would have been provided with some other brain reward circuits. Our bodies are, in fact, provided with fail-safe warning devices and we ignore these at our peril. Excessive edging results in body pain, irritation, and inflammation. In women, excessive flooding of dopamine and stress enzymes such as prostaglandin-E2 can cause difficulty to orgasm and PME.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up"><strong>There Is Nothing To Give Up</strong></h2> -</div> +<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up"><strong>There Is Nothing To Give Up</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#there-is-nothing-to-give-up"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.</p> <p>The problem I have is to make a convincing point as I’d have done for, let us say&hellip; smokers? All of us have seen smokers who develop excuses to sneak off for a crafty puff. It is easy to see the true addiction in action. Addicts do not do it because they enjoy it. They do it because they are miserable without it.</p> <p>Because many of us started out our first sexual experience that ended in an orgasm and we acquired the belief that we cannot enjoy sex without an orgasm. And for men, porn is sold as an aid towards sex, sometimes even as an education to be confident during the act of sex. It used to be static, but now we have supranormal internet porn. But this is nonsense. Internet porn takes away your confidence.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="women-and-porn"><strong>Women And Porn</strong></h2> -</div> +<h2 id="women-and-porn"><strong>Women And Porn</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#women-and-porn"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn&rsquo;t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.</p> <p>Porn and internet porn does not help your sex life; it destroys it totally. Having to hide your internet footprints, trying to delete your history, fearing accidental exposure to your boyfriend or kids, body pains, doubtful symptoms, fighting self doubts, arguing with yourself about your responsibilities in the ill effects of your addiction&hellip; well, why do you want to put yourself in such a bad situation?</p> <p>Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous positive gains to be had. When PMOers contemplate quitting they tend to concentrate on health and virility. These are obviously valid and important issues but I personally believe the greatest gains from stopping are psychological:</p> @@ -2355,8 +2415,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> </ol> <p>Not only is life better as a non-PMOer but it is infinitely more enjoyable. I do not only mean you will be healthier. I mean you will be happier and enjoy life far more. The marvellous gains from being a non-PMOer are discussed in the next few chapters. Some PMOers find it difficult to appreciate the concept of the &lsquo;void&rsquo; and the following analogy may assist you.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"><strong>Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void!</strong></h2> -</div> +<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"><strong>Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I&rsquo;ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can&rsquo;t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.</p> <p>By now you are completely dependent on the ointment. You never go out without ensuring that you have a tube of the ointment with you. If you go abroad, you make sure that you take several tubes with you. Now, in addition to your worries about your health, I&rsquo;m charging you $100 per tube. You have no choice but to pay.</p> <p>You then read in the medical column of your newspaper that this isn&rsquo;t happening just to you; many other people have been suffering from the same problem. In fact, pharmacists have discovered that the ointment doesn&rsquo;t actually cure the sore. All that it does is to take the sore beneath the surface of the skin. It is the ointment that has caused the sore to grow. All you have to do to get rid of the sore is to stop using the ointment. The sore will eventually disappear in due course.</p> @@ -2494,15 +2555,17 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>We can have an ‘information overload’ from the same internet but our reward circuits are not going to squirt dopamine at the levels when ‘porn overload’ is involved. We are evolutionarily programmed to seek and access sex related stuff. And we wrongly appraise the stimulus mostly based on this reward circuit action. If all you wanted is to masturbate why can’t you just use one clip and get the business done?</p> <p>Here is another question - next time after a long day or some stressful incident can you consciously embellish your self-talk with “Do you know what I would really enjoy today? The marvellous warm glow of dopamine rush going to my online harem.” You will find that even people who dislike PMO will join you.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="past-misguided-advice"><strong>Past Misguided Advice</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="past-misguided-advice"><strong>Past Misguided Advice</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#past-misguided-advice"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.</p> <p>From our earliest years our subconscious minds are bombarded daily with information telling us that sex is good and that the most precious thing on this earth is to ‘achieve’ orgasm. Girls are taught to achieve it and claim it&rsquo;s because they were wrongly suppressed of their sexual side for a very long time and still are. You think I exaggerate? Watch any TV or movie plot and you will see the mix-up of the amative (touch, smell, voice etc.) and the propagative (orgasmic) sides of sex. The impact of this does not register on our conscious minds but the sleeping partner, the subconscious mind, has time to absorb it. What the message is really saying is, “The most precious thing on this earth, my last thought and action, will be the goal of orgasm.” If you don’t have an orgasm then you are an old man with zero libido.</p> <p>Our children are being bombarded by sex and porn clips and many don’t even know how to protect them from it all. Large hoardings and magazine adverts are loaded with sexual innuendo. Some of the pop videos are extremely suggestive - again they hide behind free speech. Don’t be vexed and feel powerless about it. Make it a game and find you which of the components they are using - is it novelty, shock value, color, size, taboo etc. If the kids are pre-teen some of these can be disclosed to them and it would make an excellent show-and-tell game.</p> <p>A while back there was a wave of ‘leaked’ private videos of celebrities on the internet. If the youngster is too smitten by their favourite star, even if the conscious mind blames the ‘leak’ on the blood thirsty internet paparazzi, the &lsquo;sleeping partner&rsquo; is patiently digesting the notion that, “yes, even my shambolic hero does it and if I don’t, I won’t look the part.”</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-scientific-reasoning"><strong>The Scientific Reasoning</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-scientific-reasoning"><strong>The Scientific Reasoning</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-scientific-reasoning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>, Reboot<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> forums, underground PUA<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup>, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn&rsquo;t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.</p> <p>Ironically, the most powerful force in this melee of confusion is the PMOer himself. It is a fallacy that they are weak-willed or are physically weak specimens. You have to be physically strong in order to cope with an addiction after you know it is. This is one of the reasons why PMOers refuse to accept the overwhelming statistics that prove that internet porn with its ‘novelty’ cripples your brain. Add to that the sexologists who are doing half-baked studies and declare PMO is not an issue - they just help to add to the confusion.</p> <p>Everyone knows a friend who PMOed every day - he started with the ‘static’ to internet porn, always horny in real life, chasing girls and you never doubted him to have sex problems of course. You want to believe him. He never complained about any ED right? Guys and girls like them refuse even to consider the hundreds of ex-addicts and non-PMOers who painfully recount their difficulties. It is the “little monster” brain chemical addiction and the “big monster” - illusions and delusions. In this hackbook, I&rsquo;ve put together almost all the sorts of brainwashing a PMOer can suffer from. There will always be a few out there that I haven&rsquo;t touched upon.</p> @@ -2510,8 +2573,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>If you do a small survey among your online forum members, friends and colleagues, you will find that most PMOers are, in fact, strong-willed people. They tend to be self-employed, business executives or in certain specialized professions, such as doctors<sup id="fnref:4"><a href="#fn:4" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">4</a></sup>, lawyers, policemen, teachers, salesmen, nurses, secretaries, housewives with children, etc. In other words, anybody leading a stressful existence. Yes, I did include women and mothers. It’s the brain and it’s the same for them too. The main delusion of the PMOer is that porn helps to masturbate to orgasm and that relieves stress. This tends to be associated with the dominant type, the type that takes on responsibility and stress and, of course, that is the type that we admire and therefore tend to copy. Another group that tends to get hooked are people in monotonous jobs because the other main reason for PMOing is boredom. However, the idea that internet porn relieves boredom is also an illusion, I am afraid.</p> <p>As a society we get all uptight about glue-sniffing, heroin addiction, etc. Actual deaths from glue-sniffing do not amount to ten per annum, and deaths from heroin are less than a hundred a year in this country. There is another drug, internet porn, on which over 45 per cent of us become hooked at some time in our lives and the majority spend the rest of their lives regretting it. Some even don’t know that their ED is due to this.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-willpower-method"><strong>The Willpower Method</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-willpower-method"><strong>The Willpower Method</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why?</p> <p>Constant exposure to internet porn re-wires your brain. You need to start building resistance to this brainwashing, just as if you were buying a car from a second-hand car dealer. You would be nodding politely but you would not believe a word the man was saying. So don’t believe everything they say either - that you must have sex as much as you can and you must have it exceptional good. And that in the absence of real sex you claim it by the substitute called internet porn - which is only a component of the good old porn.</p> <p>And don’t play ‘safe’ porn game either - because your “little porn monster” invented that scheme to lure you. Even the content - ‘amateur’? Really? Is there a certification authority that certifies it? Tube sites and porn producers gather site visitor profiles and cater to their needs. If they see a trend in crowd sourced collection of a particular genre they will focus on that and get content out ASAP. The statistics of what genre users like is collected to the level of how long and which portion the users were preferring. Do not be fooled by their educational intent or the safe female oriented clips (for you ladies). Start asking yourself:</p> @@ -2523,22 +2587,25 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>I find this brainwashing aspect the most difficult of all to explain. Why is it that an otherwise rational, intelligent human being becomes a complete imbecile about his own addiction? It pains me to confess that out of the thousands of people that I have assisted in kicking the habit, I (not Allen Carr) was the biggest idiot of all.</p> <p>At the age of thirteen, although I was doing well at school and games, I was still an insufferable introvert. I read books from the library that were not within my main study list. However, I can see that I was attracted to erotica. I started masturbating to TV programs, song and dance sequences etc. I must have to have it every day. The tired feeling I felt was misappropriated by my ‘little porn monster’ as work stress. I didn’t know my “I-must-masturbate-as-I-am-entitled” attitude was the one that created the ‘stress’ in the first place. Then I got pictures and GIFs via email on my laptop - the first step towards electronic porn. The colour and texture of the images were amazing for me at that time - won’t be now for sure. Then came dial-up but still they were predominantly static pictures. Then came downloadable videos. It’s a pain to download and watch now - but it was heaven sent then as we were coming out of the static porn era! Oh, the streaming tube sites haven’t arrived yet.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"><strong>When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"><strong>When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn.</p> <p>At the age of forty, I was visiting my online harem daily, drinking ‘socially’ (whatever that means) and smoking ‘sometimes’ but not so often. I had wrongly subscribed to misguided ideas of ‘moderation’ and ‘entitlement’. I had reached the stage where I couldn&rsquo;t get through a single day without reaching out to porn in the night. With most PMOers, the triggers are the normal stresses of life, like answering the telephone or socializing.</p> <p>When I experienced PIED - I knew it was killing my virility. There was no way I could kid myself otherwise. I am smart enough not to ‘project’ the porn fantasies on to real life. But it was like pacifying a dog straining at its leash. But why I couldn&rsquo;t see what it was doing to me mentally, I could not understand. It was almost jumping up and biting me on the nose. The ridiculous thing is that most PMOers suffer the delusion at some time in their life that they enjoy internet porn because it is ‘normal’ and ‘healthy’. I never suffered that delusion, I PMOed because I thought enjoying sex is a ‘birthright’ and I am only doing a normal thing.</p> <p>Since it was easier at most times for me to get internet porn than a partner I thought I am doing the normal thing. Now I am a non-PMOer, the most difficult part is trying to believe that those days actually happened. It&rsquo;s like awakening from a nightmare and that is about the size of it. Internet porn is a supranormal drug. It is weakening your de-stressing mechanisms, your virility and your energy. The worst aspect of PMO isn&rsquo;t the injury to your health or manliness, it is the warping of the mind. You search for any plausible excuse to go on.</p> <p>I remember at one stage switching to static images, a failed attempt to cut down on internet porn, in the belief that it was less harmful and I could reign in my ‘habit’. I failed to see the ‘novelty’ and the ‘shock’ demands from my ‘little monster’ to just get more dopamine. Did I ‘stay’ within my boundaries? I ‘favorited’ 2 dimensional photos and my harem collection saw pictures and videos of ‘mild’ type porn rotating in and out like musical chair. When their ‘music’ stopped they ‘exited’. I didn’t understand the novelty-seeking, shock-seeking nature of my brain.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pied-and-my-excuses"><strong>PIED And My Excuses</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="pied-and-my-excuses"><strong>PIED And My Excuses</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pied-and-my-excuses"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.</p> <p>Most PMOers swear that they only watch static and soft porn and so they are OK. They are actually straining at the leash and thus fighting with their willpower to resist temptations. If they do this too often and for too long they will debit their willpower considerably and fail in other life projects where willpower is of much great value, like in daily exercise, dieting etc. Continuous failure in those areas will make them feel miserable and guilty and very soon they will find themselves back to their entitled relief. If not, they will vent their anger and depression onto their loved ones.</p> <p>The answer is that once you have become addicted to internet porn, the brainwashing is increased. Your subconscious mind knows that the little monster has to be fed and you block everything else from your mind. As I have already stated, it is fear that keeps people quitting, the fear of that empty, insecure feeling that you get when you stop supplying the brain with dopamine flooding. Just because you are not aware of it doesn&rsquo;t mean it isn&rsquo;t there. You don&rsquo;t have to understand it any more than a cat needs to understand where the under-floor hot-water pipes are. It just knows that if it sits in a certain place it gets the feeling of warmth.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind"><strong>The Passivity Of Our Mind</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind"><strong>The Passivity Of Our Mind</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-passivity-of-our-mind"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I&rsquo;ve frequently referred to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo; PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo;, but to stopping, quitting or the true position: <strong>ESCAPING!</strong></p> <p>The only thing that persuades us to PMO in the first place is all the other people doing it. We feel we are missing out. We work so hard to become hooked, yet nobody ever finds out what they have been missing. But every time we see another new video clip it reassures us that there must be something in it, otherwise people wouldn&rsquo;t be doing it - and it wouldn&rsquo;t be such big business all over the world. Even when he has kicked the habit, the ex-PMOer feels he is being deprived when a discussion on a sexy entertainer, singer or even a porn star comes up at a party or other social function. She or he must be good to have all my friends talk about them, no? Do they have ‘hot’ pictures of her in my tube site? He feels safe. He can have just one ‘peek’ that night. And, before he knows it, he is hooked again.</p> <p>This brainwashing is extremely powerful and you need to be aware of its effects. I have heard scare stories about wicked men giving heroin mixed candies to kids at schoolyards. The concept of addiction and being compelled to go on taking the drug, filled me with horror. Even to this day, in spite of the fact that I am fairly convinced that &lsquo;pot&rsquo; is not addictive, I would not dare take one puff of marijuana. How ironic that I should have ended up a porn junky. Technology will continue to grow and we will have even faster tube sites and more faster access methods. The industry is investing millions in Virtual Reality so it will become the next best thing. The point is, do we know where we are going? Are we equipped with an under armour of defence so we can enjoy the benefits of technology yet at the same time protect ourselves from its bad effects?</p> @@ -2586,8 +2653,9 @@ action more happy feelings.</p> <p>So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. All of which will now be stored as a script in your brain for easy access next time. I call this a ‘water slide’. Next time at the cue - a sexy commercial or alone time or stress or feeling a little down - you are ready to take a ride on the ‘water slide’. One more thing is that every time to repeat this you are ‘greasing’ it as well - so it is active, alive and more easier to slide the next time.</p> <p>As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating. Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish, ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you won’t on your first time.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="my-own-online-harem"><strong>My Own Online Harem!</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="my-own-online-harem"><strong>My Own Online Harem!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#my-own-online-harem"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost.</p> <p>Going back to the earlier discussion - in this cycle as you crossed the ‘red line’ you also trigger emotions such as guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety and fear - which in turn raise dopamine levels as well. Now the brain may mistakenly associate feelings of anxiety and fear as sexual arousal. This perpetual cycle is only broken by natural causes - fortunately sooner or later. With its free access and privacy it provides boundless harem-like novelty. The dopamine can be theoretically kept very high for a very very long time. I can be satisfied with one lobster once in awhile. But Internet porn is different. It is even worse than drugs. Don’t let me make you nervous. I will shortly show you how to be free from this slavery.</p> <p>Now our human body has a self-correcting system by which the number of dopamine and opioid receptors are cut short when frequent and daily ‘flooding’ of dopamine is detected. Unfortunately - these receptors are also needed for receiving dopamine and to keep us even and balanced to handle the inevitable and normal day-to-day stresses. But this natural nominal amount of dopamine will not be absorbed efficiently with decreased receptors and you will feel mores tressed and irritated than normal.</p> @@ -2601,14 +2669,16 @@ action more happy feelings.</p> use?</p> <p>This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I will explain more about this later.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-little-monster"><strong>The Little Monster</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-little-monster"><strong>The Little Monster</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-little-monster"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&rsquo; we think we just &lsquo;got into the habit&rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.</p> <p>Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, resulting in the feeling of fulfilment and pleasure that the action gives to the PMOer. In the early days, when we first start PMOing, the withdrawal pangs and their relief are so slight that we are not even aware that they exist. When we begin to masturbate regularly to internet porn we think it is because we&rsquo;ve either come to enjoy them or got into the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. The truth is we&rsquo;re already hooked; we do not realize it, but that little monster is already inside our stomach and every now and again we have to feed it.</p> <p>All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster. The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had before he became hooked in the first place.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm"><strong>The Annoying Burglar Alarm</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm"><strong>The Annoying Burglar Alarm</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-annoying-burglar-alarm"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain goes on. It is a chain for life - <strong>UNLESS YOU BREAK IT</strong>.</p> <p>The whole business of PMO is like wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure you feel when you take them off. There are three main reasons why PMOers cannot see things that way:</p> @@ -2621,8 +2691,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <p>The heroin doesn&rsquo;t relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a 14 year old in 2008 - didn&rsquo;t suffer the empty feeling of needing internet porn or start to panic when they are off- line. Non-PMOers cannot understand how PMOers can possibly obtain pleasure from two dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. And do you know something? PMOers themselves cannot understand why they do it after some time either.</p> <p>We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don&rsquo;t non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their &rsquo;little monster&rsquo;?</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch"><strong>A Pleasure or Crutch?</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch"><strong>A Pleasure or Crutch?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#a-pleasure-or-crutch"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;I need to eat.&rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.</p> <p>PMOing appears to be almost identical. The empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;wanting or needing an PMO orgasm’ is identical to a hunger for food, although one will not satisfy the other. Like hunger, there is no physical pain and the feeling is so imperceptible that we are not even aware of it between PMO sessions. It&rsquo;s only if we want to masturbate and aren&rsquo;t able to reach internet for porn that we become aware of any discomfort. But when we do PMO we feel satisfied.</p> <p>It is this similarity to eating which helps to fool PMOers into believing that they receive some genuine pleasure. Some PMOers find it very difficult to grasp that there is no pleasure or crutch, whatsoever to PMO. Some argue: “How can you say there is no crutch? When I orgasm up then I&rsquo;llfeel less nervous than before.”</p> @@ -2633,13 +2704,15 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <li>Eating doesn&rsquo;t create hunger and genuinely relieves it, whereas the first PMO starts the craving for dopamine and each subsequent one, far from relieving it, ensures that you suffer it for the rest of life.</li> </ol> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pmo-is-a-habit"><strong>PMO is a Habit?</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="pmo-is-a-habit"><strong>PMO is a Habit?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pmo-is-a-habit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.</p> <p>On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience, I also refer to the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> - we have to then have more bizarre and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting&hellip; not in the killing. If we don&rsquo;t then panic sets in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great!</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="crossing-the-red-line"><strong>Crossing The Red Line</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="crossing-the-red-line"><strong>Crossing The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#crossing-the-red-line"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.</p> <p>You feel better than you did before starting this PMO session but you are in fact more nervous and less relaxed than you would be as a non-PMOer, like someone who is living in Loma Linda or in an Amish village, even though you are actually PMOing and living in your supposed “porn paradise.” This position is even more ridiculous than wearing tight shoes because as you go through life an increasing amount of the discomfort remains even when the shoes are removed.</p> <p>Once the orgasm is achieved, the dopamine rapidly begins to leave the brain, causing a mood dip. Which explains why the PMOer wants to ‘edge’<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> and switch through multiple browser windows as they seek and search. As I said, the ‘habit’ doesn&rsquo;t exist. The real reason why every user goes on using internet porn is because of that little porn monster inside his stomach. Every now and again he has to feed it. The PMOer himself will decide when he does that and it tends to be on four types of occasion or a combination of them.</p> @@ -2651,20 +2724,23 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <p>What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If you think about it, what other types of occasion are there in our lives; apart from sleep? The truth is that PMO neither relieves boredom and stress nor promotes concentration and relaxation. It is all just illusion. Apart from being a drug, PMO is also a destroyer of happiness and virility.</p> <p>In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes, print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’ and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive without knowing the difference between food and poison.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"><strong>Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"><strong>Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!</p> <p>When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were titillating but most were disgusting, causing you to avert your eyes away. Like you would if had accidentally glanced a feeding mother’s breast. And some of us are even revolted with what they saw when the star reminded them of someone dear to their heart or a scene which recalled their own instance of being the victim. Some don’t feel like it to browse and masturbate at the same time. It may be hard to believe for you but the non-PMOs, who don’t PMO after their first time, are the lucky ones. They actually decided that it was not their cup of tea. It must be hard for you to believe but stay with me.</p> <p>How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even after a hard day? Why not? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That&rsquo;s all.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak"><strong>Are PMOers Mentally Weak?</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak"><strong>Are PMOers Mentally Weak?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#are-pmoers-mentally-weak"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.</p> <p>To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to become hooked, and this is why it is difficult to stop teenagers. Because they are skilled in seeking and finding material, they know online privacy options and can clean their tracks - if they still feel some stigma and they (wrongfully) believe they can stop whenever they want to. Why do they not learn from us? Then again, why did we not learn from our PMOers and addicts?</p> <p>Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of ‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying is the ritual of relieving those pangs.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"><strong>The High From The Dance Around The Red Line</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"><strong>The High From The Dance Around The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.</p> <p>Ask a user who believes that he sticks to a certain actor or genre - only because he likes something about the star or the theme (if any) of the clip: “If you cannot get your normal brand of porn and can only obtain a poor or unsafe brand, do you stop masturbating?” No way. A PMOer will masturbate to anything rather than abstain and it doesn&rsquo;t matter if he has to switch to escalating themes, different sex-orientation-themes, look-alike actresses, dangerous settings shocking relationships etc. To begin with they taste awful but if you persevere you will learn to like them. Most PMOers will also try to seek masturbation even after having real sex (unfulfilment, porn-induced unrealistic expectations etc.), or after a long, stressful work day, fever, colds, flu, sore throats and even when admitted in hospitals.</p> <p>Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wanted then it makes no sense to be with your laptop. During my conversation some PMOers find it alarming to realize they are drug addicts and think it will make it even more difficult to stop. In fact, it is all good news for two important reasons:</p> @@ -2674,14 +2750,16 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to </ol> <p>You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc. The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn&rsquo;t bother the PMOers.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-smokers-analogy"><strong>The Smokers Analogy</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-smokers-analogy"><strong>The Smokers Analogy</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-smokers-analogy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they&rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn&rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.</p> <p>PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their parents while visiting for family get togethers etc. with little discomfort to themselves. In fact, most PMOers have extended periods during which they abstain without effort. Even in my case I would quite happily go a week or so without a PMO incident. In the later years as a PMOer I actually used to look forward to these days when I could stop choking my penis (what a ridiculous &lsquo;habit&rsquo;).</p> <p>The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"><strong>The Big Monster - The Brainwashing</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"><strong>The Big Monster - The Brainwashing</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.</p> <p>Not all the amateurs are ‘amateurs’ on these tube sites, oversized body parts and overcharged scenarios are the norm, aided by a bit of the ‘viagran’ help.</p> <p>As I say, the actual porn addiction is not the main problem. It just acts as a catalyst to keep our minds confused over the real problem: the brainwashing. It may be of consolation to lifelong and heavy PMOers to know that it is just as easy for them to stop as casual PMOers. In a peculiar way. it is easier. The further you go along with the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;, the more it drags you down and the greater the gain when you stop.</p> @@ -2911,8 +2989,9 @@ Do not take anything for granted. Question not only what I tell you but also you https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/02-01-introduction/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo">&lsquo;I&rsquo;M GOING TO CURE THE WORLD OF PMO&rsquo;</h2> -</div> +<h2 id="im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo">&lsquo;I&rsquo;M GOING TO CURE THE WORLD OF PMO&rsquo; <a class="anchor" href="#im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>I was talking to my mentor. He thought that I had flipped. Understandable if you consider that he had watched me fail on numerous attempts to quit. The most recent had been two years previously. I&rsquo;d actually survived six months of sheer purgatory before I finally succumbed and found myself clicking on stacked up tabs of porn sites. I&rsquo;m not ashamed to admit that I cried like a baby. I was crying because I knew that I was condemned to be an addict for life. I&rsquo;d put so much effort into that attempt and suffered so much misery that I knew I would never have the strength to go through that ordeal again. I&rsquo;m not a violent man, but if some patronizing non-PMO’er had been stupid enough at that moment to suggest to me that all users can find it easy to quit, immediately and permanently, I would not have been responsible for my actions. However, I&rsquo;m convinced that any jury in the world, comprised of PMOers only, would have pardoned me on the grounds of justifiable homicide.</p> <p>Perhaps you too find it impossible to believe that any PMOer can find it easy to quit. If so, I beg you not to cast this book into the rubbish bin. Please trust me. I assure you that you can find it easy to quit.</p> @@ -3049,21 +3128,30 @@ porn and or masturbation&#160;<a href="#fnref:2" class="footn https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/00-00-hackbookeasypeasy/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h1 id="a-hrefhackbookhackbookpdfclick-to-download-hackbookeasypeasy-original-pdfa"><a href="https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook/hackbook.pdf">Click to download HackBookEasyPeasy (original pdf)</a></h1> -<h3 id="easypeasyway">EasyPeasyWay</h3> -<h4 id="httpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhomehttpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhome"><a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a></h4> -<p><em>HackBookEasyPeasy EasyPeasyWay <a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a> I am Allen Carr. I am also not Allen Carr. So yes I am not the author. I am the hack-author.</em></p> +<h1 id="a-hrefhackbookhackbookpdfclick-to-download-hackbookeasypeasy-original-pdfa"><a href="https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook/hackbook.pdf">Click to download HackBookEasyPeasy (original pdf)</a> <a class="anchor" href="#a-hrefhackbookhackbookpdfclick-to-download-hackbookeasypeasy-original-pdfa"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><h3 id="easypeasyway">EasyPeasyWay <a class="anchor" href="#easypeasyway"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><h4 id="httpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhomehttpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhome"><a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a> <a class="anchor" href="#httpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhomehttpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhome"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><p><em>HackBookEasyPeasy EasyPeasyWay <a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a> I am Allen Carr. I am also not Allen Carr. So yes I am not the author. I am the hack-author.</em></p> <p><em>I hacked Allen Carr’s book and his method of de-addiction to adapt it for PMO. Why? Because his method helped me in getting rid of cigarettes, alcohol and then PMO. Why did I hack his work? Because he is dead now. And the institution that he had formed does not list Internet pornography as one of the addictions that it provides services for. I don&rsquo;t gain monetarily or otherwise. Above all - you won’t ‘find’ me in this book. Myself and Allen will appear and disappear in this book to provide you with an unique and effective method to get your mind de-addicted.</em></p> -<h4 id="important-advice-for-you"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong></h4> -<p><em>The common thread running through Allen Carr&rsquo;s work is the removal of fear. Indeed, his genius lies in eliminating the phobias and anxieties which prevent people from being able to enjoy life to the full, as his best-selling books vividly demonstrate. His method is solid and has high success rates. It helped cure me of not one but three addictions. There is a network of clinics that uses his methods that span the globe and has a phenomenal reputation for success in helping people to quit addictions (except PMO). Their success rate is over 95% with money-back guarantees.</em></p> +<h4 id="important-advice-for-you"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#important-advice-for-you"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#do-not-jump-chapters"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><p><em>The common thread running through Allen Carr&rsquo;s work is the removal of fear. Indeed, his genius lies in eliminating the phobias and anxieties which prevent people from being able to enjoy life to the full, as his best-selling books vividly demonstrate. His method is solid and has high success rates. It helped cure me of not one but three addictions. There is a network of clinics that uses his methods that span the globe and has a phenomenal reputation for success in helping people to quit addictions (except PMO). Their success rate is over 95% with money-back guarantees.</em></p> <p><em>Hackbook : A book based and hacked from another book. The original author is credited fully.</em></p> -<h4 id="important-advice-for-you-1"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters-1"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence-1"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong></h4> -<p><em>Dr. Albert Ellis&rsquo; autobiography - &ldquo;All Out!&rdquo;</em></p> +<h4 id="important-advice-for-you-1"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#important-advice-for-you-1"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters-1"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#do-not-jump-chapters-1"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence-1"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence-1"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><p><em>Dr. Albert Ellis&rsquo; autobiography - &ldquo;All Out!&rdquo;</em></p> <p><em>“I used to wrongly think that most of them (addicts) were aided by self-help groups like AA, by therapy, or some other real support. But no. The facts show that more people surrender their addictions on their own-without any notable help from others. How? Mainly by seeing, acknowledging, and emphasizing how hard it is not to stop and how much easier it is-in the long run- to suffer through the withdrawal process.”</em></p> </div> @@ -3075,8 +3163,9 @@ formed does not list Internet pornography as one of the addictions that it provi Sat, 17 Dec 2022 22:33:25 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/pluralization-issues/ - <h3 id="this-is-my-first-entry-and-im-already-having-issues-lol">this is my first entry and i&rsquo;m already having issues lol</h3> -<p>So I wanted to make a quick entry, see how it looks like and I stumbled upon this issue of hugo pluralzing Blog into Blogs</p> + <h3 id="this-is-my-first-entry-and-im-already-having-issues-lol">this is my first entry and i&rsquo;m already having issues lol <a class="anchor" href="#this-is-my-first-entry-and-im-already-having-issues-lol"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>So I wanted to make a quick entry, see how it looks like and I stumbled upon this issue of hugo pluralzing Blog into Blogs</p> <p>You can fix this in config.toml with the following line</p> <blockquote> <div class="highlight"><pre tabindex="0" style="color:#f8f8f2;background-color:#272822;-moz-tab-size:4;-o-tab-size:4;tab-size:4;"><code class="language-toml" data-lang="toml"><span style="display:flex;"><span><span style="color:#a6e22e">pluralizelisttitles</span> = <span style="color:#66d9ef">false</span> @@ -3090,11 +3179,13 @@ formed does not list Internet pornography as one of the addictions that it provi Sat, 17 Dec 2022 17:20:18 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/helloworld/ - <h1 id="obligatory-hello-world">Obligatory Hello World!</h1> -<p>trying to see which hugo theme i like best</p> + <h1 id="obligatory-hello-world">Obligatory Hello World! <a class="anchor" href="#obligatory-hello-world"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><p>trying to see which hugo theme i like best</p> <p>had some issues with papermod and their css not working so for now i&rsquo;ll use lugo</p> -<h2 id="stuff-i-like">stuff i like</h2> -<ul> +<h2 id="stuff-i-like">stuff i like <a class="anchor" href="#stuff-i-like"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ul> <li>touching grass and nature in general (wannabe farmer)</li> <li>にっぽんese <ul> diff --git a/new-site/public/tags/index.xml b/new-site/public/tags/index.xml index 0d7ac76c..0c503048 100644 --- a/new-site/public/tags/index.xml +++ b/new-site/public/tags/index.xml @@ -16,8 +16,9 @@ Thu, 23 Mar 2023 18:06:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/ted-kaczynski/industrial-society-and-its-future/ - <h2 id="introduction">Introduction</h2> -<ol> + <h2 id="introduction">Introduction <a class="anchor" href="#introduction"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li> <p>The Industrial Revolution and its consequences have been a disaster for the human race. They have greatly increased the life expectancy of those of us who live in “advanced” countries, but they have destabilized society, have made life unfulfilling, have subjected human beings to indignities, have led to widespread psychological suffering (in the Third World to physical suffering as well) and have inflicted severe damage on the natural world. The continued development of technology will worsen the situation. It will certainly subject human beings to greater indignities and inflict greater damage on the natural world, it will probably lead to greater social disruption and psychological suffering, and it may lead to increased physical suffering even in “advanced” countries.</p> </li> @@ -34,8 +35,9 @@ <p>In this article we give attention to only some of the negative developments that have grown out of the industrial-technological system. Other such developments we mention only briefly or ignore altogether. This does not mean that we regard these other developments as unimportant. For practical reasons we have to confine our discussion to areas that have received insufficient public attention or in which we have something new to say. For example, since there are well-developed environmental and wilderness movements, we have written very little about environmental degradation or the destruction of wild nature, even though we consider these to be highly important.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-psychology-of-modern-leftism">The Psychology of Modern Leftism</h2> -<ol start="6"> +<h2 id="the-psychology-of-modern-leftism">The Psychology of Modern Leftism <a class="anchor" href="#the-psychology-of-modern-leftism"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="6"> <li> <p>Almost everyone will agree that we live in a deeply troubled society. One of the most widespread manifestations of the craziness of our world is leftism, so a discussion of the psychology of leftism can serve as an introduction to the discussion of the problems of modern society in general.</p> </li> @@ -49,8 +51,9 @@ <p>The two psychological tendencies that underlie modern leftism we call feelings of inferiority and oversocialization. Feelings of inferiority are characteristic of modern leftism as a whole, while oversocialization is characteristic only of a certain segment of modern leftism; but this segment is highly influential.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="feelings-of-inferiority">Feelings of Inferiority</h2> -<ol start="10"> +<h2 id="feelings-of-inferiority">Feelings of Inferiority <a class="anchor" href="#feelings-of-inferiority"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="10"> <li> <p>By “feelings of inferiority” we mean not only inferiority feelings in the strict sense but a whole spectrum of related traits: low self-esteem, feelings of powerlessness, depressive tendencies, defeatism, guilt, self-hatred, etc. We argue that modern leftists tend to have some such feelings (possibly more or less repressed), and that these feelings are decisive in determining the direction of modern leftism.</p> </li> @@ -94,8 +97,9 @@ <p>We emphasize that the foregoing does not pretend to be an accurate description of everyone who might be considered a leftist. It is only a rough indication of a general tendency of leftism.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="oversocialization">Oversocialization</h2> -<ol start="24"> +<h2 id="oversocialization">Oversocialization <a class="anchor" href="#oversocialization"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="24"> <li> <p>Psychologists use the term “socialization” to designate the process by which children are trained to think and act as society demands. A person is said to be well socialized if he believes in and obeys the moral code of his society and fits in well as a functioning part of that society. It may seem senseless to say that many leftists are oversocialized, since the leftist is perceived as a rebel. Nevertheless, the position can be defended. Many leftists are not such rebels as they seem.</p> </li> @@ -124,8 +128,9 @@ <p>The problems of the leftist are indicative of the problems of our society as a whole. Low self-esteem, depressive tendencies and defeatism are not restricted to the left. Though they are especially noticeable in the left, they are widespread in our society. And today’s society tries to socialize us to a greater extent than any previous society. We are even told by experts how to eat, how to exercise, how to make love, how to raise our kids and so forth.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-power-process">The Power Process</h2> -<ol start="33"> +<h2 id="the-power-process">The Power Process <a class="anchor" href="#the-power-process"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="33"> <li> <p>Human beings have a need (probably based in biology) for something that we will call the power process. This is closely related to the need for power (which is widely recognized) but is not quite the same thing. The power process has four elements. The three most clear-cut of these we call goal, effort and attainment of goal. (Everyone needs to have goals whose attainment requires effort, and needs to succeed in attaining at least some of his goals.) The fourth element is more difficult to define and may not be necessary for everyone. We call it autonomy and will discuss it later (paragraphs 42–44).</p> </li> @@ -142,8 +147,9 @@ <p>Thus, in order to avoid serious psychological problems, a human being needs goals whose attainment requires effort, and he must have a reasonable rate of success in attaining his goals.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="surrogate-activities">Surrogate Activities</h2> -<ol start="38"> +<h2 id="surrogate-activities">Surrogate Activities <a class="anchor" href="#surrogate-activities"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="38"> <li> <p>But not every leisured aristocrat becomes bored and demoralized. For example, the emperor Hirohito, instead of sinking into decadent hedonism, devoted himself to marine biology, a field in which he became distinguished. When people do not have to exert themselves to satisfy their physical needs they often set up artificial goals for themselves. In many cases they then pursue these goals with the same energy and emotional involvement that they otherwise would have put into the search for physical necessities. Thus the aristocrats of the Roman Empire had their literary pretensions; many European aristocrats a few centuries ago invested tremendous time and energy in hunting, though they certainly didn’t need the meat; other aristocracies have competed for status through elaborate displays of wealth; and a few aristocrats, like Hirohito, have turned to science.</p> </li> @@ -157,8 +163,9 @@ <p>For many if not most people, surrogate activities are less satistying than the pursuit of real goals (that is, goals that people would want to attain even if their need for the power process were already fulfilled). One indication of this is the fact that, in many or most cases, people who are deeply involved in surrogate activities are never satisfied, never at rest. Thus the money-maker constantly strives for more and more wealth. The scientist no sooner solves one problem than he moves on to the next. The long-distance runner drives himself to run always farther and faster. Many people who pursue surrogate activities will say that they get far more fulfillment from these activities than they do from the “mundane” business of satisfying their biological needs, but that is because in our society the effort required to satisfy the biological needs has been reduced to triviality. More importantly, in our society people do not satisty their biological needs AUTONOMOUSLY but by functioning as parts of an immense social machine. In contrast, people generally have a great deal of autonomy in pursuing their surrogate activities.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="autonomy">Autonomy</h2> -<ol start="42"> +<h2 id="autonomy">Autonomy <a class="anchor" href="#autonomy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="42"> <li> <p>Autonomy as a part of the power process may not be necessary for every individual. But most people need a greater or lesser degree of autonomy in working toward their goals. Their efforts must be undertaken on their own initiative and must be under their own direction and control. Yet most people do not have to exert this initiative, direction and control as single individuals. It is usually enough to act as a member of a SMALL group. Thus if half a dozen people discuss a goal among themselves and make a successful joint effort to attain that goal, their need for the power process will be served. But if they work under rigid orders handed down from above that leave them no room for autonomous decision and initiative, then their need for the power process will not be served. The same is true when decisions are made on a collective basis if the group making the collective decision is so large that the role of each individual is insignificant.<sup id="fnref:5"><a href="#fn:5" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">5</a></sup></p> </li> @@ -169,8 +176,9 @@ <p>But for most people it is through the power process—having a goal, making an AUTONOMOUS effort and attaining the goal—that self-esteem, self-confidence and a sense of power are acquired. When one does not have adequate opportunity to go through the power process the consequences are (depending on the individual and on the way the power process is disrupted) boredom, demoralization, low self-esteem, inferiority feelings, defeatism, depression, anxiety, guilt, frustration, hostility, spouse or child abuse, insatiable hedonism, abnormal sexual behavior, sleep disorders, eating disorders, etc.<sup id="fnref:6"><a href="#fn:6" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">6</a></sup></p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="sources-of-social-problems">Sources of Social Problems</h2> -<ol start="45"> +<h2 id="sources-of-social-problems">Sources of Social Problems <a class="anchor" href="#sources-of-social-problems"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="45"> <li> <p>Any of the foregoing symptoms can occur in any society, but in modern industrial society they are present on a massive scale. We aren’t the first to mention that the world today seems to be going crazy. This sort of thing is not normal for human societies. There is good reason to believe that primitive man suffered from less stress and frustration and was better satisfied with his way of life than modern man is. It is true that not all was sweetness and light in primitive societies. Abuse of women was common among the Australian aborigines, transsexuality was fairly common among some of the American Indian tribes. But it does appear that GENERALLY SPEAKING the kinds of problems that we have listed in the preceding paragraph were far less common among primitive peoples than they are in modern society.</p> </li> @@ -214,8 +222,9 @@ <p>It would be possible to give other examples of societies in which there has been rapid change and/or lack of close community ties without the kind of massive behavioral aberration that is seen in today’s industrial society. We contend that the most important cause of social and psychological problems in modern society is the fact that people have insufficient opportunity to go through the power process in a normal way. We don’t mean to say that modern society is the only one in which the power process has been disrupted. Probably most if not all civilized societies have interfered with the power process to a greater or lesser extent. But in modern industrial society the problem has become particularly acute. Leftism, at least in its recent (mid- to late-20th century) form, is in part a symptom of deprivation with respect to the power process.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="disruption-of-the-power-process-in-modern-society">Disruption of the Power Process in Modern Society</h2> -<ol start="59"> +<h2 id="disruption-of-the-power-process-in-modern-society">Disruption of the Power Process in Modern Society <a class="anchor" href="#disruption-of-the-power-process-in-modern-society"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="59"> <li> <p>We divide human drives into three groups: (1) those drives that can be satisfied with minimal effort; (2) those that can be satisfied but only at the cost of serious effort; (3) those that cannot be adequately satisfied no matter how much effort one makes. The power process is the process of satistying the drives of the second group. The more drives there are in the third group, the more there is frustration, anger, eventually defeatism, depression, etc.</p> </li> @@ -271,8 +280,9 @@ <p>In response to the arguments of this section someone will say, “Society must find a way to give people the opportunity to go through the power process.” This won’t work for those who need autonomy in the power process. For such people the value of the opportunity is destroyed by the very fact that society gives it to them. What they need is to find or make their own opportunities. As long as the system GIVES them their opportunities it still has them on a leash. To attain autonomy they must get off that leash.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="how-some-people-adjust">How Some People Adjust</h2> -<ol start="77"> +<h2 id="how-some-people-adjust">How Some People Adjust <a class="anchor" href="#how-some-people-adjust"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="77"> <li> <p>Not everyone in industrial-technological society suffers from psychological problems. Some people even profess to be quite satisfied with society as it is. We now discuss some of the reasons why people differ so greatly in their response to modern society.</p> </li> @@ -304,8 +314,9 @@ <p>But even if most people in industrial-technological society were well satisfied, we (FC) would still be opposed to that form of society, because (among other reasons) we consider it demeaning to fulfill one’s need for the power process through surrogate activities or through identification with an organization, rather than through pursuit of real goals.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-motives-of-scientists">The Motives of Scientists</h2> -<ol start="87"> +<h2 id="the-motives-of-scientists">The Motives of Scientists <a class="anchor" href="#the-motives-of-scientists"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="87"> <li> <p>Science and technology provide the most important examples of surrogate activities. Some scientists claim that they are motivated by “curiosity” or by a desire to “benefit humanity.” But it is easy to see that neither of these can be the principal motive of most scientists. As for “curiosity,” that notion is simply absurd. Most scientists work on highly specialized problems that are not the object of any normal curiosity. For example, is an astronomer, a mathematician or an entomologist curious about the properties of isopropyltrimethylmethane? Of course not. Only a chemist is curious about such a thing, and he is curious about it only because chemistry is his surrogate activity. Is the chemist curious about the appropriate classification of a new species of beetle? No. That question is of interest only to the entomologist, and he is interested in it only because entomology is his surrogate activity. If the chemist and the entomologist had to exert themselves seriously to obtain the physical necessities, and if that effort exercised their abilities in an interesting way but in some nonscientific pursuit, then they wouldn’t give a damn about isopropyltrimethylmethane or the classification of beetles. Suppose that lack of funds for postgraduate education had led the chemist to become an insurance broker instead of a chemist. In that case he would have been very interested in insurance matters but would have cared nothing about isopropyltrimcthylmethane. In any case it is not normal to put into the satisfaction of mere curiosity the amount of time and effort that scientists put into their work. The “curiosity” explanation for the scientists’ motive just doesn’t stand up.</p> </li> @@ -325,8 +336,9 @@ <p>Thus science marches on blindly, without regard to the real welfare of the human race or to any other standard, obedient only to the psychological needs of the scientists and of the government officials and corporation executives who provide the funds for research.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-nature-of-freedom">The Nature of Freedom</h2> -<ol start="93"> +<h2 id="the-nature-of-freedom">The Nature of Freedom <a class="anchor" href="#the-nature-of-freedom"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="93"> <li> <p>We are going to argue that industrial-technological society cannot be reformed in such a way as to prevent it from progressively narrowing the sphere of human freedom. But because “freedom” is a word that can be interpreted in many ways, we must first make clear what kind of freedom we are concerned with.</p> </li> @@ -346,8 +358,9 @@ <p>One more point to be made in this section: It should not be assumed that a person has enough freedom just because he SAYS he has enough. Freedom is restricted in part by psychological controls of which people are unconscious, and moreover many people’s ideas of what constitutes freedom are governed more by social convention than by their real needs. For example, it’s likely that many leftists of the oversocialized type would say that most people, including themselves, are socialized too little rather than too much, yet the oversocialized leftist pays a heavy psychological price for his high level of socialization.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="some-principles-of-history">Some Principles of History</h2> -<ol start="99"> +<h2 id="some-principles-of-history">Some Principles of History <a class="anchor" href="#some-principles-of-history"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="99"> <li> <p>Think of history as being the sum of two components: an erratic component that consists of unpredictable events that follow no discernible pattern, and a regular component that consists of long-term historical trends. Here we are concerned with the long-term trends.</p> </li> @@ -385,8 +398,9 @@ <p>Still, one has to use common sense in applying the principles. They are expressed in imprecise language that allows latitude for interpretation, and exceptions to them can be found. So we present these principles not as inviolable laws but as rules of thumb, or guides to thinking, that may provide a partial antidote to naive ideas about the future of society. The principles should be borne constantly in mind, and whenever one reaches a conclusion that conflicts with them one should carefully reexamine one’s thinking and retain the conclusion only if one has good, solid reasons for doing so.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="industrial-technological-society-cannot-be-reformed">Industrial-Technological Society Cannot Be Reformed</h2> -<ol start="111"> +<h2 id="industrial-technological-society-cannot-be-reformed">Industrial-Technological Society Cannot Be Reformed <a class="anchor" href="#industrial-technological-society-cannot-be-reformed"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="111"> <li> <p>The foregoing principles help to show how hopelessly difficult it would be to reform the industrial system in such a way as to prevent it from progressively narrowing our sphere of freedom. There has been a consistent tendency, going back at least to the Industrial Revolution, for technology to strengthen the system at a high cost in individual freedom and local autonomy. Hence any change designed to protect freedom from technology would be contrary to a fundamental trend in the development of our society. Consequently, such a change either would be a transitory one—soon swamped by the tide of history—or, if large enough to be permanent, would alter the nature of our whole society. This by the first and second principles. Moreover, since society would be altered in a way that could not be predicted in advance (third principle) there would be great risk. Changes large enough to make a lasting difference in favor of freedom would not be initiated because it would be realized that they would gravely disrupt the system. So any attempts at reform would be too timid to be effective. Even if changes large enough to make a lasting difference were initiated, they would be retracted when their disruptive effects became apparent. Thus, permanent changes in favor of freedom could be brought about only by persons prepared to accept radical, dangerous and unpredictable alteration of the entire system. In other words by revolutionaries, not reformers.</p> </li> @@ -397,8 +411,9 @@ <p>So even on very general grounds it seems highly improbable that any way of changing society could be found that would reconcile freedom with modern technology. In the next few sections we will give more specific reasons for concluding that freedom and technological progress are incompatible.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="restriction-of-freedom-is-unavoidable-in-industrial-society">Restriction of Freedom is Unavoidable in Industrial Society</h2> -<ol start="114"> +<h2 id="restriction-of-freedom-is-unavoidable-in-industrial-society">Restriction of Freedom is Unavoidable in Industrial Society <a class="anchor" href="#restriction-of-freedom-is-unavoidable-in-industrial-society"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="114"> <li> <p>As explained in paragraphs 65–67, 70–73, modern man is strapped down by a network of rules and regulations, and his fate depends on the actions of persons remote from him whose decisions he cannot influence. This is not accidental or a result of the arbitrariness of arrogant bureaucrats. It is necessary and inevitable in any technologically advanced society. The system HAS TO regulate human behavior closely in order to function. At work, people have to do what they are told to do, when they are told to do it and in the way they are told to do it, otherwise production would be thrown into chaos. Bureaucracies HAVE TO be run according to rigid rules. To allow any substantial personal discretion to lower-level bureaucrats would disrupt the system and lead to charges of unfairness due to differences in the way individual bureaucrats exercised their discretion. It is true that some restrictions on our freedom could be eliminated. but GENERALLY SPEAKING the regulation of our lives by large organizations is necessary for the functioning of industrial-technological society. The result is a sense of powerlessness on the part of the average person. It may be. however. that formal regulations will tend increasingly to be replaced by psychological tools that make us want to do what the system requires of us. (Propaganda,<sup id="fnref1:14"><a href="#fn:14" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">14</a></sup> educational techniques, “mental health” programs, etc.)</p> </li> @@ -421,8 +436,9 @@ <p>Efforts to make room for a sense of purpose and for autonomy within the system are no better than a joke. For example, one company, instead of having each of its employees assemble only one section of a catalogue, had each assemble a whole catalogue, and this was supposed to give them a sense of purpose and achievement. Some companies have tried to give their employees more autonomy in their work, but for practical reasons this usually can be done only to a very limited extent, and in any case employees are never given autonomy as to ultimate goals—their “autonomous” efforts can never be directed toward goals that they select personally, but only toward their employer’s goals, such as the survival and growth of the company. Any company would soon go out of business if it permitted its employees to act otherwise. Similarly, in any enterprise within a socialist system, workers must direct their efforts toward the goals of the enterprise, otherwise the enterprise will not serve its purpose as part of the system. Once again, for purely technical reasons it is not possible for most individuals or small groups to have much autonomy in industrial society. Even the small-business owner commonly has only limited autonomy. Apart from the necessity of government regulation, he is restricted by the fact that he must fit into the economic system and conform to its requirements. For instance, when someone develops a new technology, the small-business person often has to use that technology whether he wants to or not, in order to remain competitive.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-bad-parts-of-technology-cannot-be-separated-from-the-good-parts">The “Bad” Parts of Technology Cannot Be Separated from the “Good” Parts</h2> -<ol start="121"> +<h2 id="the-bad-parts-of-technology-cannot-be-separated-from-the-good-parts">The “Bad” Parts of Technology Cannot Be Separated from the “Good” Parts <a class="anchor" href="#the-bad-parts-of-technology-cannot-be-separated-from-the-good-parts"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="121"> <li> <p>A further reason why industrial society cannot be reformed in favor of freedom is that modern technology is a unified system in which all parts are dependent on one another. You can’t get rid of the “bad” parts of technology and retain only the “good” parts. Take modern medicine, for example. Progress in medical science depends on progress in chemistry, physics, biology, computer science and other fields. Advanced medical treatments require expensive, high-tech equipment that can be made available only by a technologically progressive, economically rich society. Clearly you can’t have much progress in medicine without the whole technological system and everything that goes with it.</p> </li> @@ -436,8 +452,9 @@ <p>The usual response to such concerns is to talk about “medical ethics.” But a code of ethics would not serve to protect freedom in the face of medical progress; it would only make matters worse. A code of ethics applicable to genetic engineering would be in effect a means of regulating the genetic constitution of human beings. Somebody (probably the upper middle class, mostly) would decide that such and such applications of genetic engineering were “ethical” and others were not, so that in effect they would be imposing their own values on the genetic constitution of the population at large. Even if a code of ethics were chosen on a completely democratic basis, the majority would be imposing their own values on any minorities who might have a different idea of what constituted an “ethical” use of genetic engineering. The only code of ethics that would truly protect freedom would be one that prohibited ANY genetic engineering of human beings, and you can be sure that no such code will ever be applied in a technological society. No code that reduced genetic engineering to a minor role could stand up for long, because the temptation presented by the immense power of biotechnology would be irresistible, especially since to the majority of people many of its applications will seem obviously and unequivocally good (eliminating physical and mental diseases, giving people the abilities they need to get along in today’s world). Inevitably, genetic engineering will be used extensively, but only in ways consistent with the needs of the industrial-technological system.<sup id="fnref:20"><a href="#fn:20" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">20</a></sup></p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="technology-is-a-more-powerful-social-force-than-the-aspiration-for-freedom">Technology is a More Powerful Social Force than the Aspiration for Freedom</h2> -<ol start="125"> +<h2 id="technology-is-a-more-powerful-social-force-than-the-aspiration-for-freedom">Technology is a More Powerful Social Force than the Aspiration for Freedom <a class="anchor" href="#technology-is-a-more-powerful-social-force-than-the-aspiration-for-freedom"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="125"> <li> <p>It is not possible to make a LASTING compromise between technology and freedom, because technology is by far the more powerful social force and continually encroaches on freedom through REPEATED compromises. Imagine the case of two neighbors, each of whom at the outset owns the same amount of land, but one of whom is more powerful than the other. The powerful one demands a piece of the other’s land. The weak one refuses. The powerful one says, “Okay, let’s compromise. Give me half of what I asked.” The weak one has little choice but to give in. Some time later the powerful neighbor demands another piece of land, again there is a compromise, and so forth. By forcing a long series of compromises on the weaker man, the powerful one eventually gets all of his land. So it goes in the conflict between technology and freedom.</p> </li> @@ -472,8 +489,9 @@ <p>In paragraph 125 we used an analogy of a weak neighbor who is left destitute by a strong neighbor who takes all his land by forcing on him a series of compromises. But suppose now that the strong neighbor gets sick, so that he is unable to defend himself. The weak neighbor can force the strong one to give him his land back, or he can kill him. If he lets the strong man survive and only forces him to give the land back, he is a fool, because when the strong man gets well he will again take all the land for himself. The only sensible alternative for the weaker man is to kill the strong one while he has the chance. In the same way, while the industrial system is sick we must destroy it. If we compromise with it and let it recover from its sickness, it will eventually wipe out all of our freedom.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="simpler-social-problems-have-proved-intractable">Simpler Social Problems Have Proved Intractable</h2> -<ol start="136"> +<h2 id="simpler-social-problems-have-proved-intractable">Simpler Social Problems Have Proved Intractable <a class="anchor" href="#simpler-social-problems-have-proved-intractable"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="136"> <li> <p>If anyone still imagines that it would be possible to reform the system in such a way as to protect freedom from technology, let him consider how clumsily and for the most part unsuccessfully our society has dealt with other social problems that are far more simple and straightforward. Among other things, the system has failed to stop environmental degradation, political corruption, drug trafficking or domestic abuse.</p> </li> @@ -487,8 +505,9 @@ <p>And note this important difference: It is conceivable that our environmental problems (for example) may some day be settled through a rational, comprehensive plan, but if this happens it will be only because it is in the long-term interest of the system to solve these problems. But it is NOT in the interest of the system to preserve freedom or small-group autonomy. On the contrary, it is in the interest of the system to bring human behavior under control to the greatest possible extent.<sup id="fnref:24"><a href="#fn:24" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">24</a></sup> Thus, while practical considerations may eventually force the system to take a rational, prudent approach to environmental problems, equally practical considerations will force the system to regulate human behavior ever more closely (preferably by indirect means that will disguise the encroachment on freedom). This isn’t just our opinion. Eminent social scientists (e.g., James Q. Wilson) have stressed the importance of “socializing” people more effectively.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="revolution-is-easier-than-reform">Revolution is Easier than Reform</h2> -<ol start="140"> +<h2 id="revolution-is-easier-than-reform">Revolution is Easier than Reform <a class="anchor" href="#revolution-is-easier-than-reform"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="140"> <li> <p>We hope we have convinced the reader that the system cannot be reformed in such a way as to reconcile freedom with technology. The only way out is to dispense with the industrial-technological system altogether. This implies revolution, not necessarily an armed uprising, but certainly a radical and fundamental change in the nature of society.</p> </li> @@ -499,8 +518,9 @@ <p>Reform is always restrained by the fear of painful consequences if changes go too far. But once a revolutionary fever has taken hold of a society, people are willing to undergo unlimited hardships for the sake of their revolution. This was clearly shown in the French and Russian Revolutions. It may be that in such cases only a minoriry of the population is really committed to the revolution, but this minority is sufficiently large and active so that it becomes the dominant force in society. We will have more to say about revolution in paragraphs 180–205).</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="control-of-human-behavior">Control of Human Behavior</h2> -<ol start="143"> +<h2 id="control-of-human-behavior">Control of Human Behavior <a class="anchor" href="#control-of-human-behavior"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="143"> <li> <p>Since the beginning of civilization, organized societies have had to put pressures on human beings for the sake of the functioning of the social organism. The kinds of pressures vary greatly from one society to another. Some of the pressures are physical (poor diet, excessive labor, environmental pollution), some are psychological (noise, crowding, forcing human behavior into the mold that society requires). In the past, human nature has been approximately constant, or at any rate has varied only within certain bounds. Consequently, societies have been able to push people only up to certain limits. When the limit of human endurance has been passed, things start going wrong: rebellion, or crime, or corruption, or evasion of work, or depression and other mental problems, or an elevated death rate, or a declining birth rate or something else, so that either the society breaks down, or its functioning becomes too inefficient and it is (quickly or gradually, through conquest, attrition or evolution) replaced by some more efficient form of society.<sup id="fnref:25"><a href="#fn:25" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">25</a></sup></p> </li> @@ -556,8 +576,9 @@ <p>To those who think that all this sounds like science fiction, we point out that yesterday’s science fiction is today’s fact. The Industrial Revolution has radically altered man’s environment and way of life, and it is only to be expected that as technology is increasingly applied to the human body and mind, man himself will be altered as radically as his environment and way of life have been.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="human-race-at-a-crossroads">Human Race at a Crossroads</h2> -<ol start="161"> +<h2 id="human-race-at-a-crossroads">Human Race at a Crossroads <a class="anchor" href="#human-race-at-a-crossroads"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="161"> <li> <p>But we have gotten ahead of our story. It is one thing to develop in the laboratory a series of psychological or biological techniques for manipulating human behavior and quite another to integrate these techniques into a functioning social system. The latter problem is the more difficult of the two. For example, while the techniques of educational psychology doubtless work quite well in the “lab schools” where they are developed, it is not necessarily easy to apply them effectively throughout our educational system. We all know what many of our schools are like. The teachers are too busy taking knives and guns away from the kids to subject them to the latest techniques for making them into computer nerds. Thus, in spite of all its technical advances relating to human behavior, the system to date has not been impressively successful in controlling human beings. The people whose behavior is fairly well under the control of the system are those of the type that might be called “bourgeois.” But there are growing numbers of people who in one way or another are rebels against the system: welfare leeches, youth gangs, cultists, satanists, Nazis, radical environmentalists, militia-men, etc.</p> </li> @@ -577,8 +598,9 @@ <p>Therefore two tasks confront those who hate the servitude to which the industrial system is reducing the human race. First, we must work to heighten the social stresses within the system so as to increase the likelihood that it will break down or be weakened sufficiently so that a revolution against it becomes possible. Second, it is necessary to develop and propagate an ideology that opposes technology and the industrial system. Such an ideology can become the basis for a revolution against industrial society if and when the system becomes sufficiently weakened. And such an ideology will help to assure that, if and when industrial society breaks down, its remnants will be smashed beyond repair, so that the system cannot be reconstituted. The factories should be destroyed, technical books burned, etc.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="human-suffering">Human Suffering</h2> -<ol start="167"> +<h2 id="human-suffering">Human Suffering <a class="anchor" href="#human-suffering"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="167"> <li> <p>The industrial system will not break down purely as a result of revolutionary action. It will not be vulnerable to revolutionary attack unless its own internal problems of development lead it into very serious difficulties. So if the system breaks down it will do so either spontaneously, or through a process that is in part spontaneous but helped along by revolutionaries. If the breakdown is sudden, many people will die, since the world’s population has become so overblown that it cannot even feed itself any longer without advanced technology. Even if the breakdown is gradual enough so that reduction of the population can occur more through lowering of the birth rate than through elevation of the death rate, the process of de-industrialization probably will be very chaotic and involve much suffering. It is naive to think it likely that technology can be phased out in a smoothly managed, orderly way, especially since the technophiles will fight stubbornly at every step. Is it therefore cruel to work for the breakdown of the system? Maybe, but maybe not. In the first place, revolutionaries will not be able to break the system down unless it is already in enough trouble so that there would be a good chance of its eventually breaking down by itself anyway; and the bigger the system grows, the more disastrous the consequences of its breakdown will be; so it may be that revolutionaries, by hastening the onset of the breakdown, will be reducing the extent of the disaster.</p> </li> @@ -592,8 +614,9 @@ <p>“Oh!” say the technophiles, “Science is going to fix all that! We will conquer famine, eliminate psychological suffering, make everybody healthy and happy!” Yeah, sure. That’s what they said 200 years ago. The Industrial Revolution was supposed to eliminate poverty, make everybody happy, etc. The actual result has been quite different. The technophiles are hopelessly naive (or self-deceiving) in their understanding of social problems. They are unaware of (or choose to ignore) the fact that when large changes, even seemingly beneficial ones, are introduced into a society, they lead to a long sequence of other changes, most of which are impossible to predict (paragraph 103). In the mean time there will be great suffering. So it is not at all clear that the survival of industrial society would involve less suffering than the breakdown of that society would. Technology has gotten the human race into a fix from which there is not likely to be any easy escape.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-future">The Future</h2> -<ol start="171"> +<h2 id="the-future">The Future <a class="anchor" href="#the-future"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="171"> <li> <p>But suppose now that industrial society does survive the next several decades and that the bugs do eventually get worked out of the system, so that it functions smoothly. What kind of system will it be? We will consider several possibilities.</p> </li> @@ -622,8 +645,9 @@ <p>It would be better to dump the whole stinking system and take the consequences.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="strategy">Strategy</h2> -<ol start="180"> +<h2 id="strategy">Strategy <a class="anchor" href="#strategy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="180"> <li> <p>The technophiles are taking us all on an utterly reckless ride into the unknown. Many people understand something of what technological progress is doing to us, yet take a passive attitude toward it because they think it is inevitable. But we (FC) don’t think it is inevitable. We think it can be stopped, and we will give here some indications of how to go about stopping it.</p> </li> @@ -706,8 +730,9 @@ <p>With regard to revolutionary strategy, the only points on which we absolutely insist are that the single, overriding goal must be the elimination of modern technology, and that no other goal can be allowed to compete with this one. For the rest, revolutionaries should take an empirical approach. If experience indicates that some of the recommendations made in the foregoing paragraphs are not going to give good results, then those recommendations should be discarded.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="two-kinds-of-technology">Two Kinds of Technology</h2> -<ol start="207"> +<h2 id="two-kinds-of-technology">Two Kinds of Technology <a class="anchor" href="#two-kinds-of-technology"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="207"> <li> <p>An argument likely to be raised against our proposed revolution is that it is bound to fail, because (it is claimed) throughout history technology has always progressed, never regressed, hence technological regression is impossible. But this claim is false.</p> </li> @@ -727,8 +752,9 @@ <p>Would society EVENTUALLY develop again toward an industrial-technological form? Maybe, but there is no use in worrying about it, since we can’t predict or control events 500 or 1,000 years in the future. Those problems must be dealt with by the people who will live at that time.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-danger-of-leftism">The Danger of Leftism</h2> -<ol start="213"> +<h2 id="the-danger-of-leftism">The Danger of Leftism <a class="anchor" href="#the-danger-of-leftism"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="213"> <li> <p>Because of their need for rebellion and for membership in a movement, leftists or persons of similar psychological type often are attracted to a rebellious or activist movement whose goals and membership are not initially leftist. The resulting influx of leftish types can easily turn a non-leftist movement into a leftist one, so that leftist goals replace or distort the original goals of the movement.</p> </li> @@ -784,8 +810,9 @@ <p>The more dangerous leftists, that is, those who are most power-hungry, are often characterized by arrogance or by a dogmatic approach to ideology. However, the most dangerous leftists of all may be certain oversocialized types who avoid irritating displays of aggressiveness and refrain from advertising their leftism, but work quietly and unobtrusively to promote collectivist values, “enlightened” psychological techniques for socializing children, dependence of the individual on the system, and so forth. These crypto-leftists (as we may call them) approximate certain bourgeois types as far as practical action is concerned, but differ from them in psychology, ideology and motivation. The ordinary bourgeois tries to bring people under control of the system in order to protect his way of life, or he does so simply because his attitudes are conventional. The crypto-leftist tries to bring people under control of the system because he is a True Believer in a collectivistic ideology. The crypto-leftist is differentiated from the average leftist of the oversocialized type by the fact that his rebellious impulse is weaker and he is more securely socialized. He is differentiated from the ordinary well-socialized bourgeois by the fact that there is some deep lack within him that makes it necessary for him to devote himself to a cause and immerse himself in a collectivity. And maybe his (well-sublimated) drive for power is stronger than that of the average bourgeois.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="final-note">Final Note</h2> -<ol start="231"> +<h2 id="final-note">Final Note <a class="anchor" href="#final-note"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="231"> <li> <p>Throughout this article we’ve made imprecise statements and statements that ought to have had all sorts of qualifications and reservations attached to them; and some of our statements may be flatly false. Lack of sufficient information and the need for brevity made it impossible for us to formulate our assertions more precisely or add all the necessary qualifications. And of course in a discussion of this kind one must rely heavily on intuitive judgment, and that can sometimes be wrong. So we don’t claim that this article expresses more than a crude approximation to the truth.</p> </li> @@ -915,8 +942,9 @@ Thu, 12 Jan 2023 21:34:30 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/recover-lost-anki-streak/ - <h1 id="how-to-recover-a-lost-anki-streak">How to recover a lost anki streak</h1> -<p>Word for word copy paste of what fixed my issue. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/Anki/comments/ndt6ag/comment/gycwiti/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">Original post</a></p> + <h1 id="how-to-recover-a-lost-anki-streak">How to recover a lost anki streak <a class="anchor" href="#how-to-recover-a-lost-anki-streak"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><p>Word for word copy paste of what fixed my issue. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/Anki/comments/ndt6ag/comment/gycwiti/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">Original post</a></p> <p><em>btw i had to create a seperate Custom Study for cards i had forgotten, i set it to 1 day, did one review and followed from step 7</em></p> <p>Happened to me as well, idk why. But there is a way to cheat streaks:</p> <ol> @@ -938,10 +966,12 @@ Wed, 04 Jan 2023 22:52:24 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/meta-description-in-hugo/ - <h1 id="adding-meta-description-in-hugo">Adding meta description in Hugo</h1> -<p>I assume you are using Luke Smith&rsquo;s theme - Lugo, if you are not, you&rsquo;d have to find these files yourself (e.g. search using vscode).</p> -<h2 id="setting-a-global-meta-description">Setting a global meta description</h2> -<ol> + <h1 id="adding-meta-description-in-hugo">Adding meta description in Hugo <a class="anchor" href="#adding-meta-description-in-hugo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><p>I assume you are using Luke Smith&rsquo;s theme - Lugo, if you are not, you&rsquo;d have to find these files yourself (e.g. search using vscode).</p> +<h2 id="setting-a-global-meta-description">Setting a global meta description <a class="anchor" href="#setting-a-global-meta-description"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Locate your config.toml or config.yaml file</li> <li>Add the following line inside it</li> </ol> @@ -952,15 +982,17 @@ <div class="highlight"><pre tabindex="0" style="color:#f8f8f2;background-color:#272822;-moz-tab-size:4;-o-tab-size:4;tab-size:4;"><code class="language-yaml" data-lang="yaml"><span style="display:flex;"><span><span style="color:#f92672">params</span>: </span></span><span style="display:flex;"><span> <span style="color:#f92672">description</span>: <span style="color:#ae81ff">The global meta description of your website</span> </span></span></code></pre></div><p>It won&rsquo;t work just yet because you have to update the <code>baseof.html</code> file.</p> -<h2 id="updating-the-baseofhtml-file">Updating the baseof.html file</h2> -<ol> +<h2 id="updating-the-baseofhtml-file">Updating the baseof.html file <a class="anchor" href="#updating-the-baseofhtml-file"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Locate baseof.html</li> <li>Add or change the meta description line with the following</li> </ol> <div class="highlight"><pre tabindex="0" style="color:#f8f8f2;background-color:#272822;-moz-tab-size:4;-o-tab-size:4;tab-size:4;"><code class="language-html" data-lang="html"><span style="display:flex;"><span>&lt;<span style="color:#f92672">meta</span> <span style="color:#a6e22e">name</span><span style="color:#f92672">=</span><span style="color:#e6db74">&#34;description&#34;</span> <span style="color:#a6e22e">content</span><span style="color:#f92672">=</span><span style="color:#e6db74">&#34;{{ if .Page.Params.description }}{{ .Page.Params.description }}{{ else if .Summary}}{{ .Summary }}{{else}}{{ .Site.Params.description}}{{ end }}&#34;</span>/&gt; </span></span></code></pre></div><p>And now if you start your Hugo server locally with <code>hugo serve --noHTTPCache</code> and you right click on your page -&gt; View Page Source -&gt; Search for the meta description tag. It should match what you left in the config file.</p> -<h2 id="replacing-the-global-description-with-a-custom-one">Replacing the global description with a custom one</h2> -<ol> +<h2 id="replacing-the-global-description-with-a-custom-one">Replacing the global description with a custom one <a class="anchor" href="#replacing-the-global-description-with-a-custom-one"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Have a markdown file ready</li> <li>In the preamble, add</li> </ol> @@ -978,8 +1010,9 @@ https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/multiple-index-pages-in-hugo/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="this-is-how-to-create-multiple-index-pages-in-hugo">This is how to create multiple index pages in Hugo</h2> -</div> +<h2 id="this-is-how-to-create-multiple-index-pages-in-hugo">This is how to create multiple index pages in Hugo <a class="anchor" href="#this-is-how-to-create-multiple-index-pages-in-hugo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>I wanted to order <a href="https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook">Hackbook</a> in reverse (i.e. oldest to newest) so that it&rsquo;s easier for the reader to start at the correct page.</p> <p>I ran into the following problem - the default <strong><code>list.html</code></strong> does them from newest to oldest.</p> <p>So I found <a href="https://discourse.gohugo.io/t/two-home-pages/31312/9">this forum post</a> and I created a file in the <strong><code>_default</code></strong> directory as follows:</p> @@ -1012,11 +1045,14 @@ {{- end }} &lt;/ul&gt; {{- end }} -</code></pre><h4 id="if-you-want-to-display-the-date-on-the-left-of-the-titles-you-have-to-add-datesinlisttrue-in-your-configtoml-or-datesinlist-true-in-your-configyaml">if you want to display the date on the left of the titles, you have to add <strong><code>datesinlist=true</code></strong> in your config.toml or <strong><code>datesinlist: true</code></strong> in your config.yaml</h4> -<h5 id="you-probably-dont-need-enablegitinfo--true-as-that-will-crash-your-website-i-have-no-idea-what-it-does-you-dont-need-it">You probably don&rsquo;t need <strong><code>enableGitInfo = true</code></strong> as that will crash your website, I have no idea what it does, you don&rsquo;t need it.</h5> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="using-your-custom-_indexhtml">Using your custom _index.html</h2> -</div> +</code></pre><h4 id="if-you-want-to-display-the-date-on-the-left-of-the-titles-you-have-to-add-datesinlisttrue-in-your-configtoml-or-datesinlist-true-in-your-configyaml">if you want to display the date on the left of the titles, you have to add <strong><code>datesinlist=true</code></strong> in your config.toml or <strong><code>datesinlist: true</code></strong> in your config.yaml <a class="anchor" href="#if-you-want-to-display-the-date-on-the-left-of-the-titles-you-have-to-add-datesinlisttrue-in-your-configtoml-or-datesinlist-true-in-your-configyaml"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h5 id="you-probably-dont-need-enablegitinfo--true-as-that-will-crash-your-website-i-have-no-idea-what-it-does-you-dont-need-it">You probably don&rsquo;t need <strong><code>enableGitInfo = true</code></strong> as that will crash your website, I have no idea what it does, you don&rsquo;t need it. <a class="anchor" href="#you-probably-dont-need-enablegitinfo--true-as-that-will-crash-your-website-i-have-no-idea-what-it-does-you-dont-need-it"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h5><div style="text-align: center;"> +<h2 id="using-your-custom-_indexhtml">Using your custom _index.html <a class="anchor" href="#using-your-custom-_indexhtml"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>After creating your custom _index.html you&rsquo;d use it as follows:</p> <ol> <li>Create an _index.md file in your desired directory</li> @@ -1227,8 +1263,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true <li>Never PMO again.</li> </ol> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="affirmations">Affirmations</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="affirmations">Affirmations <a class="anchor" href="#affirmations"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <ul> <li>I am free from the slavery of PMO.</li> <li>It is easy for me to ignore my thoughts about PMO.</li> @@ -1269,21 +1306,24 @@ strains of life.</li> https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-43-advice-to-non-pmoers/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK <a class="anchor" href="#help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>First study the contents of this book and try to put yourself in the place of the PMOer. Do not force him to read this book or try to stop him by telling him he is ruining his health or playing with fire. He already knows this better than you do. PMOers do not continue in it because they enjoy it or because they want to. They only tell themselves and other people this in order to retain self-respect. They do it because they feel dependent on PMO because they think that it relaxes them and gives them courage and confidence (pleasure or crutch) and that life will never be enjoyable without “sex” - their version of it. If you try to force a PMOer to stop, he feels like a trapped animal and wants to be in his harem even more. This may turn him into a secret PMOer and in his mind the porn will become even more precious (see Chapter 26).</p> <p>Instead, concentrate on the other side of the coin. Get him into the company of ex-PMOers (there are many blogs, forums etc. YBOP, No-Fap etc.). Get them to tell the PMOer how they too thought they were hooked for life and how much better life is as a non-PMOer. Once you have got him believing that he can stop then his mind will start to open up. Then start explaining the delusion created by withdrawal pangs. Not only are the “dopamine rushes” not giving him a boost but they are destroying his confidence and making him irritable and tired.</p> <p>He should now be ready to read this book himself. He will be expecting to read pages and pages about unreliable arousal, fading penetrations, PIED, PE, etc. Explain that the approach is completely different and that references to illness are just a small fraction of the material in the book.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD <a class="anchor" href="#help-during-the-withdrawal-period"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>If you are dealing with a girlfriend or boyfriend - whether the ex-PMOer is suffering or not, assume that she/he is. Do not try to minimize his suffering by telling him it is easy to stop; he can do that himself. Instead keep telling him how proud you are, how much better he is looking, how much sweeter it is to be with him, how much easier he is in general. It is particularly important to keep doing this. When a PMOer makes an attempt to stop, the euphoria of the attempt and the attention he gets from friends and colleagues can help him along. However, they tend to forget quickly, so keep that praise going.</p> <p>Because he is not talking about PMOing, you may think he has forgotten about it and don&rsquo;t want to remind him. Usually the complete opposite is the case with the Willpower Method, as the ex-PMOer tends to be obsessed by nothing else. So do not be frightened to bring the subject up and keep praising him: he will tell you if he doesn&rsquo;t want you to remind him of PMOing.</p> <p>Go out of your way to relieve him of pressures during the withdrawal period. Try to think of ways of making his life interesting and enjoyable. This can also be a trying period for non-PMOers - that is those of you who have never had this addiction. If one member of a group is irritable, it can cause general misery all round. So anticipate this if the ex-PMOer is feeling irritable. He may well take it out on you but do not retaliate: it is at this time that he needs your praise and sympathy the most. If you are feeling irritable yourself, try not to show it.</p> <p>One of the tricks an addict will play when trying to give up with the aid of the Willpower Method was to get into a tantrum, hoping that wife or friends would say, “I cannot bear to see you suffering like this. For goodness sake, have your poison.” The PMOer then does not lose face, as he isn&rsquo;t “giving in” - he has been instructed. If the ex-PMOer uses this ploy, on no account encourage him to lapse. Instead say, “if that is what PMO does to you, thank goodness you will soon be free. How marvellous that you had the courage and sense to give up.”</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL <a class="anchor" href="#help-end-this-scandal"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>In my opinion, internet porn is one of the dangers in a free society, piggy backing on the good willed efforts of personal freedoms. Surely the very basis of civilization, the reason why the human species has advanced so far, is that we are capable of communicating our knowledge and experiences not only to each other but to future generations. Even the lower species find it necessary to warn their offspring of the pitfalls in life.</p> <p>The producers of porn are not doing this in good faith, in the genuine belief that they help mankind, especially now as the addiction to internet porn is widely studied. Maybe in its initial stages people genuinely believed that porn taught intimacy to men and women but today the authorities know that it is a fallacy. Just watch any tube sites nowadays. They make no claims about education. The only claims they make are about the shock, novelty, escalation quality of their clips.</p> <p>The sheer hypocrisy is incredible. As a society we get uptight about school bullying and objectification of human body. Compared with internet porn, these problems are mere pimples in our society. Thirty five per cent of the population have been addicted to porn and most of them spend quality time with imaginary and illusory pixel people at the expense of health, virility, energy and time. Tens of thousands of people have their lives ruined every year because they become hooked. Internet high speed porn is by far the biggest killer in relationships and yet the biggest vested interest is our for-profit companies. Internet porn producers don’t spend on advertising the filth in mainstream publications - they don’t have to. Our biological urges will lead us to the thresholds of their well stocked internet harems. They give free samples just like your local drug dealer. Heck the tube sites don’t even stock the wares any more as they encourage visitors to post the content.</p> @@ -1296,8 +1336,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <p>Why do we allow society to subject healthy young teenagers, youngsters whose lives are complete before they start to get online, to claim their independence just for the privilege of destroying themselves mentally and physically in a lifetime of slavery, a lifetime of filth and disease? You may feel that I over-dramatize the facts. Not so. There are cases where lives were cut down in his early years of marriage because of PMO. He was a strong man and might still have been alive today. I believe I was within an inch of PIED during my forties, although I would have attributed it to my divorce rather than to PMO. I now spend my life being consulted by people who have been crippled by the disease or are in the last stages. And, if you care to think about it, you probably know of many too.</p> <p>There is a wind of change in society. A snowball has started that I hope this book will help turn into an avalanche. You too can help by spreading the message.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING <a class="anchor" href="#final-warning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>You can now enjoy the rest of your life as a happy non-PMOer. In order to make sure that you do, you need to follow these simple instructions:</p> <ol> <li>Keep this page in your bookmarks and refer to it as much as you need.</li> @@ -1396,8 +1437,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <p>Find out which one it is. Some people understand and believe everything I say but still start off with a feeling of doom and gloom, as if something terrible were happening. You are doing not only what you&rsquo;d like to do but what every PMOer on the planet would like to do. With any method of stopping, what the ex PMOer is trying to achieve is a certain frame of mind, so that whenever he thinks about PMO he says to himself, “YIPPEE! I&rsquo;M FREE!” If that&rsquo;s your object, why wait? Start off in that frame of mind and never lose it. The rest of the book is designed to make you understand why there is no alternative.</p> </blockquote> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="the-check-list"><strong>THE CHECK LIST</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="the-check-list"><strong>THE CHECK LIST</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-check-list"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>If you follow these simple instructions, you cannot fail:</p> <ol> <li>Make a solemn vow that you will never, ever, go online to visit your harem OR settle down for static pictures OR make peace with erotic graphics OR anything that contains supra normal stimuli, and stick to your vow.</li> @@ -1511,14 +1553,16 @@ sites in my life again.”<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1& <p>I have been direct in my advice so far and would ask you to treat this advice as instruction rather than suggestion. I am explicit and direct, first because there are sound, practical reasons for my advice and second, because those reasons have been backed up by thousands of case studies. On the question of whether or not to try to avoid temptation during the withdrawal period, I regret that I cannot be direct. Each PMOer will need to decide for himself. I can, however, make what I hope will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all our lives and this fear consists of two distinct phases:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO?</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO? <a class="anchor" href="#phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>This fear is that panicky feeling the PMOer gets when they are alone in a single phase or have an asexual, uninterested or unavailable partner. The fear isn&rsquo;t caused by withdrawal pangs but is the psychological fear of dependency - you cannot survive without sex and orgasm. It actually reaches its height when you are on the verge of quitting (I won’t use giving up); at that time your withdrawal pangs are at their lowest. It is the fear of the unknown, the sort of fear that people have when they are learning to dive.</p> <p>The diving board is 1 foot high but seems to be 6 feet high. The water is 6 feet deep but appears to be 1 foot deep. It takes courage to launch yourself. You are convinced you are going to smash your head. The launching is the hardest part. If you can find the courage to do it, the rest is easy. This explains why many otherwise strong-willed PMOers either have never attempted to stop or can survive only a few days when they do. In fact, there are some PMOers on a porn diet who when they decide to stop, actually binge and escalate to harsher clips more quickly than if they had not decided to stop. The decision causes panic, which is stressful. This is one of the occasions when the brain triggers the instruction, “take a trip to your own personal harem.” But now you can&rsquo;t take one. You are being deprived - more stress.</p> <p>The trigger starts again quickly when the fuse blows and you fire up the browser. Don&rsquo;t worry. That panic is just psychological. It is the fear that you are dependent. The beautiful truth is that you are not, even when you are still addicted. Do not panic. Just trust me and launch yourself.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear <a class="anchor" href="#phase-2-longer-term-fear"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>The second phase of fear is longer-term. It involves the fear that certain situations in the future will not be enjoyable or that you will not be able to cope with a trauma without PMO. Don&rsquo;t worry. If you can launch yourself you will find the opposite to be the case. The avoidance of temptation itself falls into two main categories:</p> <ol> <li>“I will subscribe to a porn-diet of once in 4 days. I will feel more confident knowing that I can go online if it gets hard. It is OK if I fail I can just add up additional days to my next cycle.”</li> @@ -1621,8 +1665,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict <li>What&rsquo;s worse, it keeps the big monster alive in your mind. If you had the “last peek”, it will be easier to have the next one.</li> </ol> <p>Above all, remember:</p> -<h2 id="just-one-peek-is-how-people-get-into-pmo-addiction-in-the-first-place">“Just one peek” is how people get into PMO addiction in the first place.</h2> - +<h2 id="just-one-peek-is-how-people-get-into-pmo-addiction-in-the-first-place">“Just one peek” is how people get into PMO addiction in the first place. <a class="anchor" href="#just-one-peek-is-how-people-get-into-pmo-addiction-in-the-first-place"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2> @@ -1727,8 +1772,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict </ol> <p>Stop kidding yourself. If the job offer that I mentioned before, of 10 months work for 12 months salary a year won&rsquo;t stop him. Or if the risks of cutting down your brain’s capacity to cope with just any normal day-to-day stress and strains or if putting yourself at odds with having a reliable erection, or if the lifetime of mental and physical torture and slavery did not stop him or her - the above said few phoney incentives will not make the slightest bit of difference. They will only make the sacrifice appear worse. Instead concentrate on the other side:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"><strong>“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?”</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"><strong>“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?”</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>Keep looking at the other side of the tug of war. What is PMOing doing for me? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Why do I need to do it? YOU DON&rsquo;T! YOU ARE ONLY PUNISHING YOURSELF. Try looking at it from the Pascal’s Wager perspective. You have almost nothing to lose (a rub-out with half arousals) for sure, chances of big profits (a full and reliable arousal, mental well being and happiness) and no chance of losing big (unreliable full arousals, premature ejaculations, fading penetrations, loss of general impulse controls, lower tolerance for frustrations and anger).</p> <p>Why not declare your quitting to friends and family? Well, it will make you a proud ex-addict, ex-PMOer, not an elated and happy non-PMOer. It will scare your partner a bit since they may see this as an effort to have more sex, sort of a new-age thing. They may also fear to lose you if this turns you into sex machine. It is hard to explain to them unless they are open minded.</p> <p>Any attempt to get others to help you in your quitting gives more power to the little monster of addiction. Pushing it from your mind and totally ignoring it has the effect of trying NOT to think of it. As soon as you spot the thoughts, when you hit the cues (home alone) or just absent minded thoughts - just say to yourself: “Great, I don’t have to do it like a slave animal. I am free. I am happy to know the differences in sex.” This will cut the life of the thought and will deny oxygen to it and will stop it from burning towards urges and cravings.</p> @@ -1796,8 +1842,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <p>First of all, identify the times or occasions when PMO appears to be important to you. If you are a businessman and use it for the illusion of relief of stress, pick a relatively slack period; a good idea is to choose your annual holiday. If you PMO mainly during boring or relaxing periods, weekends etc. do the opposite. In any event, take the matter seriously and make the attempt the most important thing in your life.</p> <p>Look ahead for a period of about three weeks and try to anticipate any event that might lead to failure. Occasions like a conference trip, partner out of town etc. need not deter you, providing you anticipate them in advance and do not feel you will be deprived. Do not attempt to cut down in the meantime as this will only create the illusion that being denied is enjoyable. In fact, it helps to force yourself to watch and have as many PMO sessions as possible. While you are having the last session and that last time, be conscious of the disappointment due to satiation, unfulfilled expectations (porn can never satisfy you), any bodily pain or pain in the genitals, the withdrawal effects, the peevishness and the melancholy. Think how marvellous it will be when you allow yourself to stop doing it.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="whatever-you-do-dont-fall-into-the-trap-of-just-saying-not-now-later-and-putting-it-out-of-your-mind-work-out-your-timetable-now-and-look-forward-to-it">WHATEVER YOU DO, DON&rsquo;T FALL INTO THE TRAP OF JUST SAYING, “NOT NOW. LATER,” AND PUTTING IT OUT OF YOUR MIND. WORK OUT YOUR TIMETABLE NOW AND LOOK FORWARD TO IT.</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="whatever-you-do-dont-fall-into-the-trap-of-just-saying-not-now-later-and-putting-it-out-of-your-mind-work-out-your-timetable-now-and-look-forward-to-it">WHATEVER YOU DO, DON&rsquo;T FALL INTO THE TRAP OF JUST SAYING, “NOT NOW. LATER,” AND PUTTING IT OUT OF YOUR MIND. WORK OUT YOUR TIMETABLE NOW AND LOOK FORWARD TO IT. <a class="anchor" href="#whatever-you-do-dont-fall-into-the-trap-of-just-saying-not-now-later-and-putting-it-out-of-your-mind-work-out-your-timetable-now-and-look-forward-to-it"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>Remember you aren&rsquo;t giving anything up. On the contrary: you are about to receive marvellous positive gains.</p> <p>For years the medical profession viewed porn is harmless without knowing the difference between the tame static porn of yesteryear and the latest VR streaming porn. The problem is this; although every PMOer uses internet porn purely to relieve the brain chemical craving for dopamine, it is not the addiction to the brain chemical itself that hooks the PMOer but the self-brainwashing that results from that addiction. An intelligent person will fall for a confidence trick. But only a fool will go on falling for it once he realizes that it&rsquo;s a confidence trick. Fortunately, most PMOers aren&rsquo;t fools; they only think they are. Each individual PMOer has his own private brainwashing. That is why there appears to be such a wide range of different types of PMOer, which only serves to compound the mysteries.</p> <p>With the benefit of the original book that used this method to stop smoking, which dealt with nicotine addiction (one of the most quickest and addictive drug known to man) and bearing in mind that the personal logs that I collected from Reddit, NoFap and YBOP blogs and forums, I was agreeably surprised to realize that the philosophy propounded in the original book was still sound. The accumulated knowledge that was acquired by the original author Alan Carr and by myself the hack-author is how to communicate that knowledge to each individual PMOer. The fact that I know every PMOer can not only find it easy to stop but can actually enjoy the process is not only pointless but exceedingly frustrating unless I can make the PMOer realize it. The original author of the quit smoking book explains some controversial advice:</p> @@ -1835,8 +1882,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <p>The only reason why people continue to PMO after getting educated is because they have failed to stop or are too frightened to try. There are even talks about no porn, no masturbation and no orgasms - with or without partners. Karezza is discussed widely and people are trying it out. Many aforementioned failures are “fail forwards” and thus somewhat benefiting the people who practice them. Once you start in the no-PMO route you will find your best fit that applies to your life. I strongly encourage devising your own plan on orgasms after understanding and practising the separation of the amative and the propagative parts of sex. I am sure whichever route you take you will see the value of preserving the “seed” by limiting the number of times you flush your brain with chemicals by orgasming. You will then never see porn, sex and orgasms as a pleasure or as a crutch for your emotional ups and downs.</p> <p>I was reading a Reddit forum by non-PMOers dedicated to quitting not only porn but also masturbation. As I read along I thought. “This is good, I see so many have taken to quitting masturbation and I think that is the right way to quit PMO.” However, I found most of the notes pointing to them to try with the Willpower Method. There was a lot of self-pitying as well. Except a few&hellip; almost all were not feeling elated and not having the, “yippee I am free from slavery” attitude. Eventually someone broke down - as I unfortunately expected to happen. And the result was a domino effect. All those other PMOers had been sitting there thinking, “surely I can&rsquo;t be the only PMOer here.” However, they were “failing forward” albeit with a lot of self-torturing as they shut down their browsers but did not shut down the desire and the need. This method is the reverse as - we shut down the desire and the need first before shutting down the browser screen. As every day more and more PMOers leave the sinking ship, so those left on it become terrified they&rsquo;ll be the last.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="dont-let-it-be-you"><strong>DON&rsquo;T LET IT BE YOU!</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="dont-let-it-be-you"><strong>DON&rsquo;T LET IT BE YOU!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#dont-let-it-be-you"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> @@ -1854,8 +1902,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <p>Columbo has this frustrating practice of closing the door after finishing his interrogation, having assured the suspect that he is in the clear and before the satisfied look has disappeared from the murderer&rsquo;s face, Columbo reappears with: “just one small point, sir, which I&rsquo;m sure you can explain&hellip;” The suspect stammers and from that point on we know and he knows that Columbo will gradually wear him down. No matter how heinous the crime, from that point on my sympathies were with the murderer.</p> <p>It was almost as if I were the criminal and that&rsquo;s exactly how those bouts made me feel. The tension of not being allowed to cross the red line to get my porn fix that I “rightly deserve because I am hard working man and why shouldn’t I when every man does it?” entitlement, click, click, clicking on videos that come close to the right one. Longing for the porn tube videos. And then finishing the deed - just a limp rub out, wondering where the pleasure was. The fear of crossing the line losing control. The relief of returning to the bed, immediately followed by the fear that she would toss around and ask for sex. As the “safe” YouTube videos started not to do it for me - desensitization and lack of novelty and the certain knowledge that sooner or later I was bound to visit my favourite online harem. The final humiliation and shame when that certainty became a fact, followed by the immediate return to chain-PMOing.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="oh-the-joys-of-being-a-pmo-er"><strong>OH THE JOYS OF BEING A PMO-er!</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="oh-the-joys-of-being-a-pmo-er"><strong>OH THE JOYS OF BEING A PMO-er!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#oh-the-joys-of-being-a-pmo-er"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> @@ -1882,25 +1931,32 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p </ol> <p>I used to think of my ‘non-casual’ PMOing as a weakness. I couldn&rsquo;t understand why my friends could limit their “intake.” I knew I was a very strong-willed person. It never occurred to me that most PMOers are incapable of chain-PMOing - you need a very strong imagination and also extraordinarily strong penis stamina in order to do it. Some of these once-a-week PMOers that heavy PMOers tend to envy do it less frequently because physically their constitution cannot do more, or because they cannot afford to PMO more, or because their job, or society, or their own hatred of being hooked won&rsquo;t allow them to PMO more.</p> <p>It may be of advantage at this stage to provide a few definitions:</p> -<h3 id="the-non-pmoer">THE NON-PMOer</h3> -<p>Someone who has never fallen for the trap but should not be complacent. He is a non-PMOer only by luck or the grace of goodness. All PMOers were convinced that they would never become hooked and some non-PMOers keep trying an occasional session.</p> -<h3 id="the-casual-pmoer">THE CASUAL PMOer</h3> -<p>There are two basic classifications of casual PMOers:</p> +<h3 id="the-non-pmoer">THE NON-PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-non-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>Someone who has never fallen for the trap but should not be complacent. He is a non-PMOer only by luck or the grace of goodness. All PMOers were convinced that they would never become hooked and some non-PMOers keep trying an occasional session.</p> +<h3 id="the-casual-pmoer">THE CASUAL PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-casual-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>There are two basic classifications of casual PMOers:</p> <ol> <li>The PMOer who has fallen for the trap but doesn&rsquo;t realize it. Do not envy such PMOers. They are merely sampling the nectar at the mouth of the pitcher plant and in all probability will soon be heavy users. Remember, just as all alcoholics started off as casual drinkers, so all PMOers started off as casual PMOers.</li> <li>The PMOer who was previously a heavy PMOer and thinks he cannot stop. These PMOers are the saddest of all. They fall into various categories, each of which needs separate comment.</li> </ol> -<h3 id="the-oncea--day-pmoer">THE ONCE–A- DAY PMOer</h3> -<p>If he enjoys his entitlement to orgasm, why does he use internet porn to orgasm only once a day? If he can take it or leave it, why does he bother to PMO at all? Remember, the ‘habit’ is really banging your head against the brick wall only to make it relaxing when you stop. The once-a-day PMOer is relieving his withdrawal pangs for less than one hour each day. The rest of the day, although he doesn&rsquo;t realize it, he is banging his head against the wall and does so for most of his life. He is PMOing only once a day because either he cannot take the risk of getting caught or screwing up his brain health. It is easy to convince the heavy PMOer that he doesn&rsquo;t enjoy it but you try convincing a casual PMOer. Anybody who has gone through an attempt to cut down will know it is the worst torture of all and almost guaranteed to keep you hooked for the rest of your life.</p> -<h3 id="the-rejected-pmoer">THE REJECTED PMOer</h3> -<p>This PMOer demands the right to his/her orgasm(s) every day. And of course his sex partner is not always up to it. So he goes on the internet for porn initially. Once he takes “the ride” to fix “the void” he is trapped on this most exciting ‘water slide’ of novelty, shock, supranormal images etc. He is in fact dichotomously ‘happy’ with the partner’s rejection – it gives him something of an excuse. If internet porn is giving so much to you, why even bother to have a partner at all? Set him or her free. He is not even enjoying the PMO when he has to ‘carry’ his partner in his mind. At some point he is using his real life partner to hand him an excuse to go out into the valleys of the dark side of the internet.</p> -<h3 id="the-porn-diet-pmoer">THE PORN DIET PMOer</h3> -<p>(Or, “I can stop whenever I want to. I have done it thousands of times”). If he thinks dieting helps with his moods to ‘get out to get women,’ why is he even on the diet of once every four days? How can one predict the future, what if the happenstance of meeting occurred just an hour after your scheduled PMO session? Also, if he thinks this occasional “cleaning the plumbing” is good to relieve tension and relax why not plumb every day? It has been proven that masturbation is not required to keep the genitals healthy. Internet porn is not required at all. Even if that may be the case, any PUA guru who has read about the brain chemistry and its plasticity will never recommend watching super stimulus porn. The truth is he is still hooked. Although he gets rid of the physical addiction, he is left with the main problem - the brainwashing. He hopes each time that he will stop for good and soon falls for the same trap again.</p> +<h3 id="the-oncea--day-pmoer">THE ONCE–A- DAY PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-oncea--day-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>If he enjoys his entitlement to orgasm, why does he use internet porn to orgasm only once a day? If he can take it or leave it, why does he bother to PMO at all? Remember, the ‘habit’ is really banging your head against the brick wall only to make it relaxing when you stop. The once-a-day PMOer is relieving his withdrawal pangs for less than one hour each day. The rest of the day, although he doesn&rsquo;t realize it, he is banging his head against the wall and does so for most of his life. He is PMOing only once a day because either he cannot take the risk of getting caught or screwing up his brain health. It is easy to convince the heavy PMOer that he doesn&rsquo;t enjoy it but you try convincing a casual PMOer. Anybody who has gone through an attempt to cut down will know it is the worst torture of all and almost guaranteed to keep you hooked for the rest of your life.</p> +<h3 id="the-rejected-pmoer">THE REJECTED PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-rejected-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>This PMOer demands the right to his/her orgasm(s) every day. And of course his sex partner is not always up to it. So he goes on the internet for porn initially. Once he takes “the ride” to fix “the void” he is trapped on this most exciting ‘water slide’ of novelty, shock, supranormal images etc. He is in fact dichotomously ‘happy’ with the partner’s rejection – it gives him something of an excuse. If internet porn is giving so much to you, why even bother to have a partner at all? Set him or her free. He is not even enjoying the PMO when he has to ‘carry’ his partner in his mind. At some point he is using his real life partner to hand him an excuse to go out into the valleys of the dark side of the internet.</p> +<h3 id="the-porn-diet-pmoer">THE PORN DIET PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-porn-diet-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>(Or, “I can stop whenever I want to. I have done it thousands of times”). If he thinks dieting helps with his moods to ‘get out to get women,’ why is he even on the diet of once every four days? How can one predict the future, what if the happenstance of meeting occurred just an hour after your scheduled PMO session? Also, if he thinks this occasional “cleaning the plumbing” is good to relieve tension and relax why not plumb every day? It has been proven that masturbation is not required to keep the genitals healthy. Internet porn is not required at all. Even if that may be the case, any PUA guru who has read about the brain chemistry and its plasticity will never recommend watching super stimulus porn. The truth is he is still hooked. Although he gets rid of the physical addiction, he is left with the main problem - the brainwashing. He hopes each time that he will stop for good and soon falls for the same trap again.</p> <p>Many PMOers actually envy these stoppers and starters. They think, “how lucky to be able to control it like that, to do PMO when you want to and stop when you want to,” What they always overlook is that these stoppers and starters aren&rsquo;t controlling it. When they are PMOers, they wish they weren&rsquo;t. They go through the hassle of stopping, then begin to feel deprived and fall for the trap again, then wish they hadn&rsquo;t. They get the worst of both worlds. If you think about it, this is true in the lives of the PMOers. When we are allowed to PMO we either take it as entitled or wish we didn&rsquo;t. It&rsquo;s only when we can&rsquo;t have PMO that it appears to be so precious. The ‘forbidden fruit syndrome’. This is the awful dilemma of PMOers. They can never win because they are moping for a myth, an illusion. There is one way they can win and that is to stop PMOing and stop moping!</p> -<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC/TAME/HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer</h3> -<p>Yes, we all do it to start with but isn&rsquo;t it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner&rsquo;s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes&hellip; you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one.</p> -<h3 id="the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer">THE I-HAVE-STOPPED-BUT-I-HAVE-AN-OCCASIONAL-PEEK PMOer</h3> -<p>In a way such peeking PMOers are the most pathetic of all. Either they go through their lives believing they are being deprived or, more often, the occasional peek becomes two. They remain on the slippery slope and it goes only one way - DOWNWARDS. Sooner or later they are back to being heavy PMOers. They have fallen again for the very trap that they fell into in the first place.</p> +<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC/TAME/HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>Yes, we all do it to start with but isn&rsquo;t it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner&rsquo;s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes&hellip; you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one.</p> +<h3 id="the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer">THE I-HAVE-STOPPED-BUT-I-HAVE-AN-OCCASIONAL-PEEK PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>In a way such peeking PMOers are the most pathetic of all. Either they go through their lives believing they are being deprived or, more often, the occasional peek becomes two. They remain on the slippery slope and it goes only one way - DOWNWARDS. Sooner or later they are back to being heavy PMOers. They have fallen again for the very trap that they fell into in the first place.</p> <p>There are two other categories of casual PMOers. The first is the type who masturbates to images or clips of the latest celebrity sex tapes that hit the news. Or something they ‘carried home’ from their ‘accidental’ viewing at school or work. These people are really non-PMOers. It&rsquo;s just that they feel they are missing out. They want to be part of the action. We all start off like this. Next time watch how, after a while, the celebrity sex tape, the same star of your fantasy is not ‘doing it’ to you any more. The more ‘unattainable’ the target of your fantasy is, the more frustrating the withdrawal of the orgasm is.</p> <p>The second category is recently getting attention. The type can best be described by outlining a case shared online. A woman who is a professional, had been using internet porn stories for many years and had never PMOed more or less than one time every night. She was, incidentally, a very strong-willed lady. Most PMOers would wonder why she wanted to stop in the first place. They would gladly point out to her that there is no worries of PIED, or PE in her case as she is a women. She is using not even static images and the stories are far tamer than any they use on a daily basis.</p> <p>They make the mistake of assuming that casual PMOers are happier and more in control. In control they may be but happy they are not. In this case, she is not satisfied with her partner, not interested in real sex, highly irritable with her daily stress and strains. Her nearest-and-dearest could not find out what is bothering her. Even if she convinced herself not to be afraid of her use of internet porn by rationalizing, she still finds herself not being able to enjoy real relationships which almost invariably involve ups and downs. Her brain’s RC<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> is not able to make use of the normal de-stress brain chemicals as she is flooding dopamine into her brain on an everyday basis. The down regulation<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> of her brain receptors has rendered her melancholic most times. Like me, she had a great fear of internet porn’s dark side of the treatment of women- before her first time. Like me, she eventually fell victim to the massive social brainwash and tried that first porn site. Like me, she can remember the foul clips of violence staged as entertainment. Unlike me, who capitulated and became a chain-PMOer very quickly, she resisted the slide.</p> @@ -1913,8 +1969,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p </blockquote> <p>In addition to his other troubles, this poor man has no idea that he treating himself to a poison. First he is suffering the “forbidden fruit syndrome.” Next he is forcing his brain to flush dopamine. His dopamine receptors are not as cut down comparatively either. But he is sliding and greasing the porn slides, seeking and searching for edging, novelty, variety, shock-value, anxiety-value (“I must treat myself so that I can survive the next three days”) etc. You probably have visions of a pathetic imbecile. Not so. This man was over six feet tall and an ex-sergeant in the Marines. He was a former athlete and didn&rsquo;t want to become an addict to anything. However, when he returned from the war he was trained as a techie in a veterans rehab program. When he entered the civil work force he was a well paid IT professional in a bank and was given a laptop (one of the ways to ensure you take work home). It was the year that famous socialites ‘leaked’ their porn videos online. There was much talk about it. And he got hooked. He has spent the rest of his life paying through the nose and it has ruined him physically and mentally. If he were an animal, our society would have put him out of his misery, yet we still allow mentally and physically healthy young teenagers to become hooked. You may think the above case and my notes are exaggerated. It is extreme but not unique. There are literally thousands of similar stories. That man poured his heart out to me but you can be sure that many of his friends and acquaintances envied him for being a once-a-week man. If you think this couldn&rsquo;t happen to you, STOP KIDDING YOURSELF.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="it-is-already-happening"><strong>IT IS ALREADY HAPPENING.</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="it-is-already-happening"><strong>IT IS ALREADY HAPPENING.</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#it-is-already-happening"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>In any event, PMOers like other addicts are notorious liars, even to themselves. They have to be. Most casual PMOers indulge far more times and on far more occasions than they will admit to. I have had many conversations with so-called twice-a-week PMOers during which they have done it more than three times that week. If you read the Reddit or No-Fap forums of casual PMOers, they are either counting the days or waiting to fail. You do not need to envy casual PMOers. You do not need to PMO. Life is infinitely sweeter without PMO. One log says&hellip;</p> <blockquote> <p><em>“It started with a simple challenge to not touch my penis for a day. And being unable. I don&rsquo;t think about masturbation anymore. It doesn&rsquo;t cross my mind. That is possible, I promise you. And the riches that await those who are able - they&rsquo;re incredible.”</em></p> @@ -2015,8 +2072,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p </ol> <p>The other important point that cutting down demonstrates is that there is no such thing as the odd or occasional harem visit. Internet porn is a chain reaction that will last the rest of your life unless you make a positive effort to break it:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="remember-cutting-down-will-drag-you-down"><strong>REMEMBER: CUTTING DOWN WILL DRAG YOU DOWN.</strong></h3> -</div><div class="footnotes" role="doc-endnotes"> +<h3 id="remember-cutting-down-will-drag-you-down"><strong>REMEMBER: CUTTING DOWN WILL DRAG YOU DOWN.</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#remember-cutting-down-will-drag-you-down"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div><div class="footnotes" role="doc-endnotes"> <hr> <ol> <li id="fn:1"> @@ -2337,14 +2395,16 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on this planet. Whether you believe in a creator, a process of natural selection or a combination of both, whatever being or system devised these bodies of ours, it is a thousand times more effective than man! Man cannot create the smallest living cell, let alone the miracle of eyesight, reproduction, our circulatory system or our brains. We don’t have our systems upgraded yet to properly assess the supranormal stimulus such as rich high density food or high speed internet novelty porn with multiple active windows.</p> <p>If the creator or process had intended us to handle novelty triggering stimuli, we would have been provided with some other brain reward circuits. Our bodies are, in fact, provided with fail-safe warning devices and we ignore these at our peril. Excessive edging results in body pain, irritation, and inflammation. In women, excessive flooding of dopamine and stress enzymes such as prostaglandin-E2 can cause difficulty to orgasm and PME.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up"><strong>There Is Nothing To Give Up</strong></h2> -</div> +<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up"><strong>There Is Nothing To Give Up</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#there-is-nothing-to-give-up"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.</p> <p>The problem I have is to make a convincing point as I’d have done for, let us say&hellip; smokers? All of us have seen smokers who develop excuses to sneak off for a crafty puff. It is easy to see the true addiction in action. Addicts do not do it because they enjoy it. They do it because they are miserable without it.</p> <p>Because many of us started out our first sexual experience that ended in an orgasm and we acquired the belief that we cannot enjoy sex without an orgasm. And for men, porn is sold as an aid towards sex, sometimes even as an education to be confident during the act of sex. It used to be static, but now we have supranormal internet porn. But this is nonsense. Internet porn takes away your confidence.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="women-and-porn"><strong>Women And Porn</strong></h2> -</div> +<h2 id="women-and-porn"><strong>Women And Porn</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#women-and-porn"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn&rsquo;t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.</p> <p>Porn and internet porn does not help your sex life; it destroys it totally. Having to hide your internet footprints, trying to delete your history, fearing accidental exposure to your boyfriend or kids, body pains, doubtful symptoms, fighting self doubts, arguing with yourself about your responsibilities in the ill effects of your addiction&hellip; well, why do you want to put yourself in such a bad situation?</p> <p>Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous positive gains to be had. When PMOers contemplate quitting they tend to concentrate on health and virility. These are obviously valid and important issues but I personally believe the greatest gains from stopping are psychological:</p> @@ -2355,8 +2415,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> </ol> <p>Not only is life better as a non-PMOer but it is infinitely more enjoyable. I do not only mean you will be healthier. I mean you will be happier and enjoy life far more. The marvellous gains from being a non-PMOer are discussed in the next few chapters. Some PMOers find it difficult to appreciate the concept of the &lsquo;void&rsquo; and the following analogy may assist you.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"><strong>Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void!</strong></h2> -</div> +<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"><strong>Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I&rsquo;ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can&rsquo;t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.</p> <p>By now you are completely dependent on the ointment. You never go out without ensuring that you have a tube of the ointment with you. If you go abroad, you make sure that you take several tubes with you. Now, in addition to your worries about your health, I&rsquo;m charging you $100 per tube. You have no choice but to pay.</p> <p>You then read in the medical column of your newspaper that this isn&rsquo;t happening just to you; many other people have been suffering from the same problem. In fact, pharmacists have discovered that the ointment doesn&rsquo;t actually cure the sore. All that it does is to take the sore beneath the surface of the skin. It is the ointment that has caused the sore to grow. All you have to do to get rid of the sore is to stop using the ointment. The sore will eventually disappear in due course.</p> @@ -2494,15 +2555,17 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>We can have an ‘information overload’ from the same internet but our reward circuits are not going to squirt dopamine at the levels when ‘porn overload’ is involved. We are evolutionarily programmed to seek and access sex related stuff. And we wrongly appraise the stimulus mostly based on this reward circuit action. If all you wanted is to masturbate why can’t you just use one clip and get the business done?</p> <p>Here is another question - next time after a long day or some stressful incident can you consciously embellish your self-talk with “Do you know what I would really enjoy today? The marvellous warm glow of dopamine rush going to my online harem.” You will find that even people who dislike PMO will join you.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="past-misguided-advice"><strong>Past Misguided Advice</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="past-misguided-advice"><strong>Past Misguided Advice</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#past-misguided-advice"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.</p> <p>From our earliest years our subconscious minds are bombarded daily with information telling us that sex is good and that the most precious thing on this earth is to ‘achieve’ orgasm. Girls are taught to achieve it and claim it&rsquo;s because they were wrongly suppressed of their sexual side for a very long time and still are. You think I exaggerate? Watch any TV or movie plot and you will see the mix-up of the amative (touch, smell, voice etc.) and the propagative (orgasmic) sides of sex. The impact of this does not register on our conscious minds but the sleeping partner, the subconscious mind, has time to absorb it. What the message is really saying is, “The most precious thing on this earth, my last thought and action, will be the goal of orgasm.” If you don’t have an orgasm then you are an old man with zero libido.</p> <p>Our children are being bombarded by sex and porn clips and many don’t even know how to protect them from it all. Large hoardings and magazine adverts are loaded with sexual innuendo. Some of the pop videos are extremely suggestive - again they hide behind free speech. Don’t be vexed and feel powerless about it. Make it a game and find you which of the components they are using - is it novelty, shock value, color, size, taboo etc. If the kids are pre-teen some of these can be disclosed to them and it would make an excellent show-and-tell game.</p> <p>A while back there was a wave of ‘leaked’ private videos of celebrities on the internet. If the youngster is too smitten by their favourite star, even if the conscious mind blames the ‘leak’ on the blood thirsty internet paparazzi, the &lsquo;sleeping partner&rsquo; is patiently digesting the notion that, “yes, even my shambolic hero does it and if I don’t, I won’t look the part.”</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-scientific-reasoning"><strong>The Scientific Reasoning</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-scientific-reasoning"><strong>The Scientific Reasoning</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-scientific-reasoning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>, Reboot<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> forums, underground PUA<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup>, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn&rsquo;t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.</p> <p>Ironically, the most powerful force in this melee of confusion is the PMOer himself. It is a fallacy that they are weak-willed or are physically weak specimens. You have to be physically strong in order to cope with an addiction after you know it is. This is one of the reasons why PMOers refuse to accept the overwhelming statistics that prove that internet porn with its ‘novelty’ cripples your brain. Add to that the sexologists who are doing half-baked studies and declare PMO is not an issue - they just help to add to the confusion.</p> <p>Everyone knows a friend who PMOed every day - he started with the ‘static’ to internet porn, always horny in real life, chasing girls and you never doubted him to have sex problems of course. You want to believe him. He never complained about any ED right? Guys and girls like them refuse even to consider the hundreds of ex-addicts and non-PMOers who painfully recount their difficulties. It is the “little monster” brain chemical addiction and the “big monster” - illusions and delusions. In this hackbook, I&rsquo;ve put together almost all the sorts of brainwashing a PMOer can suffer from. There will always be a few out there that I haven&rsquo;t touched upon.</p> @@ -2510,8 +2573,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>If you do a small survey among your online forum members, friends and colleagues, you will find that most PMOers are, in fact, strong-willed people. They tend to be self-employed, business executives or in certain specialized professions, such as doctors<sup id="fnref:4"><a href="#fn:4" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">4</a></sup>, lawyers, policemen, teachers, salesmen, nurses, secretaries, housewives with children, etc. In other words, anybody leading a stressful existence. Yes, I did include women and mothers. It’s the brain and it’s the same for them too. The main delusion of the PMOer is that porn helps to masturbate to orgasm and that relieves stress. This tends to be associated with the dominant type, the type that takes on responsibility and stress and, of course, that is the type that we admire and therefore tend to copy. Another group that tends to get hooked are people in monotonous jobs because the other main reason for PMOing is boredom. However, the idea that internet porn relieves boredom is also an illusion, I am afraid.</p> <p>As a society we get all uptight about glue-sniffing, heroin addiction, etc. Actual deaths from glue-sniffing do not amount to ten per annum, and deaths from heroin are less than a hundred a year in this country. There is another drug, internet porn, on which over 45 per cent of us become hooked at some time in our lives and the majority spend the rest of their lives regretting it. Some even don’t know that their ED is due to this.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-willpower-method"><strong>The Willpower Method</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-willpower-method"><strong>The Willpower Method</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why?</p> <p>Constant exposure to internet porn re-wires your brain. You need to start building resistance to this brainwashing, just as if you were buying a car from a second-hand car dealer. You would be nodding politely but you would not believe a word the man was saying. So don’t believe everything they say either - that you must have sex as much as you can and you must have it exceptional good. And that in the absence of real sex you claim it by the substitute called internet porn - which is only a component of the good old porn.</p> <p>And don’t play ‘safe’ porn game either - because your “little porn monster” invented that scheme to lure you. Even the content - ‘amateur’? Really? Is there a certification authority that certifies it? Tube sites and porn producers gather site visitor profiles and cater to their needs. If they see a trend in crowd sourced collection of a particular genre they will focus on that and get content out ASAP. The statistics of what genre users like is collected to the level of how long and which portion the users were preferring. Do not be fooled by their educational intent or the safe female oriented clips (for you ladies). Start asking yourself:</p> @@ -2523,22 +2587,25 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>I find this brainwashing aspect the most difficult of all to explain. Why is it that an otherwise rational, intelligent human being becomes a complete imbecile about his own addiction? It pains me to confess that out of the thousands of people that I have assisted in kicking the habit, I (not Allen Carr) was the biggest idiot of all.</p> <p>At the age of thirteen, although I was doing well at school and games, I was still an insufferable introvert. I read books from the library that were not within my main study list. However, I can see that I was attracted to erotica. I started masturbating to TV programs, song and dance sequences etc. I must have to have it every day. The tired feeling I felt was misappropriated by my ‘little porn monster’ as work stress. I didn’t know my “I-must-masturbate-as-I-am-entitled” attitude was the one that created the ‘stress’ in the first place. Then I got pictures and GIFs via email on my laptop - the first step towards electronic porn. The colour and texture of the images were amazing for me at that time - won’t be now for sure. Then came dial-up but still they were predominantly static pictures. Then came downloadable videos. It’s a pain to download and watch now - but it was heaven sent then as we were coming out of the static porn era! Oh, the streaming tube sites haven’t arrived yet.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"><strong>When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"><strong>When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn.</p> <p>At the age of forty, I was visiting my online harem daily, drinking ‘socially’ (whatever that means) and smoking ‘sometimes’ but not so often. I had wrongly subscribed to misguided ideas of ‘moderation’ and ‘entitlement’. I had reached the stage where I couldn&rsquo;t get through a single day without reaching out to porn in the night. With most PMOers, the triggers are the normal stresses of life, like answering the telephone or socializing.</p> <p>When I experienced PIED - I knew it was killing my virility. There was no way I could kid myself otherwise. I am smart enough not to ‘project’ the porn fantasies on to real life. But it was like pacifying a dog straining at its leash. But why I couldn&rsquo;t see what it was doing to me mentally, I could not understand. It was almost jumping up and biting me on the nose. The ridiculous thing is that most PMOers suffer the delusion at some time in their life that they enjoy internet porn because it is ‘normal’ and ‘healthy’. I never suffered that delusion, I PMOed because I thought enjoying sex is a ‘birthright’ and I am only doing a normal thing.</p> <p>Since it was easier at most times for me to get internet porn than a partner I thought I am doing the normal thing. Now I am a non-PMOer, the most difficult part is trying to believe that those days actually happened. It&rsquo;s like awakening from a nightmare and that is about the size of it. Internet porn is a supranormal drug. It is weakening your de-stressing mechanisms, your virility and your energy. The worst aspect of PMO isn&rsquo;t the injury to your health or manliness, it is the warping of the mind. You search for any plausible excuse to go on.</p> <p>I remember at one stage switching to static images, a failed attempt to cut down on internet porn, in the belief that it was less harmful and I could reign in my ‘habit’. I failed to see the ‘novelty’ and the ‘shock’ demands from my ‘little monster’ to just get more dopamine. Did I ‘stay’ within my boundaries? I ‘favorited’ 2 dimensional photos and my harem collection saw pictures and videos of ‘mild’ type porn rotating in and out like musical chair. When their ‘music’ stopped they ‘exited’. I didn’t understand the novelty-seeking, shock-seeking nature of my brain.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pied-and-my-excuses"><strong>PIED And My Excuses</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="pied-and-my-excuses"><strong>PIED And My Excuses</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pied-and-my-excuses"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.</p> <p>Most PMOers swear that they only watch static and soft porn and so they are OK. They are actually straining at the leash and thus fighting with their willpower to resist temptations. If they do this too often and for too long they will debit their willpower considerably and fail in other life projects where willpower is of much great value, like in daily exercise, dieting etc. Continuous failure in those areas will make them feel miserable and guilty and very soon they will find themselves back to their entitled relief. If not, they will vent their anger and depression onto their loved ones.</p> <p>The answer is that once you have become addicted to internet porn, the brainwashing is increased. Your subconscious mind knows that the little monster has to be fed and you block everything else from your mind. As I have already stated, it is fear that keeps people quitting, the fear of that empty, insecure feeling that you get when you stop supplying the brain with dopamine flooding. Just because you are not aware of it doesn&rsquo;t mean it isn&rsquo;t there. You don&rsquo;t have to understand it any more than a cat needs to understand where the under-floor hot-water pipes are. It just knows that if it sits in a certain place it gets the feeling of warmth.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind"><strong>The Passivity Of Our Mind</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind"><strong>The Passivity Of Our Mind</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-passivity-of-our-mind"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I&rsquo;ve frequently referred to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo; PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo;, but to stopping, quitting or the true position: <strong>ESCAPING!</strong></p> <p>The only thing that persuades us to PMO in the first place is all the other people doing it. We feel we are missing out. We work so hard to become hooked, yet nobody ever finds out what they have been missing. But every time we see another new video clip it reassures us that there must be something in it, otherwise people wouldn&rsquo;t be doing it - and it wouldn&rsquo;t be such big business all over the world. Even when he has kicked the habit, the ex-PMOer feels he is being deprived when a discussion on a sexy entertainer, singer or even a porn star comes up at a party or other social function. She or he must be good to have all my friends talk about them, no? Do they have ‘hot’ pictures of her in my tube site? He feels safe. He can have just one ‘peek’ that night. And, before he knows it, he is hooked again.</p> <p>This brainwashing is extremely powerful and you need to be aware of its effects. I have heard scare stories about wicked men giving heroin mixed candies to kids at schoolyards. The concept of addiction and being compelled to go on taking the drug, filled me with horror. Even to this day, in spite of the fact that I am fairly convinced that &lsquo;pot&rsquo; is not addictive, I would not dare take one puff of marijuana. How ironic that I should have ended up a porn junky. Technology will continue to grow and we will have even faster tube sites and more faster access methods. The industry is investing millions in Virtual Reality so it will become the next best thing. The point is, do we know where we are going? Are we equipped with an under armour of defence so we can enjoy the benefits of technology yet at the same time protect ourselves from its bad effects?</p> @@ -2586,8 +2653,9 @@ action more happy feelings.</p> <p>So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. All of which will now be stored as a script in your brain for easy access next time. I call this a ‘water slide’. Next time at the cue - a sexy commercial or alone time or stress or feeling a little down - you are ready to take a ride on the ‘water slide’. One more thing is that every time to repeat this you are ‘greasing’ it as well - so it is active, alive and more easier to slide the next time.</p> <p>As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating. Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish, ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you won’t on your first time.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="my-own-online-harem"><strong>My Own Online Harem!</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="my-own-online-harem"><strong>My Own Online Harem!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#my-own-online-harem"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost.</p> <p>Going back to the earlier discussion - in this cycle as you crossed the ‘red line’ you also trigger emotions such as guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety and fear - which in turn raise dopamine levels as well. Now the brain may mistakenly associate feelings of anxiety and fear as sexual arousal. This perpetual cycle is only broken by natural causes - fortunately sooner or later. With its free access and privacy it provides boundless harem-like novelty. The dopamine can be theoretically kept very high for a very very long time. I can be satisfied with one lobster once in awhile. But Internet porn is different. It is even worse than drugs. Don’t let me make you nervous. I will shortly show you how to be free from this slavery.</p> <p>Now our human body has a self-correcting system by which the number of dopamine and opioid receptors are cut short when frequent and daily ‘flooding’ of dopamine is detected. Unfortunately - these receptors are also needed for receiving dopamine and to keep us even and balanced to handle the inevitable and normal day-to-day stresses. But this natural nominal amount of dopamine will not be absorbed efficiently with decreased receptors and you will feel mores tressed and irritated than normal.</p> @@ -2601,14 +2669,16 @@ action more happy feelings.</p> use?</p> <p>This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I will explain more about this later.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-little-monster"><strong>The Little Monster</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-little-monster"><strong>The Little Monster</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-little-monster"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&rsquo; we think we just &lsquo;got into the habit&rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.</p> <p>Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, resulting in the feeling of fulfilment and pleasure that the action gives to the PMOer. In the early days, when we first start PMOing, the withdrawal pangs and their relief are so slight that we are not even aware that they exist. When we begin to masturbate regularly to internet porn we think it is because we&rsquo;ve either come to enjoy them or got into the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. The truth is we&rsquo;re already hooked; we do not realize it, but that little monster is already inside our stomach and every now and again we have to feed it.</p> <p>All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster. The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had before he became hooked in the first place.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm"><strong>The Annoying Burglar Alarm</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm"><strong>The Annoying Burglar Alarm</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-annoying-burglar-alarm"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain goes on. It is a chain for life - <strong>UNLESS YOU BREAK IT</strong>.</p> <p>The whole business of PMO is like wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure you feel when you take them off. There are three main reasons why PMOers cannot see things that way:</p> @@ -2621,8 +2691,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <p>The heroin doesn&rsquo;t relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a 14 year old in 2008 - didn&rsquo;t suffer the empty feeling of needing internet porn or start to panic when they are off- line. Non-PMOers cannot understand how PMOers can possibly obtain pleasure from two dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. And do you know something? PMOers themselves cannot understand why they do it after some time either.</p> <p>We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don&rsquo;t non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their &rsquo;little monster&rsquo;?</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch"><strong>A Pleasure or Crutch?</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch"><strong>A Pleasure or Crutch?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#a-pleasure-or-crutch"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;I need to eat.&rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.</p> <p>PMOing appears to be almost identical. The empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;wanting or needing an PMO orgasm’ is identical to a hunger for food, although one will not satisfy the other. Like hunger, there is no physical pain and the feeling is so imperceptible that we are not even aware of it between PMO sessions. It&rsquo;s only if we want to masturbate and aren&rsquo;t able to reach internet for porn that we become aware of any discomfort. But when we do PMO we feel satisfied.</p> <p>It is this similarity to eating which helps to fool PMOers into believing that they receive some genuine pleasure. Some PMOers find it very difficult to grasp that there is no pleasure or crutch, whatsoever to PMO. Some argue: “How can you say there is no crutch? When I orgasm up then I&rsquo;llfeel less nervous than before.”</p> @@ -2633,13 +2704,15 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <li>Eating doesn&rsquo;t create hunger and genuinely relieves it, whereas the first PMO starts the craving for dopamine and each subsequent one, far from relieving it, ensures that you suffer it for the rest of life.</li> </ol> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pmo-is-a-habit"><strong>PMO is a Habit?</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="pmo-is-a-habit"><strong>PMO is a Habit?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pmo-is-a-habit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.</p> <p>On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience, I also refer to the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> - we have to then have more bizarre and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting&hellip; not in the killing. If we don&rsquo;t then panic sets in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great!</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="crossing-the-red-line"><strong>Crossing The Red Line</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="crossing-the-red-line"><strong>Crossing The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#crossing-the-red-line"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.</p> <p>You feel better than you did before starting this PMO session but you are in fact more nervous and less relaxed than you would be as a non-PMOer, like someone who is living in Loma Linda or in an Amish village, even though you are actually PMOing and living in your supposed “porn paradise.” This position is even more ridiculous than wearing tight shoes because as you go through life an increasing amount of the discomfort remains even when the shoes are removed.</p> <p>Once the orgasm is achieved, the dopamine rapidly begins to leave the brain, causing a mood dip. Which explains why the PMOer wants to ‘edge’<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> and switch through multiple browser windows as they seek and search. As I said, the ‘habit’ doesn&rsquo;t exist. The real reason why every user goes on using internet porn is because of that little porn monster inside his stomach. Every now and again he has to feed it. The PMOer himself will decide when he does that and it tends to be on four types of occasion or a combination of them.</p> @@ -2651,20 +2724,23 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <p>What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If you think about it, what other types of occasion are there in our lives; apart from sleep? The truth is that PMO neither relieves boredom and stress nor promotes concentration and relaxation. It is all just illusion. Apart from being a drug, PMO is also a destroyer of happiness and virility.</p> <p>In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes, print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’ and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive without knowing the difference between food and poison.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"><strong>Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"><strong>Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!</p> <p>When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were titillating but most were disgusting, causing you to avert your eyes away. Like you would if had accidentally glanced a feeding mother’s breast. And some of us are even revolted with what they saw when the star reminded them of someone dear to their heart or a scene which recalled their own instance of being the victim. Some don’t feel like it to browse and masturbate at the same time. It may be hard to believe for you but the non-PMOs, who don’t PMO after their first time, are the lucky ones. They actually decided that it was not their cup of tea. It must be hard for you to believe but stay with me.</p> <p>How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even after a hard day? Why not? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That&rsquo;s all.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak"><strong>Are PMOers Mentally Weak?</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak"><strong>Are PMOers Mentally Weak?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#are-pmoers-mentally-weak"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.</p> <p>To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to become hooked, and this is why it is difficult to stop teenagers. Because they are skilled in seeking and finding material, they know online privacy options and can clean their tracks - if they still feel some stigma and they (wrongfully) believe they can stop whenever they want to. Why do they not learn from us? Then again, why did we not learn from our PMOers and addicts?</p> <p>Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of ‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying is the ritual of relieving those pangs.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"><strong>The High From The Dance Around The Red Line</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"><strong>The High From The Dance Around The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.</p> <p>Ask a user who believes that he sticks to a certain actor or genre - only because he likes something about the star or the theme (if any) of the clip: “If you cannot get your normal brand of porn and can only obtain a poor or unsafe brand, do you stop masturbating?” No way. A PMOer will masturbate to anything rather than abstain and it doesn&rsquo;t matter if he has to switch to escalating themes, different sex-orientation-themes, look-alike actresses, dangerous settings shocking relationships etc. To begin with they taste awful but if you persevere you will learn to like them. Most PMOers will also try to seek masturbation even after having real sex (unfulfilment, porn-induced unrealistic expectations etc.), or after a long, stressful work day, fever, colds, flu, sore throats and even when admitted in hospitals.</p> <p>Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wanted then it makes no sense to be with your laptop. During my conversation some PMOers find it alarming to realize they are drug addicts and think it will make it even more difficult to stop. In fact, it is all good news for two important reasons:</p> @@ -2674,14 +2750,16 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to </ol> <p>You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc. The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn&rsquo;t bother the PMOers.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-smokers-analogy"><strong>The Smokers Analogy</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-smokers-analogy"><strong>The Smokers Analogy</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-smokers-analogy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they&rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn&rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.</p> <p>PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their parents while visiting for family get togethers etc. with little discomfort to themselves. In fact, most PMOers have extended periods during which they abstain without effort. Even in my case I would quite happily go a week or so without a PMO incident. In the later years as a PMOer I actually used to look forward to these days when I could stop choking my penis (what a ridiculous &lsquo;habit&rsquo;).</p> <p>The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"><strong>The Big Monster - The Brainwashing</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"><strong>The Big Monster - The Brainwashing</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.</p> <p>Not all the amateurs are ‘amateurs’ on these tube sites, oversized body parts and overcharged scenarios are the norm, aided by a bit of the ‘viagran’ help.</p> <p>As I say, the actual porn addiction is not the main problem. It just acts as a catalyst to keep our minds confused over the real problem: the brainwashing. It may be of consolation to lifelong and heavy PMOers to know that it is just as easy for them to stop as casual PMOers. In a peculiar way. it is easier. The further you go along with the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;, the more it drags you down and the greater the gain when you stop.</p> @@ -2911,8 +2989,9 @@ Do not take anything for granted. Question not only what I tell you but also you https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/02-01-introduction/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo">&lsquo;I&rsquo;M GOING TO CURE THE WORLD OF PMO&rsquo;</h2> -</div> +<h2 id="im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo">&lsquo;I&rsquo;M GOING TO CURE THE WORLD OF PMO&rsquo; <a class="anchor" href="#im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>I was talking to my mentor. He thought that I had flipped. Understandable if you consider that he had watched me fail on numerous attempts to quit. The most recent had been two years previously. I&rsquo;d actually survived six months of sheer purgatory before I finally succumbed and found myself clicking on stacked up tabs of porn sites. I&rsquo;m not ashamed to admit that I cried like a baby. I was crying because I knew that I was condemned to be an addict for life. I&rsquo;d put so much effort into that attempt and suffered so much misery that I knew I would never have the strength to go through that ordeal again. I&rsquo;m not a violent man, but if some patronizing non-PMO’er had been stupid enough at that moment to suggest to me that all users can find it easy to quit, immediately and permanently, I would not have been responsible for my actions. However, I&rsquo;m convinced that any jury in the world, comprised of PMOers only, would have pardoned me on the grounds of justifiable homicide.</p> <p>Perhaps you too find it impossible to believe that any PMOer can find it easy to quit. If so, I beg you not to cast this book into the rubbish bin. Please trust me. I assure you that you can find it easy to quit.</p> @@ -3049,21 +3128,30 @@ porn and or masturbation&#160;<a href="#fnref:2" class="footn https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/00-00-hackbookeasypeasy/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h1 id="a-hrefhackbookhackbookpdfclick-to-download-hackbookeasypeasy-original-pdfa"><a href="https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook/hackbook.pdf">Click to download HackBookEasyPeasy (original pdf)</a></h1> -<h3 id="easypeasyway">EasyPeasyWay</h3> -<h4 id="httpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhomehttpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhome"><a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a></h4> -<p><em>HackBookEasyPeasy EasyPeasyWay <a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a> I am Allen Carr. I am also not Allen Carr. So yes I am not the author. I am the hack-author.</em></p> +<h1 id="a-hrefhackbookhackbookpdfclick-to-download-hackbookeasypeasy-original-pdfa"><a href="https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook/hackbook.pdf">Click to download HackBookEasyPeasy (original pdf)</a> <a class="anchor" href="#a-hrefhackbookhackbookpdfclick-to-download-hackbookeasypeasy-original-pdfa"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><h3 id="easypeasyway">EasyPeasyWay <a class="anchor" href="#easypeasyway"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><h4 id="httpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhomehttpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhome"><a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a> <a class="anchor" href="#httpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhomehttpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhome"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><p><em>HackBookEasyPeasy EasyPeasyWay <a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a> I am Allen Carr. I am also not Allen Carr. So yes I am not the author. I am the hack-author.</em></p> <p><em>I hacked Allen Carr’s book and his method of de-addiction to adapt it for PMO. Why? Because his method helped me in getting rid of cigarettes, alcohol and then PMO. Why did I hack his work? Because he is dead now. And the institution that he had formed does not list Internet pornography as one of the addictions that it provides services for. I don&rsquo;t gain monetarily or otherwise. Above all - you won’t ‘find’ me in this book. Myself and Allen will appear and disappear in this book to provide you with an unique and effective method to get your mind de-addicted.</em></p> -<h4 id="important-advice-for-you"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong></h4> -<p><em>The common thread running through Allen Carr&rsquo;s work is the removal of fear. Indeed, his genius lies in eliminating the phobias and anxieties which prevent people from being able to enjoy life to the full, as his best-selling books vividly demonstrate. His method is solid and has high success rates. It helped cure me of not one but three addictions. There is a network of clinics that uses his methods that span the globe and has a phenomenal reputation for success in helping people to quit addictions (except PMO). Their success rate is over 95% with money-back guarantees.</em></p> +<h4 id="important-advice-for-you"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#important-advice-for-you"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#do-not-jump-chapters"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><p><em>The common thread running through Allen Carr&rsquo;s work is the removal of fear. Indeed, his genius lies in eliminating the phobias and anxieties which prevent people from being able to enjoy life to the full, as his best-selling books vividly demonstrate. His method is solid and has high success rates. It helped cure me of not one but three addictions. There is a network of clinics that uses his methods that span the globe and has a phenomenal reputation for success in helping people to quit addictions (except PMO). Their success rate is over 95% with money-back guarantees.</em></p> <p><em>Hackbook : A book based and hacked from another book. The original author is credited fully.</em></p> -<h4 id="important-advice-for-you-1"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters-1"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence-1"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong></h4> -<p><em>Dr. Albert Ellis&rsquo; autobiography - &ldquo;All Out!&rdquo;</em></p> +<h4 id="important-advice-for-you-1"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#important-advice-for-you-1"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters-1"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#do-not-jump-chapters-1"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence-1"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence-1"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><p><em>Dr. Albert Ellis&rsquo; autobiography - &ldquo;All Out!&rdquo;</em></p> <p><em>“I used to wrongly think that most of them (addicts) were aided by self-help groups like AA, by therapy, or some other real support. But no. The facts show that more people surrender their addictions on their own-without any notable help from others. How? Mainly by seeing, acknowledging, and emphasizing how hard it is not to stop and how much easier it is-in the long run- to suffer through the withdrawal process.”</em></p> </div> @@ -3075,8 +3163,9 @@ formed does not list Internet pornography as one of the addictions that it provi Sat, 17 Dec 2022 22:33:25 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/pluralization-issues/ - <h3 id="this-is-my-first-entry-and-im-already-having-issues-lol">this is my first entry and i&rsquo;m already having issues lol</h3> -<p>So I wanted to make a quick entry, see how it looks like and I stumbled upon this issue of hugo pluralzing Blog into Blogs</p> + <h3 id="this-is-my-first-entry-and-im-already-having-issues-lol">this is my first entry and i&rsquo;m already having issues lol <a class="anchor" href="#this-is-my-first-entry-and-im-already-having-issues-lol"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>So I wanted to make a quick entry, see how it looks like and I stumbled upon this issue of hugo pluralzing Blog into Blogs</p> <p>You can fix this in config.toml with the following line</p> <blockquote> <div class="highlight"><pre tabindex="0" style="color:#f8f8f2;background-color:#272822;-moz-tab-size:4;-o-tab-size:4;tab-size:4;"><code class="language-toml" data-lang="toml"><span style="display:flex;"><span><span style="color:#a6e22e">pluralizelisttitles</span> = <span style="color:#66d9ef">false</span> @@ -3090,11 +3179,13 @@ formed does not list Internet pornography as one of the addictions that it provi Sat, 17 Dec 2022 17:20:18 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/helloworld/ - <h1 id="obligatory-hello-world">Obligatory Hello World!</h1> -<p>trying to see which hugo theme i like best</p> + <h1 id="obligatory-hello-world">Obligatory Hello World! <a class="anchor" href="#obligatory-hello-world"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><p>trying to see which hugo theme i like best</p> <p>had some issues with papermod and their css not working so for now i&rsquo;ll use lugo</p> -<h2 id="stuff-i-like">stuff i like</h2> -<ul> +<h2 id="stuff-i-like">stuff i like <a class="anchor" href="#stuff-i-like"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ul> <li>touching grass and nature in general (wannabe farmer)</li> <li>にっぽんese <ul> diff --git a/new-site/public/tags/updates/index.xml b/new-site/public/tags/updates/index.xml index cb6e452a..850f4872 100644 --- a/new-site/public/tags/updates/index.xml +++ b/new-site/public/tags/updates/index.xml @@ -16,8 +16,9 @@ Thu, 23 Mar 2023 18:06:34 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/ted-kaczynski/industrial-society-and-its-future/ - <h2 id="introduction">Introduction</h2> -<ol> + <h2 id="introduction">Introduction <a class="anchor" href="#introduction"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li> <p>The Industrial Revolution and its consequences have been a disaster for the human race. They have greatly increased the life expectancy of those of us who live in “advanced” countries, but they have destabilized society, have made life unfulfilling, have subjected human beings to indignities, have led to widespread psychological suffering (in the Third World to physical suffering as well) and have inflicted severe damage on the natural world. The continued development of technology will worsen the situation. It will certainly subject human beings to greater indignities and inflict greater damage on the natural world, it will probably lead to greater social disruption and psychological suffering, and it may lead to increased physical suffering even in “advanced” countries.</p> </li> @@ -34,8 +35,9 @@ <p>In this article we give attention to only some of the negative developments that have grown out of the industrial-technological system. Other such developments we mention only briefly or ignore altogether. This does not mean that we regard these other developments as unimportant. For practical reasons we have to confine our discussion to areas that have received insufficient public attention or in which we have something new to say. For example, since there are well-developed environmental and wilderness movements, we have written very little about environmental degradation or the destruction of wild nature, even though we consider these to be highly important.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-psychology-of-modern-leftism">The Psychology of Modern Leftism</h2> -<ol start="6"> +<h2 id="the-psychology-of-modern-leftism">The Psychology of Modern Leftism <a class="anchor" href="#the-psychology-of-modern-leftism"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="6"> <li> <p>Almost everyone will agree that we live in a deeply troubled society. One of the most widespread manifestations of the craziness of our world is leftism, so a discussion of the psychology of leftism can serve as an introduction to the discussion of the problems of modern society in general.</p> </li> @@ -49,8 +51,9 @@ <p>The two psychological tendencies that underlie modern leftism we call feelings of inferiority and oversocialization. Feelings of inferiority are characteristic of modern leftism as a whole, while oversocialization is characteristic only of a certain segment of modern leftism; but this segment is highly influential.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="feelings-of-inferiority">Feelings of Inferiority</h2> -<ol start="10"> +<h2 id="feelings-of-inferiority">Feelings of Inferiority <a class="anchor" href="#feelings-of-inferiority"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="10"> <li> <p>By “feelings of inferiority” we mean not only inferiority feelings in the strict sense but a whole spectrum of related traits: low self-esteem, feelings of powerlessness, depressive tendencies, defeatism, guilt, self-hatred, etc. We argue that modern leftists tend to have some such feelings (possibly more or less repressed), and that these feelings are decisive in determining the direction of modern leftism.</p> </li> @@ -94,8 +97,9 @@ <p>We emphasize that the foregoing does not pretend to be an accurate description of everyone who might be considered a leftist. It is only a rough indication of a general tendency of leftism.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="oversocialization">Oversocialization</h2> -<ol start="24"> +<h2 id="oversocialization">Oversocialization <a class="anchor" href="#oversocialization"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="24"> <li> <p>Psychologists use the term “socialization” to designate the process by which children are trained to think and act as society demands. A person is said to be well socialized if he believes in and obeys the moral code of his society and fits in well as a functioning part of that society. It may seem senseless to say that many leftists are oversocialized, since the leftist is perceived as a rebel. Nevertheless, the position can be defended. Many leftists are not such rebels as they seem.</p> </li> @@ -124,8 +128,9 @@ <p>The problems of the leftist are indicative of the problems of our society as a whole. Low self-esteem, depressive tendencies and defeatism are not restricted to the left. Though they are especially noticeable in the left, they are widespread in our society. And today’s society tries to socialize us to a greater extent than any previous society. We are even told by experts how to eat, how to exercise, how to make love, how to raise our kids and so forth.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-power-process">The Power Process</h2> -<ol start="33"> +<h2 id="the-power-process">The Power Process <a class="anchor" href="#the-power-process"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="33"> <li> <p>Human beings have a need (probably based in biology) for something that we will call the power process. This is closely related to the need for power (which is widely recognized) but is not quite the same thing. The power process has four elements. The three most clear-cut of these we call goal, effort and attainment of goal. (Everyone needs to have goals whose attainment requires effort, and needs to succeed in attaining at least some of his goals.) The fourth element is more difficult to define and may not be necessary for everyone. We call it autonomy and will discuss it later (paragraphs 42–44).</p> </li> @@ -142,8 +147,9 @@ <p>Thus, in order to avoid serious psychological problems, a human being needs goals whose attainment requires effort, and he must have a reasonable rate of success in attaining his goals.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="surrogate-activities">Surrogate Activities</h2> -<ol start="38"> +<h2 id="surrogate-activities">Surrogate Activities <a class="anchor" href="#surrogate-activities"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="38"> <li> <p>But not every leisured aristocrat becomes bored and demoralized. For example, the emperor Hirohito, instead of sinking into decadent hedonism, devoted himself to marine biology, a field in which he became distinguished. When people do not have to exert themselves to satisfy their physical needs they often set up artificial goals for themselves. In many cases they then pursue these goals with the same energy and emotional involvement that they otherwise would have put into the search for physical necessities. Thus the aristocrats of the Roman Empire had their literary pretensions; many European aristocrats a few centuries ago invested tremendous time and energy in hunting, though they certainly didn’t need the meat; other aristocracies have competed for status through elaborate displays of wealth; and a few aristocrats, like Hirohito, have turned to science.</p> </li> @@ -157,8 +163,9 @@ <p>For many if not most people, surrogate activities are less satistying than the pursuit of real goals (that is, goals that people would want to attain even if their need for the power process were already fulfilled). One indication of this is the fact that, in many or most cases, people who are deeply involved in surrogate activities are never satisfied, never at rest. Thus the money-maker constantly strives for more and more wealth. The scientist no sooner solves one problem than he moves on to the next. The long-distance runner drives himself to run always farther and faster. Many people who pursue surrogate activities will say that they get far more fulfillment from these activities than they do from the “mundane” business of satisfying their biological needs, but that is because in our society the effort required to satisfy the biological needs has been reduced to triviality. More importantly, in our society people do not satisty their biological needs AUTONOMOUSLY but by functioning as parts of an immense social machine. In contrast, people generally have a great deal of autonomy in pursuing their surrogate activities.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="autonomy">Autonomy</h2> -<ol start="42"> +<h2 id="autonomy">Autonomy <a class="anchor" href="#autonomy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="42"> <li> <p>Autonomy as a part of the power process may not be necessary for every individual. But most people need a greater or lesser degree of autonomy in working toward their goals. Their efforts must be undertaken on their own initiative and must be under their own direction and control. Yet most people do not have to exert this initiative, direction and control as single individuals. It is usually enough to act as a member of a SMALL group. Thus if half a dozen people discuss a goal among themselves and make a successful joint effort to attain that goal, their need for the power process will be served. But if they work under rigid orders handed down from above that leave them no room for autonomous decision and initiative, then their need for the power process will not be served. The same is true when decisions are made on a collective basis if the group making the collective decision is so large that the role of each individual is insignificant.<sup id="fnref:5"><a href="#fn:5" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">5</a></sup></p> </li> @@ -169,8 +176,9 @@ <p>But for most people it is through the power process—having a goal, making an AUTONOMOUS effort and attaining the goal—that self-esteem, self-confidence and a sense of power are acquired. When one does not have adequate opportunity to go through the power process the consequences are (depending on the individual and on the way the power process is disrupted) boredom, demoralization, low self-esteem, inferiority feelings, defeatism, depression, anxiety, guilt, frustration, hostility, spouse or child abuse, insatiable hedonism, abnormal sexual behavior, sleep disorders, eating disorders, etc.<sup id="fnref:6"><a href="#fn:6" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">6</a></sup></p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="sources-of-social-problems">Sources of Social Problems</h2> -<ol start="45"> +<h2 id="sources-of-social-problems">Sources of Social Problems <a class="anchor" href="#sources-of-social-problems"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="45"> <li> <p>Any of the foregoing symptoms can occur in any society, but in modern industrial society they are present on a massive scale. We aren’t the first to mention that the world today seems to be going crazy. This sort of thing is not normal for human societies. There is good reason to believe that primitive man suffered from less stress and frustration and was better satisfied with his way of life than modern man is. It is true that not all was sweetness and light in primitive societies. Abuse of women was common among the Australian aborigines, transsexuality was fairly common among some of the American Indian tribes. But it does appear that GENERALLY SPEAKING the kinds of problems that we have listed in the preceding paragraph were far less common among primitive peoples than they are in modern society.</p> </li> @@ -214,8 +222,9 @@ <p>It would be possible to give other examples of societies in which there has been rapid change and/or lack of close community ties without the kind of massive behavioral aberration that is seen in today’s industrial society. We contend that the most important cause of social and psychological problems in modern society is the fact that people have insufficient opportunity to go through the power process in a normal way. We don’t mean to say that modern society is the only one in which the power process has been disrupted. Probably most if not all civilized societies have interfered with the power process to a greater or lesser extent. But in modern industrial society the problem has become particularly acute. Leftism, at least in its recent (mid- to late-20th century) form, is in part a symptom of deprivation with respect to the power process.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="disruption-of-the-power-process-in-modern-society">Disruption of the Power Process in Modern Society</h2> -<ol start="59"> +<h2 id="disruption-of-the-power-process-in-modern-society">Disruption of the Power Process in Modern Society <a class="anchor" href="#disruption-of-the-power-process-in-modern-society"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="59"> <li> <p>We divide human drives into three groups: (1) those drives that can be satisfied with minimal effort; (2) those that can be satisfied but only at the cost of serious effort; (3) those that cannot be adequately satisfied no matter how much effort one makes. The power process is the process of satistying the drives of the second group. The more drives there are in the third group, the more there is frustration, anger, eventually defeatism, depression, etc.</p> </li> @@ -271,8 +280,9 @@ <p>In response to the arguments of this section someone will say, “Society must find a way to give people the opportunity to go through the power process.” This won’t work for those who need autonomy in the power process. For such people the value of the opportunity is destroyed by the very fact that society gives it to them. What they need is to find or make their own opportunities. As long as the system GIVES them their opportunities it still has them on a leash. To attain autonomy they must get off that leash.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="how-some-people-adjust">How Some People Adjust</h2> -<ol start="77"> +<h2 id="how-some-people-adjust">How Some People Adjust <a class="anchor" href="#how-some-people-adjust"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="77"> <li> <p>Not everyone in industrial-technological society suffers from psychological problems. Some people even profess to be quite satisfied with society as it is. We now discuss some of the reasons why people differ so greatly in their response to modern society.</p> </li> @@ -304,8 +314,9 @@ <p>But even if most people in industrial-technological society were well satisfied, we (FC) would still be opposed to that form of society, because (among other reasons) we consider it demeaning to fulfill one’s need for the power process through surrogate activities or through identification with an organization, rather than through pursuit of real goals.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-motives-of-scientists">The Motives of Scientists</h2> -<ol start="87"> +<h2 id="the-motives-of-scientists">The Motives of Scientists <a class="anchor" href="#the-motives-of-scientists"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="87"> <li> <p>Science and technology provide the most important examples of surrogate activities. Some scientists claim that they are motivated by “curiosity” or by a desire to “benefit humanity.” But it is easy to see that neither of these can be the principal motive of most scientists. As for “curiosity,” that notion is simply absurd. Most scientists work on highly specialized problems that are not the object of any normal curiosity. For example, is an astronomer, a mathematician or an entomologist curious about the properties of isopropyltrimethylmethane? Of course not. Only a chemist is curious about such a thing, and he is curious about it only because chemistry is his surrogate activity. Is the chemist curious about the appropriate classification of a new species of beetle? No. That question is of interest only to the entomologist, and he is interested in it only because entomology is his surrogate activity. If the chemist and the entomologist had to exert themselves seriously to obtain the physical necessities, and if that effort exercised their abilities in an interesting way but in some nonscientific pursuit, then they wouldn’t give a damn about isopropyltrimethylmethane or the classification of beetles. Suppose that lack of funds for postgraduate education had led the chemist to become an insurance broker instead of a chemist. In that case he would have been very interested in insurance matters but would have cared nothing about isopropyltrimcthylmethane. In any case it is not normal to put into the satisfaction of mere curiosity the amount of time and effort that scientists put into their work. The “curiosity” explanation for the scientists’ motive just doesn’t stand up.</p> </li> @@ -325,8 +336,9 @@ <p>Thus science marches on blindly, without regard to the real welfare of the human race or to any other standard, obedient only to the psychological needs of the scientists and of the government officials and corporation executives who provide the funds for research.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-nature-of-freedom">The Nature of Freedom</h2> -<ol start="93"> +<h2 id="the-nature-of-freedom">The Nature of Freedom <a class="anchor" href="#the-nature-of-freedom"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="93"> <li> <p>We are going to argue that industrial-technological society cannot be reformed in such a way as to prevent it from progressively narrowing the sphere of human freedom. But because “freedom” is a word that can be interpreted in many ways, we must first make clear what kind of freedom we are concerned with.</p> </li> @@ -346,8 +358,9 @@ <p>One more point to be made in this section: It should not be assumed that a person has enough freedom just because he SAYS he has enough. Freedom is restricted in part by psychological controls of which people are unconscious, and moreover many people’s ideas of what constitutes freedom are governed more by social convention than by their real needs. For example, it’s likely that many leftists of the oversocialized type would say that most people, including themselves, are socialized too little rather than too much, yet the oversocialized leftist pays a heavy psychological price for his high level of socialization.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="some-principles-of-history">Some Principles of History</h2> -<ol start="99"> +<h2 id="some-principles-of-history">Some Principles of History <a class="anchor" href="#some-principles-of-history"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="99"> <li> <p>Think of history as being the sum of two components: an erratic component that consists of unpredictable events that follow no discernible pattern, and a regular component that consists of long-term historical trends. Here we are concerned with the long-term trends.</p> </li> @@ -385,8 +398,9 @@ <p>Still, one has to use common sense in applying the principles. They are expressed in imprecise language that allows latitude for interpretation, and exceptions to them can be found. So we present these principles not as inviolable laws but as rules of thumb, or guides to thinking, that may provide a partial antidote to naive ideas about the future of society. The principles should be borne constantly in mind, and whenever one reaches a conclusion that conflicts with them one should carefully reexamine one’s thinking and retain the conclusion only if one has good, solid reasons for doing so.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="industrial-technological-society-cannot-be-reformed">Industrial-Technological Society Cannot Be Reformed</h2> -<ol start="111"> +<h2 id="industrial-technological-society-cannot-be-reformed">Industrial-Technological Society Cannot Be Reformed <a class="anchor" href="#industrial-technological-society-cannot-be-reformed"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="111"> <li> <p>The foregoing principles help to show how hopelessly difficult it would be to reform the industrial system in such a way as to prevent it from progressively narrowing our sphere of freedom. There has been a consistent tendency, going back at least to the Industrial Revolution, for technology to strengthen the system at a high cost in individual freedom and local autonomy. Hence any change designed to protect freedom from technology would be contrary to a fundamental trend in the development of our society. Consequently, such a change either would be a transitory one—soon swamped by the tide of history—or, if large enough to be permanent, would alter the nature of our whole society. This by the first and second principles. Moreover, since society would be altered in a way that could not be predicted in advance (third principle) there would be great risk. Changes large enough to make a lasting difference in favor of freedom would not be initiated because it would be realized that they would gravely disrupt the system. So any attempts at reform would be too timid to be effective. Even if changes large enough to make a lasting difference were initiated, they would be retracted when their disruptive effects became apparent. Thus, permanent changes in favor of freedom could be brought about only by persons prepared to accept radical, dangerous and unpredictable alteration of the entire system. In other words by revolutionaries, not reformers.</p> </li> @@ -397,8 +411,9 @@ <p>So even on very general grounds it seems highly improbable that any way of changing society could be found that would reconcile freedom with modern technology. In the next few sections we will give more specific reasons for concluding that freedom and technological progress are incompatible.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="restriction-of-freedom-is-unavoidable-in-industrial-society">Restriction of Freedom is Unavoidable in Industrial Society</h2> -<ol start="114"> +<h2 id="restriction-of-freedom-is-unavoidable-in-industrial-society">Restriction of Freedom is Unavoidable in Industrial Society <a class="anchor" href="#restriction-of-freedom-is-unavoidable-in-industrial-society"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="114"> <li> <p>As explained in paragraphs 65–67, 70–73, modern man is strapped down by a network of rules and regulations, and his fate depends on the actions of persons remote from him whose decisions he cannot influence. This is not accidental or a result of the arbitrariness of arrogant bureaucrats. It is necessary and inevitable in any technologically advanced society. The system HAS TO regulate human behavior closely in order to function. At work, people have to do what they are told to do, when they are told to do it and in the way they are told to do it, otherwise production would be thrown into chaos. Bureaucracies HAVE TO be run according to rigid rules. To allow any substantial personal discretion to lower-level bureaucrats would disrupt the system and lead to charges of unfairness due to differences in the way individual bureaucrats exercised their discretion. It is true that some restrictions on our freedom could be eliminated. but GENERALLY SPEAKING the regulation of our lives by large organizations is necessary for the functioning of industrial-technological society. The result is a sense of powerlessness on the part of the average person. It may be. however. that formal regulations will tend increasingly to be replaced by psychological tools that make us want to do what the system requires of us. (Propaganda,<sup id="fnref1:14"><a href="#fn:14" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">14</a></sup> educational techniques, “mental health” programs, etc.)</p> </li> @@ -421,8 +436,9 @@ <p>Efforts to make room for a sense of purpose and for autonomy within the system are no better than a joke. For example, one company, instead of having each of its employees assemble only one section of a catalogue, had each assemble a whole catalogue, and this was supposed to give them a sense of purpose and achievement. Some companies have tried to give their employees more autonomy in their work, but for practical reasons this usually can be done only to a very limited extent, and in any case employees are never given autonomy as to ultimate goals—their “autonomous” efforts can never be directed toward goals that they select personally, but only toward their employer’s goals, such as the survival and growth of the company. Any company would soon go out of business if it permitted its employees to act otherwise. Similarly, in any enterprise within a socialist system, workers must direct their efforts toward the goals of the enterprise, otherwise the enterprise will not serve its purpose as part of the system. Once again, for purely technical reasons it is not possible for most individuals or small groups to have much autonomy in industrial society. Even the small-business owner commonly has only limited autonomy. Apart from the necessity of government regulation, he is restricted by the fact that he must fit into the economic system and conform to its requirements. For instance, when someone develops a new technology, the small-business person often has to use that technology whether he wants to or not, in order to remain competitive.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-bad-parts-of-technology-cannot-be-separated-from-the-good-parts">The “Bad” Parts of Technology Cannot Be Separated from the “Good” Parts</h2> -<ol start="121"> +<h2 id="the-bad-parts-of-technology-cannot-be-separated-from-the-good-parts">The “Bad” Parts of Technology Cannot Be Separated from the “Good” Parts <a class="anchor" href="#the-bad-parts-of-technology-cannot-be-separated-from-the-good-parts"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="121"> <li> <p>A further reason why industrial society cannot be reformed in favor of freedom is that modern technology is a unified system in which all parts are dependent on one another. You can’t get rid of the “bad” parts of technology and retain only the “good” parts. Take modern medicine, for example. Progress in medical science depends on progress in chemistry, physics, biology, computer science and other fields. Advanced medical treatments require expensive, high-tech equipment that can be made available only by a technologically progressive, economically rich society. Clearly you can’t have much progress in medicine without the whole technological system and everything that goes with it.</p> </li> @@ -436,8 +452,9 @@ <p>The usual response to such concerns is to talk about “medical ethics.” But a code of ethics would not serve to protect freedom in the face of medical progress; it would only make matters worse. A code of ethics applicable to genetic engineering would be in effect a means of regulating the genetic constitution of human beings. Somebody (probably the upper middle class, mostly) would decide that such and such applications of genetic engineering were “ethical” and others were not, so that in effect they would be imposing their own values on the genetic constitution of the population at large. Even if a code of ethics were chosen on a completely democratic basis, the majority would be imposing their own values on any minorities who might have a different idea of what constituted an “ethical” use of genetic engineering. The only code of ethics that would truly protect freedom would be one that prohibited ANY genetic engineering of human beings, and you can be sure that no such code will ever be applied in a technological society. No code that reduced genetic engineering to a minor role could stand up for long, because the temptation presented by the immense power of biotechnology would be irresistible, especially since to the majority of people many of its applications will seem obviously and unequivocally good (eliminating physical and mental diseases, giving people the abilities they need to get along in today’s world). Inevitably, genetic engineering will be used extensively, but only in ways consistent with the needs of the industrial-technological system.<sup id="fnref:20"><a href="#fn:20" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">20</a></sup></p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="technology-is-a-more-powerful-social-force-than-the-aspiration-for-freedom">Technology is a More Powerful Social Force than the Aspiration for Freedom</h2> -<ol start="125"> +<h2 id="technology-is-a-more-powerful-social-force-than-the-aspiration-for-freedom">Technology is a More Powerful Social Force than the Aspiration for Freedom <a class="anchor" href="#technology-is-a-more-powerful-social-force-than-the-aspiration-for-freedom"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="125"> <li> <p>It is not possible to make a LASTING compromise between technology and freedom, because technology is by far the more powerful social force and continually encroaches on freedom through REPEATED compromises. Imagine the case of two neighbors, each of whom at the outset owns the same amount of land, but one of whom is more powerful than the other. The powerful one demands a piece of the other’s land. The weak one refuses. The powerful one says, “Okay, let’s compromise. Give me half of what I asked.” The weak one has little choice but to give in. Some time later the powerful neighbor demands another piece of land, again there is a compromise, and so forth. By forcing a long series of compromises on the weaker man, the powerful one eventually gets all of his land. So it goes in the conflict between technology and freedom.</p> </li> @@ -472,8 +489,9 @@ <p>In paragraph 125 we used an analogy of a weak neighbor who is left destitute by a strong neighbor who takes all his land by forcing on him a series of compromises. But suppose now that the strong neighbor gets sick, so that he is unable to defend himself. The weak neighbor can force the strong one to give him his land back, or he can kill him. If he lets the strong man survive and only forces him to give the land back, he is a fool, because when the strong man gets well he will again take all the land for himself. The only sensible alternative for the weaker man is to kill the strong one while he has the chance. In the same way, while the industrial system is sick we must destroy it. If we compromise with it and let it recover from its sickness, it will eventually wipe out all of our freedom.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="simpler-social-problems-have-proved-intractable">Simpler Social Problems Have Proved Intractable</h2> -<ol start="136"> +<h2 id="simpler-social-problems-have-proved-intractable">Simpler Social Problems Have Proved Intractable <a class="anchor" href="#simpler-social-problems-have-proved-intractable"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="136"> <li> <p>If anyone still imagines that it would be possible to reform the system in such a way as to protect freedom from technology, let him consider how clumsily and for the most part unsuccessfully our society has dealt with other social problems that are far more simple and straightforward. Among other things, the system has failed to stop environmental degradation, political corruption, drug trafficking or domestic abuse.</p> </li> @@ -487,8 +505,9 @@ <p>And note this important difference: It is conceivable that our environmental problems (for example) may some day be settled through a rational, comprehensive plan, but if this happens it will be only because it is in the long-term interest of the system to solve these problems. But it is NOT in the interest of the system to preserve freedom or small-group autonomy. On the contrary, it is in the interest of the system to bring human behavior under control to the greatest possible extent.<sup id="fnref:24"><a href="#fn:24" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">24</a></sup> Thus, while practical considerations may eventually force the system to take a rational, prudent approach to environmental problems, equally practical considerations will force the system to regulate human behavior ever more closely (preferably by indirect means that will disguise the encroachment on freedom). This isn’t just our opinion. Eminent social scientists (e.g., James Q. Wilson) have stressed the importance of “socializing” people more effectively.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="revolution-is-easier-than-reform">Revolution is Easier than Reform</h2> -<ol start="140"> +<h2 id="revolution-is-easier-than-reform">Revolution is Easier than Reform <a class="anchor" href="#revolution-is-easier-than-reform"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="140"> <li> <p>We hope we have convinced the reader that the system cannot be reformed in such a way as to reconcile freedom with technology. The only way out is to dispense with the industrial-technological system altogether. This implies revolution, not necessarily an armed uprising, but certainly a radical and fundamental change in the nature of society.</p> </li> @@ -499,8 +518,9 @@ <p>Reform is always restrained by the fear of painful consequences if changes go too far. But once a revolutionary fever has taken hold of a society, people are willing to undergo unlimited hardships for the sake of their revolution. This was clearly shown in the French and Russian Revolutions. It may be that in such cases only a minoriry of the population is really committed to the revolution, but this minority is sufficiently large and active so that it becomes the dominant force in society. We will have more to say about revolution in paragraphs 180–205).</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="control-of-human-behavior">Control of Human Behavior</h2> -<ol start="143"> +<h2 id="control-of-human-behavior">Control of Human Behavior <a class="anchor" href="#control-of-human-behavior"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="143"> <li> <p>Since the beginning of civilization, organized societies have had to put pressures on human beings for the sake of the functioning of the social organism. The kinds of pressures vary greatly from one society to another. Some of the pressures are physical (poor diet, excessive labor, environmental pollution), some are psychological (noise, crowding, forcing human behavior into the mold that society requires). In the past, human nature has been approximately constant, or at any rate has varied only within certain bounds. Consequently, societies have been able to push people only up to certain limits. When the limit of human endurance has been passed, things start going wrong: rebellion, or crime, or corruption, or evasion of work, or depression and other mental problems, or an elevated death rate, or a declining birth rate or something else, so that either the society breaks down, or its functioning becomes too inefficient and it is (quickly or gradually, through conquest, attrition or evolution) replaced by some more efficient form of society.<sup id="fnref:25"><a href="#fn:25" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">25</a></sup></p> </li> @@ -556,8 +576,9 @@ <p>To those who think that all this sounds like science fiction, we point out that yesterday’s science fiction is today’s fact. The Industrial Revolution has radically altered man’s environment and way of life, and it is only to be expected that as technology is increasingly applied to the human body and mind, man himself will be altered as radically as his environment and way of life have been.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="human-race-at-a-crossroads">Human Race at a Crossroads</h2> -<ol start="161"> +<h2 id="human-race-at-a-crossroads">Human Race at a Crossroads <a class="anchor" href="#human-race-at-a-crossroads"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="161"> <li> <p>But we have gotten ahead of our story. It is one thing to develop in the laboratory a series of psychological or biological techniques for manipulating human behavior and quite another to integrate these techniques into a functioning social system. The latter problem is the more difficult of the two. For example, while the techniques of educational psychology doubtless work quite well in the “lab schools” where they are developed, it is not necessarily easy to apply them effectively throughout our educational system. We all know what many of our schools are like. The teachers are too busy taking knives and guns away from the kids to subject them to the latest techniques for making them into computer nerds. Thus, in spite of all its technical advances relating to human behavior, the system to date has not been impressively successful in controlling human beings. The people whose behavior is fairly well under the control of the system are those of the type that might be called “bourgeois.” But there are growing numbers of people who in one way or another are rebels against the system: welfare leeches, youth gangs, cultists, satanists, Nazis, radical environmentalists, militia-men, etc.</p> </li> @@ -577,8 +598,9 @@ <p>Therefore two tasks confront those who hate the servitude to which the industrial system is reducing the human race. First, we must work to heighten the social stresses within the system so as to increase the likelihood that it will break down or be weakened sufficiently so that a revolution against it becomes possible. Second, it is necessary to develop and propagate an ideology that opposes technology and the industrial system. Such an ideology can become the basis for a revolution against industrial society if and when the system becomes sufficiently weakened. And such an ideology will help to assure that, if and when industrial society breaks down, its remnants will be smashed beyond repair, so that the system cannot be reconstituted. The factories should be destroyed, technical books burned, etc.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="human-suffering">Human Suffering</h2> -<ol start="167"> +<h2 id="human-suffering">Human Suffering <a class="anchor" href="#human-suffering"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="167"> <li> <p>The industrial system will not break down purely as a result of revolutionary action. It will not be vulnerable to revolutionary attack unless its own internal problems of development lead it into very serious difficulties. So if the system breaks down it will do so either spontaneously, or through a process that is in part spontaneous but helped along by revolutionaries. If the breakdown is sudden, many people will die, since the world’s population has become so overblown that it cannot even feed itself any longer without advanced technology. Even if the breakdown is gradual enough so that reduction of the population can occur more through lowering of the birth rate than through elevation of the death rate, the process of de-industrialization probably will be very chaotic and involve much suffering. It is naive to think it likely that technology can be phased out in a smoothly managed, orderly way, especially since the technophiles will fight stubbornly at every step. Is it therefore cruel to work for the breakdown of the system? Maybe, but maybe not. In the first place, revolutionaries will not be able to break the system down unless it is already in enough trouble so that there would be a good chance of its eventually breaking down by itself anyway; and the bigger the system grows, the more disastrous the consequences of its breakdown will be; so it may be that revolutionaries, by hastening the onset of the breakdown, will be reducing the extent of the disaster.</p> </li> @@ -592,8 +614,9 @@ <p>“Oh!” say the technophiles, “Science is going to fix all that! We will conquer famine, eliminate psychological suffering, make everybody healthy and happy!” Yeah, sure. That’s what they said 200 years ago. The Industrial Revolution was supposed to eliminate poverty, make everybody happy, etc. The actual result has been quite different. The technophiles are hopelessly naive (or self-deceiving) in their understanding of social problems. They are unaware of (or choose to ignore) the fact that when large changes, even seemingly beneficial ones, are introduced into a society, they lead to a long sequence of other changes, most of which are impossible to predict (paragraph 103). In the mean time there will be great suffering. So it is not at all clear that the survival of industrial society would involve less suffering than the breakdown of that society would. Technology has gotten the human race into a fix from which there is not likely to be any easy escape.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-future">The Future</h2> -<ol start="171"> +<h2 id="the-future">The Future <a class="anchor" href="#the-future"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="171"> <li> <p>But suppose now that industrial society does survive the next several decades and that the bugs do eventually get worked out of the system, so that it functions smoothly. What kind of system will it be? We will consider several possibilities.</p> </li> @@ -622,8 +645,9 @@ <p>It would be better to dump the whole stinking system and take the consequences.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="strategy">Strategy</h2> -<ol start="180"> +<h2 id="strategy">Strategy <a class="anchor" href="#strategy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="180"> <li> <p>The technophiles are taking us all on an utterly reckless ride into the unknown. Many people understand something of what technological progress is doing to us, yet take a passive attitude toward it because they think it is inevitable. But we (FC) don’t think it is inevitable. We think it can be stopped, and we will give here some indications of how to go about stopping it.</p> </li> @@ -706,8 +730,9 @@ <p>With regard to revolutionary strategy, the only points on which we absolutely insist are that the single, overriding goal must be the elimination of modern technology, and that no other goal can be allowed to compete with this one. For the rest, revolutionaries should take an empirical approach. If experience indicates that some of the recommendations made in the foregoing paragraphs are not going to give good results, then those recommendations should be discarded.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="two-kinds-of-technology">Two Kinds of Technology</h2> -<ol start="207"> +<h2 id="two-kinds-of-technology">Two Kinds of Technology <a class="anchor" href="#two-kinds-of-technology"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="207"> <li> <p>An argument likely to be raised against our proposed revolution is that it is bound to fail, because (it is claimed) throughout history technology has always progressed, never regressed, hence technological regression is impossible. But this claim is false.</p> </li> @@ -727,8 +752,9 @@ <p>Would society EVENTUALLY develop again toward an industrial-technological form? Maybe, but there is no use in worrying about it, since we can’t predict or control events 500 or 1,000 years in the future. Those problems must be dealt with by the people who will live at that time.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="the-danger-of-leftism">The Danger of Leftism</h2> -<ol start="213"> +<h2 id="the-danger-of-leftism">The Danger of Leftism <a class="anchor" href="#the-danger-of-leftism"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="213"> <li> <p>Because of their need for rebellion and for membership in a movement, leftists or persons of similar psychological type often are attracted to a rebellious or activist movement whose goals and membership are not initially leftist. The resulting influx of leftish types can easily turn a non-leftist movement into a leftist one, so that leftist goals replace or distort the original goals of the movement.</p> </li> @@ -784,8 +810,9 @@ <p>The more dangerous leftists, that is, those who are most power-hungry, are often characterized by arrogance or by a dogmatic approach to ideology. However, the most dangerous leftists of all may be certain oversocialized types who avoid irritating displays of aggressiveness and refrain from advertising their leftism, but work quietly and unobtrusively to promote collectivist values, “enlightened” psychological techniques for socializing children, dependence of the individual on the system, and so forth. These crypto-leftists (as we may call them) approximate certain bourgeois types as far as practical action is concerned, but differ from them in psychology, ideology and motivation. The ordinary bourgeois tries to bring people under control of the system in order to protect his way of life, or he does so simply because his attitudes are conventional. The crypto-leftist tries to bring people under control of the system because he is a True Believer in a collectivistic ideology. The crypto-leftist is differentiated from the average leftist of the oversocialized type by the fact that his rebellious impulse is weaker and he is more securely socialized. He is differentiated from the ordinary well-socialized bourgeois by the fact that there is some deep lack within him that makes it necessary for him to devote himself to a cause and immerse himself in a collectivity. And maybe his (well-sublimated) drive for power is stronger than that of the average bourgeois.</p> </li> </ol> -<h2 id="final-note">Final Note</h2> -<ol start="231"> +<h2 id="final-note">Final Note <a class="anchor" href="#final-note"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol start="231"> <li> <p>Throughout this article we’ve made imprecise statements and statements that ought to have had all sorts of qualifications and reservations attached to them; and some of our statements may be flatly false. Lack of sufficient information and the need for brevity made it impossible for us to formulate our assertions more precisely or add all the necessary qualifications. And of course in a discussion of this kind one must rely heavily on intuitive judgment, and that can sometimes be wrong. So we don’t claim that this article expresses more than a crude approximation to the truth.</p> </li> @@ -915,8 +942,9 @@ Thu, 12 Jan 2023 21:34:30 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/recover-lost-anki-streak/ - <h1 id="how-to-recover-a-lost-anki-streak">How to recover a lost anki streak</h1> -<p>Word for word copy paste of what fixed my issue. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/Anki/comments/ndt6ag/comment/gycwiti/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">Original post</a></p> + <h1 id="how-to-recover-a-lost-anki-streak">How to recover a lost anki streak <a class="anchor" href="#how-to-recover-a-lost-anki-streak"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><p>Word for word copy paste of what fixed my issue. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/Anki/comments/ndt6ag/comment/gycwiti/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">Original post</a></p> <p><em>btw i had to create a seperate Custom Study for cards i had forgotten, i set it to 1 day, did one review and followed from step 7</em></p> <p>Happened to me as well, idk why. But there is a way to cheat streaks:</p> <ol> @@ -938,10 +966,12 @@ Wed, 04 Jan 2023 22:52:24 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/meta-description-in-hugo/ - <h1 id="adding-meta-description-in-hugo">Adding meta description in Hugo</h1> -<p>I assume you are using Luke Smith&rsquo;s theme - Lugo, if you are not, you&rsquo;d have to find these files yourself (e.g. search using vscode).</p> -<h2 id="setting-a-global-meta-description">Setting a global meta description</h2> -<ol> + <h1 id="adding-meta-description-in-hugo">Adding meta description in Hugo <a class="anchor" href="#adding-meta-description-in-hugo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><p>I assume you are using Luke Smith&rsquo;s theme - Lugo, if you are not, you&rsquo;d have to find these files yourself (e.g. search using vscode).</p> +<h2 id="setting-a-global-meta-description">Setting a global meta description <a class="anchor" href="#setting-a-global-meta-description"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Locate your config.toml or config.yaml file</li> <li>Add the following line inside it</li> </ol> @@ -952,15 +982,17 @@ <div class="highlight"><pre tabindex="0" style="color:#f8f8f2;background-color:#272822;-moz-tab-size:4;-o-tab-size:4;tab-size:4;"><code class="language-yaml" data-lang="yaml"><span style="display:flex;"><span><span style="color:#f92672">params</span>: </span></span><span style="display:flex;"><span> <span style="color:#f92672">description</span>: <span style="color:#ae81ff">The global meta description of your website</span> </span></span></code></pre></div><p>It won&rsquo;t work just yet because you have to update the <code>baseof.html</code> file.</p> -<h2 id="updating-the-baseofhtml-file">Updating the baseof.html file</h2> -<ol> +<h2 id="updating-the-baseofhtml-file">Updating the baseof.html file <a class="anchor" href="#updating-the-baseofhtml-file"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Locate baseof.html</li> <li>Add or change the meta description line with the following</li> </ol> <div class="highlight"><pre tabindex="0" style="color:#f8f8f2;background-color:#272822;-moz-tab-size:4;-o-tab-size:4;tab-size:4;"><code class="language-html" data-lang="html"><span style="display:flex;"><span>&lt;<span style="color:#f92672">meta</span> <span style="color:#a6e22e">name</span><span style="color:#f92672">=</span><span style="color:#e6db74">&#34;description&#34;</span> <span style="color:#a6e22e">content</span><span style="color:#f92672">=</span><span style="color:#e6db74">&#34;{{ if .Page.Params.description }}{{ .Page.Params.description }}{{ else if .Summary}}{{ .Summary }}{{else}}{{ .Site.Params.description}}{{ end }}&#34;</span>/&gt; </span></span></code></pre></div><p>And now if you start your Hugo server locally with <code>hugo serve --noHTTPCache</code> and you right click on your page -&gt; View Page Source -&gt; Search for the meta description tag. It should match what you left in the config file.</p> -<h2 id="replacing-the-global-description-with-a-custom-one">Replacing the global description with a custom one</h2> -<ol> +<h2 id="replacing-the-global-description-with-a-custom-one">Replacing the global description with a custom one <a class="anchor" href="#replacing-the-global-description-with-a-custom-one"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ol> <li>Have a markdown file ready</li> <li>In the preamble, add</li> </ol> @@ -978,8 +1010,9 @@ https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/multiple-index-pages-in-hugo/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="this-is-how-to-create-multiple-index-pages-in-hugo">This is how to create multiple index pages in Hugo</h2> -</div> +<h2 id="this-is-how-to-create-multiple-index-pages-in-hugo">This is how to create multiple index pages in Hugo <a class="anchor" href="#this-is-how-to-create-multiple-index-pages-in-hugo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>I wanted to order <a href="https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook">Hackbook</a> in reverse (i.e. oldest to newest) so that it&rsquo;s easier for the reader to start at the correct page.</p> <p>I ran into the following problem - the default <strong><code>list.html</code></strong> does them from newest to oldest.</p> <p>So I found <a href="https://discourse.gohugo.io/t/two-home-pages/31312/9">this forum post</a> and I created a file in the <strong><code>_default</code></strong> directory as follows:</p> @@ -1012,11 +1045,14 @@ {{- end }} &lt;/ul&gt; {{- end }} -</code></pre><h4 id="if-you-want-to-display-the-date-on-the-left-of-the-titles-you-have-to-add-datesinlisttrue-in-your-configtoml-or-datesinlist-true-in-your-configyaml">if you want to display the date on the left of the titles, you have to add <strong><code>datesinlist=true</code></strong> in your config.toml or <strong><code>datesinlist: true</code></strong> in your config.yaml</h4> -<h5 id="you-probably-dont-need-enablegitinfo--true-as-that-will-crash-your-website-i-have-no-idea-what-it-does-you-dont-need-it">You probably don&rsquo;t need <strong><code>enableGitInfo = true</code></strong> as that will crash your website, I have no idea what it does, you don&rsquo;t need it.</h5> -<div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="using-your-custom-_indexhtml">Using your custom _index.html</h2> -</div> +</code></pre><h4 id="if-you-want-to-display-the-date-on-the-left-of-the-titles-you-have-to-add-datesinlisttrue-in-your-configtoml-or-datesinlist-true-in-your-configyaml">if you want to display the date on the left of the titles, you have to add <strong><code>datesinlist=true</code></strong> in your config.toml or <strong><code>datesinlist: true</code></strong> in your config.yaml <a class="anchor" href="#if-you-want-to-display-the-date-on-the-left-of-the-titles-you-have-to-add-datesinlisttrue-in-your-configtoml-or-datesinlist-true-in-your-configyaml"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h5 id="you-probably-dont-need-enablegitinfo--true-as-that-will-crash-your-website-i-have-no-idea-what-it-does-you-dont-need-it">You probably don&rsquo;t need <strong><code>enableGitInfo = true</code></strong> as that will crash your website, I have no idea what it does, you don&rsquo;t need it. <a class="anchor" href="#you-probably-dont-need-enablegitinfo--true-as-that-will-crash-your-website-i-have-no-idea-what-it-does-you-dont-need-it"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h5><div style="text-align: center;"> +<h2 id="using-your-custom-_indexhtml">Using your custom _index.html <a class="anchor" href="#using-your-custom-_indexhtml"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>After creating your custom _index.html you&rsquo;d use it as follows:</p> <ol> <li>Create an _index.md file in your desired directory</li> @@ -1227,8 +1263,9 @@ enableGitInfo = true <li>Never PMO again.</li> </ol> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="affirmations">Affirmations</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="affirmations">Affirmations <a class="anchor" href="#affirmations"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <ul> <li>I am free from the slavery of PMO.</li> <li>It is easy for me to ignore my thoughts about PMO.</li> @@ -1269,21 +1306,24 @@ strains of life.</li> https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/03-43-advice-to-non-pmoers/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book">HELP GET YOUR PMO FRIENDS TO READ THIS BOOK <a class="anchor" href="#help-get-your-pmo-friends-to-read-this-book"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>First study the contents of this book and try to put yourself in the place of the PMOer. Do not force him to read this book or try to stop him by telling him he is ruining his health or playing with fire. He already knows this better than you do. PMOers do not continue in it because they enjoy it or because they want to. They only tell themselves and other people this in order to retain self-respect. They do it because they feel dependent on PMO because they think that it relaxes them and gives them courage and confidence (pleasure or crutch) and that life will never be enjoyable without “sex” - their version of it. If you try to force a PMOer to stop, he feels like a trapped animal and wants to be in his harem even more. This may turn him into a secret PMOer and in his mind the porn will become even more precious (see Chapter 26).</p> <p>Instead, concentrate on the other side of the coin. Get him into the company of ex-PMOers (there are many blogs, forums etc. YBOP, No-Fap etc.). Get them to tell the PMOer how they too thought they were hooked for life and how much better life is as a non-PMOer. Once you have got him believing that he can stop then his mind will start to open up. Then start explaining the delusion created by withdrawal pangs. Not only are the “dopamine rushes” not giving him a boost but they are destroying his confidence and making him irritable and tired.</p> <p>He should now be ready to read this book himself. He will be expecting to read pages and pages about unreliable arousal, fading penetrations, PIED, PE, etc. Explain that the approach is completely different and that references to illness are just a small fraction of the material in the book.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="help-during-the-withdrawal-period">HELP DURING THE WITHDRAWAL PERIOD <a class="anchor" href="#help-during-the-withdrawal-period"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>If you are dealing with a girlfriend or boyfriend - whether the ex-PMOer is suffering or not, assume that she/he is. Do not try to minimize his suffering by telling him it is easy to stop; he can do that himself. Instead keep telling him how proud you are, how much better he is looking, how much sweeter it is to be with him, how much easier he is in general. It is particularly important to keep doing this. When a PMOer makes an attempt to stop, the euphoria of the attempt and the attention he gets from friends and colleagues can help him along. However, they tend to forget quickly, so keep that praise going.</p> <p>Because he is not talking about PMOing, you may think he has forgotten about it and don&rsquo;t want to remind him. Usually the complete opposite is the case with the Willpower Method, as the ex-PMOer tends to be obsessed by nothing else. So do not be frightened to bring the subject up and keep praising him: he will tell you if he doesn&rsquo;t want you to remind him of PMOing.</p> <p>Go out of your way to relieve him of pressures during the withdrawal period. Try to think of ways of making his life interesting and enjoyable. This can also be a trying period for non-PMOers - that is those of you who have never had this addiction. If one member of a group is irritable, it can cause general misery all round. So anticipate this if the ex-PMOer is feeling irritable. He may well take it out on you but do not retaliate: it is at this time that he needs your praise and sympathy the most. If you are feeling irritable yourself, try not to show it.</p> <p>One of the tricks an addict will play when trying to give up with the aid of the Willpower Method was to get into a tantrum, hoping that wife or friends would say, “I cannot bear to see you suffering like this. For goodness sake, have your poison.” The PMOer then does not lose face, as he isn&rsquo;t “giving in” - he has been instructed. If the ex-PMOer uses this ploy, on no account encourage him to lapse. Instead say, “if that is what PMO does to you, thank goodness you will soon be free. How marvellous that you had the courage and sense to give up.”</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="help-end-this-scandal">HELP END THIS SCANDAL <a class="anchor" href="#help-end-this-scandal"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>In my opinion, internet porn is one of the dangers in a free society, piggy backing on the good willed efforts of personal freedoms. Surely the very basis of civilization, the reason why the human species has advanced so far, is that we are capable of communicating our knowledge and experiences not only to each other but to future generations. Even the lower species find it necessary to warn their offspring of the pitfalls in life.</p> <p>The producers of porn are not doing this in good faith, in the genuine belief that they help mankind, especially now as the addiction to internet porn is widely studied. Maybe in its initial stages people genuinely believed that porn taught intimacy to men and women but today the authorities know that it is a fallacy. Just watch any tube sites nowadays. They make no claims about education. The only claims they make are about the shock, novelty, escalation quality of their clips.</p> <p>The sheer hypocrisy is incredible. As a society we get uptight about school bullying and objectification of human body. Compared with internet porn, these problems are mere pimples in our society. Thirty five per cent of the population have been addicted to porn and most of them spend quality time with imaginary and illusory pixel people at the expense of health, virility, energy and time. Tens of thousands of people have their lives ruined every year because they become hooked. Internet high speed porn is by far the biggest killer in relationships and yet the biggest vested interest is our for-profit companies. Internet porn producers don’t spend on advertising the filth in mainstream publications - they don’t have to. Our biological urges will lead us to the thresholds of their well stocked internet harems. They give free samples just like your local drug dealer. Heck the tube sites don’t even stock the wares any more as they encourage visitors to post the content.</p> @@ -1296,8 +1336,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <p>Why do we allow society to subject healthy young teenagers, youngsters whose lives are complete before they start to get online, to claim their independence just for the privilege of destroying themselves mentally and physically in a lifetime of slavery, a lifetime of filth and disease? You may feel that I over-dramatize the facts. Not so. There are cases where lives were cut down in his early years of marriage because of PMO. He was a strong man and might still have been alive today. I believe I was within an inch of PIED during my forties, although I would have attributed it to my divorce rather than to PMO. I now spend my life being consulted by people who have been crippled by the disease or are in the last stages. And, if you care to think about it, you probably know of many too.</p> <p>There is a wind of change in society. A snowball has started that I hope this book will help turn into an avalanche. You too can help by spreading the message.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="final-warning">FINAL WARNING <a class="anchor" href="#final-warning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>You can now enjoy the rest of your life as a happy non-PMOer. In order to make sure that you do, you need to follow these simple instructions:</p> <ol> <li>Keep this page in your bookmarks and refer to it as much as you need.</li> @@ -1396,8 +1437,9 @@ strains of life.</li> <p>Find out which one it is. Some people understand and believe everything I say but still start off with a feeling of doom and gloom, as if something terrible were happening. You are doing not only what you&rsquo;d like to do but what every PMOer on the planet would like to do. With any method of stopping, what the ex PMOer is trying to achieve is a certain frame of mind, so that whenever he thinks about PMO he says to himself, “YIPPEE! I&rsquo;M FREE!” If that&rsquo;s your object, why wait? Start off in that frame of mind and never lose it. The rest of the book is designed to make you understand why there is no alternative.</p> </blockquote> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="the-check-list"><strong>THE CHECK LIST</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="the-check-list"><strong>THE CHECK LIST</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-check-list"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>If you follow these simple instructions, you cannot fail:</p> <ol> <li>Make a solemn vow that you will never, ever, go online to visit your harem OR settle down for static pictures OR make peace with erotic graphics OR anything that contains supra normal stimuli, and stick to your vow.</li> @@ -1511,14 +1553,16 @@ sites in my life again.”<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1& <p>I have been direct in my advice so far and would ask you to treat this advice as instruction rather than suggestion. I am explicit and direct, first because there are sound, practical reasons for my advice and second, because those reasons have been backed up by thousands of case studies. On the question of whether or not to try to avoid temptation during the withdrawal period, I regret that I cannot be direct. Each PMOer will need to decide for himself. I can, however, make what I hope will be helpful suggestions, I repeat that it is fear that keeps us to PMO all our lives and this fear consists of two distinct phases:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO?</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo">Phase 1: How can I survive without PMO? <a class="anchor" href="#phase-1-how-can-i-survive-without-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>This fear is that panicky feeling the PMOer gets when they are alone in a single phase or have an asexual, uninterested or unavailable partner. The fear isn&rsquo;t caused by withdrawal pangs but is the psychological fear of dependency - you cannot survive without sex and orgasm. It actually reaches its height when you are on the verge of quitting (I won’t use giving up); at that time your withdrawal pangs are at their lowest. It is the fear of the unknown, the sort of fear that people have when they are learning to dive.</p> <p>The diving board is 1 foot high but seems to be 6 feet high. The water is 6 feet deep but appears to be 1 foot deep. It takes courage to launch yourself. You are convinced you are going to smash your head. The launching is the hardest part. If you can find the courage to do it, the rest is easy. This explains why many otherwise strong-willed PMOers either have never attempted to stop or can survive only a few days when they do. In fact, there are some PMOers on a porn diet who when they decide to stop, actually binge and escalate to harsher clips more quickly than if they had not decided to stop. The decision causes panic, which is stressful. This is one of the occasions when the brain triggers the instruction, “take a trip to your own personal harem.” But now you can&rsquo;t take one. You are being deprived - more stress.</p> <p>The trigger starts again quickly when the fuse blows and you fire up the browser. Don&rsquo;t worry. That panic is just psychological. It is the fear that you are dependent. The beautiful truth is that you are not, even when you are still addicted. Do not panic. Just trust me and launch yourself.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="phase-2-longer-term-fear">Phase 2: Longer Term Fear <a class="anchor" href="#phase-2-longer-term-fear"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>The second phase of fear is longer-term. It involves the fear that certain situations in the future will not be enjoyable or that you will not be able to cope with a trauma without PMO. Don&rsquo;t worry. If you can launch yourself you will find the opposite to be the case. The avoidance of temptation itself falls into two main categories:</p> <ol> <li>“I will subscribe to a porn-diet of once in 4 days. I will feel more confident knowing that I can go online if it gets hard. It is OK if I fail I can just add up additional days to my next cycle.”</li> @@ -1621,8 +1665,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict <li>What&rsquo;s worse, it keeps the big monster alive in your mind. If you had the “last peek”, it will be easier to have the next one.</li> </ol> <p>Above all, remember:</p> -<h2 id="just-one-peek-is-how-people-get-into-pmo-addiction-in-the-first-place">“Just one peek” is how people get into PMO addiction in the first place.</h2> - +<h2 id="just-one-peek-is-how-people-get-into-pmo-addiction-in-the-first-place">“Just one peek” is how people get into PMO addiction in the first place. <a class="anchor" href="#just-one-peek-is-how-people-get-into-pmo-addiction-in-the-first-place"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2> @@ -1727,8 +1772,9 @@ when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addict </ol> <p>Stop kidding yourself. If the job offer that I mentioned before, of 10 months work for 12 months salary a year won&rsquo;t stop him. Or if the risks of cutting down your brain’s capacity to cope with just any normal day-to-day stress and strains or if putting yourself at odds with having a reliable erection, or if the lifetime of mental and physical torture and slavery did not stop him or her - the above said few phoney incentives will not make the slightest bit of difference. They will only make the sacrifice appear worse. Instead concentrate on the other side:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"><strong>“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?”</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"><strong>“What am I getting out of it? Why do I need to PMO?”</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#what-am-i-getting-out-of-it-why-do-i-need-to-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>Keep looking at the other side of the tug of war. What is PMOing doing for me? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Why do I need to do it? YOU DON&rsquo;T! YOU ARE ONLY PUNISHING YOURSELF. Try looking at it from the Pascal’s Wager perspective. You have almost nothing to lose (a rub-out with half arousals) for sure, chances of big profits (a full and reliable arousal, mental well being and happiness) and no chance of losing big (unreliable full arousals, premature ejaculations, fading penetrations, loss of general impulse controls, lower tolerance for frustrations and anger).</p> <p>Why not declare your quitting to friends and family? Well, it will make you a proud ex-addict, ex-PMOer, not an elated and happy non-PMOer. It will scare your partner a bit since they may see this as an effort to have more sex, sort of a new-age thing. They may also fear to lose you if this turns you into sex machine. It is hard to explain to them unless they are open minded.</p> <p>Any attempt to get others to help you in your quitting gives more power to the little monster of addiction. Pushing it from your mind and totally ignoring it has the effect of trying NOT to think of it. As soon as you spot the thoughts, when you hit the cues (home alone) or just absent minded thoughts - just say to yourself: “Great, I don’t have to do it like a slave animal. I am free. I am happy to know the differences in sex.” This will cut the life of the thought and will deny oxygen to it and will stop it from burning towards urges and cravings.</p> @@ -1796,8 +1842,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <p>First of all, identify the times or occasions when PMO appears to be important to you. If you are a businessman and use it for the illusion of relief of stress, pick a relatively slack period; a good idea is to choose your annual holiday. If you PMO mainly during boring or relaxing periods, weekends etc. do the opposite. In any event, take the matter seriously and make the attempt the most important thing in your life.</p> <p>Look ahead for a period of about three weeks and try to anticipate any event that might lead to failure. Occasions like a conference trip, partner out of town etc. need not deter you, providing you anticipate them in advance and do not feel you will be deprived. Do not attempt to cut down in the meantime as this will only create the illusion that being denied is enjoyable. In fact, it helps to force yourself to watch and have as many PMO sessions as possible. While you are having the last session and that last time, be conscious of the disappointment due to satiation, unfulfilled expectations (porn can never satisfy you), any bodily pain or pain in the genitals, the withdrawal effects, the peevishness and the melancholy. Think how marvellous it will be when you allow yourself to stop doing it.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="whatever-you-do-dont-fall-into-the-trap-of-just-saying-not-now-later-and-putting-it-out-of-your-mind-work-out-your-timetable-now-and-look-forward-to-it">WHATEVER YOU DO, DON&rsquo;T FALL INTO THE TRAP OF JUST SAYING, “NOT NOW. LATER,” AND PUTTING IT OUT OF YOUR MIND. WORK OUT YOUR TIMETABLE NOW AND LOOK FORWARD TO IT.</h4> -</div> +<h4 id="whatever-you-do-dont-fall-into-the-trap-of-just-saying-not-now-later-and-putting-it-out-of-your-mind-work-out-your-timetable-now-and-look-forward-to-it">WHATEVER YOU DO, DON&rsquo;T FALL INTO THE TRAP OF JUST SAYING, “NOT NOW. LATER,” AND PUTTING IT OUT OF YOUR MIND. WORK OUT YOUR TIMETABLE NOW AND LOOK FORWARD TO IT. <a class="anchor" href="#whatever-you-do-dont-fall-into-the-trap-of-just-saying-not-now-later-and-putting-it-out-of-your-mind-work-out-your-timetable-now-and-look-forward-to-it"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> <p>Remember you aren&rsquo;t giving anything up. On the contrary: you are about to receive marvellous positive gains.</p> <p>For years the medical profession viewed porn is harmless without knowing the difference between the tame static porn of yesteryear and the latest VR streaming porn. The problem is this; although every PMOer uses internet porn purely to relieve the brain chemical craving for dopamine, it is not the addiction to the brain chemical itself that hooks the PMOer but the self-brainwashing that results from that addiction. An intelligent person will fall for a confidence trick. But only a fool will go on falling for it once he realizes that it&rsquo;s a confidence trick. Fortunately, most PMOers aren&rsquo;t fools; they only think they are. Each individual PMOer has his own private brainwashing. That is why there appears to be such a wide range of different types of PMOer, which only serves to compound the mysteries.</p> <p>With the benefit of the original book that used this method to stop smoking, which dealt with nicotine addiction (one of the most quickest and addictive drug known to man) and bearing in mind that the personal logs that I collected from Reddit, NoFap and YBOP blogs and forums, I was agreeably surprised to realize that the philosophy propounded in the original book was still sound. The accumulated knowledge that was acquired by the original author Alan Carr and by myself the hack-author is how to communicate that knowledge to each individual PMOer. The fact that I know every PMOer can not only find it easy to stop but can actually enjoy the process is not only pointless but exceedingly frustrating unless I can make the PMOer realize it. The original author of the quit smoking book explains some controversial advice:</p> @@ -1835,8 +1882,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <p>The only reason why people continue to PMO after getting educated is because they have failed to stop or are too frightened to try. There are even talks about no porn, no masturbation and no orgasms - with or without partners. Karezza is discussed widely and people are trying it out. Many aforementioned failures are “fail forwards” and thus somewhat benefiting the people who practice them. Once you start in the no-PMO route you will find your best fit that applies to your life. I strongly encourage devising your own plan on orgasms after understanding and practising the separation of the amative and the propagative parts of sex. I am sure whichever route you take you will see the value of preserving the “seed” by limiting the number of times you flush your brain with chemicals by orgasming. You will then never see porn, sex and orgasms as a pleasure or as a crutch for your emotional ups and downs.</p> <p>I was reading a Reddit forum by non-PMOers dedicated to quitting not only porn but also masturbation. As I read along I thought. “This is good, I see so many have taken to quitting masturbation and I think that is the right way to quit PMO.” However, I found most of the notes pointing to them to try with the Willpower Method. There was a lot of self-pitying as well. Except a few&hellip; almost all were not feeling elated and not having the, “yippee I am free from slavery” attitude. Eventually someone broke down - as I unfortunately expected to happen. And the result was a domino effect. All those other PMOers had been sitting there thinking, “surely I can&rsquo;t be the only PMOer here.” However, they were “failing forward” albeit with a lot of self-torturing as they shut down their browsers but did not shut down the desire and the need. This method is the reverse as - we shut down the desire and the need first before shutting down the browser screen. As every day more and more PMOers leave the sinking ship, so those left on it become terrified they&rsquo;ll be the last.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="dont-let-it-be-you"><strong>DON&rsquo;T LET IT BE YOU!</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="dont-let-it-be-you"><strong>DON&rsquo;T LET IT BE YOU!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#dont-let-it-be-you"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> @@ -1854,8 +1902,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p <p>Columbo has this frustrating practice of closing the door after finishing his interrogation, having assured the suspect that he is in the clear and before the satisfied look has disappeared from the murderer&rsquo;s face, Columbo reappears with: “just one small point, sir, which I&rsquo;m sure you can explain&hellip;” The suspect stammers and from that point on we know and he knows that Columbo will gradually wear him down. No matter how heinous the crime, from that point on my sympathies were with the murderer.</p> <p>It was almost as if I were the criminal and that&rsquo;s exactly how those bouts made me feel. The tension of not being allowed to cross the red line to get my porn fix that I “rightly deserve because I am hard working man and why shouldn’t I when every man does it?” entitlement, click, click, clicking on videos that come close to the right one. Longing for the porn tube videos. And then finishing the deed - just a limp rub out, wondering where the pleasure was. The fear of crossing the line losing control. The relief of returning to the bed, immediately followed by the fear that she would toss around and ask for sex. As the “safe” YouTube videos started not to do it for me - desensitization and lack of novelty and the certain knowledge that sooner or later I was bound to visit my favourite online harem. The final humiliation and shame when that certainty became a fact, followed by the immediate return to chain-PMOing.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h4 id="oh-the-joys-of-being-a-pmo-er"><strong>OH THE JOYS OF BEING A PMO-er!</strong></h4> -</div> +<h4 id="oh-the-joys-of-being-a-pmo-er"><strong>OH THE JOYS OF BEING A PMO-er!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#oh-the-joys-of-being-a-pmo-er"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4></div> @@ -1882,25 +1931,32 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p </ol> <p>I used to think of my ‘non-casual’ PMOing as a weakness. I couldn&rsquo;t understand why my friends could limit their “intake.” I knew I was a very strong-willed person. It never occurred to me that most PMOers are incapable of chain-PMOing - you need a very strong imagination and also extraordinarily strong penis stamina in order to do it. Some of these once-a-week PMOers that heavy PMOers tend to envy do it less frequently because physically their constitution cannot do more, or because they cannot afford to PMO more, or because their job, or society, or their own hatred of being hooked won&rsquo;t allow them to PMO more.</p> <p>It may be of advantage at this stage to provide a few definitions:</p> -<h3 id="the-non-pmoer">THE NON-PMOer</h3> -<p>Someone who has never fallen for the trap but should not be complacent. He is a non-PMOer only by luck or the grace of goodness. All PMOers were convinced that they would never become hooked and some non-PMOers keep trying an occasional session.</p> -<h3 id="the-casual-pmoer">THE CASUAL PMOer</h3> -<p>There are two basic classifications of casual PMOers:</p> +<h3 id="the-non-pmoer">THE NON-PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-non-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>Someone who has never fallen for the trap but should not be complacent. He is a non-PMOer only by luck or the grace of goodness. All PMOers were convinced that they would never become hooked and some non-PMOers keep trying an occasional session.</p> +<h3 id="the-casual-pmoer">THE CASUAL PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-casual-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>There are two basic classifications of casual PMOers:</p> <ol> <li>The PMOer who has fallen for the trap but doesn&rsquo;t realize it. Do not envy such PMOers. They are merely sampling the nectar at the mouth of the pitcher plant and in all probability will soon be heavy users. Remember, just as all alcoholics started off as casual drinkers, so all PMOers started off as casual PMOers.</li> <li>The PMOer who was previously a heavy PMOer and thinks he cannot stop. These PMOers are the saddest of all. They fall into various categories, each of which needs separate comment.</li> </ol> -<h3 id="the-oncea--day-pmoer">THE ONCE–A- DAY PMOer</h3> -<p>If he enjoys his entitlement to orgasm, why does he use internet porn to orgasm only once a day? If he can take it or leave it, why does he bother to PMO at all? Remember, the ‘habit’ is really banging your head against the brick wall only to make it relaxing when you stop. The once-a-day PMOer is relieving his withdrawal pangs for less than one hour each day. The rest of the day, although he doesn&rsquo;t realize it, he is banging his head against the wall and does so for most of his life. He is PMOing only once a day because either he cannot take the risk of getting caught or screwing up his brain health. It is easy to convince the heavy PMOer that he doesn&rsquo;t enjoy it but you try convincing a casual PMOer. Anybody who has gone through an attempt to cut down will know it is the worst torture of all and almost guaranteed to keep you hooked for the rest of your life.</p> -<h3 id="the-rejected-pmoer">THE REJECTED PMOer</h3> -<p>This PMOer demands the right to his/her orgasm(s) every day. And of course his sex partner is not always up to it. So he goes on the internet for porn initially. Once he takes “the ride” to fix “the void” he is trapped on this most exciting ‘water slide’ of novelty, shock, supranormal images etc. He is in fact dichotomously ‘happy’ with the partner’s rejection – it gives him something of an excuse. If internet porn is giving so much to you, why even bother to have a partner at all? Set him or her free. He is not even enjoying the PMO when he has to ‘carry’ his partner in his mind. At some point he is using his real life partner to hand him an excuse to go out into the valleys of the dark side of the internet.</p> -<h3 id="the-porn-diet-pmoer">THE PORN DIET PMOer</h3> -<p>(Or, “I can stop whenever I want to. I have done it thousands of times”). If he thinks dieting helps with his moods to ‘get out to get women,’ why is he even on the diet of once every four days? How can one predict the future, what if the happenstance of meeting occurred just an hour after your scheduled PMO session? Also, if he thinks this occasional “cleaning the plumbing” is good to relieve tension and relax why not plumb every day? It has been proven that masturbation is not required to keep the genitals healthy. Internet porn is not required at all. Even if that may be the case, any PUA guru who has read about the brain chemistry and its plasticity will never recommend watching super stimulus porn. The truth is he is still hooked. Although he gets rid of the physical addiction, he is left with the main problem - the brainwashing. He hopes each time that he will stop for good and soon falls for the same trap again.</p> +<h3 id="the-oncea--day-pmoer">THE ONCE–A- DAY PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-oncea--day-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>If he enjoys his entitlement to orgasm, why does he use internet porn to orgasm only once a day? If he can take it or leave it, why does he bother to PMO at all? Remember, the ‘habit’ is really banging your head against the brick wall only to make it relaxing when you stop. The once-a-day PMOer is relieving his withdrawal pangs for less than one hour each day. The rest of the day, although he doesn&rsquo;t realize it, he is banging his head against the wall and does so for most of his life. He is PMOing only once a day because either he cannot take the risk of getting caught or screwing up his brain health. It is easy to convince the heavy PMOer that he doesn&rsquo;t enjoy it but you try convincing a casual PMOer. Anybody who has gone through an attempt to cut down will know it is the worst torture of all and almost guaranteed to keep you hooked for the rest of your life.</p> +<h3 id="the-rejected-pmoer">THE REJECTED PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-rejected-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>This PMOer demands the right to his/her orgasm(s) every day. And of course his sex partner is not always up to it. So he goes on the internet for porn initially. Once he takes “the ride” to fix “the void” he is trapped on this most exciting ‘water slide’ of novelty, shock, supranormal images etc. He is in fact dichotomously ‘happy’ with the partner’s rejection – it gives him something of an excuse. If internet porn is giving so much to you, why even bother to have a partner at all? Set him or her free. He is not even enjoying the PMO when he has to ‘carry’ his partner in his mind. At some point he is using his real life partner to hand him an excuse to go out into the valleys of the dark side of the internet.</p> +<h3 id="the-porn-diet-pmoer">THE PORN DIET PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-porn-diet-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>(Or, “I can stop whenever I want to. I have done it thousands of times”). If he thinks dieting helps with his moods to ‘get out to get women,’ why is he even on the diet of once every four days? How can one predict the future, what if the happenstance of meeting occurred just an hour after your scheduled PMO session? Also, if he thinks this occasional “cleaning the plumbing” is good to relieve tension and relax why not plumb every day? It has been proven that masturbation is not required to keep the genitals healthy. Internet porn is not required at all. Even if that may be the case, any PUA guru who has read about the brain chemistry and its plasticity will never recommend watching super stimulus porn. The truth is he is still hooked. Although he gets rid of the physical addiction, he is left with the main problem - the brainwashing. He hopes each time that he will stop for good and soon falls for the same trap again.</p> <p>Many PMOers actually envy these stoppers and starters. They think, “how lucky to be able to control it like that, to do PMO when you want to and stop when you want to,” What they always overlook is that these stoppers and starters aren&rsquo;t controlling it. When they are PMOers, they wish they weren&rsquo;t. They go through the hassle of stopping, then begin to feel deprived and fall for the trap again, then wish they hadn&rsquo;t. They get the worst of both worlds. If you think about it, this is true in the lives of the PMOers. When we are allowed to PMO we either take it as entitled or wish we didn&rsquo;t. It&rsquo;s only when we can&rsquo;t have PMO that it appears to be so precious. The ‘forbidden fruit syndrome’. This is the awful dilemma of PMOers. They can never win because they are moping for a myth, an illusion. There is one way they can win and that is to stop PMOing and stop moping!</p> -<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC/TAME/HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer</h3> -<p>Yes, we all do it to start with but isn&rsquo;t it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner&rsquo;s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes&hellip; you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one.</p> -<h3 id="the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer">THE I-HAVE-STOPPED-BUT-I-HAVE-AN-OCCASIONAL-PEEK PMOer</h3> -<p>In a way such peeking PMOers are the most pathetic of all. Either they go through their lives believing they are being deprived or, more often, the occasional peek becomes two. They remain on the slippery slope and it goes only one way - DOWNWARDS. Sooner or later they are back to being heavy PMOers. They have fallen again for the very trap that they fell into in the first place.</p> +<h3 id="the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer">THE I-ONLY-PMO-TO-STATIC/TAME/HOME-MADE-PORN PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-only-pmo-to-statictamehome-made-porn-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>Yes, we all do it to start with but isn&rsquo;t it amazing how the average shock value of these clips seems rapidly to increase and before we know it we seem to be feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty is lacking in with static porn and we pay the mascot for a cup of grease and take the ride down the ‘porn water slide’ towards the dark spirals of resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is to use your partner&rsquo;s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because you are re-wiring your brain for the seeking, searching and variety induced dopamine flushes. The ‘porn water slides’ in the brain is the DeltaFosB built-up due to the dopamine surges induced by internet porn. But you will find yourself having weak and unreliable erections when you are with her in real time. Another genre in this category is ‘amateur’ or ‘home made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it. And you are not going to settle down and finish on the very first one that hits your eyes&hellip; you are going to continue to seek and search. Remember it’s not only the orgasms but the search-and-seek, the wandering, that gives the porn slide the surge, the ‘ride’. The porn content, whether amateur or professional or whatever is not the issue, it is the ‘brain flushes of dopamine’ during the search-and-seek - the building up of brain tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operations. Masturbation confuses the muscle-brain. Orgasms floods the brain and so it should be, better the risks involved in having one.</p> +<h3 id="the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer">THE I-HAVE-STOPPED-BUT-I-HAVE-AN-OCCASIONAL-PEEK PMOer <a class="anchor" href="#the-i-have-stopped-but-i-have-an-occasional-peek-pmoer"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>In a way such peeking PMOers are the most pathetic of all. Either they go through their lives believing they are being deprived or, more often, the occasional peek becomes two. They remain on the slippery slope and it goes only one way - DOWNWARDS. Sooner or later they are back to being heavy PMOers. They have fallen again for the very trap that they fell into in the first place.</p> <p>There are two other categories of casual PMOers. The first is the type who masturbates to images or clips of the latest celebrity sex tapes that hit the news. Or something they ‘carried home’ from their ‘accidental’ viewing at school or work. These people are really non-PMOers. It&rsquo;s just that they feel they are missing out. They want to be part of the action. We all start off like this. Next time watch how, after a while, the celebrity sex tape, the same star of your fantasy is not ‘doing it’ to you any more. The more ‘unattainable’ the target of your fantasy is, the more frustrating the withdrawal of the orgasm is.</p> <p>The second category is recently getting attention. The type can best be described by outlining a case shared online. A woman who is a professional, had been using internet porn stories for many years and had never PMOed more or less than one time every night. She was, incidentally, a very strong-willed lady. Most PMOers would wonder why she wanted to stop in the first place. They would gladly point out to her that there is no worries of PIED, or PE in her case as she is a women. She is using not even static images and the stories are far tamer than any they use on a daily basis.</p> <p>They make the mistake of assuming that casual PMOers are happier and more in control. In control they may be but happy they are not. In this case, she is not satisfied with her partner, not interested in real sex, highly irritable with her daily stress and strains. Her nearest-and-dearest could not find out what is bothering her. Even if she convinced herself not to be afraid of her use of internet porn by rationalizing, she still finds herself not being able to enjoy real relationships which almost invariably involve ups and downs. Her brain’s RC<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> is not able to make use of the normal de-stress brain chemicals as she is flooding dopamine into her brain on an everyday basis. The down regulation<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> of her brain receptors has rendered her melancholic most times. Like me, she had a great fear of internet porn’s dark side of the treatment of women- before her first time. Like me, she eventually fell victim to the massive social brainwash and tried that first porn site. Like me, she can remember the foul clips of violence staged as entertainment. Unlike me, who capitulated and became a chain-PMOer very quickly, she resisted the slide.</p> @@ -1913,8 +1969,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p </blockquote> <p>In addition to his other troubles, this poor man has no idea that he treating himself to a poison. First he is suffering the “forbidden fruit syndrome.” Next he is forcing his brain to flush dopamine. His dopamine receptors are not as cut down comparatively either. But he is sliding and greasing the porn slides, seeking and searching for edging, novelty, variety, shock-value, anxiety-value (“I must treat myself so that I can survive the next three days”) etc. You probably have visions of a pathetic imbecile. Not so. This man was over six feet tall and an ex-sergeant in the Marines. He was a former athlete and didn&rsquo;t want to become an addict to anything. However, when he returned from the war he was trained as a techie in a veterans rehab program. When he entered the civil work force he was a well paid IT professional in a bank and was given a laptop (one of the ways to ensure you take work home). It was the year that famous socialites ‘leaked’ their porn videos online. There was much talk about it. And he got hooked. He has spent the rest of his life paying through the nose and it has ruined him physically and mentally. If he were an animal, our society would have put him out of his misery, yet we still allow mentally and physically healthy young teenagers to become hooked. You may think the above case and my notes are exaggerated. It is extreme but not unique. There are literally thousands of similar stories. That man poured his heart out to me but you can be sure that many of his friends and acquaintances envied him for being a once-a-week man. If you think this couldn&rsquo;t happen to you, STOP KIDDING YOURSELF.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="it-is-already-happening"><strong>IT IS ALREADY HAPPENING.</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="it-is-already-happening"><strong>IT IS ALREADY HAPPENING.</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#it-is-already-happening"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>In any event, PMOers like other addicts are notorious liars, even to themselves. They have to be. Most casual PMOers indulge far more times and on far more occasions than they will admit to. I have had many conversations with so-called twice-a-week PMOers during which they have done it more than three times that week. If you read the Reddit or No-Fap forums of casual PMOers, they are either counting the days or waiting to fail. You do not need to envy casual PMOers. You do not need to PMO. Life is infinitely sweeter without PMO. One log says&hellip;</p> <blockquote> <p><em>“It started with a simple challenge to not touch my penis for a day. And being unable. I don&rsquo;t think about masturbation anymore. It doesn&rsquo;t cross my mind. That is possible, I promise you. And the riches that await those who are able - they&rsquo;re incredible.”</em></p> @@ -2015,8 +2072,9 @@ Get out of the habit of envying PMOers and start seeing them as the miserable, p </ol> <p>The other important point that cutting down demonstrates is that there is no such thing as the odd or occasional harem visit. Internet porn is a chain reaction that will last the rest of your life unless you make a positive effort to break it:</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="remember-cutting-down-will-drag-you-down"><strong>REMEMBER: CUTTING DOWN WILL DRAG YOU DOWN.</strong></h3> -</div><div class="footnotes" role="doc-endnotes"> +<h3 id="remember-cutting-down-will-drag-you-down"><strong>REMEMBER: CUTTING DOWN WILL DRAG YOU DOWN.</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#remember-cutting-down-will-drag-you-down"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div><div class="footnotes" role="doc-endnotes"> <hr> <ol> <li id="fn:1"> @@ -2337,14 +2395,16 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on this planet. Whether you believe in a creator, a process of natural selection or a combination of both, whatever being or system devised these bodies of ours, it is a thousand times more effective than man! Man cannot create the smallest living cell, let alone the miracle of eyesight, reproduction, our circulatory system or our brains. We don’t have our systems upgraded yet to properly assess the supranormal stimulus such as rich high density food or high speed internet novelty porn with multiple active windows.</p> <p>If the creator or process had intended us to handle novelty triggering stimuli, we would have been provided with some other brain reward circuits. Our bodies are, in fact, provided with fail-safe warning devices and we ignore these at our peril. Excessive edging results in body pain, irritation, and inflammation. In women, excessive flooding of dopamine and stress enzymes such as prostaglandin-E2 can cause difficulty to orgasm and PME.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up"><strong>There Is Nothing To Give Up</strong></h2> -</div> +<h2 id="there-is-nothing-to-give-up"><strong>There Is Nothing To Give Up</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#there-is-nothing-to-give-up"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.</p> <p>The problem I have is to make a convincing point as I’d have done for, let us say&hellip; smokers? All of us have seen smokers who develop excuses to sneak off for a crafty puff. It is easy to see the true addiction in action. Addicts do not do it because they enjoy it. They do it because they are miserable without it.</p> <p>Because many of us started out our first sexual experience that ended in an orgasm and we acquired the belief that we cannot enjoy sex without an orgasm. And for men, porn is sold as an aid towards sex, sometimes even as an education to be confident during the act of sex. It used to be static, but now we have supranormal internet porn. But this is nonsense. Internet porn takes away your confidence.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="women-and-porn"><strong>Women And Porn</strong></h2> -</div> +<h2 id="women-and-porn"><strong>Women And Porn</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#women-and-porn"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn&rsquo;t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.</p> <p>Porn and internet porn does not help your sex life; it destroys it totally. Having to hide your internet footprints, trying to delete your history, fearing accidental exposure to your boyfriend or kids, body pains, doubtful symptoms, fighting self doubts, arguing with yourself about your responsibilities in the ill effects of your addiction&hellip; well, why do you want to put yourself in such a bad situation?</p> <p>Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous positive gains to be had. When PMOers contemplate quitting they tend to concentrate on health and virility. These are obviously valid and important issues but I personally believe the greatest gains from stopping are psychological:</p> @@ -2355,8 +2415,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> </ol> <p>Not only is life better as a non-PMOer but it is infinitely more enjoyable. I do not only mean you will be healthier. I mean you will be happier and enjoy life far more. The marvellous gains from being a non-PMOer are discussed in the next few chapters. Some PMOers find it difficult to appreciate the concept of the &lsquo;void&rsquo; and the following analogy may assist you.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"><strong>Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void!</strong></h2> -</div> +<h2 id="void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"><strong>Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#void-the-void-the-beautiful-void"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I&rsquo;ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can&rsquo;t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.</p> <p>By now you are completely dependent on the ointment. You never go out without ensuring that you have a tube of the ointment with you. If you go abroad, you make sure that you take several tubes with you. Now, in addition to your worries about your health, I&rsquo;m charging you $100 per tube. You have no choice but to pay.</p> <p>You then read in the medical column of your newspaper that this isn&rsquo;t happening just to you; many other people have been suffering from the same problem. In fact, pharmacists have discovered that the ointment doesn&rsquo;t actually cure the sore. All that it does is to take the sore beneath the surface of the skin. It is the ointment that has caused the sore to grow. All you have to do to get rid of the sore is to stop using the ointment. The sore will eventually disappear in due course.</p> @@ -2494,15 +2555,17 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>We can have an ‘information overload’ from the same internet but our reward circuits are not going to squirt dopamine at the levels when ‘porn overload’ is involved. We are evolutionarily programmed to seek and access sex related stuff. And we wrongly appraise the stimulus mostly based on this reward circuit action. If all you wanted is to masturbate why can’t you just use one clip and get the business done?</p> <p>Here is another question - next time after a long day or some stressful incident can you consciously embellish your self-talk with “Do you know what I would really enjoy today? The marvellous warm glow of dopamine rush going to my online harem.” You will find that even people who dislike PMO will join you.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="past-misguided-advice"><strong>Past Misguided Advice</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="past-misguided-advice"><strong>Past Misguided Advice</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#past-misguided-advice"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>There was much misguided advice given in the past and one is that masturbating will lead to blindness. And there are some other scare tactics that clearly over-did it. It is right that those notions were overthrown by science. But now the mainstream threw the baby out with the bath water. TV programs, pop music, literature and movies all subtly show shambolic characters using porn or masturbation. They knowingly or unknowingly mix porn, sex, internet porn, masturbation and orgasm.</p> <p>From our earliest years our subconscious minds are bombarded daily with information telling us that sex is good and that the most precious thing on this earth is to ‘achieve’ orgasm. Girls are taught to achieve it and claim it&rsquo;s because they were wrongly suppressed of their sexual side for a very long time and still are. You think I exaggerate? Watch any TV or movie plot and you will see the mix-up of the amative (touch, smell, voice etc.) and the propagative (orgasmic) sides of sex. The impact of this does not register on our conscious minds but the sleeping partner, the subconscious mind, has time to absorb it. What the message is really saying is, “The most precious thing on this earth, my last thought and action, will be the goal of orgasm.” If you don’t have an orgasm then you are an old man with zero libido.</p> <p>Our children are being bombarded by sex and porn clips and many don’t even know how to protect them from it all. Large hoardings and magazine adverts are loaded with sexual innuendo. Some of the pop videos are extremely suggestive - again they hide behind free speech. Don’t be vexed and feel powerless about it. Make it a game and find you which of the components they are using - is it novelty, shock value, color, size, taboo etc. If the kids are pre-teen some of these can be disclosed to them and it would make an excellent show-and-tell game.</p> <p>A while back there was a wave of ‘leaked’ private videos of celebrities on the internet. If the youngster is too smitten by their favourite star, even if the conscious mind blames the ‘leak’ on the blood thirsty internet paparazzi, the &lsquo;sleeping partner&rsquo; is patiently digesting the notion that, “yes, even my shambolic hero does it and if I don’t, I won’t look the part.”</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-scientific-reasoning"><strong>The Scientific Reasoning</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-scientific-reasoning"><strong>The Scientific Reasoning</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-scientific-reasoning"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>True, there is publicity the other way - the PIED scares, the loss of motivation, preferring virtual porn to real girls, YBOP<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup>, Reboot<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> forums, underground PUA<sup id="fnref:3"><a href="#fn:3" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">3</a></sup>, the no FAP movement - but these do not actually stop people PMOing. Logically they should, but the fact is they do not. They would not even prevent youngsters from starting no matter how much the YBOP guys try. All the years that I remained a PMOer, I can honestly say, even if I had read all of them before, I would never have become a quitter. The truth is that it doesn&rsquo;t make the slightest bit of difference. The trap is the same today as when you fell into it.</p> <p>Ironically, the most powerful force in this melee of confusion is the PMOer himself. It is a fallacy that they are weak-willed or are physically weak specimens. You have to be physically strong in order to cope with an addiction after you know it is. This is one of the reasons why PMOers refuse to accept the overwhelming statistics that prove that internet porn with its ‘novelty’ cripples your brain. Add to that the sexologists who are doing half-baked studies and declare PMO is not an issue - they just help to add to the confusion.</p> <p>Everyone knows a friend who PMOed every day - he started with the ‘static’ to internet porn, always horny in real life, chasing girls and you never doubted him to have sex problems of course. You want to believe him. He never complained about any ED right? Guys and girls like them refuse even to consider the hundreds of ex-addicts and non-PMOers who painfully recount their difficulties. It is the “little monster” brain chemical addiction and the “big monster” - illusions and delusions. In this hackbook, I&rsquo;ve put together almost all the sorts of brainwashing a PMOer can suffer from. There will always be a few out there that I haven&rsquo;t touched upon.</p> @@ -2510,8 +2573,9 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>If you do a small survey among your online forum members, friends and colleagues, you will find that most PMOers are, in fact, strong-willed people. They tend to be self-employed, business executives or in certain specialized professions, such as doctors<sup id="fnref:4"><a href="#fn:4" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">4</a></sup>, lawyers, policemen, teachers, salesmen, nurses, secretaries, housewives with children, etc. In other words, anybody leading a stressful existence. Yes, I did include women and mothers. It’s the brain and it’s the same for them too. The main delusion of the PMOer is that porn helps to masturbate to orgasm and that relieves stress. This tends to be associated with the dominant type, the type that takes on responsibility and stress and, of course, that is the type that we admire and therefore tend to copy. Another group that tends to get hooked are people in monotonous jobs because the other main reason for PMOing is boredom. However, the idea that internet porn relieves boredom is also an illusion, I am afraid.</p> <p>As a society we get all uptight about glue-sniffing, heroin addiction, etc. Actual deaths from glue-sniffing do not amount to ten per annum, and deaths from heroin are less than a hundred a year in this country. There is another drug, internet porn, on which over 45 per cent of us become hooked at some time in our lives and the majority spend the rest of their lives regretting it. Some even don’t know that their ED is due to this.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-willpower-method"><strong>The Willpower Method</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-willpower-method"><strong>The Willpower Method</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-willpower-method"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>PMOers who quit using the Willpower method blame their own lack of willpower and ruin their peace and happiness. It is one thing to fail in self-discipline and another to self-loathe. There is no law that requires you to get fully hard all the time before sex, and to be properly aroused, and that you must be able to satisfy a woman. We are working on an addiction and not a habit. Habit is something you like to do- for example, golf - at no point you are arguing with yourself to stop golfing? But you do so with your porn addiction. The real question is: why?</p> <p>Constant exposure to internet porn re-wires your brain. You need to start building resistance to this brainwashing, just as if you were buying a car from a second-hand car dealer. You would be nodding politely but you would not believe a word the man was saying. So don’t believe everything they say either - that you must have sex as much as you can and you must have it exceptional good. And that in the absence of real sex you claim it by the substitute called internet porn - which is only a component of the good old porn.</p> <p>And don’t play ‘safe’ porn game either - because your “little porn monster” invented that scheme to lure you. Even the content - ‘amateur’? Really? Is there a certification authority that certifies it? Tube sites and porn producers gather site visitor profiles and cater to their needs. If they see a trend in crowd sourced collection of a particular genre they will focus on that and get content out ASAP. The statistics of what genre users like is collected to the level of how long and which portion the users were preferring. Do not be fooled by their educational intent or the safe female oriented clips (for you ladies). Start asking yourself:</p> @@ -2523,22 +2587,25 @@ pleasure.”</em></p> <p>I find this brainwashing aspect the most difficult of all to explain. Why is it that an otherwise rational, intelligent human being becomes a complete imbecile about his own addiction? It pains me to confess that out of the thousands of people that I have assisted in kicking the habit, I (not Allen Carr) was the biggest idiot of all.</p> <p>At the age of thirteen, although I was doing well at school and games, I was still an insufferable introvert. I read books from the library that were not within my main study list. However, I can see that I was attracted to erotica. I started masturbating to TV programs, song and dance sequences etc. I must have to have it every day. The tired feeling I felt was misappropriated by my ‘little porn monster’ as work stress. I didn’t know my “I-must-masturbate-as-I-am-entitled” attitude was the one that created the ‘stress’ in the first place. Then I got pictures and GIFs via email on my laptop - the first step towards electronic porn. The colour and texture of the images were amazing for me at that time - won’t be now for sure. Then came dial-up but still they were predominantly static pictures. Then came downloadable videos. It’s a pain to download and watch now - but it was heaven sent then as we were coming out of the static porn era! Oh, the streaming tube sites haven’t arrived yet.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"><strong>When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"><strong>When Real Sex Is Not Enough Anymore</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#when-real-sex-is-not-enough-anymore"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>I even remember opening up my laptop after having real sex (an activity I did due to stress induced by my own irrational rigid self demands to make her orgasm) and I was wanting more. Obviously the prospect of orgasm providing fulfilment rarely happens after prolonged porn use. So, my mind was reaching out to porn.</p> <p>At the age of forty, I was visiting my online harem daily, drinking ‘socially’ (whatever that means) and smoking ‘sometimes’ but not so often. I had wrongly subscribed to misguided ideas of ‘moderation’ and ‘entitlement’. I had reached the stage where I couldn&rsquo;t get through a single day without reaching out to porn in the night. With most PMOers, the triggers are the normal stresses of life, like answering the telephone or socializing.</p> <p>When I experienced PIED - I knew it was killing my virility. There was no way I could kid myself otherwise. I am smart enough not to ‘project’ the porn fantasies on to real life. But it was like pacifying a dog straining at its leash. But why I couldn&rsquo;t see what it was doing to me mentally, I could not understand. It was almost jumping up and biting me on the nose. The ridiculous thing is that most PMOers suffer the delusion at some time in their life that they enjoy internet porn because it is ‘normal’ and ‘healthy’. I never suffered that delusion, I PMOed because I thought enjoying sex is a ‘birthright’ and I am only doing a normal thing.</p> <p>Since it was easier at most times for me to get internet porn than a partner I thought I am doing the normal thing. Now I am a non-PMOer, the most difficult part is trying to believe that those days actually happened. It&rsquo;s like awakening from a nightmare and that is about the size of it. Internet porn is a supranormal drug. It is weakening your de-stressing mechanisms, your virility and your energy. The worst aspect of PMO isn&rsquo;t the injury to your health or manliness, it is the warping of the mind. You search for any plausible excuse to go on.</p> <p>I remember at one stage switching to static images, a failed attempt to cut down on internet porn, in the belief that it was less harmful and I could reign in my ‘habit’. I failed to see the ‘novelty’ and the ‘shock’ demands from my ‘little monster’ to just get more dopamine. Did I ‘stay’ within my boundaries? I ‘favorited’ 2 dimensional photos and my harem collection saw pictures and videos of ‘mild’ type porn rotating in and out like musical chair. When their ‘music’ stopped they ‘exited’. I didn’t understand the novelty-seeking, shock-seeking nature of my brain.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pied-and-my-excuses"><strong>PIED And My Excuses</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="pied-and-my-excuses"><strong>PIED And My Excuses</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pied-and-my-excuses"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Once I figured I had PIED, as it had occurred multiple times with two different partners, I switched to more and more sophisticated masturbation. I practised with different artificial vaginas. They are sold as strength training. However, the combo of internet porn and toys needs deft hands, which is off-putting. Besides, by this time I was at the stage of orgasming with a limp member. All I wanted is an orgasm so I did not care about arousal, getting hard and all that. I had a long distance married girlfriend - who likes to share and talk about her sex life in very explicit manner. It turned me on so much that I’d masturbate to orgasm when I am on the phone with her. She knew it and would play with me by cutting off abruptly - to keep me hanging there - making me wanting more when she calls the next time. She had no trouble because I was fully willing to be the subject of playing such games, as long as it led to orgasm. A girl knows when a guy is seeking orgasm and it is his only goal. The only redeeming factor about me was my intelligence and empathy which kept her and my other partners coming back to me.</p> <p>Most PMOers swear that they only watch static and soft porn and so they are OK. They are actually straining at the leash and thus fighting with their willpower to resist temptations. If they do this too often and for too long they will debit their willpower considerably and fail in other life projects where willpower is of much great value, like in daily exercise, dieting etc. Continuous failure in those areas will make them feel miserable and guilty and very soon they will find themselves back to their entitled relief. If not, they will vent their anger and depression onto their loved ones.</p> <p>The answer is that once you have become addicted to internet porn, the brainwashing is increased. Your subconscious mind knows that the little monster has to be fed and you block everything else from your mind. As I have already stated, it is fear that keeps people quitting, the fear of that empty, insecure feeling that you get when you stop supplying the brain with dopamine flooding. Just because you are not aware of it doesn&rsquo;t mean it isn&rsquo;t there. You don&rsquo;t have to understand it any more than a cat needs to understand where the under-floor hot-water pipes are. It just knows that if it sits in a certain place it gets the feeling of warmth.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind"><strong>The Passivity Of Our Mind</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-passivity-of-our-mind"><strong>The Passivity Of Our Mind</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-passivity-of-our-mind"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>It is the passivity of our minds and dependency on authority leading to brainwashing that is the main difficulty in giving up PMO. The brainwashing of our upbringing in society reinforced with the brainwashing from our own addiction and, most powerful of all, the brainwashing of our friends, relatives and colleagues. Did you notice that up to now I&rsquo;ve frequently referred to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo; PMO, I used the expression at the beginning of the previous paragraph. This is a classic example of the brainwashing. The expression implies a genuine sacrifice. The beautiful truth is that there is absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, you will be freeing yourself from a terrible disease and achieving marvellous positive gains. We are going to start removing this brainwashing now. From this point on, no longer will we refer to &lsquo;giving up&rsquo;, but to stopping, quitting or the true position: <strong>ESCAPING!</strong></p> <p>The only thing that persuades us to PMO in the first place is all the other people doing it. We feel we are missing out. We work so hard to become hooked, yet nobody ever finds out what they have been missing. But every time we see another new video clip it reassures us that there must be something in it, otherwise people wouldn&rsquo;t be doing it - and it wouldn&rsquo;t be such big business all over the world. Even when he has kicked the habit, the ex-PMOer feels he is being deprived when a discussion on a sexy entertainer, singer or even a porn star comes up at a party or other social function. She or he must be good to have all my friends talk about them, no? Do they have ‘hot’ pictures of her in my tube site? He feels safe. He can have just one ‘peek’ that night. And, before he knows it, he is hooked again.</p> <p>This brainwashing is extremely powerful and you need to be aware of its effects. I have heard scare stories about wicked men giving heroin mixed candies to kids at schoolyards. The concept of addiction and being compelled to go on taking the drug, filled me with horror. Even to this day, in spite of the fact that I am fairly convinced that &lsquo;pot&rsquo; is not addictive, I would not dare take one puff of marijuana. How ironic that I should have ended up a porn junky. Technology will continue to grow and we will have even faster tube sites and more faster access methods. The industry is investing millions in Virtual Reality so it will become the next best thing. The point is, do we know where we are going? Are we equipped with an under armour of defence so we can enjoy the benefits of technology yet at the same time protect ourselves from its bad effects?</p> @@ -2586,8 +2653,9 @@ action more happy feelings.</p> <p>So the first time you see porn - dopamine injects itself - you act - you orgasm. All of which will now be stored as a script in your brain for easy access next time. I call this a ‘water slide’. Next time at the cue - a sexy commercial or alone time or stress or feeling a little down - you are ready to take a ride on the ‘water slide’. One more thing is that every time to repeat this you are ‘greasing’ it as well - so it is active, alive and more easier to slide the next time.</p> <p>As time passes you are most probably not excited as before of the same clip - the reason will be explained shortly - but of similar type, genre, shock-level, our dopamine seeps into the brain but this time lesser than before. Now you feel less arousal, lesser motivation. This low motivation feeling in itself will trigger a feeling of lower satisfaction as our minds engage in constant rating. Then you seek more motivation. Then you ask for more novelty. Then you click on that amateurish, ugly looking, low quality, but high shock valued clip thumbnail which you had confidently said you won’t on your first time.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="my-own-online-harem"><strong>My Own Online Harem!</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="my-own-online-harem"><strong>My Own Online Harem!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#my-own-online-harem"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>This cycle of novelty, escalation, satiation, desensitization etc. is not the same as the old porn magazine? Neither can you do that in real life with your partner. Maybe if you own a harem? One of the pros of owning a harem is novelty and the cons are desensitization, escalation and of course the cost.</p> <p>Going back to the earlier discussion - in this cycle as you crossed the ‘red line’ you also trigger emotions such as guilt, disgust, embarrassment, anxiety and fear - which in turn raise dopamine levels as well. Now the brain may mistakenly associate feelings of anxiety and fear as sexual arousal. This perpetual cycle is only broken by natural causes - fortunately sooner or later. With its free access and privacy it provides boundless harem-like novelty. The dopamine can be theoretically kept very high for a very very long time. I can be satisfied with one lobster once in awhile. But Internet porn is different. It is even worse than drugs. Don’t let me make you nervous. I will shortly show you how to be free from this slavery.</p> <p>Now our human body has a self-correcting system by which the number of dopamine and opioid receptors are cut short when frequent and daily ‘flooding’ of dopamine is detected. Unfortunately - these receptors are also needed for receiving dopamine and to keep us even and balanced to handle the inevitable and normal day-to-day stresses. But this natural nominal amount of dopamine will not be absorbed efficiently with decreased receptors and you will feel mores tressed and irritated than normal.</p> @@ -2601,14 +2669,16 @@ action more happy feelings.</p> use?</p> <p>This dopamine flooding, like a quick-acting drug, falls quickly to induce withdrawal pangs. I must at this point dispel a common illusion that PMOers have about withdrawal pangs. They think that withdrawal pangs are the terrible trauma they suffer when they try or are forced to stop PMOing. These are, in fact, mainly mental; the user is feeling deprived of his pleasure or prop. I will explain more about this later.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-little-monster"><strong>The Little Monster</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-little-monster"><strong>The Little Monster</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-little-monster"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>The actual pangs of withdrawal from PMO are so subtle that most users have lived and died without even realizing they are like drug addicts. When we use the term ‘porn addict&rsquo; we think we just &lsquo;got into the habit&rsquo;. Most PMOers have a horror of drugs, yet that&rsquo;s exactly what they are - drug addicts. Fortunately it is an easy drug to kick, but you need first to accept that you are addicted. There is no physical pain in the withdrawal from PMO. It is merely an empty, restless feeling, the feeling of something missing, which is why many think it is something to do with their hands. If it is prolonged, the user becomes nervous, insecure, agitated, lacking in confidence and irritable. It is like hunger - for a poison, INTERNET PORN.</p> <p>Within seconds of engaging in PMO the dopamine is supplied and the craving ends, resulting in the feeling of fulfilment and pleasure that the action gives to the PMOer. In the early days, when we first start PMOing, the withdrawal pangs and their relief are so slight that we are not even aware that they exist. When we begin to masturbate regularly to internet porn we think it is because we&rsquo;ve either come to enjoy them or got into the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. The truth is we&rsquo;re already hooked; we do not realize it, but that little monster is already inside our stomach and every now and again we have to feed it.</p> <p>All PMOers start seeking porn for stupid reasons. Nobody has to. The only reason why anybody continues PMOing, whether they be a casual or a heavy user, is to feed that little monster. The whole business of porn and PMO is a series of confusing conundrums. All sufferers of PMO know at heart that they are fools and have been trapped by something evil. However, I think the most pathetic aspect about this is that the enjoyment that the PMOer gets from a session is the pleasure of trying to get back to the state of peace, tranquillity and confidence that his body had before he became hooked in the first place.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm"><strong>The Annoying Burglar Alarm</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-annoying-burglar-alarm"><strong>The Annoying Burglar Alarm</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-annoying-burglar-alarm"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>You know that feeling when a neighbour’s burglar alarm has been ringing all day, or there has been some other minor, persistent aggravation. Then the noise suddenly stops - that marvellous feeling of peace and tranquillity is experienced. It is not really peace but the ending of the aggravation. Before we start the next PMO session, our bodies are complete. We then force our brains to pump dopamine into the body using PMO, and when we are done orgasming and the dopamine starts to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs - not physical pain, just an empty feeling. We are not even aware that it exists, but it is like a dripping tap inside our bodies. Our rational minds do not understand it. They do not need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes, and for the moment we are content and confident again just as we were before we became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to relieve the craving you have to get more porn. As soon as you orgasm the craving starts again and so the chain goes on. It is a chain for life - <strong>UNLESS YOU BREAK IT</strong>.</p> <p>The whole business of PMO is like wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure you feel when you take them off. There are three main reasons why PMOers cannot see things that way:</p> @@ -2621,8 +2691,9 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <p>The heroin doesn&rsquo;t relieve it. On the contrary, it causes it. Non-PMOers - say a 14 year old in 2008 - didn&rsquo;t suffer the empty feeling of needing internet porn or start to panic when they are off- line. Non-PMOers cannot understand how PMOers can possibly obtain pleasure from two dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. And do you know something? PMOers themselves cannot understand why they do it after some time either.</p> <p>We talk about internet porn being relaxing or giving satisfaction. But how can you be satisfied unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? Why don&rsquo;t non-PMOer suffer from this dissatisfied state and why, after a no-sex date, when the non-PMOers are completely relaxed, are PMOers completely unrelaxed until they have satisfied their &rsquo;little monster&rsquo;?</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch"><strong>A Pleasure or Crutch?</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="a-pleasure-or-crutch"><strong>A Pleasure or Crutch?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#a-pleasure-or-crutch"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Forgive me if I dwell on this subject for a moment. The main reason that PMOers find it difficult to quit is that they believe that they are giving up a genuine pleasure or crutch. It is absolutely essential to understand that you are giving up nothing whatsoever. The best way to understand the subtleties of the PMO trap is to compare it with eating. If we are in the habit of eating regular meals, we are not aware of being hungry between meals. Only if the meal is delayed are we aware of being hungry, and even then, there is no physical pain, just an empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;I need to eat.&rsquo; And the process of satisfying our hunger is a very pleasantpastime.</p> <p>PMOing appears to be almost identical. The empty, insecure feeling which we know as: &lsquo;wanting or needing an PMO orgasm’ is identical to a hunger for food, although one will not satisfy the other. Like hunger, there is no physical pain and the feeling is so imperceptible that we are not even aware of it between PMO sessions. It&rsquo;s only if we want to masturbate and aren&rsquo;t able to reach internet for porn that we become aware of any discomfort. But when we do PMO we feel satisfied.</p> <p>It is this similarity to eating which helps to fool PMOers into believing that they receive some genuine pleasure. Some PMOers find it very difficult to grasp that there is no pleasure or crutch, whatsoever to PMO. Some argue: “How can you say there is no crutch? When I orgasm up then I&rsquo;llfeel less nervous than before.”</p> @@ -2633,13 +2704,15 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <li>Eating doesn&rsquo;t create hunger and genuinely relieves it, whereas the first PMO starts the craving for dopamine and each subsequent one, far from relieving it, ensures that you suffer it for the rest of life.</li> </ol> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="pmo-is-a-habit"><strong>PMO is a Habit?</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="pmo-is-a-habit"><strong>PMO is a Habit?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#pmo-is-a-habit"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>This is an opportune moment to dispel another common myth about PMO - that it is a habit. Is eating a habit? If you think so, try breaking it completely. No, to describe eating as a habit would be the same as describing breathing as a habit. Both are essential for survival. It is true that different people are in the habit of satisfying their hunger at different times and with varying types of food. But eating itself is not a habit. Neither is PMO. The only reason any PMOer fires up the browser is to try to end the empty, insecure feeling that the previous orgasm and the PMO session created. It is true that different PMOers are in the habit of trying to relieve their withdrawal pangs at different times, but PMO itself is not a habit.</p> <p>On the internet they frequently refer to PMO as a habit and in this hackbook, for convenience, I also refer to the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;. However, be constantly aware that it is not habit, on the contrary it is no more nor less than DRUG ADDICTION! When we start to PMO we have to force ourselves to learn to cope with it. Before we know it, we are ‘escalating’<sup id="fnref:1"><a href="#fn:1" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">1</a></sup> - we have to then have more bizarre and more shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting&hellip; not in the killing. If we don&rsquo;t then panic sets in and as we go through life we tend to novelty-seek more and more. Worse is when this seeking of higher shock level get into our real life. Have you heard about people suffering from PIED, that too in solo? How about wet dreams and fantasies where you are not even there but only involving others? There is no performance stress but I am not even getting hard. Great!</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="crossing-the-red-line"><strong>Crossing The Red Line</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="crossing-the-red-line"><strong>Crossing The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#crossing-the-red-line"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>This is because, as with any other drug, the body tends to develop immunity to the effects of the same old porn clips and our brain wants more or something else. After quite a short period of watching the same clip it ceases to relieve completely the withdrawal pangs that the previous PMO session had created. You want to stay on the safe side of your own ‘red line’ but your brain is asking you to click on that ‘forbidden fruit’ clip. There is a tug of war occurring in this supposed porn paradise.</p> <p>You feel better than you did before starting this PMO session but you are in fact more nervous and less relaxed than you would be as a non-PMOer, like someone who is living in Loma Linda or in an Amish village, even though you are actually PMOing and living in your supposed “porn paradise.” This position is even more ridiculous than wearing tight shoes because as you go through life an increasing amount of the discomfort remains even when the shoes are removed.</p> <p>Once the orgasm is achieved, the dopamine rapidly begins to leave the brain, causing a mood dip. Which explains why the PMOer wants to ‘edge’<sup id="fnref:2"><a href="#fn:2" class="footnote-ref" role="doc-noteref">2</a></sup> and switch through multiple browser windows as they seek and search. As I said, the ‘habit’ doesn&rsquo;t exist. The real reason why every user goes on using internet porn is because of that little porn monster inside his stomach. Every now and again he has to feed it. The PMOer himself will decide when he does that and it tends to be on four types of occasion or a combination of them.</p> @@ -2651,20 +2724,23 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to <p>What magic drug can suddenly reverse the very effect it had minutes before? If you think about it, what other types of occasion are there in our lives; apart from sleep? The truth is that PMO neither relieves boredom and stress nor promotes concentration and relaxation. It is all just illusion. Apart from being a drug, PMO is also a destroyer of happiness and virility.</p> <p>In case you have ideas of toning down to other more ‘realistic’ or ‘soft’ genres of porn and such, I should make it quite clear that the content of this book applies to all porn, yes, that includes, print, webcams, pay-per-views, chat, live shows etc. that is on high speed internet where ‘novelty’ and ‘shock’ is the nature of the game. Imagination goes farther than reality. The human body is the most sophisticated object on our planet. No species, even the lowest amoeba or worm, can survive without knowing the difference between food and poison.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"><strong>Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"><strong>Brain Reward Circuit Mechanics</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#brain-reward-circuit-mechanics"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Through a process of natural selection over thousand of years, our minds and bodies have developed techniques for rewarding actions that multiply and sustain humanity. Yet our minds and bodies are not ready for the supernormal stimulus that is bigger, brighter, colourful, edgier and more shocking than the one we have now. We are attracted proportional to the degree of how far the outlier is from our individual normal. It can be two dimensional clip - and a muted one at that - we will get aroused. Look at the same clip again and again and you won’t be. You just moved your red line close to the outlier and in no time you will enclose it in your normal consciousness. It is natural and it is so that you can multiply and grow this human race. In real life there are checks and balances in place so you take a break and go away do something else. With internet porn you there are no such checks and balances and you are living in a virtual harem!</p> <p>When we took a ‘peep’ at internet porn the first time, a few images were titillating but most were disgusting, causing you to avert your eyes away. Like you would if had accidentally glanced a feeding mother’s breast. And some of us are even revolted with what they saw when the star reminded them of someone dear to their heart or a scene which recalled their own instance of being the victim. Some don’t feel like it to browse and masturbate at the same time. It may be hard to believe for you but the non-PMOs, who don’t PMO after their first time, are the lucky ones. They actually decided that it was not their cup of tea. It must be hard for you to believe but stay with me.</p> <p>How many of us don’t visit brothels - even when you are far from home? Why not? It’s not the social stigma? How many of us did not bring home a bottle on your way back from work - even after a hard day? Why not? You ‘deserve’ it after that big deal you made? You just decided, after your first instance, that it’s not your cup of tea. That&rsquo;s all.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak"><strong>Are PMOers Mentally Weak?</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="are-pmoers-mentally-weak"><strong>Are PMOers Mentally Weak?</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#are-pmoers-mentally-weak"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>It is a fallacy that physically weak and mentally weak-willed people become PMOers. The lucky ones are those who find that first instance repulsive and they are cured for life. Or, alternatively, they are not mentally prepared to go through the severe learning process of fighting the obstructions of self-talking themselves to get hooked, fear of ‘getting caught’, not technical enough to create an online cache, operate privacy settings in the browser etc.</p> <p>To me this is the most tragic part of this whole business. How hard we worked to become hooked, and this is why it is difficult to stop teenagers. Because they are skilled in seeking and finding material, they know online privacy options and can clean their tracks - if they still feel some stigma and they (wrongfully) believe they can stop whenever they want to. Why do they not learn from us? Then again, why did we not learn from our PMOers and addicts?</p> <p>Many PMOers believe they enjoy online internet porn. It is an illusion. What we are actually doing when we jump from genre to genre is to keep our ‘novelty’ monkey within the ‘red line’ of ‘safe’ porn genres to get our dopamine fix, like heroin addicts who think that they enjoy injecting themselves. The withdrawal pangs from heroin are relatively severe and all they are really enjoying is the ritual of relieving those pangs.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"><strong>The High From The Dance Around The Red Line</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"><strong>The High From The Dance Around The Red Line</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-high-from-the-dance-around-the-red-line"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>Even with that one clip on which he lingers longer - the PMOer constantly teaches himself to filter out the bad and ugly portions of a porn clip. Even if it is solo, you still do the ‘filtering’ on the body parts that appeal to you the most. In fact some even take pleasure in this game to find an excuse to declare that they like ‘soft’ stuff and are not addicted to supranormal stimuli. Sometimes even this constant dance around the red line in itself produces a sort of high as well.</p> <p>Ask a user who believes that he sticks to a certain actor or genre - only because he likes something about the star or the theme (if any) of the clip: “If you cannot get your normal brand of porn and can only obtain a poor or unsafe brand, do you stop masturbating?” No way. A PMOer will masturbate to anything rather than abstain and it doesn&rsquo;t matter if he has to switch to escalating themes, different sex-orientation-themes, look-alike actresses, dangerous settings shocking relationships etc. To begin with they taste awful but if you persevere you will learn to like them. Most PMOers will also try to seek masturbation even after having real sex (unfulfilment, porn-induced unrealistic expectations etc.), or after a long, stressful work day, fever, colds, flu, sore throats and even when admitted in hospitals.</p> <p>Enjoyment has nothing to do with it after the initial few minutes. If sex is wanted then it makes no sense to be with your laptop. During my conversation some PMOers find it alarming to realize they are drug addicts and think it will make it even more difficult to stop. In fact, it is all good news for two important reasons:</p> @@ -2674,14 +2750,16 @@ became addicted. However, the satisfaction is only temporary because in order to </ol> <p>You will quite rightly ask why it is that many PMOers find it so difficult to stop, go through months of torture and spend the rest of their lives pining for it at odd times. The answer is the second reason why we use Internet porn - the brainwashing. The brain-chemical addiction is easy to cope with. Most PMOers go days without online porn - when they are on business trips or travel etc. The withdrawal pangs don’t affect them. Their little porn monster knows that you will open your laptop as soon as you return to hotel room or your den. Ah, you can even survive this obnoxious client and your megalomaniac manager - just ‘knowing’ that the fix is there for your take. It doesn&rsquo;t bother the PMOers.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-smokers-analogy"><strong>The Smokers Analogy</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-smokers-analogy"><strong>The Smokers Analogy</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-smokers-analogy"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>A good analogy is the situation of smokers - if they went ten hours during the day without a cigarette they&rsquo;d be tearing their hair out. Many smokers will buy a new car nowadays and refrain from smoking in it. Many will visit theatres, supermarkets, churches, etc. and not being able to smoke doesn&rsquo;t bother them. Even on the trains there have been no riots. Smokers are almost pleased for someone or something to force them to stop smoking.</p> <p>PMOers will automatically refrain from using internet porn in the home of their parents while visiting for family get togethers etc. with little discomfort to themselves. In fact, most PMOers have extended periods during which they abstain without effort. Even in my case I would quite happily go a week or so without a PMO incident. In the later years as a PMOer I actually used to look forward to these days when I could stop choking my penis (what a ridiculous &lsquo;habit&rsquo;).</p> <p>The brain chemical addiction (little monster) is easy to cope with, even when you are still addicted, and there are thousands of PMOers who remain casual users all their lives. They are just as heavily addicted as the heavy PMOer. There are even heavy PMOers who have kicked the &lsquo;habit&rsquo; but will have an occasional ‘peek’, and that keeps them addicted. You are ‘greasing’ the ‘water slide’ of the brain only to see you slide down at the next dip in your mood.</p> <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h3 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"><strong>The Big Monster - The Brainwashing</strong></h3> -</div> +<h3 id="the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"><strong>The Big Monster - The Brainwashing</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-big-monster---the-brainwashing"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3></div> <p>You are smart enough to know (aside, I will explain shortly why PMOers are in fact a strong willed and hard working bunch) that not all porn workers get a W-2 with 401k and stock options. Only a very rare actor and that too for a very short period of time of their career may be.</p> <p>Not all the amateurs are ‘amateurs’ on these tube sites, oversized body parts and overcharged scenarios are the norm, aided by a bit of the ‘viagran’ help.</p> <p>As I say, the actual porn addiction is not the main problem. It just acts as a catalyst to keep our minds confused over the real problem: the brainwashing. It may be of consolation to lifelong and heavy PMOers to know that it is just as easy for them to stop as casual PMOers. In a peculiar way. it is easier. The further you go along with the &lsquo;habit&rsquo;, the more it drags you down and the greater the gain when you stop.</p> @@ -2911,8 +2989,9 @@ Do not take anything for granted. Question not only what I tell you but also you https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/02-01-introduction/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h2 id="im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo">&lsquo;I&rsquo;M GOING TO CURE THE WORLD OF PMO&rsquo;</h2> -</div> +<h2 id="im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo">&lsquo;I&rsquo;M GOING TO CURE THE WORLD OF PMO&rsquo; <a class="anchor" href="#im-going-to-cure-the-world-of-pmo"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2></div> <p>I was talking to my mentor. He thought that I had flipped. Understandable if you consider that he had watched me fail on numerous attempts to quit. The most recent had been two years previously. I&rsquo;d actually survived six months of sheer purgatory before I finally succumbed and found myself clicking on stacked up tabs of porn sites. I&rsquo;m not ashamed to admit that I cried like a baby. I was crying because I knew that I was condemned to be an addict for life. I&rsquo;d put so much effort into that attempt and suffered so much misery that I knew I would never have the strength to go through that ordeal again. I&rsquo;m not a violent man, but if some patronizing non-PMO’er had been stupid enough at that moment to suggest to me that all users can find it easy to quit, immediately and permanently, I would not have been responsible for my actions. However, I&rsquo;m convinced that any jury in the world, comprised of PMOers only, would have pardoned me on the grounds of justifiable homicide.</p> <p>Perhaps you too find it impossible to believe that any PMOer can find it easy to quit. If so, I beg you not to cast this book into the rubbish bin. Please trust me. I assure you that you can find it easy to quit.</p> @@ -3049,21 +3128,30 @@ porn and or masturbation&#160;<a href="#fnref:2" class="footn https://vodoraslo.xyz/library/hackbook/00-00-hackbookeasypeasy/ <div style="text-align: center;"> -<h1 id="a-hrefhackbookhackbookpdfclick-to-download-hackbookeasypeasy-original-pdfa"><a href="https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook/hackbook.pdf">Click to download HackBookEasyPeasy (original pdf)</a></h1> -<h3 id="easypeasyway">EasyPeasyWay</h3> -<h4 id="httpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhomehttpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhome"><a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a></h4> -<p><em>HackBookEasyPeasy EasyPeasyWay <a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a> I am Allen Carr. I am also not Allen Carr. So yes I am not the author. I am the hack-author.</em></p> +<h1 id="a-hrefhackbookhackbookpdfclick-to-download-hackbookeasypeasy-original-pdfa"><a href="https://vodoraslo.xyz/hackbook/hackbook.pdf">Click to download HackBookEasyPeasy (original pdf)</a> <a class="anchor" href="#a-hrefhackbookhackbookpdfclick-to-download-hackbookeasypeasy-original-pdfa"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><h3 id="easypeasyway">EasyPeasyWay <a class="anchor" href="#easypeasyway"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><h4 id="httpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhomehttpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhome"><a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a> <a class="anchor" href="#httpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhomehttpssitesgooglecomsitehackbookeasypeasyhome"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><p><em>HackBookEasyPeasy EasyPeasyWay <a href="https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home">https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home</a> I am Allen Carr. I am also not Allen Carr. So yes I am not the author. I am the hack-author.</em></p> <p><em>I hacked Allen Carr’s book and his method of de-addiction to adapt it for PMO. Why? Because his method helped me in getting rid of cigarettes, alcohol and then PMO. Why did I hack his work? Because he is dead now. And the institution that he had formed does not list Internet pornography as one of the addictions that it provides services for. I don&rsquo;t gain monetarily or otherwise. Above all - you won’t ‘find’ me in this book. Myself and Allen will appear and disappear in this book to provide you with an unique and effective method to get your mind de-addicted.</em></p> -<h4 id="important-advice-for-you"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong></h4> -<p><em>The common thread running through Allen Carr&rsquo;s work is the removal of fear. Indeed, his genius lies in eliminating the phobias and anxieties which prevent people from being able to enjoy life to the full, as his best-selling books vividly demonstrate. His method is solid and has high success rates. It helped cure me of not one but three addictions. There is a network of clinics that uses his methods that span the globe and has a phenomenal reputation for success in helping people to quit addictions (except PMO). Their success rate is over 95% with money-back guarantees.</em></p> +<h4 id="important-advice-for-you"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#important-advice-for-you"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#do-not-jump-chapters"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><p><em>The common thread running through Allen Carr&rsquo;s work is the removal of fear. Indeed, his genius lies in eliminating the phobias and anxieties which prevent people from being able to enjoy life to the full, as his best-selling books vividly demonstrate. His method is solid and has high success rates. It helped cure me of not one but three addictions. There is a network of clinics that uses his methods that span the globe and has a phenomenal reputation for success in helping people to quit addictions (except PMO). Their success rate is over 95% with money-back guarantees.</em></p> <p><em>Hackbook : A book based and hacked from another book. The original author is credited fully.</em></p> -<h4 id="important-advice-for-you-1"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters-1"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong></h4> -<h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence-1"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong></h4> -<p><em>Dr. Albert Ellis&rsquo; autobiography - &ldquo;All Out!&rdquo;</em></p> +<h4 id="important-advice-for-you-1"><strong>IMPORTANT ADVICE FOR YOU!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#important-advice-for-you-1"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="do-not-jump-chapters-1"><strong>DO NOT JUMP CHAPTERS!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#do-not-jump-chapters-1"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><h4 id="the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence-1"><strong>THE NUMBERS TO UNLOCK THE COMBO LOCK SHOULD BE USED IN THE GIVEN SEQUENCE!</strong> <a class="anchor" href="#the-numbers-to-unlock-the-combo-lock-should-be-used-in-the-given-sequence-1"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h4><p><em>Dr. Albert Ellis&rsquo; autobiography - &ldquo;All Out!&rdquo;</em></p> <p><em>“I used to wrongly think that most of them (addicts) were aided by self-help groups like AA, by therapy, or some other real support. But no. The facts show that more people surrender their addictions on their own-without any notable help from others. How? Mainly by seeing, acknowledging, and emphasizing how hard it is not to stop and how much easier it is-in the long run- to suffer through the withdrawal process.”</em></p> </div> @@ -3075,8 +3163,9 @@ formed does not list Internet pornography as one of the addictions that it provi Sat, 17 Dec 2022 22:33:25 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/blog/pluralization-issues/ - <h3 id="this-is-my-first-entry-and-im-already-having-issues-lol">this is my first entry and i&rsquo;m already having issues lol</h3> -<p>So I wanted to make a quick entry, see how it looks like and I stumbled upon this issue of hugo pluralzing Blog into Blogs</p> + <h3 id="this-is-my-first-entry-and-im-already-having-issues-lol">this is my first entry and i&rsquo;m already having issues lol <a class="anchor" href="#this-is-my-first-entry-and-im-already-having-issues-lol"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h3><p>So I wanted to make a quick entry, see how it looks like and I stumbled upon this issue of hugo pluralzing Blog into Blogs</p> <p>You can fix this in config.toml with the following line</p> <blockquote> <div class="highlight"><pre tabindex="0" style="color:#f8f8f2;background-color:#272822;-moz-tab-size:4;-o-tab-size:4;tab-size:4;"><code class="language-toml" data-lang="toml"><span style="display:flex;"><span><span style="color:#a6e22e">pluralizelisttitles</span> = <span style="color:#66d9ef">false</span> @@ -3090,11 +3179,13 @@ formed does not list Internet pornography as one of the addictions that it provi Sat, 17 Dec 2022 17:20:18 +0200 https://vodoraslo.xyz/helloworld/ - <h1 id="obligatory-hello-world">Obligatory Hello World!</h1> -<p>trying to see which hugo theme i like best</p> + <h1 id="obligatory-hello-world">Obligatory Hello World! <a class="anchor" href="#obligatory-hello-world"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h1><p>trying to see which hugo theme i like best</p> <p>had some issues with papermod and their css not working so for now i&rsquo;ll use lugo</p> -<h2 id="stuff-i-like">stuff i like</h2> -<ul> +<h2 id="stuff-i-like">stuff i like <a class="anchor" href="#stuff-i-like"> + <span class="spanForHeader">#</span> +</a></h2><ul> <li>touching grass and nature in general (wannabe farmer)</li> <li>にっぽんese <ul>